Family Matters-February 2013 by NCNG Family Programs

FamilyMatters FEBRUARY 2013

The Relationship Issue Page 8 A Spouse perspective on how and what helps Miltiary Families

Critical Leadership Page 5 Hiring Heroes Page 15

The FRG provides a connection to the unit through which Families get important information...More on

Across the state more employments events coming soon. Find an event near you on

Youth Internship Opportunuty Page 17

Tax Solutions for Military North Carolina National Guard has a few ways to help you get your taxes done this year

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YOURULTIMATESOURCE

Hello to you all,

FAMILY MATTERS February 2013

In this issue of Family Matters, you’ll see that we have listed tentative dates for our upcoming events such as Strong Bonds for Marriage Enrichment Retreats, Single Soldiers, and Family Wellness Retreats, as well as our Kids on Guard events. In addition, there are a lot of other upcoming events that you’ll see throughout this edition.

Diane Coffill State Family Program Director diane.l.coffill.civ@mail.mil (919) 664-6324 MSG Ramona Scott Family Program NCOIC ramona.k.scott.mil@mail.mil (919) 664-6000 Ext. 47005 SGT Tammy Fowler Family Programs Assistant tammy.l.fowler.mil@mail.mil (919) 664-6000 Ext 46876 Wendi Bell FAC Administrative Assistant wendi.h.bell.ctr@mail.mil (919) 664-6078 Lana Greer State FAC Coordinator lana.m.greer.ctr@mail.mil (800) 621-4136 Ext. 11667 Terry Henderson Airman & Family Readiness Program Mgr. terry.henderson@ang.af.mil (704) 398-4949 Alice Dean Lead Child & Youth Coordinator alice.c.dean.ctr@mail.mil (919) 520-9548 Angelena Dockery Marketing & Communications Manager sallie.a.dockery.ctr@mail.mil (919) 485-9570

This year, we have a lot of resources to assist you

While it’s only February, we are gearing up to bring

during this Tax season. Our JAG and Legal Assistant

you as many useful tools and resources as we can.

are taking appointments to file your Taxes for FREE

Please be attentive and join our Facebook page so

from 1 Feb - 12 April 2013 in Raleigh at JFHQ. We’ll

that as we get updates, you’ll be updated also.

have two locations with Tax Kiosks for you to file your own taxes for FREE. Those locations are the

We always welcome new volunteers so, if you

Wilmington Armory and the Charlotte Armory. In

or someone you may know would like to help,

addition, Military OneSource also has its FREE tax

please give us a call. You’ll find all of our teams

program for you to use again this year.

numbers listed throughout this publication. Our existing volunteers (and/or anyone interested) are

February is a perfect time to reflect and celebrate

encouraged to participate in the National Guard

that important person in your life. We’ve included

Volunteer/JSS Webinar trainings.

an interesting article on how to keep your military relationship strong, particularly during deploy-

As we go forth into 2013, I am so happy to say

ments. As we know, we’re all at different points in

that, today, we have more opportunities available

the military life cycle, so, take what you can use

to us than ever before. The more you take advan-

and apply it to your particular situation.

tage of our resources, from Webinars to Yellow Ribbon Employment Readiness events, to Family

And, if you are having some issues or concerns in

Assistance Center (FAC) events, the more these

your life, not only your marriage, maybe with your

programs wll be available. And, please remember

child, or on the job, we have Military Family Life

no situation or question is too large or too small.

Consultants (MFLC) available. Our MFLCs are free

We’ll work through it together. While you may feel

of charge and confidential. There is no paperwork

your situation is unique, we know that there are

to fill out and they don't even ask your last name.

certain things that every Military Family faces, in

Military OneSource also offers military members

some form or another.

and their Families free counseling services, as well, either via phone, email or they caAn set you up with

With that said, we look forward to being a part

a local provider in your area. And, of course, don't

of your extended family this year, and helping in

forget that NCNG also has an Integrated Behavioral

anyway you may need.

Health Services program available to you anytime 24/7/365.

