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I asked the question, and life moved me to the answer. How could I better serve Oakland County with this publication? The answer was profound, it was in the name. Create a name that is better suited to describe the positive, empowering, inspirational content inside. So I did—Eydis, pronounced: I-dee-is Eydis speaks to the meaning of a warrior woman, a guardian spirit, and is the Goddess of good fortune. It is the perfect representation of all women. “Ey” represents the giver of good fortune and gifts, allowing everyone who touches this extraordinary publication to be exposed to the good fortune and gifts of our community. It provides our readers with uplifting and empowering content and provides our advertisers with much success by exposing them to a dynamic group of decision makers ~ Women. By doing so, they have the good fortune of attracting new business. The “dis” represents the Goddess and guardian spirit, reflecting all women. The words empowered, dynamic, and sensational, speak to everyone picking up Eydis, and by incorporating the infinity eight, it represents never-ending success and unlimited possibilities for all. I am thrilled to be able to represent women in a way that encourages and inspires. This magazine is a collaboration of all of us and, if we all work together, it can and will continue to be a success. So from the words of Libby Bray, “And that is how change happens. One Gesture. One Person. One moment in time. “

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Balance

All is Well by Elaine Grohman

on Morgan never saw a problem. He saw a person. It was as simple as that. Sure, he understood that there are challenges that people face, but he never confused the challenge with the person. Problems are transitory, fixable. People are real, and always need love and encouragement to grow and learn through life’s experiences. Don never knew a stranger. If he happened to see or become aware of someone in need he never stopped to weigh the cost. He didn’t ask what was in it for him. He was a man of faith—a faith that went far beyond his daily attendance at mass. He had a deep faith in humanity and in the goodness of everyone he met. If he saw fear, he tried to soothe it. If he saw hunger, he shared what he had. If he saw heartache, he offered the strength of his kindness and broad shoulders. Don knew that no one ought to carry a burden alone and he worked, without fanfare, to lighten another’s load. He knew that no problem was bigger than love. When problems arose, he would pause, say three Hail Marys, and then take action. He treated the poorest man in town and the richest man in town exactly the same. He treated everyone as a friend, with respect, with integrity, and with love. Don was a reluctant superhero. He had the ability to see beyond the obvious, looking deeply at the heart of the matter at hand. He knew that an angry person forgot how to forgive; he offered a space for forgiveness. He knew that a frightened child needed reassurance; he gave it. No one left Don feeling unheard, empty, or alone. He would lend a hand in any way he could, knowing that challenges are opportunities that can open doors of cooperation, kindness, and care. He never judged, he just worked to find a solution. Then, he would smile and say thank you. He appreciated life and lived it fully. As I sat in the crowded church it was evident that Don had “bumped” into many lives, including my own, as nearly 900 people filled the church, paying respect to the life of a man who never saw a problem. One son-in-law spoke of an experience that had touched him deeply. Early in the young man’s relationship with Don’s daughter, he just happened to step into the Morgan’s Market that Don owned. Opening the door, he paused slightly as he listened curiously to the conversation that was taking place in the back of the store. He had never heard this tone of voice from Don before. Don didn’t sound angry. He sounded firm. He could hear Don saying, “Young man, don’t ever steal or

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cheat. If you need something, just ask me. I will give it to you. But don’t ever steal, it cheapens you. You are better than that.” Don gave that young man far more than the few items from his store. Don appreciated life, and his easy, warm smile welcomed everyone. He loved being a husband, a father, a brother, an uncle and a friend, but most of all, Don loved being a grandpa. His grandkids called him GG. One day, his little granddaughter, who was in kindergarten at the time, had been given the letter G to represent at show-and-tell. She brought her GG, complete with two giant capital G’s sewn onto his shirt. As an Energy Healer, I was privileged be a part of Don’s life as he faced the challenges of cancer. I know, beyond any doubt, that each and every person I work with blesses me in untold ways. As we worked together, it was not uncommon for him to cry as he struggled to be on the receiving end of someone doing something on his behalf. It was time for him to receive, and he did so in abundant ways. Even as Don’s life was coming to an end he lived it fully. As he lay dying, unable to speak, he motioned that he wanted to write something down. Slowly he wrote, “All is well.” He handed the paper to his daughter and smiled, gently closing his eyes. Just before taking his last breath, with his family at his bedside, he gently touched his wife’s chest and said clearly, “You.” He touched his own chest and said, “Me.” And then pointed upwards and said, “God.” He looked up, smiled, opened his arms wide, hugging an unseen Greeter, and took his last breath. Disease, grief, injury, and stress will visit each of us sooner or later. But these things don’t have to define us. Likewise, joy, enthusiasm, and love will visit us too. Don knew how to find balance in all things that life brings. Through everything that happens, we always have that which makes us whole: Our Spirit, our joy, our Lives. All is well. Never let anyone forget that. Don never did. Elaine Grohman is a speaker, author, energy healer and angel reader. She has a private practice in Farmington, MI. For appointments please contact Lainie Rubio at 248.320.6532 or visit her website at www.elainegrohman.com

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THE POWER OF ESSENTIALS by Margot Kohler For thirty-five years, we’ve studied abroad learning of the many benefits and uses of essential oils. Let us share our knowledge so you can experience positive well-being through daily use of essential oils.

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Essential oils are the regenerative and oxygenating properties of plants. The oil is obtained by a variety of methods, typically expression or distillation directly from the plant. Contained within the oil is the molecular composition and intrinsic properties of the plant, which work hand in hand with our bodies for both repairing and growing cells. The human body has the ability to take in the positive attributes of the oil by absorption of the pure oil directly through the skin, by mixing the oil with other “carrier” oils such as coconut and hazelnut oils, or through the sense of smell, which sends signals to the limbic center of the brain. This oil, made of extract and resins, is known to be the most powerful part of the plant and contains many beneficial properties.

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Using essential oils improves the quality of our daily lives by tapping into the organic properties of plants and how they can bring about positive interaction and rebuilding in our bodies. Every plant oil is unique in chemical composition with very small molecules know as aldehydes, oxides, esters, among others. The microscopic components interact with the body and can stimulate the body’s immune system, help to kill bacteria and aid in cell growth. They contain antifungal, antiviral, antibacterial, and antiseptic properties and are powerful oxygenators that act as carrying agents in the delivery of nutrients at the cellular level.

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Essential oils have been used for thousands of years around the world. Studies of ancient Egypt, Rome, and China have discovered civilizations have blended mixtures of plant oils for religious ceremonies, perfumes, and healing remedies dating back to 4500 B.C. During World War II, Dr. Jean Valnet, M.D., an army physician and surgeon, used the medicinal properties of local plants to aid in the healing and recovery of those injured in battle. He dedicated his life to discovering and documenting nature’s offering of healing in plants. An expert in the field, Dr. Valnet is quoted as saying, “Forgotten and ignored for many years, essential oils are coming back into their own…. as the stars of medicine…”. Additionally, a recognized expert, researcher, and author on the topic, Dr. Terry Friedmann, M.D., stated that “Use of essential oils is one of the most powerful yet safe healing modalities we have today.”

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e all recognize her as one of the anchor reporters for Channel 7’s news team; refined, polished and blessed with eternal youth, Carolyn Clifford has been with Channel 7 since 1998, an unbelievable 17 years. I had the distinct pleasure of sharing a small part of her valuable time getting to know her. As you would suspect, she has seen a lot during her illustrious career and exudes a calm wisdom and grace that portrays the depth of her experiences.

“I got that from my Mom” ~ Carolyn Clifford

Aside from her demanding career, she manages a beautiful home—electricians and a stream of other handy folks coming and going—and a large family that orbits around her, which includes her three children, two step-children, her mother, and the love of her life, her husband Greg Goss, to name just a few. A native of Detroit and the youngest of her mother’s nine biological children (she has one adopted sister), Carolyn undoubtedly has several siblings, nieces and nephews that frequent her life, too. Despite all of this, she is approachable and proves to be an adroit and agile person under the pressure of juggling her incredibly busy schedule. Silk blouse, $298 and gray suede leggings; $698, Lafayette 148, Hershs Womens Apparel, 248.626.7776 Rina Limor blue topaz earrings Stones Fine Jewelry, 248.851.5030 Bracelet, stelladot.com/kathleenwolney

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Although she has appeared on the evening news with her reports for over a decade now, Carolyn started her career at Channel 6 in Lansing, Michigan while majoring in journalism at Michigan State University. She was also a member of the ROTC, and was a part of the MSU dance company. Following her graduation from MSU, she went on to work in Orlando, Florida. She then moved to Raleigh, North Carolina, and after that she moved to Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania before finally returning home to Detroit and to Channel 7. “It was always my plan to come home,” shares Carolyn. It proved difficult to make it back home from all the different locations, so she kept in contact with the news director from Channel 4 and Channel 7 the entire time she was working in other cities. “I always kept in contact with people in the industry back here, sending my tapes to have them look at them and I would ask ‘Am I ready?’ They would then tell me what to work on.” Carolyn Clifford covered a little bit of everything in her career, from hurricanes to crime and politics, recently interviewing President Barack

Obama. In Raleigh, North Carolina she took on the role of health reporter. Once she returned to the Detroit area to work at Channel 7, a young woman who was the weekend and health reporter for Channel 7 was leaving, so Carolyn took her place reporting the weekend news and covering the health reports. She stayed there until they moved her to the anchor position on the 11 o’clock news. Carolyn specifically mentioned that while attending Michigan State University, she enjoyed watching Bill Bonds, Robbie Timmons, and Diana Lewis. “I loved watching them all, all of the legends on Channel 7,” she smiles. “But I always really loved Cheryl Chodin because I always wanted to be a crime reporter. I would watch her in Lansing and really wanted to mimic her.”

