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contents VOLUME 4, ISSUE 10

SEPTEMBER 2013

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Project Reinvention

By Julie Chernoff, Grace Coburn, Christy Coughlin and Kelly Konrad Girlfriend Getaways: New York Weekend

By Laura Hine Luxury for Less

By Tate Gunnerson Fashion Makeovers

By Evangeline Politis Stepping Back Into the Workforce What stay-at-home moms should know

By Meghan Streit

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Wilmette’s Dining Scene Heats Up at Nick’s

By Julie Chernoff

on our cover Make It Better writers Marjie Killeen and Beth Engelman Photo by John Reilly Photography Hair & Makeup by Elizabeth Arden Red Door Spa, Deerfield

CORRECTION:

In our August issue’s Guide to Aging Well, there were several mistakes on our informational charts. We regret the errors. For the most up-to-date versions, please go online to makeitbetter.net/magazine.

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Special Considerations: Navigating a New School Year With Your Special-Needs Child

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The Best Apple Orchards and Pumpkin Patches

By Laura Hine

make a difference

Swinging Style for Your Porch

By Kristina Tober

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Fall Into Chicago’s Theater Scene

By Robert Loerzel

Better Makers and Their Impact

magazine

MISSION STATEMENT The mission of Make It Better is to be the most-trusted, easiestto-use community resource and magazine that helps you make your life, and the lives of others, better.

How to Support a Sick Friend

By Lori Dube

in every issue 10

founder’s letter

Beautiful Boots

By Lindsay Roseman

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new in the northern suburbs

Fitness Trackers: Worth the Weight?

By Christy Coughlin

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recommended events

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Beauty and the Bust

By Marjie Killeen

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music by val

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give time, give things, give support

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Booklist: Sequels and Second Acts

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The Real Farm to Table

By Julie Chernoff

Op-Ed: Parents, Kids and Social Media

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Make It Better North Shore (ISSN No. 2151-0431) is published 12 times per year by Make It Better LLC, 588 Lincoln Avenue, Winnetka, IL 60093. Phone: 847.256.4642. Copyright 2013 by Make It Better LLC. All rights reserved.

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by Susan B . Noye s

“Always dream and shoot higher than you know you can do. Don’t bother just to be better than your contemporaries or predecessors. Try to be better than yourself.”

—William Faulkner

yourself?” By reinventing a part of yourself, of course—following honest introspection, along with tips, advice and help from others.

This issue is brimming with inspiration and ideas for all of us to become better than our current selves.You can read about restaurateur Carlyn Berghoff’s journey to a gluten-free household (p. 26) and Fleet Feet owner Lisa Zimmer’s return to running after a medical scare (p.

27). And we’re offering advice on the most important skill to bring to your next job interview—a positive attitude (p. 28). Want more ideas?

Home Editor Tate Gunnerson shares a look inside a renovated Lincoln Park condo (p. 40), and two of our own writers enjoy a fresh new look with a makeover from fashion editor Evangeline Politis (p. 52).

As a magazine, we are always reinventing our content, too. This month, we’re happy to share the first of what we hope are many reader Op-Eds (p. 36).

Reinvent your wardrobe with a great pair of boots (p. 50), get a leg up on fitness goals with new technology (p. 58), and enjoy reimagined restaurants at Nick’s in Wilmette (p. 64) and Farmhouse Evanston (p. 66).

We’re also mindful that some women face particular challenges in order to better ourselves, physically or otherwise, finding themselves at the intersection of too many responsibilities—kids, parents, spouses, friends and others. Just need a breather? We hope you can still find a few moments to relax and enjoy the good read that this issue provides.

Thank you,

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Founder & CEO Susan B. Noyes

Managing Editor Kelly Konrad

Art Director Sarah Philippart Designer Lesley Smith

Dining Editor

Fashion Editor

Finance Editor Fitness Editor

Home Editor

Senior Living Editor Sex & the Suburbs Editor

Contributing Writers

Julie Chernoff Evangeline Politis Meghan Streit Christy Coughlin Tate Gunnerson Stuart Greenblatt Marjie Killeen Lori Dube Laura Hine Robert Loerzel Kristina Tober Deborah Winick

Interns Lauren Baraczek Grace Coburn Alexander Hay Jessica Suss

Photographers Britt Anderson Brian McConkey

Illustrator Megan Arenson

Digital Editor Lindsay Roseman

Proofreader Julie Chernoff Creative Director Cheryl Berman

Publisher Kimberly Carroll

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President of Marketing Mindy Fauntleroy

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Account Executive Jenny Newman

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You, our readers, chose well for our Best Of 2013 awards, as proved by the winners when they came to celebrate and get a sneak peak of our new Tech Mamma Lounge.

The diverse business owners shared their best practices, including passion for quality, community, networking and value.

Actually, we don’t seek publicity for this beach. Visitors have to walk more than a mile from legal parking to get to it. But the voters were right: it’s a hidden treasure.

— Jeff Wait, Lake Forest Park District, Forest Park Beach After working for an ad agency in New York City, I love the flexibility and consistency of owning this studio with my sister. It works for me as a mother of two young children, too.

—Holly McGregor, Bikram Yoga

We create community with our welcoming space and unique classes.

—Malik Turley, Hip Circle Studio

It’s all about the raving fans and their satisfaction—and our dedication to old-world craftsmanship.

— Steve Hester, Hester Painting I’m honest about what looks good on people. I give them the truth so they can make the most of their body types. After all, they are my walking billboards.

—Mollie Milano, Style Spies

Our business is built around being woven into our community.

Trust is built both ways.

—Dr. Kurt Miller, Winnetka Animal Hospital

To create Edzo’s, I combined my executive-chef, finedining expertise with an everyday Vienna Beef format and the freshest ingredients. I love what I do now.

—Eddie Lakin, Edzo’s We love to hear from you, so keep sending us your stories, comments, ideas and reviews!

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Calories on Parade Welcome to Jolly Good Fellows, a new “Sweet Boutique” in downtown Lake Forest, where you’ll find all sorts of calorie-worthy goodies, all made from natural ingredients with “no preservatives, no fillers, no mixes… no exceptions!” You’ll want to fill up on their inventive cupcakes (Crème Brulee, Pink Lemonade, PB & J), mini pies, muffins, cookies and 12 flavors of nonfat Yocream frozen yogurt (including Maple-Bacon Donut and Thin Mint). The retro Candyland décor adds to the fun of this adorable store, from the old soda fountain to the lollipop chandelier. Rediscover the child inside while satisfying your sweet tooth.

Jolly Good Fellows : 270 Market Square, Lake Forest, 847-861-2000, jollygoodsweets.com —JC

A Classic Reborn To celebrate the iconic Evanston restaurant Oceanique’s 25th year, owners Renee and Mark Grosz decided to mix things up a bit. When they reopened in late July after their annual summer vacation, the restaurant was renovated from top to bottom, from comfier chairs and tables to new restrooms and a reworked, more inviting bar area. The fresh new look extends to the menu, with an extended selection of small plates in the bar, new craft cocktails and artisanal brews. Now you can pop into the bar for an open-faced Lobster Sandwich on Brioche with togarashi mayo and watercress and wash it down with a glass from Sommelier Philippe Andre’s extensive wine list, or a really great Manhattan. “It was time to reinvigorate—for us and our customers,” Chef Mark says. “We wanted a feeling that was fresh and new.”

Mission accomplished! Oceanique: 505 Main St., Evanston, 847-864-3435, oceanique.com —JC

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Simply Splendid Get ready to get a whole lot more comfortable! Splendid, the leading brand in comfy-chic clothing, has opened their first location in Illinois this summer in Westfield Old Orchard. Selling everything from T-shirts and shorts for men to jackets and dresses for women, Splendid has become an instant hit on the North Shore.

They also sell adorably cozy baby and kids’ clothes—perfect for back-toschool shopping!

Splendid: 4999 Old Orchard Center, Skokie, 847-5681454, splendid.com —GC

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Work Your Way Looking to jump back into the work world? Regus, the world’s largest provider of flexible workplaces, opened a brand new facility last month in Evanston. Regus allows people to work their way, whether it’s from home, on the road, or from an office. The new rentable workspace includes receptionists, support staff, video communication suites and high-quality meeting rooms. Working from home? Regus will provide you with a professional business address and a team of professionals to manage your calls and mail. Rent a workspace for the day, or sign up for a long-term package and watch your business grow.

Regus : 1603 Orrington Ave., Evanston, 800-OFFICES, regus.com —GC

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and the kickoff to the fall festival season in Highwood. Don’t forget to sign up for the 5K and the Bloody Buddy Challenge!

Renegade Craft Fair September 7–8 | Division Street, Wicker Park | renegadecraft.com One of the hippest, hottest indie fairs is in its 11th season—and it’s adding vintage dealers on top of the already kickin’ lineup of artists. This is the art fair you don’t miss. sept

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Antiques and Treasures in the Field September 8 | Deerpath Middle School, Lake Forest | lakeforestantiquesale.com A North Shore staple in September and a wonderful fundraiser for the Infant Welfare Society—dozens upon dozens of antique and vintage dealers in one spot for one day.

It’s great shopping for a great cause. sept

 35th Annual Chicago 29 Jazz Festival August 29–September 1 | Millennium Park | chicagojazzfestival.com What began as a tribute to Duke Ellington back in 1974 has become one of the premier jazz fests in the country, featuring the best of the best in this genre—don’t miss their move to Millennium Park this season. aug

59th Annual Art Fair 1 on the Square September 1–2 | Market Square, Lake Forest | deerpathartleague.org Now in its 59th year, this art fair has become a Labor Day weekend institution on the North Shore—and with close to 100 artists in a variety of mediums, you are sure to find something you love. sept

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Guinness Oyster Fest  September 7 | Roscoe Village, Chicago chicagoevents.com Fresh oysters, live music and scrumptious food make for a fantastic weekend in one of Chicago’s hippest neighborhoods. sept

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Lake Geneva Wine Festival September 7 | Delavan, Wisc. | lakegenevawinefestival.com Fall, Wisconsin, a beautiful setting, culinary masters and some of the finest gins and spirits to enjoy—Sounds like the perfect romantic weekend getaway. sept

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Bloody Mary Fest 7–8 | Downtown High7 September wood | celebratehighwood.com In its 4th year, this two-day party is a hit sept

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 2013 BMW Championship September 9–15 | Conway Farms Golf Club, Lake Forest bmwchampionshipusa.com Who will raise the trophy this year? Don’t miss this chance to see the best going for the title, so close to your own home.

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EXPO Chicago 19–22 | Navy Pier 19 September expochicago.com Contemporary and modern art-lovers, rejoice—this four-day festival features more than 120 art galleries, each highlighting the best in a broad variety of artistic mediums.

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Long Grove Apple Festival September 27–29 | Downtown Long Grove | visitlonggrove.com

Apples and cider and music and shopping and pony rides and face painting and … you get the idea—fun for everyone!

Adam Carolla 28 September 28 | Genesee Theatre, Waukegan | geneseetheater.com Funnyman Carolla takes the stage in Waukegan this fall for an epic set of comedy that’ll have your sides hurting into the next day.

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Bagpipes and Bonfire September 29 | Middlefork Farm Preserve, Lake Forest | lfola.org It’s a mesmerizing way to embrace the fall season in all its cable-knit sweater glory— kilted sky divers, a phenomenal bagpipe procession and the Best.Bonfire.Ever.

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editor’s pick Backstage Evanston September 29 | Ethel Barber Theatre, 30 Arts Circle Dr., Evanston BackstageEvanston.com Theater, dance and music fiends can one-stop shop at this season-kickoff event that features some of the best that Evanston stages have to offer, including the Actors Gymnasium, Next Theatre, The Piven Theatre Workshop, Light Opera Works, Piccolo Theatre and many more. Buy a ticket, enjoy five-minute preview performances and you get a $20 voucher to use toward the purchase of tickets to an upcoming performance.

