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The gift of giving
Volunteering teaches your children gratitude and demonstrates the benefits of giving back.
14 Skip the buzz, keep the flavor Restaurants are serving up delicious non-alcoholic cocktails.
18 12 events of Christmas Family-friendly holiday fun for everyone.
28 Guide to Special Needs Resources in NH departments 2 From the editor’s desk 4 The short list 6 I want that 12 Tween us parents 24 My turn 39 Dad on board 40 Never a dull moment 41 House calls 42 Out & about 44 Time out
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from the editor’s desk ZEN AND THE ART OF MAKING COOKIES Baking allows you to express yourself, which studies show can lead to a better sense of well-being. Baking compels you to be mindful and to focus on the task at hand. It requires that you shut off your brain and the outside world and remain in the moment. For me, it is one of the best, relaxing feelings in the world. I want you to have that feeling. I was lucky enough to have a mother that taught me the baking basics at a young age. But whether you were born wearing an apron or are a baking novice, you too can feel the Zen. Baking is as easy or as difficult as you want it to be. Check out YouTube for tutorials. Search the internet for easy recipes — a great peanut butter cookie can be made with only 1 egg, 1 cup of peanut butter and 1 cup of sugar. You also don’t need a from-scratch recipe. Call in the Pillsbury Dough Boy for help. Slice up a roll of sugar cookie dough, bake and add your own sprinkles and frosting. There’s also a selection of mixes to choose from that requires only some oil and an egg. Finding your Zen has everything to do with the creative process, not your prowess in the kitchen. While you are at it, grab a helper. Even the smallest of kids can help decorate. Your child will enjoy spending time with you in the kitchen doing something fun, and they — or maybe both of you — will also be learning life skills. Everyone needs to know how to read a set of directions, and feed themselves. When I bake, I’m almost always baking for family, friends or co-workers. In addition to all the good feelings I get creating the baked goods, they multiply when I am able to share what I make with others. Practice altruism by giving some baked goods to one of your older neighbors. Spreading joy is contagious and after your child sees the neighbor’s face light up, your child will want to do it again. ( For more advice on teaching giving to your child, go to Page 8). It’s getting closer to my annual Christmas cookie baking marathon. For many years, I have set aside 48 hours in mid-December when I make all the cookies I will give as gifts. Dozens and dozens of cookies will be piled high waiting to be assembled for delivery. I’m excited to know that I’ll once again be feeling that Zen. Baking cookies for others this time of year is as much a gift for me as it is for those on the recipient list. Happy holidays to you and yours.
MELANIE HITCHCOCK, EDITOR
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contributors • DECEMBER KRYSTEN GODFREY MADDOCKS is a former journalist and marketing director who now regularly writes for higher education and technology organizations in New Hampshire and Massachusetts. Mom to 4-year-old Everett, she has lived in the Seacoast for the past 20 years. MICHELLE LAHEY is a food writer who has been writing about (and eating) food in New Hampshire for over 10 years. Outside of food, you can find her sipping on a good IPA, correcting other people’s grammar, or hiking in the White Mountains. KATHLEEN PALMER is an award-winning editor and journalist, marketing/communications content writer, and occasional comedic actress. Nothing makes her happier than making people laugh. She is a single mom to a teenage daughter. Check out her column, Never a Dull Moment.
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NH Every fall, the New Hampshire Council on Developmental Disabilities and ParentingNH partner to produce the magazine, Stepping Stones: A Guidebook for People with Disabilities, their Families and the Professionals who Support Them. Decour and tw cn We’ve included the Resource Guide from the 2019 — 20 edition of Stepping Stones in this issue. To see a digital edition of Stepping Stones, go to www.parentingnh. com.
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CELEBRATE THE SEASON Parades, strolls and festivals are taking place throughout the Granite State through December. Check out PNH’s online-exclusive content at www.parentingnh.com to help you make a list of places to take your family to this month — and be sure to check it twice.
You’ve heard of Black Friday and Cyber Monday, but what about Giving Tuesday? Giving Tuesday, which follows the two major holiday shopping days, “is a global generosity movement unleashing the power of people and organizations to transform their communities and the world.”
Started in 2012, the day is an opportunity to give back to your local community. This year the day falls on Dec. 3. Go to www.givingtuesday.org to search its database of individuals and groups you can support this holiday season. You can also search for “giving tuesday new hampshire” on Facebook.
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Nominate a parent for NH Children’s Trust’s Unsung Hero Awards Do you know a parent or caregiver who shows one or more of these Protective Factors? • Ability to bounce back from stress (Parental Resilience) • A strong support system (Social Connections) • Understands their child’s developmental needs (Knowledge of Parenting and Child Development) • Shows empathy and support toward their child’s feelings (Social and Emotional Competence of Children) • Not afraid to ask for help or receive help (Concrete Support in Times of Need) Nominate a parent who may have overcome adversity, is a role model to other parents or whose parenting comes with ease. The Unsung Hero Award will recognize 29 parents for the 29 days of February, Parent Recognition Month. Parents are defined as dual parents, single parents, grandparents, foster or adoptive parents. All nominations are due Dec. 15, 2019. Go to www.nhchildrenstrust.org.
Ice Castles returning with enchanted forest walk A popular tourist attraction in New Hampshire will return to the White Mountains for its sixth season this winter. In addition to its iconic glowing castles of ice, this season the attraction will add an enchanted forest walk at its location in North Woodstock. The walking path through the forest will include various ice sculptures and unique photo opportunities for guests. Visitors can also take a horse-drawn sleigh ride around the attraction and through the forest, as well. Ice Castles is a frozen attraction built entirely by hand. It features ice-carved tunnels, fountains, slides, frozen thrones, towers and archways all embedded with LED lights that twinkle to music at night. The winter playground is projected to open in early January. For more information go to www. icecastles.com
Four Granite State Teachers win national award New Hampshire Education Commissioner Frank Edelblut recently congratulated a quartet of New Hampshire teachers who were recognized with the Presidential Award for Excellence in Mathematics and Science Teaching (PAEMST). Winners for 2017 and 2018 include: • Elise Catalano, who received the award for her work at Rye Junior High and now teaches seventh-grade math at Cooperative Middle School in Exeter. • Angela Lennox, who recently retired from Exeter High School. This is her second time receiving the PAEMST.
WINDHAM BUSINESS OWNER WINS $20K IN ‘PITCH TO WIN’ CONTEST Five months and more than 3,300 submissions after Nationwide and BlueVine unveiled the “Pitch To Win” contest, seven finalists traveled to Nationwide’s headquarters in Columbus, Ohio, in October to make their pitches in person to an executive panel of judges. Buckle Me Baby Coats, founded by Dahlia Rizk, was awarded $20,000 in the contest. The Windham business produces children’s coats designed for safer car seat use that make it easy for parents to adhere to NHTSA and American Academy of Pediatrics guidelines while keeping their children secure without removing coats. For more information, go to www.bucklemecoats.com.
• Bryan Smith, a fourth-grade teacher at Bethlehem Elementary School. • Gregory Snoke, a sixth-grade teacher at Captain Samuel Douglass Academy in Brookline. Established by Congress in 1983, the Presidential Awards for Excellence in Mathematics and Science Teaching (PAEMST) is the highest recognition that a kindergarten through 12th-grade science, technology, engineering, mathematics, and/or computer science teacher may receive for outstanding teaching in the United States.
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I want that HOLIDAY EDITION COMPILED BY MELANIE HITCHCOCK
The parents-to-be Record the first step, first words, first tooth, first haircut, first birthday and more with this gender neutral baby journal by Write to Me. Generous space for memories, photos and milestones from pregnancy through age 5. This guided journal will become a cherished keepsake of a treasured time. FIND IT AT WWW.WRITETOME SHOP.COM; $44.95
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The sports fan StadiumViews: 3D Stadium Wall Art replicas pay tribute to some of the most beloved professional and college sports stadiums. Precision-cut pieces of wood are layered to create an aerial, threedimensional effect. Hand-drawn details finish off these framed and ready-to-hang designs. FIND IT AT WWW.THEGROMMET.COM; $249.99
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The gift of Volunteering at a young age paves the way for a lifetime of doing BY KRYSTEN GODFREY MADDOCKS
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any parents are discovering that one way to introduce children to the concept of gratitude and help them build empathy is through volunteering. Volunteering doesn’t have to be formal, regularly scheduled, or associated with an organization. Volunteering can mean shoveling a driveway for an elderly neighbor or donating to a food drive. Parents can model what volunteering looks like so that it becomes part of a child’s life, said Gretchen Stallings, executive director for Volunteer New Hampshire. The organization’s mission is to ensure that people of all ages, abilities, economic situations, and walks of life have access to volunteer service. “It’s never too early. If you live a life of service, they follow along, and we can include them there with us,” she said. More Americans than ever are volunteering, according to a recent federal study released by the Corporation for National and Community Service (CNCS), the federal agency that oversees AmeriCorps and Senior Corps. The 2018 Volunteering in America report found that 77.34 million adults (30.3%) volunteered through an organization last year. Altogether, Americans volunteered nearly 6.9 billion hours, worth an estimated $167 billion in economic value. Millions more are supporting friends and family (43.1%) and
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doing favors for their neighbors (51.4%), suggesting that many are engaged in acts of “informal volunteering,” the report said.
MAKE IT A FAMILY AFFAIR Amanda Weeden of Rochester involves all four of her children, ages 12, 8, 7, and 4 in regular volunteer work. A homeschooling family, the Weedens have the flexibility to lend a hand as part of their day. It was two years ago that the family first volunteered to help with a Sunday church service at Rochester Manor, a Genesis Health Care assisted living facility for the elderly, through True Memorial Baptist Church. Their first visit to Rochester Manor included gathering and wheeling residents down to a religious service. Since then, the family has visited regularly — making cards and delivering them to residents during holidays and bringing gifts like teddy bears, fresh socks and chocolate. “One dear one has become like family, and introduces me as her best friend,” Weeden said. “A lot of them don’t get visitors at all, so we are all they see. I’ve met some family members who are very grateful that we care. Most of them just want to talk, which we do.” Volunteerism also allows Weeden and her children -— one of whom has a disability — to practice their faith in the community. She heads up a small group of homeschooling families that help cut and portion baked
goods in preparation for her church’s Thanksgiving Day meal and meal delivery to homebound families, which collectively feeds more than 500 people. Her other volunteer activities include gathering food to bring to Gerry’s Food Pantry and bringing dresses to Lydia’s House of Hope. “For us, the reason why we do this is that I feel it’s important for children to be helpful and involved,” Weeden said. “We believe that Jesus set that example for us. He broke all kinds of barriers.”
