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FEATURES

DECEMBER newyorkfamily.com

42 | THE SEASON OF GIFTING

From Practical Winter-Weather Gear To A Charming Dollhouse, This List Of Holiday Finds Has A Bit Of Everything For Kids (And Some For Parents, Too!)

48 | CARLEY’S WAY

Smart And Savvy Mother Of Three Carley Roney On Her Parenting Rituals, Being A Lifelong New Yorker And Managing The Triplets—The Knot, The Nest and The Bump

55 | FAMILY HEROES

From The Guy Who Brings Children’s Stories To Life On Stage To The Mom Who Has Completely Redefined The Meaning Of Being “A Good Cookie”—Our Celebration Of 2011’s Family Heroes Will Enlighten, Amaze And Inspire

In The Mood: New Music For Munchkins And Moms

34 | A SPECIAL PLACE

The Little Bookstore That Could: For Over 40 Years, Bank Street Bookstore Has Remained A City Staple For Tiny Readers (And Teachers And Teens, Too)

36 | NEW PARENT ESSENTIALS

As The Journey Begins… Products And Musings For New And Expectant Parents

38 | PARENT IN PROFILE

GIVING BACK

82 | THE LAST WORD

One Child’s Decision To Celebrate The Holidays Without Toys Has This Mom Of Multiples Reflecting On Generosity And Leading By Example

68 | SWEET CHARITY

From The Organization That Provides Disabled Children With New Bedrooms To The Ultimate Toy Drive, Our Annual Charity Guide Is Sure To Put You In The Giving Spirit

COLUMNS

16 | EDITOR’S NOTE

Heroes All Around

20 | NEW PARENTS EXPO

Several Thousand Expectant & New Families Converged On Pier 92 In NYC For The Largest Baby Show In The Area’s History!

24 | GROWING UP

Family Manners 2.0: Lizzie Post—Emily Post’s Great-GreatGranddaughter—Is Giving Sage Advice For A New Age

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32 | TIP SHEET

An NYC Family Trip Spans Three Generations And The Atlantic Ocean

66 | A LETTER TO SANTA

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Talented Tumblers: Two Promising NYC Gymnasts Share What It Takes To Reach For The Stars (In The Gym, That Is)

The Queen Of Queens: How Astoria Mom Of Two Leni Calas Made The Website Queens Mamas An Indispensible Part Of Raising Children In Her Borough

72 | LONDON CALLING

28 | ACTIVITY OF THE MONTH

Guilt And Blisters: While Training For A Marathon, Sometimes A Child Is All It Takes To Go The Extra Mile DEPARTMENTS

18 | WELCOME TO THE FAMILY

A stellar ski trip giveaway to Smugglers’ Notch, a call for parent writers and an introduction to new bloggers at newyorkfamily.com

22 | BUZZWORTHY

Customizable kicks, a truly awesome book, how to capture childhood and more

76 | TWENTY IDEAS

Our monthly round-up of family fun in the city

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Heroes All Around I undoubtedly have a watered-down standard of heroism. For me, given the stresses of raising children, I’m impressed with any parents who manage to raise their kids with affection, kindness, a consistent ability to say no, and a general sense of calm for a few hours at a time! They are my heroes. Parents in sandboxes. Parents on playground slides. Heroes! Parents who help their overwhelmed parent friends by watching their children for a few hours. Parents who help PTAs and sports leagues. Parents who take the time to be extra solicitous of their neighbor’s kids so their apartment buildings feel like nice places to grow up. All of that is heroic to me. But the people celebrated in our annual tribute to local Family Heroes are deserving in ways that are above and beyond my everyday standards. Typically, they are in the fortunate position of being able to have a positive influence on lots of kids, lots of families. More importantly, they deliver.

My colleagues and I like to challenge ourselves each year to come up with a group of Family Heroes that is so varied, it’s a tribute to the limitless possibilities of giving back and an inspiration to others. I hope you’ll take a few minutes to get to know this year’s group (starting on page 55), and let us know if we’ve hit our mark. I don’t know our cover subject Carley Roney well enough to describe her as heroic, but without question she is inspiring. Working with her long-time partner, husband David Liu, Carley is Co-Founder of the powerhouse wedding planning brand The Knot, along with The Nest and The Bump. She’s helped so many new families get from here to there—all the while raising three delightful kids of her own. Don’t those amazing pictures (page 48) speak for themselves? The interview even more so! There’s so much in this issue that I want to recommend and so little space in which

to do it. To wit: Don’t miss the Holiday Gift Guide (page 42), the Charity Guide (page 68), and the personal essays on giving back (page 66) and running the marathon (82). Have a Happy December! I hear it’s a good month for everyday heroics. ERIC MESSINGER EDITOR emessinger@manhattanmedia.com

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Calling All Parents Who Like To Write! New York Family magazine is always looking to work with talented local parents interested in writing for magazines and websites. Depending on your level of experience, we have work-at-home internship opportunities for parents interested in cultivating their journalism skills, and more advanced opportunities (writing feature articles, blogging, columns, etc.) for parents who already have the expertise. Whatever your experience level, these are especially good opportunities to write about subjects like health and fitness, education, green living, home design, travel, culture, special needs, weekend activities and of course parenting and family. For more info, send an explanatory letter about your interest and background to NY Family Editor Eric Messinger at emessinger@manhattanmedia.com.

CONTESTS & GIVEAWAYS Family Ski Trip Giveaway Want to spend a dreamy week in a winter wonderland—with skiing, snowboarding, tubing, ice skating, snowmobiling, dog sledding and more? It’s getting chilly and that means it’s time to hit the slopes! If your family hasn’t already planned a ski trip to a great family resort like Smugglers’ Notch, Vermont…what are you waiting for? To help get you started, one lucky family of four will win a fabulous 5 day/5 night stay at Smugglers’ Notch, along with mountainside lodging, lift tickets and lessons! And, rest assured, children’s programs abound at Smugglers’ Notch where a FunZone Family Entertainment & Recreation Center will keep the gang busy before and after your time on the mountain. To enter, send us an email explaining why you’d like to win to familygiveaways@manhattanmedia.com and put “Smugglers’ Notch” in the subject line. Be sure to include your contact info and address. Deadline to enter is Friday, December 16.

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Win Skip Hop Crib Bedding Skip Hop’s new Complete Sheet Collection should probably be on your wish list this holiday season. Why? Because this new bedding solution looks like a fabulously dressed crib but acts as a well-constructed (and safe) bumper alternative. The four-piece set is 100% cotton and includes a sheet, nursery blanket, airflow wearable blanket and linen crib skirt. The sets come in charming motifs like Alphabet Zoo and Chocolate Lattice. And Skip Hop is giving away two sets of their Complete Sheet Collection to New York Family readers. To enter, send us an email explaining why you’d like to win to familygiveaways@manhattanmedia. com and put “Skip Hop” in the subject line. Be sure to include your contact info and address. Deadline to enter is Friday, December 30.

ON THE WEB Meet Our Newest Bloggers This fall, we’ve added some promising new bloggers to our online roster. They have a diversity of backgrounds, talents and interests, and we think they’re all pretty great. Allow us to make a few quick introductions. Joe Wack is taking our Parenting In Progress blog by storm. A writer and sketch comedian, he currently teaches science to elementary school children in the Bronx. He lives in Harlem with his wife and 3-year-old son and blogs about the joys and the uncertainties of parenting, always with a hint of wit. New to our Joy Of Shopping blog is independent media producer Mia Weber. Her passion for pop culture and fashion inspired her to start writing at sopresh.blogspot.com. She has a great eye, even better taste, plus a knack for finding new and noteworthy buys. Recently joining Born & Bred is Debra Flashenberg—a certified vinyasa yoga instructor who is now Director of the Prenatal Yoga Center, Prenatal & Postnatal. Debra writes mostly about childbirth, health and wellness. She is the proud mother of new baby boy, Shay. Also new to Born & Bred is Angela Johnson, a freelance writer and stay-at-home mom living in Brooklyn. In the (very little) free time she has, she enjoys practicing yoga and baking, and also considers herself an amateur DJ. We’re constantly adding new contributors to our blogs. Stop by and see what they have to say! (Don’t just take our word for it.) www.newyorkfamily.com

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SceneS From The new parenTS expo Several ThouSand expecTanT & new FamilieS converged on pier 92 in nYc For The largeST BaBY Show in The area’S hiSTorY! Many were expecting and their “bumps” gave them away. Others brought their infants and toddlers with them. They came from the city. They came from the suburbs. All in all, 2,500 new and expectant families joined New York Family at the largest event in its history, the New Parents Expo, which took place on the weekend of October 15 and 16, at Pier 92 in NYC. The beloved

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Dr. Harvey Karp, the creator of The Happiest Baby on the Block, and The Happiest Toddler on the Block series of books and DVDs, was the keynote speaker. The voluminous Pier 92 was packed with both national and local vendors. The dads (yes, the dads) seem to love their Dads Lounge. And good, informative fun was had by all—especially the little ones in the play area!

Join Us at our next Big Baby show! Following on the success of the New Parents Expo, we’re planning an even bigger show with more attractions for new and expectant families next spring. Details will be announced soon. For now, if you’re interested write us at newparentsexpo@manhattanmedia.com, with “New Parents Expo” in the subject line. We’ll make sure you’re the first to hear all the info about the next show.