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september 1–7 Farmers’ Market September 1 Chicago Botanic Garden | 100 Lake Cook Rd., Glencoe | chicagobotanic.org Jazzin’ at the Shedd: DeTour JazFunk September 4 Shedd Aquarium | 1200 S. Lake Shore Dr., Chicago | sheddaquarium.org GLASA 6th Annual Run/Walk/Roll 5K September 7 Gorton Community Center | 400 E. Illinois Rd, Lake Forest | glasa.org/twilight/ Picnic Supper, Barnyard Dance and Ice Cream Social September 7 Wagner Farm | 1510 Wagner Rd., Glenview wagnerfarm.org

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North Shore Flea September 8 Highwood Recreation Center | 428 Green Bay Rd., Highwood | northshoreflea.com

Particle Party: Adler After Dark September 19 Adler Planetarium | 1300 S. Lake Shore Dr., Chicago | adlerplanetarium.org

Richard Marx and Matt Scannell September 8 SPACE | 1245 Chicago Ave., Evanston evanstonspace.com

Mary Poppins Sing-a-Long September 21 Wilmette Theatre | 1122 Central Ave., Wilmette | wilmettetheatre.com

Evanston Green Living Festival September 28 Evanston Ecology Center | 2024 McCormick Blvd., Evanston | evanstonenvironment.org

Downtown Evanston Walking Tour September 14 Downtown Evanston | architecture.org

Northwestern University vs. Maine: Football September 21 Ryan Field, Evanston | nusports.com

 Randolph Street Market September 28 - 29 1340 W. Washington St., Chicago randolphstreetmarket.com

Yoga on the Lawn September 21 225 Greenwood St., Evanston evanstonhistorycenter.org

ACT Test-Taking Workshop September 30 Glenview Public Library | 1930 Glenview Rd., Glenview | glenviewpl.org

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Model Sailboat Sunday September 15 Chicago Botanic Garden | 100 Lake Cook Rd., Glencoe| chicagobotanic.org

Highwood Starving Artists Festival September 21 - 22 Downtown Highwood | amdurproductions.com

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ongoing Shedd Aquarium: Jellies 1200 S. Lake Shore Dr., Chicago sheddaquarium.org ď ą The Universe: A Walk Through Space and Time Adler Planetarium | 1300 S. Lake Shore Dr., Chicago | adlerplanetarium.org

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Dinosaurs Alive Brookfield Zoo | 1st Avenue and 31st St., Brookfield | brookfieldzoo.org Creatures of Light: Nature’s Bioluminescence Field Museum | 1400 S. Lake Shore Dr., Chicago | fieldmuseum.org Impressionism, Fashion and Modernity Closes September 22 | The Art Institute of Chicago, 11 S. Michigan Ave., Chicago artic.edu Another View of American Indian Fine Art Mitchell Museum of the American Indian 3001 Central St., Evanston mitchellmuseum.org

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wanted: more virtuous circles

By Susan B . Noye s

Virtuous circle: A favorable event that gives rise to other beneficial events and loops back support to the first, ultimately helping the whole to grow.

Supporting our local schools and businesses was so much easier before the Internet upended traditional retail and communication practices.

Back in the day, shopping local epitomized convenience and community.

Social networking meant visiting in person or volunteering. We didn’t average 8.2 hours per day on phones and in front of screens. One strong newspaper published all the local school and business news, including fundraisers.

Unfortunately, now it’s easier and often cheaper to stay home and shop online. And it’s harder to generate extra tax or donation dollars to keep our schools strong and grow opportunities for students.

Make It Better is particularly sensitive to the plight of local businesses. The media barrage them with ever-more requests for advertising dollars, even as they lose more money to online shopping and nonprofit donations.

For all these reasons, it’s more important than ever to create and amplify virtuous circles that connect and grow support for local schools and business-

es. Shopping local to keep our schools strong is just right for the times. Kicking off that shopping opportunity with a fun community-wide event is even better.

Now, more than ever, keeping our hometowns strong means that we all need to collaborate thoughtfully and well.

An excellent example? Red Carpet on the Green. This September 12 fashion show and shopping weekend in Lake Forest’s beautiful, historic square is put on by Lake Forest’s Chamber of Commerce, Economic Development Office and local fashion retailers to benefit the Education Foundations of Lake Forest/Lake Bluff School Districts.

This community-wide virtuous circle deserves as much support as possible. Therefore, Make It Better is particularly proud to be a media sponsor of this event. We encourage other school districts and local business groups to emulate it, too.

Collaboration around shared values—like supporting local schools and businesses—is one way forward in complicated times. Make It Better welcomes the opportunity to amplify similar events in other towns. This fits beautifully with our mission to be the most-trusted, easy-to-use community resource and magazine. Please let us know if we can help you amplify a “shop local to keep schools strong” event in your town.

Shopping local to keep our schools strong is just right for the times …

Now, more than ever, keeping our hometowns strong means that we all need to collaborate thoughtfully and well.

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T C E J O R N P O I T N E V N I RE you?

We’re going beyond the makeover to get to the heart of your next act. Are you thinking about diving in and finally going after “what you wanted to be when you grew up?” How do you get there? And what if life throws you a curveball and you have to rethink your entire lifestyle?

This month, we talk with two women that faced life-changing health scenarios: The Berghoff’s Carlyn Berghoff and Fleet Feet’s

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Lisa Zimmer. And if you’re thinking about heading back to work, we’ve got the goods on how to get noticed on LinkedIn. Maybe it isn’t about a new job—just a new attitude. These pages offer up some great advice on getting back into the groove at work. And if all you’re ready for is just a teeny-tiny change, you’ll find some great suggestions for that, too.

It’s time to take a cue from nature—as the leaves change their hue, so can you. It’s time to reinvent into a stronger, happier you.

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CAREER p. 29

QUICK IDEAS p. 30

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Carlyn and Sarah Berghoff: Going Gluten-Free Wilmette’s Carlyn Berghoff, CEO, President and “Chief Bottle Washer”

of the storied Berghoff Catering and Restaurant Group, is used to taking special requests and making her customers happy. Anticipating and fulfilling your clients’ needs is part and parcel of the hospitality industry.

But when her daughter, Sarah, now a junior at New Trier, first showed signs of illness in September 2009, Carlyn thought it was nerves brought on by the transition to middle school. Then Sarah started losing weight, complaining of stomachaches and nausea and dark circles appeared under her eyes.

At Christmas, Sarah came to her crying. “I thought I had cancer,” she says. “I thought I was dying.” So Carlyn sprang into high gear, insisting on an upper GI and then a scope, which proved conclusively that Sarah had celiac disease, a life-threatening allergy to gluten.

With that, Carlyn decided to make her entire household gluten-free. Concerned about cross contamination with three active, hungry kids, she totally transitioned the kitchen, replacing equipment and food products to make the house a safe haven for Sarah.

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diet, Sarah’s health was much improved. But there were still challenges, most revolving around eating outside the house. “That’s the worst part for her: eating out,” Carlyn says.

Sarah chimes in: “You can’t share the fryer, or the pasta strainer, or certain kitchen tools. Those are the main three that people in restaurants aren’t educated about. You can’t just wash it and make it OK.” The Berghoffs decided to be part of the solution. They’ve lectured for different groups, especially families of children living with celiac. “You have to teach your kids to stand up for themselves,” Carlyn says. “Fifty percent of celiac kids don’t make it through the first year of college, because there’s no safe place for them to eat. The trick becomes, how do you teach your kids to advocate for themselves? They have to learn how to shop, how to product source, how to navigate the kitchen … for the rest of their lives.”

Together, they developed glutenfree recipes for the foods that Sarah and other celiac kids missed most.

They developed a substitute flour blend that can be used for the different breads, muffins and even pizza dough featured in their book, “Cook-

ing for Your Gluten-Free Teen” (Andrews McMeel Publishing, 2013).

Now, Sarah and other kids can happily enjoy doughnuts, coffee cake, brownies and mac & cheese with these safe recipes.

“Gluten-free stuff is so expensive!

And a lot of what’s out there isn’t very good. That’s when we decided to do the cookbook,” Carlyn says. “We use the bread machine, and it’s so easy. It freezes beautifully, makes great stuffing, French toast, grilled cheese … ” The gluten-free bread they made for me to sample—fresh from their trusty bread machine—smelled and tasted terrific. Unlike some gluten-free breads, it held up well to toasting and wasn’t grainy.

Munching happily on a slice of buttered toast, Sarah looked relaxed and healthy, but some anxiety remains.

“It’s been so emotional,” she says.

“People keep telling me I’m wrong.

They don’t realize how serious it is.

Celiac isn’t a choice.”

The Berghoff family has embraced this reinvention, and they are all the better for it. It was the right change, and the right choice, for them.

For more information about the Berghoffs’ cookbook, visit gffamilyfood.com

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Advocating for Stronger Hearts: Lisa Zimmer’s Story

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By Christ y Coughlin Lisa Zimmer shouldn’t have had a heart attack.

She had no history of heart disease in her family and had never had any serious illness. She had always been active, as a swimmer in high school, then a marathoner and triathlete as an adult.

Turns out, heart disease doesn’t always care if you are an athlete.

I read about Lisa Zimmer’s 2012 heart attack on Facebook. I knew of Lisa, owner of three Fleet Feet Sports stores in Chicago, so the news was shocking and hit close to home. I followed the posts until Lisa responded that she was recovering.

Six months later at the Chicago Women’s Half Marathon in June, Lisa, representing Fleet Feet Sports, set the tone for this great event. She welcomed the runners and recognized the important work of Go Red for Women, the American Heart Association’s initiative to empower women to take charge of their heart health. An emotional Lisa was so appreciative for the opportunity to run. All the runners were silent as she told her story, one that could be their own. It was a powerful plea to all to care for their heart health.

Lisa was at home in December 2012, caring for her two young chil-

dren, ages 9 and 7. Dave, her husband and business partner, called from out of town to check in. During their conversation, Lisa said, “I don’t feel right.” She told Dave she wanted to go lie down, but Dave wisely kept her on the phone. She began to feel nauseated, felt extreme pressure on her chest and pain and numbness down her left arm.

Dave insisted she hang up and call 911 immediately. The 911 operator, after listening to her symptoms, instructed Lisa to take a baby aspirin, which happened to be in the house. With paramedics a few blocks away, Lisa had medical care within minutes and was rushed to Glenbrook Hospital.

After stabilizing Lisa, Dr. Michael Salinger ordered a coronary angiogram, which allows a camera to view the heart. He diagnosed a spontaneous coronary dissection (sometimes referred to as a “broken heart”), a tear in the lining of the artery which blocked blood flow to Lisa’s heart. This condition is not common in active, healthy adults like Lisa. No surgery was required, but Lisa’s heart needed time, rest, and medication to help thin her blood and allow her heart to heal. Dr. Salinger told her that “time is muscle,” meaning the faster a heart attack is

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treated, the less damage there is to the heart muscle. Lisa was lucky.

According to Dr. Salinger, “Women are more likely to suffer unusual heart attacks, like spontaneous dissection.”

For that reason, women need to seek immediate medical attention at the onset of the warning signs: • chest pain at rest • shortness of breath with exertion • pain in the arm, jaw or back • c old sweat, nausea or feeling lightheadedness After six weeks of very limited activity, Lisa took a stress test and passed with flying colors. Since Lisa’s lifestyle isn’t stereotypical of heart disease, doctors believe stress may have played a role.

As a result of this life-changing event, Lisa now lives a bit differently.