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The elderly hold a special place in Weeden’s heart. Many older adults feel like they have been cast aside and are not valued anymore, she said. “I’m able to have these powerful conversations with them about how you treat people,” she said. “To me, that’s good parenting.” For other parents looking to volunteer with their children, Weeden suggests being mindful of other people in need, no matter where they might be. Engaging in developmentally appropriate conversations with your chil-
dren can help them understand that there are things they can do to help others less fortunate. She remembers one of her children noticing a child at a playground eating food off the ground and explaining to him that the child might be hungry, before asking: what can we do to help? “We’ve gone up to people who are obviously hungry and given them bags full of food that we’ve just bought,” Weeden said.
DO YOU WANT TO VOLUNTEER? HERE’S WHERE TO START If you are looking for a way for your family to dip their toes into the world of volunteering, but you aren’t sure which organization you might be interested in helping, go to www.volunteernh.org to search volunteer opportunities on the Get Connected database, and home in on opportunities by applying filters. Volunteer NH and Granite United Way partnered on Get Connected, an online hub for volunteerism in New Hampshire. Volunteers can use Get Connected to find nearby opportunities that fit their interests and schedules. Nonprofits use it to attract, manage and report on volunteer activities in their organizations. Needs are searchable and categorized by location, organization and/or focus (such as animals, disaster relief, etc.) Gretchen Stallings, executive director of Volunteer New Hampshire, provides these suggestions for parents who want to guide their children in developing and building the spirit of volunteerism: • Bake cupcakes with your children and bring them to new neighbors. • Do a monthly “sweep” of your children’s rooms. Have them pack up items they no longer use and donate to Goodwill. • Ask your child to check to see if a neighbor needs his or her driveway shoveled. • Work at a local soup kitchen. • Get your children involved in organizations like the Girl Scouts, Boy Scouts, or 4-H, which all participate in numerous volunteer efforts. • With older children, encourage them to get involved in schoolbased volunteer organizations.
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She also suggests directly calling organizations that touch your heart. If they have space for you, they’ll let you know, she said.
DO WHAT YOU LIKE AND BELIEVE IN Sarah DeLitta of Derry is a single mom with a full-time sales job who spends her free time on the field cheering on athletes with intellectual disabilities as a volunteer for Special Olympics of New Hampshire. She does not have a family member who participates in any of the events, nor does anyone close to her live with an intellectual disability. DeLitta said she was drawn to volunteer for the organization after shadowing her mother, who was a home health nurse, and later, after working with special needs students in Arizona. When she moved to New Hampshire several years ago, she reached out to SONH and has been volunteering at their events for the past decade. Her 6-year-old daughter Elizabeth stays by her side as they help pass out awards at bowling tournaments, basketball tournaments, and the annual SONH Summer Games. “I kind of had this urge to do it. Maybe it’s because my mom was a home health nurse and would visit disabled children. She would bring me along sometimes,” she said. “SONH is contagious, and if there is an event going on, I can’t pass on it and sit at home. I feel like I need to be there to help in any way I can. It’s my one small way of helping — I don’t have a ton of money.” Families who volunteer at SONH events are never split up, which supports parents bringing their children along. DeLitta suggests that families pick something that they all enjoy — whether it’s golf, football or skiing. That way they can volunteer at an event in which they have an interest. Families can volunteer for as
little as two hours to test the waters, she said. “It’s hard to look outside of our own world sometimes, and if you do that as a family it shows the kids that parents are willing to dedicate some time even though they are busy,” she said. “It also gives the family something different to talk about and reflect on…and I think that the kids just get a sense of…I just did something awesome today.”
VOLUNTEER AT ANY AGE Julia Tilton, 17, of Amherst was introduced to volunteerism through her involvement with the Girl Scouts of the Green and White Mountains. A senior at The Derryfield School in Manchester, Tilton recently earned the highest Girl Scout honor, the Gold Award, for creating a program called A Mindful Girl. Tilton dedicated about 200 hours of volunteer time to conduct research and create a curriculum that educates girls about how to navigate social media. Tilton was recognized in November by Volunteer NH at its annual Spirit of NH Awards event, where she received the Outstanding Volunteer Service Award in the Youth/Young Adult category. Awards are given to one recipient in each of category to highlight the volunteers and champions who exemplify the power of volunteers in New Hampshire. Through creating and presenting A Mindful Girl — which is now a Girl Scout patch Girl Scouts in New Hampshire and Vermont can earn — Tilton has been able to visit leaders in both states to talk to them about how they can help girls in their group have healthy and happy experiences with social media. To earn the patch, girls complete age-appropriate activities that address the concepts of self-worth, mindfulness, healthy friendships, and avoid-
Additional resources • Corporation for National and Community Service: www.nationalservice.org • Kids Giving Back is a charity offering programs for children 6-18 years old and their families that provides opportunities to assist vulnerable people in the community through work with charities. https://kidsgivingback.org • DoSomething.org mobilizes young people in every US area code and in 131 countries. Sign up for a volunteer, social change, or civic action campaign to make real-world impact on a cause you care about. www.dosomething.org
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• generationOn provides programs, tools and resources to engage kids and teens in service and volunteering. www.generationon.org • Youth Service America (YSA) delivers all programs to youth, educators, community organizations, and families through its Global Youth Service Network (GYSN) partners. The GYSN is a coalition of local, state, national, and international organizations committed to engaging children and youth as leaders through volunteering, community service, service-learning, national service, and voting/civic engagement. www.ysa.org
Why children should volunteer Volunteering at an early age can create positive life behaviors. Children who volunteer are three times more likely to volunteer as adults. Steady volunteering, even at a minimum of one hour a week, reduces negative behaviors. For example, youth who volunteer are 50% less like likely to abuse drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, or engage in destructive behavior. It’s never too early to start to volunteer. Children have many opportunities to help their communities.
THROUGH VOLUNTEERING YOUTH LEARN TO: • Respect others • Be helpful and kind • Understand people who are different from themselves • Develop leadership skills • Become more patient • Gain a better understanding of good citizenship — Courtesy of Corporation for National and Community Service (www.nationalservice.org)
ing negative thinking. She’s even presented her program at Sangam, a World Centre operated by the World Association of Girl Guides and Girl Scouts in India. “There wasn’t anything out there preparing girls for this totally uncharted world of social media. As girls enter middle school, they start to join Instagram or Snapchat. I felt like there wasn’t anything preparing them for what to expect, how to act online, or how to deal with the stress caused by online factors,” she said. Tilton extends her service to the council by serving as a Girl Scout representative on its Board of Directors. She also finds time to volunteer at Girls, Inc. Her “gIRL: Girls In Real Life" program was developed as a weeklong after-school curriculum for second- through fifth-graders. She ran that program twice at Girls Inc. in Manchester. It is now being used at Girls Inc. centers throughout New Hampshire and during after-school programming throughout the state. “My advice (for teens) is figure out one or two things that you are interested in and look at those a little deeper. You should think of it as an opportunity to do something you like while you are helping out your community,” she said. Krysten Godfrey Maddocks has worked as a journalist and in marketing roles throughout the Granite State.
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This month’s question:
Do you give your child money to buy holiday gifts? Whether they are using your money or their own, do you set spending limits? COMPILED BY KATHLEEN PALMER
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ost of us will have gift-giving obligations this month. As a parent of an older kid who might not be old enough to earn their own money, it can be a frustrating additional onus on you to purchase gifts “from” them for family and friends, and/or determining a reasonable spending limit for them to stick to when using your hard-earned pay to choose items themselves. Our panelists tell us about their holiday gift-giving strategies. This month’s panel: Steve K. of Auburn • Liz H. of Sandown • Lisa M. of Merrimack • Mike C. of Hollis
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The holidays are a non-stop barrage of presents at our house. We celebrate both Hanukkah and Christmas to keep all the relatives happy. This year, the two are squashed into the same time period, which will be hella-convenient for us. When it comes to gifts, we recommend that our extended families look at our kid’s Amazon wish list. They don’t have to buy from there, but that’s the convenient place for us to aggregate possibilities. We prefer no cash gifts because there is too much temptation to buy in the moment. Gift cards are always a good bet, giving our daughter the opportunity to choose something on or off her list. An advantage is that the gift card balance goes into our parental accounts, so we can maintain some parental purchasing authority. It also lets us to chip in, if we want. Our daughter is pretty content with that set-up, except… lately, we’ve had to use our best parental persuasion tactics to keep her impulses in check. Our new cat, Mochi, has been the recipient of our daughter’s largesse. Fragments of cheap cat toys are strewn across our living room, with more to come. That’s a sure sign the holidays are near.
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» SANDOWN, AGE 41
Married with three daughters, ages 8, 14 and 16
EARN IT THEMSELVES. The girls spend their own money on immediate family (the five of us). It’s usually small, but thought out. They also help me shop for their sisters, which I think they enjoy. They are just as excited for a sister to open a specific present as they are their own! Last year, we ran in to my oldest wanting to get gifts for everyone she was friends with at school and theater. She baked cookies and packaged them up cute (I’m sure we paid for the supplies for the cookies). Anyone extra — boyfriend, close friends — that’s absolutely on them. If girls want money to buy gifts (which I expect will happen this year), we will absolutely give jobs for them to earn it. Oldest scooped ice cream all summer and saved money; middle makes dog treats and saves that. I’m much happier to help them earn money than just hand it over. Finally, we also do “service gifts” as a family. Last Christmas, we volunteered at Food for Kids in Manchester on the day they distributed Toys for Tots. I want all three to appreciate the value of money, how blessed they are and how much need is out there.
Neither have official jobs yet. They do chores around the house and at their grandparents’ house, but they usually spend [the money] on themselves as quickly as it comes in. They both want jobs, but we are putting a focus more on school work, sports and being a kid. They have their whole adult lives to work. I think there should always be a limit. I want them to have things they want but also things they need. I give them about $25 apiece to spend on each other. They provide me input on what they would like to get their father and I try to keep that around $50. If it was something really cool, I would consider increasing the budget to accommodate, within reason.
Mike C.
