One Tribe Magazine - December 2019 - Issue 26

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Wherever YOU are in the world, this is YOUR TRIBE, we together we are ONE TRIBE. How To Find Your Purpose In Life & Live The Life You Want Anushka Swalef The Journey Into Healing Addictions Linda Liv Doktar Your “Inner” Leader Robert Landau They Say We All Have A Story Right? Bec Mcmillan I Have No Time Carmelle Crinnion A Letter From The Universe Katie Moriarty Have Yourself A Mindful Little Christmas Hannah Galliers You Won’t Believe It But This One Thing Made All The Difference In Getting Me Close To My Hubby And Him Close To Me Joanna Intara Poppy Or Sunflower Which One Are You? Dawn Bates Vulnerable? You Bet! Kerri Lake I Release You Burt Kempner It’s What You Do Ariaa Jaegar How To Rewrite A Limiting Belief Emily Formea You Can’t Rush A River Samantha Caroline Lavallée You’re A Hopeless Control Freak Vanessa Louise Birt Natural Ways You Can Treat And Avoid High Blood Pressure During The Festive Season And Beyond Helen Nachintu All Limitations Are Self Imposed Charmaine Barber Trauma Is Not Linear Christine Saunders From Pleading To Commanding Mercy Juma Crystal Love - Mother Earth Energies Neenna Kaur Reimagineering Andy Ferguson

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Our cover features the fabulous Bec McMillan (above), Mental Health & Multidimensional Mentor currenlty living in Queensland, Australia. You can read Bec’s inspirational story ‘They say we all have a story right? ’ on page 14.

One Tribe Magazine will transform the way you see yourself and the world around you. So, get ready to LOVE YOUR LIFE, as our creative writers share fresh perspectives, inspiring stories and simple, easy-to-follow steps that will help you FIND YOUR HAPPY. We would like to thank our fabulous creative writers for their amazing insights and you, our wonderful readers for your continued support over these 26 issues. Have a fabulous month and remember to share the love and live your life in glorious technicolour. – Kenny Ball (Editor and Creative Director) Please note our writers are from all over the globe where there are variations in English dialect, to preserve authenticity we have retained these variations throughout the magazine. Photos and text are Copyright to the respective authors and OTM. Articles in this magazine are for entertainment and do not substitute any medical advice. ©2019 One Tribe Magazine | OneTribeMagazine.com | OneTribe.Media

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How To Find Your Purpose In Life & Live The Life You Want Anushka Swalef | 04 The Journey Into Healing Addictions Linda Liv Doktar | 06 Your “Inner” Leader Robert Landau | 12 They Say We All Have A Story Right?

Bec Mcmillan | 14 I Have No Time Carmelle Crinnion | 20 A Letter From The Universe Katie Moriarty | 24 Have Yourself A Mindful Little Christmas Hannah Galliers | 26 You Won’t Believe It But This One Thing Made All The Difference In Getting Me Close To My Hubby And Him Close To Me. Joanna Intara | 30 Poppy Or Sunflower Which One Are You? Dawn Bates | 32 Vulnerable? You Bet! Kerri Lake | 34 I Release You Burt Kempner | 37 It’s What You Do Ariaa Jaegar | 38 How To Rewrite A Limiting Belief Emily Formea | 42 You Can’t Rush A River Samantha Caroline Lavallée | 46 You’re A Hopeless Control Freak Vanessa Louise Birt | 48 Natural Ways You Can Treat And Avoid High Blood Pressure During The Festive Season And Beyond Helen Nachintu | 50 All Limitations Are Self Imposed Charmaine Barber | 52 Trauma Is Not Linear Christine Saunders | 54 From Pleading To Commanding Mercy Juma | 56 Crystal Love - Mother Earth Energies Neenna Kaur | 60 Reimagineering Andy Ferguson | 64

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Anushka Swalef | LIFE FULFILLMENT MENTOR

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What if there is more to life than just being born, educated, career, marriage, children, daily routine and die? What if there is a reason why each and every one of us is here with a purpose? What if that purpose is larger than just you but how you can use your unique talent and passion to serve, spread love, kindness and happiness for the benefit of others?

My name is Anushka and I’m a Life Fulfillment Mentor. I help people get unstuck and live the life they want aligned with their talent, passion and purpose. But only a few years back I was in a completely different mindset and had a completely different life. I was a Dutch diplomat working for the United Nations. I moved to Switzerland to join my (then) husband and worked in a draining corporate job until I found my purpose. How did I do that and how can you too?

I am one of the exceptionally lucky people who had a loving childhood.

I did everything I was supposed to according to my upbringing and education: studies, career, marriage.

On the day of my 30th birthday, I got a phone call from my employer telling me they were sending me to Rome, my first foreign posting as a young diplomat. I did a happy dance as this was a dream come true!

Moving to Rome was indeed a dream but the job at the Embassy was not. I realised that you can be living in the most beautiful place in the world, in the best conditions, but if you are working in a toxic environment not aligned with your values you can be very unhappy. I had joined the diplomatic corps, after studying International Peace & Security, thinking I was helping people but I realised diplomacy was all about power politics and personal status.

I left diplomacy, moved to Geneva, Switzerland, to get married and chose to work in the corporate sector. Life was fine and I got pregnant. But at six months pregnancy, I was told the baby would not survive. I had to give birth to a stillborn baby boy and my life changed completely. My values changed; the way I saw life changed. I went on a self-

development quest seeking answers to questions like “what is happiness?” and “what do people have who do not have the career, partner, child, but have inner peace and happiness?”.

I said yes to every experience that made people happy: yoga, meditation, creative courses, retreats, articles, books etc. Then one day, an inspirational speaker coach waltzed into my life, called Mahima. She propelled me forward on my path to happiness.

She helped me unravel my fears, limiting beliefs, understand selflove, the ego mind vs intuition, and spoke to me about your purpose and mission in life.

As I have been highly educated, I always used my analytical mind to understand the world. I felt great resistance to what she was telling me. I didn’t know how to go inside.

I listened to my intuition and signed up for a 12-month programme. I went on the journey inside with her and a group of others we call our tribe. We created a safe place and connected on a deeply human, soul-centered level.

Six months into the programme magic happened … I remember it so vividly. Not one, not two but four tribe members spoke out and said that because of me they had found their purpose! It may only have been a question I asked which gave them an insight, or something I shared or said. Each time I was in tears …

I had finally found my purpose to help people live a better life. Not by being a diplomat and working at the UN in development cooperation but by serving the people around me in finding their purpose and living the life they want.

Since then I have had to learn how to become an independent entrepreneur, having your own business, defining your niche, creating the clients you want. The beginning was a roller coaster of ups and downs. I realised that the only way I was going to create anything and be successful was by grounding myself first. So I did and still do every day with my morning routine of yoga, meditation and affirmations.

force on what I call my rainbow.

I am serving my clients in a way that touches me deeply when I hear how they are transforming their lives. I work locally and internationally 1:1 with clients all over the world, organise retreats, workshop, speak at events, will do a TEDx talk and am writing my (first) book!

Our world is full of people who have gone through burnout, take painkillers, alcohol or drugs to escape reality which is all in their mind. Unfortunately, it takes major trauma or illness before we wake up and start living! People in my corporate job were always talking about the weekend or their next holiday. Like we all need a break from life!

This is YOUR life and the time is NOW. Don’t wait for your retirement from a draining job before you start living. The first step is choosing to do the inner work and say “Enough!

Now I want to find out who I am and what makes me happy”.

Find a coach you connect with, go on this transformational journey, understand who you are – as the Greek philosophers said “Know Thyself”. This is the essence of life, of your purpose on earth. Find YOUR purpose and live the life YOU want!

I would be happy to serve you on your life fulfillment path.

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The Journey Into Healing

Addictions Linda Liv Doktar Embodiment Coach for High Achievers

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“If you can’t be without it for a few days, it’s an addiction.”

Someone once said to me many moons ago when I was in the midst of facing my addiction shadows.

This was so confronting to hear that I chose to brush it under the carpet. I had no desire to believe in this statement. Yet it never left my mind… I knew it had some truth to it. I knew I was addicted. I was addicted to escapism.

In this paradigm when most people refer to addictions, they refer to excessive behaviour and substances, such as; drugs, alcohol, gambling, cigarettes, pharmaceuticals or sex.

However, where addiction can also show up is with food, sugar, coffee, exercise, energy drinks, chewing gum and so on. I speak of ANYTHING that we think we “can’t be without” for more than a day or two. In fact, most likely the thought of being without IT (the thing) even for a day may encounter some suffocating anxiety?

Once upon a time I resisted this concept as I knew I could go without ‘the thing’ for a few days.

I had willpower and I knew I could do anything, therefore I also believed that I wasn’t addicted.

I know those days of “going without” all too well…. The constant fight with my inner being. The facing of my shadow states and uncomfortable parts of myself. Yet I was still committed to proving to myself and to the world that I wasn’t addicted.

So my willpower won, therefore I perceived myself as a winner.

Truth is, anyone’s willpower can ‘win’ short term. But willpower itself is NOT the solution to healing the root cause and origin of our addictions.

Otherwise, this ‘willpower’ would have kept more of us free from ongoing and over-indulgent substances and behaviours.

This may be a little confronting...

I know this all too well as I battled with my own addictions for more than two decades. My entire life I have fought severe addictions.

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remember binging on sugar when 3 years old. Having two ice creams instead of one. And eating all the cakes and sweets at the other kids birthday parties instead of playing with the other children.

As I grew a little older I began to self-pleasure from the age 11 or 12. I found my parents intimate magazines and movies, and sooner than later this had also become and addiction for me. My whole childhood I was exposed to various heavy addictions. Dad was severely addicted to alcohol and mum was addicted to coffee, and she also enjoyed her 2 beers or ciders every single night. So in my world, this became a daily normal.

And before I knew it I was addicted to food, sugar, binge drinking, drugs, partying, sex, self-pleasure and all the rest. My addictive behaviours sent me into a downward spiral and later I also found myself heavily addicted to crystal meth. I knew I had a severe problem, yet I even numbed the knowing of that fact.

Truth is, anything can be perceived as ‘healthy’ until the meaning and intent changes. Generally speaking, we see addictions as “problems”.

Hence, we have huge resistance and shame around this concept and reality. Addictions are not problems, addictions are solutions. Addictions are solutions to escaping our inner being and our uncomfortableness that we aren’t willing to face.

They are immediate distractions, numbing mechanisms and selfmedication processes.

It is time to stop judging the substances and behaviours, and to cease labelling them as ‘the devil’.

This will only make us resent our reality which causes tremendous amount of self-loathe, self-hatred and self-judgement. Love and judgement cannot exist in the same place at the same time. The more I hated and resented my behaviours, the more I stayed in my addictive cycles to numb the uncomfortableness.

As I awakened to more self-inquiry and realisation of my own inner being, I managed to let go of the meth in a drop of a hat. I knew how destructive it was and since then I have never returned to using this substance, not even once in the last 7 years since I quit. Now I had let go of all drugs, binge drinking, and constant addictive self-pleasure and sex patterns. I even decided to take a year off being intimate with men as I had made a commitment to myself that I was going to break all of my addictions.

I had to learn to love myself deeply in order to let go. And as they journey of deep self-love has brought me to where I am today, I have been able to let go and heal so many of my addictive patterns.

And healing from addictions is not about eliminating the substance/ behaviour for the rest of our lives - unless we choose. Healing form addictions is not about carrying our past limiting identities for the rest of our lives - unless we choose. Healing from addictions is an inward journey into being with what we have kept running away from.

I did whatever it took to let go of my unhealthy patterns and kept eliminating them one by one. But what I didn’t realise at the time was that each addiction was simply transferred to the next. I then found myself rotating between sugar binges and exercise binges. I lived a story that sugar was ‘nothing compared to ice’, and that exercise was healthy!

And on the journey of healing, holding onto labels like ‘recovering alcoholic’ only makes us hold onto shame and guilt from our past. I never chose a label of ‘recovering ice addict’ as that is not who I chose to be. I didn’t desire to keep judging my past, so I chose to fully re-create myself. Now, as a powerful Expansion & Embodiment Coach I know and understand that we

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We don’t receive what we want, we receive who we ARE and who we BE. – Linda Liv Doktar

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keep creating our reality based on the beliefs and identities we carry.

And we manifest reality through our emotions. When we escape our emotions, we also escape all the goodness and bounty that is our birthright.

