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arenting is difficult for anyone. But those who are raising children with unique needs can have a particularly tough time, especially during the school year. This issue is dedicated to them.

If your child is having trouble with school work, tutoring can be very effective. Written by a teacher, “Tutoring ABCs” (page 16) offers concrete advice on how to find the best assistance for your student.

For some kids, ADHD makes learning extra hard. “Everything in Its Place” (page 20), written by a mom with ADD, offers savvy organization

Ptips to help kids with attention issues stay on track with homework.

For other children, it’s not attention but mental health issues that lead to academic struggles. It can be tricky to figure out when a child is just going through an emotional-growth spurt or really needs to talk to a professional. Read “Does Your Child Need Therapy?” (page 22) to find out what signs to look for.

Whatever challenges your family is facing, we wish you strength, hope, and resilience.

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Best Brisket

Only 5 Minutes to Prep

By Momma Chef

I’ll never forget the first time I enjoyed this marvelous dish. It was a holiday, and Aunt Gloria made brisket for our family party. It was a hit, particularly with cousin Amy, who was nine-and-a-half months (!) pregnant, and with me, who was four months along.

The following morning, I woke up craving the brisket for breakfast. Fortunately, my aunt had made so much of it that I knew there were plenty of leftovers. My mouth was watering and my baby was kicking in anticipation of enjoying another round of the ambrosial beef. Needless to say, I was none too happy to find out that my husband and my cousin Joey had scarfed down the entire two pounds as a 4 a.m. “snack” during a marathon video gaming session. That was 17 years ago, and I’ve almost forgiven them.

In any case, I adopted Aunt Gloria’s recipe, making a few minor changes so it fit more easily into my busy lifestyle. Are you surprised that her secret ingredient is a can of Coca-Cola? The sugar in the soda tenderizes the meat and adds wonderful sweetness (so do not use Diet Coke).

While the brisket may take a couple hours to cook, it only takes five minutes to get it in the oven or slow

Easiest (and Best) Old-Fashioned Brisket

Ingredients

• 1 3- to 4-pound beef brisket

• 1 1-ounce envelope onion soup mix (my favorite is Lipton)

• 1 12-ounce bottle Heinz Chili Sauce

• 2 cups ketchup

• 1 8-ounce package sliced mushrooms, optional

• 1 8-ounce can Coca-Cola

Instructions

1. Preheat oven to 300°F.

2. Place brisket in disposable pan or slow cooker.

cooker, and then you can step away and enjoy the tantalizing aromas coming from your kitchen. Just make sure to hide the leftovers. ❖

Karen Nochimowski is the author of 6-Minute Dinners (& More!), a newly released cookbook filled with more than 100 simple recipes with six

3. Sprinkle onion soup mix over brisket, and top with chili sauce and ketchup.

4. Add mushrooms, pour Coca-Cola over everything, and add 1⁄2 cup water.

5. Bake brisket covered in oven for 4 hours or in slow cooker on low for 6 hours, until the meat is very tender.

6. Remove brisket from oven or slow cooker. Let come to room temperature before slicing, about 30 minutes.

7. Cut brisket against the grain before serving.

Serves: 6-8

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Celebrate a Local Astronaut Hero

When astronaut Colonel Nicole Mann set off for a 157-day mission in the fall of 2022 to the International Space Station, her 10-year-old son told her he would miss her but that he knew that she had to go for the benefit of humanity. Indeed, while at the station, Mann and the rest of the mission’s crew contributed to hundreds of experiments to improve life on Earth. The astronaut, who was born and raised in Petaluma and is the first Native American woman to travel to space, will talk about her astral experiences at Women in Conversation: Nicole Mann, NASA Astronaut. The event will be held on September 20 at 6 p.m. at the Green Music Center in Rohnert Park. It’s free, but tickets are required. Prior to the event, 3–6 p.m., there will be exhibitor booths, daytime talks, and food trucks. For more information and to reserve tickets, go to gmc.sonoma.edu/wic

Can the Beast Learn to Love?

In the classic tale Beauty and the Beast, an evil witch’s spell traps a prince in a beast’s body, where he remains until he learns to love and be loved. This is also the premise of Disney’s Beauty and the Beast, Jr., a children’s musical based on the original Tony Award–winning Broadway show. A Theater for Children will bring a student production of the show to the stage of Steele Lane Community Center in Santa Rosa. Performances will be on September 22 and 29 at 7 p.m.; September 23 and 30 at 1 and 3:30 p.m., and September 24 and October 1 at 3 p.m. Tickets are $7 and may be purchased at atheaterforchildren.com

What If Hendrix Had Played the Cello?

What do blues, rock, and Americana sound like when cello replaces electric guitar? Find out when San Francisco’s Dirty Cello performs at Rockin’ the River on September 14, 6–7 p.m. The free concert on the plaza in downtown Guerneville will also feature the Bourbon Street Brass Band’s New Orleans beats, 7–7:30 p.m., and the Sacred Fire Band’s Santana covers, 7:30–9 p.m. Find out more at rockintheriver.net.

