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Boy Scouts Withdraw Job Offer to Local Lesbian Director of Gay Pilots Association Killed in Single-engine Plane Crash Equality State Finally True to its Name: Marriage Equality in Wyoming Denver’s Free Wedding Wednesdays Give LGBTQ Youth a Place to Be Themselves

Panel: Colorado’s Marriage Reaction

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18 The Lesbian Socialite: Vegas, Baby!

34 Colorado Nuptials

20 Michelle Obama Visits Denver 22 Changing Your Name After Marriage 23 Legal Directory 24 Mary Lambert 26 Throwing a Bitchin’ Bachelor(ette) Party 28 Calendar

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32 A Same-Sex Marriage Timeline

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boY ScouTS wiThdRaw Job offeR To local leSbian She was then taken to lunch by David Whinter, the BSADA Program Team Leader, and was verbally ON Sep. 19, Yasmin Cassani was offered a position offered the job — with one additional requirement. as program director with the Boy Scouts Denver “The day that they offered me the position, Area Council, but the job was rescinded once she they told me I had to become a formal member,” informed the organization she was an open lesbian, says Yasmin, adding that becoming a member was she tells Out Front. never listed as a requirement for the job. “So once Yasmin has been working to improve the lives I reviewed the employee manual, I looked into the of kids since she was a teenager, working first as membership process and found out they do not a camp counselor in Michigan. “I just fell in love grant membership to openly gay people.” with helping kids and being a positive influence Yasmin emailed her contact, explaining that and role model for them.” she was indeed an open lesbian and asked if that was going to be an issue. A few days later, Yasmin She grew up in a single-parent home with a says that Dave Whitner called her and withdrew small income. Though Yasmin loves the outdoors, she didn’t get a lot of chances to pursue her passion. the offer, stating that she didn’t meet the minimum Then, through the kindness of a family friend, she qualifications for the position. “I did tell him that it was very unfortunate that was able to attend a basketball camp where she could indulge in her love sports and the outdoors. this was the case because they obviously picked Yasmin never forgot the importance of that me because of my experience and my abilities and opportunity she was given, and she is now the he agreed,” says Yasmin. “I was really upset; I was co-founder for the nonprofit, Create Play, which looking forward to that job. It was given to me, provides recreational equipment and opportunities offered to me, I knew it was going to be the right career move for me.” for underprivileged kids. “That’s near and dear to “i’m happy and proud of who i Yasmin adds that she could have taken the job my heart because as a kid, I didn’t always have those without disclosing her sexual orientation, but she opportunities unless people were helping me, and am. i’m not going to go to work I think it’s time to pay it forward.” didn’t feel that it was the right thing to do. “I’m and be scared that i’m going to Yasmin moved to Colorado from Michigan in happy and proud of who I am. I’m not going to go to work and be scared I’m going to be fired every 2008 to intern for Denver Parks and Recreation be fired every single day, and i single day. I wasn’t okay with that.” where she fell in love with the Centennial State. wasn’t okay with that.” At every other place of work, Yasmin’s sexual For the past three and a half years, she has worked as a youth services coordinator. orientation has never been a problem. “In my — yasmin Cassani “As an adult, it’s really important for me to help current place of employment it’s not an issue. I’m kids and show them they can tackle obstacles if welcomed and everyone is so great and people their parents can’t afford to send them to camp.” don’t judge me for my sexual orientation. I’m so comfortable.” Earlier this year, Yasmin discovered the Boy Scouts Denver Area Council Out Front reached out to the Boy Scout Denver Area Council, but the was opening an adventure center at the beginning of 2015, and they were organization did not return multiple attempts for a comment. The organilooking for a center director. zation did release a statement to FOX 31 that read, “As this is a personnel “It was a huge step up from my job now and I was extremely excited matter, we are not at liberty to discuss details. But, during the employment about the position,” says Yasmin, who was eager to broaden her passion of process, this individual brought it to our attention that she did not meet the the outdoors and for helping kids. “It would have been a great career move requirements for employment.” for me.” Despite the fact that Yasmin lost the job, she tries to find meaning behind Though she admits she had some trepidations about how the organiza- it. “It’s really unfortunate that discrimination is still happening based on tion has treated the LGBT community in the past, she was confident her sexual orientation. But I also feel like this happened for a reason, and own sexual orientation would not be a problem as the Boy Scouts recently this is where I can advocate for change. That’s what I’m trying to do. I’m allowed openly gay youths to join. trying to move forward and trying to figure out how this will not happen in Yasmin applied for the position and participated in the first round of the future.” interviews on Sep. 3. “It was a pretty intense process with a couple of different Yasmin hopes her story will have an impact on others to stand up for who interview panels of people.” Yasmin was asked to return to a second round they are and not be afraid. “The only way we’re going to create change is to of interviews on Sep. 19, where she met with the CEO of the Boy Scouts of stand up and say discrimination based on sexual orientation, or anything America Denver Area Council (BSADA). else, is not okay.”  Mike Yost

director of gay pilots association killed in single-engine plane crash bOulDeR — The Executive Director of the National Gay Pilots Association was killed Monday when the single-engine plane he was flying crashed and burst into flames after taking off from Boulder Municipal Airport. Steven Moore, 35, was killed in the crash, according to a statement by the pilots group. He was flying the plane, a Mooney M-20C, to nearby Broomfield for maintenance. The preliminary investigation indicates the plane hit the ground propeller-first just after 7:30 a.m., said Cmdr. Jeff Hendry of the Boulder County Sheriff’s Office. Scott Shatzer, chairman of the National Gay 8

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Pilots Association (NGPA), a global community of LGBT aviators, confirmed to The Associated Press that Moore was killed in the crash. On their Facebook page, the NGPA said, “It is with greatest sadness that we must announce the loss of a treasured member of our NGPA family.” “Our Executive Director, and valiant crusader for the NGPA cause, Steven Moore, passed away this morning while flying his beloved Mooney in Colorado. Steven, we love you, we will miss you, and we will be forever indebted to you for all of the passion you put into your work with NGPA.”

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Jeff Slater, who was working on gas lines near the airport’s runway, told the Daily Camera the plane “didn’t sound right” when it took off. “It was choking and sputtering pretty bad,” he said. “It sounded horrible.” The crash is being investigated by the sheriff’s office and the National Transportation Safety Board. Moore was employed as a First Officer for ExpressJet, a regional airline that operates as American Eagle, Delta Connection, and United Express. He is survived by his fiancé, Nathan Samek. 