Addictions can also lay dormant and hidden in our daily routines and we may be completely unconscious to our distractions. It is not the substance or the behaviour that is a ‘problem’ per say, it is the distraction and escapism from our own inner being.

This year I realised I had carried a dormant ‘cycling addiction’ where I had relied on one of three socially normal and acceptable substances; coffee, ceremonial cacao or sugar.

On several occasions I didn’t touch one or two of the three for weeks.

Yet when I joined a 10-week health journey to re-set my body I had made a decision to approach this journey being as “clean’ as possible, as well as heal my gut and re-set my adrenals. This meant no coffee, ceremonial cacao or sugar during this time. As I let go of all three, I noticed myself panic. I caught myself ‘looking for something’ each and every day. I had an urge to reach out for one of the three, and in the moment, I didn’t care which it was.

I approached this from a space of curiosity and dug even deeper within myself. What emotions and inner states did I still want to run away from? With my destructive addictive past I had made a pact and a lifelong commitment to myself that I would do whatever it takes to heal and to stop running away from the uncomfortable parts of me – no matter how long it took. Because I know that this was planted in my path of soul work to also help others heal from addictions. So of course, I had to first experience and heal my own.

This purpose work has found me deep in the realms of emotional alchemy and embodiment – the exact ‘medicine’ that helped me heal and let go. I also had to learn to love myself unconditionally and heal the relationship with my body and my emotions. I learnt to release guilt and shame and learnt to be at peace with all parts of me. This changed everything for 10 | OneTribeMagazine.com

me, and I have also been able to impact thousands of others with my soul work and by sharing my own experiences.

The journey into healing our wounds and addictions is a journey we must choose to take ourselves.

Healing is a choice, just like remaining in a wounded place filled with addictions is also a choice.

I chose to heal. And I still do. But I don’t heal from a place that “I’m broken”. Because I am not. And neither are you. I heal to let go of what doesn’t serve so that I can keep expanding into the highest level of Self and reality of what I desire to hold within my life.

We don’t receive what we want, we receive who we ARE and who we BE. Let’s learn to let go of the guilt, shame and disempowering labels and identities. Let’s also keep doing the work to get to know and be at peace with our emotions, and to re-create ourselves so that we can vibrationally align to receive what we truly desire.

Willpower does not heal addictions.

Healing equals feeling. And the only way to… IS THROUGH.

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I chose to heal. And I still do. But I don’t heal from a place that “I’m broken”.

Because I am not. And neither are you.

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Your “Inner”Leader Robert Landau | Motivational Speaker, Certified Life Coach & Published Author.

1. BELIEVE that there is a leader within you

How would you answer the following question; Are you a leader? I often ask this question when I facilitate seminars or work with businesses one-to-one and I’m always amazed at the answers I get.

Most people consider themselves a leader if they happen to find themselves in a leadership position at work. What many often miss is that one isn’t only a leader while one is on the job. Leadership doesn’t begin and end when you arrive and leave work every day.

With that in mind, here is the same question, but with a slight twist; Are you a leader in your life? Is your answer any different than the one you gave for the first question?

I believe that each one of us was born to lead. Leadership is part of the human condition and it’s how you get through your day, each and every day. It’s how you got yourself here to read this article. A leader envisions a task, and then goes about accomplishing that task in the best way they can. Motivational leadership happens when others watch a leader facilitating a task and admire the way they go about it and the results they’ve gotten. The lesson becomes, “Well, if the leader can do it, then I must be able to as well!”

Your getting out of bed and going about your day is a task that, believe it or not, involves leadership. You are setting a goal for yourself and you take the steps necessary to accomplish that goal. You lead yourself to the finish line. Getting from A to Z is what leadership is all about. Giving up along the way, isn’t!

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2. When you have a task that requires leadership in any way shape or form, map out how you will get from A to Z, in a few easyto-accomplish steps. It’s up to you to make the journey easy for yourself 3. BELIEVE you can get there 4. FEEL what it’s like already accomplishing the task even though it hasn’t happened yet 5. Repeat step 4 as often as possible until the results have been achieved 6. Stand out of the way and let it happen!

Don’t think you have what it takes to be a leader? Think again! Each one of us has an “Inner Leader” that is always there. You were born that way. It comes to the fore when we stand out of its way. It has everything to do with confidence and positivity. If you let your Inner Leader lead you in life, you will reach the finish line even before you realize that you’ve gotten there. Leadership is a part of your heartbeat, it’s a part of your breath and it’s who and what you are.

How do you let your Inner Leader get you to where you need to be?

Here are seven easy-to-follow steps to life leadership;

7. Don’t worry about the day, date and hour that your goal will be achieved, just KNOW that it will happen when it is supposed to, and not a moment sooner.

Your Inner Leader will see to it… if you let it do what it is naturally programmed to do Who can stop the leadership process dead in its tracks? You can.

Other outside forces may try but you are the only one that can put an end to your natural ability to lead.

How you talk to yourself, within yourself, makes a huge difference in what ends up happening on the outside of yourself.

That means to say that you are the only one who can totally derail yourself. Consider the possibility that any task that has presented itself to you that has a vibration of leadership to it is a task that you are meant to succeed at. Don’t believe that you can succeed? The disbelief

comes from the inside of you, not the outside. Go within and see how you might be influencing yourself negatively. What inner things are you saying to yourself that serve as roadblocks to being the natural leader you were always meant to be?

Once you find the negative phrases you’ve been allowing yourself to say to yourself, within yourself in a habitual pattern, make the choice to change the negative into a positive. You are the only one that can do that, and do that you can.

It’s always up to you. Success is always within your reach if you give yourself the chance to succeed. The ball is always in your hands. How you choose to run with it is always up to you.

What if you should fail at your task?

So what! Get back up on your feet and keep moving forward. Try it again but this time with success in mind. Don’t let anything get in your way. Don’t run into things, walk around them if they appear to be insurmountable. There’s always another way. Never give up. Be relentless and you’ll get to where you want to go. Failure isn’t a part of any leader’s vocabulary. Another chance to get it right is. Which one are you?

Leading is something you came here to do. If you still aren’t convinced, find out what it is that might be holding you back from this realization. Once you know what that mindset might be, understand that this issue might not be as real as you thought it once was. No hardship lasts forever.

Things will pass if you allow them to depart sooner than later.

Figure out what it will take to walk through your disbelief and get back on the road of believing that you came here for a very specific purpose. Let your Inner Leader take you there. It’s your path, it’s your life, it’s your destiny. All you have to do is stand out of the way and live it, breathe it, walk it and talk it you leader you!

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They say we all have a story right?

Bec McMillan Inspirational Speaker | Mental Health & Multidimensional Mentor TV and Radio Presenter | Actress | Red Carpet Host Celebrity Emcee | Co-Author | Designer

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Our cover girl Bec McMIllan is described as

“A woman like no other with a story like no other” and after you read her story you will understand why!!

Bec states “When your a “chosen one” you don’t get to runaway from yourself or your mission ”- you have to Face it … Feel it.. to Free it… xx I’m just the vessel for you all to show you the ways to Inspiring yourself through your journey. xx

The young Bec fell pregnant at 21 and withdrew from her toxic lifestyle. She had to do this, alone and no support , not fully understanding how to achieve this she detoxed whilst pregnant.

During her pregnancy at seven and a half months she had an accident 2nd and 3rd-degree burns on 20% of her body. This hit the nerves in her legs, and she endured painful physiotherapy while learning to walk again. This left Bec with horrific scars that lead to paranoia, self-consciousness and the hiding of her legs for many years.

This story is a story that you will need to brace yourself for … it will take you to places and emotions that may upset you or trigger you by the end of reading this YOU WILL BE INSPIRED LIKE NEVER BEFORE!!

It is a story that one could not even begin to script write.

An outstanding story of impeccable strength, courage, and grace to share with you all. Bec has the respect of doctors, emergency services, army and souls all over the world.

This talented woman has overcome some of the most difficult and challenging events, but later goes on to become a huge success!

GET READY TO BE TAKEN ON A JOURNEY! Many people have experienced their share of dark times or experiences, most often that darkness disappears, and things start to look light again in life.

However, for Bec McMillan the experiences of trauma seemed never ending. Tragic blows after blows hit so fiercely it left nothing but devastation and destruction.

For Bec, this was her harsh reality.

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her from everyone around her and the world. She never felt like she belonged. Bec grew up in the rough environment of Sydney’s western suburbs. She was overweight, suffered from depression and anxiety, and if that was not enough, she also suffered a debilitating low self-esteem.

In an attempt to protect her sensitive soul and survive, she got caught up in the drug and party life as a means of escape.

She felt that if she could just be as “rough and tough” as everyone else, no one could hurt her.

This somewhat made her feel powerful – even though inside she was a scared, vulnerable young teenager trying to survive and navigate herself through her internal struggles. Making poor choices, attracting toxic experiences, becoming addicted to drugs and spiralling downwards. She did not know how to escape.

This led to PTSD in which even someone playing with a lighter would cause a panic attack.

Soon after her beautiful boy Jaiden was born, and she knew something had to change, but just didn’t know “what or how”..

It took being in an abusive and violent relationship where her son’s father went to prison that gave her the strength to pack up her car and move to the Sunshine Coast with the hope of creating a new life for herself and her precious boy Jaiden.

The next few years were up and down. In some ways, she was building up her strength and trying to make a new life and to be the best Mum she could be, BUT those past traumas would come back to haunt her and pull her back into depression and anxiety which then lead to toxic choices.

A few years later Bec met a man that was not “the one for her” and shockingly discovered she was

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Turn your pain into your power because you are not what happened to you…. No No No. You are who you ‘choose’ to become.

pregnant, which was a miracle as he was not supposed to be able to have children, so Bec chose to honour this man and their miracle child and co-parent. Disgracefully he took off and left Bec pregnant and alone with his child growing inside her.

She planned her suicide to run in front of a bus but she owes her survival to her son Jaiden, who showed her unconditional love and stepped up when others walked away and was her reason for living and making it through another day.

She begged her new husband to come home to support her through this time, at least until the end of the pregnancy but he refused and walked out on her at seven and a half months pregnant, suicidal and alone with Jaiden.

Bec rekindled an old relationship during the pregnancy and was doing her best to create a wonderful life. Jayce was born and Bec struggled as he suffered from colic and leaving Bec exhausted but she soldiered on.

Some of her friends and family encouraged her to go out and have some fun for the first time in over a year and a half.

They all felt it would be good to get out of the house, have some adult company and let her hair down. Bec organized for her mum to look after Jayce for the night.

When Bec arrived home later that night, her mum thought she was ok as Bec said she was fine to look after Jayce and not knowing how intoxicated Bec was, then went off to bed, not for a moment realizing what a tragic decision that would be. Bec woke up to her lifeless baby underneath her, not remembering how she got home .. nothing.

What came next was filled with what encapsulates a parent’s worst nightmare. From the hope that shone when Jayce was resuscitated, to the confusion and panic as he was rushed to hospital and worked on by a roomful of doctors, the helplessness as his internal organs all began to fail, to the total devastation when he was declared brain dead and passed away in her arms.

The shock and grief overwhelmed her, but she was determined not to fall apart for the sake of her son Jaiden. Bec focused all of her energy on making sure that all those around her were okay... especially protecting her poor mother who was overwhelmed with guilt so she hid the full truth of that night and took the blame.

Bec started a charity in honor of her little boy Jayce to raise awareness and assist other parents who have lost children and educate statistics.

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her charity, but she could not have been prepared for the onslaught of online bullying, small town gossip that became a nightmare.

“Murderer” and “baby killer” were words she would hear or read sent to her via social media….

The online bullying and resulting stress eventually forced Bec to close down her charity and donate the raised money to SIDS and Kids Charity. Bec ended up with extreme social anxiety that she would disguise herself as a male when going out in public.

Just as Bec was trying to deal with all of this, her nana died, and she lost her relationships with her elder sister and best friend of thirty years and friends also gave up on her.

Bec’s heart was shattered into a million pieces, and not long after this, her Dad died leaving her feeling more alone than ever. A few days after her father’s death her 3rd son, Chance was born… named as an expression of gratitude that life was giving her a second Chance at being a mummy.

Chance was born the most stressed out colic and refluxed baby, crying for 6 to 9 hours a day Bec was in survival mode crawling around on her hands and knees . She had around 3 hours of broken sleep a night, struggled with postnatal depression, glandular fever, suicidal thoughts, crippling anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder – yet there was no one around to support her–though she knew she needed 24hour care and support.

