My Child Magazine February 2016 Issue

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COVER STORIES

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BREAST FEEDING Know your Legal Rights

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EDITORS LETTER

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NO LYON DOWN Interview with Nathan Lyon

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EDITOR PICKS

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VALENTINE IDEAS That will improve your relationship

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REAL READS

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DADDY BLOG Valentines Day

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INTERVIEW Nathan Lyon

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PAULS STORY

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BABY BJORN The Story Behind

YOUR CHILD

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LIVING WITH TODDLERS

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BOARDING SCHOOL

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PREGNANCY AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

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VALENTINE IDEAS That will improve your relationship

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10 CHEAP DATE NIGHTS For parents with small kids.

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BREASTFEEDING Your Legal Rights

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e EDITOR’S LETTER Hello Lovelies,

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It seems only fitting that I address you as ‘Lovelies’ as this is our Valentine’s day edition and we are celebrating love and I love, LOVE! V-day is not only a day were we can celebrate our significant other but any love we have in our life. It could be your gorgeous little child or that love you find in a companion such as your beloved pet. Whatever or wherever you find love, let’s celebrate it. I can’t think of any other emotion as powerful and inspiring as L.O.V.E. So fitting in with this edition of MCM, we have several articles dedicated to Valentine’s Day and ways to make the most of it!

We also have an amazing interview with Nathan Lyon who some would say is Australia’s most successful spinner. He proves you can have the best of both worlds, a magic sporting career and being a hands on Father. Our Real life read will have you on the edge of your seat with a story of a Premature baby’s arrival from the perspective of a father.

Of course, it wouldn’t be MCM if we didn’t include the essential guides for parents with informative articles. Our topics include such things as Cyber bullying and ways to protect your child, Breastfeeding in Public – know your legal rights, and living with a toddler. I found this article particularly helpful when dealing with my 3-year-old, as I can sometimes forget just how he views the world. Also we have our resident writers who fill up the better part of the magazine with inspiring interiors, shopping plus more!

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Toddlers Between one and three years of age children move from being babies who need you to do everything for them, to becoming separate, independent people.

They want your love and to feel safe and close to you, while also wanting the freedom to do things for themselves.

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It can be challenging for parents as toddlers struggle with their feelings and behaviour. It can help to know what’s happening for them so you can support their independence, help them learn and keep them safe.

WHAT TODDLERS ARE LIKE Toddlers are: • active and curious - they have to touch, open and shut, explore, run, climb and throw • learning who they are - what they like and don’t like, and trying out their will • learning to be in charge of themselves - to walk, talk, feed and dress themselves and use the toilet • learning to live with others - how to show love, share and take turns, and to not hurt others.

TODDLERS ARE NOT ABLE TO: • understand your reasons - they can’t see things from your point of view • sit still, wait, share or control their feelings – these things take time and support to learn • always stop themselves from doing what they have been told not to. They don’t mean to disobey you. They are on the way to learning self-control but haven’t quite got there yet. They still need you to gently remind them and keep them safe.

Toddlers are learning alot of new skills as they become more independent. Try to be patient – adults often expect too much of them.

TODDLERS ARE LIKELY TO: • say ‘No’ and show they have a mind of their own • get cross and frustrated, and have a tantrum at times • not be ready to share because they are just learning about ‘me and mine’. For a toddler, everything is ‘mine’ • want to make some choices for themselves • find it hard to cope with changes • want to be like their parents, e.g. try on lipsticks and use parents’ phones and keys.

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• time to explore • to be allowed to make simple choices • to test out their independence and come to you for comfort • your support when struggling with feelings and behaviour • to be kept safe – they don’t yet understand danger.

THINGS THAT CAN STRESS TODDLERS Toddlers like routine – it helps them feel safe and secure.

Things that stress them can be: • the arrival of a new baby • being sick • moving house, or into a new bed • being separated from parents, e.g. starting childcare, when a parent goes into hospital or the family breaks up • parents being angry, fighting, crying, or when there is violence.

Toddlers don’t usually have the words to say how they feel. Sometimes they show stress in how they behave, such as being ‘naughty’, quieter than usual or having aches and pains.

It is important to pick up on these cues.

It can help to spend more time with your toddler and let them be more of a baby for a while.

Difficult behaviours will go as they become more used to the change.

Try to think ahead and do things to ‘smooth the way’ for your toddler. It’s best to avoid frustration and battles.

WHAT PARENTS CAN DO Toddlers need your help to learn. Praise and encouragement work best because your child wants to please you. Punishment or forcing them to ‘behave’ or ‘be good’ doesn’t help them learn and practice the behaviours you want.

• Help them find ways to manage the frustration they can sometimes feel as they learn new things.

• Don’t get into battles over things that take time and lots of practice to learn, e.g. toilet training, eating and developing good sleep habits.

• Ignore things that don’t matter too much

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such as a mess, but insist on important things like wearing a seat belt.

• Make up fun games where they can practice saying ‘No’, e.g. ‘Does Daddy sleep in the bath?’, ‘Does the cat say moo?’

• Don’t give a choice if there isn’t one. If you have to pick up an older child from school don’t ask your toddler if they want to come, say ‘We’re going to the school in the car now’.

If there is something they don’t want to do, try to make a game of it. You could say ‘See if you can hop like a kangaroo to the bath’, or make having a bath more attractive. Bubbles, toys or a few drops of food colouring in the water can be fun.

• Distract instead of giving orders, e.g. ‘Let’s get out the building blocks’ rather than ‘Stop doing that’.

• Give simple choices, e.g. ‘Do you want to wear your blue shirt or red shirt today?’.

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Model what you want them to do. Toddlers learn things in small, simple steps and they need lots of practice. Don’t expect them to remember every time.

• Be positive and offer alternatives rather than saying ‘don’t’ all the time. Instead of ‘Don’t slam the door’ you could say ‘I know you can shut the door quietly, let’s see you do it’. Then give praise for using a new skill.

• Tell them what you want in simple words.

Instead of ‘I’m not going to listen if you whine - it’s very annoying’ you could say ‘Please tell me what you want without whining’.

• Don’t ask your toddler why they did something because they don’t yet understand reasons.

• Use ‘Time-in’ to manage behaviour. Take your toddler away from the trouble and stay with them for a while. They need your help to calm down. Once they’re calm you can help them understand what is expected

• Toddlers are too young to reflect on their own behaviour or work things out for themselves. Therefore removing toddlers from a situation and leaving them on their own (as in ‘Time out’) is not likely to achieve what parents expect. It can add to toddlers’ fear of separation.

• Don’t threaten to leave young children alone as this is very frightening for them.

If you are out shopping and your child gets upset and refuses to come with you - pick your child up and carry him or her. Be firm but kind as you let your child know you’re in charge.

Punishment doesn’t work for toddlers as they are too young to understand what they did wrong. It can teach them to be scared of you rather than to do what you expect.

COMMUNICATION The way you talk with your child has a big impact on your relationship. The way you listen is as important as what you say.

• Be aware of your tone of voice – young children are easily frightened.

• Give your child time to talk without interrupting. Get down to their level and look at them – it shows you’re really interested.

• Share activities each day. Even putting

away toys together is a good way to talk and be together.

• Take the time to find out what things are special in your child’s life today.

Simple things like watching your child do something can make them feel special.

HELP CHILDREN LEARN ABOUT FEELINGS Be a good role model - managing your own emotions helps children learn to manage theirs.

• Name feelings so your toddler learns that they are something you can talk about and learn to manage. You could say, ‘I think you’re feeling sad because Daddy had to go to work’, ‘I can see you’re feeling very cross’.

• Separate feelings from behaviour. You might say ‘I know you feel cross but it is not OK to hit. When you feel cross you can tell me’.

• Read stories that show children having different kinds of feelings, e.g. being angry, happy, sad, afraid.

• Help children understand the difference between their own feelings and other people’s. It takes many years to learn this well but you can start when your child is very young.

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PUNISHMENT DOESN’T WORK FOR TODDLERS AS THEY ARE TOO YOUNG TO UNDERSTAND WHAT THEY DID WRONG. IT CAN TEACH THEM TO BE SCARED OF YOU RATHER THAN TO DO WHAT YOU EXPECT.

HELP WITH TANTRUMS Most toddlers have tantrums - it is a normal part of growing up and becoming independent.

A tantrum is a sign your child is overwhelmed by feelings and needs your help to calm down.

Let them know you understand how they feel as they let out all those big feelings. Once calm, remind them you love them before you help them learn from what happened.

Be patient when toddlers have tantrums.

It takes time to learn about feelings and to control behaviour.

HELP WITH FEARS The world can seem very scary for toddlers because there are lots of things they don’t know yet. They don’t understand that: • you will come back soon - they don’t understand time • they can’t fall down the plug hole in the bath or get flushed down the toilet - they don’t understand size and space • they can’t lose parts of their body if they are hurt - they don’t understand their bodies are all part of them • the monsters in their dreams won’t get

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them – they don’t understand what is real and what is not.

