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Earthtalk from the Editors of “E” the Environmental Magazine

Dear EarthTalk: How can we keep our kids safe from environmental hazards all around us in our everyday lives?

— Jennifer Nichols, Wareham, MA

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hildren are affected by the same environmental hazards as adults, only they’re more vulnerable given their smaller size and the fact that their bodies are still developing. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), harmful exposures can start as early as in utero.

“Proportionate to their size, children ingest more food, drink more water and breathe more air than adults,” reports WHO. “Additionally, certain modes of behavior, such as putting hands and objects into the mouth and playing outdoors can increase children’s exposure to environmental contaminants.”

Some of the most common contaminants we should be vigilant about avoiding include pesticides (in foods), lead (in old paint), asbestos (in insulation and construction materials), BPA (in plastic food/drink containers and the lining of cans), PFCs (in nonstick cookware, carpeting and mattresses) and flame retardants (in furniture and drapery). And, of course, many branded household cleaners contain potentially hazardous ingredients (bleach, ammonia , diethanolamine, triethanolamine) as well.

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elements are in today’s world, keeping kids safe isn’t an easy task . For star ters, choose organic food and drink whenever possible to cut down on the pesticides your kids ingest. While pesticides work well to keep away the bugs that can ruin harvests, they also can cause neurological and reproductive problems for humans who ingest traces of them. Apples, celery, strawberries, peaches, spinach, nectarines, grapes, bell peppers, potatoes, blueberries, lettuce and

kale/collard greens are the worst offenders in the produce aisle, according to the Environmental Working Group (EWG), so definitely spring for organic versions of these particular fruits and veggies. Packaged and processed foods likely contain plenty of pesticide residues, too, unless they are marked as certified organic.

To avoid household cleaners, the Organic Consumers Association (OCA) recommends ditching the expensive specialized products that likely contain harmful chemical additives. “A few safe, simple ingredients like soap, water, baking soda, v i n e g a r, l e m o n j u i c e a n d borax, aided by a little elbow grease and a coarse sponge for scrubbing, can take care of most household cleaning needs.” Look for specific formulations on organicconsumers.org, as well as links to some environmentally friendly name-brand household cleaners.

While there is less we can do individually about air pollution if we want our kids to spend

Children are affected by the same environmental hazards as adults, only they’re more vulnerable given their smaller size and the fact that their bodies are still developing.

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time outdoors, at the macro level we can all help by driving our cars less and turning down our thermostats (to reduce the emissions we cause) and ordering less stuff online (to cut down on air pollution from shipping).

Parents, teachers and caregivers should educate themselves about what to avoid and become expert label readers so they can make health-smart choices.

Meanwhile, the U.S. Centers for Disease Control & Prevention (CDC) is urging pediatricians to take a greater interest in the environmental impacts on the health of their patients and discuss with parents how to keep kids safe in and around the home, the neighborhood, and at school.

CONTACTS: WHO, www.who.int; EWG, www.ewg.org; OCA, www.organicconsumers.org; CDC, www.cdc.gov.

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Why Women and Girls Need

EMPOWERMENT [ and How to Bolster It ]

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omen today earn only “78.3 cents for every dollar a man earns,” according to the Status of Women in the States. The reasons for such inequality, it's often claimed, are that women have lower educational attainment and choose lower-paying careers or to be stay-at-home moms.

While there's some truth to these claims, it isn't the whole story. Even when these scenarios are factored in, women still earn less than men. To exemplify this, according to research by Claudia Goldin of Harvard University, in 2014 women made substantially less than men among many of the highest paying jobs. Female lawyers and judges made only 82% of what their male counterparts made. Female physicians and surgeons received only 71%, and financial specialists made only 66% of what their male peers made.

More disconcerting, studies have found the average pay in many fields drops as more women enter the fields. In contrast, as femaledominated industries have become male-dominated, the pay has

increased. The computer programming industry is the perfect example. It was originally a female dominated industry. But as more men entered the field, reveals Ruth Oldenziel in “Making Technology Masculine,” it gained prestige, wages increased, and it's now become a maledominated industry.

Another interesting fact is that the pay gap for younger women is much smaller. Women under the age of 35 make 90% of what men make. Yet as women age, the disparity grows. Studies show men's earnings continue to climb until they reach the age of 54, at which point their wages stabilize and remain steady for another decade. But for women, beginning at the age of 36, their earnings dip slightly and steadily decline until retirement. So from middle age forward, women's earnings are only 74 to 82% of what men make.

Most troublesome, at the current rate of closing the gender pay gap, it'll be 2058 before women gain parity. This signifies the crucial need for empowering today's women and young girls in an effort to close O R E G O N F A M I L Y. C O M • N O V E M B E R 2 0 1 7

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better serves us all. We must also strive to empower young girls for a more progressive future for themselves and for all women.

Fortunately, more and more, forwardthinking men and male-owned or managed companies are also stepping up to the plate to help empower girls and women as well.

the gap more rapidly.

Professional recruiter Nick Corcodilos, in “Ask the Headhunter: Women Don't Cause the Pay Gap. Employers do,” says despite all the excuses as to why women earn less, such as having kids, poor negotiating skills, career interruptions, lack of confidence, and not having the right education, the bottom line is, women have nothing to do with it.

“Employers decide to pay women less,” points out Corcodilos, “simply because they can get away with it.”

The challenge is, what, if anything, can women do to even the playing field?

Empowering women to believe in themselves, their abilities, and their worth is the best way to counter the inequality that persists today. There's much truth that employers control the purse strings and often leave women little option but to accept unfair pay.

