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Steps To Kick Your Limiting Beliefs To The Curb Kassie Rhodenizer Time For Change, Change Your Energy, Change Your Life Portia Oliver Sing Along Dr. Steve G. Jones Dream Bigger, Quick, Dream Bigger, It’s All Here Already Bianca Spears My Heartbeat Story: Near Death Gave Me Life Zachariah Thompson How I Took Down My Walls And Opened My Heart Marie Ranson Life Lessons Through A Dogs Eyes Christine Saunders Blame to Bliss, Shifting From Powerlessness To Perfect Happiness And Great Joy! Vanessa Louise Moore True Inner Confidence Is About Really Loving Yourself Pinky Ghadiali I Am Your Mother Unconditionally Samantha Caroline Lavallée Why The Quick Wins Are The Worst Kind Juliette Stapleton 10 Steps On How To Create A Business Idea That Is Aligned With Who You Are, Your Passion And Your Purpose Ewa Heard Precious Piñata™ A Huggable Piñata With Special Stuffing To Help Kids Charlene Renaud What Can We Learn From Goldfish & Bamboo? Colin Symington-Bailey 5 Key Steps To Transform FailureInto A Joyful Life Melissa Dawn From Psychiatric Hospital To Award-Winning TV Show Host Luke Scott Be your F****** Self And Get Paid For Doing What You Love Fanny Myth We All Have A Story Ramona Rotariu Source The Influences In Your Life Mohamed Abdulrahman Changing Our World Consciously And Unconsciously Larry Rosenberg & Andy Ferguson My Journey of Self-Development Aladin Ali Be A Change Warrior Amanda Bellia A New Birth, My Second Life Given By The Law Of Attraction Neena Kaur To My Future Husband Mercy Juma Motivation, The Yin Yang Jennifer Thorp
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Now is the time to create a new positive belief to replace the old limiting one.
Our cover features the amazing Kassie Rhodenizer (above), a highly respected Frredom Mindset Coach from Canada. You can read Kassie’s insightful article ‘6 steps to kick your limiting beliefs to the curb!” on page 4 – One Tribe Magazine will transform the way you see yourself and the world around you. So, get ready to LOVE YOUR LIFE, as our creative writers share fresh perspectives, inspiring stories and simple, easy-to-follow steps that will help you through life’s many challenges. We would like to thank our fabulous creative writers for their amazing insights and you, our wonderful readers for your continued support over these 14 issues. Have a fabulous month and remember to share the love and live your life in glorious technicolour. – Kenny Ball (Editor and Creative Director) (Please note our writers are from all over the globe where there are variations in English dialect, to preserve authenticity we have retained these variations throughout the magazine). Photos and text are Copyright to the respective authors and OTM. © 2018 One Tribe Magazine | OneTribeMagazine.com | OneTribe.Media
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6 Steps To Kick Your Limiting Beliefs To The Curb Kassie Rhodenizer | 04 Time For Change – Change Your Energy, Change Your Life Portia Oliver | 08 Sing Along Dr. Steve G. Jones | 12 Dream Bigger – Quick, Dream Bigger, It’s All Here Already Bianca Spears | 14 My Heartbeat Story: Near Death Gave Me Life Zachariah Thompson | 18 How I Took Down My Walls And Opened My Heart Marie Ranson | 20 Life Lessons Through A Dogs Eyes Christine Saunders | 24 Blame to Bliss – Shifting From Powerlessness To Perfect Happiness And Great Joy! Vanessa Louise Moore | 28 True Inner Confidence Is About Really Loving Yourself Pinky Ghadiali | 30 I Am Your Mother Unconditionally Samantha Caroline Lavallée | 32 Why The Quick Wins Are The Worst Kind Juliette Stapleton | 36 10 Steps On How To Create A Business Idea That Is Aligned With Who You Are, Your Passion And Your Purpose Ewa Heard | 40 Precious Piñata™ - A Huggable Piñata With Special Stuffing To Help Kids Charlene Renaud | 42 What Can We Learn From Goldfish & Bamboo? Colin Symington-Bailey | 46 5 Key Steps To Transform Failure Into A Joyful Life Melissa Dawn | 48 From Psychiatric Hospital To Award-Winning TV Show Host Luke Scott | 50 Be your F****** Self And Get Paid For Doing What You Love Fanny Myth | 54 We All Have A Story Ramona Rotariu | 56 Source The Influences In Your Life Mohamed Abdulrahman | 60 Changing Our World Consciously And Unconsciously Larry Rosenberg & Andy Ferguson | 62 My Journey of Self-Development Aladin Ali | 66 Be A Change Warrior Amanda Bellia | 68 A New Birth, My Second Life Given By The Law Of Attraction Neena Kaur | 70 To My Future Husband Mercy Juma | 72 Motivation, The Yin Yang Jennifer Thorp | 75
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6 STEPS TO KICK YOUR
LIMITING BELIEFS TO THE CURB!
Kassie Rhodenizer l Freedom Mindset Coach
I truly believe that the only way to achieve what you want in life is to break through the programming and limiting beliefs. 4 | OneTribeMagazine.com
Are you living the life of your dreams? Are you spending each and every day doing what you love? If the answer is no, chances are you have some underlying limiting beliefs that are guiding your life away from what you truly want! Limiting beliefs are patterns of thought that we have picked up throughout our lives that hold us back from achieving what we want most. They are all around us, each and every day. These beliefs are so powerful that they work in the background of our lives and prevent us from reaching our highest potential! From the day we were born, society has us programmed to think that only certain things are possible. We are born into a set of “rules” of what is and isn’t possible in our lives, of what we can and can’t do. Some of these things we’ve been taught as a child, by our parents, which were taught to them by their parents, and so on. Even though they did this with good intentions, to prevent us from being hurt in the future, these beliefs take our power away and makes us feel like life is happening TO us, and that we have no control over it! This couldn’t be further from the truth – you ARE powerful, and you have the ability to create anything and everything you want in your life! If you’re a human living on this planet (and I’m going to assume you are!), you have most likely been living with the same limiting beliefs your ENTIRE LIFE. Even if you’re not aware that you have them, they’re working behind the scenes in your subconscious mind, and even impacting the choices you make every day!
I truly believe that the only way to achieve what you want in life is to break through the programming and limiting beliefs that society has convinced us are “truth”!
Some of these beliefs appear to be obvious truths, such as: “My doctor always knows best” or “I can’t get my dream job without a degree”.
1. Becoming Aware
However, the funny thing about limiting beliefs is that we may not even be aware of them! These are the more pesky and harmful limiting beliefs, which are those we aren’t even consciously aware of – the subconscious limiting beliefs. Examples of subconscious limiting beliefs include: “I am not good enough for love/ friendship/etc...” or “Money is evil and only greedy people make lots of money” or “I don’t deserve to make more money”.
If you have been struggling and are ready to make a shift in your life, here is a 6-step formula for kicking those limiting beliefs to the curb! Becoming aware of your limiting beliefs is the first step. Where in your life have you not achieved what you truly want? Where have you been holding yourself back? Take a few minutes in a quiet spot to take a few deep breaths and ask yourself what limiting belief may be running in the back of your mind. You are a detective searching your conscious and subconscious mind for what beliefs have been running! Sometimes, all it takes is a bit of quiet for a limiting belief to come to the surface. Write down whatever comes to your mind, along with whether you were previously aware of the
belief or if it has been hiding deep in your subconscious. 2. Discover the Root Looking at your newly uncovered limiting belief, evaluate how long this has been a belief of yours. Maybe it started all the way back in your childhood! Was there someone who passed this limiting belief on to you? Maybe a parent, teacher, or friend? 3. Evaluate the Belief Too often, we accept our limiting beliefs as truth, without even questioning them! In this step, ask yourself the question, “Is there a POSSIBILITY that this belief is not true?” Whether the belief is that you’re not smart enough, not attractive enough, whatever it may be, realize that these viewpoints are SUBJECTIVE, not OBJECTIVE. This means that these beliefs ARE NOT absolute truths! Acknowledging that these beliefs may not be true is the hardest step, because you
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have been reinforcing them to yourself for so long. One of my favorite quotes says: “We live in a world that worships limitations.” – Tama J. Kieves We have been taught for years to believe in and fight for our limitations. NOW is the time to realize that when we worship our limitations, we keep ourselves stuck! 4. Explore the Impact Next, think about how long you’ve been carrying this limiting belief around with you. How has it impacted your life? Has it prevented you from applying for a certain school program, chatting with the cute coffee shop worker, or putting a downpayment on the house of your dreams? Think about what your life will look like a year from now if you keep believing this limiting belief. Will you be able to create what you truly want? Realize that this limiting belief has NO PLACE in your perfect future, and it needs to be kicked to the curb!
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5. Create an Alternative Now is the time to create a new, positive belief to replace the old, limiting one. It can be just a small shift – for example, you may not be able to jump from the limiting belief of “I’m too unattractive to find a partner” to “I’m the most attractive person I know!”. Your new, positive belief can be something like, “I am caring and loving and deserving of a partner” or “The perfect person is out there for me, I know it!” 6. Reinforce the New Belief! Once you’ve created your new belief that is in alignment with your dreams and desires, the key is to reinforce it into your subconscious mind. Re-affirm your positive belief to yourself by saying it out loud. Write it down on a piece of paper and hang it on your mirror so you can read it every morning. Even if you don’t fully believe your new, positive belief, that’s okay! Re-programming the
subconscious mind doesn’t happen overnight. Just trust and know that you are on the right track! By releasing this outdated, limiting belief, you open the channels for new opportunity to come your way! Now, you can smile and be prepared for financial abundance, love, and whatever else your heart desires!
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Now, you can smile and be prepared for financial abundance, love, and whatever else your heart desires!
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Time for
CHANGE Change Your Energy, Change Your Life. Portia Oliver | Yoga Therapist & Coach I fancy a challenge! This is what I said to myself when scrolling through my Instagram feed and seeing a post from the NSPCC looking for people to run the London Marathon. Having only run 10k at the most in the past, I thought to myself “how hard can it be?� This was it, this was the moment that changed my life! I had been on a journey of healing and self discovery for a while prior to this and had cleared my thyroid condition and depression through introducing yoga, changing my diet and my attitude to life. But it was in these agonising hours of pounding the roads around Worcestershire that I really found myself and I learnt so much about myself. I found my inner strength, my ability to detach myself from the outside world and to not hold on to other peoples expectations of me. Not to mention the hours of looking around some of Englands most stunning scenery. I suddenly became so much more grateful for every sight, smell and sound. I started to appreciate myself more and my body for what it was allowing me to do. I was awakening! This was certainly the biggest challenge I had set myself and I was so proud that I ran it in the time I wanted, but more importantly this made me realise I could do anything. I started to connect with my bodies own energy and I went off to learn about the Chakras in great detail. This was it for me, I now realised in order to face any challenges you just have to understand yourself and let go of what
your placing in the way to prevent you moving forward. We have all grown up with negative people in our lives, past experiences we struggle to let go of and comparing ourselves to people on social media or TV, that appear to have it all. These experiences, thoughts we have and feelings all get lodged in our bodies and until we make a shift happen, we let these build up to a breaking point, illness, injury, depression or similar. The marathon training for me was the start of my shift, I connected with myself again, I appreciated myself again and I
let go in blood, sweat and tears of all the baggage I was holding on to. Only a few Years prior to this I was sat with my 18 month old on my knee in my beautiful 4 bedroomed detached property, in tears. (Really not living the dream!) I was living a life of sadness and felt desperately lonely. I had been gifted with two beautiful children and a life-style people would envy. Instead of being thankful for every breath, every moment, I was instead struggling with illness, I was consumed with regret from past experiences and wallowed OneTribeMagazine.com | 9
in self sabotage. Thank goodness I had a moment of clarity and looked into my child’s eyes and saw what I was becoming. This is when I started to practice yoga and decided I was no longer going to use alcohol as a means to feel better and instead clean up my diet and find out more about the pills I was swallowing every day. So the journey had started for me a short time before seeing the post from the NSPCC, I was feeling stronger and ready for something to push me to new limits. The 6 months of training did that and more. I made new friends and gained so much more confidence, I was living a life of gratitude and without realising it I was using meditation to get me through every step. I was learning to go to another place to lose myself for all those hours out on the roads. So did I continue running after the Marathon, I here you ask? Absolutely not! I quickly realised running was not for me anymore, my legs were exhausted. But more importantly, I realised that where I
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had taken myself too in those days on the road, were possible in any part of my life, I just had to choose it. I could choose to hold onto negative comments or thoughts, or I could just let it go and move on with my day. I could choose to self sabotage and let myself wallow again in self pity when I had a bad day, or I could choose to tune into my body and come up with ideas to move forward. I could race from one thing to the next in my day, or I could choose to stop a moment and look at the world around me. I have changed so much since those tearful days and now make it a daily practice to lie in bed at the end of the day and give thanks for everything I have experienced that day. Even every bad day or challenge I now see as a lesson, for if it wasn’t for that period of illness and sadness, I would not be where I am today. The gift my darker days bought me, was the gift to learn and now to help others from making the same mistakes as me. I have used yoga and energy consciousness to help other people
transform their lives, just like I did. I have watched as people have learnt, grown and flourished and are now on their own journey of helping others. It is amazing to be part of that, we are all paying it forward. There really is so much love and kinsmanship out there, but when you are consumed by darkness you hide away from change, from possibility and you fear letting people in. If I could give one piece of advice, its to learn to love yourself. Once you love yourself you will open your heart to others and find your tribe. These people will support you, they will be in your life as long as they need to be there and sometimes they will become life long friends. You really are capable of anything, just feel it and believe it and don’t let anyone stop you!