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The Heat Is On

One-third of Sonoma County residents cannot afford to eat three meals a day. For them, the Redwood Empire Food Bank is essential. To help support the non-profit, the Windsor Chamber of Commerce is hosting the 10th Annual Windsor Chili Cook-Off. Live music, beer, chili tastings, and the chance to vote for a People’s Choice winner will all be on the menu. The event will be held on September 9, noon–4 p.m., on the Windsor Town Green in Windsor. Tickets are $20 for adults and $10 for ages 8–17. Bring spoons and reusable beverage containers, to support Windsor’s efforts to protect the environment. Find out more and purchase tickets at windsorchamber.com/chili-cook-off

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Faith Ako’s love of music started when she was growing up on Oahu and learning to play the piano and ukulele. Today she is a Bay Area award-winning traditional and contemporary Hawaiian music artist. See her perform at the Polly Klaas Community Theater fundraiser, where she will share the stage with hula dancer Kumu Shawna Alapa’i. Besides music and dance, the evening will feature fresh leis, Hawaiian fare, and, to benefit Maui fire victims, a silent auction. The event will be held September 23, 4–7 p.m., at the Polly Klaas Community Theater in Petaluma. Tickets are $50–$75 and may be purchased at tinyurl.com/mr3ws7tx.

This Elephant and Pig Like to Sing

When the cautious elephant Gerald and optimistic Piggie get invited to a party, they set out on a vaudevillian adventure that explores the meaning of friendship. This is the plot of the children’s musical Elephant and Piggie’s “We Are in a Play.” See it when Sixth Street Playhouse players perform at the Charles M. Schulz Museum in Santa Rosa. Shows will be held at 10 a.m. and 1 p.m., September 16–17 and September 23–24. Tickets are $34 and may be purchased at tinyurl.com/585wnkuj

10th Annual Windsor Chili Cook-Off

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The WellRounded Child

How Extracurricular Programs Benefit Kids

By Tanni Haas

As the new school year begins, parents ask themselves whether or not they should enroll their kids in an after-school program. The answer is a resounding “Yes!” Experts agree that after-school programs not only boost kids’ academic performance, they also enhance their social and emotional development, as well as their overall health and well-being.

Academic Performance Kids who attend after-school programs tend to do better academically

than those who don’t. They pay more attention in class, are more involved in classroom discussions,

develop stronger study habits, and earn higher test scores. Researchers believe that’s because they spend more time doing homework and get the material explained by a wider variety of adults with different teaching styles. After-school

Kids learn how to support one another and solve problems through teamwork.

programs generally offer more hands-on, experiential ways of learning, which are great for many kids.

In addition to their academic tutoring, most after-school programs also offer different extracurricular activities such as art, music, and sports. These activities also have a positive impact on their

academic performance. When kids discover they have a particular talent, they gain self-confidence and that translates into better classroom behavior and performance. They also learn important timemanagement skills. When kids have homework to finish but are looking forward to a favorite activity, they learn how to manage their time so that they can do both.

Social and Emotional

how to make new friends. They also learn much from the extracurricular activities. Whether they’re working together on an art project or a music performance, or they’re

conflict-resolution skills, and the ability to work well with others.

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Development

During afterschool programs, kids spend considerable time interacting with children other than their regular classmates, including kids from different grades. This teaches them important interpersonal skills and

preparing for a sports competition, kids learn how to support one another and solve problems through teamwork. These are extremely valuable lessons that will serve them well for the rest of their lives. Almost all professional jobs require good communication and

Finally, attending an after-school program is excellent for children’s overall well-being. Most after-school programs teach kids about proper nutrition, engage them in physical activities that are good for their growing bodies, and offer them healthy snacks—all in a safe and structured learning environment. Researchers have concluded that kids who regularly attend after-school programs are less obese than their peers. ❖

For a complete list of classes and descriptions please ask at the information desk or visit sonomalibrary.org.

Tanni

Haas, PhD, is a college communications professor.

After-school programs generally offer more hands-on, experiential ways of learning.

encouraging lessons in basic subjects; find out if their teachers are certified and able to tailor lessons for various learning styles. Occasionally a family member may be able to step in and help your child in a certain subject. In that case, work with the teacher to get proper lesson materials. It’s important that the tutoring lessons don’t conflict with classroom expectations.

Tutoring ABCs

How to Find the Best Help for Your Kid

By Jan Pierce

There are many reasons for a child to fall a bit behind in school. Maybe your family moved and the new school does things in its own way, or maybe your child is operating on a different developmental clock.