Sincerely,

Diane Coffill

Kathryn Jarvis Marketing & Communications Manager kathryn.a.jarvis.ctr@mail.mil (919) 485-9571 Judy Richardson Senior FRSA judith.r.richardson.ctr@mail.mil (910) 347-4352 Ext. 5

About Family Matters Family Matters was created to provide Servicemembers and Families the most up-to-date information and services available. If you would like to contribute to future issues, or if you have suggestions and comments, please contact the NCNG Family Programs Marketing and Communications Department personnel, Angelena Dockery or Kathryn Jarvis, at ncngfamilyprograms@gmail.com. E-Versions of Family Matters can be downloaded at the NCNG Family Programs webpage at www.nc.ngb.army.mil. References in this newsletter to any specific commercial products, processes, services, or the use of any trade, firm, or corporation name does not constitute endorsement, recommendation, or favoring by NCNG Family Programs.

contents 4 Operation Military Kids Zoo Snooze Overnight adventure at North Carolina Zoo

FRG Volunteer Tips and Tricks

Leadership is a critical element to a well run FRG The FRG provides a connection to the unit

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through which Families get important information, develop friendships, and receive moral support. Tips Taken from Army's Family Readiness Group Leader Handbook .

Child and Youth Programs Kids on Guard

Family Matters Blog: Keeping Military Marriages Strong

Announces some extra special events happening across the State.

A perspective from Family Matters Blog on what Military Families can do to for a stronger marriage

11 Child and Youth Programs; Did You Know...

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Special crafts to help celebrate this year's Valentine's Day, Tips for College, and OMK upcoming event

12 Tax Time

Some FREE ways to get your taxes done

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15 North Carolina Hiring For Heroes Events Keeping you informed and ready for Employment

16 News for You

Sittercity, Tricare and Internship opportunity for youth

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Search NCNG Family Programs

ON THE COVER: Two-week old, Malakai Talan Roach, son of Sgt. Michael Roach and fiancé, Yamuna Adinarain, was born a few days before Christmas in 2012. Sgt. Roach is currently away serving with the 875th Engineer Battalion. Yamuna said, “Michael's uniform symbolizes years of selfless service, and honor each ribbon represents an achievement so I was inspired to take this picture because I wanted Malakai to know when he sees this picture that Daddy wasn't here when he was born but all Daddy’s sacrifices have been for him, his sister, for me... for our family. I hope Malakai feels a sense of absolute pride when he sees himself in Daddy’s uniform!” Photo submitted by: Yamuna Adinarain. Coordination by Frances Johnson. F E B R U A R Y 2 0 1 3 FA M I LY M AT T E R S

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VO LU N T E E R S

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ips to Being an Effective FRG Leader Leadership is a critical element to a well run FRG. It requires having the skills that enable the following to occur: Effective teaming relationships (with command, FRG Volunteers, Officers and Enlisted Membership, and their Families, FAC Reps, FRSAs, and community agencies)

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Accurate and timely flow of information between FRG and Command, among FRG volunteers, and between FRG and Families, and between Unit and FAC/FRSA Staff. Positive environment for FRG volunteers and members (i.e., individuals want to belong to the FRG and/or perceive the FRG as able to provide helpful information and assistance...NOT GOSSIP!).

FAMILY READINESS SUPPORT ASSISTANTS Charlotte: Nikkie Newsome, genesia.k.newsome.ctr@mail.mil (704) 344-2352

Jacksonville: Judy Richardson, judith.r.richardson.ctr@mail.mil (910) 347-4352 Ext. 5

Clinton: Sarah Strickland, sarah.r.strickland.ctr@mail.mil (910) 299-5466

Morrisville: Vacant (919) 804-5300 Ext. 16313

Goldsboro: Greg Smith, gregory.p.smith14.ctr@mail.mil (919) 731-2021 Ext. 2

Oxford: Norman Dean, norman.g.dean2.ctr@mail.mil (919) 693-3651 Ext. 27

High Point: (Temporary location due to Construction): Gloria Fields, gloria.d.fields.ctr@mail.mil (800) 621-4136 Ext.15620

Raleigh: George Lane, george.w.lane2.ctr@mail.mil (919) 664-6000 Ext. 46714

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K e y s To S u c c e s s

Maintain communica-

tion and work as a team

crisis and trauma situations. Be aware of the re-

sources available to Fami-

FRG Leaders: Create a

Use the tools and mate-

with the commander/rear

lies. Know who your Family

detachment commander.