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Take charge of your life! Live it on YOUR terms, refuse to be at the mercy of others
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SINGALONG
Just think abou what makes you happy, whateve it is that makes your heart sing Dr. Steve G. Jones, Ed.D. | Clynical Hypnotherapist
I was recently singing the words to a favorite song of mine when it came on the radio. I caught myself singing the words, “I’m a loser baby, so why don’t you kill me.” It suddenly occurred to me that this was not the best thing for me to sing. I began to think about all of the words to various songs, which I sing without thinking about the words I’m singing. How often do we just sing along to songs and not think about the words? Are you aware that when we say or sing words, this is a form of self-hypnosis? It would be more helpful and powerful for us to think about what we sing and say. Once we do this, we can begin to CHOOSE what we sing along to and say to ourselves, and therefore how we program ourselves. We begin to take control of our lives the moment we take RESPONSIBILITY for what we do. Think about that for a moment. Do you really want to be at the mercy of the moods and concepts presented to you by your radio? Do you really want to feel like a “loser.” I know, you like the way the song sounds. And it can be fun to pretend for moment that you are in the songwriter’s shoes. But the truth is that there is a cumulative effect to listening to negative words.
You developed an entire library in your subconscious mind of disempowering phrases that play over and over throughout your day. I’m always amazed by people who say “I can’t be hypnotized” or “I don’t believe in that crap” yet they have a hypnotic library in their heads which plays throughout the day and programs them to be “losers,” etc. These people are already in hypnosis and every time they sing along to a “cool song” with negative wording, they reinforce this. So, as an intelligent reader, I invite you to quit doing what your radio tells you to do. I invite you to no longer be at the mercy of what a DJ wants you to hear. From now on, think of your mind like an all-request show on the radio. YOU are the only caller, so the radio station only plays songs you want to hear. If you hear a disempowering song, in your head or on the radio, turn the station. Yes, I know, those sad songs about down-an-out people sound sooooo good, but you know what sounds even better? – Living life on YOUR terms with YOUR ideas, and achieving all of YOUR goals. This is a challenging one for sure – letting go of all that “good” music. But modern culture has lured you into disempowerment like the pied piper.
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Perhaps you’re thinking, “Hey, Dr. Steve, it’s nice to hear a sad song when you’re sad because then you know someone else has been there and that gives you comfort.” Yes, I completely agree. There are countless songs that were written by people who felt bad and then offered a positive solution. The song “Love Will Come Again” comes to mind. Here is a song that starts out talking about how sad one can be after ending a relationship. But then it clearly and positively states, “Love will come again.” There is no telling how many lives this song has potentially saved with its words of hope and wisdom. Many songs, however, do not do this. They simply leave you hanging, or, in some cases, offer terrible solutions. Take charge of your life! Live it on YOUR terms, refuse to be at the mercy of others. Think your own thoughts. BE POWERFUL! Stop simply singing along. Instead, live an intelligent life that moves you toward your goals. I want you to be successful. Take your life to the next level! To a wonderful day!
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Dream big, go for it and make sure that you celebrate every step of the way.
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DREAM BIGGER Quick, dream bigger, it’s all here already!
Bianca Spears | Empowerment Coach & Author
I thought to myself as I was journalling the other day, realising that everything I’d been dreaming about - the travel, the income, the clients, the team that will help most parts of my business to run without my input, starting a family with my dream partner, the house on the fringe of a national park just metres from the water that is quiet and country-like, yet still close to the city - it’s all true, all real, all right here in my reality. I was delighted to realise this, and surprised at how quickly things have come about in the last 12 months. But I was not surprised at all that these things I wanted had come true. It was a real “Holy crap, I’m actually living my dreams again” moment. So why would I keep looking for more? Am I not content or satisfied? Yes, I am
really excited, happy, grateful, satisfied and content with where I’m at and what I have created. However, being here means I can now go to the next level with so many new things that I have also wanted and had my sights set on. Can this turn into some sick obsession of getting better and better and always improving and always wanting the next thing? Yes. It is a massive problem in our society. Yet it is a basic human thing: we seek something, we get it. The thrill, excitement, joy, satisfaction is short-lived, and then our system craves its next hit, driving us to reach further, spend more, drink more, travel more, have sex more, earn more money. And so, we chase the fleeting chemical cocktail that we had before.
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It can quickly become constant searching, an insatiable yearning for more, a dissatisfaction with how things are - because they can always be better, and “If you’re not growing, you’re dying”, right? We live in arguably the best time ever in history: long life expectancy, great medicine, more ease than ever in travelling, with more freedom to choose our careers, where and how we live, whether to marry and who to marry etc. Yet depression and suicide rates are higher than almost any time in history, because our expectations get higher and higher and higher. It is an endless pursuit that becomes exhausting, draining and leads us to feel that we, or life, or our efforts, are meaningless, empty and contrived. This is why we need to stop, be present, feel pride, satisfaction and love for where we are and what we’re doing. We are creators, free to design and bring to life whatever we choose in life. The way we design is often first through our imagination. Whether we imagine having a great party, or making an extra $5K a month, or getting dumped by our partners - once we imagine it so vividly that we can feel it and smell it and taste it, we can bring it into our reality. Just as life can become a meaningless, never-ending pursuit of something else, something other than what we are or have, when we just stay as we are, and have no vision and no direction, life can also become meaningless and meandering. Passionless and unexciting. Repetitive and boring. So why was I telling myself to quickly dream bigger? I have been in the unhappy and constant climb toward something else. I have also been in the lost feeling of being where you want to be and not knowing what to do next. The reality is that our minds need something to work towards. When you suddenly arrive at where you have been heading for so long, you can feel like you are at the edge of the earth. We must paint ourselves the next part of the path so that we are clear on where to step next.
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I keep dreaming bigger to expand my realm of what is possible. Because once I do, I expand my realm of what can be real, and then what is real for me. I want to create so many things: experiences with friends and family, at home and across the globe, transformational experiences for millions of people online, in person. And from the stage, I want to create more true change within people and the world. I want to influence the education of children, to help children and adults alike to return to their intuition, to trust themselves and each other more, to communicate more deeply, to laugh more, to understand the tools that they have within them around them, and to create masterpieces with their own lives.
the Northern Lights, the wild animals in the African Plains and the rain forests of Borneo. I want to venture into the Amazon, watch the sun rise and set from every continent on this earth. I want to help feed those without food, reignite the love in broken relationships, restore people’s trust within themselves, see people create the time, money and freedom that they want. I want to help millions to know that they can live on their terms and help to show them how.
I want to buy properties and have my man bring to life amazing homes and buildings with his architectural gifts. I want to build the house that I have designed too! I want to branch out in business and create more income streams. I want to visit far and distant corners of the globe, sharing what I know and learning from others, eating the foods, picking up the language, connecting with the people. I want to see
So should I just stop? Stop wanting, stop dreaming, stop going? No way! And neither should you. Dream big, go for it and make sure that you celebrate every step of the way.
I want to create the millions of dollars that will allow me to do these things. I want to show my children, and everyone around me that anything can be possible. I want to leave a legacy that lives on through the joy in others’ hearts, the generosity in their ways, the compassion in their souls.
You can create anything.
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We are creators, free to design and bring to life whatever we choose in life.
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My Heartbeat Story:
Near Death Gave Me Life Zachariah Thompson | Writer. & Lifestyle Coach. the world needed from me or what others expected. I was covering up any weaknesses, and was only leading myself to more insecurity, more doubt, more self-destruction.
I was overwhelmed, fearful, anxious, and imperfect as I walked out of the hospital doors. My world had just come to a screeching halt. Everything I had once feared had come true in an instant, as if I had created this heartbreaking story with my own fears. I was 23 years old and had officially been diagnosed with an incurable, life threatening heart condition that had drastically altered my mom’s life, and caused my uncle’s death. After only 3 weeks of testing the doctors found what they were looking for, a heart condition called arrhythmogenic right ventricular cardiomyopathy (ARVC). The doctor’s diagnosis was echoing in my head as time seemed to suspend. We were each having a conversation with ourselves. She tried to explain what was happening and what the next steps were. I was lost in my own mind, tears streaming down my face with the sound of my heartbeat drowning out the doctor’s orders. I could feel every single heartbeat pulsing throughout my body , magnified by the severity of the moment, not knowing which one could possibly be the last. My heartbeat, as chaotically rhythmed as it was, seemed to be the only thing with clarity. The one word I did make out in the conversation was surgery. My emotions were spread along a wide spectrum. I was mad at the world, cursing my fate, and confused how unfair life had turned out to be, asking myself, “How is my life going to change? ” 18 | OneTribeMagazine.com
Because of this I spent each and every day picking out my flaws, stressing about the ideal image of life, and walking down a road riddled with anxiety. I was fighting against any criticism that could possibly be thrown my way, and when I couldn’t measure up I would get intensely defensive, recruiting my ego and trying to deflect every challenge pointed in my direction. I was judging myself, being my own worst enemy, and sabotaging my potential to make a positive impact on the world around me.
On December 19, 2012 I had surgery for a defibrillator and within the first 3 months my defibrillator saved my life 3 times, each time stopping me from heart failure. What I didn’t realize before was this adversity not only saved my life, it added immeasurable value to it. Before, I was looking for happiness in the wrong places. I was always swept up in the comparison game, grading myself with an unreasonable scale. I would like to say I held myself to extremely high standards for the right reasons, but if I’m being totally honest my perfectionism was driven by the tremendous fear of not being enough. I was trying to be everything to everyone, living up to what I thought
Almost symbolically, my scar and defibrillator acted as glaring imperfections. My heart surgery and each of those lifesaving moments were the events in my life that woke me up, reminded me that my time on earth is limited, and screamed at me, “Do something meaningful!” God had changed my heart and since then I’ve learned to use my adversity for a greater purpose, realizing fear and doubt have to be present for faith and hope to grow, and that my imperfection makes me the perfect person for my purpose. I realized my diagnosis, although still incurable wasn’t a death sentence. I was instantly driven to discover more meaning in life, one that included a strong sense of vulnerability , gratitude, whimsy, and adventure. And with that, take action!
I began making impactful choices to build the life of my dreams, no longer striving for perfection or stuck in the comparison game. I was now working hard to serve myself and others for the right reasons with nothing to prove, only focused on improvement. I had clearly defined what I wanted my life to look like and recalibrated the scale I was measuring myself with. I stopped chasing ideals and started wandering towards my dreams while exploring the corners of true happiness with my body, mind, and soul. My adversity has taught me how to fully enjoy life, no longer overwhelmed by the idea of being perfect. I understand that my health condition happened on purpose for my purpose. I’m proud of my scars, literally and figuratively, wearing my defibrillator as a badge of honor. Now proudly symbolizing imperfection. I’ve learned that God is calling us to do more, that our potential is greater than we realize, and the opportunity we have to positively impact others is limitless. With a clearly defined purpose we can change the world, especially when we have faith and realize we are the vehicle to do so. My heartbeat story is just beginning, and my adventure awaits.
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My adversity has taught me how to fully enjoy life, no longer overwhelmed by the idea of being perfect.
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I honour myself wholly, love myself unashamedly and trust that I can create anything I can dream of.
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How I took down my walls and opened my heart Marie Ranson | Life & Mindset Coach I was fairly young when I first experienced rejection. Due to an accident I had when I was 2 years old, I have large scars on my body. I had wandered into the kitchen, reached up, grabbed the handle of a teapot which was full of boiling water and pulled it straight onto my semi clad body. Traumatising for both myself as a child but of course my poor parents who had only turned their back for a split second… I was rushed to hospital but left with deep scars for life on my shoulder and arms. Primary school years were peppered with visits to outpatients, surgeries to reduce my scars and even skin grafts from my thigh. I wore ugly ‘pressure vests’ which were elasticated crop tops that, in the 80s, doctors thought would ‘flatten’ the scar. This made changing for PE in school a NIGHTMARE because I was ‘different’. I was bullied terribly at my first school, I can still see the kids pushing me and cruelly singing ‘scar-y arm, scar-y arm’ in my face. The bullying didn’t stop in secondary school either, in addition to all the questions about my scars, I had terrible acne for a number of years. I remember fighting back tears one day in particular, in Biology class when a note that had been passed around landed in my lap. It was a drawing of my face, spots all over it, with the caption “Pizza Face”. I was devastated.
In my sadness, I began to gain weight after that and later overheard one of the more popular boys call me ‘thunder thighs’ - I could not have felt more ugly, insignificant and unattractive! Kids can be so cruel. At 16, I got my first job and first ‘real’ boyfriend. We worked together in a pub, I washed dishes and he was a chef. I lost my virginity to this man, despite my parent’s hatred for him. Then, one night we had arranged to go out to a few bars together. I got myself all dolled up and headed across to our meeting point. When I arrived there, he was there with all of his friends, apparently, unbeknownst to me (no mobile phones back then!) they had decided that it was to be a boy’s night out and without a second thought, he dismissed me, told me to go home OneTribeMagazine.com | 21
and I had to walk out to a loud chorus of the lads laughing at me, I felt humiliated, rejected and (I later learned) that subconsciously, I made this mean that I was ‘not good enough’ for love.
I’m not going to lie, tearing down the walls did take work, deep transformational work. It’s hard, at times can be uncomfortable and it will challenge everything you think you know but it is SO WORTH IT.
I decided, at that point, to break up with this man, he didn’t respect me, and everything that I had read in the teenage bible of the 90s - Cosmo (haha) told me that I should ‘kick him to the curb girlfriend’.
And I honestly don’t think that you can do it alone.
So I did and in that moment, I made a decision that would shape the next 17 years of my life.
It’s important to find someone who has already figured this out that can help you, to find a community of people who can support you and importantly, to surround yourself with people who respect your journey.
I hatched a plan of protection for my fragile little heart and decided to build an impenetrable FORTRESS around it.
It took me 20 years to figure this out, don’t let that be you, I wish I could go back and tell myself:
Never again would I let a man “in”, never again would I let myself “get” hurt and never again would I let some dude humiliate me. I was strapping on my armour and ready for a battle.
• cultivate and nurture a loving relationship with YOU
Ingeniously, I also declared to myself that any future relationships would have a 90/10 split. Meaning I would always keep 10% of myself back – that way, if I had to claw myself out of it, I already had a head start. Sadly, this was also the case for all of my relationships, friends and colleagues alike. What an absolute genius I thought I was back then… I had a number of relationships with men in those years and as time went on, I began to realise how empty I felt, how I yearned for deep, human connection and that perhaps, my master plan was floored. Feeling incredibly lonely and like no-one really knew me, I decided that something had to change – I had been responsible for creating all of this, my choices, my rules and ultimately, the reality that I had manifested, it was time for a new ‘plan’. I desperately wanted to better understand my mind, my heart and more about my human-ness. And so I started looking into personal development, devouring texts, attending seminars, logging into webinars and listening to podcasts. As I started to find answers, started to understand my mind and world, it became an obsession and I soon realised that I had previously been wrong about everything to do with love.
