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Letter from the Editor Let me admit something to you guys, I’m not the biggest fan of winter. Although I was born in one of the coldest states (Minnesota) and grew up in the northeast, feet firmly on skis throughout my childhood, I sort of hate winter. Let me rephrase that, I REALLY hate winter. I hate the cold, I hate having to bundle up just to go from my house to my car, I hate shoveling snow. I’m a winter scrooge. Winter pregnancies have made me lose my zest (and, let’s face it, most of my skill) as a skier, and snowshoeing just doesn’t do it for me. It’s dark early, it’s still dark when we get up, and sometime around mid-January while scraping ice off my windshield I am just OVER IT completely. My kids, however, love the winter. Each weekend we’re at West Mountain watching them barrel down the mountain while I am slightly cringing and hoping no bones get broken, thinking fondly of my sweatpants and a fireplace, the ski lodge and a hot beverage calling my name. That is, however, until last year, when I discovered the joy of hygge. No, that wasn’t a typo. Hygge, say it with me…”HYOOgah” is a Dutch word that can be hard to pin down since it has no direct analogue in English, but it roughly translates to things like “coziness,” “togetherness” and “well-being”. And don’t forget, the Dutch are the happiest people on earth. Because of hygge? Perhaps. Danish winters are long and dark, sound familiar upstate New Yorkers? But instead of moping around and complaining (guilty), the Dutch make the best of it. So what IS hygge? Hygge is sitting under a cozy blanket and having a family movie night, hygge is lighting candles and snuggling with the kids, hygge is gathering round family and friends and sharing a meal. Think cozy, think together, and you’ve got hygge. So if you need another excuse to find the perfect holiday candle and some soft and cozy blankets, use hygge. In this issue you’ll find a few ways to get some more hygge into your life. I do hope you all have a lovely and bright holiday season, with plenty of togetherness. Let’s not ever lose sight of the real importance of the holidays, being together. If that toy is sold out or your toddler pulls your Christmas tree down or you 4 | MAMATOGA
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12 Adventure’s in Co-Parenting 16 Does my child need a tutor? 19 Done or Not Done With Kids 21 Birth Control After Baby 26 Lucy Moran
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58 Create Hygge at Home
36 Talking About Terrorism
60 In The Club
40 Shop Local Big Impact
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Amos Cutler, MD Amos Cutler, MD joined Myrtle Street Obstetrics & Gynecology, P.C. practice in 2003 after having served as chief of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Oneida Hospital, Oneida, NY. He is a graduate of the State University of New York at Stony Brook School of Medicine and completed his residency at Albany Medical Center Hospital. Dr. Cutler has advanced training in ultrasonography and bone densitometry. He has special advanced training in laser laparoscopic surgery and in minimally invasive da Vinci Robotic surgery.
Katie Nemer Katie Nemer is a toga mama to Jackson (13), Zoe (5), Preston (3), and Cocoa and Cookie (the family labradors). She and her husband, Josh, are huge fans of Saratoga and of Mamatoga magazine. Julie Cox is Jackson’s stepmom and Katie’s Co-author for their column, “Adventures in Co-Parenting”. Together they share their story about the many benefits, challenges, and humorous events that arise when sharing a child between two houses.
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Julie Cox You can often spot Julie around town doing one or more of the following things: chasing one of her three boys, Jackson (12), Declan (4), and Beckett (1), educating teenagers about Shakespeare/aliens/grammar, driving her sweet minivan between various sports and activities, and chugging coffee in the midst of all the organized chaos. But most likely you will find her wandering the aisles of the grocery store where she spends the bulk of her time stockpiling food for the aforementioned three boys who are, for the most part, very very hungry.
Amber Chaves Amber is a pediatric occupational therapist and retired world traveller who relishes in languages and exotic fruits. She’s “mama” to Macy, her 4 year old daughter who splendors in living room picnics and rock collecting, and owner of The Bundle Store in Clifton Park, where Amber dedicates her love for babywearing and all things modern simplistic for little beings. See more at thebundlestore.com .
Jake Van Ness Jake is a graphic designer and the owner of Graphic Precision, a design firm serving clients locally and nationally. With over 16 years experience in the design and printing industries, Jake provides his clients with cutting edge branding and marketing design in print, as well as online. Graphic Precision has received numerous national awards for it’s design work, including three for the design and layout of Mamatoga Magazine. Having grown up in Saratoga Springs, Jake enjoys working as the Creative Director for a magazine based in his home town. Learn more about Jake and his design firm Graphic Precision at www.graphicprecision.com .
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Adventures in Co-Parenting
“You know who you are, this one’s for you.” by Katie Nemer and Julie Cox
Most people can guess how much work goes into coparenting and sharing a child. It is especiall y true when there is no binding legal agreement to live by or mediator to help with the decision making, as has always been true in our case. So when people ask “How on Earth does that work?” (which they often do) we usually spare them the details and answer simply, “It just does.” Truth be told, there are a lot of mediators we don’t give enough credit to. Katie: There was a ladies night out event at a restaurant downtown a few weeks ago. I had a prior engagement, but was lucky to catch the tail end of the gathering. My amazing girlfriend, who knew I had been running in a hundred different directions for weeks, had ordered my drink and had it waiting upon my tardy arrival. I ran over, hugged her, and quickly snagged the empty seat by her side. The chilled sauvignon blanc coupled with my dear friend’s warm smile instantly helped me relax. After a few minutes of catching up with her, I looked around the table to see if I recognized anyone, as the gathering had been organized by a friend-of-a-friend. That’s when an acquaintance a few seats away caught my eye and said, “Katie, do you know Julie? She’s an English teacher at the
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high school,” pointing to the smirking blond across the table who happened to be, none other than my beloved coauthor, co-parent and friend, Julie Cox. “Hey,” she said with a little giggle. I waved at her and looked back at our mutual acquaintance, smiled and thought to myself, “Hmmm, let me see… how do I explain…” Our very good friends who know us well are used to this occurrence; however, nonetheless, it is equally as amusing every time. Some people get really weirded out. Others think it’s great. It is our close friends who know us individually, who help us relax and just be ourselves regardless of any life situation we are currently living through, who truly make us happy. Julie: I am super awkward. Like, all the time. I constantly make jokes at inopportune times. I never quite read the room correctly. All in all, I have my feet firmly planted in my mouth far more often than they are on the ground. Co-parenting has gifted me with many things: a greater sense of self, a stronger marriage, and more well-rounded children. That being said, co-parenting has also become
the stage on which I can prominently display my awkwardness. This show usually starts when I respond to a few seemingly harmless questions. Question 1: Number of kids. If I’ve just met someone and he or she inquires about how many children I have, I always take a few beats to weigh my options. Three, of course, is the obvious answer. I am raising three busy wonderful boys. But then again, I can’t just leave it at that. Nope, a simple three is just not awkward enough. For some reason I feel the need to qualify the fact that I have a stepson. I don’t know why I do this, but I just can’t seem to stop. So sorry, lady in the grocery store line who was just making polite conversation. It goes something like this: Three. Well, {fake laugh-coughnod} yes, three. Well, I have given birth to two children, and I have a stepson, too. He’s awesome. But I didn’t give birth to him. Obviously. My husband had him with another woman. But it’s cool, really, it’s cool. His mom and I are friends. I’m not just saying that, we really are. And then the random friendly person just smiles politely because they don’t know what else to do. Are you cringing yet? Question 2: Our relationship. It is perfectly natural to want to place everyone we meet and draw metaphorical lines between them based on how they know each other. Oh him? He and I work together. Her? She and I go way back to grad school. That couple? They used to live next door to us and our kids would stalk their cat. It gets a little stickier to explain to people that you know each other because you share a kid. This situation arises when Katie and I are at some
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kind of social gathering.. Notice how she casually waves and smiles… and how I giggle and smirk. If someone asks us how we know each other, I let my awkward flag fly. My answer to the completely benign inquiry, “How do you and Katie know each other?” is one I’ve tried to pull off a number of times. Sometimes I attempt to be funny and say with a wink, “She had a baby with my husband, of course.” Sometimes I say, “We share a kid,” and then wait a really long pause before launching into a long explanation going far too in depth about our co-parenting situation. And sometimes I just bark out a laugh, and look down at my watch (I don’t wear a watch). I am fortunate beyond measure to have a dedicated squad of friends who brave my awkwardness on the daily and run interference for me when needed, which is often. They’re the ones who will jump in before I can answer, or change the subject when I make things weird. They’re the ones who just get me, and for that I am forever grateful.
