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The flu can really take a kid down. Fortunately, you can decrease the chances of being hit with the crud by getting the flu vaccine – and by getting it sooner. It takes a couple of weeks for the shot to become effective, so get into your provider’s office and get it done – for you and your child. It’s especially important to receive the flu shot if you are around very young children, people who are elderly and those with compromised immune systems. For more information or to make an appointment, call your neighborhood OMG clinic. Crescent Medical Clinic: 541-686-9000 Valley Children’s Clinic: 541-746-5437 Garden Way Medical Clinic: 541-746-6816 West Eugene Medical Clinic: 541-461-8006 Southtowne Medical Clinic: 541-687-1668 Westmoreland Medical Clinic: 541-686-1711 New Patient Line: 541-242-4444 Pediatrics + 22 Other Specialty Areas • 10 Neighborhood Locations • OregonMedicalGroup.com

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november IN THIS ISSUE

HOMEWORK HELP Creating a healthy homework environment.

SUCCESS AT SCHOOL Help with resolving studentteacher conflict.

FLU SEASON Ways to get ready and stay healthy.

CALENDAR OF EVENTS Things to do in and around Lane County.

DIGITAL SAVVY PARENTS Help with embracing digital communication styles.

DAD’S EYE VIEW A father’s humorous perspective on parenting.

READ AND PLAY Book reviews pared with fun crafts.

FAMILY MOVIE TIME Kids and parent movie reviews for what’s showing.

LOCAL SPOTLIGHT A local Goodwill Industries success story here in Lane County.

PET RESCUE SPOTLIGHT This month’s adoptable pets looking for furever homes.

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Ways 6

to Create a Healthy

Homework Routine

by Pilar Bradshaw, M.D., F.A.A.P. • Eugene Pediatric Associates

ids and parents alike may groan and roll their eyes at the mention of “homework,” but there are real benefits associated with classwork completed at home. Homework can reinforce concepts learned at school and allow kids to delve more deeply into those subjects. Working independently on schoolwork can also teach children time management, responsibility and organization and can boost self-esteem. To best support your children in doing their homework, try these tips:

Help them learn time management by establishing a set time each day to complete homework. Waiting until late in the evening when your child is tired

is not a good idea. When undertaking a big project, show your child how to break it into manageable parts, and encourage them to use weekends to get ahead of the work.

Provide the necessary tools and materials needed to complete their projects.

Limit distractions. Encourage children to work in a quiet, phone and TV-free area.

Mentor but avoid doing your child’s work. Be available for guidance and help your child problem-solve, but don’t jump in and take over. Encourage your child to talk with a teacher or classmate if they need additional information.

Take breaks when needed. If you see your child getting frustrated, suggest that they move on to a different assignment or take a short break. Be positive. The attitude you model toward homework will be the same attitude your child acquires, so be upbeat and optimistic. Encourage kids to be diligent and dedicated when it comes to homework and always praise your child’s effort rather than the outcome. A child who learns to be resourceful and complete their schoolwork on time is more likely to become an adult who thrives at work and in life. For more ideas on handling schooltime parenting challenges, talk with your child’s teachers and with your pediatrician. O R E G O N F A M I LY. C O M • N O V E M B E R 2 0 1 9

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how to resolve Student-Teacher Conflict by Christa Melnyk Hines

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her teacher about the work and what types of questions she should ask.

“I hate school. My teacher is mean!”

t one time or another, nearly every parent of a schoolage youngster has heard their child express their d i s p l e a s u re w i t h t h e entire educational establishment during a frustrating homework session or after a rough day. While you may initially brush off their dramatic declarations, what do you do if your child seems to be growing increasingly distressed with school and her teacher? Why the grumbling? An elementary school child’s disdain for her teacher may grow out of a variety of factors, like adjusting from a beloved former teacher’s management style to a new teacher’s approach. Other influences on a child’s attitude toward his teacher include class size, peer competition, increased homework, more demanding, independent school work, as well as, differences between home and school environments.

Do some digging Allow your child time to adjust to his teacher’s expectations and rules. If his complaints persist, ask objective questions, like: “How is the work for you? How are you getting along with the other kids?” “By doing that you can get a flavor of the environment rather than the situation,” says Dr. Stephanie Mihalas, a child psychologist and a nationally certified school psychologist, who frequently helps students and parents manage and resolve school conflicts. “You may get an idea that something else is happening that’s triggering the ‘meanness’ and then at that point, you have more information to call or email the teacher.” Review class work Notice patterns like red marks and notes from the teacher on classwork. If your student struggles and seems afraid to ask questions, discuss appropriate times for her to talk to

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Make real-world connections A child may grow disenchanted with school and her teacher if she doesn’t understand how the subject matter relates to real life. Due to increased pressure to focus on testing and assessments, teachers devote less classroom time for experiential learning opportunities or class projects. That’s where a parent can help. “Engaging in the learning piece is key,” says Ashley Norris, Ph.D., assistant dean, University of Phoenix College of Education. On the weekends, integrate classwork into your daily errands. For example, if your child is learning about the soil and the climate in science, take him to the Saturday morning farmer’s market. Practice multiplication skills to tally up the tip at a restaurant. “Parents (then) become a partner with the teacher. Once that engagement starts to happen, the perception of the student-teacher relationship changes,” Norris says. Signs of a child-teacher conflict “The single biggest factor is a change in grades. If grades are starting to slip, that’s a huge indicator,” Norris says. Behavior changes, including disengagement at school, forgetting homework and lack of effort, can also indicate a problem. Resolving a personality conflict Rather than getting angry or defensive, take a calm, diplomatic approach when

Questions to ask the teacher: • Have you noticed my child struggling with a particular subject? • Does she participate in classroom discussions? • How does she seem to get along with her peers? • How can we work together to help my child better adjust?

conferencing with the teacher. “The last thing you want to do is instigate more conflict between the teacher and your child and if you start to pit sides, that’s what ends up happening,” Norris says. Also, ask if you can sit in during class one day. “Your presence might change the nature of how your child acts, but it will give you a flavor of how the teacher teaches,” Mihalas says. When to contact administration Go over a teacher’s head only as a last resort. “One of the only times to bring in administration is if your child is covered by special education law and the teacher isn’t following special ed law,” Mihalas says. Other times you might seek help from administration: • The teacher agreed on a set of interventions but isn’t following those strategies. • Your child comes home crying every day. • You talk with the teacher, but you’re unable to resolve the issue. Request a different teacher? Sometimes a child’s personality and a teacher’s personality simply clash. Unless the teacher is abusive, help your child understand that she’s not always going to like everyone, stressing the importance of remaining respectful and learning how to manage personality differences. “In my humble opinion, I don’t think it’s a good idea to show children that because there’s a problem then they need to move from that classroom,” Mihalas says. Instead teach flexibility by creating a link between friendships and getting along with others. For a younger child, you might say: “Everyone is different. Just as mommy and daddy do things differently, this is how your teacher is. It’s really good to learn how to work with all different kinds of people.” Seek professional help If interventions at school are unsuccessful, seek help from a child psychologist to rule out learning disabilities and anxiety. Freelance journalist Christa Melnyk Hines is the mom of two school-age boys. Her latest book is Happy, Healthy & Hyperconnected: Raise a Thoughtful Communicator in a Digital World. O R E G O N F A M I LY. C O M • N O V E M B E R 2 0 1 9