Still grieving the loss of Jayce, with her deceased twin still in her womb, grieving for her Nan, sister and best friend, she then lost Pop and discovered her father had terminal liver cancer and only three months to live!

During the worst of it, Bec sometimes saw her baby Chance as her deceased baby Jayce, which led to panic attacks and anxiety.

She would close her eyes just to approach Chance afraid she might see him dead. Exhausted, desperate and alone, she one day for one moment had a thought of smothering Chance when he was crying for hours and hours … And no sooner had the thought come up, she was horrified and filled with complete shame for even thinking such a thing. Bec could never imagine doing such a thing. This became a condition called “intrusive thoughts” which means the opposite to what you would ever want to think or do, but the mind fixates on that thought instead of erasing it.

Unable to cope with the onslaught of grief Bec suffered a severe nervous breakdown which had her bedridden for a month.

From this moment on Bec could not even look at Chance in case she thought that horrible thought. She then became very suicidal again as

Then Bec found she was expecting twins which left her bedridden with all day sickness, then one of her twins died and she had to carry her deceased baby to term inside her.

Bec got married, but her new husband was not around to support her, choosing to work away and come home for 12 weeks in total a year, she again found herself pregnant, alone and wondering how she would survive the darkness her life had become.

the thoughts started to overwhelm her. She believed that her own children would be better off without her, and she could see no way out of this self-loathing and guilt. She began to make plans to ‘check out,’ putting things in place so that her boys would be cared for.

The following day, her son Jaiden came home from school and just showed her such unconditional love and acceptance, that it changed everything. It was at that moment that she decided to live – against all odds!

She checked herself into a mental hospital in Sydney, determined to do whatever it took to finally be free of this darkness that was threatening to destroy her life. She was diagnosed with postpartum psychosis and put on 24-hour watch.

Bec was so scared, alone and missing her beloved boys; she wondered if she was indeed crazy and if this is what the rest of her life would be like.

Finally, completely exhausted both physically and emotionally, she finally got some sleep!

Four days later a team of doctors brought Chance to see her, and witnessed the profound love and caring she had for him. After questioning her they realized that her prior diagnosis was incorrect, that she needed rest, support and new medication. One doctor of twenty years stood up and hugged her and stated that he had never met a woman like her before and could not believe she was still standing after everything. This gave Bec hope to finally stand tall and heal no matter what!

Bec was faced with driving Chance and herself back home to the Sunshine Coast via a twelve-hour trip. Chances father refused to escort them home safe.

During this time, Bec was reported to the department of child safety after an anonymous call, stating she was not fit to care for her baby and had been reported for abuse.

Bec immediately called DOCS as she knew she had nothing to hide.

Bec had simply requested help and support which is a courageous act as well as being something all

people should be entitled to.

To her horror, she discovered that this was not the case. Even though Chance was found to have suffered absolutely no abuse, her little boy was taken away from her with security guards around her and denied the right to kiss her baby boy goodbye. Chance was given to the same husband who had earlier denied both Bec and their son support. The ‘husband’ who left her pregnant and suicidal, the ‘father’ who was rarely around to raise his baby and who is not around to this day!

THIS IS WHEN BEC HAD HER SPIRITUAL AWAKENING! SHE WAS SHOWN WHAT TO DO! SHE WAS SHOWN “WHO SHE WAS” AND HOW IMPORTANT SHE WAS FOR THE PEOPLE OF THE WORLD!!

She got in her car, drove 12 hrs home, obtained a lawyer and fought with all her might to prove her innocence and within a week had her boy back in her loving arms.

Bec began her journey of being THE LEADER SHE IS. She dove deep into spirituality, energy healing, crystals, consciousness, charity work and inspiring others by sharing her incredible story of resilience, strength, and courage.

She stepped through the fires of inner doubt lost 22 kgs and became an Inspirational Speaker, mental health and multidimensional mentor, TV and Radio presenter, Actress, Red Carpet host, Celebrity Emcee, co-author, created her own line of Designer Crystal necklaces that have hit fifteen countries and four fashion runways in pre-launch stage and is heading to fifty VIPS at 2020’s Golden globes called Luminous Crystal and has partnered up with her beautiful powerful self made multi multimillionaire soul sister Regan Hillyer to impact the world together with their crystals and other joint ventures. Bec has also been Globally published as a woman of Influence on our planet, Cover Girl, several magazine stories, and podcasts Globally and feels very grateful to all who see her as the woman she is today and who is also yet to become.

all the pain and heartbreak, all the rejection and judgment, Bec KNOWS her purpose, and that is to help INSPIRE and hold space for others who are struggling. She learned not to be ashamed of her mental health issues and that she did not need to be defined as a bad person by her past. Bec admits that she still struggles through her growth and the last thing she wants to portray that all is good and easy as its not… BUT ..that is one of the most wonderful things about Bec McMillan as she is raw, real and damn inspiring.

She is determined to make a difference in the world by creating vast improvement in the mental health systems and society, by leading by example, empowering people to know that it is ok not always to be ok but to also show people not to get “stuck in the story” of your traumas.

Bec states, “YOU GET TO SHARE YOUR STORY WITH PRIDE FOR YOURSELF” “YOU GET TO HOLD YOUR HEAD HIGH” “YOU GET TO SHINE” “YOU GET TO NOT LET WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU DEFLATE YOUR JOURNEY BUT TO IGNITE YOUR FIRE INSTEAD!!!

TURN YOUR PAIN INTO YOUR POWER BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU…. NO NO NO… YOU ARE WHO YOU ‘CHOOSE TO BECOME” … the end…

‘I hope whoever reads this has been Inspired to NEVER GIVE UP!’ Sending you love and encouragement always xx Love Bec xx

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Have No Time Anxiety, worry and stress. Three words that sit atop the vocabulary of our times.

A trinity of despair and hopelessness, loneliness and shame. As I sat with this, a message was channeled by the Supreme consciousness for all who may be feeling that there is so much more waiting beyond the walls of these intruders of our age. Beyond medication and band aid treatments, beyond endless counselling and therapy and retreats and meditations. Beyond our seeming inability to shed the iron walls they entrap us within.

A composition from the heartsoul space to whom it may concern.

Carmelle Crinnion Transformational Coach | Spiritual Alchemist | Pilates Lover

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~ I have no time for who i think i am expected to be.

I have no time for who i thought i should be.

I have no time for wondering what i should be for him, her, them, it.

I only have time for me now.

~

Where does that leave me?

Shedding skins of neediness.

Removing masks of false smiles and nods and agreement when all I want to do is walk away or speak authentically, or both.

Stepping out of the comfortable shoes that followed the comfortable path, that had my body molded into a comfortable robotic conformity.

That’s better. My feet can feel the earth without restriction. Now I can tap into the mysteries and the unearthed potential lying right beneath me. I connect my soles to the soul beneath me, to Mother, Isis, Hathor, Kali and all the wisdom of the elders before me, and beyond that and into the chambers within my heart that only the keys from the wisdom, buried deeply in the ocean of potentiality, can unlock.

These keys carry codes and as they touch my heart chambers they form new combinations, creating an ever changing combination to this sacred space, and access is determined by authenticity and desire to go beyond all that has come before.

For how can one expand into new uninterrupted space without unbridled willingness?

The thing is, I thought I was unbridled, authentic and being true to me. Then new challenges presented themselves. Old challenges with new circumstances.

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of my perceived struggle. The relationship where I felt confusion in my heart and allowed self doubt, critical analysis and judgment creep in time and again.

It can take many waves of healing through these old stale relationships with old and worn out attachments. They get stuck in ruts and the energy only grows in the comfortable discomfort of the rut until a threat appears, and at these times it projects missiles of shame, self loathing and remorse for past events that should be long dead.

I now choose to bury the dead.

The dead relationships that haunt me with their taunts of ridicule when I dare to step into a cycle of expansion and new horizons.

The skeletons of genetic inbred suffocating rules and standards. I pour lime and acid onto you. May you return from whence you came and be alchemised into universal truth.

The rotting flesh of diseased thinking, which in turn has made my body suffer from fatigue and loss of life force in my veins. I pull the plug on your life support that you may fade away and into the spirals of shame of the litany of rotting vegetables, posing as life force inside of us.

The lost ghouls attaching themselves to any living thing to leach from. I sever the lifeline you invaded and throw it back to you and watch you shrivel and die, fodder for the universal fertiliser which in turn will nourish new growth, devoid of any memory of struggle and despair.

As I enter the space created through the death of the impersonators and tricksters, I feel into it, knowing there is no rush. I allow myself to feel the anticipation of knowing, without knowing exactly what I know or what is coming. The preparation for this, as I live each and every day with purpose in following that inner voice that I have quieted on so many occasions.

Like planning for an extended vacation, mapping out the things that make my heart race, make my face light up, that arouse me sexually. That’s when I know I want it. I feel into it and expand even further into the desire for more of the same feeling, edging my way into the expansion of the thoughts, going beyond the once imposed limits of my mind, my options. The similarities to sexual pleasure should not be lost here. Our sexual centre is our only centre for creativity. Our mind alone cannot create anything deeply rich with life force and pizzazz. It can solve equations and puzzles, write logical manuscripts and text books, but what about real life, raw and everyday situations and struggles that need a deep solution.

The mind alone cannot create options and pathways that involve deeper human connection. That’s when our desire kicks in, it’s when we feel aroused just thinking about potential outcomes that fulfil our desires and tap into our creativity.

It’s no coincidence that we find ourselves sexually excited in these moments, that’s exactly how it is designed to be, that is co-creation within our own mind and body, spirit and soul.

Just as a child cannot be conceived without sexual union,*{notwithstanding intervention} our dreams and desires cannot be sufficiently fulfilled without awakening our sex centre - the centre of creativity that is not only for human procreation, but for creation of every kind.

Sexual frustration and creativity frustration are rooted in the same origin. Lack of pleasure, absence of pleasure. To fulfil ourselves sexually is to be alive and filled with an air of satisfaction, coupled with anticipation for life.

The antidote to creative stagnation then, is sex. Not just regular sex, I’m talking about deeply pleasurable, lingering, creative, explorative, connected, multi edging, deeply penetrating sex.

Like fast food, fast sex will satiate you for a very short time and leave you feeling not quite satisfied, definitely nutritionally unsatisfied but also that feeling of the quick fix that didn’t quite hit the spot at a deeper level that our body needs and requires.

Compare this to a slow and abundant buffet of exquisite food choices, from fresh sweet fruit to meticulously prepared exotic dishes, with the highest quality of ingredients available from near and far, served by an attentive waiter who preempts your every whim or desire.

There are no limits.

I can truly be, have and do whatever I desire.

So, what do you desire? Feel into your heart in this moment and begin expressing out loud or in writing whatever comes to mind.

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For how can one expand into new uninterrupted space without unbridled willingness?

– Carmelle Crinnion

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A LETTER FROM THE

Uni erse Katie Moriarty | Writer & Quantum healer

Dear Beautiful Soul, It’s been a while since we last had a heart to heart, and I just wanted to reach out and let you know how much I love you.

You see; you came to Earth with a very important mission.

A big part of it was to truly know yourself, and to find the path to your own light.

Because from that place you really can manifest all that you desire.

That I love you tooooo much to watch you have a ‘sliding doors’ moment when it comes to your own destiny.

felt like you failed, you actually triumphed ... because each time you learnt something truly valuable about yourself and this life.

On another note, I must admit, I have sooooo enjoyed watching you play.

This is what you came here for. You are on the right track.

Do more of that. It IS where the magic lies.

Knowing yourself on a deep soul level is the key to achieving everything your heart desires.

You really, truly, are such a magnificent part of my creation.

I honour your courage and your fire.

There is no other like you.

I see your willingness to sift through everything that is false in order to find what is real.

And even more excitingly ... from that place ... you can serve the world from your highest perspective.

Every cell of your being is unique.

Your coding is unique.

And I know deep down that you know this to be true.

And for this reason ... your personal evolution is unique.

You feel it... don’t you?

You are truly special.

I’ve been doing my best to let you forge ahead on your own path so that you could learn, grow and experience new things...

Nothing brings me more joy than watching you find yourself and create your own magic.

I just wanted to check in with you to say ...