Conclusion: As our world gets hectic with kids, jobs, and unexpected life occurrences, our most highly treasured, cherished friends, become even more important to us. There is something about the comfort and support of a friend who knows you and loves you, no matter who you are or what you do, that can make any stressful or awkward situation dissolve instantaneously. As we bring this year to a close and embrace the holiday season, we Coparents would like to send thanks and praise to our friends. You love and accept us, and for that, we are so VERY grateful. Our gift to you this year-is friendship, always. XO Love,
Katie &Julie
Katie Nemer and Julie Cox have written their column “Adventures in Coparenting” for Mamatoga since 2011. You can read any of their previously published work online at www.adventuresincoparenting.com . They can also be found on facebook.
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Does my child need a tutor? 8 Signs to Watch Out For by Chris Leuzinger from Nourishing Minds Tutoring
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s a boy growing up in Canada, all I ever wanted to do was play hockey. I never gave things like jobs and careers much thought, I never figured out what I wanted to be when I “grew up”, and I certainly did not purposefully set out to become a teacher. I struggled in school, especially math, and never seemed to find my way. I rarely did my homework, and studying was like a foreign concept. That being said, there was one aspect of school I did love, and that was writing. I was even entered into a Young Writer’s Conference in Grade 5 with some influential Canadian authors, but unfortunately some rather poor experiences in high school English, with a rather unsupportive teacher, extinguished my desire to write. Needless to say, had you asked me at the end of high school if I would become a teacher, you probably would have been laughed at. Despite my own struggles with academics growing up, I have been an educator for the past eleven years or so, in four countries, and have loved every minute of it. Teaching just sort of happened to me. I was nearing the end of college and I had a friend contact me from Taiwan. He and his wife had been there for the previous year teaching English in a private school, and from their testimonials, were having a blast. “Come to Taiwan!” they echoed over and over again. “You will love it!” At the ripe old age of 25, I figured why not? What could it hurt? I had no real job prospects, besides grad school – and that was definitely not happening any time soon. So I guess I rationalized it to myself as a way to postpone joining the “real world” that my boss-at-the-time kept harping on about (and for the record…this was a middle-aged guy who wore shorts, wooly socks pulled up to his knees, and Tevas every day of the year). All I knew was that if that was the real world I wanted nothing to do with it. So my decision was made. Taiwan it was. Fast forward two months later and I had my plane ticket in hand, saying tearful goodbyes at the airport. “I’ll only be gone for a year,” I told anyone that asked. Yeah right. A year. That was more than a decade ago. Little did I know at that time, but I had just taken the first step towards finding my passion and career. After spending nearly four years teaching English in Taiwan, a year in New Zealand, and five and a half years teaching in an inner city London school in England, I arrived in Saratoga Springs as a teacher, with a wife and newborn son. Ironically, if there is something that teaching in four countries, with four different curriculums has taught me; it
is that they are all pretty much the same. Apart from subtle little differences, Math is Math, and English is English. Some children excel in school and some children struggle. There is no one perfect curriculum that caters to the specific educational needs of each and every child, and inevitably, there will come a time when all parents, will be faced with the same questions: How do I know if my child is doing well and how will I know if my child needs help? While no two children have the same needs, if you recognize any of the following behavioral cues in your child it may be time to reach out for help.
1. Homework Blues
Homework is an important part of a child’s education. It is meant to consolidate learning that occurs in the classroom, encourages independent learning, time management, and a host of other factors. However, if homework struggles have become a nightly ritual, and if tantrums, a poor attitude, procrastination, screaming and kicking all sound familiar, then this may be your child’s way of asking for help.
2. Avoiding School
This one is classic. “Moooom. I don’t feel well. I don’t want to go to school today. Cough. Cough.” Let’s be honest – we all tried this at one point or another, usually with a very low success rate. Generally speaking, it is usually very obvious when a child is too ill to attend school, and while it is perfectly normal for most children to want the odd day off, if this type of behavior starts to happen on a regular basis it could be a warning sign that they are struggling with school.
3. Lacks Motivation or Carelessness
Everyone can relate to this one. There are times in life when you really don’t want to complete a task, you don’t put forth very much effort, and simply do the minimum to get by. However, children typically have a natural tendency to want to please the adults in their life, whether parent or teacher. If your child is regularly unmotivated by school and shows no interest whatsoever, it may be time to find out why. There is always a reason. Perhaps they are not being challenged enough, or perhaps the work is too challenging. Either scenario can manifest in disinterest and a child who is unmotivated by school.
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4. Poor Grades/Test Results
We all get it. Tests are no fun. Ever. It doesn’t matter how old you are, or when you take them. And while I usually caution about reading too much into test scores, like it or not, they are an important part of every child’s education, and when used in the right ways, they can also be an accurate indication of how well your child is progressing at school. If their test scores are consistently low, or do not seem to be in line with their normal school achievement, then it could be time to find out why.
5. Suffers from Low Self-Esteem or Anxiety
Anxiety can be quite natural at times. However, the type of anxiety I am talking about here is extreme. Does your child seem stressed out, become physically ill, extremely fearful, or worry constantly about schoolwork? This type of behavior can be worrisome in children, and if left unchecked, can present as low self-esteem; severely limiting confidence and the ability to succeed academically.
6. Dishonesty
If engaged and interested in school, most children will want to talk about the exciting things they have been learning. There is nothing quite like a child who has learned something new and had a “light bulb moment”. They want to share their newfound knowledge with anyone who will listen. Consider the alternative for a moment. How often have you heard these lines? Parent: “What did you learn at school today?” Child: “Nothing.” Parent: “Do you have any homework tonight?” Child: “No.” Parent: “Do you have any studying to do?” Child: “No.” This will resonate to anyone who has teenagers in the house. However, if you are consistently hearing these responses from your child it should be a red flag, especially for children in upper grades.
7. Poor Time Management or Independence
A very important skill, that a lot of schools and curriculums are trying to instill, is for children to be independent learners and take ownership of their education. Try telling this to a ten year old who just wants to play video games or watch television. But, if it seems that homework takes way too long to complete, there is non-stop nagging to get it
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completed, or always finding out about assignments at the last minute, then your child could benefit from receiving some extra help.