» HOLLIS, AGE 50
Married with three kids, ages 14, 18 and 20
GIFTS AREN’T THE FOCUS. Holiday spending limits or providing shopping money has never been an issue in our household because we’ve never pushed the over-consumerism aspects of the holidays. Our holidays have always been about family time, visiting relatives, and sharing a meal. We’re probably horrible parents, but our kids have always gotten very few gifts — a few articles of clothing from us, a “big toy” from Santa (usually $50-$100 range) and a smaller toy from us (usually a board game or something that promotes group activity). If we do splurge, it’s on a family activity — a day trip, or a show, or a day sledding or skiing. Opening presents is over in about 10 minutes because it’s three or four gifts per kid. Given that, they’ve probably rarely considered buying gifts for each other, because Christmas is about more than gifts. One of the most anticipated and cherished activities is an annual cookie decorating party, hosted by a relative. A tradition since they were toddlers, the dozen-plus now teen to 20-yearold cousins take time away from school, jobs, and commitments for a day of hanging out and enjoying each other’s company. Oh, and bingeing on cookies. What we lack in presents, we make up for in food. Holidays are usually about some feast, frequently with extended family and friends. We have always included our kids in the planning and preparation of holiday feasts, so they now each have favorite dishes they want to prepare, and holidays are usually the lot of us crowded around the kitchen whipping up some delicacies to share. Gifts are great, but it’s more important to teach them to keep focus on what matters: having a family, people that care for you, a meal, and having a place to live. www.parentingnh.com
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is the season to be merry, but that doesn’t mean all your merriment needs to be accompanied by a hangover. “Mocktails” are making sobriety look cool again, and there are plenty of places around the state stirring up delicious con-
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coctions without the booze. So whether you’re looking to take the night off or you’re just not into the “spirit,” here are some drinks you can find at restaurants across the Granite State that are worth sipping this holiday season (and beyond).
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New choices add merriment to non-alcoholic beverages this holiday season BY MICHELLE LAHEY
Sober Old-Fashioned 3 ounces iced Lapsang Souchong tea ½ ounce cherry juice
Viridescent Greenleaf 54 Nashua St., Milford 213-5447; www.greenleafmilford.com Why it’s worth sipping: Having this refreshing blend of cucumber, tamarind, and lime juice on the menu at Greenleaf is great for those of us indulging in mocktails, but really, almost any cocktail at this establishment can be made virgin or with lower alcohol. “Having non-alcoholic options other than sodas is really important to me,” said Tiffanie Austin, bar manager. “It’s a fun way to be a part of the group when you’re not drinking.”
Prickly Pear 110 Grill Stratham, Manchester, Rochester, West Lebanon, Nashua www.110grill.com Why it’s worth sipping: As 110 Grill phrases it, this liquefied treat is “without the buzz.” Made with housemade blackberry syrup, pear nectar, and topped with Sprite, this inventive concoction will have you forgetting booze even exists. (Especially because this drink costs a mere $4.) If blackberry and pear isn’t your idea of a tasty combination, 110 Grill also offers a Raspberry Lime Rickey for the same price, made with raspberry syrup, lime juice and Sprite.
Pearl Pure Sodas Pearl Restaurant and Oyster Bar Monadnock Community Plaza, 1 Jaffrey Road, Peterborough 924-5225; www.pearl-peterborough.com Why they’re worth sipping: You’re always being told to eat more fruit, so why not sip on fruit
while getting your fill of fresh seafood? At the Pearl, you can do just that. Their housemade “sodas” combine currently-available-fresh-fruit purees with carbonated water — and no added sugar. Refreshing, healthy and hangover-free.
Sober Old-Fashioned Botanica Restaurant and Gin Bar 110 Brewery Lane, Suite 105, Portsmouth 373-0979; www.botanicanh.com Why it’s worth sipping: Craving one of your favorite cocktails — but eager to avoid the morning-after headache? At Botanica, the old-fashioned is just one traditional cocktail that can be made alcohol-free. “One problem I have with a lot of mocktails is sweetness,” said Brendan Vesey, chef and owner. “I like to use teas and other infusions to get the herbal and tannic notes of spirits without the alcohol.” The alcohol-free old-fashioned is made with iced Lapsang Souchong tea and cherry juice to help it not only taste like the signature drink, but also look like it, too.
2 ounces Fever Tree tonic water Orange slice garnish Stir together iced tea and cherry juice with ice; strain into a rocks glass over a big ice cube and top with tonic and orange slice. RECIPE PROVIDED BY BRENDAN VESEY OF BOTANICA RESTAURANT AND GIN BAR IN PORTSMOUTH
Green Acre “Just Maple” Cream Soda Republic Café 1069 Elm St., Manchester 666-3723; www.republiccafe.com Why it’s worth sipping: Republic Café has a small yet mighty variety of spritzes on their menu, ranging from fruit-forward to creambased (and they also offer an IPA from Athletic Brewing, a Connecticut-based non-alcoholic brewery). The “Just Maple” Cream Soda stands out as unique, yet decadent. It’s made with New Hampshire amber maple syrup, cream from Hatchland Farm in North Haverhill, and soda. Drink it for dessert or pair it with your meal.
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New Hampshire’s Official Mocktail THE NEW HAMPSHIRE LIQUOR COMMISSION, AS PART OF ITS LIVE FREE & HOST RESPONSIBLY PARTNERSHIP WITH BROWN-FORMAN, ONE OF THE LARGEST AMERICAN-OWNED WINE AND SPIRITS COMPANIES, LAUNCHED THE FIRST-EVER NEW HAMPSHIRE MOCKTAIL WEEK WITH THE MOCKTAIL PROJECT. IN NOVEMBER, BARS AND RESTAURANTS WERE ENCOURAGED TO CONCOCT A SIGNATURE MOCKTAIL “TO HELP CREATE A STIGMA-FREE, MORE INCLUSIVE DRINKING CULTURE.” ON ITS WEBSITE (WWW.LIQUORANDWINEOUTLETS. COM), THE NHLC SAID, “WE WANT TO BE WELCOMING TO THOSE WHO EITHER CAN’T IMBIBE, MAKE THE PERSONAL CHOICE NOT TO CONSUME ALCOHOL, OR WANT TO TAKE A BREAK FROM IMBIBING.”
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he Mocktail Project’s Jesse Hawkins created an official mocktail for New Hampshire Mocktail Week — named by E.J. Powers, of Montagne Communications and another partner in Live Free and Host Responsibly — called the Squam Sunset. Squam Sunset is a zero-proof mocktail using local ingredients so all can celebrate. An alternative option pairs well with Kentucky Bourbon for those who imbibe. To create this delicious mocktail recipe you’ll need just a few simple ingredients: local ginger ale, New Hampshire maple syrup, cinnamon simple syrup, lemons, and apples.
Squam Sunset 4 ounces of ginger ale (try New Hampshire favorite Squamscot Golden Ginger Ale) ¾ ounce New Hampshire maple syrup ½ ounce cinnamon simple syrup ½ ounce fresh lemon juice
Add ice into beaker or stirring glass. Add ingredients into the glass or beaker. Stir with bar spoon vigorously for 15-20 seconds. Using your strainer pour into your rocks glass over fresh ice. Garnish with an apple slice and serve.
REPRINTED FROM CELEBRATE NH • PHOTO BY DAN DRY
CINNAMON SIMPLE SYRUP
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To create your Cinnamon Simple Syrup add equal parts water and demarara sugar into a sauce pan (we recommend two cups). Add 5-8 cinnamon sticks depending on taste preference. Bring to a boil and let simmer for 45 minutes.
Mango Pineapple Coconut Signature Frozen Smoothie The Red Blazer 72 Manchester St., Concord 224-4101 www.theredblazer.com Why it’s worth sipping: The Red Blazer has several smoothie flavors including strawberry mango, tropical, and straight-up mango or strawberry, but the mango pineapple coconut is a rare treat. Blended with mango, pineapple, coconut cream, and ice cream, you’ll be transported to a tropical island in the dead of winter – without needing to consume extra calories from alcohol.
Triple Berry Fizz Stella Blu 70 E. Pearl St., Nashua 578-5557 www.stellablu-nh.com Why it’s worth sipping: No need to skirt the cocktail bars — many of them make non-alcoholic libations, too. Stella Blu is one such place, offering up an impressive handful of thoughtfully curated mocktails. “Our bartenders have decades of experience creating both alcoholic and non-alcoholic libations, as we pride ourselves on being able to serve our diverse customer base equally,” said owner Jeff Bois. The Triple Berry Fizz, for instance, is a puree of cherries, blueberries and strawberries with white cranberry, fresh lime and ginger beer. Michelle Lahey is a food writer who has been writing about (and eating) food in New Hampshire for over 10 years. Outside of food, you can find her sipping on a good IPA, correcting other people’s grammar, or hiking in the White Mountains.
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Shop ’til you drop with thousands of your friends, neighbors, and community members. Enjoy shopping, carolers, the s’mores station, see Santa, “elfie selfies” and more. This is an event for all ages, and it’s free. DOWNTOWN CONCORD WWW.INTOWNCONCORD.ORG
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Christmas at Canterbury Saturdays, Dec. 7 and 14; 3 to 8 p.m.
Christmas at Canterbury is a chance to experience the delights of Christmas in a simpler era. Watch an old-time 19th-century magic show, meet Father Christmas, make Christmas-inspired crafts, admire a toy train display or listen to fiddlers. Enjoy hot cider and sing Christmas carols as the Village Christmas tree is lit. CANTERBURY SHAKER VILLAGE 288 SHAKER ROAD, CANTERBURY WWW.SHAKERS.ORG
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Farmstead Christmas Saturday, Dec. 7 11 a.m. to 3 p.m.
Welcome the holidays by stepping back in time. Celebrate this most magical of seasons at the historic Remick Country Doctor Museum & Farm. Stroll the grounds, warm up by the hearth, help decorate the Cattle Barn Christmas tree, decorate and eat freshbaked sugar cookies and drink fire cider. Explore seasonal exhibits, try your hand at a craft, meet and greet the farm animals, and more.
REMICK COUNTRY DOCTOR MUSEUM & FARM 58 CLEVELAND HILL ROAD, TAMWORTH WWW.REMICK MUSEUM.ORG
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Wolfeboro Festival of Trees Dec. 7, 8, 11, 14, 15 — go to website for times
The 21st annual Wolfeboro Festival of Trees is a charity benefit featuring more than 65 trees, uniquely decorated by businesses and organizations, and displayed on two levels at the Wright Museum. In addition to the trees, the exhibit features continuous entertainment and light refreshments. WRIGHT MUSEUM, 77 CENTER ST., WOLFEBORO WWW. WOLFEBORO FESTIVALOF TREES.COM
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Holiday Art Stroll Saturday, Dec. 7 4 to 8 p.m.
Take a stroll down Hanover Street for the first-ever Holiday Art Stroll, featuring local artists and galleries. The event is free to the public. One major stop on the tour is the Spotlight Room at the Palace Theatre, featuring up to 10 different local artists and vendors. The Rhythm of New Hampshire Show Chorus will be caroling the night away for your entertainment. Free and open to the public.
DOWNTOWN MANCHESTER WWW.PALACETHEATRE.ORG
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Jingle Bell Express Saturdays, Dec. 7 and 14, 10:30-11:30 a.m., noon -1 p.m., 1:30-2:30 p.m. or 3-4 p.m.