THINGS TO TRY FOR FEARS • Fear of cuts and bruises - put a band-aid on sores and hurts even if there is no need for it. Try a kiss on the injury first - sometimes that’s all that’s needed.

• Scared of going down the hole - let your child use a baby bath for a while, or at least don’t pull out the plug while they are still in the bath. Let them use a potty instead of the toilet or let them flush the toilet with your help.

• Afraid of monsters - tell them there are no monsters. Don’t look for monsters in the room because they may think you believe they are there.

• Fear of separation - stay with your child until they feel more secure. Make sure they have their ‘comfort toy’ with them.

• Scared of the dark - stay with your child for a while to reassure them. Perhaps use a night light. Keep to bedtime routines, e.g. the same number of kisses goodnight or the same story. Let your child know you

through their behaviour.

understand their fears and you don’t think they are silly or babyish.

• Fears about nightmares. If he has a nightmare tell him that “It is only a dream, it goes away, and you’re safe”. Cuddle and comfort him until he settles. Don’t force them to face their fears it can often make things worse.

• Children usually grow out of fears with lots of support and understanding. If fears are really interfering with their life, talk it over with a professional who works with children.

HELP WITH CLINGING The world is very big and confusing to toddlers, and they will have times when they are frightened that their main caregiver will leave them. Sometimes they will not even let their main carer move out of the room without becoming distressed.

HELP WITH EATING AND TOILET TRAINING Toddlers are learning about food and often want to control what they eat. It’s up to parents to provide healthy food and drinks and for toddlers to choose what and how much they want.

Some toddlers can be fussy eaters. Try presenting new foods with foods they are familiar with, but don’t force them. They will come to try new things in time. Toilet training needs to be as relaxed as you can make it.

• Make sure they are ready and don’t rush it. If there is pressure, toddlers can easily get upset and have toilet accidents, or hang on when they really need to go.

• Give lots of encouragement for each small step they master, e.g. ‘Well done for pulling your pants down all by yourself’. Reassure them if there are accidents, e.g. ‘It’s OK, sometimes accidents happen’.

• If there are problems wait a month or so before trying again.

KEEPING TODDLERS SAFE Toddlers are often injured in accidents that are preventable such as falls, traffic accidents, drowning, burns, poisoning or pet attacks. Teaching them about danger is important but it is not enough to keep them safe. They are too young to really understand, even if they can say something is dangerous.

The best way to keep toddlers safe is to always supervise them. Make sure your home and yard are safe too.

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WHY LOVING, NURTURING RELATIONSHIPS ARE IMPORTANT Children’s relationships shape the way they see the world and affect all areas of their development.

Your child’s most important early relationships are with you, other family members and carers.

It’s through relationships that children learn more about their world – how to think, understand, communicate, behave, show emotions, develop social skills and move around.

And by communicating back and forth with children, you’re creating and sharing experiences together, which strengthens relationships and helps children learn more about the world at the same time.

YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERS It’s not just the relationship between you and your child that shapes his development. It’s also your relationships with others. Your child sees and copies how you behave and communicate with other people in your life – for example, your partner, family members, friends and carers.

A LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF YOUR CHILD’S ENVIRONMENT. TUNING IN AND RESPONDING TO YOUR CHILD WITH WARMTH AND GENTLENESS LAYS THE FOUNDATIONS FOR YOUR CHILD’S DEVELOPMENT AND HELPS TO SHAPE THE ADULT YOUR CHILD WILL BECOME.

This gives your child a ‘model’ of how to be and behave with others and how other people will behave in return. If your child sees and copies kind and respectful relationships, she’ll learn to act this way in her relationships with others.

SOCIAL BEINGS From the moment they’re born, babies are very social – they want to spend time with you and communicate with you. And how you respond helps them learn.

For example, it’s natural for your baby to want to communicate with you through babbling, facial expressions and gestures – for example, waving, nodding and shaking his head. And it’s important for you to respond with the same kind of ‘talking’ and gesturing. By responding in a warm, loving and gentle way, you’re helping your child learn about communication, behaviour and emotions, as well as making him feel safe and secure, and promoting a strong relationship between you and him.

When your child feels safe and attached to you – that is, when she knows you’re there to support, encourage and share new experiences with her – she’s likely to have the confidence to explore her world.

WHY PLAY IS IMPORTANT In the early years, your child’s main way of learning and developing is through play.

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Play is fun for your child and gives her an opportunity to explore, observe, experiment, solve problems and learn from her mistakes.

She’ll need your support and encouragement to do this. But it’s important to try to find a balance between helping her and letting her make mistakes, because finding out for herself about how the world works is a big part of learning.

Lots of time spent playing, talking, listening and interacting with you helps your child learn the skills he needs for life, like communicating, thinking, solving problems, moving and being with other people and children.

But more than this, play is a great relationship builder. Spending time playing with your child sends a simple message – you are important to me. This message helps your child learn about who she is and where she fits in the world.

MORE THAN A GAME Peekaboo is a great game to play with babies, but it’s much more than this too.

For starters, the baby wants to play with his mother, which means he’s attached to her. This is a sign of healthy social and emotional development. Baby has fun with his mother, and she has fun with him, which also makes him feel safe, valued and loved.

Peekaboo also helps with the baby’s thinking, as he learns about what comes next when Mum disappears and then reappears.

When the baby squeals and reaches out his arms to communicate he wants more, he’s developing his language and motor skills. And when his mother responds, it encourages him to keep communicating with her.

The mother is paying close attention to her baby, so she understands when to play more and when to stop. The baby understands that she’s reliable and that he can trust her, which helps him feel safe.

Feeling safe gives him confidence to explore the

world.

It’s just a simple game of peekaboo, but it’s laying the foundation for the baby’s language, thinking, motor skills, and social and emotional development. And it’s only possible because of the positive, nurturing relationship between mother and baby.

BENEFITS FOR LIFE Warm and loving interactions between you and your child prepare her well for things she’ll come across later in her life, like working through problems, dealing with stress and forming healthy relationships with other people in adolescence and adulthood.

Strong attachments and relationships early in life also mean your child is more likely to have better physical and mental health and fewer behaviour problems.

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BREASTFEEDING IN

{Public YOUR LEGAL RIGHTS

BREASTFEEDING YOUR BABY IS A NORMAL AND NATURAL THING TO DO. BABIES HAVE A RIGHT TO BE BREASTFED AND MOTHERS HAVE THE RIGHT TO BREASTFEED.

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Most mothers work out where and how they can feed their babies when they are out, so that they are comfortable. In our society however, although breastfeeding is acknowledged as important for mothers and babies, some people make critical remarks or confront mothers with unnecessary and illegal ‘rules’.

Many mothers find any type of confrontation in relation to breastfeeding difficult to deal with and feel that it is a personal attack towards them. This is a normal response and one that is very valid. It comes with a range of unsettling feelings that can be a roadblock to breastfeeding in public.

Controversy over breastfeeding in some public places may imply that breastfeeding is unnatural, undesirable or even illegal. Nothing could be further from the truth. Don’t forget that conflict and bad news is more likely to make the newspapers, radio and television. Conflict is the essence of news reporting. The fact that things are going along smoothly is simply not news. That’s why you don’t hear much about the many mothers who happily breastfeed at work, in shopping centres, in parks, in restaurants, in railway carriages or just about anywhere, every day of the week without raising an eyebrow, let alone a ruckus.

WHAT CAN A MOTHER DO IF SHE IS VERBALLY ABUSED FOR BREASTFEEDING HER BABY? Thankfully this type of incident is uncommon, but if it does happen it can really rock a mother’s confidence. It may be essential to normalise breastfeeding again after the incident. To normalise breastfeeding, a mother may like to consider: • finding emotional support through your family, your GP and/or counselling • calling the Breastfeeding Helpline - 1800 686 268 • attending her local ABA group meeting.

• If a mother is ever in a situation where she is verbally threatened together with physical contact then this constitutes an assault and is classed as a criminal act. In this situation she should consider, in addition to the above: • not responding to aggressive behaviour to avoid an escalation of the situation • contacting the police when possible and reporting the incident Many mothers find that as their breastfeeding

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experience grows and they become more confident, they are able to provide a comeback comment if confronted by a negative remark. This may include a breastfeeding fact or to state their legal right.

WHAT IS THE LAW? In Australian Federal Law breastfeeding is a right, not a privilege. Under the federal Sex Discrimination Act 1984 it is illegal in Australia to discriminate against a person either directly or indirectly on the grounds of breastfeeding. Direct discrimination happens when a person treats someone less favourably than another person. For example, it is discriminatory for a waiter to decline to serve a patron who is breastfeeding. Indirect discrimination happens when an apparently neutral condition has the effect of disadvantaging a particular group, in this case women who are breastfeeding.

The law in Australia protects you from being discriminated against because you are a breastfeeding mother. This includes if you are expressing milk by hand or with a breast pump to give to your baby later... babies can be breastfed anywhere and anytime.

A HUNGRY BABY SHOULDN’T BE EXPECTED TO WAIT. NO MOTHER CAN BE FORCED TO IGNORE THE NEEDS OF HER BABY.