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From Doling Out Chores To shushing your son’s smartphone, lizzie Post—emily Post’s Great-Great Granddaughter— is Giving sage advice For a new age BY Paula Balzer Cocktail parties, gift wrapping, cookie baking—all sure signs the holidays are here. But on top of the merriment the season brings, there is ample opportunity to commit countless faux pas, especially if children are adoringly tossed into the mix. Enter: the First Lady of Etiquette, Emily Post. In the recently released 18th edition of Emily Post’s Etiquette: Manners For A New World (William Morrow, 2011), Lizzie Post, Emily’s great-great granddaughter and one of the new generation of Posts, sheds light on some of today’s trickier issues. Covering 21st Century problems like texting and Facebooking with class, this iconic hardcover addresses the typical etiquette quandaries for which the Post Institute is well known. Here, Lizzie Post advises families on some hard-to-navigate holiday scenarios. TABLE MANNERS Your holiday table is worthy of a spread in Martha Stewart Living. Everyone is gathered for your cozy (yet elegant) meal when your tweenage son whips out his iPhone. How do you keep the peace? LIZZIE POST: Hopefully what you’ve done beforehand is tell your kids to put their devices away during holiday and family time. It’s not appropriate and this is a time you want to focus on the people you’re with. But, don’t make it seem scandalous that the kid snuck the phone to the table and is doing this.

airfare. Is there a way to break the news and avoid hurt feelings? LP: As nicely and [as] honestly as you can. “We had such a great time with you last year, but unfortunately it’s not in our budget to make the trip. We really hope we’ll be able to make it another year.” Don’t say you hope you’ll be able to make it next year because you haven’t been invited yet! If it’s in your budget to [host] them, offer that if it works for you. ATTENDING PERFORMANCES You adore your best friend’s daughter, but it’s the fourth year in a row you’ve been invited to the Christmas performance where she has only one line! Can you politely decline? LP: If you really cannot fathom going to this event, then say, “I wish I could come and support her, but it’s not in the cards for [me] tonight.” People feel they have to give big reasons—I’m sick, I’m out of town—[but] all of those will get you in big trouble if they aren’t true. Just say no.

DINING OUT You thought the drama of dividing a restaurant check ended with your single days. Now you’re out with Uncle Bob and his brood who all order dessert, Aunt Mary who loves her cocktails, and your single sister-in-law who just gets a salad. When dining out en famille, who pays? LP: Talk about it ahead of time. That way when the check arrives, it’s not too complicated. [Say], “Let’s all cover our own families” or just keep it to entrées and a couple of apps for the entire table and split it [evenly].

ENTERTAINING AT HOME You’re hosting a group of family and friends overnight for Thanksgiving. You wake up the next day to an epic mess. Is it out of the question to ask guests to pitch in with clean up? LP: It’s not impolite, it’s a big to-do. My mom holds a meeting two weeks before Thanksgiving and doles out who is going to be doing what. So-and-so is in charge of filling water glasses and lighting candles. She never gives anyone a rotten task like taking out garbage or doing dishes. Those definitely fall into the do after your guests leave department.

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THE GOOD CONVERSATIONALIST You’re at a holiday gathering trying to talk to your tweenage nephew who is accustomed to communicating primarily via text message. How do you initiate conversation?

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CEREMONIES AND RELIGIOUS SERVICES You’re in church or synagogue when your kids suddenly find something utterly hilarious. How do you deal with the situation without attracting even more attention? LP: After one or two [nudges] with the elbow, I would very quietly and discreetly excuse yourself to a different area. You want your kids to participate and be present, but there are times when kids just can’t and it’s important to recognize that. Don’t embarrass your child and make them feel horrible.

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GIVING AND RECEIVING GIFTS The gift giving and receiving is never ending today, opening the door for repeat gifts and ones that are just downright inappropriate. How do you teach a child to receive all gifts graciously? LP: Explain to kids that we’re not always that excited about what’s in the package—and that sometimes it can be something we already have—but it’s very special when the person who gave us the gift is there. I would talk to my kids about always putting a smile on my face and saying “thank you so much.” That’s all they have to say.

LP: You can always ask if he’s into sports, or if there’s an after school activity he’s into these days. Kids really like it when you’re interested in them. It’s important to speak to them like you would to the other adults around the table. And as a mom, I would talk to my kids about what good topics are.

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BY TIFFANIE GREEN If parents are looking for a sport that will strengthen their child’s balance, develop precision in body movement and bolster mental toughness, then they should look no further than gymnastics. This centuries-old sport puts the flexibility of the human body to test in an elegant show of balance, coordination and agility. Not quite sure your five-year-old is up to the task? Don’t worry. Gymnastic classes are offered in all skill levels in gyms across the city. Instructors teach basic movements for young children and beginners, then up the difficulty and intensity as a child gets older. To further convince you of how fantastic gymnastics can be, we spoke with two young New York City gymnasts about their love and dedication to the sport.

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How long have you been involved with gymnastics? I’ve been doing it since I was seven and I am now 16, so nine years. Was signing up for gymnastics classes your own decision or your parents? Both. I tried out many different sports and then I found gymnastics and realized I loved it. I was only two weeks into the recreational classes when they asked me to join the pre-team. The pre-team in gymnastics is for the serious competitors. Recreational programs typically only meet about once a week. What kind of time commitment is required for competitive gymnastics? It’s very time consuming. I have a four-hour www.newyorkfamily.com

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How does all that practice affect your schoolwork? Sometimes I have to leave practice early but it’s manageable. How different is team gymnastics from other team sports? It’s different from other sports like football or soccer because it’s more individual work. What is your favorite event? High bar. I like the kind of gymnastics you do on the high bar like the giant and dismounts. What has been your greatest achievement in the sport so far? I was the 2011 State Champion in level seven. What would you say to a kid interested in gymnastics who thinks the sport might be too difficult or challenging? It’s a hard sport, it takes a lot of time and dedication. So, I would say that you should never give up and keep trying. What are your future goals in gymnastics? I don’t really want to go to the Olympics. Overall, I want to get better. Right now, I’m not that strong and that is a really important thing in gymnastics. So, to get strong would help a lot. For more information, visit columbusgymnyc.com.

workout five days a week. Balancing that with school is challenging but also doable. It teaches me time management, and turns out to be positive in the long run. Does that kind of commitment ever get overwhelming? [At] the beginning of each school year I would question whether I wanted to stay with it. I’ve come very close to quitting but I have coaches [who] support me. My coach has definitely kept me in the sport and helped me to love it as much as I do now. How competitive is team gymnastics? It’s definitely very stressful at times but I think it’s a good kind of stressful. You learn to cope with the kind of pressure you are put under and you always have your teammates alongside you. What is your favorite event? Beams, even though everyone tells me how scary beams must be. It’s the event you need to use your mind the most. You need to be focused and mentally strong and that is one of my strengths. What do you think it takes to be a competitive gymnast? Lots of time management but mostly dedication. If you are really interested and passionate about the sport, the talent comes with it. It’s really about being into it and loving the sport. That’s what is going to keep you going and help you be successful. What has been your proudest achievement in the sport so far? I won First Place for fifteen-year-old Regional Champions. That was really exciting because last year I didn’t even qualify for Regionals. This year, I qualified and not only qualified but also won the meet. I was very happy about that. Would you recommend that more kids get involved in gymnastics? Absolutely. I really think it was a good choice. I have learned so much. To be dedicated to something like this will carry me very far in life. For more information, visit nycelite.com.

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How long have you been involved with gymnastics and how many days a week do you typically practice? I have been involved for about six years. I practice four days a week for about three and a half hours. That is a lot of practice time. Do you ever want to not attend a practice? Sometimes when I’m tired but most of the time I want to go.

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Perfectly sung right to your tot’s ears (though parents, it might remind you of some of the bands you used to listen to in college), it’s no surprise this was a Grammy-nominated release. Justin and his band, The Not Ready For Naptime Players, will be jamming at Symphony Space in April. Buy the album now so your kids can sing along with him live in the spring. Soon, the whole family will think he is a rockstar! $15, justinroberts.org

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For More Than 40 Years, Bank street Bookstore has remained a City staple For Tiny readers (and Teachers and Teens, Too) BY ANgelA JohNsoN If you’ve read Goodnight Moon more times than you can count, we suggest you rally up the tots for a trip to Bank Street Bookstore. A part of the Morningside Heights community for more than 40 years, this charming and independent book nook not only carries a sturdy selection of extraordinary reads but also has puzzles and games for kids of all ages. The shop’s story began in 1970 with a small space in the lobby of Bank Street College, primarily serving the college faculty and parents of students in the School for Children. Twenty years later, the store expanded into its current bi-level location, at the corner of 112th Street and Broadway, and has grown to be an invaluable resource to both teachers—who can find supplies and curriculum materials—and literary-minded parents throughout the neighborhood. But let it be known: Bank Street Bookstore is a young reader’s paradise. Kids will delight in the floor-to-ceiling shelves that are stocked with titles in almost 20 different languages. Overwhelmed with the possibilities? Narrow it down by heading to the heart of the store, which boasts a colorful display of carefully chosen staff favorites. If you’ve got a baby at home or even in tow, you don’t have to wander too far beyond the first floor. On the second level, content is designated for older children and teens. It features a wide range of fiction and educational books, as well as math, reading and logic games. There is even a special area devoted to reads on life’s more serious subjects such as death, bullying and divorce. And in a time when many small businesses are struggling to keep their doors open, Bank Street Bookstore continues to thrive under the leadership of Director Beth Puffer, who has been with the store for 25 years now. A former early childhood educator, her time at Bank Street began as a holiday gig, serving as a short-term break from teaching. She enjoyed her work at the store so much

