OutreachNC magazine - June 2014

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Navigating Lifestyle Choices for Active Adults

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Navigating Lifestyle

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Donald Ross comes alive in the form of The Royal Greensman.

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Caddies of No. 2 Longtime caddies of Pinehurst Willie McRae and Eddie MacKenzie recall golf memories.

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Carolina Conversations with singer-songwriter Mark Cohn Known perhaps best for "Walking in Memphis," the musician talks about touring and being a dad.

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Piping with Prowess Bagpiping since he was a lad, Peter McArthur is tuned up and ready to play during U.S. Opens.

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40 N.C.'s Top 5 Retirement Destinations As our yearlong series continues, we rate the top five places for retirees in the state.

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Golf's Grande Dame Peggy Kirk Bell The legendary golfer shares memories on and off the course and her latest hall of fame induction.

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Buffalo Presbyterian Church Our historic church series tour leads to Sanford, where Highland Scots first gathered in 1797.

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46 Oh, the Places You'll Go! Class of 2014

A look at the latest trends as graduates choose colleges, trades and set out to make their own way.

48 The Royal Greensman

A veteran of community theater, Rod Harter embraces his latest role of Donald Ross.

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Columns

"If you watch a game, it's fun. If you play it, it's recreation. If you work at it, it's golf."

— Bob Hope

10 Law Review

16 Sentimental Journey

28 Ask the Expert

11 Brain Matters

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29 Money Matters

Create a lasting legacy

by Jackie Bedard

Will crossword puzzles decrease my risk of Alzheimer's disease?

by Karen Sullivan

12 Cooking Simple Cucumber basil martini

by Rhett Morris

13 Medicare Update

Volunteers essential for SHIIP program success

by Lynne Drinkwater

14 Belle Weather

Give me some sugar, Honey

by Celia Rivenbark

15 Literary Circle

Book review of "Josephus Daniels: His Life and Times"

by Cos Barnes

"Stardreaming’" back in time

by Jennifer Pollard

Game On

U.S. Open return recalls Pinehurst memories

by Thad Mumau

20 Senior Moments

Bring home the bacon...toothpaste

by Barb Cohea

22 Writing After Retirement Find enjoyment in writing well

by Ed Glassman

24 Planning Ahead

What Medicare doesn't cover

by Elizabeth Donner

26 Consumer Beware Travel easier with PreCheck

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From the Editor

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une is here at long last, and golf is in the air. This month, we are celebrating history in the making with the U.S. Open championships taking to Pinehurst No. 2. As we raise a club to world-class golf and welcome visitors to our home state, we teed up stories from on and off the course.

On the many greens and fairways of Pinehurst No. 2, Game On looks back at the storied past of the Opens played there.

Donald Ross designed No. 2, and we meet Rod Harter, who shares his insight on Ross and puts his theatrical background to good use as the character of "The Royal Greensman."

We also sit a spell with golf ’s grande dame Peggy Kirk Bell and reminisce on some of her favorite memories and her induction into the Carolinas PGA Hall of Fame.

Staying on course, we’ll introduce two special gentlemen, Willie McRae and Eddie MacKenzie, longtime Pinehurst caddies who have plenty of stories to pull from their golf bags.

Bagpiping with years of practice under his kilt, we meet the official piper of Pinehurst and Fayetteville native, Peter McArthur. Playing the ivory pipes he’s had since being a lad on a family trip to Scotland, he travels and keeps traditional piping music alive and well.

Music is all around, especially in the summertime as artists take to the road. Grammy Award-winning singer-songwriter Marc Cohn brings his soulful voice and songbook to Durham’s Carolina Theatre July 13. We catch up with the musician for a Carolina Conversation about being a dad, stories behind the music, his musical heroes and touring the U.S. Retirees often tour the country in search of their perfect retirement destination, and North Carolina sits third on the list. We tally our top five N.C. places many are choosing as their new home sweet retirement home.

Many congregants has called Buffalo Presbyterian their church home since 1797. As our historic church tour leads to Sanford, we learn of the early Scots who made the journey across the ocean and up the mighty Cape Fear to settle here.

As the class of 2014 completes their journey toward a diploma, our “Oh, the Places You’ll Go,” series continues as we examine Dr. Seuss’ advice for them and the latest trends as high schoolers choose colleges, trades and make their own way.

(On a personal note, as my godson graduates from Athens Drive High School and contemplates his future: Chad, follow your heart wherever it may lead and know I could not be more proud or love you more. This magazine’s for you!)

If you are visiting North Carolina, welcome to our great state, and for our longtime readers, thank you for turning these pages with us as our co-editor Jeeves is busy chasing golf balls. Until next month…

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e often want to leave some kind of legacy behind.

