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Like it or not—and for better or worse—sports play a powerful role in our culture. They are an often problematic, but undeniable force in the social construction of concepts ranging from masculinity and femininity to strength and worth from an early age.

The locker room was the place I first learned to fear my sexuality, and I am sure that, while my experience is not universal amongst LGBT men and women, I was not alone in this. The locker room brought me face-to-face with my difference—not only my desire for other boys, but also my lack of athleticism—and exposed me to the dangers of both differences. The locker room was the first place I suffered physical bullying and first succumbed to psychological abuse.

More abstractly, in the rural southern culture I grew up in, the sports star was held out as the hero, the role model, and it was one with whom I could never relate. And insofar as it represented the pinnacle of achievement, it also guaranteed my failure to live up to expectations. I would of course find my own models and seek my own paths, but there always lingers that vague sense of failure to—as my father might put it—be a “real man.”

I have met a lot of LGBT men, and a smaller number of women, who shared similar feelings of having been disenfranchised by the sports culture that surrounded us—a culture which is just beginning to shift. But I have also met those who have had their lives greatly improved by sports, particularly as the culture of sports has begun to reflect a shift toward greater acceptance of LGBT people. For these young men and women, sports offered a confirmation of strength and a source

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of self-confidence stirring within. They found something uplifting in their locker rooms.

Just as lives are placed at risk by the harshness of rejection, when young LGBT people receive support from teammates and coaches, lives can be saved. The close community simulates family in the sense of belonging and family that is created when a group bonds in mutual support, and many LGBT youth need nothing more than a family that will not fail them. A supportive coach can restore value to a child who feels worthless.

The cultural and social power of sports, then, is a double edged sword—it can cut one way or the other. It is important that institutions wielding such social power use it wisely and for the good, and that when they do they are recognized and so the effect of their work is magnified.

This month we have featured the work of professional hockey and the Nashville Predators on behalf of LGBT rights and inclusion. Far beyond partnering with the Nashville LGBT Chamber of Commerce, leaders and players for the Predators have spoken out vocally on behalf of LGBT people worldwide and have joined with advocacy groups like You Can Play to spread a message that sports, and the locker room, should be places of fellowship, not bullying and division.

As work like this continues, and organizations like the Nashville Predators provide good models for sports, hopefully coaches, athletes, and fans at all levels will help continue transforming our sports culture into an ever more humane and uplifting force for all. @jamesallengrady

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GLAAD STUDY SHOWS INCREASING ACCEPTANCE OF LGBT PEOPLE MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT RIGHTS REMAIN STAFF

Last year, GLAAD, a national LGBT media advocacy organization, undertook its first Accelerating Acceptance study, the report from which it released in February 2015. The numbers were not surprising: the study—a survey fielded from November 10-12, 2014 among 2,010 adults, including 1,821 non-LGBT participants—revealed significant levels of discomfort among non-LGBT people with their LGBT coworkers and neighbors.

Slightly less than a year later, from October 5-7, 2015, a second survey was given to 2,032 adults, including 1,781 non-LGBT participants. The results show a significant change in the discomfort these non-LGBT participants reported they would feel on encountering LGBT people [see the chart below].

Despite many positive changes in attitudes highlighted, however, the poll illustrates that there remains a startling level of complacency and ambivalence among Americans on LGBT issues. A number of key findings emerged.

Perhaps because marriage equality was so widely covered by the media in 2015, half (50%) of all non-LGBT Americans are now under the false and potentially dangerous impression that ‘gay people have the same rights as everybody else,’ the study showed. LGBT

rights may not seem an urgent issue for allies under this false impression.

This has serious repercussions for the LGBT rights movement, since LGBT people may still legally suffer serious consequences because of their identity in this country.

Further, the study indicates that many Americans are unconcerned by or unaware of LGBT issues. Roughly a third of non-LGBT Americans profess no strong opinion about important LGBT issues. Interestingly, this ambivalence appears across segments, including allies.

Over a quarter (27%) of non-LGBT Americans say that violence against transgender people is not a serious problem, despite the fact that at least 21 transgender women, mostly women of color, were murdered in the U.S. in 2015.

Similarly, 37% of non-LGBT Americans say that homelessness among LGBT youth is not a serious problem.

According to The Williams Institute at UCLA, however, approximately 40% of all homeless youth identify as LGBT. As the struggle to house Nashville’s LGBT youth since the closure of the OASIS Center’s shelter has highlighted, not only do LGBT youth represent a disproportionate share of youth homelessness, but their identities pose

special difficulties, making traditional solutions less effective or more dangerous.

“Complacency is the enemy of social progress,” said GLAAD CEO & President Sarah Kate Ellis. “2015 was a monumental year for the LGBT community, but marriage equality is a benchmark–not a finish line. The hard work of legislative change must go hand in hand with that which cannot be decided in a courtroom: changing hearts and minds.”

And despite issues of complacency, the growing comfort of Americans with LGBT people is a promising marker for the political future of LGBT rights as an issue. The second study shows that Americans are also growing more comfortable with LGBT people.

In six out of seven situational questions surveyed, Americans report less discomfort with LGBT people than was reported the previous year. In fact, the percent who reported being very or somewhat uncomfortable seeing a same sex couple holding hands fell by 7% in just one year. Thus the normalization of and acceptance for LGBT people, not just in principle but in public, seems to be proceeding at a rapid pace.

More information and the full report may be found at glaad.org/ acceptance.

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A WILD NIGHT OF BOOTLEGGERS, BOOKIES, AND BURLESQUE NASHVILLE CARES TO HOST AVANT GARDE: SPEAKEASY JAMES GRADY

Nashville CARES’ annual fundraiser Avant Garde has become one of Nashville’s most exclusive and popular events, with exciting themes providing the Nashville community with another opportunity to dress up for a cause. Last year’s Mad Hatter’s Ball inspired weird and wacky outfits and, most especially, out-of-this-world hats.

This year, Avant Garde: Speakeasy will be held on Saturday, February 27 from 7:00 p.m. to 11:00 p.m., hosted by presenting partner NPS Pharmacy and event chairs Mat Brooksher, Amber English, Matt Donahoe, Jeffery Humble, Mike Moore, and Harrison Perry. Expect outfits inspired by characters as diverse as Al Capone and Gatsby, on the one hand, and the heroes of Prohibition, Tennessee moonshiners, on the other!

One thing that sets Avant Garde apart from other theme parties every year is its commitment to authenticity.

Therefore, when CARES invites you to its Speakeasy for a night of bootleggers, bookies and burlesque, it can’t even tell you where the party will be held! In true Speakeasy spirit, the secret location will be revealed the week of the party!

“This is the fifth year for Avant Garde, and each year is better than the last,” said event co-chair Matt Donahoe. “Everyone really gets into the theme! It’s a fun way to raise money for Nashville CARES.” Guests will enjoy a twist on roaring twenties fare from Nashville favorite, The Chef and I. Music City Burlesque dancers will tantalize the crowd, the Nashville Repertory Theatre will perform a number from their upcoming production of Chicago, and DJ Apollo will keep everyone moving on the dance floor.

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The evening features a silent auction with more than 100 items, including a $2,500 Mitchell Gold + Bob Williams shopping spree, handwritten lyrics by the songwriters of country’s biggest hits, music memorabilia and more.

“Avant Garde is a unique event because it really gets guests involved in the fun,” said event co-chair Harrison Perry. “From pop-up performances, to interactive food stations and a spectacular silent auction, Speakeasy has something for everyone.”

Avant Garde has become one of Nashville’s most exclusive events. It was recognized by NFocus Magazine as “Best Revamped Party” and “Best Hors D’oeuvres.”

“Avant Garde: Speakeasy is a one-of-a-kind gala, and I am thrilled to be a part of it this year,” said newly appointed Chief Development Officer Doug Alexander. “Our goal is to raise $90,000 to help Nashville CARES end the HIV/AIDS epidemic in Middle Tennessee.”

