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7 MARTINE’S MUSINGS Letter from the Editor 11 MAKE THE "WRIGHT" CHOICE! With John Wright Restaurant 14 THE VALUE OF THE SECOND PHOTOGRAPHER With Ashley Gerrity 18 STYLED INSPIRATION Classic Romantic, Urban Contemporary & Organic Ethereal Styles 24 MARTINE'S TIPS Your Budget Mastered! 25 COLOR BOARD Details In This Season's Pantone Colors

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26 REAL WEDDINGS Allow Real Weddings to Inspire Your Dreams! 36 WEDDING DAY BEAUTY MUST-HAVES! Maggie King Shares What You Need on Your Big Day 40 SHOULD YOU GET MARRIED? Real Questions to Ask Before You Walk Down the Aisle 42 RIVER ROMANCE Dream Weddings Feature 64 BRIDE'S PLANNING GUIDE & CHECKLIST Get Organized with Our Checklists 68 VENDOR DIRECTORY Use Our Directory to Select Your Dream Team

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Emmy nominated Dream Weddings follows local couples through their planning process until their big day unfolds right before your eyes. What began as a dream more than 5 years ago for host Martine Cajas has turned into a source of inspiration for couples throughout Central Pennsylvania. Viewers enjoy some truly unique elements of the show: behind-the-scenes production meetings, design upgrades and of course – bloopers! Martine has gotten so comfortable on camera that the production team feels he will become a one-take wonder… then his Spanglish

takes over and he has everyone cracking up in no time. Dream Weddings continues to evolve from season to season. Check WGAL, an affiliate of NBC’s listings to find out when episodes will air. Too impatient? Visit us at www.DreamWeddings.co/episodes

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and watch all of the past shows online anytime! The Dream Weddings TV show is made possible by the creativity of the local professionals who make our couples' dreams come true. Visit us at www.DreamWeddings.co to search through the area's top vendors, view past issues of the magazine and to learn how your wedding could possibly be featured on a future episode of the show. Also, don't forget to check us out on social media for tips, vendor information and inspiration throughout your entire planning process.

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Happy Autumn Dreamers! I am in love with this time of year. Not just for the cooler, comfortable weather but for the reminder that as the seasons change, there's always something to miss, something to look forward to and something to be thankful for NOW. Tis the season for wedding planning to start! Summer vacations are coming to an end, kids are back in school and football is grabbing a lot of attention once again. Use our planning guide and checklist to get yourself organized before you embark on the planning process. Then, really dissect each page of this magazine. Everything has value…the feature, styled inspiration, real weddings, ads, articles…all of it offers something to your process. For more vendors, tips and inspiration, visit us online at DreamWeddings.co This season, we shot our feature photo shoot at John Wright Restaurant, along the Susquehanna River in Wrightsville. We were thrilled when we partnered with them to bring you a feature that is full of gorgeous gowns from Blush Bridal in Lancaster, PA (Formerly The Bridal Emporium of Elizabethtown), paired with beautiful hair styles, jewelry and groom's

attire in all of the diverse settings of this amazing venue. You are sure to find a look (or two!) that inspire you in this contemporary atmosphere with breathtaking scenery as the backdrop. In addition to the feature, we shot the Urban Contemporary styled inspiration at John Wright Restaurant as well. The space so perfectly lent itself to that particular style but as always, we showcase how to use this season's pantone colors in multiple ways, bringing you various interpretations including Classic Romantic and Organic Ethereal inspiration. Each of our Styled Inspirations are a collaboration with different sets of vendors so you can see how they all translate the colors and what approach they take to inspire you by using them. Speaking of vendors, I've been asked a lot lately what the best approach is to booking local vendors for destination weddings or vice versa. I wanted to share that there really isn't a "best" approach to this. It's best to decide on vendors based on your style and their quality. Many vendors will travel (if they are able) so if you find someone close to home that you wish to bring with you on a destination wedding, do it! If you find vendors close to your destination, plan a FaceTime or Skype meeting to ask your questions and get to know them. You will obviously have to factor your budget into the decision making but remember that you get what you pay for and that your wedding is a culmination of your decision to be together forever. I address how to approach your budget in my tips on page 24 so make sure you check them out! Lastly, I want you to check out our new editorial style and read the article written by our senior editor, Megan, titled: "Should You Get Married?" This extremely open and honest approach to dis-

secting some deep issues and questions is something we are trying out because... are you ready for this...your wedding isn't the END. You've got a whole relationship ahead of you and we thought it was about time SOMEONE in the wedding industry talked about what happens after the vows are spoken and how difficult it can be to navigate a relationship for a generation that was raised to believe "Happily Ever After" was it. Read it. Let it sink in. And definitely give us your feedback, we'd love to hear it! There's something for everyone in this issue. As always, we try to speak to diverse styles, thought processes, approaches, etc. So find your dreams and GO for them!