Preparing for Flu Season by Josh Cox, Oregon Medical Group

ach year as the temperatures drop, predictions of the severity of the flu season begin. Then, as the season takes off, you can expect to hear news reports about whether this year is a ‘good’ or ‘bad’ year for the flu. But where do those reports come from, and what do they mean? Locally, cases of the flu are reported to the Oregon Health Authority (OHA) by your medical provider. State-level reports go to the federal Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), and all of that data is used to create a weekly report of statistics. Because it is a virus, there are no great treatments for the flu, and the best thing to do is to encourage people to get a flu shot. Still, the weekly report helps the medical community track the breadth and depth of an outbreak and plan accordingly. “If there’s

an active outbreak that’s sending people to the doctor, that helps inform our scheduling,” says Dr. Stacy Chance, Oregon Medical Group’s Chief Medical Officer. The best way to fend off the flu is to have your flu vaccine. And last year’s vaccine won’t help you at all. The flu virus mutates over time, making it important to get the vaccine that’s matched to the predictions of the next most likely versions the flu virus may take. This year’s flu is predicted to match four viruses circulating in the United States. The onset of flu season is unpredictable and can vary by region. The “flu season” often begins as early as September and can continue until May but activity most commonly peaks between December and February. Since there’s still plenty of flu

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season ahead of us, even if you haven’t yet had your flu shot, it’s still likely to be worthwhile as the season intensifies. It is important that children receive the vaccine soon, particularly because some children may require two doses with at least 28 days in between. Why does the flu correlate with winter? Though the flu virus appears throughout the year, it is more viable in cold and dry air. Add the increased time we spend indoors and the sharing the air, doorknobs, light switches and other germ-friendly zones, and you have a recipe for a surge in sickness. Locally, the vaccine is ready in all Oregon Medical Group clinics as well as Lane County Public Health and many other medical clinics and pharmacies. For more information about the vaccine, contact your medical provider.

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Story Times Springfield Library story times. Baby and Toddler Story time (ages 3-6) Tues and Weds 10:00-10:30am. Chapter Book Storytime (preschool – grade 2) Mon 6:307:15pm. Cuentos Bilingual Storytime, all ages, 11am-12pm, Springfield Library, FREE! Ph 541.726.3766 Barnes & Noble weekly story time. Whimsical Weds 7:00pm. Toddler-Time, Weds 11:00am. Saturdays at 11:00am. Call for weekly themes. Ph 541.687.0356 Creswell Library Story times. (Ages 0-36 months): Board/Picture books, songs, lap bounces, and rhymes. Toddler Storytime (ages 3-5): picture Books, storytelling, songs, rhymes, early literacy activities and crafts. Ph 541.895.3053 Fern Ridge Library Storytimes (recurring weekly). Pre-K Storytimes (ages 3-5) Wed 11-11:30am followed by craft time. Baby & Toddler Storytimes (ages 0-3) Friday 11-11:30am followed by play group. FREE! Ph 541.393.1046 Early STEM Storytime! Join our educators as we read a story and lead a hands-on activity designed for early learners. Each storytime is a unique expansion of Tot Discovery Day from the first Friday of the month. Eugene Science Center, 2nd 3rd

and 4th Friday of each month, ages 0-5, 11-11:30am, Ph 541.682.7887 Dog Tale Story Time. Kids have fun and build skills in short one-on-one sessions reading to trained dogs and handlers’ courtesy of PAAWS. Every Sat, Dntwn Eugene Library, 2-3:30pm, FREE! Ph 541.682.8316 Downtown Eugene Library storytimes. Toddler Storytime, Tues 10:15am and 11:00am. Pajama Storytime, Tues 6:30pm. Preschool Storytime, Wed 10:15am and 11:00am. Music & Movement Storytime, Thurs 10:15am and 11:00am. Baby Storytime, Fri 10:15am and 11:15am. Sheldon and Bethel Branches: Family Storytime, Fri 10:15am. FREE! Ph 541.682.8316 Adventure! Story Time. A rotation of awesome storytellers will read, tell felt board stories, make craft projects, chat with puppets, and generally bring the fun every Friday from 11:05-11:25am. Adventure! Children’s Museum, FREE! Ph 541.653.9629

On-Going/Year-Round Saturday Kids Workshops at MECCA. From magnetic puzzles to robots to sock creatures. No need to pre-reg. All materials are included. Kids under 10 accompanied by an adult. Each week features a different

something for everyone! Explore science topics, astronomy, mechanics, optics, water quality, and nanotechnology. See website for features, admission, dates, and times. Ph 541.682.7888

Kids Minecrafters. Play together, share tips, and get creative with building challenges on Eugene Library computers. Ages 6 - 12. Limited space, pre-reg required. Dntwn Eugene Library, Mon and Tues @ 4-5pm, FREE! Ph 541.682.8316

Pre-K Planetarium Show: Stories in the Stars. Designed with our younger visitors in mind, this live, interactive planetarium show is a wonderful introduction to the planetarium. 25 minutes. Fri and Sat, 10:30am, Eugene Science Center, Ph 541.682.7888

Table Tennis for Kids. Tues and Thurs 5:15-6:15 and Saturdays 1:30-2:30. All sessions are free. Equipment and coaching provided. $40 annual Boys & Girls Club membership required. Ph 541.345.9939

Playtime for Parents and Child. Join us in the Parenting Now! playroom for fun and socialization. For families with children up to 4 years old. Parenting Now! Mondays from10am-noon, nominal fee, Ph 541.484.5316

Playtime for Parents and Children. Every Monday 10am – 12pm at Parenting Now! Fun and socialization for your little ones 4 and under. Outdoor and indoor play space has baby dolls, trucks, soft dough, and more! Nominal fee, Ph 541.484.5316

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Reading with Cats. Designed to help younger supporters give back to animals while developing reading skills and compassion. Also promotes animal-savvy behavior and gives cats get positive, calm time with children. Children ages 6 - 12. Days: Mon 12pm & 3:30pm, Tues 1pm & 4pm. Greenhill Humane Society, FREE! Ph 541.689.1503

First Friday Artwalk. In Kesey Square, Wordcrafters in Eugene presents “Fill the Square with Poetry!” Join us for poetry and spoken word performances, interactive poetry games and more. 5:30-8pm, FREE! Ph 541.485.2278 Tot Discovery Day. Magic School Bus Science. “Take chances, make mistakes, and get messy!” Join us for science experiments and activities based on the adventures of Ms. Frizzle and her students. Eugene Science Center, 9am-12pm, $5-6, Ph 541.682.7888

Public Skate @ The Ice Center. Call for skate times. Ph 541.682.3615 Saturday Market/Farmers Market. The oldest, open-air market in the US. Offers great food, local crafts, and live entertainment. Every Saturday, Park blocks, rain or shine. 10:00am – 5pm, Ph 686-8885, FREE!

