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Within Our Grasp Even without a nationwide approach to decarbonize our energy sector, renewables in the last ten years have decreased their cost by 70 percent for wind power and 80 percent for solar panels. This significant cost reduction has led to widespread use of clean energy which has reduced the projected global temperature to 3.6 degrees

Celsius by 2100.

Even better news, peer reviewed studies has indicated that current renewables and existing technology on a massive scale could meet 80 percent of the global needs for energy by 2030 and 100 percent by 2050. This would be accomplished through increased energy efficiency, electrification of all energy sectors, and decarbonization of the grid through a mix of generations sources, including residential roof top solar and solar plants, onshore and off shore wind farms, wave energy, geothermal energy, and hydroelectric and total energy.

We need legislation that will incentivize industry to shift away from fossil fuel burning toward clean, and efficient energy.

Since all of us have a carbon foot print, increasing the cost of such products will influence us to change our lifestyles. This approach will stabilize the climate by decarburization of our economy and the use of technology to capture and sequester carbon.

To achieve a comprehensive approach necessary to leave fossil fuels in the ground requires a change in the system. Putting a price on carbon emissions will influence industry to self-regulate and encourages households to reduce their carbon foot print and increases investment in green energy.

The best news we have a solution all we need is the political will to enact Energy Innovation and Carbon Dividend Act H.R. 2307 increases the cost of burning fossil fuels and returns fees collected to households. This Act not only avoids significant increases in global temperature by keeping fossil fuels in the ground but

creates jobs and distributes dividends to every household.

Ronald M., Petoskey Democracy vs. Autocracy The nation is challenged by state and national legislatures’ efforts to do whatever they can to make voting more difficult. That effort reminds me of policies which would be made in China or Russia. Dictators are continually voted into office, but the vote tally never seems quite honest. In autocratic countries, a party is attempting to take power away from the people. When you add the sedition attack on the Capital on Jan. 6, there is a horde of people in the Republican Party believing that democracy allows too many people to vote against you. So you attack the election process.

Manipulating the system, thinking you can lessen the votes of your opponents or call it an unfair election, is not the way democracy works. That is the very vote legislation that the GOP has initiated in the Michigan Senate. Republicans have come up with 28 election reforms to a process that has been safe, honest and fair. Why? Because their candidate did not win.

I am suspicious when a party continues to find fraud and dishonesty behind every action of their opponent. It is “projection.” Seeing in others what would be true of themselves.

Republicans running in the next elections need to be challenged about what has been happening in state legislatures right now. To what end are you attacking the voting process?

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CONTENTS features Tiffany’s Café..................................................7

Life On The Margins Up North.......................10 TC’s Jewish Community................................16 Labor of Love...............................................18

columns & stuff Top Ten.........................................................5

Spectator/Stephen Tuttle................................6 Opinion..........................................................8 Weird............................................................9 Dates........................................................20 Advice......................................................23 Crossword..................................................24 Nitelife.......................................................26 Astrology.....................................................25 Classifieds................................................26

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top ten Big Win for Michigan’s Military Women

Last week Gov. Gretchen Whitmer proclaimed June 12, 2021, Women Veterans Recognition Day, honoring Michigan's 44,700 women veterans. To celebrate, she also proposed a big gift: an investment of $105.8 million — $50.9 million state and $54.9 million federal — to modernize current facilities used by the Michigan Army National Guard (MIARNG). The funding would be used to address inequities that exist in the facilities Michigan's female service members utilize, most of which were designed and constructed decades ago for forces that were entirely male. (Today's force has nearly 1,500 women serving.)

MIARNG has 37 facilities that will be improved — if the legislature includes Photo courtesy Michigan National Guard the investment on the budget bills it’s negotiating with the governor. Among them: The Grayling Armory stands to receive $3.5 million ($1.75 million federal, $1.27 million state funds); the Grayling Army Airfield Armory would receive $3 million ($2.25 million federal and $.75 million state funds); and the Traverse City Armory could receive $2.5 million ($1.25 million federal, $1.25 million state funds.)

Says Whitmer: "Michigan women have put their lives on the line to serve our country for generations, and it's time they get the respect and recognition they earned. While I am proud to declare June 12th Women Veterans Recognition Day, we need to make sure our women veterans have the year-round support to employment and educational opportunities, healthcare, mental health services, and housing when they return home. With this proposed investment, we are also demonstrating to our female service members that we are serious about ensuring equity within our state."

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Boyne Mountain Resort in Boyne Falls will again host the Dirty Dog Dash on Saturday, June 26, beginning at 8:30am. The race route will cover 5km across the slopes of Boyne with competitors climbing, crawling, wading, and sliding to conquer the numerous obstacles in front of them. This year's post-race festivities will be more spread out but will still feature live music and cold beer for those 21 and older. Register at boynemountain.com

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The Other Black Girl

For the past two years, ambitious twenty-something Nella Rogers has been an editorial assistant at Wagner Books; and as the only Black person in a starkly white department, Nella is all but running in place. That is, until Hazel-May McCall is hired. At first, Nella’s thrilled at the thought of a little company. But her delight quickly turns to doubt when a series of upsetting events sends Hazel soaring to the top of the office ladder while Nella is left at the lower rungs. Is Hazel really to be trusted? From debut novelist Zakiya Dalila Harris comes "The Other Black Girl."

Equal parts satire and suspense, this genre-bender of a book will have readers racing to the very last page.

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tastemaker Minogin’s Indian Tacos

Did you ever stop to think how weird it is that, no matter what your ethnicity, you probably eat far more Italian, French, Polish, Mexican, Thai, Chinese, or just about any food from far away countries than you do the food of your own country? We’re not talking about hot dogs and apple pie. We’re talking about the original American eats, like Manoomin (wild rice) and berries, whitefish, wild ramps, and maple sugar candies — all of which you can find at Minogin Market, the nonprofit food hub in Mackinaw City. As well as local and traditional Native American vegetables, fish, food products, maple syrup, arts, the business incubator boasts a cookhouse whose rotating menu fuses local and crosscountry Native American specialties. One to try: Mary Powell’s famed Indian Tacos made with bison, served on soft, rich, melt-in-your-mouth fry bread with all the fixins. We love it paired with Minogin’s Iced Tea that’s sweetened in true North style, with maple rather than sugar. Eating lighter? Try to catch the Whitefish and Manoomin Salad with an Iced Hibiscus Tea. Keep tabs on the ever-updating menu by searching “Minogin Market” on Facebook, or treat yourself to a multitude of scrumptious surprises simply by showing at to shop and eat at 229 S. Huron Ave., in Mackinaw City. (231) 427-7001, www.ziibimijwang.com/

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THE PERFECT SUMMER READ

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mily Henry, New York Times bestselling author of Beach Read, will talk about her sparkling new novel at the National Writers Series virtual author event on June 24 at 7pm.

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Take a Mini-Vacation with Author Emily Henry

On the hunt for the perfect warm-weather companion? New York Times bestselling author Emily Henry joins the National Writers Series on Thursday, June 24, and she’s about to take your beach bag by storm. Her newest novel, “People We Meet on Vacation,” follows the protagonist pair of Alex and Poppy. The unlikeliest of friends for more than a decade, these two are fire and ice in more ways than one. But every year, they reconvene for a week of R&R. That is, until one ill-fated excursion ended it all. So, how do you fix a broken friendship?

Easy: Take another vacation. Named a Most Anticipated book of 2021 by Oprah Magazine and Newsweek, amongst many others, this is one summer read you won’t want to miss. Guesthosted by another best-selling author, Brittany Cavallero, this virtual event begins at 7pm. For tickets and more information, see nationalwritersseries.org

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Keep your kids learning and creating with Summer Class for Kids at Oliver Art Center in Frankfort. Starting July 5 and running every Monday and Tuesday through Aug. 10, each class will include a brief lesson on an artist, his or her artistic period, and most famous works, plus give kids the chance to take on different projects relating to the day’s topic.

Some classes feature an outdoor activity, so kids are encouraged to come dressed for painting and the weather. Topics will include sculpture, plein air, watercolor, printmaking, hieroglyphics, and famous artists such as Klimt, O'Keefe, and Woods. All supplies are included but classes are offered at no charge thanks to the generosity of the Sally Guzowski Family Foundation. “They made it possible for us to give back to our community,” said OAC Executive Director Mercedes Michalowski.

Registration is required; go to tinyurl. com/3acmd2ut. Can’t make a Monday or Tuesday class? Good news for you, too: The art center’s creative space has also reopened, allowing you and your kids to peruse books on art, artists, and museums at any time the museum is open.

PRIDE that knows no season Up North Pride usually holds its multitude of events celebrating Pride Month every year in late June, but to keep its diverse range of attendees and locals safe from COVID-19, the group canceled the local celebration in 2020. This year, they’re bringing the whole shebang back — for October. Translation: You can celebrate and support the region’s LQBTQIA+ community now and later. So plan on attending popular favorites like Drag Night (starring RuPaul’s Drag Race alum BenDeLaCreme!) and the Visibility March Oct. 15 and 16. And this month, make a date to celebrate Pride with a safe and celebratory June warm up, a visit to local art exhibits celebrating pride in three locations across northern Michigan: Iron Fish Distillery in Thompsonville, Farm Club in Traverse City, and Short’s Brewing Company in Elk Rapids. Each display, up until June 30, offers space for artists from the LGBTQIA+ or other marginalized communities to explore the title theme of “Catharsis” while welcoming the public to explore the same and celebrate together after so much time apart. Learn ore about the June exhibits and the October celebration at upnorthpride.com.

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bottoms up Trattoria Stella’s Agropolitan For a sweet-and-tart start to the longest night of the year — June 21 — or any other summer night, look no further than the Agropolitan at Trattoria Stella. Nestled snugly in the basement of the Grand Traverse Commons, Stella’s been garnering street-cred for both its standards and service since it opened its doors in 2004; its masterful in-house bar program — courtesy of proprietress and sommelier, Amanda Danielson — is no exception.

A true “bar book” staple, the Agropolitan cocktail is a kicked-up version of the classic Cosmo. Featuring house lemon-infused Grand Traverse Distillery wheat vodka, Cointreau orange liqueur, fresh lime and raspberry juices, and simple syrup, this cool summer sip is shaken, strained, and served up in a chilled coupe glass. Though we think it pairs best with a cheeseboard and friends, the Agropolitan is just as delicious alone. $13 at Trattoria Stella, 1200 W 11th St., Traverse City Michigan. (231) 929-8989. www.stellatc.com

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LONG-TERM HEADACHE

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by Stephen Tuttle The Michigan Legislature is contemplating yet another bad decision. This time they'd like to strip away the right of local communities to regulate short-term residential rental properties. It is, they say, all about private property rights.

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It would mean Traverse City's somewhat complicated ordinances declaring where short-term rentals can and can't exist, and the rules governing them, would be meaningless. The proposed legislation would allow them anywhere residential dwellings exist. Local noise, traffic, and nuisance ordinances would still apply.

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It might not increase the true value of a home, but it would most certainly inflate the price of that home and those in the immediate vicinity, encourage speculative investors to overpay for properties on the promise of lucrative weekly rental income and, in a worst-case scenario, destroy the integrity of well-established neighborhoods.

This region is already experiencing dramatic increases in home prices as the housing bubble keeps growing. Unless you're one of the relative handful of people selling your home, it just means an increase in your property taxes. If you're a buyer, it means the number of homes in your price range will continue shrinking.

It's fairly easy to understand why some legislators are favorably inclined to such legislation or don't care; tourism and shortterm rentals aren't much of an issue in their districts. It's quite a bit more difficult understanding why those supposedly representing our interests — State Representative Jon Roth and State Senator Wayne Schmidt — would support replacing local control with a one-size-fits-all bit of business that likely won't fit us at all.

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It's doubly odd since both Roth and Schmidt like to claim their conservative bona fides, including strong support of local control. Local control of public schools, local control of medical and recreational marijuana rules, even local control of COVID-19 restrictions or lack thereof.

And they're quick to criticize the yoke of Big Brother, federal or state, oppressing the local governments that are, after all, closest to the people they represent. But not local control of housing?

Schmidt characterizes as “garbage” the notion that real estate agents have bought his support. Maybe, but he has received $26,100 in campaign contributions from Realtor PAC, the political arm of the Michigan Association of Realtors, over the last decade. It isn't the

most special-interest money Schmidt has gobbled up, but it is in the top 10.

As I've written before, we have a real-world example of the consequences of similar legislation elsewhere. Arizona passed such a law stripping localities of the right to regulate short-term rental properties, and it is in the process of destroying Sedona, a tourismdependent community of just under 11,000 in the beautiful red rock country about 100 miles north of Phoenix. Affordable housing was always scarce there, but since the local government no longer controls short-term rentals, it's virtually non-existent.

Median home prices have skyrocketed to $625,000, fully 20 percent of Sedona's housing inventory is now short-term rentals (more than 1,000 are listed as short-term rentals, while only about a dozen long-term rentals are available), and 40 percent of the Sedona workforce live outside the city.

If Traverse City cannot regulate its housing inventory, we might see a repeat of Sedona here.

Meanwhile, TC continues its Quixotic quest for something akin to workforce housing downtown. The current windmill tilting is to convert a city-owned surface parking lot into a four-story retail/residential building aimed at the “missing middle,” those making between $45,000 and $78,000 annually. Now, all they have to do is find people willing to move downtown because there aren't many people working down there full-time making almost $22 per hour, the amount you'd need to earn to get to the $45,000 annual income level.

It's not as if we, and the entire northwest Lower Michigan region, don't need the housing; by most accounts, we are hundreds if not thousands of residential units, both rental and owner-occupied, behind what we need.

Apartments.com has less than a dozen longterm rental properties currently listed for Traverse City and no in-town apartments.

Zillow isn't much more hopeful or helpful.

Median home price here has soared to $329,000, so ownership is no more attainable than finding a reasonably priced rental.

(Somebody can afford them, though, since homes for sale are quickly purchased and rental units quickly occupied.)

Legislation creating a land rush of shortterm rentals and prohibiting local elected officials from doing anything about it will only make both housing availability and costs much worse. Short-term rentals will become a long-term headache as we sacrifice our sense of community to the delusion of easy money and greed of the speculators.

Legislation creating a land rush of shortterm rentals and prohibiting local elected officials from doing anything about it will only make both housing availability and costs much worse. Short-term rentals will become a long-term headache as we sacrifice our sense of community to the delusion pf easy money and greed of the speculators.

TIFFANY’S CAFÉ IN EMPIRE

Landmark shop still going strong — and expanded — under new owners

By Ross Boissoneau Tina and Mark Dunphey know better than to mess with a good thing.

“This has been Tiffany’s for over 40 years,” says Tina.

True. But while the ice cream shop in Empire has long been a tradition for beachgoers and locals alike, the Dunpheys have only owned it since September 2020.

So if it ain’t broke, well, Mark and Tina aren’t looking to fix anything.

They will continue to serve ice cream and sandwiches to those stopping in town to visit the beach or the Friendly, Grocer’s Daughter, or any other Empire staples. (Or really, anyone else who wants to stop in and get a cone.)

REWIND The location has been an ice cream shop of one sort or another since the ’40s. In the ’70s, as Witt’s End, owners Bill and Helen Witt used the west half of the cozy shop as a souvenir and knick-knack shop. In 1985, Dick and Betty Owens changed that part of the building to a coffee shop, which it has been ever since. When Peiter and Peggy Schous bought it in 2014, they broadened the concept to include sandwiches as Little Finger Café.

