One Tribe Magazine – February 2019 – Issue 17

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Join the world’s most inspirational creative writers living their lives authentically

Wherever YOU are in the world, this is YOUR TRIBE, we together are ONE TRIBE. Featuring: Time

Is Not On Your Side Kenny Ball A Life Mission Of Healing, Growing And Sharing Larry J. Rosenberg Loving Out Loud A Living Legacy Ariaa Jaeger Why You’re Not Soul Fulfilled And Why You Must Act On It Joanna Intara Express The Unexpressed Bianca Spears The Inspiration For Personal Growth – Positive Words Vs Role Models? Larry Rosenberg & Andy Ferguson How To Keep The Love Alive Samareh Rahnavardi There Is No Time Like The Present Winnie Mabena 4 Things To Remember In All Relationships Isik Tlabar The Invisible Grief Dawn Bates Finding Myself In 24 Hours Jonathan Darling Ignite Your Fire To Transform Your V.I.S.I.O.N Jennifer.J.Bryant Feel The Contrast And Make A Choice Vanessa Louise Moore Thy Faith Shall Heal Thee Mercy Juma How To Super Fuel Your Motivation Aneta Grabiec Space Christine & John Saunders Your Intimate Self - The Art Of Mating With Your Soul, Mind, Heart and Body Samantha Caroline Lavallée If The Shoe Fits Jennifer Thorp

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My mission provides a message about living an awakened, aware and alive life.

Our cover features the amazing Larry Rosenberg (above), a highly respected Inspirational Entertainer from Sedona, USA. You can read Larry’s insightful article ‘A Life Mission of Healing, Growing and Sharing’ on page 6 – One Tribe Magazine will transform the way you see yourself and the world around you. So, get ready to LOVE YOUR LIFE, as our creative writers share fresh perspectives, inspiring stories and simple, easy-to-follow steps that will help you through life’s many challenges.

We would like to thank our fabulous creative writers for their amazing insights and you, our wonderful readers for your continued support over these 17 issues. Have a fabulous month and remember to share the love and live your life in glorious technicolour. – Kenny Ball (Editor and Creative Director) (Please note our writers are from all over the globe where there are variations in English dialect, to preserve authenticity we have retained these variations throughout the magazine). Photos and text are Copyright to the respective authors and OTM. © 2019 One Tribe Magazine | OneTribeMagazine.com | OneTribe.Media

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Contents One Soul Tribe

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Time Is Not On Your Side Kenny Ball | 04 A Life Mission Of Healing, Growing And Sharing Larry J. Rosenberg | 06 Loving Out Loud A Living Legacy Ariaa Jaeger | 08 Why You’re Not Soul Fulfilled And Why You Must Act On It Joanna Intara | 10 Express The Unexpressed Bianca Spears | 12 The Inspiration For Personal Growth – Positive Words Vs Role Models?

Larry Rosenberg & Andy Ferguson | 16 How To Keep The Love Alive Samareh Rahnavardi | 21 There Is No Time Like The Present Winnie Mabena | 22 4 Things To Remember In All Relationships Isik Tlabar | 24 The Invisible Grief Dawn Bates | 26 Finding Myself In 24 Hours Jonathan Darling | 28 Ignite Your Fire To Transform Your V.I.S.I.O.N Jennifer.J. Bryant | 31 Feel The Contrast And Make A Choice Vanessa Louise Moore | 34 Thy Faith Shall Heal Thee Mercy Juma | 36 Space...

Christine & John Saunders | 40 Your Intimate Self Samantha Caroline Lavallée | 44 If The Shoe Fits Jennifer Thorp | 46

New Year New You MA GAZINE

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MA GAZINE Wherever you are in the world, this is YOUR TRIBE, we together are ONE TRIBE. Kenny Ball | Editor & Creative Director

TIME is not on your side...

this average age of 80, subtract your current age, for me, it’s 56, so that leaves me with 24 years (8,750 days left and counting down), OMFG!

A year ago on 25th January 2018, my dear mum passed away at the age of 86. It was so sudden, so many things left unsaid, so many experiences still to enjoy, so much love still to share.

I found solace in my tribe (OneTribe) who were incredibly loving and supportive throughout my grieving process. But at the same time not letting me lose sight, that we should live every day as though it was our last.

I was reminded that being here, living this life is but a miracle in itself, as the chances of being born as you, are 1 in 400 trillion+.

Every one of us is also given the same 24 hours a day; it’s the only thing that does not discriminate, you have 24 hours regardless of health, wealth and status, you can’t cheat time UNTIL ONE DAY YOU DO and on that day, your dreams

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Remember, the adage, “graveyards are full of unfulfilled potential, dreams and aspirations never realised”, all because time ran out so quickly and unexpectantly (Really ???).

and aspirations are no more.

I feel our common mistake is that we tend to look at life as infinite, with unlimited time to do things, why else would we put off the things that would make us happy today, I’ll do that tomorrow, I’ll do that next week, I’ll do that when the time is right.

The average life expectancy in the UK / USA is around 80 years. So now we have

Are you like me and regularly ask “Where does time go?” because you’re just so busy being busy. Then it’s time to stop being so ‘F******G BUSY’ and start living the joyful and rewarding life you so deserve (before it’s too late).

Love and gratitude Kenny

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A Life Mission of

Healing, Growing and Sharing Larry J. Rosenberg | PhD, CEO. The Larry Show, Sedona, Arizona. (www.TheLarryShow.com)

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On my 71st birthday (May 5, 2014), I launched a life mission as an Inspirational Entertainer – which creatively blended my lifelong search for higher-consciousness wisdom and my long-suppressed natural talent as an entertainer.

I had retired from a 45-year career that included earning a doctorate in marketing, teaching marketing at universities, training international managers in Japan and worldwide, conducting business consulting and coaching, and doing public relations for a holistic health organization. But retirement, as pleasant as it was, didn’t give me the zest for life that I enjoy and value, and that bestows meaning and vitality to living.

My new mission was shaped by and is now embodied in The Liberation of Larry, a provocative, inspiring and musical one-person show based on the turning points of my story of the good, bad and ugly of my seven-decade life. The show is marked by shedding the limits of my past, creatively growing my life into its full potential, and realizing and sharing valuable life lessons (wisdom). My life has resembled the mythologist Joseph Campbell’s The Hero’s Journey – leaving my birthplace of limited perspective and opportunities; journeying and facing challenges that tested and taught me about the larger world; and discovering and developing my true vocation, unique gift, and a passion for giving-back to the world.

The driving force of my life has been escaping from four closets – from straight acting to gay being, university teaching to show business, American identity to international cultures, and Judaism to Universal Spirituality. While audience members often tell me that they’ve lived a different life situation than me; but as they watched the show, they realized that they’ve experienced the same inner dynamics.

In the past four years, I’ve performed versions of my one-person show 45 times – in America, Australia and Scotland. It is now clear to me what my specific mission points are, beyond entertaining people to inspire them to enhance their life.

As reflected by my show, my mission provides a message about living an awakened, aware and alive life. It is based upon what I’ve discovered during my 75

powerful, brimming over with love, joy and peace! This involves you recognizing your primary gift in life, making it the core of the mission of your life, and using it to realize more of your potential. It’s never too late to become the master of your life, and for your big dreams to come true!

years on the Earth, thus making me a role model. It is applicable to people at any age, especially those in life’s last third (older than 60 years), who want to live fully and make a better world, and to have vitality, health, purpose and meaning as they age.

The message of my mission involves three processes of living a happy and fulfilling life: Healing, Growing and Sharing.

Healing. Healing the feelings and behaviors that no longer serve us – that limit our happiness and fulfillment, thus making us unhealthy and old. We can liberate ourselves from everything that society expects of us – from what simply does not feel right to us! The negatives left over from our past can be consciously released, to free us for personal growth infused with a higher consciousness.

Growing. This involves attaining greater emotional and spiritual maturity, as well as generating physical energy and health.

Here you create a life that reflects your authentic self – what your heart and soul say about how to make your life whole and

Sharing. We could keep our gift to ourself, but that would deprive you and Humanity of its advancement. Sharing expresses gratitude to the people in our life who have nurtured, taught and supported our healing and growth. In addition, it gives us an opportunity to giveback by helping others, younger or older than us, to heal and grow their lives.

In total, this creates a better world – for everyone, and for you to live in too!

My life mission has taken the form of show business and inspirational wisdom.

Yours will likely take a very different shape.

I contend that any mission can serve you individually and benefit one or more sectors of society, when it significantly involves Healing, Growing and Sharing.

In terms of substance and style, your specific mission will take shape according to your career, your gift, your passion, and your creativity. You life mission can be the difference from a wonderful life and sliding toward death’s embrace. I am cheering you on!

Keep up to date with Larry at: www.TheLarryShow.com

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Love yourself and cherish all you have to share with the world, leave a mark of love and goodness on everything you touch.

Ariaa brings wisdom beyond her years and profound energy to the personal development arena. Her gifts and coaching abilities and original content have attracted and inspired people around the world for 25 years. Ariaa is known as a leading authority in the areas of human behavior, spiritual psychology, psychic phenomenon, reincarnation, mind over matter, guided meditations and as an intuitive counselor. Her clientele includes Academy award winning actors, Fortune 500 CEO’s and people from all walks of life and all beliefs. Her original quotes have inspired millions in social media for more than 8 years even being featured on CNN and in Huffington Post’s “16 People on Twitter Who Inspire the World”. Her name is consistently linked with Deepak Chopra, Wayne Dyer, The Dalai Lama, Eckart Tolle, Donald Walsch, Doreen Virtue and Adyashanti. Her prayers are widely known in the spiritual community and it is said that anything she prays for another, inevitably always comes true. Her energy is tangible and her custom meditations are widely sought after for their profound effects in targeted areas.

