Healing(a)er(Child(Sexual(Abuse:( Self(Esteem! ! Svava!Brooks! Cer,ďŹ ced!Child!Sexual!Abuse!Preven,on!Educator! Advocate!and!Survivor! svava@educate4change.com! www.Educate4Change.com!
! ! This program is for informational and educational purposes only. It is ! the counsel or not meant to replace treatment of a licensed therapist. !
No,ce!How!You!are!Feeling?!
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The(Nature(of(Self(Esteem! Paren,ng!styles!during!the!ďŹ rst!years! determine!the!amount!of!self!esteem!a! child!starts!with! Other!Major!Contributors?! ! Circumstances! ! External/Internal!circumstances! ! How!do!we!raise!our!self!esteem?! ! 2014!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com!
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How!CSA!!Impacts!Self!Esteem:! Impacts!our!iden,ty! Who!you!think!you!are! I!am!bad!–!It!is!all!my!fault! Feel!Powerless!
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Power!of!Agreement! • Recognize! • Are!you!internalizing!nega,ve!thoughts?! • Are!you!affirming!nega,ve!beliefs?! • Have!you!built!an!iden,ty!around!^^^!! • Are!you!willing!to!learn!and!take!loving! ac,on!towards!healing?! • Ready!to!build!your!self!esteem?! • From!Connec,ons:!A!Safe!Place!©!2010! 2015!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com!
Ready!for!Exchange?! • “Your!inner!power!is!made!up!of!your!strengths,!achievements,! abili,es!and!your!hopes!and!dreams.”!–!R.!Born!! • Iden,fy!one!of!your!strengths,!achievements,!abili,es,!wishes!or! hopes! • What!is!your!outlook!or!a_tude!about!your!inner!power?! !
• Where!is!your!power?! • Alligned!with!impact!of!the!abuse!or!who!you!are!created!cabable! of!being?! • Create!a!power!shield!that!honors!who!you!are!in!rela,onshis!with! yourself!and!others.!! • From!Connec,ons:!A!Safe!Place!©!2010! 2015!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com!
Steps!for!Recovery! ! • Find!someone!to!talk!to.!Counselor!or!a!friend.!!Find!a!support!group! where!you!can!talk!to!others!like!you,!read!books!on!healing,!write!in!a! journal!or!a!blog.! • Commit!to!healing!yourself.!Key!to!healing!is!to!be!willing!to!get!help.! • Take!responsibility!for!your!life!today,!!bad!things!did!happen!but!today!it! is!up!to!you!to!love!yourself.!!Don’t!con,nue!to!treat!yourself!the!way!you! were!treated.!! • With!help,!recognize!the!steps!you!need!to!take!to!get!healthy;!increase! your!well!being.!! • Prac,ce!self!care;!find!safe,!!stable,!nurturing!rela,onships.! • Your!journey!is!unique!–!celebrate!each!step.!
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!Find!Your!Personal!Power! !You!will!feel!beJer!! ! ! It!will!get!easier!!!You!are!worth!it!! 2015!Svava!Brooks,!educate4change.com!
Resources!
The!healing!begins!with!you!and! the!suffering!can!end!with!you.! !NNSvava!Brooks!
• Survivor!Support(and!Resources! ! ! thelamplighters.org! ! siawso.org!
! malesurvivor.org! ! Call!211! ! OneHealth.com! ! acestudy.org!
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! 1in6.org! ! psychologytoday.com! ! educate4change.com! ! JusJell.org! ! jaimeromo.com!
Great!Books!for!survivors:!! The!Courage!to!Heal!–!Ellen!Bass! Breaking!the!Cycle!–!Sandra!Riggins! Repair!Your!Life!–!Marjorie!McKinnon! !
! Taalk.org! ! survivormanual.com! ! survivingspirit.com! ! connec,onssp.org!
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