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MARK RIEGER, MD

Pediatric Orthopedist/ Orthopedic Surgeon Cedar Knolls, Jersey City, Springfield, Wayne

Dr. Rieger is funny, honest, and sincere with his commentary. He really gives me peace of mind with my son’s scoliosis.

—P.S., WAYNE

RENATO J. GIACCHI, MD

Otolaryngologist

Morristown

Dr. Giacchi is compassionate, caring and competent beyond measure. He takes his time with each and every patient and makes both the patient and the parent feel at ease and reassured every step of the way. He goes above and beyond in patient care and is available any time there are questions and concerns. He is truly the best!

—E.B., SPRING LAKE

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JESSICA ALEMAN, MSEd, CCC-SLP

Speech Therapist

Andover, Fairfield

Jessica is amazing! My son loved her right away and loves coming to see her. She has helped him so much in finding his little voice in such a short time. I am so thankful for her!

—J.L., WAYNE

SUHAIB NASHI, MD

Pediatrician

Morristown

Dr. Nashi is a veteran pediatrician with a great bedside manner. He is never in a rush and is very friendly. No matter what we are seeing him for, he takes time to talk to my kids about how to stay mentally and physically fit. He talks to them about healthy eating and exercise, expressing their feelings and being comfortable talking to their parents.

—D.J., EAST HANOVER

JEFFREY KORNITZER, MD

Pediatric Neurologist

Hackensack, Hazlet, Morristown, Rockaway

The time and patience that Dr. Kornitzer showed my daughter was impeccable. He was spot on with his diagnosis and treatments, guiding me through the process to help her get what she needs in order to function better as a child with ADHD. I am forever grateful!

—M.G., WOODMERE, NY

JANIS J. LEINFUSS OTD, OTR/L

Occupational Therapist

Rockaway

Miss Janis is an amazing OT for our child and has the patience of a saint. She works with him during sessions to help him build on his skills. She is a huge resource and support to our family.

—K.S., DENVILLE

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Barking good finds to spruce up your home this season

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NO (DENTAL) FEAR

Help your neurodiverse child get ready for the dentist.

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LISTEN UP! Are earbuds harming our kids’ hearing? 59 41
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What you should know before choosing a preschool or daycare 55 ILLUSTRATION BY LEEZA HERNANDEZ

You’re From NJ? What Exit?

Being asked “What exit?” off the Garden State Parkway you’re from has been an inside joke for years. Beyond the jest that may or may not have originated with a Joe Piscopo stand-up routine, there’s a lot you can tell about someone based on what part of the state they live in.

For starters, you can easily figure out whether they like pro sports teams from NYC or Philly and whether they call a long deli sandwich a sub or a hoagie. The answers: Giants, Yankees and it’s a sub, obviously. That’s because I live in North Jersey, where the city means New York and we like our ice cream with sprinkles (what the heck are jimmies anyway?).

One of the things that makes New Jersey such a special place is how much pride we have in our hometowns and cities. In this issue, we’re celebrating every part of NJ—north, central and south—with some real and funny lists you’ll relate to depending on, yup you guessed it, what exit you live off of.

As we kick off spring, we’re sharing lots of inspiration for your home, from room makeovers and closet revamps to secrets from real estate pros. We’re also sharing spring allergy survival tips and a warning from experts to kids and teens who wear AirPods more often that we’d like. Turn to page 13 for more about how earbuds may be harmful to your child’s hearing.

We’re also really excited to share our 8th annual list of Best New Jersey Lawyers for Families. Compiling this list of exceptional attorneys is no small feat—it’s made up of lawyers nominated by you—our readers—for providing exceptional counsel during stressful periods. Our list highlights attorneys who are recommended for their work with family law, special needs advocacy, estate planning and more. Head to page 41 to see the list or go to njfamily.com/thelist to share it online. Don’t see an attorney you love? Go to njfamily.com/lawyers to nominate them!

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These sleek cat-eye shaped sunglasses are made with recycled nylon and have polarized lenses with 400 UV protection. Bel-Air Sunglasses, Woodzee. $100, woodzee.com 4. LIFE STORY This line-a-day journal prompts you to write a sentence a day for the next 25 (!) years, at least, so you can share thoughts to look back on later. A Life Sentence Journal, Brass Monkey Goods. $20, brassmonkeygoods.com 5. BEAUTIFUL

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Within Liberty State Park is a quintessential modern event venue & restaurant with one of the most stunning views in the state. Executive Chef Chris Siversen’s seasonally inspired menus spin local, organic and sustainable ingredients into crowd pleasing dishes & drinks, making it heaven on the Hudson. Per Inside Jersey, Siversen ‘doesn’t rely on spectacular views to provide dining excitement & a culinary adventure.’

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Nestled within Livingston’s Westminster Hotel resides The Feathered Fox and top NJ chef Chris Siversen. Built around an exceptional selection of perfectly charred steak cuts & chops, Siversen marries tradition with innovation through imaginative sides, an exceptional raw bar & superb interpretations of familiar sushi rolls. Named as one of NJ's best steakhouses, The Feathered Fox also boasts the largest sake list statewide.

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Turn It

What every parent should know about earbuds and hearing loss

Blasting their music or spending hours playing video games is a part of how our kids unwind. But what they don’t realize is that all those hours of noise may damage their hearing permanently. “Kids who use earbuds and headphones are at an increased risk of developing hearing loss at earlier ages,” says Alfred Tallia, MD, MPH, professor and chair of Family Medicine and Community Health at Rutgers Robert Wood Johnson Medical School. “Studies suggest that 1 in 5 teens will end up with hearing loss as a result of unsafe listening habits.” That doesn’t mean they can’t wear earbuds and headphones, but here’s how to teach kids to use them more safely:

TALK TO YOUR KIDS ABOUT THE DANGERS OF NOISE

While normal conversation is around 60 decibels, the upper volume level on devices may reach 100 to 115 decibels, which can cause hearing damage in minutes. You can download a free sound level meter app to measure noise levels, but the bottom line is if you can hear their music when their earbuds are in, it’s too loud, says Tallia.

SET VOLUME LIMITS ON DEVICES

Teach kids to keep devices at half volume by adjusting the volume limit setting feature, suggests the American Academy of Pediatrics. Also, encourage them to take listening breaks every hour because even a few minutes of quiet can be beneficial.

PROTECT YOUR OWN HEARING

Practice what you preach. Make it a family habit that everyone uses hearing protection for noisy activities such as mowing the lawn or using a leaf blower, says Tallia.

MAKE SURE KIDS GET REGULAR HEARING SCREENINGS

Research has found that roughly 12 to 17 percent of middle and high schoolers already have measurable hearing loss, probably from excessive noise exposure. Make sure your kids receive screenings at ages 11-14, 1517, and 18-21 years old. Regular screenings are the best strategy to help catch issues early on.

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’Tis the (Allergy) Season

Tips to help your kids cope with allergies this spring

If your kid always gets a case of the sniffles at the same time every spring, seasonal allergies are most likely to blame. Telltale allergy signs include a runny or stuffy nose (or both!), sneezing, throat clearing, and itchy or runny eyes.

These symptoms are no fun for your kid, and they also interfere with your child’s ability to get a good night’s sleep or focus in school.

Kids with allergies generally want to take part in their regular activities. But if there’s a fever or your child doesn’t feel well enough to play, call your pediatrician. RSV, colds and flu viruses can circulate well into the spring months.

Here’s what you can do to help get your kid through allergy season:

START MEDICATIONS EARLY

Medication works best when your kid already has it in their system, before pollen is in the air. The biggest offender in spring is tree pollen, so start giving your kid medications in early spring, rather than waiting until you see that yellow film of pollen on everything. Check a daily pollen count to stay on top of things.

CHOOSE THE RIGHT MEDICATIONS

Antihistamines such as kids’ versions of Claritin, Zyrtec or Allegra help with drippiness. Nasal corticosteroids, such as Flonase, can help with stuffiness (though they take a few weeks to work). Medications should be taken every day to be effective.

KEEP POLLEN OUT

Although you’re tempted to fling open the windows for some fresh air, you’re better off running your AC rather than allowing pollen to drift indoors; don’t forget to change the filter frequently. Everyone should take their shoes off so pollen isn’t tracked indoors. Pets should be bathed or wiped down with a damp cloth regularly to limit the amount of pollen they’re bringing inside.

BE DILIGENT ABOUT CLEANING

Clean floors with a damp mop to grab pollen. Sheets, blankets and stuffed toys should be washed weekly in hot water. And don’t forget that pollen sticks to your kid, so make sure they shower after playing outdoors, and wash their jackets and hats, too.

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— Arricca Elin SanSone is a New York-based health and lifestyle writer.

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How to make a checkup a ‘big win’ for your neurodiverse child

oing for a dental checkup is a rite of passage for kids that can be exciting for some and challenging for others. When you have a kid on the autism spectrum or with another developmental disability, visiting the dentist might feel so intimidating (for the child and the parent) that sadly, many may choose not to go at all. The sensory overload and strange environment, coupled with the need to comply with unfamiliar procedures and follow hard-to-tolerate directions, can be just too much for many kids. Thankfully there are places like Montgomery Pediatric Dentistry in Princeton where the staff and dentists are dedicated to making sure all kids have a successful experience and feel welcome.

OPEN UP AND SAY AHH?

My daughter, E, is 12 and on the autism spectrum. When she was little, we tried taking her to multiple pediatric dentists and they could barely get her to open her mouth. While these places had colorful, kidfriendly lobbies and the requisite TV screen on the ceiling above the exam chair, it wasn’t enough to get her to comply with the exam and we left disheartened that she would be missing out on crucial preventative dental care.

But finally, we found Montgomery Pediatric Dentistry (MPD). Geena Russo, DMD (pictured on the opposite page), one of the board-certified

pediatric dentists in the practice, tells me that she did a two-year pediatric residency and that the goal of the entire staff is to make the dentist’s office a place that’s warm and welcoming for all.

START WITH WHAT’S FAMILIAR

One important way they make the checkup experience a little easier is by starting with what a child is used to, Dr. Russo says. “We might not use a dental tool or a mirror right off the bat,” she says. Instead, she’ll start with a toothbrush and toothpaste, just like what the child uses at home. “We make it similar to what they’re familiar with,” she explains, and that might mean using a manual toothbrush on the patient to start. The idea is to use what the child already tolerates and build up to using other dental tools such as the scaler and mouth mirror. Russo also uses different flavors of toothpaste to make the cleaning a little more enticing and cool sunglasses kids can wear to cope with the bright exam light.

The first time E visited MPD, the dentist was really patient, explaining everything to her before she did it. She let E touch and hold the tools. When it quickly became apparent that E wasn’t ready for electrical tools, they used a spin brush to work up to a full cleaning down the line. At that exam, they were able to count her teeth, do some cleaning and apply a fluoride treatment.

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The goal is to acclimate your neurodiverse child so going to the dentist is something they can do.

When the dentist said to me that “today was a big win” for E, I knew I had found the right place.

HOW PARENTS CAN HELP PREPARE

When it comes to visiting the dentist, there’s a lot you can do to prepare the child for the experience. For E, reading a social story and watching a video about a dentist visit is helpful for her to understand what’s going to happen.