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Bonnie Robinson and Anne Guzzo

Equality State Finally True to its Name Wyoming couple Bonnie Robinson and Anne Guzzo were featured in Out Front back in March after filing a lawsuit with three other couples against the state’s gay marriage ban, but a battle which potentially could have lasted years suddenly came to an end on Oct. 21. Mike Yost

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t was something we never thought we would see in our lifetimes until very recently,” says Anne, who was at the Albany County Clerk’s Office with Bonnie the day same-sex marriage became legal. “There’s a lot of joy today. We brought roses with us to give to anyone who might be getting a license.” Bonnie added she almost couldn’t believe that any same-sex couple in Wyoming could now just walk into a county clerk’s office and receive a marriage license. “It still seems surreal that it’s finally here after all this time.” Bonnie and Anne thought they were going to have to wait until December for their day in court, followed by months of appeals. But on Oct. 6, the US Supreme Court refused to hear a ruling by the Denver-based 10th Circuit Court of Appeals declaring Utah’s gay marriage ban unconstitutional. Six states fall under the jurisdiction of the 10th Circuit, including Colorado and Wyoming. “I

was disappointed that it wasn’t going to go to the On Oct. 17, US District Court Judge Scott W. Skavdahl Supreme Court,” says Bonnie, equating the last ruled that Wyoming’s statute prohibiting same-sex few weeks as a roller-coaster ride. “But then I marriage was unconstitutional. Wyoming did not was excited that it made it legal in Wyoming, but appeal the ruling, becoming the 32nd state to legalthen upset [again] when I realized the governor ize gay marriage. was still denying marriage licenses.” For Bonnie, the most memorable moment Wyoming Gov. Matt Mead stated the Supreme during the last few weeks was when she was Court’s decision had no impact on Wyoming welcoming couples at the county clerk’s office. and that he would continue to enforce the “A couple came up to me, and one of them had state’s gay marriage ban. In return, the attor- tears in her eyes and she hugged me and thanked neys representing Bonnie and Anne as part of me because their marriage is now recognized.” For Anne, it was when she was sitting in the the original lawsuit sued the state in federal court to immediately allow same-sex couples courtroom with a front row seat to the judicial to marry. system at work. “You can’t cheat the constitution, “One of the things I was very surprised at was and that’s why I felt particularly proud to be an that the state brought no evidence — literally American in Wyoming. The Constitution worked. nothing,” says Anne, who attended the hearing It protected our rights.” with Bonnie. “It really felt to me like there was But Anne acknowledges there are still same-sex political grandstanding on the governor’s part couples lacking basic protections, with 18 states because when it actually came down to the lawsuit, currently prohibiting gay marriage. “We just want he pretty much didn’t do anything.” [same-sex marriage] for the whole country,” says Nor did the governor show up for the hearing. Anne. “We want it for everyone.” 

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least from what I’m hearing, youth still don’t feel they can be who they truly are. Yesterday, I was actually meeting with two youth here and they were saying the reason they continue to come to Rainbow Alley is that this was the first place they felt welcome. They’ve built friendships here. They’ve built community here. That’s what I want: Opportunity for young people to be proud of themselves and feel empowered, regardless of what their situations are. Everything I do is geared toward that ultimate goal.” Nadine comes to The Center after working with Denver Urban Scholars. She first became aware of the program when she encountered youth who needed additional support. “I had a lot of youth who came out or who were questioning or who were not out at all and just needed a safe space to be who they are,” she remembers. “I dropped them off here and met with the folks at Rainbow Alley and was impressed with what I saw.” For the time being, Nadine is excited about continuing Rainbow Alley’s success. Drop-in hours will continue, Tuesday through Friday from 3 – 8pm in The Center’s youth space. “I want Rainbow Alley at the forefront of supporting LGBTQ youth,” Nadine concludes. “I hope people will look toward Rainbow Alley in regard to best practices. I also hope the youth we serve will become mini ambassadors for the work we are doing here and in turn, youth will come to us. I want parents to know we are a resource for them too if they need one.”  Learn more about Rainbow Alley online at GLBTColorado.org/Rainbow-Alley, or give them a call at (303) 733-7743.

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From Seed to Sale: Mindful Marijuana Mike Yost e Product specialist Ry Prichard buttons up a white lab coat, motioning for me to do the same before taking me on a tour of Mindful’s 40,000 sq.ft. warehouse dedicated to growing the most unparalleled pot in Colorado. Every week, the facility churns out about 100 lbs. of product, housing more than 5,000 plants with 250 different strains. As I’m lead into the vegetation room where the entire process begins, Ry tells me about Mindful’s not-sosecret weapon — lead grower Phillip Hague. “He’s known worldwide for what he does, and he’s traveled to Afghanistan, Ghana, all these different places to get genetics,” says Ry. “He’s created close to 100 strains of his own, and he’s been breeding for the better part of 20 years. We’re really proud to have him as part of the operation.” Ry explains how the vegetation room serves as a sort of genetic library where different strains are tested and cultivated, grown either from a seed or as a clone clipped from one of the mother plants. “Phillip is able to create varieties that are more dialed in toward specific ailments, toward specific smells and flavors, and that can only happen from seed,” Ry explains. “Once you find what you want, then you want the clone.” After 7 to 10 days — once the plants are well rooted — they are moved into the propagation room where they’re blasted with light 24 hours a day (to bolster growth) and are fed a tightly-regimented diet to perfect the product. “The cool part about our facility is that we use a fertigation system,” says Ry. “Basically it’s a big, computerized feeding system that we can dial in for specific nutrient programs for specific times for specific rooms.” After two to three weeks, the plants are moved to one of the 11 flowering rooms, some of which can hold as many as 800 plants at a time. I follow Ry into one of the flowing rooms surrounded by marijuana plants as tall as I am, large clusters of sticky, frosty buds populating each plant. He eagerly shows me a couple of different strains, including Mob Boss, Lavender Appalachia, Head Trip, and Triangle Kush — his favorite. “When it’s full grown and you smoke it in a joint, you taste it the entire way down, and there are very few strains that do that.” For six to eight weeks, the plants are fed with the fertigation system as the light in each room is cycled on and off every 12 hours. The plants are then harvested and prepped for trimming. Ry walks me through a room where about 20 people wearing blue scrubs (to prevent contaminates) are quietly trimming away on the latest harvest. “Hand trimming is a lot more delicate,” says Ry, emphasizing how Mindful’s higher-end products are trimmed by hand rather than by a machine. “You’re retaining the original structure of the bud, and you really taste and feel the difference. If you go into a dispensary and everything sort of smells the same, they probably machinetrimmed them.” The product is then dried, inspected, tested for THC content, vacuum-sealed, and shipped to one of their stores. The entire process takes 12 to 18 weeks depending on the strain. And Mindful also works to grow community ties. There’s a vegetable garden out back, the produce of which is given away at the Hiawatha Davis Recreation Center. “We go out there with a big tent and give away all the produce to people,” says Ry. “We like to give back however we can.”  Learn more online at BeMindful.today. 14

