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CONTENTS

VOLUME 38

ISSUE 13

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FROM THE PUBLISHER WELCOME TO OUT FRONT’S ANNUAL POWER ISSUE! The magazine you hold in your hands is a collaboration of those who nominated folks from around the community for a 2014 Power Award, one in which we honor our recipients for their passion, commitment, and tenacity to make progress in the LGBT and allied community. And what a challenging exercise it was to harvest, vet, hone, and whittle down the list of amazing and well-deserving Power Award nominees — a list that includes people from all walks of life: teachers, doctors, lawyers, legislators, stay-at-home parents, and all those in between. It’s no secret that Out Front strives to acknowledge those behind the scenes — the ones who “steady the pedestals,” the ones who “hold the doors open,” the ones who “scout the trails to be blazed,” the ones who remind us that believing does make dreams come true. Never in our 39-year-history has such a duty been more important. We will all look back at these days and appreciate the fact that we were here, present, and alive during the time that was marked as the tipping point for all LGB people across this fine nation and world. But the realiTy is: Our work is not done. Therefore we look forward to many more years of impassioned conversation to acknowledge the good work of all those who believe in us and our mission and who give our Power Party purpose! The “magic ingredient” of acknowledgment transforms the world around you, which is precisely why this issue — and our event — is so important to the team at Out Front. Two years ago, we set out to rebrand the Power Party and through that process we stumbled on what has become the perfect mascot for the most preeminent of annual Denver events: the purple rhino. We owe that to an amazingly talented graphic artist Denee Pino, whose research showed that in the 70s, gay activists in Boston chose the purple rhino as a symbol of the movement. It’s safe to assume that from their efforts, the Gay Coalition of Denver was formed. They too adopted a purple rhino as their source of inspiration because, although misunderstood, the rhino is strong, docile, and intelligent, but when the mighty rhinoceros is angered, it fights ferociously. (Enter the LGBT community.) And why purple? Well besides (hand on hip, thumb forward) it being a timeless and fabulous color, purple is the color of sensitivity, compassion, royalty, nobility, luxury, ambition, creativity, wisdom, dignity, grandeur, devotion, peace, pride, mystery, independence, and — most importantly — power! Partner all that with the fact that Out Front’s office is smack-dab in the heart of Denver’s RiNo (River North Art District), the deal was sealed for Out Front’s Power Party mascot! Inquiring minds no longer need to know… The Out Front team and I look forward to seeing you at this year’s Power Party. Before I sign off, I want to take this minute to thank you for taking the time to read this, but more importantly: thanks for your commitment to the Colorado LGBT community and your willingness to be an engaged reader, fan, follower, and/or subscriber of Out Front during a moment in time that will go down in the history books as a major shift in equality for all LGBT families. As full marriage equality marches “down the aisle” and across this amazing state and nation, it’s people just like you we owe a huge debt of gratitude for making it possible. So on behalf of all LGBT Coloradans: Thank you!

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THE THIRD ANNUAL POWER ISSUE Meet Our Power Party Headliner: Blake Lewis • 34 Meet Our Power Party Hosts: Eden Lane & Kevin Torres • 36 Meet Our 2014 Power Award Winners • 37 Hit and Run or Self-Defense? • 8

Cuisine: Gozo • 42

The Center Hosts LGBT Job Fair • 12

Top 10 Seasonal Craft Brews • 43

Jason Collins: Shooting Hoops for Matthew Shepard • 14

Film: “Pride” • 44

Chat Sesh: Scarlett Lenh • 16

Radioactive Vision: Paper or Elastic? • 46

Remembering Joan Rivers • 18 The Matthew Shepard Foundation Honors Gala • 19

Beauty: Top Perfumes • 47

The Smart & Shady Prairie Dog • 20

Marketplace • 50

A Thunder of Hoof and Heart: Odysseo • 26

Local Travel: Fall al Fresco • 52

Bleed Like Me: The Undetectable Bottom Bunker • 27

Film: “The Way He Looks” • 54

Fall Foliage, Fruits, and Fertilizers • 28 Get All the Screams at 13th Floor • 29 Auto: Power is Style, Status, and Speed • 30

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Film: “Wetlands” • 44

Fashion: It’s In the Bag • 48

LGBT TV is Back! • 54 8 Autumn Ailments • 55 So You Wanna Talk Football, Eh? • 56 Bar Tab • 58 Colorado Constellations • 60

Legal Directory • 31

Sexpert: Flirting 101 • 60

Calendar •32

HeinzeSight: A Pat on the Back • 61

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HIT AND RUN OR SELF-DEFENSE? Jailed Colorado Springs man contends he was the a victim of a hate crime Kyle Harris

t dusk, in Manitou Springs, Christian Radio plays; a Focus on the Family marriage counselor asks God to forgive a woman’s batterer. In a park, cops eye vacationers and an orchestra plays Tchaikovsky’s 1812 Overture. A man shouts “homo.” Another man laughs. Above the park, in a one-story, motel apartment, Carlton Mohn waits for his boyfriend, Nathaniel Mancha, to call from the El Paso County Jail. A loveseat and television are the living room’s only furniture. Nothing hangs on the walls but a ticking clock and a black and white, nighttime photograph of the Brooklyn Bridge. “That’s Nate’s,” Carlton says. “He loves it.” Nate has been in jail since he was arrested for attempted murder on March 14 of this year. The judge set bail at $125,000, a figure neither Nate nor Carlton can afford. Not long ago, the two lived on the streets for 10 months; rent stretches their earnings. Since March, Nate has languished in jail. His trial began September 24. Carlton’s phone vibrates. “It’s him.” Carlton answers. Minutes pass as he enters his credit card number to replenish his account. When they connect, Carlton says, “I’m here with the reporter. I was just telling him how good our relationship is.” Carlton steps out of the apartment for privacy; their chihuahua, Bowser, spins in circles waiting for him to return. Describing his calls with Nate, Carlton says, “We talk about Bowser and our life together. I try to give him the support he needs. We mostly talk about him coming home. I try to give him extra encouragement and let him know he has a big support team.” Before the call cuts out, Carlton says, “I love you babe.” He hangs up, sucks back his tears, laughs, and steps into his bedroom to collect himself. “My stomach’s hurting. I don’t know what’s wrong with me,” he says. Later, Carlton drives from Manitou Springs to Colorado Springs taking the route he and Nate took on March 1. That morning, Nate drove his Toyota truck and Carlton fretted about whether or not they would make it on time; they often got to work late. He didn’t want to again. At a stoplight at Academy and Vickers, Carlton points out where he and Nate turned left in front of Mohammad Anthony Jafari’s green van. Jafari claimed Nate’s truck clipped his mirror, said Detective Jerry Schiffelbein, at a pretrial hearing, April 22, 2014. “We didn’t,” Carlton says. The only testimony from Jafari or Nate that we were able to access came from Detective Schiffelbein. Jafari was not available to comment. Nor was his family. Nor were his supporters who had organized themselves on Facebook.

NATHANIEL MANCHA “Thanks for your message and your interest in telling both sides of the story. I am not in a position to speak on behalf of anyone without their consent, but I will get back to you after I’ve had an opportunity to find out if Jafari, his family, or his supporters would like his side of the story told,” wrote a representative from the Facebook site State of CO vs Mancha. Weeks later, the representative had yet to reply. The lawyers prosecuting Mancha also had no comment: “We’re not permitted to discuss open/ pending cases, so the prosecutors aren’t able to comment,” wrote Lee Richards of the 4th Judicial District Attorney’s Office. Neither Nate nor his lawyer were directly available to comment either. The story of what happened that morning comes from Detective Schiffelbein’s report about his conversations with Nate and Jafari and Carlton’s recollections. Carlton and Nate didn’t think twice about the van as they pulled into the strip-mall where Carlton works. The two said their goodbyes. Carlton got out of the truck and realized that the van was creeping behind them, blocking Nate in. “Is that the guy from the intersection?” Nate asked Carlton. It was. A large, bald man looked out the window and

“It’s Colorado Springs; it’s not known for gay-friendly politics,” Carlton says.

shouted “faggot assholes” — presumably because of the rainbow sticker on the back of the truck, Carlton says. As Jafari crept by, he called them more names. Carlton stared him down and Jafari “burnt tires around the corner.” Nate and Carlton shook it off, and Carlton went in to work. Nate drove away, his destination requiring him to take the same path as the van.

arlton walks the same route: He turns the corner, heads a few hundred feet down a narrow roadway, and examines the scene of the confrontation that both Nate and Jafari described in detail to Schiffelbein. The two tales were “for the most part, a very similar story,” Schiffelbein said.

s Nate drove forward, he saw the van parked at an angle, blocking him in. Jafari rolled down his window and said, “Get out of your car, fag,” Carlton says. Nate refused. “Nate said, ‘I’m trying to leave.’ The guy did something with his phone and reached under his seat and grabbed a crowbar. He stalked toward the truck. Nate sat there not knowing what to do,” Carlton says. Schiffelbein says the “crowbar” was actually a socket wrench. Either way, the large metal object could crack a skull. Nate scanned his options. He had nowhere to go. Continued on page 10

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“Hit & Run” continued from page 8 Jafari approached the truck holding the metal rod in front of him, continuing to call Nate a faggot and telling him to step out and fight, Carlton says. Nate says Jafari hit the truck with the socket wrench; Jafari says he didn’t, according to Schiffelbein. “Mr. Jafari said he got out, was carrying, like, a wrench handle … the guy had been driving so crazy and was so belligerent, he didn’t know what he was going to do, so he was carrying the wrench handle. “[Jafari] said that he told the driver of the Toyota [Nate] that they needed to call the police. The driver told him they weren’t going to call the police. He said: ‘You have two choices. You can wait here while I call the police or you can turn around and go the other way to leave.’ He explained that he wanted him to turn around because he was trying to ... he wanted to take a photograph of the license plate with his phone. “He said that [Nate] ... chose option three, revved the engine, and bumped him with his truck.” Carlton describes Jafari’s story as “bullshit lies.” The truck had a license plate on the front and the back. If Jafari wanted to take down the number, it was right in front of him. He invented the story to justify his attack, Carlton says. Nobody denies that Nate’s truck hit Jafari — maybe once, maybe twice; Schiffelbein’s testimony suggests both men seemed confused about what actually occurred. As Nate drove off, he saw Jafari stand up. It was like a horror movie, Carlton says. Nate fled. “Nate would have done anything he could have to avoid a fight. He was just trying to carry on with his day,” Carlton says.

The police arrived and saw Jafari bleeding. “[The police] said that when they got there, he was alert and talking. He was actually the one that made the 911 call that there had been a road rage incident, and he had got in a confrontation with another person, and that during that confrontation, he had been struck and ran over by a vehicle,” Schiffelbein says. Despite injuries, Jafari managed to describe to the detectives the truck’s rainbow flag and Texas plates. Carlton believes the flag triggered the homophobic attack. According to Schiffelbein, doctors diagnosed Jafari with dislocated and fractured hips, a fractured pelvis and ribs, and internal injuries. His affidavit chronicles his interviews with Carlton and Nate, but makes no mention of Jafari’s homophobic slurs. Schiffelbein was not available to comment on why he neglected to report allegations of Jafari engaging in a homophobic attack — an omission Carlton calls “crooked.” The day of the incident, Nate called Carlton and explained what had happened and said that it was no big deal. Carlton finished his shift without telling anybody about the incident. When he saw Nate, Carlton began to realize how serious the situation was. He asked his boyfriend why he had not called the police. Nate feared they would not believe his side of the story. “It’s Colorado Springs; it’s not known for gay-friendly politics,” Carlton says. “I

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Thousands of supporters of an incarcerated man, including the Colorado Anti-Violence Project, believe we’re witnessing another case of victim-blaming in a hate crime.

