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DEALING WITH ANXIETY IN CHILDREN WAYS TO CALM

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- WHAT NOT TO EAT WHEN PREGNANT

TODDLER TALK DECODED

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EVERY MONTH

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EDITOR’S LETTER

YOUR CHILD EDITOR’S PICKS

BOOK REVIEWS

MUMMY BLOG: IT’S ANOTHER WORLD OUT THERE

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TEETHING CHALLENGES AND HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM

COPING WITH THE LOSS OF YOUR NEWBORN BABY

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ECTOPIC PREGNANCY LOSS OVERCOMING HEARTACHE. COPING WITH GRIEF AND LOSS AFTER THE ACCIDENTAL DEATH OF YOUR CHILD SIGNS OF MISCARRIAGE

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EDITOR’S

Letter Hi Everyone, So here we are, October! Gee Wizz, 2 months and we are in 2018! Can you believe it? With Winter well and truly behind us and I so happy to report that we haven’t had any colds, flus or gastro bugs this month...woohoo. This past winter has actually been the worst I’ve experienced since Maxie graced us with her presents. She is born late march so the weather is cool but those first two winters were amazing and she hardly got a sniffle. Now that she is a toddler and can dress and yep undress herself it’s been a struggle to get her to keep on her jacket and jumper, let alone her winter hat... But hey enough of that because Summer is coming and now I don’t have to think about this until next year! ☺️ My Darling Daughter is really into singing these days. It’s super cute to hear her in the morning lying in bed singing away to herself, it’s not so cute when I walk in all happy to see her and she then tells me in her cute little voice “Mummy get out”. What the? FYI - I pay the bills here kid, not sure you should be telling me to get out –LOL. I’m loving how much she is speaking these days but seriously where is she learning this stuff cause it ain’t from me! Anyhow that’s a toddler for you, they have no filter. Now let’s take a look at what’s in this latest issue. This month is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Issue. There are some great articles for you to covering these very sensitive topics, Ectopic pregnancy loss, How to move forward when your child dies in an accident, Signs of miscarriage, Coping with loss of your newborn baby and How to support your partner after the loss of your child. We also have some other great reads for you, what not to eat when pregnant, Teething challenges and how to deal with it, Toddler talking decoded, Dealing with Anxiety in Kids - ways to calm, Spending 1 on 1 with your kids and why they need it. This month’s real read is about a father’s experience of stillbirth and his Rainbow Baby and our inspirational read is about the founder of luxury baby skincare range Lullaby. All the usuals, fashion, interiors, reviews, blog and much more can also be found in this issue too.

Bianca xxx Until next month Bianca and the mychild Team xxx

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Coping with the Loss of Your Newborn Baby 8

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PREGNANCY & INFANT LOSS

It’s the big day. You’re finally getting all the contractions and you find yourself in hospital, going through hours of labour. Once the final push happens, the doctors and nurses don’t say anything and all you hear is silence. You don’t want to think it, but the next thing they start saying is, “We’re sorry for your loss. Condolences.”

In this scenario, this is what a parent’s nightmare would look like. Spending hours trying to push out a baby but having to face his/her’s death at the same time; it’s confronting and scary. Coping with any sort of loss, especially on people you care about is hard, but with time, you’ll find yourself living normally like you used to. However, this doesn’t mean losing a newborn baby won’t change you because it will. You’ll be a different person from this obstacle.

the death of the baby is unclear (ie. death from SIDS), the coroner will go ahead with the post mortem examination anyway.

WHAT DO I HAVE TO DO AFTER THE DEATH OF MY BABY? If your baby has spent weeks in hospital and ends up passing away, the doctors and nurses will ask you if you’d like to spend time with him/her. Although it’s a sad moment for parents, holding your baby will provide you with comfort and peace. This is a memory you’re shaping with your child; one you’ll never forget. This can be heartbreaking for parents, especially for those that weren’t able to hold their baby when they were under intensive care.

A common reason for a baby’s death is if they’re born prematurely (before 37 weeks) or if they have a low birth weight. Other causes include: respiratory distress syndrome (RDS), pneumonia, bleeding in the brain, infections from the womb (during or after birth) and inflammation of the large and small intestine.

Spending quality time such as bathing, taking photos, handprints or footprints can benefit you and the family. Being able to do this will help you build on some cherished moments you had with your newborn before you say goodbye. It could also help you grieve with your family. Rest assured, this is something you’ll remember for a lifetime. WHAT CAUSED THE DEATH OF MY BABY? This can be a frustrating and upsetting experience for families but if you need to know what happened, you can request for a post mortem. The examination of your baby will let you find out details on the cause of death, information of their development and other information on health problems. Of course, this is optional and some may choose not to go ahead with the post mortem because of personal or religious reasons. However, if

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There needs to be a consent form signed for the post mortem examination. Please take advice from nurses and doctors whether it is a good idea to see your baby after it. Sometimes, saying your goodbyes prior to the post mortem is a safe option for you and the family.

ANY FURTHER ARRANGEMENTS I NEED TO MAKE? You can register the birth or death (or both) of your baby. More information can be found via www.bdm.nsw.gov.au/ for guidelines in NSW. In Australia, it is a legislative requirement to hold a funeral service for babies born at 20 weeks or greater. You can choose to have it with a religious representative or hospital chaplain. If you don’t want a service for your baby, you are more than welcome to cremate them too. There are many ways to say goodbye. Each individual will choose an experience that is suited for them and the family. Schedule in some sessions with the counsellor. It’s not easy dealing with death, especially one you didn’t expect. Talking about your feelings and thoughts to another person can really help. We understand how much trauma you may feel so it’s really important to have an honest conversation with the people you care about.

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Does Wendy have a worry? Techniques and tips to help calm your anxious child. Written by Genie Price Childhood is full of new experiences and journeys, which at times, can often feel overwhelming and scary to your child. Think about the time you first learnt to ride a bike or start a new school, for example. Do you recall a sense of the unfamiliar? Flutters in your tummy? Fearful and anxious behaviour is common in children, with most learning to cope with a range of normal fears and worries. However, for some – a little extra help might be needed when: 12

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• They feel anxious more than other children their age • These feelings of anxiety hinder or stop them from participating in daily or routine activities, such as school • The anxiety interferes with their ability to develop at a normal rate alongside their peers of the same age In 2015, a year-long study undertaken by the National Health Commission and the Australian Government has highlighted that one in seven (13.9%) children aged 4-11 years will suffer from a mental health disorder, with 6.9% of those affected by anxiety disorder.

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Alongside ADHD, anxiety disorders are one of the highest rated mental health concern in children and young people in Australia. What types of anxiety disorders are there? POST-TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER: This disorder can develop after being involved in, witnessing or learning about a frightening situation or event. It can be debilitating and can lead to ongoing issues such as: • Vivid memories and nightmares • Flashbacks

• Heightened senses – where children will display signs of irritability and jumpiness in certain situations. PANIC ATTACKS AND PANIC DISORDER: A panic attack is an episode of intense fear and discomfort associated with physical symptoms and fearful thoughts. Symptoms can include: • shortness of breath • accelerated heart rate • trembling • sweating and dizziness • fear of going crazy or dying

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Furthermore, fear of panic attacks in public places may lead to agoraphobia (feelings of an environment being unsafe with no easy escape). OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE DISORDER: OCD is characterised by unwanted and intrusive thoughts (obsessions) and feeling compelled to repeatedly perform rituals and routines (compulsions) to try and ease anxiety. Most children with OCD are diagnosed around age 10, although the disorder can appear in children as young as two or three. Boys are more likely to develop OCD before puberty, while girls tend to develop it during adolescence. A common compulsion many children experience is with handwashing where children will continue to wash their hands repeatedly from fear of germs making them sick or ill. SOCIAL ANXIETY: Social Anxiety refers to extreme levels of shyness and fears in social situations. It is characterised by children avoiding a range of social interactions such as: • talking to new people • speaking up in class or among peers • performing in public These children are frequently self-conscious and will often have only a small number of friends. SELECTIVE MUTISM: Selective mutism is a childhood anxiety disorder that is diagnosed when a child consistently does not speak in some situations, but speaks comfortably in other situations. These children are capable of speaking yet are unable to speak in certain social settings where the demand to speak, is high, such as: • at school • at dance class • at sports practice

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In other situations, the same children may speak well with others and may even be considered to be quite “chatty”. SEPARATION ANXIETY: Common among the toddler and early childhood years, children who suffer from separation anxiety are those who have excessive anxiety about being separated from parents and/or primary caregivers, such as a grandparent or a nanny, or the familiar - home. For example, they may: • cling or cry when a parent leaves the home, or • refuse to go to school or play dates • to sleep alone in their own bed They may not be comfortable being alone in a different room from the parent or caregiver even in their own home. HOW TO HELP YOUR CHILD COPE WITH ANXIETY? Take baby steps: Anxieties and worries happen. Although you don’t want to see your child unhappy, the best way to help them overcome it is to take baby steps. If you know your child might become anxious at a new school, or the situation is unfamiliar to them, try to take them to that place beforehand. For example: If you are moving schools, take your child to the school for a few sessions beforehand; let them see and experience it. With your positive language and support, they can manage their feelings. Doing this will not only help them to tolerate their anxiety and function as well as they can, but eventually, the anxiety will decrease or fall away over time. Don’t avoid it altogether: As hard as it is, helping your child to avoid what they are afraid of will only make them feel better for a short time.