8. Hopelessness
Have you or your child given up hope completely? Does it seem like you have tried every possible solution, but nothing seems to work? Unfortunately, this is a very common occurrence in a lot of households. Most parents are very supportive of their children. They try helping with homework, only to be met with tears, tantrums, and resistance. Parents try showing alternative methods for solving problems, only to be told, “My teacher won’t let us do it that way.” If it seems that all you are doing is pulling out your hair and nothing works, then it may be time to seek outside help to get your child (and your own sanity) back on track. Before I wrap this up, let me tell you one last short story. I remember trying to learn my times tables as a child. I vividly recall my mother making flashcards and setting the timer on the microwave. Ten minutes practice after dinner, every night. What I remember next is not the actual practice, and not even the fact that I eventually managed to learn my times tables. No, I remember the floods of tears that accompanied that practice each and every night. Why is this important you may ask? Well, as an adult who is getting closer and closer to his fourth decade, I can tell you that I still remember those struggles growing up. They are ingrained into my memory, and something I constantly assess as a teacher. My goal as a teacher has always been to make sure every student I come across has a better time in school than I did, and looks back at their time with fonder memories than I do. I am not naïve enough to think that children under my tutelage have never struggled with any of the issues above, in fact quite the contrary, I’m sure many of them have. The simple point I am trying to make, is that if you wonder about any of the behavioral cues or signs above, then ask for help. You are not alone. Your child’s teacher can provide a wealth of knowledge and insight into the fascinating little creature that is your son or daughter. Alternatively, hiring the services of a professional in-home tutor can pay for itself over and over again, by addressing all M these needs and more.
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ometimes you are on the fence with adding another child to your family, and sometimes you just know you are done. I asked some Mamatoga readers to share their feelings on this very personal decision, and here’s what they had to say.
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I have to admit, I just did not enjoy being pregnant, and rather than it being something I enjoyed, it was something I just endured. I was uncomfortable and sick almost the entire time, and I sometimes feel guilty admitting it but I just couldn’t wait for it to be over. When I was pregnant with my second child, I felt like my first really missed out on things during that period because I mostly could just lie on the couch and couldn’t really do things with her and be a fully involved parent. After this second pregnancy I knew I was ready to just donate those old maternity clothes and close the door on that for good. - Jill
We have two beautiful children and I am almost 99% sure I am done, but man oh man when a friend or a co-worker hands me their new baby to hold that baby fever gets me, bad. Even though I am not actively trying to have another baby, I also am not ready to say I am done completely yet. I think that by leaving the option open it is easier for me to deal with, and the baby fever usually goes away after a few days. - Karen
We have three kids, and while I sometimes fantasize about having just one more, that would mean a whole lot of changes, a bigger car to be able to fit everyone, maybe even a bigger house. Right now our schedule and our family rhythm is going pretty well too, and adding a newborn into that mix would sort of throw things out of whack, and I think I would feel guilty for disrupting that. - Maureen I am 37, almost 38. It took two years, 11 failed IUI cycles, 2 miscarriages, 2 fresh IVF cycles , and three frozen cycles... Numerous blood draws and ultrasounds for my wife to get pregnant. I am very happily the stepmom to a sassy smart 11 year old ...and one of the moms to my stubborn, silly, miracle 22 month old. Life is complicated and busy. It is not anything I dreamt of, and I that same time all my dreams have come true. - Carrie I am 100% done having kids - chose to have a tubal ligation during my c-section for delivery of my 4th child. I had preeclampsia twice, and 4 c-sections, and my last baby was born with complications. Doctors and I decided it was wise (medically speaking) to be done having children. Never an easy decision, but I do feel that my family is complete. - Jen
We have one child and my husband says he is done, but I know I’m not. When our daughter was a baby she had colic really bad, so it was a rough experience for us, and I had difficulty breastfeeding or finding a formula that didn’t cause reflux. We had so many sleepless months that once she finally started to sleep the idea of having another child was not on the table. As she gets older though I really would love to give her a sibling, but I want to respect what my husband’s feelings are as well. I would be lying if I said I didn’t hope he changes his mind sometime in the future. - Amy I had my first two kids in my late twenties, and now that I am getting to be in my late thirties I keep thinking that maybe I want just one more. Maybe it’s because I feel like the time to have one is running out, or maybe it’s just coming to terms with never having another baby in the house, I’m not sure, but I know the desire to have one more is there and is getting stronger. - Alicia We adopted our beautiful son three years ago, after many rounds of failed IVF, and everyone always tells you once you adopt you’ll get pregnant naturally. Well, that hasn’t been the case for us unfortunately (and I sort of wish people would stop saying that), but that doesn’t mean I am giving up my dream to have more children. Whether we adopt again or keep trying, I know our family is meant for at least one more child, and I am ready to welcome that child however it comes to us. - Maggie www.Mamatoga.com
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Birth Co
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ontrol After Baby by Amos Cutler, MD
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ne important decision that women need to make after they have a baby is regarding their contraceptive plan.
Every discussion about postpartum contraception begins with a few very basic questions. What plans did the woman have regarding contraception after delivery? What methods did she use in the past and what was her experience with those methods? Has the woman considered all the different options for contraception and what questions does she have about each method? Is the woman breast feeding? What is the woman’s plan for future pregnancy? What insurance coverage is available for contraception and is cost a factor in choosing a method? Are there other concerns which might influence her choice of contraception such as regulation of menstrual cycles, STD prevention, ease of use, and failure rate? It has been my experience that many women are so overwhelmed with caring for their new baby that contraception decisions are not considered a high priority and often take a back seat to tending to the infant’s needs. Education on the various methods is vitally important and ideally should begin during the pregnancy. No birth control works 100% perfectly all the time, but some prevent pregnancy better than others. Most birth control methods are quite effective if used properly. However, contraceptives can fail for a number of reasons, including incorrect use and failure of the medication, device or method itself. Certain birth control methods, such as intrauterine devices (IUDs) and injectable or implanted methods, have a low risk of failure (pregnancy). This is because they are the easiest to use properly. The risk of venous thromboembolism (VTE), the development of blood clots in the legs as well as pulmonary
embolism, when those same blood clots travel to the lung, is elevated in all postpartum women. The progestin-only contraceptives, including progestin only pills, injections and implants, do not increase the risk of VTE postpartum. The risk of VTE goes down with time after delivery. Issues related to Breastfeeding: Breastfeeding can decrease a woman’s ability to get pregnant. Some women use it as a form of birth control for the first few weeks after the baby is born. For this method to be effective, breast milk should be the baby’s only food. It works best in the first 6 months of breastfeeding, prior to the return of menses. Women can ovulate before they get their first menses, and therefore breastfeeding, as a form of contraception, carries a significant failure rate. In women who are not breastfeeding, studies show that the mean day of first ovulation ranged from 45 to 94 days postpartum (earliest ovulation reported 25 days after delivery). As many as 60 percent of these ovulations were potentially fertile. Since the first ovulation often occurs before the first menses, women should initiate contraception before the return of menses.
Intrauterine Devices (IUDs) Intrauterine devices, (IUD) are placed into the uterus. The progestin (levonorgestrel)- releasing IUD thickens the cervical mucus and thins the endometrium. This IUD decreases the amount of bleeding during menses and decreases pain associated with periods. Some women stop having their menses entirely; this effect is reversible when the IUD is removed. This IUD can be left in place for up to five years, and is therefore, one of the most cost effective and simplest methods. The intrauterine device, however, may not be the method of choice for the postpartum woman who desires another pregnancy in the near future. www.Mamatoga.com
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The copper containing IUD remains effective for at least 10 years, but can removed any time. The copper IUD does not contain any hormones. Some women have a heavier menstrual periods or more cramps during their period while using a copper IUD.