Mark Dunphey has long had the itch to buy Tiffany’s. “Seven years ago when it was for sale I wanted to do it. We’d just had a child, and Tina said, ‘Are you out of your mind?’ She was right — it was the wrong time.”

That was then, and when it came up

for sale last year, Mark brought up the idea again. This time around Tina was more receptive, and the couple made it their own.

Tiffany’s offers 16 flavors of Hudsonville and Ashby’s ice cream, plus soft serve. It’s also a complete coffee shop, with cappuccino, espresso, chai latté, and has a small menu of artisan sandwiches courtesy of the Little Finger Café, also known as the western half of the building. “This side is what I like and am comfortable with,” says Tina, gesturing to the ice cream and coffee shop portion of the building. “He’s the food side.”

FALL LOVIN’ HAPPENED SO FAST While the couple initially envisioned Tiffany’s as a summer-only kind of place, they decided to stay open for a while last fall after purchasing it, and they were pleasantly surprised by the business they did.

“September, then October were amazing,” said Tina. The continuing influence of the pandemic provided a larger customer base as people were working from home and kids were similarly attending school remotely. The chance to get out and grab a cool creamy treat was enticing to those longing for an end to being relatively home-bound.

Mark’s full-time job is as a teacher at St. Mary’s in Lake Leelanau, while Tina is youth minister at St. Philip Neri in Empire. That gives the couple a summer break to run the ice cream shop. It also helped them find a crew, a challenge in a time when nearly every shop has a “Help Wanted” sign in the window.

“Because I’m a teacher and she’s a youth minister, kids know us,” said Mark. A recent example: After one of his students heard from her sister how much she enjoyed working there, the student approached Mark to see if he would hire her, too.

FAMILY TIME Perhaps the best part for the couple is that, even with the addition of a new business to their working lives, the Dunpheys have been able to keep their family close. Not only do 18-year-old Sage and her six- and eight-year-old brothers do their share of work at the shop (the boys are apparently invaluable potato chip shelf stockers), the Dunpheys moved into the apartment in the back of Tiffany’s. Going from a threebedroom, two-bathroom home to a much smaller two-bedroom, one-bath home attached to a shop was an adjustment, but Tina called it freeing, noting it allowed them to pare their belongings.

The work-living situation is not without its pitfalls. For one thing, there’s the siren call of ice cream late at night. For another, it’s harder to get away from work. Mark recalled making homemade waffle cones late one night when a sheriff ’s car drove by on patrol. The officer peered in, no doubt curious why someone was in the store at 1 a.m.; Mark, burning the midnight oil, gave the officer a thumbs up and went back to his waffle cones.

Besides providing customers with a multitude of options for food and beverages, Tiffany’s has a unique draw that underscores

the quaint town’s classic vibe.

“It’s nostalgic,” says Tina, noting the shop has changed little inside or out over the past several decades. Everyone remarks on the spinning stools at the bar, she said, while the old-fashioned tables and ice cream chairs also help set the mood.

“They’re the original tables and chairs,” says Mark. One set had been in storage in Leland; another was rescued from another friend. Also nostalgic: The shop doesn’t accept credit cards, Apple pay, or the like.

It’s all cash — and luckily for out-of-town customers who aren’t already in the know, there’s an ATM across the street.

The menu includes summer staples such as cherry chicken salad wraps, a turkeyavocado-cheddar Panini sandwich, and kids’ choices like grilled cheese and PB&J. Mark holds sway in the kitchen, at least until their chef starts. A new addition is chicken Shawarma, which Mark said has been the most popular item on the menu.

“We’re beach food,” says Tina. “This is a family place. People vacation here.” And if those people are lucky enough to stay on through fall — or better yet, live there year-round — the Dunphey family will be there, too.

Hours for ice cream are 11am–9pm Monday through Saturday, 12pm–9pm Sunday. Little Finger sandwich shop keeps the same opening hours as Tiffany’s but closes at 6.

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SHORING UP THE PUBLIC TRUST, NOT SEAWALLS, DURING HIGH WATERS ON THE GREAT LAKES

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by Jim Olson “And it never failed that during the dry years, the people forgot about the rich years, and when the wet years returned, they lost all memory of the dry years. It was always that way.”

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Flying west in early June, after passing over the still-white peaks and deep gorges of the Rockies, the landscape turned reddishbrown, like recent photos of Mars, with residue of past riverbeds winding and dissipating into nothing. Lake Mead, the lifeblood for the Southwest, is now on the critical care list as the West enters the driest period in 1,200 years. What a contrast with the lush landscape and overflowing waters I’d just left in Michigan.

When I reached Southern California and sat down to write this piece on how we might frame a better way to manage the conflicting interests over today’s high water levels in the Great Lakes, I recalled Steinbeck’s stark observation about the lapse in the nature of Homo sapiens’ memory.

Just eight years ago, in 2013, the Great Lakes hit historically low levels, beaches grew wide, and a chorus of residents, businesses, and communities turned to the state and federal governments for permission to disturb the public bottomlands to recreate beach conditions and extend docks and other infrastructure.

By 2019, the Great Lakes had rebounded to unprecedented high levels, seeming to wash away memories of the recent dry years and stir up a frenzy for state permits to armor the public shoreline with steel pilings and rock seawalls to protect public and private property.

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Today, surface waters in Lake MichiganHuron have receded somewhat but remain much higher than their long-term average.

Concerns remain regarding not only high water levels due to climate change but also the impacts of voracious shoreline-armoring on neighbors, the environment, and wildlife, as well as the public trust rights of people to safely access the public shoreline and water.

As I contemplated the more than six-foot swing in Great Lakes levels over just six years, I realized during my stay in California that our swing is not much more than the daily tidal range along the West Coast. Of course, no one builds homes in the Pacific tidal zone. Imagine if the same dramatic change took place each day along Lake Michigan.

Natural forces and fresh memories would define the no-build zones for us, too.

In this sense, perhaps the rapid rise in Great Lakes water levels is a memory aid, helping us recall the high and low years and the folly of fighting them both. The roughly 30-year cycle between highs and lows appears to be gone. Instead, we’ve entered uncharted waters: more frequent and intense storms, more extremes, and an unprecedented severity of impacts to shorelines, riparian property, public beaches, infrastructure, and coastal wetland riverine ecosystems.

FLOW will host a free webinar — Managing High Water and High Tension along the Great Lakes Shoreline — at 1pm June 29. Want to hear frontline, scientific, regulatory, and legal insights into efforts at the state and local level to manage high water impacts and public trust rights?

We must rethink our expectations and prepare for the even more devastating impacts from climate change to come.

First, we need to step back and understand our existing legal and policy framework to dispel unfounded assumptions about the rights of private riparian property owners to armor or obstruct the public shores of the Great Lakes. Based on ancient law adopted by the decisions of the U.S. and state supreme courts, the waters and bottomlands up to the natural high water mark are owned and held in public trust by the government as sovereign for its citizens. The public trust imposes a high and solemn duty on the government to protect these waters, as well as the bottomlands and shorelines, for all citizens to access, and exercise their rights to boat, fish, drink, recreate, and seek sustenance. This trust benefits all members of the public, so it is paramount to private property rights.

Second, governments must take charge to protect the public trust by regulating any activities that impair it. For example, earlier this year, after consulting with scientific and legal experts, Chikaming Township, a scenic southwest Michigan community on Lake Michigan, passed an anti-armoring ordinance that prohibits the placement of long-term structures or materials on the shore, but permits properly placed sandbags or tubes that disappear through natural forces when water levels drop. Likewise, the state denied armoring permits there under Michigan’s Great Lakes shoreland protection laws because the landowners failed to establish they had no alternatives to a structure several hundred feet long.

We need more state and local leadership to protect the public trust, and stronger public policy and laws to support their actions on behalf of the people.

Climate change and other forces are colliding such that memories of the wet years and dry years — the highs and lows of the Great Lakes — now coexist. With our collective amnesia cured by crisis, we must shore up the public trust, not seawalls, along the Great Lakes shoreline.

Jim Olson, a nationally prominent environmental and public trust lawyer, is senior legal advisor at FLOW, the nonprofit law and policy center he founded in Traverse City a decade ago to keep the waters of the Great Lakes Basin public and protected.

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Sajitha had left her home 11 years ago and walked just 1,600 feet to the home of her neighbor, Alinchuvattil Rahman, who at the time was 24 years old. Reportedly, the couple believed their romantic relationship was threatened by their differing religions, so Rahman settled her in a locked spare bedroom in his parents' home, where she spent the next decade watching a small TV using headphones. Rahman's brother, Basheer, said Rahman was intensely secretive about the room and kept it locked at all times; his bad temper discouraged his family from asking about what was going on. "During the day, as everyone was at work, Rahman and Sajitha would have the house to themselves," Basheer said. The room had no bathroom; Sajitha would crawl out a window at night to relieve herself. This spring, Sajitha left the home and Rahman followed shortly after; his family reported him missing, but Basheer soon "spotted Rahman by chance" in another village, where he and his beloved have set up their new home.

Weird Fashion Crocs went on sale less than 20 years ago, but they're already experiencing a "renaissance," according to The Independent.

And for the Spring 2022 season, Crocs are getting a crossover boost from luxury fashion house Balenciaga: New models feature a stiletto heel (which looks more like a Lego piece) under the traditional green or black perforated upper. The new model may cost as much as $1,000, but social media isn't on board. One tweet called them "an actual nightmare," and another commenter said she is "irrationally angry."

If the high-heeled Crocs aren't outre enough for you, look into this accessory: the Mundstuck, made by MYL Berlin.

"Mundstuck" means "mouthpiece"; this high-style one fits over the bottom lip and decorates the chin, Oddity Central reported on June 7. MYL Berlin calls it "structured, chic and daring. ... It nestles perfectly on your lip without applying pressure or hindering your mobility." The stainless steel Mundstuck comes in black, gold or silver and in three different designs. Prices range from $75 to $140.

Weird Animals In Victoria, British Columbia, photographer Tony Austin was out for a nature walk on May 31 when he ran across an inexplicable sight: A murder of crows had landed close by, and one was sort of flopping around in the dirt. "It would sort of ... hop into the air and ... then hop back onto the gravel," Austin said. As Austin grew nearer, he saw that the bird was covered with ants. He was concerned for the bird's welfare, but when he posted a picture on a Facebook page for bird enthusiasts, he was relieved, NPR reported.

The crow was "anting" -- spreading ants on its feathers and wings. Experts aren't clear about why birds do this; it may be related to cleanliness or to share the ants' defensive

secretions of fungicides, miticides and insecticides.

The Independent reported on May 13 that a new BBC documentary has revealed that dolphins chew on and pass around puffer fish in an apparent effort to get "high." Puffer fish release a nerve toxin when provoked; large doses of it can be deadly, but small amounts can produce a narcotic effect. Dolphins, having partaken of just the right amount, appear to enter a trancelike state. Rob Pilley, a zoologist who worked as a producer on the series, said the dolphins "began acting most peculiarly, hanging around with their noses at the surface as if fascinated by their own reflection. It was the most extraordinary thing to see."

The Entrepreneurial Spirit Small businesses have had to be creative in the wake of the COVID-19 pandemic, as demonstrated by Club Pro Adult Entertainment in Toronto, Ontario.

The Toronto Sun reported that shutdowns nearly destroyed the strip club -- until owner Teresa Marciano and her staff came up with another idea. "Since we couldn't operate as a restaurant, the only thing we wanted to do was something outdoors," Marciano said.

"Most of our staff and managers love golf, so we tried to marry both industries together."

The new venture, Stiff Shafts, turns the former club's parking lot into a driving range where golfers can aim their shots at caricatures of prominent politicians. Bartenders and waitstaff will return to provide food and drink to customers, and the dancers will be caddies. The Marcianos hope to open on June 14.

Precocious Two West Jordan, Utah, sisters, 9 and 4 years old, set out before dawn on June 2 with California beaches in their sights, Fox News reported. Unfortunately, the 9-yearold was driving, and things didn't go as planned. Just several miles away from home, the little driver veered into oncoming traffic, slamming into a semi-truck. Both girls were wearing seatbelts, and no one was hurt. Their parents were unaware of the joyride until police called them after the accident. "I guess they were intending to start their summer vacation a little early," remarked West Valley police spokesperson Roxeanne Vainuku. Lt. Sean McCarthy added, "I don't know that we'll tell them they were going the wrong way" to reach California.

Compelling Explanation A man caught for two days in a sticky situation had a clever, if false, explanation.

In Santa Rosa, California, on June 8, a man was discovered trapped in the shaft of a vineyard fan. He told police that he likes to take pictures of engines used in old farm equipment, but there was more to his story, NBC Bay Area reported. The Sonoma County Sheriff 's Office commented, "After a thorough investigation, which revealed the farm equipment wasn't antique and the man had far more methamphetamine than camera equipment, the motivation to climb into the fan shaft remains a total mystery." The "photographer" did require medical attention but wasn't seriously injured. Sheriff 's officers will recommend several charges.

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LIFE ON THE MARGINS UP NORTH What’s it like to grow up in, move to, and live, work, or raise children in a place where 99 percent of the population doesn’t look like you? Do you feel like part of the community? Or are you made to feel you don’t belong? Northern Express asked these Northerners to share their experience as a minority Up North. We hope their answers resonate with anyone who needs to know they’re not alone — and everyone who needs to be reminded that, no matter where we’re from, who we love, or what we look like, we’re all part of this community. By Lynda Wheatley

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Chris Stone Leland “The year was most likely 1970 or ’71, and I was 7 or 8 at the time. This was my first exposure to blatant racism. My dad had taken my older brother and I fishing in Indiana. It was a 30-minute drive from our home in East Chicago Heights, Illinois.

After catching our allowed amount of fish, we piled into the car to head home. As we were pulling off, my dad noticed something Eden Akins Manistee My name is Eden, or Eddie as some people call me. I am a 17-year-old trans man. I’ve been fully out to the world for around two years now. I started transitioning nearly three months ago. The amount of obstacles I’ve had to jump to get here is enormous.

My life hasn’t been a straight path. I was born in Utah, but when I turned 5, we left in a last-ditch effort to escape the poverty that followed us and moved to Washington state.

Our family of seven lived in a two-bedroom house surrounded by mint fields. I made a lot of good memories there. I was homeschooled up until the second grade, but I didn’t really make any effort to learn or make friends.

I didn’t really have any concept of gender at that age. I just existed to exist.

When I started public school, things changed little by little. The boys and girls didn’t really play together. It was around fourth grade when my mother told me it was time to wear a bra for the first time.

The shame I felt was unbearable. My skin felt like it was itching in my own skin, and I wanted to claw my way out. I wasn’t allowed to walk around without a shirt on anymore.

I hated the bras enough that I just wore a hoodie every day and didn’t wear a bra.

I remember one day asking myself why I wanted to be like my brother so badly. I told myself, “Girls have dresses and makeup, so obviously girls are better.” The funny thing is, boys can wear dresses and makeup. But I hated both of them anyway, so I have no clue why I tried to justify it to myself like that.

As I went into middle school, I was known as the “pretty tomboy.” I had waistlong hair that I kept in a braid out of my face (which I hated but my parents liked).

I always wore jeans, a hoodie, and a pair of cowboy boots.

was not quite right. He got out of the car, and all we could hear was him swearing in anger. Someone had slashed one of the tires.

While watching our dad tighten the lug nuts on the spare tire, a car drove by with four white men yelling out the windows.

