Mindful April 2013 Sampler

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IS MINDFULNESS GOOD FOR BUSINESS?

Healthy Mind Healthy Life How Working with Your Mind Is the Key to Well-Being

The Science of Changing Your Brain

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How a Mother Stopped Teens From Hurting Themselves

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4 Contributors

65 In Practice 66 Techniques Take a Moment to Get Grounded

6 From the Founders Being Mindful: Now is the Time

67 At Work Avoid the Office Minefield Dealing with generation gaps at the office and a boss who talks trash

9 Now How one mother fights for teens • Learn how to change your mindset • New film documents the work of neuroscientist Richie Davidson • It’s time to redefine winning • Research Roundup • Art that looks back at you • What they don’t teach at the police academy • Get mindful reminders on your phone

The writings, recordings, and apps that are capturing our attention now

22 Mindful–Mindless Our take on who’s paying attention and who’s not

24 One Taste Crunch & Spice Angela Mears reconsiders the radish Recipes by Béatrice Peltre

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Meditation: Start Here Sharon Salzberg offers practical tools to deepen concentration, mindfulness, and compassion

28 Body/Mind

80 MindSpace

Diving Deep Scuba diving triggered fear for Elizanda de la Sota, but she didn’t let it stop her

Maira Kalman draws on meditation for her first illustration for our back page

30 Mind/Body Mind vs. Brain In her first column, Sharon Begley compares “brain talk” to “mind talk”

“So many times our perception of what’s happening is distorted by bias, habits, fears, or desires. Mindfulness helps us see through these.”

Sharon Salzberg

Coming in the next issue of Mindful: A profile of Congressman Tim Ryan, author of A Mindful Nation Sallie Tisdale on the joy of goofing off A Dose of Dirt: The natural world as medicine What’s sex got to do with it? A peek at meditation in the bedroom

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Ed Halliwell, author of The Mindfulness Manifesto, on how meditation can take us way beyond stress reduction

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68 Ask Ms. Mindful A husband who spends too much • A fiancé with cold feet • What to do with a gloomy teen

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GET UP & GO Take a walk with no destination. Smile. Say hello.

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Features 34 Health Care New and Improved Three stories of people who take a hands-on approach to their own health care

By Emma Seppala Sidebar: Doctor not listening? 5 ways to change that p 37

42 Raising Baltimore— One Child at a Time Children in one of the city’s toughest neighborhoods find calm and confidence with the help of three young men who teach them yoga and meditation

By Carsten Knox Sidebar: Ali and Atman Smith and Andy Gonzalez share their tips to help kids find calm p 48

52 Is Mindfulness Good for Business?

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Management professor Jeremy Hunter looks for answers Sidebar: Your Mind at Work New ways to tackle the thorniest workplace problems p 55

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60 Still on the Road Travel can be thrilling, challenging, disorienting—but for Pico Iyer there is peace in unfamiliar places

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Jeremy Hunter

Béatrice Peltre

Pico Iyer

Jeremy Hunter explores the question: Is mindfulness good for business? (p. 52).

With a decade of experience teaching in MBA programs specializing in executive management, he has gained some insight on the topic. “It’s not just mind your breath,” he says. “It’s let’s look at why you’re doing what you do. It’s about taking a step back, reassessing, and creating other choices for yourself.”

Chef, food stylist, and photographer Béatrice Peltre developed the recipes and photographed the radishes featured in this month’s One Taste department (p. 24). “This kind of food—healthy and organic—is what I do,” says the Boston resident who grew up in rural France. “Whatever you see is what I eat. If that means it’s not as pretty or glossy, that’s fine.” Peltre is the author of the cookbook La Tartine Gourmande: Recipes for an Inspired Life.

Pico Iyer, who writes about the clarity he finds while traveling (p. 60), is no stranger to the departures level. “From the age of nine, I was flying alone six times a year, back and forth between my parents’ home in California and my schools in England,” he says. “So I guess I decided early on that movement was only as good as the stillness that lies beneath it.” Iyer is the author, most recently, of The Open Road and The Man Within My Head.

Carsten Knox

Sharon Begley

Maira Kalman

Mindful’s associate editor, Carsten Knox, went to Baltimore to profile the founders of the Holistic Life Foundation, who work with inner-city children and youth (p. 42).