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• know how to back yourself in every decision you make • find your voice and speak up about what you want from life I came to realise that I had been missing out on so much by HIDING behind my fortress. It was a place of weakness, not strength. It was closed off to possibility, not open. It was difficult for people to connect with me, not easy. I also noticed that I was holding on to some crazy beliefs... The fear of being seen for ‘who I really am’ was stunting my growth The idea that I was ‘not enough’ was ruining my relationships The story of ‘protection’ I was selling myself was pushing everyone away It was time to change my story and tear down the walls. From then on everything about my relationships shifted. With my friends, my family, my partners, but most of all with myself. It was ok to be emotionally messy and not have it all figured out. It was ok to show my true feelings and trust myself and my gut. It was ok to feel pain, hurt and all of the harder emotions because as humans, we are fully equipped to feel all the feels and in the end, it really IS going to be ok.
• honour yourself enough to build a life that you LOVE – not one that you settle for. Completely in love with this inner work, I can’t imagine doing anything more important and I am on a mission to share everything I know with others. Sure, I now have a Masters in Coaching, NLP and Reiki Healing but the important point is that I have come through the tunnel and I’m on the other side. I honour myself wholly, love myself unashamedly and trust that I can create anything I can dream of. I’ve built a business I am proud of, can travel and work from anywhere, my relationships are deep, loving and meaningful and have the most phenomenal bunch of people around me. Through coaching, I now dedicate my days to helping others to ‘tear down their walls’ and live open, loving, fearless lives.
Keep up to date with Marie at: www.marieranson.com or Facebook
I’ve built a business I am proud of, can travel and work from anywhere, my relationships are deep, loving and meaningful and have the most phenomenal bunch of people around me.
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Life lessons through a
DOGS EYES Christine Saunders l Personal Results Coach, Wholehearted Life
I wanted to capture Hazels dog adventure as well as the lessons we humans can learn from our amazing canine companions.
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In the spirit of creativity, I’d like to ask you to take yourself back to your inner 5-year-old. I wanted to capture Hazels dog adventure as well as the lessons we humans can learn from our amazing canine companions. This is where her adventure begins. You see Hazel the amazing pooch got to experience so many amazing “firsts” one cool rainy weekend in October and this is her journey. I was watching “mama and daddy” wandering around the house packing bags of clothes and bathroom things I thought, “oh here we go again!”. They are leaving me again to go on an adventure without me. I mean they just left me for 6 weeks (9 days) on some fancy ocean vacation. So why would this be any different? You see when my sister was alive, I was kinda a naughty puppy. I felt threatened and fearful of being abandoned so I was not nice to her. So, we didn’t get to do too much together and although I feel more certainty now without her here with us, I feel sad for my mama and daddy as they miss her terribly. Oh well, back to the real story cause it’s about me now (woof)! Can you imagine the excitement when I watched mama put my food into a bag? OMD (oh my dog) what does this mean? Am I going where they are going or do I have to go to “happy hounds” doggie resort? I better not have to go there with all those other dogs who want to play with me all day… OMD enough already (woof). I jumped in the truck hopeful I would get to go with my pack, my family and guess what? I did!! The ride up the winding road made my tummy a little queasy but I held it together until we stopped at the little cabin surrounded by trees and smells and things I have never experienced before. BOL (bark out loud) I better be on my best behavior!! We just got here and I already want to come back! As soon as mama and daddy unpacked the truck they took me inside and took the leash off. OMD, I had the run of the place exploring all the smells of the old cabin and looking out the window and seeing the trees and all the movement outdoors I was so anxious to see more.
I slept with mama half the night and daddy the other half. Don’t tell anyone they slept in separate beds cause it was too small for three of us. A dog doesn’t get it, snuggle up and if you’re not comfy kick the other person until they move, works for me every time! I dunno what the big deal is BOL.
I wanted to go upstairs so I followed daddy until I looked up and holy dog heaven you could see through the stairs and that was scary!!! I went once with daddy and we’ll that was enough! No thanks!! I’m good on the main floor BOL. Daddy took me on a super long walk (almost 3 miles) while mama got us all settled and that was a special time for me to have daddy “daughter” time! We totally bonded. I trusted he knew where we were going even though there were times I doubted him. I got to “go to town” cause mama forgot stuff... I mean, what do ya really need? All you need is to see, smell, hear and experience this place. Who needs drinking water? Oh, wait I need that too, ahaha. I sat in the middle of mama and daddy in the truck so I would not miss a thing. I could see the whole world from that seat. I was high up and windows all around, and fresh air in the nose. Woof, sensory overload!!
I made mama get up early to take me for a potty walk. I got business to do, things to see, smell and chase ya know! I saw this little thing mama kept calling a chipmunk. I say just a small squirrel, ahaha but faster and they go underground in these holes no way I could catch one but they are fun to chase. I makes mama run in her flip flops in the mud BOL! Oh mama, get some sensible shoes for Pete sake (got that saying from my mama she says it all the time I dunno what it means) When we got back daddy was up and ready for an adventure! I am in let’s go! We are headed to this place daddy has been talking about for weeks! It’s called the “Donut Haus”, don’t know what that is but I get to go and that is all that matters. On the way again into “town”… whatever.. we stopped and daddy and mama filmed and took pictures of these huge dogs with antlers that made this awful sound with their big noses. I don’t know what kind of bark it was but I didn’t understand the language. Mama called these types of dog; elk. All I know is I am never approaching one of them, they yell at each other and the others around them. They are so possessive of their families. Mmmmm I wonder if that’s what I was like with my sister? Ummm well too late now, BOL! We watched for what seemed like hours (10mins) and then headed to the donut place. Daddy left me in the truck and thank dog, mama was with me too so I was not lonely. I saw so many people go in and come out but no daddy! Must be good if all these other people are here too. Here comes daddy with a box and I get so excited I start to wiggle my rump. OMD the smell coming from the box is like nothing I have ever smelled before in my life. Sweet yeasty and fried oh my!! I get it daddy, let’s have one! Well we had to wait until we got back to the cabin which took 10 years to return.
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We got home and went inside and I watched daddy place the box on the table. My internal naughty dog tried to creep in and I wanted to rip the box off the table and devour it but nope I had to wait! Daddy was almost ritualistic with this box. Paper towels and coffee placed just right on the table and then he opened it and I swear sweet heavenly music played. He took a photo of course and then dug in! Oh Oh Oh Oh guess what? He got me these tiny dog donuts called donut holes and mama gave me my first one! Ummmmm OMD I ate it so fast I have no idea what it tastes like but I like it!!! I had one more cause mama said she didn’t want me to gain my weight back that I have lost… whatever! I was drooling so much mama had to wipe my face 3 times, oh well! And now sweet full belly nap time. I love you mama and daddy! Daddy proclaimed to us ladies he is startin a fire! Ohhhhh what is fire? Oh, it is something that happens in the hole that was making all the noise last night cause the wind was blowing. Ok daddy let’s start this fire, I will help! I watch as my daddy hauls these big sticks in from the back and puts them in the hole in the wall. He then stuffs this crinkling stuff under the pile of sticks. I have no idea what it is but I want to shred it BOL! I have zero opportunity though. Daddy takes these little tiny sticks and strikes them against some paper thing and the orange yellow flash appears and he sets in by the crinkly stuff and the orange yellow bursts get ways big! I just stand there staring at it Mama says “wow great flame”! Oh, ok, it’s a flame, where is the fire? I dunno but… It is great and it is getting bigger and warm like when I lay in the bed with mama and her heated blanket. Only these flames make the big sticks have flames too and I am a bit scared. I back away but must be brave and go close again to look and feel and look again. It is amazing and scary at the same time and it is way hotter than mama’s blanket. I finally understood I should not stand or lay close to it. All three of us laid on the sofa all afternoon and night and daddy kept putting big sticks on the flame and
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it was amazing I slept so good that night! I did get cold once the flame went away so I snuggled with my mama and I know she loved it she held me tight and told me how much she loved me and it felt really good.
• Nature full of wonder, take time to connect with the sights, smells, and sounds in the forest
When I woke up I felt sad when I saw my daddy packing our things back in the truck. I knew this meant we were leaving this magical place. The ride home was winding and fast. I got sick to my tummy so I sat in the back and looked out the window so I didn’t barf. Once we got home I ran to my back yard and let my voice be heard! Mama said I told the entire neighborhood about my adventures cause I was barking my face off BOL. Well I had not spoken (barked) a word in two days and boy did I have lots to say!
• Cherish time with your pack (tribe) find them, love them hard
Lessons learned from a Hazel and her adventure. • Check emotions and assumptions against the truth • Honor new experiences
• It’s ok to have fear, make sure you check it because it might only be perceived
• Relax and ground yourself in your element whatever that may be • Be curious and look for opportunities to be brave and just take the first step you don’t know you can do something until you well do it! • Choose happy • It’s ok to indulge in donuts every once in a while
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Blame to BLISS shifting from powerlessness to perfect happiness and great joy! Vanessa Louise Moore | Transformational Mentor & Speaker.
GRATITUDE truly is the bridge for shifting from Blame to BLISS.
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“When you BLAME others, you give up your power to grow”. There I was, standing firm and screaming at the top of my voice, while pointing my finger at him, ”I hate you! Our lives are falling apart because of you!” In that instant, not only had I realised I was in the deepest darkest corner of my life but, in pointing a finger at the person I was blaming, I had three fingers pointing back at me. However bad our lives had become fuelled by drug and alcohol addiction, nothing good was going to happen as a result of me blaming anyone or anything for the state of my life. I felt so powerless and out of control and, in that moment, I realised, if I wanted things to change, I needed to take responsibility for myself instead of playing the victim in someone else’s story. Where on earth was I going to start? I believe one of the toughest things to do is to keep yourself positive and feeling good when your environment around you is not conducive in supporting you with your new way of being. As Victor Frankl (Holocaust survivor) once said in his profound book ‘Man’s search for meaning’: “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way”. We each have our own individual path to walk and our own unique way; we see our lives and everything in it. The further away from our path we tread, and when we allow others to dictate our lives, we feel powerless and our lives become an endless struggle, resulting in us blaming and making it everyone else’s fault that we are not where we want to be. Once I had this realisation, I spent time working out what the opposite of blame was for me. BLISS is the word that came to mind and when I looked it up in the dictionary I knew instantly I was on the right path. BLISS: perfect happiness and great joy. Now all I had to do was to work out what my BLISS was and what was needed for me to follow it.
On reflection I can see that I make the most profound choices from a place of contrast where I experience inexplicable pain. I have created a habit of ‘asking’ the Universe questions and I have developed the courage to be still enough to listen and to follow what shows up as the beginning of the answer. (If the whole answer was delivered there and then, wouldn’t that spoil the fun of the journey?) The answer to my question, the night I asked for a miracle, needed to change my life: Love and Gratitude. Day by day I recognised the more consciously aware I was of choosing to be grateful for even the smallest things, I was gradually shifting my low vibe, negative feelings of apathy, shame, frustration and anger to a higher vibe, positive feelings of enthusiasm, compassion, contentment and willingness. There were days where I found it easier, or should I say tougher, than others and I was under no illusion that the beauty of this process was in two steps forward and one step back but I quickly learnt, through self-education, my growth came from feeling truly grateful and choosing to respond to people and life’s events, in a loving way rather than a reactive, judgemental way. It took great practice in getting comfortable with the uncomfortable and confronting my deepest wounds face on as they appeared. There is so much rubbish I have collected over the years that I believed to be true about myself and only by sitting with my negative emotions and feelings when they arose (very obvious to know when they were there as I felt triggered and really crappy in myself) and intentionally breathing in and out, in and out, in and out as slowly as I could, did my resilience build and, unbeknown to me, I developed a technique where I allowed my shadow self, my small egoic self that blamed, to rise up in me to be confronted and released. My fears were faced and in turn created the space within me to choose loving thoughts and feelings. Thoughts
and feelings I had spent years denying myself. My body and my life began to feel brighter the more willing I became and the more I practiced feeling grateful. I was making eye contact with others and genuinely smiling more and more. I noticed the colours in nature, the song in the birds and the energy in the embrace of a loved one. There it was… my BLISS ~ my perfect happiness and great joy ~ is choosing all that makes me FEEL GOOD! We all have times where we fall victim to our circumstances and feel at times that life is not fair but I truly believe the blueprint for shifting from a place of blame and feeling powerless to a feeling of BLISS and walking a purposeful path is GRATITUDE. GRATITUDE truly is the bridge for shifting from Blame to BLISS.