At the time, you may think you are helping but avoiding the situation reinforces the anxiety over the long run. If your child is in an uncomfortable situation, try not to be tempted to remove the things they are afraid of or whisk them away. They will quickly learn this is the best coping mechanism, and that cycle has the potential to repeat itself. Deep Breathing: You hear it all the time “Take a deep breath.” Well, it’s true. When you are calm and relaxed, your body has more chance to “think” about the situation and you will be able to respond better. However, for children, they need to be taught this. Helping your child to learn the art of deep breathing by: • Blowing bubbles • Blowing on feathers and dandelions • Blowing on windmills and pinwheels Things to say: • Breathe in like you are smelling a flower, breathe out like you are blowing out birthday candles • Arms up and breathe in, arms down and breathe out • Pretend your belly is a balloon. Breathe in and make the balloon bigger, then breathe out and make the balloon shrink. Create a coping box: Every child has their favourite things. Whether that be books or nanas old hanky, your child will benefit from having a box full of their favourite items. Use the coping box as a distraction leading up to an event that you know may cause anxiety, or for times where the anxiety hits your child out of the blue. They will quickly feel comforted knowing they have some special items on hand to help them feel grounded again.

Other quick Tips and Tricks: Sometimes you’ll need a quick way to help your child calm down and you don’t have much with you. Maybe it’s when you’re out at Target or stuck in traffic. These tips will come in handy during those times: • Imagine your favourite place – use positive language to describe your child’s favourite places • Think of your child’s favourite things and encourage them to talk about these and how they make them feel • Name animals alphabetically (alligator, bear, cow, dog, etc…) • Squeeze something (play dough, clay, silly putty, your fists, a stress ball) • Get a cold drink of water for your child – the sensation of cold will help distract your child • Remember your child’s favourite song and sing it with them – or on your own if you have to! • Use positive and supportive language Anxiety is real and for children, it can be particularly scary. With some positive support and guidance, your child will feel whole again in no time at all. About the Author: As a qualified early childhood teacher, for 15 years, I have spent many days – even months helping children to establish trusting relationships with myself and with others. To help ease some of the anxiety that comes with starting a new centre. Please note: If you feel as though your child may be suffering from any form of ongoing anxiety, please speak to your local health nurse or doctor for further information. They will be able to give you the best and most sound advice based on your child’s needs. In an emergency situation, immediately proceed to the emergency room at your local hospital or call 000. Further information: For further information relating to mental health disorders, please visit: www.beyondblue.org.au

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PREGNANCY & INFANT LOSS

Ectopic Pregnancy Loss Written by Karli Steenkamp “You were unsure which pain is worse – the shock of what happened or the ache for what never will.” – Simon Van Booy It is never easy to cope with loss, never mind losing your own child, which you will never get to hold. Ectopic pregnancy is not a wellknown issue and many women are shocked and confused when they experience it. It affects 1 in 120 pregnancies and poses a huge health risk to the mother. Therefore, the pregnancy cannot progress, which leaves mothers in an emotional limbo of unanswered questions and emotions to deal with.

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WHAT IS AN ECTOPIC PREGNANCY? An Ectopic pregnancy occurs when a fertilised egg gets stuck in the fallopian tubes or positions itself outside the womb or uterus. This is also known as a ‘tubal pregnancy’. The embryo can’t survive outside the safe haven of the uterus and it is extremely dangerous for the mother because the tube can rupture and lead to internal bleeding. SYMPTOMS OF ECTOPIC PREGNANCIES Many women might not know they are pregnant when these symptoms start. • Vaginal bleeding or spotting and pelvic pain • Vomiting and nausea with pain • Sharp abdominal pains • Pain in one side of the body • Pain in the shoulder, neck or rectum • Dizziness or weakness. • A positive pregnancy test, which later becomes negative. Not all these symptoms happen to every woman. WHY DO ECTOPIC PREGNANCIES DEVELOP? There are a few theories that might be linked to Ectopic pregnancies. Cigarette smoking, Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs), Infertility treatment or scarring from previous surgeries has been linked to these pregnancies. The biggest thing you can do is not blame yourself. There is nothing you can do to prevent it from occurring. DIAGNOSIS AND TREATMENT The doctor will usually perform an ultrasound and possibly an internal examination to confirm the Ectopic pregnancy. There are two possible ways of treatment: 1. Medicine if the pregnancy is in its early stages 2. Surgery. The two most common surgeries are a Laparotomy, where a small incision is made above your bikini-line and the

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other is a Laparoscopy, where a thin tube is inserted through a small incision. A Laparoscopy is the easiest surgery if the tubes are not ruptured. The ectopic pregnancy will be removed. POST-ECTOPIC PREGNANCY It is possible to successfully fall pregnant after an Ectopic pregnancy. However, infertility treatment is advised if a fallopian tube has been removed. Unfortunately, the chances of having Ectopic pregnancy increases. To try and conceive again, it is recommended to wait at least three to six months as well as follow-up visits to the doctor. HOW TO DEAL WITH THE AFTERMATH OF AN ECTOPIC PREGNANCY Women are left with many emotions. Everything happens in a very short space of time. Having to find out that the pregnancy poses a ma jor risk to you is very conflicting and you might not get the answers you’re looking for. It is very hard to not have a choice in keeping the pregnancy and it can make you feel helpless. People don’t really know much about Ectopic pregnancies and might not know how you’re feeling. One woman describes her Ectopic pregnancy: “Everyone keeps telling me I can just get pregnant again and have another baby. But I wanted that pregnancy. I wanted that baby.” – Anonymous. It is important to talk to your family and friends about your feelings. Your partner needs to know how you feel, seeing that they also suffered a loss. Healing after an Ectopic pregnancy can be a lengthy process and it is important to work through the grief together. Take every day as it comes and know that there is a star shining a little brighter in memory of something that could not be. References: Pinterest / The Ectopic Pregnancy trust / Webmd / Medicinenet

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Teething challenges and how to deal with them Written by Cara Barilla Every child experiences teething differently from others. It could be quite broadened or a short-term period of pain and irritability. Signs and symptoms will also substantially change during different times of their infancy and as they grow into toddlerhood. Effective methods of controlling the teething phase can change from time to time. It’s crucial to switch on your “motherly intuition” and read your own baby’s signs, symptoms to become aware of their behaviour changes and needs. Every child is completely different from the next; the way they engage and deal with pain to how they express their needs. As the parent, during this developmental period you will pick up their queues and harmonise irritability.

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BABY

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Red and swollen gums can occur from a very early stage. This is challenging as your Bub may be in pain without showing signs of teething. Depending on their age, if they are over 6 months, keep some cool snacks such as cucumbers in the fridge. If they are under 6 months, keep gel teething rings or cool frozen gel or silicone based toys at arm’s reach. Frozen rubber teats are also very helpful. Excessive drooling can occur from as early as 3 months. During this period, ensure your bub gets lots of cuddles and changed bibs for comfort. Redness in the cheeks is very common, though many mums can get this confused with skin allergies or eczema. Soothing gel, baby panadol or teething rings are helpful at this stage of symptoms. Additional sleeping during the day and night can be a challenge to pick up whether it is due to teething or not. This could be linked to redness in their gums so if the two symptoms are evident, it’s best to keep bub well hydrated for an easy day’s rest. Watered down milk with baby panadol or some cool purée is very healing. If your baby is pulling and rubbing their ears, it is an obvious indication of jawline teething pain. It could be a rough time for you and the baby as they will be making things worse by pulling on their ears and creating additional ache. Biting toys, hands, food, and clothes is a sign that they may have current but short-term pain. At this point of their milestone, mums and dads need to be well-composed and ready to handle their baby at any

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hour of the day as teething can be uncontrollable and irritable. More severe cases of teething include loss of appetite. This is not uncommon but it can throw off your daily routine. The more tolerant you are to cater for your little one’s needs, the more your baby will naturally synchronise to the routine with ease. Try to keep your home relaxed, slow paced and quiet. In a time of teething, anything could possibly add on to the irritability. Facial rashes are common during teething and can be linked to eczema. Due to over drooling, the saliva can ultimately create irritated layering around the skin. Qv cream, baby rash

cream and specialised eczema cream are all very helpful during this period. There may be a possibility that your baby might experience minor health irregularities during teething. This is primarily caused by sleep deprivation and inability to consume

food properly and relax. Many children develop short-term diarrhoea or a flu around this period. This is mainly a side effect rather than a sign of baby teething. It’s best to speak to your GP to determine what medicine is best for healing your bub at this time. There is no clear set time of when teething will last. Until all your babies “milk teeth” have developed, it may be a rocky rollercoaster in the meantime. Milk teeth can finish developing from up to 2 years old. Your baby’s teeth won’t come out all at once; they could pop up after several months. As long as you are mindful of the best precautions for teething, it’s best not to be too hard on yourself as a mum. Put the main focus on your child’s happiness and daily health.