It could be setting up children and grandchildren for life with no financial worries, or maybe endowing a professor's chair at your alma mater or building a wing on the local children's hospital. You may want to make sure everyone you care about is treated equally.

What you do with your estate goes beyond the nuts and bolts of your financial plans, and that's why it’s important to have a plan in place.

According to the Wall Street Journal, two-thirds of boomers say family mementos and heirlooms are what they want as an inheritance, and just 9 percent of boomers say they want to inherit money.

So money, in many cases, is the easy part. It's how to divide the personal items where conflict may arise. Who gets the water dipper Grandma kept in her kitchen window? Who gets the rocking chair Grandpa sat in while listening to baseball on the radio?

The last thing you want is to have heirs fighting over the estate, but that's increasingly common, reports The New York Times. Litigation is increasing, because people are willing to sue more often.

The size of an estate doesn't matter when it comes to family members fighting, notes the Toronto Star.

Instead, it's the feelings, conflicts and resentments that bubble to the surface after a loved one is gone. In cases of divorce or blended families, it can be even worse.

There are ways to head off the worst of the conflicts. The No. 1 thing the Wall Street Journal advises

when trying to head off disputes about an estate is talking. Find out who wants what keepsake, and if there are multiple family members who want the same item, work it out before you’re gone. If possible, avoid leaving something such as a vacation home to multiple relatives, because it can be a recipe for litigation when you’re gone.

Make sure you have a will, documents granting power of attorney in case of incapacitation and a living will that gives your end-of-life care wishes. Also consider creating a trust to shield assets from probate court, a child's divorce or creditors.

Beyond that, you can create a memorandum that spells out how you want to divide up your possessions. The memorandum can say who shall receive what, and it can tell an executor how to distribute the items. Be specific, and attach photos of each item if necessary. Of course, you can also give items away before your death, but be wary of gift taxes.

Finally, sharing family values can be the most referenced piece of your legacy. You can do this through an ethical will that isn't legally binding, but it lets you share your life story and pass along values such as volunteering or being active in church. An ethical will can be handwritten and tucked into the official will for survivors to find and treasure.

Bedard, an elder law attorney with Carolina Family Estate Planning in Cary, can be reached at 919-443-3035.

Brain Matters by Karen Sullivan, Ph.D., ABPP

Will crossword puzzles decrease my risk of Alzheimer’s disease?

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here is a lot of information out there about the best way to take care of our brain as we age. We know that our genes play a significant role in our chances of developing diseases in older adulthood including Alzheimer’s disease. There is very little, if anything, we can do about this. However, the decisions we make about our lifestyle, especially our cardiovascular health, have a great deal of influence in the development of dementia and are largely within our control.

Neuroscientists have found that about 50 percent of our cognitive ability as we age is determined by our level of intelligence in childhood.

Many studies have reported that low education is the most influential factor in who goes on to develop Alzheimer’s disease (estimated to be 14−19 percent of cases worldwide).

Similarly, older adults who engaged in more mind-stimulating activities (e.g. reading newspapers, playing checkers, chess or cards or solving crossword puzzles) in the early and middle decades of life had fewer signs of Alzheimer’s disease in their brains at autopsy. Older adults who began to do crossword puzzles recently did not see a benefit.

The benefit from mind-stimulating tasks such as crossword puzzles is thought to come from an investment made long ago and not so much from the new interest in bridge you developed since retirement.

The bottom line: If you are middleaged or younger, develop an interest in brain teasers, and you’ll likely experience the benefit later in life. If

you’re a bit older than middle-aged, pay attention to changes you can make now to help reduce your risk.

Up to half of Alzheimer’s disease cases are thought to be related to preventable risk factors, such as: Stop smoking. If you smoke, try to stop. Cigarette smoking has been reported to be related to 14 percent of Alzheimer's cases worldwide.

Walk, walk, walk. Physical inactivity has been reported to be related to 13 percent of Alzheimer’s disease cases worldwide and 21 percent of cases in the U.S. Treat depression. Treatment with an anti-depressant or participation in counseling are excellent choices, and the combination of both is thought to be most helpful.

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In addition to the program’s professionally operated call center, SHIIP has a volunteer base of 115 county coordinators and 1,033 volunteers who provide free, unbiased counseling about Medicare in all 100 counties of North Carolina. Without its remarkable and dedicated volunteers, SHIIP could not reach out to all the people using Medicare in our state.

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Belle Weather by Celia Rivenbark

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don't normally get around to reading my scientific journals until much later in the week...OK, never, but I did happen to read about new findings that low blood sugar can make husbands and wives behave aggressively toward one another.

According to the study, which was published in a journal I can't even pronounce, so I will simply call "The Journal of the Most Obvious Stuff in the Universe," it finds that when women are hungry, they are more likely to stick voodoo pins into a doll representing their husbands.