Take a magical wintry journey to the Cocheco Country Club in the C&J double-decker bus to hear a reading of the classic children’s holiday story, The Polar Express by Chris Van Allsburg. Enjoy refreshments, receive a keepsake gift and a visit from a special guest. Pajamas are welcome! Tickets includes a digital family photo, time to explore the Museum and a make-and-take holiday craft. New this year: Sensory-friendly trip offered on Dec. 7 at 1:30 p.m. CHILDREN’S MUSEUM OF NEW HAMPSHIRE 6 WASHINGTON ST., DOVER WWW.CHILDRENS-MUSEUM.ORG
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Santa’s Big Party Dec. 7, 8, 14, 15, 21 and 22 — check website for times
Santa Claus is having a big party and you’re invited. To get to the party you must take a 30-minute horsedrawn ride through the Christmas trail to the secret party location. Santa will be spinning your favorite tunes and visiting with everyone who attends. Holiday performers and costumed characters will be there, too. Enjoy sugar cookies and hot cocoa around a bonfire.
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Rockapella Friday, Dec. 13 7 p.m.
Returning to the Stockbridge for their 17th performance, Rockapella has become one of the world’s most sophisticated, lasting, and imitated vocal groups around. Since they first achieved fame on PBS’s “Where In The World Is Carmen Sandiego?” they’ve toured the globe and provided a funky powerful soundtrack to several generations of vocal music fans, while keeping it all fresh along the way. STOCKBRIDGE THEATRE PINKERTON ACADEMY, DERRY 437-5210 WWW.STOCK BRIDGETHEATRE. COM
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Currier & Ives Cookie Tour Saturday, Dec. 14, 11 a.m. to 4 p.m.
Kick off your holiday season with the 15th annual Currier & Ives Cookie tour. Visit businesses to see how they decorate for Christmas and what they have to offer throughout the year. At each stop you will enjoy a homemade treat and refreshment. (Recipe cards provided.) A portion of the proceeds will be donated to End 68 Hours of Hunger.
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Christmas at Hogwarts Monday, Dec. 16 and Tuesday, Dec. 17 at 8 p.m.
Through Jan. 5 – go to website for times
It’s that time when New Hampshire Motor Speedway trades in the checkered flags for two million twinkly lights. The Gift of Lights, celebrating its ninth year, has become a family tradition. The 2.5-mile drive-thru light show features 520 displays, 80 different scenes, s’mores pit and photos with Santa.
The Boston Pops will perform their signature Sleigh Ride, as well as other holiday classics, and new arrangements of seasonal favorites. They will be joined by the Metropolitan Chorale. Santa Claus himself will make a guest appearance during the concert’s finale followed by the traditional Boston Pops Holiday sing-a-long to bring the evening to a close.
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Food allergies have taken a toll on my family, but social media has been my salvation BY COURTNEY JOHNSON
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t is impossible to understand how lonely food allergies are until you have a child that struggles with them.
Courtney Johnson is a YA Science Fiction writer and will graduate in 2020 from Southern New Hampshire University with a degree in creative writing and English. Courtney is a member of the International English Honor Society and the National Society of Leadership and Success. She lives in a small town in New Hampshire with her husband, three children, and crazy, but loveable dog.
Here I was holding my brand new baby, having no idea how hard and isolating this journey would be. I spent the first 6 months of her life leaning against the wall while she slept. The beautiful crib lay empty because she had to sleep sitting up. The doctor told me nothing was wrong even though she would vomit everything she ate. He said the full-body rash that bled and oozed was just baby acne and heat rash. When she ended up in the hospital with RSV (respiratory syncytial virus) that was the last straw. From there on I spent my life on the internet looking for the answer as to why this was happening. I found so many parents who were going through the same thing. I took control and found specialist after specialist until my daughter was diagnosed with food allergies, eczema, acid reflux and asthma. According to researchers at FARE (Food Allergy Research & Education; www.foodallergy.org.) 32 million Americans have food allergies, including 5.6 million children under age 18. That’s one in 13 children or roughly two in every classroom. If this is true, why is it that so many parents must go through what I did to help their children? Children and their families with food allergies are often left to fend for themselves, partly because we’re considered an inconvenience or we’re just misunderstood. After multiple skin tests and blood tests, we were handed a paper that listed all her food allergies then shoved out the door. “OK, now what?” I thought. With a list of allergies including eggs, soy, beef, dairy, shellfish, fish, tree-nuts, peanuts and gelatin I didn’t know how to safely feed my child. There was no
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more going out to eat, or easy-to-make meals. Food labels were the biggest hurdle. We had to avoid “may contain,” “processed in the factory,” and “made on shared equipment,” There are so many ways dairy can be written on a label — whey, dried milk, casein. The scariest thing is that sometimes “secret” things have been added, so each time you feed your child something you hover and ask them a 100 times, “are you OK?” The internet became my haven. We fought and won many battles over the years because of other parents. I joined food allergy groups on social media, sharing each other’s stories, experiences, and ideas for food recipes. Over time it became like a second family to me. I was able to vent when I needed to and these parents understood why I was angry. But the best was sharing each other’s successes, like when a child passes a food challenge or we find the perfect safe cookie recipe. The emotional toll this has taken on me as a parent is indescribable. I have spent many nights crying in the bathroom or sleeping on the floor by her bed because she had contact with something she is allergic to. Statistics and facts can’t tell you about how hard it is for the children who have allergies or their parents. Being a food allergy parent is life-changing, but the internet has made it possible for us to come together with social media groups which can be a lifeline. Even Pinterest becomes your best friend, with recipes and ideas. We are still battling this war. Some days are better than others. Birthday parties are still stressful, but each time they become more fun and less scary. From my experience, I can tell you there is a light at the end of the long tunnel. There is hope, I promise. All food allergy parents have your back. And if you know someone with allergies, just letting them know you care can make a hard day better.
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DISABILITIES
Resource Guide T
he New Hampshire Council on Developmental Disabilities has compiled this listing to help people with disabilities and their families find the information, services, and support they need. A complete version of the resource guide is available online at www.nhdd resources.wordpress.com or by calling (603) 271-7038.
Information and Referral Services, Guidebooks and Online Resources MANEUVERING THROUGH THE MAZE
http://www.nhfv.org/Publications.html A comprehensive resource guide of state health and human services agencies, educational resources, private associations and organizations that serve people in New Hampshire with physical, developmental, mental health and chronic illnesses and their families, from birth to adulthood. Produced by NH Family Voices.
NH FAMILY VOICES
(603) 271-4525, (800) 852-3345 ext. 4525 (in NH only) http://www.nhfv.org A “Family to Family Health and Education Center” assisting families of children and young adults with chronic health, physical, developmental and mental health challenges. Provides one-to-one phone assistance, educational materials, online resources, a lending library and quarterly newsletter. Funded by state and federal grants, as well as donations from community partners and supporters.
PARENT INFORMATION CENTER ON SPECIAL EDUCATION (PIC)
54 Old Suncook Road, Concord (603) 224-7005, (800) 947-7005 http://nhspecialed.org Telephone/email support to families with questions about early supports and services, special education and other disability-related concerns, interactive workshops for parents, volunteer advocate training and informational materials (online and printed). Funded in part or whole by the U.S. Department of Education.
DISABILITY RIGHTS CENTER – NH (DRC)
(603) 228-0432, (800) 834-1721 (v/tty) http://www.drcnh.org Information, referral, advice, and legal representation and advocacy to individuals with disabilities on a wide range of disability-related issues. Online resources and materials available on many disability-related topics. Federally funded Protection and Advocacy Center.
SERVICELINK AGING & DISABILITY RESOURCE CENTERS
(866) 634-9412 http://www.nh.gov/servicelink From local offices throughout the state, helps individuals access long-term services, supports and resources, access family caregiver information, explore options and understand and access Medicare and Medicaid. After-hours appointments are available as needed. Callers are automatically connected to the ServiceLink office in their area. Funded by the State of New Hampshire and federal government. Online ServiceLink Community Services and Supports Resource Directory: http://www.referweb.net/nhsl/
BRAIN INJURY ASSOCIATION OF NEW HAMPSHIRE http://www.bianh.org/resourcedir.html List of resources compiled by the Brain Injury Association of New Hampshire.
GOVERNOR’S COMMISSION ON DISABILITY
121 South Fruit Street, Suite 101, Concord (800) 852-3405, (603) 271-2773 http://www.nh.gov/disability Provides information on the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) and accessibility issues, including accessible parking spaces, housing, voting and transportation. Online list of state and federal government benefit programs for people with disabilities. http://www.nh.gov/disability/information/community/ benefitsforpeople.htm
NH STATEWIDE INDEPENDENT LIVING COUNCIL (SILC)
121 South Fruit Street, Concord (800) 852-3405, (603) 271-0476 http://www.silcnh.org/ Provides a monthly resource newsletter, archives of past issues and online “tip sheets” on benefits, housing and health care, based on an independent living philosophy. A federally funded, independent, cross-disability council.
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RESOURCE GUIDE NH FAMILY TIES (FORMERLY PARENT TO PARENT OF NH)
Ashlee Fye, Statewide Coordinator (800) 499-4153 ext. 241 http://www.nhfamilyties.org Provides parent matches between experienced parents, who have “been there,” with new or referred parents of children with special needs just beginning to meet the challenges of a disability or chronic health condition. Available through the area agency network as part of their family support services. NH Family Ties provides information and referral to community resources, services, support groups, state support programs, and others.
2-1-1 NEW HAMPSHIRE
http://www.211nh.org Information and referral for general human services including help with food, emergency housing, employment, health care and counseling is available by dialing 211 in NH or (866) 444-4211 from out of state. Operated by United Ways of New Hampshire.
NHCAREPATH
(866) 634-9412 http://www.nhcarepath.org/ Designed as New Hampshire’s “front door” to quickly connect individuals of all ages, abilities and income levels to a full range of community services and supports, including housing, transportation, financial assistance, Medicaid, veterans’ services, mental health, drug and alcohol services. Operated by the NH Department of Health and Human Services.
DISABILITY.GOV
https://www.disability.gov/ A federal inter-agency web portal providing access to comprehensive information about disability-related programs and services. The site contains thousands of trusted resources, updated daily, from the federal government, educational institutions, non-profit organizations and state and local governments.
NH DHHS DIVISION OF FAMILY ASSISTANCE
129 Pleasant St., Concord (800) 852-3345 ext. 9700, (603) 271-9700
Information and Resources on Specific Disabilities or Topics ADVOCACY AND SELF-ADVOCACY
ABLE NH
(603) 271-7042 http://www.ablenh.org ABLE (Advocates Building Lasting Equality) advocates for the human and civil rights of all children and adults with disabilities and promotes full participation by improving systems of supports, connecting families, inspiring communities and influencing public policy.