Assistance Center Repre-

work with the FRG leader

ers. (See your BDE’s FRSA or

sentative is and know when

in conducting FRG activi-

SrFRSA for training material

to refer Families to them

ties. Assign responsibilities

and more).

National Guard and unit

for specific assistance Work

and manage the volunteer

policies, including FRG

with your FAC Re to learn

team.

Standard Operating Proce-

more about community

dures (SOPs). Find out what

resources available to you.

Become familiar with

support and resources your command will provide to the FRG and seek to obtain

team of volunteers who will

rials prepared for FRG lead-

Be prepared to adapt

to changing demands on Get training and pre-

the FRG to be responsive to

pare for the different types

units and Families. Keep a

this support. Check with

of activities

pulse on Family issues and

your Brigade’s

and situations theFRG

ensure steps are taken by

Family Readiness Support

may handle. This includes

the FRG to notify the FRSA

Assistant (FRSA)!

preparing for and knowing

and FAC Rep respond to

the procedures to follow in

these issues, as appropriate.

How To Take Care of Yourself

Being an FRG leader is a demanding job and will no doubt be stressful at times. With lengthy deployments, an FRG leader is likely to retain this position for a considerable length of time (anywhere from 12 to 18 months). Keep the following considerations in mind as ways to avoid burnout and to help you manage the job effectively: you care and want to treat them with respect and

First and foremost, FRG

regard; and stand back—

make things work for

leaders should take care of

let them shine in the FRG!

the FRG, and everyone

themselves and their Fami-

Committee chairpersons

should understand and

chain of concern, informa-

lies. FRG functions, socials,

and other FRG members

support you.

tion dissemination, and a

and obligations should nev-

want to help, so let them!

er come before the needs

Remember to acknowledge

of your own Family. A sick

these contributions dur-

tentative calendar of events

child, a marital problem,

ing meetings and in your

your job, and other basic

newsletters.

issues take priority over FRG duties. Delegate when you need to change priorities.

Don’t try to do

everything yourself. Get help. Recruit and train good

new ideas.

Learn resources for

referring problems and

follow through. When a Stick to your role as a

Family takes up dis-

leader.

proportionate amounts

of time—refer them

Leadership can

be difficult, so don’t

people; give them clear

try to please every-

job descriptions and goals;

one. Demonstrate that

Don’t be afraid to try

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to the appropriate professional(s).

Provide specific guide-

lines regarding rumors,

to reduce confusion and lack of communication.

CHILD AND YOUTH

We’re putting the wheels back on the road! KOG Special Day Events

23 March 2013: SciWorks Museum, 400 W. Hanes Mill Rd., Winston-Salem, NC, 27105 18 May 2013: Cradle of Forestry, US 276, Brevard, NC 28712 19-20 July 2013: "Sleep with the Fishes", NC Aquarium at Fort Fisher, 900 Loggerhead Rd., Kure Beach, NC 28449

KOG Day Drills

Nominate Your Outstanding Military Father NOMINATIONS ACCEPTED UNTIL MONDAY, FEBRUARY 4 @ NOON OR UNTIL 600 SUBMISSIONS HAVE BEEN RECEIVED GO TO WWW.FATHERHOOD.ORG/MFA/2012-NOMINATION

Hickory Area: Newton Armory, 1811 Hwy 321S Newton, NC 28658 from 9AM to 3PM Charlotte Area Date/Location TBA Greenville Area Date/Location TBA KOG Overnight Weekend Camp 27-29 September Camp Butner Training Center, 539 Roberts Chapel Road Stem, NC 27581. Date and Location to be Announced. For questions or more information, contact Alice Dean NCNG CHILD & YOUTH PROGRAM STAFF

Have YOU Heard! The NCNG Triangle Teen Council meeting will be held February 25, 2013 from 5:30 p.m. to 8 p.m. at the Wake County Commons Building, 4011 Carya Drive, Raleigh, NC 27610. Program provided by NCSU Shelton Leadership Program on Leadership, Communication, Decision-Making and Team Building. The meeting is open to any teen ages 13-18. Contact Alice Dean for questions or to attend to the upcoming meeting.