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Law enforcement doesn’t have the best reputation when dealing with transgender individuals. There’s a high rate of police assault on transfolk and an even higher rate for transgender individuals of color. In response, Denver’s law enforcement sought out to change those statistics, and created a policy that expanded on their existing one-paragraph of trans policy into a staggering nine-page policy aimed at improving relations between law enforcement and the transgender community. The seminar, mainly used as a way to educate police academy students and other interested community members, is roughly three hours long and covers many of the basics that the transgender community has set. The major issues touched upon were use of correct terminology, debunking misconceptions, building trust and rapport with those in the community, and improving the respect between the police force and transgender population in Denver. “Being more compassionate and understanding of trans individuals can be something as simple and overlooked as providing bras to trans inmates,” said Deputy Angela Willis, one of the speakers. The class originated after a six-month collaboration of police, the US Department of Justice’s Community Relations Service, and Colorado community members who described the process as “less like unicorns, ponies, and rainbows and more like a mutual, level-headed conversation with some crying,” per Captain Paul Oliva, another speaker. Thanks to the progressive, passionate program, the Denver Police Department now has one of the most advanced transgender policies in the nation. The seminar also had some useful tips for transgender people, such as disclosure on transgender status when dealing with law enforcement. Every uniformed police officer must take this class, so they have a basic The Denver Police understanding of trans issues, and are Department now has one encouraged to be as sensitive as possible. “It’s paramount to remember to treat all of the most advanced people with respect,” said Deputy Willis. transgender policies in This led to a request for transgender people to trust in police. Disclosure of the nation. transgender status makes for smoother interactions, respectful handling, and (to law enforcement relief) less overall paperwork. The respect was enhanced by the police speakers, whose speeches were punctuated with scenarios and in-field experience gained by the implementation of the thoroughly-researched policy. Deputy Willis said the go-to phrase for transgender conversations is: “When in doubt or uncertain, ask clarifying questions.” While there’s no doubt transgender people and law enforcement have not always been on the best terms, it seems as though Colorado police force is on the right track for healthy, communicative partnerships. 

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Why do you think the announcement of same-sex marriage in Colorado didn’t generate as much excitement as some thought it might?

live in Capitol Hill and on my way to the grocery store, I pass Planned Parenthood. It wasn’t too long ago that I drove past and saw folks outside protesting abortion. To refresh our memories, it was in 1973 that the Supreme Court legalized abortion across the United States. Forty years later, the issue is still attracting protests. In fact, Colorado has a personhood bill coming through that threatPieter Tolsma ens to ban abortion again. There is a very real chance abortion rights might be stripped away, 40 years after winning them. What’s my point? Romer v Evans settled an issue in 1994 that set Colorado apart as the “hate state” of the west. Twenty years later, we have gay marriage through yet another court case. Keep in mind, the people of our fine state banned gay marriage explicitly just over a decade ago via referendum. That means, when people got a chance to say “yes” or “no”, the majority said they wanted no chance of gay marriage. A court case changed the situation but the memory of that referendum remains. What makes me cautious about marriage? History. I lived in San Francisco during the Summer of Love when gay marriage was legal before Proposition 8 took it away. We fought the legal battle and won for right now, but let’s remember: We have to keep at it or it can all be taken away. 

believe that most people in the LGBT community knew it was just a matter of time before the Supreme Court of the United States either ruled or let stand lower court rulings on same-sex marriage. The excitement level by the time of the decision was likely lower than some anticipated for several reasons: • Our governor and state attorney general already George Gramer, Jr. said they would abide by the Supreme Court decision. • Many Colorado same-sex couples are already civil-unioned or have been married in another state. • The unmarried are not likely particularly interested in tying the legal knot for a variety of reasons. (If polled, I would guess that most LGBT have no desire to marry.) There are still many things that need to be tidied up in the Colorado statute. Even with the SCOTUS’ decision, the Colorado legislature must clean up a lot of state laws in the next session. There will be supporters on both sides of the aisle to correctly codify changes. 2014 will go down as a watershed year in the LGBT movement, yet there is much to be done in our nation and around the world. America is changing, but much of the rest of the world is not. That’s the next big hurdle for the LGBT movement. 

Pieter Tolsma is program coordinator of Denver PIQUE, a sexual health and social support program for gay/bi men in Denver.

Iowa native George Gramer, Jr. is president of the Colorado Log Cabin Republicans.

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e It’s happened: Queers can get married in Vegas. After the SCOTUS decision, (or indecision), queers everywhere started getting married — including those in Nevada. I called this shit years ago! I said I never understood why Nevada (of all the states in the union!) hadn’t passed marriage equality. What’s gayer than Vegas? (Don’t even try to answer that.) We know the answer is nothing. Literally nothing is gayer than Vegas. Now that out Nevada Senator Kelvin Atkinson has married his partner, Sherwood Howard, the flood of queer marriages can officially begin. Can you imagine what this is going to look like in a couple of months? There are so many queers working in Vegas. They will have all kinds of celebrity weddings. Ev-ree-bod-eee will be there. Why should straights get all the quickie-marriage/ quick-annulment fun? Just think: You’ll finally get your moment to be just like Britney Spears and marry your bestie from way back as some drunken “bright idea.” My friend DJ Lisa Pittman holds an event every year called Shedonism. Thousands of lesbians come to Vegas to … well what they’re doing is beside the point. The point is, all of these lesbians will be feeling good, in Vegas ... a place where a woman can look at her girl, post coitus, and say, “Let’s just go get married” — even if they just met, she’s positive she found her soulmate. This also means people can create the most over-the-top weddings imaginable. Think: the gay wedding in “Sex in the City 2.” There were swans, a gay men’s chorus, and Liza. While that scene was gayer than gay, it won’t touch what these people will come up with. Now, Hollywood set designers and celebrity makeup artists can marry each other. We will have the kinds of weddings that those