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True inner confidence is about really
LOVING YOURSELF Pinky Ghadiali | Mindset, transformation and performance coach
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Like many of you I started off life quite well, despite being told I was shy yet intelligent, I knew my parents loved me and were proud of me. Somewhere in my teens I become insecure, self-conscious and lacking in confidence. I went to university and read Optometry. Then I met someone and I was married for 5 years in my 20s in which time I built a house, bought a biz and had a son. I divorced my abusive husband 2 weeks after my son was born and became a single parent, moved house several times in 1 year with my then 1 year old which was a very difficult time for me. Life/universe had slapped me on my face - hard, which broke me and then I had to pick up the pieces. I lost all of my confidence and my identity after giving birth and going through my divorce. I was scared and I felt betrayed and lonely. I decided to move to Edinburgh when my son was 18 months old because I wanted to start a new, happy life for us. So, I found a job, moved flats 3 times in 1 year, had no friends or family to help or support us up here in Edinburgh. I remember it clearly as the darkest, loneliest and scariest times of my life. However, I learned so much from it, about myself and life in general. Sometimes things don’t work out the way you expect. I am not that person now. Some of you may know those feelings of self-doubt and lack of confidence through fear. Fear can be debilitating. At that time, I felt I was the only one who was going through this which made it worse. I think all mums go through this feeling of lack of confidence and feeling alone at some stage. Which is why I am passionate about helping mums who have been through a time where they have lost their confidence and lost their true authentic selves along their way. We change ourselves for 1 of 2 reasons inspiration or desperation. I changed for desperation at first then inspiration. I was no quitter and I was ready to make a difference. That was 11 years ago and since that time I have been in my never-ending pursuit of self-care, self-belief and self-learning. Going through the divorce with my 2-week-old
son was no easy task. It was a steep learning curve and a big life lesson for me. Instead of focusing on what I am getting out of life, I decided to change my purpose into what am I becoming? To have more than what I have, I had to become more than what I was. If I didn’t have the resilience to get through the bullying, emotional and physical abuse of my previous relationship, I would not be where I am today. When you view your situation, and use it to catapult you to greater heights, that’s when the magic happens. ‘Everything you seek is within you’- Louise Hay. It is odd to look back at the person I was then because it’s like I was a different person. I can’t even recognise the person I was. Having gone from feeling like I was never enough to being more than happy with who I am. It is an amazing feeling which is why I want that for every single one of you. My reason for helping other women with my mindset consulting comes down to how lonely and under confident I felt when I started my entrepreneurial journey and how difficult it is being a mum, chef, housekeeper, PA, and much more! I decided to help women who are in a similar situation because I get it. I was there once too. Motherhood is a happy yet difficult time for many ambitious women for many reasons. Mainly because you don’t know what to expect and you are in unfamiliar territory. All of us, no matter how experienced or accomplished we may be, have fears that can hold us back. It’s part of our shared humanity. I empower and coach women through that experience, to feel more confident about themselves, to struggle less. True inner confidence is about really loving yourself and feeling great about who you are and everything will fall into place. No matter where you are now, there is always another level to reach, and to raise the bar you need to stay laser focused on your objectives, whether those goals are career, business or personal. The best thing about making mindset changes is that it is quick easy and painless. By making small simple steps but the benefits are huge and life changing.
Just think abou what makes you happy, whateve it is that makes your heart sing
I founded WiNE (women in networking Edinburgh) in September 2015, with the main purpose of creating a support network online for women, especially mums who are new to the ‘back to work role’ or entered the ‘entrepreneurial world.’ The monthly face to face meetups have been a great success which creates a space to help empower, support and collaborate with ambitious like-minded women. It is amazing to see so many great women out there raising the bar and killing it! Combined on FB between Edinburgh and Glasgow FB and the meet-up group, there are more than 2000 inspiring ladies within the groups and growing. I help women create your killer mindset to be more successful and confident in life. My passion is to help as many people as possible become more confident and create an impact. I am on a mission. And my why is my family, my beautiful son. I feel like I finally have a purpose in my life, it only took 40 years but I am so grateful to be here and doing what I am passionate about. CREATE YOUR KILLER MINDSET...
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Humble always to have been blessed with the responsibility to raise you up in your own light and right.
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I am your mother
UNCONDITIONALLY Samantha Caroline LavallĂŠe | Writer & Lover of all things soul at Beautiful Disaster.
I sing and dance in your presence. I weep and crumble in your absence. Since the day I discovered that you were rooted within my womb, I have loved you. Fiercely. Unconditionally. Into perpetuity. I have also feared you not knowing the depths of my divine love for you, but what I have feared most of all is you not knowing your own love, Your own divine essence, Your own Love my sweet child. That thought still yet if I allow it to seep into my space, Chills me to the bone, Wreaks havoc on my soul, Tares my heart into a shreds, Sends my mind down the rabbit hole of despair.
You see, I have seen you, I have felt you, I have housed you, From the inside out. I know You. And what I know for certain is this... I see your light precious child. Oh so bright. So bright precious child. I felt it floating and fluttering inside my belly, poking at my aching ribs, happily swimming within, tirelessly and fiercely making your aliveness known. I felt it as you made your way through my body, Exiting my sacral space as you made your way into the world. I felt the ring of fire burn deep and the oh so sweet tenderness permeate my being as I heard your feisty intense cry echoing off the white walls of the busy delivery room.
In that moment I knew that life was forever changed. A journey of endless transformations was to ensue...afraid yes, yet so captivated by the purity of your essence that fear could not reside in that sacred blissful space of tender graceful appreciation. As you made your entrance, The world was right there, Patiently awaiting your arrival with enthusiastic anticipation & joy. A mother who greeted you with tears of euphoria and sweet relief for your long drawn out turbulent journey but finally, safe delivery. ~To hold you was to taste aliveness in it’s most vulnerable form~ You were warm, a pure breath of life that I held onto tightly and that I cherished dearly enveloped within the safety of my arms as my body trembled from exhaustion. OneTribeMagazine.com | 33
I made a solemn promise on that early cold winter morning; ~To love and protect you unconditionally for all the days of my life~
She lashes out in frustration as she watches you struggle to eat the foods that nourishes your body, For not being able to kiss the bobo of learning disabilities better.
That promise, that mantra, that breath... still remains true today.
Riddled with guilt of wondering...
However many times over the years I have failed you, I have disappointed you, I have angered you, Yet I have never abandoned you or forsaken you.
Maybe she is to blame..?
Present always. Even throughout the times I could not stand, For the weight a mother carries sometimes is so heavy that her legs buckles beneath her. A bittersweet Reminder as she is met with the hard surface of the floor, She too is supported by life, Her foundation is strong, She is grounded in resiliency. She too does not have to bare the weight of the world alone, As she too is never alone. All the while without a second thought, She has many times walked through fire, Through the depths of hell & despair; With a shaky smile upon her trembling lips to sooth you, To not bring attention to the chaos brewing around you, Your lair was to be kept safe, rooted, & healthy. Of that she made damn sure. She watched you in all your innocence and knew that your innocence was precious, and she ensured that you were protected from all the harms she hid from a harsh world that she was well acquainted with and intimately knew all too well existed. As you grew, so did she... At times she screams out in frustration; Only to feel the burning shame of her reaction engulf her into flames during the dimness of the night. Laying awake plagued by guilt, For not having it all together, For not having done better, For not knowing better... & she weeps, alone, in the darkness for not being more patient. 34 | OneTribeMagazine.com
What did she do to cause this?
Alone at night she worries for the struggles you will live ahead, Perplexed at how can she watch you suffer as you stubbornly refuses to comply, to cooperate... Regardless of all the weight she carries; She finds solace and grace as she sees your bright light always. Amplified into present awareness Within your burst of laughters, Within your fits of giggles, Within your silly antics... All there to sweetly smooth out the tensions... Breaking the dam of frustration, Collapsing the bridge of worry...and She too finds herself laughing within the freedom of those innocent moments abandoning the weight of the world, and in the midst of these joyous moments she is reminded of a sacred truth; ~that there is nothing to be fixed, nothing at all~ As nothing is or ever was broken...
Whole as the day you were born. ~Her labor of love is to love you, Unconditionally, through and through, by and by.~ To remind you of that love when you are struggling to like yourself. To remind you of your greatness no matter the paths you choose or how far you may wander off your course. To support and stand with you as you discover who you are. To guide you back to you when you feel all is lost. To nurture your unique soul as it needs to be nourished irrelevant of what she may have come to believe is best. It was never about her...IT WAS ALWAYS ABOUT YOU. You came through me precious child, but not for me, and in understanding this vital wisdom I am reminded that this is a journey of growth for all of us. Nothing perfect. Only a perfectly imperfect Aliveness. Humble always to have been blessed with the responsibility to raise you up in your own light and right. Never to condition you to fit in with the masses or any of the ideologies of the world. I was entrusted to enrich your life. As your guide. By sharing, Not forcing my wisdom, By reminding you of your own inner wisdom.
By providing a safe nurturing space for you to blossom in your own unique way with all the unconditional appreciative compassionate love my soul as to offer... surrounding you with an environment that nourishes you heart, mind, body and soul.
Not perfectly done, but done well. In that space,
The journey is filled with endless experiences and surprises...
With grace, With honour, With humility, With integrity, With gratitude, With a humble heart.
To grow is to always be reminded of who you are from within. To create an awareness that this will always lead you down the right path. No matter how rough the journey may sometimes be. Not to coddle or enable you. Rather to sooth and empower you. ~To raise you up~ I am your mother yes, I may screw up everything and nothing a thousand times. Yet the one thing I always get right is my unconditional nurturing unfailing love and light for you. ~You are RAISED in love~ What is created, realized and done in the purity of love is always well done.
That sacred place, I find my courage & my strength. To continue to love you, Day after day.
~A mother is not one thing she is all the things that can and cannot be named~ She is also a soul, and though motherhood is a precious part of her path...
Throughout it all, The good, the bad, The bliss and the misses, I stand by you, with you & for you In all your glory and chaos. I love you, all of you xo ~I am your mother, what an honour it is to walk this odyssey with you my precious child~ ~Samantha Caroline Lavallee @Beautiful Disaster 2017
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Why the Quick Wins are the Worst Kind Juliette Stapleton | Online Visibility Strategist
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At the start of the week, my Facebook page had 5.5K followers. I have just deleted just under 2000 folks from it, and there is twice as many to go. I am hoping by the time I am finished there will still be a nice number there, but this kind of thinking is precisely what got me into trouble. Here is my painfully experienced advice for you, kids. Do not do things that seem easy. Do not take shortcuts. Do not follow the quick fix solutions. Do not expect overnight successes. Do things properly. Educate yourself Take daily steps. Have patience. Work on your prosperity mindset. Trust your journey! BE FEARLESS (which means when it scares you to bits, do it anyway)! I want to share my story with you openly and honestly. As a Visibility Strategist who focuses on organic marketing strategies, at the start I never thought about the power of Facebook ads for scaling up your online presence. Then when my business grew, and I felt it was the time to spread my wings really, I faced the most frustrating realisation... all my organic efforts may have been in vain. And here is why. 7 years ago I bought 500 likes for my new page so I can look “bigger than I was” to prospects in my new digital marketing agency business. It was the worst decision ever as my page never got any engagement - the likes then even started disappearing, but my posts were sent out to the sound of crickets... Whatever I tried I could never start any conversations with the followers of that page. What worked on my client’s pages, had no effect on my own whatsoever... I had to delete that page eventually. Last year I started growing my personal brand and focused on sharing my knowledge with other online entrepreneurs, so I created a new page under my own name - but Facebook was heading towards the ZERO era, so organically growing the page was an unrealistic goal to pursue. If you are not sure what Facebook Zero means, it is
merely the fact that in 2018, any posts that are not used as an ad or boosted will be seen on average by just above 0% of the total likes of the page. Of course for more established brands with high engagement levels, this number is a little higher (but even they noticed the decline in their reach). For a brand new page, growing purely organically (for free) is like pushing a heavy load up a very, very steep hill. A couple of months after I set up my new page and got some Facebook friends to like it, I have come across the strategy that promised to get thousands on likes to one’s Page without breaking the bank. I followed it and fell into another trap. I wanted to look bigger than I was... As a Visibility strategist I though no one will take me seriously if I only have a couple of hundred likes on my page. Yes, indeed, people judge the book by the cover. But in some cases, like my story, keeping up appearances comes at a huge cost! In 3 days running ads using the abovementioned strategy, I had 3000+ likes from people based in Asia and Africa, who had no interest in what I do whatsoever. Naturally, they never engaged, and what is worse, I had some very inappropriate messages from males on that end of the world sent to my Messenger through the page. But that is not the worst part. My heart sank when I turned to Facebook ads and with ads, your targeting is the most crucial element - and realised that my Page insights have zero data that I can use to really get to know my audience, let alone to target my followers or their connections. What it meant that everything I did to date on my Facebook page made little sense when it came to analytics as the People data was all wrong for me. I target women in their more mature ages, my page showed males in the 18-25 age group sticking out on the chart like an eyesore. I felt like a complete failure first time in months. It was such a horrible feeling realising how ridiculous chasing a quick win was and not building things in the way they are supposed to, resulted in me facing square one again.
This is why I always say- do not chase the numbers, kids! Why did I not listen to myself! Numbers on your page mean nothing if you cannot connect deeply to the people behind those numbers. If you cannot start conversations that help you get to know them better, get to know what they desperately need and want. If you cannot create and target audiences similar to those people who engage with you on your page. By the end of the week I will lose at least 4000 likes from my page, and if only Facebook had an option to delete more than a few at a time, or select them by location... no, they did not make it easy for us. Yet, I am making a commitment to walking my talk, and I am chopping off these dead likes like I am the last man scratch that- woman standing. Quality over quantity. Meaningful personal connections over shouting your offers angrily at a passing crowd. Deeper understanding over wild guesses. If you want to follow me for all the right reasons, like my page at Juliette Stapleton - Empowered Visibility Strategist - I would love to guide you! But whatever you do. Do it properly!
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“We live in a wonderful world that is full of beauty, charm and adventure. There is no end to the adventures we can have if only we seek them with our eyes open.” – Jawaharial Nehru
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10 steps on how to create a business idea that is aligned with who you are,
YOUR PASSION AND YOUR PURPOSE Ewa Heard | Courage Within - Escape 9 to 5 Coach Step 2 - Know your values
Have you ever wondered how your life would change if you escaped your 9 to 5 job and had a business that was aligned with who you are, your passion and your purpose?
What values are most important to you? What are the things that would bring happiness and fulfilment if they were present in your life? Pick the top 5 values and ensure your business idea aligns with them.