“I’m a fan of the HBO TV series The Wire, so I asked Ali, Atman, and Andy what they thought,” he says. “They liked the show’s story but said the reality of living in Baltimore is far worse.” Knox’s writing has appeared in The Globe and Mail, the Ottawa Citizen, and the National Post.

“This three-pound piece of tissue inside our skull can do amazing things. And science is discovering so much more about it every day,” says Sharon Begley, the senior health and science correspondent at Reuters. “But it’s important to remain humble in the face of the many questions science has only begun to ask, no less answer.” In the first installment of her column in Mindful, she explores the interplay between the brain and the mind (p. 30).

“I love the marriage of word and image,” says Maira Kalman, frequent contributor to The New Yorker, author of many children’s books, and Mindful’s regular illustrator for MindSpace (p. 80). Kalman started a mindful practice in order to inspire her work on our back page. “The aim is to do a course of meditation and share my thoughts. It’s been very helpful in the hectic days to calm me down.”

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Illustrations by Jessica McCarthy and Maira Kalman (self-portrait)

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Being Mindful Now is the Time Something important is happening in our society today: people are being mindful. More often. In more ways. And in more places. In our view, the simple act of being present has the power to change everything—how we approach ourselves, our challenges, our relationships, and our communities. We believe being mindful is an idea—actually, a way of being—whose time has come. We are launching Mindful to celebrate and support this growing movement.

Mindfulness is not obscure or exotic.

It’s familiar to us because it’s what we already do, how we already are. It takes many shapes and goes by many names.

In his basketball days, former senator Bill Bradley called it a sense of where you are, and for many athletes today it’s being in the zone. For caregivers, it’s attention and empathy. For soldiers and first responders, it’s situational awareness. For business leaders, it might be presence or flow. Artists see it as spontaneity and thinkers as contemplation.

Mindfulness is not a special added thing we do. We already have the capacity to be present, and it doesn’t require us to change who we are. But we can cultivate these innate qualities with simple practices that are scientifically demonstrated to benefit ourselves, our loved ones, our friends and neighbors, the people we work with, and the institutions and organizations we take part in. theit’srest of When an idea’s timeRead has come, part of the zeitgeist, the spirit of the times.

Living mindfully is one such idea. Solutions that ask us to change who we are or become something we’re not have failed us over and over again. We’re ready for an approach that recognizes and cultivates the best of who we are as human beings.

Mindfulness is not only timely. It also has the potential to become a transformative social phenomenon, for these key reasons: • Anyone can do it. Mindfulness practice cultivates universal human qualities and does not require anyone to change their beliefs. Everyone can benefit and it’s easy to learn.

• It’s a way of living. Mindfulness is more than just a practice. It brings awareness and caring into everything we do—and it cuts down needless stress. Even a little makes our lives better.

• It’s evidence-based. We don’t have to take mindfulness on faith. Both science and experience demonstrate its positive benefits for our health, happiness, work, and relationships.

• It sparks innovation. As we deal with our world’s increasing complexity and uncertainty, mindfulness can lead us to effective, resilient, low-cost responses thistoarticle Mindful’sproblems.

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now “What’s going on with these teenagers?

They’re constantly in crisis mode—reacting, not responding.”

Fiona Jensen, founder of Calmer Choice

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“Too much of the education system orients students toward becoming better thinkers, but there is almost no focus on our capacity to pay attention and cultivate awareness. We can learn to bring together the body’s various systems to fine tune the body and mind, so we can navigate life’s ups and downs in a way that minimizes stress and maximizes well-being.”

Jon Kabat-Zinn, in conversation with Stephan Rechtschaffen, cofounder of the Omega Institute

A Winning Strategy “Winning isn’t everything.

It’s the only thing.” Those words from Vince Lombardi, legendary coach of the Green Bay Packers during the 1960s, have been repeated by coaches to thousands of players ever since, from Pee Wee football and Little League to the NFL and Major League Baseball. It’s a credo not only for the field but also for life.

Jason Dorland, author of Chariots and Horses: Life Lessons from an Olympic Rower, was raised on that kind of thinking. He lived by it. He thought of it as the only path to excellence. He passed it on to others. But when he reached the pinnacle of his sporting career—in a race where seconds and nanoseconds make the difference between victory and also-ran—he came to see that philosophy as an obsession that hurt him mentally and physically.