“Parents can show the child visuals,” Russo suggests. “You can go on the practice’s website to see pictures of the dentist and staff and the location.” Call the office in advance to find out what’s involved in a routine visit to help better prepare your child. Practicing regular flossing and brushing at home is also great preparation for visits.

WHAT ABOUT SEDATION?

Sedation dentistry, which can include the use of nitrous oxide (laughing gas), oral conscious sedation (where the patient is awake) or intravenous sedation (where the patient is asleep) can be used in special circumstances, such as when a patient cannot cooperate for a necessary procedure. There are various levels of sedation, from light sedation, which simply makes the patient drowsy, to general anesthesia, which renders the patient unconscious. The type of sedation used will depend on the procedure being performed and the patient’s individual needs.

“We reserve sedation for really significant situations like severe cavities, when we otherwise couldn’t get the work done,” says Russo. She says they will try to take preventative measures first by finding cavities when they are still small. If sedation is needed, an anesthesiologist will

administer the medication so that they can focus on the dental care.

CONSISTENT VISITS

By bringing your neurodiverse child to the dentist and continuing to go for regular checkups—which are usually every six months, but can be as frequent as every three months if necessary—the goal is to acclimate them to the experience so it becomes just another thing they are able to do.

“We want to set up kids for a lifetime of positive dentist visits,” says Russo. “The first visit might be to do a checkup, clean the teeth and say they look great.” She says that if they can see a child regularly, they can identify problems while they are still on the smaller side and address them before they become urgent. Consistency is key so that a lot of little progress ends up making a big difference.

Russo reminds parents to check their own fears about visiting the dentist at the door and to paint the experience in a positive light. I also found that managing my own expectations for the visit was key. I went into it okay that E wouldn’t be getting a full polish job the first time. I now recognize that there’s a huge difference between not opening your mouth and getting dental care which is so important to overall health. Several years later, going to the dentist is no longer a scary proposition for E (or for me).

“Many of our patients, we’ve seen them through the years and as they get older, they don’t want to leave,” Russo says. “We wouldn’t turn away anyone we are capable of helping.”

—Ronnie

Koenig is a lifestyle writer who lives in Princeton with her husband and two kids.

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Life-

MEDICAL DIAGNOSIS FOR YOUR CHILD

Altering

How to find the support your family needs

hen you first learn your child has a serious illness, the range of emotions is overwhelming. “Everything changes in that moment,” says Gwendolyn Messer, MD, board-certified pediatrician and child and general psychiatrist, and division head of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry at Cooper University Healthcare. “You had a certain vision for your child’s life, and now it isn’t how you thought it was going to be.”

The resulting grief can be difficult to navigate. “We know we have to assemble the medical team for your child, but what sometimes gets missed is what it all means to you as a parent,” says Messer. “But it’s essential to acknowledge your emotions. If we pretend everything is OK, our family and relationships will be more negatively impacted in the long run.”

A way to begin processing your grief is to accept that this is your new normal as a family. “This doesn’t mean you’re OK with it,” says Messer. “Acceptance isn’t about giving in. It means you’re acknowledging that this is what’s really happening so you can move forward.”

There’s no road map for what works best for everyone, but these tips may help you find the support your family needs:

EDUCATE YOURSELF

But resist the urge to consult Dr. Google before you even leave the doctor’s office. “Try to use restraint and not read everything you find on the Internet,” says Kelly N. Moore, Psy.D., director, Center for Psychological Services at Rutgers University. “The information may be outdated or not even apply to your child. Every case is different.”

Moore’s son was diagnosed with a chronic illness as a baby. “If I had read and believed everything out there, I would have been overwhelmed,” she says. Instead of general medical websites, she suggests visiting websites focused on the specific condition, such as Autism Speaks or the American Diabetes Association. Your medical team also can guide you to reputable information.

FEEL WHAT YOU NEED TO FEEL

It’s OK to feel sad, fearful and angry at the world, the doctors, other people with healthy kids, or even your own family members. You may be surprised or ashamed for having these thoughts. “Parents often don’t want to admit these kinds of emotions,” says Messer. “But avoid judging yourself. These feelings

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… the key is learning what feels right to you, whether that’s a formal group, a clergy person, therapist, friends, or all of the above.

don’t mean anything bad about you.” These are normal emotions as you’re processing your grief.

Parents also often experience guilt, especially when it’s a genetic condition. “I was angry with myself for not knowing I had the genes. I definitely blamed myself at first,” says Audra Coleman, whose son was diagnosed at two months old with a chronic condition. Coleman has been part of the parent advisory board for The Bristol-Myers Squibb Children’s Hospital at Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital for several years.

You also may be in denial. “At first, you don’t want to think about it, but what helped me was to keep talking to people,” says Moore. “I realized I had to figure out what I needed to know and do. I had to become the expert so I could inform his teachers and caregivers. Once you reach this point, you begin to problem-solve.”

KEEP YOUR PERSPECTIVE

While you’re busy figuring out treatment plans and how to keep the rest of the family functioning, recognize that the illness does not define your child. “Your child is not the diagnosis. Children are so resilient, and this is just one part of your child’s experience,” says Moore.

Also, resist the urge to become overprotective and hyper-vigilant, which isolates your child. “A parent’s perception of what’s happening can influence the child, so let your kid be a kid,” says Messer. Your child still should do kid things when possible, such as ride a bike and go to birthday parties.

BUILD A SUPPORT SYSTEM

Many families find emotional support by joining a group or meeting with families of kids who have been diagnosed previously. “This can give parents reassurance that somehow you’ll come through this,” says Messer.

Your medical team can share resources, and local chapters of

national organizations can be helpful. Online support groups also may be an option. “There are more people in this situation than you think,” says Moore.

On the other hand, support groups aren’t necessarily for everyone. “I didn’t join a support group but instead leaned on my church family,” says Coleman. There’s no one way to work through this; the key is learning what feels right to you, whether that’s a formal group, a clergy person, therapist, friends, or all of the above.

TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

You know the basics: Get checkups, prioritize sleep, go outside for some fresh air, exercise and eat right. “Taking care of yourself is just as important as everything else you’re doing for your child,” says Messer. “This isn’t about adding one more thing to your ‘to do’ list, but rather making sure you can function well.”

This includes accepting help from friends and family. You may feel like you need to show the world that you’ve got this, but it’s OK to let people help, says Messer. You need downtime, too, and kids need to see you doing things like spending time with your partner or friends.

Staying in the moment also helps. “We take it one day, sometimes one hour, at a time,” says Coleman. “When we have a medical crisis, we just do what we have to do. That’s our motto.”

How to Help a Friend or Family Member After a Diagnosis

If a friend or family member has a child with a serious illness, here’s how to help, with suggestions from Dr. Messer, Dr. Moore, and parent Audra Coleman: Avoid clichés, which aren’t helpful. Instead, say something simple but heartfelt like, “I’m so sorry you’re going through this,” or “I’ll be thinking of you,” or “I’m praying for you.”

Resist the urge to offer comparisons about people you know who had this same condition ten years ago; it’s not encouraging because every situation is different. Take a chore off their list, such as mowing the lawn or shoveling the walk. Then text something like, “I did your walk because I was doing mine and was on a roll.”

Help with childcare by saying something like, “I can pick up your son when I pick up my daughter at school tomorrow. Is that OK?” This gives them the opportunity to say ‘no’ but shows you’re willing to assist. Offer tangible support. For example, ask if they need anything from the grocery store because you’re on the way there, or ask what day you can bring over a meal (then put it in a disposable container and include cooking instructions).

Do not post any details whatsoever about the child or the family on social media. This is the parents’ choice, not yours. Period.

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How North, Central or South Jersey Are You?

New Jersey is one of the smallest states in the nation, but we residents make up for it with our big attitudes and equally big opinions about where we live (and what exit). Yes, there are three sections of NJ: North, Central and South. And if you’ve ever doubted Central Jersey does indeed exist, we’d like to remind you that in August 2023, Governor Phil Murphy signed legislation that finally put parts of Mercer, Middlesex, Hunterdon and Somerset counties on the Central Jersey map. (Some of us have known it all along.) So, how North, Central or South Jersey are you? Read on to find out.

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You know you’re from North Jersey if…

The City means New York City. Obviously. And you know the best and fastest routes to Manhattan via train, bus, bridge or tunnel.

You have a love/hate relationship with the blue law. While Route 17 is a dream to drive on Sundays, it would be nice to quickly run to the mall since you were too busy Ubering the kids to get there on Saturday.

It’s a pie (not pizza), a sub (not a hoagie) and sprinkles (not jimmies).

You’re a New York City sports fan (Giants/ Jets, Yankees/Mets and Knicks/Nets). And if you’re a Rangers fan (or Islanders), you root against the Devils. You know when and how to avoid traffic at Met Life Stadium on game days. You love to hate Philly teams (especially the Eagles) and you’re jealous of their new running back, Saquon Barkley.

You love the shore but for you, waterfront dining also means dinner with a view of the Manhattan skyline in Hoboken, Jersey City,

Weehawken or Edgewater.

You’ve seen every episode of The Sopranos and know Tony Soprano’s house is in North Caldwell and the Bada Bing! is actually Satin Dolls in Lodi. You’ve probably eaten at the booth where Tony may or may not have been whacked at Holsten’s in Bloomfield.

Side note: The booth was auctioned off for $82,600 (!) which helped Holsten’s cover the cost of much-needed renovations.

You love your malls, and Garden State Plaza in Paramus and Short Hills in Millburn are favorites. You’ve been to American Dream not just for the shopping but for the water park, theme park and Big Snow. You love your outlet malls—The Mills at Jersey Gardens and Bergen Town Center. (And we didn’t forget Willowbrook or The Shops at Riverside.)

South Jersey is known for its farms but we have beautiful farms, too (Abma’s, Alstede and Demarest to name a few). We love how quickly we can get to stunning spots like

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You’ve been to a wedding or function at the Venetian, Macaluso’s, The Park Savoy or The Brownstone. You go to Paterson for kabobs and falafel, Garfield for kielbasa and pierogies, Fort Lee for Korean, and the Ironbound for authentic Portuguese, Spanish and Brazilian dinners.

You love your diners (like Tops, Tick Tock and Summit Diner). You miss The Fireplace in Paramus, Bischoff’s in Teaneck and The Crow’s Nest in Hackensack.

You may or may not know where North Jersey ends and Central Jersey begins (is it Union or Middlesex...).

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You know you’re from Central Jersey if…

You’re constantly having to explain your very existence. Like, hellooo! Central Jersey has always been a real place and you don’t get there by traveling through a secret door at the back of a wardrobe or falling through the looking glass. Just take Exit 9 from Route 280 OR the NJ Turnpike. Pretty cool, right? Better than magic.

You’re conflicted about your sports fandom. Half your family roots for the Eagles and the Phillies, the other half roots for the Giants and the Mets, and you all root for Rutgers even if no one in your family has ever gone there. How about those New Jersey Devils?

Half your graduating class went to Rutgers and the other half currently works there. And you know there is no West Brunswick.