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that she never quite made it back to the classroom. Puffer explains that while a large portion of Bank Street’s customer base comes from the surrounding neighborhood, the store appeals to readers from across the tri-state area and even around the globe. “We have educators who come from places like Hong Kong, The Philippines and Australia year after Director Beth Puffer year to shop here and have books shipped to them back home,” she says. Additionally, many of the store’s titles can be found on Bank Street’s website, which is thoughtfully organized by age and topic, the way most of the in-store requests are received. Puffer touts her knowledgeable, well-read staffers and their ability to think outside of the box as one of the key features that distinguishes her store from the competition. “The staff is the crown jewel of the store,” she says. “A teacher may come in requesting materials for a specific curriculum unit, and we’ll not only suggest non-fiction materials, but also poetry, fiction and different subjects they might not think of that could expand a child’s vision of the topic.” And Bank Street Bookstore is not just a place to buy

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One of my mommy friends mentioned how insane her milk supply was after making a batch of Lactation Cookies. Apparently, if you add a little ground flaxseed and Brewer’s Yeast to your oatmeal cookies, your milk supply will go KABOOM! It ain’t no lie. My supply has been fine, but as my daughter gets bigger, I sometimes worry that I’m not enough of a Milk Messiah for her anymore. So, while Trixie was asleep in the Baby Bjorn, I started baking. I was ohso-careful every time I opened the oven, cautiously turning away from the heat and covering my baby’s face. I didn’t spill sugar on her head or clang the pots too loudly. The first batch smelled so good that I a took piping hot cookie straight off the tray to have a nibble and…a chocolate chip broke off and went down Trixie’s shirt. OMFG! Five seconds later she was wide awake and wailing like a banshee. Immediately I tore off her clothes to assess the damage. If it scarred, would she ever forgive me? Can Child Services arrest mothers for harboring rogue chocolate chips? I almost cried when I saw the red mark on her shoulder blade. I applied a little Bacitracin and it healed completely, but I was shaken up, and I learned a valuable lesson (or two): a) don’t bake with a baby strapped to you, and b) don’t be a greedy pig and eat the cookies hot off the tray. Got it? nights Of the Living DeaD Posted By: Kristen Haas Trying to navigate hormonal changes and figuring out how to care for a new baby doesn’t leave much time for anything—including sleep. It took us about a week before my husband and I finally figured out that we both couldn’t both stay awake through the night. Suddenly, Derek had an epiphany: we should work in shifts! I breastfeed Dylan, so I have to be present and awake www.newyorkfamily.com

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Posts from our new Parent blog at newYorkfamilY.com (sort of awake) for every feeding. When Dylan wakes up, Derek gets him out of his crib, calms him, changes his diaper and prepares him for a feeding. I struggle to get out of bed and hobble over to the couch, strap on My Brest Friend and the baby is handed over. After the feeding is over, I bring him back to his crib and climb back into bed and we do it all over again an hour later. This divide-and-conquer approach saved our lives in those early weeks. If you’re in the midst of this now, just remember, there is a light at the end of that crazy newborn tunnel. Before you know it, baby will be sleeping for longer stints of time and you will begin to feel less like the undead. The more baby sleeps at night, the more you will begin to feel like yourself again. Now, if only there was time to shower… BeyOnD the CarDBOarD BOx Posted By: Leah Black I love finding great toys for my son, but often it’s the everyday household objects that end up fascinating him the most. At 15 months old, he manages to have fun exploring everything from Tupperware containers to shoe boxes. There are a handful of items that have been strangely mesmerizing to him, so I’m sharing them in the hopes that other children will get just as much satisfaction out of this stuff as we did. Post-it notes. I grabbed a pack of these off the kitchen counter as I was about to leave on a long car trip recently, in the hopes they might be a fun distraction for my son when he got fussy. He ended up peeling one Post-it Note after the other off the pack over the course of half an hour. Now I break them out when we’re playing at home and need a new diversion. radio. The radio is endlessly fascinating to kids, who love to turn it on and off, fiddle with the volume and switch stations. The more basic the radio, the better. empty tissue box. Children love to fill up and then empty containers. It’s fun because you can’t always see what you’ve put in there, so kids have to reach their hand in and feel around for whatever is inside. My son fills an empty tissue box up with wooden rings, plastic straws or whatever else is lying around. sign UP fOr BOrn & BreD To sign up for a weekly newsletter of Born & Bred’s tips, news, musings and other highlights for expectant and new parents with children up to 24 months, go to newyorkfamily.com. December 2011 | New York Family

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around ten mommy contributors who write about all-things parenting in their neighborhoods. Two years after the site’s inception in 2009, their collected words of wisdom now reach over 4,000 followers on Twitter and Facebook. “What differentiates us is that we genuinely live in the neighborhoods that we write about,” Calas says. “I wrote the article on Halloween events because I live here, and people who read the website can probably see me [at the events].” For someone who’s become a pseudo-celebrity in the parent blogosphere and who won First Place at the Queens Economic Development Corporations StartUP! Business Plan Competition just last year, Calas is surprisingly modest when it comes to talking about her achievements with The Mamas Network. “It’s really very mundane,” she humbly says of her typical day, which starts with getting her daughters up, dressed, fed and off to school. “[My day is] all on the computer, typing away.” What she neglects to mention, of course, is that the daily keyboard grind she does at local cafes and in between errands makes the family lives of thousands of readers more manageable and fun. In running Queens Mamas, Calas is focused editorially on a www.newyorkfamily.com

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single goal: buckling down on local neighborhood hotspots, tips and events. This specific niche is why the site largely caters to the five-years-old and under crowd (despite her desire to address all ages), and why Calas chooses to limit content outside of her borough. “There are plenty of places where a Queens parent can find out where to go in Manhattan,” she points out, shifting the attention to her writers’ steadfastly local perspective.

“We’re trying to encourage people to keep their families and their money close to home, so that economically—ultimately— the neighborhoods will be better.” More importantly, as a New York native currently living in Astoria with unconditional love for the larger city, Calas pushes her website as a vehicle for long-term investment in all Queens neighborhoods. “The social responsibility element to what you do as a media [company] is encouraging growth through local business,” she argues, speaking in an impassioned but articulate manner that makes it clear why so many parents have fallen under the spell of her website. “We’re trying to encourage people to keep their families and their money close to home, so that economically—ultimately—the neighborhoods will be better.” Besides stepping out of the virtual world, it was this hope of bringing businesses to service Queens parents in their own communities that largely inspired Queens Mamas’ first-ever expo last spring. Calas indignantly reveals that Queens has a grand total of three independent baby stores. For her, that simply doesn’t cut it. The effects of the day-long fair were profound. Calas exclaims, “To say, ‘I’m going to, on one consolidated day, bring fifty businesses into your community [that will] service you and your children, give you stuff for free, and make your parenting life super easy’—it’s Christmas for parents.” That there were pregnant women lined up out the door and down the block only goes to show how much this two-way introduction was needed. Following the success of the expo, Calas decided to work her publishing magic in two more NYC boroughs this past summer. Upholding her golden standard of homegrown content, she hired new wordsmiths to inject regional perspective into parenting in Long Island and Brooklyn. “Each website has its own editor and local contributors who give it the local flavor that moms search for online,” she promises, while continuing to oversee hires and even do some writing herself. The current success of The Mamas Network however, doesn’t mean that it’s always been smooth sailing. Transitioning from personal writing to working with web developers and managing a team took some adjusting. “I crashed my own website once, literally took it off the Internet,” Calas laughs. But when conversation turns to the joys of her job, she truly lights up. “I love really making an impact on people who live in this area,” she says. “To have people email you or call you or see you on the street and really mean that you’ve been able to provide them with something that they didn’t have before—I love that the most.” Calas similarly delights in empowering the other mothers who work for her: “To be able to stay at home with your kids, enjoy your life with your children, work and make money at the same time— that’s the holy grail of parenting, and I’ve been able to serve that up.”

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Though her current focus is on ramping up the new sites for other New York parents, Calas is already dreaming of more potential projects: new events, guidebooks, perhaps even iPhone apps. And while it can be stressful managing a team of stayat-home moms, this work structure ultimately speaks to the authenticity of The Mamas Network. “We’ve built a business around being parents, and the mothers who work for me make absolutely no apology for it,” Calas says, standing behind the novel workplace she’s created. “My ad sales manager’s toddler is running around while she’s on a business call, and that’s who we are. We live this life.” To get your fill of Queens, visit queensmamas.com.