New Members Welcome!

Alice Dean Lead Child & Youth Coordinator (919) 693-3651 Ext. 12183 alice.c.dean.ctr@mail.mil Kristi Wagner Youth Coordinator (800) 621-4136 Ext. 12023 kristi.l.wagner4.ctr@mail.mil Leslie Taylor Assistant Child & Youth Specialist (919) 693-3651 Ext. 12181

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Family Matters Blog: Keeping Military Marriages Strong By Elaine Sanchez, American Forces Press Service (Originally Published)

WASHINGTON, Oct. 27, 2011 – I spoke to a spouse last year about dealing with deployments and keeping military marriages strong. Her husband had just returned from a yearlong deployment in Iraq. She cited an example of the types of issues that can arise when communication falls to the wayside. As the primary disciplinarian while her husband was gone, she adopted a “three strikes and you’re out” rule for their 3-year-old son. Her husband, however, was more of a “one strike” kind of guy, and reinstituted his stricter ways upon his return. Upset at being usurped from her disciplinarian role so quickly, his wife got angry. “At first I yelled at him a lot,” she said. “I’d correct him more than I’d correct my child.”

In time, she learned to bite her tongue and Create a family plan outlining how each to discuss the situation with her husband of you will manage during your time apart. behind closed doors. It's important to be flexible about your roles since the at-home spouse may be Marriage is tough enough without tossing handling chores that have always been in the additional stressors of military life the other spouse's responsibility. -- frequent deployments, reintegrations, separations and moves, to name a few. Talk about emergencies and whom to turn But even the toughest military challenges to in the event of an emergency. can be weathered with some advance planning and healthy communication Discuss responsibilities and staying skills. And in the process, marriages can connected as a family. Work out with grow even stronger. your spouse how parenting issues will be resolved, including discipline, illness, and Military OneSource has some great tips matters involving school performance. for keeping military marriages strong. Plan ways to help the parent who is away stay connected with children -- and vice Here are just a few: versa. For example, you might record dad reading a bedtime story for your child to Planning ahead for when you’re listen to at night. Agree to keep a journal apart Before your spouse leaves, sit down or blog and take pictures and videos of together to discuss your upcoming your child's milestones so that the spouse who is away doesn't miss out on these separation and how it makes you feel. cherished family times. (continued on next page)

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S T R ONG B ON D S (continued from previous page) Talk about finances. This will help you avoid misunderstandings or disagreements about money. Designate one spouse to manage the household expenses. Consider keeping two checking accounts, one for each of you, to avoid confusion. Keep one another informed of large expenditures. Discuss ways you will communicate with one another and how frequently you will be in touch. Explore options that may be available to the service member, such as email, video teleconferencing, phone calls or regular mail.

Express yourself clearly. If your letter or email is vague, your spouse may be confused and wonder what it is you're not saying. Acknowledge that you may change when you are apart. The spouse at home may become more self-reliant. The service member may discover inner resources that had been hidden to him. These are positive changes that probably will add to your relationship. Reassure one another that regardless of any changes to you individually, your marriage will stay as strong as ever.

Send care packages. Your spouse will be happy to receive care packages in the mail. Include items that have special Keep in mind that service members may not know in advance meaning to the two of you. If you have children, ask them to how often they will be able to be in touch, or by what means. draw pictures or write notes to tuck into the package. Consider Discuss this before the deployment so you'll worry less during sending an audio or video recording of you and your family if periods when communication is limited by factors neither of your spouse is likely to be able to listen to or view them. you can control. Learn about the options available for sending and receiving care packages as well. It’s also very important If the stress becomes too much to discuss how the at-home spouse can get a message to If you are having trouble coping or are starting to feel the deployed service member in the event of an emergency overwhelmed, you may benefit from speaking with a at home. professional counselor. Discuss whom the at-home spouse can rely on for help and support -- for everything from emergencies to child care to emotional support. This network may include friends, family, military spouses, and military counseling and support services.