They called us the N-word while throwing beer bottles at us. They screamed, "Go back home to Africa!”

As children, we didn't understand because we were born in the USA. My dad was the chief of police in East Around that time, I developed depression that wouldn’t be diagnosed for another three years. I started to spend more time by myself, and people noticed.

My dad got a job in northern Michigan the summer before I went into 8th grade. So we uprooted everything we had ever known and moved across the country. We lived in a two-bedroom house again for a little while, but we weren’t allowed to explore at all. I felt suffocated at my new school. I was the new kid again.

A week before my birthday, I was institutionalized. It was probably one of the worst experiences of my life, and I know that it changed me as a person. Some of the things I saw there are still etched into my mind.

After I left, I was able to get treatment for my depression, and I did a lot of selfexploration. I finally opened that door and started experimenting with pronouns and gendered clothing. I had a lot of self-doubt on whether my feelings were legitimate, but they faded. Soon after, I came out publicly — about everywhere but at home.

Unfortunately, that’s when things became increasingly difficult at school.

I would go to school, and there would be slurs written on my locker. Then they were shouting slurs at me in the hallways and while I was eating. Things steadily increased to the point where I was getting death threats, and I was nearly in two separate fistfights. One kid broke into a teacher's classroom after school to tear apart an LGBT positive poster I had put up (with the teacher's permission).

In the winter, these same kids would try to run me over. Straight pride and confederate flags started popping up on lockers in retaliation to LGBT-positive posters.

It took me around a year to get the courage to finally come out to my parents. Both of them are conservative — my dad being a “burn f*gs, not flags”

Chicago Heights. Having a John Wayne moment, I yelled for my dad to shoot them.

He did not. He never made any attempt to pull out his service revolver. He knew better than I did.

He knew that: 1) Getting his weapon would escalate the situation. 2) If he were to shoot any of those men, his life and ours would be over. 3) We would be able to go home once the tire was changed, and we would live and learn from this.

That was 50 years ago. In light of all the events happening to day, it feels like not much has changed since that day.

At the age of 24, I moved to the city of Sheboygan, Wisconsin. I lived there for 28 years while raising four children. There, I was keenly aware of my race. Most times, it’s subtle; rarely is it in your face. Many times, I was followed while shopping and asked if I needed any help repeatedly, followed by the police for no apparent reason. And times when change is given to me, it is put on the counter — not in my hand like the white customers before me.

I have now lived in northern Michigan for 5 years. At times the racism is not directed at me, just at people who look like me. Slurs and insults hurled at the TV screen, words muttered under their breath at live sporting events. Once they realize the magnitude of their words spoken in front of me, I am issued an apology — rightly, so but what of the actual person they are disparaging?

I love my community in Leland! It is home to me! I am welcomed. I have been

embraced by this loving community. I did not expect this to be the case, and I am overwhelmed by it. I could not have asked for a better place to call home! My world was shaken when news of the Eckerley comments were made public — not so much by his words, but by the support he received. It really made me take a step back.

[Before a public meeting last August, then Leelanau County Road Commissioner Tom Eckerly used a racial slur to describe the people of Detroit; in a subsequent interview with the Associated Press, he repeated the slur, saying the Black Lives Matter movement is racist, and adding, “If I could get a few people that, when they see a Black Lives Matter sign up, to think the N-word, I have accomplished what I’m after.”— Ed.] It's as if that one event opened the floodgates in northern Michigan, allowing other individuals to act out on their racist speech and actions without fear of repercussions. This behavior has made its way to our schools: colleges, high schools, and middle schools.

There are so many good people that I have come across in my life in northern Michigan. They are people that have big hearts, play hard, and love endlessly! We share many things that unite us, more than our differences can divide us. We celebrate each other’s accomplishments while lifting each other up during hard times. We are all good people making a life for ourselves and a better tomorrow for the next generation.

Isn't that the goal? I truly hope so.

conservative, my mom being a “voted for Trump but won’t admit it” conservative.

But with time and education, they came to accept that I am who I am, and it’s not going to change.

My dad tells me that I’m the one who made him believe in karma. I’m the opposite of what he planned for me.

And maybe that was a good lesson on compassion and unconditional love. I started my transition in September. My dad is actually the one who administers the testosterone. The pride and joy that I feel seeing how much he’s changed for the better is more than enough.

Around the time I was struggling with discrimination at my high school, I found an escape plan: I got accepted into an early college program and started to limit

my time on campus to half a day. This year, I'm doing college full-time. I joined speech and debate and destroyed the competition with my poetry piece about being transgender, even taking first place in several cases.

But I still feel unsafe in my community. The whole reason I picked the name “Eden” is because it's androgynous; I can go stealth when I’m not in a safe situation. But there’s a big difference between healthy fear and cowardice.” One of the kids who planned to beat me up said I earned his respect when I didn’t back down. Those who know me know that I never hesitate to speak my mind. In college, I have experienced hardships here as well but not to the same extent. And I’m grateful.

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“A mother, calling her daughter, anxious; she’s not picking up your phone calls.

“She just ran to the store for some milk, calm down.” A father, giving his kids the rundown of playing outside by themselves: no toy guns, no hoodies, no walking fast, no more than three of you in a group, etc. A sister, upset that her little sister came home crying because the white kids on the bus told her that her skin was dirty. Could you imagine yourself, fearing the outside world because of who you are?

Hello, my name is Khatoria and I am 18 years old. I was born in Georgia but grew up in Traverse City, so I would like to think of myself as a Traverse City native. I moved up here when I was approximately 4 years of age and have lived here ever since. There are a lot of ethnicities that make up who I am, but if I were to ask you, a stranger, what you think I am, the response I’d believe I’d receive is, “You’re Black,” or “You’re African American.” That is what I usually go by — an African American woman — because people go by what they see at first glance.

That does not just go for people of my ethnicity, but for all.

Growing up in Traverse City has been a ride — and definitely not for the weak. I grew up hating the skin that I live in and hating all of the other features that happen to come with being a Black woman. Hate is a very strong word, yes? Well, I meant every letter in that word when I was younger.

Now? I’d say through all of the things that I’ve been through when I was younger, the word hate does not depict the love that I have for myself now. The things that I still go through today makes me sometimes wish that I woke up and rolled out of bed with white skin and white features.

Now, as we all know, Traverse City is predominantly white. You could probably count all of the black people you know on a hand or two, couldn’t you? So, why not make those few people of color feel like they’re at home rather than giving them dirty looks in the grocery stores, rather than partaking in microinsults — like, for instance, clutching your purse when we’re

walking next to you because you deem us as criminals — rather than partaking in microassaults — like, for instance screaming out the N-word, and finally, rather than partaking in microinvalidations, like, for instance, walking up to me and asking me, “Where are you from?”

Why can’t I be from here? Be honest with yourself: Would you ask another white woman/man where they’re from if they were just walking down the street? Chances are, probably not.

Sadly, I’ve had all of these things happen to me in this city, and it really does hurt.

This community is so tightly knit, and it breaks my heart that some of the people that stay here look at us Black people as outsiders.

I don’t want my parents or myself having to explain to my little sisters, “Watch out for this” and “You can’t do that” simply because they’re Black. As frustrating as it is, we’ve already had these talks. This doesn’t just go for Black people, but for people of mixed race as well.

Yes, your father or mother may be white and not just in this city, but in society, people will look at you as a Black individual and deem you poor, thuggish, etc. It gets to be really infuriating when I feel that I have to ‘flip the switch’ to show people that I am just as educated and well-rounded as you all. If I don’t ‘flip the switch,’ automatically, people are going to assume that I’m this stereotypical Black female from the trenches.

Some of you understand what I mean by ‘flip the switch,’ and some of you don’t; it means that when I’m around certain white individuals, whether they’re strangers or people of high importance, I feel the need to change the pitch of my voice, use certain words, and change the way I hold and present myself so I can be “accepted,” even though the way I am right now is perfectly acceptable.

One last thing, I wish that the history that is taught in Traverse City Schools wasn’t so whitewashed. Everything that I know about my ethnicity’s history, I was taught by social media or my father. This definitely needs to be addressed. Thank you for listening, northern Michigan.”

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“What is it like growing up as someone who is a part of the LGBTQ+ community in Traverse City? I remember when I came out as a lesbian, I was terrified to tell anybody. I was afraid of what my family or my friends would have said. I was so nervous about what my mom would say that I wrote her a note when I started dating a girl, and I slid it under her bedroom door. She came in my room and said to me, “I already knew. I was just waiting for you to tell me.”

My dad, however, was a different story.

When he found out — I don’t even know who told him — he called my mom asking if I was “the opposite of pregnant.” He tried to understand and has gotten better at understanding. Now he says that he understands why I like girls because he does, too. Sometimes all it takes is a little bit of time.

Coming out as a teenager was hard with friends, too. Everybody that I thought was my friend stopped being my friend either because they thought that being a lesbian meant that I liked any and all girls, or they thought that a girl who liked girls was disgusting! If somebody was questioning whether they were into girls or not, they would also use me to find out, since I “look like a boy.”

Being a lesbian with a lot of tattoos, trying to find work isn’t always easy. Before I started working at my current job, which I was very nervous about going to the interview for, I went to an interview at a nursing home. It was a straight couple who interviewed me, and they told me as soon as they saw me that they wouldn’t hire me because their residents don’t react well to people who look like me.

Luckily the next interview I went to was at a daycare, and the director there hired me and told me that she does not discriminate.

I’ve now been there for two years and counting.

Now I’m 22 and happily engaged to the love of my life, yet we can’t go out to eat or even for a simple walk downtown without getting nasty looks or people staring at us. But we are lucky enough to have an awesome and supportive family around us, and we have the most supporting friends to surround ourselves with.”

“My name is Ciera, and I am a Black lesbian woman. Growing up, my parents never taught me to think that anything could be affected by the color of my skin or by my sexual preference. As I grew older, I educated myself and realized that a lot of things I experienced in my life could have been motivated by my nationality and sexual preference.

A few experiences I’ve had the displeasure of experiencing while growing up and living in northern Michigan include, but aren’t limited to, a white woman yelling racial slurs at me in line at the bank because I apparently wasn't moving fast enough for her, being made fun of for getting my hair done in cornrows, losing friends once they found out I was gay, my mom’s family not accepting my dating preferences, poor to minimal service when out with my girlfriend, being the minority hire, and people not believing I am a Black woman. I even had a white male associate, whom I thought and believed was a close friend, use the N-word right in front of me, as if it were nothing.

Most white people I have encountered here in northern Michigan would try to tell me that I am “not really Black” because I have a white mom and a black dad. It is very annoying and frustrating when I encounter people with this type of ignorant thought process. I should not and will not explain or validate my race to others.

There has been a multitude of white people that I have come across, who do not believe me when I tell them I am Black.

They will say statements such as, “You can’t be black because your skin is too light,” or “There is no way you're Black — you have to be Mexican or Latino.”

Before I even realized how they were devaluing my nationality, culture, and Blackness, I felt hindered to just lie and/ or agree with some of them to end the conversation. It seemed no matter what I said, they just refused to believe me.

With most of my employment experience in northern Michigan, it feels as if I am typically the token minority hire. With this perception, it has given me a negative view and bad taste in my

mouth — with those employers and the leadership of these organizations. I am an exceptional employee and have excellent reviews and professional references from other companies I have worked for.

Unfortunately, I have been mistreated by those bosses, other employees, and customers. I have even been on the receiving end of dirty looks, rude comments, and management utilizing me as their scapegoat.

For me, the worst part of being a strong Black woman and a lesbian is that some of my relatives have chosen not to accept me for who I am and what I am about. This started when I was a child, but I was too young to really see and understand what was going on. My mother’s family refused to accept my dad simply because of the color of his skin. He was mistreated and not welcomed from the very beginning. It did not matter that he was a Marine and served his country for 18 years or that he sacrificed everything for the better good of my sister and I. My mom’s sisters and husbands (all white) were so racist, in my opinion, they would not even speak to him if they walked into the room, nor speak back when spoken to. Once I was old enough to see this for myself, it made me sick to my stomach and made me not want to be around them. If you cannot accept my dad, then you cannot accept me.

When I started dating my first girlfriend and brought her around them, my aunts and uncles would rudely and loudly ask me, right in front of her, “When are you going to start dating men again?”

My white family voted to take my rights away as a minority and LGBTQ+ member. I typically use social media to post my views and where I stand with what is going on in the world around us. Within the last year or so, I have spoken on and support a lot of Black Lives Matter content. I had a family member, on my mom’s side, make nothing but rude and derogatory comments towards my posts.

They claim they are just trying to understand my perspective, but when I start to explain, they would respond with jokes or comments that do not make sense or anything would show they were even paying attention to anything I previously said. For me, they were just poking fun and being hateful toward me.

Kimora Stevens Elk Rapids, Kalkaska “Living in a heavily populated and largely diverse area like Detroit for half your childhood never seemed peculiar — until moving to an area where it was the complete opposite.

I found myself living in Elk Rapids, Michigan, an all-white town, at the age of 8 years old. Everywhere I was, I’d be the only Black person.

However, I’d never given much thought about it because it had never dawned on me what it meant to be Black and how much Blackness rendered fear, savagery, and unattractiveness in American society.

Being at an age where skin color made no sense to me, it went heavily unrecognized that I was different until I found myself at an all-white school. I would compare the contrast of my arm’s deep caramel color to that of my white classmates. I noticed my brown skin compared to their milky white complexions. I remember going home some days after school and asking my caretaker at the time questions like, “Why are Chris (my brother) and I the only Black people at school?” and “Why do some of the kids at school stare at me funny?”

She would tell me, “Sweetie, there are people of all different colors all over the world, and sometimes people are afraid of things they’re not used to.”

Being a Black person in an all-white town was definitely difficult at times. Such as times when I would enter a store and find myself being closely eyeballed and watched to make sure I wasn't filling my

Once I start calling them out on their nonsense with the truth and facts, stand up for myself, my people, and fully explain why people of color are so angry and/or upset, then they have nothing to say and cease contact with me. In my opinion, some people just want to be disrespectful and nonunderstanding of people who are different from them.

Ironically, I have not had as many negative experiences with my sexuality as I have had with the color of my skin. I think this is due to the now-vast spreading of diversity in this community. When I came out, I was not accepted by my “socalled” friends or family. Despite that, I feel blessed to be accepted and supported by my immediate family and friends and have separated myself from those who choose to not accept me for who I am. Blood makes you related, not family. I want to send a HUGE THANK YOU to Up North Pride for helping make this spread in the community happen!”

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As I grew older, I gained knowledge and a better understanding of being a minority and a person of color in a small town. It is no secret that I'm Black, and it’s never going to change. I used to tell myself that I didn’t want to be Black because I couldn’t find anything special about it. It seems like everyone had already decided what kind of person I was without even getting to know me, so why waste time trying to change their way of thinking?

The only thing that I could acknowledge being proud of in my Black culture was the intermittent discussions of Dr. King and his contributions to civil rights. It made sense I did not want to be me; I was a black speck on a whiteboard. These were the negative thoughts I continuously encountered all throughout middle and portions of high school.

Shortly after I was introduced to my new and white foster mother in the tenth grade, she taught me that although I may feel as if being Black in a white town is a crime, it’s not. My mother always assured me that I should never consider myself less than the next person because of my skin complexion.