Ariaa was invited to contribute her voice to the Huffington Post and Thrive Global both created by Arianna Huffington Ariaa was just named as the “Top 200 Most Influential Authors in the World 2017” and was ranked #111 Additionally, Ariaa was named again for the second year in a row as the “Top 200 Most Influential Authors in the World 2018, Power List” Her books, “Ariaaisms Spiritual Food for the Soul” and “The Book of Ariaa Quotes for a Luminous Life” can be found on Amazon.com

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Loving Out Loud

A Living Legacy Ariaa Jaeger | Spiritual Life Strategist, Iintuitive and transformation alchemist The beginning of a new year always invites hope and optimism but I am going to share something which may startle you, but rest assured I am well. This is a portion of my last will and testament and hope it inspires you to live some of these truths and perhaps tidy up your own affairs. If we would live life as if it were the last day we would have, how differently we would do things. I have made it my mission to live this way and invite you to join me. Create beauty and a legacy, leave something useful behind.

My heart is in these words and in everything I do. May you all live your life authentically and do all things from a heart of love.

Since my death experience in the Austrian Alps in 1993, I have wandered this planet as a woman of God and an instrument of unconditional love, infinite light and abundant laughter.

• I have lived my life with core

integrity in a world which severely lacks the same.

• I have lived my life with little money

in a world which worships it.

• I have lived my life in a world

full of takers whereas I am the consummate giver.

• I have loved with great passion and

have lost with great trepidation.

• I have given when I had nothing

left to give and always with no expectation of return.

• I have been blessed to receive

mystical gifts from the heavens

and have been blessed to be in the presence of the Holy Spirit on more than one occasion.

• I have traveled to distant lands and

have seen and tasted the fruits of the earth with great joy and in gratitude for its awesome wonders.

• I have danced when my legs were

weakened by trials, have sung when my heart was empty and have always been rewarded with a resilient spirit.

• I have been blessed to know and

love the most honorable souls and have equally been blessed to love the most hateful and hardened of hearts.

• Always I have found comfort and

solace in the arms of angels and the Lord God Most High.

• I have loved animals, every one

as if I birthed them myself and they have truly bought me joy and laughter far greater than humans have brought me tears.

Each one of you has been such a gift to my life. The last few years has taken me to great lows and great highs and through it all many of you have sustained me with your gratitude for my work and your appreciation of the love I have poured out so freely on all of you.

Honor life by loving yourselves and others with great passion and exuberance. You never know how many you have touched until a stranger writes to say you changed their life and your memory does not recall what you did to garner such applause.

I do as sages taught me to…I plant the seeds and never look back to see if they rooted. To do good works and not remember is the true mark of selfless giving. It is in that spirit that I can honestly tell you I have lived my life.

Love one another, be kind, go out of your way to help even the smallest of creatures, even the greatest of strangers. Because in the end none are strangers, we are all feeding each other love, light and laughter, the sustenance of life. Love yourself and cherish all you have to share with the world, leave a mark of love and goodness on everything you touch.

I love you more than most of you can ever conceive and truly I tell you this, my capacity for love is enormous as is your own and will continue to live on in my thoughts and prayers for all of you. I pray that I will continue to live on in your hearts forever.

Thank you for loving me, you have helped to make my life fulfilling and complete. You all assisted me in fulfilling my purpose and I am so thankful.

God bless you all and please remember whatever you do, wherever you go, don’t forget to use your heart and soul to LOVE OUTLOUD. Be good to each other. ❤

To book an appointment or for a free consultation visit Ariaa’s website at www.Ariaa.com

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Why You’re Not

Soul Fulfilled And Why You Must Act On It Joanna Intara | Medicine Woman for the Soul

It hurts me to imagine you snuffing out your beautiful soul in all it’s desires, purposes, passions dampening the flame of the legacy you already know you are meant to live.

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You lie awake at 2:17 am for the umpteenth time this month.

I mean, society and undealt with family lineage and ancestral trauma filled with discontent imprints that are hungry for resolution come banging loudly on the door.

Unchecked dependency on substances, shopping, food?

Your knowing is enough.

Is it the partner and love relationship you wish you had but don’t?

You wake up one day, and you’re in shock at realizing the unhappiness or slow motion melancholy and unfulfillment looking at you right back in the mirror when you go to brush your teeth.

Is it the gnawing empty discontent of not really being full on purpose when it comes to work?

And you really can’t allow this one more day, those lines of not being happy are shrouding over your beautiful soul.

Let us be done with the days of endless endurance of unhappiness or discontent.

The dissatisfaction with the current mutuality and presence of sisterhood in your life?

And you know you are meant for more, and you’re not willing to compromise your soul.

Or all three!

And no, you can’t really shove it back down anymore either, like where is it willing to go anyway?

Your head is spinning around, looping the same broken scratch on your soul fulfilment codes and you simply don’t know what to do.

Where do you even start?

I can tell you right now, that most of the high-powered women I serve have one of these that they are dealing with at any one time, and often it’s all three.

It’s a trifecta of unhappiness that seems to nab even the most apparently successful women and it costs billions of dollars in missed work time, medical appointments, addictions, and soul loss each day for the thousands of women experiencing it.

If you’re reading with this and resonating, are you;

Woman, it hurts me to imagine you snuffing out your beautiful soul in all it’s desires, purposes, passions dampening the flame of the legacy you already know you are meant to live.

Crisis of purpose at work?

My two cents.

Your reading this enough.

Your heartache is enough.

Your enough is ENOUGH.

That is what our mothers and grandmothers did.

And we are here to break the chain of this unfulfillment.

And we are here to do that now.

Begin now loves, begin.

Keep up to date with Joanna at: www.besoulfulfilled.com

So what is it going to take to move the needle for you to stop this now?

Another depression, panic attack?

Broken relationship or lovelessness?

Ready to experience partner and love relationship fueled from your soul desires?

Ready to rewiring the soul fulfilment codes when it comes to purpose and sisterhood?

Because if you are, I want you to end the search now because I am here and I was that lost woman.

The internal battles of self doubt and inner judgment I faced when it came to having it all; love, purpose, sisterhood not to mention I wasn’t willing to settle for anything less than it being completely powered and led by my soul.

The amount of self love and inner fortitude it took to overcome that, repeatedly.

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Express the unexpressed Bianca Spears Empowerment Coach & Author

What’s been left unsaid in your life?

So often the appreciation, love, respect, anger, frustration and disappointment that we feel are not communicated verbally. We don’t say “I don’t know what I would do without you” or “You inspire me! I love what you do” as often as we should when we appreciate or respect someone. We don’t say “I love you” to the people towards whom we feel it the most. We don’t say “sorry” as much as we may feel it for the things we’ve done wrong or the things we regret.

Even if we don’t think we did anything that warrants an apology, but others do, saying sorry in a genuine way that can heal broken relationships. It is not a battle of who gives in first, there is nothing to “win” and nothing to lose.

Remember the last time you felt entitled to be given an apology so bad that you would risk turning a relationship sour?

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is safer that way, to keep it inside and not expose our vulnerable side, to just keep quiet. Easier, perhaps, but is that the way you want it - with the unexpressed remaining unshared?

Sometimes it’s impossible for us to share all of the unsaid things with people. Often it is hard to do it in a way where we can be heard and acknowledged. What is possible is to share those things with that person in an experience that we create.

Even when you got the apology, how did you feel afterwards? Did you get a boost of confidence from thinking “I knew I was right?” or did the issue just become yesterday’s news, even making you feel a bit uncomfortable seeing the other person’s humility? Listen in on your mind right now; if you are thinking “I’m not saying sorry when I didn’t do anything!” or “they should be saying sorry to me!”

– notice where this is coming from, your ego (limited self) or your best self?

In a moment of fury, is it worth it to keep being stubborn and let your ego take over just to prove a point that can taint a relationship forever? We often resist letting go, and at the end of life, there is often forgiveness left ungiven and unshared. There is unresolved resentment and anger and frustration that could have been let go of (in a moment) years ago that remains in the minds, hearts and bodies of those who have passed on.

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The opposite is also true for sentiments of appreciation or love. Often we are afraid to express the love we feel for a person, whether that is family, friends, or a significant other. It takes a certain amount of courage to overcome the thought of “But what if that person takes it the wrong way?”, “Will it sound too cheesy if I say it?”, “I’m with these people every day. Do I need to say it out loud?

They probably already know it.” When an employee or someone we “secretly” look up to does a good job, makes our life easier, or inspires us, instead of praising the good work, it’s easy for us tell ourselves that those people probably know how good they are, and that they don’t need to be reminded of how much easier they make our lives, how much their actions affect us, how much of a role model they have become. “Probably”, “secretly”, “hopefully” – vague terms that may not reflect reality, but create a “safe” place for our pride and our toughness.

Our ego tries its best to reassure us that things are clearly the way they are, that it

I just went through a process that can sometimes be quite intense, but goes deep in expressing the unexpressed, releasing the suppressed thoughts and emotions. It is not easy going up against the ego, especially when it has been running patterns of entitlement, pride and negativity for so long. It takes courage to be humble, to forgive and forget, to release all the emotions you have been holding in for so long just to look tough, to keep it all together, and I cannot begin to stress how good it felt and how much easier life became after releasing all these thoughts that I did not dare express before. This process always goes deep and clears up energy around a certain person, and at the same time, indirectly and powerfully clears blocks around so many other amazing things. It always feels like a massive weight has been lifted and that things are freer and easier.