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Carolyn appreciated Chodin’s clean, direct, and balanced reporting. “That’s what you learn in journalism. You are supposed to be balanced. No matter what you are covering, whether it is crime or politics, you shouldn’t know my personal feelings,” shares Carolyn. “That is what I strive for day in and day out.” While Carolyn covers stories with professional composure, she states that “certain things can really upset me.” She gets particularly troubled when children or the elderly are involved.

Carloyn Clifford one on one with President Barack Obama August 26th 2015

Although crime was something that she was very interested in doing when she came to Channel 7 and became an anchor, news directors would tell her that they didn’t think she should portray that hard image of being in the street and covering crime every day, so she settled into her anchor position. eydispublishingonline.com | October 2015 | 21

Carolyn shared a few stories of events in her career that were impactful for her. Early in her career as a reporter in Lansing, Nelson Mandela was released from prison and came to Tiger Stadium in Detroit to speak. The news director from Lansing sent Carolyn, a green reporter, to cover the story. There were professionally seasoned reporters from near and far. They were booking satellite time—which gives a reporter only about a minute or two to convey their story. She listened to all the experienced reporters do their stories and took notes, jotting down her script and emulating their delivery and actions. When it came her time to report her story on Nelson Mandela’s visit via satellite, Carolyn said a few words, then froze. “I literally froze,” she conveyed. There was dead air time.

“They were asking me, ‘Carolyn? Carolyn?’ I just remember crying all the way back to Lansing. I was so embarrassed. I put my report together at four in the morning for the next day. I remember that I wanted to quit. I really wanted to quit.” While it is difficult to imagine the articulate Carolyn ever having any trouble conveying a story, she now sees it as part of growing up in the industry and understands it was something of a rite of passage. “I was so embarrassed. I was green and other reporters really wanted to go,” she shares. “We all have stories like that to tell. We all get embarrassed and make mistakes on big stories, but we all make it through. Here I am all these years later. It all worked out.” She is proud of another situation that happened when she was a young anchor working the weekend news in Lansing. At that time, she was also producing, editing, and writing as well as reporting, which is the way it was in a small market like Lansing at the time. An entire family came into the station because they were worried about their mother. They said they couldn’t find her anywhere. They urgently asked for help because they were sure their mother Navy knit dress by PapillionBlanc $140; Eleganza Boutique, 248.737.2666 Kushi leather and mesh jacket; $495 Bricker-Tunis Furrier, 248.855.9200 Diamond dangle earrings; Stones Fine Jewelry, 248.851.5030 Necklace and Bracelet, www.stelladot.com/kathleenwolney

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would never leave, and she left without her medicine. When there is a missing person, you are supposed to wait for the police to file a formal report before you run a story on them. Something about the family’s story, their confidence and their urgency, told Carolyn she needed to help them. She made the decision to run the story without a police report. They broadcasted the story and an image of the mother’s missing car. It turned out that a man had abducted the missing woman, stabbed her, and threw her in the trunk of her car and was driving around. The police found that car and found her. “Sometimes you follow the rules and sometimes you have to go with your gut,” she shares. “That time I went with my gut and ran the story immediately. I’m glad I did. I felt like a life was saved and that just sticks with me.” A naturally industrious worker, Carolyn gets much of her inspiration from her mom. The mother of ten children, her mom was also a self-made successful business woman. When Carolyn tells the story of her mom, she lets others know that when they feel hopeless, there is always a way. “She didn’t have money. She didn’t have a degree from a big university. She prayed, and she had people on her side. My mother started a business with so little.” Carolyn states proudly. Her mom also made sure that she got her children a good education, somehow raising enough money for tuition to send them to private Catholic schools in Detroit. Carolyn follows in her mother’s footsteps. She is driven, successful, and established in the community, and she credits her mom for a lot of that. “My older brother painted houses to raise tuition money and my mom did whatever she had to do to make sure

we got a good education.” Carolyn attended Detroit Public Schools for kindergarten through third grade, then transferred into a Catholic school.” Carolyn is a frequent speaker on the topic of domestic violence. “My mom is truly my hero. She is a survivor of domestic violence who went through many difficult years,” she states. “Because I’m the youngest, I cannot tell you that I remember seeing my biological father beat my mother, but I heard many stories.” “I speak about her story because not only did she survive it, she thrived. She kept all of us safe and got us all out of that situation. Even though she is almost 86 years old, she still volunteers at church.” After speaking at Catholic Central High School one time, Carolyn had many women from all walks of life come up to her and say “After hearing about your mother, let me tell you about my story,” or “I decided to leave my situation after hearing you speak.” “Domestic violence hits every community—whether you have money or not. I’ve had judges and high profile politicians tell me their stories. They come to me and say, ‘that’s my story, I’m just afraid to share what happened to my mom.’” It touches everybody. Carolyn believes that we should not be ashamed or afraid to talk about it and share experiences. It is a quiet problem that can perpetuate when people do not know that others are going through the same thing. “My mom didn’t know how she could escape her situation. She talks about

Carolyn Clifford Goss with husband Gregory and children Airielle, Brooke, James, Alyssa and Gregory II sitting on a porch in Detroit. Her lights and gas had been turned off. She recalled seeing a commercial about a female plumber that inspired her. She said seeing that woman on television made her feel empowered, like she could run her own business.” Unbelievably, her mom launched her own successful extermination business out of the trunk of her car. Carolyn’s uncle got her started. He bought her tanks and chemicals and taught her what to do. She worked midnights at the post office, and ran an extermination business by day. She sprayed for roaches and put out bait for rats. Eventually she built her business up enough so she could leave the post office and open up an office. Carolyn talks about her mother’s trials and triumphs, and she also gives praise to her step-father. “I didn’t know my biological dad, but I had a great step-dad who raised me and was a very good man. He was a strong man. He ran the business with my mom,” she conveys with tears. “He

was a family man who really taught my brothers how to be good fathers. He was really strong.” Carolyn uses much of her precious spare time speaking to groups, especially to kids in Detroit. “A lot of kids don’t know that I am from Detroit,” she shares. “They are near and dear to my heart.” Giving back in this way is a legacy inherited from her mother, and one that she will surely pass on to her children and to others as well. In the end, her bustling life and lively schedule is clearly all time well spent, and it is her big heart and simple goodness—not her celebrity—that really shines through in a life that is well-lived. Assistant Photographers Robert Olinski Maurice Sanders Styled by Jessica Kocik Hair by Yiannis Karimalis Makeup by Aferdita Qafa

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When Memory Fades More and more families today find themselves touched by the tragedy of Alzheimer’s. There is also increasing public awareness of the emotional and financial toll that Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia can take. Consider, for example, the story of the Bazaz family. The first signs were subtle. Cecile Bazaz forgot her computer password. Then she asked her family twice, five minutes apart, what they wanted for breakfast. Before long, the successful Atlanta executive began missing deadlines, skipping appointments and going to work on her days off. Medical tests at Emory University in 2009 confirmed that Cecile, then just 51 years old, had early-onset Alzheimer’s disease. That diagnosis set in motion a series of life-altering transitions for Cecile and her husband, Alister Bazaz, an executive at Bank of America. And until science comes up with a cure for dementia, more and more families will find themselves facing similar obstacles. Yet as Alister has discovered, there is much you can do to anticipate and prepare for a day you hope will never come. “I cannot think of anything more important for your financial life than planning for the possibility of Alzheimer’s,” he says. How Would You Pay for Care? A big part of that planning involves what to do if someone needs full-time nursing care at home or in a residential facility. Purchasing long-term-care insurance far in advance of when it may be needed is one way to help cover that large expense. Having adequate life insurance, too, could be crucial. Fortunately, when Alister and Cecile were in their early forties and in good health, they beefed up their long-term disability coverage, which pays benefits if you are no longer able to work. Starting early can be advantageous when considering how to handle the health-related costs of later years. In your forties, long-term-care insurance is likely to be more affordable.

