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It’s a New Year! We encourage you to look at where you are and where you decided to be at the beginning of the year, and truly celebrate the goals that you set, take responsibility to stay on track, and simply be grateful for it all. As we honor the excellence in the achievements in Black culture and share love across many platforms, we charge you to be a history maker and embrace the journey of self-love. IN THIS ISSUE OF LOVE, MARRIAGE & PARTNERSHIP THE REVIEW, be inspired to use a few new things, get organized, or take your love experience to a new level of being, giving and having. COUPLES IN PARTNERSHIP This feature is the heart of the publication, so become acquainted with phenomenal couples from all over that are building businesses and serving their communities through a loving partnership. DATE NIGHT IDEAS Do more than flirt with the idea of Date Nights, make a commitment. These sweet notions will spark dedication for that much desired QT whether you’re single, just having fun, or in a committed relationship. ON THE LOOKOUT Consider yourself well informed of this set of business owners and public figures that are impacting their respective fields with grace, style and so much more.

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Dismiss every misconception that you have about Dating, be open-minded, and expect to have fun! Who says that Dating has to be anything other than what you want it to be? No one- it’s up to you how creative you want your predetermined moment of eminence to be! It is also important to note that Dating is for anyone: married, engaged, and yes, SINGLE.

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RECREATE THE FIRST DATE YOU EVER HAD TOGETHER: If you went to a movie, rent the same movie. If you went out for dinner, go back to the same restaurant or make the dish that you ate at home. RENT YOU OR YOUR DATE’S “DREAM CAR.”: Take your date and your dream car you’ve rented on a weekend adventure, even if it’s just driving and exploring. HAVE A FIVE COURSE DINNER AT DIFFERENT PLACES: Instead of going to one restaurant, pick a bunch of different restaurants to enjoy various courses of your dinner date. PLAY TOURIST: Decide to play tourist for the day in your hometown. Going everywhere from the museum, to the major landmark, to the most famous restaurant in town.

My name is Ary Gordon and I’m a certified personal trainer. I was 230 pounds and now I’m 145 pounds. I started my own business “Teamgreatness Fitness LLC and is very excited about the next chapter in my life. My job as a personal trainer is to assess their customers' bodily strengths and weaknesses and create customized workout plans. I provide physical and mental guidance and monitor customers' progress on a regular basis.

SERVICES: Bootcamp(starts this week) Virtual training Personal training (gym setting) Meal plans.

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Have you ever sat on the back of a 1,000lb animal and pushed through the language barrier to create a flawless performance? My name is Jessica Sales and I’m going to share with you how working with horses radically shifted my mindset, communication, and overall leadership.

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LET’S FIRST ACKNOWLEDGE WHAT IT IS TO RIDE A HORSE. Horses are prey animals. However, they allow us to sit on the most vulnerable spot of their body; their back. This takes an immense amount of trust from your horse. Remember, this is a living animal with a mind of its own. If they want you off, they’ll get you off! Horses are very intuitive animals and possess the ability to sense an elevated heart rate. So at any time if you are nervous or afraid, they can sense that. Their performance will typically shift when they sense “something is wrong”. This is where your confidence as a leader comes into play! You must remain calm, breathe, and make sure you are setting up your partner for success! While you are riding, there are many hand, leg, and verbal cues to communicate to your horse what you want them to do. It is important to be clear about what you are asking of them to again set them up for success. Otherwise, they will not perform to the standard in which you are asking.

By the way, this will happen! Making mistakes is how both horse and rider learn to better their communication with each other. How many of you have experienced frustration in the inability to communicate to your partner what it is you’re trying to convey? I sure have! What I have learned through horseback riding is that it’s not my horse’s fault for not understanding what I want from him. It’s my job as his partner to not get upset with him, but rather find another way to communicate to him in a way that gets through to him and keep trying until we achieve our desired result. Working with horses has taught me to be patient in the midst of resistance and to look for different ways to communicate to support my partner. It has also taught me dedication, focus, and perseverance. This has radically shifted how I operate in friendships and relationships. Creating a seamless performance of synchronicity and synergy with your horse is hard work, but achievable. This also applies in creating a strong healthy relationship with your partner. The question I ask you is, how hard are you willing to work to level up your leadership and communication to improve the relationships around you?

