Sept 2014 cst willingness

Beyond Recovery to Restora3on

Rebecca Born, LISW Execu3ve Director, Connec3ons: A Safe Place

rborn1@fuse.net www.beyondrecoverytorestora3on.blogspot.org

This program is for informational and educational purposes only. It is

not meant to replace the counsel or treatment of a licensed therapist.

Restora3on Let each become all he was created capable of being.

Thomas Carlyle

h#p://sexualabusesupport.onehealth.com/

Sculpture by Dean Kermit Allison

Core skill for Restora?on: Willingness • Being open to another perspec?ve or point of view than what we have been used to.

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Recognizing Unwillingness

“I want to”

vs.

“Will I?”

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Remaining unwilling

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Developing Willingness 1. Ac?va?on of inner force, mo?va?on.

• Pain or need • Request of others

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Develop willingness (cont.)

2. Deal with conflic?ng feelings and thoughts

• Fight, Flight or Cope

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Develop willingness (cont.)

3. Connect to hope that you can turn this situa?on around.

• Natural ability to learn • Others journey • Skills available

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Developing Willingness (cont.)

Accept the necessity of change.

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Developing Willingness (cont.)

5. Engage in ac?on • Real desire • Possible future • Curious interest • Passive desire

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Recap • Ac?va?on of inner force • Deal with conflic?ng feelings/thoughts • Connect to hope • Accept necessity for change • Engage in ac?on 9/17/14

You win back YOU!

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