After Cecile’s diagnosis, but while she still was able to discuss her future, she and Alister met with a tax attorney and a lawyer specializing in estate matters. They settled issues such as assigning Cecile’s power of attorney to Alister, signing a living will and a health-care directive, and noting her preferences for care. They also considered estate issues—for example, what would happen if Alister died first? How could they ensure that Cecile would be cared for, and that their grown daughter, Kathleen, would receive the inheritance they wished to leave her? “Another essential part of preparing for a family member’s cognitive decline is to make sure you have access to financial accounts and documents,” says Cynthia Hutchins, director of Financial Gerontology at Bank of America Merrill Lynch, who suggests recording critical information such as passwords and storing important papers in a secure location that family members can get to if necessary. Financial Early-Warning Signs The early indications of cognitive decline are often hard to identify. What starts as neglecting to pay bills can accelerate to impulsive spending, large account withdrawals or calling a financial advisor multiple times a day. One way for family members to get an early warning about potential cognitive issues, Hutchins says, is to create a document authorizing a financial advisor to reach out to a family member or another trusted person if there are signs of problems. Having the Difficult Conversation The starting point of any strategy for dealing with cognitive decline is a frank, open discussion, says Hutchins. “This is a hard conversation to have, but it can empower everyone by identifying the needs, preferences and goals of a family member.” Those may include where that person wants to receive care and who will manage finances. If it falls to you to prompt the conversation, Hutchins suggests asking

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whether your parent has thought about what will happen if he or she can no longer care for himself or herself. “Make sure they understand you are not trying to take away their independence,” she advises. Caregiving Made (a Little) Easier Families also need to consider who will take the role of primary caregiver and the financial implications of that choice. You may decide to leave your job to provide care, and as the disease progresses, to hire part-time aides to help with personal care and companionship, or you might consider adult daycare or respite care at a residential facility. Finding an Alzheimer’s support group in your area can also help. “You need to take care of yourself as well,” says Alister Bazaz. “Make sure you eat well and exercise, and try to maintain a social network outside of your caregiving.” For several years, Alister shared the care of Cecile with Kathleen, who is now in her mid-twenties, and they also had the help of professional caregivers. But as her condition worsened, Cecile needed assistance with even the most routine tasks, including eating. Alister and Kathleen finally realized they could no longer give Cecile everything she needed, and they made the difficult decision to move her into a residentialcare facility. While there is no bringing back the smart, engaged person Cecile had been, “my daughter and I have become closer in the process of dealing with our family’s challenge,” Alister says. Lisa London, CFP®, CRPS® Senior Vice President – Wealth Management Financial Advisor 877.699.7254

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An Attitude of Gratitude “When eating bamboo sprouts, remember the man who planted them.” — Chinese Proverb

By John J. Schalter Dear John, I’m new in area of self-improvement. There are so many things to work on. Where do I start? Missy C. Dear Missy, First of all, congratulations on your new preoccupation with improving your life. I can think of nothing more important to do with your time. It is a journey without distance and an investment that gives so much more than it takes. It was Abraham Lincoln who once said, “Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.” In other words, living life to the fullest requires tools. This is what a life coach can do for you. He or she can hand you time tested tools to improve any area of your life. After that, it is up to you to put them to use. It’s like the old saying, “the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” Well, what exactly is that first step? You definitely want to start with something that will produce quick results that you can easily see. This immediate success will have you craving for more. A great first step could look like this, “for the next week practice and ‘attitude of gratitude.’” See how many ways you can express thanks. This may sound simple; however, it is incredibly powerful. Start with some of the basics: be grateful for your health, your family, and your friends. Speak the words with feeling, and also write them down. Most of all, let others experience the wonderful energy of your gratitude. Don’t keep your gratitude a secret, give it out like candy! Express gratitude to your spouse or significant other. Tell your children or grandchildren how thankful you are to have them in your life. Be specific. Tell them why you are so grateful. What do they do that brings you so much comfort and joy? Share this with them; their eyes will light up and their mouths will bend into a big smile. You cannot do this enough. Trust me on this!

After you have done this first step, start to get more creative. Feel remarkably grateful for the mailman who delivers your mail and the cashier who rings up your groceries. Can you imagine the look on the face of your mailman when he hears, “You know, I want to thank you and let you know how much I appreciate the good job you do in getting me my mail every day.”? Expand your circle of gratitude. Express thanks for the farmers who planted the vegetables in your salad and the factory workers who built your car. Be grateful for the people who help make your clothes and the police that patrol your streets. Here is the rule: when in doubt, give thanks! You will quickly find that it is oxygen for the soul and energized blood to the heart. More is better. Remember, happiness is not just getting what you want, it is enjoying what you have. And when you live with an attitude of gratitude, you will continue to find more and more things to be grateful for. I ask you, is there any better way to live? And here is the best part, everything you feel grateful for will expand and multiply. But don’t take my word for it, try it for yourself! And as we all step into the ever-present challenges in our lives, let us remember, we are all too blessed to be stressed. See you in the next publication. Peace and Blessings,

John

John is a Life Coach, a practicing attorney (35 years) and a professional screenwriter. He is also a musician, songwriter and artist. He does private coaching and limits his client number to 20. If you would like to discuss coaching and/or get on the waiting list call him at 586-997-HELP (4357). The first consultation is always free.

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ask the expert by Holly CaSaroll

Is there a quick fix to get rid of my aged and sun damaged skin after the summer?

Yes, and most people don’t realize that even one summer can create damage at the cellular level to age them many years in one season. Hopefully, you are open to doing some treatments that may have slight temporary side effects; the faster you want to rejuvenate your skin, the more aggressive you need to be. The good news is you can be in tip top shape in no time, and look natural like you were born that way.

Resurface Your Skin

One of my favorite treatments is the new HALO laser. It is the world’s first 2-in-1 hybrid fractional laser to simultaneously get rid of sun damage, lines, texture, pores, and overall aged skin. It can do this in half the cost, half the downtime of other traditional deep lasers, and gives miraculous results in just a week and the results continue to get more dramatic in time from the stimulated collagen.

Inject for Perfect Skin

Injectable treatments are now a staple of ageless skin. Botox combined with fillers, customized for your facial shape, can instantly take ten years off your face in a single session. You can fill in lines, hollows, scars, temples, sunken cheeks, deflated lips, depressions, and more. This is also a low maintenance option for those who want to do minimal work as far as time and effort with the best results and little to no downtime. Most fillers can last from six months up to two years, depending on the area and needs of the individual. The problem with fillers is not the fillers themselves usually, rather the technique of the injector. Doctors are not better than nurses, and it really depends person to person. Go to someone you can trust, who can give a 26 | Eydís Publishing

natural look, and can create overall facial symmetry. If the staff of a place has duck lips and chipmunk cheeks, you might want to think twice about going there.

Give Yourself a Lift Without Surgery

Still number one, year after year, is Ultherapy. As an alternative to a facelift, or for those who aren’t quite ready for surgery, as well as for those who have had a facelift and would like to maintain it, Ultherapy is as good as it comes. Only done once a year to maintain a lifted sculpted appearance, this no downtime treatment uses focused ultrasound to stimulate your own collagen and elastin to regrow, as well as helps with muscle tightening. Over the course of three months, your skin will continue to become tighter and tighter. Ultherapy is customized person to person, and you need to ask a lot of questions; I have seen people not get the proper numbing to have comfort. I’ve also seen places put less pulses in to offer it very discounted. Make sure to go with a very experienced provider, and you will absolutely love the result.

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Beautiful You

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Annmarie ALANIZ

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s I have recently moved from Arizona to Michigan I have found the community of Troy to be very welcoming. Networking, during the six months, I have met several professionals who were interested in introducing me to the local community. Included in that gracious group of professionals is Ms. Maria Savoy, CEO of this amazing magazine. After reading it cover to cover for the first time, I immediately found a new energy! The articles were inspiring and the connection to women, amazing! Now I find myself being so honored to be featured for the makeover section. Putting my hair in the hands of Yiannis Karimalis and having my makeup done by Mona Rickart, made me feel very confident. I felt look like a star! I love my new hair and now, I am ready to meet the rest of the Oakland County community! I am forever grateful to Maria, Yiannis and Mona for providing such a thoughtful gift of their time and resources. ~ Annmarie Alaniz

Yiannis Paragraph: Annmarie’s hair was dark, long and basically one length so she didn’t really have a true hairstyle to complement her lovely face. I used a light brown base color and covered the gray roots, and then added copper highlights to lighten and soften her hair color. Annmarie wanted to keep her hair long which looks beautiful on her. I styled her hair with lots of layers so she can wear it in a variety of ways by pulling it to one side, wearing it half up, or leaving it wavy and long. Annmarie was so happy with her new color and cut and couldn’t wait to go out to dinner with husband that night! ~ Hair by Yiannis Karimalis 248.931.8722, www.yiannishair.com

Annmarie is very attractive and has beautiful hair, which makes it very easy to bring out her best features. I used brighter colors to make her eyes stand out, and black eyeliner to enhance for a dramatic look. I neutralized her skin tone with primer and foundation. I then applied a soft peach blush on her cheek, contouring slightly with a brown tone and then added a touch of bronzer all over. I wanted her lips to be bright but subtle, so I used a soft pink coral lip liner with a rosy colored lipstick and a clear gloss for shine. ~ Makeup by Mona Rickart, 248.798.9888

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Let’s Talk

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“Finish your Food!” my Grandmother would snap at me in her German accent. “There are starving children in Ethiopia.” I was eight years old and not especially hungry. I asked my Grandmother to bring me an envelope. Not realizing what I was up to, she handed me a standard size envelope. I tossed the rest of my sandwich into the envelope, scribbled ‘Ethiopia’ on the front and handed it back to her. It’s a favorite childhood memory and speaks volumes about the emphasis in my family on finishing your plate, appreciating the meal you’re being offered and not wasting food. These were surely valuable lessons…but there was one thing missing: There was very little focus on what my siblings and I were eating and how it would impact our growing bodies. It was never taught to us that every cell in our body could be fueled or impaired by what we eat—and even how we eat it. But watching my Grandparents left me with some strong lessons.