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John Wright Restaurant, located along the Susquehanna River in Wrightsville, PA is an excellent choice for your Dream Wedding venue. Get ready, get married and celebrate all in one place! The luxurious bridal suite with private entrance allows you and your bridal party to relax and enjoy refreshments while you get ready to walk down the aisle. The lawn space is the perfect setting for your outdoor ceremony, with the river & bridge as your backdrop. Additionally, the venue boasts a 2nd floor reception space, called the “River Room” which can accomodate up to 180 seated guests. The room has a contemporary feel and is a blank canvas for you to create a styled reception space that is as unique as you. At John Wright Restaurant, great pride is taken in the quality of food that will be served to your guests. Ingredients are sourced from local farmers whenever possible and care is taken to ensure items used are fresh and unprocessed.

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The Value of the Second Photographer One of the most popular questions to ask photographers nowadays is “Do you include a second photographer?” We live in a world where more is more, so it must be obvious, having two photographers HAS to be better than only having one, right? Although I personally usually work with a team of photographers on most wedding days, even we agree that not every wedding benefits from having two photographers. So how do you know if this is the right choice for your wedding day? Let me help you figure it out!

1. Think About Your Plan & Priorities for the Day Before you start your photographer search, think about what is most important to you on your wedding day. Is it important to you that you have getting ready photos of both you and your fiancé before the ceremony begins or guests enjoying your cocktail hour? When working as a solo photographer, it is impossible to be in multiple places at once. However, it isn’t impossible to be able to capture all of these things if the schedule is properly aligned. Is your wedding day preparation all happening at one location but in different suites? Will you be doing a first look so that you two will be able to be at cocktail hour? If the answer to both of these questions is a resounding “yes,” then one photographer will have no problem capturing all of the moments of your day as long as your schedule runs on-time. However, if you are getting ready at two different locations or are not doing a first look before your wedding, in order to capture wedding day prep for both of you or guest candids while you are having your portraits taken, having a second photographer provides you with more “insurance” that all will be photographed.

2. Think About Your Guest Count Although we have had the pleasure of shooting a fourteen person wedding with two photographers, if you are having an intimate family dinner or a non-traditional wedding just for your closest friends & family, you might only need one photographer. For smaller weddings or events that have a simplified timeline, one photographer is able to capture everything, most times. If you are having a wedding with a moderate to large guest list and capturing your friends & family celebrating is important to you, we suggest including a second photographer. Your primary photographer has to focus their attention on you so that you can relive every moment of your wedding day from your perspective. A second photographer is able to focus on capturing your guests, candid moments and different perspectives than your primary photographer.

3. Think About Your Budget Although the obvious choice may be to cut a second photographer if you are on a tight budget, that isn’t always the most cost effective or most valuable approach to take. Depending on the photographer you hire, it may be more cost effective to choose a collection with two photographers but a slightly shorter amount of coverage than it is to have one photographer running from one location to the next to capture all of your wedding day moments. With two photographers, you can both get ready simultaneously, saving about an hour of coverage on the earlier part of the day as well as the inconvenience of having to get one of you ready super early. Two photographers can break down the wedding party and work through family & friends photos with nearly double the efficiency, getting you and your guests to the cocktail hour just a little sooner. Two photographers will invariably capture more moments throughout the day and will result in more images of your memories. A wedding collection with two photographers is one of the most popular requests of modern couples and with good reason! Two photographers can be in two different places, chronicling your day and capturing the moments that you can’t see for yourself. But for the right couple, a one photographer option is a perfect fit. Take the time to talk with and understand how a photographer can cover your wedding day, whether as a solo shooter or with a team, before making your decisions.