Whatever the reason, falling behind other learners is never a happy situation for a child. Extra study at home may help, but often working with a tutor is the best way for a student to make great strides. Hiring a tutor is a serious venture. You don’t want to risk adding more stress to your child’s life. And the additional expense can be a strain on your budget; you want your dollars to bring positive results. So consider these qualities when looking for academic help.

Be sure that you work with teachers and the tutor to set specific academic goals. One way to build learning confidence is to meet objectives.

Safety and Convenience

Your primary concern is for your child’s well-being. You’ll be entrusting another adult with your little learner, so get and check references. Make sure lessons are in a place they can be supervised, such as in your home or a school or library.

Skills and Experience

The best tutors are teachers who are either retired or currently not employed. They are certified and have lots of experience with children who need additional support. Tutoring services are able to provide

Patience, Empathy, and Kindness Children who have fallen behind are often very discouraged. They may feel they can’t learn and this hurts their self-esteem. Anything additional in their schedule can feel like punishment. So hire someone who offers nothing but positivity, and lessons in bite-size pieces—then failure won’t be an option. Good tutors will have games and activities that are both instructional and fun. They may use some sort of reward system that encourages a bit of risk-taking, but also makes your child feel hopeful and accomplished. An effective tutor is on-task but also upbeat and friendly; they are patient but expect the best. Often charts

The best tutors are teachers who are either retired or currently not employed.

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Enthusiasm and Positivity

Typically children who have experienced a degree of failure are sure that they’re “bad at math” or “bad at reading.” A skilled tutor can present material in such a way that your child can shine. The tutor’s enthusiasm for reading a good book or solving a math problem can change your child’s mind about learning.

Reliability Your family’s schedule is important and adding a tutoring session may be a stretch for you. So if your tutor is not on time, or fails to measure up in any way, feel free to find another one.

It’s also a good idea to schedule tutoring sessions for a month or two at a time and then re-evaluate the need for the support. You may

embarrassment or a punishment. It may be wise to explain that throughout history, children have worked with tutors and that classroom instruction is a relatively new way to learn.

decide that the extra boost was all that your child needed to get back on track. Or you may decide that certain times of the year are just too busy to add another timeslot. If so, plan sessions during a better season or semester.

It’s important that your child never feel that working with a tutor is an

Hiring the best tutor for your child will take research, time, and money. But a strong, capable tutor may be just the boost your child needs to become a confident, successful learner. ❖

Jan Pierce, MEd, is a retired teacher and writer specializing in education, parenting, and family life. She is the author of Homegrown Readers and Homegrown Family Fun . Find her at janpierce.net.

Everything in Its Place

9 Organization Tips for Kids with ADHD

By Kerrie McLoughlin

If you have children with attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), you know they struggle every day. School challenges them even more as they try to plan and do homework, keep track of permission slips, attend to hygiene, and accomplish other activities. Here’s how to help them have a successful school year.

Make a fresh start…every month. Begin with a massive cleaning session, and clear out the clutter from last school year. Empty out backpacks, closets, and bookshelves. Then, to keep up with the influx of new paper, put monthly cleaning sessions on the calendar.

Let them own the system. Your children won’t keep up with any organization or homework system they don’t help to create. Let them figure out what will work for them.

Limit choices. Less is more. “I got my son all these binders with

tabs, but [his teacher] said one simple folder is sometimes more helpful,” says one mom.

Buy color-coded supplies. School psychologist Lisa Adams, PhD, suggests, “[O]rganize and color-code binders. Use the same color for all math, etc.” Choose colored binders with clear front/ side areas for visible labeling. Buy various sizes and colors of Post-it notes and tape flags, bins, flat-drawer organizers, and Washi tape for extra personalization. Don’t forget to get pens, pencils, Sharpies, and highlighters they love and will actually use.

Create a homework haven. Designating a spot just for doing homework and nothing else is key. No phones or other distractions should be allowed. Start with the most difficult subjects first, and take frequent 15–20-minute activity breaks. Dana Baker-Williams says her daughter used special pens to write out assignments and due dates on her closet doors. “Then she could prioritize better,” she says. For large or long projects, they’d break assignments into bite-size pieces. Develop a homework system. Work with your kids to create a system that includes specific times for retrieving, doing, and turning in their homework. “Provide continuous parent oversight until the system is learned,” says Adams. If you need a helping hand with homework, check

Your children won’t keep up with any system they don’t help to create.

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out tutoring services (see “Tutoring ABCs” on page 16). Create a place for everything. Once homework is finished, teach kids to put their binders and textbooks back into their backpacks. Always keep backpacks in the same spot. File papers in a milk crate system. Once the mess is out of their brains, they won’t have to worry about constantly losing things or waste precious time trying to find what’s been lost.

Work that planner! Commit 15 minutes of each morning to prepare for the day. Then commit 15 minutes in the evening to review and think about what could have gone differently. Rebelling against the planner is normal; create rewards for sticking with it. (There are a zillion different planners, so review a bunch on YouTube before you buy one.)