My last two years of education were taught at Kalkaska High School, which was also a heavily white school and town. My first day there I felt out of place, but I quickly realized that was because I was new, not because I was black. That was the day I began to take a strong liking to my dark features. To be nobody but yourself in a world doing its best to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle any human can ever fight and never stop.”

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Alma “Rosie” Vasquez Suttons Bay When I was asked to share my story, I started to question if it was something I should do. Concerns started racing through my mind. Would I have a target on my back? Would I offend others? Would I have repercussions or consequences from either my community or my employer for sharing a part of my life story?

Would other people have these same concerns if they were asked to speak about their life story? Because of my past experiences and the world we live in and our political climate right now, I know that my story can be twisted or viewed by some as a political gain or a political topic when, in fact, it is not and never has been. It is a humanity issue. A human rights issue.

After those thoughts, I decided I would.

But as I tell you this part of my story, keep in mind that when I mention the school it is because it happens to be the school I and my children attend, therefore, it is part of my story not because I am singling it out; many positive experiences happened to us there, too. This story is not for pity, it is to bring awareness.

I am a Leland Alumni graduate of the class of 1998. I started at Leland Public School in the spring of 1991, when I was 12 years old and my family and I had moved to the area as migrant workers because my mother wanted us to have a better life and better opportunities. When we arrived at the migrant camp — el campo — in northern Michigan it was a rude awakening to an aspect of my life I had not realized.

You see when I lived in McAllen, Texas, which is only about 9 miles away from the Mexican border, most people looked similar to me and most people around me spoke both English and Spanish. I primarily spoke English but understood Spanish.

Arriving in the campo, I quickly noted several things: One, I now lived in a small room that was made of brick cement blocks, with no insulation and no walls — only a piece of plywood to separate the area where my sisters and I slept and the area where my mother slept. The community restrooms were in a separate building made of the same cement brick blocks and no insulation. The community showers and laundry area were in yet another separate building.

Two, if I wanted to communicate with the people who lived at the camp with me that I needed to learn to speak Spanish.

I taught myself Spanish by listening to

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Spanish music and watching Mexican soap operas. It felt like I was stuck in the middle of two worlds, and I didn’t quite belong to either, or I had to prove I belonged to both.

I was too American to be Mexican and too Mexican to be American.

I am thankful to my mother and grandfather for bringing us to Leelanau as migrants. It is how I learned about my roots and my culture. It is where I learned to speak Spanish and that I was different. Working in the fields taught me work ethic and skills, whether it was picking asparagus, grapes, bottling in a winery, cleaning the cherry tanks, or picking strawberries or cherries and getting paid $2.50 a buck or log.

I can recall facing racism on my first day getting on the school bus. Kids made fun of me and the other kids from the migrant camp.

It was the first of many experiences to come with racism in our community. I want to be clear that we live in a beautiful community with many loving and compassionate people.

There is so much positivity that comes from our community. However, that does not dismiss the fact that there is and has always been racism right here in our schools, on our buses, our basketball courts, our soccer fields, and community.

I can still recall several incidents that happened to me and/or my sisters or friends regarding racism. One of these incidents resulted in me getting suspended from riding the bus simply because I stood up to kids who bullied me and my sister and friends. Perhaps I did not handle that situation appropriately at the time because I was young, exhausted, and belittled by the student’s racist slurs. While the student did get a suspension too from the bus, no additional action was done to educate him or others on anti-racism. Then there was an incident when my friends and I stood in the lunch line waiting our turn to get our food that a different student rattled racial slurs at us. While these incidents did not necessarily happen at this magnitude on a daily basis, the fact that they happened at all is wrong.

Also wrong: The fact that they still happen. My sons had their first experience with racism when they were in elementary school. Once, at a basketball game, an older woman verbally attacked one of my sons. She then began to verbally attack me and the rest of my extended family with her racist rant. It escalated so quickly that our school principal had to take the woman into his office and eventually call law enforcement because her verbal abuse continued.

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My two young sons and my husband and I waited in the lobby, hearing every word this woman was saying. It was so hurtful to hear her yell, “Those cherry pickers need to go back to Mexico! They need to go back to where they came from!”

Law enforcement came, and the woman was asked to leave. If only the woman knew all of my family present at that game were United States citizens, and my husband is a U.S. Marine veteran. Many migrants are U.S. citizens. Yes, many are from Mexico but they are from other countries as well.

It isn’t only overt racism. There is also systemic racism — the housing conditions, education, financial, and law systems. Many do not even notice it because it is what has always existed, therefore, it is normal and right in the eyes of many. Whether you agree or disagree with me, this is fact, and these are barriers that migrants, as well as people of color faced long ago and, sadly, still face today. I, as well as the other migrants, faced this in the ’90s. But these conditions should not have existed in the 90s; Cesar Chavez founded the National Farm Workers Association in1962 and in 1975 passed laws that are to help protect and improve migrant housing and work conditions. Think about that for a moment, let that sink in. It still exists today, in this century.

Why have some of those housing conditions not changed significantly from then? Has anyone stopped to ask themselves, how these housing conditions, educational practices, etc. affect migrant

children and their families? For those who may have not stopped to consider it or learn more, all of these things — along with the other barriers and discrimination migrants face regularly — can and do create psychological and other health issues. Everyone handles and responds to it differently. Some overcome the barriers and even break the cycle of migrant work; others can’t. My husband and I were fortunate to be able to overcome many barriers and provide a better life for our sons.

We both worked from the bottom, worked hard, and made many sacrifices to get to where we are today, reaching our employment goals and owning our own home. I have faced and knocked down more barriers than I would like to count, barriers that should not have existed in the 20th century. I currently and proudly work for Michigan Rehabilitation Services.

There is no shame in being a migrant.

There is honor in working and providing for your family, and there is an excellent work ethic and a special bond within the migrant community. However, that does not dismiss or make those barriers any lower, or the discrimination that comes along with it any less. Truly, folks, it’s the 21st century. We live in God’s country, as some like to say — in one of the wealthiest areas in Michigan. There is no reason for any of these barriers and discriminative factors to continue to exist today. I ask you: What will we — or you — do to help make that change?

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My mother’s family is English and German. My grandfather fought in World War II. He was stationed at Buckingham palace. My grandmother was there, too, as head nurse — they met at the palace. My uncle was actually born there. On my father’s side, his mom was Perepucha. She had been traveling as part of a vaudeville show, singing and dancing, when she met my grandfather.

They followed the iron trail to Detroit. He worked for Ford, then they opened up the first Mexican grocery and restaurant in [Detroit’s] Mexican village.

My mom grew up in Redford; my dad was working for a steel company. They divorced when I was four. We were very poor, living in domestic violence.

One of my early memories of racism was waking up to a burning cross on our neighbor’s lawn in Detroit. I don’t know if it was because we were the mixed family next door or they thought it belonged to the family they targeted, but one of our cats were taken and brutalized that night — sliced from sternum to belly. She survived. But it was very traumatic for our family. I always say it was one of the best places we ever lived because the Black families were so welcoming.

One of the few times I remember getting compassion from adults, was around a cohesive, loving family, it was Black families.

When I went to white family’s house, unless they were very poor … I definitely felt I was there as a guest — and not a wanted guest; I was tolerated.

My mother was an incredibly strong woman. She pulled herself up, and she worked hard to support us. Life was definitely easier for my mom as a beautiful, intelligent white woman than it was for my father. My father — most of the jobs he had for most of his life, were support positions. He went to prison for a while.

That makes it hard. Many of the choices he made have not been smart, were not healthy choices, but he wasn’t exposed to healthy choices growing up.

My sense of justice was formed very young, seeing a lot of these things.

I was inspired to go to law school by my father’s sister, my aunt Maria Tenorio. She worked at Wounded Knee as social worker in the ’70s. When I was staying with her, after college, she was a Native American [paralegal?]. I was working as an artist, but I found it to be too solitary. My sense of justice and public service [made me feel like I wasn’t doing enough]. Seeing my aunt’s work and those of the lawyers with her, I was struck: “Oh wow, that’s important stuff.”

But I was still anti-establishment. The native experience with law enforcement — we’re taught to fear police.

In 1996, Bird enrolled in law school at DePaul University, in Chicago.

I loved it. I started the Illinois Native American Bar Association. One of first things we did was got rid of the Redskin mascot at the local high school. I graduated in ’99 and was admitted to the bar in 2000.

I first worked at a public guardian’s office, representing abused and neglected children, then went into private litigation.

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My kids have definitely grown up in a different space than I have. We encourage and I bring forth the Native American heritage a lot because I feel like it’s been erased so much.

There’s still racism here though. My son, when he was in kindergarten or first grade, was told that he couldn’t be native because he wasn’t wearing buckskin or have an arrow. Willow, my second daughter, whom we adopted at birth, is very pale, has some native heritage, but she grew up with me and identifies as Native American, but has been told she couldn’t be because she’s blonde.

In Indian world, you have blood relatives and relatives “in the Indian way” — not blood but family.

My son has a grandmother who is Lakota. She was the one who taught me the Lakota concept of child is “wakanyeja.” It means sacred being. The concept is they are sacred beings that we are to take care.

My reason to go to law school was because I wanted to help my people.

I’ve served as a Supreme Court Justice for the Nottawaseppi Huron Band of

Potawotami since 2010. I was chief judge for the Grand Traverse Band of Ottawa and Chippewa Indians from 2008 to 2011. I was civil ground coordinator of the Water Protectors Legal Collaborative at Standing Rock, in North Dakota. I’ve spoken at the United Nations. I’m also co-executive director at Title Track and a council member of Northern Michigan E3.

But I wasn’t able to practice my religion until I was a high school graduate. The Native American Religious Freedom Act didn’t happen until 1978. It was still legal practice to involuntarily sterilize Native Americans until 1982. I have Aunties who were sterilized.

The last boarding school for Native Americans wasn’t closed until 20 years ago.

We have, despite being the smallest minority population in the United States — after being the original population — the highest rate of incarceration. We have, by far, the highest rate of children put into foster care. There have been many lawsuits against state agencies for taking Native American kids away without notifying their parents. And in the federal prison system, Native American children are 75 percent of all children incarcerated.

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Traverse City's Jewish Community Holds a Sacred Gem Its 135-year-old synagogue is the oldest in the state of Michigan

By Ross Boissoneau It might be small in numbers, but Traverse City’s Jewish congregation is rich in history. One needs to look no further than the white frame building with gable roof ends it calls home. It is the oldest continuously operating synagogue in the state, opening its doors in 1886.

Its inception dates back a year prior, when the town’s early Jewish settlers formed Congregation Beth El. They came from Eastern Europe, largely from Russia and Poland. Ellen Fivenson, a member of the local congregation, said the rampant pogroms — i.e., organized massacres against Jewish people — the occurred in Russia and Eastern Europe during the 1880s and 1890s propelled the migration of a multitude of Jewish families to the United States that that time. A number of those that initially settled downstate then came north, eking out a living by selling pots and pans to the booming lumber camps.

For those that put down roots Up North, a place to practice their faith was deemed essential, not only by the Jewish people who called Traverse City home but also Perry Hannah, oft considered the father of Traverse City, who supported numerous civic and religious efforts and donated the land upon which a synagogue could be built.

“Perry Hannah was such an amazing visionary,” says Fivenson. “He donated land to the Congregational Church, the county building — across the street was the Salvation Army church when I came here in 1970.”

Temple Beth El was completed and formally dedicated in March of 1886.

Among its founding trustees were local leaders Julius Steinberg, Julius Levinson, and Solomon Yalomstein. All were important in the fostering of the Jewish community Up North, and Steinberg, in particular, is

among the titans of Traverse City's history.

He built the city’s second opera house above his mercantile business. The store remained in the Steinberg family for over 50 years, closing in 1922 as the J.H. Steinberg Store.

Steinberg’s Grand Opera House opened in 1894 at a cost of $60,000 and boasted a seating capacity of 700–800. It included a 32-by-45-foot stage, a 19-by-36-foot proscenium, and eight dressing rooms. It was illuminated by 400 electric globe lights.

When a state law disallowed the showing of moving pictures in second-floor buildings, Steinberg built the Lyric Theater next door. Heavily damaged by fires, the Lyric was rebuilt twice, and the structure is still standing — though not currently in use since the beginning of the 2020 pandemic — as Traverse City’s State Theatre. Steinberg’s Opera House did not get a second or third chance like its neighboring Lyric; it was destroyed in a fire in 1963 and never rebuilt.

Unlike many of Traverse City’s early buildings, its synagogue has withstood the test of time. The exterior of the building looks today much as it did more than a century ago, except for an addition on the back allowing for handicap access. The addition did enclose one of the original stained-glass windows — a Star of David donated by Julius Steinberg — but it's still visible inside the synagogue.

The interior has seen more sigificant changes over the years. Longtime member Terry Tarnow said the pot-bellied stove originally used for heat in the sanctuary was moved out many years ago. In the 1960s, the sanctuary's wooden seats were replaced with plush cut-velvet chairs. The basement was converted into a multi-purpose room, and the mikvah and fireplace were removed to accommodate a kitchenette and bathroom.

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of water in which, historically, observant Jewish women would enter each month, exactly seven days after their menstrual cycle. The tradition is thought to be linked to ancient Israelites’ tradition of immersing themselves in a mikvah before entering Jerusalem’s Holy Temple; in more recent history, non-pregnant congregants would dip into the pool as a symbolic gesture of readying themselves for the potential of pregnancy, bringing forth new life, that following month.

Another part of the synagogue was designated for women and their children only; a large upper balcony on the second floor. In 1972 it was converted to an apartment for the rabbi, though the structure’s lone bathroom remained two

Clockwise from top left: Michael Tarnow and Governor Milliken unveil the historical marker.

Al Belfour, Rabbi David Hachen from Cincinnati, Julius Belfour and Ellen Fivenson during the dedication.

Memorabilia displayed in the synagogue.

Pic of Rabbi Sleutelberg photo courtesy of Mitya Ku.

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The synagogue was designated a State Historic Building in 1977 and hosted a celebration in October of that year to dedicate the marker placed outside the building declaring its official status. ThenGovernor William G. Milliken presided at the ceremony. Another celebration took place on the occasion of its centennial.

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locally when the two merged into one, Sleutelberg says he worked behind the scenes to help bring them together. Today he serves the renamed Congregation Beth Shalom once each month.

The members of the congregation said despite the prevalence of so much divisiveness and anti-Semitism in the country, they’ve always felt safe and welcomed in the community. “I’m sure there are folks with bigoted attitudes Up North as well as everywhere else in the world.

To the best of my knowledge, we’ve not experienced anything directly. Thank God,” says Sluetelberg.

Tarnow agreed, noting she’s not seen or heard of any problems locally, “but we’re aware of things.” She noted that the building has added security cameras and that its location near the police station also helps mitigate any potential for problems.

As regards the current and ongoing conflicts and struggles in the Middle East, the mantra seems to be the age-old rhetorical question: Why can’t we all just get along?

“I spend a lot of time hoping and praying for peace … for Palestine and Israel. I lament the loss of life on all sides in the conflict. I pray for the day when we can all get together peacefully,” says Sleutelberg.

“Like every congregation, a lot of members stand with Israel completely,” says Tarnow. “Others think there needs to be a two-state solution. Different opinions from different people.”

What does the future hold for Congregation Beth Shalom? As more people move to Traverse City, whether for retirement or to work, Fivenson is hopeful the numbers will continue to rise, though that makes using the cozy synagogue a challenge.