Each branch of the military has its own spouse and family support organizations where you can turn for practical and emotional support. Additionally, installations have chaplains available for support and assistance. Most also have counseling services as well as on-site support groups where you can meet others who share your circumstances. You Keep busy and stay active if you are the at-home spouse. can seek assistance through Military OneSource, also online Consider taking a class or pursuing a career interest or at www.MilitaryOneSource.com or by phone at 1-800-342activity that gives you an identity outside of being a military 9647. spouse. The more fulfilled you feel, the better you will handle separations and difficult times, and the more you will enjoy *The North Carolina National Guard has the IBHS Program, your marriage. MFLCs, and Chaplains available to assist you.*

Communicating with one another Share daily happenings from home. Describe the events of your day even if they seem boring to you. Hearing about your life will help your spouse feel closer to you. Be honest about your feelings. Let your spouse know how much you miss him, but try to do this in a way that reassures your spouse that you are handling things well despite his absence. Talk about feelings of frustration you may have, such as not being able to control where your family goes or when you will next be together as a family. Try to keep letters and emails positive. If you write about something unpleasant, let your spouse know how you dealt with the situation. Otherwise, he may feel helpless to support you from so many miles away.

MILITARY FAMILY LIFE CONSULTANTS John Alleman, Adult & Family Specialist (919) 745-9635 Betty Steelman, Child & Family Specialist (919) 665-9178

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Family Wellness Retreats About the Family Wellness Retreats: Couples, along with their children, come together for a weekend of fun and understanding of their relationships as a Military Family.

April 19-21: Location TBA May 3-5: Location TBA August 9-11: Location TBA Mark you calendar for one of our upcoming 2013 Marriage Enrichment Retreats. Dates are tentative and locations will be announced soon.

2013 Marriage Enrichment Retreats

April 5-7; June 21-23; Sept. 13-15 Locations: TBA

Stay tuned on Facebook, Twitter, and NCNG Website for details.

SINGLE SOLDIER RETREATS May 3-5 July 19-21 August 23-25 Locations: TBA

Every relationship needs nourishment. The Single Soldier Retreats show you “How Not to Date a Jerk or Jerkette.” Check your calendar and see which date may work for you. Locations and additional information coming soon. For general questions, please call Wendi Bell at (800) 621-4136 ext. 46078 or via email at wendi.h.bell.ctr@mail.mil. 10

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CHILD AND YOUTH

Did you Know…

St. Valentine’s Day has been traced back as far as the 5th century. Valentine’s Day took the place of the fertility festival or the start of the mating season thought to be inappropriate celebrations. Today over 150 million cards are sold each year 85% of which are purchased by women. In the United States alone $650 million is spent on candy, flowers and other treats on this day! Conversation Heart Rice Krispy Treats Ingredients: 3T Butter or margarine 1 10oz pkg Marshmallows 6 C Rice Krispies Food Coloring (purple, red, green, yellow) Icing or Decorating Gel Directions: Melt butter and marshmallows in a large pan Stir in food coloring* Remove from heat and add Rice Krispies Press mixture into a greased cookie sheet Allow to cool slightly, and then use a heart cookie cutter That has been sprayed to cut out your conversation hearts. Write sayings on hearts with icing *If making several colors separate into smaller batches before adding food coloring Flowers or Candy? How about both! What you need: Bag of Hershey Kisses Tape Red or pink cellophane wrap Green pipe cleaners Silk greenery Instructions:

Place the flat side of 2 Hersey Kisses together with tape Cut a small square of cellophane Wrap over kisses twisting and securing with tape Use pipe cleaner to create a stem Separate silk leaves and glue to stem Tie a tag made from construction paper Write a message and deliver to someone special

Next Step in Prepping for College Parents of seniors need to be mindful of college submission deadlines as well as Scholarships and Federal Aid. As of 1 January 2013 college bound high school senior and returning college students needs to fill out the FASFA form to see if they qualify for financial aid. Form can be found at www. fafsa.ed.gov and will be of assistance in seeing how much federal aid your student qualifies for. Here are a few helpful scholarship websites you might want to check: www.collegeboard. org and www.scholarshipexperts.com. They have information that might surprise you. Be prepared when you're ready to start applying for them you'll need your final report card from the previous year, SAT & ACT scores and information about club and awards to complete most of the applications.