NEW HAMPSHIRE COUNCIL ON DEVELOPMENTAL DISABILITIES
2½ Beacon Street, Suite 10, Concord (603) 271-3236 http://www.nhcdd.org Federally funded agency that supports public policies and initiatives to remove barriers and promote opportunities in all areas of life. Its mission includes “dignity, full rights of citizenship, equal opportunities, and full participation for all New Hampshire citizens with developmental disabilities.” Members are appointed by the Governor and represent people with developmental disabilities, parents, guardians and agencies that serve people with disabilities.
NEW HAMPSHIRE LEADERSHIP SERIES
(603) 228-2084, (800) 238-2048 http://nhleadership.org Intensive 7-session leadership training provides parents and people with disabilities with information and strategies to effectively impact local and state organizations regarding issues related to individuals with disabilities and their families.
PEOPLE FIRST OF NEW HAMPSHIRE
NH Council on Developmental Disabilities 2½ Beacon Street, Suite 10, Concord (603) 271-3236 http://www.peoplefirstofnh.org Statewide self-advocacy organization and umbrella for 17 self-advocacy groups for people with intellectual and other developmental disabilities. Provides resources, training and support. Call for the chapter in your area or how to start one.
ASSISTIVE TECHNOLOGY CROTCHED MOUNTAIN ATECH SERVICES
57 Regional Drive, Suite #7, Concord (800) 932-5837, (603) 226-2900 atech@crotchedmountain.org https://crotchedmountain.org/ programs-and-services/assistivetechnology/ Formerly NH-ATEC, this highly specialized clinical program provides evaluation and consultation services in the area of assistive technology. Services include augmentative and alternative communications (AAC), seating and wheeled mobility, access and independent living and computer access.
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AUTISM NH VIRTUAL AUTISM CENTER
Maintained by NH Council on Autism Spectrum Disorders 2½ Beacon Street, Suite 10, Concord info@nhcouncilonasd.org http://www.nhvirtualautismcenter.info Provides a single point of entry to a comprehensive body of information about NH services for those who experience autism spectrum disorders. Also offers best practices guidelines.
AUTISM RESOURCE CENTER
Crotched Mountain ATECH Services 57 Regional Drive, Concord (603) 226-2900, ext. 29, (800) 932-5837 autismresources@crotchedmountain.org http://www.crotchedmountain.org/ Programs-and-Services/ABATreatment-for-Young-Children-withAutism/Autism-Resource-Center/ Provides services at no cost, functioning as a single point of contact for support, information and services for autism-related disorders. Helps families navigate the developmental service system, explore treatment options, identify funding options and advocate for their child.
DEPARTMENT OF APPLIED PSYCHOLOGY
Antioch University New England 40 Avon Street, Keene (800) 552-8380 admissions@antiochne.edu http://www.antiochne.edu Offers practice-oriented, valuesbased graduate study. Master degrees in education, environmental studies, management, and psychology; doctoral degrees in environmental studies and psychology. Also offering an Autism Spectrum Disorders Certificate program — a program for teachers, counselors, speech-language pathologists, psychologists, advocates, occupational therapists and others.
ASPERGER’S ASSOCIATION OF NEW ENGLAND
(617) 393-3824, (866) 597-AANE The Asperger’s Association of New England (AANE)’s mission is to foster awareness, respect, acceptance, and support for individuals with AS and related conditions and their families.
BLIND SERVICES FUTURE IN SIGHT
25 Walker St., Concord (603) 224-4039, (800) 464-3075 http://www.futureinsight.org A nonprofit organization dedicated to transforming the lives of those who are blind or visually impaired and their families. Provides a range of services: education, rehabilitation, and social services for infants, toddlers, children (3-21), adults and seniors.
NH SERVICES FOR THE BLIND AND VISUALLY IMPAIRED
21 South Fruit Street, Suite 20, Concord (603) 271-3537, (603) 271-3471 (v/tty), (800) 581-6881 http://www.education.nh.gov/ career/vocational/blind_visu.htm Provides those services necessary to help people with visual loss to enter, re-enter, or maintain employment. Most services are provided without charge to the referred individual. Services for Blind and Visually Impaired Program is supported by state and federal tax dollars.
BRAIN INJURY BRAIN INJURY ASSOCIATION OF NH
52 Pleasant St., Concord (800) 773-8400, (603) 225-8400 (NH only Information & Resources) (800) 444-6443 (National toll-free Brain Injury Resource Line) http://www.bianh.org Helps people with brain injury-related disabilities live in their own homes and communities. Chartered state affiliate of the Brain Injury Association of America (BIAA; http://www. biausa.org). Comprehensive online resource directory at http://www. bianh.org/resourcedir.html
BULLYING NH DEPARTMENT OF EDUCATION
Bullying and Cyber Bulling Resources http://education.nh.gov/instruction/ integrated/title_iv_cyber_bully.htm
STOPBULLYING.GOV
http://www.stopbullying.gov A federal website that provides information from various government agencies about what bullying is, what cyberbullying is, who is at risk, and how to prevent and respond to bullying.
CHILDREN WITH DISABILITIES OR SIGNIFICANT MEDICAL NEEDS YOUR PEDIATRICIAN
Provides the gateway to proper assessment, diagnosis, and initial treatment, services, and supports.
YOUR LOCAL SCHOOL DISTRICT
If you have a child with a disability who is eligible for special education services, your child may receive services from ages 3-21. Contact your school district before your child turns three — the age at which the school district becomes responsible for your child’s education.
NH MEDICAID FOR CHILDREN
Coverage for children up to age 19 and “Katie Beckett” option 129 Pleasant Street, Concord (877) 464-2447 Children’s Medicaid Unit
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http://www.dhhs.nh.gov/dfa/ medical/children.htm Provides comprehensive health and dental insurance to NH children ages 0-19 for families without access to insurance or for whom it is unaffordable (formerly NH Healthy Kids). Also, Home Care for Children with Severe Disabilities (HCCSD), commonly known as the “Katie Beckett” option, is available for severely disabled children up to age 19, whose medical disability is so severe that they qualify for institutional care but are being cared for at home. Only the income and resources of the disabled child are counted towards eligibility for this program.
IN-HOME SUPPORT (IHS) WAIVER FOR CHILDREN WITH SEVERE DISABILITIES
NH DHHS Bureau of Developmental Services 105 Pleasant St., Concord (800) 852-3345, ext. 5034 Provides assistance for children with the most significant medical and behavioral challenges requiring long-term supports and services, who live at home with their families, are Medicaid eligible, and meet the ICF/ MR level of care and other qualifications of the program. The goal of the IHS waiver is to provide services which are necessary to allow the individual to remain at home with his/ her care-giving family. Services are provided through the Developmental Disabilities Area Agencies.
FAMILY CENTERED EARLY SUPPORTS AND SERVICES (FCESS)
NH Bureau of Developmental Services 105 Pleasant Street Concord (603) 271-5034, (800) 852-3345, ext. 5034 http://www.dhhs.state.nh.us/dcbcs/ bds/earlysupport/index.htm A program designed for children birth through age two who have a diagnosed, established condition with a high probability of delay, are experiencing developmental delays, or are at risk for substantial developmental delays if supports and services are not provided. FCESS are delivered in the family’s home by designated non-profit and specialized service agencies located throughout the state.
SPECIAL MEDICAL SERVICES
NH Department of Health and Human Services 129 Pleasant St., Concord (800) 852-3345 ext 4488, (603) 271-4488 http://www.dhhs.nh.gov/dcbcs/bds/ sms/specialcare.htm The NH Title V Program for Children with Special Health Care Needs. Administers health programs and services for children ages birth to 21 years, who have, or are at risk for a chronic medical condition, disability or special health care need. Works together with families and their health care providers, community agencies
and schools to obtain access to needed health care and related services. Provides care coordination services; support for child development and neuromotor clinics; nutritional and feeding/swallowing consultation; psychological and physical therapy services.
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NH PARTNERS IN HEALTH
129 Pleasant St., Concord (800) 656-3333, (800) 735-2964 (TDD) http://www.dhhs.nh.gov/dcbcs/bds/ sms/pih/ Helps families of children with a chronic health condition that significantly impacts daily life. Partners in Health’s role is to advocate, access resources, navigate systems and build capacity to manage the chronic health condition of their child. Locations throughout the state. No income requirements. NH Partners in Health Regional Sites and Towns Served: http://www.dhhs. nh.gov/dcbcs/bds/sms/pih/documents/towns.pdf
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DEAF AND HARD OF HEARING NORTHEAST DEAF AND HARD OF HEARING SERVICES INC.
56 Old Suncook Rd., Suite 6 Concord (603) 224-1850, (603) 224-0691 (TTY) Video Phone (VP): 968-5889 http://www.ndhhs.org New Hampshire’s “one-stop” resource for services specific to the Deaf and Hard of Hearing community and for information about hearing loss.
DENTAL SERVICES
80 Nashua Rd., Building B, Londonderry, NH • 603-548-2188 • www.premierspeechtherapy.com
Partners in Success
The Institute of Professional Practice, Inc. provides services for children and adults with autism and other special needs in a flexible, outcome-oriented way that best suits each individual.
DONATED DENTAL SERVICES
Dental Lifeline Network (800) 292-1531 http://dentallifeline.org/newhampshire/ A statewide program that provides comprehensive treatment by volunteer dentists to elderly, disabled and medically challenged individuals.
EASTER SEALS ORAL HEALTH CENTER, MANCHESTER (603) 621-3482 http://www.easterseals.com/nh/ our-programs/oral-health-center/
Staff evaluates, monitors, and responds to patients with a wide range of disabilities and special medical needs. Medicaid accepted.
DEVELOPMENTAL DISABILITIES AND ACQUIRED BRAIN DISORDERS NH DHHS BUREAU OF DEVELOPMENTAL SERVICES
105 Pleasant St., Concord (800) 852-3345 ext. 5034 http://www.dhhs.nh.gov/dcbcs/bds/ index.htm
Let our trained clinical team work with you to develop an individualized treatment plan, tailored to meet the needs of the your loved one. We’ll set goals, monitor progress, and promote positive outcomes.
Contact us today. We are here to help. www.ippi.org
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RESOURCE GUIDE The NH developmental services system offers individuals with developmental disabilities and acquired brain disorders a wide range of supports and services within their own communities through 10 designated non-profit area agencies that serve specific geographic regions. Supports include: • Service coordination • Day and vocational services • Personal care services • Community support services • Early Supports and Services and Early Intervention • Assistive technology services • Specialty services and family supports (including respite services and environmental modifications) • In-Home Support (IHS) Waiver for Children with Severe Disabilities For area agencies and communities served: http://www.dhhs.nh.gov/dcbcs/bds/ agencies.htm
EMPLOYMENT WORK INCENTIVE RESOURCE CENTER http://nhwirc.org New Hampshire’s online destination for information about benefits, planning and work incentives for individuals with disabilities.