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3. For the French-y fashionista: Help your aspiring taste-maker stay stylish with this playful sweater dress from a budding Parisian label. onassis dress by Pearls & Popcorn $49, bloomingdales.com 4. For the littlest linguist: Give your children a head start at becoming little citizens of the world—they will learn over 180 words and phrases in a new language. Spanish deluxe gift Set by little Pim $84.95, littlepim.com 5. For the astute accessorizer: This precious purse in a classic plaid is the perfect size for an urban kid’s winter essentials—mittens, tissues and chapstick! girl’s Plaid Purse by The Children’s Place $9.95, childrensplace.com

6. For the eco-friendly entertainer: Add pizzazz to your morning’s orange juice or afternoon snack time with this globalized and environmentally friendly set of glasses—a percentage of the proceeds goes to UNICEF. “our Future” Juice Set by green glass $56, greenglass.com 7. For the young glamour girl: This sweet wool party dress is the perfect combination of upscale chic and childlike whimsy—perfect for holiday occasions and dress-up days. Bonaventura dress by Sierra Julian $145, sierrajulian.com

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8. For the charitable chef: Savor some sweet moments whipping up pancakes and noshing on gingerbread and biscotti with the fam. Plus, spread some holiday cheer—15% of every purchase goes to the charity of your choice. Breakfast Gift Box by Baking for Good $60, bakingforgood.com 9. For the app-savvy artiste: Witness the wonder of a children’s classic reinvented for the smart phone experience. Harold and the Purple Crayon iPad book app by Trilogy Studios $6.99, itunes.apple.com 10. For the sketching stylist: And Harold’s innovative imagination takes on the fashion world with this literary tee. Harold and the Purple Crayon Tee $22, outofprintclothing.com

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first meet Carley Roney at her office on a mild autumn afternoon. In the high-ceilinged Soho loft where her company XO Group Inc. is currently headquartered I can feel the sparks of creative development hatching with each passing second. There’s electricity in the air. I half-expect to hear bottles of champagne popping as I make my way through the open workspace. Amidst three-tiered model wedding cakes, pastel paper flowers and coffee klatches that burst with ideas, stands Carley. It’s past three o’clock in the afternoon, she hasn’t had a chance to eat her lunch, but she’s full of energy and quick with a smile. We dive right in. Carley went to NYU film school and graduated just as the Internet began to take shape. It was in college that she met her future husband and business partner, David Liu, with whom she decided that a new media enterprise would be her calling. Three short years after getting hitched, David and Carley gave birth to TheKnot.com in 1996—a wedding website for traditional, offbeat and everything-in-between brides. In an industry they originally considered “tacky and too froufrou,” David and Carley were slowly and methodically building their base, generating much-needed content, ideas, inspiration and making connections. The following year, just as they were receiving financing for their new company, daughter Havana arrived, now 14. Things only picked up from there. The next decade would bring two more children—Cairo now seven-years-old and Dublin now three—along with a pair of new businesses, The Nest for budding home buyers and The Bump for new parents. “They’re amazing times to be part of someone’s life,” Carley gushes. We talk and talk, about everything from choosing a wedding photographer and starting your own business to spending an afternoon playing Legos with the kids. Carley is relaxed but poised, funny but thoughtful. She’s lightning fast with a joke. The next time I see Carley she’s at home in Brooklyn with her family of five. If she was comfortable in her office, she’s downright tranquil in her apartment. With kids running around getting dressed for the photo shoot, Carley sits for hair and makeup while gently encouraging her youngest son to try on his monkey pajamas to show off to the group. We open a bottle of champagne and enjoy some light mimosas. Carley toasts the shoot and the crew of eight who have invaded her home before smiling for the camera. How did you first become interested in the wedding industry? To be perfectly frank, I was not the girl who dreamed of her wedding from day one. I threw my wedding in under six weeks. David had to plan most of it! We were like downtown New York City kids. “We’ll just throw a party! What’s the big deal?” I certainly gained a lot of respect for the industry after going through it but more so gained a knowledge of how completely confusing and backwards it was. Everything from [vendors] not letting David make decisions about the flowers because the “wife-to-be” wasn’t there. Or, the fact that there was no way you could access the information when you get home at eight o’clock at night when everything is closed. I was like, “How do people plan weddings? Do you have to quit your job to do it?”… Eventually, when we saw the Internet we thought to ourselves: “Wow. This would completely change that wedding thing, wouldn’t it?”

And how did The Knot eventually lead to The Nest and The Bump? You have to listen to your audience and what they want. On The Knot, once we had a following, there was an explosion of the community on our message board and visitors to our site… What happened was that after their wedding, people wouldn’t leave. So they kept coming back…but they talked off-topic. They’d suddenly be talking about test-driving cars and having babies and the people on the wedding space would be like, “I don’t care about that! Right now I want to talk about tulips or freesia!”… So we would get these requests…and then we spun it off into its own site, The Nest. And the same thing happened with baby… I always wanted to launch the baby side. I think that is a moment in time when you need a ton of advice, you really want a community of people to talk to. What do you find most challenging about your work? On a daily basis, the biggest challenge of our life here is just picking priorities. There are a million exciting things to do [at] any minute. But to be a good business, you only have so many people and the math has to work out. When you’re in an organization full of creative people who are always getting struck by lightning bolts…to be able to have that balance between doing the maintenance of our business and picking what new things to invest in is very hard. And how would you describe your relationship with David? Our relationship is very yin-yang. There are a huge amount of similarities in terms of interests and things like that. But there’s also the “opposites attract” concept. You know, I would like to go out and David would like to stay in… At work, David is all vision and I’m all execution. So it really works incredibly well, but we’re also both incredibly bull-headed… He calls me the Energizer Bunny. So do you have any tricks for balancing home and work life? I’ve just been dying for someone to find a way for there to be one more day in the week. Because that would really help me a lot! My secret to survival is that when I’m home, I’m home. If I’m home and my kids are awake, I’m 100% there. I completely shut off everything else. But when they go to bed, the “work me” turns on again. Any funny stories about resolving differences or agreeing on priorities? One thing that the both of us agree with is that there is no such thing as spoiling your children with time or attention… It’s been a little more challenging since our daughter became a teenager. I was willing to be a little bit more lax than he was. With David being Chinese, have you merged cultures and traditions in any interesting ways? We always have a big dinner party around Chinese New Year… We eat a lot of Chinese food because David’s mother cooks for us a lot. And we travel to China. We take the kids to Asia—I think they’ve gone every other year. It’s great now because we’re starting the business in China so we have a reason to go a lot. It a huge shared passion that David and I have. We love to travel. (continued on page 52)

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(continued from page 50) What are the holidays like at home? Does your family have any holiday traditions? We have a Chinese-American Thanksgiving so we have dumplings and turkey! We invite all of our friends who have nowhere to go or people from the office who are international. We go to China every couple of years for Christmas. But I’m the holiday girl in the household for sure. We always go to Rhode Island, where I’m from, and pick out a Christmas tree. My whole strategy with it is, you can’t in any way want it to be perfect. It’s the activity, not the outcome. So all of my Christmas ornaments are at the reaching-level of the children, mostly at the bottom of the tree. And then there are three random ornaments higher up that I’ve hung.

What was your own childhood like? Are you recreating that for your children or are you doing things differently? My parents got divorced when I was six, so everything was always very complicated. But my parents had a completely amicable divorce so they all came together on the holidays. I am trying to recreate for my kids a sense of ritual. Whether it was my dad always making pancakes in the mornings…the things that you remember. Finish either sentence: “I am the kind of mother who always…” or “I am the kind of mother who never…” I’m the kind of mother who never makes my kids go back to their room. If my kids come into my room they can climb right into my bed. I don’t care if it’s an hour after they went to bed or four o’clock in the morning. In your opinion, what are some of the most misunderstood aspects about pregnancy and parenthood? I think that everyone sees these things as a science and they’re much more of an art. I’m in the advice business and I recommend reading all of the experts, but at the end of the day, it’s kind of about how you feel about things. You have to trust your own instincts. Regarding pregnancy, I think that we are hyper-educated, which is good, but I think that we really don’t trust our bodies. People also aren’t prepared for the emotional transition. For some people it is completely peaches and roses. And then for some people, it’s the hardest transition in their life to suddenly sit home for six weeks with a worm. What the best and worst piece of parenting advice you’ve ever received? Never feel guilty because it doesn’t do anybody any good. And,

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To take us back to your day job, what are you currently working on? You’re expanding into China so how does that play into the future of your brands? There’s still so much to do. Everything is changing and there’s new technology. We have a lot of mobile applications that are building communities, so you can talk to other pregnant moms in your birth month all around the country, on your mobile phone… So for us there are just so many ways to touch people. On the wedding front, and even on the baby front too, we’re starting to look at executive producing TV…identifying talent or storylines. With this international expansion, China is the biggest wedding and baby market in the world. People are very interested in American advice, particularly on these topics. You love to travel and you’re starting to spend more time abroad, but do you consider yourself a lifelong New Yorker? I do. I graduated high school early in order to come here. I will never leave this place.

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Go To Governors Island. We love taking the free ferry over to Governors Island to ride bikes and enjoy a nice picnic. Definitely a must-do summer activity. Play In The Park. We play soccer in Cadman Plaza Park in Brooklyn and hang out for hours in Empire Fulton Park under the Brooklyn Bridge. We also love riding on Jane’s Carousel in DUMBO—the horses on this carousel are exquisite! Ice Skate. Ice skating at Wollman Rink in Central Park is an activity we all look forward to each winter.

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Watch A Performance At The New Victory Theater. I am an avid New Victory fan. We see almost every show each season. I love to take the kids to dances and performances from all over the world— they have a blast! Explore Art Galleries. There are tons of galleries in DUMBO that we love to hop, and the DUMBO Arts Festival is filled with music, performances and art that blow the kids’ minds each time we go.