But the more empowered women become, the easier for them to walk away from

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unfair practices and go elsewhere – and eventually, employers will have no choice but to concede.

There are ample ways women can empower themselves and other women. Whether empowering oneself or another woman, it

Ways to Empower You Keep learning. Regardless of your current career or education level, strive to never stop learning. Consider whether your current career is fulfilling and compensates you fairly. If so, focus on continued education or development in your current industry. If your current career isn't meeting your objectives, weigh out other options, and redirect your educational focus for a future change of course.

Go for your dreams. Whatever your dreams, realize the sky is the limit. Have faith in yourself and your abilities, and know there's a road to achieve whatever your heart desires. Layout a path to get you there, and move along step-by-step.

Don't settle for unfair wages. Granted, your earnings aren't 100% under your control.

But neither are they set in stone. Learn the skills to negotiate pay for new employment and for pay raises. This goes a long way towards empowerment. If you've brushed up on your skills and you're unsuccessful, know it isn't you – and never forget, you have options.

Utilize and affirm your strengths.

Whatever your talents may be, make an effort to use them every day. Even if you don't consider your strengths significant, they'll provide you a sense of capability that fosters selfesteem. Remember, self-esteem translates to empowerment.

Find a mentor. Do you lack confidence or the direction needed to follow your dreams or achieve your goals?

Look for a strong female

mentor who'll provide you guidance and encouragement. Find a friend, relative, or co-worker you admire for her strength, wisdom, courage, or achievements. Also, find a women's organization either locally or online, or join a Meetup group with empowered women.

Ways to Empower Other Women Support women-owned businesses. Both men and women can contribute to women's empowerment by patronizing female-owned businesses. In addition to the increased income for the women owners, female-owned businesses are more likely to hire women for higher level positions and for better pay than many male-owned companies.

Be a mentor. Are you already an empowered woman? Do you have goals or dreams and the fortitude to see them through to success? If so, you're an excellent candidate to mentor other women.

Volunteer for a women's cause. There are organizations for women in most communities ranging from domestic violence shelters to professional women's networks. Reach out to a women's organization in your community, and ask how you can help. Whether you want to help women find safe and affordable housing, help with fundraising, or offer lectures to educate women, it all goes toward women's empowerment.

Ways to Empower Young Girls Choose STEM toys and activities. From the time girls are very small, provide them plenty of toys, books, and activities that teach and generate enthusiasm for science, technology, engineering, and mathematics (STEM). Just look for the STEM acronym on the box or search online for “STEM toys.”

Have them join a girls club. There are many girls' organizations that serve to empower girls today. Some of the ways girls organizations help to empower girls is through mentoring, encouraging civic duty, by creating enthusiasm for STEM, and by inspiring girls to be strong, smart, and resilient. Girl Scouts, Girlstart, Girls for Change, and Boys and Girls Clubs of America are but a few of the organizations that empower girls.

Ex pose g irls to role models. Find

opportunities to expose girls to strong women within your family or among your friends, co-workers, and acquaintances.

Also, look for strong female celebrities who make good models and are doing something positive in the world.

Praise girls' character and strengths over beauty. Girls are inundated with media and societal messages that physical beauty is what defines them. It's fine and even good to tell girls they're beautiful. But the message they should hear considerably more often

is praise for their efforts, skills, good deeds, passions and interests, intelligence, and positive character traits.

Encourage sports. Sports provide girls many benefits. Sports teach girls about teamwork and sportsmanship, provides them the opportunity to develop friendships with other strong-minded girls, and fosters increased self-esteem.

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On-Going Events Saturday Kids Workshops at MECCA. From magnetic puzzles to robots to sock creatures.

“2PM Talks.” A docent-led talk every Tues thru Sun at the Museum of Natural and Cultural History, included with price of admission.

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Eugene Public Library. Family Music Time, Downtown Library on Tues 6:30pm; Weds 10:15am; Thurs 10:15am; and Sat 10:15am. Bethel Branch, Family Music Time will be held on Fridays at 10:15 am and in Spanish on Saturdays, 11:15am. Sheldon Branch, 10:15am, Ph 541.682.8316

Public Skate @ The Ice Center. Call for skate times. Ph 541.682.3615 Legos: NEW! Bring the kids to build, play, and explore with the Library’s big and varied collection of Legos. Grades K - 6. Downtown

Calamity Jazz Concert. Start your weekend off with a concert of Dixieland songs played by Calamity Jazz.

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Free First Friday.

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11:00am-5pm Radio Redux: Fibber McGee and Molly.

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Play Date. Young kids and family - drop in on First Friday evenings for creative fun together.

Downtown Library, 6pm, Ph 541.682.5000

Saturday Market. The oldest, open-air market in the United States offers great food, local crafts and live entertainment. Every Saturday, April-Nov, 8th & Oak St. Rain or shine.

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experiment with all the colors in the rainbow!

Why is the sky blue and the grass green?

Where do colors come from? What happens when you mix colors together? The Science Factory, 9am-12pm, $05, Ph 541.682.7888

4 SATURDAY Radio Redux: Fibber McGee and Molly.

See the 3rd Eugene Powersports Swap Meet. This event is for the off-road riding community including ATVs, MX and UTV. Lane Events Center, 10am6pm, $5, Ph 541.636.3200 Family Music Time. Sing and dance your way into the weekend with a different performer every week! This week, Kris Olsen of Do Re Play leads fun musical explorations. Downtown Library, 10:15am, FREE! Ph 541. 682.8316 Gem Faire. 10am-6pm, see the 3rd Shasta Middle School 28th Annual Winter Concert. Experience the pride and talent of Shasta students as they perform on the Silva stage for the 28th year! Hult Center, 7pm, $10.50-13, Ph 541.682.5000 Neighborhood Holiday Market. See Holiday Festivities sidebar.