NEW HAMPSHIRE VOCATIONAL REHABILITATION GUIDE
http://www.education.nh.gov/ career/vocational/cust_guide.htm A description of the vocational rehabilitation process and overview of the NHVR process, from application to post-employment services.
VOCATIONAL REHABILITATION
NH Department of Education Bureau of Vocational Rehabilitation 21 South Fruit St., Suite #20, Concord (800) 299-1647 http://www.education.nh.gov/ career/vocational/ Helps people with disabilities of all ages get jobs. Regional Offices: Berlin ........................(603) 752-2271 Concord ..................(603) 271-2327 Keene ......................(603) 357-0266 Manchester .............(603) 669-8733 Nashua ....................(603) 889-6844 Portsmouth ..............(603) 436-8884
NHWORKS
(603) 271-7275 http://nhworks.org Information center for job seekers and employers. Lists current job openings, NH economic and labor market information, education and training programs, employment laws, small business resources, and local Works
Centers locations. Work Centers provide technical assistance to prepare resumes and cover letters, job search workshops, employment counseling, aptitude and skills testing, and career exploration tools. Sponsored by the NH Workforce Opportunity Council.
GED/ADULT EDUCATION NH BUREAU OF ADULT EDUCATION
GED & Adult Education Information 21 South Fruit St., Suite 20, Concord (603) 271-6698 http://www.nhadulted.org Supports educational services to adults who have not received a high school diploma or GED certificate or who do not read, write, or speak English. Grants to school districts and not-for-profit organizations make it possible for local adult education programs to serve adult learners whose skills range from very basic to high school level.
PARTNERSHIP IN EMPLOYMENT: SUPPORTING ADULTS WITH INTELLECTUAL AND DEVELOPMENTAL DISABILITIES IN THEIR COMMUNITIES
http://www.aucd.org/docs/resource /pie_adults_Nov2014_families.pdf A project of the Institute for
Community Inclusion at the University of Massachusetts Boston, and the National Association of State Directors of Developmental Disabilities Services. Overview of day and employment services for people with developmental disabilities and guidance for those assisting them to become employed and part of the community.
GOVERNMENT BENEFITS/ AGENCIES APPLY ONLINE FOR BENEFITS WITH NH EASY
https://nheasy.nh.gov New Hampshire’s Electronic Application System (NH EASY) offers NH residents a fast and easy way to apply online for cash, medical, child care, Medicare savings program and food stamp benefits.
NH DEPARTMENT OF HEALTH AND HUMAN SERVICES
129 Pleasant St., Concord (800) 852-3345 http://www.dhhs.nh.gov Provides services for individuals, children, families and seniors, and administers programs and services for mental health, developmental disabilities, substance abuse and public
A helping hand, every step of the way. Residential Resources, Inc. strives to enhance the quality of life for people with developmental and acquired disabilities by ensuring their presence and participation in community life. • Clinical consultation • Community liaison • Rehabilitation
• Instruction • Support • Therapy
www.resresources.com • 1-800-287-2911
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health. The DHHS website contains a description of programs and services administered by the department and information about how to apply.
DHHS DISTRICT OFFICES
http://www.dhhs.nh.gov/contactus/ districtoffices.htm Local offices to apply for Medicaid, financial assistance, food stamps and other benefits.
SOCIAL SECURITY
70 Commercial St., Suite 100, Concord (800) 772-1213, (800) 325-0778 (TTY) (603) 228-5206 (FAX) http://www.ssa.gov Applicants for SSDI and SSI can file for benefits online at SSA.gov website, by phone or by visiting a local Social Security Office.
SPECIAL EDUCATION
NH Department of Education Bureau of Special Education 101 Pleasant St., Concord (603) 271-6693 http://www.education.nh.gov/ instruction/special_ed/index.htm Online reports, data and regulations relative to special education.
NH CIRCUIT COURT — PROBATE DIVISION
1 Granite Place, Suite N400, Concord (855) 212-1234 probateservice@courts.state.nh.us http://www.courts.state.nh.us/ probate/index.htm The Circuit Court Probate Division has jurisdiction over all matters related to wills, trusts and estates, guardianships and involuntary commitment proceedings, adoptions, name changes and partition of real estate. Probate judges preside over these cases from courthouses located in each of the 10 counties in NH.
HOUSING NH HOUSING FINANCE AUTHORITY
32 Constitution Dr., Bedford (800) 640-7239, (603) 472-8623 (603) 472-2089 (TDD) http://www.nhhfa.org A self-supporting public benefit corporation. The Authority administers a broad range of programs designed to assist low- and moderate-income people and families to obtain decent, safe and affordable housing. Home ownership programs, multi-family housing programs and rental assistance programs.
LOCAL PUBLIC HOUSING AUTHORITIES
http://www.hud.gov/offices/pih/pha/ contacts/states/nh.cfm Provides housing for low-income people and families in local communities.
BRAIN INJURY ASSOCIATION OF NEW HAMPSHIRE HOUSING ASSISTANCE GUIDE
http://www.bianh.org/pdf/Housing.pdf
Lists housing assistance resources compiled by the Brain Injury Association.
INDEPENDENT LIVING — ADULTS WITH PHYSICAL DISABILITIES
DISABILITY.GOV’S GUIDE TO HOUSING
GRANITE STATE INDEPENDENT LIVING
https://www.disability.gov/resource/ disability-govs-guide-housing Information about government agencies and organizations helping individuals and families find affordable housing. Additional information about rental assistance programs, assisted living facilities and modifying a home to make it accessible.
GRANITE STATE INDEPENDENT LIVING’S HOME ACCESS MODIFICATION
http://www.gsil.org/community -based-disability-supports/homeaccess-modification Trained staff assess accessibility needs and provide referrals to licensed vendors in NH. May also assist in establishing a plan and identifying funding sources for accessibility projects.
USDA RURAL DEVELOPMENT IN VERMONT/NEW HAMPSHIRE
(802) 828-6080 http://www.rd.usda.gov/nh Works to improve the quality of life in rural areas. Provides technical assistance to communities, and funding and resources for home purchase, apartment rental and repairs.
NEW HAMPSHIRE COMMUNITY LOAN FUND
7 Wall St., Concord (603) 224-6699 http://www.communityloanfund.org Collaborates with a wide range of donors and lenders, and with business, nonprofit and government partners. Provides financing and support to people with low and moderate incomes for affordable housing.
US DEPARTMENT OF HOUSING AND URBAN DEVELOPMENT (HUD)
New Hampshire Programs and Services (603) 666-7510 http://portal.hud.gov/hudportal/ HUD?src=/states/new_hampshire Assistance with home ownership, subsidized apartments, public housing, foreclosure assistance, homeless resources and discrimination. Counseling and other services available.
STATE OF NH FORECLOSURE PREVENTION INITIATIVE
For immediate assistance dial 211 (in NH)
www.homehelpnh.org Website with important tips on alternatives to foreclosure as well as other valuable resources. There is also a list of qualified housing counselors who can offer specific suggestions.
21 Chenell Dr., Concord (800) 826-3700, (603) 228-9680 http://www.gsil.org New Hampshire’s only Independent Living Center. Provides information, specialized services, and peer support for people with disabilities following the principles of personal choice and direction. Provides home care services, personal care, community-based disability supports and employment services including benefit counseling.
LEGAL ASSISTANCE DISABILITY RIGHTS CENTER – NH (DRC)
(603) 228-0432, (800) 834-1721 (v/tty) http://www.drcnh.org Information, referral, advice, and legal representation and advocacy to individuals with disabilities on a wide range of disability-related issues. Online resources and materials available on many disability-related topics. Federally funded Protection and Advocacy Center.
GUIDE TO NEW HAMPSHIRE LEGAL SERVICES PROGRAMS
http://www.courts.state.nh.us/ selfhelp/documents/legal_services_ brochure.pdf Produced by the NH Judicial Branch
Gateways Autism Center in Nashua is an ABA program. We provide high quality skills training and behavior intervention for the promotion of independence and autonomy.
Visit our website at: gatewayscs.org/autism GATEWAYS COMMUNITY SERVICES Nashua, NH
NH LEGAL AID
(800) 639-5290 http://www.nhlegalaid.org/ A cooperative effort of the legal services agencies serving New Hampshire’s low- income population to provide legal information, referrals, and pro se assistance. Online application for legal assistance. Website provides links and contact information to a number of non-profit agencies that provide a range of services across the state. Includes online self-help guides.
NH JUDICIAL BRANCH SELF-HELP CENTER
http://www.courts.state.nh.us/ selfhelp/index.htm Basic, practical information about the New Hampshire court system, how it works, and what the procedures are for bringing a case to court.
NH BAR ASSOCIATION PRO BONO REFERRAL PROGRAM
(800) 639-5290, (603) 224-3333 Connects low-income individuals with volunteer attorneys who provide free legal services in family law, bankruptcy, consumer, housing and senior citizen matters.
NEW HAMPSHIRE LEGAL ASSISTANCE
(800) 562-3174 http://www.nhla.org Provides free legal advice and representation to low–income people and
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RESOURCE GUIDE older adults in civil matters involving basic needs, including food, shelter, income, medical care and public benefits. Local Offices: Berlin ........................(800) 698-8969 Claremont ...............(800) 562-3994 Concord ..................(800) 921-1115 Manchester .............(800) 562-3174 Portsmouth ..............(800) 334-3135 Foreclosure Relief Project......................(877) 399-9995 Senior Citizens Law Project ......................(888) 353-9944 ..................................or (603) 624-6000
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA)
THE “LAW LINE” — NH BAR ASSOCIATION (800) 868-1212 Talk to a lawyer free of charge on the 2nd Wednesday of the month, from 6-8 p.m.
NH DHHS Bureau of Behavioral Health (800) 852-3345, ext. 5000, (603) 271-5000 http://www.dhhs.nh.gov/dcbcs/bbh/ centers.htm Regional agencies provide publicly funded mental health services to individuals and families who meet certain criteria for services. Services include 24-hour emergency services, assessment and evaluation, individual and group therapy, case management, rehabilitation, psychiatric services and specialized programs for older adults, children, and families as well as short-term counseling and support.
UNIVERSITY OF NEW HAMPSHIRE SCHOOL OF LAW CIVIL PRACTICE CLINIC
(603) 225-3350 Assists low-income clients with a variety of issues from consumer protection, collection and foreclosure defense (including Chapter 13 bankruptcy), predatory lending and auto fraud. Will take cases from Merrimack, Belknap, Sullivan and Hillsborough counties.
