Mendo Lake Family Life December 2024 by familylifemag

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Just because spendy can be trendy doesn’t mean gift-giving season needs to break your budget. For children, especially, it is important to have the chance to give heartfelt gifts at little or no cost. Find our piggy bank approved ideas in this issue (page 14)!

While kids look forward to opening presents on Christmas morning, reminding them of the reason for the season is essential. Convincing kids of the joy of giving can be easier said than done, but Family Life offers advice on the matter (page 16). Seven tips for managing holiday chaos (page x) help

parents and children hold on to the true spirit of the holidays, too.

’Tis the season of lots of sweet treats, but Momma Chef gives families a pie recipe that’s actually a winter squash souffle (page 8). Easy and healthy, this recipe is dairy-free, nut-free, sesame-free and vegetarian.

After all the hustle and bustle, families have to get back into the pre-holiday routine and head back to school. Saying goodbye to winter break doesn’t have to be so hard, thanks to our suggestions in this edition (page 18). Here’s to “wrapping up” 2024 and ringing in the new year well!

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Super Simple Squash Souffle

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By Momma Chef Karen Nochimowski

When I saw this dish on a dinner buffet, I thought it was a mistake. Why was there a pie nestled between a platter of chicken and a green salad? Didn’t it belong on the dessert table near the brownies and cookies? My friend corrected me, letting me know that the “pie” was actually her winter squash souffle.

Slightly sweet, this souffle is now a winter family favorite, pairing nicely with any main dish I’ve thrown its way. Through the years, I’ve tweaked the recipe to make it easier and healthier (decreasing the sugar and substituting whole wheat flour), but it’s still just as delectable. This recipe is dairy-free, nut-free, sesame-free and vegetarian. If making this gluten-free use a GF pie crust or omit the crust. ❖

Karen Nochimowski is the author of the cookbook 6-Minute Dinners (& More!), featuring more than 100 simple recipes. Karen started and runs Momma Chef’s Soup Kitchen and Momma Chef’s Little Free Pantries. Part of her cookbook proceeds go toward feeding those facing food insecurity.

Simple and Delicious Squash Souffle

Prep time: 5 minutes

Cook time: 45 minutes

Serves: 8 pieces

10-12 oz package cooked winter squash (defrosted and drained)*

½ cup whole-wheat flour

⅓ cup sugar

3 eggs

¼ cup softened margarine or melted coconut oil

1 graham cracker pie crust

Preheat the oven to 375°F.

In a large bowl, using a hand mixer, blend together the drained squash, flour, sugar, eggs, softened margarine until well blended.

Pour the mixture into the pie crust.

Bake uncovered for 45-50 minutes until the top is firm and brown.

*You can find the cooked winter squash in the freezer section of most grocery stores. If you cannot find this, Whole Foods carries a canned organic butternut squash that can be used. The squash Soufflé will be a bit denser and you need to increase the cooking time to 1 hour. I have used this before and it’s a great substitution.

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Nutcracker Ballet Season

Presented by Center Stage Studios and North Bay Ballet Theater, The Nutcracker Ballet is a two-act classical ballet set on Christmas Eve and told from a child’s imagination. The performance is an adaptation of E. T. A. Hoffman’s 1816 short story, The Nutcracker and The Mouse King. Friday, December 6 at 7 p.m.; Saturday, December 7 at 1 and 7 p.m.; Sunday, December 8 at 1 p.m. The Marge Alakszay Center Terrace Middle School Campus. 350 Lange St., Lakeport. Tickets available at www.centerstage.studio.

Grace Hudson Holiday

Grace Hudson Museum presents carolers, kids’ crafts, and Santa Claus for visitors of all ages. Wreaths and swags will be available for those who ordered in advance, with a limited number for on-site purchase. Guests can also experience the current exhibition, Earth Portraiture: Ray Strong’s Northern California Landscapes, featuring 49 paintings by Oregon-born artist Ray Strong (1905-2006). Visitors can also view the core galleries dedicated to the artwork of Grace Hudson, exquisite Pomo basketry, and Carpenter-Hudson family history. Light holiday-themed refreshments available. On First Fridays, the Museum offers free admission. Friday, December 6 from 5-8 p.m. Grace Hudson Museum & Sun House. 431 S. Main St., Ukiah. For more details, visit tinyurl.com/4aa9h9w7.