My grandparents lived to 99 and 101. They weren’t health food fanatics or even athletes. But they did eat 3 solid meals a day at the same time every day. They took breaks during the day . My Grandmother would drink coffee. My Grandfather would have tea. There are plenty of studies, including one from the National Institutes of Health that indicate caffeine drinkers are less likely to die from heart disease, respiratory disease, stroke, diabetes and infections. They never ate too much or too little. Moderation was the key. Their meals were regimented. They didn’t allow their bodies to go into stress mode—which can happen when you eat at a different time every day. They didn’t allow their bodies to become confused about where the next meal was coming from. Studies show that eating at different times every day can cause the secretion of cortisol, the stress hormone—which

can lead to inflammation and a whole host of diseases. My Grandparents had similar meals at the same time every day. They didn’t smoke. They didn’t diet. They only had a drink on special occasions. Everything in moderation. They didn’t run marathons—but they didn’t sit on the couch. They took walks and played occasional tennis. My Grandmother loved to stretch and do yoga. Again, plenty of studies attest to yoga’s effectiveness in preventing stress and stress-induced disorders. My grandmother didn’t need to see the study. She knew. What they ate was minimally processed, without colorings, sweeteners, hormones and flavorings. Most of what they ate had one-word ingredients: Plums, lentils, broccoli, walnuts. I read once that the closer to nature you eat, the fewer calories it will take to satisfy you. Eating close to nature means more fiber and more fluid. It’s how my grandparents ate. Their foods weren’t coated in sugar or salt, causing them to crave more. Yes, they made me finish my plate, but what was on it was also simple, nutritious and never came out of package. To this day I feel compelled to finish my plate, but I’m also more conscious than ever of what’s on it. Lila Lazarus is an award-winning health reporter, member of the Governor’s Fitness Council, yoga teacher, co-director of Etiquette University and President of Kids Kicking Cancer.

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You Are Okay by Laura Solomon

hen my mother killed herself thirty years ago, I became a “motherless daughter.” For more than half my life I’ve tried to understand her decision to leave me. Her suicide defined me and changed the course of my life. I made so many poor choices because I felt unworthy of love and I stayed in too many situations in my personal and professional life because I doubted my value. After all, if the one person who is supposed to be there for me leaves, what’s my worth? My father, now 84 and slowly fading away from Alzheimer’s disease, became a mother and a father to me. He is a solid man. He gave me what every child deserves: affirmation, attention, emotional support, and consistent assurance that I was “the best thing that ever happened to him.” His devotion to me is powerful. And still, I struggle to understand how a parent can walk away. Perhaps I am hypersensitive to abandonment, but deciding not to be there for your children is simply unfathomable. I recently interviewed a young woman named Sarah whose father had abandoned her. He lived nearby, but chose not to see her. His rejection of her left her emotionally wounded. Sadly, Sarah’s situation was all too common and heartbreaking. Statistically, 63% of all teenagers who commit suicide are fatherless and 71% are high school dropouts. Fatherless children are ten times more likely to be drug abusers and twenty times more likely to suffer from depression. Sarah admits that she struggled with substance abuse, depression, and has made poor choices about relationships in the past. She’s spent years wondering why she wasn’t worthy enough for her father to stay in her life, and was ashamed to tell me that he’s missed every major event, her prom and her 32 | Eydís Publishing

graduation, and that she gets upset when she realizes that he won’t be walking her down the aisle. At 21, she’s already realized what took me a lifetime to figure out. She says although this experience of loss has not been ideal, it has taught her to be more self-sufficient and careful with her heart. I’m a slow learner compared to Sarah. It’s taken me three decades to learn that; whether it’s a departure by suicide or simply someone’s choice to be absent from your life, their departure really has nothing to do with the people they chose to leave behind and everything to do with them. They aren’t leaving you, they lack the compassion and commitment to stay. It truly is their loss—and an absence in their soul—but their absence leaves behind a devastation in the heart. My purpose is to let people know that they are not alone. I AM you and I AM your struggles. I am here to remind you that you are never alone. Your past does not have to define you. As Hemingway said, “The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places.” So for those of you who wonder if you are good enough, you are. You are okay. You are loved. You are stronger than all your broken pieces. And I am here if you need me; don’t you dare think anything else, seriously.

Laura Solomon lives in West Bloomfield, Michigan, with her husband and their nine children. She is the author of “Normal Life”, available on Amazon. Read her blog at thereview52.blogspot.com.

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Alicia Stillman

One Mother’s Story of the Loss of her Child and How She Saved Lives through Courage and Strength

hen possible, you stand up and make a difference so that others won’t feel that same pain. That is what Alicia Stillman, with the support of her husband, Michael, daughter, Karly and son, Zachary have done since the loss of their daughter and sister, Emily, in February of 2013. Alicia, living in West Bloomfield, received a phone call from her daughter Emily, who was a sophomore (19 years of age) at

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Kalamazoo College, complaining of a headache. Alicia suggested taking Ibuprofen and getting some rest by going to bed. The next morning, Emily was in the hospital and the doctors had diagnosed her with Meningitis. Confused, Alicia was convinced that her daughter was misdiagnosed. Emily had received the meningitis vaccination. What she didn’t know

was that the conjugate vaccine that was being used in the United States at that time only protected her daughter from four of the five serogroups of Meningococcal Disease. Emily died less than two days later from Serogroup B – of Meningococcal Disease. “I made a promise to my daughter as she lay in that hospital bed on that cold February morning,” said Alicia. “I told her that I would be her voice and that I would do my best to make sure this does not happen to anyone else. I promised she could be at peace, and that I would make the world a better place.” Finding herself with so many decisions to be made, when first approached

by the “Gift of Life” organization, Alicia sent them away. The thought of giving her organs to others was just too much. Immediately, though, she realized that she had made a mistake. Her daughter was gone, but she had this incredible gift she was able to give to others, and she knew it was what Emily would have wanted. So she made the choice to help others live. Emily’s heart, lung, liver, pancreas, and kidneys now thrive in five different lives. Her kidney was given to Randy Schumacher of Ubly, and her heart to Dr. Guy Mulligan of Cleveland, Ohio, a father of three young sons. Emily’s liver went to Angela Kiesgen of Brighton, and a lung to Joe Steponski of Grand Rapids. “I don’t think we could have seen at that time the impact that Emily would have on so many lives,” states Alicia Stillman. This fall, the family will celebrate with all of them during November, the Donor Sabbath. It is a time when faith leaders from multiple religions, donor families, transplant recipients, and donation and transplantation professionals participate in services and programs to increase awareness of the need for the lifesaving and enhancing gifts passed to others through transplantation. They encourage people to sign up in their state registry as organ, eye, and tissue donors. Months after her death, through the courage of her family, the Emily Stillman Foundation was born in memory of Emily Nicole Stillman. The foundation assists in

raising awareness for both Meningococcal Disease and Organ Donation. “Our goal is to create a world where there is no ‘wait list’ for organ donation and where meningitis is eradicated.” The Emily Stillman Foundation is a non-profit organization with 100% of all precedes go directly towards the mission. Alicia Stillman was soon to realize that the vaccine series that would have protected her daughter was not yet available in the United States. Together with her husband, they lobbied for support in Congress, and met with Directors at the FDA. In October of 2014 and January of 2015 each of the two Meningococcal Serogroup B vaccine series was approved in the United States for ages 10-25. At the same time, the vaccine was already being used much more broadly in other countries. However, that was only the first step. Once a vaccine is approved by the FDA it then goes to The Advisory Committee on Immunization Practices (ACIP) board at the CDC, who is taxed with the recommendation for its use. Alicia testified at the June meeting, presenting support from all the major Universities in the State of Michigan. She wants this vaccine available to everyone. Locally, the foundation sponsors clinics to provide this vaccine.