FREE First Friday at the Museum. Investigate Oregon’s amazing fossils and ecosystems and delve into its cultural history. Also, get 20% a oneyear membership on Duck home game weekends. Museum of Natural History, 11am-5pm, Ph 541.346.3024

“2PM Talks.” A docent-led talk every Tues thru Sun at the Museum of Natural and Cultural History, included with price of admission. Ph 541.346.3024 Eugene Science Center. Our everchanging exhibits and Planetarium feature PHOTO: ANDY VOBORA

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creative reuse project. MECCA, 11am – 3pm, $3-5, Ph 541.302.1810

Upstart Crow presents, “Frozen Jr”. The show features all the memorable songs from the animated film, with music and lyrics by Kristen Anderson-Lopez and Robert Lopez, plus five new songs written for the Broadway production. Lane Community College, 7-9pm, $15, Ph 541.688.8260

2 SATURDAY I love the 90’s Retro Prom. (21 and over) Get jiggy with it and party like it’s 1999 at a Retro Prom, 90s style. Relive the glory days of slap bracelets, Furbies and Blockbuste. Free dessert bar, adult beverages, 90’s & retro jams, dance competition, prom photos, raffle prizes and more! The Village Green, 7:30-10:30pm, Ph 541.942.2491 Saturday Market. The perfect place to shop, eat, dance, and surround yourself with local color and culture. Downtown Blocks, FREE! 10am-5pm

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Holiday Markets & Bazaars November 1st Westminster Holiday Bazaar. Art and handicrafts, huge used book sale, gently used treasures, live music, children’s activities, silent auction, wreaths, hot soup, baked goods and two fabulous drawings ‑ Duck tickets or weekend at the coast. Westminster Presbyterian Church, 9am-4pm, FREE! November 2nd Pumpkin Spice Holiday Bazaar. Unique, handcrafted gifts, homemade pies, pastries, Vinnie’s Smokin’ BBQ, family fun and more at this annual, family-fun event! Pleasant Hill Church of Christ, 9am-3pm, FREE! November 9th Spencer Creek Annual Holiday Bazaar. Bake sale, holiday decor, gifts, chocolate, homemade crafts, music & More! Chili lunch from 11am-3pm. Spencer Creek Grange, 10am-4pm, FREE! Campbell Center Holiday Bazaar. Come and enjoy a book sale, bake sale, gift baskets, silent auction, Timeless Treasures, handcrafted gifts, and beef stew lunch for purchase. 9am-3pm, FREE! Ph 541.682.5318 November 16th Harvest Holiday Bazaar. Holiday shopping, bakeshop and café, professional photo both, all ages holiday craft area, Artists Gallery, and local musicians. Unitarian Universalist Church, 9am-4pm, FREE! November 16th – 31st (Fri/Sat/Sun only) Saturday Market Holiday Market. Thousands of locally handcrafted gifts from hundreds of local artisans, an international food court, and live entertainment all day long. Find unique gifts from exquisitely designed ceramics to unique metal and leather work to functional fiber arts that keep your holiday dollars in Eugene. Lane Events Center, 10am-6pm, FREE! Ph 541.686.8885 November 22nd and 23rd Handmade Country Christmas Bazaar. Focusing on handmade items perfect for gift giving or pampering

yourself this holiday season. Featuring goats milk soaps & lotions, homemade baklava & greek pastries, holiday pies & tamales, stained glass, mixed media, and more! Elmira Grange, 10am-5pm, FREE! November 22nd and 23rd Fern Ridge Holiday Bazaar. Over 30 locations of local crafters and artisans selling handmade and customcrafted gifts located throughout Fern Ridge, Veneta, Junction City and the surrounding area. Find unique items for everyone on your list just in time for the holiday season. Grab a map from participating locations or online at https://www.facebook.com/ CountryHolidayBazaar/ November 23rd Holiday Bazaar. Unique and unusual items for Christmas gifts including jewelry, stuffed animals, vintage and antique items. Lunch available to purchase as well as baked goods. Springfield Elks, 9am-4pm, FREE! November 23rd and 24th Holiday Bazaar. Unique handmade crafts, goodies, gifts, holiday décor, prize drawings every half hour, food available for purchase, and much more! Community of Christ Church, 10am3pm, FREE! November 29th Sweet Salvage Vintage Holiday Market. Bundle up and sip on a warm seasonal drink while shopping at the fourth annual Christmas Vintage Market hosted by Sweet Salvage. Find the best holiday gifts from furniture and home decor to jewelry and antique treasures in re-purposed, farmhouse style. Gray Garden Center Outlet (Springfield), 4-8pm, FREE! Ph 541.357.5431 November 30th Westminster Holiday Bazaar. Art and handicrafts, huge used book sale, gently used treasures, live music, children’s activities, silent auction, wreaths, hot soup, baked goods and two fabulous drawings ‑ Duck tickets or weekend at the coast. Westminster Presbyterian Church, 9am-4pm, FREE!

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MECCA Saturday Kids Crafting. Magnetic puzzles to robots to sock creatures, there’s always a fun, all-ages craft project for kids and families. All materials included. Material Exchange Center, 11am-3pm, $3-5/pp, Ph 541.302.1810 Eugene Symphony: Star Wars Live (Episode V: The Empire Strikes Back). Experience the highly regarded second chapter of the Star Wars saga on a big screen with John Williams’ iconic soundtrack performed live by the Eugene Symphony. Hult Center, $60-107, Ph 541.682.5000

3 SUNDAY Family Fun: Yoga. With Brynne Blevins Andrus. Downtown Eugene Library, 2pm, FREE! Ph 541.682.8316 Upstart Crow presents, “Frozen Jr”. 2-4pm and 7-9pm, see the 1st

5 TUESDAY Teens at 4:30. Notes of Gratitude. Teens ages 12+ Springfield Library, 4:305:30pm, FREE! Ph 541.726.3766 All-ages Tabletop Game Night. Celebrate International Games Week. Sheldon Branch and Bethel Branch of Eugene Public Library, 5:30-7:30pm, FREE! Ph 541.682.8316 Richard Thompson. Solo Acoustic. Named by Rolling Stone Magazine as one of the Top 20 Guitarists of All Time, and also one of the world’s most critically acclaimed and prolific songwriters. The Shedd Institute of the Arts, 7:30-9:00pm, $14.50-43.00, Ph 541.484.7000

6 WEDNESDAY Middle School Lounge. Gaming! Grades 6-8, Fern Ridge Library, 4-5pm, FREE! Ph 541.935.7512 Ideas on Tap. Quench your thirst for knowledge at Ideas on Tap, the Museum of Natural and Cultural History’s monthly pub talk. Join us for Town and Gown: A Brief History of the LGBTQ Community on Campus and in Eugene. Free/space limited. 6-7pm, Arrive early to secure a seat. Viking Braggot Company’s Southtowne Pub. 541.515.6314

7 THURSDAY S.T.E.A.M. Punks! Legos! Grades K-5, Fern Ridge Library, 3:30-5:30pm, FREE! Ph 541.935.7512 The Del McCoury Band. McCoury’s music has defined authenticity for not only bluegrass enthusiasts, but for a growing number of fans only vaguely familiar with the genre. The Shedd Institute of the Arts, 7:30-9:00pm, $29.25-47.00, Ph 541.484.7000

Little Family Yoga with Brynne Blevins. Springfield Library, 10:30am, FREE! Ph 541.726.3766