Revisit Christmas Classics

The Soper Reese Theatre presents two holiday classics. Enjoy Christmas Carol Live Radio Play, a holiday tale told by voice actors, live musicians, and a Foley artist providing sound effects. Admission is free but donations are welcome. Saturday, December 7 at 7 p.m., Sunday, December 8 at 2 p.m. ’Twas the Night Before Christmas Retold: An original theater piece, for and by Lake County residents. Friday-Saturday, December 13-14 at 7 p.m. and Sunday, December 15 at 2 p.m. All performances are at Soper Reese Theatre. 275 S. Main St., Lakeport. Learn more at soperreesetheatre.com

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Walk Your Way to Santa

Kelley House docents lead visitors on a beautiful and informative walking tour through the preserved-in-time 19th century town of Mendocino each Saturday. Visit New England-style homes, find out why Mendocino is known as the city of water towers, admire 100-year-old roses, and marvel at how an art renaissance in the 1960s led to the town’s preservation. Meet at the Kelley House Museum. Tickets are $25 for adults and $15 for youth. Saturday, December 7. 11 a.m.–1 p.m. Purchase tickets at tinyurl.com/4ycyrymr Cookies, cider, and pictures with Santa for $5 from 3:30-4:30 p.m. the same day.

Christmas in the Country

Come to downtown Kelseyville for the annual parade of lights, merchant open house, photos with Santa Claus, and much more. Monday, December 2, starting at 5:30 p.m., more than a dozen merchants offer a variety of treats from hot chocolate and cookies to pizza, popcorn, and wine. The parade of lights begins at 6:30 p.m. at 1st & Main streets, Kelseyville. Pictures with Santa at Kelseyville Fire Station follow the parade. Visit tinyurl.com/4xfc58jt for more information.

Blue Wing Ball Drop

First opened in the 1880s, the Blue Wing Saloon Restaurant’s historic ambiance transports guests back in time. On New Year’s Eve, Blue Wing helps you ring in the future. Whether you take an early seating and move on to other holiday events, or a later seating leading up to a champagne celebration when the ball drops in Times Square – 9 p.m. local time — guests will enjoy a white tablecloth dinner, balloons, noisemakers, and all the trimmings plus music by THE BASS-ICS bass combo band. Call for reservations: 707-275-2233; or visit tallmanhotel.com. Tuesday, December 31. Blue Wing Restaurant. 9520 Main St., Upper Lake.

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Manage Holiday Stress Seven Practical Tips for

Parents

By Rebecca Hastings

The holiday season is magical — twinkling lights, excited kids, family traditions, and the joy of giving and receiving gifts. But for many parents, this time of year also brings a side dish of stress. The pressure to make everything perfect, ensure everyone is happy, and handle the demands of work, family, and holiday events can overwhelm even the most organized parents.

Here’s how you can manage holiday stress and actually enjoy the magic this season brings:

1. Let Go of Perfection — With the quest for perfect decorations, the ideal family photos, and flawlessly executed meals, it’s easy to feel like you have to meet an impossible standard. But the truth is, perfection isn’t what makes the holidays special. It’s the memories, the laughter, and the shared experiences that will stand out to your kids.

Tip: When things don’t go as planned, take a deep breath and laugh it off. Show your kids that it’s okay when things aren’t perfect—it’s part of what makes life fun and interesting!

2. Create Meaningful, Low-Stress Traditions — Think about the simple things your family enjoys and turn them into cherished traditions. This could be anything from decorating the tree together, making homemade ornaments, or

watching a favorite holiday movie as a family.

Tip: Ask your family what their favorite holiday activities are and let them guide which traditions you keep and which ones you might let go. You’ll be surprised how often the simplest traditions are the most treasured.

3. Set Realistic Expectations (for Yourself and Others) — This holiday season, give yourself the gift of setting realistic expectations. Prioritize what matters most to you and your family, and let the rest go. By setting boundaries and focusing on a few key priorities, you’ll feel more in control and less overwhelmed.

Tip: Before the holiday season kicks into full swing, sit down with your partner and discuss what’s truly important to your family. Make a list of your top priorities and set boundaries for how much time, money, and energy you’re willing to spend on different activities.

4. Delegate and Accept Help — Don’t be afraid to delegate tasks to your spouse, older kids, or even other family members. Whether it’s asking your partner to handle the gift wrapping, getting your kids involved in decorating, or assigning dishes for family potlucks, sharing the workload can help reduce stress.