Just say no to paper explosions. Have kids keep a small notebook with them to jot down notes. And then, in a timely manner, have them transfer the little jots over to one spot (the perfect planner). This goes for notes created on phone apps as well. If reminders aren’t put in the right place, they will be lost forever. ❖

Kerrie McLoughlin (TheKerrieShow. com) is a 40-something ADD writer and homeschooling mom of five.

Designating a spot just for doing homework is key.

Does Your Child Need Therapy?

9 Signs It’s Time to Call a Counselor

By Isbell Oliva-Garcia

Parenthood is an incredible adventure, but it certainly comes with its fair share of challenges. As you watch your child grow, there might be times when you notice something doesn’t quite feel right. Perhaps your kid is struggling with emotions, behaving in concerning ways, or having trouble connecting with others. They may be facing difficulties that go beyond your capacity to help. If so, therapy or counseling can be beneficial. Here are specific signs that your child may need it. Know that early intervention can make a significant difference.

1. Behavior Changes Sudden, significant changes in behavior or personality, such as a usually cheery child becoming withdrawn, is cause for alarm. This is particularly true if the new, concerning behavior lasts two or more weeks. Watch for shifts in sleeping patterns, eating habits, and personal interests. Also take note of frequent acting out, such as defensiveness, irritability,

argumentativeness, and angry outbursts.

2. History of Trauma As a parent, you may or may not be aware that your child has been through a traumatic event. Some trauma is obvious: mass school violence, a severe accident, or a sudden loss of a loved one. But other trauma, such as sexual abuse, is not so apparent. So look for these signs:

• separation anxiety

• crying

• nightmares

• difficulty sleeping

• anxiety or fear

• depression

3. Poor Academic Performance If your child’s grades are dropping, this could be a sign that they are in distress. This is especially true if your child usually performs well at school. If the child also is struggling with other aspects of life, such as relationships with family and friends, there is additional cause for concern. Even if the drop in grades isn’t due to emotional distress, investigating it may help you learn about other issues, such as a learning disability like dyslexia or a disorder like attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).

4. Withdrawal or Isolation If your child starts to withdraw and isolate themselves from friends and family, this could mean they are feeling sad or anxious and may need help. If, for example, a usually social child starts avoiding playdates or sitting alone at lunch, or even doesn’t want to leave the house, be concerned.

5. Long-Lasting Sadness Of course, everybody gets sad from time to time, and some kids are more sensitive than others. However, if your child has been sad for more than two weeks, this could indicate something more serious, such as depression. Other symptoms of children’s depression include low energy, irritability, and losing interest in fun things they used to enjoy.

6. Persistent Worry It’s normal for your kid to feel worried or anxious in certain situations. However, if

the anxiety is out of proportion to the situation at hand and getting in the way of your kid’s life, then pay attention. Your child may verbalize their specific worries and anxiety, or they may show other signs, including:

• separation anxiety

• extreme fears or phobias of specific situations

• fear of going to school or other social situations

• worry about something bad happening

• panic attacks

7. Unexplained Physical Symptoms If your child constantly complains of physical symptoms, such as tummy aches or headaches, and your doctor has ruled out any physical cause, these symptoms could

be physical manifestations of anxiety and distress. You may notice these symptoms linked to stressors, such as going to school in the morning.

8. Self-Destructive Behaviors

Your child may repetitively engage in self-destructive behaviors like picking at their skin or pulling their hair. Or your child may engage in more outright, dangerous self-harm like deliberately cutting, burning, or hurting themselves in an attempt to feel relief from negative emotions. Even if they are not actively self-harming, but they talk about hurting themselves, it’s definitely cause for concern.

9. Suicidal Ideation If your child is talking about suicide, it’s a huge red flag that they need help ASAP. They may talk about suicide

directly or indirectly. For example, they may say they wish they were dead or that everyone would be better off if they weren’t around. Or they might make drawings or write about death. Do not hesitate to call 988, the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline. Local therapy resources include the Redwood Empire Chapter of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, recamft.org/ find-a-therapist; Redwood Community Services, redwoodcommunityservices. org; and the Lake County Behavioral Health Services provider directory, tinyurl.com/k6jr7hkp. ❖

Isbell Oliva-Garcia is a licensed mental health counselor at Grow Therapy She works with front-line individuals struggling with PTSD or work-related stress.