Additional partners presenting the event include: The Cat’s Meow Partner – Embassy Dental/Marquee Dental; The Big Cheese Photobooth Partner – James A. Rothberg & Associates; and The Dapper Flapper Paint Your Event Partner – AEG Live.

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NashvilleCARES.org/Speakeasy.

Through funds raised by events like Avant Garde, Nashville CARES, the premier HIV/AIDS organization in the region, provides comprehensive education, a broad range of targeted services and effective advocacy, all in a highly personal, confidential and compassionate manner, with a mission of proactively and aggressively working to end the HIV/ AIDS epidemic in Middle Tennessee.

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DOUG ALEXANDER JOINS NASHVILLE CARES SENIOR STAFF

ASURION EXEC APPOINTED NEW CHIEF DEVELOPMENT OFFICER well. He is a champion of non-profits and graduate of the Young Leaders Council. He has served on the board for the H. Franklin Brooks Fund and has been a fundraising volunteer with the Oasis Center, Safe Haven Family Shelter and Pet Community Center.

“Doug combines significant management experience with a deep commitment to the mission of Nashville CARES,” said CARES’ CEO Joseph Interrante. “He will lead our strong fundraising team with passion, innovation and accountability. Our search committee of board members and volunteers did extraordinary work in a very short timeframe. Committee members have my deep appreciation for their extraordinary service.”

Alexander was excited to join Nashville CARES’ team officially on Tuesday, January 19—this year is the organization’s landmark 30th anniversary. “I’m in awe of the

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passion and commitment exhibited by the volunteers, staff and board of Nashville CARES,” said Alexander.

“This organization is making a real tangible impact in the lives of those affected by HIV, particularly in the area of education and prevention. I couldn’t be more excited to join forces with this team in fighting to end HIV/ AIDS in Middle Tennessee.”

As Chief Development Officer, Alexander is taking over the role vacated by Patrick Hamilton, who departed Nashville CARES in October to join Mayor Megan Barry’s team. Hamilton was appointed scheduler, having previously served as the Deputy Executive Director of the Tennessee Democratic Party, the Director of Scheduling and Operations with the Office of Al Gore, and as the Director of Scheduling and Advance with the Office of Governor Phil Bredesen.

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LEGISLATIVE UPDATE

CHALLENGES BRING OPPORTUNITIES FOR ADVOCACY CHRIS SANDERS

The 109th General Assembly of the State of Tennessee just entered its second year and we all need to know what is in store for Tennessee’s LGBT community.

In some ways, it is as if the Legislature had never adjourned. As soon as the Supreme Court issued the Obergefell ruling for nationwide marriage equality, legislators began announcing plans to hold onto various forms of marriage discrimination. Those and other discriminatory proposals were announced throughout the fall leading up to General Assembly’s January 12 return.

Marriage: As of the first day of the session, the only discriminatory bill that we know we will face is SB1437/ HB1412, which is called the “Tennessee Natural Marriage Defense Act.” This bill would attempt to return Tennessee to the days of marriage discrimination and require the Tennessee Attorney General to defend government officials who refuse to recognize equal marriage. Can it pass? Yes. Can it last? No, no serious legal scholar thinks it would hold up in court. Tennessee is already facing legal bills of $2.3 million from Obergefell.

Continuing to resist marriage equality would be expensive for Tennessee.

Other marriage bills that have been discussed include a so-called pastor protection act, which would shield clergy from having to perform marriages with which they disagree. The First Amendment already accomplishes this goal. Other ideas under consideration

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include getting rid of marriage licenses altogether and bills to allow businesses and government officials to refuse to serve the LGBT community with marriage-related services.

Transgender discrimination: In November, State Rep. Bud Hulsey announced that he was considering a bill that would prevent transgender students from using restrooms and changing rooms that correspond to their gender identity. As of the first day of the session, the bill had not been filed. Rep. Hulsey has been seriously reviewing all the feedback he has been receiving about devastating effects the bill would have on transgender students.

Higher education diversity: In September a national controversy arose about efforts to provide education about gender-neutral pronouns at the University of Tennessee-Knoxville. Legislators issued threats and held hearings. Special committees to investigate diversity programming at Tennessee’s public universities are being convened. The impact could be profound because our state’s schools are increasingly taking steps to protect LGBT students, faculty, and staff. We certainly do not want to see any interruption of these efforts.

Good bills out of reach: Because of the socially conservative composition of the Legislature, there are great proposals that likely will not get much of a hearing. Tennessee needs to allow the gender markers on birth certificates to be amended to protect transgender people.

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The Tennessee Human Rights Act should be amended to include sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression to protect LGBT people in employment, housing, public accommodation, etc.

Our state’s hate crimes law should be updated to include gender identity and expression. State anti-bullying laws should be updated with more enumerated categories. There is great value in these bills for public education if they can get a hearing. That is a tall order given the political realities we face.

Taking action: Equality advocates around the state have been fighting back for months. Northeast Tennesseans protested the anti-transgender student bathroom bill this fall. More than 1200 people have contacted the State Senate against this proposed legislation.

Volunteers canvassed conservative districts in Middle and East Tennessee to hone a message against the Tennessee Natural Marriage Defense Act. And hundreds of people have protested in red at their county commission meetings against anti-marriage equality resolutions designed to prompt the Legislature to pass discriminatory bills.

Sustaining the momentum is critical.

The groups pushing discriminatory bills have been organizing for months and so have we. But even if you have not been involved, it is not too late. Bring your time and energy now. Go to the Legislature’s website at http://www.capitol.tn.gov/ and find your state senator and state representative. Contact them and express your opposition to these bills. Commit to attend TEP’s 12th annual Advancing Equality Day on the Hill on March 8.

RSVP on the Facebook event page. You will benefit from spending time with other equality advocates from around the state and working to defend your own rights.

We have the better argument.

Equality is a winning message. Over time, it overcomes the alternatives again and again. But if we want to speed up the process in Tennessee, we need numbers.

Over 200 people in red beat an antimarriage equality resolution in Blount County in October. You, your friends, and your family can give us the numbers to defend our community in this tough legislative session. As always, allies are welcome!

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NASHVILLE’S CONDUCTORS’ ‘UNDER A BIG TOP’

LOCAL LEATHER CLUB TO HOST 34TH LEATHER RUN JAMES GRADY

Nashville’s local levi, leather, and fetish club—The Conductors—will be hosting their 34th annual leather run on the weekend of March 4–6, 2016. The theme of this year’s run weekend, Track XXXIV, is “Under a Big Top.” Nashville will play host to leather men and women from all over the United States for a fun filled weekend of leather, fun, and Brotherhood.

The Conductors—a member club of the Mid America Conference of Clubs—is also one of Nashville’s longest-surviving social service organizations. Originally founded in 1982 by a core group of friends who shared an appreciation for leather, the group has built fellowship within the local leather community, while building goodwill in the wider LGBT community by giving back.

The emergence of the AIDS crisis in Nashville shortly after the group’s formation, and the formation of Nashville CARES soon after, led The Conductors to focus fundraising efforts on offering financial assistance to clients of CARES.

The Conductors fund an emergency assistance program through CARES that assists clients with severe and emergent need who have exhausted all other sources of financial support. The Conductors program is anonymous. The Conductors’ Jackie Walton is proud of the fact that “we support Nashville CARES and in 33 years we’ve never turned anyone down.” The group has funded prescriptions, co-pays, eyeglasses, utility bills, home repair, rent, among many other need items for those in dire need.

But the social element has always been at the center of The Conductors’ mission as well, and a big part of that is the annual run. “Since our founding in 1982,” wrote The Conductors on its website, “we have celebrated our anniversary every year, primarily in March, with our club’s ‘Run.’ This is a chance for us to invite our leather brothers and sisters to Nashville for a weekend of fun and fellowship….”

The “Under a Big Top” weekend begins with registration at 3 p.m. on Friday, March 4, and the cocktail parties start at 5 p.m.