Tip: Create a family to-do list and assign tasks to each person. Make it fun by turning certain chores into a game or rewarding the kids with holiday-themed treats for their help.

5. Take Care of Yourself —

Prioritizing your physical and mental well-being is essential to keeping holiday stress in check. Make sure

you’re getting enough sleep, staying hydrated, and eating well during the holiday season.

Tip: If you’re feeling overwhelmed, step outside for some fresh air. Even just a few minutes of alone time can help you reset and approach the rest of your day with a clearer mind.

6. Remember What Matters

Most — Amid all the busyness, it’s easy to lose sight of what really matters during the holidays—spending time with the people you love. The presents, parties, and decorations are all secondary to the joy of being together.

Tip: If you start to feel overwhelmed, stop and ask yourself: “Will this matter a year from now? Or will my kids remember how we laughed

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together, even when things didn’t go as planned?” Shifting your perspective can help reduce stress and refocus on what’s truly important.

Prioritize what matters most to you and your family, and let the rest go.

7. Practice Gratitude — Gratitude is a powerful tool for reducing stress, and it’s especially meaningful during the holiday season. Take time each day to reflect on the things you’re thankful for, whether it’s a quiet moment with your kids, a warm home, or the chance to celebrate with loved ones.

Tip: At the dinner table, ask each family member to share one thing they’re thankful for that day. It’s a quick and easy way to bring gratitude into your holiday routine.

Keep the Joy in the Holidays — This holiday, give yourself permission to relax, savor the little moments, and create memories that will last a lifetime. Your kids won’t remember the perfectly wrapped gifts or the gourmet meals, but they will remember the love, laughter, and joy you shared as a family. That’s the real magic of the holidays. ❖

Rebecca is a published author and former teacher passionate about authenticity, faith, and family. In real life, she can often be found typing words, driving her kids places, or wherever there is chocolate. Connect with her at RebeccaHastings.net and on Instagram.

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Gifts Kids Can Make and Give

by Kimberly Blaker

As the holidays approach, are your kids scrounging to buy gifts they can’t afford? If so, offer them these fun ideas to make gifts from the heart.

Tell a story with photos. Create a memory page to add to a friend or relative’s scrapbook. Buy a package of blank scrapbook pages. Then choose a theme such as ‘my best friend,’ ‘sports car shows’ or ‘when I was little.’ Design each page using stickers, markers, colored pencils, construction paper, photos, magazine pictures, and fun sayings or descriptions that fit your theme.

Service coupons. Offer a free evening of babysitting, a week of taking out the trash, making your sister’s bed, pet sitting, lawn mowing, ironing, or another task you can do.

Shape decorative soaps. Grate bars of inexpensive white soap. Then mix approximately one-half cup of warm water with a cup of shredded soap. Add food coloring to the water to create colored soap. Knead the mixture. Add additional warm water as necessary until it forms like dough. Next, fill cookie cutters with the mixture. Or flatten it on a sheet of waxed paper and trim into shapes. Let the soap dry slightly. Then press with small leaves or other designs. Allow the decorative soaps to dry for 24 hours, flipping them occasionally.

Design your own pens and pencils. Purchase sheets of large white labels and cut them into 1½-inch strips. Design the pieces with colored markers. Then wrap the design around the length of the pens or pencils. Personalize them by adding a

Homemade gifts will be treasured long after any present that came from a store!

smaller label to the center of the pencil with “World’s Greatest Grandma” or another catchy phrase. To protect your pencil design, wrap it with transparent clear tape.

Make a placemat. Choose a subject of interest to your gift recipient, such as model cars or Barbie dolls. Clip pictures from magazines and catalogs. Then glue them to an 11” x 17” sheet of paper. Overlap the images to create a collage or spread them apart and share details about each. When you’re done, laminate the design with self-adhesive laminating sheets or have it laminated at an office supply.

Create bookmarks. Cut colored paper into 2” x 7” strips then design the pieces with colored pencils and markers. Or clip fancy border from magazines. Find out your gift recipient’s favorite author, artist, or historical figure. Then look the person up in a book of quotations. Select a quote, type or write it out, and add it to the bookmark. Then laminate it for protection.

Give magnetic photos. Cut a piece of cardboard from a cereal box to match the size of your photo. Then

glue it to the back of your photo for support. Last, glue a small magnet to the cardboard. Now you have a photo magnet.