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stories, images and film clips of her adventures, along with the moments of discovery that make it all worthwhile. Hult Center, 7:30pm, $2539.75, Ph 541.682.5000

10 FRIDAY Little Wonders: Stories and Activities for Pre-K. This month: Take Flight with crafts, exhibit exploration, and other fun activities

The Oregon Garden Starts November 24th

celebrating flying animals. Museum of Natural and Cultural History, ages 3-5, 10:30am – 11:30, $3-10, Ph 541-346-3024 Second Friday Art Walk. Starts at Springfield City Hall, 5:00pm, FREE! Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus LIVE! A one-man fusion of theatre and stand-up and is a light-hearted theatrical comedy based on the New York Times #1 bestselling book of the last decade by John Gray. This 90-minute show covers everything from dating and marriage to the bedroom. Hult Center, 8pm, $60-68, Ph 541.682.5000

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Mt Pisgah Forest Ecology Walk. Explore the local ecosystems near Eugene and learn about the plants and animals that live there with ecologist and LCC instructor, Pat Boleyn. Mount Pisgah, 10am-2pm, $0-5, Ph 541.747.3817 Punkin’ Chunkin’. See local makers compete against each other with homemade projectile launchers. Pumpkins and apples will fly! The Science Factory, 12-2pm, FREE! Ph 541.682.7888

5 SUNDAY Gem Faire. 10am-5pm, see the 3rd Family Fun. Kids and family: drop in for a new activity every week. This week, make gifts including toys, trinkets, and more. Downtown Library, 2pm, FREE! Ph 541.682.8316 Radio Redux: Fibber McGee and Molly. 2pm, see the 3rd

6 MONDAY Shopkins Live! Shop It Up! The #1 kids toy in North America is on stage and live! VIP tickets available. Doors open at 5:30pm. McDonald Theater, 6:30pm, $30-45, Ph 541.345.4442

7 TUESDAY Teens at 4:30. Scratch Programming. Come Scratch with our new COW! We will be learning how to program using Scratch with our new Computers on Wheels laptops. This program is for teen ages 12+. Springfield Public Library, 4:30-5:30pm, FREE! Ph 541-726-3766

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Play in the Rain Day. This fun, all ages family event happens in November each year. Discover how fun, easy, and rewarding it is to spend time outdoors in nature - in all kinds of weather! Rain or shine, so dress for the weather. Mount Pisgah, 10am-3pm, FREE! Ph 541.747.1504 Neighborhood Holiday Market. See Holiday Festivities sidebar.

Emerald Valley Opry. Featuring: Back Porch Soiree, Mike & Carleen McCornack, New Folksters, Kimberlee Shannon, Dusty Herd. Powers Auditorium Willamette High School, doors open 5pm, concert 6:00-9:30pm, $3-$8/under 7 free, Ph 541-688-0937 Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus LIVE! 4pm and 8pm, see the 10th Eugene Comic Con. Brings the best in comics and pop culture to beautiful Eugene, Oregon.

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Nov 3rd - 5th: Holiday Food and Gift Festival. Products from all over Oregon and beyond. Fabulous Christmas ornaments, items and decorations of all kinds. Jewelry, clothing, art, photography, items for men, women and children, handcrafted soaps, lotions and more.

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RiverHills Drive, Springfield. 11:00-4pm, Ph 541-206-2852 Nov 4th: Emmaus Holiday Bazaar.

Handmade quilts from crib size to queen size and a quilt raffle with tickets available at the door. Enjoy homemade Lefse, youchoose cookies by the dozen, baked goods and candies, gift baskets, handmade craft items, gently used adult and children’s books.

Emmaus Lutheran Church, 9am – 2pm, FREE! Ph 541.344.1150 Nov 5th: Eugene Holiday Flea Market.

You’ll find fun friendly family atmosphere and the always fresh mix of vendors, shoppers and unique items including crafts, collectibles, wares and services. Lane Events Center, 10am3pm, FREE! Ph 541.682.4292 Nov 17th -18th: Irving Grange Holiday Market. Features handmade gifts, direct sales, homemade decor, food, candles, jewelry, food and much more. The North Eugene Ukulele all stars will perform on Sat. Irving Grange, Fri 4-8pm/Sat. 10am-4pm, FREE! Ph 541.337.8418 Nov 18th – Dec 24th: Saturday Market Holiday Market. A vibrant hub for local

artisans with nearly 200 booths featuring locally handcrafted gifts, international foods, and live music all day. An iconic Eugene event - a must see for locals and visitors every season. Lane Events Center, Fri 11/24 and 12/22 all other weekends Sat/Sun – 10am-6pm.

FREE! Ph 541.686.8885 Nov 4th: Holiday Gifts Books Sale.

Find amazing deals on books in gift-giving condition, including bestsellers, classics, holiday-themed titles, coffee table books, and children’s books. Downtown Library, 10am – 4pm, FREE! Ph 541.682.5450 Nov 22nd - 26th: Festival of Trees.