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JACKSON A husband and wife team that are committed to loving one another for the rest of our lives. They have been married for six years with two beautiful daughters, Zariah and Ayanna. By Profession Isaiah is an educator and coach and Sheniece is an accountant. They also serve at their local church through marriage ministry and the premarital ministry. The Jacksons love helping other couples and families grow in love and encourage them to

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WHAT IS THE MEANING OF MARRIAGE TO YOU? We believe that marriage is an institution that was created by God for man and woman to stand before him under covenant to be joined together as one, for the purpose of glorifying him, honoring and serving each other, and raising kids to do the same. WHAT DOES “BECOMING ONE” MEAN TO YOU AND WHAT DO YOU DO TO WORK TOWARDS IT? Becoming one is a process of which two people are submitting themselves under the authority of God to simply serve each other’s needs and become vessels to be utilized to carry out the purpose of Gods kingdom throughout the earth. WHAT IS THE MOST REWARDING THING THAT YOU HAVE ACCOMPLISHED TOGETHER? We are passionate about taking the things that we have learned and giving it back to enhance the kingdom of God. So we partnered with professional psychologist to provide a quality pre-marital and marriage mentoring program to help combat the growing divorce rate percentage. We use this tool to show couples how God can use them to move throughout the earth and make positive change in the world. HOW DO YOU GROW YOURSELVES WITHIN THE RELATIONSHIP? How do you grow the relationship? Growth is inevitable, everybody will grow wether it be for good or for bad. We hold each other accountable to remain true to the purpose in which God joined us together. We do this by, reading books, and hosting small group sessions, which for us is a form of accountability to ensure that we are growing. We also realize that you can’t have uncommon success, unless you have uncommon mentorship. We constantly lean on our mentors for guidance and accountability as well. HOW DO YOU FOCUS ON THE SUBJECTIVE AND RELATIVE STUFF AROUND YOU AND FOCUS ON TRUTH? We intentionally expose ourselves to the truth of Gods word MORE than the things that are subjective and relative.

WHO DO YOU SEE WHEN YOU SEE YOUR SPOUSE? SHENIECE: I see a man of God who honors his creator and strives to be all he can be. A Husband who brings the best out of me, A father who values his legacy and a leader of people. ISAIAH: I see a beautiful woman who loves God more than anything in the world. Honors her husband with respect, admiration, and affirmation. She loves and protects her daughters and gives them a great picture of how womanhood should be. I truly see a virtuous woman. WHAT ARE SOME BENEFITS OF HAVING A SHARED VISION? A shared vision is the key element to keep true focus in our marriage. It helps eliminate the noise that is happening around us. Different things, people, and or places like to pull on your energy, which can cause major distractions. Being able to focus on the vision helps eliminate those tiny foxes that like to pop up and drive a wedge between couples. HOW DO YOU SOLVE PROBLEMS/BRING SOLUTIONS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP? There is a quote we like to live by which is, “conflict is the price you pay for a deeper level of intimacy.” Conflict is needed. It’s what helps us grow and it helps us grow closer together. The best way the resolve conflict is to be willing to listen with intent, feel with compassion, and love without judgement. We believe that it is healthy to be able to communicate truth without punishment. This keeps the communication channels open which result in real solutions about to take place. WHAT IS A QUOTE OR SCRIPTURE THAT YOU BOTH USE AS YOU FUNCTION IN PARTNERSHIP? “There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” John 15:13 NLT “You didn’t choose me. I chose you. I appointed you to go and produce lasting fruit, so that the Father will give you whatever you ask for, using my name.” John 15:16 NLT