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But for WCS and the New York Aquarium to continue their mission of connecting people to nature, Dohlin explains that fundraising starts primarily through paying for admission tickets, sampling fare at the café or purchasing souvenir photos or gifts. Guests ready for a deeper level of commitment can become a WCS member, patron or donor. Looking ahead, Dohlin shares that exciting things are underway. “We’re very close to breaking ground on our new shark exhibit, which is going to be an utterly transformative exhibit. It’s a great opportunity to get people engaged, involved and passionate about one of the biggest and most important challenges in conservation right now, which is the decline in shark population,” he enthuses. “I want to get this exhibit built and opened.” For more information, visit nyaquarium.com.

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With a background in biology and architecture, Jon Forrest Dohlin never thought he’d realize his lifelong dream by combining both disciplines on his journey to becoming Director of the New York Aquarium. Using his love for creative expression, Dohlin worked on the design team for the Congo Gorilla Forest in the Bronx Zoo right out of graduate school. He went on to lead similar projects for the aquarium during his 10 years at the zoo’s design department. In 2008, his career path led to the New York Aquarium where his duties now entail meeting with staff and donors, ensuring the integrity of the facilities and the collection, collaborating with trainees and choreographers on shows, as well as designing exhibits. Dohlin shares the knowledge gained through his years with the Wildlife Conservation Society (WCS) and his passion for the marine environment when he takes on his favorite task—giving tours. He loves interacting with families, dignitaries and members, and appreciates the excited look kids get when they realize, “it’s so much cooler than they even imagined to be close to animals, [and] to get to see the people that work with them.” “Almost every child has an innate, intrinsic love and fascination with animals,” he says, encouraging parents to bring their little ones to the aquarium, which is open 365 days a year. Children of all ages can experience fun, educational programs—such as the popular Aquatheater or the Sea Lion Celebration, where a select group meet trainers and pose for pictures with the animals. Over 750,000 annual visitors enter the gates of Brooklyn’s primary cultural attraction—mostly locals coming from within a 10-mile radius. “We are extremely proud of our history and our present role as the anchor of Coney Island,” states Dohlin. To run a cohesive operation, a lot of work goes on behind the scenes. Without hesitation, Dohlin credits WCS and the aquarium staff who “are amazing people [who] get me energized and make me feel privileged to work with them every day.”

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themselves. “This is an opportunity to see lives dramatically change,” says ‘Dr. Bob,’ as the Achievers have affectionately nicknamed him. Each Achiever is then gender-matched with a Friend. “We wanted to stay away from the name ‘mentor’ because…it’s usually short-term,” Dr. Bob says. A Friend must make at least a threeyear commitment so that the children don’t experience another traumatic loss; many have witnessed a parent being taken to jail or a death in the family. The Friends are college-educated, highly trained professionals who become true role models by spending four hours of one-on-one time a week with each of their eight Achievers. They go on enrichment outings to museums and parks, or spend time in the Achiever’s classroom. Dr. Bob remains quite humble about his role at FOTC NY. “The Friends—they’re the real heroes,” he says. But it was a stroke of fate that led him here. After working with two agencies for neglected and abused children, The Crossnore School and the Grandfather Home for Children—both in North Carolina—Dr. Bob and his wife decided to move to New York City to be closer to their family. “I was looking for an organization in New York at the time that FOTC was looking for somebody to come take over,” he says. “It turned out to be a really good match.” The most rewarding part of FOTC NY for Dr. Bob is to see the progress of the Achievers. “[It’s] to see them all of a sudden begin to believe in themselves.” One of his favorite success stories is about a boy whose father was incarcerated. After participating in the program, the young man is now his school’s varsity quarterback as a junior, and his dad plays an active role in his life. Due to his backgrounds in business and clinical psychology, Dr. Bob says one of his strengths is company revitalization. And that’s precisely what he’s done with FOTC NY. When the NY branch first began in 2001, there were 24 Achievers. Since becoming Director in 2007, that number has grown to 119, while still maintaining the intimate relationship-building factor. Dr. Bob has also initiated the alumni portion of the program, which supports the Achievers through college graduation rather than stopping after high school. FOTC NY plans to move to a bigger location by the end of this year, and Dr. Bob hopes to eventually have Friends Places in all five boroughs. “My vision is this,” he says. “Fifty years from now, there’s going to be a successful individual… sitting with his grandchild telling [him or her] about this Friend who changed the destiny of their family. And it’s not going to affect just that one Achiever, it’s going to affect…generations to come, thousands of New Yorkers.”

region—Lower Manhattan below Canal Street. Today, Julie Menin sits as Chairperson of the Board, having held the position since 2005. “We often end up addressing issues that are certainly not ones that we predicted would happen,” says Menin of the scope of topics CB1 tackles. “The decisions that we make have real implications well beyond the Lower Manhattan community. The eyes of the world are certainly on Manhattan.” From tackling much publicized issues like the creation of Park51 (known across the country as the “Ground Zero mosque”), to pioneering the movement of the trial of 9/11 mastermind Khalid Sheikh Mohammed, to the current battle surrounding protestors at Occupy Wall Street, Community Board 1 has certainly had its share of dealing with national headline topics. “You have to be extremely proactive and able to move quickly to address issues as soon as they happen,” says Menin. Nevertheless, not every issue CB1 takes on is divisive. “Frequently I will be at a PTA meeting or meet with a government agency that has an issue regarding service delivery in the neighborhood,” says Menin. “Every single day chairing the community board is different. It’s a real honor.” Closing in on her final year as Chairperson, Menin has certainly made her mark, championing the creation of community centers, parks, public schools—including the first “green” public school in Manhattan, PS 276 in Battery Park—and affordable housing in Lower Manhattan. Widely considered a candidate for Borough of Manhattan presidency, Menin is focused on issues like education reform before her term ends. “Right now we have a situation with our public www.newyorkfamily.com

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Warrington, as the Girl Scouts of Greater New York will celebrate 100 years in 2013. Instead of resting on its laurels, MurphyWarrington says, the organization is busy ensuring that it will thrive for another 100 years to come by hearing the voices of its members at both the national and local levels. Empowering girls to lead is especially important in a council like the Girl Scouts of Greater New York, where two-thirds of the 25,000 members come from low-income families. Furthermore, of the 112 councils across the United States, only MurphyWarrington’s is entirely urban. New York City Girl Scouts unites young women from such a diverse array of backgrounds that Murphy-Warrington likes to call it the “UN of girls.” “We bring [the girls] together as equals to learn together, work together, [and] transform the world. I think that that’s the power of what we’re doing in Girl Scouts,” says Murphy-Warrington. In the future, she hopes to partner with other organizations that promote positive images of women, such as the nonprofits of Sharon Bush and Lauren Bush-Lauren, as well as to collaborate more with Girls Scouts donors. Furthermore, Murphy-Warrington would like to eventually create a Girl Scouts community center within the city, a safe place where members could come to exchange ideas. In the meantime, however, she is committed to interacting with as many individual girls as possible—her favorite part of the job—and expanding the Girl Scouts resources to better serve an increasing demand for more troops in the five boroughs. “We’ve been very focused over the past 100 years internally and we’ve learned so much, we’ve really grown up,” says Murphy-Warrington. “And now we need to take our perspective, view, expertise, our knowledge outside of Girl Scouts and start to bring together the extraordinary organizations within this city [that] are concerned about youth […] to start making a difference within the city.” To get involved, visit girlscoutsnyc.org.

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Unattainable standards of female beauty, sinking numbers of women in politics and insufficient examples of females in leadership positions have all led to a scarcity of role models for young girls today, says Barbara Murphy-Warrington, recently named CEO of the Girl Scouts of Greater New York. “From standing out in the classroom to taking advanced classes in math and science and all the way to joining the top ranks in corporate boardrooms or the operating rooms of Silicon Valley, girls and women are backing down,” says Murphy-Warrington. Five months ago, this energetic leader returned to the Girl Scouts, an organization that shaped her own youth, bringing with her 20-plus years of experience in corporate leadership. Moreover, she brought enthusiasm and passion for transformative change. “It was the perfect time to come to Girl Scouts,” says Murphy-

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It’s true: kids really do have the best ideas. Lucky for us, the Story Pirates caught on early. In 2003, Benjamin Salka, now the organization’s CEO, and his friends rallied together to teach kids to believe in the power of their ideas, first by hosting workshops to help students write and revise original stories, then by adapting the students’ words into a schoolwide comedy performance that often brings their peers to tears. “Story Pirates is so powerful because it not only tells kids that they have great ideas, but [it] also gives them the tools to put their ideas to work,” Salka says. What began as a pilot program in a single Harlem school, Story Pirates now serves over 200 schools in addition to touring over 15 states, ranging from one-show visits to year-long residencies. Story Pirates is all about nurturing children’s inherent imaginations. Salka points out that creativity is a large part of being able to communicate well. “Writing is a part of nearly every discipline in the world,” he argues, though he’s also quick to highlight the importance of their programs in science, math and social studies. But Story Pirates doesn’t simply wax philosophic—it actually helps kids experience writing’s real-world applications outside of formal test-taking. “When kids understand that writing is connected to their ability to be seen, heard and understood, it has much greater power,” Salka says. “We show them that writing is a way to express your ideas to the world—it’s a way to make people think, laugh and feel.” Since the beginning, Salka was the perfect man for the job. Hailing from Off-Broadway productions, he was inspired by his time at The DreamYard Project, an arts and education provider servicing Bronx youth. Salka played every role from bookkeeper to janitor, and everything in between, as he set up an inspiring vision and solid infrastructure for the company as the CEO. “Our unofficial mission became to blow kids’ minds,” he says. www.newyorkfamily.com