(10–15 official cocktail parties are planned

over the weekend). All food and drinks are included in the price of the run (except during our bar crawls). Transportation will be provided for any events outside the host hotel. Final Farewells will be held Sunday, March 6, starting at 2 p.m. at the Stirrup, which is the club’s “home bar.”

A few of the events to look forward to during this year’s run include: • Official events, like the Mid-America Conference of Clubs Fall meeting for all member clubs, the formal dinner with clubs in uniforms and colors, and awards, along with cocktail parties hosted by clubs, bars and members • The Conductors Run show—a show unlike any other, featuring Conductors club brothers and associates in ways you always/ never wanted to see • “Freak and Fetish,” an annual event hosted by the Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence at Traxx • Bar Crawls—Stirrup, Trax, Tribe, Play, Canvas, Blue Genes, and Vibe • After Hours with Demonstrations/ teaching and Playroom time

• Mr. Friendly The Conductors promise that every moment of the event, between opening and closing, will be filled with opportunities for entertainment and brotherhood. For more information or to register, visit www. conductors.net. Host hotel is the Clarion.

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THE OSCARS: MAKING YOUR PICKS AND HOW LGBT FILMS MAY DO ERIC PATTON

So, is that friend of yours throwing a fabulous Oscar party and you have no idea what movies are up? Yeah, it happens to all of us. And it’s always nice to know the films that did well for the LGBT community and, of course, the ones that were snubbed and slighted.

No one is ever sure how the Academy Awards will shake out, but here are my picks for all the big categories, along with mentions of the movies important to our community. Hopefully, it will help you in your quest for party greatness and give you a bit of insight into how things will shake out.

BEST PICTURE The Big Short Bridge of Spies Brooklyn Mad Max: Fury Road The Martian The Revenant Room Spotlight No major gay movie was nominated.

Notably skipped was Carol, a film that saw Cate Blanchett and Rooney Mara portray Carol and Therese in a lesbian May-December romance. The film was well-nominated at the Golden Globes, but saw no wins.

Major critics are saying this is the year of Leonardo DiCaprio, so I imagine that The Revenant will win this category.

However, I would absolutely love to see Bridge of Spies come in with an upset.

The film is Tom Hanks’ newest triumph, telling the gripping story of James Donovan, a man brought in to negotiate the release of a CIA operative held captive

by Russia during the Cold War. It may be unlikely, but I’d still love to see it happen nonetheless. The more likely snub against DiCaprio, should one happen, would come from The Martian—Matt Damon’s trip-to-Mars-gone- horribly-awry.

ACTOR IN A LEADING ROLE Bryan Cranston, Trumbo Matt Damon, The Martian Leonardo DiCaprio, The Revenant Michael Fassbender, Steve Jobs Eddie Redmayne, The Danish Girl In The Danish Girl, Eddie Redmayne portrays the first transgender female to undergo gender reassignment surgery. The film has garnered critical acclaim from

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several publications, including Rolling Stone and The Hollywood Reporter.

However it won no awards at the Golden Globes and is rated at 71% on Rotten Tomatoes. In most circles, Eddie is not expected to win for this film as he did last year for playing Stephen Hawking in The Theory of Everything. Don’t be surprised if Leonardo DiCaprio takes it for his portrayal of Hugh Glass in The Revenant.

If Redmayne won, it would be considered a big upset, but it isn’t impossible.

ACTRESS IN A LEADING ROLE Cate Blanchett, Carol Brie Larson, Room Jennifer Lawrence, Joy Charlotte Rampling, 45 Years Saoirse Ronan, Brooklyn Cate Blanchett makes a showing here for her role in Carol, but the Golden Globe went to Jennifer Lawrence for Joy, and it seems to be the collective assumption of most that the same will happen here. Joy is the newest film from David O. Russel.

The pair, along with Bradley Cooper, have seen several Oscar and Golden Globe wins, as well as other major critical acclaims. However, Brie Larson could swoop in for a steal for Room, a film about a woman who raises her child while being held hostage over the course of ten years.

This category could go so many different ways, but the safe money remains with Jennifer Lawrence.

ACTOR IN A SUPPORTING ROLE Christian Bale, The Big Short Tom Hardy, The Revenant Mark Ruffalo, Spotlight Mark Rylance, Bridge of Spies Sylvester Stallone, Creed No LGBT films were nominated in this category, which is a hard one. I really imagine it will be Sylvester Stallone for Creed. The Rocky series did very well with the Oscars in the 1970s, so I really think there’s a good chance that the new installment, Creed, will take this one.

However, there could be several different ways it could go. I think there is a possibility that the Academy could go for Mark Ruffalo for Spotlight, a film that tells the story of journalists from the early 2000’s trying to uncover the Catholic Church’s role in covering for priests accused of molestation. Films that tell a story like this tend to do well in the supporting actor/actress categories. It has

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garnered enough acclaim to put Ruffalo in a good spot for an upset.

ACTRESS INASUPPORTING ROLE Jennifer Jason Leigh, The Hateful Eight Rooney Mara, Carol Rachel McAdams, Spotlight Alicia Vikander, The Danish Girl Kate Winslet, Steve Jobs Kate Winslet won this category in the Globes, however I don’t think she’ll be as lucky at the Oscars. I am going to say that Rooney Mara should win for Carol here. Since Carol was snubbed in not getting a Best Picture nomination, this may well set Mara up for her first Oscar win, especially since she lost in 2012 for Girl With the Dragon Tattoo. If Carol is going to win anything at all, I believe this is the category for it to happen.

ANIMATED FEATURE FILM Anomalisa Boy and the World Inside Out Shaun the Sheep Movie When Marnie Was There As Pixar usually fares well in this category, with wins for Finding Nemo, The Incredibles, Ratatouille, and four more, Inside Out is going to be my choice.

Shaun the Sheep Movie could come in for an upset, as directors Burton and Starzak have never won and Claymation usually fares well in this category.

CINEMATOGRAPHY Carol The Hateful Eight Mad Max: Fury Road The Revenant Sicario Cinematography is defined as the art of making motion pictures. With the Oscars, it is, essentially, who filmed the most visually stunning movie. I am betting on Mad Max: Fury Road here.

This really is the only major category that it makes sense for Mad Max to win. The story was not great, but the movie is very visually captivating.

The Revenant is visually powerful, however with it being assumed to win for Best Picture, if it also won this category, it would signal that the night might be a sweep.

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INDIANA QUEEN RELEASES NEW ALBUM

were the first act of the day on that day,” Thornton recalled, “and the festival was just the day after the Supreme Court decision. Honestly, there was a part of me that realized there were a lot of people who weren’t happy with what had just happened, and when I got up on stage there was a part of me that was afraid. But the rain cleared and the fear went away, and it was a great and wonderful experience.”

The attention Indiana Queen has received in the past year has helped bring early attention to the upcoming release of I Built a Fire, which spins the group’s country roots from an even more unusual perspective. “The album is country,” Thornton said, “but let’s

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Indiana Queen is an alternative-country band based in Nashville and fronted by openly queer singer-songwriter Kevin Thornton. In the still-conservative world of Nashville country, that’s a lot of alternative, but Thornton and Indiana Queen are happy to continue to provide an artistic challenge to the prevailing norm with their second album, I Built a Fire.

Thornton is no newcomer to the Nashville music scene. Around 2000, Thornton moved to Nashville with band and presented himself as an out musician, enjoying moderate success, signing with an indie label and releasing an album. That success was stymied by the uncertainties of the industry more than anything else.

The band, Thornton said, “Fell apart while on the rise. iTunes and [other internet outlets] took over and no one really knew what was going to happen.” In the industry restructuring, “we got swept away. In 2006 we didn’t know what to do with the internet, and it really brought my career to halt.”

After a break from the Nashville music scene—including time spent on cruise ships, and then Los Angeles— Thornton returned to Nashville with new energy and formed Indiana Queen.