Construct a puzzle photo frame. Cut a piece of firm cardboard to your desired size of the frame. Then ask an adult to trim out the center with a razor knife, leaving a 1” to 2” thick frame. Next, trace the outside edge of your frame onto another piece of thin cardboard, and cut it out. Place a sheet of colored paper between the two pieces of cardboard. Next, glue the paper and two pieces of cardboard together. Glue jigsaw puzzle pieces around the frame, overlapping each other to cover the entire thickness of the frame. Let the frame dry. Then brush a layer of glue over the puzzle

pieces to prevent them from falling off. Stick your photo in the opening of the frame with double-sided tape. Give a poster. Find out your friend’s favorite rock star, actress, or sport. Then tear three or four

Compose a memory book. Buy a composition book from the office supply. Cover it with construction paper, then design and decorate the cover. Inside, write your memories of special times you’ve had with the person to whom you’ll present it. Memories might include a trip to the zoo, a favorite holiday celebration, a special gift, something funny, and lots of other experiences you’ve had together.

Homemade gifts will be treasured long after any present that came from a store! ❖

full-page photographs or pictures from magazines. Trim the tattered edge, then laminate for a durable glossy poster.

Kimberly Blaker is a freelance writer. She also owns an online bookshop, Sage Rare & Collectible Books, specializing in out-of-print, scarce, signed, and first editions; fine bindings; ephemera and more at sagerarebooks.com

Heart of the Holidays Teaching Kids the Joy

By Terri Lilga

Tof Giving to Others

he holidays are a festive time of year where your senses come alive to the sights, scents, sounds, treats, and hands-on activities that vie for your attention. Families step up from busy to busier with decorating their homes both inside and out, shopping, wrapping, baking, planning, and attending special events. With the hustle and bustle of striving to get your holidays “just right,” the true meaning of why we are celebrating in the first place can get lost.

The heart of the holidays isn’t found in a colorfully wrapped gift-box or tissue paper-accented gift-bag. It isn’t delivered by an Amazon truck driver. It isn’t a gift that one can exchange or return for a refund. It is something unique in that the more you share it with others, the more it enriches you. And, it’s free …

The heart of the holidays is found in generosity. Qualities of generosity include kindness, thoughtfulness, selflessness, and being mindful of others. A simple act that can be almost effortless for you, can make a significant impact on another person. As spontaneous as paying for a stranger’s cup of coffee, generosity

is given without expectation of reciprocation.

Children have an innate sense of wanting to help and please. What a wonderful opportunity then, to show them by your everyday actions what generosity looks like. Kids can participate with you in practically all of the ways you choose to be generous. Donating to a food bank? Children can add your donations to the bins. Sending a card to cheer up a neighbor?

Being given consistent opportunities to practice generosity is an invaluable asset for kids as they grow into adulthood.

Include a picture your child has drawn specifically for them. Assembling holiday care packages with church members to help struggling families or community members who are alone? Invite your kids along to help while they learn some organizational and sorting skills in the process.

Generosity facilitates active and interactive participation among community members, which leads to a stronger community. It generates the power of connection while modeling for others how to give and receive graciously.

The greatest gift we can give to others is ourselves and our time. Be encouraged to think beyond traditional gifts and consider some of these practical, impactful ways to give back to others during this holiday season … and beyond.

Acts of Service — Children can volunteer at a local shelter, food bank, library, or participate in a community cleanup or donation drive. In addition to developing a sense of social responsibility, volunteering teaches children the joy of sharing their time with others.

Sharing Gratitude — Encourage kids to share something they are grateful for each day of the holiday

The heart of the holidays isn’t found in a colorfully wrapped gift-box or tissue paper-accented gift-bag.

season and to find ways to express their gratitude to the people around them, whether through a conversation at dinner, a handwritten note, or perhaps keeping a daily gratitude calendar.

Spreading Kindness — Create kindness challenges through which kids are encouraged to be kind: Donating toys, giving compliments, or baking treats for local first responders and other workers.

Being given consistent opportunities to practice generosity is an invaluable asset for kids as they grow into adulthood. At the holidays and beyond, every act of generosity helps shape the world in a positive way. ❖

Terri Lilga held a 30-year career as an elementary school teacher in the same school district from which she graduated. Her first children’s book, Santa’s Simon, was inspired by her desire to write a Christmas book with a unique twist, but mostly to highlight a message of faith, courage, and the transformational power of kindness.