You’re literally in the middle of the Taylor

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Ham vs. pork roll debate but can agree the grease trucks on College Avenue in New Brunswick served some of the best burgers and gyros you’ve ever eaten at 2 am, and you always look forward to Hoagiefest at Wawa.

You feel like the Jan Brady of the Garden State: the quintessential middle child, always coming in second to the urban cool of Hoboken or the adorable quaintness of Cape May. “But we’ve got Princeton and Highland Park!” you want to say. “And what about the Jon Bon Jovi rest area, huh?” It makes you want to pull Cindy’s pigtails and scream “Marcia, Marcia, Marcia!”

You fall asleep to the sound of traffic swooshing by on Route 18, Route 1, Route 9, Route 280, or the New Jersey Turnpike and pretend it sounds just like the ocean.

To see the real ocean, you go “Down the Shore” in the summer and don’t sit in traffic

on the Garden State Parkway. Pff. Take that North Jersey! And you’ve gone to Jersey Freeze hoping to see Bruce.

You listened to Magic 98.3 FM for snow day school closings.

You’re never more than 100 yards away from the nearest strip mall, lament the closing of the Route 18 flea market, still go to the Englishtown flea market, and spend time at the Menlo Park, Freehold, Brunswick Square, Quakerbridge and Bridgewater malls.

You’ve been to Topgolf on Route 1 in Edison and are still waiting for the go-kart lines to go down at the nearby Supercharged. That’s right, Central Jersey is home to the world’s largest indoor multi-level go-kart track.

You’ve hiked in Hacklebarney State Park and have taken the train to New York from the Hub City.

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You know you’re from South Jersey if…

Philadelphia is “the City”—not New York. We spend much time debating which bridge to take over the Delaware River to get to the City —the Walt Whitman or the Ben Franklin.

It’s pork roll (not Taylor Ham) and you eat it with melted cheese on a bagel or roll. Preferably from Wawa or Heritages. Not with “salt-pepper-ketchup” or whatever you people in North Jersey do. Pork roll is already salty enough and far too delicious to need ketchup.

We root for Philadelphia sports teams— Eagles, Phillies and Flyers. So the Devils have “New Jersey” in the title. Whatever. We bleed green, red and orange. The Phillie Phanatic comes to our community events. Gritty might steal our souls, it’s true, but he already stole our hearts. And Swoop says, “Go Birds!” Or he would if he could talk.

We do not “travel to the beach.” We “go downashore” to Brigantine, Ocean City, Wildwood and Cape May. We take back roads to get there. My back roads to Stone Harbor are: Route 55 south to Route 47 south, to Route 347 south to Courthouse Road. Now don’t steal my route and cause traffic!

We have our favorite produce stands for summer peaches, blueberries, corn and tomatoes. Some of those stands are just a table set up in front of someone’s house with an honor box to pay. There is a blueberry

festival in Hammonton each June.

Most of the farms in New Jersey are located here. We are the reason New Jersey is known as “The Garden State.” Over 25 percent of New Jersey farms are in Salem County alone.

We went to Storybook Land on school field trips and now we take our kids to this awesome small amusement park first built in the 1950s. The theme is nursery rhymes and there is even an old woman in a shoe.

We go camping or hiking in the state parks and forests of the Pine Barrens, and totally believe in the Jersey Devil. The Devil is probably who helped out the Russian in that episode of The Sopranos.

We endured the hassle of the constant construction on I-295, I-76 and Route 42. What a headache that was! Oh wait. It is still ongoing and probably will never end.

We put “jimmies” on our ice cream. What in the heck are “sprinkles?” That sounds like a craft project, not sugary deliciousness. Jimmie would agree.

We have a favorite diner and prefer it to IHOP for breakfast. My favorite is the Colonial Diner in Woodbury.

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Day Trips in NJ

Delaware River Railroad EXCURSIONS

The Delaware River Railroad Excursions runs weekends from May to the end of October . There are many events for the whole family. From gem stone mining, exploring the corn maze, and even picking pumpkins, there is something for everyone! The adults will enjoy the Winery train with a tour and tastings. The Polar Express, A Day Out With Thomas and Dino Days are all special events for the whole family. Buy tickets online.

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Jenkinson’s Aquarium

AQUARIUM

Come check out the newly renovated top floor at Jenkinson’s Aquarium where you can experience their new touch tank, visit Wally the sloth and his other rainforest friends and meet our newest addition, Turbo the harbor seal! Since June of 1991, the aquarium has been dedicated to educating the public on all aspects of marine life and conservation.

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Wild West City

THEME PARK

The Wild West City adventure begins the moment you enter the town with nonstop western shows and reenactments all day long. Interact with our historians and craftsmen who offer daily demonstrations or immerse yourself in the experience panning for gold at the Mine or roping a steer at the Cowboy Corral. Discover the Wild West in every season at Wild West City!

50 LACKAWANNA DR., STANHOPE | 973-347-8900

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Big Kahuna’s Water Park

PARKS & RECREATION

Big Kahuna’s Water Park offers exciting water adventures for the whole family! Enjoy weatherproof fun year-round in the indoor water park that features a retractable roof and arcade. The outdoor water park is free with admission Memorial Day – Labor Day. Parking is free.

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HOME RENOS We Love!

Three NJ designers share makeover inspo and pro tips for bringing new life to your home.

APPEAL Cozy

DESIGNER | Laurie DiGiacomo, Laurie DiGiacomo Interiors, Ridgewood

PHOTOGRAPHER | Tori Sikkema

A Ho-Ho-Kus couple and parents of two toddlers wanted to convert their cramped living room into a chic entertaining enclave free of kids’ clutter. Keeping budget and practicality in mind, DiGiacomo placed the homeowners’ existing mid-century leather swivel chairs in a circular configuration in the center of the room. She made the fireplace a focal point by installing a marble herringbone weaved tile, painting it charcoal gray and adding linen wallpaper to the ceiling.

DiGiacomo chose warm neutrals in a cohesive mix of taupe, beige and gray hues to evoke a sense of refinement. To amplify the party vibe, she had wall speakers installed behind the sheet rock to create an immersive experience with no messy cords for kids to trip over.

Result: A tiny treasure that makes a big design statement!

Pro Tip: Use large-scale elements like oversized lighting and art to make a room feel grander and more dramatic. Mirrors also amp up the glam factor and sense of spaciousness.

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KITCHEN A Busy Family

DESIGNER | Susan Barbieri, ASID, Susan Barbieri Interior Design, Hawthorne PHOTOGRAPHER | David Nelson

A family of eight wanted to modernize the dark, disjointed and dated kitchen of their colonial home in Sparta into an airy openconcept family/entertainment hub. Disconnected from the rest of the first floor by a long corridor, the narrow kitchen had an awkward layout, which included a backyard door centered along a kitchen wall, resulting in the loss of counter space. Using a design strategy that called for reconfiguring rather than adding space, Barbieri opened up the kitchen space and moved the back door out of direct traffic movement. A pantry and new counter surface were incorporated into the back entry and she added large windows and wide, easy-access French doors. An adjoining bathroom was relocated so the office beyond it became an uninterrupted part of the expanded kitchen. Barbieri chose white and blue colors with bright pops of berry accents and blended the home’s traditional crown molding, wood floors and paneled doors with stainless steel appliances, modern light fixtures and quartz counter tops.

Result: A sunny space where cheer is always cooking!

Pro Tip: Repeating colors, textures and materials throughout will impart a clean, cohesive and modern look.

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Multi-Layered

OUTDOOR LIVING

DESIGNER | Jennifer Pacca, ASID, Jennifer Pacca Interiors, Wyckoff

PHOTOGRAPHER | Marco Ricca

The designer was called on to create an all-purpose, multi-seasonal outdoor haven where a family of four and their extended family and friends could enjoy a resort-like experience in their Upper Saddle River backyard. Pacca based her design concept on a palette of black, white and tan to establish a sophisticated counterpoint to the greenery of the landscaping and the raw materials of the outdoor kitchen. She sectioned the patio into a seating area; a covered heated pavilion featuring an outdoor fireplace and TV, and a prepping/grilling/cleaning/ eating area. The furniture, made of reclaimed teak wood and stone, harmoniously blended with the natural landscape. Each piece’s organic and architectural shape added interest and defined the spaces; their large scale filled the oversized patio without overcrowding. The stone cocktail tables and chunky woven lounge chairs added texture. The cozy fabric woven chairs softened the large concrete dining table while the teakwood elements added just the right amount of warmth to the black-and-white scheme. Pretty and practical, the large pivoting outdoor umbrellas provided chic coverage from glaring rays so the patio can be enjoyed even on the hottest days.

Result: An escape from indoor life with a five-star resort vibe.

Pro Tip: Before building, design a detailed schematic that includes precise measurements for all planned features and furnishings.

— Nayda Rondon is a lifestyle, wellness and parenting writer, a children’s book author and a Hillsdale mom.

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(OPPOSITE PAGE) MY DAUGHTER’S CLOSET TRANSFORMED FROM A SINGLE ROD TO A TOP-TO-BOTTOM UNIT. (RIGHT) WE TRADED OUR OLD SCHOOL MASTER BEDROOM CLOSET FOR A NEW SYSTEM WITH LOTS MORE SHELVES AND HANGING SPACE.

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How revamping our closets helped my family feel lighter

have a closet confession: It’s been years since I’ve worn more than half the clothes in my closet. So when it became consistently challenging to find things, I made it my mission to purge. I quickly got on a roll, donating pants that were too small, heels that were too high and dresses that no longer served my work-from-home life. It was liberating to pass along things I didn’t need to make space for what I did. Despite my purging, it was clear that no amount of decluttering would fix the bigger issue: My antiquated closets just weren’t working. Our home was built in 1952, and the closet setup was low on utility. My main master bedroom closet was dated, with one hanging rod and shelf for my husband and I to share, and our other two closets (one for each of us) were also sorely lacking storage space.

I knew I needed a closet redesign but was overwhelmed by the choices and didn’t know where to begin. When I saw a promotion for Alcove Closets (alcoveclosets.com), I was quickly drawn in by the fact that the company is based in New Jersey, on the border of Lakewood and Brick, and has designers that will travel to your home (I live in Bergen County) to measure your closets and brainstorm the best use of each space. My plan was to redesign my three bedroom closets but after the consult, I also decided to invest in revamping my daughter’s closet plus our cramped coat closet.

Alcove designers use software to customize each setup based on your closet’s measurements so you can see many iterations of what your space could look like in real time. We wanted light shelves to open up our small closets and decided on white laminate units.

If you live in an older home, you probably have the old school sliding doors closet with one rod and a shelf. Our designer suggested we divide the closet I share with my husband in half with a hanging space for dresses on one side and double hanging space for tops and bottoms on the other, separated by two columns of shelves in the middle. Besides increasing our hanging space, the added shelves made way for more tops and bottoms which freed up room in my dresser and gave us more storage for shoes. The setup left plenty of height above the top shelf for my bags. Prices vary depending on your space but our sliding door reach-in closet (top right) runs about $1,899 and my daughter’s

closet (left) starts at $1,150, which includes installation.