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If you describe your ideal wedding day style as “fairy-tale”, you’ll love this opulent interpretation of the season’s pantone colors. Draping and a lot of detail layering provide a swoon-worthy atmosphere that is sure to melt even the most unromantic person’s heart. The predominant color translated in this inspiration is their interpretation of “Tawny Port”, a deep, rich wine color which of course, makes us think of love. photography ASHLEY GERRITY PHOTOGRAPHY | venue THE BOOKING HOUSE | lead designer DANA M. MCGINLEY EVENTS & DESIGN | floral design BLOOMS BY VICKREY | pipe & drape SHUMAKER P.D.T. | cake PROVIDENCE DIVINE CAKES | paper suite & banners CORK & CHAMBERS | table top accessories & chairs ACE THE PARTY PLACE

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URBAN CONTEMPORARY

A blank canvas with exposed brick walls and sturdy, wooden ceiling beams is the perfect backdrop for a contemporary affair that is cleanly designed yet comfortably inviting. Combining outdoor elements such as leaves, moss and stones brings and air of freshness to a stark scene and shows how to translate this season’s green (Kale) as the predominant color in your styling. photography ASHLEY GERRITY PHOTOGRAPHY | venue JOHN WRIGHT RESTAURANT | design & décor SHUMAKER P.D.T. | cake THE HOUSE OF CLARENDON | paper suite TYPOTHECARY LETTERPRESS | jewelry GARRICK JEWELERS | food JOHN WRIGHT RESTAURANT | linens SPECIAL OCCASIONS & QUEEN STREET LINENS

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Breezy and beautiful with bursts of color against the green of the outdoors and neutral tones of wood. You’re in-tune with mother nature so you seek balance. We love this style and interpretation of the season’s pantone colors specifically because we feel the balance of Kale, Hazelnut, Pale Dogwood and Tawny Port. No one color overtakes or overshadows another. They are all paired in complementing amounts. photography ASHLEY GERRITY PHOTOGRAPHY | venue ASH MILL FARM BED & BREAKFAST | design & décor OPEN AIRE AFFAIRS | linens, tabletop décor & rentals OPEN AIRE AFFAIRS | cake THE HOUSE OF CLARENDON | paper suite PAPER JANE | floral design LEIGH FLORIST

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Your Wedding Budget, Mastered! People view budgets in one of two ways. They either think they’re extremely restrictive or extremely freeing. I personally love budgets because they allow me to relax, knowing what funds I have to work with for whatever I’m budgeting. In this edition of Tips, I’m going to dissect some common wedding budget issues and tell you how to avoid budget blunders! The average cost of a wedding in the United States in 2016 was $35,000.00. Regardless of the amount, there is a proper way to approach how you use your wedding funds. Too often, I talk with couples who forget to consider the big picture before making one or more of their wedding pur-

chases. By the time they figure out that they’ve used too much in one area to have enough for everything, it's too late and they aren’t left with the ability to really style their celebration and make it a unique affair.

Nothing makes me more sad than when a couple tells me that they used half of their budget to book their venue and that particular one is basically 4 walls…no food, beverage, linens, lighting, flowers or anything! This is totally fine if you are still left with ENOUGH funds to book the average 15 remaining vendors for your Dream Wedding. I can’t tell you what your budget should be or what percentage of your overall funds you should allocate for each category. What I can do is educate you about the average cost of essential wedding vendors so that you’re not surprised when you begin reaching out for pricing and YOU are empowered to effectively manage your wedding budget.

Bring It Together In summary, follow these 4 simple steps before you use any part of your wedding budget. First, get an idea of your total guest count. Second, decide on your total budget amount, based on the number of people you'll have attending and what type of venues accommodate parties your size. Also, consider that you may have funds coming from different sources: yourselves, parents, grandparents, etc. Third, decide which vendors you need

to have for your Dream Wedding and prioritize by importance from your own perspective. Fourth and lastly, based on your guest count, allocate funds to each vendor or category you need to book. Use the list of average prices per vendor to get a feel for what you can afford. Also remember, the more elaborate your theme, the more expensive it will be to style it! Be realistic and don't forget...you get what you pay for!