An Olympic rower, Dorland was a member of the 1988 Canadian eights crew heavily favored to take gold in Seoul. On race day, the team faltered and fell out of medal contention. Dorland went into a tailspin. “It defined me,” he says. “Every time I walked into a room I assumed everybody thought, ‘There’s the guy who came sixth at the Olympics.’

When the race goes sideways and the outcome isn’t what you

anticipated, and you don’t have the tools to deal with it, you fall down pretty hard.”

As Dorland gained perspective over time, he didn’t like what his winning-at-all-costs attitude had turned him into— someone addicted to anger as the path to excellence. When he started coaching he decided to take a different tack. Dorland coached the Shawnigan Lake School senior boys’ rowing crew in British Columbia to four national championships, but he taught his athletes that the excess stress that comes from obsessing about winning can actually decrease performance—not to mention create pressure to use performanceenhancing drugs.

Today Dorland counsels his athletes to find satisfaction within, to strive for excellence that isn’t based on comparison.

“You could not create a more destructive and constricting message than telling kids that only winners are worthy of celebration,” he says.

And Lombardi would likely agree.

As he looked back on his legacy, the iconic coach said of his most famous dictum, “I wished I’d never said the thing.

I meant the effort. I meant having a goal. I sure didn’t mean for people to crush human values and morality.” ●

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A child begs to take the stairs because he’s terrified of elevators. A soldier tries to reintegrate at home after a tour of duty in Iraq. They have one thing in common: both of their brains have been affected by trauma.

But as neuroscientist Richie Davidson points out in the film Free the Mind, to be released in the U.S. this spring, “We can shape our brains in ways that increase happiness and well-being and also promote pro-social behavior. The brain is built to change in response to experience.

It’s transformable.”

Named by Time as one of the world’s 100 most influential people, Davidson founded the Center for Investigating Healthy Minds at the University of Wisconsin–Madison in 2008 to unite rigorous neuroscience research and applications of that research in real-world settings.

Free the Mind, directed by Phie Ambo and produced by Danish Documentary Productions, charts one of Davidson’s studies: the effect that learning meditation and yoga has on the lives of veterans and children with ADHD. ●

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Recipes and photographs by BĂŠatrice Peltre. Find more of her work at latartinegourmande.com

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Crunch & Spice

By Angela Mears White Icicle. Bunny Tail. April Cross.

Snow Bell. Plum Purple. Red King.

Easter Egg. You may be surprised to learn that these names were given not to nail polish, paint colors, or candies but to diverse varieties of a single vegetable. Most radishes, once planted, mature in less than four weeks, yielding edible roots in the gentlest pastels and brightest jewel tones.

White or black, fist-sized or pebbleshaped, mild or punishing, no vegetable springs from its seed so readily or in so many disguises as the radish.

Perhaps we have this generosity of form to thank for its association with some of literature’s hungrier heroines.

Scarlett O’Hara, upon eating a radish straight out of the dirt at Tara, swore she would never go hungry again. And, according to some accounts, Rapunzel’s mother yearned so powerfully for the radishes in a witch’s garden that she surrendered her infant daughter just to satisfy that craving.

If you’ve ever bitten into a raw radish, you know the assertive pungency unexpected in such a pretty morsel. The sharpness comes from sulfurous molecules and enzymes that produce, when chewed, a stinging, almost funky flavor also found in mustard and wasabi—a fact that makes radishes a very divisive vegetable.

I’ve seen children flee from them. I did. The tacquerias I once visited with my father offered mountains of Red Belles to snack on, trimmed and soaking in pools of ice water. They were mostly tasteless with an occasional hint of that punishing sharpness. I was not averse to vegetables as a rule, but I was averse to punishment.

But then something happened. I bought a clutch of French Breakfast radishes from the farmers’ market, oblong and dirt-caked and streaked with pink.

Eaten plain, they were nose-burningly hot. But, when enjoyed thinly sliced with good salt and creamy butter, the effect of their pungency was not unlike that of a ripe French cheese, and soon the burn seemed more pleasing than punishing.