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against marriage equality were afraid we were going to have. Drag queens, lashes, glitter, feathers, sequins, and Liza. It will be big, showy, and fabulous. (They’re really just mad because they know they won’t be invited.) Meanwhile, on the northern end of Nevada, lesbians will get married in the Reno/Tahoe area. You’ve got a big lake, mountains, water conservation, trees, boarding, bears, and beers. There are also casinos, roadside chapels, and wineries. This is Lesbian Paradise. People will host wedding/camping trips with their softball team. The Las Vegas Convention and Visitors Authority, capitalizing on the “Wedding Capital of the World” reputation, already took out a full-page ad in USA Today. (You know when you put an ad in the nation’s newspaper, it is officially on.) I am not making fun, I promise you. Look at me. I ran off and eloped with my wusband last year. Now I’m planning THE wedding for next year with four days of events including sunset crab boils on the beach, dance parties, and celesbians. I am as thrilled as everyone else watching all of these people getting their moment. I love weddings. I became an officiant to get a front-row view at my friends’ weddings. Regardless of what kind of wedding you have, please have one if you are so inclined. Invite as many people who are important to you to witness it. Then you can hit the slots and the tables. The only thing I ask? If possible, please take pictures and send them to me. I can’t wait to see them. I love a family wedding.  Robyn Vie Carpenter-Brisco is a social columnist on the local and national LGBT community. See more of Robyn’s columns online at ofcnow.co/TLS or find her on Twitter @TheLesSocialite.

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Thanks, (Michelle) Obama! First Lady Michelle Obama spoke to a crowd of more than 1500 on October 23 at Exdo Events Center. Mrs. Obama was campaigning for Senator Mark Udall’s re-election. Other speakers included Colorado State Senator Michael Bennet and Congresswoman Diana DeGette. Key points in her speech included Udall’s support for marriage equality, clean energy, affordable education and health care, comprehensive immigration reform, women’s reproductive rights, equal pay for equal work, and the unequivocal importance of voting — especially with the race between Senator Udall and Congressman Cory Gardner being so close.

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After getting your new social security card, head over to everyone’s favorite hot spot: the Department of Motor Vehicles. Bring your new social security card, your marriage certificate, proof of identity, proof of address (utility bill, bank statement, rent, or mortgage document), and $21. To get a new passport, you’ll have to send in your current one. If it’s been less than one year since your last passport was issued, you won’t have to pay any processing fees if you submit Form DS-5504 (found at Travel-State.gov) by mail with your current passport, a passport-style photo, and a copy of your marriage certificate. If longer than one year, submit Form DS-82, your current passport, passport-style photo, certified copy of marriage certificate, and all applicable fees. The last step is to shout your name from the rooftops and call everyone you know. Make a list of every institution that has your name, do some finger exercises, and get ready to dial. Some places to include: bank accounts, credit cards, leases or mortgages, vehicle title, voter registration, medical offices, post office boxes, passport, employers/ payroll, utilities, and insurance. Don’t forget your

Facebook, your barista, your butcher, your baker, and your vegan cupcake maker. Thankfully, there are some options that can save you time. The DMV and other companies offer packages where you can pay a flat fee and fill out a lot less paperwork. The package includes a bundle of vital forms such as driver’s license, vehicle title, IRS, voter registration, passport, and notification for your bank, credit card, and insurance company. Go to DMV.org to find out more. After your paperwork-induced hand cramps subside, cuddle up with your boo and start planning that Christmas card from “The Joneses.” 

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ary Lambert is nothing if not grateful for her newfound popularity. The out singer/songwriter and performance poet’s swift and meteoric rise to fame occurred via her collaboration with the duo Macklemore and Ryan Lewis on the groundbreaking song “Same Love.” A YouTube sensation and hit single, the song received Grammy Award nominations, and was performed live during the Grammy telecast, featuring a mass-wedding including several same-gender couples. Shortly thereafter, Lambert released the Welcome To The Age of My Body EP, featuring “She Keeps Me Warm,” a song that expanded on her contribution to “Same Love.” I spoke Lambert in about her career and new album, Heart On My Sleeve (Capitol), out this month. Mary, I’m sure you’ve been asked about your Grammy performance with Macklemore and Ryan Lewis a million times, but now that there is some distance between that night and now, what was the experience like for you? It’s a life-altering experience. Performing for that many people and being nominated for a Grammy is pivotal enough for an individual. But what the song stands for and what I’m singing about and what I’ve written... that, to me, is more gratifying. The actual content and the social impact; it was life-changing for me. I feel so fortunate that this is the song that will be remembered for years to come. I feel very lucky that it’s the song for which I will be known for sure. Your religious upbringing also plays a role in your artistic life. What kind of an impact do you think your work is now having, if any at all, on conservative religious organizations with which you have been involved? I’m not sure if it has. There are churches that have reached out. I do think Christianity and the whole evangelical sect is in a shift right now … towards the idea of gay marriage. Heart On My Sleeve opens with “Secrets,” a song that does a fantastic job of exhibiting your sense of humor. How important do you think it is to maintain a sense of humor as an artist? I don’t think it is for everybody. I know it is important for me. I think the topics I talk about can be really heavy. I’d like there to be some sense of relief through it so I’m not making everybody cry through an entire show. There’s some joy in it, too. It’s probably because I’m clinically bipolar. Part of being an extreme person is the capacity for extreme joy. Fun, tongue-in-cheek writing also has the capacity to be vulnerable, maybe heartbreaking writing as well.