Our other two bedroom closets were redesigned to have three hanging areas each, plus shelves for tops, bottoms and shoes. I chose to have my shelf divide my closet to make extra room for hanging space while my husband chose a model with more shelves. My daughter has two small closets with one rod each but needed more room for sweatshirts and T-shirts so we chose a system that maximized shelf space and left a bit of hanging space for dresses and jackets.

Finally, our coat closet was so tiny that all of our jackets were smushed. The solution? Replace one rod with two and increase the height so the lower rod is tall enough for longer jackets and the upper rod holds waist-length jackets to double our hanging space!

Want to redesign your closet? Here are a few things I’ve learned along the way that may seem obvious but are also easy to lose sight of:

Purging is everything. Avoid the temptation to fill every bit of added space in your new closet. Think about what you really wear and try to let go of what you don’t. One tip organizers recommend is to hang all your clothes with the hangers facing in the wrong direction. Each time you wear something, rehang it in the right direction. After 6-12 months, it’ll be easier to let go of the things you never wear.

Use the same hangers throughout. Once I revamped my closet, I replaced my old hangers with new ones that took up less space and were kinder to my clothes (no shoulder marks, etc.). I bought velvet hangers from Amazon Basics and it was a game changer.

Keep editing. It’s a process and you’ll need to keep letting go of what you don’t need (or what doesn’t spark joy as you channel your inner Marie Kondo) to keep things accessible and organized. Baskets and bins help (and look pretty, too). My new closets are a life changer and I already feel so much lighter. But I know I’ll keep tweaking and pruning to make sure each closet works best through every stage and season.

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DON’T MAKE THESE CLASSIC MISTAKES

In the early 2020s, when interest rates hovered around three percent, it seemed like everyone was desperate to put down roots in the Garden State, and the bidding wars and house flipping would never end. Yet here we are in 2024 and raised interest rates have cooled a once-sizzling market, resulting in some owners reluctant to sell, and many buyers are unable or unwilling to take on a mortgage at twice the rate it was a few years ago. Plus, home prices stayed fairly high, defying the conventional wisdom that as rates rise, prices fall. Why?

“There simply aren’t enough good homes for all the people who want to get in them,” says Amy Paternite, a sales associate with Coldwell Banker in Maplewood, noting the still-fierce competition, especially in towns with good commutes to New York City. Clearly, not everyone is willing to wait it out— families outgrow apartments, empty nesters tire of maintaining empty homes, and others need to move for a million reasons.

Whatever your timeline for buying or selling, avoiding these common mistakes will help you make the most of any market:

BUYER: Waiting for interest rates to drop

“The time to buy is now,” says Paternite. While it’s tempting to sit the market out, it’s typically a bad move long term, she says. Even if interest rates drop, prices may rise to meet the demand from sidelined buyers and sellers—it’s impossible to predict.

Over the course of a 30-year mortgage you’ll pay a lot less for your home by buying now at a lower price with a higher interest rate, says Leah Dowd, a sales associate with RE/ MAX Instyle Realty in Skillman. “You can’t change your home’s purchase price but you can refinance your interest rate when market conditions improve.”

SELLER: Overpricing your home

If you want to get the most money for your home, don’t puff up the list price. “You’ll

limit the number of prospective buyers that walk through, increase days on the market because your home will sit, and won’t achieve the highest selling price with the best terms,” says Dowd. Smart sellers price their home competitively, relying on market research and their agent’s professional knowledge to choose the number mostly like to bring in the bids.

BUYER: Being inflexible

Potential buyers need to decide what’s most important to them, whether it’s a great commute, top-ranked schools, a prime location, square footage, modern updates, an affordable price, or whatever matters most. “When buyers get too hung up on certain things, they might miss out on an incredible house,” says Dowd, noting this is especially true in terms of reconciling the price they want to pay and the reality of what it takes to get the home they want. “If a buyer isn’t willing to pay market value, there is a buyer

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out there who is willing to.”

SELLER: Spending on the wrong updates

Fixing your home to sell is smart … to a point. “There’s a difference between repairing chipped paint and any significant damages to a home, and investing tens or hundreds of thousands of dollars on upgrades and renovations which may not even appeal to potential buyers,”  says Stefani Werring, a sales associate with Weichert Realtors in New Vernon.  Some things have an amazing ROI, like fresh coats of paint inside and out. But a renovated country kitchen? Not if a potential buyer prefers mid-century modern. Instead, she suggests offering the cost equivalent of a renovation as a concession instead.

BUYER: Getting hung up on cosmetics

Yes, it’s hard to see past that cringe kitchen last updated in the ‘80s, but being able to see past cosmetic imperfections is crucial, says Werring. “Soliciting the help of a designer, or

even a friend or relative who has a good eye or vision for design, can save the buyer a lot of time and money,” she says, by allowing buyers to prioritize good bones over dated decor that can be remodeled.

SELLER: Not hiring a staging company

Even well-decorated homes tend to be cluttered and personal with family photos, which don’t show well since they make it harder for buyers to see themselves in the space. “The way you live in your house and the way you stage your house to sell are two totally different things,” says Paternite. The right design professional can transform a typical family home into a Pottery Barn catalog—which makes buyers swoon. “It evokes feelings,”  she says, and feelings lead to offers. Stagers streamline, rearrange, redecorate, and otherwise ensure what a prospective buyer’s first impression is: “Wow. I could live here.”  Wow isn’t exactly cheap (prices can cost upwards of $5,000), but

staged homes sell faster and for more money than non-staged ones do. It’s the cost of doing (good) business.

BUYERS AND SELLERS: Not working with an area expert

While your friend’s friend’s agent may be excellent in their own market, savvy buyers and sellers tap the local talent. “Working with a local expert will benefit you in ways you couldn’t have imagined,” says Paternite. From knowing which neighborhoods are trending to which rival agents are easy to work with, institutional knowledge is priceless. Plugged in agents may even be able to arrange off-market deals, simply because of close-knit relationships within the community. And the best part of working with a local is that they’ll be there for you when it’s time to sell.

—Jennifer Kantor is a lifestyle writer and mom of two from Maplewood.

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When you need an attorney, whose recommendation do you trust? We asked parents like you about the lawyers who’ve made a difference in their family’s lives at the most stressful of times. The result is a list of professionals who’ve gone above and beyond to advocate for their clients. From family law to estate planning to special needs, the lawyers on this list have been nominated by parents like you for being the best of the best. Thanks for voting—your recommendations will help families get exceptional representation when they need it most.

Best NJ Lawyers for Families

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n The list doesn’t imply endorsement by New Jersey Family; it’s a parent-to-parent referral list only.

n A name in boldface indicates the attorney has purchased an advertising profile on the page number that follows.

n The professionals on this list were nominated by readers who were surveyed by New Jersey Family between November 2022 and November 2023.

Lawyers are listed alphabetically by category.

BANKING

Grace C. Bertone • Hasbrouck Heights

BANKRUPTCY

Rebecca S. Ashkenazi • Union, p. 51

Sy Kim • Hackensack

Karina Pia Lucid • Bridgewater

Stuart D. Minion • Newark, West Caldwell

Edania C. Rondon • West New York

Andrew M. Wolfenson • Union, p. 51

BUSINESS

Grace C. Bertone • Hasbrouck Heights

Brad M. Kaplan • Berkeley Heights, Fairfield, New York

Jeremy S. Piccini • Hasbrouck Heights

CIVIL RIGHTS

Bradley Flynn • Philadelphia, PA

CRIMINAL DEFENSE

Mary Frances Palisano • Newark

Matthew J. Rosen • Fairfield

Stanley F. Werse • Millstone

EDUCATION LAW

Karen F. Edler • Morristown, Woodcliff Lake, p. 51

Bradley Flynn • Philadelphia, PA

Michelle L. Krone • Morristown, Woodcliff Lake, p. 51

Jacqueline E. Lasher •

Morristown, Woodcliff Lake, p. 51

ELDER LAW

Jane Carro Tiboni • New Providence

ENVIRONMENTAL

Grace C. Bertone • Hasbrouck Heights

ESTATE PLANNING

Rebecca S. Ashkenazi • Union, p. 51

Grace C. Bertone • Hasbrouck Heights

Cheryl Burman • Westfield

Susan K. Dromsky-Reed • Roseland, p. 48

Hillary D. Freeman • Princeton

Stuart M. Gladstone • Roseland, p. 48

Kelly M. Goldfine • Montclair, Ridgefield, Ridgewood, Saddle Brook

Ellen M. Goodman • Parsippany

Alex M. Hilsen • Cranbury, Red Bank

Brad M. Kaplan • Berkeley Heights, Fairfield, New York

Edania C. Rondon • West New York

Jane Carro Tiboni • New Providence

FAMILY LAW

Rita M. Aquilio • Red Bank, Watchung, p. 50

Jessica L. Arndt • Edison, p. 48

Rebecca S. Ashkenazi • Union, p. 51

Alyssa Bartholomew • East Brunswick, Freehold, Hackensack

Kristyl M. Berckes • Red Bank, Watchung, p. 50

Jamie N. Berger • Morristown

Jenny Berse • Westfield, p. 44

Samuel J. Berse • Westfield, p. 44

Daniel A. Burton • Red Bank, Watchung, p. 50

Joseph P. Cadicina • Morristown, Wyckoff, p. 52

Pasqua Sciancalepore Cadicina • Morristown, Wyckoff, p. 52

Melissa Cipriano • West Caldwell, p. 49

Aaron Cohen • Morristown, Woodcliff Lake, p. 51

Patrick T. Collins • Livingston

Michael J. Collis • Cherry Hill

Ashley Tate Cooper • Hackensack

LaDonna M. Cousins •

Parsippany, Short Hills, p. 53

Stacey A. Cozewith • Bridgewater, Hackensack, Morristown, Roseland, p. 45

Jerry S. D’Aniello • Bridgewater, Hackensack, Morristown, Roseland, p. 45

Carolyn N. Daly • Newark

Scott D. Danaher • Bridgewater, Hackensack, Morristown, Roseland, p. 45

Nicholas De Metro • Montclair, p. 50

Rosanne S. DeTorres • Clinton, Morristown

Carmen Diaz • Millburn

Carly DiFrancisco • Morristown, Wyckoff, p. 52

Nicole Donoian-Pody • Marlton

Mara L. Dooskin • Hackensack

Patricia A. Dulinski • Westfield

Sarah M. Eaton • Somerville

Ashley E. Edwards • Red Bank, Watchung, p. 50

Sandra C. Fava • Morristown, p. 49

Joseph Fritzen • Denville

Sean P. Gaynor • Newark

Laura Guinta Gencarelli • Bridgewater, Hackensack, Morristown, Roseland, p. 45

Elsie Gonzalez • West Caldwell,

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Allison E. Holzman • West Caldwell, p. 49