THE LAW PROTECTS YOUR RIGHT TO BREASTFEED As the former federal Sex Discrimination Commissioner, Pru Goward (2001-2006), stated: ‘A mother’s right to breastfeed is protected by the federal Sex Discrimination Act, which prohibits discrimination on the basis of sex, marital status, pregnancy and potential pregnancy. The Act also makes clear that discrimination because a woman is breastfeeding (or expressing) is regarded as sex discrimination because it is clearly a characteristic of women.’

Her predecessor, Susan Halliday (1998-2001) had earlier emphasised: ‘Common sense

dictates that hungry babies be fed and Australian parents have the right to choose the option of breastfeeding their children. For many years it has been illegal under federal, state and territory law to discriminate against breastfeeding women in the provision of goods and services, including service at restaurants, clubs, pubs and theatres and on public transport. It will be a particularly sad day when, in Australia, a woman is penalised for properly caring for her child in a public place.’

WHAT ABOUT STATE AND TERRITORY LAWS? In addition to the protection offered under the federal Sex Discrimination Act 1984, individual States and Territories have enacted their own laws to protect the rights of breastfeeding women in areas such as work, education and the provision of goods and services. Details vary, so check with your State or Territory government agency. The National Anti-Discrimination Information Gateway is a useful place to start. It has links to each State and Territory’s commissions websites.

There is further general information about the various state laws from the Australian Human Rights Commission in A guide to Australia’s

anti-discrimination laws.

I have been discriminated against and want to take it further. How do I make a complaint?

Where types of discrimination are covered by both state and federal laws, complaints may be lodged with either the state or federal agency, but not both.

If you feel you have grounds for complaint, you can contact the Federal Commission for free advice on 1300 656 419 or online. You can also contact your state or territory agency before deciding who you will make your complaint with. This is especially important as there are differences between the state and federal jurisdictions. An example is the SA Equal Opportunity Commission’s Where do I complain state or federal?

Valid complaints are dealt with by conciliation. This is where the people involved in a complaint talk through the issues with the help of someone impartial and settle the matter on their own terms. It also helps the parties involved to better understand the issues and come up with solutions that are appropriate to their circumstances. This could be an apology, financial compensation, access to facilities previously denied, or something else that is agreed upon.

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PREGNANCY AND HEALTHY

Relationships PREGNANCY IS A GOOD TIME TO WORK ON NURTURING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS. STRENGTHENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP NOW CAN HELP YOU MANAGE THE TRANSITION TO THE JOYS AND CHALLENGES OF PARENTHOOD.

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PREGNANT WOMEN’S FEELINGS AND HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

When you’re pregnant, the hormones that zing around your body can cause lots of emotional ups and downs. You’re also adjusting to a ma jor change in your life, so it isn’t surprising if you and your partner are feeling emotional. There are physical changes too, which affect how well you feel and how you feel about your body.

If you’re an expectant mum, you might feel: • more vulnerable and tired than usual and in need of extra support • more interested and involved in the pregnancy than your partner • less – or more – interested in sex than you used to.

You might discover that your partner doesn’t feel the connection with the unborn baby as strongly as you do. If this is a concern for you, it might help to know that this often changes as pregnancy progresses. As your baby makes its presence felt – with kicks and movements and a growing bump – your partner will probably get more interested.

If you and your partner feel differently about the pregnancy, it can affect your relationship.

But it’s likely your feelings will become more alike as you move through different stages of the pregnancy.

PREGNANCY EXPERIENCES THAT CAN AFFECT RELATIONSHIPS

You and your partner might feel really excited about the birth of your baby. But it’s common for you to go through some strains in your relationship because of the changes that pregnancy brings.

Here are some things that often impact on pregnant couples’ relationships: • The shift in focus to include another person in your relationship might cause some tension between you.

• Either you or your partner might be worried about having a child – for example, you might be worried about the timing of the pregnancy, its effect on your career or the loss of your independence.

• You or your partner might worry about how you’ll manage financially once the baby is born.

• There might be a mismatch between your desire for sex.

• A woman’s changing shape and feelings about herself might affect her partner.

These feelings and experiences are new for both of you, so it’s normal for you to sometimes feel confused and unsure about what’s going on with your partner.

If you can talk together openly about how you feel – good and bad – and what you expect, it can help to clear up misunderstandings, strengthen your relationship and avoid disappointments and conflict.

PRACTICAL TIPS FOR HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS DURING PREGNANCY

Pregnancy is a time for nurturing relationships, because of the emotional and physical changes that you’re both going through and the new roles that you’re thinking about.

Here are some practical tips to help you nurture healthy relationships in pregnancy: • Talk to each other about how you both feel about being pregnant and what’s to come – both the positives and negatives. Try to talk in a way that explains your views rather than blames your partner.

• Listen to each other without judgment or defensiveness.

• Talk about practicalities such as how you’ll make time for yourself and time for your partner and how you’ll share household tasks now and after the baby is born.

• Talk about your hopes and dreams for your family and what rituals and traditions are important to you both.

• Talk about your individual parenting styles. If your styles turn out to be different, you might need to work on solving problems together with negotiation and compromise.

• Be open and honest about your sexual needs to avoid misunderstandings.

• Go to antenatal classes together. Some hospitals and birth centres also run birth classes for dads.

• Consider getting some help with managing your money if you’re worried about the cost of having a baby.

Communicating with your partner is a skill that takes time, patience and practice. If you’re experiencing a lot of difficulties or arguments during pregnancy, relationship counselling might help improve your communication.

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BLOGGER LUKE DENHAM - THECOLLECTIVEPARENT.COM.AU IS A SINGLE FATHER DRAWING FROM HIS OWN EXPERIENCE AND WRITES HIS BLOG NOT JUST FOR SINGLE PARENTS OR FATHERS, BUT FOR ALL PARENTS.

The one day of the year that can either make you or break you. As a single parent this can be either the most trying of days or if your like me, just another day. For me, Valentine’s day was and forever will be just another day. Shouldn’t we show our love everyday? Yet, I know this can be a time for people that highlights their loneliness. Yes, you can still get lonely when you have a full life and children. You can be on the child treadmill running from one activity to the next, lunches, training, concerts, meetings, shopping, etc. You can have a life filled with

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people and children but when you close that door on the last visitor or you arrive home after dropping off the kids to your ex it can be devastatingly lonely.

After the initial euphoria of having some time to yourself, you will inevitably reach or turn to someone with whom you can share a great thought or something hilarious you just saw in a movie. It can shatter that euphoria in seconds and leave you feeling unworthy and discarded. Well, imagine that feeling on roids - that’s Valentine’s Day. But only if you

give it power.

Valentine’s Day used to be different than it is now. Valentine’s Day used to be full of subterfuge and mystery. It was the only time you could dare to let someone know (albeit secretively) that you loved them. It was a time of courage yet a courage where you didn’t have to show it outwardly. You would send someone a card declaring your love but left it unsigned and therefore, very mysterious. You gave someone the thrill of being adored from afar thus toying with their mind for a year. They would look over their shoulder, check each look as if it was from their clandestine lover, imagine burning desire and let their fantasies run full course. That has all changed. Now, Valentine’s Day is a pageant of the ‘already coupled’. They flaunt their relationships in front of the lonely with no regard to the nausea (and envy) they are creating.

They parade their chocolates and flowers as if it were a badge of honour. They fill restaurants

in pairs and dominate the space with their loving looks. It has become the gala of the ‘haves’ over the ‘have-nots’. Whilst it used to be the yearning of the ‘have-nots’ trying to build the courage to become a ‘have’.

As a single parent it can become a time to pull out the wine and watch ‘Love Actually’ or, for the more advanced in years, ‘Love Story’.

It can be a time for tears and a time to yearn for unrequited love. It can be devastating. Or, if you’re like me, it can be just another day in which you watch the parade with an air of, not so much disdain, but imperviousness. You can give your loneliness power by thinking you’re lonely or you can keep yourself busy and wait for another day to come when your true love will walk into your life. Or if you happen to get a card in the mail from a secret admirer, you can torture yourself for months wondering who the hell it is.

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Dr. Shannon Kolakowski Psychologist and Author Valentine’s Day is almost upon us, and you’re not alone if you sometimes feel unsure of the best way to celebrate with your loved one.

So this year I thought I’d share some ways to spend the big day that will not only be fun for you both, but that will also actually help improve your relationship. Win-win, right?

ADD NOVELTY TO YOUR ROUTINE. One of the nicest parts of being in a relationship is having routines that you share together and love: Saturday mornings spent leisurely snuggled up together; going to your favourite neighbourhood sushi restaurant; or watching your favourite TV shows together.

But becoming too comfortable in your routines can put your relationship at risk of falling into complacency and even boredom, which isn’t so great for your relationship. So for this Valentine’s Day, do something new and adventurous together. Research has found that couples who experience new and exciting activities together have an increase in the quality of their relationship (Aron et al, 2000). Trying new things together brings back the feelings of excitement and the thrill that you felt when you first fell in love.