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Wedding Vendor Average Costs There are ranges for everything. It's just like buying a car: The better the quality and more accessories, the more the car will cost. CEREMONY & RECEPTION VENUE (Not including catering/beverage) $3,000 - $11,000 CATERING & BEVERAGE $40 - $300 per person PLANNER DESIGNER $1,500 - $5,000 PHOTOGRAPHER $4,500 - $9,000 VIDEOGRAPHER $3,000 - $7,500 DRESS & ACCESSORIES $1,500 - $5,200 GROOM'S ATTIRE & ACCESSORIES $350 (Rental) $1,200 (Custom) WEDDING RINGS $400 - $2,500 (bands only) FLOWERS $4,000 - $9,500 DESIGN ELEMENTS & RENTALS $3,000 - $9,000 MUSIC & ENTERTAINMENT $1,750 - $3,500 CAKES & DESSERTS $7 - $17 per person PAPER SUITE (Invitations, etc.) $400 - $900 HAIR & MAKEUP $400 - $700 TRANSPORTATION $250 - $800 OFFICIANT $250.00 - $500 FAVORS & GIFTS $400 - $850 Again, all of these are averages. There will be vendors in each category that fall outside of these ranges, either way.

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oft and whimsical or bold and deep, this season’s pantone colors can be intermixed no matter what mood you’re trying to convey in your wedding styling. Want a neutral, light and romantic affair? Go heavier on the Hazelnut or pale dogwood. Want rich, opulent and striking designs? Add more layers of Tawny Port or Kale. They all pair beautifully so use all 4 colors for a balanced and interesting feel, whether you’re planning a wedding in the coming months or a year from now. Pantone’s forecasted colors are fantastic inspiration and just because you may be planning a future wedding, doesn’t mean you can’t use the chosen colors of now. photography ASHLEY GERRITY PHOTOGRAPHY To find out more information and see more work from the vendors pictured above, check out our feature and styled inspiration pages in this issue!

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every decision you make is ultimately driven by the question: “How will this look in the photos?” Obviously your own look (Dress, hair style, skin, etc.) holds the most weight. You want to look back on your wedding photos and fall in love with them every single time. You want to feel like you looked your very best.

Powder Application Puff

If your powder doesn’t come with a little puff, this is something you’ll want to have to be able to powder your face. Rather than rubbing or sweeping, gently press across the skin to keep makeup looking fresh.

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Blotting Papers

These are great for quick & gentle shine touch ups and they’re super easy to use during the wedding day. You can get these at most drug stores and they come in easy to store packs.

So we sat down with Maggie King from Mkup the Beauty Studio to find out what she recommends you keep close-by to ensure you look your best throughout the entire day and are prepared for any beauty issues that may arise.

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Avoid powders with SPF in them. They can sometimes be too reflective and you end up with flashback in your photos!

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Lips

Rather than wearing only lipstick, use lip liner all over the lip and a lip stain for staying power and minimal touch-ups!

Bobby Pins & Clear Hair Ties

You probably already know why these are important to have. Trust me, you’ll be thankful they’re onhand if a curl comes loose!

Lash Adhesive/Glue

Your makeup artist will apply your false lashes during your bridal application but it’s definitely smart to keep extra glue on-hand in the event that part or all of your lashes peel or fall off. If others in your wedding party want to touch up their lashes, make sure to have disposables for hygiene reasons.

Compact Mirror

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SHOULD YOU GET MARRIED? Real questions to ask before you walk down the aisle. ait …what?! I’m in the middle of planning my wedding and BAM! You slap me with this question?!” Yep. Because we care. Dream Weddings is about so much more than having the most glorious, fairytale affair you were raised to believe is the culmination of your life. We want to challenge your thinking and belief so that you, when you do have your Cinderella Dream Wedding that you’ve been planning since you were 5, are having it for the right reasons. So let’s get into this, shall we? Whenever something has a 50% success rate, paired with an equal likelihood of hurting you in some way, you question its worthwhileness. As you absolutely should! For example: If 50% of all air planes that flew anywhere crashed, you’d likely figure out a different means to make it to your destination! Although for some reason, we (as a society) don’t question this when it comes to marriage. Even though the statistic is, and has been for some time, that somewhere between 45-60% of all marriages in the United States end in divorce. Not the “glad we tried this but we’re better as friends” kind of divorce. No, much more like the, “I expected this to be Happily Ever After and surprisingly, you weren’t perfect so now I’m going to find ways to gut you, spit on you and ultimately ruin you in every way possible before I leave” kind of divorce. So what are we doing people?! Take a step back. You owe it to yourself and to whomever you think you’re going to share any part of your journey with to ask some seriously real questions. Not only that, but you also

need to be sure to create a space where you and your potential future partner can truly be honest with each other. The intention is not to hurt one another. The intention is to be kind through opening up. We’re so used to projecting in our society. Projecting our feelings (making someone else responsible for them), projecting an image of our life (how dare we not be living the dream every. single. day.) Hello annoying Facebook posts! “Why is everyone’s life but mine so perfect all the time?!” News flash… it’s not! And the people who are truly getting the most out of life are the ones who realize that they must stop projecting and start looking inward.

