Retreat Coaching Framework
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GETTING THE LIFE & W O M E N YO U WA N T S TA R T S W I T H YO U
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01. BUILD AN ACTIVE SOCIAL LIFESTYLE T H AT FULFILLS YO U . By building a lifestyle, you’ll develop your sense of independence, which is key to sustaining relationships.
Find passions that bring you joy, challenge you, or teach you something new. Create friendships with people who care about you. Invest in your health so you feel your best every day.
Everyone has that scumbag brain who wants you to stay at home on Netflix or social media. But this will never bring long-term fulfillment. You have to live outside of your house -- even as an introvert. Introverts recharge energy from being social, too, they just need the right environments and social dynamics.
This is the foundation for developing a healthy mind and a happy life. This will make it infinitely easier to connect with like-minded people.
Men who only go out to meet women cultivate
a
desperate,
co-dependent If you have nothing else going on in your life, why would a woman want to be part of it?
mindset.
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You have been living a disconnected life. You’ve searched for answers from external sources and avoided the hard internal work necessary for change. The
answer
to
finding
02. READ LESS AND CONNECT MORE TO Y O U R S E L F.
fulfillment,
confidence, and the connections you desire is within you. We can help you see it and access it, but you’re the only one who can do something about it. Everything you will ever experience flows from your relationship with yourself. By taking the time to enhance and strengthen your relationship with yourself, you will be able to form deeper and more authentic relationships with others.
Writing Exercise: Write down what your typical work day and weekend looks like. One person will volunteer to share their average week with us.
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03. SELF-ESTEEM IS THE BELIEF T H AT YO U ’ R E WORTHY OF LOVE AND BELONGING.
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You build this through a deep acceptance of everything you are and everything you aren’t. It is an internally held belief -- no one or nothing else can provide this. It starts by becoming aware of how to build a fulfilling life for yourself. You must know your wants (desires), needs (standards), and boundaries (self-respect). Then you prioritize taking care of those things in your life. You then take real-world actions that align with those principles. This forms a powerful congruence between your internal priorities and your external behavior. Only when you take care of yourself first will you see yourself as worthy of others. And that is how people will see you as worthy, too.
Pro-tip: The standards you expect of others should be the standards you expect of yourself. If you want a quality woman, you have to put the work in yourself.
Writing Exercise: Create a list. Disregarding your fears, what do you want your life to look like in six months? What do you need in a relationship to be happy? How do you want to be seen and treated by others? (boundaries)
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04. SELF-CONFIDENCE I S T H E B E L I E F T H AT YO U C A N H A N D L E W H AT E V E R H A P P E N S I N T H E M O M E N T.
You build this through small, courageous actions that provide reference experiences -- good and bad. When you accept yourself and express that to the world, you reinforce that you are strong enough. We call this process of showing up and speaking honestly, “strong vulnerability”.
Strong vulnerability is not about pouring your heart out. It’s about choosing to be seen by others for who you are, even if you feel weak or scared. You can also choose not to share yourself, but it should be because you feel someone hasn’t earned it, as opposed to a fear of being judged. Being
confident
isn’t
about
being
fearless. It’s about taking vulnerable actions DESPITE those fears.
Roleplay Exercise: Look at your list of wants, needs, and boundaries from earlier. Come up with one way you could start to enact those changes in your life. Share that idea with us. Roleplay that scenario out loud.
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lunch Real-World Exercise : Share a topic with us that you feel passionate about. We will come up with a genuine question or two about that topic. Then we’ll ask people those questions together. 0 7
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05. R E G U L A R LY S H OW I N G YO U R S E L F G R AT I T U D E A N D C O M PA S S I O N I S T H E O N LY W AY T O C H A N G E YO U R I N N E R C R I T I C .
Your negative inner voice has been So you need to show yourself talking down to you for decades. It’s an compassion (gratitude) and forgiveness ingrained habit -- you as often as possible. can’t ignore it or just Every time you take hope it will go away. action, honestly Discussion Exercise: State praise yourself -something you’re grateful whether you think for about yourself or that You need to actively you succeeded or not. you have done in the last change the way you talk Praise what you’re week. Reaffirm that it’s doing right instead of not about the outcome but to yourself every criticizing what you’re your commitment to the chance you get. doing wrong. Remind effort. yourself of what’s Would you ever good about you and criticize your mother, accept that you are human in your father, sister, brother, or best friend the mistakes. way you do yourself? No. You know it would crush them and make them feel You have to fall in love with the journey, like shit. So how dare you treat yourself not just the destination. It’s how you’ll like that?! stay motivated long enough to change your inner critic.