Attractions include more than 50 decorated trees, beautiful wreaths, a candy cane forest, Dickens village, shop under the tree, gingerbread village, stockings and baskets and other entertainment. Valley River Inn, 9am6pm, $5-7, Ph 541.228.3040 Nov 24 - Dec 31: Christmas at the Village Green. Enter a winter wonderland and find yourself surrounded by twinkling lights, artisan vendors, fire pits, and holiday cheer at Christmas at the Village Green, at the Village Green Resort in Cottage Grove. Peruse the traditional Christmas market modeled after those in Europe, and enjoy German inspired food and drink, including bratwurst, hot cocoa, baked goods, and gluhwein (a German hot spiced wine/21 and over only). Village Green Resort (Cottage Grove), 5-9pm, $5-10, Ph 541.942.2491 Nov 30th – Dec 1st: Holiday Marketplace at Willamalane. Shop an incredible array of handcrafted gifts and homemade delicasies.

FInd one-of-a-kind wooden creations, jewelry, candles, fiber arts and more. Willamalane Adult Activity Center, 9am-7pm, FREE! Ph 541.736.4544

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FREE Family Climb. Learn to climb. Staff and volunteers ensure you have a safe and fun climb.

Prizes will be raffled off throughout the event.

Youth and adults welcome. Bob Keefer Center, 1pm, Ph 541.736.4544

Tweens: Make Wristbands. learn to handcraft wristbands. Choose from a colorful folded paper design, a twine and beads “wish” bracelet, or a survival wristband made of paracord. No experience necessary. All supplies provided.

Downtown Library, 1pm and 4pm, FREE! Ph 541.682.8316

Family Fun. Kids and family: drop in for a new activity every week. This week, watch and learn dances with local youth troupe Ballet Folklorico Alma de Mexico. Downtown Library, 2pm, FREE! Ph 541.682.8316

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Paint Party! Llama! Makes a great present for a friend or yourself. All supplies and step-by-step instructions are included. All skill levels welcome!

(Adults Only Please) Pre-reg req. Starlight Lounge, 6-8:30pm, $35, Ph 541.579.8885 Hari Kondabolu. A Brooklyn-based comedian and writer who the New York Times has described as “one of the most exciting political

18 SATURDAY Oregon Ducks take on Arizona. GO DUCKS! Autzen Stadium, goducks.com Go Ducks Free admission weekend. One campus/Two museums. The Museum of Natural and Cultural History and the Jordan Schnitzer Museum of Art offer free admission

benefiting EWEB’s Customer Care Program helping low income eligible customers who are having difficulty paying their utility bills. EWEB Plaza, 8:30am, $0-55, Eclectic Edge Racing.

Family Fun. Kids and family: drop in for a new activity every week. This week, create art inspired by myths and legends from around the world with the Multicultural Children’s Art Museum and Little Owl Art School, followed by the

Eugene Comic Con Saturday-Sunday, November 11-12

23 THURSDAY Festival of Trees. 10am-6pm, See the 22nd Turkey Stuffer Race. A benefit for Willamalane’s free Summer Playground Program for kids. Run or walk a flat course through a beautiful, quiet residential neighborhood. Open to all ages, so bring the entire family. After the race, participants can enjoy the waves at Splash! at Lively Park from 9-11:30 a.m. at no additional charge. Lively Park, 8:30pm, $15-30, Ph 541.736.4544 Turkey Trot. A holiday family-friendly running event. Choose a 4-mile run, 2-mile walk or 200-meter kids gobbler gallop! All events start and finish in the NW corner of the Valley River Center. 9:00am, $20-25, Ph 541.343.6414

24 FRIDAY Festival of Trees. 9am-2pm, See the 22nd

during UO Ducks home game weekends throughout the 2017 football season. 11am-5pm, Ph 541-346-3024 Scratch Coding for Kids. Learn the basics at your own pace. Springfield Public Library, 3:305:30am, FREE! Ph 541-726-3766 Family Music Time. Sing and dance your way into the weekend with a different performer every week! This week, Rich Glauber delights all ages with interactive musical fun. Downtown Library, 10:15am, FREE! Ph 541. 682.8316

19 SUNDAY EWEB Run to Stay Warm. 5K, 10K, half marathon and a kid’s race with all proceeds

Multicultural Art Contest Award Ceremony. Downtown Library, 2pm, FREE! Ph 541. 682.8316

21 TUESDAY Teens at 4:30. All events free and open to the public. Springfield Public Library, 4:30-5:30pm, FREE! Ph 541-726-3766

22 WEDNESDAY Festival of Trees. Attractions include more than 50 decorated trees, beautiful wreaths, a candy cane forest, Dickens village, shop under the tree, gingerbread village, stockings and baskets and other entertainment. Valley River Inn, 9am-6pm, $3-7, Ph 541.228.3040

25 SATURDAY Oregon Ballet Academy’s Performance of the timeless Nutcracker. Lane Community College, 2pm & 7pm, $12-15, Ph 541.338.7800 Festival of Trees. 9am-7pm, See the 22nd Family Music Time. Sing and dance your way into the weekend with a different performer every week! This week, sing along and enjoy stories with Chuck Coxon. Downtown Library, 10:15am, FREE! Ph 541. 682.8316 Civil War! Oregon Ducks take on Oregon State.

GO DUCKS! Autzen Stadium, goducks.com

Schnitzer Museum of Art offer free admission during UO Ducks home game weekends throughout the 2017 football season. 11am-5pm, Ph 541-346-3024 Read to a Greenhill Dog. Ages 7-12, Springfield Public Library, 2-4pm, FREE! Ph 541-726-3766

26 SUNDAY Festival of Trees. 9am-5pm, See the 22nd Oregon Ballet, Nutcracker. See the 25th Family Fun. Kids and family: drop in for a new activity every week. This week, Hosanna Dance Studio will perform “Scenes from Narnia,” dances based on the classic C.S. Lewis books.