Thornton remains unconcerned with the idea that Nashville might not be ready for his music, but he sees that a lot has changed since he first arrived in 2000. “I was told to play down the gay thing,” he said, “that it would hurt me. But I was always out, and I don’t honestly feel like it has hurt me except maybe a couple of times.”

This time around, the internet wasn’t a hindrance but a boon for his band, providing them with an audience even in the absence of big label support. “A decade later,” he said, “I’m rediscovering my career through the internet. People are discovering my music there and that’s really where I focus all my attention—plugging into the web—because that’s where it’s at!”

Indiana Queen’s first album, This I Do Carry Unto the End, may not have been a mainstream chart-topper, but on the internet it found its audience and garnered worldwide attention, as outlets like the Huffington Post touted

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the music and drew attention the band’s story.

When Thornton released his music video for “This Is Me Trying” in 2015, Huffington wrote, “There are traces of Hank Williams. The pulse of ‘Jolene.’ Chord progressions that originated in the Baptist Hymnal.

However, these influences meet at an unexpected crossroads with Antony and The Johnsons, Roxy Music and Tom Waits.”

Then, in June, Indiana Queen was honored to be one of the few locals to grace the Nashville Pride stage. “We

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be serious, there is nothing traditional about Indiana Queen.”

“This is the second album for this project,” Thornton said, “and this time I wanted to record in a different way—I actually bought a bunch of vintage recording equipment and set it up in my house.”

Thorton’s vintage Tascam 246 four track tape machine allowed him to work when and how he liked, and to capture sound of a completely different quality. “In a studio you are rushed, so I spent several weeks holed up in my living room downstairs recording.

Because it’s a four track. It’s sparse, and I’m happy with how it turned out.”

The character of the recording matches well with the new album’s subject matter. “It’s a really simple album,” Thornton explained. “I hate to sound mystical, but when I write I feel like I channel the songs. I sit with some wine and reflect, and I just start singing and playing. A melody will come, and I’ll sing nonsense until a sentence comes to me, and I begin to build on that.”

What came of that process? “It’s really a collection of memories about past loves that didn’t work out,” Thornton said. “It’s funny because I’m engaged to be married now, and I’m really happy. I had a fantastic last year, and you hear a lot of times that when artist get happy the music suffers but I think the opposite happened. I’m so happy that it caused me to look back on my life at times that weren’t so happy, and it created this strange melancholy.

I’m in my forties and love has never worked out before. I feel thankful, looking back at all these heartaches...

It puts an interesting cast on the past heartbreaks to look back on them from here.”

Besides the subject matter and the recording style, this album brings a few new elements to Indiana Queen’s sound. “There is a lot more vocal harmony on this album,” Thornton explained. “The two guys I’m playing with are both great singers and that brings a bit of a Crosby Stills and Nash vibe. We also have a great musician, Samuel Damewood, playing fiddle, which definitely brings it even more into a folk country realm than before.”

“The world is changing really fast,” he added. “I went to Ty Herndon’s Concert for Love and Acceptance, and I realized that while some of us still get extra attention for doing ‘gay’ country, in a couple of years that won’t be that novel.” But long after the novelty of

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HRC PREPARES TO PACK ANNUAL GALA TABLE CAPTAINS GATHER AT THE RYMER GALLERY Each year, the Nashville chapter of the Human Rights Campaign (HRC) hosts a gala dinner, which is the annual centerpiece of its social and fundraising efforts. The 2016 gala theme is “Stronger Together,” and it signifies the continuing work of the HRC in building the strength of the LGBT community in America and abroad.

Despite significant victories in 2015, the state of the LGBT community in America is threatened by a conservative legislative backlash, and worldwide LGBT people struggle with not only stigma, but violence and legalized discrimination. Thus 2016 is not the time to disband the machinery that brought marriage equality to the United States, but it is the time to stand strong together and continue the work on behalf of those in our community who continue to be marginalized.

On January 7, 2016, HRC Nashville hosted its annual party for the table captains who make the event a success year after year. Table captains utilize

their social networks to make sure that the gala is presented to a packed house.

This year’s table captains’ event, hosted at the Rymer Gallery and catered by The Chef & I, was a big hit. “This year’s table captain event,” said Nashville HRC Federal Club Co-Chair Jeffery Humble, “was a true success of planning with Equality Dinner Co-Chair Linzie Treadway. Under her leadership and my role as Table Captain Chair, we tripled our ticket sales and doubled our table captains from last year. We are also thankful to our wonderful host, Jeff Rymer, as the Rymer Gallery made this event!”

If you haven’t already purchased tickets for the gala, tickets can be purchased for $200 at HRC. org/boxoffice. HRC Federal Club Members may purchase two tickets for $100 each. Blake Brockway, co-chair of the Equality Dinner, promised, “Trust me when I say we have some amazing celebrity guests and entertainment lined up for you this year.”

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When most people think of LGBTaffirming, professional sports organizations, fast-paced, rough sports like hockey are probably not at the top of the list. Yet in recent years, professional hockey has seen some of its major voices become vocal LGBT allies, and more and more local team organizations within the National Hockey League (NHL) are stepping up to support LGBT fans and athletes at all levels.

This isn’t necessarily anything particularly new for professional hockey. A 2006 Sports Illustrated poll of the four major North American sports leagues—the NHL, the NFL, the MBA, and MLB—found that 80% of professional hockey players would accept a gay teammate, making it the most accepting of any league. In 2015, during the lead-up to the current NHL season, USA Today asked 35 players whether they would welcome a gay teammate, and invited anonymous response. Only one of the players asked responded that he would not.

Large-scale initiatives, like You Can Play—which encourages athletes and organizations to send the message that

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all that should matter is how you play the game, not who you are—have grown up out of the world of hockey (for more information on You Can Play, see page 21).

Other efforts to send a similar message, include efforts like the “Pride Tape” initiative of the Institute of Sexual Minority Studies and Services (ISMSS) at the University of Alberta, which is seeking to produce and distribute rainbow tape for hockey sticks. “This tape will be a badge of support from the hockey world to LGBTQ youth in Canada and other countries,” says Kris Wells of ISMSS. “It will say ‘You are welcome on the ice. Come and join us in our sport and be proud of who you are’.”

This initiative has received significant support from NHL player Andrew Ference of the Edmonton Oilers, who garnered a great deal of attention for marching in Edmonton’s LGBT Pride parade. When asked why he had done so, Ference said, “whether it’s a teammate who might be thinking about coming out, or whatever— we want to make sure that it’s an accepting environment for everyone.”

Local hockey organizations around the world have shown support in their

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own ways. Last year, the Swedish Orebro hockey team played in rainbow jerseys to honor pride, encouraging fans to wear pride gear and participating as a team in the city’s pride parade. And teams around the NHL are just beginning to add “Pride Nights” to their schedule of special fan event nights, as the Nashville Predators did on February 2, 2016, in partnership with Nashville’s LGBT Chamber of Commerce.

Back in December the Chamber announced that, in support of the LGBTQ and ally community of Middle Tennessee, the Nashville LGBT Chamber of Commerce would collaborate with the Nashville Predators to organize an event publicly acknowledging this usually invisible fan base, on the night the Predators would play the St. Louis Blues. In addition to the Pride Night event, the LGBT Chamber held their February Brewing Up Business event for members at Bridgestone Arena.

According to Lisa Howe, executive director of the LGBT Chamber, this opportunity isn’t only important for the LGBT community but for the Predators organization as well, as it encourages the loyalty of a sometimes marginalized

fan base. “We are excited to work with the Nashville Predators and encourage the community to support a local team and an organization, like the NHL, who truly supports the LGBT community,” said Howe. “I am very appreciative of the Nashville Predators and their public support of the LGBT community.”