CARLTON MOHN told him if the authorities get involved, it’s gonna come out that this guy is the aggressor.” Nate resisted the idea; he didn’t trust the system and needed time to think it over. The two had plans to visit Nate’s family in Texas. It would be the first time Carlton would meet his boyfriend’s parents. Their schedules didn’t line up, so Nate went alone. Later the media would report Nate fled Colorado. Schiffelbein found video evidence showing Nate’s truck passing by near the time of the incident, Carlton says. The police put out a media advisory announcing that Nate was the suspect. Media covered the case as a road rage incident. The Jafari family offered a reward for any information leading to Nate’s capture. The media unquestioningly assumed he was guilty, “a monster,” as Jafari’s sister Jennifer called Nate on a Facebook page. In Texas, Nate decided turn himself in and returned to Colorado. March 12, Carlton was grocery shopping when the police approached him. An officer said, “We’re looking for Nathaniel and we’d like to talk to you.” Carlton agreed. The police ran a background check, found an outstanding warrant, and took him to the station where Schiffelbein questioned him. Carlton told the story as Nate had relayed it to him. Within 24 hours, the police released Carlton. Two days later, he, Nate, and a friend waited at a hotel to meet with a lawyer to accompany Nate to turn himself in. Before the lawyer arrived, the police showed up, guns drawn, and arrested all three. Nate was charged with attempted homicide; Carlton was charged for helping Nate hide. In jail, Nate did not know that the police had arrested Carlton too, as he was first to get carted away. “When he saw I had been arrested, he just broke down,” Carlton says. Before his court date, Carlton called the Colorado Anti-Violence Program seeking legal advice. Director of Advocacy Lynne Sprague helped him find out what he faced in court. On his date, all charges were dropped. Nate remained in jail where, according to Carlton, guards denied him needed prescriptions for more than a month, and when they finally gave him medicine, it was the wrong kind. Continued on page 12

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NOW HIRING! THE C ENTER H OSTS AN OTH E R LG BT J O B FA I R Rex Fuller | Out Front and Center IT’S BEEN A BUSY TIME FOR COURTNEY GRAY AND REYNALDO MIRELES as they get ready for The Center’s LGBT Job Fair. Courtney runs The Center’s Transgender Program and Reynaldo manages SAGE of the Rockies, a program designed to serve the needs of Colorado’s older LGBT citizens. Both Courtney and Reynaldo are working to put the job fair together because both of their constituents face similar issues. Both elders and trans people of all ages face similar issues in that both groups are stigmatized for who they are or how they appear, explains Courtney. “Both groups are underserved populations and both have historically had difficulty finding and keeping work,” Courtney says. Trans people may be judged by their outer appearance despite their high skill level. Reynaldo agrees. “Older workers may be dismissed as out of touch with the latest technology. We also often hear that older workers are judged to be overqualified for some positions. In the meantime, these people face challenging times when they are unemployed,” he says. Preconceived notions about trans job applicants have real-world impacts on the lives of trans people. According to a recent survey, Colorado’s trans citizens, on average, live on less than $25,000 a year, Courtney says. Nationally, trans LGBT JO B FA IR people experience double the unemSATURDAY, OCTOBER 11 ployment rate of non-trans citizens. Older workers can also face a tough TRANSGENDER time finding employment. According to APPLICANTS: 2013 Labor Department statistics, when NOON – 3PM older workers lose a job, they face an ALL APPLICANTS: average of 53 weeks of unemployment 1 – 3PM as compared to teenagers who are un@UMB BANK, employed on average for only 19 weeks. 1635 E. COLFAX AVE. To address the chronic unemployment among these groups, The Center plans job fairs on a regular basis. Past job fairs have drawn applicants from throughout the state and region. The “Hit & Run” continued from page 10 In his first month in jail, Nate suffered relentless bullying. Fellow inmates ridiculed him calling him “faggot.” He plummeted into depression. “Without proper medicine, he is getting sicker every day. His spirits are low,” says Carlton, who listens and offers words of encouragement to Nate while trying to keep it together. “The crazy thing about jail is that Nate doesn’t physically see Carlton. He can only see him through the video screen,” says Sprague. Because she has professional visitor status, she can visit Nate in person. “He can see me through the glass. When I go down there, he can see another human being — granted, through glass —but he can see somebody who cares about him.” CAVP staff spends a lot of time talking with Carlton about his feelings about the case. “It shores him up emotionally so he can feel replenished and offer a lot of support for Nate when they talk.” Sprague spoke with Nate and Carlton about other LGBTQ people jailed for self-defense and how community organizing transformed their experiences of incarceration. “We talked about the value of those campaigns and the kinds of resources that we can bring to a person who is facing those charges. Carlton was 12

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next LGBT Job Fair will take place on Saturday, October 11 from noon to 3pm. “Because the trans community faces such drastic unemployment rates, we have reserved the first hour — noon to 1pm — for transgender applicants only,” Courtney explains. From 1pm to 3pm, the fair is open to all applicants. Currently, employers such as the Denver Police Department, Nationwide Insurance, Denver Health, Jefferson Center for Mental Health, and Lockheed Martin are all scheduled to be at the Job Fair with more employers being added all the time. “Many of the employers have participated in the past either because they’ve had a trans identified employee or see trans employment as an important issue,” says Courtney. “But those who have been to our fair before have said how impressed they are with the quality of the applicants they see at our fairs.” Applicants have also had great success in the past. “One of our transgender community members came to our job fair after completing his Master’s of Social Work degree and contacted Jefferson Center for Mental Health,” Courtney recalls. “He is now a staff clinician with JCMH and is making a real difference in our community helping others.” Courtney advises that applicants should attend with a solid updated resume, look sharp, and focus on the skills they bring to the table. “All of our employers know that our folks are LGBT, so your identity should take a back seat to your skills,” she says. The LGBT Job Fair will take place at UMB Bank at 1635 E. Colfax Ave. Free parking is available behind the bank. 

pretty excited about hearing about those options and wanted to build a more formalized campaign,” Sprague says. With CAVP, Carlton organized the Justice for Nate campaign to raise legal defense funds and encourage people to write Nate letters. “We’re really trying to get Nate some emotional support. Jail is lonely. Jail is scary. In some of the letters I’ve received from Nate, he spends a lot of time feeling really overwhelmed emotionally,” Sprague says. “We wanted to use the campaign as a way to continue larger dialogues about jails, prisons, hate crimes, and some of the root causes of homophobia.” Sprague says Jafari’s alleged attack exemplifies an escalation of hate crimes against LGBTQ people. “I think there’s this myth that things are getting better for LGBTQ communities and people cite things like the push for marriage equality and Laverne Cox on the cover of Time Magazine. But what do you mean things are getting better? “The lived experience LGBTQ folks have is not improving and in some places is getting worse for certain parts of the community. It’s erroneous to say things are getting better, when in fact the root causes of homophobia and transphobia are still deeply ingrained in our culture.” Schiffelbein’s alleged omission of Jafari’s

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homophobic slurs is not uncommon, Sprague says. In 2013, 80 percent of callers who reported hate crimes to law enforcement experienced police misconduct including harassment, omission, and disbelief. “There is not really a track record that tells us the legal system is up for the challenge of talking about marginalized communities’ experiences of being targeted in this culture. There aren’t cases restoring our faith or creating faith in the system to be able to hold the complexities in that dialogue,” Sprague says. Carlton once had faith in the system, but he does not anymore. He no longer feels safe in Colorado. Nate’s case proves that as a gay man, he cannot trust law enforcement to support his right to self-defense. Ready to turn in for the night, Carlton talks about how he wishes Nate could come home. “He’s always been there for me. I’ve always been there for him. We always find a way to laugh together,” Carlton says. After the trial, a hopeful Carlton plans to splurge on a new bedroom set to celebrate his boyfriend’s release. “I want him to have somewhere comfortable to sleep.”  For updates about Nate’s case, visit us at OutFrontOnline.com

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Shooting Hoops for Matthew Shepard Jason Collins, the first openly gay NBA basketball player, talks with Out Front about his struggles in coming out, dealing with “knuckleheads,” and his involvement with the Matthew Shepard Foundation. Mike Yost 13-YEAR NBA VETERAN JASON COLLINS was keeping a secret from his friends, from his family, from himself. “For years I was just living in denial, struggling to sleep at night,” he says. “I kept telling myself that, oh, I’ll meet the right girl and everything will change.” Jason grew up in Los Angeles where he pursued his passion for sports with his twin brother. When they were in 8th grade, Jason and his brother focused on basketball, sharpening their talents on the court in the hopes of one day attending a Division I college. His hard work, endless practice, and dedication to his craft paid off, as Jason and his brother both ended up at Stanford University, a 10-minute drive from his grandfather who was staying at a Veterans Affairs hospital at the time. “Before he passed,” says Jason, “my grandfather was able to come to see us play in a lot of games there at Stanford. Plus my great-grandmother, she also was able to see us play.” Jason was a sophomore at Stanford when he learned of Matthew Shepard’s death. “I, along with many others, will never forget when I heard [Matt’s] story and the horrific way he was killed. Truly horrible. When that happened, it pushed me further into denial and not facing what I was feeling.” Jason stayed deep in the closet, continuing to focus on schoolwork and basketball. In 2001, he was drafted into the NBA by the New Jersey Nets (now the Brooklyn Nets). It was a dream come true, but a dream blemished by his secret. Jason had always dated women and was even engaged at one point. After the engagement fell

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apart, Jason told friends he was dating a girl who lived in another state and was too busy to visit — a girl who didn’t exist. But living in silence took its toll. During the 2011 NBA lockout, Jason realized he had to be honest with who he was and came out to his aunt Teri who told him she always knew. His twin brother was surprised at the news, but supportive. For the first time in his life, Jason felt comfortable with who he was. A year later, when Jason was drafted by the Boston Celtics, he purposely picked the number 98 — the same year Matthew Shepard was killed. “It was a private reminder to myself every single game,” says Jason. “That jersey signified this new acceptance that I had with myself and that pride for being a member of the LGBT community.” In May of 2013, Jason came out publicly with an open letter published in Sports Illustrated. “I didn’t set out to be the first openly gay athlete playing in a major American team sport,” he wrote, “but since I am, I’m happy to start the conversation.” Judy Shepard read the article and the significance behind the jersey number he wore on the court. “When Judy found out about why I chose the number, she reached out to me and it was amazing. She was so touched. We had a great conversation on the phone.” And it was during that conversation that Judy provided some insight on how to respond to those who might try to vilify him or other members of the LGBT community. “Judy gave me some great advice” says Jason. “She said there are always going to be those people who, for whatever reason, are never going to support you. But she said basically to keep living your life and let the haters hate. Keep living your life.” And that’s exactly what Jason did, as he continued to play basketball in the NBA, this time without the burden of a secret. No longer would his stomach tighten up every time someone asked him about his love life. No longer did he have to lie about an imaginary girlfriend. “My life is exponentially better,” says Jason. “I don’t have to have that stress of: ‘Oh, is today the day they figure out that I’m gay?’ I was hiding and living with a censor button. No one should have to do that in their private life. No one should have to hide who they are from the people they most love in their life.” Since coming out, Jason has received tremendous support from his teammates and the NBA, and despite those who claimed his story would be a distraction, Jason emphasizes that it is because of his honesty that the team is stronger. “It unifies the team. They are like a family, and the good ones always respect each other and come together.” And his story has had a profound impact off the court, too. Since coming out, Jason has attended several Pride events around the nation. It was during one of these events that a young man in his twenties approached Jason. He shared with Jason that he was still in the closet at work, but that he had come out to his family. The young man’s mother had rejected him

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“I didn’t set out to be the first openly gay athlete playing in a major American team sport,” he wrote, “but since I am, I’m happy to start the conversation.” for being gay, but when the mother read about Jason Collins’ story, she reached out to her son to renew their relationship. “Hearing a story like that,” says Jason. “It’s very humbling. There’s no greater bond between mother and her child.” Even with all the support, Jason knows there will always be bullies. Earlier this year, it was reported that an NBA player from another team was taunting Jason on the basketball court with homophobic slurs. But Jason shrugged it off, telling the New York Daily News, “He’s a knucklehead. So I just let it go. Again, that goes back to controlling what you can control.” As Jason moves forward in his career, he continues to take Judy Shepard’s advice to heart. “There have been so many times I’ve come across people who, again, [are] coming from a place of having hate in their heart. I try not to engage with those individuals. It’s a waste of my energy.” Jason will be a distinguished guest at this year’s Matthew Shepard Foundation Honors Gala taking place on Saturday, October 11 at the Seawell Grand Ballroom located in the Denver Performing Arts Complex.  For tickets and event info, please visit MatthewShepard.org/Honors.