Sometimes your greatest moments have been tucked away *just* on the other side of your darkest sorrows have you noticed that yet?

You are so close. Soooooo close to living the life you deeply long for.

It’s been so beautiful to watch your journey unfold.

A few times I’ve had to move people, experiences and circumstances out of your way when you wanted to hold on tight to them.

I know those times were painful and whilst I’m sorry for that, I couldn’t bear to see you miss the divine gifts I had placed just beyond them that I knew you truly desired.

I want you to know that sometimes we cling to the things that deep down we know aren’t serving us in our highest good

Your personal frequency is unique.

It’s always good to remember that everything is a moment in time.

And even though you may not be aware... I’ve been by your side every step of the way.

Sometimes you’ve listened to the nudges and the whisperings from myself and your personal guides as we have tried to give you a helping hand ...

Sometimes you haven’t. (We all know how those times ended!).

But ...

But you kept on going with your head held high and for that reason I am so deeply proud of you.

Please get ...

And even those times that you

And that’s ok ...

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I commend you.

I see your never ending search for your own light.

I see your quest for knowing, and your pursuit of your purpose.

“Keep going”.

So close to unlocking the codes to your own abundance, divine love and joy.

Everything you know to be true in your heart ... is real.

You are right. Your intuition is on point.

Divine doors are waiting for you to open them.

You hold the key.

You are so close.

So close to moving into the frequency of absolute knowing that you are worthy, abundant and whole by birthright.

The truth is; even though you’ve started to doubt it; you absolutely

can live the life of your dreams.

You can Illuminate your soul.

You deserve all the happiness, the freedom and the success your heart desires.

You’ve done the work.

I know you believe it. I know you feel it.

More importantly now than ever before ... you get to embody it.

You deserve to own all that is your birthright.

And you are not alone.

I am right here; and I am not giving up on you.

Not now; not ever. I can promise you that.

You have what it takes.

Keep going.

Your human journey may not be perfect but your soul absolutely is.

I will keep showing up for you; continue to guide you and cheer you on all the way!

Follow the signs. The omens.

Listen to your heart.

Continue to delve further into the truth of who you really are.

One moment can change everything.

Expect miracles.

You can relax in the knowledge that you are eternal. You are divinely guided.

I honour you.

And I truly, truly, love you so much.

Forever yours in co-creation ... assisting you along the journey.

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You are so close to moving into the frequency of absolute knowing that you are worthy, abundant and whole by birthright.

– Katie Moriarty

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Have yourself a mindful little Christmas Hannah Galliers The Mindfulness Coach

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of coal or two for good measure.

The holiday period is a wonderful time, full of overeating, gift giving and alcohol. It is seen through the rose-tinted view of the John Lewis adverts showing their view of everyone’s perfect Christmas.

The tree, the cards, the family, every detail perfect and pristine from the glistening white snow to the perfectly shaped Yorkshire puddings.

These expectations of Christmas can make it hard for some of us.

Drawing from my own experience, Christmas is more like arguing with siblings, putting up with your racist aunt, the dog stealing the Christmas pudding, the cat climbing the tree and pulling it over, Dad taking control of the telly and exhaustion setting in by about 3pm with the sometimes uncomfortable conversation with family that you only see once a year.

Christmas is the season of capitalism at its finest. We are led to believe that we must spend, spend spend, to make sure our loved ones know how we feel about them. We are pressured to shower them in gifts because how else can we our show love?! This can be overwhelming, especially for parents who can feel the need to keep up with the Joneses.

It’s completely normal to have all of these feelings surface during the holiday period. Being mindful about the root cause of all this negativity can be hard but our practice can help us to survive this difficult and overwhelming time.

Firstly, it’s okay to not like all your family. If they affect your mental health, it’s okay not to see them.

Removing yourself from the situation is not only justified but also brave. It is the right call to make. If that’s not an option for you, then take a break if you feel dominated by a family member.

Go to a quiet room or go for a walk.

Remind yourself of the reasons you are there. Perhaps it’s your mum or your brother. Focus on the lovely time you are having with them.

Make a list of all the things you are grateful for about this day. Check it twice and ignore the racist aunt who doesn’t have a nice thing to say about you and….. breathe.

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It is said that Christmas is about the giving not the receiving. I have always stood by the philosophy that I’d much rather you got me something well thought about than something expensive. Or better yet, choose an activity we can do together. Time is our most precious asset. No amount of money ever bought time. You can always get more money, but you can never get more time. But let’s be honest, who hasn’t received a gift and thought “this person doesn’t know me at all? What were they thinking?!” I’m guilty of doing that in the past. I think we all are. This can leave us feeling isolated and misunderstood if we feel that family or partners don’t understand us. Accept the gift with kindness and its okay to let these feelings come up too.

Accept these with kindness too.

After all, no-one is perfect. Perhaps this person is notorious for leaving everything to the last minute and this is just their nature. In this case it would be their nature behind the gift, and it does not reflect their feelings towards you.

In the topic of gift giving, I return to the pressure to spend. The feeling that you are not good enough if money is hard to come by. I have a big family, so we decided a few years ago that we’d do Secret Santa.

Then it is only one person to think about, with a pre-set budget of, in our case, £50. Getting yourself into debt is not required here. Parents with young children can certainly feel the pressure. One great tip I read, was to make the stocking from Santa and the rest from the parents. This way the child will better understand that the number of gifts is no reflection on whether they’ve been naughty or nice. It’s the stocking that reflects that, which could always include a piece

Overindulgence is rife during the festive season. If I got £1 for every time I’d said “sod it, it’s Christmas!” as I reach for an extra profiterole, I’d be a very rich lady. Eating and boozing can lead us to feel bloated.

Added to that can often be the depressing nature of consuming too much alcohol. Recently, I have incorporated mindful eating into my life. Being aware of what I’m putting into my body, being present when eating, being aware of the sensation of taste, observing each move, the feeling of different textures of food ensures I am doing it as an isolated activity. I become more aware when I’m full and as a result I’m eating less. Use this practice over Christmas.

How lucky are we to have so much during this season? We have a home, food, gifts and family. There are many who are less fortunate.

Giving something back is one of my core principles. Charity gift giving is a way we can do that. One great thing about being an adult, is if I want or need something, I can go get it. It’s the case for most adults I know. So, give something to someone who really needs it. You can buy or make gifts for people all around the world, such as a goat for a family, mosquito nets or vaccines. You can make a real difference in someone’s life. A true random act of kindness. Food banks are another excellent way that you can make a difference to someone else’s Christmas. Finally, we can give our time. This can be to a local homeless shelter or to the elderly lady up the road who has no family. Reaching out to others less fortunate than ourselves is an act of giving that will mean so much more to the recipient than a gift that is taken rather than received. Share the compassion of this season and find the real gift, the sharing of our humanity.

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Reaching out to others less fortunate than ourselves is an act of giving that will mean so much more to the recipient than a gift that is taken rather than received. – Hannah Galliers

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You Won’t Believe It But THIS One Thing Made ALL The Difference In Getting Me Close To My Hubby And Him Close To Me. Joanna Intara | The Intimacy Genius

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There were days in my healing journey to experience more closeness and intimacy in my marriage that felt so dark.

After such a profound honeymoon period, of long extended lovemaking, multiple times per day, mega love, and closeness and connectedness, how could the period after have been filled with so much challenge and disconnection?

Not many people tell you that after the romantic love period is over, there is a stage where you reconcile what you projected onto your partner, with who they actually are.

It’s also called the power struggle stage.. and it’s where most people break up.

But what we didn’t know was how to maintain it when there were challenges. And let’s face it, there’s going to be challenges and spots where connection will fizzle.

And then you’ll wonder... or question.. what do you do? Like us.

My hubby would ask me.. “How do we stay close.. what do we do...what do we have to prioritize...I want to be close to you but then shadows take over...”

And with two kids now part of the scene, and two businesses to manage we felt so full, overwhelmed and stuck with how to create the kind of partnership connection that makes life worth living.

The potent combination of ‘falling in love’ hormones.. are a powerful cocktail that are nothing like the brain has ever seen. The brain can only sustain that for 18 months.

It’s even stronger than heroin.

That’s why people feel so horrible sometimes, at the power struggle stage. The drugs are wearing off.. and reality is hitting.

We decided to go for it.. And that looked like

Who the heck (or hell) are you anyway?

- Reminders of our love. I love hearts of all kinds.. he reminds me of the love we have by sharing them with them. He loves me kissing him in a part of his cheek just the way he likes it.. I remember that and give him that.

And who really, are you??

The things we can think or say.

In fact, there are hardly any good movies that show couples getting through this stage...so we decided to make our own.. with the happy, close, connected ending and journey that we are living now...

I’ll be honest, this road to develop connection can be filled with great fears and doubt about what to do to navigate the real path forward to true love and connection and closeness that’s real and sustainable.

And my sweet hubby and I were determined to not become a casualty of our ancestral trauma and divorce lineages. I mean the word dissolution that people click on the divorce papers.. is really when you break it down really means disconnected from a solution. Our disconnected places were a wake up call, so we got serious and focused, and you will need to as well, if you’re not giving up on the closeness and intimacy that you desire.

We knew that the connection and closeness we had was sacred, precious and worth it’s weight in gold.

- Date nights, scheduled regularly..

- Taking time away for ourselves both individually and as a couple - Workouts, to really respect our bodies.. and the good endorphins and creativity that comes from caring from them

- Come back to the felt sense, in your bodies of the best parts of your connection, closeness, intimacy and love. When you re-member this.. often, connection happens.

- Identifying this... what helps you return to love and closeness when it’s gone? For us, it’s a certain look, a smile.. breathing practices, sustained eye contact for at least 21 seconds.. all those help.. but you can find yours?

- What’s the best part of your love and expanding that?

- Who supports you, holds your best vision for your relationship? and champions you until you get there?

We are close and getting closer all the time..

We have intimacy that’s emotionally secure..

We resolve any blips on our screen really quickly..

And we get to enjoy the love and sweetness and then extend that into our lives, our creative projects, our work, our kids and community..

Now that is precious..

And you get to have it too.

And here’s the thing. I already know you have a million things to do..

This is NOT about quantity of time.

This is about energy, focused, quality, intentional...NOW And that’s where a mentor comes in...who has curated the way forward for you, based on thousands of hours of experience, practice, application and relentless devotion, and who will support you in making the space for this... to bring into you the embodiment, that little acts of these, like the small kisses on the cheek.. they lead to huge shifts.. the delicious closeness and intimacy..there’s a hum of delight that runs through your whole being...it’s yummy and shivery all at the same time...

I’m looking forward to celebrating that energy on my upcoming Anniversary!

What’s ONE fun intimacy thing you can recommend we do to celebrate our anniversary?

And. I’ve got ONE spot ( www. freecallwithjoanna.com) open this week for anyone who is wanting to turn up the hotness, love and intimacy in their love relationship..... even if you haven’t been having it for a while... get on this while there’s openings.. you can tell me any one thing you want help within your relationship.. and I’ll share with you the MOST EFFECTIVE thing that will totally help you.

- What mentors do you have?

- Who do you admire that you can draw on their energy who is doing a version of closeness and intimacy that you desire?

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We did ALL these things...

And we’re still doing them...

They are a practice, not a perfection.

And I’ll share with you...the result...

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Poppy or Sunflower which one are you?

Dawn Bates | International bestselling author, coach and speaker.

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The memories you wished had not happened, the experiences which have left you wounded, scared, and scarred, they are now part of you and until you learn to listen to them, acknowledge them and work with them, they will always be a big part of you rather than just a fleeting memory, like a bird passing by in the brief moment, a blink of an eye.

Be you they say.

Show more of yourself.

Stop hiding who you are.

But only the way we think you should be.

Only the version of yourself that doesn’t make us uncomfortable.

Only the way which does not intimidate and alienate others.

But with so many different comfort zones, and hidden wounds in everyone around you, how on earth do you navigate this?

How can you be who you are when all around you are upset or offended by you so much they make you an outcast and then tell you “you distanced yourself from everyone”, “it was your doing, you were too this, too that, too you and too much of everything, but just be yourself” And then the coaching world and the enlightened ones will tell you that it was what you called in, everyone is a mirror to who you are and who you are being in the moment.

But how can this be when you are being true to who you wish to be and the behaviours of others doesn’t align with who you are, and their behaviours tell you not to trust them because you see them gossiping about others, betraying others and behaving in ways which are not behaviours you wish to be associated with?