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Overcoming heartache.

Coping with grief and loss after the accidental death of your child

Written By Genie Price It’s every parents’ worst nightmare. A nightmare no parent should ever have to endure. It is a life-changing event accompanied by a journey of unbearable grief. It’s every parents’ worst nightmare. A nightmare no parent should ever have to endure. It is a life-changing event accompanied by a journey of unbearable grief. 24

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DEATH AND WHAT IT MEANS: It’s not everyone most favoured topic, death and dying. And yet, we all know what it means. What if you already knew that your child was going to die? Anticipated death occurs when someone you love experiences a terminal illness, genetic disorder or other medical condition. It means you already know that sometime in the near future your child will die and grieving for your loved one will often start before they pass away. Now, imagine the shock of receiving the unexpected news that one of your children has died? It’s not the same as knowing or being able to forewarn. Sudden death is just that, sudden and when accidental death of one of your children occurs, there is no preparation, no goodbyes and no making amends for past mistakes. There is only an ocean of misunderstanding and unforgiving emotion. SO, HOW DO YOU WALK THIS JOURNEY? You will walk this journey carefully and at your own pace. For each person is unique, so is the way they grieve. The Authors of When Your Child Dies, Avril Nagel and Randie Clark, explain that grieving can take weeks, months or even years and the experience will depend on many things. Such as: • The nature of the relationship to the bereaved • How your child has died • Your own disposition and spiritual views • Life circumstances

Any change in a person’s life, including positive changes – result in a transition involving new learning and a period of adjustment. If you can understand more fully what you are experiencing, you might start to feel less alone and more likely to gain a sense of control over your grief. LET’S TALK ABOUT GRIEF AND WHAT IT IS: • Grief is a natural response to losing someone you love • It is a process which does not progress in direct or predictable lines • Grief is a layered, ongoing passage, one made more difficult by the involvement of trauma to the event • Grief of a bereaved parent is said to be far greater than any other form WHAT TO EXPECT: Grief and loss is not something that comes with instructions. Experts can only guide you through the process as there is no definitive line to follow. Your body will lead you as you move through it. And, because the experience of loss is different for every person, you can expect to feel a wide range of both physical and emotional responses. While some of these you may occur simultaneously, others may happen alone. Emotional responses you can expect to experience are: • Numbness • Headaches • Nausea • A racing heart • Sleep disturbances • Fear Physical symptoms can vary also.

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However, you can expect to display some of or all of the following: • Intense sadness • Shock • Regret • Pining • Confusion • Disbelief • Despair, anger and panic

of grief and loss. Below is a list of personal affirmations you may like to use: • I commit to healing • I express my emotions • I take ownership of my grief • I commit to movement within my grief • I make changes when it feels as though I am stagnant

WHAT TO DO NOW? Because sudden accidental death comes without warning, the occurrence can disorientate you. It can make you almost incapable of actioning tasks that were once considered easy.

Checking in on yourself – Roberta Temes, author of Solace, tells you, you are the best person to determine what you need to help you through your grief and loss.

Even completing daily chores will have instantly become more difficult. A small checklist below may help you to gather your thoughts and work out what may need to happen next: • Notify close family and friends (those that you want to know) • Delegate the job of letting the extended family know, to someone you trust • Get a legal pronunciation of death and register the death • Organise travel (if needed for out of state) • Arrange for transportation of the body • If your child has a family of his or her own – support them as much as possible • Arrange a funeral At the time of your child’s death and for many weeks after, all facets of your mental, physical, emotional, spiritual and psychological being were and are being strained. At this time, you need to practice self-care. Some suggestions for coping with grief through self-care are: Practising personal affirmations- Affirmations are promises and a commitment to yourself. They are a powerful tool to use during times

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Using regular check-ins is an effective way of determining if you need a little extra support. Ask yourself: • Do I associate with people who are supportive of my grief and the process? • Am I making time for myself to relax and spend time alone? • Am I taking care of my body? • Am I being honest with myself? • Am I asking for help when I need it? What if you recognise you need help? It’s perfectly ok to recognise that you need some help and support to get through this tough time. There are ways to reach out and there are people in your family and within your community, who can help. These include: • Your local doctor • A close family member or a trusted neighbour • Calling a 24/7 counselling phone line or your psychologist NOTE: If you feel you can no longer control your emotions or decisions and believe you are in immediate danger to yourself or those around you, call 000 urgently and ask for assistance. WHAT CAN YOU DO TO FEEL BETTER? Sometimes you need to take action. By

owning and taking responsibility of your grief – you will develop more control over your feelings and how you will manage these. Some suggestions as outlined in Sue Morris’s – Overcoming Grief, A self-help guide using Cognitive Behavioural Techniques Suggests: Work is therapy – believe it or not, being engaged in your working environment can be one way to help you work through grief. By getting up every day and being around positive people, can have positive impacts on you. Art is therapy – At times of grief and loss, some people turn to the paintbrush for relief. Others turn to the pen. Producing art, whether it be acrylic painting, embroidery or working on how to become a bestselling author – being distracted by art is a good thing. Find something you love to do and do it. Socialising is therapy – Who doesn’t love a good chin wag? It’s important for your healing that you are among people. Adopt a new social policy and say “yes” to whenever you are invited out or invite some friends over to watch a movie, take a walk with someone you know on the beach or accept the lunch invitation. Without people, you could become isolated and take longer to progress through this grief. Other important healing guidelines to remember: • Everyone’s grief is unique – grief is an ongoing process with many layers. There is no right or wrong way to move through this process. • Keep it simple – try to keep your life uncomplicated. Make small goals for yourself and allow yourself space and time you need to achieve these. • Give yourself permission to grieve – one of the hardest guidelines to remember. You are moving through one of the most

powerful experiences of human existence. It is ok to admit you are in pain from your loss and to allow your body to naturally respond to this. • Remember them – Every relationship and individual is unique and for those reasons, we want to remember them as best we can. Choose to remember your child and remember them well. Share photos and old videos or even plant a tree in their memory and soon enough as you speak their name – eventually, the pain will ease. • Take care of your body – Though you have just lost a beloved son or daughter and most importantly, a friend, right now you need to take care of yourself. Enjoy hot baths and long showers, share a cider with your husband and watch some comedy to help lighten the mood – the main thing is, in order to move through this grief and come out the other side – you need to take care of you. Life sucks when someone you love dies. But as you re-enter life, you will soon realise you live but once and this is no dress rehearsal. Take pride in your coping capability. You will find your way through this grief and loss. You will live. You will live well and have a good life. This article is not intended to substitute for medical advice or treatment. Any person experiencing ongoing symptoms should consult with a qualified health professional.

References: Temes, Roberta. PhD. Solace. Finding your way through grief and how to live again. The United States of America, 2009. Sue Morris. Overcoming Grief. A self-help guide using Cognitive Behavioural Techniques. London, 2008. Avril Nagel and Randie Clark. When Your Child Dies. Tools for mending parents broken hearts. New Jersey, 2012.

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TODDLER TALKING DECODED Written By Cara Barilla Decoding the intricate methods of speech, pronunciation and verbal communication are vastly broadened depicting the child’s level of understanding and milestone peaking. The concern for parents these days is whether your child 28

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is hitting the right milestones at the right time; it’s quite difficult not to compare your child’s development with another peer who is the same age. Breaking down the fundamental points to toddler talk is fairly simple and can be broken down to help you learn more about your little one.