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CHAT S E SH: SC ARLE TT LENH Colorado Springs trans teen voted homecoming princess Berlin Sylvestre With the majority vote on her side, Sand Creek High School junior Scarlett Lenh officially became homecoming princess at the Colorado Springs school. (Colorado Springs — you read that right.) Still reeling from her win, she chatted us up on the highs and lows of the news. Tell me a little bit about Homecoming Princess Scarlett Lenh. Well Scarlett is me, of course. Before then, I was identified as Andy. I’ve questioned my gender from a very young age and finally brought it out once I had close friends I could trust in high school. Ever since then, I’ve been able to open up to more than just close friends and I feel extremely comfortable and confident with who I am now. I also have a lot of positive feedback and supporters and it really makes it a lot easier to go and follow what I believe in! LOVE it! So how old are you? Thank you! I am currently 16 years old Rad rad rad. Are you “full-time?” I mean ... do you always present as your real self or do you have to hide it at certain times? Recently yes. I would love to do so all the time from now on, but my family does not support my choice. I really hope things work out with my family eventually so I can express who I want to be all the time.

And I wanna note that I think — especially since you’re only 16, which is such a tender age — you’re INCREDIBLY brave for living out loud, so to speak. But what’s home like at the moment? My mother is extremely frustrated with me, told me she didn’t raise me properly, that God is not on her side, tried throwing all my clothes and makeup away, told me she wants me gone, things like that. My sister and aunt, on the other hand, are very supportive! Both of them understand things like this and how I feel, and they only want me to be successful and happy. And do you live with your Mom or ...? I do, yes. Hmmm. So while you’re at home, there’s only “Andy.” I suppose that’s the easiest way to put it. Dang. And what does she think about all the news attention? She’s not all that happy about it, but I just avoid her at the time being, and she does the same for me. So awkward. Change of pace: What’s the scoop on Homecoming? I was chosen by my Junior class to be the Princess for this year’s Homecoming dance, and it has really been amazing how much support and attention I’ve gained from everyone. It really has been heartwarming!

No kinda bullying or hate from any classmates? Very few, but it’s extremely easy to ignore when I also have much more support than I do hate. Yes! Love it! So many people give in to the hate WAY too fast and get scared and back down. And hey, your school is cool for not striking you from Homecoming Court, also. Yeah, a lot of the staff really have been helping me out. It makes me so happy when I see the youth of today really givin’ em hell … it’s awesome. Thank you! I just hope everyone can be themselves one day, regardless of sexual preference, race, gender, religion, and all that. I hope I can inspire many others to show the world who they really are and only surround themselves around positive people who support you. Life will never be easy all the time, but finding who you truly are is a great place to start. Preach, Scarlett!  Out Front gives a hat-tip to the leaders of Sand Creek’s school district, Falcon 49. After the nomination, District Spokesman Matt Meister told the Associated Press: “Our board policy sets the standard that we do not exclude any person from participating in any program or activity on the basis of gender identity and gender expression.”

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Joan the Wise & Witty Berlin Sylvestre WITH THE UNTIMELY PASSING OF JOAN RIVERS (81 is not that old, c’mon!), we’ve put together some of our favorite wisecracks from The Queen of Barbed One-Liners. “I love gay and lesbian parents, but I think we need a law that says lesbians and gay men have to raise their children together. This way, the kids not only know how to build bookshelves, but they instinctively know how to decorate them.” “People say money is not the key to happiness, but I always figured if you have enough money, you can have a key made.” “I don’t exercise. If God wanted me to bend over, he would have put diamonds on the floor.” “If you don’t want gays in the military, make the uniforms ugly.” “I am definitely going to watch the Emmys this year! My makeup team is nominated for Best Special Effects.” “I now consider it a good day when I don’t step on my boobs.” “My husband wanted to be cremated. I told him I’d scatter his ashes at Neiman Marcus — that way, I’d visit him every day.” “The book I wish I’d never written is Joan Rivers’ Pop-Up Guide to Gynecology.” “I hate housework. You make the beds, you do the dishes, and six months later, you have to start all over again.” “The fashion magazines are suggesting women wear clothes that are ‘age appropriate.’ For me that would be a shroud.” “Gay marriage! I am so against it because all my gay friends are out — if they get married, it will cost me a fortune in gifts.” 

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IN MEMORY OF MATT Mike Yost ON SATURDAY, OCTOBER 11, The Matthew Shepard Foundation Honors Gala will take place at the Denver Performing Arts Complex, recognizing three distinguished LGBT advocates, including actor Stephen Fry. For the past 15 years, Judy and Dennis Shepard, founders of the Matthew Shepard Foundation (MSF), have been traveling around the world and sharing the story of their gay son, Matthew, a 21-year-old college student who was brutally beaten and murdered in Laramie, Wyoming in October of 1998. Previously known as the Bear to Make a Difference Gala, MSF has hosted this fundraiser for the past 13 years to raise money and awareness regarding LGBT hate crimes, a large majority of which go unreported each year. In 2009, the Foundation helped pass the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act, expanding federal criminalization of hate crimes carried out against people of color and members of the LGBT community. “Judy and Dennis care deeply about this event and share our belief that this new vision for our annual celebration reflects the maturity of the foundation and our commitment to an enduring, sustainable movement that embraces and recognizes all contributions,” reads the MSF press release. This year, MSF is honoring three advocates who parallel Judy and Dennis’ mission, working to

foster equality and cultivate a positive impact in the lives of LGBT individuals throughout the world.

single game,” Collins tells Out Front, who at the time had just come out to his family. “That jersey signified this new acceptance that I had with myself and that pride for being a member of the LGBT community.” Read our full interview with Jason on Page 14.

Stephen Fry Not only an actor, writer, journalist, poet, television presenter, and film maker, Stephen Fry has been fighting for the rights Leslie Herod of the LGBT community STEPHEN FRY & LESLIE HEROD for more than three Leslie Herod worked for decades. Last year he the Gill Foundation as released the documentary “Out There,” elucidat- a programming officer, establishing a coalition ing the experiences of LGBT people in different of LGBT individuals and people of color to create parts of the world such as Russia and Uganda, altruistic programs within the local community. and highlighting the immense challenges some Herod also worked as the deputy political face just for being who they are. director for President Obama’s 2012 re-election campaign; she was an advisor to former Colorado Jason Collins Governor Bill Ritter Jr.; and she has been a long-time In 2013, NBA basketball player Jason Collins supporter of the Matthew Shepard Foundation. became the first openly gay athlete in a major American sport, publishing his story through a All three advocates will be speaking at the gala, personal letter in Sports Illustrated. Collins was along with Judy Shepard, as they work to further deeply affected by Matthew’s death and in 2012, MSF’s efforts and ensure the events in Laramie, when he was drafted by the Boston Celtics, Collins Wyoming are never repeated.  chose 98 for his jersey number — the same year For tickets and event info, please visit Matthew was killed. “It was a private reminder to myself every MatthewShepard.org/Honors

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Animals do some weird shit. Dogs sniff each other’s butts in a “what’s up?” session. Cows simultaneously face north (or south) when eating. Several species of birds in India dive head first into the ground committing acts of suicide. When you dig a little deeper, it becomes evident that animals and humans do a lot of the same weird shit. Prairie dogs throw shade, pigeons procrastinate, and crows gossip and hold grudges. Let’s examine prairie dogs, those things you see dead and scattered all over the road here in Colorado. If you’ve ever looked around in unclaimed Colorado territory, you know exactly what these cute little creatures look like, but what you wouldn’t know is that prairie dogs have the most sophisticated vocal language ever decoded in an animal. Their jibber-jabber isn’t quite as complex as our own language, but is significantly better than chimps and dolphins. Of course, this could change with further research, but in the meantime, prairie dogs reign supreme. In 2013, Con Slobodchikoff, an animal behaviorist from Northern Arizona University and founder of the Animal Language Institute, discussed his research on the vocalizations of the prairie dog. He discovered that this species’ communication system is so advanced, they not only have different warning calls depending on the type of predator — coyote, domestic dog, human, hawk — they also construct sentences describing what a particular predator looks like. So: “A medium, rectangle-shaped dog with black and tan fur (we call them German shepherds) is approaching” or “Here comes a tall human being wearing white after Labor Day who is also fat!” (We’re pretty sure prairie dogs sentences sound much more elegant.) By showing captive prairie dogs a number of simple silhouetted shapes such as triangles, circles, and squares, Slobodchikoff also determined they can come up with new calls to communicate to each other about things they’ve never seen before. Basically when you walk toward a group of prairie dogs, you won’t know it but they’re throwing you some hardcore shade. 

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HELPING HANCOCK Denver Mayor Michael Hancock, a longtime supporter of the LGBT community, has officially kicked off his re-election campaign. A number of members of the LGBT community, including Peji Alawusa, Nita Mosby Henry, Anthony Aragon, David Westman, Christopher Ott, and Morris Price Jr. hosted a fund raising reception for the Mayor on September 9 at the Hollie Jean Lofts. About two dozen people came out to show their support for the Mayor. As of now, the mayor is running unopposed in the May 2015 election.

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BOULDER PRIDEFEST 2014 Out Boulder organized the 11th Annual Boulder Pridefest, which took place on September 14 in Central Park. Capping off a week of fabulous Pride festivities, Sunday’s main event featured live music, entertainment, and vendors. This year’s theme was One Community, Many Identities. Photos by Nikki Kushner See more photos at outfrontonline.com

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A Celebration 20 Years In The Making! Howard Dental Center is honored to mark 20 years of service to the Denver Metro HIV community, with an anniversary celebration and an event to mark its merger with Colorado AIDS Project, becoming part of the statewide Colorado Health Network.

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A TH U N D E R O F HOOF A ND HEA RT: ODYSSEO Rob Barger

STATE-OF-THE-ART TECHNOLOGY. 62 HORSES. Athletic (read: super toned, attractive) human performers. A flying carousel. IMAX video screens. A practically electrified air that crackles with artistic brilliance. Imagine these elements under a customized DIA-inspired circus tent — the biggest in the world, in fact — and you’re envisioning Odysseo. Artistic Director Normand Latourelle calls the show “a 6-D experience,” and he isn’t exaggerating. The show doesn’t have a plot, which had me wondering, ‘How will audience attention stay on point for 120 minutes?’ The answer: Non-stop action and plenty of eye candy. The intense visuals fill every line of sight with the magic of human/horse interaction and friendship, and the breathtaking stunts of acrobats and artists has hearts thundering. The design of the set is a feat of Odysseo’s prowess. Clever lighting and custom materials make for sleight-of-eye trickery that immerses the audience in a lush forest landscape, light filters camouflage the ground, and IMAX screens allow for scenic versatility nothing short of prodigious. You’ll see the plains of Africa, but only after hiking through the mountains of Chile. The elements themselves are a marvel of grandeur, holding court through a ring of fire, a crystal ice cave, and the “big splash” the artistic director considers one of his greatest accomplishments. “It’s a show that creates a landscape that creates a journey, and it integrates with the audience in a hypnotic way,” Normand tells Out Front. Costume design is intensely crafted and executed spectacularly. The fabric of the acrobats virtually dance with the music; their cuts, colors, and styles match the landscapes consummately. The standouts include middle-eastern gowns in autumn colors that blend seamlessly into their desert setting, and pure, snow-white dresses that twist and twirl on the ice cavern backdrop. The single drawback is the proximity to train tracks. During the third scene of the preview showing, a train rode by, blasting its horn, and cutting through the music. Regardless, the spectacle refused to succumb to the distraction — the live orchestra, glimpsed from the trees, carried on, and the golden-voiced woman kept her serenade strong.