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Guest rappers on tracks are nothing new and your song “Ribcage” features K. Flay and queer rapper Angel Haze. Why did you choose to work with them? I’m a huge fan of both of those women. I met K. Flay about two years ago in Austin during SXSW. I was such a fan of her already and was so excited to meet her. We really hit it off. I have equal admiration for Angel Haze. I think she’s one of the fiercest MCs making music today. I think she’s so on point with her writing and emotional intensity. I resonate with her. What really solidified it was her song, and video, for “Battle Cry,” which I thought was so vulnerable. It was so open of her to discuss trauma in such a way. It shook me in a really beautiful way. That was when I knew I had to have her on the track as well. Throughout the recording process I’d been asked to have multiple rappers on the tracks. I was hesitant to have any rap on because I would like to step out of that capacity in which people know me. But this felt like the absolute right thing to do. It felt so good to have two absolutely f*cking fierce female MCs on it [laughs]. Your torch song reinvention of Rick Springfield’s “Jessie’s Girl” is nothing short of brilliant. You take ownership of the song! Why did you choose to cover that song? “Jessie’s Girl” is one of my favorite songs [laughs]. There’s intensity behind it when you break down the lyrics. I love that line: “She’s watching him with those eyes/and she’s loving him with that body.” That line is so poetic. I know it’s an upbeat, angsty kind of song, but I just thought, “If you’re a gay person, you’ve undoubtedly had feelings for someone who’s straight.” I also love the non-gender-specific name Jessie. Do you know if Rick Springfield has heard it and what he thinks of it? I think he has heard it. I would love to have a conversation with him. I think we’re actually working on setting one up now. Hearts are a recurring theme on the new disc. You make mention of hearts in the title cut, “Ribcage,” “When You Sleep,” “Wounded Animal,” and “Monochromatic.” Wow! I honestly didn’t even realize it! I mean, I knew it was the title [laughs]. I didn’t even think about it! I talk a lot about my heart. The heart is a metaphorical thing we describe as the vessel in which we connect to each other. That’s why I write about it a lot. I’m so hungry for connection. I crave real, tangible human interaction. I believe the way to achieve that is vulnerability. The way you achieve vulnerability is to have an open heart. That’s the basis of it. An openness of your soul which I believe is your heart. Learn more online at marylambertsings.com.

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throwing a bitchin’ bachelor(ette) party but you don’t want to kiss your fiancé goodbye too. Remember to look, not touch. And stay away from any daredevil stunts. (Full-body casts don’t photograph well.)

Amanda Moutinho The bachelor(ette) party is, theoretically, the last night the bride/groom can really let loose. It’s customary for friends to throw the party, and to have a truly epic night, you have to plan. Here are some tips to get you started: DO ask the bachelor(ette) what they want. While some peoples’ worst nightmare is a bachelor(ette) craft party or playing video games all night, remember: This party is about the bride/ groom. Consider their interests and really think about what will make them happy. That being said, DO a little pushing. This is the one night in their lives designated to be scandalous and naughty. Brides/grooms get caught up in weddings stress and want a low-key party, but sometimes they need just a little nudge over the line. It’s about getting them out of their comfort zone and making them blush. But, DON’T shove them over the line. If the hard limit is no strippers, don’t hire the whole Chippendales brigade. You want the bride/groom to have fun — not be mortified. For the love of wedding gods, DON’T have the party the night before the wedding. Give them some breathing room to let loose. No one wants to look hungover in wedding pictures. Plus, movies like “The Hangover” have taught us that you might need some wiggle room to solve problems created by the bachelor(ette) party.

DO get a little cheesy. While there’s a ton of ways to throw a lame bachelor(ette) party, it can be fun to be a bit corny. Consider playing some dirty games, coordinating outfits, truth or dare, risqué scavenger hunt, or naughty gift bags, filled with genital-shaped candy, shooters, cigars, and condoms. DO get organized and stay patient. Planning can be a nightmare, especially when you have a group of people with different suggestions and restrictions. DO relax and try to listen. DO communicate the plan. DO take in budget considerations. DO approve the guest list with the bride/ groom. DON’T let the bride/groom pay. DO pack in some surprises. DON’T create any drama and DO diffuse any that starts. DON’T do anything you’ll regret in the morning. Sure you’re kissing singlehood goodbye,

What to DO Bachelor(ette) parties can be flexible to fit each bride/groom. Skip Las Vegas — get creative to find the best option for your party. While there are a plethora of bars and clubs to choose from in Colorado, here are some alternate activities you can try instead of (or before) hitting the dance floor. Don’t forget to mention it’s for a bachelor(ette) party; they might throw you some deals. Get outside: Colorado is full of activities for the outdoorsy bride/groom. Hit the slopes for a snow bunny weekend or, when the weather improves, go for a scandalous camping weekend. Go to the source: If bars aren’t your scene, head to a brewery tour or a wine tasting. See how your alcohol is made and get drunk in the process. Take a class: It’s never a bad time to learn something new. You can find a private class in everything from trapeze to cooking to martial arts. You can even develop a new skill for your honeymoon like striptease or pole dancing. Boudoir photo shoot: Get dolled up and dressed down. Embrace your sexy side and take some saucy pictures for your significant other to enjoy before or after the wedding. 

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Opera Colorado presents the tragic tale of love, betrayal, and clashes of culture. Madama Butterfly, by Giacomo Puccini, is a traditional opera production sung in Italian. (English and Spanish subtitles are at every seat.) There are only four opportunities to view this stunning musical performance. Book your tickets at OperaColorado.org.

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SyMphonic tribUte to coMic con V2.0 @ BOETTCHER CONCERT HALL • 7:30PM BAM! POW! CRASH! The Colorado Symphony Tribute to Comic Con returns with an upgrade to v2.0 — just when you thought it was safe to go back in the concert hall! This performance will explore new works from your favorite movies, television shows, and video games. Whether you’re a hero or a villain, this concert calls to your inner geek. • Get your tickets at coloradosymphony.org.

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¡Viva La Venue! Stateside Spots to Tie the Knot Berlin Sylvestre People travel to Colorado to make it official — so why leave at all? If you’d rather roadtrip than fly, we’ve got your back with a few suggestions for that classic, picturesque Colorado wedding. Maroon Bells Take up a trip to Aspen and you’ll see why Maroon Bells is rumored to be the most photographed spot in Colorado — and why it tops our list of places to wed without leaving the state. Situated at the foot of a natural phenomenon, the nuptial valley makes nearly every picture worth framing. The US Forest Service maintains the “ampitheater” where most weddings are held and keeps Maroon Lake and its surrounding meadow in literally picture-perfect shape year round. Recreation.gov The Rock Room @ Red Rocks Perhaps the most lauded spot on Planet Earth for concerts, Red Rocks is also renowned for intensely memorable wedding ceremonies. The Rock Room, where up to 250 of your fam and besties can converge to witness your special day, is literally built around one of the famous red rocks. And how cool is catching a show on your wedding anniversary next to the very spot you married, c’mon? RedRocksOnline.com