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one Child’s Decision to Celebrate the Holidays Without toys Has this Mom of Multiples reflecting on Generosity And Leading By example The twins and I were recently discussing all the upcoming events we have on our calendar—birthdays, anniversaries and of course, the holidays. During our discussion, my son had an epiphany. “Ma, I don’t want any Christmas presents this year. I want to give them all to poor children.” What? This shocked me. “Johnny, are you sure?” He replied, “Yes, let’s write Santa a letter right now.” Armed with a pen and piece of paper, he wrote a letter to Mr. Claus (first grade handwriting and all). We put it in an envelope and I promised to mail it to the North Pole the next morning. My daughter however, his twin, totally missed the generosity cue. The concept went right over her 6-year-old head. That evening, I discussed my son’s letter at length with my husband and we agreed—no presents from Santa for Johnny. If he was going to be generous, we were going to support his wishes. Soon, my Aunt Vivian got wind of the letter (and his request) and decided to write Johnny a reply as Santa. When he read it, his face lit up and he immediately stuffed the note into his pocket to show his friends. My son’s charitable spirit may be impressive for a child his age, but it’s something that we have been instilling in our kids since they were small. A few years ago, as a way of clearing out the toy insanity that was our 650-square-foot apartment, I decided that the twins and I would sort through and donate the items that were in good working order, but hardly played with anymore. Sure, eBay crossed my mind, but I think the better lesson was in giving, not business. I started off by explaining to the kids how lucky they were. And that while some children get several gifts for the holidays (like them), others get nothing at all. Now, it was their turn to do something nice for someone else. We made three piles: Keep. Throw away. Donate. I was amazed at their generosity. Believe it or not, they had decided to give most things away. After their final decisions were made, we took a trip over to the New York City Rescue Mission on Lafayette Street to donate the items in person. The staff was so pleased! Their gratitude surely injected my twins with the “giving bug.” I

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didn’t realize it then, but this moment planted tiny giving seeds that I would watch sprout over the next few years. But let’s get one thing straight: I’m not saying that my kids aren’t your typical hyped-up holiday tots. They, too, love to rip the wrapping off of anything with their name on it. What I am saying is that after all is said and done, they choose to give some of their brand new, unopened goodies to children who are less fortunate. I never asked them to do it; they came up with this system all on their own. But how? I think there is a word for this—imprinting. Webster’s describes it as a rapid learning process that takes place early in the life of a social animal and establishes a behavior pattern. Perhaps all my volunteer work has rubbed off on my kids. Just maybe, my random acts of kindness didn’t go unnoticed. An initial imprint was made by my parents—who are very active community and church volunteers—onto me, and now I pass it onto my twins. Parenting professionals always say “lead by example” and that is what you need to do. If you want to have generous children, instead of writing a check to your local charity, why not donate some of your valuable time? Talk to your children about others who are in need. Enlighten and teach them about their good fortune in both health and possessions. I sometimes wonder if my children are more generous simply because they are twins. I was lucky in this way—there were very few lessons to teach about sharing since they have been sharing straight from the womb. They shared a bed as infants, they shared many toys as toddlers and they continue to www.newyorkfamily.com

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share me as their mother. I’m lucky that my lap is wide enough to still accommodate two little bottoms! (This is my excuse for why I don’t hit the gym harder.) It could be that their good-hearted nature happened in utero when they discovered that they were one part of a whole. I’m proud of my twins. To me, parenting success is exactly what I have now. I achieved it when I read my son’s letter. Happy Holidays to you and yours. Launching the global online network for parents of multiples, Twiniversity, and producing Multiplicity, the must-have magazine for parents of multiples, Natalie Diaz is on a mission to help families with twins, triplets and quads alike. She is also a full-time mom raising 6-year-old twins in NYC with her husband, John.

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Dear Johnny, I got your letter and it made me very happy. I will

give your toys to the poor children in the world this

year. Most children only think of themselves and not other children. You are very special.

You are a very kind and nice little boy. Your wish

will bring happy faces to many poor children.

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I will remember you next year. Be a good boy and

remember to listen to your mommy and daddy. I love you very much,

From Santa in the North Pole

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From Providing Disabled Children With New Bedrooms To The Ultimate Toy Drive, Our Annual Charity Guide Is Sure To Put You In The Giving Spirit In the spirit of the season, we’ve asked some of our favorite New Yorkers—a wide range of people who we’ve been lucky to work with during the past year—to tell us about their favorite charities. If you can, please take the time with your family to choose a charity to give back to this season. Here are some great family-related causes to support during the holiday season or anytime of year. Alicia Harper Founder and Editor of mommydelicious.com As a former NYC public school elementary teacher, I love and wholeheartedly believe in the mission of Books For Kids, an organization aimed at promoting literacy all-around, particularly for low-income and at-risk children in the preschool years. In fulﬁlling its mission, Books For Kids creates libraries, donates books and works with a plethora of literacy programs for our youngest learners to develop the critical foundation and skills they need to succeed in life. It’s so imperative for children to develop early literacy skills, and Books For Kids works tirelessly to ensure this. (booksforkids.org) Alison Lowenstein Founder of brooklynbaby.com, Author of City Kid New York, City Weekends and City Baby Brooklyn The Family Center (TFC) helps families below the poverty line cope with parenting dur-

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ing terminal illness, navigate conﬂict and transition through loss. It offers an incredible array of services from legal, counseling, emotional support and more. Founded in 1994 by four women working at the NYC Department of Social Services who were concerned for the children of AIDS patients, the organization has evolved to help children whose parents have cancer or whose families encounter other destabilizing factors. My children and I are going to purchase toys for the drive—instead of simply donating as a family, I love the idea that my kids can choose presents for the children. It really helps them to understand that they are giving something to another child. (thefamilycenter.org) Carla Sullivan Founder of minimunchers.com It is very important to me to involve my children in appropriate ways to give back. Because both my husband and I were greatly affected by 9/11, we now consider ourselves patriotic and support our men and women who fight for our freedoms. This year we became involved with Operation Gratitude, an extremely financially efficient organization that collects items and assembles care packages to send to the troops. We sent in most of our Halloween candy and intend to send holiday treats as well. (operationgratitude.com)

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Carley Roney Co-Founder of XO Group Inc. (formerly The Knot Inc.) Female empowerment has always been a personal passion of mine, and I’ve had the privilege to work with groups like Step Up Women’s Network, which provides career mentoring and professional networking for young ladies all the way up to emerging executives. Another particular soft spot to my heart is the Sophia Academy in my home state of Rhode Island—a private middle school for girls from low-income families—where I am an active supporter. It’s extremely important to me that young ladies are provided with the tools to succeed, and that women of all ages encourage one another. Girls rock! (suwn.org) Dr. Harvey Karp Creator of The Happiest Baby on the Block and The Happiest Toddler on the Block books and DVDs I love the Environmental Working Group (EWG)! The members work hard, work smart and have been powerful champions in protecting children (and all of us) from environmental threats starting almost 20 years ago—back when “green” was just a color. As a pediatrician, I often recommend to moms and dads their regular reports on healthy products: from the safest sunscreens to the best—at least chemically—shampoos, creams, etc., which are all available on the EWG website for free. EWG is one of the nation’s most trusted environmental groups—and one of the most effective and influential ones, with over one million Americans on their mailing list. (ewg.org) Jesseca Stenson Contributor to queensmamas.com Once you know about Queens-based Blissful Bedrooms, you won’t soon forget this group. It is a charity whose mission is to give disabled children a new room, a new community of friends and a network for them to succeed despite many obstacles. It gives a sense of relaxation and ownership to kids who really need it, by giving them their own functional and enjoyable spaces—things most of us take for granted—that they are largely confined to because of mobility issues. Blissful Bedrooms is in need of various donations to keep the charity going and also welcomes volunteers. Check out its wish list to see how you can help. (blissfulbedrooms.org) Jessica Shapley Founder/Director of momsupport.org Room to Grow is an exceptional organization dedicated to enriching the lives of babies born into poverty. During their one-on-one appointments with staffed social workers, parents receive developmental information, customized support and all of the baby items needed throughout the critical first three years to ensure a child’s healthy and secure start in life. Items and services reach clients directly. Offering materials and advice for hosting drives and pick-up options for donations, Room to Grow makes volunteering and donating easy for busy families who want to give to those who might not be as fortunate. (roomtogrow.org) www.newyorkfamily.com