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Of course, no review of Odysseo would be complete without remarking on the horses. These beautifully groomed equines are so exquisitely trained that they seem nonchalant about the huge audience set before them. Though there’s an obvious high level of control exercised by horse and trainer, you never get the sense that the horses don’t want to be there — it’s just the horse and their trainer, going through the ropes, being playful with each other on stage, and having as good a time as the crowd. But the magic of Odysseo can’t be captured in a review. Pounding hooves and aerial stunts matched to beautiful live music and stunning scenery will transport you across the world and further. “That’s not how you ride a horse,” joked my companion, as a rider hangs upside down performing tricks. My response? “No. That’s how you create a spectacle.”  For showtimes and tickets, please visit cavalia.net.

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BOTTOM BUNKER started meeting other mixed-status couples, we learned that for all of Luke and I thought we had the whole them, being undetectable was more safer-sex system down already. than just a layer of relief. It was a Our main events often consisted of way to go back to engaging in sex foreplay instead of anal sex. But oc- without the rubber. casionally we craved some good ol’ “I never use a condom when I fashioned bum lovin’. And since the top him,” one HIV-negative friend of HIV has a harder time transferring mine told me about his HIV-positive from bottom to top, we found comfort partner. When I asked if he ever even in the fact that Luke preferred top had the slightest worry, he laughed. bunk. Regardless though, we always “Not at all. We’ve been together for used a condom. more than ten years. He has been Luke and I started off our rela- undetectable the whole time, and tionship in an experimental way: by there has never been a scare.” seeing a couple’s therapist. Even with Although I should have been the potential for great love, many more shocked by the fact that they differences still endured that could still had sex after ten years, his stance brew a future of total chaos. We on safety blew my mind. I chalked it decided to be proactive and wrestle up to one person’s mere opinion until with such topics I started meeting as monogamy and more “magnetic Condoms would spirituality. Most couples.” All of always be in our lives importantly, we them practiced and that certainly had to wrestle with this way. When the being a mixed HIV poz partner was didn’t define status couple. our ability to love one undetectable and on bottom bunk, “I don’t think another well. they didn’t use you guys have truly thought about what a condom. this means yet,” our therapist said In a way, I could see why this during one session. “A major part worked. With how HIV primarily of making love is the intimacy of infects, it’s already more difficult for actually feeling your bodies connect the virus to travel upstream. So if the through sexual intercourse … bottom bunker was indeed undetectwithout any barriers.” able, the chances of passing it on had And by barriers, she meant to be next to nil. But just to be sure, I condoms. And she was right. Unlike asked a doctor buddy of mine. “Yeah, this is true,” he confirmed. standard couples, we would never get to experience what it would be “It would be like a 0.01% chance of like to have sex without a piece of risk. But it only really works if a guy is rubber between us. The thought truly undetectable. If his virus is up, he suddenly made Luke and I very sad. could pose way more risk to the top.” “You guys can overcome this,” she When I continued to respond guided us further. “But you’ll have in disbelief, he offered to top me to do so by mourning this — kind of right then and there to prove his like the way you would mourn the confidence with my undetectable loss of a loved one.” status. However I turned down his We decided to do just that. It graciously sexy offer as Luke and I sounds somewhat silly, but Luke and weren’t quite ready to do that kind I worked our way through some of of thing with other guys. the stages of grief for our atypical As it turned out, Luke and I sex life and eventually, the two of weren’t ready to take on this bareus reached a stage of acceptance. backing exception either. After all Condoms would always be in our the evidence, both of us felt it would lives and that certainly didn’t define totally be okay. Yet when it came time our ability to love one another well. to bottom bunk, we still strapped on Later that year, I finally went on the rubber. We had just reached total medications and achieved unde- comfort with the condom as part of tectable status rather quickly. Even our love making. In a way, we didn’t though we had become quite accus- let some silly little latex define who tomed to our “special needs” sex life, we were as a couple. And something my being undetectable added a huge, about that felt just as good as getting extra layer of relief. However, as we to feel your own partner bare.  Scott McGlothlen | Bleed Like Me

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O’Brian Gunn THE DENVER SUMMER SEASON is slowly warming down for its swan song, heralding in the fall season and the time of pumpkin-flavored everything. As you’re planning your final swimming and patio dining sessions, you should also break out your gardening tools. Fall is actually a great time to make things grow before the winter season arrives in all of its frigid glory. The Fall Time Is the Right Time To get your soil ready for fall planting, fortify your garden with a layer of winterizer lawn food. What’s unique about this particular type of lawn food is that it has more potassium than regular lawn food so your soil can withstand the fall and early winter chill. It’s also a good idea to keep your garden area free of leaves and debris since they can carry disease and unwanted pests. What to Plant? Before you start plantin’ fresh beets on the topsoil ones and twos, you’ll first want to make sure you’re planting the proper seeds of success, otherwise your garden might bear some strange fruits and veggies. The cool autumn weather is a great time to grow, among other things: · Broccoli · Brussels sprouts · Spinach · Swiss chard · Kale Anything that has a brief maturity life, such as greens, should be planted later on in the season beneath cold frames or floating row covers so that they are well-insulated against frost. As you’re testing out your green thumb, bear in mind that root crops usually taste sweeter once they’re harvested after the frost. To add a touch more color to the fall foliage, you can grow spring

bulbs, pansies, and peonies in your garden. One of the reasons autumn is the best season to plant spring bulbs is that they need time to marinate in the cold before they can bloom. Pansies enjoy the still-warm fall soil for putting down their roots. Tending to Your Buds Mulch your plants when the soil starts freezing later on in the fall season so that your garden isn’t uprooted by the alternating thawing and freezing cycle. For your perennials, water them with care until the first ground freeze in order to maintain their healthy roots. It’s recommended that your plants get at least a full inch of water once every week. Check Out Grocery Stores & Farmers’ Markets This Fall Fall is a great time to explore your local farmers’ market and grocery store for a bounty of fall fruits. It’s not all about the traditional pumpkins, squash, and acorns if you know where to look. While scoping out the scene, keep your eyes open for: · Asian pear · Crabapple · Cape gooseberry · Guava · Huckleberry · Quince Look up some fall recipes you can try out if you often find yourself in the mood to cook and bake when the leaves start shifting colors and piling up in the yard. Rather than sigh at the changing of the seasons, get ready for a second period of growth and a second chance to plant that garden you never got around to during the spring. Now you’ll have something to do while sipping on your pumpkin spice latte.  Learn more at: DenverFarmersMarket.com.

GET ALL THE SCREAMS AT 13 T H FLOOR Bobby Crew IF YOU’RE A SCREAMER LIKE ME, get your haunt on at the 13th Floor Denver this year. This attraction has some of the best special effects I have ever experienced in a haunted house. “The quality here … we have people who have worked on film sets, and they’ve built the haunted house,” says Kaitlyn Jaffke a spokesperson for Thirteenth Floor Entertainment Group. “It’s Hollywood-type quality.” And it was. Parts of the haunted house were like walking onto a Hollywood film set. The 13th floor tour takes you through two haunted houses, and the first one, Undead: The Possession, definitely gave off some “Evil Dead” realness, not to mention I have never seen such realistic dangling bodies. The second haunt, and main attraction, Dwellings of the Dead, takes you to a whole new world of zombies, ghouls, monsters, and mayhem. From shaking elevators to swamps, twirling rooms, and giant moving monsters, this haunted house offers some amazing special effects and is a must see. The actors inside the haunted house were just that: actors. Professional makeup artists help make

them terrifying, and they do a lot more than just jump out and scream. They varied in behavior, and they interacted with you, and some were creepy as hell (see: the twitching possessed girl). The best part? The scares weren’t all focused on the head of the group; folks in the middle and the back got their fair share of the screams as well. Erica Stackhouse is a secretary for a Catholic church during the day, and chases people with chainsaws at night. She has a theater background and has worked with the haunted house for seven

years. She tells Out Front a little about the hiring process for actors: “You come in, we ask a few questions, and then we put you on a set and walk past you. We give you a chance to give us all you’ve got and then offer character ideas, and see what they come up with.” I take it that if you creep them out enough, you are hired. The 13th Floor has been featured on the Travel Channel, “Making Monsters,” USA Today, MTV, and the Wall Street Journal, and has received recognition from Hauntworld.com, and “America Haunts.” “We are quite expansive,” Kaitlyn tells Out Front. “We own seven different haunted houses in five markets. We have the resources and the talent to make a kick-ass show and have a larger than life haunted house.” The 13th Floor also supports the anti-bullying campaign “Don’t Be A Monster,” targeting children aged 4 – 10, encouraging them not to stand by and let bullying happen at their school. The non-profit gives presentations to schools during the month of October which is National Bullying Prevention Month.  Learn more at 13thFloorHauntedHouse.com

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When you think of the word “power,” what comes to mind? Perhaps you think of influence, control, or capability. The Power Issue celebrates great people, communities, and ideas; it is an issue that inspires us to be better — the best we can be. It is only fitting to make our automotive column in this issue reflect the same. Like the people who change our world, there are only a few vehicles that showcase the best the world has to offer in terms of innovation, performance, quality, and style. One of those vehicles is the BMW M235i. The smallest of the exclusive and performance-driven M-Series from BMW, the M235i isn’t about being the most luxurious or most expensive; it is about being the best two-door, rearwheel-drive coupe. Starting with 320 horsepower coming from twin turbos and styling that is primed to become an icon — like the classic 2002 — the M235i is affordable in BMW terms. Yet, it has the quality and “Ultimate Driving Machine” feel that BMW is known for: rail-like handling, sports car ride, and serious power on tap. While we might not all be able to buy a $46K vehicle that rockets us to 60 mph in just over 4.5 seconds, we can all appreciate it. BWM doesn’t just bring their innovation and performance to small coupes — they also bring it to SUVs. The X5 is sought after, new and used, and represents the top-of-the-line midsize SUV. It’s a vehicle that has intelligence built into the fabric of its design from the 445-hp TwinPower Turbo V8 to the 8-speed automatic transmission and the dynamic suspension. It also has the flexibility to seat seven while turning heads with its one-ofa-kind styling. And, did I mention safety? From

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driver assistance to brake drying, the innovation not only gets the X5 going, but keeps you safe at all times. At $84K, the 2014 X5 xDrive50i isn’t for everyone, but certainly inspires what motoring should be. Speaking of innovation, the 2014 Range Rover Supercharged Long Wheelbase (LWB) might not be the first SUV you think of. However, the Range Rover has a class-leading aluminum body and chassis that has reduced weight for improved fuel economy. Yes, it still only gets an EPA rated 19 mpg on the highway, but when you consider that this luxury SUV has 510-hp and compare it to previous generations, it’s pretty impressive. Add to that the quality and attention to detail found in a vehicle nearing $123K, the Range Rover isn’t something you buy every day, nor are some of the options that are available. Consider sitting in traffic with air-cooled leather seats that massage your stress away. Or perhaps the four-zone climate control or panoramic sunroof for when you want let nature and the sunlight in. It is no exaggeration to say vehicles like this just didn’t exists 50 years ago. Finally, I wanted to end with a vehicle changing the world in volumes. Subaru give their customers control, innovation, and performance with the recently introduced Subaru XV CrossTrek Hybrid. While I’m not a huge fan of the basic XV, the Hybrid is steps above. With city EPA figures of 29 mpg and highway figures about 4 mpg better than that, the XV combines the best of environmental innovation, all-wheel drive, and putting the power in the hands of the everyday driver. How does Subaru do this? They built a vehicle with a top-of-the-line price just over $30K making it attainable for all, which just goes to show “power” comes in all shapes, sizes, prices, and perspectives. 