It always leads to shifts in other areas, because you open up new pathways for things to flow.

Suppressed thoughts and emotions are extremely dangerous for our physical and mental wellbeing, and I guarantee you that you are holding back on way more than you even realise right now.

Express the unexpressed – the love, the thanks, the sorrow, the forgiveness and you will know the joy and relief it brings.

Keep it in and, well, you know what that’s like. You can already relate to the resistance and pain it creates.

Keep up to date with Bianca at: www.biancaspears.com

Express the unexpressed – the love, the thanks, the sorrow, the forgiveness and you will know the joy and relief it brings.

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The Inspiration for Personal Growth Positive Words vs. Role Models?

Larry Rosenberg, PhD, CEO, The Larry Show Andy Ferguson, Explorer, Andy Ferguson Network

Using the format of a dialogue, Larry and Andy address the role inspiration plays in personal growth and transformation. The authors evaluate the nature and potency of two drivers of personal evolution – listening to positive words and observing the ways of role models.

Larry It is easy to say that both words and role models advance people’s personal growth and development. And that some people will benefit more from one than from the other. But from a conscious perspective, which of these two fuels will have a greater impact on people committed to accelerated and substantial growth? To address that question, I want to look at the process and outcome of growth.

We can begin by asking, What is going on in the growth process? At its heart is creativity, and the outcome is something new manifested. Inspiration in the modern sense – in contrast to the early definition of Divine influence – involves stimulation of human mental and emotional faculties.

The inspirational power of words can be immediate, attention-getting and clearly specific. The right words, of quality and in quantity, can produce a fast and noticeable jolt of inspiration. But there are times when direct words do not get through because of the ambiguity of content and distractions (noise) in the communication. In a world that floods us with words and images, of both high and low quality, the message can be lost in the outpouring.

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On the surface, role modelling as a means of inspiration appears to be more general and indirect. However, I contend that it possesses high-impact attributes by being holistic and multisensory. Both on conscious and unconscious levels, there is ample opportunity for the example and energy of the role model, the inspiring agent, to transmit a deep, wide and even complex message to another person.

y r r La Whereas positive words work in a fast and traceable cause-and-effect manner, the role model’s means of influencing can have the power to seep in over time. The role model – especially one who is creative, innovative, ingenious, original, expressive, insightful, brilliant and sophisticated – is likely to be

giving off categories, layers and patterns of inspiration that can rewire, at a fundamental level, the brain and mind of the receiving person. This may be the difference between giving a person a fish for a meal (positive words) and teaching them to fish for the rest of their life (role modelling).

Andy Wow, that’s a lot to get my head around.

Keeping it simple, I get more inspiration from someone’s example than I do from inspirational words or slogans. Maybe because I’ve been immersed in this world for so long, words and slogans tend to ricochet off me when I read or hear them.

To me, so-called inspirational quotes and slogans are often mindless lazy clichés trotted out, with little or no thought or imagination. I’m much more inspired when someone does something that I find really amazing. I don’t want you to tell me about something, I want to see someone or something amazing in action.

Courage, resilience, patience, hard work, genius, creativity and excellence: When I experience living or historical examples of these things with my own senses, I am blown away ... I get inspired.

Of course, that’s the thing: We get inspired when we connect to something that deeply resonates with us, especially our dreams for ourselves or our world. Let me come clean, as someone who used to make his living as an inspirational speaker: I learned loads of tricks, verbal and nonverbal, to inspire people, and thus earn my paycheck.

Inspiring people with words can be relatively simple and often easy too. You spray proven clichés far and wide with conviction, and many will be affected and respond as you want them to. If you know, or can guess, what your audience’s dreams and fears are, it’s not hard to punch their buttons. Just look at the success of the current raft of popular “people’s” politicians out there endeavouring to inspire their followers to...!

In our age of social media, it’s not words that inspire people; it’s the conviction behind the words that mesmerise them.

They look at someone who seems to have what they crave – power, fame, influence, respect and money, and they want that

y And too – even if it’s entirely false. Maybe we’ll explore that in a bit, for now, I want to hear Larry’s take on what I’ve just written.

Larry Andy, your points—about the lack of real power in overused words and the nefarious reasons that the words’ source has in mind – are well taken. The misuse and abuse of words, intended or not, should be considered when evaluating communication effectiveness.

In focusing on the true power of inspiration, I am introducing another perspective to evaluate the impact of words and role modelling. Viewing inspiration as a process in which the mind is stimulated to be creative, we tap into one of the great contributions to the evolution of humankind over many past millennia.

What has been and still is at stake is our civilization’s capacity to generate and apply creativity in many forms – such as inventiveness, ingenuity, imagination, originality, individuality, expressiveness, insight, vision, brilliance, sophistication and genius. Without these energies, Homo sapiens might still be living in caves and without fire I submit that words may lead to these lofty creative outcomes, but usually not alone. The examples of creative and

other elevated behaviours – while usually described in words, before or after their occurrence – are at their strongest power when embodied in a role-model person.

Yes, they used words, but over time the authenticity and integrity of their behaviour will be heard, seen, felt, believed and recognized. As Abraham Lincoln stated, “You can fool all the people some of the time, and some of the people all the time, but you cannot fool all the people all the time.”

Andy This piece is supposed to be about the role of Inspiration in Personal Growth, and yet I am drawn to the fact that inspiration can be misused. I’m thinking again about populist movements that are often used to constrain personal growth. Followers are often inspired and induced to do things that are not good for themselves or others.

Larry Andy, I respond by making a distinction between inspiration and motivation. Both concepts sound desirable in terms of being useful for people, but …

Strictly speaking, according to dictionaries, inspiration works through influence and suggestion. It may invite and energize the recipient to consider acting in a certain way, but without any clear pressure to act that way, its effect stops there.

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On the other hand,motivation plays with the mind, both conscious and unconscious, to manipulate the recipient to act as the source of the motivational statement or behaviour intends. While on the surface, the motivation is set up to feature the recipient’s benefit, in fact, the deemphasized, disguised or unseen reasons for the articulated motivation may actually be more to the source’s advantage and may involve disregarding and damaging the recipient’s well-being.

Andy So perhaps we can say, Inspiration is a stimulating thought that also acts to make our heart beat a bit faster. It’s the flash of an idea and it’s a feeling – something important and exciting appears possible. It is a positive trigger that can be something as simple as a few words or as slow burning as seeing someone achieve something amazing over time.

Motivation is different, it is the act of doing – changing something or at least trying to change something.

As always with all these discussions, I have more questions than when we started, and that’s a good thing! I think we can take this in other directions in future discussions.

One thought that follows up quite naturally, I believe, What makes ideas so powerful and dangerous? But let’s leave that for another dialogue.

Larry Let me quote Theodore Roosevelt, “Great thoughts [and words] speak only to the thoughtful mind, but great actions speak to all mankind.”

In the end, I believe personal growth is so desirable for the individual, group, society and Humanity that we should use whatever creative combination of words and role models – and expect some synergy – to encourage and stimulate it. And while words are always necessary, they typically are not sufficient for causing genuine and lasting change. The personality, behaviour and energy of the right role model are vital and often indispensable for the outcome of meaningful and extraordinary personal growth.

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Andy

So, Larry, I guess we should be vigilant every day regarding the words that we use and the way we behave because people do notice these things. We are, even when we don’t realise it, acting as a role model to those around us. And equally, we need to be on guard about the things we are listening to, and the people we are observing. So seek out positive role models, and read material that stimulates and encourages your personal growth. It’s perhaps obvious that it’s easy for us to get lazy and let it slide. Now there is another topic for the future, standards.

Larry, thanks for your thoughts. As always it’s been great to start with an idea and see it develop through our conversation.

Exploring ideas through conversation is something we could all be doing a lot more of. I believe that’s it a step towards building a happier and more rewarding world for all.

Keep up to date with Larry at: www.TheLarryShow.com

***** Keep up to date with Andy at: www.andyferguson.info

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HOW TO KEEP THE

LOVE ALIVE Samareh Rahnavardi Human Behavior Specialist. International Speaker. Life & Success Coach

The truth is that long-lasting love has to grow and evolve over the years and penetrate itself into the depth of your being. Let’s talk about how to keep that love alive which seems to be the challenge of many long lasted relationship. You have to remember that you’re not always going to feel that same infatuation kind of love and the butterflies, nor be who fell in love with your teenage lover. After the infatuation faze passes and the honeymoon time is over, you will evolve and so will your partner. The love changes and instead of emotion it becomes more of a true feeling. It will be less selfish and more giving, less selfcentered and truly caring. It is when you prefer to watch your loved one be happy and smiling no matter what they are busy doing, I mean to a point that even if you won’t be a part of that experience you would still genuinely be happy for your partner to do what is making him/her happy.

As the relationship grows old and mature so are we. Most couples assume as time passes and days of our lives go on they don’t need to have intimate conversations or exchange thoughts about each other’s views on life or their visions anymore, because they already know everything about their partner, or that they have been together too long that they already know each other. This is the biggest mistake people make that kills the enthusiasm on the relationship.

But what many don’t understand is that we grow and evolve as individuals constantly, and our likes, dislikes and opinions to change all the time. When you are five you are growing, when you are fifteen you are too and also when you are fifty and this goes on and on and on and we change through this growth.