8 FRIDAY Second Friday Art Walk – Starts at Springfield City Hall, 5:00pm, FREE! Build It. Drop-in for building fun on this no-school day. Play and experiment with a variety of materials like LEGO, Duplos, Keva Planks, Strawbees, and Brain Flakes, plus everyday items such as toothpicks and gumdrops. Sheldon Library, 11am5pm, FREE! Ph 541.682.8316 McKenzie Cider and Craft Beer Festival. Enjoy a huge selection of the finest cider and craft brews from Oregon, Washington and California from over 150 brewers, along with live entertainment from your favorite local artists. Bob Keefer Center, 5-11pm, $15-20, Ph 541.343.1036 Nature Out Loud: Nearby Nature no school day adventure. Hike in the park and discover the noises of nature nearby, from birds and bugs to water and wind. Play tunes in our new Sound Garden, make melodies from recycled materials, sing silly songs, and dance on our Star Stage! Alton Baker Park, 8:30am-3pm, $45-50, Ph 541.687.9699

9 SATURDAY Eugene Ballet Company’s Swan Lake. One of the greatest classical ballets of all time. The performance lures audiences into its ethereal world of emotion and transformation with Tchaikovsky’s incredible score setting the scene for a story of good and evil. Hult Center, 7:30pm, $28.50-68, Ph 541.682.5000 Second Saturday’s at the Museum. Dig into activities that will spark your child’s curiosity about our past, present, and future. This month we celebrate National Native American Heritage Month by Exploring Ancient Technologies. Come test your engineering skills while investigating the engineering technologies of Oregon’s First Peoples. Museum of Natural History, 11am-3pm, FREE! Ph 541.346.3024 MECCA Saturday Kids Crafting. See the 2nd Saturday Market. The perfect place to shop, eat, dance, and surround yourself with local color and culture. Downtown Blocks, FREE! 10am-5pm Holiday Gifts Book Sale. Find amazing deals on gently used books in gift-giving condition, including bestsellers, classics, holiday-themed titles, coffee table books, and children’s books. Plus, collectible children’s books, ephemera, and great reading for yourself, including mysteries, popular fiction, and more. Eugene Dwntwn Library, 10am-4pm, FREE! 541.682.5450

among giants. The Shedd Institute of the Arts, 7:30-9:00pm, $26.25-53.00, Ph 541.484.7000

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“We’ll Meet Again” to “The Charge of the Light Brigade.” Eugene Library, 2pm, FREE! Ph 541.682.5450 “Frozen” family sing-along. Watch the songs from “Frozen” and sing along! Eugene Dwntwn Library, 2pm, FREE! 541.682.8316

Preschool Art and Science Storytime. Designer for precocious preschoolers. Teaches about science and art in harmony. Springfield Library, 10:30-11:15am, FREE! Ph 541.726.3766

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FBI Investigators: Nearby Nature No School Day Adventure. Get down in the dirt as you investigate the dark, slimy world of the FBI – fungus, bacteria, and invertebrates, oh my! Alton Baker Park, 8:30am-3pm, $45-50, Ph 541.687.9699 McKenzie Cider and Craft Beer Festival. Noon-11pm, see the 8th Play in the Rain Day 2019. Free outdoor activities for families including hayrides, nature crafts, hikes, campfire cookery, archery, and much more! Rain or shine! Sponsored by the Youth in Nature Partnership. Questions? Mount Pisgah Arboretum, 10am-3pm, FREE! Visit www. youthinnature.org or call Ph 541.222.9241

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10 SUNDAY Eugene Ballet Company’s Swan Lake. 2pm, see the 9th “Bugle Calls” a Veteran’s tribute show. Several veterans in the cast will depict military themes - “refreshing the memories” - with songs, scenes, and poems. The moods vary, from the upbeat “Boogie Woogie Bugle Boy” to

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S.T.E.A.M. Fall Leaves Arts & Crafts. Grades K-5, Fern Ridge Library, 3:305:30pm, FREE! Ph 541.935.7512

Teens @ 4:30. Spellbinding Bookery. Teens ages 12+ Springfield Library, 4:305:30pm, FREE! Ph 541.726.3766

13 WEDNESDAY Rodney Crowell. With strong roots in country music, two-time Grammy Award winner with five Number One hits of his own and a legacy of songwriting excellence which has made him an icon

Little Wonders: Stories and Activities for Pre-K. This month: Terrific Teeth. Through a story, crafts, and games, we’ll learn about different kinds of animals’ teeth and how they help them eat, hunt, and more. Museum of Natural and Cultural History, ages 3-5, 10:30 – 11:30am, $3-10, Ph 541.346.3024 Lego Club. Build with Lego, Duplo, and Mega blocks. We’ll supply everything, just bring your creativity. Display your creations in the library until the next Lego Club day. Springfield Library, 2-4pm, FREE! Ph 541.726.3766

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Holiday Card Green Screen. Use green screen technology to place yourself in holiday or winter themed photo. Sheldon Branch library, 3:30-5:30pm, FREE! 541.682.8316 Mr. Tom’s Magical Moombah!! The Rain Show! Come join Mr. Tom, Miss Erica,

Chad, Steve and everyone else for Fun! Contests! Jokes! Lots of songs! Dancing around! Friday’s show designed especially for area school and home school groups. The Shedd Institute of the Arts, 10:15am, $2-3, Ph 541.484.7000

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16 SATURDAY U of O Football. Ducks take on Arizona State at Autzen! Goducks.com Saturday Market Holiday Market. Thousands of locally handcrafted gifts from hundreds of local artisans, an international food court, and live entertainment all day long. Find unique gifts from exquisitely designed ceramics to unique metal and leather work to functional fiber arts that keep your holiday dollars in Eugene. Lane Events Center, 10am-6pm, FREE! Ph 541.686.8885 MECCA Saturday Kids Crafting. See the 2nd Mr. Tom’s Magical Moombah! See the 15th

17 SUNDAY Family Fun: Sol de America/Soul of America. Join in a lively and fun bilingual celebration for all ages! Sol de America/ Soul of America performs dance, songs, poetry, and more to share the cultures of Latin America. Eugene Dwntwn Branch library, 2pm, FREE! 541.682.8316

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18 MONDAY Holiday Card Green Screen. Use green screen technology to place yourself in holiday or winter themed photo. Bethel Branch library, 3:30-5:30pm, FREE! 541.682.8316 Rumours of Fleetwood Mac. The world’s finest tribute to Fleetwood Mac, channeling the spirit of Fleetwood Mac at their very best, Rumours of Fleetwood Mac offers a unique opportunity for fans, both old and new. Endorsed by Fleetwood Mac founding member, Mick Fleetwood. Hult Center, 8pm, $33-54.50, Ph 541.682.5000

19 TUESDAY Teens @ 4:30. Game Day! Teens ages 12+ Springfield Library, 4:30-5:30pm, FREE! Ph 541.726.3766

Little Timbers Winter Indoor Skills Academy M - W 5-6pm Bob Keefer Sports Center 6 week program Age 4-10 • Cost $110

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Taj Mahal. Recipient of the 2014 AMA’s Lifetime Achievement Award, and 2016 B. B. King Award, this Grammy award winner has played a vital role in preserving traditional blues and African-American music roots for decades. The Shedd Institute of the Arts, Dinner Available (6:00pm), show 7:30-9:00pm, $49-79, Ph 541.484.7000