I have always known that there is more to life than working in a job that “I don’t mind”. I was in employment for 5 years and as I quickly progressed to managing the Human Resources department in a medium sized company, I started experiencing health problems that were caused by my inner conflict. My job was against my core values and personality which meant that I had to pretend to be someone else every day. This resulted in me feeling depressed, stressed and I completely lost my identity. I quickly realised that I couldn’t work in a 9 to 5 job for the rest of my life. I had to escape as soon as possible, otherwise I would get more ill. I went on a long self-discovery journey where I found my passion and my purpose, and I turned it into a business. It took me 3 months to connect with who I was and find my passion and purpose. I fought my demons, conquered my limiting beliefs and completely changed my mindset. I qualified as a transformational coach and within the following 5 months I escaped my job and created a successful coaching practice, Courage Within. I have helped many people successfully transition from their 9 to 5 40 | OneTribeMagazine.com
Step 3 - Identify your strengths
job to having a business that is aligned with who they are, their passion and their purpose. I finally found fulfilment, meaning and purpose that I was longing for. I now live on my terms and I love my life! Below I will share with you 10 steps that will help you align your business idea with who you are, your passion and your purpose to ensure you reach true happiness and fulfilment in your business. Step 1 - Let your Personality Shine To align your business with who you are, you first need to be clear on your personality traits. A good starting point is to complete personality tests. The one I recommend is called Strengths Finder by Gallup. It not only highlights your personality traits, but it also recommends what business/career is aligned with your personality. This can give you a great insight into where to begin with your business idea creation.
Ask your friends and colleagues for feedback on your strengths. Think about skills you’ve developed, the knowledge you’ve acquired or challenges you have overcome. How would you like to utilise your strengths in your new business? Step 4 - Reflect on your experiences Which experiences have left you most fulfilled? What about these experiences made you feel fulfilled? How could this be translated to your business? Step 5 - Know your interests What are your interests? What do you feel passionate about? What causes do you care about? What are you doing when time flies? What would you like to fix about the world? How could these be reflected in your business? Step 6 - Identify your ideal lifestyle What does your ideal lifestyle look like? What does your ideal day look like? Where would you like to work? Who would you like to work with? How many hours would you like to work? Be as specific as possible and ensure your business idea will allow you to live your ideal lifestyle.
Step 7 - Know your WHY List why you want to have your own business or why you want to move away from your 9 to 5 job. What will this give you? How will this make you feel? How will your life be different as a result? This will give you purpose and motivation. Step 8 - Likes/Dislikes Note your likes and dislikes from your current and previous jobs. What tasks give you energy, excitement, fulfilment and joy? What tasks bore you and annoy you? This will give you a good indication of how you want to operate in your new business. Step 9 - Know your definition of success When will you know you reached success? For some people it might be making a £1 million; for others it might be leading a stress-free life. Ensure your business idea will allow you to reach your success. Step 10 - Time alone Have time to ‘disconnect’ from the noise around you and look inwards. Ensure you have time to reflect on your day. What irritated you? What made you feel energised? What drained your energy? What were you doing when you experienced positive emotions and feelings? This will give you an insight into what you wish to avoid and what you want to have more of in your ideal business. Keep a journal of these reflections. I would also recommend meditating every day. I want you to courageously leave behind what is not working for you and dare to have it all. You have so much potential, don’t waste it! Take control of your life and create the business you want, on your terms. DREAM BIG, DON’T SETTLE and TAKE ACTION NOW.
To align your business with who you are, you first need to be clear on your personality traits.
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Precious Piñata ™
A Huggable Pinata with Special Stuffing to Help Kids Charlene Renaud l Professional Speaker, Life Coach, Author, Singer
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In 2018, on my 55th birthday, I released my first book, The Piñata Theory™, an original and powerful metaphor, about the long-lasting effect of life experiences, buried deep within the subconscious mind. On launch day, The Piñata Theory™ What’s in Your Stuffing? achieved best-seller status on Amazon.ca, in the category of self-help/transformation. Six years prior, my entire world was ripped apart. I suffered a catastrophic dissociation reaction, caused by an abusive relationship. I worked with a psychologist, with the goal of bursting open my subconscious mind, like bursting open a Piñata, to pick apart my misaligned internal “stuffing” (life experiences). I needed to know why I was drawn towards fixing others, keeping me in a perpetual state of turmoil, drama and victimization. I needed fixing. My healing and adversity became the catalyst in creating The Piñata Theory™ based on what I learned about myself and human behavior. Twenty-five years in policing, my interest in psychology, addictions and mental health, led me to become compassionate towards those who suffered from the fate of HumanMade-Stuffing. The PiñataTheory™ uses a Piñata as a symbol—demonstrating the physical vessel that holds something inside…yet not candy. Metaphorically, the human physical shell contains life’s secrets, experiences, beliefs, family data, generational beliefs and so forth, inside the subconscious mind. To discover, What’s in Your Stuffing? one must open the channel to the past—your data bank of life. In doing so, we quickly see the influence of social paradigms and the inherent flaws of humanness. Our Personal Piñata is filled with healthy and unhealthy stuffing. Harsh memories can keep people stuck, depressed, sick, limited, fearful, or bound by repetitive destructive behaviors. I reveal the pathway to healing and personal transformation, through sharing the Piñata-Code in The Piñata Theory™. The Birth of Precious Piñata™ Orchestrated by the universe, I was inspired to transform the adorable Piñata
character found in The Piñata Theory™, into a relatable teaching tool for kids.
providing a one-of-a-kind teaching experience.
Precious Piñata™ was born…made into a plush toy character with special stuffing. The original metaphor translated into seven bright, colorful balls, inside of Precious’ zippered belly. These tools became a palatable and meaningful way to show children, how the unseen mind stores everything we see, touch, hear, smell and experience. Each fluffy, colored ball, is linked to a color-matched lesson in Precious Piñata™ What’s in Your Child’s Stuffing? guidebook.
Precious’ Topics: Relationships, Mental Health, Emotions, Team 911, Racism, Diversity & Culture, Sexual Abuse, Bullying, Body Language, Confidence, Gratitude, Healthy Activities, Sunshine, Green Earth and more!
Understanding the researched, proven and direct link between childhood trauma, abuse and disconnection, to future disease, I knew it was paramount to give children informative and preventative stuffing at an early age. Precious’ design included the deliberate link of bonding, communication and participation by an adult helper, who presents the book—supporting the healthy development of a child’s emotions, self-awareness, health and stability. Precious and his book intertwine,
Charlene Renaud is a professional speaker, best-selling author of The Pinata Theory™ Creator/Author of Precious Pinata character and Precious Piñata™ What’s in Your Child’s Stuffing? guidebook.
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What Can We Learn From
Goldfish & Bamboo? Colin Symington-Bailey | Best-Selling Author, Mentor, MasterCoach & Mental Health Instructor
World Mental Health Day was on the 10th of October. The theme for this year – “Young People and Mental Health in a Changing World” – inspired this post… We are conditioned. We are led to believe - through our social expectations - that we deserve results – and that we are entitled to those results NOW! In a world of disposable culture and instant gratification, nothing is ever more than a few clicks away… In our “everyday” of convenience and “fast” – be it food, or lifestyle – we have never been tantalisingly closer to whatever it is that we desire. The world is getting smaller
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and our lives – generally – are only getting faster! According to NASA, the earth spins at a speed of about 1,670 km/h at the equator, and Cornell estimates that the earth orbits the sun at about 107,000 km/h. If we’re standing still, we’re literally moving backwards, which is perhaps why my mentor, Bob Proctor, suggests that “If you’re not creating, you’re disintegrating.” We need to shift the focus from convenience, to commitment. “When you’re interested in something, you do it only when it’s convenient. When you’re
committed to something, you accept no excuses; only results.” Kenneth Blanchard. Convenience, and rapid growth? Or commitment and sustainable growth? Our current culture is definitely leaning towards the former. That’s where the problem lies. As Arsene Wenger proposes, “People who are successful… aren’t the people that are motivated, but have consistency in their motivation.” A farmer once planted two seeds – corn and bamboo - and carefully nurtured and cultivated them. The following year, one of the seeds had become a corn stalk,
but there was no sign of the bamboo… This continues for years – the corn stalk eventually delivers an extensive cornfield, but the bamboo… nothing. And then, “all of sudden,” 20-foot bamboo shoots tower majestically over the cornfield. Following years of no return, an apparent explosion of growth. How was the bamboo able to grow so fast, and so strong? For all those years, the bamboo was developing its roots. It was laying the foundation for huge, sustainable growth in its life. Some people are more like the corn seeds – you offer them a taste of growth, and they sprout. But when people experience “rapid” success, they generally don’t tend to possess the foundation to sustain their growth. The first wind spells disaster. Their old habits and paradigms soon return. Like the bamboo, you are growing, developing, and learning. You are building your “roots” – your foundation for the day that you too will tower over the field – the day that you will tower over your own doubts and insecurities. Your time WILL come – be patient, and persevere. Your roots will determine your fruits… As Jim Rohn says, “There are two ways to have the tallest building in the city. One is to build yours the tallest. The other is
Speaking of fish…
Stop comparing yourself to others.
In the year 2000 – the year in which Ericsson Mobile communications released the first device marketed as a “smartphone” - the average human attention span was believed to be around twelve seconds.
Stop comparing yourself to others. It really is that simple! As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “comparison is the thief of joy”.
to tear down all of the other buildings…” Build yours the tallest – pay no heed to those that wish to tear you down, or who have no understanding of – or interest in - nurturing a foundation. “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” Einstein.
In 2013, a Canadian study suggested that the average attention span had drastically reduced to a mere eight seconds - one second less than what is believed to be the attention span of the much-maligned goldfish! Coincidence? Or is digital dependence “re-wiring” our brains and irrevocably eroding our everdiminishing levels of attention? A recent survey of 30 000 pupils revealed that self-esteem of teenage girls - particularly 14-15 year olds has significantly deteriorated since the boom of social media and online communication. Statistics reflect that many of today’s teenagers struggle due to a variety of factors including schoolwork, looks, peer pressure and weight. Research also suggests that heavy internet users are 250% more likely to suffer from depression, and that high social media usage can trigger an increase in loneliness, jealousy and fear. “Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” Lao Tzu. Consider the alarming statistic that people in the UK are consuming more than four times as many antidepressants as they did two decades ago... The UK now has the seventh highest rate for antidepressant prescriptions in the Western world, with around four million Britons taking them each year. This figure has doubled in the space of a decade - at an estimated annual cost of more than £200 million for the 53 million prescriptions…
The problem with comparing your perception of yourself to others, is that you have no idea of their “story”. You formulate an opinion - embellished by your values and beliefs - and you make a subconscious judgement about them, when you haven’t the faintest idea of what their personal journey is all about. “Don’t compare yourself with anyone in this world… if you do so, you are insulting yourself.” Bill Gates. You are basing your opinion on the visible tip of their personal iceberg and - remember - your opinion is subject to distortions, deletions, and generalisations. You are viewing their “highlights reel” and comparing it with your everyday. You can’t possibly experience their version of reality from their perspective, so why even try? Heed the advice of Marcus Aurelius, “Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” “There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.” Ernest Hemingway. It’s time to take a stand! Your future begins today!
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5 Key Steps To Transform Failure Into A
JOYFUL LIFE Melissa Dawn | Author. Speaker. Coach. Founder of CEO of Your Life
Several years ago, I found myself divorced a single mother and in a career situation that required a job change, ASAP. I truly felt that I had failed, in so many ways. Feeling like I had hit rock bottom, I realized I had to make fundamental changes, meaning, not just a job change or some other external change. I needed to change my whole approach to life. After all, if we keep coming at the things from the same place, we will forever be stuck in that place. If I wanted something different for myself and my son, I had to do something different.
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And so, I did the most different thing I could think of. I started listening to myself. I started letting go of others’ expectations. I stopped trying to please everyone else and live up to some ideal that never truly felt right for me. Instead, I started tuning into that voice inside me that knew exactly where I needed to go. In doing so, I managed to pull myself out of that rock bottom place and beginning transforming that failure into an orgasmically joyful life and business that empowers me to continually bring more and more of my true self into all that I do.
It was, and continues to be, a long journey. But the results are so worth the work. How can you kickstart a similar transformation in your own life? Here are 5 key steps that helped me transform a sense of failure into a truly joyful life: Step 1 – Tune into your inner voice to ask yourself critical questions: • What do I truly want? Do I want it because that’s what everyone wants? Or what my family or friends think I should want? Or is it truly what I want?
• If absolutely everything were possible, what would I start moving towards? • What about this is important to me? Maybe you want to start your own business, achieve a certain position, switch careers, go back to school, take up a sport or hobby, or even transform your personal relationships… For now, forget all the voices telling you how and why it isn’t possible. Focus on what your inner voice is telling you it wants most. Step 2 – Create a clear vision of what you want What does your ideal life look like? Consider all aspects of what you want: career, fun & recreation, money & finances, physical environment, personal growth, health & wellbeing, friends, family, significant other… What does your success look like? Feel like? Smell like? Feel it, completely. Believe it to be real and assume the energy of what you want to experience. Visualize what you want as if it’s actually in your life, NOW. Visualization is powerful as it helps you to move through life with intention. When you continuously visualize what you want, every cell in your body aligns towards that image and you start to resonate with everything in harmony with that end goal. To take it a step further, create a vision board so that you have a constant, visual reminder of what you’re working towards. Step 3 – Find a coach or mentor to guide you and keep you on your path Seek out a coach or mentor that has achieved what you want to achieve. Go with your gut. Find someone you trust and resonate with. This person will play a critical role in helping you plan and stick to your path. If you want to become better, if you want a different result that what you’ve been getting, you have to do something different. As Denzel Washington said, “Don’t confuse movement with progress. You can run in place and not get anywhere.” The right coach or mentor will ensure the efforts you make are continuously moving you forward. They will hold you accountable and help propel you forward.
Step 4 – Heal yourself at the energetic level
negativity saps your energy and yes to the people who lift you up.
Stress, emotional trauma, family troubles, career struggles… all these things deplete the body’s energy system. To restore energy reserves and rebalance functionality, seek out methods and people who can help bring you internal peace.
Look at it this way, would you spend precious time and energy in your job on something you know does not bring value? Of course not. Adopt that same mentality in all aspects of your life.