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06. STOP LIVING I N YO U R HEAD A N D S TA R T LIVING OUT LOUD!
You think too much and speak too little. Your ability to verbally express yourself is a muscle you must train. Use your voice all the time, everywhere. Fall in love with what you have to contribute. Practice both alone and in the moment with people. The more you speak your thoughts, feelings, and observations — the more you will let go of internal shame. This opens the door to present your most charismatic self to others. Trusting in your word is the essence of self-confidence.
Discussion Exercise: Use your five senses to take in your surroundings. Connect to the environment, the people you see, or even just what’s on your mind today. Express those thoughts freely with us.
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0 7. WITH THE RIGHT PEOPLE YO U CAN’T DO ANYTHING WRONG.
With the wrong people, you can’t do anything right. You can’t and shouldn’t expect to connect with everyone. You need to find compatible people to build healthy relationships with. Invest in the connection to yourself and live honestly in the world. That’s how you develop standards, self-respect, and attract people that appreciate you. From there, you’ll stop wasting time and walk away from incompatible people. You’ll stop being a desperate person who seeks approval. You’ll stop trying to convince emotionally unavailable women to be excited about you. You become a man of choice rather than waiting to be chosen. Coincidentally, this makes you the man women ultimately desire.
Discussion Exercise: Share with us some romantic or personal connections that you’ve walked away from. Tell us what made you reject them.
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08. W H E N YO U D O N ’ T L I V E H O N E S T LY, Y O U W I L L B E C O M E A N E E D Y, RESENTFUL PERSON.
You can’t prioritize making other people happy first. You can’t try to fix them and hope they will make you happy in return. This will NEVER work because we are all responsible for our own fulfillment.
Pro-tip: Being needy is not about behaviors but rather the mindset behind those behaviors. If you’re
When you don’t care for yourself, you will do things for others with strings attached. You will hope that your words or actions gain their approval. When they don’t, you will feel resentful because you’re still not getting what you want.
doing something because you want to, that’s self-confidence. If you are doing it to gain external approval, that’s
This leads to controlling behaviors and neediness.
codependency in relationships. This is what we call the “nice guy” syndrome: men who claim to be nice but are actually
Reflection Exercise: What if you keep prioritizing other people’s happiness over your own? What if you continue listening to your fears and living your life the way you have been? Reflect on your own.
dishonest and manipulative. Neediness is the opposite of confidence. It is the biggest turnoff for women. Even if you attract someone initially, it will be nearly impossible to sustain a healthy relationship with that mindset.
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01. DEEP CONNECTIONS A R E B U I LT THROUGH OPEN AND HONEST C O M M U N I C AT I O N . Stop having disconnected, generic conversations. Stop trying to fill two seconds of silence with safe bullshit you don’t care about.
People
These conversations will bore you and make it difficult to naturally express your best self. Others will respond with the same disengaged dialogue. They’ll never get a chance to reveal the qualities you’d find attractive in them.
They don’t just want factual exchanges. True connection comes from two people focusing on one another and sharing things they give a shit about.
want
to
have
memorable
discussions and feel strong emotions that move them.
Roleplay Exercise: Listen to our conversation prompt. Try to respond with your honest emotions and with minimal facts.
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02. YO U A L R E A DY KNOW HOW TO TA L K TO WOMEN!
It’s just your anxiety that disconnects you from accessing your natural charisma. There are people in your life you’re already present and comfortable with. You just need to get into that same mindset with women. Anxiety is an emotional response to focusing on an outcome rather than a connection. It happens when you’re seeking someone else’s approval, or avoiding disapproval, rather than just getting to know each other. When we focus on trying to naturally connect with people, it feels healthy and we can be more present.
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Pro-tip: You’ve been fighting your anxiety your whole life. But what we resist, persists. Next time
you
feel
paralyzed
by
anxiety
in
conversation, own up to it. Admit how you feel and it will lose its power over you.
Roleplay Exercise: We’ll place you in slightly challenging scenarios. When you feel some nervousness, admit it openly to the group.