Use Valentine’s Day as a marker for starting to incorporate novel experiences into your schedule. Each of you can brainstorm a list of new places you’d like to see or things you’d like to try together. Make a goal to try one new activity each month or weekend, depending on what your schedule allows. Keep your list someplace you can see it, like a whiteboard, and check off the activities as you go. Watch your relationship thrive.

INCORPORATE GRATITUDE.

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One hallmark of committed, solid couples is an ability to show gratitude to one another (Gordon et al., 2012). When your partner feels appreciated, he or she will in turn be more likely to appreciate you and all you do for them. On Valentine’s Day, incorporate gratitude with a gift that shows your high level of appreciation.

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poem or love letter. Don’t let Valentine’s Day be the only day you show your appreciation, though. Make it your goal to show gratitude for your partner on a regular basis, as even small gestures of gratitude can make a big difference in long term relationship success (Algoe, Gable, and Maisel, 2010).

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TRYING NEW THINGS TOGETHER BRINGS BACK THE FEELINGS OF EXCITEMENT AND THE THRILL THAT YOU FELT WHEN YOU FIRST FELL IN LOVE.

HEAT UP THINGS IN THE BEDROOM. Most people view Valentine’s Day as a time to connect sexually, which is great news for your relationship. That’s because having a strong, healthy sex life is a vital part of marital satisfaction (Yeh et al. 2006; McCarthy and McCarthy, 2003). Use Valentines Day as a time to reinvest in your sexual energy with your partner. It might be as simple as carving out the time (and privacy) for intimacy, or creating the right setting for you two to be

together (piles of laundry and stacks of work papers are less sexy than a clean room with candlelight). Turn up the heat by taking your time with massaging one another, touching and kissing each other in new places, or taking a steamy shower or bath together. You can add novelty to your sex life by trying new positions, erotic toys, or new sexy outfits. In order to keep your relationship thriving all year long, think about ways you can make sex and intimacy an important part of your regular life.

ADD AN ELEMENT OF MYSTERY OR SURPRISE TO YOUR CELEBRATION. Research indicates that when people receive a gift that is unexpected or has an element of mystery surrounding it, they tend to feel more positively about the experience, and the happy feelings last longer, when compared to something they expect (Wilson et al., 2005).

So for Valentines Day, add an element of the unexpected to your gift.

To make it really special, incorporate your partner’s unique tastes and preferences into the surprise. Consider your partner’s preferences: What does she love to do?

What has he talked about wanting to do

together? What have been successful dates or experiences for the two of you in the past?

Incorporating elements that show you’ve thought about what your partner will enjoy will make your surprise all the more meaningful.

CELEBRATE THE PAST. If you decide to go with something more routine, make sure it brings up sentimental, happy memories from the past. Integrating elements of nostalgic, positive memories into your day can help you feel more connected to your partner. Remembering cherished times helps people feel more positive about the future (Cheung et al, 2013). To bring out feelings of nostalgia, go back to the site of your first date, dance to your wedding song, recreate your signature dish that you shared on your honeymoon, or plan a trip back to your favourite vacation spot together. Research also shows that feelings of nostalgia help people feel more connected with the meaning of life (Routeledge, 2011). Feeling connected to one another, more positive, and more in touch with the things that matter to you in life are all really helpful in creating a special Valentine’s Day together.

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Leigh Ann Intentional by Grace, Raise your hand if you have a regular date night with your spouse. If you’re like me, you want to raise your hand, but you’ve found yourself in a dating rut since children started coming onto the scene.

Last year, I surveyed several married women with a combined 200 years of marriage under their belts. Do you want to know their number one piece of advice?

Keep date nights a priority in your marriage … no matter what.

I’m a mum of two little boys (ages 3 and 3 months). Connecting with my husband through regular date nights takes work during this exhausting season of spit up, potty training, and toddler tantrums.

There are two (main) date night challenges parents of small children face.

CHALLENGE #1: EXHAUSTION Let’s face it bearing children is exhausting. First you try to keep your marriage fresh while pregnant, which seems almost impossible. Then you move into the stage of nursing and caring for a small child, which means your hormones are all over the place. You’re more often than not covered in bananas, flour, and boogers all at the same time, and it’s a vacation to go to the grocery store alone. Small children and all that goes into caring for them is exhausting, but worth it – totally worth it! Yet when you’re exhausted, date nights are too often the last thing on your mind.

CHALLENGE #2: FINDING A BABYSITTER I would rather go to the dentist and get a root canal than go through the process of finding a babysitter. Dramatic and ridiculous, I know. Yet it’s the truth! Nailing down a babysitter can sometimes be challenging. Then, once you have a babysitter lined up, you have to get everything prepared for the babysitter to take over while you’re gone!

These two challenges can completely deter me from making date nights a priority. Sometimes it feels like date nights are more work than they’re worth, but I have a secret.

Making date nights a priority is worth it!

• You get a break from caring for your children for just a little while, which in the end actually makes you a better parent.

• You get to connect with your man and recharge with your best friend.

Since parents of small children face enough challenges to make date night happen, I want to share 10 date night ideas in hopes of making it a little easier on you.

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Date nights at home can sometimes be the best option for parents of small children. The key to at home date nights is turning off the phones, computers, and other distracting electronics and tuning into your spouse. My husband and I try to do this at least once a week.

CREATE A DINING DESTINATION. Feed the babies homemade mac and cheese and put them to bed early.

Then, turn your dining room into a dining destination. This is always so much fun! Light some candles, hide the matchbox cars, and do something out of the ordinary! You can go fancy, or just simply make homemade pizza together.

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READ A BOOK TOGETHER. My husband and I love to read book series together. After a long day of caring for babies, reading a book curled up on the couch under the same blanket is a nice respite. We can escape into a new world or learn something new together. We’ve read books ranging from The Chronicles of Narnia to how to grow our marriage (like 31 Days to Great Sex!). For additional appeal, share a fun dessert together like chocolate covered strawberries!

PLAY A BOARD GAME. Board games are an easy way to connect with your man. Who doesn’t enjoy a little competition?

Prepare a special snack or drink to share to add to the fun.

ENJOY A THEMED MOVIE NIGHT. This one takes a little more foresight, but a themed movie night can be a lot of fun. You just need to pick a movie, plan a themed dinner, and a fun activity to go along with the movie you will watch. Very simple, yet takes the regular ol’ movie night to a whole new level.

EXERCISE TOGETHER. I do not like to work out by myself. Working out with your man can be so much fun! Pop in a video or create your own workout routine to do together. This is a great way to de-stress and work together on your health goals. Afterward share a smoothie or some other protein rich snack together, or not and just eat an Oreo (or two or three) dipped in milk. Yum!

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If it’s possible, enjoying a date night out of the house is important for parents of small children. My husband and I try to get a date night out of the house without children at least once a month. This is a little more doable for us, and it’s something to really look forward to.

VISIT A BOOKSTORE OR LIBRARY. This is a fun, free date night out activity.

Love Actually has a fun Bookstore Date Night printable we’ve used a few times. The idea is to go in search of books on a set topic, and then talk about them together. If you’re book lovers, this one is a must do!

GO TO A DOLLAR OR THRIFT STORE. We always have lots of laughs together after this date. Give each other $5 (or some other

set amount) and go shopping for one another.

It’s probably a good idea to set expectations first! Is this going to be silly, thoughtful, etc.? It’s never good when one spouse works really hard to find THE perfect gift and the other takes the silly route and comes up with a spatula for mum.

Trust me. Set expectations!

ENJOY COFFEE AND DESSERT. Date night doesn’t have to be a whole night out.

Sometimes we’ll put the babies to bed, and then head out for the night – leaving a babysitter on duty of course. This is less stressful for me as the mum, and it gives me a little more time to get dressed. Plus it’s cheaper than a whole dinner!

TAKE A WALK WITH A CAMERA IN HAND. My husband and I love photography. One of our favourite activities is to head downtown with our camera. Your camera phone works great for this too! Take pictures of your time together. If you’re out for dessert, photograph the perfectly drizzled chocolate, or the steam coming from your cup of coffee. Take pictures of one another and the scenery around you. The ideas are truly endless! Be silly, have fun, and enjoy one another! For an added bonus, save the photos into a separate folder on your computer; then at the end of year, create a photo book of your date nights together!

TAKE A CLASS TOGETHER. This idea depends on where you live, as well as your interests. Some ideas include a dance class, painting lessons, photography workshop, cooking class, etc. We have plans to take a painting class together. Neither of us is particularly talented when it comes to art (you should see my stick man drawings…), but doing something outside our comfort zones is great for connecting. Create memories together even if it means your painting looks more like a moose than the puppy you set out to paint.

Taking a class together gives you an opportunity to loosen up!

Date nights (whether they are at home or out on the town) are an important part of marriage.

I know it’s an exhausting, trying, totally worth it season of parenting. I also know that means it’s an exhausting, trying, totally worth it season of marriage. Being a parent of small children has its challenges, but from a parent who is in the trenches with you, it’s worth it to keep date nights a priority. Your marriage is worth it, and your kids are depending on you.