September Calendar of Events

Friday 1

FREE Movies in the Park. Sept. 1: Bad Guys. Sept. 8: Cars. Sept. 15: Ratatouille. Bring chairs, picnic & blanket. 7:45–10 p.m. Howarth Memorial Park. 630 Summerfield Rd., Santa Rosa. tinyurl.com/4am4mztz

FREE Young Astronomers/Striking Sparks. Robert Ferguson Observatory virtual meeting for kids in grades 4–9 who are interested in all things space & want to meet like-minded friends. First Friday of each month. 7–8 p.m. RSVP for Zoom link: ncummings@ rfo.org

Saturday 2

FREE Creekside Nature Hike. Take 1.4-mile nature hike along Sonoma Creek. Learn about plants, animals & aquatic life. Parking: $10. 10–11:30 a.m. Sugarloaf Ridge State Park. Visitor Center. 2605 Adobe Canyon Rd., Kenwood. tinyurl.com/yc4z4pkp

Fork & Good Food Festival. Food (vegan options available), drink & retail vendors. Live music (’90s,

current funk & soul) & DJ C-Los. Entry: $5. 1–5 p.m. SOMO Village Event Center. 1100 Valley House Dr., Rohnert Park. tinyurl.com/dk3x43xh

FREE The Dark Crystal. Screening of Jim Henson’s 1982 fantasy. Part of the monthly Family Matinee series. Sept. 2 & 3. 11 a.m. Rialto Cinemas Sebastopol. 6868 McKinley St., Sebastopol. tinyurl.com/45zs9bn6

Tiempo del Cuento. Interactive, bilingual storytime. $16. Infants 11 months & younger: free. Discounts available for qualifying guests. Saturdays. 1–1:30 p.m. Children’s Museum of Sonoma County. 1835 W. Steele Ln., Santa Rosa. tinyurl.com/ zfjcn57n

Sunday 3

FREE Common Ground Under 5 Family Meet-Up. For families with a child younger than 5 with a disability, medical complexity, or any sort of unique need. Enjoy snacks & companionship with other Common Ground Society families. Siblings welcome. 10 a.m.–noon. 85

Brookwood Ave., Ste. 12, Santa Rosa. Register: tinyurl.com/4e4tu4y3

Tuesday 5

FREE Sonoma Tennis H.I.T.S. Sonoma Community Tennis

Nonprofit & the USTA offer tennis lessons for ages 3–5 free of charge. Mondays–Thursdays. 3–4 p.m. Hanna Center Tennis Facility. 17000 Arnold Dr., Sonoma. felipemonroytennis.com

Register: sonomatennis@icloud.com.

Early Release Enrichment at Veronda-Falletti Ranch. For elementary school-aged children who have half-days on Tuesdays & Wednesdays. Provides farm, nature & art experiences & snacks. $10–$45. Tuesdays & Wednesdays. 1–4:30 p.m. Veronda-Falletti Ranch. 175 W. Sierra Ave., Cotati. Registration required: sandyloam.org or cotati.recdesk.com/ Community/Calendar

Thursday 7

Broadway Under the Stars: An Enchanted Evening. Tribute to the best of Broadway & more, with

music & dance. $49–$165. 7:30 p.m. Thursdays, Fridays & Sundays. Thru Sept. 17. Jack London State Park. 2400 London Ranch Rd., Glen Ellen. transcendencetheatre.org.

Friday 8

FREE Welcome Fall at Veronda-Falletti Ranch. Kids meet animals & make crafts. Children younger than 18 must be accompanied by an adult. Closed-toe shoes suggested. Drop-ins welcome. 4–5:30 p.m. Veronda-Falletti Ranch. 175 W. Sierra, Cotati. Register: tinyurl.com/ mrypsyks.

FREE Team Ghilotti Movie Night: Flubber. Event is free with a coupon. Request coupon via email: raine@ pollyklaas.org (limit 2 tickets). 6:30 p.m. Polly Klaas Community Theater. 417 Western Ave., Petaluma. tinyurl. com/48pnkavw

FREE AV Summer Movie Series. Sept. 8: Back to the Future (Clover Theater. 1st St., Cloverdale). Sept.

15: Star Wars (Healdsburg Plaza. Healdsburg Ave. & Matheson St., Healdsburg). 6:30 p.m. avfilmpresents. org/upcoming-events.

Saturday 9

Second Saturday Cartoonist: Armand Baltazar. Meet, watch & talk to Armand Baltazar, who’s worked for DreamWorks Studio, Walt Disney Feature Animation & Pixar Animation Studio. Cost included with museum admission: $5–$12; free for ages 3 & younger. 1–3 p.m. Charles M. Schulz Museum. 2301 Hardies Ln., Santa Rosa. schulzmuseum.org/ armand-baltazar

Windsor Chili Cook-Off. Live music & chili tasting. $10–$20. Benefits

Carnival of the Animals

OCTOBER 29, 2023

Bobby Rogers, conductor Roustabout Theater, actors

Revel in The Seahorse and the Crab, an underwater adaptation of the beloved tale, The Tortoise and the Hare A whimsical and humorous musical suite, Carnival of the Animals, features 14 animal-themed movements. Costumes are encouraged.