Military Families will have a chance to reconnect through their recent deployments. Families will experience hands-on activities throughout the weekend such as:

Archery ~Scavenger Hunt ~Climbing Wall ~Date Night (for parents) ~Shotgun Rifle And Much More!

DATE: 15-17 February 2013 TIME: 6:00PM Check-in (Friday, 15 February) 12:00PM Check-out (Sunday, 17 February) Registration Deadline: Thursday, 31 January 2013 Location: Eastern 4-H Center Download Registration Form at http://www.nc4h.org/military Columbia, NC Cost: $25 per family member Maximum $100 per family Campers are responsible for their own transportation to and from the event. A North Carolina Operation: Military Kids (OMK) Event F E B R U A R Y 2 0 1 3 FA M I LY M AT T E R S

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Tax Time

This Year, NCNG Family Programs is pleased to present you with a variety of options to assist you during this tax season. Access the Military OneSource FREE Online Tax Filing Service

If you are eligible under the Military OneSource program, you can complete, save and file your 2012 Federal and up to three State returns online for free with the H&R Block At Home® Basic tool. www.militaryonesource.com

The Office of the Staff Judge Advocate, Legal Assistance Section, will be preparing and electronically filing federal and state income tax returns free of charge for members of the NC National Guard and their families, and retirees February 1 through April 12. Services will be provided every Monday, Wednesday and Friday from 0900 - 1400, at Joint Force Headquarters, Raleigh, NC. By appointment only. Interested soldiers, their family members and retirees should contact the NC National Guard JAG Office at 919-664-6000 ext. 47035 for additional information and to schedule appointments. The appointment line is open now! Bring the items listed on the next page.

Personal Financial Counselor Our Personal Financial Counselor can provide one-on-one financial counseling services for you and your Family. Mr. Chip Jurgensen, CFP cjurgensen@mflc.zeiders.com (919) 334-8313 12

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MON E Y YOU MUST BRING THE FOLLOWING ITEMS WITH YOU: □Valid military identification for all taxpayers □Social security cards for you, your spouse, and dependents (social security number verification letters issued by the Social Security Administration is also valid) □Birth dates for you, your spouse, and dependents □Current year’s tax package if you received one □Wage and earnings statement(s) (i.e. Form W-2, W-2G, 1099-R, etc. from all employers) □Interest and dividend statements from banks (i.e. Form 1099-INT or 1099-DIV) □A copy of last year’s federal and state tax return □Bank routing numbers and account numbers if you’d like to take advantage of direct deposit □Other relevant information about income and expenses (especially if you plan to itemize deductions) such as medical receipts, mortgage interest statements, receipts evidencing property taxes paid, receipts evidencing charitable contributions, etc. □Total amount paid for day care and the day care providers’ tax identification number (the individual’s Social Security Number or the business’ Employer Identification Number) □Statement of a physician if you are blind and/or permanently and totally disabled □Valid power of attorney if you will be signing the income tax returns on behalf of your spouse.▣

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E M P LOY M E N T

2013 Hiring Our Heroes Veterans Events Across North Carolina Join us at a location near your., for a job fair for veteran job seekers, active duty military members, guard and reserve members, and military and veteran spouses. This event will be a one-of-a-kind FREE hiring fair for both employers and job seekers. For more information, to register and about event sponsors visit https://hoh.greatjob.net/sc/index.action

NC National Guard Yellow Ribbon Employment Program

Be Ready, Get Prepared Employment Assistance, please contact: Western, NC David Ponder Office: (828) 274-8571 Cell: (919) 485-9567 david.e.ponder.ctr@mail.mil Eastern, NC (800) 621-4136 Ext. 46740 Jeremiah Bigham jeremiah.g.bigham.ctr@mail.mil