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rose petal

COCKTAIL 0.05 Prep

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INGREDIENTS 6 white sugar cubes 3 teaspoons rosewater Small fresh rose petals (from the garden), to serve 1 x 750ml btl champagne or sparkling white wine, chilled

METHOD Place 1 sugar cube in each champagne glass.

Add 1/2 teaspoon of rosewater and a few rose petals to each glass.

Top with champagne to serve.

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oysters KILPATRIC 0.10 Prep 0.05 Cooking

2 Servings

INGREDIENTS 1 cups rock salt 12 oysters, shucked 1 tablespoons Worcestershire sauce 75g thin rashers rindless bacon, diced 1 tablespoons flat-leaf parsley leaves, chopped lemon/lime wedges, to serve

METHOD Preheat grill on medium-high heat. Place rock salt, in a thick layer, on a baking tray or heatproof plate. Arrange oysters (in their half-shells) on rock salt.

Sprinkle Worcestershire sauce over oysters. Top with bacon. Grill, on the salt, for 5 to 8 minutes or until bacon is crisp.

Sprinkle with parsley. Serve with lemon.

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caprese salad & PROSCIUTTO 0.10 Prep 0.06 Cooking

2 Servings

INGREDIENTS 2 slices prosciutto 2 truss tomatoes 110g bocconcini, drained, torn 1 tablespoon balsamic glaze 2 teaspoons extra virgin olive oil Fresh basil leaves, to serve

METHOD Cook 2 slices prosciutto in a frying pan over mediumhigh heat for 2-3 minutes each side or until crisp. Set aside to cool. Tear into small pieces.

Thickly slice 2 truss tomatoes and arrange on a platter.

Top with prosciutto and a 110g drained, torn bocconcini. Drizzle with 1 tablespoon balsamic glaze and 2 teaspoons extra virgin olive oil.

Top with fresh basil leaves.

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ocean trout & APPLE SALAD 0.20 Prep 0.10 Cooking

2 Servings

INGREDIENTS 2 (about 200g each) ocean trout fillets 1/2 green apple, cored, cut into matchsticks 1/2 small Lebanese cucumber, halved, seeded, cut into matchsticks 3 radishes, trimmed, cut into matchsticks 2 tablespoons olive oil 1 tablespoon white balsamic vinegar 1/2 teaspoon Dijon mustard Pinch of sugar 1 tablespoon fresh chives, cut in 5cm lengths Lime wedges, to serve

METHOD Preheat oven to 180째C. Spray a baking tray lightly with oil.

Heat a medium frying pan over medium heat. Spray lightly with oil. Season the trout with salt and pepper.

Cook for 2-3 minutes or until golden. Turn and cook for a further 1 minute. Transfer to the prepared tray. Bake for 5 minutes or until just cooked through.

Meanwhile, combine the apple, cucumber and radish in a bowl. Combine the oil, vinegar, mustard and sugar in a small jug. Season with salt and pepper. Add the dressing and chives to the apple mixture and toss to coat.

Divide the apple mixture between serving plates.

Top with the trout.

Serve with lime wedges.

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pork fillet with QUINCE 0.15 Prep 0.40 Cooking

2 Servings

INGREDIENTS 1 orange 2 tablespoons olive oil 80g speck, cut into 1cm pieces 6 eschalots (French shallots), peeled 300g small kipfler potatoes, halved lengthways 1 (about 430g) pork fillet, cut in half crossways 2 tablespoons bought quince paste Salt & freshly ground black pepper 150g baby beans

METHOD Preheat oven to 190째C. Finely grate the orange rind and place in a small bowl. Juice the orange.

Heat 1 tablespoon of the oil in a frying pan over medium-high heat. Add speck and eschalots and cook, stirring occasionally, for 2 minutes. Add the potatoes and cook, stirring constantly, for 5 minutes. Transfer mixture to a roasting pan and cook in preheated oven for 20 minutes or until potatoes are brown and tender.

Meanwhile, heat the remaining oil in a frying pan over medium heat. Add the pork and cook, turning occasionally, for 20 minutes or until it is brown and juices run clear when pierced with a skewer. Transfer pork to a plate and cover with foil to keep warm. Reduce heat to low and add quince paste, orange juice and orange rind.

Simmer, uncovered, for 2 minutes or until glaze thickens slightly. Taste and season with salt and pepper.

Cook beans in a saucepan of salted boiling water for 5 minutes or until bright green and tender crisp (see microwave tip). Drain and add to potato mixture.

Spoon potato mixture onto plates. Thickly slice pork diagonally across the grain and place on potato mixture.

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red velvet

TRUFFLES 0.30 Prep 0.40 Cooking

32 Servings

INGREDIENTS 425g pkt Red Velvet cake mix 1 tablespoon brandy 500g white chocolate, coarsely chopped, melted 150g dark chocolate, coarsely chopped, melted

METHOD Prepare the cake following packet directions. Cool completely. Break the cake into fine crumbs in a large bowl.

Prepare the frosting mix following packet directions.

Add frosting and brandy to cake crumbs. Use your hands to bring together. Roll tablespoonfuls into balls.

Place on a lined tray. Cover.

Chill for 1-2 hours or until firm.

Use a fork or truffle dipper to dip the truffles, one at a time, in melted chocolate to coat. Tap the fork or dipper on the edge of the bowl to shake off excess chocolate.

Place on a lined tray. Set aside to set.

Drizzle truffles with the dark chocolate.

Set aside for 5 minutes to set.

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chocolate dipped

STRAWBERRIES 0.20 Prep 0.05 Cooking

8 Servings

INGREDIENTS 150g dark chocolate 150g white chocolate 150g milk chocolate 750g large strawberries, washed, dried

METHOD Line a baking tray with baking paper. Break milk chocolate into even pieces. Place into a heat-proof bowl.

One-third fill a saucepan with water. Bring to the boil over high heat. Reduce heat to low. Place chocolate bowl over saucepan (don’t let bowl touch water). Stir with a metal spoon until smooth.

Dip one-third of the strawberries into chocolate. Place onto tray. Repeat with dark and white chocolate.

Refrigerate until set.

Decorate with leftover chocolate as desired.

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Cockatoo, Too Bethanie Deeney Murguia A cockatoo meets another cockatoo. The cockatoos then meet two more cockatoos, dressed in tutus. The cockatoos then meet two toucans and all dance the can-can. It’s too, too much!

The Little Reading Room

Cockatoo, Too is full of tongue-twisters and wordplay that will keep readers entertained and laughing. The watercolour illustrations are bright and cheerful and add to the book’s sense of excitement and playfulness.

Cockatoo, Too is recommended for readers aged 4 to 8 years and with its successful use of playful language techniques and charming storyline, children will love reading this book aloud (repeatedly). regardless of the outcome.

The Gruffalo Julia Donaldson and Axel Scheffler

classic

Little mouse is taking a stroll through the woods when a fox, an owl and a snake, try to lure him to their homes for ‘lunch’. The mouse tells them that he is off to meet a Gruffalo and they flee in fright. But what will little mouse do when he comes across a Gruffalo?

Children will love to participate in the rhyming text and gain confidence reading independently through the repetition of phrases. The playful illustrations make this unknown creature, The Gruffalo, seem humorous, rather than something to be feared.

The Gruffalo is recommended for readers aged 3 to 6 years and it is easy to see why this book is a muchloved classic, as it is both stylistically and thematically appealing to young children, with a little mouse who comes out on top.

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The Bear Who Went Boo! David Walliams and Tony Ross A cheeky polar bear loved scaring his animal friends. What happened though when the animals decided to get revenge and scare the bear?

The Bear Who Went Boo! Is a playful story that teaches young readers about consequences and boundaries. The simple text and illustrations convey the message in a humorous and child friendly manner, as Tony Ross illustrates the many comical outcomes of the bear’s pranks.

The Bear Who Went Boo! Is recommended for readers aged 3 to 6 years and is a funny story for early readers about a bear who learns an important lesson.

Ask Me Anything (Heartfelt Answers to 65 Anonymous Questions From Teenage Girls) Rebecca Sparrow Ask Me Anything includes both heartfelt and hilarious answers to questions like, ‘How do you prevent bullying?’ and topics, such as, religion, body issues, sex and friendship, are answered sincerely, without an ounce of superiority. Rebecca even includes her own personal anecdotes, like driving past a boy’s house five times in a row, to connect with the reader and create a sense of comfort and camaraderie.

Ask Me Anything is the perfect companion for teenage girls and a fantastic go-to for parents, who will appreciate the empathetic approach to the anguished and confusing time of life we call the teenage years

The Skunk Mac Barnett and Patrick McDonnell We’re Going On A Bar Hunt Josie Lloyd, Emlyn Rees and Gillian Johnson

When I left my house there was a skunk on my doorstep and he started following me. I couldn’t get rid of him so I bought a new house and new things and finally he was gone. But what was he doing? Was he looking for me? Maybe I should go and find him.