Charlie Brown Goes to the Symphony

JANUARY 14, 2024

Bobby Rogers, conductor Roustabout Theater, actor Tag along with Charlie Brown as he visits the Symphony! Discover music that brings the adored Peanuts Gang to life. Music can tell stories through sound. Find out the stories Charlie Brown discovers on his adventure to the Symphony! This concert is sponsored by Snoopy’s Home Ice.

APRIL 28, 2024

Francesco Lecce-Chong, conductor

Da-da-da-dum, perhaps the most recognizable four notes in musical history! Join Maestro Francesco Lecce-Chong as he explores this monumental musical masterpiece and breaks it down into kid-size bites. Enjoyable for kids from 2 to 92!

Photo by Susan and Neil Silverman Photography

Redwood Empire Food Bank. Bring re-useable beverage containers & spoons. Noon–4 p.m. Windsor Town Green. Market St. at McClelland. Windsor. windsorchamber.com/ chili-cook-off

Kool & the Gang. Kool & the Gang has influenced the music of 3 generations with their jazz/funk arrangements. $30–$115. 7:30 p.m. Green Music Center. 1801 E. Cotati Ave., Rohnert Park. gmc.sonoma.edu/ kool-the-gang.

Car & Motorcycle Show. More than 250 classic cars & motorcycles. Food & beer. 10 a.m.–3 p.m. Live music: 11 a.m.–2 p.m. Downtown Cloverdale. cloverdalecarshow.com

FREE Family Bike Workshop. Learn tips, tricks & tools for bicycling safely. Children & parents must participate together & bring their own bikes & helmets. 10 a.m.–12:30 p.m. Santa Rosa French American Charter School. 1350 Sonoma Ave., Santa Rosa. Pre-registration required: tinyurl. com/yypb59eb.

Sunday 10

FREE Fiesta de Independencia. Family-friendly celebration of community, cultural diversity & Latino heritage. Authentic food, mariachi bands & Ballet Folklórico Ireri. 1–7 p.m. Luther Burbank Center. 50 Mark West Springs Rd., Santa Rosa. lutherburbankcenter.org

Ride-A-Rig. Kids get a chance to see & touch vehicles that play an important role in the community. $8. Ages 2 & younger: free. Tickets for sale online or in person. Presented by the Junior League of Napa-Sonoma. 10 a.m.–2 p.m. (Siren-free: 10 a.m.–noon). Sonoma County Fairgrounds. 1350 Bennett Valley Rd., Santa Rosa. tinyurl.com/2hsx4j6j

Tuesday 12

FREE Sensory Friendly Afternoon. Exclusively for children ages 0–12 who have special needs. Hands-on exhibits, art studio. Safe, accessible environment. 1–5 p.m. Children’s Museum of Sonoma County. 1835 W. Steele Ln., Santa Rosa. Pre-registration required: tinyurl.com/ jm9ed2vx

Wednesday 13

Just Between Friends Kids’ & Maternity Consignment Sales Event. Sept. 13: 9 a.m.–8 p.m. ($10–$25).

Sept. 14: 9 a.m.–7 p.m. ($4–$8). Sept. 15 (Sensory Shopping, no music): 8–10 a.m. (free with online ticket).

Sept. 15: 10 a.m.–7 p.m. ($4 or free with online ticket). Sept. 16: 9 a.m.–3 p.m. ($4 or free with online ticket).

Sept. 16 (Half-Price): 4:30–7:30 p.m. ($10). Sept. 17: 9 a.m.–2 p.m. (free). Parking: $10. Sonoma County Fairgrounds. 1350 Bennett Valley Rd., Santa Rosa. Tickets: northbay. jbfsale.com.

FREE Walk Through the Grades Tour. Take peek into Waldorf classrooms. Check out the campus & talk to teachers. Adults only. 9–11 a.m. Summerfield Waldorf School & Farm. 655 Willowside Rd., Santa Rosa. Register: summerfieldwaldorf.org

Thursday 14

8th Annual Believe in the Dream Gala: A Roaring Good Night. A fundraiser for the LIME Foundation & its NextGen Trades Academy. Special guest speakers & performances. Tickets include dinner. $225. Registration & reception: 6–7 p.m. Dinner & program: 7–9 p.m. Luther Burbank Center for the Arts. 50 Mark West Springs Rd., Santa Rosa. limebelieve.com.

FREE Rockin’ the River 2023.

Dancin’ in the Street Party. Featuring Dirty Cello (Americana), Bourbon Street Brass Band (New Orleans street music) & the Sacred Fire Band (Santana tribute). 6–9 p.m. Guerneville Plaza. Downtown Guerneville. tinyurl.com/3znd87y7.

Friday 15

FREE Top Gun Maverick. Bring chairs & blankets. Food & drinks available for purchase. 7 p.m. Lucchesi Park. 320 N. McDowell Blvd., Petaluma. cityofpetaluma.org/ movies-in-the-park-2023

Saturday 16

Wheels & Wings Show. Classic & muscle cars from every era, parked next to high-performance historic aircraft. $10; ages 7 & younger, free. 8 a.m.–2 p.m. Pacific Air Coast Museum. One Air Museum Way (N. Laughlin entrance), Santa Rosa. tinyurl.com/mvm8pcu4.