“I think there are more Jews here that do not participate,” she said. “In the early ’70s, the congregation … had to go to other locations” for holidays. “The synagogue was not big enough. Now we have an arrangement with the Unitarian Church where we can utilize its facilities. It’s a great association.”

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Rabbi Arnie Sleutelberg, who continues to serve the congregation today, was part of the proceedings, as were numerous members of the temple and prominent public officials of the time, including Mayor Phil Orth, State Representative Tom Power, and Senators Don Riegle and Carl Levin. Fivenson served as chair of the Centennial Committee.

Now, 135 years after it came into being, the historic structure continues to serve the Grand Traverse area Jewish community.

Today, the temple holds about 65 people, and the congregation numbers around 70 families. Like most religious organizations, many people are supportive but not always active, says Tarnow. “We see greater numbers during the holidays.”

Despite its historic significance, the synagogue continues to evolve with the times, recently incorporating Zoom services so people could tune in to services from anywhere — then deciding to keep the online format going for the foreseeable future. “We intend to be hybrid (in-person and online) from now on,” she says.

For Tarnow, the synagogue and its congregants have been a critical part of her life since moving north in 1971.

“I grew up in Detroit and moved here with no family,” she says. “The members became our family away from home. For our boys’ bar mitzvahs, we invited relatives, friends, and the entire congregation. It was our community.”

Rabbi Arnie Sleutelberg serves the congregation as its visiting rabbi. He retired from a congregation in Detroit five years ago and now returns to Traverse City on a quarter time basis. Yes, returns, as he has served here on and off since 1982, when he was a student rabbi.

“After I was ordained I served here half time from 1988 to 1990. I’ve always been in love with the congregation. The folks in northern Michigan are wonderful,” he says, noting that the congregation is a mix of all the denominations of Judaism. “I love that.”

Fivenson said the community has seen an ebb and flow in its numbers, including the establishment of another congregation.

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Inside the Birth Center

From left: Kristin Jardine, doula; Araya Montero, midwife; Brit Averill, midwife

LABOR OF LOVE Founders of LGBTQ+ Alliance of Petoskey launch Birth Center to serve all families — and fulfill a major maternity need Up North

By Al Parker It takes a lot of confidence to launch a new service-oriented business during a pandemic when the national mantra urges folks to mask up, socially distance, and, basically, don't touch each other.

But that didn't deter Brit Averill from founding the Birth Center of Northern Michigan in Petoskey early in 2020.

“In all rural areas in the county — and in Emmet and surrounding counties in particular — there is a maternity-care crisis,” says Averill, a mother of three children.

“There is an extreme shortage of maternity care providers, and it's getting more dire each day as rural hospitals close their labor and delivery units.”

While McLaren hospital in Petoskey still operates its birthing center, other hospitals in northern Michigan, including Cheboygan and Manistee, have shut down their maternity operations in recent years.

Estimates Averill: “Only about 30 percent of the counties in the state have OB/GYN services.”

BIRTH OF AN IDEA Averill's passion to care for pregnant women stems from a personal experience.

Her first son was born in a hospital, and Averill was not pleased with the care she received. “I'm not doing that again,” she recalls thinking. “I decided then that I wanted to help others.”

True to her word, she didn’t go to a hospital to have her next two children. She had one at home, with the help of a midwife, and the other at a dedicated birthing center.

Neither are unconventional choices.

Hundreds of years before obstetricians were delivering babies in hospitals, midwives in Europe attended to women as they gave birth to their children at home. The term “midwife” comes from an Old English phrase meaning “with woman.”

FOREMOTHERS European-influenced midwifery in the United States began with Mary Carson

Breckinridge, who became determined to provide healthcare to people living in remote corners of the Appalachian Mountains.

Their lives were a far cry from her own experience; Breckinridge was born in 1881 to a prominent southern family. Her father served as U.S. ambassador to Czar Nicholas II of Russia while she was in her early teens; her grandfather had been vice president under James Buchanan. Educated both here and abroad, Breckinridge only decided to pursue a nursing career after losing her first husband to appendicitis.

She retired from nursing after remarrying and starting her own family, but both when children died young — one shortly after birth — she threw herself back into nursing, first as a volunteer during World War I, then began working in public health, training other nurses during the influenza pandemic of 1918.

While on a trip to Europe years later, she was so impressed with the skill and care nurse-midwives provided their patients that she brought several British nurse-midwives to the U.S. to establish the Frontier Nursing service in rural Kentucky. It was the first real nursemidwife program in the country.

In 1955, Hattie Hernschemeyer, a public health nurse educator, started the American College of Nurse-Wifery, the first of its kind in the nation. It later changed its name to the American College of Nurse-Midwives, the professional association that represents certified nurse-midwives (CNMs) and certified midwives (CMs) in the United States still today.

BIRTHING THE BIRTH CENTER Much like her forebears, Averill recognized a dearth of care for pregnant women in the Little Traverse region, and she sought to do something about it.

“The Birth Center was born out of necessity,” Averill says. She began fulfilling her mission by opening a home birth practice out of her home. After three years, she moved operations to an older brick building that once served as headquarters for Blissfest

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Music Festival, and officially opened the Birth Center of Northern Michigan.

“We're a low intervention care center located directly across the street from a hospital that has labor and delivery services.

We serve low-risk birthing people through their pregnancy, birth, and postnatal period. Here we have access to ultrasound, laboratory services, and obstetrical care for when pregnancies sometimes leave the lowrisk category.”

A certified midwife, Averill notes that every developed country in the world integrates midwives into their healthcare system, except for the U.S. “We know that midwives improve outcomes greatly,” she says. “There are less Cesareans, less intervention, fewer episiotomies, and higher breastfeeding rates for those who utilize midwifery care. This is extremely important for communities such as ours who suffer from high Caesarian rates.”

CARE FOR ALL By opening the Birth Center, Averill along with midwife Araya Montero and doula Kristin Jardine is able to serve low-risk pregnant people in northern Michigan who are not comfortable with — or don't have the option of — home birth.

“It's an honor to support and serve the families in this community,” says Jardine.

“We have a strong focus on equity in healthcare for marginalized populations such as BIPOC and LGBTQ+ people,” says Averill. “In 2019, Kristin and I also founded the LGBTQ+ Alliance of Petoskey, which we currently manage.”

Visitors to the Birth Center quickly learn that the experience values autonomy and shared decision-making between the client and the midwife. The Center is able to offer all the prenatal and postpartum screenings that are offered in standard obstetrical care, plus additional focus on nutrition, exercise, social and emotional well-being.

Cost for clients averages about $4,000, according to Averill, who says it’s very important that the Birth Center keep

costs down for its mothers. Key to that is the center's in-house lab, which is able to drastically reduce the expense of lab work.

The highest priority for the team, however, is the time and care dedicated to the mother and child before and after birth.

“We spend an average of 30 to 60 minutes for each prenatal and postnatal visit preparing parents for labor, delivery, and beyond,” she says. “Postnatal care includes five visits with the midwife, including two in the home, that cover newborn care, monitoring of weight, and feeding … and maternal care including screenings for postpartum mood disorders, blood pressure, infections, bleeding, and more.”

The midwives also perform all of the state-mandated newborn tests, including screening of the heart, metabolism, and hearing. They don’t operate in a bubble, however; Averill says the Birth Center doesn’t hesitate to partner with local pediatricians, lactation consultants, other doulas, and family practices to ensure the highest quality care for any mother and infant’s needs.

“Home healthcare and rural health clinics have always been at the forefront of patient care, with midwifery being the oldest patient-centered specialty in history.”

PANDEMIC PERK The pandemic has actually caused some people to look for non-hospital birthing options.

“We actually got some clients because of COVID,” says Averill. “McLaren was really full, and people were a bit leery about going into a hospital anyway. We got our first client in March of 2020, just when the pandemic was starting.”

She's quick to praise the northern Michigan community, which has been very supportive of the center's efforts. Since opening the center has already cared for about 45 mothers and their newborns. So far in 2021, it's averaged about one birth a week.

The Birth Center of Northern Michigan is at 522 Liberty St. in Petoskey. (760) 889-2857, nmhomebirth.com

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---------------------M88 OUTDOOR MARKET TOUR: 9am-3pm, entire length of M88 - 26+ miles. Garage/yard sales, vendors, arts & crafts, sidewalk sales & more. 231-313-1517.

---------------------ANNUAL BAY HARBOR LAKE MARINA INWATER BOAT SHOW: 10am-8pm, Bay Harbor Lake Marina. Featuring both in-water & on-land premier exhibitors. Enjoy strolling the docks & checking out the latest in watercraft & boating accessories. Today features live music by both Chris Calleja & the Petoskey Steel Drum Band Ensemble. Free. bayharbor.com

---------------------ELLSWORTH/ATWOOD PIG ROAST: Today includes the Pig Roast Parade at 11am, starting at high school parking lot & ending at Community Park; Roast Pork Lunch from 12-2pm at Ellsworth Community Park; music by Pine Lake Winds; Antrim County Sheriff Dept. K-9 Demonstration; children’s games & activities; Horse Pull at 1pm at Community Park; Paddle the Lake at 1:30pm & more. facebook.com/EllworthPigRoast

---------------------CAR SHOW: 4-8pm, Emmet County Fairgrounds, Petoskey. Hosted by Emmet County Parks & Recreation. A variety of makes & models will fill the fairgrounds for automobile enthusiasts. 231-348-5479. Free.

---------------------WINE & SMALL PLATES POP UP: 4-7pm, Bel Lago Vineyards & Winery, Tasting Room, Cedar. This event will feature a variety of Bel Lago wines & Vietnamese cuisine expertly paired by Good Bowl Chef Devin Shaw. The guests have an opportunity to select from a local, national & global non-profit organization to which $1 of every bowl sold will go. $60/ person. eventbrite.com/e/good-bowl-small-

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---------------------SUMMER SOCIAL: 5pm, Great Lakes Center for the Arts, Bay Harbor. Held on the Center’s front plaza, enjoy Tony-nominated Broadway icon Max von Essen & composer, vocalist, & jazz pianist Billy Stritch. An evening of drinks, music, & frozen favorites from the Big Tasty Treats truck. $25 adults; $10 12 & under. greatlakescfa.org/events/ detail/broadways-max-von-essen-feat-billy-stritch

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send your dates to: events@traverseticker.com

LIVE MUSIC IN THE VILLAGE: KANIN THELEN: 7-9pm, Crystal Mountain, Barr Park, Thompsonville. Free. crystalmountain.com/ event/live-music-saturdays

---------------------THEATRE UNDER THE TENT: THE BELLE OF AMHERST: 7pm, Old Town Playhouse, parking lot, TC. In this play about Emily Dickinson, the reclusive nineteenth-century poet’s diaries, letters & poems are woven into an illuminating portrait of this prolific wordsmith. A one-woman play. $20 adults; $13 youth; $180 VIP table for six. tickets.oldtownplayhouse.com/TheatreManager/1/tmEvent/tmEvent351.html

---------------------TC PIT SPITTERS VS. WISCONSIN RAPIDS RAFTERS: 7:05pm, Turtle Creek Stadium, TC. northwoodsleague.com/traverse-city-pit-spitters/wp-content/uploads/sites/33/2020/12/202 1Marketing_8.5x11_Schedule.pdf

---------------------BENZIE COUNTY COMMUNITY CHORUS SOUNDS OF SUMMER CONCERT SERIES: 7:30pm, Frankfort United Methodist Church.

Bring a chair or blanket. Freewill offering.

june 20

sunday

ANNUAL BAY HARBOR LAKE MARINA IN-WATER BOAT SHOW: 10am-3pm, Bay Harbor Lake Marina. Featuring both in-water & on-land premier exhibitors. Enjoy strolling the docks & checking out the latest in watercraft & boating accessories. Free. bayharbor.com

---------------------JUNE ACCESS: CHALK ART W/ CHASE HUNT: 12-2pm, TruFit Trouser parking lot, TC. $5/person. artsforallnmi.org

World traveling magician Gordon Russ and his sidekick, George the Raccoon, bring their Big Comedy Magic Show to the East Jordan Freedom Festival on Weds., June 23 at Memorial Park Bandshell in East Jordan at 6pm. A master at audience involvement, Gordon invents magic on the spot, using the most ordinary items imaginable. The East Jordan Freedom Festival runs through Sun., June 27 and also includes events like the Youth Parade, Block Party, live music, The Michigan Stilt Walker, 3-on-3 Basketball Tournament, Grand Parade, fireworks and much more. eastjordanfreedomfestival.org/events

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BENZIE COUNTY COMMUNITY CHORUS SOUNDS OF SUMMER CONCERT SERIES: (See Sat., June 19)

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MOVIES IN BARR PARK: 9-11pm, Crystal Mountain, Barr Park, Thompsonville. Grab a blanket & bring your lawn chairs for a family friendly outdoor movie. Free. crystalmountain. com/event/movies-barr-park/1

LORD OF THE GOURD WATERMELON CARVING EXHIBITION: 1-4pm, St. Ambrose Cellars, Beulah.

TC PIT SPITTERS VS. WISCONSIN RAPIDS RAFTERS: 5:05pm, Turtle Creek Stadium, TC. northwoodsleague.com/traverse-city-pit-spitters/wp-content/uploads/sites/33/2020/12/202 1Marketing_8.5x11_Schedule.pdf SUMMER SOLSTICE YOGA ON THE BEACH: 7pm, Glen Haven Beach. Summer of weekly donation-based Yoga on the Beach classes. Benefits the Friends of Sleeping Bear Dunes. $10 suggested. yogaonthebeachnmi.com/schedule

---------------------BENZIE COUNTY COMMUNITY CHORUS SOUNDS OF SUMMER CONCERT SERIES: (See Sat., June 19)

june 21

monday

SUMMER READING PROGRAM SIGN UP: 10am, Peninsula Community Library, TC. Readers of all ages will explore the animal kingdom this summer during “Tails & Tales.” Activities may include songs, group games, crafts, art projects, science & engineering experiments, & more. Sign up starts today. peninsulacommunitylibrary.org/summer-reading-2021/copy_of_summer-reading-club-2020

---------------------TC PIT SPITTERS VS. KENOSHA KINGFISH: 6:35pm, Turtle Creek Stadium, TC.

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june 22

tuesday

THEATRE UNDER THE TENT: DANCE NIGHT W/ JAZZNORTH: 7pm, Old Town Playhouse, parking lot, TC. JazzNorth is a little Big Band comprised of area professional musicians who play a large variety of genres: classic swing, Latin, funk, rock, blues, ballads, originals, & “danceable jazz.” tickets.oldtownplayhouse.com/TheatreManager/1/tmEvent/ tmEvent323.html

---------------------CONNECTING WOMEN IN BUSINESS VIRTUALLY: 11:30am-1pm. “Starting a New Business”: Join in a panel discussion with three local women entrepreneurs who have just started new businesses within the past year: Holly Kotz of Lost Village Pierogi, Natalie Lauzon of Flora Bae Home & Alexis Murphy of Fox & Hound Boutique. Hear their stories. Register. $20 CWIB members; $25 all others. petoskey. chambermaster.com/eventregistration/register/25258

FARMERS MARKETS! A HEALTH & WELLNESS: LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE CLASS: 1:303pm, Interlochen Public Library, Community Room. To register, email: jransom@tadl.org

---------------------TC PIT SPITTERS VS. KENOSHA KINGFISH: (See Mon., June 21)

june 23

wednesday

SHIPWRECKS OF THE MANITOU PASSAGE: 11am-4pm, Leelanau Historical Museum, Leland. This exhibit illustrates the stories of the lost ships of the Manitou Passage, considered one of the most dangerous waterways in the Great Lakes. Go beneath the waves & see the work of divers & archeologists who share a view of the past. leelanauhistory.org/exhibits

---------------------CHARLOTTE ROSS LEE CONCERTS IN THE PARK: Noon, Pennsylvania Park, Gazebo stage, Petoskey. Featuring Leif Owen & Andre Panos. Free. crookedtree.org/article/ctac-petoskey/charlotte-ross-lee-concerts-park-2021

---------------------BUSINESS AFTER HOURS IN THE PARK: 5:30-7pm, Pennsylvania Park, behind Petoskey Chamber building, Petoskey. Grab some take-out from your favorite restaurant.