Roleplay Exercise: Listen to our prompt of different social scenarios. Be mindful of your thoughts and feelings in that moment. Express them to Kristina from an authentic standpoint.
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03. SLOW DOWN, L I S T E N I N T E N T LY, AND CONNECT TO YO U R E M OT I O N A L EXPERIENCE IN C O N V E R S AT I O N . We can’t TALK ourselves out of anxiety. We need to let other emotions like passion, excitement, and curiosity overpower our anxiety. Trust that if you really feel what’s being said, you will always have something to say.
When you rush to answer, your anxiety will stifle your natural creativity and you will end up performing.
Pro-tip: If you look thoughtful, people
That starts by actively listening and not just waiting to say something.
won’t see the silence as awkward but
If you’re thinking ahead, you will miss what
rather as calming and confident.
they’re saying and it will be impossible to relate on a real level. Roleplay Exercise: We’ll provide a discussion topic. Slow down and share what you feel about the topic. Use the “I” and “Why” technique. Start your sentences with “I” and then explain “Why” that topic has personal or emotional significance to you.
Give yourself a few extra seconds to respond to someone. Pause and connect to what’s being discussed. Consider what you feel and how you can relate. Then reply with what’s actually interesting or personal to you -- not just what you think will be interesting to them.
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04. Y O U H AV E T O WA N T TO SEE PEOPLE AND LET T H E M S E E YO U . Eyes are the windows to the soul -- peer into them. Really look at people’s faces. See their expressions and let them see yours.
Open your body towards people. Closed body language is a protection mechanism and keeps people feeling distant. Change your physical body and you will also change the way you feel in the moment. Stand tall, uncross your arms, and take up a comfortable amount of space.
Strong eye contact is essential for creating powerful first impressions and building deep intimacy.
Pro-tip: Your eye contact and facial expressions reflect your internal feelings. This is why you need to connect to empowering emotions like passion or curiosity. If you’re constantly thinking about what to say or stressing about bothering people, your body language will give it away.
Roleplay Exercise: Practice eye gazing with a partner. Hold more intimate eye contact with each other for an extended period of time.
Roleplay Exercise: Practice giving a compliment or asking something personal while holding strong eye contact. You can use an idea supplied by us or reflect on a recent experience when you wished you had said something more personal.
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05. CARE ABOUT GETTING TO KNOW PEOPLE AND THEY WILL CARE ABOUT GETTING TO K N OW YO U . If you aren’t curious about someone else, why should they be curious about you?
You can react to someone’s answers and add your genuine thoughts, feelings, or stories. This is what makes a Being curious means conversation feel like Roleplay Exercise: Choose you ask questions you an engaging dialogue a question from our list truly care about. instead of an that resonates with you. Questions that would interview. Ask it to one of us. Listen, lead to discussions relate back, and then ask that deeply engage Good questions often another good follow-up you. Otherwise, you have at least one of question. won’t naturally feel these three qualities: what to say next and o p e n - e n d e d , will be left scrambling to ask the next emotional, or uniquely personal. bland question. Open-endedness requires someone to elaborate on their responses. Emotional questions get people to be vulnerable When you ask questions you’re interested and not stick to generic facts. Uniquely in, you will always have something to personal questions pull people out of auto-pilot and instead get them to contribute. answer from their hearts.
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06. P L AY TO YO U R STRENGTHS IN C O N V E R S AT I O N
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There are two ways you’re making conversations needlessly hard. You only talk about subjects other people bring up first. And then you stay on those subjects forever -- chasing what to say next. At some point, you need to lead into new topics you can talk endlessly about. This will make it easy to get fired up and share the most interesting parts about yourself. You can try either:
Topic-threading: Find an idea that’s
Topic-hopping: Otherwise, it’s fine to
slightly
take conversation in completely new
related
to
what’s
being
discussed but is more interesting to
directions --
you. Maybe you don’t care about pro sports. But mental discipline, becoming elite at something, improving your health, or your competitiveness with your brother are important to you. Make a statement or ask a question that steers the conversation into those areas.
especially if the topic has run its course. You don’t need the perfect segue, and that’s what most guys get wrong. You can always say something like, “Off topic, but…”, “By the way, lately I’ve been thinking a lot about..”, or “So I’m curious…”
Writing Exercise: List five topics you passionately care about.
