Surviving Infidelity Although emotionally, you can have a soft corner for more than one person at a time but practically, you can’t love two persons simultaneously. The pain and shock of finding out that your partner is cheating on you can be very excruciating and agonizing. It is one of the most traumatic and unfortunate events that may happen to anyone. Sometimes people are so shocked that they lose their confidence and just go into depression. They may take many years to develop the guts to fall in love with someone again and love them with the same sense of trust. Surviving infidelity means taking steps one at a time and being patient with yourself. To survive an infidelity in a relationship requires time and effort. People should try to keep the following things in mind and if things work out right for them they might develop an even stronger bond. It may be difficult but not at all impossible. 1) The most important thing required in order to survive infidelity in a relationship is to come to a joint decision on whether to continue your relationship or to move on. 2) Make sure that your partner cuts all sources of contact with the other person like phone, email, meeting in person etc. 3) Clarify to your partner right at the beginning that he or she has to be completely honest with you so there would be no boundaries from now on. This means that both of you have regular access to each other’s email, phone or personal stuff. Nothing is personal when two human beings are committed and in love with each other. 4) They need to give more attention to a relationship by spending quality time with each other. Sometimes we may take a relationship for granted and keep ignoring the other person assuming that now the other person is completely yours. But everybody needs attention though infidelity is no excuse for getting it back. 5) Show intimacy to your partner more often and frequently as you used to do earlier. Although it might be difficult in the given condition but rebuilding a relationship means that both of you have to put your effort in it. 6) Don’t push your partner into talking about the situation before they are even ready. Before beginning with all these steps just ask yourself whether you are ready to accept your partner back into your life even after all that has happened. If yes, then you can start out by trying out the above.