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Saying Goodbye to Winter Break

By Jill Morgenstern

Snuggled between the end of December and the beginning of January comes every child’s real favorite holiday: Winter break! What a wonderful time to reset and relax. Bedtimes may be later, restrictions on electronics may be more lax, even chores might not be done as strictly or on schedule. But every good thing has to come to an end sometime, and usually it’s shortly after New Year’s Eve. However, there are some ways to make the transition back to school an easier one.

Plan a play date — If your child is overwhelmed by the thought of having to reintegrate into a classroom full of children, meeting with a friend one-on-one might help them remember the good parts about classroom life.

Helping children get set to go back to school involves both physical and mental needs.

Play “Back to School” — For Kindergarten and preschool, it may help help to role-play going back to school. If you do this in an entertaining, lighthearted way, it can be fun and your child may have no idea you were getting him or her ready all along.

Reintroduce school time rules — If you are able, begin to implement the old screen time or

The return to school can be much harder on some children than others, but all can benefit from a little self-care.

bedtime rules a few days ahead of time. That way it won’t come as such a shock to your child when school restarts.

Create a schedule together — This can be helpful at any time, but it’s especially important when looking forward to a new year. It is particularly important if your child does sports or other activities. Make sure to squeeze in time not only for homework, but also for breaks. Completing this task together gives your child a sense of empowerment throughout his or her day.

Review notes — If your child is in upper elementary or middle school, the last couple of days of winter break is a great time to review notes, especially in classes where your child may be struggling. However, this review should be short enough not to frustrate your child. You want memories of winter

break to be warm and welcoming, not full of strife and struggle.

Grocery shop — Collect plenty of snacks and get everything ready for lunches for the new year! This will make your mornings easier and keep morning mayhem at bay.

Organize your child’s study space — Pencils and paper will be much easier to find if they are in their customary place. If winter break was a messy, chaotic success, the house might be a total mess! But carving out this one little sanctuary will help those first few days of homework go that much smoother.

Plan self-care — The return to school can be much harder on some children than others, but

all can benefit from a little self care. Whether it’s playing with a much-loved stuffed animal or pet, coloring, or taking a relaxing bubble

If you haven’t set one before now, this is the perfect time to set a bedtime routine.

bath, self care activities can reduce stress, making the transition back to school that much easier.

Set a bedtime routine — If you haven’t set one before now, this is the perfect time to set a bedtime routine. A relaxing bedtime routine can benefit everyone from the smallest babies up to their parents and even grandparents.

Whether it is reading stories, dimming the lights a little before bedtime, or having a soothing bath, this helps your child’s body know it’s time to get ready to sleep.

Helping children get set to go back to school involves both physical and mental needs. By gradually adjusting their schedules from home to school, children can thrive rather than struggle during a time that is well known for causing problems adjusting. By keeping children involved in this process and keeping communication open, families can promote a smooth and positive start to the new school term. ❖

Jill Morgenstern is a mom to four and a teacher. She has a Master’s degree in teaching reading.

December Calendar of Events

Sunday 1

FREE Mendocino Transit Authority

Holiday Trolley. Look for route map & schedule in this issue. Downtown Ukiah. mendocinotransit.org

Mr. Skunk & the Giant Christmas Tree. Enjoy seasonal treats on a journey through the redwoods to visit the world’s largest living Christmas tree. Tickets start at $68.35. Infants (2 and under) ride on a lap for free. Various dates & times thru December while seats last. Departing: 299 E. Commercial St., Willits. skunktrain. com/magical-christmas-train.

Holiday Book Sale. Friends of the Fort Bragg Library host. Proceeds help the library finance special collections and provide fun, educational programming. 10 a.m.–4 p.m. Fort Bragg Library. 499 E. Laurel St., Fort Bragg. tinyurl.com/55huvy3j

FREE Family Fun Open Gym. Kids younger than 12 must be accompanied by an adult. Activities for the whole family to enjoy. Sundays: Noon–4 p.m. Fridays (indoor soccer only): 4–8 p.m. Alex Rorabaugh Recreation Center. 1640 S. State St., Ukiah. Email with questions: carter@ukiahrec.org.

FREE 5th Festival of Trees

Auction & Party. Decorated holiday trees & other holiday décor sold. Proceeds benefit Wings of Hope, grief counseling & hospice patients. Donations suggested. 5–10 p.m.

Sophie’s Day Spa. 3855 Main St., Kelseyville. secure.qgiv.com/event/ festot202.