The Skunk portrays themes of paranoia and suspicion in a comical way, as a man’s fear is metaphorically represented in the absurd form of a skunk. The retro illustrations depict the man comically creeping around the city as he attempts to evade the skunk. In a humorous case of role reversal, however, the man ends up following the skunk, assuring himself that he is only doing so to avoid having the skunk follow him once again.

The Skunk is recommended for readers aged 3 years and over who will appreciate the short, sharp sentences, appealing illustrations and absurdity and hilarity of the book’s premise.

We’re going on a bar hunt. The babysitter’s booked. We’re not old!

We’re Going On A Bar Hunt is a hilarious parody of the classic children’s book We’re Going on a Bear Hunt by Michael Rosen. The illustrations and lyrical text mimic the original story on which the parody is based, but whilst the original portrays a father carrying his daughter, this version shows a husband carrying his intoxicated wife and the repetitive text humorously replaces “we’re not scared” with “we’re not old.”

We’re Going On A Bar Hunt is recommended for adults and perfect tongue-in-cheek gift for all parents.

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No Lyon Down Nathan kindly took time out of his hectic schedule to sit down and speak to My Child about family, career and life, and the delicate balancing act between them.

Written By: Anna Dixon After a long search for a front-line spinner post-Shane Warne, Nathan Lyon has established himself as one of Australia’s most successful spinners with 162 Test wickets since his debut in 2011. Now a father of daughters, Harper (2) and Milla (1) and with his wife, Mel, Nathan is now balancing the life of a professional sports career that takes him to all parts of the world with parenthood.

INT - So tell us, How did you get into Cricket, where did it all start?

NATHAN - As a young child, I played a lot of cricket in the backyard at home in Young NSW with my brother Brendan. They were always massive backyard Test Matches emulating our cricket heroes. I joined the local junior cricket association in Young.

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INT - We know you have 2 children, Milla and Harper, what do you love most about being a Dad? NATHAN - Every parent will know how great it is having children. I just love being a dad and that great cuddle you get when you come home. I have loved watching Milla and Harper growing up and now being able to have conversations with them. I am a bit of a softie around the girls actually.

INT - Are you often away from home and your family?

NATHAN - I am lucky enough to be able to represent my country in cricket. It does mean that we travel alot however and I can spend up to half the year away from home.

INT - That must be hard, How do you juggle your career and family life?

NATHAN - We are in the fortunate position to often be able to have our families with us when we are on tour. At other times, I try to ensure I spend as much down time at home as possible. It is important to get a good balance. I love spending time with the family. It’s also important to have great support around you from family and friends.

INT - Does it affect your family life being in the spotlight?

NATHAN - It doesn’t really. To Milla and Harper I am simply dad which is great. They put things into perspective. At the end of the day, cricket is just a game. No matter what day you have had on the field of play, it’s always nice to see the girls.

INT - Tell us the funniest/weirdest white lie your parents told you?

NATHAN - That if you ate your crusts your hair will go curly. I am still waiting!!

INT - And the funniest white lie you tell your kids?

NATHAN - That I am the Captain of the Australian Cricket Team!

INT - (laughs) Do you have a phrase your parents said to you, that you find yourself saying to Milla and Harper now?

NATHAN - It’s funny. Now, as a parent, you quickly work out why your parents were saying all those positive things to you at the time. Amongst many “Eat your vegetables and look after your mother”.

INT - Do you want your kids to follow in

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your footsteps?

NATHAN - I don’t really mind what Milla and Harper do as long as they are healthy, happy and content. I am not sure there has been a father/daughter test cricketer combination in the past, so that would be novel I guess.

INT - When you do finally get some downtime, what do you enjoy doing most?

NATHAN - After playing, touring and training schedules there isn’t a lot of down time. When there is, it is spent around the home and with the family. There are always chores to be done. I do enjoy spending time in the garden as well.

INT - Do you have any sports, besides cricket of course, that you enjoy watching?

NATHAN - I enjoy most sports but primarily Rugby League and AFL. As the dressing room is full of cricketers from all over Australia there is wide ranging banter about everyone’s favoured teams across all the codes. It does provide for some entertaining conversations in the dressing room. You desperately hope your side is going ok or else it can be a long season!

INT - What’s the weirdest thing a fan has ever done for you?

NATHAN - Nothing really weird I guess. The fans are always great and I love their support. One thing I am finding is the days of the autograph are slowly being replaced by the selfie! We spend a lot of time in front of camera phones these days!

INT - If you were to retire tomorrow, what would you do?

NATHAN - Far too early to be talking about retirement! One day, when that happens, I will look forward to spending time with the family and friends and re engaging with my horticultural studies and profession in some way.

INT - Do you have a hero you look up to?

NATHAN - As a child growing up my heroes were Adam Gilchrist, Shane Warne and Ricky Ponting. It was quite surreal when I was selected to play for Australia and to be playing with Ricky.

It was like a dream. I watched him on TV for years, so to be suddenly playing Test cricket with him was unbelievable.

Now as a parent I have a further respect for mothers, the family unit and support of friends. It takes many hands to raise a child and I am so lucky to have everyone’s support.

INT - What would be your biggest accomplishment in your life so far?

NATHAN - Obviously the birth of Milla and Harper. Nothing can explain that feeling when you see the birth of your children and holding them for the first time. From a sport perspective, my Australian Test match debut will always be front of mind. Such an honour to be presented with the Baggy Green Cap.

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School BOARDING

MAKING THE DECISION TO SEND A CHILD AWAY TO BOARDING SCHOOL FOR SECONDARY SCHOOL YEARS CAN BE A VERY STRESSFUL TIME FOR PARENTS AND THE CHILD. PARENTS HAVE TO MAKE THE FINAL DECISION BUT INVOLVING THE CHILD IN THE DECISION MAKING PROCESS CAN HELP HIM TO MAKE THE TRANSITION FROM SCHOOL AND HOME TO SCHOOL AND BOARDING MUCH EASIER.

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MAKING THE DECISION

In primary school students often have only one teacher to relate to for most of their subjects, and one classroom. At high school they usually have different teachers and classrooms for every subject and this can be very confusing.

In rural areas the child may have been living and working at home through the Open Access Programme.

Their friends from primary, or in the area where they live, may be going to different schools so they will need to make new friends at high school.

At boarding school they will be with these new friends all the time but without the comfort and familiarity of home and family.

Involve your child in the decision making process so that she has a sense of control.

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You can do this by: • getting information from different schools and discussing it with her • talking about the reasons why you are considering boarding school • talking about your feelings • listening to her feelings and concerns • finding the answers to her questions • arranging for her to talk with other young people who are at boarding school • arranging a visit to the school of choice • arranging for her to go on a school or holiday camp so that she has some experience of living away from

home. Even a stay with relatives can give some idea of living a more independent life.

Have a talk with primary teachers and your child’s doctor if you feel concerned that your child isn’t ready for, or resilient enough, to cope with both starting a new school and living away from home.

STRESSES ON YOUNG PEOPLE When they first start boarding school your teenager will hopefully be enjoying the new challenge but there are some stresses that you may need to be aware of.

Your teenager may feel: • lost and confused before he orients himself to the new situation • grief for his old school and old friends • lonely and unhappy until he makes new friends • anxious that he will not be able to cope with the new demands for learning and living as part of a group • worried that he will not be “one of the group” • worried that he will not live up to his parents’ expectations • that he is not wanted at home • tired and irritable with all the new demands.

YOUR TEENAGER’S BEHAVIOUR Your teenager may show her stress in the following ways: • being irritable and short tempered • being disagreeable or not wanting to talk to you • sometimes wanting to be treated as an adult, other times wanting to be a child again

• changing behaviour in order to impress, e.g. silliness or rebelling against parents or teachers • tummy aches, head aches or wanting to come home.

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WHAT YOU CAN DO IN ADVANCE

If it is possible, choose a school with a good program to help children make the change. Some schools have a “buddy system” to help new students link in with the ones who have been there before.

• Start preparing your child well in advance. Check whether it is possible for him to visit the school beforehand. Go to open days if they are provided.

• Check out where he will be living and what space he will have for his things.

• Organise a meeting before school starts so you and your child can meet the teachers and find out how the system works.

• Set up your own “buddy system”.

Find out the names of some students who will be going to the same school as your teenager and arrange for them to meet in the holidays. If they don’t know each other, make it easy, e.g. by inviting their families to a family barbecue and having a video playing for the young people.

WHAT YOU CAN DO TO HELP HER MAKE A GOOD START Read through the information from the school and help her make a list of questions or concerns that you can ask about when you go to look at the

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GOING TO BOARDING SCHOOL CAN HELP YOUR TEENAGER BECOME MORE INDEPENDENT, RESILIENT, SELF RELIANT AND BUILD THE SOCIAL SKILLS THAT HE WILL USE ALL HIS LIFE.

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• Give her as much control as you can (within sensible limits) over casual clothes and personal items so she feels that she will fit in with the group.

• Reassure her that she already knows how to make friends. She already knows how to be a good friend because of the friendships she has made in the past. Remind her that making friends takes time and not to rush it.

• Help your teenager keep in touch with old friends.