20 WEDNESDAY Middle School Lounge. Scavenger Hunt! Grades 6-8, Fern Ridge Library, 4-5pm, FREE! Ph 541.935.7512 Kids: Cake Pops. Sign up and learn how to make cake pops. For ages 6-12. All supplies provided. Downtown Eugene Library, 4-5:30pm, FREE! Ph 541.682.8316 Jesse Cook. Known for his intoxicating fusion of world music, has travelled the globe looking for sounds that resonate with him. The Shedd Institute of the Arts, 7:30-9:00pm, $14-38, Ph 541.484.7000

21 THURSDAY S.T.E.A.M. Punks! Read to a Dog! Grades K-5, Fern Ridge Library, 3:30-5:30pm, FREE! Ph 541.935.7512 Little Family Yoga with Brynne Blevins. Springfield Library, 10:30am, FREE! Ph 541.726.3766 All ages Game Night. Come play a variety of classic and modern board games, card games, tabletop games, video games, and virtual reality games. Eugene Dwntwn Library, 5-7pm, FREE! Ph 541.682.8316 Love Heals All Wounds. Sheds an impassioned light on the social issues we face as a global community with a journey delving past the headlines to explore the heartstrings of our shared consciousness. Focusing on the issues of climate change, mass incarceration and immigration. Hult Center, 7:30pm, $25-67, Ph 541.682.5000

22 FRIDAY Beauty and the Beast. A tale as old as time wowed audiences first as an animated film in 1991, then as a Broadway Musical in 1994 where it ran for thirteen

years! Just in time for the holidays, a heartwarming and engaging show. Dinner Shows Available. Actors Cabaret, 7:30pm, $16-52.95, Ph 541.683.4368 Build It. Building fun on this no-school day. Play and experiment with a variety of materials like LEGO, Duplos, Keva Planks, Strawbees, and Brain Flakes, plus everyday items such as toothpicks and gumdrops. Bethel Branch Library, 11am-5pm, FREE! Ph 541.682.8316

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5th Annual Light Up Downtown. Kick-off the holiday season with live entertainment, hot cider and festive cocktails, food trucks and a holiday tree lighting ceremony in downtown Eugene. Family, friends and the community are welcome to gather downtown for the fun and activities. Downtown Park Blocks. 5:15 -7:00pm, FREE! A Night for Sight. The featured musical act will be none other than The Good Time Travelers! And the event would be complete w/o a cameo appearance of Dr. Haines jamming on the guitar with Chico and friends. Benefit for Give Me Sight Foundation. The Shedd Institute, 7:309:30pm, $25-100, Ph 541.484.7000

23 SATURDAY Nutcracker Remixed. All of the enchantment of the beloved fairytale set to modern day music by Mariah Carey, Whitney Houston, Meghan Trainor, Adele and more. Hult Center, 1pm & 6:30pm, $26.25-37.50, Ph 541.682.5000 Beauty and the Beast. See the 22nd MECCA Saturday Kids Crafting. See the 2nd Saturday Market Holiday Market. See the 16th

24 SUNDAY The Vaudeville Hour. The Shedd’s Musical Theatre Training Academy presents the 2nd semi-annual Vaudeville Hour! The Shedd Institute, 4:30-5:30pm, FREE! Ph 541.484.7000

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Oregon Ballet: Snow White Starts Friday, November 29th Night of a Thousand Stars. Kick off the holiday season with amazing lights, winter snowfall, Christmas music and Santa! Experience the magic of Christmas with the family and start shopping for Christmas gifts for everyone on your list. 5th Street Public Market, 5-8pm, FREE! Ph 541.484.0383 Saturday Market Holiday Market. See the 16th National Geographic Live: Social by Nature. Chimpanzees, wolves, and gorillas are among the most charismatic of the mammals we know. They’re also under threat. Join biologist-turned-photographer Ronan Donovan as he talks about his work in documenting these animals and what we, as fellow social mammals, can learn from them. Hult Center, 2pm, $25-28.50, Ph 541.682.5000

28 THURSDAY Turkey Stuffer Race. Run or walk a flat course that looks through a beautiful and quiet residential neighborhood. This event is open to all ages, so bring the entire family for a pre-feast activity. After the race, participants and their families can enjoy the waves at Splash! from 9 11:30am. at no additional charge. Lively Park, 8:30am, $15-30, Ph 541.736.4544

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Saturday Market Holiday Market. See the 16th Snow White and the Seven Dancing Dwarfs, presented by Oregon Ballet Academy. The ballet incorporates all levels of OBA students. The colorful sets, charming costumes, comical dwarfs, and beautiful music will delight audiences of all ages. Lane Community College Theater, 7pm, $12-15, Ph 541.338.7800 Oregon Free Fishing Days. On these dates you will not need a license, tag

or endorsement to fish, crab or clam anywhere in Oregon that’s open to fishing, crabbing or clamming. This is the perfect day to discover new fishing spots and introduce children to fishing. All catch limits and other restrictions still apply. FREE! All Day.

30 SATURDAY U of O Football. The Ducks will once again host the Oregon State Beavers at Autzen Stadium for the 123rd Civil War football game! Goducks.com Saturday Market Holiday Market. See the 16th Sweet Salvage Vintage Holiday Market. 9am-6pm, see the 29th Friendsgiving Half Marathon, 10k and 5k. Come out and compete along the Mill Race Path in Springfield to burn off that Thanksgiving feast with friends. The 100% paved course follows the Mill Race creek that connects with the Middle Fork Path for incredible views of the Willamette River. Mill Race Path, 9am, $20-70, Ph 541.731.3507 Oregon Free Fishing Days. See the 29th Beauty and the Beast. See the 22nd Snow White and the Seven Dancing Dwarfs. 2pm & 7pm, see the 29th

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Digital Awareness for Parents

f you’re a parent of a young child, it’s extremely likely that you’re cognizant of (or just as likely, concerned with) your child’s use of electronic devices. Which is completely understandable: computers are our almost permanent companions now, and it’s important that your child grows up having a healthy relationship with technology. They should come to understand how helpful it can be, and also realize how overuse can be a negative thing. Fortunately, it’s easier than ever to guide your child’s use of their smart devices. Both iOS and Android have built-in ways to do this: Apple calls theirs “Screen Time” and you can find it in your general settings; Google’s is called “Digital Wellbeing” and provides similar functionality. Both allow you to set daily time limits for specific apps and websites, restrict usage during certain hours of the day, and block any apps and web content you wish. You can set this up on their device with a passcode, and also link it

with your phone to manage all these settings remotely. Of course, the best way to keep your child from overusing their devices is to teach them to self-regulate, creating healthy habits at a young age that they will carry with them into adulthood. In addition, all of these features are also available to set up for yourself as well, so you can see how much time you spend on your phone per day. And digital content doesn’t have to be mindless; there are plenty of online resources to keep your kids sharp over the long holiday breaks. Here are just a few: Prodigy - This website offers a selection of fun, free math-based games, with skill levels ranging from 1st to 8th grade. NFL Play 60 - This fitness-focused app lets kids log and track their real-world activities--like sports, biking, or steps taken-in exchange for in-game points. Public Library - The public library is an excellent resource for all sorts of media, not

just books. Check out magazines, eBooks, music, DVDs, and even video games, all through your library membership. Kanopy - A free streaming service, provided through your public librar y membership. Users can watch up to 10 movies a month at no charge, and there’s a dedicated “Kids” section with a variety of TV shows and movies. You won’t find blockbusters, but there’s plenty of great indie and art-focused films to choose from. Khan Academy - Free courses on almost any subject you can think of! Videos and interactive lessons make learning fun and easy. Great for kids and adults alike.