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It’s important for parents to keep their communication levels clear, effective and maintain clarity in every vowel, consonant and sentence. By the time your baby reaches 12 months old, they will be able to say “mama”, “dada” and point to objects whilst trying to sound them out. Pointing at an orange and

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sentences using nouns, adjectives and verbs. They will be able to say sentences such as “mummy, I want drink”, or “let’s play games!” By then your toddler would have reached an excellent amount of 250 learnt words and names. Don’t be worried in case your little one hasn’t adapted to putting words together; understanding is more important than actually vocally expressing their needs. Late vocal expression is usually caught up by age 5. If you feel your child hasn’t adapted just yet, it’s a good time to organise a paediatrician to consult your personalised matter further. Getting your toddler to unfold their own language takes time, patience and effort. From the moment you wake up in the morning with your little one to the time you go to sleep, vocal expression is just as important as physical expression to allow balance, synchronised learning, articulation, early literacy, social and coordinating motor skills. Exercising natural speech can be easy. When you change their nappy in the morning, lift your bub so you can express to them: “I’m just lifting you up to change your nappy so you’ll be nice and clean!” Children gain the ability to understand tone, rhythmic speech and sound at a very early age. It’s important to give them the tools they need as they are naturally quick learners. Children remember words easily when they are set and synchronised to song and rhythm.

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Try sing educationally to broaden their vocabulary. For example: you can sing what you are doing with them in the tone of “ three blind mice” or “ twinkle twinkle little star”. Try to add another word to the word your child is saying. For example, when they say “frog” you can add and respond with: that’s a “green frog” when applying emphasis on the two words together. This will strengthen their memory when it comes to the word “frog”. Toddlers naturally have their own language at this stage. You can depict their needs by asking them to point to what they need. The corresponding sound to what they have pointed at is their own way of naming the object. Try and make a journal of all the things they point or look at. Regardless of what your bub is trying to say, this can be easily understood by their primary parent. By you correcting them, they will develop a wider vocabulary. Toddlers learn new sounds, tone and volume each day. Stimulating their learning ability by reading to them and taking them through what you are doing step-by-step, you will start to see their language blossom.

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Signs of Miscarriage Written by Jana Angeles A miscarriage can happen unexpectedly or during the early weeks of pregnancy. The usual signs can be either vaginal bleeding or stomach pains. If you or a loved one is experiencing this, make sure to see your doctor or go to the emergency department at your nearest hospital as soon as possible. For many, a miscarriage is a term for ‘pregnancy loss’. For a soon-to-be mum, this is not good news. Losing a human you were excited to meet is something we can’t imagine, but unfortunately it happens on a day-to-day basis. WHAT IS THE MOST COMMON SIGN OF A MISCARRIAGE?

The most common sign is vaginal bleeding. If you’ve seen any light red/brown spotting or heavy bleeding, you may be experiencing a miscarriage. If this happens early on during the pregnancy, you may assume that you’re having your period.

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Other signs of miscarriage include: • Tummy cramps on lower region of stomach; pain could feel like you’re having period cramps or labour-like contractions • Blood clots or pregnancy tissue from your vagina • Fluid from your vagina In some cases, you may recognise your baby in the tissue and blood clots that have passed. Please note, this could be distressing for some mothers so contact your local doctor or go to your nearest hospital. WHAT IF I HAVE SIGNS OF SPOTTING DURING THE EARLY STAGES OF PREGNANCY? If you happen to experience some spotting, don’t panic. Many women during their first trimester experience spotting. However, if you feel concerned about this, do not hesitate to contact your doctor or midwife for support regarding the health of you and the baby. Just remember that if you’re experiencing any unusual pain, contact triple zero (000) or have a friend or family member take you to the nearest hospital. WHAT HAPPENS IF I EXPERIENCE A MISCARRIAGE AT HOME? A miscarriage can happen anywhere and there’s no chance for you to call your doctor or go to your nearest hospital. When it comes to managing the occurrence of the miscarriage, here are some things you can do: • Use pads to manage heavy bleeding • Take a rest • If you’re experiencing pain, take a paracetamol When everything begins to settle and you’ve calmed down, contact your doctor

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or midwife and tell them what happened. Sometimes miscarriages occur while using the toilet or when you’re out and about. You cannot control it once it happens. Remember, there is no right or wrong in handling this situation and it’s okay to feel scared or confused by this. A miscarriage, especially for those who are not parents yet, is distressing for some individuals. The stress of seeing the shape of your baby in passing fluid or tissue is not a pretty sight, but it’s natural to keep staring at it especially when you’re in denial of what has happened. If you’re able to, collect your baby in a container and show it to your doctor. They can send it out for laboratory testing to figure out how the miscarriage happened. Also, collecting the remains of your baby could be something you’d want to keep for the burial at home. WHAT NEXT STEPS SHOULD I TAKE AFTER THE MISCARRIAGE? • Speak to your midwife or baby for any health concerns regarding pregnancy and information on how you can prevent it for next time. • Take up counselling sessions. • Spend time with your family and friends for extra support during this tough time period. • Don’t blame yourself. None of this is your fault. A lot of women go through miscarriages; you are not alone in this. • Go to a support group for women who have experienced miscarriages. It’ll be a good way to share your stories, thoughts and feelings on the topic. • Bury the baby for closure, but only if you want to. Just remember you’re doing this so you can come to terms with their death. • Remind yourself that you can try again for another baby and that there are other options in having children (such as surrogacy, adoption).

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WHAT NOT TO EAT WHEN PREGNANT Written By Karli Steenkamp A very exciting time in one’s life is when you receive a positive test result and you have a little baby growing inside you. Everyone wants to give advice and you’ve probably heard before that what you eat is what your baby eats. While trying to maintain a healthy diet when pregnant, one must be aware of certain food groups that can change this wonderful time into a raging nightmare. You have to be more cautious about what you eat and where you eat. Certain foods are best to avoid completely. SOFT CHEESES Cheese and crackers are a great snack to fill an empty stomach. However, soft cheeses are made of unpasteurised milk, which can contain harmful bacteria like Listeria. Listeria is particularly harmful to pregnant women because of a compromised immune system. This can have ma jor health risks to your baby. Avoid cheeses like Brie, Camembert, feta and blue cheese unless the label states that it is pasteurised. FRESH JUICE Fresh isn’t always better. Fresh juice contains harmful bacteria like Salmonella and E. coli. They are not as harmful as Listeria but can still put you and the baby’s health at risk. UNDERCOOKED MEAT AND DELI MEATS ‘Raw’ and ‘tender’ needs to be removed from your vocabulary when it comes to meat. All meat needs to be cooked thoroughly to avoid the disease Toxoplasma caused by a parasite. Toxoplasma can cause problems with the brain or eyes. Deli meats such as cold cuts and hot dogs need to be avoided. Listeria is a bacterium that can grow inside the fridge. Pâté and meat spreads also need to be avoided. 36

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UNWASHED FRUITS AND VEGETABLES Rinse fruits and vegetables thoroughly under running water to get rid of any parasites that can cause Toxoplasma. It is advised to stay away from cantaloupe, raw sprouts and radish as bacteria can get into the seeds before they start growing. SEAFOOD, FISH AND SUSHI Don’t eat raw seafood. Make sure all fish is cooked before consuming. Avoid fish that are high in mercury like King Mackerel, shark and swordfish. High levels of mercury can be harmful to the development of your baby. Smoked salmon should be avoided because of the way it is prepared. Don’t eat fish from local water as local lakes are usually polluted. Sushi is made with raw fish and if the preparation area is not cleaned properly, it can grow bacteria. UNPASTEURISED MILK AND EGGS It is very important to make sure that everything is pasteurised. Homemade Caesar dressing or mayonnaise, tiramisu, mousse and meringues need to be made with pasteurised eggs. DOGGIE BAGS Be careful when taking food home. Make sure it does not stay in a hot car. If possible, get it in a fridge within two hours of preparation. CAFFEINE If you love coffee and chocolate, this might be a hard one for you. Evidence has shown that a pregnant woman can consume less than 200 mg of caffeine per day. Remember that tea, sodas and chocolate also contain caffeine. Choose your intake wisely. ALCOHOL No amount of drinking has been found safe during pregnancy. Alcohol can lead to birth defects so it’s best to lay off completely. Bacteria and parasites can cause health risks to you and your baby. Do your best to not feel overwhelmed by the list of foods you’re not allowed to eat. Ensure that you have a plan on what food to eat. Is it cooked? Is it wellprepared? Is it pasteurised? Plan your diet wisely and in advance. A healthy mind and body leaves a healthy baby. References: Webmd / American Pregnancy october 2017 | mychild

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GECKO Written by Raymond Huber, Illustrated by Brian Lovelock This is a wonderful resource for 5-8 year olds to learn about a very fascinating creature. Each page contains two portions of text. The first gives a fictional account of a day in the life of a gecko, drawing in readers as we anticipate what will happen to him next. Below this, in smaller print, is a scientific account explaining what we can learn about geckos from each part of the story. This format is both entertaining and interesting for children and adults alike, and the visually striking illustrations really bring the geckos to life on the page.

OI CAT! Written by Kes Gray, Illustrated by Jim Field The frog has made a rule that all animals must sit on something that rhymes with their names, but the cat no longer wants to sit on gnats as they keep biting his bottom! The dog and the frog help the cat brainstorm some hilarious rhyming options, and finally together they come up with an unexpected solution to his problem. This sequel to the award winning Oi Frog! and Oi Dog! is sure to delight readers aged 3-7.