Depo-Provera The injectable method available is Depo-Provera. It is given by injection every 3 months. It has a failure rate of less than one percent. The most common side effects of DepoProvera is irregular or prolonged bleeding, particularly in the first three to six months. Up to 50 percent of women completely stop having menstrual periods after using DepoProvera for one year. Menstrual periods generally return within six months after the last dose of Depo-Provera. Weight gain can be an issue in some women.
Progestin Only vs. Estrogen-Progestin Oral Contraceptives Some studies suggest that progestin-only contraception is the preferred method for breastfeeding women because these drugs do not appear to affect milk volume or composition. Other studies suggest that combination estrogen-progestin contraceptives do not affect breast milk and can be initiated in women who are lactating. Progestin-only pills are as effective as combination pills if they are taken at the same time every day. However, the progestin-only pill becomes less effective if taken more than 3 hours late.
Barrier Methods
Nexplanon Nexplanon, a single rod progestin birth control implant, is inserted into the arm. It prevents pregnancy for up to 3 years. Irregular bleeding is the most bothersome side effect. Most women can become pregnant quickly after the rod is removed.
Nuvaring The flexible plastic vaginal ring (Nuvaring) contains estrogen and a progestin. Each ring is placed inside the vagina for three weeks. The ring is removed during the fourth week resulting in a menstrual period.
Ortho Evra Ortho Evra is the only birth control skin patch available in the United States. It contains the same medication as a combination birth control pill, but is used less frequently
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because there may be a slightly higher risk of developing VTE. Each patch is worn for a week on the upper arm, shoulder, upper back or hip. Women use a patch for 3 consecutive weeks. In the fourth week, they do not wear a patch and get their menstrual period.
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Overall, birth control methods that are designed for use at or near the time of sex (e.g., condoms and diaphragm) are generally less effective than other birth control methods. Diaphragms come in different sizes and need to be fitted. Fitting cannot be performed properly until pregnancyrelated changes have regressed, which takes about six weeks after delivery. Where STD prevention is of concern, it should be noted that only male and female condoms can reduce your chances of getting certain infections.
Sterilization Sterilization can be performed after a vaginal or cesarean delivery or as an interval procedure unrelated to pregnancy. Studies show that sterilization was highly effective, with a 10-year failure rate of less than 1 percent. If a pregnancy occurs after a sterilization procedure, there is risk of having an ectopic pregnancy. Male sterilization should also discussed with women.
Morning After If a woman forgets to use birth control or if the method that they use fails, there is an option to reduce the risk of becoming pregnant for up to 5 days after they have sex. This is called the morning after pill, or emergency contraception. Morning after pills may be hormonal (e.g. PlanB One-Step which is available without a prescription) or non-hormonal (e.g. Ella which is by prescription). An IUD can also be inserted for use as emergency contraction, and is more effective at preventing pregnancy than pills.
Natural Birth Control There are a few forms of “natural” birth control, which require no medicines or devices. But they are not as effective as the other forms of birth control. Natural birth control methods include withdrawal and fertility awareness.
Each woman’s plans for future pregnancy should be identified. Some birth control methods are permanent. The return to fertility with other methods varies based on the contraception method. Ultimately, education is the key, with the choice of contraceptive tailored to each woman’s individual situation and goals in consultation with her physician. Choosing the appropriate postpartum contraception puts the woman in charge of her future fertility.
Amos Cutler, M.D. is in practice at Myrtle Street Obstetrics & Gynecology, PC in Saratoga Springs and is affiliated with Saratoga Hospital. For an M appointment phone 518.587.2400.
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slopes gear Once the snow starts flying we are on the slopes as a family, which can be a little bit of a challenge with all the different ability levels. The other challenge? We’ve all been there when the toddler needs to go potty and they are wearing approximately six layers and you’re stuck in a public bathroom trying to keep all their clothes off the floor. These parenting hurdles aside, finding the right gear makes a huge difference. We have tried out what seems like nearly every brand, and here are our absolute favorites which we keep buying each year (or passing down) as they outgrow them.
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LUCY MORAN Beautiful and stylish expectant mama, owner of two downtown boutiques in Saratoga Springs: Lucia Boutique & Lex and Cleo
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escribe your every day style, what are your go to items? Fall is my favorite season for fashion and I always get so excited when the chilly weather starts so I can break out the Fall clothes. Since being pregnant, my go to items have been my black maternity jeans or LAmade cotton leggings, a soft plaid shirt and a leather jacket, and some layered necklaces. Comfy, easy and I still feel put together. What is your go to outfit for a night out? I love getting dressed up for a date night with my husband, Rory. My go to outfit for a date night would be tights, a short and flowy dress and a leather jacket. What are some of your favorite brands for yourself (clothing wise), what are some of your favorite brands/ shops for baby stuff? The majority of my wardrobe is, of course, from Lucia! I love how I can get my everyday basics and casual yet chic clothes, and date night or cocktail dresses all in one store. My mom and I opened Lex & Cleo last Fall, and since I found out we’re having a girl I’ve been doing lots of shopping at Lex & Cleo! I’ve stocked up on the Kickee Pants onesies and hats in pretty much every size and color. I’m so excited to use the Little Giraffe blankets
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with our little girl, they’re so soft! The Bloch Baby ballerina flats and Old Soles moccasins are too cute and I can’t wait to dress our little girl in these. I also had a lot of Restoration Hardware Baby on my shower registry, I love their nursery decor and some of their cozy winter hats and booties. What are your top beauty products for you? Favorite kids bath/health and wellness products? I’m definitely Sephora obsessed when it comes to beauty products. I always try to use natural or organic when possible and my everyday products are the Josie Maran bronzer, Boscia tinted moisturizer and Bite lipstick. I also buy a lot of our products from Healthy Living, they have such a great selection of natural moisturizers, shampoos, etc. For our baby, I’ve been stocking up on the Honest Company and Mustela products. I’ve been going for anything that is organic and contains the least amount of ingredients. What are some of your favorite local spots (ie restaurant for a date night, shops you get kids stuff in, shops you like for yourself )? Our favorite date night spots in Saratoga are Max London’s and 15 Church, always a good meal and ambiance!
the details Last book you read? The Accidental Empress by Allison Pataki
Favorite children’s book? Any of the Babar books
Dream getaway? St Lucia or Negril, Jamaica (most amazing sunsets!)
Guilty pleasure? Bravo TV and Comfort Kitchen tater tots (of course!)
Go-to dinner? Butternut squash lasagna and homemade pizza
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What are some of your favorite Saratoga local events? Having a business in town, I always wind up working at Lucia when there is an event in Saratoga, but I would say Harvest Fest is my favorite because it’s so cute to see all the kids dressed up in their costumes and so excited to be trick or treating.
If you were stranded on a desert island and could only bring one beauty item, what would it be? Badger lip balm, I can’t live without it!
Has your style changed at all since becoming pregnant? I’ve definitely been going to all my comfy pieces in my wardrobe since becoming pregnant. In the summer I lived in maxi dresses and now I’m constantly in leggings and flat ankle boots. I do love showing off my bump though! M
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Kickee Pants Onesie
LUCY’S FAVORITES Mustela Bebe Range 2 in 1 Hair & Body Wash
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RH baby & child Jewelry
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Wilton Food Pantry
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The Wilton Food Pantry is located at the Trinity United Methodist Church at 155 Ballard Road in Wilton and it provides local families in need with goods and services. Specifically, they supply qualifying individuals and families with a 3-day emergency supply of food (and toiletries when available.)
