How to Master Your Self-Confidence We always hear so much about the idea of being confident. We want to be confident and act as our best selves. In our pursuit, we desire to become a fully radiant light that's bold, beautiful and brave. Society has put somewhat a pressure to monitor or measure the confidence levels we have.
by Amena Aphsori @coachamenpshori For a number of reasons, whether it is lack of selflove, self-esteem, self-worth or self-acceptance, many people find it difficult to build their selfconfidence. This often goes back to our roots. It takes us back along a journey to our childhood. Back when we were perhaps unwanted, didn’t receive attention or affection as much as we’d like, maybe didn’t get the reciprocation of being loved by the ones we loved, and faced a lot of shame and embarrassment when it came to our body. Perhaps we didn’t love ourselves the way our soul desired and deserved. Perhaps we couldn’t give ourselves the approval and validation that we have been aching to receive from others. It is crucial to know that self-confidence is an inside job. It is about learning to value and honor yourself, bringing out the best in you and trusting yourself. In order to boost your self-confidence, it is extremely important to acknowledge and reflect upon yourself as an individual and know that you too are worthy of all that you are. You too are valuable for what you bring to the table and not just by your performance, but also by your being. Believe and recognise your worth and abilities. Know that you are good enough and you do not need to listen to those negative voices which tell you otherwise. Do not fall into the trap of comparison or insecurity. Rather choose to remember and have faith that you are valuable and precious in what you have to say, to stand for and to be. In short: believe in your worth. Establish a core of self-confidence from the inside out and tell yourself ‘ I can do amazing things. I am doing something awesome. I will be going through beautiful experiences.’ Believe that you are wonderful and magnetic.
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Pamper yourself. Recognize your value. Place yourself as someone truly expensive and honourable. Start with self-belief. Make a list of all the good things you admire about yourself and read it from time to time. Get really comfortable with your body. I cannot stress this enough. Love every bit of it. You might feel tensed in some particular areas such as the shoulders, back, waist. Breathe in and tap into those areas by relaxing and letting loose of the muscles. Let go of the stiffness and the rigidity while embracing the flow and fluidity throughout your body. Check in very often to see if you are in a comfortable position physically. Your posture, laidback spine, alignment in your shoulders would be a boost to your confidence. You can practice this in any and every situation. Look at yourself multiple times a day and tell yourself ‘I love you, with all the imperfection, flaws and marks. You are gorgeous. You are radiant. You are light.’ Practice this positive self-talk. If you do this consistently your brain will condition your mindset to develop self-confidence faster. Your image will rise above and beyond & so will your self-confidence.
Be excited, happy, joyful and abundant so that when you speak, your energy is in high vibration and that would boost your confidence level. Smile. Use eyecontact. Create a natural flow and tune into your voice. When we consciously and deliberately practice being enthusiastic intentionally we start gradually making ‘FUN’ a daily part of our lives. It becomes the new norm. Our energy is everything. When we learn to tune in to our energy and vibrate it to higher levels of activation, we release our potent self-confidence.