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THE SACRED BOOK Written by Debra Tidball, Illustrated by Kim Siew As soon as this book discovers there are monsters in the story, it becomes too scared to continue the narration, and it asks for the readers’ help to rub away its goosebumps, blow away its butterflies and fan away the monster smell before it can carry on with the story. This is great fun to read aloud - the interactive elements are a sure-fire hit with 2-6 year olds, and the lighthearted tone and humorous illustrations make this an excellent choice for kids who are scared of monsters.

EVEN FAIRIES FART Written by Jennifer Stinson, Illustrated by Rebecca Ashdown This book initially presents itself as a traditional fairy tale, filled with fairies, pixies and pirates, but what it actually does is expose the embarrassing flaws of storybook characters – princesses picking their noses, unicorns being scared of the dark, trolls having ‘time outs’ and of course, fairies farting. The message for readers is that nobody is perfect – that their favourite characters occasionally mess up just like they do. Children aged 3-6 will love seeing fairytale personalities getting up to all sorts of mischief. The idea that we love these characters despite their flaws is especially poignant in today’s society, where even young children experience the pressure to be perfect.

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MY RAINBOW BABY STORY PIECE BY GAVIN YOUNGMAN Before I start this story, I want you to know it is okay. I lost my daughter, and it has left a scar on my heart that will never heal. I do, however, have three rainbow babies who make me smile every single day. People struggle to hear that a baby has died; it can be incredibly uncomfortable but discomfort pushes our boundaries. My wife, Gill, and I bantered about baby names for ages. I had a little trick … for each name she put forward, I would say “oh, I don’t know, that doesn’t sound like the name of a future Prime Minister”. And, it worked a treat. We were on our babymoon in Vanuatu, and in our third trimester, before we finally agreed on our Layla Emerald’s name. We experienced the typical ‘nesting’ and were well prepared for her arrival; we had her nursery painted in a beautiful mural of dancing dragonflies. We had the car seat fitted. Gill had finished work and commenced her mat leave. Our parents were on stand-by. Neighbours were lined up to feed the dogs. Our hospital bags were packed. We’d selected an outfit for our little girl to come home in. We’d even planned the details of our first family trip together to Japan, with her in a little backpack. 42

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Gill started experiencing labour pains in the evening; we were 40 weeks and 5 days along in the pregnancy. Gill became increasingly concerned that she hadn’t felt much movement that day. I Googled the hell out of it, and found reassurance in comments that towards the end of pregnancy babies have less room to move. It was probably okay. Nonetheless, we headed to the hospital and pushed through the doors of maternity. The look of concern on the midwife’s face, as she used the doppler on Gill’s big pregnant belly, said everything. The lack of urgency as the doctor entered the room confirmed it. After her silent birth, Gill and I stayed in the maternity ward for a few days so we could spend time with Layla. The sound of other babies crying was pure torture. I would walk to the bathroom or kitchen and see exhausted dads roaming the halls. I overheard them talk of the terrible night’s sleep they’d had. I envied them so much. I would give up sleep for weeks to hear one cry from my little girl but, instead, she lay quietl y; perfect, sleeping.

Our family and friends grieved with us so completely. I remember watching Gill’s mum’s shoulders heave with an even mix of delight and grief as she held Layla, my mum at her side. They quizzed themselves as to how this was possible? For, she is so perfect, so complete … except for breath. Leaving the hospital with empty arms was torturously hard. It felt like we were walking away from Layla. Thanks to family, friends and organisations like SIDS and Kids, Bears of Hope, and the Stillbirth Foundation Australia, we managed to seek out purpose in the weeks that followed. Rebuilding our lives was a very slow process. As time passed, Gill felt an overwhelming desire to be pregnant again. Maybe to prove to herself that it doesn’t always end like it did with our beautiful little girl. But, also, because it is so hard being mum to an absent child. I, on the other hand, didn’t want to risk the same outcome ever again. I recognise this as a caveman-like response to not having been able to protect my family. Antiquated, perhaps, but it was reflex. I just didn’t want to relive the feeling of being completely powerless to protect those I loved from things I didn’t understand.

WHAT IS STILLBIRTH? A baby is stillborn if it passes away after 20 weeks’ gestation, or weighs more than 400 grams. STATISTICS • Every day six babies die of stillbirth in Australia, one every four hours. • For every baby that dies of SIDS, 35 are stillborn. • In Australia stillbirth is the most common cause of death in children under 12 months old. STILLBIRTH FOUNDATION AUSTRALIA “One child is dying from stillbirth every four hours in Australia and more needs to be done to invest in research and education campaigns,” said General Manager of Stillbirth Foundation Australia, Victoria Bowring. “It is vital that parents know about the risk factors, warning signs and possible prevention measures that can save their baby’s life.” WHAT CAN BE DONE? For more information on stillbirth awareness and prevention or to donate to the Stillbirth Foundation Australia, please visit: www.stillbirthfoundation.org.au

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As with most things, Gill prevailed and six months after losing Layla, we were pregnant again. This was not a restorative process, however. It was terrifying. Every step of the way – more so given we had no real answer as to why our perfect little girl’s heart just stopped beating. It was a tumultuous 9 months. We were to endure, what felt like, a slow motion replay. Our only previous experience had ruined much of the trust we had in life itself – and while that may sound dramatic, it was true. We ignored the pregnancy to a large degree. We expected a repeat. Hope struggled to rise to the surface. We discovered we were having another little girl. We longed to make a connection. Layla had her very own song, so we thought that maybe our new little girl should have one too. Google. Again. Girl’s names found in songs. We stumbled upon the very familiar Adia. Adia was a song by Sarah McLachlan, from her album released in 1998, and the soundtrack to the summer of 1999 – when Gill and I first met working abroad in California. It was a song that also played in the background as we fell asleep each night in our dank little London apartment … and often over the years since then. We researched the meaning of Adia, and the internet told us something quite special – a name of the same origin was … Layla. A very special connection. Instantly, our newest little girl had a name. Adia Indigo was to be our rainbow baby.

talks of a “newborn hope unjaded by your years”. Adia Indigo renewed my hope, and she reminded me that things can go right. So very right. We now have three children on earth, as well as one in heaven, and I love them all dearly. Adia and her brothers know of their sister; they all speak her name because she is part of our family, and she is part of me. Always will be. Grief, in any situation, is the emotion felt at the realisation that you have lost the opportunity to make new memories. In losing Layla, I lost the opportunity to make a million new memories. I grieve that loss every day. My loss may not define me, but it is very much a part of me, and for that I am eternally grateful.

Adia entered the world pensively, quietly. We worried – but she was absolutely fine. The labour and birth was emotional, but we were in excellent hands with our incredible, attentive and vigilant OB … and we trusted, desperately, in the universe. The moment I saw her face, I felt love. She can’t repair my loss, or fix the part of my heart that forever yearns for Layla. She did, however, make me believe again. Ironically, another Sarah McLachlan song

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IT’S ANOTHER WORLD OUT THERE WRITTEN BY: SHEREE ECHLIN

You’re silly mummy”. Spot on kiddo I am silly (and crazy and whatever else you feel like throwing my way). But someone has to be! I hear this on a regular basis these days and I’m about 90% sure it’s accurate. Okay so maybe it’s more like 100% but no one is really counting...are they? I feel I have to be silly because it beats going completely out of my mind. If you can’t beat them, you may as well join them, right?! Yep you guessed it, I’m being driven completely crazy by the little munchkins in my life. But then again, what else is new?

But before I get any further can I just say, oh my gosh, the attitude!! Anyone else out there with a four-year-old will likely be singing this same tune. Seriously what the hell? I may as well just bow down to her! By her I mean, Miss I’m the boss at four years old, I know everything and you know nothing Mummy. The foot stomping, arm crossing, eye rolling and huffing and puffing are just next level, I’m about ready to blow a gasket! My lovely parents once again like to remind me of a certain little person they once dealt with many moons ago. I don’t know what they’re talking about, surely it’s my older brother (hahahaha)??

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It is true that some things are better left unsaid. But when it comes to children everything comes tumbling out. When things escalate, I really have to ask myself: why am I arguing with you? I’m the adult and she’s the child but sometimes I feel like I’m locking horns with a bull and I know I’m going to come off second best! But there’s still that part of me that wants to win and beat the little devil, um I mean darling. Yes, a bit childish I know but you have to make the most of the small victories, they come along so infrequently in the world of parenting. In the end, I know it’s not really about winning or losing but trying to find middle ground to keep everyone happy. But why does it feel so damn hard?!! Her younger sister is still very much a strong willed little lady too. Spirited is another word I’d use. Some might say that my beautiful girls take after their Mummy. Is this where I snort and try not to laugh?! Sure, I’ve never been one that’s backwards in coming forwards, it’s a useful skill to inherit, right?! I mean what’s the worst that could happen? I like to remind my girls they are stuck with me whether they like it or not. Haha! Before you have kids, you imagine mini

versions of yourself running around and think that it will be amazing. Until it actually does happen and then you want to slap your pre-children self right back down to Earth. It is nothing like you thought it would be. Okay so some of it is. Yes, there are good days when they act like perfect little angels (yeah so these days might be a bit on the rare side) but then the harsh reality hits you and there can be catastrophic days, these are more so when you’re really feeling down.