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Donation Drop Off Wednesday’s 4:00pm-5:30pm Saturday’s 9:00am-10:00am
Toys for Toga
Donate new and unwrapped toys to children in need in our area and the donated toys will be distributed to these local charities including the Franklin Community Center, Captain Youth and Family Services and Mechanicville Area Community Center.
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Franklin Community Center
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The Franklin Community Center’s Holiday Assistance Program is focused on collecting donations and holiday gifts to provide to families in-need during the holiday season. Ways to help local families include hosting a toy drive, hosting a food drive, or adopting a family for the holiday season.
Empty Stocking Project
The largest and most widely recognized project of the Saratoga County Children’s Committee. Each year they are able to provide more than 800 children living in Saratoga County with a wonderful holiday.
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Canadian Pacific Holiday Train
The Canadian Pacific Holiday Train will be in Saratoga Springs on Sat, Nov 28th at the Saratoga Springs Amtrak Station at 7:20 pm. The holiday train will visit over 150 communities across the U.S. and Canada, including stops in Fort Edward, Ticonderoga, Saratoga Springs, and other stations in the region. At each event, the Holiday Train provides a box car stage, a line up of great musical talents and a corporate contribution to the local food bank. The community, in turn, is encouraged to donate food and funds, all of which stays in the community. Items such as infant formula, canned meats, and spaghetti sauce are in popular demand.
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something has to give by Jenny Witte
You know that feeling you get sometimes when you wake up in the morning and you’re like “Yeah! I can do it all, let’s go!”. It’s a good feeling, it is. I like that feeling. But lately, I have been noticing that feeling needs to be paired with another one, which is wondering if it “all” is worth my time, or worth what I am giving up in order to do it. I feel like as moms these days, we are told that we can have whatever we want. A career, a family, a relationship, and we should be able to make all of these things happen successfully all at once. I am sure there are some of you out there that feel they can do this, but I’m not one of them, when I start adding things on to my list, I get to a tipping point, and something has to give. It’s usually hanging out with friends. That’s the first to go, unfortunately. Then probably working out, then it becomes a dicey dance between family/school/kid stuff and working. Which is more important, what do I NEED to do versus what can “wait”? The thing is, it can’t wait. All of those stories that will tell you to ignore the people who say it goes by too fast as a parent? Don’t ignore them. Because it’s true. When my oldest asked me to be the class mom for the first time he was in kindergarten. And I said I couldn’t do it. I was pregnant with Jack, I had a couple different jobs going (this one included) and I was overwhelmed. Fast forward to this year, and he’s going into FOURTH GRADE. He is growing up right before my eyes. He does his hair in the morning. He is picky about his clothes. He is almost a tweenager (okay he already acts like one technically). But yesterday he was in kindergarten. Should I feel bad about saying no? Absolutely not. We all have things we can do and things we can’t and I am beyond grateful for the community of parents and moms I live in that are willing to volunteer their time usually not just for the benefit of their own child, but for a bunch of children. Will it be a travesty if I never become his class parent before he leaves grade school? No. But to be honest with you, it was something I always pictured doing as a parent, and it was something that was important to me. It wasn’t something I thought would fall off my list of priorities, until it did. And trust me, I get it that work needs to get done in order to 32 | MAMATOGA
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make the family world go ’round. Being able to work from home while my kids are little is such a blessing, one that I know not everyone has. So, I have scaled back. After three years of covering the “social scene” for the local newspaper, I have decided to call it quits. I love the fundraising community here in Saratoga and am always blown away by the support everyone gives, especially our generous local businesses, but this mom needs a break to stay home and have movie nights with her kids and husband. I have lacrosse games to attend and ballet rehearsals to cart little ballerinas to, and I want to be the one doing the carting and the cheering on from the sidelines, because it’s all going by me too fast. Last year was a rocky year for all of us, and I came out of it with a crystal clear understanding of what time should be spent on and what time shouldn’t be spent on. Because the trouble is, we think we have time (a quote I thought was Buddha but turns out isn’t Buddha but is still pretty great nonetheless). I guess what I am saying is don’t try to have it all, because it’s impossible, and that’s a good thing, because it makes you figure out that what is important is not having it all, but knowing what you don’t want to live without. I can’t live without having dinner at the table together and giving my chubby baby a bath at night, tucking my four kids in bed and reading 1-2-3 Peas fifteen times. I don’t want to live without Bravo nights at my mom’s house with a glass of sauv blanc and hanging out with good friends who make you laugh and support each other. I may even try to work out again, who knows (but I’m not running any marathons, I will leave that to this lady). We each have our own non-negotiables in life, and they are all valid, and whether your non-negotiable is work or play or exercise or family time, whatever it is, work toward making that a priority, and the unimportant things will fall by the wayside, where they belong. Leave them there for another time when things shift, and different times open up. When the kids are older, when they are in school, things change and develop, but what is important will come to the surface if you let it. It sort of feels like I’ve jumped off a crazy train and it seems weird to stop running all of a sudden and like I am forgetting to do something, but it also feels really amazing and liberating. I am lucky enough to have this website which allows me to explore all things family related, and doesn’t take away from family time but actually helps me do even more things as a family. And while I will still show my unending support for the fundraisers and great things happening in our community here on Mamatoga, I will be doing it while snuggled up on the couch watching Finding Nemo with my kids and eating popcorn, because they are only little once. The only parties I plan on attending in the near future are birthday parties for my three year old with homemade cake and slumber parties for my second grader, and there ain’t nothing wrong with that. Now if any of you need me I’ll be M over here on the floor building a choo choo track. www.Mamatoga.com
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by Jenny Witte
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ith my three year old, it’s simple, I don’t have to explain what happened recently in Paris to him. We don’t have cable so we don’t watch news programs that he might catch glimpses of, he can’t read the newspaper headlines in the store, he has no idea what is going on, and I am happy to keep it that way for him for now. Add to the fact that at three he wouldn’t be able to comprehend most if not all of what I would be explaining to him in the first place.
talked about it at school but perhaps they didn’t feel comfortable asking questions then. Give them the space to ask questions, but keep details that may increase their fears out of the conversation. Don’t overload them with information that may be difficult to understand. With kids of any age, again, let their questions and age range guide what is appropriate to tell them. Listening carefully to their concerns can be a cue to you as a parent as to what they need to hear to feel better about the situation.
For my older kids, it gets a little bit trickier. The classroom and the school bus (oh the conversations they have on the BUS!) are rife with little snippets that can easily be misunderstood or misinterpreted. Maybe there’s a fifth grader who knows all the details because he saw some footage on a news program and is embellishing it for his audience. Maybe a teacher is bringing it up as a teachable moment opportunity.