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Forward-thinking Parents How to Embrace Online Communication Styles In and Beyond The Classroom by Christina Katz

hings have changed dramatically since parents were in school thanks to technological advances. The more children you have in school, the more challenging it may feel to balance all the communication coming and going via technology. But if you familiarize yourself with what to expect and follow these tips, you will feel informed and prepared for the school commitments affecting your family’s schedule this coming school year. Remember, parents, you always have a choice to see new communication methods in education as a boon to learning even if you’ve never tried them before. Here are a few types of communication to expect as your child progresses from elementary school through high school.

Parent-teacher Emails There are two types of teacher emails: group and individual. A teacher may email all the parents of students in one type of class at once on a regular basis. For example, the choir teacher may send out mass emails to announce upcoming concerts. Ask questions swiftly if you have any and then add any pertinent info to your family calendar. If you notice any errors in communication like an incorrect date or time, kindly point out the error to the sender. However do not offer grammatical advice or point out innocuous typos. No one appreciates that. Teachers are busy people, and they occasionally make mistakes just like the rest of us. A teacher may also reach out privately

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to the parents of one child. Don’t be alarmed if you get an email about your child’s behavior at school. You want to be informed when there is a reason for discussion, and your child’s teachers will let you know if there is. Take teacher emails in stride by not taking them personally, by wanting to be up to date about your student’s behavior, and by being as responsive and cooperative as you can regardless of the issue. Remember that even good kids can have poor behavior and that there is no such thing as bad kids; there is only poor behavior. When addressed with calm collaboration and a focus on finding swift solutions, teachers and parents can work together to get students cheerfully back on track.

Google Classroom Many schools encourage the use of Google Classroom, a versatile online platform that helps students express themselves and collaborate. Google Classroom is a passwordprotected service that makes everyone’s role easier by creating a paperless environment for the creation, sharing, distributing and grading of papers. Included in the online platform is Google Drive for the storage and distribution of documents, Google Docs, Sheets, and Slides for the creation of writing, Gmail for communication, and Google Calendar for scheduling. Using Google Classroom allows school to consolidate a lot of class work into one universal online service. Some students will start using this platform as early as elementary school, so it’s wise for parents to familiarize themselves with it by watching online tutorial videos.

Teacher Blogs Some teachers like to use blogs to post lessons, deadlines, and online resources. When teachers choose to use blogs, they are usually housed on the district’s website plan. Generally speaking, school-approved technology like teacher blogs are a safe, secure way for teachers and students to communicate more thoroughly. This type of service can be especially helpful when a student misses class because of an illness or field trip, although teachers still need to be notified about absences. If your child is trying to learn good organization habits, teacher blogs can be a real help. If the teacher is not using a blog, make sure your student has a planner and knows how to use it effectively, a skill that is expected to be mastered by the end of middle school.

Flipped Classrooms A flipped classroom means lessons are learned at home via videos or audios posted to a teacher blog or online classroom, so students can practice what they’ve just learned in the classroom with the assistance of their teacher. In the traditional model, lessons are taught in class and homework is used as practice. By flipping this dynamic, students can get more support in executing lessons and getting their questions answered more easily. If your child ends up in a class where the teacher is using a flipped classroom approach, it may take some time to adjust. As a parent, support your student in giving the approach a fair chance, and try to temper any automatic resistance you may have to the idea. Don’t be surprised if your student ends up preferring this method in the long run.

Social Media Groups Parents who volunteer may already have some experience with social media groups, and students will likely be invited to participate in these types of groups by middle school or high school. Social media groups are a convenient way to broadcast information and communicate swiftly on an ongoing basis. For example, a high school theater department may have a private Facebook drama club group composed of current members and parents of members administered by the school advisors. Drama club officers might use the group to post announcements for upcoming outings and events. Parent volunteers might use a sign-up service like Sign-up Genius to rally donations or fill time slots. The director’s of upcoming plays or musicals can create subgroups of students and parents in order to share specific information only with relevant audiences. Consult your student handbook for your school’s social media policies and encourage your student to be a good digital citizen no matter what methods of communication are in use. Christina Katz has cheerfully embraced technological advances since childhood. She received the very first iteration of the Macintosh computer when she matriculated college and has not looked back since.

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A Dad’s Eye View Humor by Rick Epstein

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hen our first child Marie was born, she instantly became the center of our universe. Three years later when Sally came along, she found a much easier role. At 20 months of age, Sally’s life was a carefree whirl. She sang. She danced. She would put a colander on her head and wear it like a helmet. At mealtime she’d shout “Done!” and fling a plate of food to the floor. She’d tear up books. She’d scribble on the walls. She’d claim her name was “Jessica” (a cousin) and laugh happily at her joke. I attribute it to birth order. Years ago, working fo r a n e w s p a p e r / website, I went to photograph Colleen O’Reilly, a teenager who had won a beauty contest. At the O’Reilly home, Mom was fussing over Colleen, getting her ready for the photo while the kid sister sulked conspicuously nearby. “I guess I’ll never be famous like Colleen,” she said. “Now Bonnie,” her mom said soothingly while brushing the big sister’s bangs into formation, “Colleen does well in these pageants, but you have special talents… like the way you play the flute so nicely.” “Mom!” Bonnie yelled in anguish. “Colleen plays the flute; I play the clarinet.” She ran to her room and demonstrated a flair for percussion, too, with a good, resonant slam of her bedroom door. Poor Bonnie didn’t get it. With her parents preoccupied with their

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lovely and talented firstborn, Bonnie needn’t have bothered with the clarinet. She could have taken up sky diving and Mom wouldn’t have noticed. I know because I’m a secondborn myself. Many firstborns are great achievers. But they achieve under the pressure of parental expectation. They shine like diamonds, but diamonds would just be lumps of coal if it weren’t for the pressure. Secondborns are free. For one thing, we usually aren’t as smart as the firstborns. That’s because our tired and distracted parents weren’t stimulating our little brains every waking moment – adoring us, tickling us, petting us, photographing us and reading to us. So, to offset our inability to think great thoughts and do calculus, secondborns develop other qualities, such as charm, cunning and joie de vivre. Also, because our parents have gotten over the worst of their fears, we don’t imbibe from them the exaggerated sense of caution that firstborns have. While young, we trespass freely, splash through creeks, play with fire, seek out bad company and ride our bikes like Sioux warriors. At age 7, while my big brother was reading The Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire in his room, I fell out of a tree onto my head. My mom didn’t rush me to the hospital for X-rays, like she would have if her firstborn had been knocked senseless. She took me to Mr. Angelotti. He was only a middle-school biology teacher, but a darn good one. “How many fingers am I holding up?” he asked, and pronounced me fit. They didn’t do a lot of unnecessary medical testing back then, so that was it. But even prompt repair of my head injury wouldn’t have made me as smart as my big brother. All grown up, he works for the State Depar tment, assigned to bring peace to the Middle East. It’s the price he pays for all that extra parenting. No one expects much from me. It’s enough that I hold a job, do some laundry, and remember to put on my pants before leaving the house. L ess parental fo cus on secondborns allows a kid more room in which to operate. Which bring us back to Sally, who is now 20 years old and taking a semester abroad. Is she in Europe studying its culture and dutifully visiting art museums and ancient cathedrals like her big sister did? No, Sally has hung her hammock at the University of the South Pacific in Fiji. She scuba dives by day, and evening finds her doing easy homework by the festive light of tiki torches. The photos she posts on her Facebook page are all palmy beaches, blue water, tanned bodies and big smiles. The Fiji interlude is her biggest coup since she talked her way out of doing eighth grade. Two highlights of a great life. How does she do it? I give her no credit; it’s an accident of birth. Rick Epstein can be reached at rickepstein@yahoo.com. But take it easy; he’s feeling a bit frail just now.