Armando R. Horta • Hackensack

Nancy Murray Horta • Hackensack

Robyn N. Howlett • Freehold

Sarah J. Jacobs • Morristown

Ruth Kim • Paramus

Nicole A. Kobis • Westfield

Amy Kriegsman • Parsippany, p. 53

Maria J. La Sala • Saddle Brook, p. 52

Cynthia J. Lambo • Red Bank, Watchung, p. 50

Jeralyn L. Lawrence • Red Bank, Watchung, p. 50

Heidi Ann Lepp • Somerville

Ronald G. Lieberman • Moorestown

Bart W. Lombardo • West Caldwell, p. 49

Joseph V. Maceri • Bridgewater, Hackensack, Morristown, Roseland, p. 45

Jarred McCart • Woodstown

Thomas R. McConnell • Morristown, Wyckoff, p. 52

Lauren A. Miceli • Edison, p. 48

Stuart D. Minion • Newark, West Caldwell

Laurie L. Newmark • Whippany, p. 46

Lisa P. Parker • Roseland

Adelaide Riggi • Bridgewater, Hackensack, Morristown, Roseland, p. 45

Catherine Riordan • Parsippany, p. 53

Edania C. Rondon • West New York

Matthew J. Rosen • Fairfield

Elizabeth Rozin-Golinder • East Brunswick, Freehold, Hackensack

William J. Rudnik • Annandale

Angelo Sarno • Bridgewater, Hackensack, Morristown, Roseland, p. 45

Angela M. Scafuri • Whippany, p. 46

Allen J. Scazafabo, Jr. • Morristown, p. 53

Steven M. Segalas • Hillsdale

Lynette Siragusa • Bridgewater

Sean A. Smith • Roseland, p. 48

Carl J. Soranno • Roseland, p. 48

Alison J. Sutak • Edison, p. 48

Paul H. Townsend • Whippany, p. 46

Amanda S. Trigg • Saddle Brook

Amy Wechsler • Red Bank, Watchung, p. 50

Bari Z. Weinberger • Parsippany

Allison C. Williams • Parsippany, Short Hills, p. 53

Pegeen C. Williams • Whippany, p. 46

Karen Tichenor Willitts • West Caldwell, p. 49

Edward A. Wojciechowski • East Brunswick, Freehold, Hackensack

Andrew M. Wolfenson • Union, p. 51

Jennifer L. Young • Cranford

Melissa B. Zemsky • Hackensack, Springfield

GENERAL PRACTICE

Celeste D. Miller • Belmar

LITIGATION

Patrick T. Collins • Livingston

Daniel R. Guadalupe • Hackensack, Holmdel

H. Lockwood Miller, III • Newark, Princeton

Mary Frances Palisano • Newark

Matthew J. Rosen • Fairfield

PERSONAL INJURY

Emily Urrico • Red Bank, Watchung, p. 50

Angela Cervelli Bennett • Teaneck

Edward P. Capozzi • Roseland, p. 48

Jeremy L. Hylton • Roseland, p. 48

Joseph M. Marabondo • Ediston

Stephen T. Raff • Paterson

William J. Rudnik • Annandale

PROBATE

Andrew M. Wolfenson • Union, p. 51

REAL ESTATE

Rebecca S. Ashkenazi • Union, p. 51

Grace C. Bertone • Hasbrouck Heights

Brad M. Kaplan • Berkeley

Heights, Fairfield, New York

Sy Kim • Hackensack

Joseph L. Mecca, Jr. • Paramus

Stuart D. Minion • Newark, West Caldwell

Edward Papalia, Jr. • Madison

Jeremy S. Piccini • Hasbrouck Heights

Edania C. Rondon • West New York

Steven M. Segalas • Hillsdale

Joy R. Spriggs • Plainfield

Andrew M. Wolfenson • Union, p. 51

SPECIAL EDUCATION/ SPECIAL NEEDS

Lori E. Arons • Hackensack, p. 52

Lenore Boyarin • Cranbury, Red Bank

Cheryl Burman • Westfield

Beth A. Callahan • Roseland

Keith T. Campbell • Westfield

Mariann Crincoli • Cranbury, Red Bank

Karen F. Edler • Morristown, Woodcliff Lake, p. 51

Bradley Flynn • Philadelphia, PA

Norma Francullo • Upper Montclair

Hillary D. Freeman • Princeton

Lori Gaines • Shrewsbury

David R. Giles • South Orange

Staci J. Greenwald • Cranbury, Red Bank

Greer Gurland • Westfield

Alex M. Hilsen • Cranbury, Red Bank

Michelle L. Krone • Morristown, Woodcliff Lake, p. 51

Sandra L. Lascari • Madison, Morristown

Jacqueline E. Lasher • Morristown, Woodcliff Lake, p. 51

Beth C. Manes • Westfield

Andrew I. Meltzer • Cranbury, Red Bank

Mary Frances Palisano • Newark

Melanie Ritter • Westfield

Joan Thomas • Cranbury, Red Bank

Denise G. Verzella • Westfield

Julie Warshaw • Somerset, p. 47

Jessica Weinberg • Westfield

TAX

Brad M. Kaplan • Berkeley Heights, Fairfield, New York

David J. Ritter • Roseland, p. 48

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BERSE LAW, LLC

Jenny Berse, Esq., Samuel J. Berse, Esq.

FAMILY LAW

Jenny and Sam Berse are dedicated to solving family law matters in courts throughout New Jersey. The firm handles cases involving married and non-married parties with issues including custody, parenting time, asset division, spousal and child support, modifications, pre-marital agreements, appeals, domestic violence and other family law matters.

SUPPORTING CLIENTS EVERY STEP OF THE WAY

“We fiercely advocate for our clients and think outside the box to come up with creative solutions and strategies to get them what they want,” says Jenny, who completed more than 600 continuing education classes and is trained in mediation and collaborative law. “Family law issues frequently cause or are accompanied by tremendous trauma or stress, so we’re there for our clients every step of the way.”

Jenny opened the firm 19 years ago and her son, Sam, joined in 2017 after completing coveted family court and appellate division clerkships. With an unrelenting determination and work ethic, Jenny is a tireless advocate for her clients.

MAINTAINING CLIENTS’ WELL-BEING

Berse Law is devoted to helping clients resolve the challenges and issues inherent in all family law matters to ensure a successful future. The attorneys provide practical advice and aggressive representation to achieve clients’ goals.

Sam Berse brings a formidable depth of knowledge and skill to every case. Intertwining creativity and common sense, he counsels his clients with a realworld approach that positions them for success. “Navigating a tough situation requires an experienced guide, and we’re aware of how important it is for our clients to maintain their emotional and financial well-being now and in the future,” Sam says.

Clients choose Berse Law because of its excellent reputation for success in even the most challenging matters, including two recent victories in published, law-making cases. Berse Law works not just for their clients, but with their clients.

Backed by exceptional skills, professionalism and dedication, they stop at nothing to achieve the best possible results.

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[BEST NJ LAWYERS FOR FAMILIES] SPECIAL ADVERTISING SECTION 217 Elmer St., Westfield • 855-326-5291 • berselaw.com
L-R:Jenny Berse, Samuel J. Berse

SARNO da COSTA D’ANIELLO MACERI LLC

Angelo Sarno, Esq. , Jerry S. D’Aniello, Esq. , Joseph V. Maceri, Esq. , Stacey A. Cozewith, Esq., Scott D. Danaher, Esq. , Adelaide Riggi, Esq. , Laura Guinta Gencarelli, Esq.

FAMILY LAW/ MEDICAL MALPRACTICE/ PERSONAL INJURY

Sarno da Costa D’Aniello Maceri LLC (SDDM) is a legal powerhouse in family law, medical malpractice and personal injury. Angelo Sarno, Jerry D’Aniello, Joseph Maceri, Stacey Cozewith, Scott Danaher, Adelaide Riggi, Laura Gencarelli and their team have provided strong, personalized legal representation throughout NJ since its inception in 2009. With 27 attorneys in offices throughout Essex, Somerset, Bergen and Morris counties, Sarno leads the firm and ensures that each client receives tailored, precise legal representation.

SKILLED ATTORNEYS

Sarno’s family law division focuses on complex family law matters including high-conflict divorces, business valuations, patent and trademark valuations, marital tort claims, non-cash employee compensation, custody litigation and trusts. The firm’s medical malpractice and personal injury division is led by Paul da Costa, who dedicates his practice to protecting the rights of all individuals—one such example is a $44 million settlement in which the State of NJ paid families of Menlo Park and Paramus veterans home residents whose deaths were attributed

to the COVID pandemic.

Each of SDDM’s attorneys has been hand-selected for their vast experience in their respective practice areas; they can determine underlying issues that other firms overlook, and find solutions that may not be obvious. Many of the firm’s attorneys are certified by the Supreme Court of New Jersey—a title held by only two percent of NJ lawyers.

A FOCUSED APPROACH

The firm was built on a simple foundation: delivering client-focused representation with the primary objective of achieving the best possible results. SDDM’s client-first focus guides everything the firm does—from the first meeting until the case is resolved.

“We believe our growth has been a direct result of the way we approach our cases and how we treat our clients,” Sarno says. “We support families every step of the way.”

All offices are interconnected and operate seamlessly, and SDDM is fully adapted to handle all matters remotely.

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SPECIAL ADVERTISING SECTION [BEST NJ LAWYERS FOR FAMILIES] Roseland / 973-274-5200 • Bridgewater / 908-927-0200 • Hackensack / 201-488-3366 • Morristown / 973-922-3900 • sarnolawfirm.com
L-R: Laura Guinta Gencarelli, Jerry S. D’Aniello, Adelaide Riggi, Angelo Sarno, Joseph V. Maceri, Stacey A. Cozewith, Scott D. Danaher

FAMILY LAW

The attorneys at Townsend, Tomaio and Newmark LLC always focus on strategy and are committed to providing unwavering support and compassionate guidance for their clients. The firm practices in all areas of family law, including divorce, custody, alimony and child support, domestic violence and abuse and neglect matters, as well as other domestic related issues.

ADVOCATING FOR FAMILIES

Founding partners Laurie L. Newmark, Paul H. Townsend and Dominic A. Tomaio built their firm on the promise: “Our strategy today is protecting your tomorrow.” They are fierce litigators, experienced mediators and court-approved parent coordinators. “We handle all types of matters with compassion, from the complex to the more standard dissolution,” Tomaio says.

After almost 25 years in practice together, the attorneys have demonstrated that regardless of life circumstances they will maintain the same strategic level of advocacy that the firm is built upon. “In our firm you are more than just a client.

We understand the enormity of your situation and work to achieve results so that you can move forward,” Townsend says.

UNWAVERING PERSONALIZED SERVICE

The firm has grown to include partners John Clancy, Grace Eisenberg, Angela Scafuri, Nicole Cioffi, Rita Jerejian and Carly Abrams, as well as nearly 20 additional employees including attorney Pegeen Williams, who all share the same commitment to maintaining unparalleled personalized service for clients. “Our firm offers the resources and depth of a large law firm with the customized service of a boutique law firm,” Newmark says.

The firm’s seasoned divorce and family law attorneys ensure that throughout the process of resolving any family matter, their clients feel empowered—not overwhelmed. The team fully invests in their clients, and works tirelessly to pave each family’s path towards a brighter tomorrow.

“That is who we are and how we practice as a firm—strategic, committed and aggressive, always protecting your tomorrow,” Newmark says.