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Katie Brown Lifestyle Expert, Author and Host of “Katie Brown Workshop” I strongly support the mission of the Joyful Heart Foundation, a charity that aims to listen to, connect with and heal survivors of sexual abuse. Joyful Heart creates a community of survivors, caretakers and supporters that can inspire a dialogue to end the cycle of violence. Through powerful healing retreats, educational programs and partnerships, Joyful Heart reaches out to engage people who have often gone unheard. Shop the Joyful Heartshop this holiday season to benefit this amazing cause! (joyfulheartfoundation.org) Lance Somerfeld and Matt Schneider Co-Organizers of NYC Dads Group We love Baby Buggy, an organization dedicated to providing essential clothing, gear and services to families in need. In collaboration with over 50 community-based organizations, Baby Buggy distributes new and gently used essentials that pass a safety test. By making donations through proven programs like Head Start and Nurse-Family Partnership, Baby Buggy ensures that families not only receive immediately needed items—from cribs and strollers to clothing and bottles—but also that recipient parents are enrolled in programs that will help build their long-term self-sufficiency. Teams of dads from our group regularly visit Baby Buggy Headquarters to clean, sort and pack items for distribution, and last spring we partnered with Baby Buggy to organize a drive to support graduates of the Bronx Fatherhood Program. (babybuggy.org) Lara Serebrier Paul Creator & CEO of iKidNY I am passionate about the Harlem Children’s Zone Project (HCZ), which is dedicated to helping children and low-income families succeed. Perhaps best known for its partnership with Promise Academy Charter Schools, which boasts a remarkable impact on the educational development of low-income children, HCZ also provides programs on early childhood education, community development, family enrichment and health awareness. Under the leadership of Geoffrey Canada, HCZ uses these programs to help break the cycle of generational poverty for the thousands of children and families HCZ serves. (hcz.org) Liz Gumbinner and Kristen Chase Publishers of Cool Mom Picks We’re huge proponents of those working to reduce the maternal mortality rate around the world, and one of our favorites is the White Ribbon Alliance for Safe Motherhood (WRA). It’s an international coalition of like-minded organizations around the world, helmed by global patron (and former UK First Lady) Sarah Brown. And we couldn’t agree more with their premise that safe motherhood—something we take for granted in the US—is a human right. What we particularly love about the WRA is that their goals to save more mothers and babies in pregnancy and childbirth are both lofty and eminently reachable. Hooray for mothers helping mothers. (whiteribbonalliance.org) December 2011 | New York Family

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Liz Lange Designer of Liz Lange for Target and Co-Founder of shopafrolic.com

vere food allergies, I am passionate about helping all children with allergies lead healthy lives and raise awareness around the issues that surround this growing but hidden disability. (foodallergy.org)

Women—mothers—are dying by the thousands around the world because they don’t have a skilled health provider when they give birth or they can’t get a basic PAP test—things we take for granted. Jhpiego is my favorite charity because it is solving these problems in creative ways and keeping women alive. In Afghanistan, 3,000 new midwives are at work saving lives because of Jhpiego’s efforts. In more than a dozen countries, women are screened for cervical cancer today through a technique that uses vinegar. That’s Jhpiego’s brilliance: designing simple, innovative solutions that prevent the needless deaths of women and families. For someone who is a mother and a woman whose business has always centered around mothers and a cervical cancer survivor myself, Jhpiego tops my list! (jhpiego.org)

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Renee Sullivan Founder of babybites support groups With food allergies in children on the rise—affecting nearly six million children in the United States alone—FAAN (The Food Allergy and Anaphylaxis Network) educates parents, caregivers and schools in the diagnosis, research and management of food allergies for children and adults alike. As a mom of a child with se-

As the mother of a girl, I am passionate about the power of organizations for young women. As a blogger (and former social studies teacher), I can attest to how cathartic and empowering writing can be. I love Girls Write Now, because it provides mentorship and a space for creative expression for atrisk girls. (girlswritenow.org)

EDiToR’S PiCk Eric Messinger Editor of New York Family While many families know the Children’s Museum of Manhattan (CMOM) as a place to take their kids for wonderful exhibits and classes, there is another side to the museum’s mission that’s equally impressive and worth supporting. It’s less visible to the general public, but CMOM does an extraordinary amount of community outreach, working with impoverished families to improve health practices, early learning and literacy. In fact, because CMOM is so good at connecting to parents and children, many leading poverty programs—including Head Start—like to partner with them. You would, too. (cmom.org)

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Everyone’s favorite 8-year-old Mouseling is set to deck the halls in style. Join her by catching a special weekend or holiday performance of the Vital Theatre’s Angelina Ballerina The Very Merry Holiday Musical. Fans of the beloved book series can watch a small star with big dreams spin across the stage. Plenty of pirouettes and tutus are sure to delight young dancers, who will learn from Angelina’s passion and determination to achieve her goals. Tickets are $29.50. 2162 Broadway, 212-579-0528, vitaltheatre.org.

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The Holiday Train Show at the New York Botanical Garden is a favorite among kids and adults alike for its minute replicas of classic New York landmarks and its whimsical winter scenes. Watch tiny trains whiz around bridges and skyscrapers made of nuts and leaves, and new for visitors this year is the Artist’s Studio, for families to see just how these buildings came to be. Gingerbread houses and puppets will delight as classic movies play to set the scene. Families can also look forward to an appearance by Thomas the Tank Engine. Tickets are $20/adults, $18/students and seniors, $10/children 2-12. Children under 2 are free. 2900 Southern Boulevard, 718-817-8700, nybg.org.

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THE WINTER GARDEN [All Ages]

With 100,000 white lights illuminating its glass atrium, the World Financial Center’s Winter Garden becomes the perfect place to be festive throughout the month of December—all for free. Have Christmas in Killarney with lilting Celtic music, celebrate Hanukkah with Yiddish tunes or indulge in classical choral arrangements. Don’t forget to stop by for

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Get ready to witness an astounding performance at the New Victory Theater, in their New York premiere, by a group of contortionists, aerialists and gymnasts from Cirque Shanghai’s Bai Xi. They can balance en pointe on a man’s head, climb a three-story stack of wobbling chairs and conquer something called the Wheel of Death. If that doesn’t sound impressive (and a bit scary), we don’t know what is! Tickets begin at $17 for general admission. 209 West 42nd Street, 646-223-3010, newvictory.org.

December 3

PARTY LIKE A POLICE OFFICER [All Ages]

At the Police Museum’s Holiday Party (11am-2pm), kids can learn about the daily duties of officers around the world and try on the museum’s collection of international uniforms—all the while learning about the holidays of different countries: Christmas, Hanukkah, Eid and Kwanzaa, just to name a few. Guests are encouraged to spread holiday cheer by bringing along a donation for Toys for Tots. The event is free with regular admission—$8/adults, $5/students, seniors and children. Free for children under 2. 100 Old Slip, 212-480-3100, nycpolicemuseum.org.

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December 3

HO, HO, WHO’S SANTA? [Ages 5-10]

Before Rudolph, there were Glossie and Flossie. And do you know where the first Christmas tree was decorated or why we hang stockings? Find out the answers to these holiday history questions at the Big Wooden Horse Theatre Co.’s presentation of The Life and Adventures of Santa Claus at 1:30pm. Based on the book by L. Frank Baum, who is also the creative mind behind The Wizard of Oz, this story tells of Santa’s early years. The show is filled with wit, puppets, songs and plenty of audience participation. Tickets are $25 for general admission. BMCC Tribeca Performing Arts Center, 199 Chambers Street, 212-220-1460, tribecapac.org.

December 4 and 17

THE GOLDEN TICKET [All Ages]

As part of the Film Society of Lincoln Center’s ongoing Family Films series, you have two chances to see screenings of Mel Stuart’s classic Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory. The on-screen musical adaptation of Roald Dahl’s tale starts at 11am on December 4 and 4pm on December 17. Tickets are only $6. Talk about a golden deal! Amphitheater at the Elinor Bunin Munroe Film Center, 144 West 65th Street, 212-875-5367, filmlinc.com.

December 8

NOT A CREATURE WAS STIRRING

[Ages 3+]

’Twas a reading of The Night Before Christmas, when all through Barnes & Noble, not a child wasn’t smiling, not even a one! The actual poem rhymes a bit better than that, and Peter Yarrow and Noel Paul Stookey will give a special reading of the children’s picture book adaptation of Clement Moore’s original work. The duo will perform songs in conjunction with the reading, which also features a CD by Peter, Paul and Mary. Kids will love this spirited, holiday-themed presentation so much that they’ll be dreaming of Old St. Nick and his reindeer come Christmas Day. Free, 4pm. 150 East 86th Street, 212-369-2180, barnesandnoble.com.

December 10-11, 16-18

THE BIG BAD WOLF [All Ages]

For a spin on the holiday tradition of Sergei Prokofiev’s Peter & the Wolf, the Guggenheim will marry the visual and performing arts like never before. Fashion designer Isaac Mizrahi will narrate the story while New York City Opera’s Music Director George Manahan conducts the Juilliard Ensemble. To enhance the visual component and personify the story, artist Jason Hackenwerth is creating balloon sculptures that will hang from the ceiling to symbolize each of the characters and the setting. Tickets are $35 for general admission. No late admissions. Peter B. Lewis Theater, 1071 Fifth Avenue (enter via ramp at 88th Street), 212-423-3587, worksandprocess.org. www.newyorkfamily.com

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ENCHANTED OPERA Richard Termine

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December 10-18

THE NEW AND IMPROVED NUTCRACKER [Ages 3-12] Sometimes even Sugar Plum Fairies are better spiced up, and that is just what the New York Theatre Ballet has done in its production of Keith Michael’s Nutcracker. This Art Nouveau spin on the beloved holiday classic maintains the beauty of the original story but ups the excitement with choreography specifically tailored to entertain little ones. The performances are part of NYTB’s Once Upon A Ballet family series, a collection of hour-long ballets that keep even the shortest attention spans captive. Ticket options start at $21/children and $26/adults. Florence Gould Hall, 55 East 59th Street, 212-679-0401, nytb.org.