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Read & Play by Jennifer Galvin

This November, as I look around and notice all of the trees changing color and losing their leaves, I am in awe of nature and thankful for all of the amazing sights right outside my window. As we gather with friends and family to count our blessings this year, I am grateful for so many things, including the friends and family. Here are some fabulous books and projects to do together as you celebrate family, fall, and Thanksgiving this November.

READ… The Itsy Bitsy Pilgrim Little Simon, $5.99, ages baby-preschool by Jeffrey Burton

An adorable Thanksgiving board book that is based on the classic nursery rhyme, the “Itsy Bitsy Spider.” Full of charming illustrations and lively text—a great read aloud for little ones for Thanksgiving!

Thank You Earth Greenwillow Books, $17.99, ages 3-6 by April Pulley Sayre

Mountains, leaves, soil, animals—all amazing things! Earth is our home and it is so full of beauty. From the air we breathe to the earth we walk on and everything in between, we can be so thankful for our wonderful planet. Illustrated with stunning photography, this book pays homage to, and also helps us remember that we can, and should protect our earth.

what does Triangle do? Goes behind the waterfall. Circle goes after him, and quite an adventure ensues. Just when Circle thinks he has found Triangle, another pair of eyes appear! And, it’s not Square—who is it? Find out in this fabulous adventure. Wonderful!

Gittel’s Journey: An Ellis Island Story Abrams Books for Young Readers, $17.99, ages 5-9 by Lesléa Newman

Gittel and her mother set off for America because it is not safe at home for them. Gittel’s mother has to go back home because of an eye infection, so Gittel must make the long journey alone. Upon arriving in America, she discovers she has lost the

Circle Candlewick Press, $15.99, ages 4-8 by Mac Barnett & Jon Klassen

Circle tells Square and Triangle not to go behind the waterfall when they are playing hide-and-seek, so

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address of her mother’s cousin. Fortunately, a newspaperman takes her picture and her mother’s cousin comes to pick her up at Ellis Island. Eventually, Mama joins Gittel in America, her eye infection is all healed—hooray!! Full of luminous, absolutely gorgeous illustrations and based on a true story, or, as the extremely interesting and informative author’s note at the back explains, actually two true stories blended together—fascinating!

Judy Moody & Stink: The Wishbone Wish Candlewick Press, $14.99, ages 5-10 by Megan McDonald

The Turkey Trot race is coming and Judy Moody is determined to win and take the turkey to Grandma’s house for Thanksgiving. Judy Moody and Stink train like crazy to try to win the relays at the festival. They even give up sugar! Can Judy do it? Or will there be no turkey for the Moody family this Thanksgiving? Find out as you follow along with Judy and Stink as they train like crazy for the Thanksgiving festival--Gobblers a Go-Go!

Migration: Incredible Animal Journeys Bloomsbury Children’s Books, $18.99, ages 5-10 by Mike Unwin

Follow along on the incredible journeys of twenty different animals around the world. Humpback whales, caribou, monarch butterflies, and elephants are a few of the magnificent creatures that you’ll be following on these amazing adventures. Beautiful, vibrant illustrations and intriguing, entertaining journeys will have you opening this book again and again to read about these amazing animals!

... and PLAY! Make a turkey pin Materials: Brown, yellow, red, and orange felt, glue, a jewelry pin, and wiggly eyes. Directions: Cut a light bulb shape out of brown felt to be the turkey’s body. The bulb part will be the body. Cut many feathers out of different colors of felt and glue them on behind the body. Cut a waddle out of red felt and a beak out of orange felt and glue them onto your turkey’s face. Glue eyes on above the beak. Cut feet out of orange felt and glue them onto the bottom of the body. Glue the pin to the back

Paint a placemat with leaves Materials: A fabric placemat (pre-washed), red, yellow, orange and brown fabric paint, a couple of leaves, scissors, and a paper plate. Directions: Spread a fairly thin layer of fabric paint onto your paper plate. Dip your leaf into the paint and then print it onto the placemat. Repeat this several times with different leaves and different colors of paint, making an interesting pattern on your placemat. Let dry. Follow the directions on the fabric paint for washing your placemat when it needs to be laundered.

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Take a fall nature walk and create a lovely autumn centerpiece for your table Materials: A bag with handles, a bowl or platter, and nature items you have collected on your hike. Directions: Take a hike and collect nature items that appeal to you. We collected a few pine cones, several fall leaves, some interesting pods, and some rocks. Arrange the nature items in a bowl or platter and use them as a centerpiece on your table. Jennifer Galvin is never far from her children, a paintbrush, or a good book. You can find her on the web at www.jennifergalvin.com.

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Movie Time by Bonnie L. Harris

Magical, Musical Journey On top of the world.

Dreamworks Animation Rated: PG Now in theatres

eing a teenager is tough, no matter the countr y or the language. And losing your family makes growing up so much harder. Those are themes in director Jill Culton’s beautifully animated feature, Abominable, which is about a young girl and her huge furry friend named Everest. Culton takes her audience on a wild ride through the metropolis of Shanghai, then wings her way across the Chinese countryside with three adorable kids and

the cutest fur-ball on four legs. Add to that plenty of whimsical humor, a fantastic soundtrack, and some surprising Yeti magic, and you have one of the best animated films of the year. Our hero, Y i , h o w e v e r, doesn’t think she’s very lucky as she works hard to save up for a crosscountry trip that she hoped to take with her beloved father. He passed away suddenly, and Yi is left with his violin, a broken heart, and a longing for faraway places. When she discovers a

runaway Yeti hiding on her roof, Yi must suddenly choose to do the right thing and help him return to his family thousands

of miles away. Dragging along an unwilling neighborhood friend, Jin, and his little cousin, Peng, Yi manages to safely dodge a shady zoologist and a greedy industrialist who are determined to recapture Everest and experiment on him. As the

FOR THE PARENTS Broken Rainbow Judy Roadside Attractions, Rated: PG-13 Now in theatres

Oscar contention. In the film, it’s 1969 and Judy must leave her two children with their father while she takes a paying job in London.

atching the new biopic, Judy, about the last performances of the legendary Judy Garland is like watching a human train wreck in slow motion. While heart-wrenching and painful, it’s also sadly fascinating to witness the disintegration of an iconic personality created by Hollywood. Adapted from the 2012 Broadway play, Judy is a study in the nature of performers who sacrifice everything for the adrenaline of the stage and screen. No doubt Renee Zellweger, who plays Judy, will be in

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Leaving her children behind.

foursome travels, Yi realizes her father left her the gift of music and his violin becomes the key to helping Everest rejoin his Yeti clan. And Jin, surprisingly e n o u g h , discovers that a teenager can actually have fun without a cell phone! It’s a heart-stopping ending as Yi must gather her courage and save her friends from certain death. But never fear, Everest winds up happy and Yi returns home with a new appreciation for her family and her father’s music.