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TOWNSEND, TOMAIO & NEWMARK LLC Laurie L. Newmark, Esq., Paul H. Townsend, Esq., Angela M. Scafuri, Esq., Pegeen C. Williams, Esq. [BEST NJ LAWYERS FOR FAMILIES] SPECIAL ADVERTISING SECTION 100 South Jefferson Rd., Ste. 200, Whippany • 973-539-0075 • ttnlaw.com
(L-R): Angela V. Tafro, Angela M. Scafuri, Jason J. Miller, Carly J. Steinberg, David Giannini, Paul H. Townsend, John E. Clancy, Laurie L. Newmark, Rita T. Jerejian, Dominic A. Tomaio, Nicole A. Cioffi, Pegeen C. Williams, Grace Eisenberg

Julie Warshaw, Esq.

SPECIAL EDUCATION LAW

Julie Warshaw is dedicated to ensuring that children with disabilities have access to and derive benefit from a free and appropriate public education (FAPE). Practicing since 1993, Warshaw helps children with autism, dyslexia, learning disabilities, cognitive impairments, language deficits, allergies, medical conditions, school-related anxiety, phobia and refusal, and other special needs to obtain an Individualized Education Program (IEP) or 504 Plan with the appropriate educational placement, services and accommodations to meet each child’s unique needs.

EASING PARENTS’ ANXIETIES

“When a child thrives in a learning environment, you know you did the right thing for that child,” she says. A mom herself, Warshaw has close family members with learning disabilities and understands how important it is for parents to be able to reach her directly with questions and concerns. “New clients are pleasantly surprised to find that I always answer my own phone,” she says. “I develop relationships with my clients, and I enjoy when they update me on their progress. It’s so rewarding to watch them succeed.” An

experienced mediator, litigator, and collaboratively-trained attorney, Warshaw represents children who have been victims of discrimination, institutional abuse, harassment, intimidation, bullying, cyberbullying and retaliation, as well as children and young adults with disabilities in the criminal justice system. Her practice areas also include guardianships, collaborative divorce, family law, mediation, and corporate and civil litigation.

EXPERIENCE WITH SPECIAL NEEDS

A member of the New Jersey Special Education Practitioners Group, New Jersey Bar Association School Law Committee, and other professional organizations, Warshaw is a frequent guest speaker and consultant on special education matters and anti-bullying cases. Passionate about American Sign Language (ASL), she was instrumental in Bill S1760’s Legislative process by building awareness for the need to have ASL recognized as a world language in New Jersey, and for high school students to receive credit toward graduation requirements. It became law in 2015. She is the author of IBD Friendly Recipes for Crohn’s and Colitis and Justin’s Garden

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WARSHAW LAW FIRM, LLC
220 Davidson Ave., Ste.
• 973-433-2121 •
SPECIAL ADVERTISING SECTION [BEST NJ LAWYERS FOR FAMILIES]
208, Somerset
warshawlawfirm.com

Arndt, Sutak and Miceli, LLC is a women-owned law firm exclusively practicing divorce and family law. Jessica L. Arndt, Alison J. Sutak and Lauren A. Miceli understand how emotional and stressful family law matters can be, and work hard to guide clients through the legal process while minimizing anxiety and fear.

Recognized individually by the Middlesex County Bar Association, the attorneys work as a team to ensure their clients’ best interests are always first and foremost.

“We’re all parents of two children each, so we like to tell our clients we’re in the thick of it with them as far as parenting is concerned— and we think that helps our ability to counsel

and work with families,” Miceli says.

Each of the attorneys brings their own distinct skills to the table when working with clients. With previous experience as a prosecutor for domestic violence and sexual assault cases, Arndt is the firm’s go-to trial lawyer.

Sutak provides sensitive, compassionate counsel while Miceli is a fierce advocate and communicator. Each attorney adapts her approach to suit each client’s individual needs.

“We all love practicing family law because we strongly believe we can make a positive difference in our clients’ lives as they navigate these incredibly personal and difficult issues,” Miceli says.

BRACH EICHLER LLC

Edward P. Capozzi, Esq., Susan K. Dromsky-Reed, Esq., Stuart M. Gladstone, Esq., Jeremy L. Hylton, Esq.

David J. Ritter, Esq., Sean A. Smith, Esq., Carl J. Soranno, Esq.

Brach Eichler LLC is a leading multipractice firm whose attorneys are recognized for their dedication to serving the legal needs of families, including plans for the care and financial security of children, marital formation or disruption and personal injury disputes and litigations.

Stuart M. Gladstone and Susan K. DromskyReed, co-chairs of the trusts and estates practice, ensure clients’ wishes are carried out in the future while David J. Ritter structures tax strategies. “It’s not easy to think about these issues, but your family must be protected,” explains Dromsky-Reed. “We help with wills and living wills, healthcare and financial powers of attorney, guardianship plans for

your children and trustees over your assets.”

When considering marriage or facing the consequences of divorce, custody, guardianship or a trust dispute, Brach Eichler’s family law practice addresses these life changes on the family dynamics. Carl J. Soranno and Sean A. Smith, both certified mediators, skillfully provide awardwinning counsel to families in need of effective solutions. “Each matter has differing priorities and challenges. We help our clients achieve their unique objectives,” says Soranno.

Edward P. Capozzi and Jeremy L. Hylton help personal injury clients fight for full and fair compensation when injured through the careless actions of others. “We’re your support system, and our team’s compassion and expertise will deliver top quality results,” says Capozzi.

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LLC Jessica L. Arndt, Esq., Alison J. Sutak, Esq., Lauren A. Miceli, Esq. 515 Plainfield Ave., Ste. 202, Edison • 732-867-8894 • asmfamilylaw.com FAMILY LAW / DIVORCE L-R: Jessica L. Arndt, Alison J. Sutak, Lauren A. Miceli
ARNDT, SUTAK & MICELI,
101 Eisenhower Pkwy., Roseland • 973-228-5700 • bracheichler.com FAMILY LAW / ESTATE PLANNING / PERSONAL INJURY / TAX L-R: (Back row)
L.
J.
K. Dromsky-Reed,
(Front
Jeremy
Hylton, David
Ritter, Susan
Stuart M. Gladstone, Edward P. Capozzi
row) Sean A. Smith, Carl J. Soranno

CIPRIANO LAW OFFICES, PC

At Cipriano Law Offices, PC,  Melissa Cipriano and her team provide comprehensive, holistic service, pursue fair resolutions and achieve meaningful results that serve their clients’ best interests. With more than 120 years of family law experience, the firm maintains an eye on settlement while zealously advocating for their clients.

Melissa Cipriano, Allison Holzman, Bart Lombardo and Elsie Gonzalez are qualified economic mediators who work tirelessly toward resolutions of even the most complex matters. Both Cipriano and Holzman are statewide-approved parenting coordinators. As a court-appointed guardian ad litem, Cipriano

develops solutions for marital and custody issues while helping clients protect their business interests.

The firm’s legal team builds relationships with clients to fully understand their goals and concerns. While they can efficiently resolve disputes through negotiation, mediation or collaboration, they are prepared to aggressively advocate for clients in court when necessary. An accomplished litigator, Karen Willitts specializes in appellate work and adoption; along with Lombardo and Gonzalez, she is also well-versed in domestic violence representation.

“No matter what your family law matter is, our team can help,” Cipriano says. “Doing what’s best for a family is always our top priority.”

Sandra

Acompassionate, creative attorney and certified mediator, Sandra C. Fava provides thoughtful, diligent representation in family law matters. She remains closely connected to clients while helping families manage changes in their lives, which has especially been the case over the past two years.

“It’s so important to find an attorney who can work creatively on your case,” she says. “I pride myself on thinking outside the box to develop effective strategies and innovative solutions to navigate the backlogged court system and reach an end result faster.”

Fava and her team blend the personalized service of a boutique firm with the resources of

a national firm. She handles family law matters including prenuptial agreements, separation and divorce proceedings, domestic violence and mediations and arbitrations. Fava helps clients with issues of alimony, child custody and support and equitable distribution and division of assets and debts.

She is committed to helping families move forward, and connects clients with professionals to address their financial or emotional needs. She has a podcast called Life After Love Gone Wrong for people who are contemplating or going through a divorce. “As a mom of three, I can never forget the importance of a human touch when working with families and supporting them through a difficult time,” she says.

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Esq. , Elsie Gonzalez, Esq. 175 Fairfield Ave., Stes. 4C/D, West Caldwell • 973-852-3346 • ciprianolaw.com FAMILY LAW L-R: (standing) Elsie Gonzalez, Bart W. Lombardo, Allison E. Holzman (sitting) Karen Tichenor Willitts, Melissa Cipriano. Photo: John Agnello Photography
Melissa Cipriano, Esq., Allison E. Holzman, Esq., Bart W. Lombardo, Esq., Karen Tichenor Willitts,
FOX ROTHSCHILD, LLP
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Esq. 49 Market St., Morristown • 973-994-7564 • foxrothschild.com/sandra-c-fava DIVORCE / FAMILY LAW
Fava,

LAWRENCE LAW

Jeralyn L. Lawrence, Esq., Rita M. Aquilio, Esq., Daniel A. Burton, Esq., Kristyl M. Berckes, Esq., Ashley E. Edwards, Esq., Emily Urrico, Esq., Amy Wechsler, Esq., Cynthia

At divorce and family law firm

Lawrence Law, Jeralyn Lawrence, Rita Aquilio, Kristyl Berckes, Daniel Burton, Ashley Edwards, Cynthia Lambo, Emily Urrico and Amy Wechsler provide a sophisticated and efficient approach to issues from alimony, child support and equitable distribution to custody and parenting time.

The attorneys have experience in all facets of divorce and matrimonial law, including litigation and mediation. “We’re strategic and compassionate, and achieving our clients’ goals—and tirelessly advocating for their best interests—remains our primary concern,” says Lawrence, a divorce trial attorney, trained mediator and arbitrator, and mother of three.

Immediate past president of the New Jersey State Bar Association, Lawrence helps families resolve personal matters with or without court intervention. “My dad was a juvenile detective so I gained a perspective on the law early on in life. I wanted to help people going through emotional and difficult life situations,” she says.

The Lawrence Law team guides families through the difficult process of divorce or a breakup toward their best outcome. The firm was chosen among the top family law firms in the New Jersey Law Journal’s Best of 2023 survey.

“We help families reach a better place as they navigate their journey—and help them be as happy as they can be,” Lawrence says.

An attorney since 1991, Nicholas De Metro has represented clients as a divorce lawyer for several years. De Metro witnessed firsthand how emotionally and financially destructive divorce litigation is to the entire family—especially children—so in 2009, he changed his practice and dedicated himself to helping families going through the divorce process. He now devotes his practice solely to divorce mediation to limit the emotional pain and economic impact on families while assisting clients with improved methods of co-parenting. A compassionate, solution-oriented and neutral mediator, De Metro provides a nonthreatening environment for couples to resolve issues such as the division of assets, debts, alimony and child support. “Many clients have

told me that I introduced issues they never even considered,” he says.

An accredited divorce mediator by the NJ Association of Professional Mediators, De Metro guides couples using a practical, even-handed approach. He clarifies divorce law and diffuses disputes, which provides both spouses with better control over the terms and conditions of their divorce. He is adept at helping couples develop creative, long-term solutions to complex issues that result in fair, reasonable and comprehensive settlements.