But it is all about making others happy right?

All about not confronting or intimidating others, not being better than others or making others feel inferior.

Making yourself smaller, dimming your own light to not make waves, going against everything you believe in and have fought hard to become, just so we all remain small, instead of being the leader you are and helping others to rise.

Oh how the tall poppy crusaders have lived long and prospered!

Oh how the tall poppy fields have grown and spread far and wide!

Oh how the sunflower has been made to be ugly in all its strength, and height, in favour of the small, delicate poppy, when harvested brings with it a dangerous poison, when the sunflower brings nothing but nourishment and health!

Be a tall poppy crusader they say.

Bring down others.

Make yourself more and more comfortable.

Numb that pain with the drugs and alcohol.

Hide those emotions and those wounds, we can’t deal with them, won’t deal with them.

Those emotions of yours make us feel uncomfortable, and we are not ready to feel our own emotions, let alone be met with your emotions when we are in a happy place of ignorance, happy hiding in this make believe world that everything is OK, when we know when we are alone in the darkness the only true darkness is the one that lurks within our own souls and has been pushed down; keeps getting pushed down, because it is better to ignore and hope it all goes away, then face the truth that we are destroying ourselves, as well as our planet… and then we find out that “HOLY SHIT! There’s no planet B! What have we done?”

And it’s all a bit too late to go back now and rediscover who we were born to be and live our best lives as we lie there on own deathbeds wishing we had been more sunflower rather than more poppy.

So, I invite you now to choose, which are you going to be?

Sunflower or poppy?

Because only you can know which is going to give you the most happiness; and I am not talking about the fake, surface level happiness, I am talking about the true depths of your soul being happy.

Do not be fooled though, laughing and dancing only when others see you, and it makes you look like the fun and happy individual you wish to be, isn’t the way to true happiness and freedom.

Feeling those feelings, riding those waves of emotions, diving deep into the depths of your soul is the only way to remove the baggage long forced down to the bottom, covered up and walked away from.

When in the times of fear and needing hope, these wounds will rise to the top, they will bring winter days to the forefront, reminding you of the lie you are telling yourself as truth. The lies you are projecting, and ultimately living with; and when it all goes wrong, the song you sing to yourself will not be the same as the summer song, the one which lifts you, the one that lights your soul from deep within.

And here is the thing, we are all singing songs in the darkness, we are all on these journey’s, different wounds, different fears, scars and longings, but we are all ultimately the same, wanting peace within, and this can only begin to be real when we get real with ourselves and do the work on a deep soul level.

Living a shallow existence leads to shallow experiences, shallow loving of others as well as self; and from this shallow existence life is fragile, as fragile as a poppy, as delicate and dangerous as the poison held within its existence, beautiful though it is.

So isn’t it better to be all of who you are, not caring about the others and be more sunflower? Strong, nourishing and standing tall rather than bowing to the winds of change of others?

Let me know your thoughts, and remember you are whole and complete, and beautiful just as you are, and those who cannot handle you, they are not meant to you, and their opinions of you do not matter.

No one’s opinions of you matter, because at the end of the day, you are the one who has to find peace within, the one who has to go to sleep at night, and the one who has walked your path through life.

Be true to yourself always, because it is a beautiful space live from.

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Vulnerable?

Kerri Lake | Creator/CEO at Generation Of Harmony

I’m going through a move right now, and I’m asking for lots of help.

Need a little rest? ...rest does not begin with “I should have been able to...”

Many people will say they aren’t good at asking for help, or they have trouble receiving help. That dance of “not being good” at it isn’t about the help, it’s about controlling how help shows up, how it feels and how it works out. It’s about controlling the experience of emotions.

Rest begins with, “Wow. Look how far we’ve come...”

If I’m going to feel frustrated or cramped because receiving help is dependent on someone or something else’s availability, it’s just a notion that control is somehow superior to what is actually happening. I can try running away from what’s happening by isolating myself, manipulating the world so I can predict how alone and unworthy I’ll feel…or I can quit that job. Whether control rules the day or the kindness of receiving help brings us together with a sense of unpredictability through the same details of life, things will still be what they are.

I watch myself ask for help with a car ride, or packing things or scheduling things. I’m sitting in a coffee shop, doing what I do, and my world, at least in part, moves at the pace of someone else’s. I can’t pick up moving boxes until the person with the car is available.

I can’t book a truck until the next phone call comes in. I can’t…I can’t…I can’t…

“If I had my own car I could just go do it...”

The only real vulnerability here is to a sequence of events that is more magical than I could have imagined.

Control is always an option. I know how to do that. But I’m just not available for that flavor of anguish anymore.

“If I just had a normal job, it would be so different...”

“If things were different, everything would be different!!”

And I have no control.

All I have is communication, kindness, openness, willingness, delight, love and total enjoyment as I walk into something so new I can’t even see an outcome.

I’m great at asking for help! I’m great at receiving help. And every day I get better at not judging myself as it all unfolds.

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sequence by recognizing what’s required, acting when it’s my time to act, and creating the space for it all to happen.

Need boxes? Hop on the app to find free boxes, ask for help to pick them up, welcome the time and space for it to happen, and enjoy the ride!

Need a truck? Engage with the system, make the phone calls, take the steps and enjoy the ride!

This is just the practical stuff of living with an open heart. It’s the “doing” of kindness with one’s self.

And it opens all the doors so that the help arrives before you know you need it.

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It takes a tribe to raise a human.

– Yuval Noah Harari

I Release You Burt Kempner | Independent Writer/Producer & Author

To the thoughts, beliefs and attachments that served me once but no longer do: I release you.

To those ill-willed people who turned out to be valuable teachers, although that was not their intent: I release you.

To the proud and mighty Lords of Fear who vanished when finally confronted: I release you.

To those parts of my past that keep me from attaining full flight: I release you.

To all things that have seduced and betrayed me (including myself): I release you.

May the sight of your departure gladden the hearts of those who know you not, for to them you are just one more reason to celebrate the skies.

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You Do It’s What

Ariaa Jaegar | Spiritual Life Strategist, Emotional Intelligence, Cellular Memory Pioneer, Quantum Physics, Author, Animal-Human-LGBT-Senior-Earth Advocate.

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As a spiritual teacher and inspirational motivator, you will find me posting in social media every day since 2009, on love, kindness, equality, compassion and basic life skills that many lack. I live to see others living their best life and implementing basic principles for a life of flow. Notice, I didn’t say happiness, because that is an inner battle and must be addressed from within. However, there are basic principles which produce the happiest of human beings. They have been passed down for ages and even your own grandma recited and practiced many of them. All the great sages, masters and teachers have promoted love and equality and all their teachings intertwine with harmony.

Jesus said; “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”

Buddha said; “Learn to forgive.

When you release those imprisoned in the prison of unforgiveness, you release yourself too. “ Krishna said; “When a man can still the senses I call him illumined.”

Sai Baba said; ”My business is to give blessings. “ Muhammad said; “The best among you is the one who doesn’t harm others with his tongue and hands.”

Ariaa said; “By acting on love and kindness, one person can counter the negativity of millions.” and “Serving others is an honor not a chore.”

Many people just don’t have time or they simply don’t make the time, to go out of their way to serve and help others. I am always flabbergasted when someone praises me for a kindness I’ve extended to another when they could have easily done the same.

The other day I posted about a squirrel in 5 o’clock traffic, running dead center into a major four lane road with traffic in both directions.

I literally swerved, honked like I was crazy and used my car to corral him off the road. Then, I turned the car around and stalked him until I found him sitting in a large tree.

I stopped, opened the trunk of my car where I keep bags of peanuts, dog and cat food and birdseed and

sunflower seeds for other critters.

I left enough nuts for him to fill his belly so there would be no need for him to cross that street during high traffic hours.

Well, suffice to say I posted it on Facebook and people lost their minds thinking this was some sort of noble act. Holy cow! Now, I am not trying to minimize the fact that I had to U-turn in heavy traffic and manage to find which tree he fled to but honestly, I think of this as a nothing burger, it was just the right thing to do. However, the right thing for me may not be the right thing for you and vice versa. We all have our niche’ and our causes and platforms which we dive into full tilt boogie, feeding squirrels and every other creature that crosses my path is just one of mine.

Folks, it doesn’t matter if it’s feeding a person, an animal, it doesn’t matter if you give of your time or your money, it doesn’t matter if anyone knows it or not, just give.

One of my favorite holidays during the upcoming season is #GivingTuesday. “Giving Tuesday was started in 2012 by the 92nd Street Y and the United Nations Foundation as a response to commercialization and consumerisms in the postThanksgiving season (Black Friday and Cyber Monday.) It is held annually the Tuesday after Thanksgiving and this year is on December 3, 2019.” The global celebration lasts for 24 hours and major and minor corporations and charities will double and triple your monetary gift. It is a great way to see your dollars go farther and an end of the year tax deduction for most.

As we enter the season of giving be reminded you don’t have to wait for a holiday. Every day is a great day to give in some small or large way.

No act of kindness is nobler than any other. Every act of goodness counts and creates a weave in the tapestry of goodness, a wave of love in the atmosphere. Here are a few ideas and I hope they inspire you to create your own ways of giving.

With so many in need, so many are needed. Wishing you a season filled with selfless giving.

It’s What You Do What do you do when a welldressed homeless man walks up to you, cigarette in one hand and Ray Ban glasses in the other and spins a yarn you know is a lie? You give anyway. #ItsWhatYouDo What do you do when you see an elderly person struggling to read a label at the grocery store?

You read it for him/her then make a joke about your own vision to help in preserving their dignity. #ItsWhatYouDo What do you do when someone holds the door for you or lets you cut in line in traffic? You look them in the eyes and say “Thank you.” #ItsWhatYouDo What do you do when you see a young mother with 3 or 4 small kids struggling to buy groceries while trying to manage the crying one?

You offer to hold the baby or help her pay for food. #ItsWhatYouDo What do you do when you see a dog about to cross the street in traffic? You go out of your way to save it and to locate its owner no matter how much time it takes away from your day. #ItsWhatYouDo What do you do when a friend begins gossiping about someone you both know? You hang up the phone and distance yourself from those with no character who will do the same to you. #ItsWhatYouDo What do you do when you see someone being bullied? You step in and pull them away or if too dangerous you call an authority for help. #ItsWhatYouDo What do you do when your friend or a stranger in social media tell you they are gay or trans and are struggling with depression? You love them, you let them lean on you and you support and embrace them and lead them to someone qualified to help. #ItsWhatYouDo What do you do when your hairdresser announces he is gay and grappling with his Christian beliefs.

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What do you do when the leader of the free world is mentally ill leaving you feeling hopeless, angry and dumbfounded? You bide your time knowing that there is a shorter distance to the light than through the dark and that goodness always wins. #ItsWhatYouDo What do you do when you see someone eating alone or at an event alone? You ask them to join you, you’d be surprised at how many want to. #ItsWhatYouDo What do you do when a frail elderly is walking in the rain to or from the bus stop? You show her your ID and offer to take her/him wherever they need to go. I’ve gained many “adopted” grandparents that way. #ItsWhatYouDo What do you do when someone starts chatting you up in line and keeps it going? You sense she is lonely, you make a new friend.

It’s what you do.

What do you do when you have a few minutes to spare during the day? You make the most of it, volunteer or write, text, call or email the words, “I love you” to those you know and strangers who have touched you. By the way, I love you. #ItsWhatYouDo What do you do when you see your neighbor losing weight fast, his skin turning jaundice and it is apparent he is on his way out? You bake, you take out his trash, you do what you can without letting him know you know. #ItsWhatYouDo What do you do when so many are going hungry? You buy an extra bag of groceries and drop it off at Care and Share or your local food bank. #ItsWhatYouDo What do you do when you see homeless people filling the streets of your town or community?

You carry a list of services and shelters with you and call to see if you can get them placed. You donate money to the organizations that help the homeless and you volunteer at the local soup kitchen to help feed them. If you are wealthy, you buy some land build some tiny houses and let them live there rent free in exchange for keeping the land clear of trash until they can get a job and be rehabilitated. #ItsWhatYouDo 40 | OneTribeMagazine.com

You rise everyday thankful for another day of life and you make good use of it as if it were your last day on the planet. #ItsWhatYouDo You seek to find any way you can serve. Whether human, animal, politically or environmentally, you search for ways to add to life.