Monday 2

Ukiah on Ice Holiday Ice Skating Rink. $12 includes skate rental. Daily thru January 12. Open Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, New Year’s Eve, and New Year’s Day. Next to Alex Thomas Plaza on School St., Ukiah. View schedule: cityofukiah.com/ukiahonice Kelseyville Christmas in the Country Parade of Lights. Merchant open houses followed by visits with Santa at Kelseyville Fire Station. 5:30–7:30 p.m. 1st & Main St., tinyurl.com/4xfc58jt

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Annual Festival of Lights. Gardens illuminated with holidays lights. $10. Ages 16 & under: Free. Fridays–Sundays, 5–7 p.m. Thru Dec. 22. Mendocino Coast Botanical Gardens. 18220 Highway 1, Fort Bragg. gardenbythesea.org/calendar/fol2024

Saturday 7

Santa Meet & Greet and Holiday Breakfast, crafts, pictures, and raffle drawings. Children 3 and www.theriverukiah.com

up: $8. Adults: $10. 9:30–11:30 a.m. Parade: 6 p.m. Clearlake Youth Center. 4750 Golf Ave., Clearlake. tinyurl.com/ ypjr6af2

FREE Anderson Valley Holiday Bazaar. Artisan crafts, vendor, & food booths. 10 a.m.–4 p.m. Mendocino County Fair. 14400 Hwy. 128, Boonville. tinyurl.com/bdf7fc6u

FREE Holiday Arts & Crafts Fair. Jewelry, pottery, wreaths, food products, & other hand-crafted items. Lunch available for purchase. 10 a.m.–4 p.m. Greenwood Community Center. 6129 S. Hwy. 1, Elk. elkweb. org/holiday-arts-and-crafts-fair-3.

Breakfast with Santa. Pancakes and eggs. Pictures with Santa and maybe a surprise Grinch guest. 11 a.m. 4750 Golf Ave., Clearlake. tinyurl.com/ mpvyhher

Ukiah Holiday Market. Arts, crafts, and specialty food vendors. Gingerbread house competition and meet the Grinch opportunities. 11 a.m.–4 p.m. Ukiah Valley Conference Center. 200 S. School St., Ukiah. cityofukiah.com/hometownholidays.

FREE Fort Bragg Winter

Wonderland. Music, food, window displays, kids crafts, & more. Noon–6 p.m. Photo with Santa: 2–6 p.m. at the Guest House Museum. 6 p.m. Tree lighting. 6:30 p.m. Lighted Truck Parade. Franklin & Laurel streets, Fort Bragg. visitfortbraggca.com/ fort-bragg-winter-wonderland.

Photos with Santa. No appointment needed. Photos starting at $7. Dec. 7: 3–5 p.m. Dec. 12 & 19: 3–6 p.m. Dec. 14 & 21: 11 a.m.–1 p.m. Triple S Camera. 260 S. School St., Ukiah. triplescamera.com.

Arcade Play & Santa Photos. Photo prints free with $10 arcade play purchase. 3–6 p.m. Fun Zone Arcade.

2755 Mission Rancheria Rd., Lakeport. tinyurl.com/bdh446fu.

FREE 5th Festival of Trees

Auction & Party. Decorated holiday trees & other holiday décor sold. Proceeds benefit Wings of Hope, grief counseling & hospice patients. Donations suggested. 5–10 p.m.

Sophie’s Day Spa. 3855 Main St., Kelseyville. secure.qgiv.com/event/ festot202

FREE Ukiah Parade of Lights. 6–7 p.m. State Street between Low Gap Road & Alex Thomas Plaza. Ukiah. cityofukiah.com/hometownholidays. Christmas Carol Live Radio Play.

This classic Christmas tale will be told by voice actors, live musicians, and a Foley artist providing sound effects. Admission: Donations welcome. Dec. 7: 7 p.m. Dec. 8: 2 p.m. Soper Reese Theatre. 275 S. Main St., Lakeport. tinyurl.com/mu48mabz.

Let it Glow Holiday Light Competition. Contest runs thru Dec. 22. Top three winners within the Ukiah city limits and top three winners within Ukiah Valley will be announced after 5 p.m., Dec. 23. Register to enter: cityofukiah.com/ letitglow.