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Have you ever found yourself looking for that moment where it felt like “you’re the perfect verse over a tight beat?” What voice, what feeling, what touch accompanied that moment? Between the romantic comedies that are bingewatch with a blanket and a snack worthy and all the life experiences that provide the framework in your subconscious mind, you probably have a textbook definition of love with multiple entries. With no clear definition of love, mismanaged expectations develop some rather complicated situations. Have you been there? Perhaps someone has said to you, “You need to love yourself before you try to love somebody else.” The inward conversation ensues… “I do love myself…Wait, I think I love me…Of course I do! But if I did, would I tolerate this? Would I allow myself to think that about me? If I love me, why am I still dealing with forgiving myself? Can I love myself but not believe in myself? How is it that I can love others, but I don’t know how to truly love myself? What is love anyway?” Love is a mature decision to have and show compassion and care regardless of the other person’s actions or feelings towards you. This understanding guides you into seeing that love is more than just a feeling. It is the most powerful emotion, greater than hope and faith. There is no greater evidence of this than God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son. So how then do you have self-love? Especially when you may have never been taught what it is, and all the many influences around you suggest otherwise?

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Decide to choose Him, because God is love. By choosing Him, you allow Him to come into your heart, the deep layers of your mind, and remove anything that is not of Him. Only God can show you why you think, feel or act the way that you do. He’ll whisper it to you while you are driving, ironing clothes or in the shower. God also gives you glimpses of who you really are- not the person you feel like at some given moment or who you see yourself as in comparison to someone else, but His truth about you. Becoming that truth is the journey of self-love. It is a process of decisionmaking that puts a halt to the drifting brought on by life circumstances, creating the conditions that you want. Self-love requires hope and faith – hope to believe that God’s truth about you is real and faith to persistently pursue it. On the surface, self-love may look like taking a long drive, dating yourself, doing your favorite hobby, tackling your finances responsibly, cleaning your home, removing yourself from non-serving relationships, humbling yourself to learn from someone else, etc. These things in themselves do not define self-love, but they provide a space for you to think for yourself and make decisions that benefit you, decisions that help you become your truth, the love of your life – you.

CARLOTTA TAYLOR is not just a survivor of child abuse, but has grown into what we come to know as our thriver against all odds who no longer flinches at adversity, but overcomes with authority. Despite growing up in and out of foster care homes and shelters, Carlotta has adapted, persevered and overcome her circumstances. Decades later, by deciding to say “Yes” to herself, Ms Taylor has piece by piece faced her biggest adversary - the brokenness. She has healed not only herself, but thousands through her outreach and influence.

Getting to the heart of the matter has always been what Carlotta is about. With fifteen years of law enforcement experience, that desire to find the unadulterated truth burns in her like an unquenchable fire. She holds a Bachelor’s in Social Services, a Master’s in Science and Leadership, and is the founder of a nonprofit organization for foster youth, Somebody Step In. Carlotta is also a certified speaker, trainer, and coach with The John Maxwell Team, and the author of the best-selling book No More Flinching. Everyone is encouraged to become apart of The Heart of the Matter community, because it’s where people bond world-wide, sharing powerful stories, prevailing over adversity.

OUR BROTHERHOOD 30 years in the making

“Our goal and mission is to give back to the community that made us.” Photo Credit: Carlyn Photography http://www.carlynphotography.com/

The culmination of Black History Month follows a historic year where Black culture has been celebrated more than ever. Our history of a people is becoming redefined. However, there needs to be light shined on a segment that society doesn’t celebrate enough. Eight pillars stand before you as a group of successful, loving, honorable and progressive Black men. “Our Brotherhood”, as they’ve characterized themselves, is 30-years in the making and bonded for life.

To have been an onlooker to the growth and strength of this bond for over twenty years, it truly has been an honor to witness. I initially met these gentlemen in the seventh grade. Always filled with humor, brutal honesty, genuine love and a determination to win, each of them came with their own tailoring. Throughout each phase of their lives, many who have been fortunate to know these men have seen them genuinely be present for each other in a way that Merriam-Webster could not adequately define. Excellence is admired and appreciated. Salute to this alliance, this bespoke friendship, this brotherhood.

JOHNNY FLEMMING

Memphis, TN; Jackson native - Engineer by day and Real Estate Investor by night - Amassed over half a million-dollar real estate portfolio - Accomplished member of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc. And in his spare time loves spending time with his family and friends.