He conducts in person as well as virtual sessions for NJ couples located throughout the state. “I’m committed to helping spouses resolve all of their issues and get divorced—without it costing a fortune,” he says.

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J. Lambo, Esq. 744 Mountain Blvd., Watchung • 55 North Bridge Ave., Ste. 5, Red Bank • 908-645-1000 • lawlawfirm.com MATRIMONIAL / FAMILY LAW L-R: (Back row) Kristyl M. Berckes, Ashley E. Edwards, Amy Wechsler, Jeralyn Lawrence, Emily Urrico, Amy Shimalla (front row) Rita M. Aquilio, Cynthia J. Lambo, Daniel A. Burton
MONTCLAIR DIVORCE MEDIATION ™ Nicholas De Metro, Esq. 80 Park St., Montclair • 973-747-6428 • montclairdivorcemediation.com DIVORCE MEDIATION

PRICE, MEESE,

The Education Law Group at Price, Meese, Shulman & D’Arminio, P.C. enforces parents’ and students’ rights at all levels of education. “We draw from personal experience and knowledge of the law to passionately and effectively advocate for our clients,” says attorney Michelle Krone.

The attorneys reach their clients’ goals in education, special education, guardianship, Social Security and special needs estate planning matters.

“We navigate disciplinary mazes, including harassment, intimidation and bullying (HIB) complaints and disciplinary hearings,” says Karen Edler, founder of the Education Law Group.

The lawyers are passionate about improving clients’ situations. “We recognize the hurdles so many families face, and strive to alleviate the burden placed on parents to obtain an appropriate education for their children,” says attorney Jackie Lasher.

Aaron Cohen, chair of the Family Law Group, represents clients in all family law matters and is appointed by the courts to serve as a parent coordinator and guardian ad litem

His wide breadth of experience with litigants in these varied capacities provides him with unique perspectives from which to approach cases. “I’m proud of my hands-on approach and ability to craft solutions that help clients move forward,” he says.

Andrew

The attorneys at Wolfenson & Ashkenazi, PC strive to give clients a fresh start while providing pragmatic solutions to their family law, real estate and estate matters. Andrew M. Wolfenson, Rebecca S. Ashkenazi and their multilingual team combine the personalized attention of a small firm with the services and resources of a larger law practice. Joined by two associates, they handle a myriad of legal issues so that they are truly a “full-service” firm to their clients.

Wolfenson, a father of three, formed the firm in 2002; in 2020, he was joined by his long-time friend, Ashkenazi. After practicing in New York, she wanted to join Wolfenson’s practice due to

its family-like atmosphere when representing clients dealing with important life transactions and matters.

“We handle matters such as divorce, real estate, estate planning and probate matters, bankruptcy, and business law, so we’re uniquely positioned to address any issue that may arise for families,” Wolfenson says.

The firm provides straightforward, honest assessments of each case to help clients devise realistic goals and settle matters as quickly and efficiently as possible.

“We treat each client as if they are our only client as we guide families through important life transactions, like divorce, buying a home and protecting that asset,” Ashkenazi says.

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Aaron Cohen, Esq., Karen F. Edler, Esq., Jacqueline E. Lasher, Esq., Michelle L. Krone, Esq. Woodcliff Lake / 201-391-3737 • Morristown / 973-828-9100 • pricemeese.com FAMILY LAW/EDUCATION/SPECIAL NEEDS LAW L-R: Aaron Cohen, Michelle L. Krone, Karen F. Edler, Jacqueline E. Lasher
SHULMAN & D’ARMINIO, P.C.
WOLFENSON & ASHKENAZI, PC
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LORI E. ARONS, ESQ.

Lori E. Arons understands the plight of parents of children with special needs firsthand. “My kids were born with disabilities, and I ran into the same brick walls everyone else does. Even with the advantage of being a lawyer, navigating the process was difficult,” she says. “I’m compelled to use my knowledge and experience to help children get the services they need.” Passionate about empowering families, she strives to help clients obtain appropriate educational services quickly and efficiently to ease the emotional and financial burden.

Arons holds a certificate from William & Mary Law School Institute of Special Education Advocacy, is a member of New Jersey Special Education Practitioners, and was named by NJBIZ as one of the 2019 Power 50 in Education.

“There’s no greater reward than making a positive difference in the life of a child,” she says. “I do it by advocating.”

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CADICINA LAW, LLC

FAMILY LAW / MATRIMONIAL LAW / DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

The firm members at Cadicina Law, LLC, have been litigating and resolving divorce, matrimonial, family law and domestic violence matters for more than two decades. The growing firm recently expanded to include a second office in Wyckoff for the convenience of Bergen County clients. A court-approved economic mediator, Joseph Cadicina performs private divorce mediation and arbitration services for families seeking alternative methods of dispute resolution. The firm and its attorneys have been recognized by New Jersey Monthly, Super

Lawyers, Martindale-Hubbell, and as “Best Lawyers” by US News & World Report. “We provide our clients with the expertise and resources of a larger firm, but with the personal touch of a boutique family law practice,” he says. “We pride ourselves on helping families get through a difficult time in their lives—and always explaining the reality of the circumstances.”

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Maria J. La Sala is a detail-oriented, compassionate attorney who prides herself on being responsive and committed to offering personalized attention to bringing conflicts to an amicable resolution. Practicing family law for three decades, she takes the time to understand each family’s situation to advocate the best outcomes. She says she chose to practice family law to help kids. “A divorce can be traumatic for the entire family, and adults often lose sight of its impact on children… so everything I do is always with their best interests

in mind,” she says. “I firmly believe that every case can and should be resolved through mediation and there’s nothing more rewarding to me—especially when children are involved—than helping a couple craft their own settlement and resolution.”

Maria is highly experienced in mediation and helping couples avoid costly litigation to reach a settlement.

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Practicing family law for 20 years, Allen Scazafabo prides himself on his accessibility to clients and ability to devise creative solutions while enacting positive change in the law. He provides a personalized, intuitive approach to meeting his clients’ needs and achieving their goals.

A partner of Riker Danzig, Scazafabo collaborates with the attorneys at the 140-year-old firm to help clients resolve issues that arise during their divorce, from taxes to real estate.

“We know how important these issues are for

families, so we go the extra mile for our clients,” says the father of three. “I often work around the clock and make sure they can always reach me.”

Certified by the NJ Supreme Court as a matrimonial law attorney, he was named to the Advisory Board for the American Academy for Certified Financial Litigators in 2020 and served on the Family Law Executive Committee of the NJ State Bar Association.

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RIORDAN FAMILY LAW

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Riordan Family Law attorneys take a collaborative approach to divorce, support, domestic violence and custody cases. Catherine Riordan, Amy Kriegsman and their team provide individualized attention and dedicated service to every client.

“We’re aggressive advocates for our clients, but we also have compassion for their situation,” Riordan says.

Both certified family mediators, Riordan and Kriegsman pride themselves on being accessible to clients and developing a rapport that encourages

trust, honesty, candor and communication. Amongst other volunteerism, they represent victims of domestic violence.

“We appreciate that our clients are putting their trust in us—so we’re always completely honest with them,” she says. “We love helping families find their resilience, and we’re proud to be part of their success as they move forward into a new chapter of life.”

Catherine Riordan, Esq. Amy Kriegsman, Esq. 1719 Rte. 10, Ste. 313, Parsippany 973-537-1700 • Riordanfamilylaw.com

WILLIAMS LAW GROUP

FAMILY LAW

Williams Law Group is a leading family law firm with a full-service child welfare division dedicated to child abuse, neglect and maltreatment. A Fellow of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, Allison C. Williams and her team are skilled in complex financial matters and negotiating, mediating and litigating family law disputes. “As someone who has personally experienced child abuse and neglect, I felt my life’s purpose was to help others,” Williams says. “We serve as compassionate anchors for our clients

through the storm of their family dissolution or dispute.” The firm’s attorneys are degreed in Psychology, and serve as mediators and parenting coordinators for families. They frequently lecture at the local, state and international level. “Our expertise informs our approach with clients, which is focused on helping them reformulate their lives,” she says.

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Choosing the Right

CHILDCARE

How to decide between daycare or preschool

It’s hard to imagine sending your baby to daycare or preschool for the first time. Deciding where to go is a big decision. What type of environment will be best for them?

How will they deal with the separation—and how will you? Here, experts share advice on how to find your child’s happy place.

DAYCARE VS. PRESCHOOL

For starters, it’s important to know what type of setting you prefer for your child. Daycare can start for kids as young as 6 weeks old, while a traditional preschool setting is for 3- to 5-year-olds. Daycare is typically a full-day, but many preschools are now extending their hours, too. Both offer learning and lots

of playtime amid a varied, structured schedule, so that kids can socialize and interact with one another.

Nicole Maupai, regional director for Apple Montessori Schools, says you need to first decide which care approach matches your parenting style. For example, Montessori promotes independence and the freedom for preschoolers to choose their own activities. Think about if you need part- or full-time care, and if your child may have issues with separation. Then, decide how much structure you’d like in your child’s environment.

“Play allows children to express creativity, use their imagination, facilitate language development, support social-emotional development, increase concentration, and more,” Maupai says. “Children can still play with materials that also teach academic

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concepts, but it is important that they are allowed to have free play as well.”

ASK QUESTIONS

Ask each school about what’s important to you, says Lori Burger, regional marketing manager for Primrose Schools. “Make a wishlist of the ideal features, then be sure to ask each school for a clear explanation of everything it provides, as well as the fees. Having all the facts and costs upfront will help parents decide which option is the best fit for their family,” she says.

What is the curriculum? Is it unstructured playtime, or is there an early learning approach? Ask for research about how kids in their program learn in the first five years and according to the state’s early learning standards.

Maupai says to ask for a copy of the daily schedule. Ask about the qualifications of the teachers on staff, and how they approach new concepts. Make sure to check their accreditation status.

Don’t skimp on security questions. Ask if the doors stay locked, what the emergency procedures are and how the school communicates these things with parents.

Ask who is available to speak with during dropoff or pickup in case there’s an issue, and how the center communicates progress or concerns. You can also ask about opportunities and events for you to get involved.

Burger says to ask upfront about hours of operation, any enrichment activities they offer, and if they provide well-balanced meals and snacks. Don’t forget to ask about naptime, and if your child needs to be potty trained. You can also ask if there’s anything you can take from the school to help reinforce learning at home.

You should also consider the distance of the center from whoever may be picking up the child after hours, especially if grandparents are helping out.

PLAN A VISIT

Take your child with you and have a meet-and-greet with the director and staff. The environment should inspire your kids.

Burger said when visiting a center, watch how the kids and caretakers are interacting, and get a sense of the atmosphere of the classroom. Does it feel warm, loving and secure? Are the kids—and teachers—genuinely happy? Are there lots of smiles? Is there a lot of natural light? As a parent, what’s your gut feeling inside the rooms?

“First impressions are important,” says Burger. “Many parents can tell if a school is right for their family based on how they and their child are greeted, how the children attending are interacting and how their questions are answered by the teacher or school director. Parents should also evaluate the condition and cleanliness of the facility and look more closely to ensure adults are interacting with children and each other in appropriate, positive ways.”