Downtown Library, 2pm, FREE! Ph 541.682.8316 Mannheim Steamroller Christmas. The spirit of the holiday season comes to life with the renowned sound of Mannheim Steamroller in this glorious holiday event celebration. Hult Center, 7:30pm, $35-85, Ph 541.682.5000

27 MONDAY So You Think You Can Dance Season 14 Tour. 15-time Emmy Award-winning show, So You Think You Can Dance celebrates its 14th season with the top 10 finalists in a dance tour across the nation. Hult Center, 7:30pm, $3888.50, Ph 541.682.5000

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“Eat your fruits and veggies.”

Discovery Box

“Take a break from your screen and go play outside.”

by Karyn Knecht

Empower Kids to Make Healthy Choices…

USING SCIENCE!

“Wear your helmet!”

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hese are things kids hear from caring adults on a daily basis. Parents and caring adults want kids to grow up with a healthy mind and healthy body, which is why we try to instill good habits from an early age. We live in a world of countless options. For a child, those options are limited by their caretakers and educators for their health and safety.

When we grow up and those options become unlimited, how do we determine which choice is best? It might be common sense to eat well and exercise, but the benefits of a healthy lifestyle are competing with the instant gratification of sugary snacks, binge-watching TV shows, and video games.

Oregon's adult obesity rate is currently 28.7 percent, up from 19.9 percent in 2000 and from 11.2 percent in 1990. Twenty percent of children in Oregon ages 10 to 17 are considered overweight or obese, and Oregon’s childhood obesity rates are some of the lowest in the country (the national average is 31.2 percent).1 According to the Centers for Disease Control, 36.5 percent of adults in Oregon eat less than one serving of fruit per day, and 16.5 percent eat less than one serving of vegetables daily. The number of heart disease cases in Oregon is expected to quadruple by 2030.2 This is the culture in which today’s children are growing up.

How do we change this culture? Empower kids to make lifelong healthy choices for themselves. The first step is to inspire curiosity. Encourage kids to ask questions.

Why are certain foods better than others?

What happens inside your body when you eat a carrot compared to a cookie? How does regular exercise prevent chronic disease? Why 1. Stateofobesity.org. (2017). Oregon State Obesity Data, Rates and Trends - The State of Obesity. [online] Available at: https://stateofobesity.org/states/or [Accessed 20 Oct. 2017].

2. Cdc.gov. (2017). Nutrition, Physical Activity, and Obesity: Data, Trends and Maps. [online] Available at: https://www.cdc.gov/ nccdphp/dnpao/data-trends-maps/index.html [Accessed 20 Oct. 2017].

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is it important to wear a helmet? What are the long-term effects of a concussion?

When we are curious about something, we take the initiative to learn more about it. If we are interested in how our bodies work, we are more likely to make choices that help our bodies work properly. Children are naturally curious about how their bodies work, and harnessing that curiosity is a great stepping stone to learning about health and safety together.

Here are a few great ways you can use science to empower kids to make healthy choices: GROW YOUR OWN FOOD. This can be as small as giving kids ownership over small container plants or as large as letting them care for their own garden plot. It’s proven that when kids grow their own food, they eat more vegetables and have a better overall nutritional attitude.

TURN COOKING WITH YOUR CHILD INTO AN EXPERIMENT. Here are some questions you might explore together: What oven setting results in the tastiest roasted

veggies? Which flavors taste good mixed together and which do not? OSU Extension Service shares some ways to engage kids in the garden and in the kitchen at http://extension. oregonstate.edu/growhkc/resources/family.

TAKE DATA! Explore how your heart rate changes during different activities. Keep a record of your heart rate and see if it changes over time as you become more active. Many devices can measure your pulse for you, or you can calculate it yourself by counting how many times your heart beats in a minute. Take data in other ways - how long can you run without stopping? How high can you jump?

How many pull-ups can you do? Tracking data over time is a motivational way to incrementally improve your health.

Visit the Science Factory this Fall to explore our new Get Fit! Exhibition and learn about the science behind a healthy lifestyle. This interactive exhibit informs guests on the importance of keeping a healthy mind and body.

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Noted for its family-friendly storyline, universal themes and catchy music, this first full-length musical by legendary theatrical team Sir Andrew Lloyd Webber and Tim Rice, JOSEPH is a retelling of the biblical story of Joseph, his devoted father, his jealous brothers, and his incredible series of adventures.

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WHEN & WHY TO CO N S I D E R

Ignoring Your Child

by Shari Medini

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efore becoming a parent myself, I worked at a non-profit that delivered one-on-one mental health support services. I worked with children with severe behavior disorders, & I worked with families who were at their wit’s end. I had many strategies in my therapeutic toolbox, but there was one particular strategy that I used daily.

Ignore This is such a simple strategy that anyone can implement. Ignore certain behaviors, & they will lessen…

• If your child’s classmate is picking on them, let them know that they can ignore them.

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• If you already told your child 5 times that they could not have another cookie, ignore them.

• If your child is using a whiny voice, ignore them.

• If they are yelling to get your attention, ignore them.

But… when & why you are ignoring behavior is very important!

Don’t Ignore Everything Of course, there are certain behaviors that you are not going to want to ignore, like physical aggression. You do not want to ignore your child when they genuinely need

you. Oftentimes, ignoring is a strategy to be used when the child is attention-seeking in an inappropriate way. You can also teach your children to use this same tactic to stay out of situations with their peers – you can ignore your friend who is trying to distract you during class, or you can ignore the student who is goofing off when they shouldn’t be.