Cirque de Bohème

Sunday 8

Lower Lake Hometown Holidaze Street Fair. Family fun including local entertainment, crafts, reindeer games, gift shopping, holiday hunt with prizes, food, and more. 10 a.m.–3 p.m. 16235 Main St., Lower Lake. tinyurl.com/2we5trw7

FREE Lighted Boat Parade. 6:30–9 p.m. Noyo Harbor. 19101 S. Harbor Dr., Fort Bragg. tinyurl.com/e9b5x3st.

Tuesday 10

Frozen Pajama Party. The whole family is invited to come in your warm fuzzies and get your picture taken at the photo booth. Elsa and Anna might be there to join you for watching the show. Concessions available for purchase. Admission: Donations welcome. Doors open: 5:30. Movie: 6–8 p.m. tinyurl.com/2km2d4k6

Wednesday 11

Hideous Sweater Holiday Gala. Dust off that ugly holiday sweater for an evening of kitsch, camp, and cocktails. Proceeds benefit the activities of the Mendocino Coast Humane Society and the Mendocino Coast Chamber of Commerce and Visitor Center. Noyo Harbor Inn. 500 Casa Del Noyo, Fort Bragg. kozt.com/ event/hideous-sweater-holiday-gala.

Friday 13

FREE Annual Fine Arts & Craft shows. Over three dozen artists & artisans. Live entertainment. Food available for purchase. Dec. 13: Noon–7 p.m. Dec. 14: 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Willits Center for the Arts. 71 E. Commercial St., Willits. tinyurl. com/2suk79nr

‘Twas the Night Before Christmas Retold. An original theater piece, for and by Lake County residents. Admission: Donations accepted.

Dec. 13 & 14: 7 p.m. Dec. 15: 2 p.m. Soper Reese Theatre. 275 S. Main St., Lakeport. soperreesetheatre.com

Saturday 14

FREE Wreaths Across America. There will be ceremonies to honor veterans across America. Local events take place at cemeteries in Fort Bragg, Mendocino, Willits, Ukiah, Hopland, Upper Lake, Kelseyville, Lower Lake, & Middletown. tinyurl.com/ysdu7r2y.

Kids Winter Craft Faire. Handmade crafts and gifts from Ukiah Library Kids Farmers Market. Photo booth. 10 a.m.–Noon. Ukiah Natural Foods Cafe. 721 S. State St., Ukiah.

FREE Annual Community Christmas Celebration. Presented by the Rotary Club of Clearlake. Everyone invited for a free meal. Gently-used coat, warm clothing, & blanket giveaway. Santa will be on hand for photos, elves will be handing out candy & a toy. 10 a.m.–2 p.m. Burns Valley Elementary School. 3620 Pine St., Clearlake. tinyurl.com/ mw7d5jjp.

FREE First Annual Holiday Bazaar. Artisan crafts, vendor, & food booths. Dec. 14–15: Noon–7 p.m. Lakeport Fairgrounds. 210 Martin St., Lakeport. tinyurl.com/u2apv8fz.

Holiday Concert for the Coast. Presented by the Ernest Bloch Bell Ringers. Tickets: $25 in advance, +$5 day of at Gualala Arts, the Dolphin Gallery, and online. 3 p.m. Gualala Arts Center. 46501 Old State Hwy., Gualala. tinyurl.com/25dcbb34

A Holiday Concert for the Coast. Featuring the Ernest Bloch Bell Ringers under the direction of Jean Jackson. $25 in advance, +$5 day of. Children accompanied by an adult ticket holder may attend for free. 3 p.m. Gualala Art Center. Coleman Hall.

46501 Old State Hwy., Gualala. tinyurl. com/25dcbb34.

FREE Symphony of the Redwoods Sing-Along. Community event featuring Symphony of the Redwoods musicians & professional vocal soloists. Audience encouraged to sing along. 3–5 p.m. Mendocino Presbyterian Church. 44831 Main St., Mendocino.

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Sunday 15

FREE Sing-Out Annual Sing-Along. All welcome. Christmas carols around the Christmas tree. Free hot cider & cookies. 5:30 p.m. First Presbyterian Church Parking Lot. 514 W. Church St. Ukiah. fpcukiah.org

Tuesday 17

Elf Pajama Party. The whole family is invited to come in your warm fuzzies and get your picture taken at the photo boot before being transported to New York City with Buddy the Elf. Concessions available for purchase. Admission: Donations welcome. Doors open: 5:30. Movie: 6–8 p.m. tinyurl.com/33fps37j.