Strong cheeses are, of course, an acquired taste. But then so are radishes, and I seem to have acquired a permanent craving for them. I say craving because that is really the only word that will do.

Radishes are not refreshing like lettuce, not hearty like kale, not sweet like beets.

They belong, for me, somewhere to the left of the produce section. They savor of dirt, brie, yellow mustard. They are intense and unpredictable and hard to refine. Yet for all this personality and swagger, a single Red Belle or French Breakfast offers only one calorie of burnable energy.

Beautiful. Biting. Basic.

Radishes at play in a salad, or getting top billing between two slices of bread: whatever you choose, eat with the kind of gusto you’d normally reserve for something richer. Notice how your hunger ebbs, and how quickly it surges again. If only Scarlett O’Hara had enjoyed hers a little bit more. ● Angela Mears writes about food at thespinningplate.com

Radish, Edamame, and Goat Cheese Tartines with Fleur de Sel Makes 4 tartines 4 ounces soft fresh goat cheese 4 slices of bread of your choice 8 to 10 pink radishes, finely sliced (use a mandoline if you have one) ⅓ cup cooked edamame Sprouts, to taste (try arugula or broccoli sprouts) Olive oil, to drizzle Pepper Fleur de sel

Spread the cheese on top of the slices of bread. Arrange the sliced radishes on top (about 2 radishes per tartine). Add the edamame and sprouts. Drizzle with olive oil.

Season with pepper and fleur de sel.

Serve with soup or a side salad.

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Diving Deep Scuba diving triggered fear for Elizanda de la Sota, but she didn’t let that stop her.

As told to Carsten Knox Photograph by Sarah Wilson

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Name: Elizanda de la Sota Age: 62 Activity: Scuba diving Location: Austin, Texas

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Mind vs. Brain Scientists insist on talking about the brain while the rest of us talk about the mind.

In her first installment of this column, Sharon Begley sizes up the two sides of the mind/brain conversation.

Sharon Begley is the senior health and science correspondent at Reuters, author of Train Your Mind, Change Your Brain, and coauthor with Richard Davidson of The Emotional Life of Your Brain.

Illustration by Malin Rosenqvist

Let’s try a little experiment. Using your right index finger, point to your brain. Now using the same finger, point to your mind. Not so easy. We don’t necessarily think of our brain and mind as being exactly the same thing. One is not as easy to pinpoint, and this has led to two distinct ways we have of talking about mental activity: mind talk and brain talk.

To those of us without a degree in neurobiology, it seems completely natural to refer to the mind. We talk about feeling this way and thinking of that, of remembering one thing and dreaming of another. Those verbs are examples of mind talk. Using mind talk, we would say, “I recognized my first-grade teacher in the crowd because she was wearing the necklace with the beetle scarab, which was so unusual I still remembered it after all these years.”

We would not say, “A barrage of photons landed on my retina, exciting the optic nerve so that it carried an electrical signal to my lateral geniculate body and thence to my primary visual cortex, from which signals raced to my striate cortex to determine the image’s color and orientation, and to my prefrontal cortex and inferotemporal cortex for object recognition and memory retrieval—causing me to recognize Mrs. McKelvey.” That’s brain talk.

That there is an interplay between mind and brain may seem unremarkable. The mind, after all, is generally regarded as synonymous with our thoughts, feelings, memories, and beliefs, and as the source of our behaviors.

It’s not made of material, but we think of it as quite powerful, or even as who we are.

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Health Care New & Improved A new generation of patients and doctors is changing the face of American medicine.

It’s about more than curing disease now— it’s health for the whole person.

Story by Emma Seppala Photographs by Cameron Wittig

Stacy Brindise, 30, was eager to have children. But after trying for several years to conceive, she and her husband, Mike, were still childless. Like millions of couples, the Brindises were faced with what doctors refer to as “unexplained infertility.”

Couples diagnosed with unexplained infertility are typically active, healthconscious people of childbearing age who find themselves—for no apparent reason—without a crib or a bottle in the house. Like many, the Brindises followed a familiar route, first consulting doctors who recommended hormone treatment, which Stacy reluctantly decided to try.

$34B Americans spent nearly $34 billion out of pocket for alternative treatments in 2007, according to a National Institutes of Health survey.