START YOUR RESEARCH NOW

It’s never too early to think about where you may send your child, so the sooner you start your research, the better. Maupai said many programs fill up a few months out, so decide early on about your child’s home away from home.

“Starting the research process as soon as families are expecting helps the search feel less rushed and overwhelming,” says Burger. “The arrival of a new baby brings a flood of emotions, and having the facts of each option beforehand can help.”

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ALL GROWN UP

How to get your family involved in a greener Garden State with community gardens and CSAs

New Jersey is known as the Garden State thanks to our bountiful agriculture. While some grow fruits, vegetables and herbs in their own backyards, others like to get out and connect with neighbors through community gardens and CSAs (community-supported agriculture). Both can be great ways to find your green thumb while meeting new people, making friends and making NJ more sustainable. Here’s what you need to know to join in the fun:

COMMUNITY GARDENS

You may have seen them in your town or neighborhood—community gardens are pieces of land cultivated by a group or by individuals, collectively. They can be found in urban, suburban or rural areas and may grow flowers, vegetables or anything the group chooses. These spots differ from public parks because area residents are the ones to design, build and

maintain the garden.

Community gardens can fight food insecurity, improve community health and nutrition through both food and physical activity, help the environment since food is grown and eaten locally, and increase social bonds in the area. You can join an existing community garden (though waitlists can be long) or start one with others who are interested by using flyers or social media.

Here are just a few examples of community gardens and how you can participate:

Duke Farms Community Garden Hillsborough

This community garden opened in 2011 and has since expanded to 460 plots. Gardeners here practice organic, sustainable methods such as no-till gardening and the use of natural mulches for water conservation. All levels

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(ABOVE) VEGGIES AND FLOWERS FROM FAIRGROWN FARM IN PENNINGTON. (RIGHT) A MEMBER OF THE COMMUNITY GARDEN AT DUKE FARMS IN HILLSBOROUGH WATERS HIS PLOT.

Community Supported Agriculture (CSA)

CSAs are a way food producers can connect directly with consumers by allowing them to subscribe to the farm’s harvest. Visit localharvest.org for a complete list of CSAs. Here are a few to try:

Fairgrown Farm

of gardeners are welcome to join. Each plot is individually maintained by renters who must live or work in Somerset County and are available on a first-come, first-served basis. The community donates pounds of produce to local food banks. Though they are sold out for this year, there are still plenty of ways for families to explore nature and get involved.

The Theodore Largman Community Garden Morristown

The Morris Township Community Garden at ValleVue Preserve is a 3-acre organic garden that gives individuals the opportunity to grow quality produce for their families whle helping the environment. They also have a “Giving Garden” that produces food for local food banks and kitchens. Each plot is privately maintained by individual renters who live in Morris Twp. Plots are rented on a first-come, first-served basis.

Sunset View Farm Andover

This community garden was founded by the Grinthal family in 2004 and is known as a “slice of heaven to escape to.” They grow a variety of crops, have a vibrant community garden, host sharecroppers and raise animals, too. You can rent a 30-by-15 garden plot that’s tilled and ready to plant. Meet fellow gardeners, get some fresh air and have fun with themes such as Zinnia Madness, pickle making and “The Big Dig” (Dahlias), plus Pasta on the Porch to show off your tomato sauce at the end of the season.

At this farm in Pennington, the season runs from May to November. Customers stop by weekly to pick up their crop share, which might include cherry tomatoes, cucumbers, zucchini and more. Joining their CSA offers perks like pick-your-own so kids can develop a connection to where their food comes from and explore a diverse, healthy diet.

Westfield Area CSA

Farmer John Krueger and his crew at Circle Brook Farm in Andover grow fresh, organic produce and deliver it for $25-$40 a week, depending on the size of the share you purchase. Locations include Westfield, Scotch Plains, Mountainside, Springfield, Cranford, Plainfield and Rahway.

Chickadee Creek Farm

This woman-owned market-style CSA in Pennington allows customers to begin a debit account and then pick up produce using their account credit. They also offer a trial membership for brand new members and work-share positions where you can work for your food!

Ort Farms

You can choose 18 or 23 weeks and have your share pre-boxed or hand selected. There are multiple pickup day options or if you live within 8 miles of Ort Farms in Long Valley they will deliver. Their CSA Kids Club features activities like pick-your-own sessions and farm tours for members’ kids.

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APRIL/MAY

Spring is finally in the air so grab the kids and get out to one of these fun events!

April 6-14

Cherry Blossom Festival

Newark comes alive with cherry blossoms in the spring. Celebrate with a bike race on April 6, followed by a 10K run on April 7, a 1-mile run and Family Day on April 13, ending with Bloomfest! on April 14. branchbrookpark.org/ cherryblossoms.html

April 14

Daffodil Day

Be part of this decades-old tradition at Reeves-Reed Arboretum in Summit, where you’ll get to see more than 50,000 beautiful bulbs in bloom. There will be spring-themed activities, a market, artwork and The Green Goats. reeves-reedarboretum.org

Through April 14

PEEPS in the Village

Peddler’s Village in PA will be as sweet as ever when nearly 100 marshmallow creations decorate the Visitor & Event Center. There will be wall art, dioramas and sculptures made with the beloved Easter candy. peddlersvillage.com

May 27

Tour of Somerville

Line the streets of downtown Somerville to watch America’s longest-running competitive cycling event. You can join the Family Fun Ride before watching the bicyclists in the 25-mile Mildred Kugler Women’s Pro Race and the 50-mile Kugler-Anderson Memorial Men’s Pro Race speed by. tourofsomerville.com

April 20-21

Brick Fest Live

A giant “block” party is coming to Edison! There will be life-sized models made from tens of thousands of LEGO blocks. Kids can build their own structures, meet contestants from the LEGO Masters TV show, dive into the giant Brick Pit, enter the derby race and build bricks that shine under blacklight. brickfestlive.com

April 20

Fur Baby Food and Music Fest

Leash up your furry friends and bring them to the Burlington County Fairgrounds in Columbus. There will be a dozen food vendors, live music by Grand Theft Audio NJ and Guy Smiley, face painting, a dog agility course, a pet costume contest, pet adoptions, games and vendors. megabiteevents.com/festivals

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April 20

Grayrock N Roll Spring Festival

The stars of the show will be the horses, goats, pigs, chickens, ducks, lambs and turkeys who live at Grayrock Farm Sanctuary in Clinton. There will be live music, food vendors, dozens of crafts for sale and dog and cat adoptions. facebook.com/GrayrockFarmSanctuary

April 27

Rutgers Day

Rutgers fans wait all year for the celebrations along College Avenue, on Busch campus and in the Cook/Douglass area of New Brunswick. There’s everything from activities and food to agricultural displays, plant sales, a book sale, a farmers market, games for kids and info from hundreds of local organizations. rutgers.edu/event/Rutgers-day

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All events are subject to cancellation so call ahead before heading out.

May 3-5

New Jersey Wine & Food Fest

Are you a foodie who loves wine? This is the place to be. You’ll get to mingle with the world’s top chefs and winemakers while sampling their creations. Book a stay at Crystal Springs Resort in Hamburg and check out the Biosphere pool, farm-to-table dinners, spas and Minerals Hotel arcade. crystalgolfresort.com

May 4

Rock & Roll Steampunk Fair

Dress in your best costume and join others who love all things Steampunk, which celebrates Victoriana and the Industrial Revolution. There will be shopping, street performers, live music and more in Washington Borough. washingtonbid.org

May 18-19 and 25-26; June 1-2 and 8-9

Renaissance Faire

Come to the Shire of New Crossford (aka Columbus, NJ) for jousting events, stage shows, live music, fire breathing stunts, knights, bubble magicians and acrobatics. njrenfaire.com

May 24-27

Memorial Day Weekend

in The Wildwoods

Heading to Wildwood for Memorial Day Weekend is a New Jersey tradition. Choose from the Unlocking of the Ocean Ceremony, 5K Run to Remember, Fitness in the Plaza, Boardwalk Craft Show and Kite Festival (pictured above). wildwoodsnj.com

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Mother’s Day Love

Show the mothers and mom figures in your life some love at these unique events. Explore dozens of wineries and vineyards through the Garden State Wine Growers Association. There will be events with tastings, food and live music May 10-12 along the Mother’s Day Wine Trail. newjerseywines. com/winetrails. Go extra for brunch with clothesline bacon, pretzel-crusted crab cake and cheesecake lollipops at one of David Burke’s restaurants. chefdavidburke.com Have high tea at The Mathis House in Toms River, where you’ll sip tea alongside a spread of scones, pastries and finger sandwiches inside a stunning Victorian manor. mathishouse600main.com Plan a day of shopping at the Spring Bazaar in Asbury Park. On May 11 and 12 you can stroll through the Grand Arcade of Convention Hall to shop locallymade goodies. asburyparkbazaar.com Spend Mother’s Day on May 12 at the Second Sunday Concert Series at Van Vleck House & Garden in Montclair, where the New Jersey Symphony Chamber Players will perform classical music on the lawn. montclairfoundation.org

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Healthcare For Her

During their lifetime, 43 percent of women will experience an issue with their sexual wellness. And they’ll spend 40 percent of their lives in a menopausal state. Working with her sister Somi Javaid, a board-certified OB/GYN , West Orange mom of two Komel Caruso is addressing this head on with HerMD, which opened its first New Jersey location in Millburn last year. Here, Caruso explains what sets it apart from other medical practices and how women can best advocate for their health.

New Jersey Family: What inspired the launch of HerMD?

Komel Caruso: HerMD is inspired by our mother, who at age 45 was rushed into quadruple bypass surgery with a condition so severe that if the heart attack had come, she would not have survived. In the time leading up to it, she was repeatedly dismissed by doctors despite her obvious symptoms. For Somi and me, that experience led us to HerMD and has influenced our drive to ensure women are no longer dismissed.

NJF: How is HerMD unique?

KC: We are a female-founded physician-led women’s health provider. We operate within an insurance-based system and ensure all of our providers are trained in sexual health and menopause, which nationwide only 20 percent of providers are.

NJF: What is your treatment focus?

KC: Our patients come to us for their annual gynecological exam, menopause, sexual health and wellness, aesthetics, and we go from there. Our providers often see both mothers and daughters from the same family and provide services that go well beyond traditional gynecological care.

Our patients are treated in appointments that range from 20 to 40 minutes depending on how much time the patient and provider need.

NJF: What are the biggest misconceptions about menopause?

KC: For so long, menopause has been whittled down to “just” a hot flash when in reality there are so many symptoms that impact us from head to toe. They include brain fog, dryness, joint pain, incontinence, insomnia, low libido, anxiety and depression—the list goes on. There are so many safe and effective treatment options for menopausal symptoms.

NJF: What about perimenopause?

KC: I’m a proud perimenopausal woman myself! During perimenopause, we can experience all the head-to-toe symptoms of menopause and it can last up to 10 years prior to menopause.

NJF: What’s your best advice to help women take charge of their health?

KC: Remember you’re not alone. Go to events and find your community. With education comes empowerment and the ability to advocate for yourself.

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