Validate their feelings. If they tell you they are scared, acknowledge that feeling. It can be a knee-jerk reaction to tell kids “You don’t need to be scared” and to combine that with an explanation that you will keep them safe, or to explain that what happened was “far away”. But kids can know that you can keep them safe while also having you validate their normal feelings of being frightened. Telling them they don’t have to be scared can be dismissive, and
And let’s add in a new wrinkle to the mix that most of us didn’t contend with as children, school drills. No, not fire drills. The new “shelter in place” type drills, the ones that we all don’t like to think about. Our kids are (rightfully so) being taught how to respond to scary situations while in a place they should deem as safe. It would be surprising to not think that some of these kids will associate some of these world events with these drills as well. With all that being said, it might be best to broach the subject first to get an idea of what their grasp of the news is. That way you can see if they have any misinformation, any questions, anything they might want to talk about in a safe and comforting way. Most of this advice is for older school aged children, around age 8 and up. Limit their exposure to media on the event. This one is a big one, because you might just turn the news on and not think of it, leave the room to go make dinner and unwittingly leave the kids there to watch a segment about a very scary situation that they don’t know how to process. Be mindful of what they are taking in, and whether the information is suitable for them. If you have older school aged children, try opening up a dialogue by saying, “Did you talk about what happened in Paris in school today?” and let their responses dictate what direction the conversation goes. Sometimes it is better, for older children, to broach a scary subject in a safe place where they feel comfortable. They may have www.Mamatoga.com
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might make them less likely to share those feelings in the future. Keep in mind, that even though you might not be able to totally assuage their fears and anxieties, simply giving them the space to talk about them and get them out in the open is a big help. In that same vein, don’t try to side step or redirect some of their questions. They might ask some tough ones, ones that focus on the more difficult to answer subjects. Focusing on just the “positive” (i.e. people who are helping, ways we are safe) is unrealistic and doesn’t do the whole service at dissuading their fears. Answer the question the best you can according to their age range, and avoid going into details that may be upsetting, but by avoiding it altogether you may leave their imagination to take them to a scarier place than just having the question answered somewhat directly by someone they trust.
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Focus on the ways that you as a family and ways that their school and community help to keep them safe. Sometimes what kids really want is that simple reassurance from you that they will be safe, and again, don’t over-explain the situation, and know that you might not be able to put all their fears completely at ease. Focusing on the people in our community who work to keep us safe it can help kids also change their focus from who might hurt us to who can help us. Be sure to keep your own feelings out of the mix in these conversations, and focus on what the kids need to feel okay. I know that me personally, I used to want to glean every single detail of information about events like this in order to feel like I understood, thinking that by keeping up with the news it would help me keep control of my feelings on the situation, but that probably isn’t the way my kids will process this. Everyone processes fears and anxieties in different ways, and even from child to child, they might need different types of reassurances from you to feel safe. Even typing these things I ask myself, how am I supposed to convey to my children that we are all safe when I’m not even sure we are? The answer really is simple, you are their parent, so you do it. You tell them you will keep them safe, and you will always do your M best to do that, end of story.
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Black Friday is nearly upon us, and that will usher in the season of gift giving. But before you plan on camping out in front of Best Buy, let me tell you why YOU should shop small local businesses first. Beyond them offering some incredible deals (find them here at Black Friday Saratoga ), there are many very important reasons why you should look to our small, locally owned businesses for your shopping this holiday season. Part of what makes Saratoga great are our small businesses. Who doesn’t love strolling downtown in and out of all the different shops, stopping into the restaurants, and enjoying their different offerings. I love our community’s local character. In an increasingly homogenized world, our unique businesses give our city a distinct flair that you can’t find anywhere else. Now think about all that these small businesses DO for our community. They give back. Like a LOT. Look at the sponsors of any non-profit 5K or event and you’ll see numerous small businesses who have given money to support these organizations. I myself have been into many of these businesses asking for donations for silent auctions or non-profit events and am always blown away by how much these small businesses give again and again. They also help support each other by working together, and they pitch in and help make our community events the best around.
restaurants return more than two times as much money per dollar of sales than national restaurant chains. If just half the U.S. employed population spent $50 each month in locally owned independent businesses, it would generate more than $42.6 billion in revenue. Also, small businesses mean a lot to me because I myself am a small business owner. When I first started this website back in 2011 it was the first of it’s kind in our area, and the support I got from our local businesses was what helped me grow, and continue. And when I went out on my own with the magazine, I was overwhelmed by the support I got from our local businesses that helped me produce it independently. This little business I run is more than just a hobby, it helps me support my family, and these local businesses help me do that. I like to shop at small locally owned businesses because I want to help them do the same. And I think that when you look at it that way, it really is a no brainer. Small, independently run businesses have helped make our country a great one, and they have also helped make our city a great place to live and raise families. If you love Saratoga as much as I do, put your money where M your mouth is this holiday season, and shop local.
Small businesses face more challenges than ever right now. With the click of a button you can order pretty much anything online and have it shipped swiftly to your door. You don’t even need to leave the house. But the thing about our local businesses is, they offer fantastic, quality products along with some personal service. You can find a lot of stuff you won’t find anywhere else. And the important thing is, if you don’t support our local businesses, they won’t be there for you to enjoy. The way to keep our downtown thriving is to shop and visit the restaurants, to put those dollars into our local businesses, and then some of those dollars will go right back into helping make our community a better place. You won’t get that from shopping at a Big Box store. Plus, small businesses provide jobs for local people. Small businesses accounted for 65% of all net new jobs over the past 17 years and they employ 77 million Americans. Residential neighborhoods served by a successful independent business district gained, on average, 50% more in home values than their citywide markets. Independent retailers return more than three times as much money per dollar of sales than chain competitors. Independent www.Mamatoga.com
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mamatoga gift guide
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Bonnet
hat and booties Egg by Susan Lazar
BABY
Red Mini Doll Pram
Moccasins
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Photo Book
Plaid Bloomers
Wooden Blocks
e. olsen designs monogrammed baby bottles
Pajamas
Rabbit Night Light
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Wooden Puzzle
Girls Holiday Nightgown
Saddle Shoes
Parrish Pom Pom Hat
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Plan Toys Golf Set Santa Hat
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SCHOOLKID
Pop Bottle Science
Telescope
Darth Vader Duvet Cover and Pillowcase
Sneaker Customization Kit Society of the Seasonal Secret Keepers
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Mini Hockey Set
Zombelina Dances the Nutcracker
V Tech Kidizoom SmartWatch
Correspondence Kit Sky Lanterns
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Tory Burch Flats
Cath Kidston Stanley Merry Christmas Mug
Personalized Baby Announcements
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Maternity Parka H&M TC Paris Macarons
Minnie and Emma iPhone Case Healthy Mama Energy Drink Personalized Family Mugs
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PRESCHOOL GUIDE
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THE BEAGLE SCHOOL The Beagle School offers several half day programs for 2-5 year olds: The Little Explorers two-year old program is a warm, loving environment that gives students their first introduction to school routines, peer socialization, and being away from home. It is a play-based curriculum that includes free-play, circle time, story time, music and movement, teacher-led art activities, and outdoor play with an introduction to concepts such as letters, counting, shapes, colors and patterning. The class has a maximum of 10 students with one lead and one assistant teacher. Classes meet two mornings per week (Mon/Wed or Tues/Thurs) from 9:30 – 11:30am in their Circular Street location. Children must turn 2 by September of the school year. The three-year-old Voyager programs begin to introduce students to pre-kindergarten skills within the framework of a fun, theme-based program. Each class follows a daily schedule, which includes free play, circle time, calendar activities, music and movement, learning centers, story time, and outdoor play. In addition, children work on name recognition and writing, fine motor skills, and pre-math skills throughout their day. Classes meet on Tuesdays and Thursdays, either in the morning (9:00 am – 12:00 pm) or the afternoon (12:40-3:40) and are held in their Regent Street location. Children must turn three-years-old on or before December 1st.
“The Beagle School’s welcoming atmosphere and inventive spirit brings out the best in children. With a wonderful staff, great programs, unique amenities (including a really cool ship in the playground) it is the perfect introduction to school for future explorers. Our daughter thrived at the Beagle School and we can’t wait for her younger brother to experience all it has to offer!” - Lee Park
The four and five year old year old Discoverers program builds on their three-year old curriculum, expanding ideas and concepts, encouraging more independence, and giving students the tools for success in pre-kindergarten skills such as name writing, pre-math skills, early literacy, critical and scientific thinking, and fine motor skills. Each class follows a daily schedule, which includes free play, circle time, calendar activities, music and movement, learning centers, story time, and outdoor play. Classes meet on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday from 9:00 am – 12:00 pm and are held in their Regent Street location. Children must turn three-years-old on or before December 1st.