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A tribe is a group of people connected to one another and connected to an idea. A group needs only two things to be a tribe: a shared interest and a way to communicate. – Seth Godin

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How to Rewrite a Limiting Belief ~Self-Love~

Emily Formea Blogger | Coach | YouTuber | Hippie | Wellness Coach

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~ Let’s start with answering two questions: 1. What is a limiting belief?

2. How do they manifest in our reality? ~ First, a limiting belief is a belief we carry that regarding ourselves based around ‘not being’ something or ‘not being able to’ do something that we desire to be or do. In other words, limiting beliefs constrain us in some way or another. This leads to us not thriving, dreaming, or believing what we want in life and who we are.

Limiting beliefs are sort of the weeds of your subconscious mind garden.

They are not your beliefs. This is a very important understanding. Like I said, your subconscious mind is a garden full of flowers, trees, beautiful vines and foliage, limiting beliefs are alien weeds. And your garden doesn’t deserve weeds.

Limiting beliefs are others people’s beliefs either about ourselves or how the world works around us that we have accepted as truth. For example, “I am always struggling with my financial situation.” This is a limiting belief because limiting beliefs are constraining, remember? They are limiting. They are negative thoughts based on scarcity, insecurity or fear.

They are false.

Second, how do they manifest in your reality? Well, I sort of just showed you. They are negative beliefs either about who we are or what we are capable of achieving and obtaining that we carry around our entire life and they affect our ability to dream, shine, and thrive!

They are weeds picked up from our parents, friends, media, news, etc. and they plant themselves deep into our subconscious. The subconscious mind is an incredible thing. It stores EVERYTHING until we consciously release it.

For example, in third grade when that bully called you fat and now you believe 20 years later that your only value is based on your appearance and that the only way someone will ever love and accept you is if you are thin… yeah, this shit is real and those weeds are deep.

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What we fail to realize is the following: • The weed exists • Where it came from • How we must pull it • And what to put in its place But, lucky for you gorgeous souls, I’m here to do just that.

Now that you understand a little bit more about what a limiting belief is and how they show their ugly heads in our everyday lives you can now begin to work with your own.

What is a limiting belief you have about yourself?

My example would be that, “My value lies only in my outer appearance and achievements.” In other words, I used to believe that I was only valuable if I ‘looked’ it. I was only valuable if I was beautiful, successful, and people would only like me if I achieved great things!

Where did this value come from?

This can be the hardest question of this whole garden healing experience because so often we know the answer, but guilt and possibly empathy towards the person or event that this belief came from tends to set in. We don’t want to ‘throw someone under the bus’ or admit aloud who may have hurt our self-esteem as a child or young adult.

But, we have to.

You must recognize the weed for what it is, someone else’s belief/ opinion of you or the world that is not your own.

Mine came from losing weight as a child. When I was younger, probably like 5th-6th grade, I was heavier than most girls my age. I was super muscular, played a lot of sports and I was never the girl who boys had a crush on. Enter 7th grade me. I lost some weight naturally! I began to simply eat better, grow, and fill out somewhat aka puberty and boys and even other girls began to give me attention. I loved it.

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control and accomplishment. I was accomplishing my goal of becoming attractive for other people. Being the best meant being my smallest.

Now, I want to pause here for a second and acknowledge the fact that it has taken me my entire life to make these self-realizations. It can and will take a long time for you to do this properly, however, do it.

Do the work. Sit with yourself and be truly honest. What is a belief that you carry that you want to get rid of and who placed it there? The boys in my school or my friends were not bad people AT ALL! However, subconsciously they planted the seed that attractiveness, being thin, and achievements were what I was liked for through their responses at the time. Another thing I want to acknowledge is that limiting beliefs are usually also slightly assumptions made my ourselves.

For example, did any of the boys tell me the reason they began to like me was because I had lost weight? No! And this is important.

I assumed that was why. Did some of them only like me because of it?

Of course! But, did all of them? And did that mean that the only way a male would ever like me again was to be stick thin and lose a lot of weight? No, it did not. I assumed it to be the universal case.

So, my limiting belief came from this assumption I had made based on a belief from others that I accepted as truth.

When you accept any belief as truth, it gets planted in your subconscious mind. There it is determined to be a flower (a supportive, beautiful, TRUE belief that you possess about yourself) or an alien weed that does not serve you, but rather looks to solely hold you back; to constrain your truth. But, this process is a long staircase to climb.

So, my weed was planted: I was only valuable if I was thin and successful.

• Was this a good belief for me to have?

• Was this my own truth or my own belief?

• Was this a self-supporting belief?

• Did this belief do me any good?

The answer to all of these questions is no and that’s exactly what a limiting belief is: garbage.

Now, ask yourself, “Do I want to keep this belief?”

Because amazingly enough, it’s your garden! You are the one watering, planting, sowing, and allowing the weeds to stay where they are.

I didn’t.

I don’t like weeds. I don’t want them in my garden.

Pull it.

To remove a limiting belief, you must recognize it, acknowledge its roots, how far deep do they go, when did it begin to grow, from where did this alien species come from? Then, once you understand it and have made peace with its origin. You pull it. You feel no guilt towards it, no anger surrounding the weed, you have forgiven it for taking seed there because guess what, you are the one who welcomed it in.

You pull it and you toss it out, but our subconscious minds also work based on stories, beliefs, and space.

They are very spacial entities. You must replace it.

To pull a weed won’t do a lick of good, if the whole in the soil is still open ready for a new weed to take root. Nope! You have to plant a flower.

Replace the weed you just tossed out with your truth.

“My value lies within myself. People value me for my heart, mind, and

soul and most importantly, I value me for my soul and not my outer shell.”

Water that, shit.

Continuously tell yourself the sentence you wrote above.

Continuously water the sentence you replaced the limiting belief with. Continuously protect the flower that replaced the weed and overtime, flowers grow roots.

Your new belief will take root where it belongs.

Your new belief is your truth. Why? Because your truth is limitless.

Any belief you have based on negativity, insecurity, fear, scarcity, self-deprecation or self-hatred is not yours because they aren’t true.

I repeat, why?

Because you are your value. You are your purpose. You are your beauty.

You are your success. You are your flowers and you are not a weed, therefore, they do not belong in that gorgeous head of yours.

Stop allowing people, places, things, ideals, limiting beliefs, media, society and bullshit to infiltrate your garden.

Because that’s the biggest secret of it all. You showed the weeds the way in, which means you can show them the way out.

This is how you truly rewrite your story. You leave your old self behind and step into your highest, true self: the true you with beliefs that support only that; the true you shining, growing, and flourishing like a freshly rooted flower.

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You can’t rush a river Samantha Caroline LavallÊe Writer & Lover of all things soul at Beautiful Disaster.

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Love they said...

Trust and allow the flow to take you where you need to go.

Become one with the rising and falling of the tides.

Be still my love as the lapping of the rivers water supports you to carry you through and through...

Be soft, be fluid, my sweet child.

Merge as one, undulating to the magic of life’s oceans rise and falls, naturally.

Surrender your heart, oh you my beloved, brave beautiful decadent Gods and Goddesses of this earthly realm.

Rest with trust, allow your sacred body temple to ride the rivers of your life with much more delicious soothing ease.

Diving deeper.

Rising higher.

From the inside out.

As above, so below.

As within, as without.

So be it, and so it is.

Let go.

Trust my darling.

Trust the flow of nature’s divine hypnotic tempo, without rhyme or reason.

Grace the mesmerizing luscious nature of all seasonal growths.

Trust the flow of your inner divine God-nature with gusto for it is there you receive and give within the same breath...

Trust the flow of nature’s natural rhythmic directions with your life for that very force of nature was the very life force that created and brought you forth to this life, entrusting its whole self within you with its holy divinity.

A sacred union of oneness.

You are the river and the swimmer as is the river is you and the swimmer too...

Trust in the oneness of life’s mysteries for there lives the magic of you, me, we, they, us.., collectively experienced through the generosity of our vast unfathomable depths of gorgeous aliveness that is not forsaken but divinely entrusted.

It is there, we all can flow harmoniously, in trust.

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You’re a hopeless control freak (bear with me while I explain)

“Greatness is holding fast to a dream, independent of the environment” – Dr Joe Dispenza Vanessa Louise Birt | Transformational Mentor & Speaker.

After meeting with my 121 client, I shared my thoughts with her: A truly enlightening day and it felt great to see you have ‘lightbulb/aha moments’ as I believe these are the times, the unconscious becomes conscious.

As you know, it’s our unconscious patterns/emotions that drive our behaviours and create the life we live. So, when the unconscious becomes conscious, we are not only gaining clarity on what didn’t previously make sense of, but we are then aware of what changes we want/need to make that will ultimately transform our own selves and in turn our lives.

Today you recognised the under lying feeling that has laid dormant, left unprocessed, covered over, denied for many years.

That feeling is HOPELESSNESS. Hopeless to be able to change the environment you lived in as a child.

You decided that to avoid this feeling of hopelessness, it made perfect sense to CONTROL as much of your life as best you can…hence why you call yourself a ‘control freak’.

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Being a control freak is like any other addiction: ‘I reach outside of myself to find that ‘something’ that will fill that ‘hole’ inside of me’. Your efforts will always be futile. What we forget is that ‘hole’ can only be filled up from the inside and NOT from the outside.

Hopelessness is not a ‘bad’ thing, it’s just that it feels uncomfortable, wrong, crappy or anything other than lovely. The reason it feels crappy is because you are DISCONNECTED from the very part of you that is perfect, whole and complete ~ your inner being ~ your soul ~ your truth which can never feel hopeless.

We are not taught that it’s OK to feel crappy and that to feel crappy is ‘actually’ part of being human.

We are also not taught that to listen to ourselves, trust ourselves or to follow our own inner guidance system is CONNECTION and this connection is the easiest and simplest way to feel instantly better/ good when we are experiencing pain or discomfort.

Because, as human beings, we are here on earth to experience life at its fullest, both the highs and lows

and everything in between with the ultimate goal being a joyus and blissful experience. The problem we find, is that feeling the lows does not feel good, so we do all we can to negate, avoid, suppress, hide from the lows and protect ourselves from feeling the lows again.

This is where we make the decision, unconsciously or consciously: “I will control my life and make sure that everything in it and around me is just as I want it to be, so I will then feel good/happy and I won’t have to feel bad or hopeless again ~ PERFECT”.

However, it doesn’t work like that!

I think here is a good place to recognise there are Universal Laws that orchestrate and govern our existence. The Law of Polarity is relevant here because this law states that everything that exists is on a continuum and has an opposite. We only know day because we know night. Same goes for up and down, hot and cold, good and bad.

This Law demonstrates that it is impossible to negate the lows in life or the feelings that make us feel bad and to pretend they don’t exist, because they do.

Mastery of the Law of Polarity requires learning how to maintain balance, focus, and detachment from the distractions of the material world.

The only time we will feel harmony within ourselves and our lives is when we CONNECT with our whole~self by accepting we are designed to FEEL the whole spectrum of feelings. Our feelings don’t define who we are. Just because we may feel hopeless ~ it doesn’t mean we ARE hopeless.

Just because we FEEL angry ~ it doesn’t mean we ARE angry.

Our emotions simply pass through us because they are energy in motion, and they are evidence we are alive.

Feel your feelings and allow the energy of them to pass through your body.

Having said that, we are programmed to NOT feel certain feelings. This is why it is necessary to connect to your ~ self on a daily

basis and allow the vision you have for yourself to guide you forwards by feeling the good feelings of your future vision, NOW. How do you connect with your whole~self ?

Take a few minutes a day to BE STILL and concentrate on your breathing.

WARNING!! Your Ego/ your conscious mind will NOT want you to do this, so it will find a way to prevent you from being still. EG: it will remind you that you didn’t call so and so. Or your nose might itch.

Or you’ll remember something you ‘need’ to do. Or it will tell you you are not comfy…anything to stop you connecting with yourself.

So now you know this and you know it’s your Ego, you know to say to yourself ‘thank you for being there but I’m in charge now’ and come back to your breathing. It will take practice. Even if you spend the whole 10 mins asking your Ego to leave you in charge, it’s all practice.

Just like training a dog, it will get it and you will find it easier to BE STILL and BREATHE. The idea of being still and connecting to yourself is to slow the rapid rate of your brain waves of Beta (awake, alert, thinking) to a slower rate of Alpha ( physically and mentally relaxed) or possibly even Theta (creativity, insight, deep states).