Methods such as reiki, reflexology, acupuncture, emotional freedom techniques, theta healing, massage therapy, chakra cleansing and more can all help refuel you at a deep, spiritual level. There is just so much you can change with your conscious mind. To make real, continuous change happen, you need that energy, that full body-mind-spirit alignment, to help keep you focused and in tune with your inner voice. Step 5 – Take continuous action Once you know what your big picture vision is, break it down into steps so you can make continuous movements towards what you truly want to create. Daily, weekly, quarterly, yearly. Make a list: What do you need to say no to, and what do you need to say yes to in order to create the life you want? Maybe it’s saying no to Facebook and yes to activities and programs that fuel you. Maybe it’s saying no to a friend whose
You need to ensure everything you do is aligned with the direction you are moving towards. If it isn’t, don’t do it. Think about the place you want to get to. What would the “you” of that ideal future advise you to do? Make your decisions from that mindset. If it helps, schedule a regular time slot in your calendar to reflect on how far you’ve come and where you need to go. Commit to taking at least one step, no matter how small, towards your end goal, every single day. Continuously strive to take things to the next level. Always ask yourself what you are learning, how you can improve and what you can do differently. To read more about how I transformed my failures into a joyful life and how you can too, get a copy of my latest book, I Attract What I Am.
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From Psychiatric Hospital to Award-Winning TV Show Host Luke Scott | TV Show Host, International Speaker & Spiritual Mentor
How Luke Scott is Inspiring the Next Generation of Global Influencers Luke Scott is an Award-Winning International Speaker, TV Show Host and Spiritual Mentor; running retreats and workshops all over the world teaching people how to find out Who They Truly Are and What They Truly Want. Luke believes that once you know Who You Are and What You Want you must then learn how to Express Yourself effectively. This is the reason that he founded the StandOut Speakers Academy that teaches people how to become Powerful Public Speakers both on stage and on camera. Luke is also the Co-Founder of the Academy of Conscious Sexuality which aims to be the leading provider of Conscious Sexual Education to both adults and schools worldwide. In this interview Luke will be sharing with you in his own words an unlikely story of a young boy overcoming adversity, poverty and insanity to become one of the world’s most influential Entrepreneurs and Thought Leaders. Luke’s intention is that you come away from reading this article with a very clear belief that, “If he can do it, I can do it!”.
The ‘Perfect’ Life? To anyone looking from the outside in I appeared to have the perfect life; I had my dream job, a nice house, fancy car, beautiful girlfriend and two adorable cats. It was everything I had dreamed of since I was a child. I had made it! So why did I feel so empty inside? Why was I so deeply unhappy? Why was I constantly relying on drugs, sex and alcohol to make myself feel any kind of connection? The truth is that I was so fundamentally scarred from the unresolved events of my upbringing that this situation was almost inevitable. Let me explain. The Making of a Mental Illness Looking back at the series of events that lead to me being sent away to a Children’s Psychiatric Hospital at 10 years old I can see that the UK school system failed me in a big way. Many of my friends and family members suffer from Mental Health issues including Schizophrenia, PTSD and Chronic Depression so I was used to seeing severe mood swings, violent outbursts and psychotic behaviour. As children
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we are so easily conditioned by our surroundings and bit by bit I started to copy the adults in my life as they were my main role models. My family life was undeniably dysfunctional but there was also a lot of love there. My family have been my greatest teachers, showing me what I do want and what I don’t want. My Dad was addicted to drugs and has been in and out of mental institutions since I was born so my Mum raised myself and my younger brother on government benefits. Growing up around drugs, violence and scarcity shapes us on a conscious and unconscious level and it is now my deep work to reprogram this conditioning to serve me at my highest level. I am very thankful for my family and my childhood as this contrast fuelled me to push myself to break out of these patterns and create a life that I love. If you have experienced anything like this yourself then you will know how easy it is to slip into victim mode. I spent most of my life blaming my family, my teachers and the doctors at the hospital for how my life turned out. It is easy to blame others for things you don’t like and to stay in victim mode, but ultimately, if you want to be happy, you need to take 100% responsibility for everything that you allow to show up in your life and for your reactions to the things that happened to you. This is where you will find your power. The Diagnosis After spending six months in hospital with severely mentally ill children I was released with the following diagnosis: “Luke is a very intelligent child. He suffers from episodes of extreme boredom and was not challenged enough at school.” That was it. Nothing wrong with me. Six months of my life spent in a mental hospital because school had labelled me as a nuisance child which fuelled my episodes rather than taking the time to understand that I was just different to the other children. As I moved into High School I saw this happening more and more. Giving kids Ritalin because they are ‘hyperactive’, calling dyslexic kids ‘slow learners’, telling children they are ‘bad’ when they are just acting out
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because of traumas from their family life. Young people need more support from their schools, family and friends. It doesn’t work to mark us all by the same score sheet. We all have different superpowers and abilities. Your Mission, Should You Choose to Accept It A big part of my mission now is to teach people that there is nothing wrong with them, that they are unique and to help them find their gifts. I believe with all my heart that you have something important to share with the world. There are so many people waiting for you to step into your power and to lead them. The whole world is waking up and is looking for leadership and guidance. You are embodying some powerful frequencies on a very deep level that other people want to learn. With advances in technology this is now easier than ever. You can make one video and post it online and it can change the lives of millions of people! You know deep down if you have a big calling. You can feel in those quiet moments that you are destined for greatness and that you are here to make a positive impact in the world. If you have read this far in the article, then I know that you are one of the people on the leading edge of consciousness. Another way you can be sure of this is if people regularly come to you for advice. There are so many ways that you can make an impact such as: Creating Videos; Writing Blogs; Speaking on Stage; Coaching/Mentoring; Being a Supportive Friend and Speaking Your Truth Unapologetically. What topics could you really help people with if you stepped up? Your Next Steps There are two things that you must do if you want to impact the world on the largest level: 1. You must do the deep inner work to find out Who You Truly Are. Peel away the layers of conditioning until you feel connected with your true essence. 2. You must learn how to Express Yourself effectively! Scream the fullness of Who You Are with every thought, word and action that you choose.
Once you take the time to do this two things it will give others permission energetically to do the same and the lives of everyone around you will change for the better. Taking Action The universe loves action takers. People that step into their future, through their doubts and fears. If your goals don’t make you doubt yourself then I’d suggest they aren’t big enough. Breathe deeply for a moment. Ask yourself, “What is the most important step I can take today towards my goal?”. Now do that thing! Repeat this step every day and you will experience levels of love and joy beyond your wildest dreams. If you would like to learn more about Public Speaking, Spirituality, Conscious Sexuality or feel like I can assist you on your journey, then please do reach out through my website or social media. Search for ‘Luke Scott Speaker’ and you will find me. I believe that you can have everything in this life that you desire, but first you have to find out Who You Truly Are and What You Truly Want.
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F ****** Self and get paid for doing what you love Fanny Myth | Time to level up your Personal Brand & make MASSIVE Impact. Gosh! I never thought about doing this before. I had seven years of experience in the digital industry, invested over $100K on my education, and I could help more people showing up as their true self to attract more of their ideal clients who would pay TOP dollars. What a lifechanging question.
I remember that painful moment… like it was yesterday. I was sitting on my bed, back at my parents’ house in France with $200 to my name. Chicago and my ex-boyfriend were now a far away memory, and I only had hope as my friend.
I didn’t think twice. I did like my FB ad agency, but I was craving for more. More stories, more connections, more impact, more PASSION, more meaningfulness.
When I was sitting staring at my Marketing Master Diploma on my lap, not knowing what my next Adventure would be and feeling pretty sorry for myself, something just clicked.
This is how I became the Frenchie Authority Coach, helping Entrepreneurs to stop chasing their first high paying clients all over the internet and start attracting them consistently instead by levelling up their ‘Personal’ Brand.
As a military daughter, I’ve always travelled the world and didn’t want this to end. The simple idea of getting back to a 9-5 was not on my mind, despite my shiny diplomas. At 25, I wanted more than a lifestyle. I wanted to inspire people. Impact thousands of lives. I was never scared to think Big. But I was sick of just thinking, and wishing. I just wanted something real, raw and authentic. And, this is how I got into my entrepreneurship journey three years ago. I’m not going to lie, my first year was tough. I discovered what leads a business to miserably fail. I started a digital agency and was primarily attracting the wrong clients, feeling confused and overwhelmed from getting out of bed, draining my energy and killing my self-confidence wondering where my next clients would come from despite hustling 7/7.
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After eight months, my first burn out was pretty close. But lucky me, I met my first mentor, Phil Graham. Following my gut and knowing I would do what it takes to be successful, I bounced back and followed every single piece of advice he would share with me. Through trials and tribulations, I learned how to stand out in a digital world overloaded with information and “socalled experts”. Not sure where to get started, I naturally leveraged my unique story, personality and results to stick in people’s minds… And it paid off. I found my way to stand out and be seen as a Trusted Authority. People started to reach out to hire me. But also asked me this “I see you everywhere… how do you do that? Do you do Personal Branding coaching?”.
This is how my clients easily sold multiple $5K and $10K packages, 6-8 weeks after working together, x10 their monthly revenue or ended up on stage or in publications after joining my Personal Branding Accelerator Program. By learning how to build trust and an emotional bridge with your audience, reaching the famous $10K/m isn’t complicated, as long as you have a CLEAR strategy in place. But my mission is not just about money. I preach “value first” and “leading by example”. I’m currently writing this article from my hotel in Phuket. Next month I’ll be in Bali, then Australia, New-Zealand and London, before coming back home to take care of my puppy. I work from where I want, with whom I want when I want.
And I’m no different from you. I’m French sure, but let me share with you a quick story that influenced my perspective about life. When I was 10, I was living in Africa. I remember one weekend I went on an adventure with my family. We passed by a little village in the middle of nowhere, and I saw these kids, around my age, poorly dressed, running after our car. And I realised how LUCKY I was to have clothes on my back and having access to opportunities they would never get access to because their ultimate priority was to feed themselves or find a shelter. If you read this article right now, no doubt you have a laptop, a phone and access to the internet (even free wifi). We don’t have excuses not to turn our biggest desires into reality. Whatever online business you’re starting, it’s your job to create and grab opportunities, build long-term relationship and use a method that will help you attract high-value clients who will be a blessing to work with.
You have a unique gift, and you have to use it to make a MASSIVE impact. And that’s my mission to help you find that path to success, help you find the courage and confidence needed to take that first step. If it’s not by working together or joining my free facebook group (Click Here), maybe you have to get to a point where you need a drastic move. Maybe it will happen just by reading this article, maybe you’ll be ready to use your decades of experience to change other people’s lives when you get sick trying to figure out this branding maze on your own. And that’s fine. But the day you hear this little voice telling you to take this ONE decision, to trust this ONE person or to invest in this ONE program, please follow it. My gut has helped me find my true Passion and feel 100% aligned both in my business and personal life. It leads me to places in the world I never expected, to unforgettable friendships
and to waking up every morning with a drive that lot of people, maybe you, have lost in a 9-5 or doing something that you’re not inspired by. Getting massive clarity on your Personal Brand can help you achieve all of the above, but only if you’re ready to challenge yourself, share your real Story and take consistent action. If a Frenchie started from zero online and has done it, you can too!
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A STORY Ramona Rotariu | Heartset Coach. Helper of hearts. Writer of Love.
Finding it, is the hard part. We think it is only obvious: I was born, went to school, got a job, got married, got kids and all the in betweens. But each and everyone’s unique story can be a powerful motivation to move forward in life and it is not just about all the stages I mentioned above. We all go through them. My story was about feeling inferior and trying to compensate by acting the opposite - like the world owes me something, arrogant and superior. Funny, huh? How can you feel inferior but show the opposite on the outside?
Oh well, hear this story… I was born in Romania, 30 years ago. My first experience was of love. I was a loved child and I got all the attention in the world from mam, dad, grandparents. Ever since I was a young child I was told how beautiful I was and I heard that word way too many times. Or better said, it was not balanced with other qualities. It was used as a single characteristic that defined me. By the time I went to school, I had the impression that the world revolved around me and my beauty. I didn’t know anything else about myself. No, honestly, I am not kidding.
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I just knew I was beautiful.
Got divorced after 3 months.
Any attempt I had on showing a sign of other talents, were vanished with words like: “You won’t have to worry, you are so beautiful.” It did feel like a curse.
Went to University to study Law. Wasn’t my cup of tea. Changed to Tourism.
My first powerful experience with school, from an educational point of view, was traumatic.
I arrived in Ireland 8 years ago and made it my home.
I was “invited” in front of the class and pointed the finger at, because I got the lowest grade at some test. So...I felt stupid. Extremely stupid. I cried. A lot. My heart was broken. I was beautiful but...stupid. I didn’t want to be beautiful, I wanted to be smart and do good in school. I wanted to show the world I had other talents too.
Finished Geography – Tourism, left Romania.
These last 8 years were the years I grew the most.
I remember after one of the exams, one of my teachers said to me: “You know more about this subject than anyone else in this class, Ramona, it just seems you are not taking pride in it at all!” I didn’t understand at the time, I thought to myself: “What does she mean, I know my stuff and I show it, how else can I show it?”
I developed spiritually, mentally, emotionally in the most wonderful way.
But in reality, I wasn’t showing it. Deep down I didn’t believe I was worth it and it showed on the outside BIG TIME.
I started to see life with different eyes.
I got all my certificates with distinction.
I first found spirituality and meditation, since then, I practice that every day of my life and it gives me a place I can call home, whenever I feel lost.
I went working in a beauty salon, didn’t feel right. Left it.
I started working with people. I was working in coffee shops and restaurants. I was serving people and that was the first time I felt I was contributing to the world. I felt extremely happy to be able to give to others. I used to work for very little money and that didn’t bother me at all.
I then went to a spa. Stayed there for 10 months. Even though I loved my job, it just didn’t feel right.
I then met the father of my son.
While working at the spa, I took the most amazing life coaching training, I studied psychology, I studied hypnotherapy, counselling, emotional intelligence and A LOT of personal development books, videos and audio. I was crazy into learning. I was hungry.
He was definitely one of my first spiritual mentors.
I quit smoking and started running every second day.
I was the best in class at English language, but I never took pride in that. I felt I didn’t deserve it.
After being an alcoholic for more than 15 years, he quit alcohol and started different spiritual practices. He was sober for more than 10 years when we met.
In September I ran my first 10k race and got a very good time.
I used to love maths and be really good at it, but I never gave myself credit for it.