TERRON COLLIER

Memphis, TN; Jackson native - Leader in Information Technology Systems - On Course to becoming a Chief Information Officer and adjunct professor

- Passionate about the outdoors and enjoys creating memories with family

DR. SHERMAN GREEN Jackson, MS

- CEO & Executive Life Coach for Strategic Direction, LLC - Transformational leader, motivational speaker, change agent and trainer - Certified Life Member of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc. and noted-singer/songwriter

JOHN HARDY Jackson, MS

- Real Estate Specialist (Land Acquisitions) - DJ/Event Consultant - A family man who is passionate in athletics to fine arts

JOSEPH HANDY Jackson, MS

- An experienced educator, Staff Sergeant (U.S. Army) and Real Estate Investor - Owner of Legacy One Investments, LLC with properties valued at $1.5 million - Husband, father and founding member of the award- winning Southern Komfort Brass Band

CALVIN LIDDELL Jackson, MS

- U.S. military-veteran - Traveling Registered Nurse (COVID-19 high-risk areas) - Continuing advanced degrees and loyal JSU Tiger

WILLIAM WADE Jackson, MS

- Decorated Sergeant and 17-year veteran of the Jackson Police Department - IFBB Professional Athlete and CEO of Will & Commitment Fitness LLC - Active member of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity Inc. and passionate family man

JARED WRIGHT Jackson, MS

- Twenty years of automotive sales excellence, wholesale acquisitions with finance and insurance background - Three-time Diamond award-winner establishing ove $4 million in revenue - Ten years of real estate procurement

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HOW HAS GOD BEEN A HUGE PART OF YOUR BUSINESS? My business is God. It’s a reflection of Him. When he chooses us to house a gift, it’s such an honor! And when we put that gift to work and we create, as He did, I believe that He is pleased. God is the divine orchestrator of my business. He allows me to grow through stumbles and victories. My vision comes from the gifts that God has given me, and the Holy Spirit coaches me. God keeps me going, when I want to stop. He always uses someone and/or something to confirm the route being traveled, when it gets hard. He will use a client’s adoration to add fuel to my fire. I wouldn’t be here if He wasn’t here. Period. WHAT’S BEEN THE MOST REWARDING MOMENT IN YOUR BUSINESS? The responses from my clients, when they go out and get compliments. When I see women and men CONFIDENTLY wearing their ABO pieces, I’m humbled. Just recently, a client had on an ABO SpringSituation top and she was approached by another client of mine, not knowing each other asking the one wearing the top, “Is that an ABO?” The story had me blushing and in awe. So many moments, too hard to choose just one. WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FORWARD TO THIS YEAR IN BUSINESS? I’m looking forward to having my brand with a strong foundation. Structure. Exposure, Experience, Exclusivity...that’s what I’m focused on. Expansion will show up organically...God willing.

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ANDREA BLACKLEY is the owner and designer of the innovative clothing brand, AB Originals. Since she was 8 years old, she’s always had a keen eye, and love for style and fashion. Being raised by a fashionable single mother, one of her favorite moments of her childhood, is when her mom would go “Spring Shopping” for new clothes. It would always be a big event because Andrea would be spontaneously surprised after coming home from school, and finding a bed full of clothes laid out for her. “Christmas in Spring”, as she called it, was always one of her favorite times of the year. As an only child, this was definitely one of the benefits of not having any siblings. But it was also the birth of her infatuation with fashion.

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GREEN Providing an executive life coaching company that focuses on navigating companies and individuals on accomplishing their goals

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The people that share your life will do so with either short- or longterm intention. It is important to be able to discern the difference between the two so that you can maintain a peace of mind and communication and relationships can operate with clarity. There is a proverb that says, “You know a tree by its fruit.” This is absolute truth! For that reason, most people only focus on the fruit…you can classify it, and identify whether you like it, need it or not. In a practical sense, if you’re a plum tree, you’ll have certain people coming to you for your fruit based on their personal preference or need at that time. They may or may not come for your fruit for several reasons- someone said that it was good, bad, or whatever. There are also seasons where you’re on and when you’re not, and people can feel that too. When you are producing the fruit that this person wants and or needs at the given time, understand this to be shortterm intent. He or she will give to you or for you to receive the fruit that you bear. In contrast, there is the person who recognizes you as a seed that has been gifted to them. A person that cherishes the seed is going to prepare the soil, ensuring the seed is in the right environment for it to take root. This person is going to water the seed and consistently do the things necessary for its continued growth, even pruning.