Movies at the Green: The Super Mario Bros. Outdoor film screening. Bring blankets & chairs. $5. 12 &

younger: free. Gates: 4 p.m. Film: 5 p.m. Green Music Center. 1801 E. Cotati Ave., Rohnert Park. gmc.sonoma.edu/mario

Elephant & Piggie’s “We Are in a Play!” Sixth Street Playhouse presents a family musical that explores the meaning of friendship in a vaudevillian adventure adapted from Mo Willem’s children’s books. $34. Sept. 16–17 & 23–24. 10 a.m. & 1 p.m. Charles M. Schulz Museum. 2301 Hardies Ln., Santa Rosa. tinyurl.com/ j5nn3y7v

Sunday 17

FREE Shofar in the Park & Tashlich Meditation. Ring in the new year with a short service that will consist of Shofar Blowing & Tashlich Service. Rosh Hashanah treats will

be served. Donations appreciated. No membership or affiliation necessary. 5 p.m. Lucchesi Park. 320 N. McDowell Blvd., Petaluma. RSVP: tinyurl. com/3jcuy52m.

Wednesday 20

FREE Women in Conversation: Nicole Mann, NASA Astronaut. Hometown hero, NASA astronaut & the first Native American woman in space, Nicole Mann, talks about her groundbreaking journey to reach the stars. Exhibitor booths, daytime talks & food trucks: 3–6 p.m. Mann’s talk: 6 p.m. Green Music Center. 1801 E. Cotati Ave., Rohnert Park. Tickets required to attend event: gmc.sonoma.edu/wic

FREE North Bay Job Fair. Hosted by Amaturo Sonoma Media Group.

2–4:30 p.m. (Second Job Fair: Oct. 4, 3–6 p.m., at Elise Allen Highschool). Luther Burbank Center for the Arts. 50 Mark West Springs Rd., Santa Rosa. sonomamediagroup.com/nbjf

Friday 22

Disney’s Beauty & the Beast Jr. A Theater for Children’s production for young audiences. $7. Sept. 22 & 29: 7 p.m. Sept. 23 & 30: 1 & 3:30 p.m. Sept. 24 & Oct. 1: 3 p.m. Steele Lane Community Center. 415 Steele Ln., Santa Rosa. atheaterforchildren.com

FREE Summer Movie in the Park. 7:15 p.m. La Plaza Park. W. Sierra & Old Redwood Hwy., Cotati. cotati. recdesk.com/Community/Calendar

Outhouse Classic Golf Tournament. Benefits Forestville Youth Park. $175–$190. Dinner only (Charlie’s Grill): $50. 1 p.m.: Shotgun start. 6 p.m.: dinner, awards, raffles, live & silent auctions. Windsor Golf Course. 1340 19th Hole Dr., Windsor. forestvilleyouthpark.org

Mendocino County Fair & Apple Show. CCPRA rodeo, classic car show, sheep dog trials, carnival, country music, dancing. Apple tasting, wine & hard cider tasting. $6–$10; ages 6 & younger: free. Unlimited rides: $35–$40. Extra fee for tastings. 9 a.m.–midnight. Fair runs thru Sept. 24. Mendocino County Fair. 14400 Hwy. 128, Boonville. mendocountyfair.com/ county-fair.

Saturday 23

Masters of Illusion. Award-winning magicians perform modern illusions live on stage. $39 & $55. 7:30 p.m. Luther Burbank Center for the Arts.

50 Mark West Springs Rd., Santa Rosa. tinyurl.com/ycv3vdpv

All Hallow’s Art Fest. Halloween art, décor, jewelry & collectibles. Admission: $5.; ages 12 & younger, free. 9 a.m.–3 p.m. Hermann Sons Hall. 860 Western Ave., Petaluma. halloweenfolkartsociety.com

First Annual Polly Klaas Community Theater Fundraiser. Traditional Hawaiian cuisine, music & hula plus fresh leis & silent auction. $50–$75. Auction benefits Maui fire survivors. 4–7 p.m. Polly Klaas Community Theater. 417 Western Ave., Petaluma. tinyurl.com/5n8yeppw

Global Roots Sonoma. World music festival with 4 stages, family activities, workshops, food trucks & more.

$65–$375. Get $20–$29 single-day tickets with promo code GRS29. Sept. 23–24. Noon. Green Music Center. 1801 E. Cotati Ave., Rohnert Park. gmc.sonoma.edu/global-roots-sonoma.

Tuesday 26

FREE Common Ground Virtual Meet-Up for Caregivers of Teens & Adults. For parents or caregivers who attend to a teen or adult with a disability, medical complexity, or any sort of unique need.