Roleplay Exercise: We will supply you with a topic and start a conversation. Within one minute, lead the conversation to a related or new idea that you care more about.
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0 7. STORIES ARE THE MOST GRIPPING W AY W E C O M M U N I C A T E WITH EACH OTHER. Storytelling is the oldest spoken art form. Stories can be deeply engaging and showcase your best qualities without you stating them.
Pro-tip: If you hear something that reminds you of a personal story, just
Every story can be great even if it’s
lead
into
it.
Say,
“That
actually
something simple. It just needs to make people feel something or connect to you
reminds me of…” If talking to a group,
on a more personal level. don’t just focus on one person --
This starts by understanding the three parts to a story: setup, journey, and resolution. You start by setting the scene, building tension, and then having some kind of payoff.
periodically make eye contact with everyone to make them feel included.
Transport the listener back there with you and take them on a journey. Use descriptive words that paint a picture and choose powerful words that create emotion. People want to experience what you saw, heard, and felt.
Writing and Discussion Exercise: Tell us about the craziest/most interesting thing that happened to you in the last month. Discuss how we could improve that story. Take the advice from our discussion and improve your own story in your notebooks. Share with us your improved story.
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W O M E N WA N T YO U TO E M B R AC E YO U R SEXUAL CONFIDENCE
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01. ACC E P T YO U R INNER DESIRES A S H E A LT H Y AND ESSENTIAL TO ROMANTIC R E L AT I O N S H I P S . Women know you want to have sex with them. They don’t have a problem with that. They just want to feel that you’re also interested in them as a person.
We do that by flirting -- aka showing sexual interest. Flirting is what gets women aroused and thinking about the possibility of sex. We all want to be desired by people we find interesting.
Women have sexual needs just like you.
Women usually flirt through subtle actions and wait for you to move things along. But if you take the initiative to show interest in them, they’ll feel more comfortable flirting back. Once you’ve both flirted even once, it will immediately shift the dynamic from platonic to intimate.
So you cannot friend your way into intimacy. You must position yourself as a potential sexual partner while simultaneously getting to know each other.
Discussion Exercise: What does flirting mean to you? How have you tried to show romantic interest in women in the past? What has been difficult?
Roleplay Exercise: Observe us making a conversation more romantic without using our words. We’ll use strong eye contact, positioning, or vocal inflection to show this. Watch the clip to get a better reference on flirting.
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02. COMPLIMENTS ARE ONE OF THE MOST P O W E R F U L W AY S T O BUILD CONNECTION — B U T T H E Y H AV E T O BE GENUINE.
Most compliments fall flat because they are generic bullshit. Compliments should be earned and that is when they will feel meaningful.
Pro-tip:
To
make
a
compliment
flirtatious, include that you find that quality attractive. For example, “That’s
Recognize a quality or personality trait you admire that someone has shown you.
one of your most attractive qualities.”
Don’t just tell them what you like but WHY you like it.
“I like that in a woman.” or “I think
Complimenting on personality is better than physical appearance. But physical compliments can be great if they are specific to that person.
that’s really sexy/cute.”
Roleplay Exercise: Reflect on something one of us has shared over the last few days that made an impact on you. Give a genuine compliment about it.
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Roleplay Exercise: Kristina shows you pictures of other women. Give them compliments. Try to add some romantic interest to one of them.
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03. PEOPLE GET E XC I T E D ABOUT SHARING EXPERIENCES, NOT NUMBERS.
Use a commonality that you found in conversation. Or, think about an experience you’re excited to share with this person. Express that idea as a way to see each other again. Then exchanging phone numbers will be a natural way to make that happen. Your passion for an idea will encourage the other person to feel the same way. They can overcome their nerves and think that at the very least, the experience will be fun. Be concrete about plans. Don’t give vague ideas of, “maybe we can do this” or “yeah we’ll get together sometime soon.” That makes people non-committal and less likely to see you as a person who values their time.
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Pro-tip: If you’re hitting it off during the ďŹ rst meeting, go on a date right then and there. Suggest continuing to hang out or moving somewhere else.
Roleplay Exercise: Kristina will give you a scenario. Talk to her for a bit and then invite her out.
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04. TA K E I N I T I AT I V E TO GO AFTER W H AT Y O U WA N T.
You’re an adult with your own desires and so are the people you interact with. So be willing to lead and: suggest meeting up again, change conversation topics, or invite a woman back to your place.