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YOU ARE A TREE. THERE ARE TWO BASIC PARTS TO YOU! YOUR SEED AND YOUR FRUIT.

Follow the relationship of a seed and bosom. It is a nurturing relationship where the nurturer cares for the growth and development of the seed but also adheres to the responsibility of being well themselves. As the nurturer, he/ she understands that if toxins (whether physical, mental, emotional or spiritual) are present, they can be transferred while nursing. It is a powerful thing to have someone in your life that understands all of that and is committed to see you grow and produce fruit in season and out. EVALUATE THE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE. Which ones are present with shortterm intentions? In most cases, these individuals interact with you through sacrifice of their time and other resources and expect something directly from you – your fruit. Which ones are present with long-term intentions? These individuals are focused on you as a seed and have a desire to sow into your life. Anything that they do is an investment of which the return will reach far beyond you or them – multiple seeds and much fruit.

the seven habits of STATE THE GOAL Write a clearly defined goal of what you desire with a specific date.

IDENTIFIY PEOPLE NEEDED These are people that have achieved what you are trying to accomplish, believe in your success and are willing to assist you. Note: you do not have to know these people before you start. Just know that they will be presented to you when it’s time. DEVELOP A PLAN See yourself as if you’ve already achieved your goal. Write a plan of action that you feel will help you reach your goal. Note: Expect that a better plan will present itself to you and be willing to change. IDENTIFY THE OBSTACLES Be honest with yourself and list six things (including your own limiting habits) that will try to stop you from reaching your goal. Note: Write these obstacles on a sheet of paper and burn it. LIST THE SKILLS NEEDED Consider the skills that you are not willing or able to outsource in order to achieve your goal. LIST THE REWARD(S) Consider how you will celebrate the achievement of your goal and receive that joy with grace.

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IDENTIFY BENCHMARKS Consider the benchmarks as checkpoints that you will reach along the way. Celebrate them as self-confidence builders towards your goal.

Self LOVE THE INSTINCT BY WHICH ONE’S ACTIONS ARE DIRECTED TO THE PROMOTION OF ONE’S OWN WELFARE OR WELL-BEING, ESPECIALLY AN EXCESSIVE REGARD FOR ONE’S OWN ADVANTAGE.

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Tambra Cherie has been featured in several publications including Boom’s Magazine Most Influential Person in the City of Jackson, and recipient of the 2014 Woman of the Year Award, alongside the Mayor of the City of Jackson as Man of the Year.

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Tambra Cherie, also known as the Midday Diva, is the most popular and highly rated Midday radio personality for 97.7 The Beat of the Capital, in Jackson, Mississippi. She is a full time interactive media talent. Poised and personable, this radio/TV personality, entertainment news reporter, and host brings excitement to every role she carries out. Tambra Cherie discovered her passion for media hosting and the entertainment industry upon graduating from thee Jackson State University. It was during an internship at WRJH, she began to fulfill her goals within the entertainment industry. During her radio internship, Tambra Cherie embarked upon various entertainment-related ventures, serving as host for the once highly anticipated #1 entertainment television show in Mississippi, Admission Granted. Admission Granted previously aired on UPN, CW, and CBS affiliates for over 4 years. She also served a contributing writer for AllHipHop.com and Ozone Magazine interviewing artists & following industry trends. Throughout her career, Tambra Cherie has hosted a number of events, festivals and concerts; and interviewed a multitude of celebrities, artists, comedians, actors, and entertainment moguls including Russell Simmons, Magic Johnson, Kevin Liles, and Sean Diddy Combs.