Additionally, the way that the organization has approached the event is noteworthy, she said. “I am pleased about how transparent the Predators have been in their attempt to market to LGBT and ally ticket buyers. We have seen other local groups pander to the LGBT community without taking ownership of the occasion and without making any kind of public statement to express their support of their LGBT customers or employees. The Nashville Predators announced Pride Night on their Facebook page with a graphic they designed. They have posted the event on other websites and news outlets.”

Indeed, the Predators have a proud history of leadership on LGBT issues. As detailed below, Predators’ co-owner W. Brett Wilson and star Shea Weber were early supporters of the You Can Play Foundation,

and Weber was a vocal supporter of LGBT rights and against Russian anti-LGBT laws during the lead-up to the Sochi Winter Olympics.

Local LGBT and ally leaders and Predators fans have reacted to the event, and the team’s broader embrace of the LGBT community, with great excitement. Chris Robinette, a straight ally and board member on the LGBT Chamber of Commerce, credits the Predators’ support for the LGBT and other minority communities for the team’s increasing popularity.

“The Nashville Predators partnering with the LGBT community, along with other great local minorities and communities, has helped propel the Bridgestone Arena and the team to a much broader fan base,” Robinette said. “With our hockey club only being 16 years old we have a ton of great opportunity to reach out to several segments of our community and invite them to fall in love with a fast-paced, hard hitting sport, all while the team grows with the community.

In order for us to fill the stadium with gold and keep the red [Detroit Red Wings] out we

have to continue to grow our fan base…It is my belief that the Predators organization and President Sean Henry are making a lot of great decision to grow this fan base with full inclusion of everyone!”

The Predators, in hosting this Pride night, are following in the footsteps of other NHL franchises (Phoenix for instance hosted a similar event with its local Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce), as well as other professional sports teams in Nashville.

“Our city’s sports teams, including the Nashville Sounds, Tennessee Titans and most recently Nashville Predators, have hosted Pride nights with great success,” said past president of Nashville Pride and avid Predators fan Claudia Huskey.

But even though it’s been done before, it remains important. She added, “Professional sports teams hosting a Pride night to welcome the LGBT community is a tremendous step forward for acceptance and equality. These events mean a great deal to those in the LGBT community who have experienced discrimination related to sports. Events like this go beyond a sales

campaign and become something truly meaningful. Our city is known for being a warm and welcoming place for all and I am glad the Nashville Predators embrace this culture. “ Huskey also pointed out that these events are also great opportunities for allies, the Predators included, to show how broad support for the LGBT community is. “They also allow sports fans the opportunity to see firsthand,” she said, “that you don’t have to be a gay person to have Pride, there are many straight allies who are proud of their gay family members, friends, and colleagues.”

For local hockey fans in the LGBT community, it’s deeply personal. “For a sports team and one in the South,” said Michael Flanery, “having a PRIDE night is groundbreaking to say the least… Being able to sit in the arena such as Bridgestone with my partner Chris Gray and watch one of my favorite sport teams, who are inclusive of our community creates a deeper love and admiration for the Predators!”

Others, like Jeffrey Burton, are

cautiously optimistic that events like this can contribute to LGBT normalization.

“Living in conservative Tennessee,” Burton said, “I really don’t know what to expect.

I hope this shows that hockey is an allinclusive sport that respects the diversity of its fans. I hope this is the start of having the feeling of being included every day versus waiting for one night a year. It will show that we are individuals who enjoy hockey, we just happen to be LGBT, and it really isn’t a big deal.”

Ultimately, Lisa Howe of the LGBT Chamber of Commerce also hopes that through this event the Predators become a model. “I hope the next time an entertainment group tries to take make money off of the local LGBT community, they use the Nashville Predators for exemplary best practices: 1) Take ownership of the event; 2) Be prepared to deliver a consistent message of being inclusive of all customers; 3) Have a diverse employee base that represents a diverse customer base; 4) Have inclusive workplace policies and culture; and 5) Don’t be like the NFL’s Detroit Lions!”

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“Gay athletes. Straight allies. Teaming up for respect.” This is the banner under which sports activist organization You Can Play operates. You Can Play works to insure the safety and inclusion of all in sports—including LGBT athletes, coaches and fans—by bringing attention to LGBT athletes at all levels of sports, as well as encouraging allies in sports to be as vocal as possible. And it all began with hockey.

Patrick Burke, Brian Kitts, and Glenn Witman met in 2011. Witman worked with Gforce Sports, an elite gay hockey team that traveled North America competing in straight tournaments. “We did this to have fun,” Witman said, “to be together, but also we wanted to show our straight allies that gay players can be just like them.” Like teams like Nashville’s Grizzlies, GForce challenged stereotypes and brought straight athletes face-to-face with out, LGBT competitors.

Kitts, who worked in marketing for professional teams in hockey, basketball, lacrosse, and soccer, and Burke, whose late brother was an LGBT athlete, had both seen the ugly side of the locker room as well.

Together, the tree set out to change that environment.

GForce had already begun its own advocacy in behalf of closeted LGBT players through its “Invisible Athlete” forums, but You Can Play takes such advocacy to a new level. GForce showed straight competitors that being LGBT didn’t mean you couldn’t play through competition. You Can Play seeks to “challenge the culture of locker rooms and spectator areas by focusing only on an athlete’s skills, work ethic and competitive spirit.”

In order to accomplish this, the organization produces videos presenting

affirming statements by straight allies and LGBT athletes, in order, as Witman put it, to show, “coaches, team captains, and players how important it is to focus on skills and work ethic, not personal differences.”

Some of the first financial backers of You Can Play were hockey players Tommy Wingels and Andy Miele, friends of Burke’s from the Miami University hockey team, who were then rookies with the San Jose Sharks and Phoenix Coyotes, respectively.

Many more backers would soon come on board, and hockey stars began coming forward to tape the videos that are the centerpiece of You Can Play.

Cal Clutterbuck and Brooks Orpik were the first to volunteer and were filmed during team trips to Denver, and things took off from there. Besides the professional hockey players, the organization focused on prominent teams at all levels. Eventually, You Can Play would film allies from every professional hockey team in the NHL. As many LGBT fans of the Nashville Predators may know, Predators star Shea Weber and co-owner W. Brett Wilson both stepped in front of the camera to show their support. Wilson’s video, the first by a team owner, featured him saying, “I am proud to support the efforts of LGBT athletes in every sport, at every level.” In his video, Weber pledges, “I will always stand up for my teammates, no matter who they are….

If you can play, you can play.”

As the program expands, You Can Play is filming with basketball players, lacrosse players, rowers, gymnasts, skiers, and others—continually working to change the culture of sports and challenge the latent homophobia of the locker room.

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Sometimes, in any sports, there are moments spent just waiting. Maybe there is an official break in the game, or maybe it’s halftime, and crowds have to be entertained. One gimmick that has been used to fill the void is the “kiss cam.”

A camera scans the crowd and projects a prospective couple, or series of couples, on the Jumbotron. When you are on screen, you are expected to kiss: a kiss traditionally draws cheers and a refusal to kiss is generally booed.

Generally, the couples selected have been heterosexual couples, which is not surprising. LGBT couples might rightfully fear the crowd response and shrink from displaying affection openly.

But things have begun to change. In May 2015, a gay couple was applauded for their kiss at Dodgers stadium. On January 7, 2016, the NHL’s “kiss cam” at Staples Center put two men out for the match between the Toronto Maple Leafs and the L.A. Kings in its sights.

Brad Parr, a lawyer, and Andy Evans, an actor, at first looked shocked

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to see themselves on the Jumbotron, but then without hesitation kiss, drawing huge applause from the crowd. Evans would later tweet, “Beyond excited about this moment making gay history as the first gay couple in NHL on KissCam w/ my man @bradwparr.” Parr, meanwhile, tweeted about the momentousness of the occasion, “The @LAKings deserve a huge amount of kudos for having the courage to show a gay couple, even in 2016.”