The secret is to wake up every morning and look at your partner with new eyes and a new mind and take on an attitude full of enthusiasm and curiosity. Look at your partner with your imagination rather than a fixed mindset, which will bring injustice to yourself and your lover.

With all that’s said, I would like to mention the three basic requirements to keep the fire alive in a relationship and I leave you to meditate and ponder on the words I’m sharing.

Affection It is wise to pay close attention to your loved one’s love language and realize how they define being loved, then make an effort to give and express your love in that manner. Some feel loved by being told or being touched, some do by receiving presents. Which one is your own love language? Have you ever thought about that? What if you share it with your partner and express how you would like to be receiving affection. This allows your partner to feel comfortable and do the same.

Sexual desire Going to bed with an open and grateful heart for your partner allows you to feel desired and feel desire towards your partner. It is wise not to go to bed and sleep with resentment and brain noise.

Believe it or not, an attitude of gratitude towards your partner increases the sexual desire towards them too.

True Caring Truly caring for someone means you care enough to get to know that person and understand their true dreams and aspirations and show them that you are willing to support them into fulfilling those dreams. A fulfilled person is mostly a caring partner. So by helping your partner to fulfil their desires, you create a tremendous amount of love coming back to yourself.

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There is no time like the

PRESENT Winnie Mabena | Author and Founder of The Knowledge Effect

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In every human experience happiness and purpose are a want of fulfilment.

Optimizing it is a process which remains a challenge to many as this is thought for that; being happy and enjoying life are like luck and chance at the gaining tables.

This extends to thinking that happiness is for the rich and famous. Others think it’s all about finding a perfect partner, perfect job, perfect house, material possessions and of course not forgetting the elusive quest to be loved by all or surrounding ourselves and what we are supposed to do to another person.

These Ideas leave many finding themselves falling into a trap of focusing on negativity or living in defeat and of course still in self-distractive behaviour like poor self-image, vices and emotionally unstable behaviour all which are a recipe for disaster. This should not be the case for we are all made in the image of the divine; beautiful and powerful.

When something happens to you, you begin to magnify everything from the lenses of negativity without giving yourself a chance to focus on the positive side.

This is quite common in all of us but we must build a system to stop then and engage into problem-solving. It’s not every situation that leaves us vulnerable to be only a victim hoping for victory but sometimes we need to allow ourselves to be a student of the circumstances first then graduate to be a teacher by focusing on the positive side of things. This must be a quick action as the longer we take to realise the best out of the situation the deeper we sink into the worst of the situation.

Even in relationships; we must ask ourselves what we have learnt and what we are learning so we can avoid “history repeating itself” and manage current relationships while embracing the future relationships to come. Thus it’s important to know when the relationship has outlived its purpose or has become toxic or unmanageable, knowing when to let go and knowing when your time up. This is important in life regardless of the type of relationship.

We must cultivate skills and not regrets from life’s challenges and circumstances; skills to act upon the events that occur by transforming them into something positive or ideal. Thus personal development

is crucial as it will address the growth that one needs to have for emotional intelligence, relationship management, communications skills and personal productivity. These skills will work against all negative aspects of life while working on a lifetime project of mentorship which can be supported by grandparents, family, senior members of the society and family, pastors, priests and professional life coaches. We have mentors all around us and we can use them to cultivate these life skills. This shows us that we have the ability to decide on the kind of attitude to have over the events that occur in our lives.

Being happy is a matter of will and decision though unfortunately, others surrender to past, present and future events. If you surrender your happiness to the things that must and those things you expect do not come to pass, you will become the most unhappy person. What a way to live!

We will always remain with a choice to choose how to act, feel, react and think about what we get caught up with.

On contrary other tend to believe in God or their supreme being for fear of going to hell or condemnation but that robs one true happiness. One must believe in His or Her supreme being because they have come to conformity with who He is; knowing Him and building a relationship with Him. That is a journey to spiritual fulfilment and happiness is in there.

It’s therefore important to learn to control our thoughts and emotions in order to avoid undesirable or unwanted reaction towards the events that occur in our lives on a day to day basis. This can be made possible by being realistic in our expectations, exercising self-discipline, learning to shift from sorrowful thoughts to finding something that will distract one from ill thoughts and finding something to help one focus on his or her dreams. Find your dreams and stay on course for them.

Yes we all want the best for ourselves and we all seek fuller expansion and fulfilment but we should put a guard to our ambitions to allow ourselves to grow from where we are and go through the process.

This will help us attain optimal happiness and peace in the end even when the results are adverse.

Sometimes take a pose, quite your life deliberately and switch off to social media, electronic devices, noise, sometimes friends and relatives so you can listen to your own voice and your own thoughts which will tap you in or reconnect you to the divine frequency. This will include asking yourself deep self-introspective questions, say; what motivates me?

When you know what motivates you, you become better able to stay on course, develop self-confidence and exude the best out of the simple and ordinary things.

When you begin to allow yourself envision satisfactory results, experiences and contemplate on them, room for sad is quickly closed up and this leaves you feeling liberated even amid challenges.

Thus your ability to always engage in positive thinking will always keep you fulfilled and satisfied.

As humans, we are social beings and want to interact so our creative juices can continue to create new worlds of experience. Therefore, we must not overlook the fact that happiness is also associated with how we relate to others since we can not do life alone. We must, therefore, work at developing, nurturing and nourishing good interpersonal relationships. Communicating effectively, understanding, being courteous and respectful will also enhance and strengthen relationships which can bring out satisfying results and leave us feeling all happy and living joyfully.

Never postpone joy or happiness for the future due to challenges or circumstances at present. Be happy where you are but don’t be comfortable. Allow yourself to enjoy the simple things of today even if not all workouts as you planned or hoped for. Choose to focus on the positive side always as you let go the past events that were negative so they should not affect or spoil the now. “ As the ageless saying goes there is no time like the present.”

Be Positive!

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4 things to remember in all

RELATIONSHIPS Isik Tlabar | Transformational Coach, Writer. Workshop Leader.

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When someone rejects you, it doesn’t mean anything about you.

When someone doesn’t want to be with you, it can be almost automatic to take it personally. You might feel abandoned, unloved, unworthy or insignificant. You might question yourself as if there is something wrong with you or you might lose your confidence. You might even change yourself to fit into the criteria of that person so they don’t leave you.

When you’re being yourself and someone rejects you, that is actually a good thing.

It shows that you’re not right for each other. When you’re being yourself and that person wants to be with you, that’s beautiful. You win either way.

The truth is, there is someone for you out there who will love you for who you are.

You don’t have to change yourself and be less of who you are for someone. Ever.

When you compare yourself with others, you forget who you are.

When you compare yourself with others, you’re taking something external as a reference point and you lose your centre, you give your power away.

Especially on social media when you look at other people’s lives, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparison. You don’t know the whole story of what’s going on for them. No one’s life is perfect. Even if they tell you they don’t have any issues, that’s not true. They’re either playing it small, not being honest with themselves or haven’t gone deeper into their wounds.

Write a list of 20 things you love about yourself, it could be about how you look, your character, anything. 20 things that make you, you. Next time you catch yourself comparing with others, you can bring your focus back to what you love about yourself.

You can ask for what you want and have it.

You might feel like you can’t ask for what you want not just from your partner

but from people around you. It might feel awkward, you might feel you don’t deserve to have it or you might not want to let people in to keep yourself safe as asking for help requires vulnerability.

A good way to ask for what you want is to speak from your heart. Don’t offer favour first, or tell how tired you are hoping they’ll get the message, that’s manipulation. Ask directly. Be clear and loving. If they say no, that’s ok, again doesn’t mean anything about you. Ask someone else. You’ll be surprised how many people are willing to help you, they just don’t know how.

Give yourself what you want others to give you.

Close your eyes and imagine the 5-yearold you in front of you. What does s/he need? What does s/he need to hear from you to feel safe and loved? Tell them that.

Give your inner child what you want others to give you. This way you meet your own needs and you don’t get upset by others’ actions towards you, especially by your parents’. When the need for them to do something is not there, they naturally give you what you always wanted anyway. This also helps you to focus on your future with ease and flow rather than dwelling on the past.

I work on those areas (relationship & purpose) a lot in 1:1 coaching/clearing sessions. If you want to support in mastering these, message me.

Keep up to date with Isik at: www.isiktlabar.com

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THE

Invisible GRIEF

Dawn Bates | Iinternational bestselling author, coach and speaker.

idea what a gratitude flood was.

Going through our daily routines we soldier on. We look at what needs to be done and very rarely get five minutes to just sit and have a hot cup of tea, let alone making time for a gratitude flood!

This is something those with more time freedom do, those who have already made it or have a team of people on hand to do all the work for them.

Stuck in a world of doing, instead of receiving and gratitude is how the majority of us live our lives, until that fateful day a loved one dies. Maybe they are our parents, a friend of similar age; maybe they are younger, fitter, stronger and full of life. Only then do we take stock of our lives.

Back in October 2018, I faced my own mortality for the third time. Over the years I have lost friends due to drunk and reckless driving, drugs and dis-ease.

I learnt very early on to appreciate every moment we are given, being the very best version of myself, seeking joy in each and every moment.

Alignment was more about the external world and lining up physical objects.

Journalling was something I always made time for, I am a writer, of course, I kept a journal of reflections, dreams and poured my heart out into them.