We CANNOT manifest any change in ourselves and our lives from a physical place. Matter does not change matter.

We must connect and be comfortable with the powerful, invisible, and the energy INSIDE of us, to see any change OUTSIDE of us.

Daily practice is what it takes to rewire and reprogramme new ways of thinking and feeling, to then in turn see the benefits in yourself and your outside world.

What does connecting to yourself look like?

~1~ BEing still and listening to a guided meditation or ~2~ BEing still and focusing on your breath or ~3~ BEing aware and present to your emotions and feeling your feelings or ~4~ Losing yourself in the moments when your feel Joy, love, peace, passion and any other positive good feeling emotions or ~5~ Listening to high vibrational music or ~6~ Colouring or ~7~ Practicing gratitude or ~8~ Laughing and having fun!! just a few suggestions.

An important factor to remember is the necessity of doing this work every day and making way in your life for connecting with yourself.

Even if it’s the smallest amount of time, the Universe knows you are choosing YOU and will clear the way for your greater self and your vision to become a reality.

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Ultimately it’s about meditation and meditation being ‘the space where you stop your thinking mind from thinking thoughts’.

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Natural Ways You Can Treat And Avoid High Blood Pressure During The Festive Season And Beyond: Helen Nachintu Intuitive Energy Healer & Mentor | Natural Health Enthusiast | Natural Health Researcher.

At the beginning of this year, I presented a Women’s Natural Health Seminar, in Kampala (Uganda). Immediately after the seminar, so many people were asking me questions relating to the topics that I’d covered. The one that stands out to me the most is a question, which was asked by my Auntie Mary. She wanted to know how she could get rid of the high blood pressure she’d been suffering with for a number of years. She did not want to take medication any more, because it was not working for her and wondered whether there was a more natural alternative to the medicine provided by her doctor. I am about to reveal the eight tips that I shared with my aunt in order to reduce her ongoing issue of high blood pressure.

But before I do that, let me give you an idea of who my aunt is and what she does. Auntie Mary is married, and is the mother 10 children. Her youngest child is in her early teens and her eldest child is in her early 40s. Half of her children are still at school, college, and University.

The other half, are in full time employment and living away from home.

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government councillor, and female leader in Kamwokya (Kampala), where she operates an open door policy to her home when it comes to supporting her fellow women in the community. I spent a vast amount of my childhood living with auntie Mary and my uncle Joseph.

They are the kindest people you will ever meet. For as long as I can remember women used to turn up at the house at any time of the day, with serious issues such as rape, abortion, or an abusive relationship.

Sometimes these women would turn up to Auntie Mary’s doorstep first thing in the morning, maybe 6am and the last person would probably turn up at midnight. So now you can imagine just how stressful my auntie’s life can often get, between raising her children and supporting the local female community through their issues.

Within a month of practising the tips that I am about to give you my Auntie Mary went to visit her doctor, and the doctor discovered that my Auntie was no longer suffering with high blood pressure. The doctor was very surprised and asked her what she had been taking. My auntie replied by sharing the following tips that I had given her after the women’s natural health seminar:

1. Increase your water intake by drinking at least 2 Litres a day 2. Drink at least two glasses of water first thing in the morning before brushing your teeth or having your breakfast 3.

Drink at least one glass of water before your meal and at least an hour after a meal 4. Lay on your left side of your body when going to sleep 5. Avoid eating processed foods that contain added sugar, added salt, preservatives, artificial colouring, unhealthy fats, and other additives 6. Eat foods that are rich in nutrients 7. Avoid or reduce caffeine 8. Reduce Alcohol intake 9. Take Moringa tea or 4 capsules daily 10. Have a nap during the day or have an early night For more natural health information or tips please visit: www.venus-club.org

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All LIMITATIONS are SELF IMPOSED Charmaine Barber Transformational Coach & Writer helping professional women to Live Life Freely

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DON’T SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOU ARE! All our past mistakes, yours and mine, they live in the past and we can´t bring back the past, why would we want to?

Let´s ENVISION ourselves overcoming any obstacles that stand in front of us in our lives.

Let´s overcome our biggest challenges and become true to our self.

Let´s live in the here and now, not the past or the future because none of us know what will happen in the future and the past disappeared into the fogs of time a long time ago.

Happiness has very little to do with just one more drink because it helps us to stop feeling awkward in social situations, it might make us feel more courageous, daring, flirty, sexy, yet we find ourselves time and again doing it, even though afterwards we are disgusted with ourselves, angry and frustrated that we “did it again and let ourselves down.”

Happiness for us has very little to do with outside influences such as buying the latest new TV, buying yet another handbag, pair of shoes or those shiny gold earrings, yet we do it constantly when we feel unhappy, down or lonely and immediately after we´ve bought that shiny bauble of desire, we regret it and it goes into the back of our cupboard at home.

We daren´t and won´t tell anyone about it, it is our dirty little secret.

You can take any direction you want to NOW!

Happiness has very little to do with us howling in anguish and emotional pain because we feel like a failure and that no-one understands what we´re going through. I do. I´ve been the one curled up in the corner howling in pain. You might have seen or heard and ignored me, not knowing what to do or because you thought I was a little strange.

Happiness has very little to do with having that sick feeling in the pit of our stomach when we are on our own, single and have too much to think about which disturbs and we eat most of the contents of the fridge or a whole box of chocolates, thinking it will make us feel better. To top it all, we then feel vile and disgusting and hate ourselves and promptly want to make ourselves sick.

What we all feel is FEAR. Fear of facing up to the emotional demons and tangle of rope in our heads.

Happiness has very little to do with when we were bullied at school or work and every day we struggle to get up, get dressed and go to work. It has very little to do with the fact that we stopped washing our hair because we just don´t care anymore or we´ve started to feel suicidal.

To overcome those very real and raw feelings which we choose to cover up, run away from and hide, we need to accept who we are first. We have to be selfish, yes, selfish. We come first. We need to put ourselves first and not be that people pleaser or that doormat which we allow everyone to take advantage of.

Happiness has very little to do with the fact that we feel anger, resentment, hate, shame, are intolerant of others, are in turmoil most of the time, we judge, shame and blame ourselves for everything and everyone around us is at fault.

Happiness has very little to do with the fact that we feel constantly or more often than not, out of control and that everything in our lives is a drama, as if we´re on a roller-coaster ride which we feel we can´t get off.

Everything we are going through now; I understand because I´ve have experienced most if not all of these things and I can help you overcome them.

To become all powerful, we have to help ourselves first.

As soon as we take charge, things shift and change and start to move in the direction we want them to go. It can be scary, but it feels good!

By doing this, we are accepting ourselves, who we are and what we stand for. We must stand tall and proud and have no regrets, or fear of our past mistakes or our failures. We must forgive ourselves and move on.

Move on to a newer, better vision and version of ourselves.

Let´s take it one step further, together with me supporting you under the arm, keeping you accountable. I will be there to help you understand where everything is going wrong and why and to pick you up when you feel you´re failing.

By working with me, you will learn that life just got better and will carry on!

If you want to start to be accepting of yourself, to be peaceful and joyful through becoming aware, to feel compassion instead of blaming, be forgiving instead of resentful, to go from powerless to powerful then you are in the right place.

I offer 1-to-1 coaching sessions where you are truly listened to in a deep and authentic way because I care about how you feel and how you lead your life. It´s not a fast journey or an overnight miraculous change which happens, although some of the shifts can be pretty seismic! I do, however, give you tools, knowledge and resources to help you for the rest of your life.

It´s all about inner growth, positive thinking and your personal journey and where it will take you in the future. Your future can and will be exciting when you take that first step!

You know where to find me when you´re ready.

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Trauma is not linear Christine Saunders | Empowerment Coach at Wholehearted Life.

According to The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) trauma is a term used to describe distressing event(s) that may have long lasting, harmful effect on a person’s physical and emotional health and well-being. What this does not define is, the definition of a distressing event. What I do know is, a distressing event for me is very different than a distressing event for everyone else. What I also know is, our personal ability to deal and move through these types of events are extremely different.

Life is filled with moments or series of moments in time that elevate and become precious memories.

Then there is a moment or series of moments that changes an entire existence. That’s the moment in my life, when I thought “this possibly can’t be happening”.

The unthinkable happened. The moment that will forever alter life as I know it. That moment I describe, is my trauma.

For that moment, and for hours, days, months, and years I think about that night. Or just the opposite, I don’t think about the moment I was sexually assaulted.

There are highs and lows and everything in between. Trauma is not linear. As much as I try not to think about it and of course fail, I cannot compare trauma I’ve experienced with others. Trauma is just that... trauma. What I do know to be true is, based on my 54 | OneTribeMagazine.com

own trauma response, there are days that it doesn’t cross my mind.

There are also days I can tell my heart, it’s ok and keep going. There are then those days when I can’t think of anything else and my head and heart are consumed. After 26 years, the ups and downs are still there. Today, I have more tools I can use in those moments when am feeling the anxiety surface. I am very aware that night will never go away and healing, I have discovered is a ongoing and never-ending process.

Just as I shouldn’t compare trauma, I shouldn’t compare my trauma response to others. Everyone develops coping skills early in life, some having access to tools and resources, others not. I chose to hide my trauma for many years of my life.

I can tell you time comes full circle, those moments, turn into years, and the next thing I realize it had been 25 years! I kept this trauma deep inside, eating away at my existence until that one moment in time I decided to be brave enough to speak my truth. Sharing my story gave me the courage and awareness to know I deserve the freedom that comes with putting down this heavy baggage I’d been lugging around for years.

There is no magic cure. After I shared my story there is still a need for self-awareness and selfcare. As a coach, I encourage clients to practice self-care as part of their work with me. I will

be the first to admit I am guilty of not always practicing what I encourage others to do. I for one had never stopped to think about or have the awareness to recognize the symptoms of my own stress.

Specifically the triggers and how it directly relates to my past trauma and how these symptoms play out in stressful situations in my life.

When I feel out of control, I know for me, I search for anything I can control. Control shows up different for everyone, including me. For me, this can look like shutting everyone out, or just the opposite having the need to be so dependent on others I can’t be alone (controlling my social circle). It also can look like happy on the surface and deep inside all I want to do is to fade into the background. I know this is not healthy for me, and not my authentic self. I also know how to break my own pattern, and show up unapologetically authentic, honoring my whole self and my whole heart.

When triggered, my symptoms show up in my body in the form of muscle pain, fatigue, and tummy troubles. Psychologically, my symptoms present as poor selfimage, fear, doubt, and shame.

There is inconsistency in my eating habits, exercise habits and the desire to fade into the background.

Do these symptoms show up without triggers? For me stress is enough to initiate a trauma

response. My body has been so used to being on autopilot for so many years, and since stress mimics trauma, my response kicks in. The same symptoms; muscle pain, fatigue, tummy troubles, poor selfimage, fear, doubt, and shame. The overwhelming sense to fade into the background and escape the world dominates my life. Having awareness of these is now a game changer. Showing up brave and authentic. Focusing on love and joy have been my saving grace. If I find joy or “good” in every situation, it changes the energy given to the world.

My personal experience with recognizing trauma is proof for me that it is not linear. Taking 25 years to share my story or even tell another person is proof that it is not linear. And what I have come to understand after attending a three-day long workshop on trauma

is this; hearing other people’s stories of trauma, can be inspiring and triggering. If I am not careful, it can set me back in my own healing. This is where self-care is essential. For years I have taken others trauma to ease their suffering. What I now realize is I need to have a healthy release of these triggers and how to handle on my own stress reaction.

Truthfully, if I didn’t have that and let it bottle up it would explode in my body, my heart, and my health.

I am grateful for friends, family and those willing to hear me talk and be part of my story. It is vital in my healing and helps me process.

As time passes my desire to talk, share, and process my story is further validated when I attend conferences and hear other people’s stories. There were even times, I would say to others, “I feel the need to talk about this, even though I don’t want to talk about this”. This is further validation for me that my

mission to help others share their stories for healing, letting go, and inspiring others is in alignment with my desire to ease suffering for anyone I can, whenever I can.

Trauma is not linear, and it’s lifelong.

I will be ok, I know this because I have the support, tools and love. It is my responsibility to express my needs and then once I figured out what worked for me, I share with everyone one I know. That’s how I support people, with love and contribution on a global scale.