Beyond Beagle: A Cultural Arts Enrichment Program for four and five year olds includes all aspects of our Discoverers program with additional themes and enrichment activities. This program adds an innovative dimension to the highly respected Creative Curriculum utilized through all classes at The Beagle School. Classes meet on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday, from 12:40-3:40 and are held in their Regent Street location. Children must turn four-years-old on or before December 1st. REGISTRATION: Registration dates: Current Beagle families will be registering December 21st-January 8th. Beagle School alumni families (siblings of former students or children of former Beagle students) may also hand in their registration forms during this time to qualify for priority registration.
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Registration for the general public for all programs opens 10:30 AM on January 11th at their Open House at 115 Regent Street. Registration is first come first serve from this point on. Applications and details can be found on their website www.beagleschool.com. Applications that are mailed in will be opened at the end of the business day on January 11th. OPEN HOUSES: Monday, January 11th, 10:30-12:30: 4 & 5 Year old programs (Discoverers and Beyond Beagle) at 115 Regent Street, Saratoga Springs, NY Tuesday, January 12th, 10:00-11:30: 2 year old programs (Little Explorers) at 107 Circular Street, Saratoga Springs, NY Please feel free to contact director, Fran at 518-587-7507 with any questions.
MALTA MONTESSORI At Malta Montessori, parents can expect to find a school atmosphere that truly celebrates many world cultures and welcomes their expression. The parents who choose to send their children to the Malta Montessori School are looking for a rich learning experience where their children can learn at their own place. Malta Montessori is a community of students, teachers, parents and families whose primary aim is to rejoice in the short span of time that is childhood and infuse it with the richness brought by “My 5 year old son currently attends the Malta curiosity, intelligence, wonder and dignity. The school is located conveniently right off of Interstate 87 at exit 12 making it easily accessible for parents from the Clifton Park, Ballston Spa, Burnt-Hills, Ballston Lake, Stillwater, Malta and Saratoga areas. A.M. Half Day Children’s House P.M. Half Day Children’s House Full Day Children’s House Before School Care After School Care
8:30 - 12:00 11:45 - 3:00 8:30 - 3:00 Beginning at 7:30 End of Class to 5:30
Malta Montessori welcomes you to contact them for more information, an application or to set up an interview. Kerry Brader Head of School Phone: 518.633.1971
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Montessori school. This is his 3rd year at this school. The teachers are phenomenal in listening to the parents and partnering with the parents to ensure my child is developing academically and socially. I have seen a tremendous growth and maturity in my son as a result of the great work done by his teachers. One of the most incredible things about this school is how seriously each teacher takes their work and the development of each child. I am also very impressed in how they have been successful at understanding my son’s personality and tailoring his learning to him. I truly feel like a partner with his teacher. I will recommend this school to any parent looking for a school that would challenge, nurture, and nourish your child.” - Jessica Dana 2010 - Present
WALDORF SCHOOL Parent-Child Classes (18 months to 3 years) (8-week sessions during Fall, Winter, Spring) Program for 2 turning 3 year olds Program for 3 turning 4 year olds Forest and Rose Kindergarten Programs for 4, 5, 6 year olds Grades 1-12 Aftercare is available for children 3 years and older.
Our children LOVE school and are disappointed when we have weekends or holidays. They have become confident, articulate, compassionate, and aware children. They love the natural world around them and are discovering their unique talents and strengths as human beings. They are absorbing the magic and wonder created by the teachers and programs offered to them. They know how to knit, cook, paint, tell stories, sing, play instruments, perform, think independently, read, write, and do math. They adore learning and are enamored with life. - Krista Reville
Open enrollment with no application fee. Please contact the Admissions Office at 518-587-2224 to arrange a tour and/or visiting days. Open Houses are held every January, March, April, and August. Enrollment in our Early Childhood Programs is limited; interested families should apply now.
SMALL WONDERS Since September 1989, the Saratoga Springs United Methodist Church’s Education ministry has included a weekday preschool called Small Wonders. Over the years the preschool has grown and now offers programs for two-year-olds, three-year-olds, and prekindergarten children. These programs are in ministry to the children of the community and their families. Small Wonders Preschool provides the environment, the activities, and the relationships that enable each child to develop a strong sense of self-worth and develop their own unique gifts as a child of God. PROGRAM DETAILS: Two-year-old class meets Mondays and Wednesdays from 9:30-11:30am. Children should be 2 before October 1. This class has 2 teachers and a maximum of 10 students. Three-year-old class meets Tuesdays and Thursdays from 9:30-noon. Children should be 3 before December 1. This class has 2 teachers and a maximum of 12 students.
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Prekindergarten class meets Monday through Thursday from 9:30-noon. Tuition includes a weekly GoKids class. Extended day programming is offered to ease the transition to a full day of kindergarten. Children should be 4 before December 1. This class has 2 teachers and a maximum of 16 students. Open enrollment begins mid-January. After you have visited and chosen Small Wonders for your child, you will need to fill out an enrollment form and pay the registration deposit. Sibling discounts and scholarships are available. If you have any questions or would like to schedule a tour of Small Wonders, please contact Katie Igler at 584-3720 x114 or director@smallwondersps.org.
Our children have been involved with Small Wonders Preschool for three years now and we couldn’t be happier with our experience. They both love going to school every day.When they get home they are always excited to tell us about the fun they had and what new things they learned. Small Wonders also offers great extracurricular activities, like weekly classes with GoKids, and field trips in the fall and spring. Thanks to this great program, and the wonderful, caring teachers, we feel our children will be more than ready to start kindergarten when the time comes. We would recommend Small Wonders to any parent. - Josh and Ashley Gaul, parents of Riley (5) and Brady (3)
PRESCHOOL LISTING Katrina Trask Nursery School 24 Circular St, Saratoga Springs (518) 584-8968 www.ktnurseryschool.org
Church Mouse Nursery School 202 Milton Ave, Ballston Spa (518) 885-8362 bspabaptist.org
Apple Blossom Bunch Day Care 4 Peck Ave, Saratoga Springs (518) 573-1815 www.appleblossombunch.com
St. Clement’s School 231 Lake Avenue, Saratoga Springs 518-584-7350 www.stclementsschool.org/programs/pre-k/
North Country Academy-Saratoga 7 Care Ln, Saratoga Springs (518) 584-9982 www.northcountryacademy.com
Saratoga Regional YMCA Preschool Saratoga Springs, Wilton & Wesley Community Locations 518-583-9622 srymca.org/locations/saratoga-springs-branch/preschool
Small Wonders Christian Preschool 175 5th Ave, Saratoga Springs (518) 584-3720 www.smallwondersps.org
Saratoga Independent School 459 Lake Ave, Saratoga Springs (518) 583-0841 www.siskids.org
St Paul’s Lutheran Church 149 Lake Ave, Saratoga Springs (518) 584-0904 spelcss.com
Early Childhood Center - Skidmore College 815 North Broadway Saratoga Springs (518) 580-5473 www.skidmore.edu/ecc
Storybook Academy Nursery School 421 Geyser Rd, Saratoga Springs (518) 587-0707 storybookacademy.net 56 | MAMATOGA
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SmartEarly Learning Center 39 Old Route 146, Clifton Park (518) 290-7607 smartearly.com
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One surefire answer to the winter blues? Hygge, which is, roughly translated, the Danish idea of cozy togetherness. The Dutch are known as the happiest people in the world, even with up to 17 hours of darkness per day in the depths of winter. Why? Well a big reason is hygge, and here’s how you can bring that feeling into your family life this winter. Turn off the technology. Make it a point to switch off the outside world, switch off work, and put the iPads away for a while. This will make it easier to focus on just being together, talking, really spending time together. CANDLES. Yes and yes. Include everyone. Pick a game or a family movie that everyone can enjoy and don’t exlude the littler ones. Sometimes this means bending the rules but honestly haven’t we all bent the rules in Candyland at some point? Bake something. Even if you’ve got nothing on Martha Stewart and haven’t used the cookie sheet in who knows how long (or aren’t sure if you even own one), put a little something in the oven to have a warm treat to enjoy. Pre-cut holiday shaped cookies with the design already on them count as hygge food. Cozy up your spot. Think fleece blankets and throw pillows, and if you have a fireplace, get that thing fired up. The ideal hygge situation will involve you with your hands around something hot and delicious, the kids camped out around you, candles flickering, and you not having a care in the world. Pet the dog, watch the snow fall, and just be, hygge style.