According to metro.co.uk, the couple received “this response from a young gay man to the clip after it was shared on Reddit: ‘Things like this mightn’t mean anything to you but it does to others, as a young gay person I love seeing stuff like this because it makes me feel better about being gay and coming to terms with it.’”

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A BOUNTY OF BACTERIA AND FUNGI?

BREWING ORGANIC KOMBUCHA IN CANNON COUNTY JAMES GRADY

There is a whole lot of fermentation going on in Cannon County! Beginning this month, Christian Grantham aims to add commercial, organic kombucha brewing to the mix. Kombucha is a fermented tea commonly touted for its health benefits.

Grantham comes not from a food background but from a media background. “In 2010, I was at Channel 2 – WKRN. This was at the height of the recession, and I was getting tired of the kind of stories we were telling and feeling responsible for telling the wrong stories. I felt that the stories of criminals weren’t the stories of our viewers, they were just the easiest stories.”

“I knew the challenges we faced were in reconnecting with who we are as a country, and I wanted to tell better stories, so I quit my job in the middle of the recession,” Grantham said. “I wanted to showcase craftspeople in Tennessee using video to show what

they were doing. The idea behind that was that I would sell their art and make some money doing that.”

There was, of course, little market for art, but for Grantham the stories were essential: “I knew that that was the story people needed hear—a story of people looking at what they can do, and then doing it and succeeding, despite the economy. I sincerely believe that that kind of drive was how we were going to get out of the recession.”

“So I came to Cannon County and met three artists and craftspeople, all of whom asked me if I knew Billy Kaufman, and I didn’t. I found out he was on the Rural Arts Council, so they were trying to connect me with him to find more artists, but what I ended up finding was this guy in the woods who told me he wanted to make moonshine.”

Grantham would spend the better part of the next year working with Kaufman to shepherd Short Mountain Distillery to a successful opening.

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“We had 15,000 visitors the first year and sold 2,500 cases of moonshine at the distillery,” Grantham said. “It was great.”

Around the time he was beginning to work with Kaufman, Grantham and his husband, Vince Oropesa, had moved from Murfreesboro to Cannon County.

“I slowly started falling in love with my property. I certified it organic, and then took the opportunity to move away from working with the distillery to focusing on developing it.”

Grantham’s farm is unusual in that it is a fungus farm. “It’s taken about three years,” Grantham said, “but we’ve gotten to the point where we are making mushroom extracts, which are very successful. They ship all across the country. I grow turkey tail and reishi mushrooms, as well as shitake.”

Mushroom farming and extract production was an accidental discovery for Grantham. He had a chance encounter with a reishi mushroom in

his yard in Murfreesboro that piqued his interest in fungi, and when he moved to his farm in Cannon County Grantham began cultivating shitake mushrooms.

“I thought that would be a high pricepoint item we could cultivate on a small property,” he explained.

So, when his mother-in-law was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, Grantham had already been researching mushrooms for a while. “So I was familiar with medicinal mushrooms and what research was going into that. So I decided I wanted to make something for her—she was very poor, she was on state insurance and we feared she would not get the treatment she needed.”

After she passed away, Grantham said, “I thought I wasn’t going to make any more of the extract, but others were interested, and so I listed it online, and it exploded. I don’t have to market the extract—people come to me already well-researched and knowing exactly what they want.”

As of January, Grantham is moving his production into the manufacturing kitchen at the Cannon County Arts Center in the hopes of scaling up his production. “Our USDA certified organic status will allow us to get a handler certificate so then we can source

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The extra space is also allowing him to expand into kombucha brewing.

“I’ve learned that you can’t sit on your success—you have to leverage it,” Grantham said. “So we’re preparing to produce another healthy product.

With its vinegar profile along with the probiotics, kombucha can impact with gut bacteria and blood sugar levels—it has so many positive aspects that I can’t wait to share!

“Kombucha is fermented tea,” Grantham explained. “The process is thousands of years old: it’s basically sweetened tea left in an open tank to undergo surface fermentation. So what’s

happening is that natural yeast will convert the sugar to alcohol, and the alcohol is then converted by a naturallyoccurring bacteria into vinegar. After about fourteen days, it gets to a pH of about 2.9.”

At that point, the drink is flavored and bottled “in 64-ounce growlers that you can refill from a tap at the Cannon County Arts Center, while 16-ounce bottles will go in stores and restaurants.

We will also be selling barrel-aged kombucha vinegars in 12-ounce bottles.”

Grantham’s current setup will allow him to produce 400 gallons a month, and he will be distributing his product throughout Middle Tennessee.

The Stillhouse Restaurant at Short Mountain Distillery and The Wild Cow in Nashville will carry it, and a number of local food distributors will help get it to wider markets in the region.

For Grantham, giving people healthy options is a mission he takes very seriously, and he’s excited for the opportunities that the manufacturing kitchen offers him. “We’ll be taking a Tennessee staple, sweet tea, and actually making it into a healthy product that positively impacts peoples’ lives. So that fits right in with our mission, and that’s why we’re doing it.”

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WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO HIDE ?

MATTHEW GRIFFIN’S DEBUT NOVEL EXPLORES HIDDEN LOVE ALEXANDRA CHIASSON

When Matthew Griffin began his interview by admitting he was calling from “the parking lot outside of a diner and a Staples” in Pigeon Forge, it’s obvious his humility will govern the conversation. Griffin, 31, seems a bit surprised at the attention he’s beginning to receive, which is funny because his upcoming book Hide (Bloomsbury) is sure to spark conversation.

“Thank you for wanting to talk to me,” he joked. He recalled telling his University of Louisiana at Lafayette writing students that, “If you hate [my book], you can disregard everything I told you.”

Griffin’s debut novel follows the story of two elderly men living together as partners in a rural North Carolina milltown as they approach the end of their lives. Knowing their relationship would not be tolerated after they first met and fell in love in the 1950s, the couple build a home in seclusion and cut off most ties to the outside world for decades.

But the novel carries less of a political message regarding queer love than might be expected, and through conversation with Griffin it becomes obvious that the parts of the book he finds most meaningful are those about end-oflife reflection. “I’m interested in time and the way people and relationships change over time,” he said.

After a “horrible breakdown” upon realizing his first attempt at a novel “wasn’t any good,” Griffin claims to have “wandered about the house like a ghost for a few days” until the idea for Hide came over him rather suddenly.

Sorting through passages from his old work, he came to love the ones centered around an older couple best.

The characters in Hide—one a taxidermist and the other a World War II vet—were based heavily on Griffin’s grandparents, a sort of fusion of both sets. “As a gay person myself, [I wondered] what it would have been like to maintain a relationship the way they maintained a relationship,” he said, “with all the added difficulties of having to be closeted at that time and then also having to take care of that person at the end of his life.”

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Raymie Wolfe, a musician from East Tennessee. The two met about a decade ago at a bookstore in WinstonSalem, North Carolina, where Wolfe worked while both were finishing up their degrees. “When Matty arrived at Borders, I remember he was wearing like this seersucker jacket kind of a thing, and it really was a little bit like slow motion,” said Wolfe of their first encounter.

He says Griffin later purchased a Judy Garland DVD at Wolfe’s register, and he laughed at this early memory. “I guess that was his signal.”

As a husband and a gay man from the South, Wolfe’s reflections on Hide echo the notion that Griffin’s story is more about relationships in general than gay relationships essentially. “It’s such an ordinary story of two people loving each other inside a home,” he said.

Falling in love in another millennium has afforded the real-life couple opportunities to reach the next level of “ordinary” that Hide’s Frank and Wendell could never achieve, but certainly not without a fight. In 2013, Griffin and Wolfe made two trips to the city clerk’s office in Morristown, Tennessee to apply for a marriage license, knowing they would be denied.

Their activist efforts for marriage equality were documented in a New York Times piece called “Struggling for Gay Equality in the South” and in a film made for the Campaign for Southern Equality. The two were finally married one the day of the Supreme Court’s historic decision last summer, their license issued by the same clerk who had denied them twice before.