The arduous six-cycle program involved daily medications, self-administered hormone shots, and monthly intrauterine insemination with a catheter.

But the Brindises still couldn’t get pregnant.

Physicians next suggested that Stacy try in vitro fertilization. It would involve doses of medication, a considerable price tag (starting at $12,000), and increased chances of her having twins—factors that gave the couple considerable pause.

Nothing had worked and it was time, Stacy decided, to change her approach.

“When people have a medical problem, everybody seems to jump right to drugs →

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Raising Baltimore One child at a time

What do kids growing up in the toughest parts of inner-city Baltimore need most? Three guys returned to find out­—and changed lives and a neighborhood in the process.

Story by Carsten Knox Photographs by Mark Mahaney

Baltimore is a city of corners and alleys.

At night, the corners in the Western District are lit by the blue glow of police cameras, a crime deterrent.

The alleys run through the middle of block after block of Baltimore’s famous row houses, providing sheltered places for kids to play and a quick exit for those with something to run from.

The uncharitable might call it a ghetto. The Western District in particular has been beset by poverty, drug abuse, and violence: 34% of the children here, most of them African American, live below the poverty line, compared to 14% in the rest of the state. And while some of the homes here are well kept—the paint fresh, lawns mowed—many blocks are punctuated with abandoned properties, “the vacants,” their windows boarded.

The house at 2008 North Smallwood lies in the middle of one of these blocks. This is where brothers Ali and Atman Smith grew up. And it’s here that, with their friend Andres “Andy” Gonzalez, they formed the non-profit Holistic Life Foundation (HLF) in 2001.

Starting with 20 fifth-grade boys, the foundation’s after-school program introduced yoga, mindfulness, urban gardening, and teamwork to children in the neighborhood in an effort to revive the community through its youngest, most vulnerable members. In a city where the dropout rate for high school students is routinely higher than 50%, 19 of those first 20 boys graduated and the other got his GED. Hundreds of youngsters have now passed through the program. And researchers from Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health and Penn State University have begun to study the work being done by the guys at Holistic Life. They’re paying special attention to the program’s effect on children’s moods, relationships with peers and teachers, and emotional self-regulation. After more than a decade, Ali, Atman, and Andy’s work is getting noticed beyond the blocks of the Western District.

The founders of the Holistic Life Foundation, from left: Andy Gonzalez, Ali Smith, and Atman Smith.

Down a narrow alley off North Smallwood is The Quiet Place. It’s a former vacant lot, hidden by rows of old houses and decaying cement walls, transformed into a park. HLF did this. There are benches, barbecue grills, garbage cans, blue rain barrels, and a vegetable garden growing tomatoes, basil, beets, cucumbers, peppers, watermelons, cantaloupes, sage, cilantro, lilies, lavender, and a whole bunch of mint.

“The city cuts the grass but they’re being kind of slow about it this year,” Ali says.

At 36, he has a large presence, laid-back but serious. He’s bald, with a beard that frames his cheeks and chin. He dresses casually. On this hot summer day, he’s in a T-shirt and shiny gold basketball shorts.

Ali’s cell phone rings. “Killer Cam!” he says, smiling. “Hey, you comin’ tomorrow, right? Just listen to your mother, please. Just listen to your mother so you can come tomorrow.” Tomorrow is a cookout at The Quiet Place, organized by HLF, a chance for the →

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Below: Darrius Douglas, 22, was in the first Holistic Life Foundation program, which was offered after school at Windsor Hills Elementary in Baltimore’s North Smallwood neighborhood. He now teaches with HLF as a volunteer.

“People wonder why a lot of black guys end up in the streets,” he says. “That’s cause they don’t have nothing in their life.” Opposite: Kaila Winkler practices her breathing.

community to get together. Ali signs off, “All right, that’s what’s up.”

A lean, athletic man, looking like a young Bob Marley with short, messy dreads, walks up to Ali’s red Chevy Trailblazer. It’s Atman. He’s 34, with a radiating calm like his brother’s, dressed casual and comfortable. The bumper sticker on the back of Atman’s black Nissan XTerra is a Marley quote: “None but ourselves can free our mind.”

Atman climbs into the Trailblazer. He says to Ali, “Thank you, chauffeur.”