When asked what other important messages she wants to make sure people know, Alicia Stillman looks down. With tears in her eyes, she says “I want people to learn from our tragedy. I want them to realize that this can happen to anyone. My daughter died of a vaccine preventable disease because the vaccine was not available to us. It is available now—we just have to give them permission to use it. I could not protect my daughter, but you can Photo of people Emily Stillmans’ organs went to. Left to right; Heart to Dr. Guy protect yours.” Mulligan of Cleveland, Ohio; Kidney to Randy Schumacher of Ubly, MI; Alicia and Michael Stillman; Liver to Angela Kiesgen of Brighton, MI; Lung to Joe Steponski of Emily Stillman is missed Grand Rapids. MI every single day by her

family and, although time heals, one can never truly heal from the loss of a child. It helps that the family continues to share a close relationship with all the people who have received Emily’s organs. It gives them great comfort knowing that even in death, Emily continues to shine. For more information about The Emily Stillman Foundation or how you can contribute go to: www.foreveremily.org.

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THE DREAM TEAM RAYDIANCE FOR WOMEN

by Mary Meldrum

Back row, from left to right: Ray Williams (grandfather), Sarah McCleary, Sheila Callahan, Heather Darwish (daughter), Tony Williams (son). Front Row: Alison Thornton, Lisa DesJardin (3rd generation, grand-daughter) and Gina Carter.

ive years ago, a diagnosis of breast cancer was a big shock to Toni Dawood–Dasaro. She arrived at Raydiance for Women for the first time distraught and scared after crying in the car on the way to her appointment. Faced with the fight of her life, she didn’t want to lose her hair too.

from the trauma of losing your hair during chemotherapy to a hair piece that is exactly like your own hair becomes incredibly meaningful. Raydiance for Women assists cancer patients through that difficult process with custom crafted wigs that are exact duplicates of the patient’s own hair.

For many women, the thought of losing their hair is far more terrifying than the cancer itself. They believe that they can beat the cancer, but losing their hair—even temporarily—is very distressing.

“As soon as I walked in the door at Raydiance, Heather was so calming and sweet,” shares Toni, who was particularly impressed that Raydiance is a family business that has been in business for 54 years. As the owner of a clothing store in Grosse Pointe Village called Dawood Boutique that has been in business for 55 years, Toni appreciates the hard work and integrity that goes into that kind of success and longevity.

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“I knew that they were reputable because Heather is the third generation at Raydiance, just like my daughter is the third generation in our business,” says Toni.

By the time Toni walked out of Raydiance after her first appointment, she was calm and felt secure that she was going to be cared for. Raydiance staff went over Toni’s chemo treatment schedule and medications to determine the exact time that she would be losing her hair so that they could time the creation and fitting of her custom hair piece to match it. “They are so kind and warm that they dissolved my fears,” Toni shares. “Nobody can tell that I have lost my hair. Nobody knows that this is a wig. I call my hair piece ‘my Chanel’ on my head,” jokes Toni. “I would have paid double what I paid because of the feeling that I got from having my own hair. When I look good, I feel good, and when you have cancer, feeling good is more than half the battle and that helps me mentally. I don’t feel like I am walking around with a wig on that doesn’t look like me. I don’t want to look like I have cancer.” A lot of cancer patients are very private and do not want pity. They don’t want to dwell on their illness, be treated differently, or to have the topic of their lives overwhelmingly be about their cancer. They want to work, play, and have their life the way it was before cancer ever came along. A wig that doesn’t reveal your level of health perpetuates more positive energy from those around you. “It is all about how you feel,” Toni emphasizes. “You look the same when you come out of Raydiance as when you went in. Everybody does. My family forgets that I have a wig on.” Toni pays tribute to Raydiance saying that every time she visits, it is a beautiful experience. “I have told so many people about Raydiance. I even took brochures to my doctor,” she says. “It takes a lot to make quality hair pieces the way that they do.” “I’m stage IV now—no hair, no eyebrows—and I am fighting for my life. I am going to make sure that I look good and feel good in my fight because it makes me strong. I know that I am going to be healed, and even though I am fighting for my life, I look pretty. And that matters.” Toni is defiant and resolute.

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you walk through the door, they make you feel so welcome,” assures Sherry. “You feel like you are a glamorous star.” “One of the best memories was on the day of my shaving as I was being fit for my final piece, Tony was in the room with my aunts and my mom. He made it such a comfortable situation. He took care to make sure that he shaved my head and explained everything so completely. It was very touching.” Her family was there taking pictures. Sherry describes, “It was actually a fun event, and it made me feel very liberated. I wasn’t going to allow cancer to take my hair. I took charge and showed cancer that ‘you can’t take this from me. I’m going to take it from you’.” “People see someone that has no hair and they feel bad for them, which brings on a sort of negative vibe. Not everybody wants that,” explains Heather. “They want positive vibes while they are trying to heal. Our clients can walk into the grocery store and nobody is going to stare at them. They don’t look like they have a cheap wig on.” “Our wigs take about three to four weeks to make,” explains Heather. “Ideally, we would like to catch women as soon as they have been diagnosed so it isn’t a rush. We like to have the wig ready before they start losing their hair.” There are many over-the-counter wig stores. Raydiance for Women is nothing like that. They are so unique that only a few other businesses in the country do what they do. Some women travel long distances—from California, Florida, Canada, northern Michigan, Ohio, and Illinois—to have their hair piece made by the experts at Raydiance. In October every year, Raydiance gives a free wig out to a lady who is about to undergo chemotherapy through an essay contest called “We’re Hair for You.” Last year, Sherry Cynowa was the winner. Her winning essay meant that she received a custom hair piece from Raydiance when she lost her hair. Sherry shared, “Winning meant the world to me because my hair gave me the confidence to continue working and go out in public.” When asked about her experience of being fitted for her Raydiance wig, Sherry said, “They made me feel like a million bucks at one of the lowest points of my life. I was so scared not knowing what it was going to be like losing my hair. They gave me the opportunity to look beautiful and feel beautiful, and to hold my head up high while I was going through a very, very difficult time in my life.” The custom fitting and designing of the hair piece involves several visits and steps to achieve a natural look that results in a wig that almost exactly matches the client’s own hair. “Everyone at Raydiance plays a crucial role. The moment 38 | Eydís Publishing

She goes on to say, “Every single person at Raydiance has a way of making you feel like you are not sick. They were so uplifting and motivated to educate me on how to properly take care of my wig. Overall, I could not have asked for a better experience.” Sherry goes on to talk about how cancer taught her so much about herself and how important it is to be immersed in positive energy. She surrounds herself with positive people because it is all part of the healing process. That is why Raydiance was so important. “When I went to Raydiance, they helped me gain the ability to fight harder because they believed in me. They were part of my team; part of my dream team. I felt like with everyone I had backing me, there was no way that I could lose.” So far, Sherry is right. At this point she is almost a one-year survivor. She is very healthy and very happy to be alive and to have beaten cancer so far. Sherry’s overall attitude has gone a long way in her recovery. She credits many people in her life for their unwavering support, including the staff at Raydiance. “You have to realize that with cancer, you have to remain positive. You have to believe that you are bigger and badder than cancer.” “Cancer changes your entire viewpoint. When it becomes your own personal battle, it is amazing the outpouring support and love. Raydiance made me feel like I was the most important person in the world; like I was family. Heather still checks up on me to see how I am doing.” Heather’s final wise words are, “When these ladies are able to feel good and stay positive, there is no question, they do heal faster.”

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Ideas to Start the School (and Work) Day the Right Way

And remember mom and dad while making these tasty breakfasts dishes for the kids. Not only do parents serve as role models for their kids when it comes to eating, we also benefit greatly by starting our day off with a healthy breakfast too.

by Cindy Bjorkquist, director of Health and Wellness Programs at Blue Cross Blue Shield of Michigan

5 Healthy Lunches Kids (and Mom) will Love

ith a new school year in full swing, now is the perfect time to start thinking of ways to integrate healthier foods into the school day, including breakfast and lunch, the whole family will enjoy. Sending your kid off to school with a full belly is important because it provides them with the energy they need to concentrate in the classroom and prevents that mid-morning slump. Children who eat breakfast perform much better in their school work and have more energy throughout the day for physical activities. Eating breakfast consistently even helps children maintain a healthy weight. Breakfast doesn’t have to be another morning chore. It can be a quick and easy step to integrate into your morning routine. Focus on providing kids a balanced breakfast that contains protein, nutrients, healthy fats and carbohydrates. A balanced breakfast keeps everyone fuller longer.

Make sure to extend that healthy eating mindset into lunchtime too. Swap the boring, brown bag blues for these quick, flavorful and healthy lunch ideas. Get out of a lunch rut and send your kids off to school - and you off to work - with meals to keep everyone energized throughout those long school days. •

Mini-veggie quiches: Spray a muffin pan with olive oil and make this crust-less vegetable quiche recipe, filling each muffin cup about two-thirds full. Bake at 350 degrees for about 20 minutes, or until quiches are set and lightly golden on top. Run a knife around edges to loosen then let cool in the pan. Pack with apple quarters tossed with pineapple juice (to prevent browning) and a couple of pretzel rods.