She eliminated non-critical responsibilities, reserving energy for her family, eating even healthier, and appreciating her limited exercise time. She finished the half marathon, running slowly and walking for portions. Lisa supports the efforts of Go Red for Women, hoping to bring greater awareness to heart disease, the number one killer of women.

“Listen to your body,” she says. “We are not indestructible.”

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on the job, or even just on the hunt for one. And sometimes, that stuck-in-a-rut feeling can be difficult to shake, leading to struggles with selfesteem and even depression. What’s the most important step in reinventing yourself? It may be your attitude.

“The key is, before you can make a change, you need to believe your behavior matters,” says psychologist, author and lecturer Shawn Achor, whose wildly popular TED talk tackles the concept of positive psychology.

“It’s all about creating positive habits,” he says.

AT HOME,

What is positive psychology?

“Positive psychology is a movement that studies things like happiness, optimism, passion and hope,” Achor says. In his TED talk, he points out that the lens through which our brain views the world shapes our reality, and that 90 percent of our long-term happiness comes from how our brain processes our environment. With that in mind, the real work isn’t necessarily in finding our next success, a better job or a bigger home, but instead in rewiring our brain to seek out the positive.

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All it takes? Just three weeks of actively seeking out the positive in simple ways (think gratitude journaling or offering kind words to others in your social and professional networks).

“People struggle for so many reasons, and happiness is so difficult,” he says.

But according to Achor, you can literally rewire your brain in just 21 days.

Lose the negativity “People have no idea how a positive habit can be transforming in your life,” Achor says. “Even trying to decrease the amount of negative information coming in by just 10 percent can change success rates dramatically.”

Jan Leahy, executive director of Career Resource Center in Lake Forest, echoes the sentiment.

“Avoid the news channels,” she says, since so much of it is negative—from foreclosure and layoff rates to murder and violence. “You do need to stay current on news, but you can do that by gathering it electronically.”

Make “being positive” your personal manifesto “I think it’s critical,” says Mary Beth Barrett-Newman, president of Evanstonbased 2nd Career Consulting. “And the

reason why is when you take a step back and think about people you have known and worked with, people with the positive attitudes are the can-do people.”

Achor points out in his TED talk that 75 percent of job successes are predicted by your optimism level, social support and ability to see stress as a challenge, instead of a threat. “Your brain realizes success when you can better look at how far you’ve already come.”

Think becoming more positive is hard to do? Think again.

“One of the things I do with my clients is a self-assessment,” says BarrettNewman, who asks clients to focus on their job responsibilities instead of the company at which they worked. “I have them look at their current position and think about, ‘What did you like and what didn’t you like, what did you do all day—the tasks and responsibilities versus where did you do it.’”

“Even in the worst job, I can guarantee there was something you liked about it,” Barrett-Newman says.

Re-focus, Leahy says. “Instead of looking at the angst of being RIFed (Reduction In Force) and downsized, think about if you liked what you were doing. Look at it as an opportunity.”

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Professional at The Company

The Anatomy of a LinkedIn Profile

by Gr ace Coburn

Are you LinkedIn?

People are signing up to join LinkedIn at a rate of more than two new members per second. With more than 225 million members in more than 200 countries and territories, it’s the world’s largest digital professional network.

Since its inception in 2003, LinkedIn has grown to be the most developed business- and career-oriented networking site in the game. Additionally, more than 3 million businesses have their own pages. If you don’t have a LinkedIn profile yet, it’s time to sign up—whether you’re already established in your career, or you’re reentering the workforce.

Here is how to create the perfect profile that will snag the attention of potential employers:

Summary

education

Include an overview of what you do, what types of positions you’re looking for, and any key accomplishments. Upload presentations, videos, or anything else relevant to help recruiters get to know you.

You can even upload your resume here for easy access.

Plain and simple, it shows you’re educated. Be sure to list where you earned your degree, what degree you earned, and any special accomplishments, honors, or organizations to which you belong.

Experience

This section allows recruiters to evaluate your qualifications. Be specific with descriptions (think numbers, stats and project details). This is your brag board, so don’t be shy with your accomplishments!

Connections

It’s important to have a high-quality, diverse set of connections; you should be able to show insight regarding the individuals if someone were to seek your reference. LinkedIn founder Reid Hoffman recently dissected the art of networking. “If you’re connected to a couple hundred people on LinkedIn, you’re actually the center of a network more than 2 million people strong,” he says.

Skills and Expertise

The skills section is crucial—the more, the better! After entering all the skills that you’ve acquired over the years, your connections can click the “+” button, which will automatically translate to an endorsement. Employers are now looking at endorsements more seriously than ever before.

Groups Recommendations/ Reviews

Recommendations go a long way with potential employers, especially from senior-level connections. They can include work ethic, project experience, and your understanding of the business. Kindly ask one or two senior-level employers to write one for you.

Don’t overlook the “groups” section. Join groups that are solely relevant to your experience and expertise. The pickier you are, the better. “If you’re in an industry, look for the top-rated industry groups,” says LinkedIn’s Career Expert Nicole Williams. “These people are attached to their professional affiliations. The kinds of discussions they’re having are very educated. The groups allow you to spread your working wings a little further without having to leave your home.”

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READY … SET … REINVENT Quick & Easy Reinventions Author and Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg said it best, “What would you do if you weren’t afraid?”

For some, the thought of starting a new act in life is monumental—even terrifying. No worries, we’ve got a bunch of great baby steps to try on the road to a new you and a wealth of online resources to help inspire: Try a new shade of lipstick. makeitbetter.net/lipstick

Start a blog—think “Julie & Julia.”

Change up your cocktail. makeitbetter.net/cocktailing

Wear something with sequins on it.

Say hello to a stranger.

Wear your hair up instead of down.

Try a new theater.

Try a new exercise class.

Drink a smoothie. Make it right, and they’re low in calories, high in calcium and pack an antioxidant punch. makeitbetter.net/smoothie

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Volunteer. makeitbetter.net/givetime

Sleep on the other side of the bed.

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Learn to play an instrument, ballroom dance or decorate cakes at one of Northwestern’s many Mini Courses. norris.northwestern.edu

Try a new restaurant. makeitbetter.net/dining

Instead of your regular jogging route, try a new one. Or run your regular route in reverse.

Taste a new food. makeitbetter.net/recipes

Paint a room. “Even choosing an accent wall with a bold color or a specialty finish, can make a big difference,� says the team at Hester Painting & Decorating.

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Navigating a new school year with your special needs child

BY KRISTINA TOBER

school year, most parents share the same concerns— greater expectations, new friends, expanding social opportunities … unless you have a child with special needs, when navigating the social and emotional landmines become more complex.

According to the Institute of Educational Sciences, more than 90 percent of 6- to 21-year-olds with disabilities are served in mainstream schools. Some have significant needs, and others, more often than not, fit well enough into a school’s academic programming but are challenged socially or developmentally.

While every child is different, it’s important to anticipate the landmines as much as possible and do what you can to temper expectations.

Get your child involved Kids make friends through sports and activities, and thankfully, there are plenty of opportunities to get involved—either through inclusion or special recreation programs.

The Northern Suburban Special Recreation Association (NSSRA) partners closely with local park districts to provide inclusion support. Even if your child doesn’t have a formal diagnosis but might need support in a recreation program with his peers, NSSRA will provide the staff and training to ensure your child’s success. NSSRA also offers

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more than 700 traditional and cooperative special recreation programs and events, serving more than 1,500 individuals with all types of disabilities.

“Our goal is to give kids of any ability a place to belong and participate,” explained Meggan Key, NSSRA manager of inclusion.

Dealing with your own feelings Comparing your child to others is always a slippery slope, particularly when he or she has special needs. “I had to stop expecting my son to have the same experiences or hit the same developmental milestones as his older brothers and peers,” explained a mother of a child with profound autism. “Instead, we’ve learned to celebrate the world that is Luke, and it’s just as amazing.”

Frustrated by society’s obsession with accomplishment and perfection (and parents themselves of special needs kids), sisters Gina Gallagher and Patricia Konjoian co-authored “Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid! A Survival Guide for Ordinary Parents of Special Kids.” More than just adding levity to a painful, challenging reality, the sisters offer their own strategies to embracing the achievements of less-than-perfect children. They remind us that every child has “a gift to bear,” and should be celebrated.

They also emphasize the importance of educating others about disabilities,

and the importantce of talking openly it. Lake Forest mom Jennifer Riley created a book for her daughter’s kindergarten class (modeled after a similar children’s book, “My Friend Isabelle”) that told Jane’s “story” on the right, with notes for parents on the left. The book proved to be invaluable for peers and parents alike, not only creating a community that is more aware and tolerant of differences, but more accepting of her daughter for who she is.

Find a few good friends Studies on inclusion show that children from integrated classrooms are more comfortable and aware of human differences, and they are more likely to have greater social empathy. But that doesn’t mean it’s easy to get your child, or you, to feel included.

“Early on, when parents are scheduling playdates, you quickly learn who is comfortable and open to encouraging friendships with your child,” admits one mom. “Sadly, though, sometimes you and your child just have to develop a thick skin. Remember that it took you years to accept your child’s disability, and give others a break.”

Her best advice? Develop friendships with people who understand all too well that at some time or other, everyone is faced with hardship and unique challenges.

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girlfriend getaways

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FDR Four Freedoms Park on Roosevelt Island offers great views of the city.

Where to Stay New York hotels aren’t cheap, but there are some great hotels to be found at better-than-expected prices. The key is to stay at a business favorite—midtown or downtown—but on the weekend. We stayed at the Ritz-Carlton Battery Park (ritzcarlton.com), which is very close to the 9/11 Memorial, but

definitely more in demand MondayThursday. For $545 per night, we had a gorgeous double on the club level, which included breakfast, a light lunch, cocktails, hors d’oeuvres and even desserts. We didn’t take advantage of most of the meals, but just eating breakfast and indulging in a pre-dinner drink, you’ve more than paid for your upgrade.

Plus, when you stay at a nice hotel, you get that pampering service that makes a weekend away special. Other hotels to look at: Andaz 5th Avenue—brand new and fabulous according to Make It Better’s Dining Editor Julie Chernoff (andaz.hyatt.com), and Soho Grand (sohogrand.com), which has very nice concierges who are happy to acclimate you to the neighborhood.

What to Do You could stay in New York for weeks and not run out of activities, but here are some girlfriend-approved favorites.

WALK THE HIGH LINE

Ritz Carlton Battery Park

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This elevated urban trail winds through the Lower West Side fol-

lowing an old rail line. It’s like nothing else—views, art and food—so it’s mobbed on nice days. Go early if you like to walk at a quick pace. If you’re happy to meander with the tourists, go mid-day (thehighline.org).

VISIT A MUSEUM

From the Met to the MoMA to Cooper-Hewitt, New York is rich with museums that often have exclusive exhibits that if you don’t see there, you won’t see ever. Take a morning (you’ll avoid most of the crowds), and discover new art or see old favorites. And without children in tow, museum visits become a rediscovered pleasure (nymuseums.com).

VISIT NEW MONUMENTS

We went to two new monuments that couldn’t be more different. Franklin D. Roosevelt Four Freedoms Park on Roosevelt Island ( fdrfourfreedomspark.org) is a stunning park inspired by a speech Roosevelt gave setting forth his vision for a world with freedom of speech and worship, and freedom from fear and want. Take the Roosevelt Island tram, which is a fun bonus, to ex-

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besties need a relaxing spa weekend sans kids and spouses, but some years, a spa is a yawn and the girls crave a little excitement.

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perience the genius of architect Louis I. Kahn and to celebrate Roosevelt’s values.

The 9/11 Memorial (911memorial. org) is a much more somber visit. The memorial, which includes the fountains and plaza, is open and free to the public, but you do need to register in advance for a pass, so plan ahead. The museum is still under construction, but once completed, passes will be available at the same website.