Let Your Children Know What You’re Doing You don’t want to simply ignore your child without them understanding what’s going on; this will only escalate the situation. Instead, be sure that the child understands how they can get your attention again:

“I am going to ignore you until you can talk nicer to me.”

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“I am going to ignore you until you use a big boy voice instead of a whine.”

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“I already answered your question about the cookie. I am going to ignore you until you’re ready to talk about something else.”

Encourage Positive Behavior The other key to this tactic is that you will need to encourage the behavior that you want & find the underlying reasons for the acting out behaviors. Give your child plenty of attention when they are being sweet & kind & calm. Talk about issues calmly that may be upsetting them. Make sure that they feel heard. Otherwise, the attention-seeking behaviors will continue despite the ignoring b/c you are not resolving the underlying issues outside of the heated moments.

Ignoring behavior may seem like you are condoning it, but since so much behavior is attention-seeking at its root, you are actually discouraging the behavior by not giving it any attention. It’s not fun to throw a tantrum if no one is there to watch. It’s not fun to whine if no one is there to annoy.

Adding this strategy to your parenting toolbox can be very helpful, whether you are in the midst of the toddler or teen years.

It is about ignoring the negative behavior & rewarding the positive behavior – simple concepts that can make a big difference!

Shari Medini is a content creator & consultant living in Lititz, PA with her husband & two little boys. Shari has built & runs multiple online businesses including the parenting website AdoreThem.com. You can get to know her better through her social media accounts: @ShariMedini

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A Dad’s Eye View

by Rick Epstein

We’ll Party Like Pilgrims W

hen I was a little kid, I didn’t think much about Thanksgiving. In school, we’d trace around our hands to draw turkeys and learn about a Native American named Squanto who taught the Pilgrims how to grow corn or bake pumpkin pies or something.

Then around seventh grade I had to do a report on the first New England Thanksgiving. I consulted my favorite source, the World Book Encyclopedia.

(I looked again just now as a refresher.) Here’s a summary: Thanking God for the first harvest in the New World, it was a three-day extravaganza involving about 50 colonists and 90 Native Americans. The menu included duck, goose, turkey, venison, eel, fish, clams, leeks, watercress, cornbread and plums.

“Everyone ate outdoors at large tables and enjoyed games and a military review,” says the encyclopedia.

With the deadly winter of 1620-21 behind them and the travails of the Boston Red Sox centuries ahead of them, the colonists were feeling festive, and for a short time, Plymouth, Mass., was the party capital of the New World.

In fact, it seemed to my 12-year-old self that the original Thanksgiving set a standard that has been hard to live up to. Certainly my own family’s observance fell dismally short. It featured good food, fine china and gleaming silverware, but what was that to a kid? I’d have traded all of it just for a close-up look at an eel. And as a holiday, it arrived empty-handed, offering no gifts, no Santa Claus, no fireworks,

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no songs, no candy, no costumes, no egg hunts – not even a dreidel!

Just an endless dinner.

Because our relatives lived far away and my dad didn’t like company anyway, it was always just us. To Dad, privacy was more delicious than ice cream. Whenever more than one of my friends visited, he would joke pointedly, “So, when did you decide to have the party?”

Once Uncle Phil and Aunt Char came to visit and we put them up in the guest room – at the Sleepy Hollow Motel. I could never understand my dad’s craving for privacy. I only wanted it when I was doing something wicked. But the worst thing Dad ever did was to send our relatives to the Sleepy Hollow Motel.

It’s not as though the tail-lights of Uncle Phil’s Chrysler would fade in the direction of the motel and Dad would fire up the tiki torches, install two cold ones in his beer hat, and yell, “Woohooo! Party time!”

No, he’d just put on his pajamas and go to bed.

I’ve been glad to follow my dad’s lead on a lot of things, but not on privacy. I want friends to drop in for dinner, and if they stay for a few days, so much the better.

But with two kids away at college and the youngest usually off somewhere on urgent social business, our house is quiet as a mausoleum. Our cat, Mr. Kitty, is at least someone else to talk to.

My wife and I watch so much TV that we think the characters on shows must know us.

But on Thanksgiving, this place will be swarming with visitors. Real ones! The guest list includes all three daughters, two of their college friends, both of my brothers, a sister-in-law, a niece and a lively terrier.

The coffee will flow like water.

Bedtime? Ha! Ten o’clock will come and go unnoticed. My wife will get the help in the kitchen that she dreams of all year, as the chatting multitudes peel and chop whatever she shoves their way. We’ll add so many leaves to our dining-room table you could land an airplane on it. Each night, people will sleep on every flat surface. We’ll have to borrow extra pillows from Grandma.

Laughter and affection will abound.

Conspicuously sober, Mr. Kitty will spend most of the holiday weekend on top of the refrigerator, wishing everyone would go back where they came from. His demeanor will remind me of Dad, the day he came home from work and found me and two pals sitting on the front lawn. “What is this?” he asked, “Woodstock?”

Rick can be reached at rickepstein@yahoo.com.

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Read & Play

by Jennifer Galvin

Thankful and Grateful It’s November—time for leaves swirling around and the smell of pumpkin pie wafting from the oven for Thanksgiving. I’m thankful for a beautiful autumn season just in time for Thanksgiving! Here are some fabulous books to read while the leaves fall all around you!