HYGGE DRINK RECIPES mamatoga’s mulled wine
hygge style apple cider sangria
INGREDIENTS: 4 cups apple cider 1 (750-ml) bottle red wine 1/4 cup honey 2 cinnamon sticks (it MUST be sticks not ground cinnamon) 1 orange, zested and juiced (if you aren’t into citrus too much you can leave this out, it tastes great without the orange as well) 4 whole cloves 4 oranges, peeled, for garnish
2 bottles (standard size) white, sweet wine (Riesling or Moscato) or a drier white like Pinot Grigio 5 cups apple cider 2 cups ginger ale 2 cups caramel vodka (you can adjust this amount to how strong you want it to be) 3 honeycrisp apples, chopped 3 pears, chopped 2 cinnamon sticks cinnamon sugar, to garnish the rim
DIRECTIONS: Combine the cider, wine, honey, cinnamon sticks, zest, juice, and cloves in a large saucepan, bring to a boil and simmer over low heat for 10 minutes. Pour into mugs, add an orange peel to each and serve.
Cut up the fruit and place it all in the bottom of a big pitcher or jug. Combine all of the ingredients except the cinnamon sticks and stir, stir, stir! Let it sit overnight (or at least a couple hours, because let’s face it, who can wait?) and about 4 hours before serving, put in the cinnamon sticks and get stirring again. Serve over ice in a glass garnished with the cinnamon sugar. If you want it to be a bubblier drink, don’t add the soda until right before you serve it. For kids and preggos, just skip the alchohol, still delicious and full of hygge spirit www.Mamatoga.com
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in the club Northshire Saratoga bookseller Jennifer Armstrong canvassed her colleagues and the Indie Next list (the go-to source for independent bookstores) to bring you and your book group four unique titles. With suggested wine pairings. Euphoria, by Lily King. Inspired by events in the life of Margaret Mead, this is the story of three anthropologists studying native culture in New Guinea in the 1930’s, who become embroiled in a love triangle that ultimately threatens their lives. The book is about the complexity of human sexuality and human nature when they are under scrutiny, making this a riveting tale about passion, obsession and greed. The characters are powerfully and truthfully drawn, as are their individual quests for their ideal of “Euphoria”. Serve with a well-chilled and bubbly prosecco. Me, My Hair, and I: Twenty-Seven Women Untangle an Obsession, by Elizabeth Benedict . Ask a woman about her hair, and she just might tell you the story of her life. Ask a whole bunch of women about their hair, and you could get a history of the world. Twentyseven authors share stories about hair and all its meanings: class, health, aspirations, culture. What a wonderful way to ponder our life histories and traumas and still keep a sense of humor as we are invited to remember what hairstyles we were wearing at key times in our lives. Through the focus on hair, this book leads us to consider our stories in both a fun and oddly serious way. Bring “Lady Chardonnay” to this conversation. Empathy Exams by Leslie Jamison. Beginning with her experience as an actor paid to act out symptoms for medical students to 60 | MAMATOGA
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diagnose, Jamison’s visceral and revealing essays ask essential questions about our basic understanding of others: How should we care about each other? How can we feel another’s pain, especially when pain can be assumed, distorted, or performed? Is empathy a tool by which to test or even grade each other? By confronting pain real and imagined, her own and others’ Jamison uncovers a personal and cultural urgency to feel. There is much to discuss with your book group here while you pour a complex and warming Pinot Noir. Illuminae by Amie Kaufman. Told via a dossier of classified files documenting three major galactic events, this adult/young adult crossover title is the story of Kady and Ezra, exes whose planet was destroyed, separating them onto two different rescue ships. Equal parts love story, war story and thoughtprovoking opus on corporations and humanity, this book is an expansive and unforgettable thrill ride with characters you’ll root for from start to finish. Look for this one in the young adult section, and definitely do not listen as an audiobook, or you’ll miss the unique dossier format, which is pure fun. The end of the world as we know it will go down easy with a snifter of Cognac. Sip slowly. Jennifer Armstrong is the author of over 100 books for children and teens, but these mostly these days you can find her sharing her enthusiasm for children’s literature from behind the second-floor desk at the Northshire Bookstore. She has lived in Saratoga Springs for over 25 years, and has a teen-aged daughter.
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pregnancy Is there anything I can do to prepare my body for breastfeeding before the baby arrives? The best thing to do to prepare yourself for breastfeeding your baby is to educate yourself and get some of the products that will help support your breastfeeding; that means nursing bras, a nursing pillow, breast pads, some nursing tops or camisoles and even a breast pump. Even if you’re not planning to pump regularly, a breast pump can be a useful tool to help relieve engorgement, for example. Pick up some books on breastfeeding to help you troubleshoot any potential issues (see below) and to have on hand as a reference guide.
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What can I do about baby acne? aby acne is acne that develops on a newborn’s skin and can occur anywhere on the face, but usually appears on the cheeks, nose and forehead. Baby acne is very common — and temporary. While there’s little you can do to prevent baby acne, it usually clears up on its own, without scarring. If it doesn’t clear up within three months, or you’re concerned about it, talk with your baby’s doctor. The doctor may prescribe a mild topical medication if the acne is long lasting or severe. Don’t use over-the-counter acne medicines and don’t scrub baby’s face. Baby acne isn’t caused by dirt, and too much washing can further irritate your baby’s skin and aggravate the condition. Do maintain a basic routine by just washing your baby’s face with mild baby soap and water once a day and gently pat it dry.
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When a pet passes away‌ Having a pet can be one of the highlights of childhood and family life, but unfortunately that comes with the heartbreak of losing a pet, whether because of old age, illness, or an accident. Explaining the death of a pet can be tough, but here are some pointers on how to break the bad news to the younger kids. Tell the kids the news in a place that they feel safe, and when they aren’t distracted. See if you can gauge how much information they need based
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on their maturity level and life experiences. This can be made easier by being brief at first and letting your child’s questions guide how much information you provide. If your pet is very old or has a lingering illness, consider talking to kids before the death occurs to make it a gentler transition for them when it happens. Avoid trying to cover the truth with a “white lie”. Telling kids that Spot went to live on a farm somewhere isn’t the best idea, instead use the opportunity to be open and honest with your kids, and to be there for them through their grieving process. Help kids understand that it’s natural to feel the emotions they are going through, and that you’re there when they are ready to talk. www.Mamatoga.com
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