Her concerts swing wildly from transcendent to dismal as she battles addiction, her inner demons, and flashbacks of her distorted childhood working for MGM studios. When Judy finally feels strong enough to reclaim her children, her ex-husband arrives in London to announce that they prefer a stable life with him. Crushed, she relinquishes them, and returns to the theatre for a final performance of Over the Rainbow. When the song ends with the crowd singing along, Judy pleads, “Promise you won’t forget me.” We won’t forget her, but we’ll certainly understand what a complicated life she led.

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ife changes significantly when we have children, and it’s not uncommon for parents (especially those with newborns and infants) to feel social isolation. Between feedings, swaddling, and diaper changes to the busy toddler years of potty training, tower building, and imaginative play, weeks to months can fly by without us parents interacting with another adult. It’s easy to dismiss your own needs when you are a parent. But having a social network and other parent friends to connect with is vital to your own well-being. Studies show that parents with support systems in place are at reduced risk for depression, anxiety, and other mood disorders. Research has identified social connections as a core protective factor for strong families. Not sure how to start building your social network? Keep reading! The importance of interconnectedness Parenting comes with its unique set of challenges: Every child is different; some are easy babies, while others need a lot of soothing. Then, of course, there’s the toddler who is the world’s pickiest eater, or the 8-year old who refuses bedtime—and

all the while we question whether these things are “normal” or if we are parenting the “right way.” Having other parents to share your stories with and ask questions of goes a long way in filling our need as parents to feel understood and supported. It’s comforting to know that you are not alone in your parenting struggles. Here at Parenting Now!, the most common response we get when parents are asked: “What are the most important takeaways from your group?” is “meeting other parents” and knowing they are all “in it together.” What a relief it is to parents to find out that their child is not the only one who still wakes in the night, won’t stay still for a diaper change, or is scared of something that didn’t used to be scary. Life is busy! We find that many parents value having the time and space set aside for them to learn, process, support and grow. A parenting group has the potential to become that village we all have heard is so important when raising a family. Find the support you need Lane County is full of parenting groups and programs designed to bring parents together for support and socialization. Here are some places to get started:

• Baby Connection. Weekly drop-in program for infant feeding support and education. • Daisy C.H.A.I.N. Walk-in breastfeeding support; baby music times. • Parenting Now! Parenting support and education; group sessions, as well as drop-in program. • WellMama. Maternal mental health support services; support groups offered throughout the week. Locally, you can also connect with other parents during storytimes at the Eugene Springfield libraries; Facebook groups such as The Coolest Mamas in Eugene, and Eugene Springfield Moms. You can visit the Go Mom Go Eugene and LaneKids website for full lists of activities and events for families! For a full list of local resources, visit https://resources.parentingnow.org/ As they say, it takes a village to parent. Never feels ashamed or scared to reach out for support. As parents, we can all benefit from parenting groups and additional resources and education. Parenting Now!, formerly Birth To Three, is a private, non-profit organization that provides parenting education and support to families with young children.

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Success for Those We Serve in the Community

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ince 1958, Goodwill Industries (Goodwill) has had the privilege of serving the Lane and South Coast Counties of Oregon. Powered by the generous donation of your gently used items for sale across our ten stores, Goodwill provides opportunities for people with barriers to employment. That is our promise, a promise we made—and kept – to almost 6,600 program participants last year. It’s the promise we made to Brandon. A devoted father, Brandon found himself without work. Struggling with personal challenges, employment was always something he sought for himself and his children, but was difficult to maintain. Jobs he did have required certain sacrifices; most notably and painfully was the lack of quality time he was able to spend with his three children. Brandon worked as a carpenter, steel fabricator, and a firefighter but eventually found himself unemployed and in the depths of an addiction. In 2017, he decided to make changes and began his journey by entering recovery through the Families Actively Improving Relationships

Spending quality time with his daughters is Brandon’s primary focus and is accomplished through work-life balance, achieved with the help of Goodwill. Program at OSLC Development, Inc. Through soul-searching and a lot of hard work, his commitments to treatment helped him on the path to sobriety. Upon recommendations from peers and his Department of Human Services (DHS) Family Coach, Brandon was referred to Goodwill’s Supported Work Program*. His Employment Specialist worked with him to develop a schedule that allowed him time with his children. While working at Goodwill’s transportation warehouse, Brandon quickly became known for his amazing attitude, stellar work ethic, positive outlook and initiative, and earned attendance awards while commuting from Veneta. Between volunteering, treatment, and spending time with his family, Brandon filled out applications for jobs in the community, including a position as a Landscape and Maintenance Technician at Goodwill. With his Goodwill Employment Specialist, he created a tailored resume and practiced for interviews. Brandon aced the interview for Goodwill

and began working full time the following week. Since then, he has continued to impress his managers with the dedication with which he does his job. He is not just getting by, he is thriving in his new position. With almost two years of sobriety to his name, Brandon feels like everything is coming into place in other areas of his life. His long-term career goal is to become a Certified Drug and Alcohol Counselor but for now, Brandon and his daughters are focusing on their new life ahead, which includes family time together. During this season of thanks, Goodwill would like to thank you for your donations, as they truly do change lives. Goodwill contracts with the DHS Self Sufficiency Program to provide supported work experience opportunities to individuals receiving TANF. Work experience is provided at any of Goodwill’s Retail Training Centers to help individuals overcome barriers to employment. For more information on Goodwill’s programs, visit www.goodwill-oregon.org. O R E G O N F A M I LY. C O M • N O V E M B E R 2 0 1 9

Rescue Spotlight

his smiley girl is Cinder! She has the most beautiful brindle marking and is the biggest cuddler around! She loves loving her humans and giving kisses! She’s a super friendly girl that loves to play fetch. Cinder does well on walks, runs and in the car. Our volunteers said she is “very sweet! Loves to play catch with her stuffies and give you kisses. Cinder is such a sweetheart. She loves chilling together on a blanket.” Cinder is a 6 year old pitbull boxer mix. She needs to be the only pet in the home but has a great history with children. This affectionate lady is an well behaved dog that is looking for her family to love.If you are interested in adopting a dog, or would like to learn more about adding a dog to your family, please visit Greenhill Humane Society. Greenhill Humane Society is open for adoptions seven days a week, 11 am – 6 pm at 88530 Green Hill Rd in Eugene. For more information call (541) 689.1503 or visit www.green-hill.org.

he Cat Rescue & Adoption Network presents Gable, a cheerful and energetic young black and white tuxedo male kitty about a year old. This sweet guy loves absolutely everybody of all ages. If you have an available lap for him to explore, he will hop into your lap, hop out, and then hop back in after some play time. Bring him a toy on a stick, a shoelace, or some catnip mice – and watch him go crazy! Gable was brought as a stray into a local vet with a badly injured tail, but with medical care and lots of TLC in his foster home, he is completely well now. He would probably like a buddy to hang out with in his new home - a cheerful, playful cat or an easygoing dog might make purrfect companions Gable is neutered, up to date on vaccinations, microchipped, has been defleaed and dewormed, and is negative for Felv and FIV. His adoption fee is $120, which allows us to continue to provide care for other kittens and cats in need. To meet Gable, please call 541-225-4955 option 1 or send an email to adoptinfo@CatRescues.org

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