READ… Build a Block Abrams Appleseed, $16.95, ages birth-3 by Christopher Franceschelli

Bright, bold illustrations fill this construction board book that will have kids opening it again and again. From dump trucks to cranes to even a tunnel borer—this book is full of amazing construction equipment. Turn pages and lift flaps to discover construction equipment galore. Fun!

Full of Fall Beach Lane Books, $17.99, ages 4-8 by April Pulley Sayre

Rhyming text and stunning, vivid photographs fill this engaging fall book that features leaves in all their fall glory! From saying goodbye to green to saying hello winter, follow the path of the leaves as they change color and finally fall to the forest floor. An informative and interesting “Look Closer” feature at the end of the book tells readers more about the

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leaves and what is happening as they change color each fall.

Little i Greenwillow Books, $17.99, ages 4-8 by Michael Hall

What will happen when Little i loses his dot? What will he become? Follow along on Little i’s adventure as he searches for his dot.

Follow along as he sees Exclamation Point waterfall (it’s quite exciting) and “pauses” to see some lovely comma sprouts. Vivid, bold illustrations fill this hilarious adventure. Then when Little i finally returns home, he is no longer Little i, he has become a word—I.

The Wolf, the Duck, & the Mouse Candlewick Press, $17.99, ages 4-9 by Mac Barnett and Jon Klassen

When a mouse is swallowed by a wolf, he meets a duck living quite comfortably down in the wolf’s stomach. The duck has no intention

of being eaten, even though he was swallowed.

So, the mouse joins him and the ruckus they make gives the wolf quite a stomach ache.

When the wolf is chased by a hunter, the duck and mouse must defend their home, the wolf.

Will all three survive? What will the duck and mouse do when they get out? Find out as you journey along with mouse, duck, and wolf on this epic journey full of bravery, plot twists, and amazing illustrations!

Hello Autumn Holiday House, $16.95, ages 4-8 by Shelley Rotner

From shorter days, to cranberries, all the way to Thanksgiving, this book celebrates all that is autumn with beautiful full color photographs. Animals get ready for autumn by migrating and finding shelter. People get ready by harvesting the last autumn crops for the winter. As days get shorter and shorter we all need to be ready for winter! Even includes a page of autumn facts at the end to tell readers a bit more.

When I Was a Turkey Henry Holt and Company, $18.99; ages 9-14 by Joe Hutto

This Thanksgiving, join Joe Hutto and see the world through the eyes of a wild turkey!

When Joe Hutto made plans to become a turkey “mom,” he gets more than he ever bargained for. After receiving eggs from truck drivers that had disturbed the nests, Joe Hutto imprints the turkey poults and the adventure begins! Joe’s life as a wild turkey is an amazing tale full of twists and turns that he never thought would happen.

From not being able to eat when he wanted because the turkeys would want to eat his food, to trying to teach them the dangers of the forest, and much more, this tale is an amazing look into the world of the wild turkey. Joe is also a wildlife artist and kept a beautiful journal and those stunning pencil illustrations are featured throughout.

... and PLAY! Hand print Turkey Shirts Materials: An orange T-shirt, cardboard; brown, red, yellow and orange fabric paint; a paper plate, and a paintbrush.

Directions: Cut cardboard to fit inside your T-shirt so your paint won’t seep through to the back, and put it inside your shirt. Paint the thumb and palm of your child’s hand with brown fabric paint. Paint his other fingers red, yellow or orange. These fingers will be the feathers of the turkey.

Carefully print his hand on the T-shirt. Make several more “turkeys” using this same process. Let dry. Use fabric paint to make eyes, a gobble and a beak on your turkeys. Use fabric paint to write “Happy Thanksgiving!” on the shirt. Let dry.

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Make a Pilgrim hat and fill it full of goodies to share Materials: A large empty margarine tub (or similar recycled, cleaned out tub), black and yellow construction paper, Tacky glue, a stapler, and scissors.

Directions: Cover the container in black construction paper by stapling two pieces of construction paper together end to end, and then stapling it together into a tube that fits around your container. Staple the tube to the container and trim it down. To create a brim for your hat, trace around a plate on black construction paper to create a circle. Trace around the container to create the inner part of the brim. Make several tabs pointing in toward the center so you can attach the brim. Cut out the brim, making sure not to cut off the tabs. Glue the tabs to the inside of the container to attach the brim.

Cut a buckle out of yellow construction paper and glue it onto the hat just above the brim on the front. Fill your Pilgrim hat with goodies and take it to a nursing home or other place where people might not get to be with family on Thanksgiving to make someone’s Thanksgiving Day special!

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Make some cool turkey magnets for your refrigerator Materials: Glass marbles with flat backs; brown, orange red, and yellow construction paper; a permanent black marker, white school glue, scissors, and an adhesive backed magnet strip roll.

Directions: Trace around a marble onto the brown paper. Cut out a head out of brown paper and some feathers out of orange, red and yellow paper.

Cut a beak out of orange paper. Put glue on the flat side of the marble and glue the brown circle to it. This will be your turkey’s body. Glue the head, feathers, and legs to the back of the turkey body. Let dry. Draw eyes onto the head. Glue the beak on underneath the eyes. Cut a strip of magnet to fit the back of the marble and stick it on. Use your Turkey magnets to keep your Thanksgiving messages on your fridge!

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by Bonnie L. Harris

Third Time Not Quite a Charm Warner Bros. Pictures Rated: PG Now in theatres

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lthough this chapter of the Lego-based trilog y, The Lego Ninjago Movie, begins on a charming note and features martial arts icon Jackie Chan in a live-action opening scene, the Lego formula of an outcast hero fighting against overwhelming odds never quite delivers.