Thursday 19

Community Christmas Caroling. Join members of United Christian Parish around the community Christmas tree to sing carols of the season. Song sheets provided. All welcome. 5 p.m. Xabatin Community Park. 800 N. Main St., Lakeport. tinyurl.com/3ksjmwc3.

Friday 20

FREE Polar Express Pajama Party. The whole family is invited to come in your warm fuzzies and get your picture taken at the photo booth before embarking on a magical trip to the North Pole. Free refreshments. Doors open: 1:30 and 5:30 p.m. Movie: 2–4 p.m. and 6–8 p.m. tinyurl.com/ ycxt4rau.

FREE Christmas in Middletown. Lighted car show. 7 p.m. Library Park. 200 Park St., Lakeport. holidayonmain. com/car-parade.

Saturday 21

Christmas at the Ranch. Hay rides & cider for the whole family. 11 a.m., 1, & 3 p.m. Six Sigma Ranch & Winery. 13372 Spruce Grove Rd., Lower Lake. tinyurl.com/4ywteb7y.

FREE Mendocino Makers Holiday Market. Vendor market followed by tree lighting. 1–6 p.m. Rotary Park. 44960 Main St., Mendocino. tinyurl. com/mvrkvxj7.

Holiday Open House. Learn about future plans. Music provided by accordianist Jan Kessner. Free snacks. 2–4 p.m. Fort Bragg Library. 499 E. Laurel St., Fort Bragg. tinyurl. com/4epx8stx.

Tuesday 31

New Year’s Eve Party. Come to the Blue Wing for dinner to get ready for the new year. Bassics Quartet plays live music. 4–9:30 p.m. Celebrate the new year at 9 p.m. when the ball drops in New York City. Blue Wing Restaurant. 9520 Main St., Upper Lake. Reservations required: tallmanhotel.com. 250 Lange Street Lakeport, Behind Terrace Middle School www.centerstage.studio

Christmas ’80s Style

Singing Through the Best Decade

By Katy M. Clark

Feeeeed the woooooorld. Let them know it’s Christmas time!” I sing aloud in the car.

Unimpressed, my teenage daughter questions, “Why is that even a Christmas song?”

Amidst the tunes of glad tidings and joy, it is a bit odd to sing about famine in Ethiopia.

I explain how Bob Geldof mobilized the biggest pop stars of the ’80s to perform this song, using MTV to spur everyone, including a young teen in Arizona (me!), to help.

I recount purchasing the 45 record, “Do They Know It’s Christmas?” by Band Aid with proceeds going to relief efforts. Then I remind her what a 45 record is and promise that MTV was relevant.

During Christmas in the 1980s, I spent hours flipping through

catalogs to find my dream gifts, circling what I wanted in the ToysRUs Big Book or Sears catalog.

One year, I wanted a Cabbage Patch doll. My mom had to physically go to a store, stand in line, and do her best impression of a linebacker to procure one. Imagine that, a world without Amazon Prime.

I loved visiting the mall at Christmas, brimming with shoppers and decorated to the hilt. When I was little, my mom would take me there to see Santa. As a a teen, I still waved at Santa while shopping for stirrup pants at Express, eating sausage samples at Hickory Farms, and buying cassettes at Sam Goody.

Christmas in the ’80s meant every gift was wrapped in wrapping paper. Gift bags did not exist. Grandma yelled if I ripped the paper when opening a gift because she carefully

saved wrapping paper to reuse, year after year. Also yarn ribbon, like Raggedy Ann’s hair, was re-used for bows.

“Who’s Raggedy Ann?” my teen questions.

Moving on, I tell my daughter how I baked cookies from recipes written by my grandma’s hand, rather than ones found on TikTok. I still prefer them to anything online. I tell her I will pass them on to her one day.

After baking, I watched Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer, A Charlie Brown Christmas, and John Denver with The Muppets. It required effort, flipping through the TV Guide, to find the show’s air date and time, and make sure I parked in front of the TV to watch it the one time all season it aired. There was no DVR or streaming service!

Just then “Frosty the Snowman” comes on the radio. I look at my daughter, who smiles back at me.

“I know this one, Mom,” she says, and we sing the classic together.

Next time Taylor Swift’s cover of “Last Christmas” plays, I’ll tell my daughter why the Wham! version is the best. Because it’s from the ’80s, of course. ❖

Katy M. Clark is a writer and mom of two who embraces her imperfections on her blog, Experienced Bad Mom. This article was originally published by Your Teen for Parents , the premier resource for parents of teenagers.

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