Colored stickers will be offered when you arrive: Green - Handshakes & Hi Five Approved, Yellow - Elbows Only, Red – Greet from 6 feet.

Free. petoskeychamber.com/events/details/ business-after-hours-june-2021-25270

---------------------EAST JORDAN FREEDOM FESTIVAL: June 23-27. Today features: The Youth Parade at

5:30pm, beginning at GAR Park/Williams St. Awards & refreshments immediately follow in Memorial Park; Gordon the Magician at 6pm at Memorial Park Bandshell; an Outdoor Movie at dusk at the Adult Softball Field, across from Marty’s Dairy Grille. PG rated; & more. Free. eastjordanfreedomfestival.org/events

---------------------SPRING SAVORY CREPES: 6-8pm, R.B. Annis Botanical Lab, outdoor kitchen, Interlochen Center for the Arts. Join culinary artist & registered dietician Laura McCain on an egg-loving adventure. With simple fillings like soft scrambled eggs & quick sautéed asparagus, this event will be rich with culinary memories from her trip to France in June 2019. Class size is limited to 12 participants who will be socially distanced & required to wear masks. All participants must register: emily.umbarger@interlochen.org. Free.

---------------------A TOUR OF THE BOTANIC GARDEN FOR PLANTS WORTH GETTING: 7pm. Online event. Enjoy a virtual stroll around The Botanic Garden at Historic Barns Park, TC where you’ll discover the plants most suitable for the area.

Tickets: free for members; $10 non-members. thebotanicgarden.org/events

---------------------LIVE MUSIC IN BARR PARK: JESSE JEFFERSON: 7-9pm, Crystal Mountain, Barr Park, Thompsonville. Free.

---------------------THEATRE UNDER THE TENT: COMEDY W/ DEREK RICHARDS & SAL DEMILIO: 7pm, Old Town Playhouse, parking lot, TC. An evening of standup comedy. Derek Richards is a regular on the Las Vegas Strip where his show has been described as, “Just the right amount of wrong.” He has produced four albums & a memoir called “Whiskey, Cancer and Bad Decisions.” The evening will begin with the comedy of Sal Demilio (think Ray Romano meets Tony Soprano). $20. tickets.oldtownplayhouse.com/ TheatreManager/1/login&event=324

---------------------VIRTUAL PROGRAM: 7pm. How Lighthouses, Navigational Aids, & Harbors Transformed the Great Lakes & America. Presented by the Leelanau Historical Society. Featuring Theodore J. Karamanski, PhDis, professor of history & director of the Public History Program at Loyola University Chicago. Held via Zoom. Register. zoom.us/webinar/register/WN_Cvz5Hej9SBmZOF1mH6pTzQ

june 24

thursday

GARDEN TOUR & ART OF THE GARDEN EXHIBIT: The Little Garden Club invites you to visit 6 inspiring gardens in & around Leland from 11am5pm. Each garden showcases a variety of garden styles with unique features & environments encompassing a charming home.

Tickets available from club members & local garden centers & shops. Tickets will also be available at each garden site & at the Old Art Building on the day of the tour. In addition, the Art of the Garden Exhibit & Sale will be held at the Old Art Building in Leland in collaboration with the Leelanau Community Cultural Center. The exhibit will open at 11am on June 24, & continue throughout the weekend from 11am-5pm. All proceeds from ticket sales & a percentage of the art sales benefit the Little Garden Club’s grant program supporting public garden beautification & plant education projects. $15 (cash or check).

---------------------SHIPWRECKS OF THE MANITOU PASSAGE: (See Weds., June 23)

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Empire. Explore STEM Kits, the latest addition to the Young Learners section, with librarian Dave Ulrich. glenlakelibrary.net/events

---------------------PROTECTING OUR INLAND LAKES & SHORELANDS: THE HIDDEN WORLD OF ALGAE: Noon. A three-part virtual education & information series for those living on or recreating in local lakes & waterways. Developed by Friends of Spider Lake & Rennie Lake. Hosted by Grand Traverse Conservation District. This is the second part of this virtual series: “Life Below The Surface, A Dip Into The Hidden World of Algae” presented

by Ann St. Amand, Ph.D., CLP, President PhycoTech, Inc. Free. natureiscalling.org/events

---------------------EAST JORDAN FREEDOM FESTIVAL: June 23-27. Today features a carnival from 5-10pm with Native Amusements offering midway entertainment; & more. eastjordanfreedomfestival.org/events

---------------------MY ROBOT GETS ME: HOW SOCIAL INTERACTION DRIVES OBJECT DESIGN: 5-7pm, Crooked Tree Arts Center, Theater, Petoskey. Artist Talk & Book Signing with Carla Diana, Good Hart Artist in Residence. This talk will take a fresh look at the objects in our everyday lives through a lens of social interaction. Carla Diana will share case studies, looking at how a holistic approach to design can give creators a clear vision for making products that are built on meaningful, intuitive, & delightful interactions. Register. Free. crookedtree.org/event/ctac-petoskey/my-robotgets-me-how-social-interaction-drives-object-design-artist-talk-carla

---------------------FRIENDS ANNUAL BOOK SALE: 6-8pm, Interlochen Public Library, Community Room.

Featuring a huge variety of used books in good condition. Today is the Friends “Member Only” Preview Sale. interlochenpubliclibrary.org

---------------------THURSDAY NIGHT MOUNTAIN BIKE RIDE: 6pm, Crystal Mountain, Thompsonville. Meet at Mountain Adventure Zone. Drop in rides, free.

Rental bike with helmet, $15 per ride. Helmet only, $10 per ride. crystalmountain.com/event/ thursday-night-mountain-bike-ride/1

---------------------STREET MUSIQUE: “WELCOME BACK”: 6:30-8:30pm, Main St., Downtown Harbor Springs. Featuring Melissa Welke, Cowboy Killers, Pete Fetters, Distant Stars, & Magic Lady. visitharborspringsmichigan.com/stories/ street_musique_downtown_harbor_springs_ michigan_music_thursdays_summer

---------------------DISABILITY NETWORK PARENT NETWORK ZOOM MEETING: 7pm. This network guides families with youth & adults with disabilities to the many supports available through healthcare & educational resources. disabilitynetwork.org

---------------------NATIONAL WRITERS SERIES’ SUMMER SEASON: 7pm. Emily Henry is the New York Times bestselling author of “Beach Read” & “People We Meet on Vacation.” She writes stories about love & family for both teens & adults. Guest host is Brittany Cavallaro, New York Times bestselling author of the Charlotte Holmes novels & “Muse.” Held via Zoom. $10 suggested donation. nationalwritersseries.org/ product/emily-henry

june 25

friday

FRIENDS ANNUAL BOOK SALE: 9am-7pm, Interlochen Public Library, Community Room. Featuring a huge variety of used books in good condition. interlochenpubliclibrary.org

ALDEN DISTRICT LIBRARY CHILDREN’S ACTIVITIES: 10-11am, Helena Township Community Center, Alden. Kids’ Crafts (ages 6-12): Learn about diffusion & create art at the same time. Preschool Story Hour: Listen to “Good Night Sleeping Bear” by Anne Margaret Lewis, & then make a craft. 231-331-4318. Free.

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TAILS & TALES: SUMMER READING PROGRAM: 11am, Glen Lake Community Library,

SHIPWRECKS OF THE MANITOU PASSAGE: (See Weds., June 23)

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LAVENDER FEST FRIDAYS: 10am-2pm, Lavender Hill Farm, Boyne City. Make a craft ($5), bring a picnic & enjoy the many other Friday farm activities. lavenderhillfarm.com/lavenderfest-fridays

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THE SCARROW FRIDAY FORUMS: 10am, John M. Hall Auditorium, Bay View, Petoskey.

Obama’s ‘Team of Rivals’ vs. Trump’s Axis of Adults: Changes in Elite Foreign Policy Beliefs.

Presented by Dr. Scott LaDeur, professor of political science at NCMC. Free.

---------------------GARDEN TOUR & ART OF THE GARDEN EXHIBIT: (See Thurs., June 24)

---------------------CHARLOTTE ROSS LEE CONCERTS IN THE PARK: Noon, Pennsylvania Park, Gazebo stage, Petoskey. Featuring Holly Keller.

Free. crookedtree.org/article/ctac-petoskey/ charlotte-ross-lee-concerts-park-2021

---------------------EAST JORDAN FREEDOM FESTIVAL: June 2327. Today features a Block Party from 6-9:30pm at Memorial Park & Spring St. “Family, Friends and Freedom.” Featuring live music, games, The Michigan Stilt Walker & more. The Button Drawing will also be held at the Block Party at 7pm, 8pm & 9pm. eastjordanfreedomfestival.org/events

---------------------YOUNG AMERICANS DINNER THEATRE: 6:30pm, Boyne Highlands Resort, Harbor Springs. Dinner theatre shows will be held Tues. through Sat. at 6:30pm. Matinee shows will be held Sat. & Sun. at 2pm. Runs June 25 - Aug. 28. See web site for tickets. boynehighlands.com/ events/young-americans-dinner-theatre

---------------------LIVE MUSIC IN BARR PARK: JIM HAWLEY: 7-9pm, Crystal Mountain, Barr Park, Thompsonville.

---------------------MUSIC IN THE PARK: 7pm, Northport Pavilion. Looking Forward (CSN Tribute).

june 26

saturday

MICHIGAN PGA WOMEN’S OPEN PRO-AM: Crystal Mountain, Thompsonville. crystalmountain.com/event/michigan-pga-womens-open-pro-am

---------------------GARDEN TOUR & ART OF THE GARDEN EXHIBIT: (See Thurs., June 24)

---------------------EAST JORDAN FREEDOM FESTIVAL: June 23-27. Today features the 3-on-3 Basketball Tournament with players checking in at 8am; Grand Parade at 3pm; Lip Sync Contest at 6pm in Memorial Park; fireworks at dusk; & more. eastjordanfreedomfestival.org/events

---------------------DIRTY DOG DASH: 8:30am, Boyne Mountain Resort, Boyne Falls. Route will cover 5km across the Boyne Mountain Resort with competitors climbing, crawling, wading, & sliding to conquer the numerous obstacles in front of them. This year’s post-race festivities will be more spread out, but will feature live music & cold beer for those 21 & older. Register. boynemountain.com

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LITTLE TRAVERSE CROP HUNGER WALK: 8:30am, Bay View, Evelyn Hall, Petoskey. Noncompetitive walk through Bay View. All contributions received will help the local MANNA Food Project & Church World Service to feed the hungry & counteract poverty & disasters with self-sustaining projects throughout the world. For info, email: gremar161@gmail.com

---------------------FRIENDS ANNUAL BOOK SALE: 9am-2pm, Interlochen Public Library, Community Room.

Featuring a huge variety of used books in good condition. interlochenpubliclibrary.org

---------------------SUMMER CRAFT SHOW: 9am-4pm, Emmet County Fairgrounds, Petoskey. Featuring a variety of items including jewelry, clothes, handmade gifts, cards & more. Free admission.

---------------------9TH ANNUAL ART IN THE GARDEN FESTIVAL: 10am-5pm, Demonstration Garden, off Livingston Blvd., Gaylord. To celebrate & benefit the Otsego County Demonstration Garden & Conservation Forest. Featuring live music, art displays, local eats, outdoor workshops, a silent auction & art for sale. Free.

FIRST ANNUAL OUTDOOR CRAFT FAIR: 10am-3pm, Old Town Playhouse, parking lot, TC. The Old Town Playhouse’s volunteers, members & friends will present their handmade, artful creations for sale as part of the Theatre under the Tent series. oldtownplayhouse.com

---------------------SUMMER ART SHOW: 10am-5pm, East Park, Charlevoix. Featuring a mix of art & crafts displayed on the shores of scenic Round Lake in downtown Charlevoix.

---------------------ARTIST POP-UPS + DEMOS: 11am-3pm, Glen Arbor Arts Center. The Artist Pop-Ups + Demos turn the Glen Arbor Arts Center’s front yard & parking area into open-air exhibition & music venues. Participating studio artists will demonstrate what they do, talk about their work, & exhibit. Pop-Up artists will work in 2D or 3D, paint, printmaking, clay, fiber, photography, wood, metal, mixed media, paper, plastic art collage & more. Also featuring live music from the Glenn Wolff Trio from 12:30–2pm.

Free. GlenArborArt.org/EVENTS

---------------------LIVE DEMO WITH BLACKSMITH JOE LAFATA: 11am-3pm, Charlevoix Circle of Arts.

Enjoy live demonstrations by Joe Lafata of J&N Blacksmithing throughout the day with handmade pieces for sale. charlevoixcircle.org/events

---------------------BOOK SIGNINGS: Horizon Books, TC. 1-2pm: Join local author Lynne Rae Perkins on the front patio for some readings from her new kids book, “The Museum of Everything,” & crafts.

4:30-5:30pm: Moheb Soliman will read from & sign his book, “Homes,” nature poetry. horizonbooks.com/event/book-signing-lynne-raeperkins-museum-everything

---------------------“STILL STANDING”: 7pm. A virtual musical party benefiting City Opera House. Featuring Broadway’s Paul Canaan (Take it From the Top Founder) & Joey Taranto (Kinky Boots, Rock of Ages). Tickets: $50 general admission; $100 VIP (includes after party). Tickets are perhousehold & a private Zoom code will be sent June 25. cityoperahouse.org

---------------------LIVE MUSIC IN THE VILLAGE: GAEL ESCHELWECK: 7-9pm, Crystal Mountain, Kinlochen Plaza, Thompsonville. crystalmountain. com/event/live-music-saturdays/2

---------------------THE SERIES PRESENTS: THE ROUGH & TUMBLE: 7:30-9:30pm, Lavender Hill Farm, Boyne City. This dumpster-folk/thriftstore Americana duo’s latest album is “Howling Back at the Wounded Dog,” which contains “The Hardest Part,” judged Americana Song of the year by the 2019 Independent Music Awards. $30 barn; $10 lawn. lavenderhillfarm.com/calendar/the-series-presents-the-rough-tumble

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BRUCE IN THE USA: A TRIBUTE TO BRUCE SPRINGSTEEN & E-STREET BAND: 8pm, Great Lakes Center for the Arts, Bay Harbor.