But if I can offer any advice to the mummas out there (and daddy’s too of course), there’s always likely something worse happening to someone else, even though in that exact moment it probably feels like there isn’t! Try to make the most of it but always laugh, even if it’s after you have finished crying. You can follow more of my never-ending “fun” at www. shereeechlin.com. Until next time enjoy the ride….

It seems there really are some days where being feral is what they do best, well pretty much all they do and I reach that point where I could quietly disown them (of course I’m kidding or am I? haha!). But when the tears flow, usually a mix of mine and theirs, it’s apologies all round. This of course lasts about five minutes until the next round kicks off. Of course, I am sorry I yell. I am sorry I get angry and upset but wow you girls have the tendency to drive Mummy up that proverbial wall.

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Forget the masses, letâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s have some one-to-one time. Written by Genie Price We love our families. We spend so much effort on working and making money to provide them with a comfortable lifestyle, yet we often forget that our time with them is more important. Building individual parent-child relationships are essential to all areas of development and no matter how old you get, there is always a valid reason to spend one-on-one time with those you love.

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Children need one-on-one time with each parent for a variety of reasons and below is a solid list explaining why. IT SUPPORTS YOUR CHILD’S IDENTITY: You are an individual, right? You have your own set of likes and you know what you dislike, don’t you? So, why wouldn’t your child be the same? The whole point of one-on-one time is that you can interact with them on a personal level and help strengthen their identity.

And, for those reasons alone, it’s best to get in while they are still at home with you. Unfortunately, after they leave home, you may not have as much participation in their social events as you do now. So, why not enjoy it while you can.

Establishing identity is important to development because it is one way to help your child recognise their own wants and needs and their own likes and dislikes, it also: • Allows them to develop a trusting relationship • Your child will start to feel great selfworth and that they are valued • It also allows your child establish their own thinking and have their own voice

THEY CAN LEARN ABOUT VALUES: As parents, you understand good values and behaviours can take you far in life. So, why not take this one-on-one time to teach your child the same?

IT HELPS ESTABLISH RICHER RELATIONSHIPS: So, you have taken the time to learn about your child’s own interests and needs? What next?

And, last but not least…

You can now use this information to plan the next activity or event. Making time to research and then create meaningful activities and experiences based on your child’s likes and interests can only set you up for success. Activities don’t have to be expensive, take a bike ride, walk the family dog together or head out for something more entertaining, like going to the movies. The important thing here is that you enjoy each other’s company. And remember, actions speak louder than words.

BECAUSE LIFE MOVES FAST: We hear this all too often: “Where did the time go?” and that’s exactly why we should invest in using that time for our “babies” because in a blink of an eye, they won’t be babies or little children anymore.

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Children learn by imitation and whether you are in groups or interacting alone with your child, this can be a great way to role model appropriate behaviours, values and establish traditions.

IT BUILDS SELF-ESTEEM IN CHILDREN: This one is simple. Giving undivided attention to your child sends a very important message. Essentially, you’re saying: “You are important to me. I’m interested in what you have to say, and I enjoy being with you.” That, to a child, means the world. Working and parenting combined is hard work. You work most of the week and it feels as though there is so little time to be with the ones you love. Therefore, planning a date with your child will help you slow down and appreciate the time you have. It will also remind you that you are still human and that you need some time out from the hustle and bustle of the busy schedule that is life.

Key takeaways: • Spending individual time with each child helps you better understand who your child is • When children get regular attention from parents, they feel more important • When you know what your child is thinking and dreaming about, you can help manage their feelings and meet goals. Remembering that family structures come in various forms, here are some tips for single parent families: • Allow one child to stay up later one night a week • If you don’t have any family close by and you can afford to, hire a babysitter for a night and take turns on taking each child out • On the weekends, plan a sleepover with one of your child’s friends so that there is only one at home with you. You could bake or watch a movie

• If your ex is reliable and still in the picture, ask them to support you in getting oneon-one time with your children About the Author: When not chasing my own two boisterous sons around the house, I can be found enjoying the sound of birds while tapping away at the keyboard - writing for My Child. As an early childhood teacher for 14 plus years, I have a sound understanding of child development and like to bring you varied topics to read about. Researching comes as second nature and I also enjoy being able to explore the wild surrounds of the desert all the while listening to the laughter of my own children as they explore and grow. You can find me here: http://genies1.wixsite.com/ thekiwihummingbird

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Meet the Founder of Australiaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Luxury Skincare for Babies and Children

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I started my career in PR and events over 15 years ago, working in London at a prestigious events company called Fait Accompli. Whether planning a small dinner for the Aga Khan, a charity event for The Royal Family or Elizabeth Taylor’s birthday party, I learnt so much about meticulous attention to detail, discretion and creating a ‘memorable’ brand experience.

ingredients on my baby’s sensitive skin and be sure the products were stripped of harsh, toxic ingredients. Experts say up to 60 per cent of what goes on your baby’s skin is absorbed into their bloodstream within minutes. Everything that your baby’s skin absorbs has to be processed by their little livers. So why take your chances with any harmful toxins or low quality ingredients?

I established my own PR agency for lifestyle and luxury brands, Exposure PR, in 2005 based in Sydney. I have been really fortunate to parlay my lifelong interests in food and drink, culture, beauty and travel into my business and represent many exciting clients along the way including Jamie Oliver, Richard Branson, BMW cars, leading baby brands, awardwinning restaurants, premium beverage companies, LA’s leading endocrinologist to luxury resorts in Fiji.

Since I couldn’t find a brand I was satisfied with, I decided to create a luxurious baby brand I could trust.

I started developing Lullaby Skincare three and a half years ago. It was a natural decision during my first pregnancy to represent my own brand and I have loved the creative challenge. I have been working on it, testing formulations and creating products since I was pregnant with my first baby, Archie. I have loved both my pregnancies and feel that I was at my peak of creativity during those times! It has been quite a busy three years and I have been on overdrive to get it all happening! As a mother, I found it difficult to find a baby range which is extremely gentle, safe, effective AND looks and smells beautiful. I wanted to use high quality, natural

During a holiday in Asia, I fell in love with a skincare brand available at a luxury eco-resort which was unfamiliar to me. Knowing I wanted to start my own natural skincare range, I contacted the company which developed the brand and visited them at their head office in Thailand. I travelled back and forth to Bangkok for over a year working with their team to create a range of products for babies and children which I wanted to be natural and gentle for sensitive skin. When it was time to have the products licensed in Australia, I met with a reputable representative from the TGA (Therapeutic Goods of Australia). After she reviewed each product with a finetooth comb, much to my disappointment and surprise, she subtly told me that the products I had hoped to launch in Australia were not as ‘natural’ as I was lead to believe because the percentage of ‘natural’ in each formulation was so small. My heart sank; I wanted the products to be completely transparent and of exceptional quality and integrity, so I knew I had to start again.

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which is usually the case with skincare products. Working with her over the past 2 years, she is now like family to me; a very special lady with incredible knowledge and dedication to skin health. She is an inspiration and I couldn’t be happier with the outcome for Lullaby’s perfect formulations. Our top quality ingredients have been carefully chosen to work together perfectly to nourish, replenish and protect especially delicate and sensitive skin. The Lullaby range, excluding the sunscreen, consists of locally grown organic Aloe Vera (Aloe Barbadensia) as their base ingredient. The products are not waterbased, like other skincare products. I love this Aloe Vera that we have chosen for its exceptional nourishing and healing properties. When it comes to skincare, this Aloe Vera is simply unbeatable. Prized for I asked her if she could recommend a reputable company who might be able to help me and she said that in her many years of working and analysing skincare, she felt there was only one women truly talented and focused on skin health, a hidden gem, based in Queensland. She herself, having access at no cost to any skincare product on the Australian market, chooses to use only products made by her. Her name is Mimi Gyergyak, an experienced skin therapist and lecturer for over 40 years with her own company called Bio-Pacific. Mimi’s focus has never been on packaging or marketing. It is about sourcing the most effective and natural ingredients she can find. The stars aligned and Mimi agreed to work with me to help create the formulations for Lullaby which are truly special. Her first advice to me was, if I was serious about skincare, I had to ensure my products were Aloe Vera based – not water-based,

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its therapeutic qualities, it’s often called the ‘Queen of the Aloe’. It is grown on farms free of pesticides in South-West Queensland and cold-pressed to retain maximum natural goodness. Other pure and gentle ingredients we use include jojoba oil, avocado oil, chamomile and vitamin E and these are all naturally derived and sourced directly from plants, herbs and other natural resources only in Australia, so we can be certain that every batch is consistent and includes the premium ingredients we have sourced. All our products are free from Parabens, Phthalates, Sulfates, PPG’s, Dye, Petroleum, Triclosan, Bisphenol A (BPA), Formaldehyde Donars and Essential Oils. They are not tested on animals.