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Tambra Cherie is now one of the star’s of the newest reality television show, Belle Collective, now airing on The OWN Network, Fridays 9pm central/10pm eastern. Belle Collective centers on the personal and professional lives of five successful, glamourous boss women who are redefining what it means to be a southern belle in Jackson, Mississippi. These dynamic women represent Mississippi’s finest Black female entrepreneurs, determined to break ceilings–glass and otherwise–while shredding long-held stereotypes of the South. As a full time popular radio personality in the market, cameras follow Tambra Cherie as she balances her personal and professional life while continuing to grow her brand within the entertainment industry as an on air correspondent. Prior to Belle Collective, Tambra Cherie also served as guest host on Lifetime’s television show, Bring It for a number of episodes and a guest co-host on Dish Nation TV, which airs on FOX affiliates. As the author of her first book, Surrounded By Sin, Grounded By Love: 8 Simple Keys to Becoming a Better You, Tambra Cherie has appeared on a number of radio and television shows, including TV One’s Sister Circle TV, sharing her message of becoming better with audiences throughout the world. As an entrepreneur, Tambra Cherie is also co-owner of an online women’s boutique, 5thandSole.com.

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A Y E A R - L O N G C O N V E R S A T I O N What we learned from a 40 day fast.

In 2018, it was laid on our hearts to submit to a 40 day fast, abstaining from all solid foods. The process and results were so amazing that they found their way into our conversations all year. Please note that our results are not typical, any adjustment in your diet should be carefully considered (with proper guidance), we are not medical professionals and we are simply sharing this as an awesome example of will and inspiration. To start, let’s talk about WHY we decided to do the fast. There have been many things we desired to accomplish, and we have always known that in order to achieve the goals that we set, we must grow. We are always thinking ahead, and we typically start preparing for the next year around November. For about a month, we studied and mentally prepared for the experience. We were well aware of the changes that our bodies would go through and how to properly respond to them. Initially we began with the goal to complete 21 days, however we were doing so well that we honestly desired to fulfill the 40 days!

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BEFORE THE 40 DAYS: We had been eating fairly clean (no meat and little processed foods) prior to our decision to fast, but about five days before we started we were sure to keep it simple with fruits, vegetables and broth. Our daily intake: lots of water, 1-2 cups of herbal tea, and a little apple and cranberry juice (not everyday) ENERGY LEVEL: Surprisingly great, especially week two. We maintained normal activity the entire time. Occasional naps or moments of rest were evident during the last two weeks. DID OTHERS KNOW: We did not advertise it. However after a while and not eating at Thanksgiving, Christmas or New Year’s dinner it was obvious. We simply said, “We’re not eating.” You can imagine the looks and questions, but it was all great. DURING MEALTIMES: When required, we still prepared food for family that were not fasting with us. Prayer and meditation was usually done at this time. AFTER 40 DAYS: A very carefully planned eating routine for 2-3 weeks or more. We realized that our palettes were completely reset, we reduced the amount of food that we could comfortably intake, and we ultimately changed our tastes both figuratively and literally. FASTING: Other Benefits: during and after there were many mental, spiritual and physical benefits that we experienced, with many more to be seen. A true testament of desire, will and faith. God is awesome!

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IT MAY COME AS A SURPRISE TO SOME THAT MERELY TALKING, THE EXCHANGE OF WORDS AND THOUGHTS BETWEEN TWO OR MORE PEOPLE, DOES NOT EQUATE TO COMMUNICATION - EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION THAT IS.

Consider these seven habits as you establish and/or grow your relationships. LISTEN WITHOUT CONDEMNATION: Whenever you are engaging in a conversation, remember that the other person trusts you enough to share with you with no fear of judgement. Even if you don’t say anything that is viewed as judgmental during the conversation, guard your thoughts against judgement. Not doing so could impact your thoughts, feelings, or actions towards them later on.

AVOID CRAFTINESS: If you find yourself letting a conversation brew well before it actually takes place, where you craft the other person’s responses, you are unnecessarily tampering with your emotions. Avoid being emotionally disturbed and viewing the other person inappropriately because of comments you’ve developed in your own mind. Allow the other person to communicate with you in their own truth. TALK WITHOUT COVETOUSNESS: It is not a comfortable feeling to genuinely engage in a conversation only to be met with words that are dripping with thirst. Refrain from abusing someone’s listening ear with words and thoughts that stem from longing and desiring what someone else has.

USE WORDS WITH NO COATING: At times, you may feel as if you cannot be completely truthful because you fear that you will hurt them. When this happens, you may find yourself sprinkling sugar over your words to avoid telling the whole truth. Coating your words can be misleading for them and restricting for you. There is a way to use your words wisely, and still be completely truthful.