MENTAL HEALTH AND SUICIDE PREVENTION SAMHSA BEHAVIORAL HEALTH TREATMENT SERVICES LOCATOR AND TREATMENT REFERRAL HELPLINE
(800) 662-HELP (4357) (800) 487-4889 (TDD) http://findtreatment.samhsa.gov/ Use the Locator to find alcohol and drug abuse treatment or mental health treatment facilities and programs around the country. Or call the SAMHSA Treatment Referral Helpline. Free, confidential information in English and Spanish for individuals and family members facing substance abuse and mental health issues. 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Sponsored by the
NAMI NH
85 North State St., Concord (800) 242-6264, (603) 225-5359 http://www.naminh.org A statewide network of affiliate chapter support groups, staff and volunteers that provide information, education and support to all families and communities affected by mental illness.
COMMUNITY MENTAL HEALTH CENTERS
MENTAL HEALTH PEER SUPPORT
NH DHHS Bureau of Behavioral Health (800) 852-3345 ext.5000, (603) 271-5000 http://www.dhhs.nh.gov/dcbcs/bbh/ peer.htm Local Peer Support Agencies provide services to adults with mental illness who self-identify as a recipient, former recipient, or at significant risk of becoming a recipient of publicly funded mental health services. Provided by and for people with a mental illness. Includes face-to-face and telephone peer support, outreach, monthly educational events, activities that promote self-advocacy, wellness training, after-hours warm line and crisis respite.
DISASTER DISTRESS HELPLINE
(800) 985-5990, (800) 846-8517 (TTY) http://disasterdistress.samhsa.gov/ Website and helpline for those affected by a disaster and in need of immediate assistance, information, support, and counseling. Callers are connected to the nearest crisis center.
DISABILITY.GOV’S EMERGENCY PREPAREDNESS RESOURCES
https://www.dol.gov/odep/topics/ disability.htm
SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE
(800) 273-TALK (8255) www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org
NEW HAMPSHIRE SUICIDE PREVENTION AND GENERAL RESOURCES
(603) 225-5359, (800) 242-6264 (These are NOT crisis response numbers) www.theconnectproject.org
RESEARCH AND TRAINING UNH INSTITUTE ON DISABILITY
(603) 228-2084 (TTY) (800) 238-2048 (TTY) http://iod.unh.edu Provides a university-based focus for the improvement of knowledge, policies, and practices related to the lives of people living with disabilities and their families. Offers seminars and workshops, webinars, interdisciplinary evaluation and consultation, leadership training, and customized, on-site support in schools.
TRANSITION NH PARENT INFORMATION CENTER’S LIFE AFTER HIGH SCHOOL TOOLKIT
nhspecialed.org/life-after-highschool/ Strategies, tools and resources for families of youth with disabilities to assist in creating successful transition plans.
Welcoming New Clients
Key to Communication Speech Therapy Services, LLC Jennifer R. Edwards, MS, CCC-SLP Fun, professional speech therapy evaluation and treatment.
802.272.4709 jjennettslp@gmail.com
http://nextsteps-nh.org/ Transition and career development resources for special educators, students, parents and others interested in increasing transition and career development opportunities for youth with and without disabilities.
NATIONAL SECONDARY TRANSITION TECHNICAL ASSISTANCE CENTER’S AGE APPROPRIATE TRANSITION ASSESSMENTS TOOLKIT
http://www.transitionta.org/ toolkit-resources Designed to help with the selection of assessments for students in regards to transition planning.
DISABILITY.GOV’S GUIDE TO STUDENT TRANSITION PLANNING
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Who should have an estate plan? Why and when should I begin? Sienkiewicz: ”Everyone who has someone they uniquely care about — usually a spouse or a child — should have an estate plan. Having an estate plan means working with a knowledgeable attorney to figure out who you want your property to go to if you die, when, and with what strings attached, and then having that attorney complete a variety of paperwork to ensure that’s what will actually happen. Different property rules control real estate, life insurance, retirement accounts,
businesses, investments and cash, so it’s more complicated than simply having a lawyer write a will for you (or trying to do it yourself).” Shaine: “Most families with children and/or assets should, at a minimum, have a will. If you don’t have a will, your assets will pass according to the New Hampshire law of intestacy. This essentially means that it would pass to a family member or members according to how closely they are related to you. Adding in the additional components of a comprehensive estate plan is likely to minimize the expenses and delay of probate and increase your ability to keep the components of your decisions private. Additional factors to consider when deciding to establish an estate plan include whether there are any special circumstances, such as a blended family or a child with special needs. If there is a business involved, succession planning is also important.”
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dad on board REFLECTIONS ON CHRISTMASES PAST IT WON’T BE THE SAME NEXT YEAR WHEN MY DAUGHTER IS AT COLLEGE (BAH HUMBUG) BY BILL BURKE I don’t take a whole lot seriously. However, there are certain things in life that require nothing less than solemn attention to details and traditions. I’ve compiled a list of those things that I shall now present. Henceforth they are committed to paper and nailed to a virtual door for all to see. 1. Christmas. Yeah, that’s it. There’s nothing I look forward to more than the day that I wear down my wife’s resistance and all the boxes come out of the Christmas Closet. Every ornament triggers a memory from Christmases past — our daughter’s first; the year the power went out; that Christmas Eve when it was 60 and humid. Then we get to the decorations she made in school — crafted from yarn, glitter and Popsicle sticks. Near the bottom we rediscover way too many Star Trek ornaments and a Wayne Gretzky New York Rangers figure. I’m not exaggerating when I say my love of Christmas is literally imprinted on our daughter. When she was two, I brought home a pair of heavy, hard-edged, iron stocking hangers, one of which she promptly yanked on and brought tumbling down. It just missed her head but left a bit of an angry reminder on her upper lip. It’s her own Harry Potter scar, only a little lower and with slightly less style. It’s not noticeable, but I see it. For someone so enamored with Christmas, I’m happy that I seem to have passed the jingle bell gene along to my daughter. We got our dog on Dec. 12, 2012. He ran into the room, and she named him Figgy Pudding. Every night — from Thanksgiving through Christmas Eve — we hit the couch and start scanning for animated specials. She and I have created a holiday hierarchy — Rudolph is at the top, Frosty is a reluctant fallback. Dishes need putting away? It can wait — Heat Miser is singing. Got homework? Doesn’t matter — The Grinch is on. We quote them year-round, and there’s a Leg Lamp from “A Christmas Story” that shines as a beacon in our front window no matter what season it is, alerting all passers-by that herein resides a weirdo. I’ve been known to be a little nostalgic (see: 14 years of columns about my kid), so I view our annual Christmaslanche as a direct connection to the past. There’s no such thing as a time machine, probably, but when the Nativity scene is returned to its rightful place in the living room and I try to put antlers on the dog, it’s 2003 again. Next year when my daughter is away at college, there will be a conspicuous void next to me on the couch as Linus asks for “lights, please,” and we may be putting the Christmas tree up without her.
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never a dull moment THE STRUGGLE BUS I’M THE DRIVER, PASSENGER AND ROADKILL — ALL AT THE SAME TIME BY KATHLEEN PALMER In November, I wrote a chipper little column about my daughter’s messy bedroom and how I just ignore it, keep her door closed and hope she outgrows it. Soon after joking about her sleeping with junk food wrappers in her bed and bureau drawers exploding open and spilling onto the floor, I begrudgingly went in there to get dishes so I could fill the dishwasher. Like a baseball bat in the stomach it hit me; not the mess, but what the mess represented. And it brought me to tears. Standing in the middle of her room surrounded by it all, I felt an overwhelming sadness. It finally sunk through my thick skull because I personalized it. I considered how I feel when the rest of my house is messy — depressed, angry, overwhelmed. I thought about my daughter sitting cross-legged on her bed, all her homework spread out around her, having those feelings. Teenagers have so many balls they are trying to keep in the air, and my kid is no exception -- so much homework, a sports team that keeps her at school until 4:30 every day, two clubs that generate work. To sit in her filthy room where she’s unable to find anything cannot possibly alleviate her stress or enable her to be calm and organized. Yes, I want her to be independent and responsible and to take care of herself. But maybe I am putting the onus of accomplishment of those things on her too soon. Despite her vehement desires to be perceived as older, she still needs my help, support and back up. I don’t want her to struggle over trite things. I want her to feel supported, and know peripheral things around her busy life are being taken care of so she can focus on school. So yeah, I will make her bed again, clean up the dishes, trash and laundry. The four hours she has from the end of sports until bedtime need to be a calm time for her to do homework and get ready for the next day — which will be just as stressful as this one. I will drive her to school and (mostly) accept that she will be tense and stressed out on the ride, and I am just the bus driver who does not rate any morning pleasantries. I will accept the complaints that she can’t find the clothes I put away for her. I will continue to hold her up, even as she angrily pushes my supporting hands away. Because if I can supply even an iota of stress relief to her now, I’m hopeful that someday it will pay off, and we can both get off the bus. Kathleen Palmer is an award-winning editor and journalist, marketing/communications content writer and occasional comedic actress. Nothing makes her happier than making people laugh. She is a single mom to a teenager, so naturally she enjoys a glass of wine, or two.
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IT ONLY TAKES THREE SECONDS TO SAVE YOUR LIFE BY CHELSIE MOSTONE
The Insurance Institute of Highway Safety maintains that the main safety feature in all motor vehicles is the seat belt. This may be hard to believe with the new technology — like airbags, blind spot warnings, automatic braking systems, etc. — being installed in vehicles each year. Regardless of advances in safety technology, each motor vehicle is built around drivers and passengers using seat belts. Each year, New Hampshire consistently has the highest percentage of motor vehicle occupants killed in crashes not wearing a seat belt than any other state in the country. In 2018, 70 percent of New Hampshire’s motor vehicle crash fatalities were not buckled, while the rest country of the country averaged a much lower unbelted death rate of 43 percent. There are many myths linked with seat belts, according to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration’s (NHTSA) website. New Hampshire residents give some of these as reasons not to buckle up. One of the most common myths is that a seat belt can trap you in a fire or underwater. According to the NHTSA, “Incidents involving fire or water account for a half to 1 percent of all crashes. Wearing a seat belt gives you a much greater chance of being conscious and able-bodied.” Another myth is that if you are not traveling far or fast, seat belts are not necessary. “Seemingly routine trips can be deceptively dangerous. Most fatal crashes happen within 25 miles from home at speeds less than 40 mph (miles per hour), ” states the NHTSA. Most parents take the time to buckle their child (or children) correctly in the back seat, but then don’t buckle up themselves. It’s important to remember that your child is now a fixed object in the back seat. Along with the potential of being ejected from the vehicle, if you do not buckle up, you could hit your child if you crash. This is why wearing a seat belt no matter how old you are is important. The simple design – comprised of nylon, metal and plastic – is something many take for granted. It takes less than three seconds to buckle up when getting into the car; it’s three seconds that could save you and your loved ones from serious injury or loss of life. The Children’s Hospital at Dartmouth-Hitchcock’s (CHaD’s) Injury Prevention Center, in partnership with the New Hampshire Office of Highway Safety, encourages everyone to buckle up, every trip, every time.