Naturally, when I read that I thought they were speaking metaphorically. But, no! Turns out the science community actually gave 107 married couples voodoo dolls and 51 pins each with instructions to stick a pin in the doll representing their spouse whenever they felt a, ha-ha, stab of hostility toward them.

It should be noted that some participants didn't use a single pin, even when blood sugar levels were low. These were, I'm guessing, Southern Baptist wives who think putting pins in voodoo dolls seems like it might be kinda Satanic, a sin on a scale of "definitely worse than dancing" but "not quite as bad as watching 'Naked and Afraid' even though it is on the Discovery Channel, which is quasi-educational."

I believe we can all agree that the "take away" from this study that probably cost many thousands of dollars is, if you're hungry, you should probably eat something. Thank you science!

Of course, there was more to the study than voodoo dolls.

At the end of three weeks, participants were told they were going to play a game that lets you torment your spouse via headphone noises (dentist's drill, nails on chalkboard, anything by the Black Eyed Peas...) based on how angry you were feeling toward them. Again, low blood sugar had spouses turning the volume on high. (Don't worry; they weren't really hooked up.)

This led scientists to decide that, and I am not making this up; "Food curbs aggression and this could be useful in prisons, psychiatric hospitals or schools." Since all three of those institutions are, apparently, equal.

Next time a fight breaks out in Cell Block 3 or ninth-grade gym class, just slingshot in some yeast rolls and all will be well.

Stay tuned next week when the science community discovers that wives hate it when their husbands drink milk directly from the carton.

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He is said to have revolutionized the newspaper industry in the South. Long the leader of the Democratic Party, his influence grew until he was Secretary of the Navy under Woodrow Wilson, a mentor to Franklin D. Roosevelt and the ambassador to Mexico during Roosevelt’s terms as president. His influence touched not only the politicians in the country but in the world.

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Sentimental Journey

by Jennifer Pollard

‘Stardreaming’ back in time

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often hear clients say they wish they could turn back the hands of time. One gentleman I know is having a very difficult time with the aging process slowing him down. It’s not how he sees himself. He asked if I could just find him the fountain of youth, magic pill or the right night cream.

Oh, how I wish it were that easy! And wouldn’t I make a fortune if I could find that cure? I think we may have come up with a solution that doesn’t involve expensive night creams, plastic surgery or pills.

While helping him pay bills, reconcile bankbooks and keep up with correspondence, I opened his laptop and logged into my SiriusXM account and chose the channel “"40’s on 4” as background music. It wasn’t just for him.

I love hearing familiar songs that remind me of my childhood having a World War II-era father. Plus, I think life is more enjoyable with music.

As we sat looking at bank statements, he said, “I feel like I’m back in high school.”

I looked up from the paperwork to see a smile on his face, and I had no idea why.

“High school...” he said. “Well, that’s the last time I heard that song.”

I was looking into the eyes of a much younger man with a smile on his face. I looked over at the computer screen to see the song that took him back to high school. It was "Stardreams" (1944) by Charlie Spivak.

Now he was back in high school, and I was in elementary school when my father first introduced me to the song.

A flood of memories came back to me of “Uncle Charlie” as I knew the big band leader. My father was friends with Charlie Spivak, and as a kid, we went to South Carolina to visit him. I was young so I didn’t remember much, but I remembered the song from one of the many 78-rpm records of my dad’s collection.

Just like that, we turned back time and were much younger versions of ourselves. If that’s not the fountain of youth, I don’t know what is.

When was the last time a song transported you back in time? I’d love you to share your stories.

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Game On by Thad Mumau

U.S. Open return recalls Pinehurst memories

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f the 113 U.S. Open golf tournaments that have been played, one of the best storylines was Payne Stewart’s victory at Pinehurst in 1999. The proud old Open returns to the fabled No. 2 course this year, making history and bringing back fond memories for fans in the Sandhills area.

Pinehurst is hosting the men’s and women’s Opens in back-to-back weeks, the PGA event running June 12-15 and the 69th LPGA counterpart scheduled for June 19−22. No course has ever done that.

In addition, the greatest work ever created by architect Donald Ross becomes the only course to have hosted the U.S. Open, U.S. Women’s Open, U.S. Senior Open, U.S. Amateur and U.S. Women’s Amateur.

In 1999, Stewart caught playing partner Phil Mickelson on the 16th hole, then birdied the 17th for what proved to be the margin of victory.

The one-stroke win came on Father’s Day and was Stewart’s second U.S. Open triumph, third major and 11th professional win.

It was also his last. Four months later, while en route to the final event of the PGA season, he was killed in a plane crash at the age of 42.

A statue of Stewart stands behind the 18th green at Pinehurst No. 2, depicting his celebration after sinking the clinching 15-foot par putt at 18 in 1999.