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Civil Protection Orders t GETTING A PROTECTION ORDER IN COLORADO is a twostep process. The first step is to file a written complaint with the court where you live. Most courts have set aside specific times for these to be filed and then immediately ruled upon. So long as you have said that some other person has done something to put you in fear of imminent danger of harm to your life or health, the court will grant a temporary protection order and will set the matter for a permanent protection order hearing. The second step is the permanent protection order hearing. It is set no more than fourteen days after the temporary protection order, which must be personally served on the restrained party before the hearing. Proof of service is required at the permanent hearing, and if it has not occurred by that date the hearing will be continued. At the hearing, the plaintiff must prove two things: (1) that the restrained person committed acts constituting grounds for issuance of a civil protection order and (2)

unless restrained [that person] will continue to commit such acts or acts designed to intimate or retaliate against the protected person. Different kinds of evidence can be used to support or deny a permanent protection order, including testimony, telephone messages, emails, text messages, and communication through social media. Even though the trial is generally user friendly, the technical rules of evidence apply and many hearings have been lost because people are unfamiliar with those rules and court procedures. If you are involved in a situation involving a protection order, it’s critical that you hire an experienced attorney immediately to protect your rights. A protection order can remove you from your home, your job, and be a black mark on your record. The ramifications of a permanent protection order are simply too severe to try to do it alone. Who can help? One of Bloch & Chapleau’s aggressive attorneys. Reach them at (303) 331-1700 or visit them online at BlochChapleau.com.

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THE UNSINKABLE MOLLY BROWN @ STAGE THEATER, 1050 13TH ST, DENVER The musical about Colorado’s own legendary heroine, Molly Brown, hits the stage with some brand new songs. See the rags-to-riches love story of a woman who survived the sinking of the Titanic. The show features choreography from three-time Tony Award winner Kathleen Marshall, and a new book by Dick Scanlan, guaranteed to make the musical sparkle like new.

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@ BIG WHITE TOP BY THE PEPSI CENTER Come see the only 6-D show in the world, unlike anything you have ever seen. Spectators are immersed in an enormous live Hollywood-style movie set, the size of three IMAX screens, filled with mesmerizing decor, high-def computer graphics, gravity-defying acrobatic and aerial stunts, and touching interactions between human and horse. The Miami Herald calls this the most beautiful spectacle ever seen.

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@4120 BRIGHTON BLVD The haunted house on Brighton is hosting a special night for the Denver Gay Professionals, but all are invited to attend the event that’ll leave us screamin’ “BYE, FELICIA!” in unison.

More info at 13thﬂoorhauntedhouse.com

O C T 3 – 5 SHAHAM PLAYS BRAHMS MASTERWORKS @ BOETTCHER CONCERT HALL, 1000 14TH ST, DENVER

LORD OF T H E F L I ES @ SPACE THEATRE SPEER & ARAPAHOE ST., DENVER A classic tale, “Lord of the Flies” is the story of a group of English boys stranded on a deserted island. Reveling in sudden freedom, their boyish games take a turn for the worst via savage and brutal power struggles. This dark glimpse into dystopia will leave viewers reeling for days to come.

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The Colorado Symphony welcomes Gil Shaham to the opening of the Masterworks subscription. One of today’s greatest violinists takes the stage with one of the greatest solo works for violin, Brahms’ Violin Concerto. We close this masterful program with Tchaikovsky’s Symphony No. 5, known for its sweeping melodies and considered the height of romanticism.

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@EXDO EVENTS, 1399 35TH ST., DENVER • 6PM Please join Out Front in celebrating LGBT and allied activists who made a powerful difference in our community this year. Headliner Blake Lewis will be performing live! Don’t miss this powerful evening of music, fun, and community.

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A MIDSUMMER NIGHT’S DREAM @ ELLIE CAULKINS OPERA HOUSE, 1101 13TH ST, DENVER The Shakespearean classic meets ballet as the Colorado Ballet opens its 54th season with a magical performance aided by the Colorado Children’s Chorale. Come relive the romantic comedy of starry-eyed lovers and mischievous fairies, featuring choreography by Christopher Wheeldon and the music of Felix Mendelssohn.

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HARVEST FESTIVAL @ FOUR MILE HISTORIC PARK, 715 S. FOREST ST., DENVER Find the perfect pumpkin in the patch, make your very own scarecrow, listen and dance to old timey music, play historic games, or make crafts in the park — all for free, which is our favorite price, no doubt.

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It’s been 15 years since the passing of Matthew Shepard and the Matthew Shepard Foundation intends to honor his memory yet again in their annual Honors Gala. As if dinner and an auction weren’t exciting enough, this year, the brilliant, multi-faceted, and out-andproud Stephen Fry will accept the Making A Difference Award for his thirty years of LGBT advocacy.

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With scarecrow contests, a kids’ costume parade, community booths, pumpkin patch, hay rides, and giant pumpkin contest, this free event is sure to usher in that “autumn is here” feel.

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@ DOWNTOWN DENVER Documented as the largest zombie event in America, the organizers of the ninth annual crawl are again setting out for a new Guinness World Record. Come as you are — alive or dead.

When the doors open at the Moth StorySLAM, hopeful storytellers place their names in a hat, then ten storytellers picked will perform on stage and get scored by judges. The selected winner will move on to a GrandSLAM storyteller championship. Come sign up to tell a story (theme is “Firsts”), or just come and listen.

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@DOUBLETREE STAPLETON NORTH, 4040 QUEBEC ST. Join Howard Dental for a tribute to 20 years of service to the Denver Metro HIV community and a homecoming celebration. Howard Dental Center marks its merger with Colorado AIDS Project becoming part of the statewide Colorado Health Network. The Anniversary will feature a social hour and silent auction followed by dinner and brief presentations. Dance to the music of The Black and Blues Guys.

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@THE JONES, SPEER BLVD. & ARAPAHOE ST., DENVER On a trip gone terribly wrong, drag stars Shirley Delta Blow, Zoe O, Olive de Bottom, and Dan D Lite find themselves stranded on an island far, far away. All they have is their wits, fabulous wardrobes, and fellow passengers, Jackie, Simone, and Rachel in this outrageous re-telling of “Lord of the Flies.”

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N OV 1 4 – 1 6 @COLORADO CONVENTION CENTER

This finale event to Denver Arts Week promises to be “the next big thing.” Visual artists will present one-of-a-kind and handcrafted works for sale, exhibition, and inspiration. Fashion designers, home designs, Colorado artisans, and local food and beverages round out this indoor arts experience.

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Meet Headliner Blake Lewis Berlin Sylvestre A finalist on “American Idol,” Blake Lewis is coming for us at the Power Party. As fans of the disco-funk beatbox machine, we say bring it on. Where you do you live full-time and what’s life like these days? I’m living is Sherman Oaks, CA and life is pretty simple. I wake up, go to my studio, get creative for a while, then ... go out and get inspired. On days off, I’m usually hanging with my lady or my friends, going on adventures with my dog, or traveling to a gig. Have you ever been to Denver? Many times. I use to have an aunt who lived there and I’ve played many shows in the great city. I’m totally stoked to come back. Playing shows is probably my favorite thing in the whole world. We’ve jammed out to your music here in the office on multiple occasions, and we love both your original and cover work. What can we expect at the party and will you take requests? Awesome! Expect the unexpected, I always say. I’ll have a planned set, but I don’t always like to let the crowd in on it. I might invite a couple people to party with me on stage and try to make them go wild. That’s always fun. I love audience participation. As far as requests go, it usually depends on the song.

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What’s a go-to song that gets the crowd crunk? Always depends on the crowd. “Binary Love” is always my favorite cause I see my fans singing to it. I like “Disco In Space” off my new album. Do you have any sort of connection with the LGBT community? Any friends and fam who are “friends and fam?” My best friend from childhood through high school, Michael Hadreas aka Perfume Genius, is an amazing artist and in the community. You should check out his new album Too Bright. It’s amazing! What do you do when you’re “off?” Something completely and totally not work-related. I love design and photography. I just recently got back into it and have been using Instagram as a platform. If you’re on there and want to check some out, it’s under #ChameleonDesigned. I used to make all my show fliers back in the day. Now I’m working on album art for other artists. It’s a fun hobby and I’m always on the road, in an airport, taking pictures, and using my iPad to design. What’re some of your hidden talents? I wear my heart and everything else on my sleeve, so I’m not sure I have any “hidden” talents. Is there anything you wanna tell Denver before you arrive? I’m coming for ya and I will drink all of your hot chocolate, be warned. ;) Can’t wait to see you all! 

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Meet Your Power Party Hosts

Eden Lane

Kevin Torres

For those “not in the know,” how would you describe who you are and what you do for Denver? While my work still includes covering politics and community affairs, I am most identified with the weekly arts program I created and host on Colorado Public Television, “In Focus with Eden Lane.” We cover local arts ranging from theater, dance, and music to visual art, film, writers, and more.

So five Emmys! That’s incredible. What else in The Life and Times of Kevin puts a smile on your face? My job puts a huge smile on my face. I love traveling the state of Colorado and meeting ordinary people with extraordinary stories. Outside of work, my nephews Mason and Gryphon also make me smile. They live in New York State (where I’m from). I get to see them a few times a year.

You’ve interviewed some heavy hitters from Hollywood to D.C. When you think of career highlights, who or what comes to mind? There are far too many highlights to include them all here. The first few that come to mind include covering the Democratic National Convention in 2008. George Hamilton gave me a much more personal interview than we often see from him. Alan Cumming was as delightful as one would hope, and he has a wicked sense of humor. Ken Buck (the former District Attorney of Weld County) gave me two interviews with unexpected candor and emotion. As well, Tony-Award-winner Alice Ripley responded to my questions by saying, “We’re talking about my soul now.”

You’re “kind of a big deal” around here. (It’s what I heard some kids sayin’. I think it’s a compliment. I hope so, anyway.) Do you get recognized walkin’ around Denver and how many fan-selfies do you take daily? What’s interesting about the Denver TV market, compared to the two other TV markets I’ve worked in, is people really enjoy watching their local news out here. Especially 9NEWS. I can’t tell you how many people I run into who say, ‘9NEWS is a part of our family.’ I get recognized frequently in the metro area, but more so out on the Eastern Plains. I grew up on in a farm in Northern New York so telling stories in rural communities is my specialty. As my buddy and colleague Kyle Clark likes to say, ‘Those are my people.’ As for selfies, my boyfriend will tell you I’m guilty of taking too many of them. He says I have a problem.