GO TO THE THEATER

While Chicago has amazing theater, there’s something about seeing a show in New York. We saw “Orphans,” which starred Alec Baldwin and Tom Sturridge, and while the critics didn’t love it—we did! Lots to discuss, amazing acting, and this play, with these

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actors, will never tour, so it’s a unique New York moment. For reviews and rundowns, start with The New Yorker.

The reviews are concise, and the website is easier to navigate than New York Magazine.

WHERE TO EAT

New York is full of great food and fabulous people watching. To narrow down your choices, start with Time Out New York and The New York Times. Both websites give you options to search by neighborhood and cuisine.

Your hotel concierge is your best option if you want to go to a see-and-be-seen kind of place. We ate dinner one table away from Sting and his wife Trudie Styler at Graydon Carter’s Beatrice Inn. (After your NYC weekend, you’ll be able to name drop too!)

Helpful Tips TAKE THE SUBWAY

We traveled everywhere from SoHo to the Upper East Side to Times Square via subway (mta. info). It’s cheap (compared to cabs), fast and safe. Buy a MetroCard and use it. You’ll feel like a New Yorker in no time, and you’ll cover twice as much ground as you would otherwise.

DOWNLOAD AN APP

“The Scoop” (available in the App Store) is a New York Times app all about the city. It includes: upcoming events, “Only in New York,” restaurant reviews, and even has a “nearby” feature, which is very helpful if you think you’re close to the art galleries in Chelsea, but can’t quite remember what the concierge told you.

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Winick I wonder if when social media apps are created, the designers really think about the consequences of their latest innovation?

So it goes with Instagram, Snapchat, Vine and any number of social media apps that allow people to share, sometimes impulsively and without obvious consequence, parts of their lives normally reserved for more intimate conversations. Apps like these, intended for fun, are wreaking havoc on the socialemotional health of our kids.

A recent example? Evanston Township High School pulled its varsity baseball team from the state playoffs because of a sexting scandal that involved the dissemination of inappropriate pictures to students. One impulsive text, and a positive, valuable and rewarding opportunity is wasted.

Technology isn’t going away, and the consequences of bad decision making when using social media isn’t always this harsh—but the results of even casual use, such as that of Instagram, can still hurt. We can’t realistically keep our kids from using apps, but parents need to protect and educate their kids about the dangers of social media, while teaching them to safely incorporate them into their lives. If we teach them how to use social media correctly at the beginning, kids can better police their own behavior as they get older.

It starts in middle school, or even younger. A 12-year-old girl lounges on the sofa with her parents. She incessantly checks Instagram for updates and discovers one of her best friends

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hosting a sleepover party without her.

Suddenly feeling left out and dejected, she swears she will get revenge and post her own exclusive party pics.

Apps like Instagram have become must-haves for tweens and teens. If they “follow” each other, they can see, comment on and “like” each others’ photos. Just like Facebook and Twitter, the number of “likes” and “followers” a member of Instagram receives quantifies their popularity, creating a new measure of status. Like the designer labels we wore as teens, these apps are the new way to create exclusivity and fight for social rank.

By purposely leaving peers out of photos, defriending or blocking each other during a fight, or circulating embarrassing or inappropriate photos, the kids participate in social-media bullying. Because of its rapid dissemination and wide distribution, bullying online can prove much more damaging than traditional bullying. Kids’ anxiety about the possibility of being excluded and the public humiliation it brings has bred a new condition called FOMO, or the “fear of missing out.”

As a mother, how can I protect my kids from social media bullying and FOMO? I want to encourage them to develop familiarity and comfort with new technology and popular social media to succeed in the future. Once they leave home, they will be immersed in a “virtual society.” I want to teach them to use it responsibly before they become independent.

I could forbid them from using Instagram, but that won’t put an end to the mean behavior. Exclusion will not stop. Those of us who grew up before

the onslaught of social media experienced the same feelings of isolation and hurt when we realized we were left out. Melissa Novack, L.C.S.W., co-owner of Inpower Therapy, a practice that provides psychotherapy for tweens, teens and women, explains, “Instagram won’t go away, so we have to teach our kids to use it responsibly.”

I decided to institute social media etiquette as a household rule—consider the audience, and put themselves in their followers’ shoes. It’s imperative that kids understand that there is no privacy online, and anything they post or text could follow them for years to come. Likewise, they cannot define themselves by their fleeting images or hurtful comments. “You have got to get your identity from something stable,” Dr. Sameer Hinduja, Co-Director of the Cyberbullying Research Center writes in his blog. “Your identity cannot be wrapped up in the number of times you are noticed, liked or validated online.”

Encouraging our kids not to let social media take over their lives can also help.

How can you teach kids to detach?

Model it. You might be surprised by the results. When I asked my daughter how she deals with feeling excluded on Instagram, she shrugged and said, “I put my phone down and do something else to forget about it. I don’t always invite everyone, and I can’t always expect to be invited either.”

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What to ask a financial advisor to ensure you are on the track towards your financial future

BY JESSICA SUSS THINKING ABOUT HIRING A

advisor to help manage a major upcoming life change? These tips from Morgan Stanley wealth advisor Kathy Roeser can help you make the most of your savings.

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• What are your goals and objectives?

• What do you need to get there?

“You nurture kids, causes, friends and more,” Roeser says.

“You need to be involved, informed and comfortable with your role as guardian of family wealth as well as family health.”

Not sure how to take charge of your financial future? That’s where valuable professional advice comes into play.

“The easiest way to keep on track for your goals is to develop long-term plans for your finances and to consider speaking with an experienced financial advisor who can help you define your vision for the future and work to get there,” Roeser says.

According to the National Association of Personal Financial Advisors (October 2012), an overwhelming 56 percent of adults in the U.S. lack a budget.

Don’t be left in the dark about your financial situation.

“Even if you are not directly responsible for making important financial decisions in your family, it is vital to have knowledge in these areas in order to communicate effectively with anyone charged with these duties,” Roeser says.

For more information, or to set up a session, contact Kathy: kathy.roeser@morganstanley.com or 312-443-6500.

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apple orchards pumpkin patches fall weather at one of the many nearby apple orchards and pumpkin patches.

Round up the family and enjoy a fun day on the farm picking apples and pumpkins, trying delicious fall treats, and exploring all the activities each spot has to offer.

Illinois

Didier Pumpkin Farm, 16678 W. Aptakisic Rd., Lincolnshire, 847-634-3291 Look for: pumpkins, petting zoo, five-acre corn maze, pony rides, hayrides, moon bounce, mechanical rides, educational farming displays, baby chicks and pigs, Halloween shop, fall produce, baked apple cider, pumpkin doughnuts and special events on weekends. Open daily September 21 through October 31.

Dollinger Family Farm, 7502 E. Hansel Rd., Channahon, 815-467-4698 Look for: pumpkins, squash, gourds, mums, Indian corn, hayrides, educational activities, corn maze, gift shop, farm animals, haunted barn and cemetery, picnic facilities and steam-train rides.

Open September 28 through October 30, 10 a.m. to 6:30 p.m. daily.

Garden Patch Farms, 14158 W. 159th St., Homer Glen, 708-301-7720 Look for: countless U-pick varieties of apples, pumpkins, pears, grapes and fall veggies. Also check out the store with corn stalks, jams and fall decorations. Open 8 a.m. to 6 p.m. daily through October.

Goebbert’s Pumpkin Farm, 40 W. Higgins Rd., South Barrington, 847-428-6727 Pumpkins, animals, corn and straw mazes, pony and camel rides, a giraffe barn, wagon rides—they’re all here!

Goebbert’s also features a haunted house for school-age children, weekend pig

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racing, and a shop, café and bakery. Open through October 31.

Heinz Orchard, 1050 Crest Rd., Green Oaks, 847-770-3449 This small farm specializes in apple picking. Opens mid-September, FridaySunday, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m.

Kroll’s Fall Harvest Farm, 13236 W. Townline Rd., Waukegan, 847-662-5733 Experience farm life! Take a trip through the corn maze, tour the farm, enjoy a hayride, or visit the petting zoo and pumpkin farm. Open daily through November 3.

Kuipers Family Farm, 1 N. 318 Watson Rd., Maple Park, 815-827-5200 With more than 200 acres of farm settings, they’ve got apple and pumpkin picking (apples on weekends only), a corn maze, Orchard shop and bakery, Christmas-tree cutting, crafts, gourmet foods and fun farm activities. Open daily through December.

Royal Oak Farm Orchard, 15908 Hebron Rd., Harvard, 815-648-4141 This U-Pick apple orchard offers 29 varieties of apples, grown from more than 15,000 apple trees! They’ve also got summer and fall raspberries, pumpkins, giant pumpkins, gourds and squash, and kiddos can hop on the carousel, orchard rides and train rides. Open Monday– Saturday through November 17.

Siegel’s Cottonwood Farm, Inc., 17250 S. Weber Rd., Crest Hill, 815-741-2693 This family farm has a pumpkin fest with hayrides, barnyard animals, play area, trains, double-air slide, spooky shed, café and shop. Plus, there’s a corn maze and pony rides on weekends. Open 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. daily through October 31.

Indiana

County Line Orchard, 200 County Line

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Rd., Hobart, 219-947-4477 Cross state lines and enjoy apple and pumpkin picking, a barn full of homemade sweets, a kids’ farm, tractor rides, picnics and a tour of the maze. Want more fun? Stick around for the concerts every weekend in the fall. U-pick orchard is open daily from 9 a.m. to 6 p.m.

Wisconsin

Apple Barn Orchard and Winery W6384 Sugar Creek Rd., Elkhorn, 262-7283266 Find more than 15 varieties of apples, and then stop by their winery and try a few fruit wines in their new tasting area. Plan your trip for late September and hit the 25th Annual Apple Festival September 28-29. Open Saturdays and Sundays from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m.

Apple Holler, 5006 S. Sylvania Ave., Sturtevant, 262-884-7100 Located right off 94, you won’t find a place more convenient (or crowded) than Apple Holler. Pick your own apples, pears and pumpkins. They also have a restaurant, bakery, gift shop, hayrides, kids’ corral, dinner theater, pony rides and train rides. Open daily through October 31.

Brightonwoods Orchard, 1072 288th Ave., Burlington, 262-878-3000 This small orchard offers more than 200 varieties of pre-picked and sorted apples, plus caramel, squash, gourds, pumpkins, home-grown grapes and award-winning apple cider. Open 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. daily through mid-November.

Hafs Road Orchard, W632 Hafs Rd., Genoa City, 262-279-3638 Famous for their Honeycrisp apples, Hafs Road Orchard sells pre-picked apples, pure honey, cider, caramel-dipped Honeycrisps, pumpkins, gourds and fresh produce at their store. Open Friday-Sunday, 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.

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Two North Shore designers team up to redesign a pied-à-terre for $25,000 st o r y & p h o t o s B y T a t e G u nn e r s o n

“I describe this project as luxury for less,” says Randy Heller, of Randy Heller Pure & Simple Interior Design in Highland Park. Indeed, the challenge for Heller was to completely redesign and furnish her clients’ two-bedroom, twobathroom pied-à-terre in Chicago’s Lincoln Park neighborhood for only $25,000. For help, she turned to friend and fellow designer, Ann Kendall, of Covet Studio + AHK Design in Glencoe.

“Working with Ann was terrific, because we have the exact same aesthetic,” Heller says.

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Although the designers felt that the kitchen cabinets and counter tops felt dated, their budget precluded the possibility of replacing them. Instead, they had the cabinets painted a mushroom gray color, which works very well with the black granite countertops.