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Colorful roll-ups: Spread 2 tablespoons roasted red pepper hummus on a spinach tortilla. Top with enough oven-roasted turkey slices to cover completely, sliced tomatoes and low-fat American cheese. Take one stalk of celery and place it at one end of the tortilla. Roll tightly, making sure not to squeeze out the filling. Slice in half on a sharp angle and wrap each half in tin foil to help keep sealed. Pack with yogurt and a slice of Angel Food cake or granola bar.

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Lettuce wraps: Wash a few pieces of romaine lettuce and put whatever leftovers you had from dinner onto the greens. This is great for enjoying leftover barbeque chicken, steak and vegetables. Add your child’s favorite vegetable toppings on as well, such as shredded carrots or mushrooms, and you turn one meal into two while making lunch a bit more appealing.

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Grilled chicken wrap: Try a wrap made with a whole wheat tortilla, grilled chicken, romaine lettuce, tomatoes, provolone cheese, Kalamata olives and Caesar or ranch dressing (or make one with your favorite ingredients).

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Pita pocket: Try a whole wheat pita and fill with chicken salad or turkey meat. Add lettuce, tomato and honey Dijon mustard. Serve with a fresh fruit salad.

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Banana Sandwich Swap a high fat, high calorie egg, bacon and cheese sandwich for a much healthier fruit counterpart. Slice a banana right down the middle in half. Spread peanut butter or almond butter on both halves of the banana for added protein. Squeeze out a half of a tablespoon of honey onto each banana slice. Sprinkle nuts of your choice, raisons or trail mix on top of the honey for a good source of fiber. Breakfast Popsicles Popsicles for breakfast, just think how easy that will be to sell to your kids! Mix low-fat yogurt of your choice (use Greek yogurt for an extra boost of protein to stay full longer) into a bowl with your favorite fruit. Poor mix into a Popsicle container and place in freezer overnight. In the morning you’ll have a nutritious breakfast kids will love and can even be enjoyed on the go!

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Fruit and Yogurt Smoothie Begin by placing yogurt in a blender and adding a generous helping of your favorite fruit, or multiple fruits for added flavor. Add in one cup of ice and blend. Add extra ice as preferred. It’s a quick, morning favorite your kids will love.

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Fruit and Yogurt Parfait Pretty layers of yogurt, granola and fruit in a bowl or cup will make your kids think they’re eating dessert, not breakfast. A parfait gives kids the calcium and energy boost they need to start the school day. Like many of these recipes, it’s also easily portable for a child or busy mom to grab in a hurry.

Cindy Bjorkquist is director of Health and Wellness Programs at Blue Cross Blue Shield of Michigan. For more information and tips to improve your family’s health, visit AHealthierMichigan.org.

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Adopt A dog. Save a Life by Mike Palmer Welcoming a new dog into your home is not something to be taken lightly. From choosing a breed to picking a training method, lots of decisions need to be made. One decision that shouldn’t be tough, though, is where to pick up your new pup, and it’s not from the mall. Instead, head to your local animal shelter. Here’s some reasons why: First and foremost, your decision will save an animal’s life. Each year, nearly 3 million adoptable dogs and cats are euthanized in the United States, and it’s simply because too many pets come into those shelters. The math is easy. More people adopting animals equals fewer animals being put down. Also, training a shelter animal is easier. Let’s face it, bringing a dog into your home for the first time is tough — especially if it’s a new pup. The carpet in the living room becomes a perfect canvas when nature calls, and your favorite shoes suddenly serve as a perfect teething apparatus. Before they are adopted, rescue dogs spend time in shelters, or sometimes foster homes, which means you’re not starting from scratch with house training. Your home, and everything in it, will thank you. Shelter dogs also make great companions. In fact, most animals in shelters end up there due to family problems, like a relocation or divorce, it’s not because they were bad dogs. The bond between shelter dogs and humans is strong. Dogs are pack animals, and those with rough beginnings — be it neglect or abuse — tend to be extra loyal and affectionate. The pup will be eager to become part of a loving ‘pack,’ or family, in this case, and is likely to act accordingly. Adopting an animal also teaches your children good values. Adopting a rescue dog for your family presents a great opportunity to teach your children basic values of compassion and caring, and also about the value of second chances. Rescuing a shelter dog is also the best way to fight puppy mills and online retailers, most which provide animals deplorable living conditions.

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Second CAREERS, Second CHANCES, Second HOMES by Mary Meldrum

f you have ever met Robbie Timmons in person or seen her on the evening news, you would never forget her infectious smile and beautiful eyes. Emmy award winner Robbie Timmons, now retired, was teamed up with Carolyn Clifford at Channel 7 for much of her illustrious broadcast journalism career. She was also elected to the Michigan Association of Broadcasters Hall of Fame. Her newest endeavor, Canter USA, is a fascinating departure from all of that. When Detroit Race Course closed in 1998, Robbie Timmons was approached by a woman at the track who happened to own thoroughbred horses. She explained that the horses that made a living at the DRC have no place to go except to slaughter. There were no options for unwanted horses in this industry. With the track closing, there were at least 200 horses in this predicament. The woman went on to explain that she wanted to raise the public’s awareness of the issue and start a website where people could contact the thoroughbred owners and adopt these horses. “I did a TV story on this, and I walked the backside of the DRC, and that’s when I really fell in love with thoroughbreds,” smiles Robbie. “I didn’t know much about them at the time.”

The horses were affectionate and licked her hand and nudged her gently. One even put its head on her shoulder. “I fed a carrot to a granddaughter of Secretariat on the backside of the DRC that day,” she shared. “It was unbelievable.”

Robbie with Twoey. Robbie wrote a book about Twoey and his best friend, a goat - who both came into the CANTER program. The published hard-cover book is called, “Twoey and the Goat”. Its for ages 7 to adult, as I wrote the book “I wanted to read.” Cost is $15. with all proceeds being donated to CANTER. It’s available thru Robbie@canterusa.org.

She followed up on her story and persisted with reaching out to the public, finding a home for every one of those 200 horses. She realized that this initiative really worked. People wanted to help and are very interested in these amazing horses. “I really believed that we needed to keep the program going.” So she did. Canter USA was born. They spoke to the owners and trainers at Great Lakes Downs in Muskegon to find any thoroughbreds that were not competitive enough or fast enough. With help from volunteers on the west side of the state, they began placing horses from the track in Muskegon. Canter USA takes pictures and descriptions of the horses and puts

them up on their website. Interested buyers contact owners directly. That was the entire program at first, and it worked well. As more trainers and owners became familiar with Canter USA, they asked Robbie Timmons, President of Canter USA, and her volunteers for more. “There were some owners and trainers who said, this horse needs to be replaced and moved out of here today because I have another one coming in to take his place tonight,” Robbie explained. “They said ‘you need to take him now because I can’t wait for a buyer.’” Canter USA changed to accommodate the growing need. They established foster farms, training facilities, and

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“It’s a lot of money to train and care for these horses. We invest about $6,000 into each horse by the time it is ready to be adopted, and our adoption fees are between $500 and maybe $2,500.”

acquired experienced volunteers to assess and train these horses. They could then advertise the horses as Canter USA-owned thoroughbreds, and the new owners who adopted these horses could then be assured of what they were getting. “If you adopt a horse from Canter, we can tell you about the individual horse, what it can do and what it cannot do,” described Robbie. “We can tell new owners ‘you can’t jump this particular horse; he will be flat work only.’ Or ‘this is a great athlete. He can jump or do anything.’” Working with Michigan State University veterinarians, Canter has gone on to now accept injured thoroughbreds. Canter receives professional care for these horses, including surgery and months of rehab if needed. Once healthy again, horses can get into the training program and get on track for adoption. “Now we do all of it: trainer listings, intake and fostering of healthy and injured horses. We started all this in Michigan, and quickly expanded to other states, and now we are all across the United States,” says Timmons, who gave up her job on Channel 7 to dedicate her time entirely to Canter USA. Canter USA is now a huge operation run solely by volunteers. There is no paid staff, Timmons included, which means 100% of any donation goes directly to the care of the thoroughbreds in the program. They are always in need of volunteer farms to take in horses. They also need volunteers to donate feed, train horses, muck stables, transport horses, and provide farrier services.

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Canter USA has placed over 20,000 horses in the last 17 years and has received national recognition for their devotion and contribution to these beautiful animals that have so much more to give once their racing days are behind them. Robbie and husband of 35 There are foundations, equine years, Jim Brandstatter, at Jim’s organizations, and animal National Sportscasters Award. welfare organizations that see the enormous need and benefit Canter USA is creating by providing aftercare for these thoroughbred athletes. “We have very affordable horses that have champion blood lines. Some of them are descended from Secretariat and other well known champions.” Some of these horses just don’t like to run or compete, but they are still great horses. They just need to be trained to do something else. They need a different career. Many find their new careers in fox hunting and on polo fields; many more become trail horses or jumpers for experienced riders, both young and old. “The horses that come in first, second, and third are competitive racers. They are still enjoying that career,” shares Timmons. “Once they reach the age of eight or nine and need to retire, we will take them as well, but the majority of thoroughbreds that we get are ages three, four, or five, and these animals live to be thirty.” Many of these horses have never been in a pasture and don’t know how to live in a herd. “They need time to figure out how to be a horse again, and we need time to figure them out too. Each one has a different personality. We qualify buyers and match them with the right horse.” Robbie Timmons grew Canter USA to a national organization in a very short time. She works tirelessly to bring happy endings to thoroughbreds that need a second chance, a second career, and a second home.