You’ve got some real “by my own bootstraps” fortitude goin’ on in your life story. With your background, what aspects of “personal power” do you really admire in a person? It seems “personal power” can be defined in so many ways. It can be the person who rolls up their sleeves and keeps working toward a goal; finding strength in defining your own life and identity; and all the big picture ideas often associated with power. I also think of “personal power” as the person who quietly faces the world with an open heart and mind despite exclusion, indifference, and even violence. For some people, simply moving through the world is a compelling example of “personal power.” That is the kind of personal power I admire most. If you could take a politician to task on your show, who would he/she be and what issues would you illuminate for the community? The idea of taking any guest to task isn’t exactly how I see my role as an interviewer and journalist. Of course I don’t shy away from asking difficult questions, but to me that phrase, “taking to task” implies a less objective role. When interviewing a politician, my goal is to illuminate who they are and examine their ideas so that the viewer can either take them to task, or reward them. The issues, however, can range from marriage equality, employment discrimination, and health care to economic development, homelessness, and many others. What are you most looking forward to at the Power Party in October? Looking ahead to my third year as co-host, what I look forward to most is the same as the first year — connecting with the variety of community members represented by the list of honorees. The evening has heartwarming moments, inspiring moments, and of course plenty of fun. It’s a very special celebration.  36

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What’re some misconceptions about your line of work? Oftentimes, people think we show up right when the newscast starts, step in front of the camera and BOOM — that’s all that goes into it. In reality, reporters, anchors, producers, etc. spend hours, days, weeks, months, and even years producing certain stories. There’s a lot of stress and a lot of hard work that goes into putting together stories for TV news. But it’s totally worth it. What would teenage-Kevin be most surprised at by adultKevin’s life? I think the success I’ve had. I grew up in a tiny, one-bedroom apartment with my mom and my sister until I was about 13 years old. My mother worked all the time to support us. Most kids I grew up with traveled down a dangerous road later in life. My mom taught me to work hard and eventually good things would come to me. Never in a million years did I think my dream of becoming a journalist would come true, let alone winning five Emmy awards along the way. I feel blessed. Who are some of your heroes, personally or professionally? My stepdad is my biggest hero. He passed away last November after a short battle with cancer. When he and my mom married, he bought us a big home in the country and gave us the childhood we never had. He also taught us to work hard. He’s responsible for a lot of my success. I miss him a lot and I think about him every day. Professionally, my co-workers are my heroes. Every day they come into the newsroom, bust their butts off, and produce an amazing product we’re all proud of. 

Nonprofit Award Recipient: One Colorado

City you reside: One Colorado’s statewide staff works out of offices in Denver, Colorado Springs, Grand Junction, and Durango. Family Life: “I’m partnered with fierce, femme queer advocate Shanna Katz (who has a regular article in Out Front. Read it!) and their adorable, spoiled fur kids: Jasper, Kali, and Kinsey.” – Leo Kattari, Health Policy Manager Personal heroes, and why: “My grandparents, because they had a strong work ethic, inspiring values, and taught me how to overcome adversity at a young age.” – Dave Montez, Executive Director If you had a superpower, it would be: “The power to be in two places at once. With the rapid pace of progress we’re achieving and all the outreach work we’re doing as advocates, it would definitely come in handy!” – Laura “Pinky” Reinsch, Communications and Online Organizing Manager Who or what is the “foe” in your comic strip, if any? “Personally, I’d have to say the gender binary — as champions for true equality and freedom of choice, we can do so much better than the rigidity and forced sense of certainty that we’ve been handed down over the years.” – Jon Monteith, Communications Director What is your biggest motivation? “Pumpkin pie — we just have to get through the 2014 election first and then it’s waiting for us!” – Harbandna Singh, Denver Field Organizer POWER AWARD RECIPIENT PHOTOGRAPHS BY CHRISTINA GRESSIANU • WWW.PHOTOCG.CO

Highlight of 2014: As an organization, we made the successful transition from securing civil unions last year to activating a full-scale, statewide campaign to win marriage equality in Colorado, and today LGBT Coloradans are finally on the cusp of having the freedom to marry here in the state we call home. We have worked at a rapid pace to expand and finesse our safe schools and LGBT health advocacy work, with the release of a groundbreaking report on transgender health coming in November and an exciting new focus on student leadership development all across our state. And as we head into the 2014 election, we have been working around the clock to ensure we elect pro-equality leaders this November. If we could pass one big piece of legislation, it would be: A comprehensive transgender justice bill that would finally address the unique barriers and overwhelming disparities that transgender Coloradans face on so many levels: in the workplace, at the doctor’s office, in our classrooms, and far too many other places. Favorite place to eat in Denver: “Park and Co.” – Lauren Cikara, Safe Schools Manager What aspect of Colorado should never change: “The mixture of traditional lifestyles like ranching and farming, that exist alongside emerging technologies. Oh, and the sunsets!” – Leslie Channell, Administrative and Accounting Associate What simple thing makes your day: “Crossfit.” – Daniel Ramos, Political and Organizing Director 

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Our 2014 Power Award Winners

Anthony Aragon

Angel Bradley

City you reside: Denver

City you reside: Colorado Springs

Family life: Celebrated 18 years with my husband, David Westman, and Andale & Arriba, our two Spanish water dogs.

Family life: I have six children — three biological and three adopted children out of the foster care system. Devin was my youngest biological son. I have an amazing boyfriend named Cloyd, who supports me and the foundation. I come from a family of six kids and I know how to cook for many people. I have one cat named Scar Baby. I love people and use my life to make someone's life better. God is my Lord and savior and I will never be ashamed to be a Christian. I will also never be ashamed to stand up for people with NO voice. I’ve spent my whole life focused on helping others and wouldn’t change a thing.

Director of Boards & Commissions, City & County of Denver

Personal heroes, and why: LGBT elected officials. They have — and will continue to — pave the way for young LGBT people. If you had a superpower, it would be: I would like to fly! What is your biggest motivation? To wake up each day and make a difference. If I could pass one big piece of legislation, it would be: Same sex marriage. Favorite place to eat in town in Denver: Tommy Thai’s. What aspect of Colorado should never change: Her beauty. What simple things make your day? My first and only cup of coffee. What is a favorite quote? Live each day with “Life, Love, & Laughter”

President, Devin 4 Life Foundation

Personal heroes: My hero is Devin James Scott, because without Devin there would be no foundation to help other people. If you had a superpower, it would be: to zap people who bullied others with an extra caring potion. What is your biggest motivation? I am motivated by the support and comments that come into the foundation every week. People support the foundation, but they also use it to help them. We have saved lives and encouraged people to be better people. Highlight of 2014: The highlight for 2014 would be that we continue to have a weekly support group for ten kids in our community. They come with variety of problems and we help them with anything they bring up. The kids love group. We go on activities and we also reach out to the community with the kiddos. What simple things make your day? I like when I can help someone change their negative outlook on something. In a caring way I always give someone a different way to look at things.

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Ginger Douglas (a.k.a. Briceson Ducharme)

Mark Ferrandino

Day gig: Retail manager for MAC Cosmetics, creator of The Apocalyptic Ball (a series of shows to raise awareness and funds for Colorado AIDS Project).

City you reside: Denver

The Apocalyptic Ball

City you reside: Denver, CO Family life: Married to my wonderful husband of almost nine years. We have two beautiful fur babies named Midgee and MAC. Personal heroes: My mom. When my dad left us, she had to step up and be the super parent. She worked two, often three jobs to make sure we were taken care of and sometimes would go without food so that we weren’t hungry. She struggled herself but never showed us that she was worried — just determined. If I had a superpower: I would be like Rogue from X-Men so when I meet people I can touch them and take on their powers as well. Who or what is the “foe” in your own comic book? Close-minded people. I am an open book and like to befriend anyone who crosses my path. However, I have no time in my life for those who judge me or others based on color, religion, or sexual orientation. What is your biggest motivation? My biggest motivation is helping people on the platform I created through Ginger. She has a good fan base, and I use her to help people in every way I can. From being dunked on Fox 31 news at 10am to producing and directing my own show annually, my heart goes out to those less fortunate and I will do everything in my power until my dying day to make their lives a little better.

Speaker of the House, Colorado House of Representatives

Family life: In civil union with husband. I have a daughter, Lila, and a dog, Dagny. Personal heroes: My parents for their years of dedicated work to education and improving peoples' lives. In addition, Harvey Milk and all the people like Pat Steadman who were on the frontline of the LGBT movement before it was easy or politically, popular. If you had a superpower, it would be: The ability to fly. It would be cool and ensure I got to meetings on time (hopefully). What is your biggest motivation? Helping improve the lives of others and building a stronger community. If I could pass one big piece of legislation, it would be: Marriage equality. Favorite place to eat in town: Cherry Creek Grille. What aspect of Colorado should never change? Our love for the outdoors and natural beauty of our state. What simple things make your day? A hug and kiss from my daughter What is a favorite quote? “It is difficult to say what is impossible, for the dream of yesterday is the hope of today and the reality of tomorrow.” – Robert H. Goddard

Highlight of 2014: My biggest highlight so far was being called out on stage for AIDS Walk (which was a total shock to me by the way) and hearing them say that with matching donations from my company, the little show I created has raised more than $103,000 in the four prior years of its existence. I heard that and cried like a baby because I was so proud of what we accomplished as a community. OUTFRONTONLINE.COM/POWER

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Debra Johnson

City you reside: Olde Town Arvada

City you reside: Denver

Family Life: I’m married to Rachel Gray with a daughter Leighanne Gray, and dogs Ginger and Whiskey Pete.

Family Life: I have my parents who live here in Colorado with me — and two fantastic children and one dog named Buddy.

Personal heroes: Sylvia Rivera, because of her determination against all odds in caring for those who no one else would, and her willingness to speak out and fight in an era that was far less than accepting. Mara Keisling, for her tireless, intelligent advocacy on behalf of an amazing community.

Personal hero: Susan B. Anthony. Recall her dream: She imagined every American woman would be the equal of men. She pursued this relentlessly for more than 50 years and died without savoring any official breakthroughs in women’s suffrage. And yet, in her last speech at a convention in Baltimore, she asserted: “Failure is impossible.” Leadership is rarely convenient, nor does it guarantee the fruits of our labor. The call of leadership demands the honor of doing what is right. There’s something for all of us to learn from visionaries like her about the power of dreaming and relentlessly pursuing the impossible.

Transgender Programs Manager, GLBT Community Center of Colorado

If you had a superpower, it would be: Flying What is your biggest motivation? Injustice and innovation Highlight of 2014: Going to the White House with my beautiful wife. If I could pass one big piece of legislation, it would be: a Transgender Bill of Rights. Favorite place to eat in town: Cafe Brazil What aspect of Colorado should never change: Its pioneering spirit What simple things make your day? A smile on my girls’ faces, and watching the fear fall away from someone’s face when they understand they aren’t alone. What is a favorite quote? “When someone tells you who they are, believe them.” – Maya Angelou

Denver Clerk and Recorder, Office of the Clerk and Recorder

If you had a superpower it would be: foresight. It’s the secret ingredient to victory. Without foresight, we cannot prepare for the future. Foresight gives us increased power to shape our futures, even in the most turbulent of times — it’s the ability to look beyond the 24-hour news cycle and focus on the real value in front of us. Who or what is the “foe” in your comic strip, if any? Father Time. What is your biggest motivation? The people I was elected to serve. I have an obligation to enshrine fairness and equity for every Coloradan. Never in my lifetime did I expect to see the walls of inequality crumble so quickly, but we still have work to do. Hopefully soon, every Colorado couple can affirm their honor and commitment regardless of who they love. Highlight of 2014: On July 10, Judge Andrew ruled in favor of Clerk and Recorder Hillary Hall and the loving couples affected by our state’s ban on same-sex marriages. On that day, my office was able to provide that fundamental right to all loving couples for the first time in Denver history.