“The cabinetry was not unattractive, and the finish was not in bad shape, but we told the clients that painting them would give them a higher-end, more custom feel,” Kendall says. d o C us t o m f o r l e ss

In an awkward niche in the living room, the designers placed a stunning, contemporary dining table. Although it looks like an expensive piece, they found the Saarinen-inspired, Tulip-style base on Ebay ($200). They hired a local woodworker to make them a solid walnut oval top ($700). “They can sit there and work at their computer or eat lunch and watch TV,” Kendall says. Similarly, in the master bedroom the designers used inexpensive linen drapes from Pottery Barn, which they dressed up with a designer trim from Kelly Wearstler. “We love the beau-

ty in the details, and it’s so easy to tweak something that you buy off the shelf in order to make it your own,” Kendall says. “You can do the same thing with a solid pillow. Just have trim applied at the cleaners.”

Skip shipping costs

“Delivery costs can really take a lot out of your budget. To minimize transportation and shipping costs, we shopped locally for furniture and whenever possible, bought pieces off the floor,” Heller says, pointing to the stylish lacquered coffee table from West Elm. According to the designers, websites like Overstock.com also offer heavily discounted designer furnishings and free shipping. “We found this set of amazing Italian barstools ($299 each, free shipping) on Overstock.com,” Heller says.

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For art, the designers selected simple black frames, which they filled with images cut out of magazines.

“When you flip images from magazines, they look abstract,” Heller says, pointing to a pair of frames that have been placed at the end of a long hallway.

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“We just flipped one of them upside down.” According to the designers, the hallway was so narrow that you couldn’t put anything on the sidewalls. “Hanging them at the end of the hallway gives you a visual focus,” Kendall says.

M I X M AT E R I A L S A N D FURNISHINGS

To create a high-end look, Heller and Kendall incorporated furnishings made of wood, iron, polished chrome, marble, lacquer, linen, cowhide and velvet. “We mixed it up to create variation and interest,” Heller says.

Working together, the designers were able to completely transform their client’s pied-à-terre in just under three months. “There were a lot of rabbits that we pulled out of the hat to accommodate this budget, but in the end, it doesn’t look like we cut corners, and the owners were blown away by the result,” Heller says. According to Kendall, the project is proof that luxury doesn’t have to break the bank. “You can hire designers and it doesn’t have to cost a fortune.

The low-slung contemporary lacquered coffee table below is paired with a chrome and marble side table. “We paired the tables to create a layered effect. It’s multiuse,” Kendall says. “You can pull it out and use it by the recliner chair, or for other purposes in the room.”

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By Kristina Tober

Nothing says easy living better than your front porch.

But that doesn’t mean you have to go light on style. Your porch is your opening statement, where you make a first impression for your home and the hospitality within.

For fresh ideas for designing a delightful porch, we looked no further than local design and landscape experts Leggy Bird Designs (406 N. Milwaukee Ave., Libertyville, 847-367-6500) and Craig Bergmann and Linda Hewitt, both of Craig Bergmann Landscape Design. (1065 Acorn Trail, Lake Forest, 847-251-8355) Here are their best tips: Keep it clean. Start with a good thorough cleaning, and keep it up. Choose indoor/outdoor fabrics and furniture that will withstand the elements and keep up appearances.

Think day and night. A well-designed porch should serve you equally well for an afternoon siesta, a cocktail hour and a late-night card game. String lights for a festive nighttime feel, and display lots of candles in hurricanes for an added glow.

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Choose comfortable seating. While a swing is always a classic addition to any porch, make comfort and conversation a priority. Group seating encourages conversation. Include enough table space for setting drinks, snacks and a backgammon board or card pile.

Make it beautiful. There are so many beautiful indoor/outdoor fabrics today, from vibrant solids to playful patterns. Regardless of your design aesthetic (vintage or modern), you’ll find durable textiles and rugs to fill your space and cover your floor. Make sure to pick fabrics that don’t just look good but feel good to the skin.

Accessorize with authentic treasures. Bergmann recommends introducing objects that have lost their usefulness in the garden (old planters, an aged wheelbarrow, anything fragile or needing protection from the sun) and turning them into distinctly stylish furnishings and containers.

Plan for the weather. Add a ceiling fan to keep the air moving on still summer nights. Conversely, since open flame is an obvious hazard to a covered porch, keep a few throws on hand (cotton or linen feel best against bare summer skin).

Entertain your options. Use your porch as an extension of your entertaining space. Dress up your table with treasured table linens, china and crystal usually reserved for the dining room. Move some of your favorite indoor entertaining pieces, like a bar cart or sideboard, outside for the event. Hang curtains, string lights or even add a candle chandelier.

Leave technology indoors. There’s no better spot to listen to Mother Nature’s music, crickets

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chirping, leaves rustling, breezes blowing. And remember, nothing says hillbilly faster than a TV on your porch.

Make your own porch. Even if your home doesn’t sport a porch, create the same cozy atmosphere by building a pergola over your patio.

Photo courtesy of Craig Bergmann Landscape Design

Experiment with Mother Nature.

Plant choice is important on the porch, particularly when it comes to maintenance, performance and sensory value since your porch is a close extension of your living space.

• If your porch is off the kitchen, it’s the perfect place for a large pot filled with fresh herbs and lettuces.

• Move beyond wave petunias for your hanging baskets. Bergmann loves tillandsia (air plants) or ferns in unusual containers, like silver orbs.

• Introduce a wide variety of unusual plants in either a riot of mixed colors, complementary hues or monochromatic tones.

• Fill an old wire baker’s rack with geraniums in neon colors (hot pink, vibrant orange).

• If you seek formality, try boxwoods shaped as topiary, spirals or globes in classic iron urns. Vary the number and height, or add other wonderful and unexpected topiary, such as fuchsia and coleus.

• Plant something delicious smelling outside the door, like honeysuckle or lilacs. Place scented geraniums where the wind will waft the scent.

• Plant a shallow bowl with succulents, adding visual texture and color without a lot of maintenance.

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not allowed in organic certified farming, but they may be used sparingly in the broader approach of sustainable farming.

Use of the Land. In both organic and sustainable farming, the focus is on maintaining and improving soil quality, but organic certification does not necessarily ensure this.

Concerns about our food and its production range from chemical additives to supporting sustainable agriculture and local farms, to the ethical treatment of animals, to finding the most nutritious, freshest, and best tasting food. As we find better and safer sources of food, it is important to learn more about these terms for our food and its production.

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farming and organic farming mean? These terms are often misused. Sustainable farming refers to a broad set of principles, strategies and practices that allow farmers to grow food in a manner that improves the soil and supports the environment and the community, with a focus on long-term sustainability. Organic farming was an aspect of sustainable farming, but it has taken on new meaning since the United States Department of Agriculture created an organic labeling program, which you now see on food packaging as “certified organic.”

The challenge? Learning the difference between organic certification and sustainable agriculture. Certified organic products aren’t necessarily sustainable when they are produced by otherwise conventional farming practices, and sustainable farms that are not certified may still be producing organic food. Here are some key areas of distinction: Certification. Organic farms must be independently certified and are approved by the USDA, while many farms using sustainable practices are not. When used as a label, the term organic refers to an actual certification. Sustainable is more of a philosophy or way of life.

Animal Welfare. There are separate animal welfare certifications that look at various levels of humane treatment of livestock. Organic farmers may still confine animals with very limited outdoor access, such as a screen window. In sustainable systems, animals move about freely, avoiding stress and illness associated with confinement.

Chemicals. No added or artificial hormones are allowed in organic or sustainable farming. Generally, pesticides are

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bet t e r you | shopping

beautifulboots L i n d s ay R o s e m a n

Nothing says fall like a killer pair of new boots. These 12 classic looks promise to take any outfit to the next level.

combat/motorcycle

“Burkinafaso” Boot

Decorative gold hardware ups the cool factor on these cognac motorcycle boots, also available in black. Style them with a lace dress, a chunky knit and leggings, or skinny jeans. $150, Aldo

Jeffrey Campbell “Pris” Boot

Dress up date night with this round-toe metallic and leather woven boot—great with tights and skirts or black skinny jeans. $230, Lori’s

Frye “Veronica” Short boot

Everyone needs a great gray boot to round out their collection, and you can’t go wrong with the edgy Veronica Short. $268, The Bootery

Steve Madden “Troopa” Boot

Steve Madden is the king of cool combat boots, and these olive-green kicks do the trick.

Slip on a ribbed pair of socks to peek out the top of the boot and soften the look. $100, Steve Madden

anklebooties

arche “Garaki” Lace-Up Bootie

rag & bone “Harrow” Bootie

Nothing beats a pair of booties that you can rock year round.

The neutral suede paired with the bright laces and sole make for an impossibly fresh combo. $385, Bloomingdales

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These cap-toe suede booties are the ultimate in downtown chic—and they’re comfy enough to run all of your errands! $495, Nordstrom

Gucci “Suede Zip” Bootie

Keep it classic in these gorgeous suede booties. This is one timeless look that will never go out of style. Neiman Marcus, $850

Sam Edelman “Shay” Bootie

Own the black-and-brown two-tone trend with these lowheel booties—they’ll go with almost anything. $135, Lori’s

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Sam Edelman “Perron” Boot

Tory Burch “Mae” Riding Boot

The detail on this boot makes it stand out in a crowd—the cap-toe oxford edge and subtle strip of laces are totally schoolboy cool. $150, Nordstrom

Inject a shot of glam into your everyday look with this sleek, contemporary pair, which can be dressed up or down thanks to the metal logo studs. $525, Tory Burch

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Frye “Melissa Harness” Boot

Burnt red is easily the hottest hue for fall. Pair with neutral colors for an effortlessly ontrend look. $398, Frye

Bed-Stu “Bristol” boot

These tall, lightly distressed riding boots add just the right amount of vintage to any outfit. Contrast the look with a flirty dress, or pair with skinny dark denim. $239, Lori’s

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As rising stars of Chicago’s media scene, Make It Better’s Marjie Killeen and Beth Engelman wanted to reinvent their style for upcoming corporate speaking and television gigs. These outfits go from work to play.

See before pictures and read more on p. 55.

All shoes are models’ own.

on Marjie

Black-and-white sleeveless dress, $195, J.McLaughlin Red belt with fox clasp, $75, J.McLaughlin Earrings, $24, Sara Campbell Marc Bernstein bracelet, $190, Willow Boutique

on beth

Red-and-blue printed dress, $368, Sara Campbell Drop necklace, $120, Sara Campbell Marcia Moran drusy stud earrings, $147, Willow Boutique

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Navy Blouse, $148, Sara Campbell Printed pants, $168, Sara Campbell Clover hoops, $75, Sara Campbell Kooba bag, $598, Willow Boutique Marc Bernstein bracelet, $190, Willow Boutique

Wrap dress, $195, J.McLaughlin Belt, $68, J.McLaughlin Natalie B vintage bracelet, $225, Willow Boutique

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Printed pencil skirt, $165, J.McLaughlin Long-sleeved T-shirt, $68, J.McLaughlin Leather jacket, $475, J.McLaughlin Sonia Renee green drop necklace, $57, Willow Boutique

Sleeveless blouse, $198, Sara Campbell Lace skirt, $225, J.McLaughlin Marcia Moran druzy three-tier earrings, $245, Willow Boutique Lucky Star Jewels necklace, $155, Willow Boutique

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BEFORE

MARJIE KILLEEN

Our Sex & the Suburbs writer wanted to spruce up her wardrobe as she transitions from mostly working at home to hosting more events and presentations. With the aim to be more sophisticated and professional, we took Marjie out of her usual uniform of jeans and T-shirts and had her run the gamut, from cocktail dresses to printed pants.

The final looks suited a variety of her needs: the sheath dress for a more professional setting, the printed-pants outfit for a casual meeting, and the lace skirt and blouse for an on-stage discussion. With a few quick swipes of a flat iron and a little accentuating makeup, she was quickly transformed into a contemporary working woman.