“The people who are truly getting the most out of this life are the ones who realize they must stop projecting and start looking inward.” So what are some questions you can ask yourself as well as your partner to begin exploring whether or not this getting married is the RIGHT thing for you? Here you go: Question 1: Do you believe that you are capable of 100% fulfilling every one of your partner’s needs or desires for the rest of your

lives? Thought point: The real question here is: “Is ANYONE capable of this?” Think of all of your relationships, romantic or not. Does each one of those relationships bring something unique and valuable to your life? Will you be free and encouraged by your partner to not only retain those relationships but also explore new ones to see what kind of connections and value you can both give to and receive from others after you are married?

Question 3: Who is responsible for your happiness? Thought point: The most common assumption is that marriage is a means to happiness. Otherwise, why would we be so eager to do it? We think that the false sense of security that the ring and license provide us will help us to more freely move through life, attaining happier experiences. But in reality, it’s the exact opposite. It ends up being restrictive because we begin exercising possessiveness since a piece of paper now tells us: “This person is MINE.” Hold up! Understand that you never OWN anything or anyone. You might not wake up tomorrow and then what? What did you ever truly HAVE? Once you realize that you never really have or own anything and this journey is so much more about soaking up the moment-to-moment experience of living, you can only come to the conclusion that feeling happy (or having any emotion really) is entirely YOUR

choice. It is not your partner’s responsibility to make you feel any way through his or her actions or words. It’s YOUR responsibility to have the experience you want to have while you’re alive. So YOU choose your happiness, your grief, your worry, your path…ALL OF IT. Here’s the thing (and I’ll leave you with this): By now, you can probably get a sense that the person writing this isn’t naive or inexperienced. I’m not. I’ve personally been married for 8 years. Those years have been the messiest, sweetest, hardest, loveliest years of my life. If I had to sum up those years in one word, I would confidently use the word “CHALLENGING”. But out of the challenge, I’ve grown into a much better version of myself than I was prior. I’ve learned to embrace the difficult, savor the sweet and be grateful for all of it. Not perfectly of course, the learning never ends in this life. But if I can offer you some perspective from my own journey, it’s almost like I’m allowing you to time travel. Trust me when I say this: Open up NOW. Have the conversations NOW. Allow complete honesty NOW and should you still choose to get married, you’ll be starting off in a better spot than those who are too afraid to be real. dream weddings | fall 2017

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Question 2: Do you have real love for your partner or is what you have attraction, lust or excitement? Thought point: This question is not to make you feel guilty or scared. Attraction, lust and excitement are equally important parts of the human experience and it’s OKAY to enjoy them. But love…REAL LOVE is a totally different thing. It’s not possessive, jealous or restrictive. It’s free of resentment, trusting, confident, expanding. This means that if what you have is real love, you should only want experiences for your partner that will help him or her to grow and get their most out of their experience…even if that means you’re not included in all of those experiences.

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The Custom Studio App allows you to design your very own engagement ring, wedding bands and other jewelry, which we then create for you. Whether you’re using the Custom Studio Kiosk in our store or you download the app so you can design right from your home, you can create something as special and unique as the love you share!

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LANCAS T E R W E D D I N G S

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1 . Rustic Chic

Contemporary barn weddings are all the rage right now, and what better place to find the perfect, affordable venue than the scenic farmland of Lancaster County? At a fraction of the big city costs, and with a variety of options for you to choose from you have nothing to lose.

2 . Something Old...

Lancaster is know for antiquing. Take some time and explore the county for a one-of-a-kind piece of jewlery to wear with your dress. Or find unqiue items to create centerpieces or decorations to customize your venue.

3 . All In The family

Family style meals are very popular in Pennsylvania Dutch culture. Tie this tradition into your special day... because after all you’re all family now!

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4 . farm Fresh

Some caterers in the area will work with local farmers or co-ops for ingredients, making each dish as authentic as possible. This allows your out-of-town guests to try the real tastes of Lancaster. You can serve traditional PA Dutch dishes or use local ingredients to make creative culinary masterpieces.