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Founder and President Emeritus, American Veterans for Equal Rights, Rocky Mountain Chapter; Member, third two-year term, Denver GLBT Commission; Advisory Board, Agency for Human Rights and Community Programs; Lead Volunteer, The Center. City you reside: Denver What is your biggest motivation? To make a difference, be it for an individual or for a society in general. Highlight of 2014: Winning the Power Award, being recognized for the day-to-day ‘stuff’ I do. To know someone has noticed and cared enough to nominate me. If I could pass one big piece of legislation, it would be: to grant total and unequivocal equal rights in marriage, in employment, in the military, in schools, and anywhere discrimination is currently allowed.” What message would you like to share with others? My being singled out brings a spotlight on volunteers. Volunteers are often overlooked — especially seniors. It proves that you don’t have to be a highly paid executive or elected official to have an impact on GLBT issues. Organizations depend on volunteers, but they often overlook the talents that they offer. Many seniors have previously held high executive or specialized positions that no one bothers to ask about and consider how they can play a role, other than answer the phones or knock on doors. I was in my ‘twilight’ years and pretty much staying at home, like many of my peers. But a person reached out and offered me an opportunity to get re-involved and I’ve been at it ever since. There are many others like me out there, just waiting to be asked and included. My generation lead the fight for gay rights and our efforts are part of history. Things have changed and are moving faster than ever. Now it’s the current generation’s opportunity to make their mark, like we did. But don’t leave us out of the fight — we are all in this together.

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Senior Manager; Training & Leadership Development, Sage Hospitality @ The GLBT Center City you reside: Denver. Family Life: Married to Shane Hodges for two years, and we have two turtles: Magus & Maximus. If you had a superpower, it would be: the ability to fly. And although I’d still always be five minutes late, I’d never have to worry about parking. Who is your biggest motivation? Miss Diana Ross. Highlight of 2014: Purchasing my first home with my husband — AMAZING! Favorite place to eat in town: I love my Hapa Sushi and can often be found at Racines. What aspect of Colorado should never change? Damn, I just love this state! What simple things make your day? Something as quick and basic as a compliment from a friend; someone stopping to say “Hello” or “How are you?” or a stranger holding the door open in passing. Small kindnesses are a rarity.

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s we say goodbye to warm weather, summer concert lineups, and fruity ales, we say hello to a new season complete with a selection of festive fall beer flavors. Thanks to a handful of writers, climbers, beer enthusiasts, and one radio director, we collectively got drunk and crafted a list of our personal fall beer recommendations. 10. Santa Fe Brewery – Oktoberfest It may have been that Oktoberfest came at the end of our testing and, by then, we had become beer snobs, but this is a beer whose ode is more dedicated to the end of summer than to the beginning of fall. Regardless, Oktoberfest is a mug full of Germany. Drink up if you’re looking for a crisp, clean taste. Also, it makes for a great shower beer. 9. New Belgium – Tour de Fall If you’re looking for an easy-drinking fall pale ale, this is it. The caramel malts and slight floral notes provide an excellent balance, making it distinguishably more drinkable than some comparable pale ales. 8. Southern Tier – Pumking Note to our editor, Berlin: To most beer aﬁcionados this rates higher than most of the other beers on this list. To Out Front writers and drunken friends, this is where it landed. The smell of the Pumking will make you think you’ve fallen into a Pumpkin Spice Latte with the intense aromas of pumpkin, cinnamon, clove, and a hint of nutmeg. Be careful with this one — while it tastes like you’re indulging in a thick pumpkin milkshake, it actually has an ABV (alcohol by volume) of 8.6%, so beware. 7. Dogfish Head – Punkin Ale Pumpkins, pumpkins, punkins. One of Delaware’s finest beers can be paired perfectly with turkey, stuffing, dessert dumplings, or sharp

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A FEEL-GOOD FILM, “Pride” chronicles the efforts of an LBGT group to raise money to support striking Welsh miners in 1984. This rousing period drama, based on a true story, shows the power of activism and how the LGBT community found solidarity with — and rallied to support — another oppressed group in Thatcher’s England. Joe (George MacKay) is a closeted 20 year-old student who lives at home. At a gay pride march on June 30, 1984, he is unexpectedly asked by Mike (Joseph Gilgun) to help hold a banner. He soon finds a makeshift family in Mark (Ben Schnetzer) the group’s leader and Steph (Faye Marsay), the lesbian member, as well as Jonathan (Dominic West) and his lover Gethin (Andrew Scott), a Welsh man. On Mark’s direction, this ragtag group of queer activists creates “Lesbians and Gays Support the Miners” (LGSM). They eventually donate the funds they raise to the Dulais Valley miners, in South Wales. This prompts Dai (Paddy Considine) to pay the LGSM group a visit. While there are members of the community, including Hefina (Imelda Staunton), Cliff (Bill Nighy) and Sian (Jessica Gunning), who appreciate the efforts of the LGSM, Maureen (Lisa Palfrey in a one-note role), is a union leader who strongly objects to the queer group’s support. A battle of wills quickly escalates. “Pride” shows, in slick, inspirational-movie fashion, how the LGSM educated the miners and their wives, bonding with the very different community. If many of the exchanges in the film play on stereotypes, what's important is that the different groups find common ground against a shared enemy. The lessons of unity are heartfelt. When Mark inspires a woman at a meeting to

perform a stirring rendition of “Bread and Roses,” it emphasizes how morale is as important as money. Such messages may be preachy, but they go down smoothly. “Pride” also strives for easy laughs when Hefina stays at Gethin and Jonathan’s and finds a dildo and dirty magazines, or when several of the elderly Welsh ladies visit a gay London S&M bar. What makes these pandering scenes work is that the characters are all accepting — even curious about each other — and want the same thing: respect. They are all tired for feeling shame, or being betrayed by their community. Herein lies the strength of their bond, which never feels false or forced. In fact, one of the most important scenes in the film has members of the queer community chastising the LGSM for raising money for a cause other than AIDS. The disease, it is revealed over the course of the story, affects more than one member of the LGSM. When a queer character encounters his HIV+ ex, it is a powerful and even profound moment. Viewers may find themselves fighting back tears during some of “Pride," which gets increasingly more emotional as it marches to its climactic gay pride parade. When a Welsh man comes out to one of his colleagues (who suspected he was queer all along), or a LGSM member stands up to prejudice, it is extremely moving. Although the film is quite sentimental, and there are few dramatic surprises — Maureen will fight unfairly to exclude the LGSM and its supporters; a queer character will be gay bashed — there is still something undeniably endearing about this story and these people becoming empowered. “Pride” may offer familiar messages of tolerance and dignity, but they ring out loud and clear, and never hurt to be heard. 

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The German film “Wetlands” revolves around Helen, who is 18, sexy, tomboyish, and very aware of her body. She has hemorrhoids and talks about them, likes to masturbate with vegetables, and has rejected her mother’s obsession with hygiene and housekeeping. After a bizarre childhood lesson from her mother that she should never trust anyone, it’s easy to see how Helen has grown to be at odds with her. Throughout the film, this angelic and decidedly grimy girl has her fingers between her legs a lot, for pain, pleasure, and self-exploration. CONTINUED ON NEXT PAGE e

"WETLANDS" CONTINUED If that sounds gross, that’s your problem; not hers. Actor Carla Juri does a wonderful job as a girl who is remarkably curious, unfiltered, and unashamed — everything youth should be. Perhaps I could describe the filthy public toilet or the dreamlike childhood recollections, but those are simply distractions in a sleight-of-hand style of storytelling. This coming-of-age tale is quite forthright, but audiences are distracted from its simplicity as the film careens near the brink of decency and often plunges off the edge. Her character — as written by director David Wnendt and Claus Falkenberg — is not a standard male fantasy of young womanhood. Her male sexual conquests seem steamrolled rather Helen will have than enticed. Her sexuality with females is also a tidal wave. Though there are fewer what she wants depictions in this film, one can’t help but think when she feels Helen will have what she wants when she feels like it, with like it, with whomever she finds interesting. whomever she Helen’s hemorrhoid saga moves into the finds interesting. hospital, where she’s suffered a shavingrelated mishap. Bored and needy, and still remarkably driven and manipulative, she strikes up a relationship with a male nurse. One is never sure if she’s using him in a calculated fashion or just because of who she is, but she appears naturally wired to put her own interests first. She attempts to reunite her divorced parents and when they don’t play along with her carefully orchestrated plans, she is inexplicably infuriated. The mind of a teenager is often impenetrable. So what’s the verdict? Some will be grossed-out and unable to recover, and they will miss the very real story of a young woman trying to come to terms with her oddball family, while at the same time exploring everything … including her ass. Others will be delighted by the borderline horrifying depictions and discussions of things not often discussed. People who consider it part of their life description to partake things that upset conservatives (yes, the book-burner brigade tried to get this banned), spray in the face of etiquette, and aren’t ashamed to laugh at anal things or wonder along with the character about the power of her aroma; this is your watch. 

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A FRIEND ON FACEBOOK posted one of those inspirational JPEGs that are supposed to make you feel better and all warm inside. I did not bite. In fact, I railed against it. It said, “Life is like a book. Some chapters are sad, some are happy. But if you never turn the page, you will never know what the next chapter holds.” I have a big drag-queen-up-in-yourgrill problem with that. Life is NOT a book. Nothing has been written. You don’t have to turn the page. Your days have not been pre-written and you are not following any kind of script. Pages are flat and two-dimensional, and a book is a collection of flatness going from point A to point B. It’s the same story no matter how many times you read it. Life is more like making a claymation movie. You are creating a brand new world all around yourself that no one has ever seen before, because the world you create can only be seen by your eyes. We might all share the same bright colors of clay, but what we mold them into is anyone’s guess and anyone’s dream. We create our own reality with the same raw materials. But where we all end up can be quite different. I molded my world from altar boy to seminarian to out-of-the-closet gay rights radical to rodeo cowboy to fundraising glitter drag queen to university marketing director.

That’s a lot of worlds to squeeze into one lifetime and that doesn’t even cover half of it. I know there’s more to come. Some people create just one world and are happy to live in it the rest of their life. I have friends from grade school who are still living in the same little Missouri town I grew up in. They built their world in the Ozarks and never felt the need to change it one bit. One of my high school classmates, who slept next to me (and was apparently sleeping with several of the other seminarians right under my nose), is now an ordained priest in Illinois. He built his closeted world inside the tapestry-covered walls of the Catholic Church. Every year at Burning Man, 70,000 people come together to build a world of art, music, and fire that only exists for a week. And that world contains worlds within. So many that you can never experience them all. And that’s what is so great about the worlds we create — they all intersect and overlap. Worlds can be shared, visited, or completely avoided. The intersection of worlds can be very exciting but unfortunately sometimes quite violent. Cue any news from the Middle East. If you find that your world is stuck, don’t turn the page. Instead, grab some colorful clay and start remolding. The possibilities are limitless. Know that you create your own reality. You are the sculptor of your own life. 

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JESSICA LANGE STARS AS ELSA MARS IN THE NEW SEASON OF “AMERICAN HORROR STORY” Nowalk for “How To Get Away With Murder,” a new series on ABC, which will feature Viola Davis, and Jack Falahee who plays a gay law school student. Amazon throws their hat into the ring with an original series about a family patriarch coming out as transgender in “Transparent.” Action fans rejoice because “The Flash” on The CW will feature gay actor Wentworth Miller (“Prison Break”) and not one but two gay characters. Late in October, CBS features a new sitcom comedy, “The McCarthys,” starring Tyler Ritter as Ronnie McCarthy a 29-year-old gay man dealing with an overbearing, outspoken, and tight-knit family. “Scandal” (which already features plenty of LGBTs) is back for another jaw-dropping season, and if hot men in The Hamptons is your bag, “Revenge” brings the pecs in Nautica v-necks realness with the promise of even more guy-on-guy liplockin’. Still not what you’re looking for this season? Maybe you just want to stick to good old-fashioned reality television. Well, you’re still in luck. “Survivor” is back yet again with “Blood vs. Water.” The 29th season of the long-running series will feature a gay and Christian couple. The duo is set to face off against former Atlanta Braves pitcher, John Rocker, who is known for his anti-gay rants. Should make for an interesting season. Whether you’re looking for drama, comedy, or just a little bit of eye candy settle in, clear your evening plans, and get ready for a fall season that is sure to whet your whistle. 