Energetic vibrations and raising the vibration of the planet was also alien to me. I’d heard of chakras, had even had Reiki. Following that, emotional therapy healing came into my life.

Stop making excuses! Stop wasting your money on alcohol and drugs, clothing and crap you don’t need and start investing in yourself!”

I wanted to walk away from so many people and environments; finally realising I was ready for the next level in my life.

I was ready to answer my soul calling.

I was ready to create an even more powerful, positive impact on the world.

Losing your best friend at 11 years of age due to a drunk driver will do that to you; if you don’t drown in the sorrow of grief and allow the negativity to overtake your life, giving you a defeatist outlook on life.

I listened.

I realised recently through some deep journaling and coaching sessions both with my own clients and with my coach, that I have been so frustrated with people I wanted to shake them. Wanted to scream “Wake up! You’re better than this!

I listened to the frustrations in my head and the pain in my heart.

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I listened to my soul screaming at me.

I listened to my soul calling.

I listened to the discomfort I was feeling.

And I took action.

Now a few years ago I would have been very sceptical about ‘soul calling’, had no

Past life therapy was new to me and calling on the guidance from our ancestors was something Native Americans, Maoris and Aboriginals did.

Something the ancient tribes believed in, something that kept them grounded and grateful. It kept the communities strong, enabled them to live longer and kept them close to nature.

I was very aware of natural medicine and using plant-based medicines to open our minds and heal our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual selves, so stepping in soul and vibration, understanding we are all connection was a natural progression.

Reincarnation was something I did believe in, so taking this open-minded leap of faith into the unknown and getting really present to just how powerful all this work is, and how it impacts us in our daily lives, was easy.

Looking back at the journey of connecting to my tribe, my soul purpose and helping to raise the vibration of the planet, makes me realise how far I have grown, and how much work there is to do in this world.

Having got present to the confabulations, the lies we tell ourselves as truth has enabled me to see through the lies clients, family and friends, as well as colleagues and acquaintances tell themselves, and how powerful those lies are.

Stepping away from those who are not willing to invest in themselves, those who are happy to stay stuck in their pity party and dwell in their own drama, a comfort zone of self-sabotage, has been painful as well as incredibly freeing.

The grieving process can be very painful. It is not just our physical death that impacts us, but also the death of our former self, those desperately held beliefs that have got us to where we are today.

We grieve the loss of people who really only benefitted from us staying stuck because it relieved the guilt they felt

about staying stuck in their own lives; much of which is not even a conscious thought.

We grieve the loss of our ego.

We grieve for dreams created and plans made. We grieve for what could have been instead of being excited about what is to come. We grieve for things that have not even happened yet, instead of celebrating each and every moment we have and do not have.

Practising gratitude for the painful experiences in our lives enables us to harness the power of those lessons, using them to elevate and propel us forward.

Reflecting, rather than dwelling, on the impact everything we see, hear and feel has on us, on the world around us is essential if we are truly going to heal ourselves and the world we live in.

Gratitude heals grief.

healing process; it helps us shift into our new stage of evolution, space where we become closer to who we truly are, who we were born to be.

So take the time to get present to who you were born to be and own your place in the world.

The world needs you.

You need you.

So be you, and only you.

Keep up to date with Dawn at: www.dawnbates.com

Turning negatives emotions and thoughts into positive ones on a daily basis through journaling accelerates the

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Finding Myself In

24 Hours Jonathan Darling | Speaker: Engage The Heart Leadership.

It’s 30 minutes until 9:00 and I pull into the parking lot at Paris Mountain State Park in Greenville, South Carolina. I have butterflies and my palms are sweaty.

The Unbreakable 24-hour hike is a half hour from starting and I am still trying to convince myself that this was a good idea.

Less than a year before, I had decided to read the book “Unbreakable. A Navy Seals Way of Life” by retired Navy Seal Thom Shea. Thom wrote the book after being encouraged by his wife to write letters home to their kids, explaining lessons he would want them to learn if he never made it back. The book was incredible, but one section stood out. The 24-hour Challenge. Thom believes, that anyone can walk for 24 hours, however most will quit and give up due to negative self-dialogue and an inability to keep one’s word. He stated

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that if you can go, and commit, and walk for 24 hours, you would push past your preconceived limits and negative mindset to begin winning in life.

I needed this in my life. Up to this point, my life had been one of starting and never finishing. I didn’t believe in myself and didn’t believe I was made for anything. I constantly fought with myself and my negative dialogue and a belief that I wasn’t good enough. After reading his book, I knew I had to do this challenge. I was terrified.

As the parking lot started to fill up, the only thing similar among this group of people about to embark on this journey was the sense of uneasiness. No one really knew what to expect, however everyone seemed to be searching for something. What we would come to find out, is we were all searching for the answer to one question: Who am I?

The hike started, and for the first 12 hours spirits were seemingly good and the scenery had been beautiful. At about 8 hours in, we stopped at a lake in the middle of the park and took a dip. The cool water seemed to dull the burning in my feet and make me forget, for only a moment, that we still had 16 more hours to go. A few internal battles had started wagging with some of the participants but mine had yet to start. I was beginning to fear my hope of discovering what I was made of wouldn’t happen here.

We moved on to a hard surface in Traveler’s Rest to begin the night stage of the hike. The first leg seemed to fly by but the next thing I knew, I’d hit a wall. It’s 3:00am and we are taking a break, all of us laying or sitting on the cold pavement.

I didn’t want to get up. I didn’t want to move. If I could be honest, I wanted to call an uber and be gone. I still had 6 hours to go.

For the next 3 hours, I was battling a barrage of negative internal dialogue.

Everything inside of me was telling me to quit. My feet, knees, lower back and thighs burned. I had a slight headache and my mind kept telling me that I wasn’t good enough to finish. Every negative event and decision played back in my head trying to remind me of the type of man I believed I was. Every time I had quit, every time I had given up, replayed in my mind along with the voices of all those who had doubted me, made fun of me and told me that I would never be enough. They were loud, almost over bearing, but deep inside, a small, very faint, weak voice called out….. “take another step”.

This voice, however faint at the start, kept calling to me. It was pleading with me, “take another step.” Each step I took, it got louder. We would circle back every so often to our base of operation, resupply and then set back out on the trail, and each time, the voice got louder. My feet hurt, my legs cramped and I could barely stand but it was almost as if the pain and fatigue were somehow fueling this voice inside of me. As each thought of quitting popped up, the voice kept calling me to keep moving and not give up.

It was at that moment, when the blackness of the night sky started to shift to a light shade of blue and the sun started to peak up over the trees that this once still, small voice sounded like

it was coming through a megaphone. It was screaming at me and reminding me that I WAS enough and that I HAD what it takes. It reminded me that God had made me with a purpose and for much more than I could imagine. It told me that no matter what others thought, their fears and limitations do not have any power over me. In that moment, at 6:15am, 21 hours after starting our hike, I found myself. From that moment on, you could have chopped off my foot and I wouldn’t have quit. I could do it. I could honor my word. I could do more than my selfimposed limits suggested I could. I found my true self in 24 hours.

Do you need to find yourself? Do you have negative beliefs about yourself that are holding you back? Believe me, you were made for so much more. You were made for purpose and to impact this world in an amazing way, but maybe it’s time for you to find that out for yourself.

The questions is, are you willing to take 24 hours to change your life?

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The voice inside of me was screaming and reminding me that I WAS enough and that I HAD what it takes.

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Ignite Your Fire to Transform Your

V.I.S.I.O.N. Jennifer.J.Bryant | Coach and Motivational Speaker Founder/President Reaching Within, Empowerment Journey

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Are you stuck and can’t progress because you are feeling like your feet are in quicksand and fear is holding you back from following your passion?

Often we throw in the towel and say to ourselves that we can’t do it because we don’t know where to start. Some of us have a difficult time moving past failures, and disappointments. I can relate.

I have had my share of disappointments to include being fatherless during my childhood and spending my teenage years caring for a mentally ill mother - a time during which my only sibling was incarcerated. After going through domestic abuse in two different relationships during my twenties, I looked past my challenging beginnings and reached within myself and my reliance on faith to find strength. I learned to be resilient, follow-through on an action plan, and leverage my resources. I realized that my burning desire to expand beyond the path that was set for my childhood I wanted to pursue a career in public service. I earned my bachelor’s degree, I found a day job working for the federal government and cleaned bathrooms at night in that same building.

After graduating college, I moved up the ranks quickly going from a clerk-typist to senior management, and I wanted to share some of my tips with you.

If you’re lacking clarify in making your next career move it is important to have a positive attitude to create and execute your vision for success. You’re not given a compass to navigate through life. Let me breakdown the pictorial version of my V.I.S.I.O.N. Model for you.

A way of successfully achieving your goals is to follow my V.I.S.I.O.N. model:

Visualize, Initiate, Strategize, Integrate, Opportunities, and Next Steps.

Visualize: 1. Think about what you want to achieve or want to happen. What are your passions, talents, skill sets, and expertise?

3. Creating realistic milestones(actionable steps to accomplish your goals) Integrate action into your goal setting process:

4. Feel the excitement of accomplishing your goal.

You’ll need to keep your determination going to accomplish your goals. Hold yourself accountable. Reach out to those who have achieved the success you are looking to achieve. Ask them what it took to get to where they are today, and how they handled setbacks. Consider getting a mentor, and an accountability partner for weekly check ins.