• Shop together for the things she will need for her new life.

• Help your teenager get organised by teaching her how to care for her clothes, sports equipment etc.

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• Work together to get all her things marked with her name.

• Remind your teenager that it is normal to feel confused and unsure at first and that most others will be feeling the same way.

• Support her in joining in any school activities that she is interested in.

This is a good way for her to make new friends.

• Together note school terms, holidays and special school events on a calendar in the kitchen so that she knows you will be aware of what she is doing.

• Talk about the probability of homesickness and what she can do, e.g.. ring home, email, write letters, talk to friends or trusted adults at

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Set up a regular allowance and access to it.

Organise how you will communicate and when. Most schools will allow mobile phones under certain conditions.

Make it clear that you have faith in her ability to cope with this new challenge. Talking about her coming home if she doesn’t like it is giving her the message that you don’t believe she can.

Make sure that the school knows of any possible medical condition and that your child has adequate supplies of medication, named.

Remember that in spite of everything, and in spite of what they often say, teenagers still need your love and support. Parents are usually the best support that young people can have.

• Be a good listener without asking too many questions. If you ask what they did today, teenagers are likely to say “Nothing”.

• Be prepared to invite his new friends for weekends or holidays and be prepared for him to want to go to them sometimes.

• Be a support but try not to give advice too quickly. Problems that young people can solve for themselves help to build confidence.

• Contact him at agreed regular times.

• Give him time to find his feet.

• Be kind to yourself. It’s normal for parents to feel upset, or lonely or even a bit guilty about sending their child away to school, especially if he seems to be suffering from homesickness.

• Show faith in his ability to cope and your own! Of course you will miss him but over-reaction can worsen the situation for both of you. This is a time of change for all the members of the family.

Going to boarding school can help your teenager become more independent, resilient, self reliant and build the social skills that he will use all his life.

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REVIEWED BY ANDJA CURCIC

IFROGZ LITTLE ROCKERS HEADPHONES In this day and age it’s hard to separate our kids and all the hi-tech gadgets that have become staples in their lives. With the world at their fingertips, your kids will no doubt explore iPads and tablets – playing with visuals, and more importantly with sound. This is where the iFrogz Little Rockers Headphones come in! These snazzy headphones have a built in volume limit system, so you never have to worry about damaged hearing by loud games from the app store. As they aren’t earphones, you also don’t have to worry about them fitting into your child’s ears. What is even cooler about these headphones is that they come in two fun designs that kids are sure to love. Practical and cute, you can use these headphones to transform your child into an adorable lion or pretty princess.

Our verdict: These headphones are super fun and simply hard not to love. From the safety element to the cute design, these headphones are definitely winners in our eyes! Headphones for kids are a necessity and with the iFrogz Little Rockers you can also make them a fun accessory!

RRP $24.95.- AVAILABLE FROM BIG W AND OFFICEWORKS

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GOOGLY EYES - BOARD GAME It’s time for Pictionary to step aside as a new and more exciting drawing game takes families by storm. Drawing a teapot may be easy enough, but when you put on the Googly Eye glasses it’s a whole new ball game (or board game, for that matter!) We guarantee that this game is an absolute riot and will have you and your kids laughing up a storm in no time. Players wear the whacky vision-altering glasses and draw various challenges for their team who must guess what is being drawn. Different degrees of difficulty will add to the wild and silly fun.

5/5 $30.00 RRP - AVAILABLE FROM WWW.TOYSRUS.COM.AU/

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Our verdict: This game is an absolute gem, and it is just as fun for the parents as it is for the kids. The glasses add an exciting element to the game and your kids will love the kaleidoscopic visuals. However, younger children may not know who or what some of the drawing challenges on the cards are. Our tip: Alter the traditional gameplay by having a skip option if your child doesn’t know what the drawing stimulus is. Recommended for ages 7 and up and needs 4 or more players.

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4/5 CLEVERDIY: PROJECTS FOR KIDS – TRANSPORT PROJECT CleverDIY is the brainchild of CleverPatch – a creative online craft store. Their CleverDIY packs seek to inspire kids to make things with their hands, think for themselves and put a personal touch on each and every project. With a subscription option for $24.90/month, kids are encouraged to get crafty and use their creative skills. The Transport package comes with four 3D wooden transportation models – a boat, rocket, plane, car, and a wooden train frame.

Not to mention all the good messy stuff - 2 sets of paint tubs, glue tube, glitter shaker, paintbrush, permanent marker and embroidery thread. We got our hands on the Transport project package and had Lola (8 years) test it out and tell us what she thought.

When I looked at the box I wasn’t sure it would be entertaining – you just need to paint and build. But when I actually opened it and I looked at what’s there, it’s like a total different thought. I like how you can change the colour.

Once it dries you can paint over it. When you play with the toy, you have to concentrate so much on what you have to do. You can choose your design and it teaches you to think about a normal plane and you try to copy it. The toy would be better for kids a bit younger than me – maybe 5 or 6 years old, but a permanent marker would not be good for them to use. It was a bit hard to put together.

Our verdict: The paints are really good quality – they aren’t runny and therefore only one coat is needed to cover the wooden shapes. Your child won’t get disinterested easily because no second coat is needed and the paint dries very quickly, which keeps waiting time low. The toy would be great for kids aged 5-12, however the younger ones will need assistance. By watching Lola create her car and rocket, it was evident that her creative juices were flowing. While she coated her car with a puddle of glue and splashed on the sprinkles, you could definitely see her inner Picasso.

$24.90/MTH SUBSCRIPTION - AVAILABLE FROM WWW.CLEVERDIY.COM.AU

RUMMIKUB Rummikub is a tile-based game that combines elements of rummy and mahjong. Players take turns putting down tiles from their racks into sets (groups or runs) of at least three. The game is great for kids because it teaches pattern recognition and associates patterns with colours and numbers. Kids will most likely need help at first but after time will become well acquainted with the game and be fierce competitors! We love that the game is completely different every time you play and that anyone can win because the game doesn’t only rely on skill but also luck!

$34.95 RRP - AVAILABLE FROM WWW.TOYSRUS.COM.AU/

Our verdict: Kids may get a little bored as gameplay does last a while and the time between turns may take a little long. However, the educational benefits of this game are obvious and it really gets your mind working!

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paul’s STORY Paul* and his partner had their daughter prematurely at 32 weeks. Here he recounts his feelings about the hospital and birth experience, and the days and weeks after his baby’s premature arrival.

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e leave the car out front and get into a ward within a few minutes. People make quick introductions and start assessing and managing the situation.

All I feel is a lack of knowledge of what is happening and what will happen. I feel relief as our doctor arrives, assesses, leaves, prepares, sets up monitoring and tells us what is likely to happen.

Silence. We are in the system.

There’s no time for talking. This is serious. More hospital wards.

We and others are getting ready for an emergency procedure.

But we are not ready for this.

We are not prepared, and time, we are told, is running out.

‘The baby might not be getting an adequate supply of oxygen.

There seems to be trouble finding an anaesthetist, but we are not supposed to know this. A few quiet words and we are trying to get my partner comfortable between contractions, straps and uncomfortable pillows.

We don’t have anything with us but our workbags, and nobody knows where we are.

The team arrives, and we are getting ready for her to go in.

Jewellery is coming off. In a corridor I’m introduced to more people, and I go for coffee in a windowless staffroom so they know where I am. Television seems trivial, and why is this room such a mess?

I am waiting on edge, and I do

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not know if there is a bridge in front of me or a precipice.

I can’t move forward because someone else is dictating my steps. I am quiet, not running down any emotional path, just waiting and hoping. My expectations and plans now seem naïve and I put them away for another day. I don’t wish to see them. Why do I even have them when this can happen?

OK, everything is fine. The paediatrician has the baby, and the mother will be coming out in an hour or so. Still so much can go wrong, but immediate tests were good, and when repeated, they were excellent.

I walk in and must wash my hands. There are three people around a Perspex box – the centre of focus. I move to see what is happening. Tubes are being attached, feet are being pricked, veins are being found, and they are happy because the signs are good.

What is this haze around everything? I am tearful and tired and trying to gather information and look at the baby. After a while I realise there is little more to be learned, and I need to see how my other girl is doing.

Now there are two people for me to look after.

I walk down corridors, find the right waiting room, tell the staff who I am, and then I’m led up to a bed half covered

by green curtains. A still grey figure is all alone. I am there to comfort and support and provide a report, and all I feel is sorry and sad. This is not what we expected, yet we knew it happens. Everything is OK – and no, it isn’t.

She surfaces and her first reaction is relief as she sees who I am and learns the baby is OK. A minimum level of strength and energy returns as she tries to recollect what has happened and learns what has happened. Those first hours are a jewelled jigsaw that she has lost, and which I struggle to provide.

We’re meant to be happy, a baby has arrived, but I don’t want congratulations and a cigar. I am tissue paper vulnerable to so many things that might go wrong and I feel as if it all might fall apart at any point.

Tomorrow, tomorrow, I want to put everyone off until tomorrow.