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he sweet and sunny Brazilian romance, “The Way He Looks,” is writer/director Daniel Ribeiro’s feature-length version of his 2010 short “I Don’t Want to Go Back Alone.” Leo (Ghilherme Lobo) is a blind teenager whose BFF, Giovana (Tess Amorim), assists him in school and walks him home. When Gabriel (Fabio Audi) joins their class, he befriends Leo and Gi, as she’s called. A class assignment forces Gabriel and Leo to work together, and the guys quickly form an intimate bond inciting Gi’s jealousy. What makes “The Way He Looks” so magical is that Ribeiro shows the two guys falling in love. They never discuss their emotions, but they are all tactile. Ribeiro met with Out Front to talk about gay teens, shower scenes, and “The Way He Looks.” 54

Gary M. Kramer: Why did you feel you needed to expand your short into a feature? Daniel Ribeiro: When I thought about this blind character discovering that he was gay, I knew it had to be my first feature. Blindness provides a way to talk about sexuality because Leo had never seen a boy or a girl. His feelings were not based on anything he had seen; it was just how he felt — his other senses. I thought Leo was a character we’d never seen before, and this coming-of-age film would be a good first feature for me to represent who I am. I wanted to keep the same actors because they had a huge chemistry in the short. Leo is very careful about expressing his emotions. Can you discuss how you constructed his character? I think we are all like that ... adapting — especially someone [like Leo] who is bullied. In places where

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Leo’s mother sees him as being very responsible. Do you think gay teens are more mature? I think a lot of gay people mature really young because they have to deal with something huge in their lives and they have to do it by themselves. Nowadays, it’s easier for gay teens to be more open, but when I was a teenager, I went through a period where I couldn’t share everything I was feeling. I was always thinking, and I think a lot of gay people go through that, and mature really fast and really young. I don’t have Leo question his sexualty, which I went through. I think gay kids shouldn’t have to go through this period of questioning who they are. You need some time to understand what you are feeling, but when you realize you’re gay, it should be okay. What can you say about the shower scene? I think there has to be a shower scene in a gay film. In the short, we have the same concept where Leo changes in front of Gabe, and Gabe looks at him and realizes that he can look at Leo and Leo doesn’t realize he’s staring. Because they were older, I could do it with nudity, and it would be important for the characters. It’s a big deal for gay teens when they have to shower with other people — you can get an erection because your body can’t hide your sexuality.  “The Way He Looks” was a Best of Cinema Q feature this year, and is available for pre-order at Amazon.com.

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So you wanna talk football, eh? Beer, hot wings, and men in tight pants. Does it get any better than that? Welcome back to football season, folks. Lauren Archuletta FOR THE FOOTBALL POSERS who just love to get dressed up in their orange and blue: We (the true fans) appreciate your involvement even though you don’t really know what you’re talking about. We like it when you clap and yell when we do, but it’s time you at least learned a few rules of the game. Let’s just talk about the basics. There are 11 members from each team on the field at all times, for both offense — the people who have the ball and are trying to get it down the field into the end zone — and for the team playing defense. Football has four 15-minute quarters and a 12-minute half time break. Without going too deep into timings of snaps and end changes, just remember that the clock will stop throughout the game. It’s going to stop a lot to signal everything from incomplete passes, penalties, players out of bounds, etc. So if you think the game is basically a quickie, think again, chug a beer, and settle in for a minimum of two hours. Whoo! Pat yourselves on the back, we’ve gotten this far. So let’s talk about those guys in the tight pants. Each team has their offense, their defense, and their special teams. The guys who run out onto the field to punt and kick field goals are from the special teams. Pretend you’re drunkenly standing somewhere near or in Sports Authority Field. The game officially starts when a guy kicks the ball from the defense’s 30-yard line. From there, the offensive plays start as they try to advance the ball down the field. When the offense has the ball, they have four chances, • Touchdowns equal six points. or “downs,” to gain • Extra-point conversions happen 10 yards. If they are right after the touchdown and they successful in these are worth one of two points. endeavors, they get

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he sun gets all the attention in Colorado, but now that the intense heat of summer has passed, check out our night sky’s autumnal offerings. One of our favorite constellations involves a sweet little tale of (attempted) human sacrifice, a sea monster, and vengeful nymphs with damaged egos. Turn your head skyward and behold the story of Andromeda. Coordinates: 00h 42.44m 30s, +41° 16′ 10″

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Dear Shanna, Here’s the deal: I want to be good at flirting. I mean, I get the basics — a little eye contact, a little smile, don’t be a jerk — but after that, I am totally lost. Any tips? Flirting with a Fear of Flirting in Centennial. Dear Flirting, A great topic, and one I’ve never covered before, so way to keep it fresh. Flirting is actually incredibly tricky, especially if you’re not naturally extroverted and/or outgoing (or if you naturally happen to be an ass). It takes some thought and intentionality about your game plan, as well as a lot of assessing and reassessing to figure out what works best for any given situation. First and foremost, be authentic to yourself. If you’ve got a dry, witty sense of humor, trying to be flirtatious with a pop culture joke is not going to be your forte. Conversely, if you’re not a drinker, opening by offering to buy him a drink might wind up feeling a little awkward. There are ways to be completely yourself and still be fantastically flirty, so find them instead of trying to be someone you just aren’t. If you’re trying to flirt with someone you don’t know, make sure you start out light and easy — you can always There are ways to be bump it up another level, but if you completely yourself and still come on too strong to start with, it’s harder to tone it down. Add be fantastically flirty, so find definitely a little eye contact, a smile, maybe them instead of trying to be place yourself in a better line of sight, or move closer to them without apsomeone you just aren’t. pearing too aggressive or invading of their space. Rudeness is not sexy. If you get a smile or some eye contact, you can take it forward to saying hello, complimenting them, or striking up a conversation. However, if you get a polite decline or they clearly aren’t interested, move on and don’t push it. Most people like someone saying something nice to them, even if they aren’t interested, but no one likes a pushy or harassing jerk who just won’t put it down and walk away. On the other hand, if they compliment you back, engage in the conversation, model their muscles for you, or twirl their hair, you’ve got game on. Keep being true to yourself. If you’re an awkward nerd like me, ask what books they’ve read or drop a useless fact about how tomatoes need a certain temperature to develop lycopene (this is true; feel free to borrow it). If you’re a bit more smooth, perhaps just say what comes naturally. Keep it up as long as you like, but if you’re just flirting for the fun of it, make sure to let them know so you’re both on the same page. Already know your flirting partner? Send some fun and light-hearted text messages, or leave a loving sticky note in their favorite book or on their laptop keys. Plan a date where you can stare into each others’ eyes or play footsie under the table. Brush up against them when you’re leaving the house, or help them put their jewelry on while breathing gently on their neck. Sometimes, in established relationships, the fun is so much more in the anticipation, so make it last! Best of luck!

Shanna Have a question you’d like to ask Shanna (anonymously)? Email shannakatz@gmail.com. Shanna Katz, M.Ed, ACS is a board-certified sexologist, sexuality educator, and author who believes in open source, accessible sexuality education. See more columns at ofcnow.co/sexpert or for more info on teaching adults to optimize their sex lives visit ShannaKatz.com.

Left: “Sidney Hall - Urania’s Mirror - Gloria Frederici, Andromeda, and Triangula” by Sidney Hall • Restoration by Adam Cuerden

ndromeda was a princess in Greek mythology who was forced to wear some ugly metal bracelets and almost sacrificed because of her mom’s big mouth. Her parents were King Cepheus and Queen Cassiopeia of Ethiopia. Cassiopeia liked to brag about her daughter’s looks, which wasn’t a big deal until she made the mistake of claiming Andromeda’s beauty surpassed that of the Nereids — 50 sea nymphs whose hotness was notorious and, apparently, not to be outdone. The Nereids complained to the sea god Poseidon, and all watery hell broke loose for Andromeda. Poseidon sent Cetus the sea monster to destroy all of Ethiopia. To stop Cetus and pacify Poseidon, Cepheus and Cassiopeia tried to sacrifice Andromeda by chaining her to a rock near the ocean and waiting for the monster to eat her. The hero Perseus, a busy guy who had just killed the serpent-haired Gorgon Medusa, rescued Andromeda and married her. (Wonder if her folks were invited to the wedding. Awkward!) Andromeda’s constellation — also known as Persea (wife of Perseus), Cepheis (daughter of Cepheus), or the Chained Maiden — is most easily visible in the fall. She shares the sky with other characters from the myth of Perseus, including her parents, Perseus himself, and Perseus’ winged horse Pegasus. Cetus, one of the largest constellations, is further south than the others, so it’s not fully visible from our latitude. If you have some binoculars handy, look at the Andromeda constellation a little closer and you’ll be able to view the closest galaxy to our Milky Way, which is also named after the Chained Maiden. These constellations don’t really look like the characters they represent, so it takes a little imagination to perceive them as line drawings of people (and a flying horse), but if you’re only up for some what-you-see-is-what-you-get stargazing, the Big Dipper and Little Dipper are visible in the fall, too. 

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A PAT O N T H E BAC K W H I L E STAY I N G O N T RAC K Brent Heinze “Hey, Brent. I’ve had a history of working really hard to reach a particular goal in my life and then quickly moving on to the next task at hand. Many people have told me that I don’t take the time to enjoy my successes or feel pride about how much effort it took to achieve it. I personally don’t think it’s necessary for me to sit back and waste time reveling in my accomplishments to feel proud of achieving them. How would doing that beneﬁt me and why do people think I need to change my patterns?” It sounds like they may be concerned you are not fully appreciating your achievements. Some people appear to be singularly focused on attaining a goal as quickly as possible with as little resistance and effort necessary. Very few of us want to work harder than we need to, but rushing to get things done comes with unique pitfalls. Thankfully there are very few things that require only one “correct” way, but I think I can help to bring up a different perspective about your concern. There’s a big difference between running from project to project and resting too long on your successes, patting yourself on the back, and waiting for the adoration from others. Take a moment and think about the road you must travel to successfully achieve something. Figuring out a personal desire, developing a well-crafted plan, showing the perseverance to

continue fighting when things get challenging, and eventually emerging triumphant based on your efforts are all aspects we may experience when working to reach a goal. We face challenges and our own insecurities while forging ahead and may need to develop different methods or our tactics completely to achieve what we want. All of these things take creativity, strength, and heart. Many feel we may benefit more from the process of working to reach a goal or achieve something more than simply the pride in attaining it. In many ways, the process we go through in working to gain various successes can enrich our lives more than just the delight of sweet victory. The emotional elation, self-esteem building, and desire to run around getting high-fives from your buddies are just a few of the benefits of allowing ourselves to take the time to reflect on our achievements. Taking time to evaluate the process can have a significant impact on our lives. It is so much more than how many things we can achieve or how many times we can win. It speaks to our ability to be strong in the face of difficulties, to overcome situations that can be painful or frustrating, and to develop the confidence that we can get those things we truly want through perseverance and hard work.

Thankfully, life isn’t always a mad dash on Black Friday to get a killer deal. There are times when slowing down to experience situations from a different perspective or evaluating things more closely can really benefit us. It’s fine to be delighted about the efforts we have put into getting what we want, but don’t spend too much time prancing around like a proud peacock. Take the time to enjoy your victory, get some rest, then prepare for the set of things to tackle.  Brent Heinze, LPC, is a licensed professional counselor. Get more HeinzeSight online at ofcnow.co/brent or send him a question for his column at PerspectiveShift@yahoo.com.

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