This is how a strong, secure person behaves. They go after what they believe will make them happy. But they also want people to do the same for themselves and suggest something different. A controlling person goes after what they want even at the expense of other people’s happiness.
Constantly asking for permission is a massive turnoff.
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You can’t read minds. Trust that if someone wants something different than you, they’ll say so. This will help you find a compromise that works for everyone.
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Pro-tip: Sometimes people may just be nervous to take your lead even when they want to. You can positively lead with enthusiasm or humor once more. Having conďŹ dence in your ideas can help nudge people to move forward with you.
Roleplay Exercise: We will provide different scenarios where you just met a girl. Invite her out to do something in the future or in the moment.
Roleplay Exercise: Practice leading Kristina in different scenarios: grabbing a drink, going for her number, inviting her to another date while on a first date, or inviting her home.
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05. BEING CLOSE AND PHYSICAL BRINGS US CLOSER TOGETHER.
Most guys try to keep physical distance when they meet people to make them feel comfortable. In reality, when you position yourself far from others, the connection feels cold. We naturally get close to those we care about.
If you never touch a woman, she will have a hard time being comfortable and physically intimate with you. If you never touch a woman, she will have a hard time being comfortable and physically intimate with you.
This also makes it easier for you to engage in physical contact.
Pro-tip: Don’t wait until the end of a date to go for a kiss. This makes it feel less exciting and spontaneous, and puts awkward pressure on a big final moment. It also makes it difficult for physical intimacy to progress if she wants it as well.
Roleplay Exercise: We will provide first date or first meeting scenarios. Practice physical contact with Kristina.
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06. A WOMAN’S B O DY LANGUAGE WILL TELL YO U I F S H E ’ S I N TO YO U . You can’t look for a magical sign that a That is often the clearest green light woman wants you to touch her. Women you will get. If she openly touches you are often subtle when back or tells you she starting to flirt. So, it’s likes your touch, easier to take a leap of that’s an even IF AT ANY POINT A faith to show your stronger signal of WOMAN VERBALLY TELLS interest and adjust interest. YOU STOP OR THAT SHE from there. DOESN’T WANT YOU If you touch her and TOUCHING HER RIGHT Start with friendly she pulls back or NOW, STOP touches and if they’re moves your hand IMMEDIATELY. DO NOT well received, slowly away, stop touching RESUME PHYSICAL increase the intimacy for now. This is a sign CONTACT UNLESS SHE of your touches. that she may not be SAYS OTHERWISE. ready or comfortable yet. You can try once Use her body language and her more a little later to see if things have voice as a guide. If you touch her and changed. If you still get the same she lets you continue or keeps her body response, stop touching for that against yours, assume it’s okay to keep interaction. going.
Roleplay Exercise: Split into groups. Practice touching in a more friendly way. Then practice touching and flirting in a way that would make other men uncomfortable.
Roleplay Exercise: Practice more intimate touching with Kristina. Use her body language to adjust your approach.
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0 7. YO U N E E D TO ACCEPT IT’S H E A LT H Y T O TA L K ABOUT SEX AND LOVE.
Intimacy is at the core of our human needs. It’s also an integral part of a romantic relationship. You have to be curious about other people’s sexuality and sexual experiences, while also wanting to share yours. When
you
can
talk
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non-judgmentally, women will feel more comfortable and aroused to step into their sexuality with you. This opens the door to present your most charismatic self to others. Trusting in your word is the essence of self-confidence.
Roleplay Exercise: Practice asking intimate questions and discussing them with Kristina.
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Women don’t expect you to be perfect in bed and you shouldn’t expect that of yourself. What they want is to share a comfortable experience with you.
G R E AT SEX IS A TEAM EFFORT TO BUILD TRUST AND COMFORT TOGETHER.
Use your voice to guide her into relaxing. Reinforce that you want her to enjoy herself. Tell her how beautiful she is and how much she turns you on. This gets her into a headspace where she doesn’t feel stressed or self-conscious, which then paves the way for her arousal.
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But don’t forget -- you need to get super excited and aroused yourself! Look at her and touch her in ways that drive you wild. Have her say something that you find irresistible. Get into positions that make you feel primal. Lose yourself in your deepest desires. This will crush your anxiety and make you the hottest partner in the moment. Women want nothing more than a man who looks her deeply in the eyes, tells her how much he wants her, and expresses passion with his voice. Sharing an emotional experience together is so much more important than any technique.