The Bruce In The USA Band consists of seasoned, world-class, professional musicians & has hosted acts/bands such as Queen/Paul Rogers, Meatloaf, Blue Oyster Cult, Hall and Oats, Joe Cocker, The Ojays, Aretha Franklin, David Cassidy, The Temptations, Slash… & many more. $42-$67. greatlakescfa.org/eventdetail/bruce-in-the-usa-a-tribute-to-brucespringsteen-and-the-e-street-band

---------------------ROOSEVELT DIGGS: 8-11pm, Coyote Crossing Resort, Cadillac. An energetic blend of folk, country, blues, bluegrass & rock-n-roll. Their third album, “Better Days,” was awarded a 2019 WYCE “Jammie” for the Listener’s Choice Album of The Year. $10/person. mynorthtickets.com/events/roosevelt-diggs-live-6-26-2021

june 27

sunday

EAST JORDAN FREEDOM FESTIVAL: June 23-27. Today features the Freedom Lovers Breakfast from 7amnoon at the Sno-Mobilers

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Club House on Mt. Bliss Rd. The Works: $7 adults, $5 children. eastjordanfreedomfestival. org/events

---------------------SUMMER ART SHOW: 10am-3pm, East Park, Charlevoix. Featuring a mix of art & crafts displayed on the shores of scenic Round Lake in downtown Charlevoix.

---------------------GARDEN TOUR & ART OF THE GARDEN EXHIBIT: (See Thurs., June 24)

---------------------LOG CABIN DAY: 11am-3pm, Hessler Log Cabin: 7072 Peninsula Drive, TC. Dougherty Mission House: 18459 Mission Road, TC. Both of these houses will be open for viewing & touring. Exhibitors will be recreating crafts from the 19th century at each location. Free. missionpointlighthouse.com/lighthouse-events.html

---------------------SOUND BATH: 7pm, Lavender Hill Farm, Boyne City. Enjoy the sounds of antique Tibetan singing bowls, alchemy quarts crystal singing bowls, Chinese & symphonic gongs. Dress comfortably, bring a yoga mat & any extra blankets & pillows you may need for laying on the ground. $25. lavenderhillfarm.com/calendar/sound-bath

---------------------VESPER CONCERT: “NO PLACE LIKE HOME”: 8pm, John M. Hall Auditorium, Bay View, Petoskey. This concert will begin with “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” as interpreted by soprano Risa Renae Harman & pianist Matt McFarlane, & will end with tenor powerhouse Everett McCorvey singing a rousing spiritual - the evening’s entertainment will be a balm to the isolation of the last year. Other notable performers will include Josh Holritz of Nashville playing a violin concert of Mozart, “Blue Skies” by Irving Berlin as sung by local guitarist Owen James, & guest alumni singer Brennan Martinez singing “D efying Gravity” from Wicked. $18.50; $13.50. bayviewassociation.org/performingarts

art

BIRDS: Jordan River Arts Council, East Jordan. Runs through July 9. Includes all mediums & styles to honor the theme featuring feathered friends. Gallery is open Fridays, Saturdays & Sundays from 1-4pm or by appointment via email: jordanriverarts@gmail.com. jordanriverarts.com

---------------------“DON’T MISS THE BOAT”: Harbor Springs History Museum. Presented by the Harbor Springs Area Historical Society. This exhibit highlights the historic ferries of Little Traverse Bay & features original watercolors & giclees by local artist William Talmadge Hall. Runs through the summer of 2021. Hours: Tues.-Sat., 11am-3pm. harborspringshistory.org/history-museum-exhibits

---------------------CAAC’S 2021 VIRTUAL YOUTH ART SHOW: The Cheboygan Area Arts Council announces its second annual Virtual Youth Art Show. It will be hosted on the Cheboygan Opera House website & promoted online & around town. The CAAC brings work from over 100+ youth art students each year.

Homeschoolers & students from Bishop Baraga, Cheboygan Area High, Middle, & Elementary schools are displaying their best work. To submit artwork, fill out this form: https://bit.ly/3aadQKX. Questions? Email Lisa at lisa@theoperahouse. org. theoperahouse.org/2021/03/29/caacs2021-virtual-youth-art-show-opens-may-1st

---------------------NORTHPORT VILLAGE ARTS BUILDING MEMBERS’ EXHIBIT: Northport Village Arts Building.

Runs through July 4. Open Weds. through Sun., 12-4pm. northportartsassociation.org

---------------------SMALL WORKS, BIG IMPACT: Oliver Art Center, Frankfort. Community Collage Project. Runs through Aug. 28. oliverartcenterfrankfort.org

---------------------CROOKED TREE ARTS CENTER, PETOSKEY: - BENEATH THE MOON AND UNDER THE SUN: LANDSCAPE PAINTINGS BY HEIDI A. MARSHALL: Heidi’s pastel paintings capture the grace, power, & emotion of the land that inspires her. Runs through Sept. 4. Open Tues. through Sat., 10am-5pm. crookedtree.org

- PAST IS PRESENT: A DART FEATURED ARTIST RETROSPECTIVE: This exhibit will recognize the talent, skills, creativity & generosity of past Dart for Art featured artists. Runs through Sept. 4. Open Tues. through Sat., 10am-5pm. crookedtree.org - EGAN FRANKS HOLZHAUSEN: NEVER THOUGHT TWICE: Runs through June 26 in the Atrium Gallery. All works were made with upcycled materials, including old paintings discarded or abandoned in a community studio, scrap wood, & leftover paint from other projects or one-off samples from big box stores. crookedtree.org/event/ctac-petoskey/eganfranks-holzhausen-never-thought-twice - “KIDS ON COMMUNITY”: Youth artists were invited to submit artwork in response to the theme of “Community.” Fun, thoughtful & creative interpretations by Michigan youth (grades 3 - 12) are included in this online image gallery. Runs through June 30, 2021. crookedtree.org/event/ctac-petoskey-ctac-online/kids-community-online-exhibit - THE COLLECTIVE IMPULSE - ONLINE EXHIBIT: Runs through Aug. Featuring the work of artists Ruth Bardenstein, Jean Buescher & Susan Moran. The three artists met in Ann Arbor &, over time, have nurtured both personal & creative connections. They regularly share & critique one another’s work & together visit gallery & museum exhibitions. The exhibition was hosted at the Crooked Tree Arts Center - Petoskey from Sept. 21 through Dec. 18, 2020. This online publication shares work from the exhibition. crookedtree.org/event/ctac-petoskey-ctac-traverse-city-ctac-online/collective-impulse-online

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CROOKED TREE ARTS CENTER, TC: - ESSENTIAL CARGO: EXPLORATIONS IN HAND-BUILT CERAMIC: Ceramicist Scott A. Leipski creates work from recurring memories & an obsession with his own youth. He uses hand-built techniques, bold colors, & nontraditional ceramic textures. Runs through July 24. crookedtree.org/event/ctac-traverse-city/essential-cargo-explorations-hand-built-ceramic - PASSIONATE REALITY: LIFE IN FULL COLOR: Through the imaginative colors & bold brush strokes of six northern Michigan artists, Passionate Reality: Life in Full Color presents a world that is full of life, energy, vibrancy & passion. The exhibition includes work by artists Brenda Clark, Susan Glass, Debra Howard, Colleen Shull, Pam Spicer & Jennifer Tobias. Runs through July 24. crookedtree.org/event/ctac-traverse-city/passionate-reality-life-full-color

---------------------DENNOS MUSEUM CENTER, NMC, TC: - RESILIENCE: AFRICAN AMERICAN ARTISTS AS AGENTS OF CHANGE: Runs through Aug. 15. This exhibition honors aspects of African American history & culture & its contributions to all of America, highlighting a select group of artists who use art as an indispensable tool for social commentary & change. The artworks assembled here—paintings, prints, drawings, photographs, & sculpture—reflect an important part of the Kalamazoo Institute of Arts’ collecting history.

- RUFUS SNODDY: DISAPPEARING MAN: Runs through Aug. 15. Open Weds. - Sun., 11am-4pm.

- RUSSELL PRATHER: AND THE HEART IS PLEASED BY ONE THING AFTER ANOTHER: Runs through Aug. 15. Open Weds. - Sun., 11am-4pm. Russell Prather makes visually volatile renderings of simple forms & ordinary objects from layers of transparent & translucent media.

- TOM PARISH: AN AMERICAN IN VENICE: Runs through Aug. 15. Open Weds. - Sun., 11am-4pm. Tom Parish (American, 1933 - 2018) committed his life to painting the essence of Venice. Inspired by canals & architectural beauty of Italy’s Serenissima), his stylized realist paintings are constructed from blocks of sturdy modernist color. dennosmuseum.org

---------------------GLEN ARBOR ARTS CENTER, GLEN ARBOR: - FOOD IS ART / ART IS FOOD: This juried exhibition features the work of 23 exhibitors who have approached the theme of food as a way to talk about feeding mind, body & spirit.

It runs through Aug. 19. GAAC is closed on Sundays. glenarborart.org/events/exhibit-foodis-art-art-is-food

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- SMALL WORKS HOLIDAY EXHIBITION CALL FOR ENTRY: Through Oct. 1. A showcase of 2D + 3D work that offers small, original art at affordable prices, $150 or less. The exhibition takes place Nov. 5 – Dec. 16. Exhibition registration is now open. For more info go to GlenArborArt. org/ARTISTS, & click on the Call For Entry tab. glenarborart.org/artists/calls-for-entry/2021-smallworks-holiday-exhibition-prospectus - A CELEBRATION: THE PAINTINGS OF AMY L. CLARK-CARELS: Runs through Aug. Featuring many paintings of local landmarks — from Alligator Hill to interior scenes from the historic Sleeping Bear Inn. glenarborart.org - MANITOU MUSIC POSTER COMPETITION CALL FOR ENTRY: The Glen Arbor Arts Center is accepting submissions of original paintings for its 2022 Manitou Music poster competition. The deadline for online submissions is Sept. 16. Open to all current GAAC members. Each year, the GAAC selects an original painting for this limited edition poster. It is sold through the GAAC & at selected shops & art galleries in Leelanau County. glenarborart.org/artist-opportunities/manitou-music-poster-competition - CLOTHESLINE EXHIBIT CALL-FOR-ENTRIES: The Glen Arbor Arts Center is moving art outdoors. The Clothesline Exhibit, July 24 – Aug. 27, is an open-air exhibition of small work.

This year’s theme, Wild Friends, challenges makers of all skills to create an unframed painting, drawing, photograph or collage on a single 5” x 7” sheet of paper around this theme. Each work will be placed in a sealed plastic envelope & pinned to a clothesline in front of the GAAC building at 6031 S. Lake St., Glen Arbor. The Clothesline Exhibition may be viewed 24/7, rain or shine. For info on submitting an entry to the Clothesline Exhibit, go to GlenArborArt. org/ARTISTS. Deadline for submissions is July 6. 231-334-6112. glenarborart.org/artists/callsfor-entry/clothesline-exhibit-call-for-entries - CALL-FOR-ENTRIES: EVERYDAY OBJECTS EXHIBITION: Runs Aug. 27 – Oct. 28. Online applications for this juried show may be submitted through July 15. It is open to 2D & 3D objects in a wide variety of media. The GAAC is open Mon. through Sat., 11am–2pm. glenarborart.org/artists/ calls-for-entry/everyday-objects-prospectus

---------------------HIGHER ART GALLERY, TC - “NATURE - SACRED & PROFANE”: A two person exhibit featuring gallery mainstay, Kristen Egan & her sculptures comprised of gourd, wood & clay, along with lathe-based wood sculptor, Derek Weidman. Runs through June 26.

- CALL FOR ARTISTS: Artists’ submissions will be considered for participation in “Artists for Wings of Wonder.” This exhibit/fundraiser will be comprised MAINLY of invited artists, many of whom are indigenous artists, members of Project Civilartzation & a handful of artwork from artists who submit work for consideration. Deadline for submissions is Aug. 1. higherartgallery.com - MARK GLEASON: “CARRY THE FIRE”: Runs June 21 - Aug. 1. Gleason is a contemporary realist. An online collector preview will open June 20 at noon. higherartgallery.com

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KIDS ON THE GO SUMMER CAMP: 9:30am, Immaculate Conception Elementary School, TC. Held Mondays & Wednesdays, June 21 - Aug. 4.

A Michigan-based pediatric non-profit program that provides physical, occupational, & speech therapy during the summer months for children with special needs. The camp will offer a morning session (ages 3-5 years old): 9:30-11:30am & an afternoon session (ages 6-8 years old): 12:302:30pm. Free. kidsonthegocamp.com/kids-onthe-go-camp-traverse-city

---------------------YOUNG AMERICANS DINNER THEATRE: Boyne Highlands Resort, Harbor Springs. Dinner theatre shows will be held Tues. through Sat. at 6:30pm. Matinee shows will be held Sat. & Sun. at 2pm. Runs June 25 - Aug. 28.

See web site for tickets. boynehighlands.com/ events/young-americans-dinner-theatre

---------------------STROLL THE STREETS: Downtown Boyne City. Friday evenings from mid-June through

Labor Day, downtown comes alive as families & friends “stroll the streets” listening to music, enjoying entertainment, children’s activities & much more from 6-9pm.

---------------------ICEMAN COMETH VIRTUAL TRAINING CHALLENGE: Ride 500, 1,000, or 3,000 miles to prepare for the 2021 Bell’s Iceman Cometh Challenge presented by Trek. Each distance will have its own exclusive Strava Club for tips & support, with all entrants eligible for prizes each month. Runs through Oct. 30. Registration ends Sept. 30. $25. registericeman.com/ Race/Events/MI/TraverseCity/IcemanCometh Challenge#eventGroup-7424

---------------------BIKE NIGHT & CAR CRUISE-IN: Boyne Mountain Resort, Boyne Falls. Held on Tuesdays through Aug. from 6-9pm. Bring your favorite roadster, hog, or coupe. The Clock Tower Lodge circle drive becomes your showplace filled with plenty of bike & car lovers that share your passion. boynemountain.com/upcoming-events/bikenight-and-car-cruise-in

---------------------BIKES FOR ALL MEETUPS: This program is for individuals with special needs who are 26 years & older. Norte has a growing fleet of adaptive bikes for all types of people with special needs. Held every Tues. at 10:30am at Norte’s Clubhouse, TC. Bring a lunch. elgruponorte.org/theme_event/bikes-for-all-5/?mc_ cid=dc0ff355c0&mc_eid=df24b9efb4

---------------------BLOOMS & BIRDS: WILDFLOWER WALK: Tuesdays, 10am-noon, Grass River Natural Area, Bellaire. Go for a relaxing stroll on the trails with GRNA docents Julie Hurd & Phil Jarvi to find & identify the beautiful & unique wildflowers. grassriver.org

---------------------DISABILITY NETWORK MEN’S GROUP: ZOOM MEETINGS: Mondays, 10am. disabilitynetwork.org/events

---------------------DISABILITY NETWORK SPIRIT CLUB: Fridays, 11am. Held via Zoom. This free program will provide you with experienced, certified instructors guiding you through exercise moves that are accessible & challenging for all. disabilitynetwork.org

---------------------DISABILITY NETWORK WOMEN’S GROUP, SHARING HERSTORY: ZOOM MEETINGS: Mondays, 11am. disabilitynetwork.org/events

---------------------DISABILITY NETWORK’S QUARANTINE COOKING: Tuesdays, 2pm. Held via Zoom.

Learn how to prepare & cook food using different adaptable tools, making cooking accessible for all. disabilitynetwork.org/events

---------------------ER RIDES - SUMMERTIME SLOW ROLLS: Harbor Pavilion, Elk Rapids. Easy 4-5 mile route. Held on Thursdays through summer.

Meet at 5:50pm. elgruponorte.org/theme_ event/elk-rapids-rides-summertime-slow-rolls16/?mc_cid=8e9420df74&mc_eid=df24b9efb4

---------------------GENTLE YOGA CLASS: Tuesdays, 9am, Interlochen Public Library. Hosted by Leah Davis.