Introduce your children to the magic of opera with the Metropolitan Opera’s English language performance of the classic story, Hansel and Gretel. Soaring vocals will transport families into fairyland, teasing the tale with heightened drama that only an opera can add. The smallest of viewers will be holding their breath as the witch croons out mischief, luring Hansel and Gretel further into the mysterious forest. So dress in your finest and head to Lincoln Center for an enchanted evening of spells and song. Ticket prices begin at $30. The Metropolitan Opera, Lincoln Center, 212-362-6000, metoperafamily.org.

December 17-18

CONTEMPORARY CLARA [All Ages]

Clara and the crew break it down in the Peridance Capezio Center’s version of The Nutcracker. The original choreography by Igal Perry will blend the classic magic of the ballet with contemporary dance styles, such as hip-hop and modern, to create a different perspective of this childhood favorite. See dancers ages 7-16 with professional guest artists as the lead roles. With four chances to see the show, you’ll have visions of snowflakes and sugarplums dancing through your head the rest of the holiday season. Peridance Capezio Center, 126 East 13th Street, 212-505-0886, peridance.com.

December 18

A FAMILY AFFAIR

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RETURN TO YOUR GRASSROOTS [Ages 5+]

The Children’s Museum of Manhattan’s new health-focused exhibit, EatSleepPlay™, will whip your kids into shape with its “Ask the Experts: Grassroots Fitness Project” workshop. Heather Gunn and Will Rivera will lead kids in a total body conditioning program by using hurdles, hula hoops and balance beams. The exercises will help develop essential body movements such as running, jumping and throwing. Following both sessions at 2 and 3pm, the experts will be on hand to answer questions from parents. This event is included in the $11 admission price. 212 West 83rd Street, 212-721-1223, cmom.org.

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Music runs in Chip Taylor’s family, and he wants to share it with yours! Head over to 92Y Tribeca with your little ones, grab a bagel and enjoy original songs from the acclaimed singer-songwriter’s first children’s album. Along with his three granddaughters, Chip Taylor celebrates the beauty of childhood and family through tunes written about the freshness

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�e holidays just got sweeter. The Met’s English-language presentation for families returns!

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Tickets from $30. Orchestra seats start at $85.

the nutcracker December 10–11 & 17–18 New Costumes!

New Scenery!

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of a kiddo’s perspective. This concert is part of 92Y’s Bring Your Own Kid (B.Y.O.K.) series, perfect for tots five and under and charming for musiclovers of all ages. Tickets are $15, and babies under 2 are free. 200 Hudson Street, 212-601-1000, 92y.org.

December 18 [Ages 6+]

In the pilot production of the Thalia Teen Theatre Project at Symphony Space, youth from across the city will perform The Legend of The Giant Caterpillar, a fable from the Ivory Coast. Watch the actors inhabit an imaginary village that is getting along splendidly—that is, until a huge caterpillar moves in. Villagers must pass the caterpillar in order to gather water from the river, so it is up to their chief to save them. Can he do it? Find out what happens in this new musical adaptation of an old African tale, and come prepared to laugh as the audience participates in the action and learns a thing or two about politeness along the way. Free, 1 and 3pm. Leonard Nimoy Thalia, 2537 Broadway, 212-864-5400, symphonyspace.org.

December 18

HOORAY FOR HANUKKAH [Ages 3+]

Celebrate the Jewish Museum’s Hanukkah Family Day by bringing your creativity in full force! From 12-4pm, children can commemorate the Festival of Lights by making their own Hanukkah lamps, inspired by the museum’s collection. The merry music of Ben Rudnick and Friends will get museumgoers into the dreidel-spinning spirit as they decorate their own toys. Festivities are perfect for children ages three and up, who are invited to browse the collection of wintery Ezra Jack Keats illustrations for ideas and try their hands at constructing New York Family | December 2011

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December 20

CHANUKAH ON ICE [Ages 3+]

TEENS TAKE THE STAGE

unique menorahs, a Jewish Museum tradition. Activities are free with admission. 1109 Fifth Avenue, 212-423-3200, thejewishmuseum.org.

To observe the first night of Chanukah, those who celebrate the holiday are invited to light a six-foot-tall hand-carved ice menorah during Chanukah on Ice’s NYC skating party. From 6-9pm, the Wollman Rink will be completely rented out for a night on the ice, complete with kosher foods (don’t miss out on the traditional Chanukah donuts!) and the tunes of the Jewish music group The Yeshiva Maccabeats. Advance tickets are $22/adults and $18/children ages 3-13. 830 Fifth Avenue, 212-864-5010, chanukahonicenyc.com.

December 26-30

A SCIENTIFIC SOIRÉE [Ages 5-10]

Join the New York Hall of Science for a festive (and educational) take on the holiday season and “Re-Make the Holidays” with countless fun craft projects. Ongoing activities, which run from 11am–5pm each day, include: building an “Occu-pod” out of plastic bags and lost-and-found clothing to turn trash into treasure (limited availability), DIY cards and ornaments, plus a Rainbow Machine that creates different seven-color patterns. There will also be smaller workshops and camps, such as LED Light Painting, Music Machines, Robotic Oil-Spill Cleaning Boats and Sculpting the Holidays with ice carving. These will require advance registration; check the website periodically for updates about prices. 47-01 111th Street (Queens), 718-699-0005, nysci.org.

December 31

CELEBRATE KWANZAA [All Ages]

Come celebrate the seven principles of Kwanzaa! Described as a “feast for the soul and senses,” the gala (12-4pm) will allow families to experience African dance, spoken word, live music and customary craft making. The Kwanzaa Marketplace will feature vendors, visual artists, craftspeople and representatives from cultural institutions to educate visitors about the meaning of the holiday. And don’t forget to indulge in some delicious festive foods at the Museum Food Court. The celebration is free, but there is a suggested donation of $19/adults, $10.50/children ages 2-12 and $14.50/students and seniors. Central Park West at 79th Street, 212-769-5100, amnh.org. www.newyorkfamily.com

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While trAininG for A MArAthon, soMetiMes A Child is All it tAkes to Go the extrA Mile BY Joe Wack Last month, my wife ran the ING New York City Marathon. I’m incredibly proud of her. She did it all by her lonesome. She put in the months of training; no running group, no private guru, just her and the road. And that takes something. Especially when you’ve got a kid. This is actually the third year in a row that one of us has trained for a marathon. After our son Spencer was born, I decided that it would be a good idea for me to get in shape, so as not to leave him fatherless at a young age because his dad was fonder of Ben & Jerry’s than of exercise. So I took all of the half-hearted running I’d done over the previous decade and cranked it up a notch. I started running races. I dropped a good 40 pounds and I set my sights on running the full 26.2 miles. If you’ve got a kid, distance training is a bit trickier. If you’ve got a spouse who has no problem staying home while you’re spending hours and hours running down the sidewalk, you’re set. My wife runs, so leaving the kid with her was not an option. If we lived near our families, we could drop the kid off at Nana’s while the two of us put in our weekly mileage. But our families live nowhere near us. Which leaves…babysitters? Right. Four months of the kind of hours we’d have needed a sitter for would’ve bankrupted us. So we schlepped the kid along. Actually, one of our earliest purchases when my wife was pregnant was a jogging stroller. It takes some getting used to. A part of running, as I’d learned how to do it, is to swing your arms. Pushing a jogger down the road, you can’t exactly swing your arms. Joggers don’t turn on a dime, either. Additionally, when the kid is small, you have to use a car seat with the thing, which makes it even heavier and harder to maneuver. I won’t even go into what a hassle a jogging stroller is on a crowded subway train. Woof. But, in spite of these issues, we learned to use and love the jogger. Our kid has spent roughly 12,879 hours in the jogger thus far. (That’s a rough estimate.)

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The author and his son, Spencer.

When the kid is small, it’s pretty easy. They sleep 97% of the time anyway, so it’s no great deal for them to sleep in a jogger. As they age though, it becomes a bit trickier. You have to provide them with entertainment; bring along a toy (or ten). The kid needs you to take care of a dropped sippy cup or a runny nose, so you’re stopping periodically. Also, there’s a big difference between running a quick three miles and asking a kid to sit in a jogger for an eighteen-mile training run. So now, in addition to the logistics of training with a kid, you’ve got the guilt of training with a kid. Sure, it’s nice to know you’re setting a good example of an active, healthy life for the wee one to live up to. But you weigh that against forcing the kid to sit in a jogger for two or three hours. Or, if one spouse is making the sacrifice to stay home so the spouse in training can get in the necessary miles, the runner is left with the guilt of spending all this time away from the kid. What I’m saying is, I’ve got some guilt around these issues. I do have something to hold onto though; something to keep those feelings at bay. When I’m looking down at the kid, wrapped up in a blanket in the jogger at 8:30 on a Wednesday night, out late because I have to get in an eight-mile run after work, I think of the lovely image of my son and I, twenty years from now, running a race together. That helps. Joe Wack currently teaches science to elementary school children in the Bronx. He writes for NewYorkFamily.com’s Parenting In Progress blog. He lives in Harlem with his wife and 3-year-old son.

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