Ali says, “You know how I do. Call me Jeeves.”

Then Andy jumps in the car. He’s 33, quick to smile, with a thin beard and long hair tied back in a ponytail. Ali points the car downtown, with Kanye West’s summer smash “Mercy” playing on the stereo.

Ali muses on how long a particular home on North Smallwood has been vacant. “That one on the corner, remember the guy who had the dog up on the roof?” he asks. He estimates it’s been empty since he was a child. “Maybe there’s two people living on this block—at the most,” he says. Occasional gaps in the rows of homes begin to appear. “These spaces,” Andy says, “are because the houses just kind of collapsed.”

The blocks multiply, empty lots increase, and the city begins to resemble a war zone.

Ali and Atman call their parents hippies. But when they were growing up, yoga wasn’t something they talked about with their friends. “If we were vegan and did yoga now we’d be the coolest kids on the planet, but back then, nobody was doing it,” says Ali. It was their father, Meredith “Mert” Smith, a basketball coach at Southern High School, and their godfather, Will Joyner, who taught them. Ali says it was normal to see his father in a headstand down in the basement. “We walked on past, went into the TV room to watch Saturday-morning cartoons, and when he was done he’d come join us.”

Ali and Atman went to a Quaker school in a middle-class neighborhood, the Friends School of Baltimore, and his sons, Asuman and Amar, go there now. “Quaker school was kinda cool. It reinforced the meditation stuff we’d learned,” says Ali. “We did meaningful worship, where you had your moment of silence, where you sat and kinda reflected on things.”

Though Ali and Atman’s mother, Fredine “Cassie” Smith, and Mert divorced in 1986, they remain friends. And it was around then, as the brothers became teenagers, that they really noticed the neighborhood change in the wake of the crack epidemic.

“When we were kids, it was like one big family,” says Ali. “You could point at every house on the block and say who lived there. But the people who were making sure good values were being passed on, who were strong male role models, drugs took them away from the community. They were either locked up or dead. And women, too. A generation was raised by grandparents or foster parents.”

It limited people’s vision of what they could be in life, says Atman. “Drug dealer, rapper, or athlete.

You weren’t worried about trying to be a scientist, or mathematician, or philosopher, or…”

“A yoga teacher,” Ali adds.

In the late 1990s, while attending University of Maryland College Park, they met Andy Gonzalez, who grew up in Severn, Maryland, the youngest of five. Andy was a marketing major and musician with a passion for hip-hop. He started doing yoga with Ali and Atman and found his personal outlook changing. “A large part was that self-practice,” he says. “When you’re inside and you look outside, it’s like, wow, man, the outside kinda sucks compared to the inside. Within us is transformative.”

While at college, the guys started an informal reading group, devouring books on ancient history, spirituality, astronomy, astrology, and physics. The books inspired their practice and perspective. “We were trying to figure out what’s the meaning of life, why we are here,” says Atman. “Once we started analyzing that, we realized the purpose is to help everybody. Selfless service.”

Ali and Andy finished school and moved back to Baltimore in 2001, with Atman joining them on weekends until he graduated in 2002. They knew that their selfless service needed to be here, at home.

The answer was the Holistic Life Foundation. →

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Meditation: Start Here

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Practicing meditation doesn’t involve a whole new set of skills. It works so well, Sharon Salzberg says, because it enhances life skills we already have.

The most common response I hear these days when I tell someone I teach meditation is “I’m so stressed out. I could really use some of that.” I am also amused to hear fairly often “My friend should really meet you!” I’m happy to see that meditation is known more and more as something that could be directly helpful in our day-to-day lives. Anywhere stress plays a role in our problems, meditation can have a potential role in its relief.

Meditation practice need not be tied to any belief system. The only necessary belief is not a dogmatic one, but one that says each of us has the capacity to understand ourselves more fully, and to care more deeply both for ourselves and for others. Its methods work to free us of habitual reactions that cause us great unhappiness, such as harsh selfjudgment, and to develop wisdom and love.

Meditation gives anybody who pursues it an opportunity to look within for a sense of abundance, depth, and connection to life.

Rather than an ornate, arcane set of instructions, basic meditation consists of practical tools to help deepen concentration, mindfulness, and compassion. →

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