“Even though [it’s 2016] and things are vastly different than they would have been then, I still felt like we hadn’t quite shaken off that atmosphere that’s portrayed in the book,” said Wolfe of their previous home in White Pine, Tennessee. Living together and getting married might have been their step toward normalizing their relationship “in a community that didn’t necessarily feel super welcoming of LGBT people,” as Griffin described it, but there is plenty of work to be done in the South.

Still, Griffin is less concerned with changing the minds of the homophobic as he is with making young people feel “normal” through his work.

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“You always hope that maybe [the book] will fall, somehow by accident, into the hands of someone whose mind it will change,” he said. “But I want high school students to see that it’s possible to have a happy life and fall in love.”

REVIEW The average reader would probably struggle to identify popular books about gay couples in relationships of significant length in general, but it’s especially difficult to name one where the characters’ sexual orientation lends to the premise but is not to the focal point of the narrative. Its thought-provoking navigation of a world previously unseen is what stands out about Hide, writer Matthew Griffin’s commanding debut novel, but it is not necessarily what makes it a great story.

The longstanding partnership of main characters Wendell Wilson and Frank Clifton—two elderly men who have kept their relationship secret from the North Carolina milltown where they have lived for many years since meeting in the 1950s—is unique by any measure. Living in isolation, the two are able to occupy a domestic space together in a way that would have otherwise been downright dangerous, especially in that era but still today. But the real meat of Hide deals primarily with the effects of isolation, the pain of aging, the burden of caretaking, and regret. Its themes are complicated by but not contingent upon the fact that Wendell and Frank are both men.

Griffin’s impressive debut is certainly a fine entry in the growing canon of LGBT+ fiction and is a prime candidate for a Lambda Literary Award, but Hide shouldn’t be pigeonholed too quickly either. Its absorbing depiction of truly universal struggles at the end of life is one that will resonate with any reader.

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Out & About Nashville (O&AN) has teamed up with the Nashville Grizzlies RFC to produce the Bingham Cup 2016 Official Program and Guide to welcome more than 50 international gay rugby teams to Nashville.

Readership of the issue is expected to surpass 50,000, with more than 15,000 copies printed and distributed at more than 200 locations, including select Kroger stores in Davidson, Wilson and Rutherford Counties.

O&AN Publisher Jerry Jones said the special issue of O&AN will have profiles of each team, venue maps, schedules of events, and other original content to welcome the international participants to Nashville.

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Nashville landed the honor of hosting the event after a highly competitive bidding process and voting from 52 member clubs worldwide. According to the International Gay Rugby, “the bids demonstrated a desire and a capability to produce a first rate rugby tournament, with significant support from regional and state governments, local organizations, community groups and the local, regional and national rugby unions. The final vote, representing 100% participation by IGR member clubs, was 53-40 in favor of Nashville.”

Bingham Cup 2016 will be the 8th time the event has been staged; having been previously hosted in San Francisco, London, New York, Dublin, Minneapolis, Manchester and this past year in Sydney.

It is the world championship of gay rugby and one of the largest inclusive sporting events in the world.

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SNARKOLOGY: BREAKING UP, OR LEVELING UP? DISCLAIMER: Amy Sulam is a comic, and not everyone thinks she’s as funny as she does. We condone nothing she says, particularly not if you decide to take the following seriously. It should not be taken as such.

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Breaking up is fun, right? I mean nothing is more fun than falling hopelessly in love with someone and having your soul completely crushed when they bail on you.

Let me paint you a picture of one of my break ups. We fell in love REALLY hard and fast: together constantly, texting, Facetiming or talking on the phone. We had great communication and never argued. I would have stood by this person on a walk through hell. Nothing they could’ve done—not cheating, lying, or choking me–would’ve made me not want to be with them. Okay, the choking I liked…

I overlooked some red flag behavior because I hoped for growth. This person would at times allow insecurities to reign.

When certain people would comment on my Facebook page, this person would recoil and ignore me, to the point that comments on my Facebook page gave me a nervous, stressed out, PTSDtype response, fearing how this person would treat me after they read way too much into innocent comments. I would shake checking my phone. But, they were actively working on it, so I was understanding.

On the other hand, I had one behavior left over from my drug use that I’m not ready to discuss openly at this point, but it is in no way violent, cruel or destructive.

It’s just weird and embarrassing, and I am currently in very active therapy for it. And THIS this would be the thing that ended us. Compared to that person’s graveyard of insanity…

So one night while I’m asleep this person goes through my phone (and the maturity award goes to…?). They saw a text that basically said that BEFORE we got together I had slept with someone. I hadn’t disclosed the extent of that old relationship because I was embarrassed I did it. Eventually I would have, but I was still freaked out that I had done that.

Make sense? Add to that the fact that this

person constantly questioned my previous relationships, wanting details that were just inappropriate and not their business.

Still, I tried to be understanding. This fact finding mission happened right before my birthday and the winter holidays, basically ruining all those since we had planned activities with my family. The person made some small gestures during the holidays after we had some space but nothing reflected the great plans I had been looking forward to.

Honestly, deep down somewhere I want to ruin their birthday some year.

I won’t but I want to! Now, if you have a brain capable of logic you’re prolly thinking, “Why the hell did you put up with any of that?” I genuinely believed they could get better and were working on

and would never have said something so hurtful. So the original content for this column went out the window: welcome to my “f*ck that” moment.

Here’s why break ups are awesome: I bet you a million dollars that not only can I find someone BUT on my first try I will do better, while that person will never do better than me. I’m not perfect, but I am a good person down to the foundation.

And it took the break up to show me my awesome.

With the stress of Facebook freakouts gone, I’m free to post and connect however I choose. I look at my feet and see no grass growing under them. Call me Ms. Movin-on. Break ups are something we sometimes need to grow. There was time when all I wanted was for us to get back

“There’s nothing like a break up to make you change your look and level up your game, getting you in tune with your inner badass.” things. When you love someone you do stupid things like that.

In a phone conversation last night this person told me because of the behavior I’m in treatment for people will love me but not want to be with me, even though I never stopped being kind to this person

together, all I wanted was that person, and I’m not there anymore, I’d be sad if we were no longer friends but I have no desire to be with that person romantically.

There’s nothing like a break up to make you change your look and level up your game, getting you in tune with

your inner badass. I changed my hair, started dieting and working out, and put myself out there. At the suggestion of a friend I got on some dating apps to find some “distractions,” and Sully, as usual, was right. The distractions made me feel better. Except for the night I got punched in the face but, I digress.

There’s nothing wrong with being sad after getting dumped, but please know there will come a day when you think, “I don’t care anymore if they move on, I’m over them!” It’s a tiny personal independence day. You’ll shake those feelings off like an etcha-sketch, clean slate!

I know when you’re in the thick of it, it can seem like taking up cutting as hobby is a good idea but focus on staying positive. You will reach a point when you think, “Nah, it was nothing!” Trust me.

Eventually I put down the ice cream and took the sad songs off the loop on my ipod, got a makeover, downloaded a dating app, banged a stranger, and watched that sadness fade.

I’m enjoying being single and not caring if I meet someone or not. My life is fantastic, stress free and amazing! I have honestly never been happier than I am right now, and you’ll get there too. In breakups we should learn for the next time to ask for what we deserved and didn’t get.

Here’s the deal: people have a right to not want to be with you. You can’t get outta pocket about it. I’ve been through some shit in my life, my metal has been tested and I know what kind of partner I am—a damn good one. I’m taking that knowledge with me into my future dating situations. I understand now what I bring to the table, and I’m happy to eat alone as long as necessary.

I know, I know—it’s February. I should be all sad and cliché single about Valentine’s Day but I’m not. I’m psyched!

And if you’re single you should be too.

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What do you think has been the hardest part of transitioning?

Dealing with ignorance and bigotry has been the most difficult for me. From workplace and housing discrimination to threats of physical violence, I’ve never been able to understand how some people can be so mean.