5. Brainstorm what needs to happen

Opportunities:

Initiate Goals:

An opportunity provides you with a chance to change your circumstance for the better. Sometimes people miss out on incredible opportunities every day because they see problems. Shift your mindset. Look for opportunities to improve, gain experience, and turn negative situations into fuel to win. You must foster, cultivate, and strengthen relationships to gain support to better your circumstances. When you show people that you are willing to go the extra mile, you’ll find the more easily opportunities will come your way. You have to show up with confidence in your skills, and hold a positive attitude even when things don’t go well.

2. Get still, close your eyes, and think deeply about what you want.

3. Picture what it will take to accomplish your goals.

When setting up your goals, it is important to make them Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Results Oriented, and Timely (specific calendar date).

Visualizing isn’t about a magic trick. You have to do the hard work and follow a process to achieve the result. The SMART method is a strategy for goal setting that will result in a high probability of success. Describe your goal down to the last detail ensuring that it’s measurable and achievable. As you work towards your goal, you must evaluate and readjust your plan.

Strategize: You will need to do the hard work of developing the right strategies for achieving your goals. It requires consistent and persistent action, and breaking down your goals into milestones through: 1. Properly planning 2. Instilling discipline and eliminating bad habits

Next Steps: Reach Within to bring out your winning mentality. Ignite your fire, take action, and transform your V.I.S.I.O.N. Let the light of your fire illuminate so brightly that other’s will have to put on extra UV protected sunglasses.

Fear will creep in, sending signals to our brain that you will fail. To counter that negative mindset, fill your mind with uplifting and inspiring information to remain motivated. Track your progress, be proud of your accomplishments, and celebrate those wins. When you’re having a difficult time, reflect on how much work you’ve done to overcome your challenges.

Reach Within and Go Get It: We live in a microwave society with instant gratification. Here’s a reality check. Big goals take time to achieve.

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You’ll get there by implementing the steps I described in this article, and stick it out long enough to see things through without giving up. You have unique powers within yourself to ignite your fire where nothing is impossible, transform your mindset, take action, and positive results will come. Find the fuel that ignites your passion. You must believe you can do it, and take the necessary steps to do the work.

Successful people consistently make positive changes in their lives by reflecting daily to change their approach in their personal and professional life experiences. In my uniquely crafted 30 day interactive journal, Overcoming Personal Challenges to Achieve Professional Success, I share my story of how I overcame traumatic events to climb the corporate ranks.

I walk you through my belief system of how I survived personal challenges to show up as a higher performer in the workplace. My journal provides inspirational quotes, blank pages and prompts that will empower you to reflect and set goals to achieve personal and professional success. My coaching prompts will help you reach within o balance your personal and professional life through maintaining a positive attainder and mindset, enhancing self awareness, managing stress, achieving effective communication, and handling disappointments.

Reach Within to IGNITE YOUR FIRE to Live Your Life Victoriously and Successfully! Your talents weren’t meant to stay with you alone.

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Feel the

CONTRAST and make a choice

Vanessa Louise Moore | Transformational Mentor & Speaker.

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“The contrast is necessary for the focus.

But the beating yourself up for the contrast is not necessary”. - Abraham Hicks I totally get it….a new year ~ a fresh page to create and begin again. Isn’t that exciting?

We feel motivated and empowered to give it all another go. Revise our vision.

Ignite our passion. Energise ourselves and our lives. This is THE year! The time is NOW! It’s up to me.

Or maybe not? The overwhelming feeling of beginning again. Why will this year be any different to any other? A whole new year ahead of me and I don’t know where to start first. Why do I keep finding myself here and feeling as though I have an amazing place right here right now and yet I wished I had the momentum and the gusto to make it happen for me.

I’m feeling ready yet tired. Willing yet apathetic. Excited yet fed up.

Empowered yet futile. For goodness sake what’s wrong with me? Why can’t I seem to get my s#*t together? I know how to do this, so why aren’t I doing it?

Sound familiar? This happens all too often and not just at the start of a new year. I believe we feel the contrast collectively at this time of year when the focus is on big hairy audacious goals, world-changing visions and aspirations and ground-breaking transformation within and without. Especially for those of us who have felt called or chosen to serve the world with our love and light.

As all things in the Universe are One ( the same), then nothing can be different ~ hot is the same as cold, pain the same as pleasure just at different ends of the spectrum. It is only our perception of them that changes.

By allowing us to experience both sides, polarity, by definition, creates balance and harmony in the Universe and allows us to fully experience and appreciate our experiences, here on Earth.

I have learnt to accept that as a human being, I have the ability to experience pleasure, and I also have the ability to experience pain. The greater my pleasure, the greater my pain. Once I realised and accepted this beautiful contrast exists for my benefit, I recognised that the tension created from experiencing both ends of the spectrum within myself and my life, caused me to make a choice. Making this choice released me from the tension I was experiencing and enabled me to focus my energy on what I do want to experience in myself and my life.

Our inner being is constantly trying to express itself. Our inner being is peace and harmony and seeks to experience the Joy in life.

One thing my loved ones and clients have learnt about me is that when we talk about and experience this level of frustration, I tell them I find it all very exciting.

The human part of us naturally ignites the opposite, causing the contrast to create uncomfortable tension. When we feel the pain of the tension, this is a sign we are not in alignment with our inner being and it’s up to us to take responsibility for ourselves by choosing to listen to this inner guidance system.

Exciting, why? Think about it….how do you know what hot feels like? Because you have felt what cold feels like. How do you know what tired feels like? Because you have felt alive and vibrant at times.

How do you know what pain and despair feel like? Because you have experienced love and joy.

So now we understand the true meaning of our pain, the reason for our indecisiveness and that contrast is present, as a Universal Law and to indicate we are turning away from our true self, we can make the choices in the knowledge that they will serve us if we make the choice that helps us feel good.

The law of polarity states that everything that exists has an opposite ~ Love and Hate ~ Dark and Light ~ Success and Failure ~ Happiness and Sadness, one cannot exist without the other.

Our choices are what shape ourselves and our lives. Begin with choosing to be kind to yourself and accepting that you and your life is made up of contrasts.

Keep up to date with Vanessa at: www.trustvanessa.com

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Thy Faith SHALL HEAL THEE. Mercy Juma l Creative Writer, Psychologist, Inspirer

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I gave a livid cough trying to transmute the silence that was hovering over us as if each expected doom to appear dressed like a persecuted angel. “Hogwash,” I thought to myself, “Not worth my time.”

I squared my eyes on the speaker determined to prove him wrong. “What kind of profane mind would ever come up with such an unbelievable story?” I huffed. “I definitely should have stayed in bed!” This was a story I almost laughed at out loud and found it very foolish that someone would even think it, boy was I wrong.

As the story goes, three people fell sick.

One was African, one Asian and one a European. Seemingly, they had the same symptoms: a running stomach, headache, vomiting and diarrhoea.

“Where can I find proof of what you are actually plundering on about?” I wanted to shout, my arrogant self pleased with herself that I actually knew it all and was way better than the blubbering fool in front of me. My pride, I must say, was not something to contend with at the moment.

“The world is an illusion. What you believe is what appears to be yet that is not really it in reality, though it becomes your reality ultimately if that is what you believe,” our presenter went on and the comment struck a chord inside me, though at that time it seemed like a harsh slap across my ego’s arrogant face.

“Hey! Just maybe the so-called blubbering fool did actually have brains!”

That punch was one I did not take very kindly.

“The African went to a witch doctor to seek relief, the Asian went to a praying herbalist and the European went to a hospital,” the presenter went on.

You should have seen my reaction as my nose swell like a Siberian tiger about to attack her victim. “Now wait a minute…” The tip of my tongue wanted to form those words but seemed to have been under temporary paralysis and the words stuck in my throat as all the accusing pairs of eyes went swoosh in my direction, only to realize that I had growled out loud. Oops!

Africans who sought out witchcraft and not prayer? This was unforgivable.

The host could see the question written all over my face. “Mercy you seem to be in deep thought. Is there anything you wish to share with us?

“Placebo effect sir, that is what is going through my mind,” Oh my! Liar! “Oh I see!” though I could see the shadow of doubt quickly sweep across his face and for a second I thought I had imagined it.

In my mind, I was thinking, “what racist nincompoop dares share such a story in a public gathering and what kind of buffoon would ever believe it?” I was an African for Pete’s sake, born and bred in Africa but I had to correct this illiterate fool and school him concerning the African culture which he knew nothing about. This was written all over my face.

“To each his own belief!” The presenter commented smiling, almost as if he had been reading my mind. “Don’t Africans believe in magic called witchcraft?” My mind shot at me. “This medicine you seem to proudly speak of, was it not introduced to you by the foreigners?”

That rude mind-voice shut me up for a few moments.

“I’m sorry. Please proceed” I gave the presenter a ‘know-it-all-smile’.

“The African believed that he had been cursed. The Asian sought prayer from the gods and was given traditional herbs while the European believed he had Cholera and sought help from a hospital.

To each his own belief! Each of the three recovered though they sought help differently.”

“Sort of like the placebo effect” my egotistical mind (prideful in every essence) reminded me.

“Thy faith shall heal thee. It is not the object of the faith that heals one but the faith itself,” the presenter finally declared.

I was shaking my ghastly shaking my head like a make-up seizure on showscreen, my brow creased with wonder and each line spelling doubt and pessimism. Did Europeans not believe in magicians? Why did it have to be

Who was I kidding though? It was one thing to think about something and another to totally rubbish a renowned speaker when his story seemed to make a valid point. So I swallowed my pride and let in the voice of reason. At that point though, my thoughts took a different path.