Registration is required. Held the last Tuesday of the month. 6–7 p.m. Register for Zoom link: tinyurl.com/ mr294nf3

Wednesday 27

FREE Walk the High School Tour. Prospective students come shadow

while parents tour the school. 8–9:30 a.m. Summerfield Waldorf School & Farm. 655 Willowside Rd., Santa Rosa. Register: tinyurl.com/ bdex28at.

FREE Blood Pressure & Glucose Screenings. While providing free screenings, Providence Health Mobile Clinic will teach little ones how to stay happy, healthy & heart-friendly. 1–2:30 p.m. Children’s Museum of Sonoma County. 1835 W. Steele Ln., Santa Rosa. tinyurl.com/5x7f8xr3.

Friday 29

Hello Dolly! $20–$42. Rohnert Park residents: $12–$36. Sept. 29–30: 7:30 p.m. Runs weekends thru Oct. 15. Spreckels Performing Arts

Center. 5409 Snyder Ln., Rohnert Park. tinyurl.com/2mc64a7b.

Sound of Music. $33–$60. Sept. 29–30. 7:30 p.m. Cinnabar Theater. 3333 Petaluma Blvd. N., Petaluma. ci.ovationtix.com/35211.

Saturday 30

FREE Windsor Day Parade & Fall Concert. Parade at 10 a.m. Festival & concert immediately after. 10 a.m.–3 p.m. Windsor Town Green. Downtown Windsor. tinyurl. com/3wv3e6h3

FREE Family Music Matinee with Healdsburg Jazz. Terrence Brewer makes the music of Vince Guaraldi, who wrote music for Peanuts specials, accessible to families. Noon–1 p.m. Charles M. Schulz Museum. 2301

Hardies Ln., Santa Rosa. tinyurl. com/pp3kkrmp.

Valley of the Moon Vintage Festival. Grape stomp, wine tasting, live music, foot race, food vendors & kids’ zone. Fun Run 5K: 8 a.m., $10–$35. Grape Stomp: 10 a.m.–3 p.m., $75. Sonoma Plaza. Sonoma. valleyofthemoonvintagefestival.org

Oktoberfest at the Patch. Food, beer, bands, meals & tastings. Pumpkin patch activities. 8K foot race. Kids’ Pumpkin Run. 8 a.m.–8 p.m. Santa Rosa Pumpkin Patch. 5157 Stony Point Rd., Santa Rosa. tinyurl.com/48e4utbj.

will bake nothing now. I will only eat preprocessed garbage that is mass-produced in a way that makes me question my life choices. And it will be glorious.

Other brave parents will show up. We will not talk to each other. A head nod will be offered, accepted, and a quiet contract will be established. Slowly we will recharge our souls.

Pool Time for Dad

Every Father Needs a Secret Floaty

By Shannon Carpenter

The pool calls to me. It is the siren that speaks on stormy seas. In its violence, it offers peace. I shall go to the pool. I shall lounge at the pool. As soon as the kids go to school.

“You guys have had a great summer, but it is time to put childish things away and have your hopes and dreams crushed,” I told my kids when they went back to school. (On a side note, I’m available for unmotivational speaking at your next corporate event.)

“But…” the kids started. I have no idea what else they said because I was already pulling out my secret pool floaty from its hiding space. My kids are rough on everything. They have bent the rims of my car. Put holes in my wall. Broken a metal gear off the garage door. No, they don’t

get the good pool floaty. They get the stuff from the dollar bin.

This summer, we saw a fan museum, which is exactly what it sounds like. We did the water parks and suffered third-degree burns on the bottoms of our feet. Sleepovers, late nights, special treats—we did them all.

Now it’s my time.

There will be no splashing and no yelling. My pool book will not get wet. I will have snacks that will not be gone in 20 seconds. And with my pool floaty, the one where I can fully recline while I pull my hat low, I will listen to the sounds of my own breathing.

There will be a few more weeks of warm weather. It’s hot enough to bake cookies on the sidewalk. Or bread. Or any of the other 1,000 things I made this summer to create quality time with my kids. I

Bruises will heal. Scars will form over the emotional cuts that all parents have suffered over the last summer. Memories of camps that were too full, activities that cost too much, and vacations that involved epic meltdowns will be locked away until we can one day look at them and see that these activities were actually fun. Right now, recalling them just makes us want to fall asleep, like we did when we were standing in line for the Ferris wheel at that sketchy fair. The place where we spent 40 bucks for rides that haven’t been OSHA-certified since 1987.

That is what the pool offers and that is where I’ll be.

I hope to not see you there.

Shannon Carpenter is a professional humorist, co-host of The Dadhouse Pod , and the author of The Ultimate Stay-at-Home Dad Manual (Penguin, 2021).

There will be no splashing and no yelling. My pool book will not get wet.