Greensboro, NC

Marriott Airport One Marriott Drive Greensboro, NC 27409 Friday, February 8, 2013 9:00 AM to 12:00 PM

Lexington, NC

American Legion Post #8 206 Wilfred Ave. Lexington, NC 27292 Thursday, March 14, 2013 9:00 AM to 12:00 PM

Fayetteville, NC

Crown Center 1960 Coliseum Drive Fayetteville, NC 28306 Thursday, March 28, 2013 9:00 AM to 12:00 PM

Rocky Mount, NC

Imperial Centre for the Arts and Sciences 270 Gay St. Rocky Mount, NC 27804 Tuesday, April 30, 2013 9:00 AM to 12:00 PM

Donnie Blackburn donnie.r.blackburn.ctr@mail.mil F E B R U A R Y 2 0 1 3 â&#x20AC;&#x201A; FA M I LY M AT T E R S â&#x20AC;&#x201A;

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Want a Night Out for Valentine’s Day with your Special One?

Volunteer Management (VM) Webinars

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The DoD funded this program especially for you! Activate your free membership today to find quality caregivers in your neighborhood. To activate your DoD paid membership go to sittercity.com/dod.

Sittercity Helps You Find...

• Babysitters– For after-school, school vacations, extended work hours, special needs children, and last minute care needs. • Nannies– For full and part time, infant and young child care • Certified CDH/FCC care providers • Authorized access to an installation care provider • Senior care, pet care, housekeepers and tutors

Your Sittercity Benefit Gives You...

Complete Background checks. (Family Programs cannot be liable for background checks done by Sittercity)

Activate your membership at www.sittercity.com/dod

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TRICARE Dental Program MetLife All Service channels (Enrollment, Call Center, Web, Billing, Claims, IVR) are live. Details include: Online: www.metlife.com/tricare Telephone numbers: CONUS: 1-855-MET-TDP1 (1-855638-8371), OCONUS : 1-855-MET-TDP2 (1-855-6388372), or: TDD/TYY 1-855-MET-TDP3 (1-855-638-8373) Facebook: www.facebook.com/metlifetdp Members may check to see if their current (and other local) dentists are part of MetLife's Preferred Dentist Provider (PDP) network. Visit www.metlife.com/tricare. For eligible beneficiaries who would like to enroll in the TDP, they may visit www.tricare.mil/bwe, complete a paper enrollment, or contact MetLife via phone. For web however, beneficiaries will need to obtain a DS logon which may be obtained from their local RAPIDS site.

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Project Youth Extension Service (YES!) Project Y.E.S! is a national internship program engaging college juniors, seniors and graduate students in service to meet the needs of military families. Expanding the resources of the Yellow Ribbon Reintegration Program, Project YES! interns provide youth development programs for children and youth of military families throughout the United States and US territories. Project YES! programs are adaptive and therefore suitable for youth aged 6-18 years old. Further, they are appropriate for use at Yellow Ribbon events (all deployment phases) as well as other youth centric activities, i.e. councils, leadership summits, family days, etc. Though tailored to meet the specific needs of the requesting organization, Project YES! focuses on three major areas: leadership development, resiliency/life skills, and Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics (STEM) activities. All Project YES! programs offer interactive, activity-based exercises designed to keep the youth excited and engaged. Project YES! Staff interns requirements: • College junior, senior or graduate student • Able to effectively multi-task and work autonomously • Commit to a one-year internship, from June to May • Value working with diversified groups • Dedicate at least one-weekend per month to support Project YES! events • Complete a career-focused project under the guidance of a personal mentor Project YES! Staff interns enjoy : • Real world experience working with diversified groups of military youth and teens • High level education in leadership development, facilitation skills, youth development and age-appropriate curriculum • Personalized career guidance through work with a professional mentor • Travel opportunities throughout the United States • State of the art “tech pack;” computer; scanner; projector; etc. • Generous stipend for each day spent delivering youth development programming