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four majors (U.S. Open, Masters, PGA and British Open) is the most prestigious. While the Masters gets a knee-jerk thumbs up, with all its plumage, Southern Hospitality and Amen Corner of Augusta National, many golfers point to the two Opens.

The Open, which is the actual name of the British Open, is the oldest of the majors. It began in 1860 and is held annually on one of nine links courses in England or Scotland. The United States Open Championship started in 1895 and is also an annual event, with the exception of cancellations in 1917−18 (World War I) and 1942-45 (World War II).

One of the most dramatic tales in any sport was told in the 1913 U.S. Open, when amateur Francis Ouimet won at the Country Club in Brookline, Massachusetts, right across the street from the home where he grew up.

Ouimet won in an 18-hole playoff, defeating the British duo of Ted Ray and legend Harry Vardon, considered the two greatest golfers in the world. Ouimet’s astonishing triumph was credited for catapulting golf into prominence in America and signaled the beginning of the end of European dominance. A book and a movie, both titled "The Greatest Game Ever Played," celebrate Ouimet’s stunning upset.

British and Scottish golfers had owned the sport of golf in its early years in this country. Illustrating the

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fact is that in 1911, John McDermott became the first American to win the U.S. Open. He remains the youngest (19 years, 10 months, 14 days) Open winner. The oldest is Hale Irwin (45 years, 15 days), who did it in 1974.

Jack Nicklaus, Ben Hogan and Willie Anderson all won the U.S. Open four times. The tournament has been known for providing the toughest test on the pro golf circuit, frequently challenging the field with difficult pin placements and high rough.

The U.S. Open is the only one of the four majors that requires an 18-hole playoff the Monday after Sunday’s regulation finish.

If there is still a tie following that, a sudden-death playoff begins on the 91st hole. There have been three sudden deaths in Open history, in 1990, 1994 and 2008. Tiger Woods defeated Rocco Mediate in the most recent of those.

The largest margin of victory in a U.S. Open is 15 strokes by Woods in 2000 at Pebble Beach.

Rory McIlroy’s 16-under 268 in 2011 at the Congressional in Bethesda, Maryland, represents the most strokes under par for 72 holes.

The past two Open winners— Justin Rose in 2013 at Merion Golf Club in Pennsylvania and Webb Simpson in 2012 at Olympic Club in San Francisco—both finished one over par for 72 holes.

In 2005, the last time the U.S. Open was played at Pinehurst, New Zealand’s Michael Campbell, who had to survive sectional qualifying just to make the field, ended at evenpar 280 to beat Woods by two shots.

Campbell entered the final round four strokes behind Retief Goosen, who collapsed with an 81 on the last day.

Woods matched C a mp b e l l’s closing-round 69, but had bogeys at 16 and 17.

Rose, from England, earned $1,440,000 for last year’s U.S. Open win. That was from a purse of $8,000,000, which is listed as this year’s total payout as well.

As for Pinehurst No. 2, which opened in 1907, Ross called it “the fairest test of championship golf I have ever designed.”

Jack Nicklaus said, “I have always thought Pinehurst No. 2 to be my favorite golf course from a design standpoint. I have enjoyed going out on No. 2 and seeing a totally treelined course without a tree coming into play.”

Sam Snead once said, “Almost all of the great golf courses have at least one relatively weak hole. Pinehurst No. 2 does not have one weak hole.”

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oothpaste is not what it used to be, and this past Winter Olympics got me to thinking about it. First, there was the exploding toothpaste thing because some genius figured out how to cram a bomb into that little tiny tube. Then came my best kid-friend. Jack dragged me into the bathroom to not only see the nauseating color of his blueberry toothpaste but to witness him brushing his teeth with it. Mistaking my slack-jawed gaping mouth for envy, he offered me a “hit.” Which for the under-10 set doesn’t mean what it did when I was 17.

As if swallowing toothpaste wasn’t already bad for you, now we’ve got toothpaste in tasty flavors and enticing colors. Last time I looked, toothpaste had four major ingredients. Abrasives, detergents, fluoride and a foaming agent. Do these sound like snack foods to you? I’m hoping you said, “No.” Truly, there’s an injunction against swallowing toothpaste.

I know because on the back of Jack’s blueberry toothpaste the label says: “Do not swallow.” I read it just as he was swallowing the toothpaste and going back for another “hit.”

Who can blame the kid? Bubblegum, blueberry, vanilla mint, orange and chocolate flavors kids like, and companies know that. Here’s the company’s “wow-maybe-you-didn’tthink-it-through” flaw. (1.) The target audience is kids. (2.)

Kids are stupid. (3.) Some adults are stupid, too, but not in the same way. (4.) If it tastes good, once you get it in a kid’s mouth, the kid ain’t going to spit it out, he's swallowing it.