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From Pleading To Commanding Mercy Juma | Creative Writer. Psychologist. Inspired Blogger.

Being new, it was challenging, but I pushed on. I was inspired and quite fired up to make it happen. I started off with a business canvas then a business plan, then a pitch and finally approached some partners that could help me start. I also knew I needed capital and with hardly any money to support myself, it was a great challenge but like I said before, I was fired up and very determined, but I knew I had to think fast on my feet.

I wanted it so bad that I manifested it and got two opportunities. One was a government grant for young entrepreneurs and the other was supporting women in startups in my city by giving training to young social entrepreneurs for two years and then giving them grants to start off. This was the one I had gotten an interview for. Part of me was elated but part of me was super scared to the point of almost pissing my pants! Literally!

The day seemed promising, but my anxiety was shooting off the roof. The puffy cotton clouds had carelessly spread across the bright blue sky, a warm breeze brushing through my skin making it tingle while the warm rays uplifted my spirits. I clutched my love pendant nervously and stared at my A4 pink notebook once again, trying to memorize the points once again, in readiness for the four o’clock interview that was to take place that evening but in all honesty, I was super scared. I was trying to be brave but at the pit of my stomach, I felt I was not going to make it.

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I had lost my job in 2017 and after that getting another had proved quite a daunting task. It is then that it occurred to me that it was likely that this had happened for a reason and it was possible that I was to explore all that I was ever meant to be. I started entertaining ideas in my head. one idea that struck me was building an idea into a profitable business. It was with this in mind that I got an opportunity for a three-month training in entrepreneurship and business that was fully sponsored and after that I had armed myself with the basic skills to start off making my idea a reality.

Taking a walk through the neighborhood seemed like a pretty good idea at that moment and as I listened to the trees dancing to the tune of the wind, I relaxed a little. The birds seemed quite taken to the tune too and they joined in by chirping in their highest notes.

I found myself smiling. There was a small stream down at the edge of the path I was on and it seemed inviting. I decided to sit at the edge of it, first dipping my feet in slightly then jumping up with a scream when I felt something tickle my feet only to laugh afterwards when I realized it was just a frog.

“Hey there Froggie?” I tried to brush it’s back gently, but it swam away quite fast. “Sorry Froggie! I hadn’t realized I was intruding your space,” I laughed as it turned slightly in my direction then jumped in the opposite direction and swam away.

I looked up then and thanked the universe for making me forget about the interview for a moment.

I closed my eyes and tried to relax and, in that moment, I decided I would let whatever happen take its course. My smile then broadened.

I arrived at the five star hotel ten minutes to the interview and instead of taking in the beautiful view overlooking the city, decided to take a trip to the washroom where I looked into the mirror and tried to take myself through a pep talk, plastering a smile on my face to dim my nervousness. “Okay Mercy! This is it! You can do this!”

I boldly told myself, squared my shoulders, straightened my posture and made my way to the interview room only to be ushered in just I was going to take a seat outside the interview room.

“Welcome Mercy, thank you for keeping time. We have been waiting for you,” Doris, as revealed by her tag warmly announced with a smile as she ushered me in. I bit my lip and nodded slightly trying a smile but it coming out forced and me deciding to look at her straight in the eyes and pipe out a thank you.

There were three interviewers and the room was a conference room with beige walls, red carpeted floor muffling the clicks my black four inch heels was making, long tables and chairs filling up the spacious room, with a large black flat screen television on the opposite wall facing me. I was welcomed to sit and started off by appreciating them for the interview opportunity, relaxing a bit, while hugging my black blazer tightly, suddenly feeling cold.

“It’s great to finally put a face to the name Mercy Juma. We are here to just get to know a bit more about your business. Please tell us a bit more about your business,” Sharon, the other interviewer proceeded politely as she tried to make me ease up because she sensed my tension. It all went downhill from there.

The interview was a huge flop to say the least. I could hardly get my answers out. My mind was blank. I zoned out, stammered, lost words and at one moment I saw the sorry looks they were giving me, probably wondering how I came to form a company yet could not pitch my well formed ideas to them.

I saw Damaris shake her head at one moment and Sharon even asked why I had applied for that opportunity while the third lady had a no nonsense face that I could not dare look at. She was staring down while typing away at her laptop. I left the room ready to crawl into my bed and just cry.

Later that evening just before I slept I was in a reflective mood. What had just happened? I was sure I had prepared. For the hundredth time I asked myself I asked myself if this was really something I wanted to do and I was not too sure anymore.

What new thing was I adding to society? Was I not doing something everyone else was doing? Was I faking it? Was I really passionate about this? First off they wanted a business that had already hit the ground running, not one that was just in the idea stage! This I was but I had not told them this. I think part of me felt like a fraud and that sparked a war within me. I was not being truthful. From then on things just went south, because I felt like I was lying to myself too while keeping it cool on the outside.

In that moment I realized that what I really wanted to do was not material based where I was just making baskets and art pieces and selling them but my heart was drawing me towards Psychology, what I had studied in school, helping people through their pain, encouraging people, working with them to find their truest selves, their truest purpose based on the truths of who they are and working them to have the courage to follow that path and if I could not do that myself then I was lying to myself.

Sure I wanted wealth and comfort but I wanted to do it while helping people find their truest selves.

With that in mind, I managed to get another interview a few weeks later that was working with vulnerable children in my community, children who had suffered abuse of one kind or another and this time round I felt confident and was so sure of myself was I that I even surprised myself when I was second highest in the interview! I still felt inspired to work with adults too and planned on starting a training practice of my own based on what I had spent time learning and reading about as well. I finally felt like my exploration period had bore fruits.

So what was the difference between the two interviews? I had passed one with flying colors and struggled through the other one like I had just stepped out of a five year sleep when i walked into the interview room. Fear and full on confidence, that is what! Thoughts are creative and fear attracts like energy. I had attracted what I feared most because I felt part of me was not fully convinced that this is what I really wanted. Honestly, I was not so passionate about it and I guess it showed! After reviewing what I really wanted which was working with people to alleviate their pain, realize their power, own up to that and charge on with purpose and confidence, my self-belief had come back like it was never lost.

This is what I came to realize: Pleading with life when filled with fear does not help much. It only attracts to you that which you fear. Pleading with the universe, Higher being, First cause, God or the Greater I Am achieves very little when faith is not included.

When you doubt it, it almost never happens. Commanding life involves you knowing that you are in charge, the self-belief or faith is involved, when you are sure, without a doubt that nothing is going to stand your way, that it is all going to work out, that what you ask for is already yours once you ask it so long as it is asked with the purest of intentions, trusting that what is yours will find you, that you can work miracles just like Jesus did, that you are a god in every way too for you create your reality, that it can happen, then you will command life, then you will quite literally move mountains!

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Neenna Kaur Law of Attraction Practinioner, Life Coach & Owner @ CrystHeal.

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A Beautiful Alternate To Heal Yourself…

Mother Earth Energies…

Use Your Crystals, Feel The Energies, Get Connected And See The Difference.

When I’m low and want to feel that love – I have my Rose Quartz to give me loving energy.

When I’m scared, fearful and in a situation of turbulence – I pick up my Black tourmaline to feel at ease.

When I meditate to see things clearly – I choose my Amethyst to keep on third eye chakra and recieve the intuitions.

My most loved favourite crystal is CITRINE – This crystal has given me a new life with doors opening for my business and new income streams.

My journey started with crystals in July 2018, when for the very first time I got to know about three crystals and started using them.

I was going through a lot of fear in those days, my entire day I worked and when the moment came for rest, the fear would start popping up disturbing my rest to the last extent.

It used to be very fearful and was unable to sleep for days and then was introduced to crystals. I got myself BLACK TOURMALINE, with all faith, I started using, and I saw miraculous changes with that. I was able to sleep peacefully, could see that calmness and relief.

In my crystal collection, the next 2 were Citrine and Pyrite, and I saw the difference as soon I started using these. Somehow I could see my inclination towards crystals and decided to take it further professionally.

On 1st Jan 2019, I stepped into the world of crystals professionally where I started selling crystals.

I wanted clients to see the benefits and changes using these, and it came to be true very soon. People started consulting and taking crystals from me.

They further started sharing their positive results with their family and friends, and people started contacting.

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hand decided on a name and told me to give your crystal business the name “CRYSTHEAL”, it sounded really interesting, Healing with Crystals and I have finalised the same. The same is under a process of registration “CRYSTHEAL BY NEENNA.” A lot of aspirations lie ahead to dive down more and more into crystals and let the world know the alternate to healing themselves using mother earth energies.

Mother earth has given such beautiful energies where we have a different way to cure and get healed, along with it, falling in love with them more and more and become best buddies of our crystals.

As to date, I’m yet to complete a year in this beautiful journey of healing with crystals, but it is getting spread worldwide, and people appreciate the beauty when they buy from me.

The journey has just begun and a long way to go.

To learn more and more and to spread the same across the world.

Let all know the crystals energies and their powers.

The best selling crystals in my clientele are - CITRINE, GOLDEN PYRITE, BLACK TOURMALINE, ROSE QUARTZ, MULTI FLOURITE, AMETHYST, COMBO CRYSTALS and a lot more. We sell different articles made of crystals, and people love to keep them.

We tell them, they can even charge their water making water elixir and can drink the water.

Some recommendations which you can try with the crystals : ROSE QUARTZ - It helps to develop self-love, unconditional love and healing relations.

CITRINE - It helps in career growth, success, fame and opportunities, opens the door for new things to come.

BLACK TOURMALINE - Keeps away the negativity, anxiety and restlessness, also does strong protection.

GOLDEN PYRITE - Which is also known as Fools Gold, this helps is wealth attraction.

AMETHYST - This is a crystal for spiritual connect, intuitive powers and also helps in DE-addiction.

TIGER EYE - A strong crystal for protection, boosting confidence, and people do get benefited.

MULTI FLOURITE - very good crystal for focus and concentration, bone relaxations and much more.

These crystals carry energies, and those energies work for us. There are no negative impacts of crystal which is the best point to use, and anyone can give a try embracing mother earth.

Usage of crystal depends on every individual.

A few love to carry raw crystal stones, a few connect with finished products as jewellery, tumbles etc.

It’s your choice.

I feel great to send my Crystal packages globally and people loving them, a long way to go and learn and spread the learning.

I would recommend, once in a lifetime to try a crystal and to feel their energies.

Let’s be grateful to mother earth, giving us such beauties and gifts which can be an alternate source of healing for ourselves and others.

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Andy Ferguson Reimagineering

I sometimes think I have a very limited imagination.

I mean I can imagine things alright but often these are just versions of something I’ve read about or seen somewhere else. Really coming up with something new, original or exceptional is far rarer I find. Which makes me no different from most people. We all tend to imagine stuff, good, bad and indifferent which is usually based on things we’ve encountered before.

So when I’m trying to find a solution to a problem or face up to a challenge I often seek out different perspectives, different ideas, anything that will help me see the situation from a different point of view or flag up a solution I have not so far imagined. This approach has helped me work with all sorts of diverse people in difficult situations to find solutions that were far from obvious when we began to discuss them.

And I’m only beginning to understand just how rare this approach is. Most people, it seems, try to find solutions to problems based solely on what they can already imagine. They find it very difficult to look outside the constraints of their current thinking: Their “Mind-is-set” or Mindset.

Reimagineering is a term I’ve coined to represent the wilful pursuit of out of the box solutions. The applications of this approach are almost too great to imagine (oops). But some of my favourites have

been - helping to cut the number of patients dying in a hospital department in half in six months, working with the police in England to create better options for offenders who really wanted to stop living a life of crime, helping an entrepreneur go for being £600k in dept to being worth £1million in twelve weeks and in my own life continually reinventing what I’m doing - guiding, coaching, training, adventuring, writing, presenting, making music, taking photographs or speaking, and where I’m doing it, Uganda, Iceland, India, Scotland etc to keep things fresh and interesting for me. I love discovering new things, new people and new places. And when I shove all that in a pot to stew I find it fires my imagination like nothing else.

We only get one shot at life so why not reimagine it in new and exciting ways as often as you need to keep it fresh, rewarding and joyful and help you find creative solutions to problems that you just can’t solve with your current point of view? Go on get out there and see what the world has to offer, be inspired, be excited and then use what you find to reimagine everything. And I mean everything.

We’re currently working on Personal Develpment Reimagined, Midlife Reimagined and Business Reimagined with loads more to come.

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