BETH ENGELMAN

This busy mom and journalist was looking to modernize her look, admitting that she still sports clothes purchased more than a decade ago. She wanted something to replace her three usual on-camera outfits for her local news spots and some fun pieces for going out. We also had to wean her from gravitating toward everything in black.

Her three final looks got her out of the sweats and proved that dressing up can be just as comfortable (while making you feel even better). From a party-appropriate sleeveless dress to a sleek leather jacket and pencil skirt combo, these outfits updated her style and upgraded her confidence. With flirty curls and a bit of makeup, the makeover was a success, matching her new aesthetic with her bubbly personality.

story and styling by E VA N G E L I N E P O L I T I S

photos by J O H N R E I L LY P H O T O G R A P H Y

hair and makeup by N A F I S S A PA N A H I , B E AU T Y A DV I S O R L I N D S E Y R YA N , H A I R S T Y L I S T FROM ELIZABETH ARDEN R E D D O O R S PA , D E E R F I E L D

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October 2-5 The Lake Forest Shop, 265 Market Square Ct., Lake Forest, 847-234-0548, thelakeforestshop.com Featuring the freshest pieces from Hilton Hollis’ fall 2013 line. Also join us October 2, from 6-8 p.m. when Canyon Ranch Speaker and local author Barbara Appelbaum will speak about “Feeling Beautiful Inside & Out.” Algo Switzerland

September 9- 14 The Lake Forest Shop, 265 Market Square Ct., Lake Forest, 847-234-0548, thelakeforestshop.com Unbelievable jackets in beautiful colors and fine clothing that you won’t find in stores.

Sip and Shop

September 11, 5:30 -8:30 p.m.

J. McLaughlin, 567A Lincoln Ave., Winnetka, 847-784-1730, jmclaughlin.com Sip, shop and support a cause. 15 percent of all proceeds benefit Midwest Palliative & Hospice Care Center.

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September 19-21 The Lake Forest Shop, 265 Market Square Ct., Lake Forest, 847-234-0548, thelakeforestshop.com Immediate gratification! Come enjoy the latest-season finds, featuring fabulous color choices: reds, grays, greens and more!

Antique and Modernism Press Party

September 26, 5:30 -8 p.m.

J. McLaughlin, 567A Lincoln Ave., Winnetka, 847-784-1730, jmclaughlin.com Sip, shop and support a cause. 15 percent of all proceeds benefit the Winnetka Community House.

Melissa Shirley Designs

October 5, 10 a.m -5 p.m.

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fitness trackers:

worth the weight?

What a doctor, trainer and user think about these popular devices

by Christ y Coughlin

Fitness trackers—do you love ‘em or hate ‘em? like Fitbit, BodyMedia and Jawbone Up offer ways to count your calories burned, keep track of water intake, record sleep habits, set goals and track your progress.

For those connected to a mobile device, calorie-counting apps like Lose it! and Calorie Counter PRO make dieting and good nutrition fun and rewarding. Additionally, fitness-based social-media sites like Strava and dailymile let you share workouts with your connections, compete and encourage others on the site.

High-tech fitness trackers

Are they worth the investment? the doctor’s recommendation

According to Dr. Troy Long, MD, Internal Medicine at Kaiser Permanente, “These high-tech tools are great motivators that help make change easier for those that are ready.” Dr. Long recommends using technology to increase exercise and improve eating habits. One of his patients has lost 140 pounds using an iPhone app that helps count calories by reading food barcodes. Dr. Long likes that users can “check things off their list,” track movement and diet on a long-term

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basis, access useable data, self-monitor and connect with others. the personal trainer’s experience

“This type of technology is very beneficial in charting the activity levels of our clients between workouts,” says Tony Duncan, PFT and Owner of Body Science. “Clients who want to lose an extra pound a week are encouraged to burn an extra 500 calories a day. They are amazed at how easy these simple devices can accurately and instantly alert them to how much more movement they need. I strongly encourage anyone to use these devices for a safe and doable approach to achieving their goals.” elaine’s success

Elaine and her husband received Fitbit devices as gifts. “I feel energized, motivated and legitimate,” she says. “Yes, I’m a stay-at-home mother. No, I’m not a sack of potatoes! Even days I don’t specifically go for a walk or run, I’m on the go, and I’ve got proof. I’ve always viewed exercise as an endeavor. With my Fitbit, I now realize, baby steps count. I look forward to walking and running … to meeting or exceeding my daily goals. I’m now more aware. My husband and I have an unspoken competition. It is another motivator. He now paces back and forth during his conference calls. I think the Fitbit is a brilliant product. Psychologi-

cally, I feel I’m making progress towards a healthier life style. Physically, I can see a difference.”

Cons to consider

Before you pull out your credit card consider these drawbacks: • Fitness trackers may be worth the investment, but the cost for some of the more advanced units is steep.

• If you are pressed for time, analyzing data and entering meal information may not fit into your busy schedule.

• If exercising is your only break from technology, you may not want to add a fitness tracker to your peaceful exertion.

If you are looking for a high-tech way to move toward greater fitness, weight loss, or just healthier living, fitness trackers, apps, or fitness-based social media sites may do the trick. Doctors are increasingly recommending technology to encourage patients to exercise more and lose weight. Personal trainers find them helpful to keep their clients on task between sessions. And for some, like Elaine, trackers prove to be positive motivation.

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OUR NATION SPENDS MORE MONEY on breast cancer research than any other type of cancer. Still, many women are confused about the basics, such as the signs, symptoms and treatments.

With the deluge of information, tips and advice about breast cancer these days, it’s easy to get lost. Many misconceptions exist regarding diagnosis and treatment of breast cancer. It’s more important than ever that women have a clear understanding of the issues.

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If I have no family history of breast cancer, then I am not at risk.

Approximately 70 to 75 percent of women who develop breast cancer have no family history.

There is nothing I can do to reduce my risk of developing breast cancer.

We can’t completely prevent cancer, but we can reduce the risks by maintaining a healthy weight, exercising, quitting smoking and reducing alcohol consumption.

My mammogram was normal, so I don’t have to worry about getting breast cancer.

Mammograms are a good annual screening tool, but they do not detect all breast cancers. It is still important to perform a self-breast exam once a month and have a doctor’s exam once a year.

Underwire bras can increase the risk of breast cancer.

Underwire bras or trauma to the breast do not increase the risk of developing breast cancer.

Cancer cells can spread during a biopsy.

Cancer cells do not spread from a biopsy. A biopsy can confirm that cancerous cells are present.

I’ve been cancer-free for five years from my diagnosis, so there is no chance of it returning.

There is less risk of a cancer returning in the breast or elsewhere in the body after five to 10 years, but there is still a slight risk. It’s important to see a doctor regularly and have regular mammograms.

My weight and the size of my breasts do not affect my risk of breast cancer.

Obesity significantly increases the risk of developing breast cancer. Obese women are more likely to be diagnosed with more aggressive tumors and be diagnosed at a more advanced stage.

One of the most important things that you can do is maintain a healthy lifestyle and know your own risk factors for developing breast cancer.

For more information on breast cancer and other cancer-related inquires at Advocate Lutheran General’s Caldwell Breast Center, call 1.800.3.ADVOCATE or visit advocatehealth.com/luth

Dr. Heidi Memmel, MD, FACS is board certified in general surgery and co-medical director for Advocate Lutheran General’s Caldwell Breast Center. She currently performs breast surgery only and specializes in breast cancer diagnosis, treatment and highrisk assessment and prevention.

Dr. Memmel is currently performing several ongoing studies to look at the involvement of vitamin D levels in breast cancer patients and laser ablation of breast tumors both benign and malignant. She was voted Top Doc by Top Tier MD and is also a breast cancer survivor.

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BET T E R YOU | finance

stepping back into the

workforce

BY MEGHAN STREIT IN 2009, KENILWORTH MOM KATH-

returned to the paid workforce after 14 years as a stay-athome mom.

To reboot her career, the former bank employee and family office consultant tapped into her Northwestern University alumni network and connected with other local moms returning to work as part of a networking group established by iRelaunch, an organization that helps mid-career professionals reenter the workforce. Buehler also refreshed her skills by studying to become a certified financial planner. Her efforts paid off—she’s a vice president and investment committee member for Globe Corporation. Notably, Buehler says her employer didn’t view her time out of the office as a negative.

“They were happy to have someone who wasn’t stuck in a rut of doing things a certain way,” Buehler says.

How can you find a rewarding job with a competitive salary?

ERINE BUEHLER

Treat your volunteer work as you would a regular job Connecticut career consultant Kathryn Sollmann, author of the blog 9LivesForWomen.com, says many full-time moms keep their skills fresh through volunteer work. The mistake, Sollmann says, is that they fail to frame their volunteer activities in business terms. Telling a prospective employer

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Cindy Rawlings, a Vice President at Wintrust Financial, speaks at RE:WORK II about the financial aspects of returning to work, as well as her own journey returning to the workforce.

For more information this year’s RE:WORK conference, turn to page 4.

you chaired the book fair, for example, doesn’t reveal much about your professional skills.

“You need to tell them that you managed a budget of $50,000, organized 50 volunteers and got 20 percent more people to attend than the previous year,” Sollmann says.

Invest in your job search To boost your bottom line when you land your next job, you may need to spend some money. Paying for professional resume advice could be worth the cost, Sollmann says.

If you’re not sure what you want the next stage of your career to look like, Vivian Rabin, co-founder of iRelaunch, recommends a few sessions with a career coach. She says having a well-defined career objective will help narrow your search and make you more attractive to potential employers.

“One of the biggest problems we see is that people reentering the workforce are penny wise and pound foolish,” Rabin says. “They don’t want to spend any money on the job search because they aren’t making any money, but what could be a total of $1,000 on a job coach could be the best investment you’ve made.”

Consider starting a few steps back In an ideal world, moms would return to work making at least as much

money as they were before they had children. In the real world, that’s not always the case. In fact, Rabin says you may even want to consider taking a part-time position or an unpaid internship—if the experience will help you achieve your long-term career goals.

“This is just your first year,” Rabin says. “We see so many people do much better within two or three years, and then they’re making real money.”

Don’t discount lower pay when thinking about long-term goals Some women whose spouses are high-income earners decide not to return to work because they conclude that their low starting salary won’t do much more than push their family into a higher tax bracket. Sollmann says that kind of short-term thinking can be a mistake. Even if your family has plenty of money to cover your current expenses, she says many people aren’t financially prepared for unexpected events like caring for a sick parent or child, or a spouse losing his or her job.

“The problem is that most people do not have enough money saved for retirement,” Sollmann says. “Even if you can only get a job where you clear $20,000 or $30,000, if you are 40 years old and you put that $20,000–$30,000 in the bank for 20 years, that adds up to something significant.”

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beauty and the bust How Women Feel About Their Breasts

By Mar jie Killeen

Ladies, let’s talk about the girls. They’re a distinctive feature of femininity and should be a source of pleasure and pride, but the truth is, many women feel some degree of conflict about their breasts.

Society pays so much attention to them.

We see a lot of boobs in the media but they tend to look the same—large, high, round and tipped with little rosebud nipples. Compared to those on “Game of Thrones” or the latest topless model-filled music video, it’s easy for women to feel their breasts are too small, too big, too droopy, or simply too different. A recent study reported only 30 percent of women age 18-65 felt satisfied with their breasts.

Complicating all this is that boobs are unpredictable. Periods, pregnancy, nursing, weight changes, menopause and aging all have an effect on the shape and sensation of our breasts. So even if you adore them now, you might feel differently down the road.

Other than nursing—a very brief period in most women’s lives—breasts are for pleasure and visual appeal, both of which are strongly

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connected to a woman’s sexual identity. Yes, men like them, but it’s how we feel about them that impacts our body image and sensuality.