Bring your own mat, water bottle & towel. Donations appreciated. interlochenpubliclibrary.org

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GUIDED WALKING HISTORY TOUR OF TRAVERSE CITY: Perry Hannah Plaza, TC. A two mile, 2 1/2 hour walking tour through the historic neighborhoods & waterfront of TC. Every Sat. & Sun. at 2pm. walktchistory.com

---------------------SHEBIKES: This group hosts Monday night rides starting from the TC Central High School parking lot at 6pm through June 28. The group will be broken into small beginner & intermediate groups & ride the Old Mission Peninsula with an emphasis on safe cycling. There is a one-time $10 fee for non-Club members. Arrive early to sign in & have your gear ready. cherrycapitalcyclingclub.org

---------------------TC RIDES: F&M Park, TC. Ride slow & socialize for 4-5 miles. Presented by Norte. Held each Weds. through summer. Meet at 5:50pm. elgruponorte.org/theme_event/tc-rides-2021/?mc_ cid=8e9420df74&mc_eid=df24b9efb4

the ADViCE GOddESS Platonic Bomb

Q

: A guy I know grates on me because he only has female friends. He apparently tried to get involved with each of them at some point but got rejected. Why doesn’t he find male friends instead of preying on women (under the guise of friendship) who probably trust him not to hit on them?

— Disgusted

A

: This guy probably lives in eternal hope about each female friend, dreaming of the day he can be of service when she drops something on his floor — like her panties.

Though you don’t mention him trying to roofie his dreams into reality, his behavior probably “grates” on you because you take a less sexually opportunistic approach to your friendships with men. We humans “are disposed ... to imagine that other minds are much like our own,” explains anthropologist Donald Symons, and they often are. However, we’re prone to assume they should be like our own, so when someone thinks differently, we tend to see them as wrong (and maybe kind of awful) and not just different.

Men and women (and male and female minds) are more alike than different.

However, our differing physiologies — like which sex gets pregnant and needs to guard against having to raise a kid solo — led to the evolution of psychological differences, like women’s greater choosiness in whom they’ll have sex with. Though both men and women sometimes tumble into bed with their opposite-sex friends, for many men, the friendship zone seems to double as a “well, try your best to turn her into a sexfriend!” zone.

Evolutionary psychologist April BleskeRechek, researching sex differences in how people perceive their opposite-sex friends, finds that a man is more likely to define a female friend as someone he’s attracted to “and would pursue given the opportunity,” while a woman is more likely to define a male friend simply as “a friend of the opposite sex.”

Maybe you think friendship should be a “safe space,” guaranteed to remain endlessly platonic. And maybe that’s unrealistic — unless you avoid having friends who might hit on you. You could try to view this guy’s behavior in a more compassionate light.

Chances are he’s a beta male who can’t compete with the alphas in the normal mating sphere, like on Tinder or at parties.

He’s probably doing the best he can with the one edge he has, the scheme-y smarts to surround himself with a bunch of pretty ladies. (Living in a dude-filled monastery

BY Amy Alkon only works for a guy whose pet name for his beloved is “The Almighty.”)

Hex And The City

Q

: My ex cheated on me and conned me financially, but before I realized this, I had really fallen for him. I miss him and keep thinking about him every day, and I can’t seem to stop. A friend suggested I get a spell from a witchcraft store. She insists this helped her have closure after her bad breakup. I’m a rational person, and this sounds completely ridiculous, but nothing I’ve tried (from meditation to venting to total strangers to dating other people) has helped.

Please tell me this is completely stupid.

— Plagued

A

: It’s a tempting idea, the notion that you can solve your lingering emotional issues via retail, a la “Curses: Today only, two for $19.99!”

In fact, a ritual — such as casting a spell or hockey player Stephan Lebeau always chewing 20 to 25 pieces of gum and spitting them out two minutes before faceoff — can have a positive effect. I know this sounds rather cuckoopants; however, it isn’t because the ritual works in any supernatural way.

A ritual, explains Harvard Business School professor Francesca Gino, is some “symbolic activity” you perform in hopes of making something happen. Gino finds that performing rituals leads to “increased feelings of control.” This can help the ritual-doer calm down and be more in control. Amazingly, even those who think the ritual they’re doing is total hooey experience this benefit — what I’d call the abracadabra placebo effect. Our psychology seems tuned to figure if we’re taking some action, it’s for a reason: to make things better.

You might create an eviction ritual to get the guy out of your head. I suggest writing the story of your relationship, including what you learned that will help you avoid entanglements with future Mr. Rottens.

Psychologist James Pennebaker finds that “expressive writing” — even 15 minutes spent describing the emotional impact of a bad experience — helps us reinterpret and make sense of what happened so we can go forward instead of endlessly rechewing the past. Invite a friend over (or dress up your cat) to bear witness, and then say a few words, light the story on fire, and flush the ashes. This should help you accept it’s over, though, admittedly, without the finality of the day of celebration you probably think the guy deserves: Casual Human Sacrifice Friday.

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"Just Ir-ish"--oh, whatever. by Matt Jones

ACROSS 1 Concession stand drinks 6 Tugs 11 Shot in the arm 14 Authoritative decree 15 "You're ___ and don't even know it" 16 Need to square up with 17 Compliant "Transformers" director?

19 Milliner's product 20 Printer refill 21 Coast-to-coast vacation, maybe 22 "(You're) Having My Baby" singer Paul 23 Sheepish sounds 24 Orchestra woodwinds 25 Beach atmosphere 28 Sapphire novel on which the film "Precious" was based 29 T, e.g.

30 Allowed past the door 35 "Lara Croft: ___ Raider" 36 Showing little emotion 37 Roman emperor after Claudius 38 Mixed vegetables ingredient, maybe 40 Laundry day target 41 Distant lead-in 42 Car accessory 43 ___ pastry (eclair basis) 45 Five-iron nickname 48 Architect Ludwig Mies van der ___ 49 Casino customer 50 Bearded zoo animal 53 Intent 54 Pop soloist familiar with the Egyptian underworld?

56 "Don't text and drive," e.g.

57 Optimal 58 Come together 59 RR stop 60 Teacher's summons 61 Printer refill

DOWN 1 Big rig 2 Mythological deity with two ravens 3 Nickname for Nixon 4 German grumble 5 Illuminated, as at night 6 "Big Three" conference site of 1945 7 "To reach ___, we must sail ..." (FDR quote) 8 "Dona ___ pacem" (Mass phrase) 9 Hold onto 10 Mess of a spot 11 Unfortunate tractor inventor?

12 Up 13 Software versions still being tested 18 At any point 22 Kind of ballot 23 Potato chip flavor 24 In circulation 25 They haven't flown for 18 years 26 Self-help Internet site 27 Disappointing "Save Me" singer-songwriter?

28 File on a phone 30 "What am ___ do?"

31 Mail motto word 32 "F9" actor/producer Diesel 33 Reggae Sunsplash adjective 34 Taboo 36 Biol. or ecol.

39 Prom piece 40 Foments 42 Pest greeting 43 Vegas game with rolls 44 Raise, as a flag 45 Battle royale 46 George Peppard TV series, with "The" 47 Mode of fashion 49 "I'll ___ my time" 50 Hang on tight?

51 "Last ___" (The Strokes song) 52 Tablet owner 54 Prefix with information 55 ___ nutshell

lOGY

JUNE 21 - JUNE 27

BY ROB BREZSNY

CANCER (June 21-July 22): “I was so flooded with yearning I thought it would drown me," wrote Cancerian author Denis Johnson. I don't expect that will be a problem for you anytime soon. You're not in danger of getting swept away by a tsunami of insatiable desire. However, you may get caught in a current of sweet, hot passion. You could be carried for a while by waves of aroused fascination. You might find yourself rushing along in a fast-moving stream of riled-up craving. But none of that will be a problem as long as you don't think you have something better to do. In fact, your time in the cascading flow may prove to be quite intriguing—and ultimately useful.

SCORPIO (Oct. 23-Nov. 21): Sagittarian author Clarice Lispector observed, "In a state of grace, one sometimes perceives the deep beauty, hitherto unattainable, of another person." I suspect that this state of grace will visit you soon, Sagittarius—and probably more than once. I hope you will capitalize on it! Take your time as you tune in to the luminescent souls of the people you value. Become more deeply attuned to their uniquely gorgeous genius.

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Sagittarian author Clarice Lispector observed, "In a state of grace, one sometimes perceives the deep beauty, hitherto unattainable, of another person." I suspect that this state of grace will visit you soon, Sagittarius—and probably more than once. I hope you will capitalize on it! Take your time as you tune in to the luminescent souls of the people you value.

Become more deeply attuned to their uniquely gorgeous genius.

don't scrimp as you shower blessings on yourself. One possible way to accomplish this goal is to go on a long stroll or two. Camus says, "It doesn’t have to be a walk during which you’ll have multiple life epiphanies and discover meanings no other brain ever managed to encounter." But I think you are indeed likely to be visited by major epiphanies and fantastic new meanings.

TAURUS (April 20-May 20): Robert Mugabe

was Zimbabwe's leader for 37 years. In the eyes of some, he was a revolutionary hero. To others he was an oppressive dictator. He was also the chancellor of the University of Zimbabwe, where his wife Grace received her PhD just two months after she started classes. I suspect that you, too, will have an expansive capacity to advance your education in the coming weeks—although maybe not quite as much as Grace seems to have had. You're entering a phase of super-learning.

GEMINI (May 21-June 20): “We were clever

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19): Trailblazing

Capricorn psychoanalyst Ernest Jones (1879– 1958) said, "There is no sense of contradiction within the unconscious; opposite ideas exist happily side by side." In other words, it's normal and natural to harbor paradoxical attitudes; it's healthy and sane to be awash in seemingly incongruous blends. I hope you will use this astrologically propitious time to celebrate your own inner dichotomies, dear Capricorn. If you welcome them as a robust aspect of your deepest, truest nature, they will serve you well. They'll make you extra curious, expansive, and non-dogmatic. (PS: Here's an example, courtesy of psychologically savvy author Stephen Levine: "For as long as I can remember the alternate antics of the wounded child and the investigations of the ageless Universal played through me.")

AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18): Aquarian

guitarist Django Reinhardt was a celebrated jazz musician in occupied France during World War II. Amazingly, he was able to earn good money by performing frequently—even though he fit descriptions that the rampaging Germans regarded as abhorrent. Nazis persecuted the Romani people, of which he was one. They didn't ban jazz music, but they severely disapproved of it. And the Nazis hated Jews and Blacks, with whom Reinhardt loved to hang out. The obstacles you're facing aren't anywhere near as great as his, but I propose we make him your role model for the next four weeks. May he inspire you to persist and even thrive in the face of challenges!

PISCES (Feb 19-March 20): Piscean author

Richard Matheson believed we've become too tame and mild. "We've forgotten," he wrote, about "how to rise to dizzy heights." He mourned that we're too eager to live inside narrow boundaries. "The full gamut of life is a shadowy continuum," he continued, "that runs from gray to more gray. The rainbow is bleached." If any sign of the zodiac has the power to escape blandness and averageness, it's you Pisceans— especially in the coming weeks. I invite you to restore the rainbow to its full vivid swath: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo, and violet. Maybe even add a few colors.

ARIES (March 21-April 19): Author Albert

Camus advised everyone to "steal some time and give it freely and exclusively to your own self." That's excellent advice for you to heed in the coming days. The cosmos has authorized you to put yourself first and grab all the renewal you need. So please

enough to turn a laundry list into poetry,” wrote author Umberto Eco. Judging from astrological omens, I suspect you're now capable of accomplishing comparable feats in your own sphere. Converting a chance encounter into a useful new business connection? Repurposing a seeming liability into an asset? Capitalizing on a minor blessing or breakthrough to transform it into a substantial blessing or breakthrough? All these and more are possible.

LEO (July 23-Aug. 22): In my opinion,

psychology innovator Carl Jung, born under the sign of Leo, was one of the 20th century's greatest intellects. His original ideas about human nature are central to my philosophy. One of my favorite things about him is his appreciation for feelings.

He wrote, "We should not pretend to understand the world only by the intellect; we apprehend it just as much by feeling.

Therefore, the judgment of the intellect is, at best, only half of the truth, and must, if it be honest, also come to an understanding of its inadequacy." I bring this to your attention, Leo, because the coming weeks will be a favorable time to upgrade your own appreciation for the power of your feelings to help you understand the world.

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VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): For the indigenous

Ojibway people, the word Adizokan means both "story" and "spirit." In fact, story and spirit are the same thing. Everything has a spirit and everything has a story, including people, animals, trees, lakes, rivers, and rocks. Inspired by these thoughts, and in accordance with cosmic omens, I invite you to meditate on how your life stories are central elements of your spirit. I further encourage you to spend some tender, luxurious time telling yourself the stories from your past that you love best. For extra delightful bonus fun, dream up two prospective stories about your future that you would like to create. (Info about Adizokan comes from Ann and John Mahan at SweetWaterVisions.com.)

LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 22): Author Aslı Erdogan

writes, "It had been explained to me from my earliest childhood that I would know love—or that thing called 'love'—as long as I was smart and academically brilliant. But no one ever taught me how to get that knowledge." I'm sorry to say that what was true for her has been true for most of us: No one ever showed us how to find and create and cultivate love. We may have received haphazard clues now and then from our parents and books and movies. But we never got a single day of formal instruction in school about the subject that is at the heart of our quest to live meaningful lives. That's the bad news, Libra. The good news is that the rest of 2021 will be one of the best times ever for you to learn important truths about love.

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HAWTHORNE VINEYARDS, TC 6/23 -- John Piatek, 5-7

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MAMMOTH DISTILLING, TC 6/23 -- Eric Clemons, 7:30-10:30 6/25 -- Matt Mansfield, 7:30-10:30

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BOATHOUSE VINEYARDS, LAKE LEELANAU 6/20 -- Bryan Poirier, 4:30-7 6/27 -- Swingbone, 4:30-7 CICCONE VINEYARD & WINERY, SUTTONS BAY Live From The Hilltop: 6/20 -- The Duges, 2-4:30 6/24 -- Elizabeth Landry & I am james, 5-7:30 6/27 -- Blake Elliott, 2-4:30 CRYSTAL MOUNTAIN, THOMPSONVILLE LEVEL FOUR ROOFTOP BAR: 6/19 -- Jesse Jefferson, 9-11 6/20 -- Jim Hawley, 7-9 6/24 -- K Dragon, 7-9

6/25 -- Meg Gunia, 9-11 6/26 -- Bill Frary, 9-11 6/27 -- Luke Woltanski, 7-9 DICK'S POUR HOUSE, LAKE LEELANAU Sat. -- Karaoke, 10-1 FISCHER CELLARS, NORTHPORT 6/19 -- Craig Jolly, 5-7 GLEN ARBOR WINES, GLEN ARBOR 6/25 -- Blair Miller, 7 LAKE ANN BREWING CO. 6/19 -- Nick Vasquez, 3-6; Full Cord, 7-10 6/22 -- New Third Coast, 6:30-9:30 6/23 -- Andre Villoch, 6:30-9:30 6/24 -- The Jim Crockett Band, 6:309:30 6/25 -- Chris Sterr, 3-6; The Jameson Brothers, 7-10 6/26 -- Chris Skellenger & Paul Koss, 3-6; 1000 Watt Prophets, 7-10

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