Sacrificing smooth pacing to mimic spur-of-the-moment narrative distinguishes the previous Lego movies, but Lego

Ninjago goes so far overboard on various jokes and overkills the father-son bonding so much that it makes the movie feel choppy and heavy -handed.

But thankfully, the super-fast action, colorful animation, and irreverent humor pick up where story and narrative fall short.

Our Lego hero, Lloyd, the awkward kid everyone avoids, hates his life because his father is the dreaded Garmadon, master of mayhem and destruction.

Normally, Lloyd pretends to be an outcast teen, but when his

Lloyd rallies the Ninjago Protectors.

father attacks the metropolis of Ninjago for the umpteenth time, we discover that Lloyd and his best friends are really the city’s secret Ninja Protectors.

His father’s frequent rampages, not to mention his neglect, cause Lloyd to disregard the teachings of Master Wu, who guides and trains the Ninja Protectors. Lloyd steals the ultimate weapon from Master Wu and triggers the arrival of an even more terrifying monster: the despicable Meowthra! Lloyd’s mistake ostensibly costs Master

FOR THE PARENTS The Queen’s Teacher Victoria & Abdul Focus Features, Rated: PG-13 Now in theatres

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he new film from Focus Features, Victoria & Abdul, is all about mistakes: Mistakes in protocol, mistaken identity, historical errors, and significant lapses in judgment. Each character’s mistakes, and there are plenty of both in this movie “mostly” based on actual events, gives them a memorable personality and point of view.

But, the only opinion that matters is Queen Victoria’s, who latches onto an earnest and adoring young Muslim man for all the wrong reasons. Abdul’s sincere devotion to his queen

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Wu’s life and his friendship with the other Ninjas. Lloyd must then ask his father for help to reach the ultimate, ultimate weapon in order to set things right. Lloyd and Garmadon’s journey brings them together for a time, but his father remains a treacherous villain so Lloyd must learn to accept his parents’ differences. But a Lego movie is never predictable, so be ready for exploding volcanoes, magic treasure chests, towering monsters, the demonic Shark Army, and of course, a kooky, but happy ending.

The small endearing glimpse into the life of a British monarch never suggests it’s authentic, but instead, is just a lovely story of a mistaken friendship that blossoms into a lifelong kinship.

earns him the scorn of her household, but she steadfastly defends their unlikely friendship.

Victoria believes that Abdul, with his poetic recitations, is the ultimate teacher despite her vindictive advisors exposing him as a charlatan and a freeloader. The struggle for dominance in the royal household rages behind closed doors, but neither side manages to oust the other. In Victoria’s final years, she finds comfort and purpose in Abdul’s humble wisdom, and he, in turn, serves her with heartfelt devotion. The film never takes itself nor the myriad Abdul’s first visit to of mistakes too seriously, but instead chilly Scotland. plays the subterfuge with ironic humor.

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together to sell candy or crafts at a profit to purchase items for less fortunate families such as children’s coats. Service learning studies show that children who serve are more likely to grow into charitable adults.

Service learning ideas that can be done as a family are: • Raking an elderly neighbor’s yard.

• Organizing and conducting a canned food drive at your child’s school together. (This may involve several pieces, announcing the food drive at various classrooms, making posters, decorating the collection boxes, and finally taking the cans to the food pantry or food bank.)

• Walking dogs at the local humane society shelter.

Holiday Volunteering Grows Charitable Adults

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oliday volunteering can reap year-long rewards for character building service learning while creating lasting family memories.

Sally was nine years old and her sister Emily was seven years old when they began volunteering at their local food bank with their family. Volunteering included sorting boxes and cans of food into different groups and then packing family boxes for the lowincome families that the food bank serves.

The first time Sally and Emily volunteered, they asked lots of questions and enjoyed the can conveyer belt tremendously. The food bank volunteer manager had things well organized, so the kids were engaged the entire time. To make the experience purposeful, their mom pointed out the families waiting in the lobby who were to receive the boxes of food. As they were leaving the food bank, the volunteer manager heard Sally say, “This was one of the best days of my life!” Her sister Emily piped in and said, “That was fun!”

According to the National Ser viceLearning Clearinghouse, service learning is a

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teaching strategy that integrates meaningful community service with instruction and reflection. Service learning also builds character and teaches civic responsibility as youth participate in service projects in education, public welfare, health, public safety, or the environment. Families can volunteer together and reap all the benefits of service learning while making a memory.

Teaching service is most effective when children give something meaningful to them.

An example of an age appropriate, meaningful service project for first and second graders is a teddy bear drive for abused children of domestic violence in shelters or hospitals.

Children can be encouraged to give a stuffed animal of their own that is in good shape or earn the money by doing household chores to make a purchase themselves. Children can also travel to the shelter to drop off the stuffed animals so that the “giving” is concrete.

Children may come up with their own ideas about service projects that have special meaning to them. Older children may work

• Collecting new or like new books for the children’s wing of the hospital and delivering the books to the hospital auxiliary to distribute.

• Holding a penny drive to buy extra school supplies for children who cannot afford them or use the pennies to buy dog and cat food for your local animal shelter and then delivering the bags of food.

• Planting a garden with native plants to encourage backyard habitat for birds, insects, and small animals.

• Older children can write a letter thanking soldiers for their service.

Working together as a family for others not only strengthens communities by helping the cause of your choice, but also models good character and strengthens family bonds.

Laura Lyles Reagan is a parenting coach, parenting journalist and author of How to Raise Respectful Parents. She can be reached for questions or comments through her website, www.

LauraLReagan.com.

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