Given their high aesthetic value, it’s not surprising that breasts are the number one area of cosmetic surgery in the United States. The American Society of Plastic Surgeons reports that in 2012, breast implants, lifts and reductions accounted for almost a third of all cosmetic surgeries—more than 450,000 procedures.

Molly*, 42, of Highland Park had always felt fantastic about her breasts. But after having two kids, her once firm and voluptuous chest sagged. She mourned the loss of a part of herself that had always made her feel beautiful and sensual, and she decided to get a breast lift. “They’ve always been my thing,” she says shrugging. “It’s important to me.” Having the procedure made her feel herself again.

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Christine*, 44, a mother of three from Wilmette, struggled since puberty with a chest that didn’t fit her petite frame. “When I got married, I weighed 110 pounds and wore a size 32F bra,” she says. “My boobs were enormous.”

Christine’s large bust made her appear overweight and prevented her from playing sports. She felt self-conscious and suffered severe backaches. Finally, after nursing her third child, Christine had breast reduction surgery, which in her case was covered by insurance. The procedure was complicated and painful, but Christine, now a C cup, feels it was worth it.

“Now I can exercise and jump around and I definitely feel sexier,” she says. “I never thought my boobs were sexy before, I thought they were yucky.

They (the doctors) make them nice and perky. Even six years later, they still have some oomph. And I can wear clothes I could never wear before.”

Both Molly and Christine’s surgeries made a big difference in the way they feel about themselves, but it’s important to note that procedures can be expensive and painful, and breasts are only one component of femininity. As Angelina Jolie said of her preventative double mastectomy, “I feel empowered that I made a strong choice that in no way diminishes my femininity.” Any woman who’s had a scary mammogram knows that ultimately, healthy breasts are perfect breasts.

I’m definitely experiencing the droop myself, but for now I’m focusing on finding the perfect bra. I also comfort myself with the fact that men love all kinds of boobs, and in particular, the ones that belong to the woman having sex with them. *Names have been changed

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DI N I NG

Nick’s Neighborhood Bar & Grill 1168 Wilmette Ave. Wilmette 847-251-3262 nickswilmette.com

WALKING INTO NICK’S NEIGHBOR-

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and Grill in downtown Wilmette is a bit of an out-of-body experience.

Though it’s in CJ Arthur’s old space, it’s been renovated and revitalized. Gone are the dark and dingy room, the smell of old fry oil, and the sticky floor. Instead, there is light, open space, plenty of fresh paint and gleaming wood, modern fixtures; three huge flat-screen TVs, and most noticeably, people—lots of people.

Sure, everyone is there to check out the new space and the crowd-pleasing menu put together by young chef Derek Dwyer. But they are coming back for a second and third time because the locally sourced food is tasty and the vibe is good.

Tim Lenon, owner of nearby Fuel, is one of the owners, along with nine other Wilmette families. It’s no surprise that the place has such a friendly, local feel. And it seems like everyone here knows everyone else.

My advice? Arrive early for a table (they open at 4:30 every day for dinner). They only take reservations for larger parties, and it fills up fast. But no worries, because the bar is a pleasant place to wait, and there’s a thoughtfully selected, extensive craft-beer list, as well as a selection of specialty cocktails ($10 each) and wines by the glass.

Service can be a bit hit or miss, but it’s a young staff and they’re learning.

And while there’s nothing earth shatteringly creative on the menu, it’s all solidly prepared. Try the Crab Cakes ($12), two plump, pan-seared cakes, loaded with jumbo crab (and not much filler), drizzled with a spicy remoulade and served with mixed greens.

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ping and dipping. The Mac ‘n’ Cheese du Jour ($8), which featured bacon on one visit, lacked a punchy cheese flavor, but still disappeared.

We were impressed with the Arugula Salad ($8), the peppery young leaves tossed with roasted wild mushrooms, goat cheese and not-too-sweet honey-mustard vinaigrette, topped with delightfully crispy onion shards.

The ever-present Kale Caesar ($8) disappointed; it was mixed with romaine lettuce and tossed in a lackluster Caesar dressing that begged for more seasoning. I wish they had gone all kale— better to fully commit to the concept.

SANDWICHES ARE WINNERS

Sandwiches proved strong contenders on the menu. The Grilled Chicken Club ($10), with a juicy grilled and marinated breast, avocado, provolone cheese, house-made bacon, tomato, arugula and pesto served on toasted ciabatta, was a happy mouthful. And the

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½-pound Burger ($12)? It may well be Wilmette’s best, a blend of ground ribeye and house dry-aged chuck, cooked to a turn and gilded with premium toppings, all on your choice of a brioche or pretzel bun. Sandwiches come with hand-cut fries (decent), veggie chips (same) or a side salad.

Entrée portions were generous, but not overwhelming. We enjoyed the pan-seared Salmon ($18), glazed with a touch of herb-mustard and served atop a creamy wild mushroom and leek risotto dotted with blistered cherry tomatoes. A moist Halibut filet ($24), topped with a caper beurre blanc and microgreens, came on a bed of sautéed vegetables.

While we enjoyed the Dry-Aged NY Strip ($23), it wasn’t what we had ordered (which was actually the Ribeye). Either the kitchen misfired or the server grabbed someone else’s steak.

Don’t Skip Dessert!

Dessert more than made up for the error. The Brownie a la Mode ($6) is a fine specimen of the genre, the warm, triple-chocolate beauty topped with an enormous scoop of Homer’s Mint Chocolate Chip ice cream. A nutella topping is promised, but was non-existent. We didn’t miss it. And don’t pass on the über-moist Red Velvet Cake ($6), made in house, iced with real cream cheese frosting and drizzled with strawberry sauce. Yum. Wilmette Avenue is quickly becoming a dining destination on the North Shore scene, and Nick’s is a welcome addition.

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finally opened in mid-July. The younger sibling to the Michelin-starred Farmhouse Chicago, its arrival has been much anticipated.

Opening in a space seemingly haunted by failed restaurants, the team behind FE has worked hard to bring their wildly successful, farm-to-table vision to life north of the Chicago border.

The interior is totally new, from the pressed tin and brick walls to the old-timey light fixtures. Rural-themed murals and posters and the reclaimed wood farm tables add to the feeling. Of course, all those hard surfaces contribute to the noise level, which, at least in the main room and bar, is loud. house Evanston

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If you’re a fan of locally sourced beer and small-batch liquor, look no further. With 64 taps between the upstairs and downstairs bars, running the gamut from Barley Island Sheet Metal Blonde to Vander Mill Hard Apple Cider, you won’t soon run out of options.

There are some terrific cocktails as well, like the Hum-Dinger ($8), a refreshing Hum liqueur spritzer, or the Swing ($8), a jazzed up gin and tonic with cucumber and lime (ask them to hold the simple syrup). Enjoy the homemade crunchy Potato Chips with creamy dill dip, brought in lieu of bread.

You’ve gotta get the Beer-Battered Wisconsin Cheese Curds ($9), which are much lighter than you’d think, cloaked in a crispy tempura-like batter and served with house-made ketchup (delish) and “Spicy Curd Sauce.” What if tater tots were made of cheese?

Here’s your chance to find out. BTW, I am already tired of typing the words “house made,” so just assume that everything is, OK? It’s that kind of place.

We lucked out with the day’s Flatbread ($12), which was spread with caramelized onion purée and dotted with sausage, sautéed mushrooms, goat cheese and fresh arugula—a nice combination of textures and flavors, although I’d prefer crisper crust.

Mussels ($12/$24) come in two sizes, large and unimaginably huge.

Although the menu billed the cooking liquid as wine, it had a distinctly hoppy, beer-y flavor—not that there’s anything wrong with that! Add in chopped tomatoes, bacon and currypickled shallots, and it’s a worthy version of the menu standard.

We’re not sure what the story was with the Farmhouse Chop Salad ($10).

Although it was filled with market veggies, tavern nuts, dried Michigan cherries and tossed with creamy herbcider dressing, it was woefully underseasoned and had a muddy taste that we couldn’t get past.

Back to happy times with the Indiana Duck Breast ($24), rosy and juicy, fanned over a luscious bed of creamy white polenta and topped with a sauce of duck demi and fresh cherries, dusted with toasted pistachio, all served on a wooden plank. Damn. That’s all I can say.

We were also impressed with the Maple-Brined Pork Chop ($24), perfectly cooked and moist, served atop Indiana collard greens with little bacon nubbins, brown butter and Nueske’s Ham Glaze. It was porky and delicious. Although it was unclaimed on the menu, I suspect that the Half

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Roasted Amish Chicken ($22) was also brined first, because it was downright succulent. Once you throw that on a plate with roasted forest mushrooms, barley, wild gooseberry pan jus and a sprightly herb salad, there’s no going back.

Grilled Stuffed River Trout ($24) made a gorgeous plate with a still life of fresh yellow and black currants and lemon segments, black quinoa and spring onions. Each entrée we sampled was one I’d order again.

If you’re thinking that Mac & Cheese ($6) is a superfluous side dish, you’re wrong. Here, the wagon wheels are bathed in a cheesy sauce with just enough cheddar and mustard bite— totally calorie worthy.

Desserts (all $8) need some work.

The Lemon Cornmeal Cake was dry, and nearly overwhelmed by the assertive lemon curd and humungous mound of softly whipped cream. The blueberries seemed an afterthought rather than a focal point.

Peanut Butter Bread Pudding was served in flat, dense squares and was a disappointment. The best option was the Chocolate Ice Cream Sundae, topped with cherry preserves, local honey, caramel and waffle cone crumbs. Nom nom.

With so much else right, I’m sure they will pull this course together as time goes on.

Like many of you, I heard stories of people who dined here their first week, and there were timing issues.

If you’re going to visit a restaurant in the first week they’re open, you’ve got to keep an open mind. There’s nothing more challenging than that first week, when the kitchen is just getting in the groove. I urge you to try Farmhouse Evanston; I think you’ll agree it’s worth a visit.

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Sycamore Row John Grisham Matthew McCon … err, I mean Jake Brigance, returns to the Ford County courtroom in this chilling sequel to “A Time to Kill.” Mystery and suspense fans will be lining up for this one.

Never Go Back: A Jack Reacher Novel Lee Child Are you a Reacher Creature? I’ll admit, I was pleasantly surprised at Tom Cruise’s turn as Jack Reacher on the silver screen, and it will be interesting to see how many more fans gravitate to this fast-paced, addictive series.

We Are Water Wally Lamb A novel that screams “Act 2!”—Lamb’s protagonist, Anna Oh, has left her husband and is set to marry her new love, Viveca.

How does this sit with the family, including her kids? An engrossing read that tackles marriage, family and social mores.

Doctor Sleep Stephen King King is on a roll, with books like “11/22/63” and “Joyland” becoming some of the most talked about novels in the last year. Now comes a sequel to his megahit from the 80s, “The Shining.” Danny Torrance is back—are you game?

David and Goliath: Underdogs, Misfits and the Art of Battling Giants Malcolm Gladwell Talk about reinvention—Gladwell’s newest book is set on reshaping how we think about handling adversity.

Never one to shy away from a controversial opinion, this author is certain to ignite great book club discussion.

Bridget Jones: Mad About the Boy Helen Fielding Bridget has hit middle age, and now she’s counting followers on her Twitter feed. A thousand times yes.

Double Down: Game Change 2012 Mark Halperin and John Heilemann It’s as close to a nonfiction sequel as you’ll get, this time featuring Mitt Romney as the Republican candidate squaring off against the Democratic contender and sitting president, Barack Obama. If you’re jonesing for a political fix, pick this up.

Fangirl Rainbow Rowell Next up after the quietly successful “Attachments,” Rowell focuses on a set of twins—one of which is struggling when her sister is ready to give up her superfan status for a character in a book series.