Millions of books have been written concerning thousands of topics across time and even two books that address the same topics do so by presenting different arguments and ideas. As different as we all are, similar in many ways yet individually unique, united in being yet separate in body and mind we are bound to see things differently and only believe in those things that work for us. How presumptuous of me, then to assume that others should only see the world as I did. We each see the world through different lenses.

Who was I to judge? Who was I to speak of prejudice? Who was I to say I was open-minded and educated when I reacted like a blinded person who felt attacked and vulnerable then let pride take over her emotions?

At that moment I realized my stupidity and knew why the speaker had given me a knowing smile. When I chose to see and with an open mind listen with an open mind and put down my defences, it was not that bad. In fact, it was an insight that I found very genius indeed. Who was the hogwash now?

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Super Fuel YOUR MOTIVATION Aneta Grabiec | The Wellness Designer ‘Motivation. How uncool that word just sounds. It somehow by default switches us into the procrastination mode…Procrastination is the biggest, greatest nemesis of motivation and to kill procrastination is the synonym to boosting the motivation. How?

Usually, to get the job done, it is enough merely to begin doing it

“..action itself is the best starting point for more action while trying to think your way into more motivation is an unreliable and ineffective way to create forward motivation.” Stephen Guise

If you’re procrastinating (getting overwhelmed) with your business planning or creating your lifestyle, break your target task down into the smallest possible chunk and just do THAT! You don’t need to come up with the entire life plan—just start writing down, step by step with focus and single-tasking, consistently adding the tasks and actioning them: 1 in and 1 out.

JUST DO IT! This Nike slogan says it all: the research into procrastination has identified practical ways that can help overcome the tendency to procrastinate and the single most important technique is called ‘the five-minute take off and is…... simply, starting to do the thing you have been putting off, no matter how little you feel like doing it.

We often believe that to do something we have to truly want to do it—to be in the right mood, to feel inspired. Wrong!

Usually, to get the job done, it is enough merely to begin doing it—the initial action kick-starts the process and often brings about more action.

“The beginning is the most important part of the work.” Plato Remember Newton’s law from school?

“An object at rest tends to stay at rest; an object in motion tends to stay in motion” MOTION, get yourself into that motion, just get going.

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You don’t need to write your whole life script. You don’t need the whole marketing plan—just 1 idea. You don’t need to eat perfectly today—just start with making 1 healthy nutritional choice and observe how you feel? fluently within a year or sitting 60 min every morning for meditation - laugh at it, as attempting such ambitions will likely make your mind freak out and find excuses on how to never get started!

Instead, have a mini target, your defenses go down and you (easily!) take that first (and hardest!) baby step—creating momentum that will likely keep you going.

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Christine & John Saunders Empowerment Coach - Wholehearted Life

You won’t always know when men feel safe enough to open up.

You will have to have awareness.

Things to look for; softer voice, a slight touch, distant and maybe even a “can we talk”.

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How can women create and cultivate a space of safety for the men in our lives?

As I began to write this piece, I found myself broadening my thoughts about this topic and have concluded this is not a gender-centric topic, but a human topic. For now, I want to want to share my thoughts on how women can support men and aid in building resiliency in the emotional health of men.

As I begin this piece I will state the obvious, of course, I am not a man. I am simply a woman seeking to understand and share my knowledge in order to ease suffering for anyone I can, whenever I can.

Like most days my heart is saying speak my truth and share my perspective and experience as I see and understand it. This just happens to be from my perspective, on how I believe women can authentically ease suffering for the men in our lives. I know, how can women really speak about this, right? What I can share with you is my years of experience and conversations with some extraordinary men. I can share my insight and inspire others who may also need some enlightening.

Let’s start when the men in our lives are young boys growing up with their fathers...yep I am going back that far!

Men in general in our society have been taught not to show emotions, hide them away from the world, be tough, suck it up, and get over it. Now I believe we all know this to some extent. Unless you have been able to shut out the news, social media posts, or simply operating in the space that allows you to ignore there are men suffering every day in our lives. What I don’t think we realize is how incredibly detrimental these behaviors are to the emotional intelligence and emotional connections we have with others and especially with self. I want to make sure I am clear. I am far from blaming anyone, I am simply stating a cultural norm. The intention of fathers historically was not malice but from a place of survival.

Knowing this is an ingrained survival trait, how do we as women create this space for men to express emotions in a vulnerable way?

We need to have awareness of rules, values, beliefs, behaviors, and actions for the men in our lives. I should say this is for all the men in our lives not just our significant others. This is our husbands, partners, fathers, brothers, sons etc. This means setting aside our own fears and assumptions and allowing space. When I say space, I mean we sometimes need to give men a literal space for a while.

Like, walk away, chill out and provide distance. When we see men suffering it is our first intuition to go sooth and fix the situation. What we must realize and understand is by interpreting certain behavior and energy, its ok to give that physical space at times. Because we all know we make up stories to justify behavior and rationalize what is happening. I used to think to myself “what have I done to make him feel this way” and I overcompensated. What I experienced most times is pushing the issue at this point was for me and not for him. Then he retreated creating even more distance. What I express to myself at this moment is “it’s ok’. This takes setting aside our desire to fix, remain flexible, empathetic and really be ok with the distance. It might be a good idea to establish ahead of time a statute of limitations. I know it can be challenging to give up this sense of control, it really is a vital element in establishing trust and respect. Oh, and here is the kicker, he may not say that he needs space.

He may just shut down. It is up to you to walk away until he is ready and there may be an instance where you need to ask again. That’s ok, remember “not show emotions” is a powerful trait that just doesn’t disappear overnight! Oh, one more and very important phenomenon…

Most likely, just like women, it really is not about the other person. It’s about not feeling understood and our own rules and needs not being met.

You won’t always know when men feel safe enough to open up. You will have to have awareness. Things to look for; softer voice, a slight touch, distant and maybe even a “can we talk”. Now is the time to set aside our fear and ego and create that safe, loving space for him to express feelings in a vulnerable safe environment.

This is the physical space of open body language and presence. Space where we remain flexible and really listen. Listening not to fix or react, more to simply accept whatever energy is needing to be expressed. This space will hold that energy and suspend it for a bit and most importantly it presents the opportunity to let it release and for it then to be gone. Be aware, as for me when I see a man in my life suffering and at the same time able to express true emotions with tears, it is challenging for me to not match his energy. This is normal, no need to question it. Go with the energy.

This is a form of ending that internal suffering. Ultimately this increases trust, vulnerability and in turn, strengthens emotional regulation. What we used to see as anger, may really be fear or sadness that can be expressed in an authentic way.

Once we understand how to create this space literally or in an intimate way we can begin to shift the stigma for the men in our lives. We can then create authentic connections with them. Where they know they have trust and a judgement free space to express thoughts feelings, dreams and wins. What is equally important is the way we are setting an example for younger generations because this isn’t showing weakness.

It’s about empowering boys and men to become the best version of themselves.

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Your intimate self The art of mating with your soul, mind, heart and body Samantha Caroline LavallĂŠe | Writer & Lover of all things soul at Beautiful Disaster.

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Your relationship with self is the most important relationship you will ever have in this lifetime, and it’s the only one that will last your entire life from your first breath till your last breath.

I deeply believe that it is worthy and deserving of your loving attention, of your genuine curiosity and want to further explore the magic of you.

I trust that when we honour and cherish the relationship we have with self that we are not only transforming ourselves but that we are also creating the space for the transformation we wish to empower and embody in the world for others as well.

May you always remember: Your joy and happiness is an inside out responsibility.

Your life is yours and yours alone; You belong to no one.

There’s is no need to fit anywhere.

You have the power of choice.

To choose you is to choose love.

Your commitment to self is one of your greatest lifetime investments. As this will dictate the quality of your life as a whole from personal to relational to financial.

Your Loving oneself compassionately and unconditionally is the greatest gift you can give to self and bestow unto humanity at large.

REMEMBER that selfless love includes the self.

Understand that you are the common denominator within all other relationships you have in your life.

Come to know that your relationship with self determines the quality of all other relationships you have.

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wellbeing is the key factor which sets the tone for healthy nurturing relationships that grow and enlivens you, others too by default. They amplify the joy of life, creating even more space for harmony and bliss. Peace & fulfilment.

Have you taken the time to reflect upon your relationship status with self? If you desire to, ask yourself these basic questions to gain more clarity; • Are you in a healthy relationship with self? (What would that look like to you?)

• Do you even have a relationship with self? (Did you ever think about that or is this a new concept to you?)

• Do you feel lost or confused about who you are in this life? (Be honest with yourself, no right or wrong answers, rather seeking understanding for self.)

• Do you often feel lonely even when you are surrounded by others?

• Do you miss you at times? (Do ever feel like you need solitude to connect with yourself?)

• Do you know what it feels like to spend quality time with self? To care and nurture self? (If so, what we the ways you do?)

• Do you betray your healthy boundaries and not honour them for self by always saying yes because you don’t want to hurt another or disappoint another or cause any conflict?

If you found yourself feeling quite discontent with your response, take heart, as it is a great starting point to seeing what areas to improve upon so your relationship with self doesn’t have to continue to be like that. It’s not bad. It’s discovery and learning.

You can rediscover a quality of life that is true to you and feels good to you with simple steps by simply beginning to love you again.

Keep it simple, and ask yourself now: • Are you ready to commit to empowering yourself?

• To loving yourself?

• To nurture the hell out of yourself?

• To reconnect with self?