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Its an all new “Untucked” and this time we are doing something a little different.

It’s been a big year for the trans community, as more and more media attention is being brought to the issue.

I thought, ‘What could be better than to interview someone born and raised in our own community undergoing the life changes associated with transition?”

So this month, we are taking a break from Nashville’s drag scene to do hear more about what life is like for someone undergoing transition.

Tristan Jackson is a Nashville native who has always felt different, who always felt he was born in the wrong body. Tristan has made so many transformations in his life in the past few years. In his quest to be himself, he’s questioned not only gender identity but also religion and other values.

Having served our country in the Army, he knows sacrifice all too well, and he’s decided it’s time to make changes in many aspects of his life so he can feel whole. So, sit back and relax as we ask Tristan to give us some insight into his trans experience and get to know all about his struggle to become his authentic self.

What does being transgender mean to you? What do you think defines someone as trans?

To me, I would say it means I’m pretty much a freakin’ unicorn! Being trans means that a person’s gender identity doesn’t match what the doctor wrote on your birth certificate. For me, it’s how I think and feel. Really, at the end of the day, the only person that can decide what defines them as a trans person is the individual.

When did you first realize you were different?

Around the age of 5, when I started kindergarten. Girls and boys had to line up separately and I was made to stand

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in line with the girls. Until then, I didn’t really understand that I had been born female.

Knowing you personally, I feel you are very masculine. Have you always been like this and was that something that made you feel you might be trans?

I’ve always been masculine and drawn to traditionally masculine things. I can’t exactly describe how, I just always knew I was a guy.

How did this affect your childhood?

As a kid, it was awkward for me to receive gifts of baby dolls and girly clothes. I didn’t want to seem ungrateful, but I would secretly wish I had gotten a remote control car or baseball cap.

What were some other struggles you faced growing up?

Puberty! Seriously, when I started growing breasts instead of pecs I was horrified. I felt isolated because I didn’t know of any other trans men. The only images of transgender people I saw as a kid were those on the talk shows that exploited trans women for ratings.

Someone once explained that transgender is who you go to bed as, sexuality is who you go to bed with. How would you explain being transgender to someone who may not understand it?

That is very well put, In fact That’s pretty much how I’d explain it.

What do you feel was the hardest part of coming to terms with being transgender?

I had a difficult time reconciling being trans with my religious upbringing. I grew up being told that being anything other than a cisgender heterosexual was wrong. It took years to undo a childhood of brainwashing from the religious community I was raised in.

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How did your family and friends feel about your transformation?

Most of my family think I’m insane and going to hell, but it gives them something to gossip about during family reunions and holiday dinners. I have amazing friends that have been supportive and celebrated my transition.

Do you find yourself more attracted to men, women, or both, and why?

To be honest I have always been attracted to both. I’ve always been attracted to the person, not the gender.

How has your love life changed as you’ve embraced your identity more and more?

I found that revealing that I’m trans to potential love interests helped weed out those that weren’t worth my time or my love.

Do you have a significant other?

Yes I do! He’s so perfect. We have been together for almost two years.

You had top surgery recently; do you feel as though it has made you more complete? Why? Oh, most definitely. I feel like my body now better reflects my real, authentic self.

What do you think is the biggest misconception about being transgender?

I think the biggest misconception is that we are all the same. Not every trans person wants gender reassignment surgery or hormones. Not every trans person identifies as male or female.

There are many identities under the transgender umbrella; trans men, trans women, genderqueer, gender neutrois, transsexuals, transvestites, drag queens, two-spirits, the list goes on for days.

How do you feel that the Nashville community feels about transgender

individuals? How does that make you feel?

I feel like the community is becoming more and more accepting and understanding of transgender persons.

The friendship and support I’ve encountered within our community is amazing and I feel blessed to be a member of it.

Who would you say at this time is the largest advocate for the trans community and why?

I don’t know that there is any one person

that’s out there doing the most work or creating the most change. I feel like the biggest advocates we have are ourselves as individuals. It’s very important for us to be visible and to be role models for the younger trans kids.

What advice who you give to someone who feels they may be transgender?

I would recommend joining a transgender support group such as Tvals, make friends with other trans people, and surround yourself with positive people that will support you.

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The call Green Daniel got from this grandmother wasn’t very different from many he gets these days. She had been granted guardianship of her grandson who insists he’s a girl. Grandma, who is very religious, told Green, “I don’t understand.

My God doesn’t make mistakes.” Green waited for a moment, then asked, “What makes you think it’s a mistake?”

That’s a question Green struggled with some years ago before recognizing that the mistake was not God’s, it was ours.

“If your child is transgender you have just two choices,” Green said, reflecting on his experience with his own son, James. “…to have him or not to have him.”

Green Daniel (and that’s really his name; he’s the third generation of Kentucky Green Daniels) is a former record producer who was based in Denver before coming to Nashville and is now an artist and an ally of the transgender community in Nashville. He currently serves on the board of PFLAG-Nashville, a chapter of the national support group for the parents, families, and friends of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people.

When he was younger, James had come out to Green and his mother as a lesbian. For the most part, they were

accepting of that. Perhaps because of the times and the limited focus of the media, the issue of gender identity didn’t come into it. That doesn’t mean James wasn’t struggling with it. It just means that there wasn’t a clear way to address it—at least not for him at the time.

James attended Belmont for two years and when his parents divorced he decided he wanted to attend The Evergreen State College, in Olympia, Washington. The school offers teamtaught, interdisciplinary programs and the faculty use narrative evaluations, rather than letter grades. The curriculum focuses on engagement and collaboration, rather than competition. And Green knew it was the kind of environment where someone like James could explore his nature, so he helped him pack and drove him there.

An experience Green had as a record producer played a major part in what happened next. Back in Denver, when he was producing a record for a group called The Jupiter Rey Band (described as a Cuban/Jazz/Funk group), Green became friends with the lead singer, Lily Rose, who was transgender. Green’s conversations with Lily, who shared her struggle with him, gave him insight to the difficulty of being transgender in a world that demands that gender be assigned to everything.

“That’s just so unreal,” Green said of that demand, pointing to an article from The Week[1], citing a recent study concluding that “The idea of a unified masculine or feminine personality turns out not to describe real people…

It describes stereotypes to which we constantly compare ourselves and each other.”

“Because my only experience with a transgender person was positive,” Green

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explains, “I wasn’t afraid of it. I knew what it was. I met Lily as the woman she obviously was, with all the related difficulties that such a person had to endure in 1976. I understood why trans people are sometimes accused of being narcissistic.

“If you are trans, there is another kind of narcissism at work.” Green said “It’s not that you think a lot of yourself; you think of yourself a lot.”

Transpeople are always thinking about their identities. It doesn’t mean they are self-centered; it means that on a daily basis they face an issue that most of us never consider. It’s a basic, existential matter that forces them to examine themselves and ultimately address the challenge from Hamlet that Polonius makes to his son, Laertes: “This above all: to thine ownself be true.”

So, Green said, “When James finally announced who he was and I went back over things from our past it hit me, like … Duh, you dumb son-of-a-b!$@#.” It became obvious. “How could I not have realized it?”

James lives in Olympia now. He has had “top surgery” and a legal name change, but has not gone further in his transition.

The journey continues for him. And for Green, too. “I needed to learn and that led me to the local groups, the Tennessee Vals, the Tennessee Transgender Political Coalition (TTPC) and PFLAG,” where he works with parents who are newly learning that their child is trans. “I’m in the LGBT Ally business,” Green said. “I just wish there were more of us. Transpeople need allies.”

Then he smiles. “The experience is different for everyone,” he says. “It really hit home when James asked me a question that most boys ask when they’re three or four, not when they’re twenty-five. ‘Dad,’ James asked, ‘How should I use the men’s room?”

“The idea of a unified masculine or feminine personality turns out not to describe real people… It describes stereotypes to which we constantly compare ourselves and each other.”

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