Think of it this way—the world has put away their magic wands and you’re still practicing your “Expecto Patronum!” What would you do?

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e n t e rta i nm e n t | music

by Va l H a l l e r o f Va l s l i s t If “invent” means to create something new, then what does “reinvent” mean? Can something be newer than new? Can it be invented again?

It sounds a bit redundant to me.

Merriam-Webster’s description of reinvention is “to make as if for the first time something already invented, to re-

make or redo completely, to bring into use again.” Now I can think of a million examples, and we see it everywhere: • YouTube videos of regular people doing regular things a different way •L ife changes, like moms going back to work and dads switching careers •B ig brands asking their fans to come up with new ad campaigns • New versions of old products, like clothing with SPF sun protection, coffee machines that make one cup, and iPods that hold all of your music

In the music world, reinvention happens constantly. Music is music—but new sounds, vibes, instruments, beats and harmonies reinvent the everyday.

And fans like me, who are looking for the newest of the new, love this. I write a weekly column in The New York Times called “Music Match” (nyti.ms/168mwZ3) that features a “reinvention” of sorts; we pair two artists—a new artist with a vintage artist—who have a similar sound.

My goal is to introduce you to the new, by linking it with something familiar. The reader takes it from there.

Artists recently Paired in Music Match:

Shows Not to Miss:

• Buddy Holly / Vampire Weekend • The Beach Boys / Django Django • Hall & Oates / Fitz & The Tantrums • Fleetwood Mac / Kopecky Family Band • Bob Dylan / Jake Bugg • Cat Stevens / Junip Some like the reinvention, others prefer the original.

How open-minded are you?

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September 5: Griffin House at City Winery (great date night) September 7: Colin Hay (of Men at Work) at Park West (flashback) September 20: Earth Wind & Fire at The Chicago Theatre (take your kids) September 27: Iron & Wine at The Chicago Theatre (chill music)

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American Blues Theater (at Greenhouse) “Hank Williams: Lost Highway” September 5–October 6 773-404-7336 Broadway Playhouse “To Master the Art” September 10–October 6 broadwayinchicago.com

The Chicago area’s theater season falls into place this month with an intriguing New York troupe visiting the North Shore and acclaimed dramas making their local premieres.

The Old Man and the Old Moon September 3–November 10 Writers’ Theatre, 325 Tudor Ct., Glencoe | 847-242-6000 | writerstheatre.org PigPen Theatre Co., which created this mythological adventure in New York, is coming to Glencoe to perform it. Featuring indie-folk music and puppets, it’s the tale of a man whose job is collecting spilled light to refill the leaking moon — until he abandons his post to search for his lost love.

4000 Miles September 14–October 20 Northlight Theatre, 9501 Skokie Blvd., Skokie | 847-673-6300 | northlight.org This drama by Amy Herzog (who also wrote “Belleville,” seen recently at Steppenwolf) was Time magazine’s choice for the best play of 2012, when it played Off Broadway. That was just one of many accolades for this play about a rudderless 21-year-old seeking refuge in his elderly grandmother’s apartment.

Pullman Porter Blues September 14 –October 20 Goodman Theatre, 170 N. Dearborn St., Chicago | 312-443-3800 | goodmantheatre.org Cheryl L. West’s play gives us a glimpse of the lives of African-American porters who worked on luxurious Pullman train cars. It’s

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1937, and three generations of one black family are on a train from Chicago to New Orleans, awaiting news of the world heavyweight championship bout between Joe Louis and James Braddock. Chuck Smith directs the Chicago premiere, featuring a band playing the blues.

The Wheel September 12–November 10 Steppenwolf Theatre, 1650 N. Halsted St., Chicago | 312-335-1650 | steppenwolf.org Tina Landau directs Joan Allen and other Steppenwolf ensemble members in this U.S. premiere about a woman in 19th-century Spain who unexpectedly becomes a young girl’s guardian in the midst of a war zone.

Zinnie Harris’ play was originally performed by the National Theatre of Scotland at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival in 2011.

Cyrano de Bergerac September 24–November 10 Chicago Shakespeare Theater, 800 E. Grand Ave., Chicago | 312-595-5600 | chicagoshakes.com Harry Groener, who starred in Chicago Shakespeare’s smash hit “The Madness of King George III,” teams up again with the director of that show, Penny Metropulos.

This time, they’re reviving Edmond Rostand’s famous tale of a romantic nobleman with an extraordinarily large nose.

Court Theatre “The Mountaintop” September 5–October 6 courttheatre.org House Theatre (at the Chopin) “The Crownless King” August 30–October 20 thehousetheatre.com Lifeline Theatre “The Killer Angels” September 6–October 27 lifelinetheatre.com Neo-Futurists “Sweet Child of Mine” September 5–21 neofuturists.org Oriental Theatre “Evita” September 17–October 6 broadwayinchicago.com Profiles Theatre “In God’s Hat” August 23–October 13 profilestheatre.org Raven Theatre “The Trip to Bountiful” September 17–November 17 raventheatre.com TimeLine Theatre “A Raisin in the Sun” August 20–November 17 timelinetheatre.com

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Donations can be made online, or mailed to 1440 Renaissance Dr., Suite 240, Park Ridge, IL 60068.

CELEBRATE WOMEN’S HEALTH Advocate Lutheran General Hospital (847) 723-2343 | advocatehealth.com Commemorate women’s health at the Advocate Lutheran General Hospital Gala on Saturday, Nov. 2. Proceeds will benefit various women’s health programs, such as the Maternal Fetal Medical Program, Minimally Invasive Surgery and the Cancer Survivorship Center. RSVP by contacting Development Officer Jacqueline Matthews at 847-723-2343 or jacqueline.mathews@advocatehealth.com.

ADOPT-A-NIGHT AT A HOMELESS SHELTER Lake County Haven 847-680-1703 | lakecountyhaven.org Offer shelter and food for a local homeless family through Lake County Haven’s “Adopt-A-Night” program. The program gives people the chance to pay for one or more nights of service for people in need, and each donated gift is recognized on its website and social media pages. Donate online at lakecountyhaven.org.

DONATE BABY SUPPLIES TO A NURSERY  The Cradle Foundation 847-475-5800 | cradlefoundation.org Donate baby supplies for The Cradle’s Nursery, the only 24-hour onsite nursery provided by an adoption agency in the country. The Cradle Foundation has helped place more than 14,000 children into permanent, loving homes, and its nursery is a safe place for infants to stay while they await adoption. Items can be sent to 2049 Ridge Ave., Evanston, IL 60201. Recommended items can be found online at “The Cradle Nursery Wish List” on Amazon.com.

DONATE FURNITURE TO WOMEN IN NEED Sarah’s Circle 773-728-1991 | sarahs-circle.org Help furnish apartments for women overcoming poverty by buying items from Sarah’s Place House Warming registry at Bed Bath & Beyond. Sarah’s

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 PROVIDE HOPE TO A CHILD Allendale Association 847-356-2351 | allendale4kids.org Support programs and services at Allendale that will assist children who have developed emotional and behavioral disabilities as a result of abuse or neglect. Allendale’s programs help more than 1,200 troubled boys and girls, as well as their families, to develop a plan for life and a path to hope. Contributions can be mailed to P.O. Box 1088, Lake Villa, IL 60046.

Place aids women struggling with homelessness in finding housing and life necessities, while creating a safe and empowering place for them. To donate, go to the Wedding & Gift tab on the Bed, Bath & Beyond online store and enter “Sarahs” as the first name and “Circle” as the last name to find the registry.

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FIGHT AGAINST LOU GEHRIG’S DISEASE  Les Turner ALS Foundation 847-679-3311 | lesturnerals.org Walk in the 12th annual Les Turner ALS Walk4Life at Soldier Field to support ALS research and to honor those who have been affected by the disease. The Les Turner ALS Foundation has been one of the nation’s leading supporters of ALS treatment and research since 1977, and it’s raised close to $8 million for the cause. The event is September 22, and you can register to walk, donate to the cause, or volunteer to work at the event at alswalk4life.org.

WALK TO SUPPORT MENTAL ILLNESS AWARENESS National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) 312-563-0445 | namigc.org Participate September 21 in the 8th Annual NAMIWalks Chicago event, one of the largest and most successful mental health awareness and fundraising events in the U.S. The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) hopes to change how the public views people with mental illnesses such as depression,

schizophrenia and bipolar disorder, while also providing help and support to those who are affected by them. Register for free online through NAMI’s website .

HELP PRESERVE THE PAST The Lake Bluff History Museum 847-482-1571 | lakebluffhistory.org The Lake Bluff History Museum needs volunteers to help organize its collection, plan and host programs and fundraising events and more. The museum was founded in 1982 and serves as an archive of all history relevant to Lake Bluff, from its first settlers to the present day. Send an email to volunteer@lakebluffhistory.org to learn more about volunteer opportunities.

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Illness Etiquette from Letty Pogrebin

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What’s the first thing you say to someone when they tell you that they have been diagnosed with cancer or another serious illness?

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WHAT to say, or feel like you sometimes say the wrong thing, you are not alone. Until now, there haven’t been many rulebooks for social situations like these. “How to Be e bin Po g r Let t y a Friend to a Friend Who’s people are already made to feel Sick,” a new book written

by Jewish writer, feminist and activpowerless by their illness and ist Letty Cottin Pogrebin, provides a the medical system. Don’t make helpful guide to “illness etiquette.” things worse by infantilizing For starters, according to Pogrebin, them,” she says. there are just some comments that • Think twice before giving advice. should never be uttered: “Oh my God!” Even if you know ginkgo biloba “How are you?” “You look great!” and supplements would do your friend “It’s God’s plan,” are all common rea world of good, try to keep your sponses that she heard when she was opinion to yourself. Sick people first diagnosed with cancer in 2010. are already overwhelmed with in“These phrases can sound both fake formation, so just trying to underand cliche,” Pogrebin says. “It makes stand their own diagnosis can be the sick person wonder ‘Do you really a challenge. No matter how well want to know how I am? Didn’t I look intentioned you are, don’t compligood before?’ Saying something like, cate their lives any further with ‘I’m so sad for you’ or ‘I will be here your tips. They have doctors for for you the moment you need it, and advice; what they need from you I mean it,’ are more real and empathic is friendship. responses.”

From her personal experience, PoHer book isn’t trying to be the bible grebin decided to write a book that on all illness issues, but it does provide would not only tell her story, but also basic, practical “10 Commandments provide new insights to this often-tafor Conversing with a Sick Friend.” boo subject. “My goal is to change the Pogrebin says your conversations norms of illness etiquette so that from should be guided by three priorities: the moment your friend confides her • Avoid self-referential comments or his diagnosis, the two of you estabor anecdotes. “A friend suffering lish a policy of complete candor.” complications of pregnancy won’t She suggests being upfront by saybe helped by your childbirth story, ing something like, “I want to be usenor will someone with a cough ful and supportive to you throughout feel comforted to hear, ‘You think this ordeal, but I’m not always going that’s bad? I had double pneumo- to know the right thing to say or do. nia’,” she says.

I hope you’ll give me a heads up on • Never talk to a sick friend the way what’s helpful and what’s not.” you talk to a child. Banish lines “But by the same token, you have to like these from your speech: “Did be honest, too,” Pogrebin says. “Don’t we have our medicine today?” or say, ‘I’m here for you anytime,’ unless “Now, that’s a good boy!” “Sick you mean it.”

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Swin Cash truly does it all. She plays for Chicago Sky in the WNBA, is an Olympic Gold Medalist, a mother, author of “Humble Journey: More Precious Than Gold,” and she’s the founder of Cash For Kids, a nonprofit that uses sports and cultural activities to motivate, educate and elevate kids in communities where she grew up, played or lived. Proving that there is no one mold that women must fit into, Cash has helped forge a clear path for powerful women.

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