Balance

Serendipity by Adria DeAngelis Veit

uring the course of our lifetime, we will continually hear the word “growth.” It’s a word accompanied by a unique perspective due to the multi-faceted meanings. Take a quick moment and think about what comes to your mind immediately when you hear that word: growth. I tested out the concept on a few individuals and I was amazed at the responses I received. Sure enough, their weight was a popular answer. Others stated: the time of the year and what was growing in their yard, like weeds, while another stated their love of growing flowers. Growing old was mentioned, in addition to learning that their adult children were all grown and they were moving into a new chapter of their lives. The response that I wished to hear the most was how much they had personally grown. It’s interesting how we focus so much on the exterior aspects of our lives versus the immense benefits of personal growth on the inside. Personal growth can also be interpreted as “the meaning of life.” Stephen R. Covey stated, “Begin with the end in mind.” How different would our lives be shaped if we practiced this thought process from the time we were old enough to appreciate its meaning. Here is a new thought to process, we are old enough right now. There is not a specific time of your life that is dedicated to beginning. Every day of our lives is that day. We practice what I refer to as the “rollover plan.” Each day, we continue to roll the events of the prior day into the current day. I find it to be an overwhelming project to manage. The “rollover plan” is driven and powered by “more.” Yes, we all strive to have more. That’s where the growth process needs to be re-directed. What do we actually need more of? I firmly believe that working on ourselves from the inside out produces amazing results for all of the aspects of our lives that affect us on the outside. It may be areas that touch your heart, those of happiness, appearance, finances; we all have our lists and they vary. The most rewarding outcome is possibilities of personal growth are endless!

We often say that we are growing older. Well, yes, on the outside that is the truth. However, on the inside you can never be old. It’s your state of mind that is the determining factor. Being asked an assortment of questions will continue to be part of all of our lives. One question we were all posed at one time or another during our younger years was “What do you want to be when you grow up?” We amused a lot of adults with our answers. It’s incredibly important to continue amusing others and yourself with the youthful spirit that resides in all of us. It’s time to wake it up if you haven’t given it any attention lately. Growing up, don’t do it! No matter what age we may be on the outside, it’s the child behavior in all of us that keeps us young on the inside. The purity of youth removes fear and removes thoughts of “I can’t” from our lives. Begin your inner growth project with a young heart. Take advantage of creating new beginnings daily in order to design your life with a philosophy of “never ending.” The inside job of growth will reap rewards on the outside of your life for all to see. You may even be asked the question “What’s going on in your life? Your energy is amazing!” Everyone will want to know your secret. Your answer, “I have found the fountain of youth!” Even better when you explain where you found it and let others know where they can find it too! I look forward to meeting you at the fountain!

Adria DeAngelis Veit Intuitive Medium Adria.Believe@gmail.com

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Women the Workforce by Mary Meldrum

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want to give a shout out to the men in our lives who are empathetic to female professionals and entrepreneurs. Those are the guys who have stood by us and are understanding of our struggles. Thank you for having our backs when it comes to supporting our professional endeavors. We love you.

Now I’m going to talk about women. THE CLIMB

The reality for women is that we have only really been in the labor market for about 70 years. Most of us during that time have been largely unwelcome, dismissed, unappreciated, and undervalued. At one point, the only time we would see a board room would be to deliver coffee to the men who were sequestered in there, and then we were expected to quickly scurry out. Until relatively recently, legal, religious, educational, and especially cultural conventions restricted women from participating in the workforce in any meaningful way. This left us economically dependent on men. Imagine the life of struggles and limited choices of a divorced or widowed woman with children just a few decades ago (some of you know these warriors well). That was then. Today, women are still unwelcome in only a few industries and earn less than men in some instances. However, we have come a very long way in a few short decades and continue to make headway, creeping our way up the corporate ladders to hold more chairperson, CEO, and Board of Director positions. I was born in 1960. Most women in my generation do not have a mother, grandmother or aunt who graduated or attended college. We didn’t have many role models who were high-ranking,

professional business women we could look up to or aspire to become. There was no blueprint, “welcome mat,” or college fund for most of us. Yet, here we are!

WOMEN WANTED

Perhaps, like me, you remember looking in the classified ads in the newspaper in the 1960s, 70s ,and even the 80s and clearly seeing five or six choices in black and white print under the “Women Wanted” column, which was much less interesting than the “Men Wanted” column where the other 10,000 careers jobs were. Jobs available to women used to be restricted to clerical, bookkeeping, waitressing, or working as a nanny or housekeeper. Nursing and teaching positions were widely available professional jobs back then for women if you could get to college. Things have shifted in our favor since then. Considering everything, it is stunning how far women have immersed into almost every industry in the

workforce given the disposition of many conventions and the newspaper classified ads just a few decades ago.

WOMEN WARRIORS

Natural business choices for my daughter and her friends were hardfought by me and my friends. The same goes for previous generations of women: my mom and her friends, and their mothers and grandmothers. Like the character Peggy Olson in Mad Men, some women used to surrender the traditional safe haven of marriage and children to pursue a professional career and hammer their way into the world of business—a place where women were relegated to subordinate roles. I am certainly grateful for those first brave female pioneers.

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MIXED MESSAGES

Traditionally, favored sons were the “golden boys” who were handed the family business. The singular message given to many women of my generation early on was “find a man to take care of you.” No one ever said “go get educated” or “follow your heart” or “travel the world” or “find a career path and become a raging success.” Those messages were reserved for the boys. The world was for the boys. That has changed fast. For many women, it has been difficult over time trying to adapt to society’s changing expectations of our roles in society and business. But women are flexible. Energy of change feeds many of us, and we have met each new message with vigor and resolve. We have become educated. We routinely travel the world. We have learned to follow our hearts and become raging successes, and our sons and daughters will reap the benefits of our achievements.

MARS AND VENUS

Women’s numbers and influence are growing in the world of business. Our financial power and decisions as

consumers and as managerial heads of households drive a large part of the economy. People in marketing, real estate, construction, insurance, finance, and healthcare now recognize women as a force majeure and tailor products and services to fit our situations and preferences. What women typically think of anyone—in business or in personal relationships—has to do with how we are treated. Trust, respect, courtesy, and integrity are important. Many women have little interest in, use for, or even tolerance for a hierarchical approach to business (or anything). We are generally less interested in “getting credit for” or “dominating” or “winning at the expense of someone else losing.” We do not necessarily want to crush competition, but we certainly should not be considered weak. Women prefer to grow things; to collaborate and create. While traditional businesses utilize organizational charts, most women do not think in terms of a pyramidal hierarchy with someone at the top commanding and controlling everyone

below them. While recognizing the need for leadership, we value input from everyone on all levels. Natural networkers, we are inclusive force multipliers with a tendency to seek to understand others’ talents and contributions, leverage them, and give them credit for it, knowing that elevating others in turn lifts everyone up. Contrary to some perspectives, women aren’t just “givers” and don’t “serve” anyone because they feel inferior to them and think they deserve subordination. This is not about give and take. This is about give and receive.

Women give and serve to set the flow in motion because it is expected in return. The Venus Value Proposition The evolution of women in business has brought with it a unique value. Young women and men entering the business world now are less hung up on gender roles and see the value of relationships in business as social capital. The network approach has given birth to a shared economy where networks and transactions have measurable value in business ecosystems and represent exponential potential. When left to our own devices, women naturally do this. We kind of invented this networking stuff! Modern professional women are smart, connected, tough, and resilient business folks. Everyone in society has benefited from their participation in the workforce. Women get—really get—that there is intangible and unimaginable power in connections, heart connections, not just strategic business connections.

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Taste

Harvest Time!

by Chef Dawn Bause

Fall has to be, by far, one of my favorite seasons of the year for fresh ingredients here in Michigan. Every Farmer’s Market and local farm is harvesting their fall bounty of colorful and delicious seasonal produce. It might surprise you to learn that the term fall to describe the season is actually quite new. Prior to the 16th century, this season was known as harvest. In fact, both the Dutch and German words for this season are still based on the seasonal reaping of the crops.

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However, in many other languages, including English, by the 1500s, the term harvest had lost any real relevance for most people. As industrialization took hold, more and more families moved into the cities, leaving farming behind. As the masses of urban city dwellers grew, the season’s name changed from harvest to “fall, a word adopted from the Old Norse word to express “a falling from a height,” like that of the leaves from the trees. Corn, peppers, and grapes are the key ingredients for my recipes this month. I hope you’ll try and enjoy all of them!

