Recovery from Child Sexual Abuse: Restora9on 1 of 6 Svava Brooks Cer,fied Child Sexual Abuse Preven,on Educator Advocate and Survivor svava@educate4change.com www.Educate4Change.com
This program is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not meant to replace the counsel or treatment of a licensed therapist.
How Are You Feeling?
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Something to Remember Changing can be a threatening experience. You have to fight for it! -‐ Excerpt from Advance! Workbook
Skills for Restora9on In the restora9on process, when we recognize the unhelpful messages we have opportuni9es to agree with them or not. Changing them and the power they have over us requires that we make a conscious effort to internalize the good, healthy and empowering messages. -‐ from Advance!
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What’s the difference between recovery and restora,on?
“Recovery provides liberty from symptoms.
Restora,on provides freedom from the cause of the symptoms. Recovery teaches that you are powerless to overcome and leaves you dependent on a program. Restora,on teaches that you have power and provides a framework for reconnec,ng to your authen,c iden,ty where your power lies. Restora,on is NOT just another new word for recovery. Restora,on is a new paradigm providing a framework to reconnect to who you were created capable of being. That’s where your power is!” -‐-‐Advance Core skill development to move forward in the Restora,on Process. Connec,ons: A Safe Place – 2010
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Skills for Restora9on -‐ from Advance!
To internalize means to make a part of ones own paNern of thinking and believing. Rising above the messages, disengaging from them and figh9ng back is not an easy task. Internalizing is crucial to developing safe and healthy rela9onships. If we don’t internalize posi9ve messages our rela9onships are in danger of becoming stagnate and/or unhealthy. Share example/think of an example in your life. 2013 Svava Brooks, educate4change.com
Skills for Restora9on -‐ from Advance!
The Swords will Contend by John Dickerson. Behold the sword devised against the swell of the enemy’s ,de. I rose to contend but was hindered inside. I lay hold of the stones in my well and I threw them aside. I forgave my offenders and then I rose up to fight. Come those who thirst deep inside, and the swords, will collide. The swords will contend in the mid heaven stride. My fight begins with the enemies lies. Ps. Forgiveness does not mean leang the offender of the hook, but leang go of the damage in exchange of who you truly are.
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Skills for Restora9on 1. Struggle with internal messages 2. Posi,ve Messages 3. Success
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Internaliza,on Mandala – Represent wholeness The center is your inner core. -‐ from Advance!
Object Lesson -‐ from Advance!
To help you understand the impact of internalizing and not internalizing new and posi,ve messages. Materials: 3 small rocks, 1 small cloth bag, 3 small s,ckers, pen. Assignment: write nega,ve messages or believes on each rock, write posi,ve message on the s,ckers, put the rocks in the bag and the s,ckers outside the bag. Carry with you for a week. -‐ Assignment: What do you no,ce? To order the workbook www.connec,onssp.org 2013 Svava Brooks, educate4change.com
Something to live by
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Feeling Overwhelmed? • Remember your safety plan and reach out to a safe person or here on OneHealth. • Work with a counselor or find a life coach • Get help with seang health goals and steps to reach them • Find ways to empower YOU to take charge of your life • You are stronger than you think! I believe in you! • Please email if you have any ques,ons svava@educate4change.com 9/10/14
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Resources
The healing begins with you and the suffering can end with you. -‐-‐Svava Brooks
• Survivor Support and Resources thelamplighters.org siawso.org
malesurvivor.org Call 211 OneHealth.com acestudy.org
psychologytoday.com educate4change.com JusJell.org jaimeromo.com
Great Books for survivors: The Courage to Heal – Ellen Bass Breaking the Cycle – Sandra Riggins Repair Your Life – Marjorie McKinnon
1in6.org
Taalk.org survivormanual.com survivingspirit.com connec,onssp.org
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