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Discussion Exercise: Tell us something that turns you on about a woman. Share with us different verbal and non-verbal ways to build sexual comfort for both of you. This will help you connect to your desire for her, which will make both of you more comfortable.
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A C T I O N I S T H E PAT H TO BEING HAPPY & CONNECTED MAN 3 8
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01. YO U NEED TO FIND A C O M M U N I T Y. We are social creatures who can’t go through life alone. Many men don’t have even one real best friend nowadays. Without these bonds, we feel isolated and alone.
Invest in your friendships -- they will be the people you love and who love you for life. It’s okay to have different friends for different areas of your life. Some friends will be for outdoor activities, some for intellectual conversations, and others for going out to socialize.
Become a part of or start something bigger than yourself.
Writing Exercise: Draw a table. In one column write down the names of people who positively influence your life. Next to each name, write down one activity that you enjoy doing with that person. Reach out to at least one of them during the retreat and tell them you’re excited to do that together when you get back. Make concrete plans.
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02. P R O A C T I V E LY A D D I N G VA L U E TO PEOPLE’S LIVES IS H OW YO U STRENGTHEN PERSONAL R E L AT I O N S H I P S . Most people passively wait for others to reach out. Then everyone feels like people don’t care about them and they protect themselves. Be the person who checks in on friends, offers support, sends a funny or insightful piece of content, starts an interesting dialogue, invites them to an activity you’re attending or hosting, and connects them to new people. Do this without expectation. The people who value you will invest back in you. And those who don’t will reveal themselves to not be your tribe over time.
Discussion Exercise: Hear how we stay connected with people all over the world. Use what you learned in the lesson to reconnect with someone from your life over the next month.
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03. BE WILLING TO ASK FOR S U P P O R T.
Men are often prideful and don’t want to ask for help. They don’t want to bother people and be seen as weak. In reality, this sabotages your relationships because people feel closer to you when they feel like they can support you. If you are willing to give freely, then you can receive without abusing their kindness.
Discussion Exercise: Think...what do you need help with in your life right now? Do you have a friend who could assist you with that? Do you have a friend who could you go out socializing with? Share that with us.
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04. LIVE TRUE TO Y O U R VA L U E S AND C O M M U N I C AT E YO U R L I M I T S
Nobody knows your boundaries except you. At some point, someone is going to cross them whether they mean to or not.
This signals to others that you have deep respect for who you are and they will see you accordingly. You will get less flakes, more communication, and more investment because of it.
It’s your job to set those boundaries and
If someone continues to disrespect you after setting your boundaries multiple times, then you should have the pride to walk away. This will do more for your self-esteem than almost anything else. Remember, if you put someone on a pedestal, they can only look down at you.
give people a chance to respect them.
Discussion Exercise: Read the poem, As I Began to Love Myself.
Discussion Exercise: What are your boundaries? Do you have examples of something someone did that went too far but you didn't do anything about it? How could you have acted differently?
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05. NOTHING WILL EVER CHANGE IF YO U DON’T TA K E ACTION.
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You are not going to fall into becoming a confident, connected man. Taking consistent action towards self-acceptance and personal fulfillment is the only path forward. Most men fail to do this by taking on too much, hitting setbacks, and getting demotivated. It makes the process frustrating and miserable. Instead, find your flow -- the perfect balance of making enjoyable progress without stretching yourself too thin. Remember, growth requires patience and time. That’s why it’s crucial to have an accountability system in place. Break down your bigger vision into fun, manageable action steps. Hold yourself accountable to take that first easy step and then praise your efforts. This will keep you motivated towards more challenging action until you hit your bigger goals. The past is the past but the future is up to you. You have endless new choices every day, either to act in self-love or in fear. Choose wisely.
Discussion Exercise: Reflect on something you’ve always wanted to do or get back to. Tell us about it. Why haven't you done it recently? What's stopping you? How could you take mini-steps towards it? We will use one person as an example.
Written Exercise: What do you want to change in one month? Three months? One year? Let’s create a vision and some small action steps towards that vision together.
Discussion Exercise: Tell us how you’ve held yourself accountable to accomplish goals already. What systems have worked for you? We will also provide other ideas. Pick one or two accountability idea that you will stick to.
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