When I was a kid, I had to walk three miles through the snow to get to . . . wait a minute, wrong analogy. When I was a kid, we had two flavors, regular and not-regular.

Regular tasted like white paste with a full-bodied grittiness, a delicate medicinal bouquet and an astringent after-taste.

Fennel, cinnamon clove, anise, apricot, peach and . . . wait for it . . . bacon-flavored toothpaste seem to be for adults.

I do not want my mouth to remind me of a cinnamon and clove encrusted apricot hanging closet sachet.

Bacon toothpaste is “the perfect way to keep your teeth and gums healthy while coating your mouth with the delicious flavor of smoky meat!” An online reviewer complains her box arrived “beaten up, lopsided and torn."

She thinks maybe someone tasted it before her. Yeah, like all those dogs chasing the delivery truck down the street.

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riting after retirement keeps my mind flexible. If you think you are not very good at writing because you find it hard to do, writing is always difficult. Perhaps I was not wise to tell you that writing gets harder the more you develop the skills you need to write well. It also gets more enjoyable, so focus on the enjoyment you experience as you seek the right word or phrase.

First, I sometimes find a sentence or phrase in my writing that just doesn’t fit or work, and yet I think that if I rewrite it, realigning the elements and, perhaps, turning them upside down, I can make it work.

In William Zinsser’s 1985 book, “On Writing Well,” a small section he calls ‘The Quickest Fix’ points out that the writer can fix this problem by deleting that difficult sentence, or at least the offending part, which is a helpful writing tip.

Another helpful tip is to cut the clutter, removing unnecessary ideas, words, sentences or paragraphs to tighten your writing, so it flows smoothly without destroying its content or style. Sometimes, I find it difficult to discard words that I wrote and cherish, but for the integrity of the writing, I discard ill-fitting phrases I don’t need.

Consider discarding the first and last paragraph of a first draft, since many writers write in a stylized way to start and end a piece. I often do.

I believe my writing improves when I remember to use these stages in the writing process in sequence.

1. Preparation Stage: Fact finding, laying the groundwork, learning the background and developing your writing edge.

2. Concentration Stage: Total absorption in your writing and focusing intently in the zone.

3. Incubation Stage: Writing problems and writer’s block lead to focusing your mind elsewhere, working on other things, vacationing, jogging, walking or having fun.

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oming from a background in nursing while working in hospital intensive care, home health, medical bill review and hospice, it became very clear how expensive health care can be. Now, it is clear after being in the financial services industry for 19 years, that late-in-life health care is an increasingly large reality, and way too often unplanned expense during retirement.

If you’re assuming you won’t need help in your later years, you’re probably miscalculating. This miscalculation seems to come from the fact that people simply don’t understand, and are not being educated on the limitations of what Medicare pays for; but just as important, what Medicare doesn’t pay for.

Retirees and those planning for a successful retirement need to understand that Medicare is not designed to pay for custodial (long-term care) needs. For those still unfamiliar, custodial/long-term care needs are considered the Activities of Daily Living (ADL) and are related to eating, walking, bathing and dressing. Also defined as an ADL is the exponentially increasing diagnosis of dementia, which is the loss of memory or other cognitive capabilities causing interference with perception of person, place and time.

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Taken straight from the Medicare.gov website: If in need of Skilled Nursing, Medicare will pay costs for the first 20 days of care. On Day 21 through Day 100 (in 2014), you pay $152 per day, but beginning on Day 101 and forward, you pay all costs.

The most recent statistics for Skilled Nursing facilities in N.C. average $5,779 per month for double occupancy and $6,388 per month for single occupancy. This means you’re on the hook for an average cost of about $72,000 per year.

At this rate, it doesn’t take much time for an individual or family to plow through a lifetime of retirement savings.

For those who receive home health services, Medicare will pay for short duration, part-time “medically necessary” visits, but this comes with the understanding that the medical condition is expected to improve and therefore excludes chronic ADL conditions. Medicare.gov specifically states it doesn’t pay for 24-hour-a-day care at home, personal care or homemaker care and goes on to state it doesn’t pay for most nursing home care.

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Don’t get Medicare and Medicaid confused. Medicaid is a form of public insurance that does pay long-term care expenses, but in N.C., this is only for individuals who have spent their liquid assets down to $2,000. Medicaid is already under strain, and as the baby boomers continue to age, the stringent financial qualification criteria are expected to get even tighter.

Before you decide the need for custodial care could never happen to you, please note the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services disagrees with you. They project, due to the last several decades of claims, that you have a 70 percent chance of needing long-term care services at some point in your life.