For more information concerning the Project YES! internship or or application procedures, please visit the Project YES! website at http://militaryfamilies.extension.org/yes-intern-program/ or contact Mr. JC Johnson at (919) 5 13-3165. Project YES! Is supported by the National Institute of Food and Agriculture (NIFA), under agreement No. 2010-48869-20691, using funding from the Office of the Secretary of Defense. F E B R U A R Y 2 0 1 3 FA M I LY M AT T E R S

Asheville Military Family Resource Center 7 Yorkshire St. Suite 101, 28803/Fax: (828) 274-7209 Debra Collington, debra.a.collington.ctr@mail.mil, (828) 274-8571

Lenoir State Family Assistance Center 1535 Beecher Anderson Rd., Lenoir, 28645/Fax: (828) 757-4519 Frances Johnson, frances.r.johnson28.ctr@mail.mil, (828) 757-4365 Ext. 4 line 1

Charlotte Unit Family Contact Center 4240 West Blvd., 28208 Carry Bandy, carry.s.bandy.ctr@mail.mil (704) 344-2352 Ext. 14547 Doretha McLaughlin, FAC Specialist doretha.mclaughlin@us.af.mil, (704) 344-2352, Ext. 14548

Morganton Unit Family Contact Center 411 Kirksey Dr., Morganton, NC, 28655 Nancy Davis, nancy.m.davis48.ctr@mail.mil, (828) 437-0746 Ext. 2

Fayetteville Unit Family Contact Center 3555 Owen Dr., 28306 Vacant, (910) 321-1001 Ext. 2 Greenville State Family Assistance Center 1401 N. Memorial Dr., 27834/Fax: (252) 551-6136 Dawn White, dawn.m.white2.ctr@mail.mil, (800) 621-4136 Ext. 11150 High Point Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) (Temporary location due to construction in Greensboro) 3515 Armory Dr., 27260 Katy Jones, katy.m.jones.ctr@mail.mil (800) 621-4136 Ext. 15649 Kannapolis Military Family Resource Center 6001 Gateway Ctr. Dr., Suite 109, 28081/Fax: (704) 788-0550 Lynn White, deborah.l.white82.ctr@mail.mil, (704) 788-4554 Kinston Unit Family Contact Center 2875 Dobbs Farm Rd., 28504 Gabrielle H. Oâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;Flanagan, gabrielle.h.oflanagan.ctr@mail.mil, (252) 208-0255 Ext. 15817

Raleigh Unit Family Contact Center 4105 Reedy Creek Rd., Raleigh, NC, 27607/Phone: Earlene Capps, earlene.b.capps.ctr@mail.mil, (919) 664-6000 Ext. 47101 Lisa Faison, lisa.m.faison.ctr@mail.mil, (919) 664-6000 Ext. 47100 Mark Woolbright, mark.l.woolbright.ctr@mail.mil, (919)664-6000 Ext. 47102 Smithfield Unit Family Contact Center 406 Hospital Rd., 27577 Abby Millsap, abigail.e.millsap.ctr@mail.mil, (919) 934-2013 Ext.16 Southern Pines Unit Family Contact Center 500 Morganton Rd., PO Box 1317, 28387 Vacant, (910) 692-8747 Ext. 6 Wilmington Unit Family Contact Center 2412 Infantry Rd., 28405 Jim Marley, james.e.marley.ctr@mail.mil, (910) 251-7100 Ext. 16918 Judy Howard, judy.m.howard.ctr@mail.mil, 910-251-7100 Ext. 16925 Winston-Salem Unit Family Contact Center (UFCC) (Temporary location due to construction in Greensboro) 2000 Silas Creek Pkwy., 27103 Sandy Harrison, sandra.b.harrison2.ctr@mail.mil (800) 621-4136 Ext. 15651

Family Assistance Centers Family Assistance Centers are located across the State to provide assistance to ALL Military Service Members and their Families. If you know of a Service Member or Military Family that has a question or concern, please share our contact numbers, web site, newsletter, and Facebook link. We're here to help!