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Laurie Berkner Band Holiday Concert 14 SATURDAY CONCORD – Capitol Center for the Arts, 44 South Main St. Laurie Berkner and her band celebrate the season with traditional, secular songs such as “Jingle Bells” and “Frosty the Snowman,” plus originals from Laurie’s well-loved album A Laurie Berkner Christmas like “Santa’s Coming to My House Tonight.” They also pay tribute to Hanukkah with “Candle Chase” and “The Dreidel Song” and will perform an array of Laurie’s greatest hits. Tickets: $35-$75. 11 a.m. 225-1111; www.ccanh.com
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MANCHESTER – Palace Theatre, 80 Hanover St. A Christmas Carol tells the tale of grouchy old Ebenezer Scrooge, who in the midst of the holiday season learns the value of giving and what it means to be kind to the less fortunate. Filled with lively song and dance, special effects, a live orchestra, and holiday music, this full-scale professional production is a must this holiday season. $25-$46. Go to website for show times. 668-5588; www. palacetheatre.org
WINDHAM – Castleton Banquet and Conference Center, 58 Enterprise Drive. CHaD, with the support of the state’s most creative businesses and individuals, will transform the Castleton into an awe-inspiring, storybook-based winter wonderland. Guests of the ball will enjoy an enchanted evening complete with dinner while seated at a captivating, custom designed, storybook-themed table. Limited number of tickets available: $250. 6 p.m. www. chadstorybookball.org
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PJ MASKS LIVE! 6 FRIDAY MANCHESTER – SNHU Arena, 555 Elm St. The hit live musical production is back with an all-new show, “PJ Masks Live: Save The Day!” Based on eOne’s top-rated animated series, airing daily on Disney Junior, the new show features preschoolers’ favorite pre-school superheroes and familiar songs from the popular show along with brand new music and a whole new adventure. Catboy, Owlette, and Gekko will delight fans of all ages. Tickets: $29-$59. 6 p.m. www.ticketmaster.com
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PORTSMOUTH CHRISTMAS TREE LIGHTING & ILLUMINATED PARADE 7 SATURDAY PORTSMOUTH – Downtown Portsmouth. Experience this magical event. Excitement builds as the community counts down to the lighting of the Christmas tree and the festive fun continues with a dazzling illuminated holiday parade down Islington Street and through Market Square. Tree lighting at 5:30, parade at 6 p.m. www.vintagechristmasnh.org
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UGLY SWEATER 4-MILER 14 SATURDAY MANCHESTER – The Backyard Brewery, 1211 South Mammoth Road. Get that stinky moth ball smell off of your ugliest holiday
FROZEN JR. DEC. 13-22 NASHUA – Court Street Theater, 14 Court St. Based on the 2018 Broadway musical, Frozen Jr. brings Elsa, Anna, and the magical land of Arendelle to life onstage. The show features all of the memorable songs from the animated film, with music and lyrics by Kristen Anderson-Lopez and Robert Lopez, plus five new songs written for the Broadway production. Tickets: $15. Go to website for show times. 886-7000; www.peacockplayers.org
ELF: THE MUSICAL 13 FRIDAY – 15 SUNDAY DERRY – Derry Opera House, 29 West Broadway. Buddy, a young orphan, mistakenly crawls into Santa’s bag of gifts and is transported to the North Pole. The would-be elf is raised, unaware that he is actually a human until his enormous size and poor toy-making abilities cause him to face the truth. With Santa’s permission, Buddy embarks on a journey to New York City to find his birth father and discover his true identity. Tickets: Adults, $20; age 17 and younger, $12. Show times: Friday, 7 p.m.; Saturday, 2 and 7 p.m.; Sunday, 2 p.m. www. majestictheatre.net
PETER PAN 19 THURSDAY DERRY – Stockbridge Theatre, Pinkerton Academy. TheaterWorksUSA’s production of Peter Pan is based on the 1982 adaptation, which was originally developed for London’s Royal Shakespeare Company. This production tells the story through the eyes of six children living in Edwardian England. Together, they transform the Darling family’s nursery into Neverland, turning pillows into clouds, long-johns into shadows, an ironing board into a ship’s plank, and antique snowshoes into a crocodile’s snapping jaws. Age 3 and older. Tickets: $7-$8. 10 a.m. www. stockbridgetheatre.com
RECYCLED PERCUSSION 26 THURSDAY ROCHESTER – Rochester Opera House, 31 Wakefield St. New Hampshire’s own drumming group Recycled Percussion is back in the Granite State. You may have seen them impressing the judges on America’s Got Talent, or even seen them
sweater — you are going to need it for the Ugly Sweater 4 Miler presented by Tito’s Handmade Vodka. Take a four-mile run/jog or walk to benefit the Manchester Animal Shelter. This is a chip-timed
event and will include finish line photo with Santa, snacks, a Tito’s signature cocktail to those 21+, awards and more. Entry fee: $35. 9 a.m. Visit www.manchester animalshelter.org
perform in Las Vegas, or maybe as they opened the 2017 Super Bowl or on their TV show “Chaos & Kindness.” Whether it’s your first time or your 10th, a Recycled Percussion show always rocks. $35-$45. Show times: 12:30, 4:30 and 7:30 p.m. 335-1992; www. rochesteroperahouse.com
NOON YEAR’S EVE PARTY 31 MONDAY MANCHESTER – Currier Museum of Art, 140 Ash St. Ring in 2020 a few hours early at the Currier Museum of Art’s annual Noon Year’s Eve party for the young and young at heart. Wrap up a day of celebration with bubble-wrap fireworks and a huge balloon drop. Enjoy art-making activities, face painting, a dance party, and live entertainment from magician BJ Hickman. Dress in your party best and celebrate the New Year at the Currier. Go to website for cost and tickets. 11 a.m. to 3 p.m. 669-6144; www. currier.org
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PORTSMOUTH – The Music Hall, 28 Chestnut St. Annie is the story of a red-headed orphan whose quirky and cheerful demeanor lands her a holiday stay with Oliver Warbucks, a billionaire who is trying to do good. With a memorable cast of characters, and beloved songs “Tomorrow” and “It’s a Hard Knock Life,” this is a family-friendly musical for the holidays. Features Sally Struthers in her Broadway tour reprisal of Miss Hannigan. $45-$67. Go to website for show times. 436-2400; www.themusichall.org
FAMILY NEW YEAR’S EVE CELEBRATION 31 TUESDAY DOVER – Children’s Museum of New Hampshire, 6 Washington St. Head to the museum for a family-friendly New Year’s Eve celebration and ring in the New Year before bedtime. Enjoy “countdowns to midnight” at 11 a.m., 12:30 p.m. and 2 p.m. It’s always a festive and fun environment reminiscent of Times Square. Visitors can make sparkly recycled paper hats and take a picture in the photo booth. Activities included in regular museum admission. Admission: Adults and children 1 and older, $11; 65-plus, $9; free for museum members and children under 1. 742-2002; www.childrens-museum.org
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time out 10 FUN WAYS TO RING IN 2020 BY MELANIE HITCHCOCK
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hether you are looking to dress up or dress down, laugh or dance, there’s a variety of New Year’s Eve happenings across the Granite State. This year, you might want to grab a pinstriped suit or fringed dress to join in one of the several “Roaring 20s” themed-parties. No matter where you decide to go, be sure to get your tickets early as some of these events are likely to sell out. You’ll find ticket purchasing information online. And don’t forget to book the babysitter!
New Year’s Eve Champagne Pops Head to The Music Hall for an evening of glamour, champagne and the sounds of the Portsmouth Symphony Orchestra. Ring in the New Year while embracing the vibe of the 1920s and 30s. The Music Hall • Portsmouth www.themusichall.org
New Year’s Eve Gala: Midnight in Paris Take an adventure through the streets of Paris and bring in 2020 in style. Food, drinks, dancing all night and champagne toast. The Grappone Center • Concord Eventbrite
New Year’s Eve Roaring Twenties Costume Party
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The Atrium in Concord’s Eagle Square will transform into the ultimate speakeasy. A secret password will even be required for entry. Evening features a six-course dinner, black and white Roaring Twenties costume party, and a chance to learn the Charleston.
Celebrate the New Year and new decade at the Aldworth Manor. Dress from the 1920s is highly encouraged for this cocktail-style dance party. Appetizers, live music and midnight champagne toast.
Start the evening with comedian Bill Simas then you’ll want to kick up your dancing shoes to the best of 1980s pop and rock.
Eagle Square Atrium • Concord Eventbrite
A Night of Wishes – New Year’s Eve Dinner End the year in semiformal attire at the winery. There will be a “Wishes for the New Year” station, where you can list your hopes and dreams for 2020, as well as a three-course meal, music, dancing and toast at midnight. LaBelle Winery • Amherst www.labellewineryevents. com
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Aldworth Manor • Harrisville www.memorableevents.ws
Bunyan Room New Year’s Eve Party After a day of skiing, head to the Paul Bunyan Room at Loon. This end-of-theyear party will feature a DJ, midnight champagne toast, and hot and cold hors-d’oeuvres. Loon Mountain • Lincoln www.loonmtn.com
The Governor’s Inn • Rochester www.governorsinn.com
11th annual New Year’s Eve Comedy Show Kelly MacFarland is one of the most sought-after comedians in the country. She shined in “Last Comic Standing” on “The View,” and she was runner-up at the Boston Comedy Festival. Two shows. Sheraton Portsmouth Harborside Hotel • Portsmouth Eventbrite
Adam Ezra Group Spend New Year’s Eve with the Adam Ezra Group. Enjoy dinner and a show (or just the show!). The Tupelo is moving tables so there will be plenty of room for dancing. Tupelo Music Hall • Derry www.tupelohall.com
New Year’s Eve with Bob Marley Spend the evening with popular comedian Bob Marley and laugh your way out of 2019. You’ve seen him on “The Late Show” with David Letterman, “The Tonight Show” with Jay Leno, “Late Night” with Conan O’Brien and “The Late Late Show” with Craig Ferguson and Craig Kilborn. Two shows. The Flying Monkey • Plymouth www.flyingmonkeynh.com
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