DODGE THE COPOUT: The copout is that opportune, yet evasive moment where you find yourself using phrases like whatever, that’s okay, or I don’t care. The irony is that it is not whatever, it is not okay, and you do care. We often find ourselves using these elementary colloquialisms, not because we don’t feel like talking at that particular time, but because we have not learned how to communicate beyond our feelings. Depending on the value of the relationship, you have three options: say nothing (some comments and behaviors don’t deserve your response), agree to talk at a better time, talk through whatever the problem is.

BE CAREFUL WITH YOUR WORDS: Being that opportunities wrapped in a particular set of circumstances do not present themselves more than once, you must choose your words wisely. Justifying what you say using, “I just have to speak my mind…” is acceptable only when you are choosing to allow your spirit to control your mind. Too often, when we “speak our mind”, we are really speaking from a place where we choose to allow our emotions to control our thoughts.

TAKE CONTROL: Taking control is not about dominating the conversation or dictating the other person’s thoughts or feelings. Honestly, that type of behavior and thinking typically yields an unfavorable outcome. Instead, being responsible and taking control of your thoughts, words, and actions places you in a much more effective position for communicating. Maintaining positivity while truthfully sharing what you think and feel will have a greater impact beyond the conversation.

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LECOURTNEY HARNESS | REAL ESTATE AGENT LeCourtney is a Realtor with Miss-Lou Realty helping clients buy, sell, invest real estate in the state of Mississippi!

Self LOVE

BY: JOANNE BELL WRIGHT

I looked up love in Webster’s dictionary. The first meaning was “a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.” The second meaning was “a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend.” Then I searched for self-love and Webster’s said “the instinct by which one’s actions are directed to the promotion of one’s own welfare or well-being, especially an excessive regard for one’s own advantage.” A second meaning said “conceit; vanity.” When I read the differences in the definitions between love and self-love, it almost seems like selflove is a bad thing. Growing up, if you acted like you loved yourself or believed in yourself a little too much, people called you arrogant, conceited or even selfish, but in Matthew 22:39 it says “thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.” That means we should love ourselves first so we know how to love our neighbors or anyone else. As women, we pride ourselves on taking care of everyone else first and putting ourselves last. Maybe it’s because that’s what we saw our moms do, or maybe we feel guilty if we take care of ourselves first. My daughter and I went shopping the other day, and I had the hardest time deciding to buy something for myself. I experienced a myriad of emotions from frustration to indecisiveness, to even anger after I completed the purchase. There was this overwhelming thought I should spend the money on something more important, like an upcoming bill or something else other than three shirts for myself.

But get this, I also bought something for my husband and it wasn’t as hard to purchase something for him as it was to buy something for myself. I even felt excited to give him a gift, but I didn’t feel that way about myself. We put ourselves last and make sure everyone else is okay before we take care of our own needs as women. Recently, I found that putting everyone else’s needs and health before our own is irresponsible. So many people depend on us to do so many things, yet it is just as much our responsibility to take care of ourselves first as it is to take care of our families. We get so caught up in the hustle and bustle of the day and we forget to take care of ourselves. We have to take care of our mental health by getting out with friends to have a little girl talk and laugh out loud as much as possible. Those manicures and pedicures and even the occasional makeover are good for our mental health, too. We have to take care of our physical health by exercising, and we have to take care of our body by eating healthy and watching what we put in our bodies. It’s imperative to take care of our emotional and spiritual selves by making time to study God’s Word and renew our minds daily. We take care of our spiritual selves by being careful of what we allow to get into our minds. We must do as it says in Proverbs 4:23 and “guard our hearts with all diligence for out of it flows the issues of life.” Being a little selfish is just as important as being selfless. It’s okay to steal some time for yourself to enjoy your favorite candy and not share with the kids. It’s okay. I’m reminded of the lyrics to a Whitney Houston song, “learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” These words resonate in my mind the older I get. It’s time we learn to love ourselves, just like the Bible teaches us to love others. Learning to love yourself truly is the greatest love of all.

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