Della Terra Mountain Chateau Chateau is French for ‘castle,’ which is exactly what the grounds are. (Actually, the place feels kinda like the “quiet village” Belle sings about in that animated Disney hit.) The natural beauty of the mountains is incorporated into the design, and the stonework is outta this world. There’s a salon on the grounds, too, which — if you’ve ever been in a pinch on a day like this — is a lifesaver. If you’ve ever wanted that “fairytale wedding,” we’ve found the spot. DellaTerraMountainchateau.com Clock Tower Events Apart from being a great spot for re-enacting the lightning scene in “Back to the Future,” the clock tower makes for an amazing wedding venue. Get hitched on the 18th floor of the D&F Clock Tower overlooking the city, then party (responsibly!) on one of the two floors in the building that offer wrap-around balconies for a bird’s-eye-view of Denver and the mountains. ClockTowerEvents.com Mile High Station With a decidedly urban flair, Mile High Station is the place you hold a formal and elegant wedding in the city. The elevated mezzanine makes for amazing overhead shots of the action, as well as a great spot to clink drinks and mingle with the other architecture nerds who want to wax about the history of the place. MileHighStation.com 

Til Death Do Us Part? Hardly. New process turns the ashes of cremated loved ones into diamonds Berlin Sylvestre With this ring, I thee wed. With this other ring, I commemorate the life we lived together. ‘Algordanza’ means remembrance in Romansh, a language spoken in the Swiss alps — specifically by the owner of the like-named company that turns the ashes of your cremated loved ones into diamonds. The ashes produced from an average-sized human is usually around 5.5 pounds. From that, somewhere around 0.2 grams of carbon is extracted. For between $5,000 – $20,000, that carbon can be compressed into a diamond and sent to the grieving. The finished product can be placed into jewelry, such as a ring or a necklace, 30

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t first, Colorado had no law making gay marriage legal. Unfortunately, due to legal jargon, this meant it was illegal by default. This terrible idea was solidified by the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) which became a law in 1996. That law federally defined marriage as between a man and woman (boo) and Section 3 of the law denied any federal rights to gay partners that are otherwise granted to heterosexual spouses. In 2013, the Supreme Court became true American heroes and struck down Section 3 following a court case related to it. This ruling put gay marriage in the hands of the state since now any married couple (straight or gay) would be recognized federally. This brave and amazing decision was

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crucial because not only did it put the legality of gay marriage in the hands of the states, all state laws regarding marriage were now able to be challenged, because in the court system, federal law overrules any state law. Timeline of Gay Marriage in Colorado: 2006: Long before DOMA became unconstitutional, anti-gay assholes succeeded in passing a law excluding same-sex couples from marriage. Gay marriage was already illegal by default, but now it was super illegal, like in writing nailed to the town hall door illegally. 2009: Designated Beneficiaries Agreement Act of 2009 became a law. It’s a big old thick law full of

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What are some wedding no-nos when it comes to hiring the DJ? I’ve heard stories from people who used one of the ‘mobile DJ’ companies that book weddings in volume. These companies send out a random, inexperienced DJ the day of the wedding and they don’t even mix or beat-match songs … basically a glorified sound guy. On the other hand, I work with each bride and groom from the booking process to DJing the actual wedding, and I mix all my music live — no pre-recorded sets or sync buttons are used. So you actually care. I obsessively care. When I DJ weddings, I have three backup computers, plus a backup iPod and extra equipment just in case. A lot of the weddings I DJ are in rural areas so there’s not a Guitar Center close by to go to for a replacement cable. I sometimes feel like a wedding planner. I give a lot of advice to brides/grooms for their weddings. The biggest secret is to have the dance floor in the same room as the bar and the DJ. It always messes with the dance-party vibe when someone tries to be clever and put the bar outside and the dance floor inside. There’s nothing that infuriates me more at work; it breaks up the crowd.

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confusing words but basically, it allowed same-sex couples to receive benefits. Long before the federal courts were debating DOMA, Colorado was already giving gay couples more rights than most states. This was a big victory, especially considering the tragic and harmful law passed just three years earlier. 2013: Civil Unions become legal in Colorado. While this still seperates gay couples and hetereosexual couples, and hardly has the same connotation or amazing weddings that marriage allows, it creates a “marriage-like” status that allows couples even more benefits and rights. July 9, 2014: A district judge who is truly the best district judge there ever was, strikes down Colorado’s gay marriage ban as part of a case with

two other states. While there is still no federal precedent, for the moment, gay marriage is legal in Colorado. October 6, 2014: The Supreme Court decides against ruling on two federal gay marriage cases. When the Supreme Court decides not to take a case, the existing ruling on that case stands, which luckily, in this case, was that gay marriage was legal. Suddenly gay marriage becomes legal in multiple states, and the ruling that gay marriage in Colorado is legal stands. Current Status: Go get married you lovebirds. It’s your right. 

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Honeymooning in Town? Go with The Crawford Berlin Sylvestre The sleek black Tesla pulls silently into the parking lot of my office and a dapper chauffeur slides out, the sheen on his shoes reflecting my wife’s dress as he takes her bags. “Good afternoon,” he bids. Indeed. He pops the hood and loads our stuff (cargo goes in the front, yes) and I’m further enraptured by the Model S, sexy in its form but even sexier in its all-electric function. This is the Crawford’s “house car"? “It’s basically an iPad with wheels,” he smiles as we settle in and marvel at the interior. He steps on the accelerator and the only sound on our quiet street is rubber on gravel as the office parking lot shrinks into oblivion in my sideview mirror. I’m on vacation now, I have to remind myself. I can’t seem to remove the anxiety that hit me that morning. Leaving my house for a weekend with no plane tickets, all of my trip wares fitting into a single duffel bag seems … not very vacation-y, I’ll admit. We always talk about staycations, but do we honestly know how to? With our house and our pets and our office a few miles down the road, is it really “getting away from it all”? The chauffeur opens the door and I step out to the white-noise whoosh of the fountain just outside The Crawford Hotel feels nice. Walking by and feeling the mist around your ankles, cooling the moment in the waning heat of the late afternoon is a nice reminder that you haven’t even stepped through the threshold and your work-riddled, stress-tensed shoulders are already starting to uncramp. 38

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I try not to let myself get too used to the time off. You’re still in Denver, remember? You’re not on vacation; anyone can call you back to your desk for an "emergency." But once I step into Union Station’s sparkling Great Hall, with its gleaming, gilded, marbled interior, I’m transported to an era of petticoats and bowler caps, of bartenders in vests polishing heavy mugs and tipping their curled moustaches toward patrons saddling up for a brew while waiting on the train. Still in Denver … A friendly face checks us in, informing me that our bags are being taken up to the room. I scan my surroundings as Friendly Face tinkers for a moment on her computer. Signs direct observers to restaurant and retail shops and the bustle is unmistakable. The place owes its name to Dana Crawford, our own living legend of urban revision. The redevelopment powerhouse’s work includes Larimer Square and pretty much any spot in this town that at one point needed a fresh face, like LoDo. I have to say, I love what she’s done with the place. Like a miniature Grand Central Station, polished marble floors, arched entryways, hardwood accents, and resplendence loom from 65 feet up. A tall, thin gentleman breaks the spell. “Right this way,” he beams. A quick ride up the elevator and a short jaunt down a hallway that smells remarkably of fresh carpet and new paint and we’re at the door of the room. He leaves silently, tucking his tip into his crisp uniform and the door closes behind us. And instantly … Ok, yeah. This is a vacation.