Here’s an ugly statistic: About 80 percent of the people in this nation currently experiencing a long-term care event didn’t plan for it and have either already spent down or are in the process of spending down their assets at the rate of over $49 billion per year. Due to not having a plan, many will keep spending on custodial care until they have spent virtually all they have and finally end up on Medicaid.

There are options for those who understand what Medicare doesn’t pay for, those who understand the financial risk and those that don’t like the idea of spending assets until they’re gone. These options include long-term care insurance, reverse mortgages, Medicaid-compliant annuities, fixed annuities with expanded long-term care benefits and life insurance with expanded long-term benefits. Some of the newer annuity and life insurance plans even guarantee a return of principal if you never have a long-term care event. There is also another option, for those who definitely understand the risk, which includes consulting an experienced elder care attorney who is also credentialed in Veterans Administration benefits and Medicaid planning.

The majority of us will end up putting our entire retirement nest egg on the line because we never took the time to educate ourselves on what Medicare doesn’t pay, and the majority of us will never have anyone explain the degree of financial ruin that late-in-life health care costs could pose to an otherwise happy retirement.

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f you have flown in this post-9/11 society, you are well accustomed to the Transportation Security Administration’s (TSA) passenger screening checkpoints as you enter the secure areas of commercial airports. The plastic bins where you place your shoes, separately bagged liquids and other items have become the new normal in airline travel. Unfortunately, a sense of normalcy leads to a reduced sense of awareness, which translates to a prime environment for theft.

A threat to your property at a security checkpoint is the other individuals ahead of you or behind you in line, in addition to those individuals who loiter about the security checkpoint on the secure side of the screening machines.

A common method of theft is for an unscrupulous traveler to take your property directly out of the plastic bin you put it in as it makes its way through the X-ray equipment. This often happens when the traveler is stopped for additional screening. In this case, time and distance equate to opportunity.

There is an option to increase your security at the passenger-screening checkpoint and that is to enroll in the TSA PreCheck Program. The benefit you receive as a PreCheck participant is the ability to use expedited security lines where you can leave on your shoes, belts and light outer garments/suit jackets. Additionally, you will not be required to break open your carry-on luggage to remove laptops, smartphones, tablets or those quart-size bags containing liquids. The PreCheck screening consists of the standard metal detection technology. The speed with which you can travel through the PreCheck line combined with your valuables remaining secured greatly increases the security of your property.

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Last week when I was at the store, I was asked if I wanted the “senior citizen discount card.” This caught me off guard, as I don’t often think of myself as a “senior citizen,” but obviously the young man checking me out thought I am. What does that term really mean anyway?

This is a great question, and like any label we give a generation or set of people with similar characteristics, one person may like the term while another is offended by it. When I was in graduate school, we had a lady in her 70s write a paper titled “Don’t Call Me Senior Citizen.” It stuck with me, and I have typically used the term “older adult.” Perhaps the most common term we hear today is “boomer” to represent the youngold or baby boom generation. Your question prompted me to do some research on what is thought of as acceptable aging terminology.

“Elder” used to be a term of respect, and many feel it still is; however, elderly is often associated with being frail. "Senior" can be indicative of seniority, and surely that is a good thing; yet, when it is termed with the word “citizen,” it is not seen in the

same light. I think we could all agree that old fogey, coot, geezer or codger are not positive terms, but we do use them with humor.

According to Wikipedia, when defined in an official context, senior citizen is often used for legal or policyrelated reasons in determining who is eligible for certain benefits available to the age group. It is used in general usage instead of traditional terms such as old person, old-age pensioner or elderly as a courtesy and to signify continuing relevance of and respect for this population group as "citizens" of society, of senior rank.

In 1938, when the term “senior citizen” was first used, people retired at a younger age, did not live as long and did not remain as active. So the 65-plus population of today is breaking the mold, and time and opinion will reveal what this segment of the population respond to most favorably.

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Money Matters by Taylor Clement How much to save?

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lbert Einstein is widely credited with saying, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” We fall victim to this problem in weight loss, managing our finances, even our careers. We get comfortable in our habits, and although we have bigger goals, we have a really hard time making real changes to what we do. We avoid saving or even worse, accumulate debt with the intention of paying it off when our income is higher or our expenses are lower, but it rarely happens.

When studying personal finance, there is a general investor’s timeline in which you have high or low expenses or earnings. The high-earning years are often paired with high expense years such as when you’re sending kids to school or taking care of aging parents.

The low-earning years are in your 20s and then in retirement. The truth is, it always balances out. When we make more money, we tend to spend it, and when we don’t have as much, we work harder to make ends meet.

I think the best rule of thumb is to consider these to be your high-earning years. Maybe you’ll get a promotion or better job; however, relying on future income for your savings and worse, current living expenses and accruing debt, is a dangerous game. The amount of interest on loans and the lost earnings on retirement money means that you’ll be trying to catch up rather than enjoying your new increased income.