Fresh Corn Risotto Serves 4 to 6 This creamy, pale yellow risotto is studded with chewy, fresh corn kernels making for a nice mix of textures. Making your own corn stock using the corn cobs deepens the flavor of this dish. Corn Stock: 4 corn cobs (previously shucked, kernels saved for risotto--see below) 1 onion, roughly chopped 1 carrot, roughly chopped 1 stalk celery, roughly chopped 3 quarts (12 cups) cold water Risotto: 2 tbsp. extra-virgin olive oil 1 medium onion, finely chopped 1 ½ cups Arborio rice ½ cup white wine 6 to 7 cups hot corn stock Kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper 3 to 4 cups fresh corn kernels (from the 4 corn cobs used in corn stock) ½ cup grated Parmigiano-Reggiano cheese

Directions: Place the shucked corn cobs, onion, carrot, and celery in a stock pot and cover with the cold water. Bring to a boil, lower the heat and simmer uncovered for about an hour. Remove the corn cobs with tongs and then strain the mixture through a fine-mesh sieve into a bowl or another pot. If the stock is made in advance, reheat it before making the risotto. This should make about 8 to 9 cups stock. To make the risotto, heat the olive oil in a large pot over medium heat. Add the onion and cook until softened and translucent, about 3 to 5 minutes. Add the Arborio rice and stir until all of the grains of rice are well-coated with the oil and until the rice begins to look translucent around the edges, about 3 minutes more. Stir in the white wine and cook until most of the liquid is absorbed by the rice. Begin adding the corn stock a ladle or two at a time, stirring until most of the

stock is absorbed, and then adding more stock. This is a slow process, but necessary. Continue to add the stock a little at a time, stirring in between additions to absorb the stock, until you have used about half the stock. At this point, stir in the corn (it’s raw and needs to cook a bit) and season the mixture with salt and pepper (you do NOT want to wait until the end to season your risotto or else the salt will not absorb into the rice). Continue adding the remaining stock one or two ladles at a time, adjusting the seasoning as necessary, until the rice is al dente (mostly cooked through but has a bit of a chewy bite to it) and creamy. This entire process should take about 25 to 30 minutes. At this point, stir in the grated cheese and do a final taste for seasoning. If your risotto is a little stiff, add another ladle of stock. It should be free-flowing, like lava. Serve immediately.

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Roast Peppers and Goat’s Cheese Canapés Prep time: 10 mins | Total time: 40 mins | Servings: 6 Crostini are little appetizers that you can invent yourself depending on what’s in season and what ingredients you happen to have around. A couple of small peppers, preferably one red and one yellow Garlic Parsley or Basil Goat’s cheese Crostini Bread (French bread works well too.)

Directions:

Tuscan Grape Harvest Cake Prep time: 20 mins | Total time: 1 hour | Servings: 10 In Tuscany, this complex-flavored but simple to make cake is only made for a few weeks a year, when the small, sweet, seedy red grapes are around (many are “gleaned” in the vineyards after the harvest). Use the sweetest red grapes you can.

Roast or grill a pepper or two. Put them in a plastic bag or a closed container to cool. They will “sweat” and be much easier to peel. Peel and deseed the peppers; cut into fine strips. Dress the pepper strips with salt, pepper, and a little raw, finely chopped garlic (optional), good olive oil, and fresh basil and/ or parsley. Leave a little while to marinate. Top the bread with a little slice of goat’s cheese and some pepper strips.

1 ½ cup (8oz) white flour 2/3 cup (3oz) light brown sugar, and a little for the top ½ tbsp. baking powder (enough for 8oz flour) 1 egg 4 large sprigs rosemary 3oz walnuts, shelled and broken up ½ cup extra virgin olive oil 2 lb small, flavorful red grapes, washed (the Tuscan ones have lots of seeds!)

Directions Preheat your oven to 350°F. In a large bowl, mix together the flour, sugar, baking powder and the egg. Remove the rosemary from the stems and add to the olive oil in a saucepan. Put this on a slow flame and allow to bubble gently for a few seconds. Add the oil and rosemary to the flour mixture. Mix this well to amalgamate the ingredients. Work in the grapes and walnuts using your hands, breaking up the grapes a little but not too much.

That’s it for this month. I’m off to Venice, Florence, Tuscany, and the Amalfi Coast leading my annual food and wine tours. If you’d like to contact me, my email is AskDawnNow@AOL.com. “Like me” on Facebook at Cooking with Dawn Tours. You can also visit my website,

Line a baking dish with baking paper and use your hands to spread out the mixture. Sprinkle with sugar. Bake for approximately 45 minutes.

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Matter of Fact

Emotion Anger Is Not A Primary One

by Judy Lipson

hile chances are good that you or someone you know has â&#x20AC;&#x153;anger issues,â&#x20AC;? there is much more to anger than you probably realize. In our society, most people are not in touch with the majority of their emotions. You are likely familiar with joy and happy, and sometimes even bliss. You can recognize sadness, and will likely assume that you or someone else is experiencing grief after a significant loss. You probably know about numerous other emotions, but primarily as a definition. Most people do not know what they are really feeling, especially when it comes to what our society refers to as negative emotions.

Anger is certainly recognized by society as a negative, yet it also seems to be the most accepted, or expected, of emotions. This is especially true of men who are discouraged from expressing sadness, worry, and many other feelings. Historically, it has been frowned upon for women to express anger, yet increasingly women do so as well. An interesting fact is, though incredibly prevalent, anger is not a primary emotion. Actually, it is the expression of other emotions. It is only when you identify that underlying experience and its corresponding response that you can stop your explosions. eydispublishingonline.com | 57

The next time you begin to feel the buildup of anger, I urge you to look deeper to find the origin. Here are a number of emotional possibilities that can guide you to the root of your anger: •

SADNESS can lead to anger if you don’t allow yourself to acknowledge and express the sorrow.

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FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real), WORRY, and ANXIETY are very uncomfortable and create inner tension. Some people are more prone to release this tension with tears, some with movement, and others by striving to control their world. When this control is not successful (it rarely is), angry outbursts are often the result. Therefore, fear is one of the first emotions that I look for when I see anger.

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FRUSTRATION occurs when you think you are trapped and disempowered.

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DISAPPOINTMENT with self, others, or scenarios (real or imagined).

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EMBARRASSMENT leading to anger can be a cover story for shame, anxiety, or perfectionism.

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JEALOUSY can really be a questioning of your own sense of value.

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HURT feelings are often your “inner child” (see below) being triggered, leaving you feeling vulnerable.

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Being MISUNDERSTOOD can be an indicator of not being seen as who you really are.

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GUILT’s purpose is to learn from an experience. One’s perfectionism (and subsequent shame) can lead to anger.

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SHAME is one of the most complex. Author/ psychologist Dr. Brené Brown explains it like so, “Guilt says: I made a mistake. Shame says: I AM a mistake.”

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SENSORY OVERLOAD is when you are overwhelmed by the five senses or by an onslaught of emotions, triggering excessive inner tension that explodes as anger.

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Learn ways to release your inner tension. These are similar to the strategies for decreasing stress and anxiety: •

MEDITATION or MINDFULNESS

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BREATH-WORK

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RELAXATION

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REFRAMING YOUR INTERNAL DIALOGUE by recognizing truth instead of assumptions

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Learn to express yourself to others assertively, not aggressively.

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Be willing to acknowledge your true self so that you know what you really need rather than “being the good boy/girl” and “not making waves”.

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Recognize that many of the emotions listed above are carry-overs from your childhood. This is called your “inner child” and s/he thinks s/he is warning you about events in the now, but s/he only has the perspective of the powerlessness of childhood. S/he needs to be assured that you, the adult, have the ability to handle this situation from an adult perspective. And you do!

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Write a letter that is NOT sent, expressing how you feel. If you prefer a more verbal method, do this orally (without the person present).

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Release the inner tension and your deepest feelings with singing, art, or movement such as exercise or dance.

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Share your frustrations and hurts as they occur while they are still small, bearable, and manageable, so that you don’t need to experience the erupting volcano.

Please seek the assistance of a professional if you are unable to identify your precursor emotions, you can not defuse your angry response, your anger leads to the damage of property, you find yourself wanting to hurt yourself or others, or you find previous traumas being triggered. Emotions are neither good nor bad, so enjoy learning and identifying!

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To familiarize yourself with the precursors, go through each of the emotions above and identify an example that occurred at some time in your life.

Judy Lipson is a licensed, professional counselor and educational strategist in West Bloomfield, MI. She helps clients of all ages who have learning difficulties, work or school related anxiety, ADHD, Asperger’s Syndrome or Autism Spectrum Disorders. Contact Judy at 248.568.8665 and judylipson@ spiralwisdom.net, and visit SpiralWisdom.net for more information.

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Plan to identify your anger-precursor any time that you explode, or even better, when you feel anger mounting.

This article is for informational purposes and is not meant to replace medical care.

Learn to defuse and neutralize your anger with these steps and ideas:

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