Let us do well tonight so we can progress tomorrow and begin to fathom what we have ahead of us.

Back at work after a few days and someone else had a premature baby so now it is – how many weeks premature, and what developmental stage, where the lungs are at, how much oxygen and what happens if you get too much.

How things have improved and yet it all seems so fragile. And

Now I have a sense of what the baby can overcome. She has tissue paper ears that can be unfolded. Every morning I am going in before work to wash the baby and see how she is doing.

by the way, congratulations.

I’m in a world of probabilities, likelihoods, and I’m sure it will be fine. I will take anything positive.

Now I have a sense of what the baby can overcome. She has tissue paper ears that can be unfolded. Every morning I am going in before work to wash the baby and see how she is doing. Mum will come later.

Lunch time and I am back in the nursery. Mum is already there learning as much as possible.

We are mapping her progress,

the doctors gently providing information, the nurses not wanting to give false hope.

Will she always be a “premmie”? What stigma will be carried by our little girl? You start building up a list of premature people who have succeeded, don’t look premmie, or are doing fine, have overcome the problems they did have, and some of them you know, as adults or children. We even consider that it might not matter at all.

Was the biggest problem not knowing what it was all about

and what we could do?

But we are still in a routine of tests and doctors’ appointments and whenever something is wrong, we wonder about the contribution played by her early arrival.

Two and a half years later, we have learned to speak like Teletubbies and we know the bananas songs and my little girl has helped me “laugh in the face of danger” (The Lion King).’ * Not his real name.

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Cyberbullying is any kind of bullying or harassment done using technology.

It really sucks because it can be public, hard to take down, or affect you at home.

There are a lot of things it could be, and it can affect people in a lot of different ways. Take 5 minutes to skill up on how to protect yourself.

CYBERBULLYING – WHAT IT IS AND WHY IT SUCKS Cyberbullying is bullying that is done through the use of technology, for example, using the Internet, a mobile phone or a camera to hurt or embarrass someone. It can be shared widely with a lot of people quickly, which is why it is so dangerous and hurtful.

WHY IS CYBERBULLYING SO BAD? • A lot of people can view or take part in it.

• It is often done in secret with the bully hiding who they are by creating false profiles or names, or sending anonymous messages.

• It is difficult to remove as it is shared online so it can be recorded and saved in different places.

• It is hard for the person being bullied to escape if they use technology often.

• The content (photos, texts, videos) can be shared with a lot of people.

• This content may also be easy to find by searching on a web browser like Google.

• What does cyberbullying look like?

• Being sent mean or hurtful text messages from someone you know or even someone you don’t know.

• Getting nasty, threatening or hurtful messages through social networking sites like Facebook and Twitter, or through sites where people can ask/answer questions like Formspring or internet forums.

• People sending photos and videos of you to others to try and embarrass or hurt you.

• People spreading rumours about you via emails

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or social networking sites or text messages.

• People trying to stop you from communicating with others.

• People stealing your passwords or getting into your accounts and changing the information there.

• People setting up fake profiles pretending to be you, or posting messages or status updates from your accounts.

HOW IT CAN AFFECT PEOPLE • Feeling guilty like it is your fault.

• Feeling hopeless and stuck like you can’t get out of the situation.

• Feeling alone, like there is no one to help you.

• Feeling like you don’t fit in with the cool group.

• Feeling depressed and rejected by your friends and other groups of people.

• Feeling unsafe and afraid.

• Stressed out wondering what to do and why this is happening to you.

HOW TO PROTECT YOURSELF • Don’t share your private information like passwords, name and address, phone numbers with people you don’t know. Be cautious about

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sharing photos of yourself, your friends and your family.

Don’t respond to messages when you are angry or hurt - either to strangers or people you know. This will often encourage them to continue or increase their harassment of you.

Log out and stop messaging if you feel you are being harassed.

Remember you have the option to block, delete and report anyone who is harassing you online and on your mobile.

Find out how to report bullying and harassment on each of the different social networks that you use – see the Easy guide to socialising online for info on how to do this on different site.

Keep a record of calls, messages, posts and emails that may be hurtful or harmful to you.

Remember to set up the privacy options on your social networking sites like Facebook in a way you are comfortable with.

The Australian Human Rights Commission (1300 656 419) has a complaint handling service that may investigate complaints of discrimination, harassment and bullying

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BABYBJORN

High Chair THE STORY BEHIND

Gathering around the dinner table is one of the highlights of the day, but it can sometimes be a challenge for families with children.

development team and design group to anticipate the ma jor trends and demand of parents . From this analysis they came up with two new colours.

Falls, often from high chairs and changing tables, is the most common cause of injuries to small kids. That’s why the Swedish Consumer Agency, in the beginning of the 21st century, encouraged us to develop an ergonomic and safe high chair that makes it harder for toddlers to stand up and fall out of it.

Colours parents love and have waited for - pink and turquoise.

Even though we had experience with high chairs, it was no simple task to create the optimal product. We started by studying how different high chairs were designed and how babies behaved when they sat in them and ate.

There was a lot of food eaten and thrown around at home in the test families during the numerous tests before we had a design we were 100% satisfied with.

We chose to make a chair out of plastic, because it is a material that is strong, durable and easy to clean.

The solution to prevent the toddler from standing up and falling out of the chair ended up being a foldout and adjustable table built into the high chair.

After a long test process, we were finally able to present our new unique high chair for safe and pleasant meals.

A throne for princes and princesses.

In bringing the high chair collection to life again, babybjorn’s creative director and founder Lillemor Jakobson, collaborated with their product

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“I gathered inspiration from art, fashion and interior design to create these colours. Our goal, with any collection, is to ensure that parents feel confident using a safe and functional product - and at the same time feel stylish”, Lillemor says.

For safe and pleasant meals The BABYBJORN highchair combines smart safety with modern design.

Suitable from 6 months to 3 years, it easily adjusts as children grows. With its ergonomic and compact design, the high chair provides a seat that is comfortable and safe for your little one. The safety table keeps them securely in place, preventing them from standing up and sits snuggly against the tummy to avoid food spills.

The table is lockable with one hand, so it’s ideal when parents are juggling tasks.

It is also easy to assemble , with no tools required and easy to transport and store. The snug design of the integrated table means that food is less likely to fall on children’s lap. It features smooth surfaces and the detachable tray to help make for easy clean-up.

Tested and safe materials. This product is PVC-free and contains no bisphenol A (BPA), phthalates, cadmium , lead, or bromine. The plastic can also be recycled.

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Kid of the month Akeira 7

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baby& Toddler Totseat

Turn any seat into a baby seat

The Totseat chair harness is designed to fit as many chairs, of every shape and size, as possible. It’s safe, comfortable, robust, washable and built to last and comes in lovely fabrics which add an adult dimension to lunch. $49.95 - AVAILABLE FROM WWW.BLOOM,ANDGROW.COM.AU

Cuddle Co Stroller Liner

Style up your stroller

The Comfi-Cush by CuddleCo Ltd. is a memory foam buggy liner that adapts to your babies’ individual body shape, providing your baby with lasting comfort keeping them calm and cosy for longer. This universal design is compatible with almost all pushchairs, it is very easy to fit and can be easily removed for machine washing. The memory liner not only provides support it’s absorbing properties actively cushion your child’s ride over bumpy surfaces. $59.95 - AVAILABLE FROM WWW.BLOOM,ANDGROW.COM.AU

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PRODUCTS WE LOVE

Pearhead First year belly stickers

Record your babies milestones

First year belly stickers includes 12 stickers to record baby’s age from 1-12 months. They are easy to peel and stick on clothing and with a matte finish they create glare-free photos. $12.95 - AVAILABLE FROM WWW.BLOOM,ANDGROW.COM.AU

Ubbi Diaper Pail

Keep away the stink in style

The Ubbi diaper pail is made of powder-coated steel to achieve maximum odor control. It is equipped with rubber seals that are strategically designed to lock in odors as well as a sliding lid that minimizes air disruption, keeping the smell inside the pail. This award winning nursery essential offers the convenience and value of utilizing any standard trash bag or reusable cloth liner. This feature makes it the easiest disposal system to load, use, empty and clean. $99.95 - AVAILABLE FROM WWW.BLOOM,ANDGROW.COM.AU

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scrunch

BUCKET Winning an award for products designed in the UK, the Srunchbucket now sells worldwide. It is a practical and robust silicon bucket that scrunches down to fit in the smallest spaces. Ideal for travel, it retains its shape perfectly every time.

Available in 8 assorted colours for 1 years and above. http://bloomandgrowasia.com/brands/scrunch/

RRP $14.95

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Hippychick™ Hipseat

The award-winning Hippychick Hipseat has been developed to allow adults to carry their children naturally on their hip without the usual strains on the back.

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Specifically designed to address one of the root causes of adult back pain, the seat provides a firm shelf for the child to sit on and supports their weight from underneath.

Award-winning Hipseat

www.bloomandgrow.com.au

Available at : The Stork Nest

STYLE FOR MODERN MOTHERHOOD Available at : Sydney Baby Kingdom

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