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The room is immaculate and the first thing I notice are the wood beams that impart a “cabin” feel. Then it’s the iPad that’s connected to all things guest service charging on one of the nightstands. Then it’s the brilliant amenities like the polished metal and leather chest, the comfy leather couch, the giant flatscreen, and the beautifully-tinted baubles in the chandelier. I do the obligatory “let’s see the bathroom” and my breath leaves me. A deep, enormous garden tub stands alone, sparkling with a soap and salts selection for your soaking pleasure. The shower itself is, of course, nice (but that tub). The marble floors feel cool on my feet and I look forward to messing this room up later. My wife is exhaling all her stress from the pillowy hug of the bed, her heels dangling from the tips of her toes. “This is good,” she confirms, staring at the ceiling. “This is great.” We unpack, examine a few more touches (the plush bathrobes being a favorite), and head out for a bite to eat. In a sort of cruise-ship fashion, you don’t need to worry about your keys or parking or any of that hassle if you get hungry or need some retail therapy during your stay. You actually don’t need to leave the building at all.

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Kitchen Next Door is down a hallway similar to ours. We approach to an energetic buzz and are seated in short order. I’ll skip the lofty language that comprises most restaurant reviews and go straight for the kill: The calamari isn’t breaded. Good. The result is a non-greasy starter that stays true to

the basics: salt, pepper, lemon, and squid. Their Manhattans are legendary and made in-house (ask about them). Their mushroom polenta ragout is creamy and to die. I’d recommend sitting outside; so many of the folks enjoying the libations were also enjoying the sound of their own scream.

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Terminal Bar is dim. It’s that sexy lowlighting that makes anyone’s skin seem flawless while throwing mysterious shadows across the faces of people in corner booths. It has a remarkably European feel, but the bellylaughs and revelry are distinctly American. They pour heavy and no one dares complain.

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Whiskey Business After sampling some of colorado’s ol’ fashioned ﬁrewater, I’m afraid the South’s gonna have to try even harder to rise again. Berlin Sylvestre

t takes a lot for a die-hard Southerner like me to disparage whiskey from my neck of the woods. You need a smooth pour to contend with the Woodford Reserve I splash over rocks when I’m clocking out of the world at large. So when a buddy I made here — also from Georgia — swirled some curious brown at me in a shotglass and said, “This’ll change your life, I promise,” I cocked my head in amusement. “It’s called Stranahan’s,” he continued. “It’s better than anything you’ve had back home.” Oh, well now it’s on, son. I took a quick whiff and my brows shot up. That’s a good start. I toasted to no one in particular and down the hatch she went. Now, as anyone who loves a good swig of whiskey will tell you, the burn is something you winced at in your younger years, but came to adore as you matured. It’s an acquired pain, I should say. Then you exhale and, if you’re so inclined, you dissect the age and essence of the concoction, compartmentalizing oak and barley and the years they’ve been living together in a barrel.

There was a noticeable tameness to the drink. Not bad. Not bad at all, so I had to give it to my new buddy: I had some rethinking to do. The night before I conceded to give props to Stranahan’s in the mag, I went to a Kimbra show. For the pregame, I thought it best to crack the bottle of Breckenridge that came highly recommended by a bartender who “appreciates a woman who likes bourbon up.” Comparably priced to the Stranahan’s, Breck Bourbon (in my most humble opinion) lets the rye do the singing upon exhale — and it’s a smooth exhale, lemme tell ya. (I like that in a drink.) What’s more, the next day was blissfully bereft of the mental thickness that usually accompanies a night of dancing with the devil. Now before anyone lobs accusations that I’m being paid to say these things, rest assured I’m not. I’m new to town so I’m sure I’ll get around to sampling other varieties of the good stuff. But for now, I’m a fan of credit where it’s due. It ails me none that I can now raise a glass of Colorado whiskey with an added sense of pride in my new state and what she’s capable of when it comes to a household staple of mine. Cheers, y’all. 

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TIMELESS IN CARTIER Berlin Sylvestre The Denver Art Museum will be the sole venue worldwide for “Brilliant: Cartier in the 20th Century” from Nov. 16 – March 15. The exhibition will feature an assortment of exquisite jewelry, timepieces, and precious objects produced between 1900 and 1975. The display will showcase the many eras of Cartier including pieces adored by aristocracy through the ages, designs that gave the newfangled cigarette-smoking era a classy take, and how icons of style (such as Elizabeth Taylor and Princess Grace of Monaco) bejeweled their world-famous visages in Cartier. 