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It is also less resistant to bacteria and harmful substances in the environment and can be easily irritated On average, infants are 10 times more vulnerable to carcinogenic chemicals and toxins and up to 60 times more vulnerable to some cancer-causing agents than adults The ma jority of skincare products claim to contain natural or organic ingredients, even though these ingredients make up a very small percentage of the formulation Dangerous ingredients to avoid: Parabens, Sulfates, PPG’s, Dye, Petroleum, Triclosan, Bisphenol A (BPA), and Formaldehyde Donars. Lullaby Skincare is free from any harmful ingredients and is a product you can trust.

As Lullaby is at the forefront of the premium baby skincare sector, we don’t intend to stock the range in mainstream retail outlets e.g. supermarkets and chemist warehouse. We look to be available in boutique baby stores, beauty outlets, maternity hospitals and high-end pharmacies. At the moment, Lullaby is available online: www.lullabyskincare.com In the next five years we hope to expand nationally to Asia, the UK and the US. We look to increase the product range to cover all newborn, children and motherto-be skincare needs. We hope all babies have the advantage of having these special products during their precious early years. BABIES AND SKINCARE FACTS • Experts say up to 60% of what goes on your baby’s skin is absorbed into their bloodstream within minutes • A baby’s skin is thinner, more fragile and more sensitive than an adult’s skin.

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How to support your partner after the loss of your child Written By Jana Angeles Parenting is a hard job, but also a rewarding one. We go through challenges together when it comes to our children, but we’re also entirely responsible for how they develop and what they value as people. We can only steer them in the right direction when we give them constant love and support. There comes a time in our lives where we have to face the death of our child. It could be from an accidental circumstance or losing a battle from a disease.? It’s tragic to think that parents around the world have to grieve over the death of their children. As a couple, it’s important that you and your partner support each other through this tough time. When you do this, you become stronger and better people, acknowledging the fact that you can get through anything. So how can you show support to your partner after the loss of your child? HAVE THEM CRY IT OUT It’s completely normal for your partner to breakdown in tears after the passing of your child. It’s a difficult time you’re both experiencing and you’re at the point where it seems impossible not to be sad.

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The healthiest way to release your emotions is to cry it all out. The last thing you want is to bottle up how you truly feel and pull out the ‘I’m fine’ card. When your partner cries, offer them a listening ear, a hug and a meaningful conversation. LET YOURSELF BE HONEST You have to be careful on what you say to your partner during this time. You can’t just say generic phrases such as “They’re in a better place” or “It could’ve been worse.” Statements like that can hurt them because it implies that you don’t care. Carefully think about how you approach your words when trying to console your partner. Be honest and admit that you’re confused by everything and that you’re trying your best to comfort them. GIVE THEM PERSONAL SPACE This is especially important if your partner is an introvert. Giving them space will give them the opportunity to find unique ways to heal. If they have to grieve, you’ve got to let them. It’s not unusual if they become withdrawn from everyday activities. If they need to stay home and recoup for a bit,

you have to show understanding and empathy towards that. GET USED TO THE SILENCE If your partner isn’t very talkative during the passing of your child, get used to the silence. Of course, we all grieve in different ways and they may talk to you as a way to distract themselves from thinking about it. All individuals are different but most need to retreat and escape. If they go out and spend time with their friends, have more alone time than usual or pick up a new hobby, you should let them. They will talk to you again when they’re ready. Losing your child is one of the worst things you can experience as a parent. If you or your partner need help, do not hesitate to take on professional counselling sessions or call a crisis telephone line such as Lifeline (13 11 14). Nothing comes easy in this life and sometimes, we have to go through unexpected circumstances. When it comes to losing your child, there’s no rush in healing quickly. Remember there’s still time to discover new things about yourself and that strength will come to you in no time. october 2017 | mychild

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REVIEWED BY APRIL DAVIS BARBIE CONVERTIBLE

4/5

Cruising around in style has never been easier in this super cool, glittery pink Barbie convertible. Buckle your barbies in and cruise all the way to the beach in this pretty two-seater vehicle. .

Our verdict If your little girl – or boy – has a love of Barbie dolls, this convertible is a must! Once they’ve got the dolls and the Barbie dream house, this super stylin’ hot pink car is the logical next step. Your children will be encouraged to step away from the TV and use their imaginations as they dream up all sorts of adventures for their favourite dolls. RRP $29.99 – AVAILABLE FROM: KMART, MYER, TOYSR US, DAVID JONES

LEAP FROG MR. PENCIL’S SCRIBBLE & WRITE Write numbers and letters with Mr. Pencil! Learn to write step-by-step, follow along to trace numbers and letters, and perfect your spelling with Leap Frog’s very own Mr. Pencil! Our verdict Learning to write and draw doesn’t get more fun than this! Your child will be encouraged to give hands-on learning a try, where they’re taught how to spell using sounds, how to turn shapes into objects, and how to write numbers, plus much more. Mr. Pencil is easy to use and is like a modern day version of Mr. Squiggle.

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“I like using this toy to draw pictures and to spell. I like to tell stories but I have trouble writing them down. It helps me spell my words right by using sounds to help me find the missing letters. Mum says it’s good because I’m learning, but it’s like a game’. RRP $34.95 – AVAILABLE FROM BIG W, TOYS R US, AND SELECTED TOY RETAILERS 86

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4/5 LITTLE LOVE CUDDLE AND CARE Playing doctor (or nurse) has never been so fun! This clever doll can cure up to 15 illnesses using six interactive accessories. Press her dress pockets and tummy to hear her talk and personalize her with your child’s name and birthday. Our Verdict Health education can start a lot earlier than you might expect with this adorable doll that teaches your child 100 plus health and daily care phrases. There’s a lot wrapped up in this tiny package, and she does not disappoint. She will keep your little one entertained for hours as she runs through all of her easy-to-follow features, and even when she’s not talking and teaching your child, she will still be a great little companion! RRP $59.95- AVAILABLE FROM: TARGET AND SELECTED TOY RETAILERS

LEAP START INTERACTIVE LEARNING SYSTEM FOR ACTIVE MINDS 400 plus replayable activities suitable for both school and at home will ensure your child is excited about everything from problem solving to learning to read. The new stylus encourages your child to write with in the proper style and is suitable for children in pre school right through to primary school, making it the perfect long-term learning tool. Our verdict Finding fun and interactive ways to teach your child outside of the classroom is tricky, especially for time poor parents. Luckily, this learning system takes away a lot of that stress. It’s also something that can be kept and used over the long-term, as it pairs with 25 books that are suitable for a range of learning levels, with your child learning up to 50 new skills at each level. It’s like having a fun, interactive teacher at home!

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breakfast hash waffles 0.20 Prep 0.30 Cook

Servings 4

INGREDIENTS • 4 x 250g sebago potatoes, peeled, halved

• 2 avocado, sliced

• 2 tablespoons chopped fresh chives

• Mixed salad leaves, to serve

• 2 chorizo, sliced • 4 eggs

• Mixed cherry tomatoes, halvedserve

• HP Sauce, to serve

METHOD Step 1: Place the potato in a saucepan and cover with cold water. Place over medium heat. Cover and bring to the boil. Uncover and boil for 5 minutes or until the potato is partially cooked (it should be cooked on the outside, but starchy and sticky on the inside). Transfer the potato to a plate and set aside until cool enough to handle. Step 2: Coarsely grate the potato into a large bowl. Add the chives and season. Use your hands to mix until well combined. Step 3: Preheat oven to 100C/80C fan forced. Spray the top and bottom of a non-stick waffle maker generously with oil. Place 1 cup of the potato mixture onto the base and use damp fingertips to spread out evenly. Close the lid and turn on heat. Cook for 7 minutes or until golden. Turn off the waffle maker and gently transfer to a plate. Keep warm in the oven. Repeat with the remaining potato mixture to make 3 more waffles. Step 4: Meanwhile, heat a non-stick frying pan over medium heat. Add the chorizo and cook, turning halfway, for 4 minutes or until golden. Transfer to a plate. Crack eggs into the pan and cook for 3 minutes for sunny-side up or until cooked to your liking.