• To rediscover the magnificence of your own unique signature of aliveness? No more comparing with other.

• To be You and stop that damn apologizing racket for being all of you, quirks and all? We all have them, and it’s usually the most endearing parts of us that sets us apart from others.

Embrace that!

• To remember who you are and love yourself to back to life! No more judgement. It’s sickening to your health.

I cannot convince you. I won’t waste my energy in doing so either, but know that I will strive to inspire you through my very own expressions if you allow me to touch your heart and tease your brilliant senses.

• Do you put yourself last rather than be a priority?

It is not selfish to love yourself, READ THAT AGAIN!

• Are you so kind that it hurts you because in your need to be kind through your genuine acts of kindness you have forgotten to include self or have neglected you?

It is actually very unhealthy to not love yourself, which is in a way selfishness, but that’s an observation, not a judgment because when you are not well others don’t get to experience the magic that is you.

• Are you exhausted and tired, and/or are you often finding yourself ill?

• Are you sad and depressed about who you are, where you are in relation to major areas of your life?

Take time to really reflect. Be honest. No sugar coating the shit. Be real.

This is your life, your relationship with yourself. You matter. You deserve a healthy harmonious delicious relationship with you!

It is time to stop the shaming game of never enough or always too much! LET THAT SHIT GO! It is useless.

It is time to give up the worry and fear of not being liked by others and focus on at least starting to like yourself. Because the truth is if you don’t like you it doesn’t mean a bag of beans if a million others like you!

You not liking you is one of life’s ultimate

tragedies as you are lying to self in order to gain the acceptance of others and in the process of that self-perpetuated hell you are suffering silently to your death.

You don’t need to live there.

It’s so time to put down the blame card... the truth is and I say this with the utmost compassion and deepest empathy (I have been there too) we all have lived horrible things and our hearts have been broken and unfair unjust unjustified shit has happened...yet lest we not forget that though we have been the recipient of such, we too have been at times the giver of such hurt too...whether intentional or not, it is reality, human base reality. Own it. Become aware. Do better. Period.

So let’s be real and transparent in our blaming if we are gonna blame for all the bad that happened in our lives we outta be ready to blame for all the good too!

There’s the duality that brings us back to Oneness.

You see we are human beings and we make mistakes but we too need to remember we do good too! So stop with the petty stuff by letting go of complaint and start the fucking celebration!!!

Are you ready to come back home, to self through compassionately loving all of self?

If so, all you need to do is affirm and start where you are one breath, one thought, one action at a time My Loves.

That’s how you began to cultivate and deepen a long-lasting profoundly intimate relationship with self; by mating with your soul, mind, heart and body.

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IF THE SHOE FITS Jennifer Thorp | Author, Photographer and Life Alchemist

Lord Byron wrote “ The Pleasure is in the Pathless Woods” and I couldn’t agree more. Ideally, while searching for the pleasure, let all the walking to be done in a good pair of shoes. I also agree with the saying “If the shoe fits, wear it”; but, what serves our soul, doesn’t always fit our feet.

This came to be true in my recent search for new shoes. I walk several miles every day. I love it and I am really grateful to be able to go and do whatever it is I choose via my own two feet. I enjoy walking so much that as I plan my waking hours, I make sure to pencil in time to dedicate to a foot trip, even if it is only to the nearest treadmill. So when my feet started to hurt, I figured I was due for a new shoe or two.

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I wanted two basic pairs. One pair of shoes for inside workouts, the other for outdoor walks. I like a cross trainer or running shoe to wear at the gym. The second pair being all weather, trail runners. The trail runners that are waterproofed work best, especially during rainy seasons, which are pretty much year round here in Pacific Northwest.

Agreeably, buying new shoes was not the biggest mountain of truths I had to face; but the foot pain was enough of a thorn to motivate change and, going through the process, unearthed a gold mine of thoughts and discoveries. Surprising enough to me is the shoe shopping process runs a sharp parallel (pardon another foot pun) to many things I’ve experienced in my life; so, pay attention to

the details in the undercurrent for secondhand messages afoot in content.

There are lots of other types of shoes I like and own. Pumps, flip-flops, wedges, slides, clogs, tennis shoes, golf shoes, puddle jumpers, snow boots, cowboy boots, hikers, bikers, high tops and low slung heels, sandals and slippers. Each pair has a purpose. I guess I’ve banked almost as many pairs of shoes as there are life purposes for them right down to finding the perfect pump for that little black dress. It’s easy to simply shop for shoes on appearance or utility, but my own selfdriving duality of looks and fit complicated the search, because I want to look good and feel good simultaneously while I do my walking thing.

This undertaking, though small or nonexistent to other people, was of the greatest importance to me. My very soles depended on good shoes. Both pairs had to be the perfect fit and be to my liking looks-wise; so, I began my hunt. It was an easy enough task, that really took only a bit of time and money, along with a self-imposed drive to make my feet stop aching at every moment I was standing still.

I thought I was covering all my bases. I shopped and talked about the shoe search constantly. There was even outreach and consulting involved so that I might gather material by referrals from people known and unknown alike regarding shoe reviews.

Weeks passed and time added up, so did the pairs of shoes. I was collecting enough new pairs of shoes to build the foundation for my own small wall. At last count, there were ten. Additionally, I was so consumed with the search; I talked about the shoe story to friends and strangers alike, because, at this point, my obsession had really limited my range. Not getting results, along with not getting anyone’s attention and full-time sympathy over my shoe hunt, I began to mope about; outwardly and inwardly, as I complained openly to just about everyone in my sights.

Here too I realized the fishing expedition for soles, versus souls, was not a going in the direction I’d hoped. Although my shopping was a success as I cast my net out into the deep sea of retail, my catch produced a mountainous, heaping pile. A small basket not big enough, I needed a cart to carry all of the walking shoes I was trying and buying. None seemed to feel any better than the old ones that I blamed for my foot pain. The process wasn’t working well. My feet were still bothering me. Funny thing about the shoe shopping experience is, the whole time I was going through the sole search, I kept falling back to the parallel use of the words “soul” and “searching”.

Reflecting back, what I have discovered is that I was and still am, unable to find any singular word to describe anyone persons “soul”. Just like the shoe story where none of the new pairs of shoes soothes sore feet; in life, there are lots of steps that get you there, only to aid in moving you to the next. There too, it’s an inside job based on resources, energy and perspective. Over

the years the stuff in life I have experienced has shown me that the only way anything is going to feel good, like my feet, is to go to the source. Conclusion, the solution or answer to all and for all relegates back to the person searching; he or she will likely find what leads them to a sort of catchphrase with an answer “it’s an inside job”. My feet just needed my attention. I was a little careworn and needed TLC. Once properly identified, mission accomplished. Heal the heels! My doing so was a wiser and much less expensive solution. Let me just note, as, with countless other topics, you can “Google” foot fixes. I tried several and found a few techniques that offered some relief, but it took discipline and focus. Icing, stretching, repeat, icing stretching, repeat, stretch, breath, relax – again, icing stretching, taping, more stretching, exercises and weeks of my time, in tandem with practice walking on carpets, as I tested out each new pair, my combined efforts readied me to choose a shoe or two. I found for myself, that I had to take care of me, by servicing the body temple before any shoe would do. In the end, the pieces of my personal puzzle fell into place; so, I thought my lessons through the process worth sharing

because you may very well have a thing or two that need your attention if you are a soul searcher.

So, as in finding not one, but two pairs of shoes that serve for different activities that are the same, but different to me, the search for self comes from within but there is an outside party that can better equip the walker and wanderer in us all. Life is greater when we recognize, true comfort of the soul comes by embracing its presence.

Peace rests steadily in our heart and soul when each of us come to understand it to be so, it is only then that you really can say you love the skin your in no matter what you are wearing or not wearing on your own two feet. It’s all about the beat. HAPPY TRAILS… “Into the forest, I go to lose my mind and find my soul” ~John Muir.

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Living POSITIVELY Growing Up in one of the rural areas of Zambia Africa. Winnie Mabena was born with the odds set against her. Born into a culture where the society doesn’t see the value in a girls life seemed unbearable.

Determined to defy the odds she was born into Winnie begins the journey determined to succeed. Suddenly her life takes a drastic near death turn. Life as she knew it would never be the same.

Will Winnie choose to thrive once more or will it be too much to bare and easier to choose death?

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Winnie Mabena

Winnie Mabena is an International Speaker, Author, Trainer, Civil registrar and Founder of The Knowledge Effect, a nonprofit company that is working to empower communities by promoting literacy.

Winnie is currently serving as Board Chairperson for Young Women in Action and for nearly three years she volunteered with Plan as a National Representative for the Youth Advisory Panel for Plan International Zambia. She has participated in various local and international consultation processes especially on ending child marriage and promoting girls rights.

Her tenacity to improve lives is unrelenting thus she uses her life experience so far “ her journey as a girl and living positively” to empower and transform young women like her with knowledge on various issues including promoting education, Surviving HIV/AIDS, ending child marriage, mentorship, living a rural community, and literacy. Winnie envisions a world where people are fully empowered with knowledge to live above social problems through promoting literacy.

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Her favorite quote goes by Nelly Ray “I know what giving up looks like, I want to see what happens if I don’t give up”. Her dream is to grow into a voice for the voiceless at a global level. To get to her dream Winnie keeps investing in her education and she currently pursuing her professional course in teaching methodology.

She holds a Bachelor of Arts Double Major Degree in Library and Information Science and Public Administration alongside a Diploma in Management Studies from the University of Zambia.

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