He is 25 years older than me. Older than my dad.
There was a constant battle between how I looked on the outside and how I felt and thought inside.
We had a son together and this wonderful boy is the fire of my heart.
I decided I am useless and I cannot be smart like the other kids and I’ll just be beautiful and that’s that. I felt inferior, because of my results in school and superior because of my exterior beauty. Hm!! Inside of me I had fire. I was, in reality, very bright.
It was almost impossible for me to think that I can be more than just beautiful. The people in my life confirmed it. The only person that really believed in me, was my grandad. How do I know? He never used the word “beautiful”, instead, he would praise any and all my achievements, we would do science experiments together, he would bring me to school with him (he was a teacher) to experience what is like to teach students. He believed in me and still does, even though he is not in this realm any longer. I got married when I was 20, with the man I believed to be the love of my life.
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I strive to become better every day just so that he has an example to follow. He is not mine to keep. I am only here to guide him and show him the possibilities life can open up for him if he is ready. I then went on to college. I decided, without thinking too much, that I want to do Beauty Therapy. Beauty, eh??! It’s quite a paradox, because Beauty Therapy has shown me how Intelligent I really am. In this school, with amazing teachers, I started to develop other parts of Ramona: the bright one, the clever one, the leader, the speaker, the communicator.
I now work as a certified life coach, helping others open up. Teaching people how to listen to their hearts more. The heart knows the answers and if we let it, will bring us to where we are meant to be. I felt superior because of my beauty and inferior because of my supposed average IQ. It turned out that my inferiority was the greatest thing that ever happened to me. Because of it I became not only beautiful, but also intelligent. Inside out. What is your curse? It might turn out to be your biggest gift.
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My son is not mine to keep. I am only here to guide him and show him the possibilities life can open up for him if he is ready.
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YOUR LIFE Mohamed Abdulrahman | Public Speaker, Author, Philanthropist, Blogger.
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The most crucial lesson I’ve discovered through the years is just how significant an impact the people around us can have. This is NOT something to be concerned nor worried about BUT excited as it can exponentially teach you several lesson, expand your character and vision. If you’re someone that’s been following several of our articles then I can presume you are committed to GROWING yourself. However, I can also presume NOT just mentally but emotionally, physically and spiritually because the journey to selfmastery requires YOU to assure that you’re progressing in each aspect of what I had stated above. However, self-mastery in all aspect of your life begins from self-discovery and self-understanding. It is for me to share HOW the people you are surrounded by an impact YOU all positively and for you to understand and acknowledge that in order to transform your life and create the reality of your desires. This external breakthrough requires internal breakthrough. When I had first began my personal and spiritual development. Having learnt how much influence people were having around me, I became awfully worried and immediately started disconnecting with people around me. The TWO dilemmas with that were that NOT confronting with them meant NOT confronting with me. As we are simply people mirroring each other’s deepest feeling and thoughts. Therefore, when we begin to experience uncomfortable around people, it’s a question of what can we learn from this and why are we feeling this. Furthermore, although it may have seemed what I was doing was helpful to me at the time as it meant I didn’t have to take responsibility, it wasn’t. Disconnecting with people out of fear and without an explanation created unnecessary tension and a toxic energy chord which slowly overtime had made me feel NOT liberated but chained to them and my emotions. “For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains. But to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.” As Nelson Mandela stated. The most EFFECTIVE way to serve and be served by the people around you effectively is through the 30/30/30 rule I use. WHAT
exactly is this rule? It’s a system that allows us to be student and teachers to EVERYONE around us, more importantly overcome our very internal challenges and obstacles in order to show up in the world as the authentic leaders we desire to. To have a powerful and positive impact on our environment that will create a ripple effect. My question is simple to begin with. When YOU get the urge to remove people from your life without an EXTREMELY strong purpose, why? Particularly if it’s people you’ve grown with and known for a while. WHAT IF YOU COULD SERVE THEM and they could serve you? Simple, break down how you are using and spending your time with the people YOU are mainly surrounded by as followed: 30% of the time, find to surround yourself with people that you can uplift. People you can teach and educate because WHAT I always know is you don’t know what you can’t teach. More importantly, when you begin to teach, you learn more in-depth from what you already know. Sharing broadens your horizon and allows you to have a powerful understanding of yourself. How could you know what you want from life if you don’t know yourself? As you teach, seek to understand what the people you’re teaching’s needs are and NOT only for you to be understood. What makes sense to you doesn’t necessarily mean it will make sense to those around. It’s imperative to be versatile. These are the people that live in disbelief but it ONLY through knows better, they can do better but it takes with patience and time. It takes consistently loving them while you are protecting your energy from them so instead of disconnecting from them, try distancing yourself a little from them as this will enable them to broaden their own horizon too without feeling overwhelmed. People receive their message when they’re ready to learn and NOT just when you’re ready to teach 30% of the time, surround yourself with people that are like-minded to you. These will be YOUR mastermind community. Just as with MONEY and anything else in life. Getting there is just the start but then it becomes a matter of maintaining there as you continue to grow and expand more on your journey. As you begin discover beneath just what’s the surface. An ideal
like-minded people will always inspire you to think to yourself if you’re in the right element, energy and environment. ONLY when you’re confident enough to be able to answer YES to these thoughts will you then truly know you are aligned to your purpose and higher-self. Most people are not; therefore they’re living in constant fear in their lives. The most important thing to realise is what YOU fear will eventually draw nearer. These are YOUR group of people that will continue to support you and your energy. Your vision and what you are creating, together you create even more powerful energy and incredible ideas are born. Your last set of people ARE people you are inspired by. The problem is that most of us wish to see a particular result in our lives but we don’t necessarily know nor are bothered with the process it takes to reach that stage. However, I want you to come to realise that the process is golden. It’s what’s transforms you from the caterpillar you are crawling to your dream into the butterfly you can become to fly to your dream. Proximity with people you aspire to be similar to or have the same result as you desire is power as it gives you a great sense of what you are committing to as longevity and consistency is what will allow you to grow, connect and accomplish powerful result in your life so therefore it’s imperative YOU understand what you are saying YES to!
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CHANGING OUR WORLD Consciously and Unconsciously Larry Rosenberg, PhD, CEO, The Larry Show Andy Ferguson, Explorer, Andy Ferguson Network
Welcome to The Larry & Andy Show! What our duo likes to do is take a big, deep and often-controversial topic of concern and bat it back and forth between us to explore the important central ideas and multidimensions. This time we are spotlighting changing the world, which is highly and urgently relevant to caring individuals and Humanity’s total reality and evolution. major life-form extinctions). In comparison, my life will be extinguished in the next few decades. So from that perspective, when I think about changing the world, I ask myself, “What is the direction of travel we are on at the moment?” Because I see the world changing all the time, for me it is more about: What do I (and we) want it to continue changing toward and away from?
Many of you reading this article have a sincere desire to make the world a better place. We, Larry and Andy, believe that this is something nearly all humans have within them: A desire to play a part in creating a world that is good for them and others. However, as important as this pure intention is, it is really the implementation, which at times will be emotionally and intellectually challenging, that matters most.
Larry. Yes, this is a nice intellectual exercise. Yet when it comes to rolling up our sleeves and committing to making change happen, I believe that we need to be more grounded. It is valuable to remind ourselves that day to day there are certain big issues looming that the world would be wise to address:
Below you will find our use of outlines. Rather than fill out their complex points and end up with a 20-page article, we invite you, the reader, to join us and think of what might be expanded and accomplished to change our world.
The Need to Change Larry. The way the world of Humanity on Earth is trending, as we disrupt and poison our living planet, many experts believe that it is possible our human species may suffer terribly and even may become extinct. Other experts argue that we have been evolving our consciousness and technology for many millennia, and thus will
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not just survive, but indeed thrive. Well, we want to bet on the first group, do our part and support all who endeavor to improve the quality of life of the billions of people of our One World and Human Family. Andy. Homo Sapiens have been around for only a few hundred thousand years, whereas life on this planet has existed and evolved for four billion years (and, as far as we know, there have been at least six events of
• Continuity of human life – involving activism to ensure the survival of our habitat, if we want Humanity to make it. • Economic prosperity and opportunity – creating desirable standards of living for all of us, and avoiding egregious exploitation and blatant inequality. • Social justice – recognizing conditions of diversity, fairness and inclusion for all.
Groups and Individuals: • Thought leaders – generating a steady stream of new ideas for innovation. • Organization leaders – creating new forms and norms to inspire people for progress. • Group leaders – encouraging them to emerge naturally in their groups and serve personally and passionately. • Everyone else – taking on roles and responsibility for shaping a disaster-free and brighter future.
Who Needs to Change Andy. Here is the good news: Every one of us has the power to change the world. Indeed no matter what you do or don’t do, you are changing the world everyday already, whether for better or worse. The world we see around us is the sum total of what we, all of us, are doing right now. It is not a case of whether or not we will leave a legacy; it is more what that legacy will actually be. Knowing this, we can become much more aware of how our day-to-day actions change the world. Mindfulness is Humanity’s superpower. Larry. Looking at the list below that I put together, there is a lot of work that needs to be done. I urge you to ponder this question: Where do you already have influence – as an individual, in groups and in organizations? Institutions: • C orporations – pursuing a new mix of internal and external responsibilities. • G overnments – providing the right supports for systemic change. • E ducation – preparing people with learning strategies for transformation. • H ealthcare – shifting to prevention and wellness, and away from synthetic treatments. • L eisure – respecting options for enhancing enjoyment and with less harmful effects. • C ommunities – innovating in organizing to foster locally a better quality of life.
Andy. The key to changing your world is awareness. You don’t have to look far nor travel far to find the most difficult and challenging issues. Indeed, you have the power to change your world right now. Don’t wait for permission, don’t seek approval, just start exploring and manifesting the new and the positive.
What Needs Changing Larry. It is easy to say that almost everything needs to change to give us a chance to make the world a better place. Tradition may be a guide and technological advances have a role, but what is key are the collective human actions, big and small, that make the world what it is. This starts with the visions that we have about Humanity, our Earth and our future. And also the mental models that we hold about what it means to be fully human, and how we interact with our Earth. Thinking creates reality. Many choices need to be made now, if we are to have a good future.
Andy. To make things clearer for you, think of the following three As: • What do you really care about changing? What change do you believe is absolutely imperative? A number one is your Authenticity. No need to try to please someone else; you want to do what you believe is right. • A number two is what you know about or will learn about: Your Authority. To make worthwhile changes, you need more than a degree or a title; you must be absolutely on top of the problems and solutions. • As for A number three, it is your Approach. You have to take people with you. How you are going to create change will determine the difference between success and failure. Larry. The agenda for world change is a long one. Here are some of the priority areas I see needing recognition and upgrading: • Emotional intelligence – expressing our feelings that will guide us toward positive outcomes. • Physical health – having sufficient vitality to undertake the changes that are necessary. • Action strategies – setting directions, doing planning and dealing with the consequences. • Resource allocation – determining priorities and investing in advancing our desired future. • Things and experiences – putting and keeping them in balance.
How Change Can Happen Andy. I think Gandhi gave us the best answer to this when he said, “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” It is easy to become overwhelmed by the scale of the task – changing the world. But what I concern myself with is changing the world that is right in front of me, and the world within me. I think we all can have a greater influence than we realize when we focus on the changes that are now within our grasp. Those small things have a way of building up into bigger shifts over time. OneTribeMagazine.com | 63
Change our world – so that life on Earth survives, and even better yet thrives, for us all in our lifetimes and the generations that follow us.
Larry. These processes seem fundamental to me in giving birth to a good future: • Choosing – envisioning what a better future looks like. • Knowing – determining that sometime we can make incremental changes, while at other times, we must shift our paradigms and go in entirely new directions. • Organizing – agreeing on who can do what, how to do it and how to coordinate it all. • Healing – letting go of negative past patterns and replacing them with positive present attributes. • Growing – awakening to a higher consciousness level, becoming more aware of our gifts and what is happening around us, and feeling fully alive in terms of confidence and courage. Andy. I believe the potential better world of the future will more likely happen if more and more people believe in and strive toward: • Optimism – attaining and maintaining positivity with a can-do spirit. • Revisioning – determining what our future should ideally look like.
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• Reinventing – developing new ways of being, doing and having. • Adaptation – taking small steps and learning as we move forward, unless we need to do big leaps based on new paradigms. In closing, if we all are to fulfill our desire to make a difference and change the world for the better, what can and must we do? Here are concepts to consider, which we call the five Cs of life-affirming change: • Commitment – to remake our world better than it currently is, and for all Humanity. • Competence – to develop and apply positive and powerful attitudes, skills and behaviors. • Creativity – to discover new ways of imagining and then doing things better. • Construction – to manifest a physical world conducive to new future visions. • Celebration – to show gratitude for the contributions and achievements of all the world’s stakeholders. Join us in thinking about and then pitching in to change our world – so that life on Earth survives, and even better yet thrives, for us all in our lifetimes and the generations that follow us.
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Journey My
of Self-Development
Aladin Ali | Health & Wellbeing Coach. Holistic Practitioner.
I would like to share my journey in the hope that it resonates with you. Despite the different experiences that we encounter, we can often relate to each others’ lives more than we realise. Hopefully, my own journey will help you to become more in touch with your intuition and making future business decisions that are positive for you. Early life During childhood, I was brought up in an Asian culture where it was not the norm for women to work. Despite this, I had a motivational drive deep inside me from an early age. I wanted to do something that would change the world. But I didn’t have the encouragement at home that many children have. This meant that I was the very shy child at the back of the classroom, not putting my hand up even when I knew the answer. I had to act as my own guiding force.
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Have you ever been in a difficult situation, but found yourself being urged forward in spite of yourself? There was an inner voice urging me to pursue my own motivation. It was my awareness of this inner strength that made me take the first steps on a more connected journey. The first steps The first step in carving out my own destiny came when I saved money to buy driving lessons. For me, this was a symbolic move towards independence and self-reliance.
This inspired a domino effect among the women in my life. They asked me for help in applying for their own provisional licenses. They too wanted to tap into an inner strength that they now realised it was possible to follow. Each independent action was a stepping stone towards the greater journey I was about to embark on. Learning to trust my intuition and make decisions Although I went to college and University, I was still far from realizing my true vocation in life.