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Step 5: Divide the potato waffles among serving plates. Top with avocado, eggs, chorizo, tomato and mixed salad leaves. Drizzle with sauce and serve sprinkled with extra chives.

high tea crumpets with smashed strawberry mascarpone cream and white chocolate 0.05 Prep 0.05 Cook

Servings 4 10

INGREDIENTS • 50g white chocolate, chopped

• 8 Golden Crumpets, toasted

• 1/4 cup light thickened cream

• 2 tablespoons slivered almonds, toasted

• 250g strawberries, hulled • 1/4 teaspoon vanilla essence • 125g mascarpone

METHOD Step 1: Place the chocolate and thickened cream in a small saucepan over low heat. Cook, stirring occasionally, for 3-4 minutes or until smooth. Step 2: Thinly slice half the strawberries. Set aside to decorate. Step 3: Place remaining strawberries in a bowl and roughly smash with a potato masher. Stir through the vanilla essence. Add the mascarpone and stir until swirled through. Step 4: Stack 2 crumpets on each plate, adding a dollop of strawberry mascarpone between each layer. Arrange the sliced strawberries on top. Drizzle with white chocolate sauce and sprinkle with almonds. Photo Credit: taste.com.au october 2017 | mychild

grilled chicken flatbreads 0.15 Prep 0.20 Cook

Servings 4

INGREDIENTS • 250g baby roma tomatoes, halved • 1 tablespoon olive oil • 4 wholemeal pita pockets • 1 teaspoon fennel seeds • 1 teaspoon cumin seeds • 4 small (about 150g

each) chicken breast fillets • 2 baby fennel, finely shaved • 100g baby rocket leaves • 1/2 cup mint leaves • 1/2 cup (125ml) Paul Newman’s Own Light Creamy Caesar dressing

METHOD Step 1: Preheat oven to 200C. Line a baking tray with non-stick baking paper. Place the tomatoes on the lined tray. Drizzle with half the oil and season with salt and pepper. Bake for 15-20 minutes or until tomatoes begin to collapse. Step 2: Heat a char-grill pan on high. Lightly brush pita pockets with remaining oil. Cook on char-grill for 1-2 minutes each side or until lightly grilled. Step 3: Place the fennel seeds and cumin in a mortar and gently pound with a pestle until lightly crushed. Sprinkle evenly over the chicken breasts. Season with salt and pepper. Cook on char-grill for 4 minutes each side or until golden brown and cooked through. Transfer to a plate. Cover with foil and set aside for 5 minutes to rest. Thickly slice chicken. Photo Credit: Al Richardson

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Step 4: Place pita breads on serving plates. Drizzle a little dressing over each pita bread. Combine the fennel, rocket and mint in a large bowl and arrange over pita breads. Top with chicken and tomatoes. Drizzle with remaining dressing. Serve immediately.

macadamia-crusted fish with asparagus and green beans 0.05 Prep 0.10 Cook

Servings 4

INGREDIENTS • 2 tablespoons olive oil • 4 x 180g skinless blue-eye fillets • 1 cup (150g) roasted macadamia nuts, roughly chopped • 1 tablespoon finely chopped tarragon (see note) • 1 tablespoon finely chopped flat-leaf parsley

• 1 large garlic clove, crushed • 1 tablespoon macadamia butter (see note) • Blanched asparagus, to serve • Green beans, steamed, to serve • Lemon wedges, to serve

METHOD Step 1: Preheat the grill to medium-high. Heat oil in a large frypan over medium-high heat. Season fish all over with salt and pepper. Cook for 3 minutes each side until just cooked. Transfer to a lined baking tray. Step 2: Meanwhile, combine nuts, herbs and garlic in a bowl. Evenly spread 1 teaspoon macadamia butter over the top of each fillet, then top with nut mixture, pressing down well to coat. Place under grill for a further 1-2 minutes until golden. Serve fish with vegetables and lemon wedges.

Photo Credit: Mark Roper

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three cheese gnocchi ‘mac ‘n’ cheese’ 0.30 Prep

INGREDIENTS • 50g butter • 50g (1/3 cup) plain flour • 625ml (2 1/2 cups) milk • 80g (1 cup) coarsely grated vintage cheddar • 55g (1/2 cup) coarsely grated gruyere • 40g (1/2 cup) finely grated parmesan

• 2 x 500g packets fresh wholemeal gnocchi • 90g (1 1/4 cups) dayold coarse sourdough breadcrumbs • 1 tablespoon extra virgin olive oil • 1 tablespoon fresh thyme leaves • 1 small garlic clove, crushed

METHOD Step 1: Preheat oven grill to high. Lightly grease a 12-cup capacity baking dish with butter. Step 2: Melt the butter in a small saucepan over medium heat until foaming. Cook the flour, stirring, for 2 minutes or until golden. Remove from heat. Slowly stir in milk until smooth. Stir over medium heat until thickened. Stir in the cheddar, gruyere and 2 tablespoons parmesan. Season. Step 3: Cook gnocchi in a large saucepan of boiling salted water, following packet directions, until al dente. Drain. Return to pan. Stir in the bechamel. Spoon into prepared dish. Step 4: Place the breadcrumbs and remaining parmesan in a bowl. Combine the oil, thyme and garlic in a bowl. Pour over the breadcrumb mixture and stir to combine. Sprinkle over gnocchi. Cook under grill for 3-4 minutes or until crisp and golden. 94

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spaghettini prawns and chorizo 0.10 Prep 0.20 Cook

INGREDIENTS • 150g crusty bread, chopped

• 3 garlic cloves, finely chopped

• 125g Primo Classic Chorizo, coarsely chopped

• Pinch dried chilli flakes

• 125ml (1/2 cup) extra virgin olive oil

• 1 cup fresh basil leaves, large leaves torn

• 300g dry spaghettini pasta

• 300g peeled green prawns, chopped

METHOD Step 1: Process the bread in a food processor until coarse breadcrumbs form. Transfer to a plate. Process the chorizo in the food processor until finely chopped. Step 2: Heat 1 tablespoon oil in a large frying pan over medium-low heat. Add the chorizo and cook, stirring often, for 5 minutes or until golden. Add the breadcrumbs and cook, stirring for 2 minutes or until golden. Transfer to a plate lined with paper towel to drain. Wipe the pan clean. Step 3: Meanwhile, cook the pasta in a large saucepan of boiling salted water until al dente. Drain and set aside. Step 4: Heat the remaining oil in the frying pan over low heat. Add the garlic and chilli flakes and cook for 2 minutes or until aromatic. Increase heat to high. Add the prawn meat and cook, stirring for 2 minutes or until it changes colour. Add the cooked pasta, half the breadcrumb mixture and large torn basil leaves. Toss to combine. Season and serve, topped with remaining breadcrumb mixture and small basil leaves. Photo: Guy Bailey

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violet crumble gaytime sundae 0.20 Prep 0.05 Cook

Serves 4

INGREDIENTS • ● 120g dark chocolate, finely chopped • ● 125ml (1/2 cup) thickened cream • ● 50g (2 packets) Nestle Violet Crumble

• ● 240g packet Golden Muffin Bites, Choc Fudge Brownie, halved • ● 4 scoops Blue Ribbon Golden Gaytime ice cream

METHOD Step 1: Combine the chocolate and cream in a heatproof bowl. Microwave on High, stirring every minute, for 2-3 minutes or until melted and smooth. Set aside for 10 minutes to cool slightly. Step 2: Use a large knife to cut the Violet Crumbles diagonally into long shards. Step 3: Divide the Muffin Bites among four 500ml (2 cup) serving glasses. Top with a scoop of ice cream. Drizzle with the chocolate sauce and top with Violet Crumble.

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salted-caramel peach splits 0.05 Prep 0.05 Cook

Serves 4

INGREDIENTS • 4 peaches, halved, stones removed

• Vanilla ice cream, to serve

• 1/4 cup (60ml) maple syrup

• Crushed shortbread biscuits, to serve

• 200ml thickened cream

Salted Caramel Sauce

• 1 tablespoon icing sugar, sifted

• 150g caster sugar

• 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon

• 1/3 cup (80ml) thickened cream • 40g salted butter

METHOD Step 1: For the sauce, melt sugar in a saucepan over medium heat (do not stir), swirling pan until a golden caramel forms. Remove pan from heat and carefully add cream and butter (mixture may spatter). Return to a low heat and stir for 30 seconds or until smooth. Set aside to cool. Step 2: Preheat a chargrill pan to medium. Brush cut sides of peaches with maple syrup, then cook, cut-side down, for 3-4 minutes until tender and caramelised. Step 3: Meanwhile, whisk cream, icing sugar and cinnamon to stiff peaks. Step 4: Serve peaches with ice cream, whipped cream, salted caramel and biscuit crumbs.

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