Beyond Recovery to Restora3on
Rebecca Born, LISW Execu3ve Director, Connec3ons: A Safe Place rborn1@fuse.net www.beyondrecoverytorestora3on.blogspot.org
This program is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not meant to replace the counsel or treatment of a licensed therapist.
Restora3on Let each become all he was created capable of being. Thomas Carlyle
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Sculpture by Dean Kermit Allison
Core skill for Restora?on: Willingness • Being open to another perspec?ve or point of view than what we have been used to. 9/17/14
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Recognizing Unwillingness
“I want to” vs.
“Will I?”
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Remaining unwilling
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Developing Willingness 1. Ac?va?on of inner force, mo?va?on. • Pain or need • Request of others
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Develop willingness (cont.) 2. Deal with conflic?ng feelings and thoughts • Fight, Flight or Cope
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Develop willingness (cont.) 3. Connect to hope that you can turn this situa?on around. • Natural ability to learn • Others journey • Skills available
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Developing Willingness (cont.)
Accept the necessity of change.
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Developing Willingness (cont.) 5. Engage in ac?on • Real desire • Possible future • Curious interest • Passive desire
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Recap • Ac?va?on of inner force • Deal with conflic?ng feelings/thoughts • Connect to hope • Accept necessity for change • Engage in ac?on 9/17/14
You win back YOU!
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