5 . What a View. . .

Lancaster County is full of lush farmland, rolling hills, and countless vistas to give your day the perfect backdrop reguardless of the time of year. Each season has its own special qualities and charms.

6 . Kick up your heels

The music scene in Lancaster is great! With such a variety of local bands and musicians you are sure to find someone to get your guests up and groovin’.

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7. Three Cheers

With a brewing history that earned Lancaster the nickname of “Little Munich of America,” why not serve your guests local libations? We have a variety of local breweries, wineries, and distilleries for you to choose from!

8. Wild at hearT

Using seasonal blooms can save you quite a bit. Check what grows locally before setting your heart on having peonies in October.

9. Pucker up

Covered bridges, also know as kissing bridges create a classic Lancaster County photo location.

10. whoopie!

Whoopie pies make a great favor. They are an authentic Lancaster treat that will leave your guest whooping for joy!

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bride ’s planning guide

A wedding can be the most exciting time in a bride’s life but it can also become overwhelming rather quickly! With so much to accomplish before your dream day, it’s easy to panic over everything on your to-do list. Whether you’re planning your wedding in one month or over two years, let us help take the stress out of the planning process. Follow this step-by-step guide and you’ll easily be able to enjoy your Dream Wedding! Now take a deep breath and let your bridal anxiety melt away.

STEP ONE _ Determine your budget _ Choose more than one possible wedding date _ Based on your budget, determine your guest count _ Pick and view several ceremony and reception venues that align with your theme (keep your guest count in mind and make sure the venues can accommodate) _ Set your wedding date STEP TWO _ Select the members of your bridal party _ Choose a bridal gown to go with your theme and season _ Begin conceptualizing groom and wedding party attire _ Establish a wedding registry _ Send out save-the-dates

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STEP THREE _ Hire your Dream Team (see next page) _ Arrange consultations with your Dream Teamers _ Schedule food and cake tastings _ Reserve a block of rooms at a local hotel for your out-of-town guests _ Send out invitations _ Book rehearsal dinner venue STEP FOUR _ Obtain a marriage license (Important!) _ Complete reception seating chart _ Schedule a final fitting for your Dream gown _ Finalize preparations for the rehearsal dinner _ Pack for your honeymoon (Don’t forget a passport if you’re traveling internationally!)

bride ’s checklist

Venue? √ Gown? √ Panic? √ There are so many little details that go into planning a Dream Wedding and it can become overwhelming rather quickly. This checklist will ensure your Dream Team is complete. They can worry about all the pesky little details so you can simply enjoy your special day. Worry free wedding? √

DREAM TEAM _ Beauty Treatments _ Bridal Gown & Accessories _ Groom’s Attire & Accessories _ Alterations & Design _ Cakery _ Caterer (including rehearsal dinner, cocktail hour & reception) _ Cosmetic Dentistry _ Dance Lessons (for the first dance!) _ Décor, Linens & Lighting _ Favors & Attendant Gifts _ Fitness & Weight Loss _ Florist (ceremony & reception) _ Hair & Makeup (for you & your bridal party) _ Hotel Accommodations _ Jeweler (bride, bridesmaids, wedding bands, groom, groomsmen, parents, etc.) _ Music (ceremony & reception) _ Officiant _ Paper (invitations, save-the-date cards, programs, menus, seating cards, thank you notes, etc.)

_ Photo Booth _ Photographer _ Rental Accessories _ Transportation (to & from reception for you and your guests) _ Venue (ceremony & reception) _ Videographer _ Wedding Stylist & Planner (A must!) FOR THE BRIDE _ Gown _ Reception Gown (if applicable) _ Veil or Headpiece _ Shoes (think comfort for the reception) _ Handbag _ Jewelry _ Makeup _ Bouquet _ Something Old, New, Borrowed & Blue _ Garter (2) _ Lingerie _ Bridal Emergency Kit

FOR THE GROOM _ Attire _ Shoes & Socks _ Accessories (watch, cuff links, etc.) _ Boutonniere WEDDING PARTY _ Bridesmaid Dresses, Accessories & Shoes (think comfort for the reception!) _ Hair & Makeup _ Bouquets _ Groomsmen Attire, Accessories & Shoes _ Boutonniere _ Flower Girl / Ring Bearer Attire, Accessories & Shoes _ Wedding Party Gifts

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