If you save 10 percent of your income now, even though you’re struggling to make ends meet, you’ll get the advantage of more years of growth, which is a benefit you cannot get back once it’s gone. Even just $1,000 turns into over

$5,700 at 6 percent interest, when you have 20 years for it to grow. Then when you get a raise, you’ll be able to increase what you’re saving and still appreciate the increased income.

For younger readers: If you are 30 years old now and want to retire around 60, you have 30 years to save and maybe 30 years to live off that savings, if you live to age 90. If your money isn’t invested to grow faster than the rate of inflation plus taxes, you’d have to save half of what you’re earning now to pay for each of those post-retirement years.

Luckily, you may have the benefit of tax-free or tax-deferred retirement plans and investing in a stock market that has historically outpaced inflation.

The benefit of compound interest is that it allows you to save as little as 10 percent, but that math only makes sense for someone who has 30 years until retirement. If you wait until you’re 45 before you start, you would need to save closer to 35 percent each year to hit those same target values at retirement age 60. The math seems odd, but it’s because those early years of compound interest are incredibly valuable.

There are savings calculators located online where you can enter your income and savings rates to see how much you’ll have at retirement.

Spend some time with your financial adviser to make sure you’re not getting behind on your retirement goals.

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inehurst No. 2 holds a storied golf history of that day,” remembers McRae. “But I never did think legends and championships that began in 1907 about quitting. There’s only about five people I wouldn’t with the course’s completion by Donald Ross. There are want to caddie for now,” he says with a mischievous grin. strategically placed bunkers, hard-to-read greens and “You have to take the good with the bad.” long fairways as just a few of its obstacles to challenge a McRae has also passed down his love for golf, player’s long and short game. Golfers who come to play caddying and, hopefully, his sense of humor to his son have one more important decision to make. Caddie or Paul and grandson Derek. golf cart? That is the question.

“I had a guy on the course ask me what Arnold This question can easily be answered Palmer would hit,” recalls McRae. “I told upon meeting two of the resort’s him he would hit a 2-iron. So he did, and longtime caddies. Caddie Hall of Famer it went in the lake. He was mad and said, Willie McRae, 81, was born and raised ‘I thought you said Arnold Palmer would in Taylortown, now resides in Carthage hit a 2-iron.' I told him Arnold Palmer and has been a regular on the courses of did hit a 2-iron, and he was in the lake, Pinehurst for 71 years. Eddie MacKenzie too,” he says, laughing. aka Eddie Mac, 71, of Pinehurst, came to Although McRae now rides in a cart the resort from the LPGA Tour and has and is allowed anywhere on the course, been walking the course for 20 years. even in the fairways, MacKenzie still McRae is a second-generation caddie, walks and carries two bags; that is unless following his father’s path, who started it’s raining, which adds an extra 15 caddying in the 1920s and remained pounds to the bag. He, too, agrees that at Pinehurst for 45 years, not only the most important tool a caddie brings teaching Willie the game of golf but is a sense of humor. also the fine art of caddying. Back in “You can change a player’s mood,” says the day when Willie and his father were MacKenzie. “But don’t be in a hurry to tell Eddie MacKenzie, left, caddying together, they were two of the player how to read the putt, because if and Willie McRae are over 500 caddies. it goes the wrong way, you’ve blown your longtime caddies at “We had to walk it then. There weren’t tip,” he adds with a quick grin.

Pinehurst No. 2. any carts, and there were only three Reading the greens and knowing the courses,” recalls McRae. “For awhile, we had five course are the true tests of a caddie. courses. The 18th hole on No. 5 used to be the 9th hole “There are no easy holes, but Ross wanted an errant shot on No. 3. The 18th hole on No. 4 is now the 18th hole to make the ball run into a native environment, which in on No. 5. And now there are eight courses,” he says, the Sandhills means pine straw, pine trees, native wire expressing his knowledge of all of the course changes grasses or bunkers. The greens here have a lot of subtle over the years. breaks, and what your eyes might see might not be how it McRae’s best golf story was caddying for Tommy plays. When you have been here a long time, you have the “Thunder” Bolt in a North and South Championship in benefit of your memory,” explains MacKenzie. the 1940s when he was paired with Sam Snead. Going “The best way to read a green is from memory, and up to the 11th hole and leading by 3 shots, an exchange you’ve got to know east from west,” adds McRae. with Snead brought out Bolt’s well-known temper.

And should one like to play with either of these “Bolt told me to ‘pick that ball up.’ And I didn’t want gentleman caddies, just ask. to because I knew if I did it would be over. He said, ‘You “What makes you feel good,” says McRae, “is when get paid by the week.’ Man, I was crying when I got home they ask for you.”