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The Starz Denver Film Festival screens Nov. 12 – 23 at area theaters, and this year’s program offers some choice LGBT titles in its Cinema Q program. Here’s the rundown: Writer/director Karim Aïnouz’s superb new film, “Futuro Beach” concerns a hunky Brazilian lifeguard, Donato (Wagner Moura) who bonds — often in the naked, physical sense — with Konrad (Clemens Schick), a tourist who is grieving the loss of his friend. After Donato visits Konrad in Germany, their relationship deepens and changes. Things change even more when Ayrton, Donato’s younger brother played by Jesuita Barboso, takes over the narrative in the film’s third act. Aïnouz’s deliberately elliptical style of storytelling captures the ebb and flow of its characters’ erotic and emotional currents. This, along with outstanding cinematography, is what makes the film so mesmerizing. Another worthwhile Brazilian entry is Davi Pretto’s dazzling character study, “Castanha.” The film provides a terrific showcase for actor/subject João Carlos Castanha, a gay man who works as an actor and drag emcee at local gay clubs. He only feels alive when he’s performing. He is fabulous on stage, playing the hostess with “beauty, sensuality, malice, and perfume,” lip-synching and generating laughs dishing about the club’s beefy bare-assed dancers, and cracking wise about penis size. But the film is equally interesting (and candid) when he is off stage, where the actor’s quiet despair is palpable. “Castanha” is both sympathetic and compelling as it mixes fiction and reality. The festival’s Cinema Q program also includes two fantastic non-fiction films. “Limited Partnership” is a touching documentary addressing the immigration and marriage laws that could potentially divide same-sex couples. Richard Adams and Tony Sullivan met in 1971, and they even got married in Boulder, Colorado when a clerk granted same-sex marriages back in the 1970s. (Shout out to Clela Rorex!) However, when Australian-citizen Sullivan wanted equal rights protection after marrying an American, he received an offensive letter in response from the US government. Their court case took years, and it decided that the men must leave the country if they wanted to stay together. Director Thomas G. Miller nimbly traces their relationship through activism, art, and archival footage to show their “strange patience” with their legal status. Tony’s willingness to be undocumented and live underground to fight for his rights is inspiring, as is the stirring testimonies by Richard and Tony. Their story resonates in light of the wave of recent legal decisions that have benefitted LGBT couples.

An astonishing doc not to be missed (and about which almost nothing should be revealed) is “An Honest Liar.” The film, directed by Tyler Measom and Justin Weinstein, is a clever portrait of James “The Amazing” Randi, a gay man and a magician who debunks folks such as Uri Geller who use trickery to con people. The film is vastly entertaining as Randi shows off his talents, but it gets even better when he reveals a particularly astounding situation. The festival also features a quartet of queer shorts that showcases some talented up-and-coming filmmakers. Dennis Shinner’s “Barrio Boy” is a charming film about Quique (Dennis Garcia), a gay barber in Brooklyn who secretly pines for a new client, Kevin (Dan Leonard). In the process of cutting Kevin’s hair, Quique articulates his desires for what he wants from this handsome young man in a romantic and heartfelt voiceover. Another fine short, “Adjust-a-Dream” by Jonathan Wysocki, has a gay couple, Anthony (Doug Tompos) and Jake (Tom DeTrinis), rethinking their big step of moving in together when they look at a new mattress. The two actors are perfectly matched as they express their preferences — and their bitterness — and confront issues of communication and compromise in their relationship. Two other queer shorts (unavailable for preview) include “I Love Hooligans,” an animated entry about a closeted football hooligan, and “Under the Last Roof.” Also playing at the fest is the Alan Turing-based film, “The Imitation Game.” Turing, played by an Oscar-worthy Benedict Cumberbatch, was a gay man with a great mind. As this terrific film shows, he had few social skills, alienating his colleagues at Bletchley Park, where he was hired to help break the code of the Nazi Enigma machine. (There is a great interview scene.) This film, which toggles back and forth in time, reveals a young Alan being bullied at school and his love for a male classmate, as well as his investigation by the police for “gross indecency.” In between, the film crackles with the code-breaking drama and Turing’s friendship with Joan Clarke (a superb Keira Knightley). Although slick and manipulative, “The Imitation Game” is a highly satisfying crowd-pleaser. In addition, four other films at the festival that feature LGBT characters include the hilarious screwball mystery “Wild Canaries,” the Nordic noir “In Order of Disappearance,” and the documentaries “Hotline” and “The Overnighters.”

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My partner and I recently adopted a 7-year-old and are incredibly blessed to have a kiddo in our lives. However, having an extra set of eyes and ears (plus a whole lot of extra curiosity) in our home has really placed some strain on our sex lives. How can we negotiate being parents while also maintaining a sexual relationship? Parents Wanting to Party, Park Hill. Dear Parents Wanting to Party, First of all, many congrats on the addition to your family! Parenting requires a lot of energy, caring, and commitment, and kudos to you for taking that on. That being said, putting out that much time and energy can also be exhausting, to say nothing of your compromised privacy. Here are a few tips to keep up that lovin’ feeling while still showering your newest family member with lots of love. If being too tired is resulting in a lot of climbing into bed solely to fall asleep, make it a habit to plan time together specifically to be intimate. If you’re tired before bed, consider morning nookie, or set aside some time when you have a babysitter/family member/close friend playing with your kid. A lot of people hate the idea of scheduling time to get it on, but when your schedule has suddenly filled up, this could be your saving grace. It doesn’t mean you HAVE to have sex right then, but even a quick makeout session or relaxing back massage can help the two of you feel more connected. Have a little chat with the little one about private time. This is a great way to set the stage for Make it a habit all sorts of things. Explain that to plan time together everyone has a right to private specifically to be intimate. time and that they are allowed to go into their room and close their door if they’d like private time, as well. (You as parents would need to knock before entering.) Conversely, parents get private time too, which means “please leave us alone for now, but it’s ok to knock if something is important.” Obviously, your kid may want to test out these boundaries to make sure you actually WILL answer the door in case of them knocking, but it sets the stage for more private time moving forward. Take each other on dates, surprise each other with sweet treats, romance each other again. Being a parent can really become a main focus (which is 100 percent ok), but don’t forget to show each other some extra love and affection too. It’s easy to forgo that in focusing on your offspring, but don’t forget: There is more to life than homework, “Monster High,” and whichever restaurant has free kids’ meals that night. Best of luck!

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Truth is, personality plays a big role. Traits like a good sense of humor, effective communication, independence, and creative problem-solving skills create positive outlooks on rough situations. Resourcefulness, compassion, and the desire to take the initiative helps support persistence. Some are skilled at creating supportive networks of people who can aid them in gaining outside perspectives while nurturing their need to connect with other good people. These strengths are innate with some people, but most times they’re gained from outside sources like family or friends. They’re also developed throughout our lives. Over time, there can be an increased awareness of unknown strengths and abilities that were waiting to be released. Tapping into these may take time, focused attention, and a lot of practice. Regardless of where they come from, these traits can give us strength and confidence to take on the world. Our ability to cope with stress successfully gives us a better chance of not losing our minds when things get rough. Although having these strengths doesn’t stop crappy things from coming into our lives, they make us selfsufficient and more empowered to deal with unexpected or unfortunate challenges. We have the opportunity to engage these difficult experiences with confidence and increased abilities to emerge victorious.  Brent Heinze, LPC, is a licensed professional counselor. Get more HeinzeSight online at ofcnow.co/brent or send him a question for his column at PerspectiveShift@yahoo.com.

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