Despite the early, positive decisions I had made for myself, I now suppressed my inner voice to please my husband, my family and other people. But my inner voice got louder. I was unhappy with the status quo and strived for something more fulfilling in my life. When I began to listen to the important message that my inner voice was telling me, I knew what to do next.. For a long time, I had allowed someone else to make decisions for myself. Now I am wholly responsible for my own life. All my decisions and choices are my responsibility – even if I take risks and things don’t always work out, great power comes from knowing that they are my decisions alone. Making our own decisions is what builds our confidence. Even when I made the wrong choice in the short term, I took those lessons and used them to carve out a new and positive future. Now was the time to put my own talents and desire for growth to the forefront of my life. I could feel the energy inside myself growing stronger every day. I was drawn to meditation groups. Through the connection with like-minded people, I opened up and began to discover who I was. Have you ever gone through a difficult time? Although we can feel so low at the time, it is often these moments that pave the way for our rebirth. For me, being more in tune with myself gave me the clarity and confidence to launch several companies over the coming years. As I had always been around the family business and restaurant, I had been developing entrepreneurial skills for a long time. My jewellery business Following the success of the catering business, I had a newfound confidence in my ability to make profitable business decisions. Next, I set up a small jewellery business. I was given the opportunity to network in Bangkok but before this journey, I had never travelled alone.
I felt a sense of fear. But even more powerful than this, was the inner drive to keep pushing forward to something that I knew would be rewarding and the following year, I travelled to Hong Kong and repeated the process. It was at this point that I really started to trust my instincts. I had gone from being the girl who didn’t put her hand up, to a business person that was confident forging partnerships with others. Where I had once felt conflicted and unsure of myself, I was now creating multiple business visions with clear goals and outcomes far into the future. The birth of Healing Academy I wanted to make people not only look good, but I wanted to make them feel fantastic too! Feeling revitalized and full of energy, I wanted to open a new business focused on health and wellbeing. I started small. I helped people one-toone through energy healing. The more I practiced healing, the more I honed my gift. Today, I trust my instincts 100%. My guidance comes from a much deeper place and I am confident in my abilities. This is where all powerful transformations begin – the catalyst is part of that inner voice that pushes us on to something greater.
Charity work and the importance of reciprocity I believe that when we have made our successes, often through the support others have offered us, it is important to practice giving gratitude back to our communities and the world. Whether in their personal life or in business, people often fear failure. But I have a different definition of the word. True failure is not trying. Always follow your instincts in life. Even if you cannot see why this will lead you to the right path at the present moment, having faith in yourself will ensure that everything will come right in the end. Finally, no man or woman is an island. We must learn how to be confident in ourselves, but also how to appreciate the support that others will offer us. I am grateful for my family and friends who I have met on my journey. To them I want to say: Thank You.
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Be a Change
WARRIOR Amanda Bellia | Founder of Change the Way you Age Wellness Practitioner and Healthy Ageing Expert
‘I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.’ James Dean There is an undeniable constant in our lives…. change. Some of us fear it, or just don’t like it. It can be unsettling, and adjusting to change can be hard when it is forced upon us. Change can be a loss in our lives or it can be a gain. When it’s a loss, it can be hard to come to terms with. When it’s a gain, or we are in control of the change happening, we welcome it wholeheartedly, particularly if it’s something we have wanted.
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Whether it’s a desired change or a forced one, seeing it as positive and as a steer for bettering our lives, can help us navigate through difficult periods of change and adjust easier and quicker to it. I am an advocate of change, I have become a change warrior. I have learnt to expect it and embrace it. I have become more adaptable and pliable and use it as an impetus or seed for
growth and strength. I don’t deny that sometimes it scares me and challenges my whole being but I know, ultimately it is moving me forward to where I need to be going. Change keeps us from being stuck, it helps to move us forward, teaches us lessons, shakes us up, stops us from being complacent and stagnant. Change is natural, it’s how we evolve. It is a force of nature. There is, I believe,
Embrace change, imagine it as an invisible energy that is going to take you to where you need to be
an underlying law of the universe which creates collisions of energy throughout our lives, some of this energy is manifested by us, some is the impact of others and their actions. ‘I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.’ James Dean I remember using this quote many years ago. It resonated with me at the time because it reminded me of the changes I had been through; the death of my beautiful mum, the loss of an unborn baby, a divorce, a career change, lots of house moves. It reminded me how I had coped and adapted but also how I had changed and grown from the experiences. Everything around us is in a state of constant change and movement so it makes sense to learn to flow through it even when we don’t necessarily want it. The wind changes frequently, the tides turn, and if we can learn to adjust the sails to carry us forward without resistance, then change can become our driver (or our sailor) for helping us to reach our true potential. Being comfortable with change and understanding the positive power of it can help us to cope, to make the right decisions when we are thrown a curve ball or faced with a challenge which requires us to rethink our choices or previous decisions. Three years ago, my second marriage ended, I had to move home (again) and I lost my job of 16 years all in the space of 9 months. Another pretty tough time. But I had been through worse and the outcomes were always good. Although tough, this was one of the best years I have had. These life changes moved something inside of me, I found a new inner strength, a new courage that brought out a hidden potential which would possibly have stayed locked in the deepest part of me. It gave me an opportunity to reassess my life, my direction and what I really wanted. It has led me to where I am at the moment (knowing this could change at any time). I have completely redesigned my career, my lifestyle and I am now running my own business, living in a beautiful new home, and doing more of what I want. Seeing change as a new course, a new direction and trusting that
• Small changes can make the biggest difference. By altering the way you live your life, even in a small way, change can present opportunities that can have a domino effect, providing you with more choices than you ever dreamed possible—so you can create a more fulfilling and authentic life it is taking us where we need to go is key. I accept the uncertainty of everything around me, reminding myself to always keep moving, never to take things for granted and never think that what is today, will be the same tomorrow. I am continually adjusting my sails. How to become a change warrior • Embrace change, imagine it as an invisible energy that is going to take you to where you need to be. See it as your vehicle for growth. By embracing change and meeting it head-on with excitement, you can learn not to be so set in your ways which can help you maintain a more positive attitude • Adjust your sails, be flexible and adaptable to change. As the wind changes, change your course and go in a direction that feels right. Resistance can be futile. • Change your thoughts. How we react to a situation can significantly change our experience in a good or bad way. Life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change. Change keeps your mind active, refocusing your thoughts so your mind stays active and doesn’t become fixated on negative thought patterns.
• Be fearless of change. Would you really be happy if you were doing the same things in exactly the same way for the rest of your life?. This could mean a dull, extremely predictable, and uninteresting life. That is how your life would be without change. So next time you get the temptation to avoid or resist the change, aim instead to initiate the ones that will lead you to where you want be. • Expect Change. It will be coming your way. And a final note: Love each moment of your life, welcome each challenge, welcome each change, for the future is yours and your love inside will serve as a guiding light to a better life. Live Well, Live Fully, Live Healthily, Live Happily
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A new birth, my second life given by the
Law of Attraction Neena Kaur | Law of Attraction Practinioner & Life Coach a discontinuation of her steroids due to the adverse side effects. To my surprise, I found (manifested) a lovely doctor practising Ayurvedic Medication whose medicines worked and my daughter’s steroids stopped after Allopathic treatment, this also happened in July 2017.
As my life has now transformed and changed 100% for the better, I’d like to share my journey of the Law of Attraction with you. May my journey help inspire all divine souls who come across my article so they to can experience their new life. Thank you Thank you Thank you. In 2017, the month of July, I was introduced to the LOA practice. It came when I was on the verge of going into a depression, and was always feeling shattered and broken. I could never have believed at that time there was such a simple practice that would give me so many reasons to live and transform. Once I was introduced to the LOA, with all my faith, I started my journey. I had a long wishlist which had been gathering dust over the years, as I had no faith or trust in life itself. But, with help from the LOA, I cleared the dust and took my wishlist from my heart space and penned them all down on paper and started with practising GRATITUDE. My each and every day starts with gratitude and ends with gratitude. I have all those dated diaries, where every gratitude is noted religiously. I used to have tremendous work pressures so I would skip my meals just to ensure that I journaled all my gratitudes. The miracles just started happening and the wishes began turning into realities, that’s how the MAGIC began in my life. I will share a few of my manifestations and wishes which came true with the blessing of Universe which might give
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you the reader, an idea of how LOA can brighten up your life. 1) I started the LOA and Gratitude practice in July 2017 and got the keys to my new dream car within a month. I saw the car in a showroom with the registration number ‘5222’ and was so impressed as the sequence is considered to be an angel number. When I entered the showroom, the executive gave me my car keys post completion of paperwork. To my surprise, my new car’s number was ‘9222’ again an angel number which was a magical moment for me. 2) My daughter had Nephrotic Syndrome and was consuming steroids as part of her daily treatment. I wished for a miracle during my LOA practices,
3) I was wishing for a job change, within 3 months; I switched my job as per the designation and package I wanted. After joining I realised that I should have mentioned other comforts as well, i.e. timing, distance, Saturday off etc. which I did not say earlier. So again I made my wishlist and a letter to the universe, to my very big surprise, I manifested another job within 4 months with all the benefits that I was writing in my diary. 4) In April 2018, I randomly wrote down my wish of becoming a motivational speaker and a coach, where I can guide people and let them transform their lives the way I’ve done. I kept on thinking about my wish, I used to feel it and was intending to start my workshop from 1st July 2018, the same date when I complete my first year practicing Law of Attraction and manifesting things. Let me share, It happened my workshop started from 1st July 2018. My wishlist is very very very long and I believe, THOUGHTS IN YOUR MIND, BECOME THINGS IN YOUR HAND, this has been my experience with LOA and manifesting things into my life.
I trust the universe as I know I will get the very best things in my life
I also started using the INSTAGRAM platform in 2017 to share my success stories and posting positive quotes based on Law of Attraction which can motivate others to remain positive. Today with the blessings of the universe, my INSTAGRAM page is running successfully with 29000+ followers having users from every corner of the world. A year back in July 2017, I was mentored by a divine soul, exactly after 1 year - July 2018, I’m mentoring around 90 members at this moment from all across the world. THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!
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To my Future
HUSBAND Mercy Juma l Creative Writer, Psychologist, Inspirer
To my Future Husband When the road is tough And all things nay When the sun shines But does not get to your Face Lean on Me and I will do my best to help you
I promise I will try my best to understand you I promise I try will bring my cheer girl costume always I promise I try will hold you in my arms when the storm comes I promise I will be with you through the thick and thin But if I break this promise, as is bound to happen from time to time, Please be patient with me, until I remember them again, and find my ground.
When you lie because you are too insecure And want to hold on to the perfect image I have of you When it is just too scary to open up because you fear ridicule And you see it weak ‘coz you told men always need to be tough Know that you can come to me whatever the case When all that defines you is gone because it was all pegged on wealth That you were told defines every successful man And you are stripped naked and full ofshame Thinking I won’t want to see you like this, Baby, I will cover your shame and see your beauty in it When all you want to do is cry because it is just so hard And you think you have to be strong for me and the children And you think nobody understands Hold my hand and let the flood out of your soul, because trust me I will understand When you want to connect but you feel me distant And you feel left out, because suddenly it is all about our children
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I will show you in the littlest of things that I care I will tickle your ribs and make you laugh when I see you sad I will watch your games with you and discuss politics Be your sounding board when you need intellectual input And crack in guffaws when you do it silly
When I yell and cry and lash out every time saying you don’t get it And you feel rejected and feel tempted to seek comfort from another woman’s bosom Hold my hand and try to understand, because at that time I am at my weakest When the smiles are no more and the love fails to shine through my eyes When it seems like I hate you and do not want anything to do with you When it is all dark and ugly And your friends encourage you to leave me for good Baby, please do not give up on me for love always wins
I love you forever and always, I may not show it always, But please believe me when I say I do Because from deep down in soul I mean it And it is because of that that I choose to stand with you today and always.
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Motivation The Yin Yang Jennifer Thorp | Author, Photographer and Life Alchemist
Has anyone every said “what ever floats your boat” to you? If so, or not, have you ever really thought about what motivates you best? For me, different things push, nudge or shove me to navigate my boat to all sorts of Ports. My own motivations are varied, as are my motives. Two related but different words that subsequently produce or show up in tandem in my life, as I’m guessing is true for the rest of the human beings here. It is the yin yang of motivation and motives. What motivates me on a good day, living minute to minute as I do, is inspired thought that has an appealing end result. I forecast with ideas, or see in my future filled with positive images, and chip away my time to reach my vision. Something easy, like wanting to see the sun rise (positive thought that peaks my interest) followed by having to get out of bed before noon. Boom/boom. I keep my eye on the prize. So this rabbit following the preverbal carrot, goes with great vigor in hot pursuit
because I want it. That’s the simplest answer to sum up what fuels my motivations. The “whys”(motives), like I said vary, but in the end, are linked to my wanting something and appreciating the satisfaction of getting it. That’s enough usually to spark my interests that light the fire in the little engine that could. I am driven by my own desires to meet or exceed self-made, end game destinations or results, but there are exterior factors at play that surely influence my course and drive. Exterior forces that can motivate me to mush on, or even move at lightening speed, like the threat of getting hit by a train while crossing the tracks. The fear factor of anything that is life threatening or could potentially harm, and lead to serious consequence, are some of the best scare tactics I employ. I have also found another person’s energy ca influence my direction and the speed at which I travel, but that’s another topic al together.
goal is that I often make new ones while in the race get to the other side before the beginning of the end. That’s just part of the craze in running after carrots to fast, surely it’s more possible to fall down a rabbit hole or two, but you might miss a few land minds if your run fast enough. And so it’s all a roll the dice for things that come up along the way to every sunrise. The process of meeting any goal is as unique as people are to one another, but I am sure that we all find motivation with motives that travel along the course we set as we sail our ships from shore to shore. Hopefully, we all make it to the next sunrise and learn to enjoy it as it comes up before we sail off to meet the next wonder as we wander.
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