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CAROLINACONVERSATIONS

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MARC COHN

By CARRIE FRYE

A soulful voice mixing with the guitar or piano like a brush to a canvas painting a lyrical storyline that comes full circle are the songs of Marc Cohn. The singersongwriter brings his musical talents to the stage at Durham’s Carolina Theatre Sunday, July 13. It is one of only two opportunities to see Cohn in North Carolina, the other performance being the McGlohon Theatre at Spirit Square in Charlotte, the night prior, July 12.

Cohn’s passion for music began when he was young and listened to his brother’s rock band practice in the family’s basement. The Ohio native found further inspiration in the great singer-songwriter era of the 1970s and a love of music led him to a career and his signature songs, “Walking in Memphis” and “True Companion.”

Music only comes second to his love for his family. Married to ABC News journalist Elizabeth Vargas, the couple has two young sons. Cohn also has two older children from previous relationships. The father of four shares an inside look at his summer tour that takes him from to New York to California and back and his most important job, being a dad.

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ONC: Since last fall, your tour has kept you busy and onstage.

Do you tailor the dates to coincide with family life?

MC: A lot of places have fused together in my memory. I tour primarily in the States, which makes it a little bit easier on my youngest kids. Touring now just in the States alone can keep me doing somewhere around 100 to 120 shows a year. I’m proud that I have been able to sustain an audience whether I have a record out or not, and when I put a record out, I travel even more. So these are just the off years when there is no new record to promote. My obligation is to my audience, which is to play live.

ONC: What can your audiences expect at your show?

MC: The thing I find when I am in the audience that I enjoy the most is the kind of show I try to put on, so it is literally live and in the moment. I keep the band really small. I think for these dates, it is going to be me and another musician. I can play whatever I want, and I can play whatever the audience wants. So, I have a certain built-in arc to the show where I like certain songs to go, but other than that, I am open to just about anything.

What I have learned over the years, it’s the mistakes, it’s the stories you tell, it’s the experience of letting the audience join the show and yell out whatever they want to hear. I just like an experience that really feels live. It is pretty spontaneous, and for me, the more spontaneous the evening is, the better the show. Expect the unexpected, and expect something really intimate musically. I try to give a little background on where these songs came from, what they mean and how they arrived and came to be.

ONC: Can you tell the story behind “Walking in Memphis?”

ONC: What do you enjoy most about touring in the summer?

MC: I had always wanted to go to Memphis. I was not married and didn’t have kids yet. That desire to travel a little bit and see states that I had never seen dovetails with an interview I had just finished reading with James Taylor. He said, “I do a geographic.” That’s what he called it. Basically, what he meant was that he would go somewhere he had never been before and his sensibilities would be reawakened, because he was in an unfamiliar space. Sometimes, if you are just hanging out in the same familiar spaces, you’re going to write the same old familiar thing. So all of that conspired to get me to start traveling.

I was looking for inspiration, and I found it at places I wouldn’t have expected. I am talking about in the bridge (of the song) when I mention Rev. Green, who is of course, the great soul singer Al Green. I went to see him in his church. He is the minister at a place called the Full Gospel Tabernacle Church in Memphis. As a Jewish kid from Cleveland and the only white man in the congregation that day, it was one of the most moving experiences I’ve ever had…musically, spiritually, it was transformational.

And so was meeting the woman I talk about in the end of the song, Muriel.

Muriel Davis Wilkins was about 65 when I met her. She’s an amazing singer, a beautiful spirit and woman, who became my friend, mentor and muse. She’s the whole essence of that song. She played at this little place called the Hollywood in the middle of the delta, which is an experience I will never forget and obviously never have to because it is immortalized in that song. At the time it came out, she had already passed away, but I dedicate it to her every night.

MC: Summertime is a great time to tour. People are in the mood to come out and hear music. Sometimes, my boys can come out and meet me.

ONC: How old are your children?

MC: My oldest son is 23. He’s about to graduate from college. My next youngest is my only girl, and she’s 19.

My two youngest boys are 11 and 7.

ONC: How do you balance being a musician with being a father?

MC: I can barely process the being a musician part. Being a dad is my life. It is the job I put most of myself into, even beyond my writing. Every time I found out I was going to be a dad, from the first time to the fourth time, I was ecstatic and terrified and worried. All I can say is, I can’t imagine my life without any of my four kids. They’ve been my life. I am very fortunate that they get to see a dad who loves his work. I think that is a really great thing to be able to model for them, but I think they also know that when the chips are down, they come first, always.

ONC: Have any of your children shown any interest in music?

MC: My oldest son is a very talented musician and writer. He’s a very sophisticated musician, drums especially, and can write on guitar and piano. And I think my youngest may have some musical talent as well. My daughter is an incredibly talented film editor already and will probably end up being one someday. My second youngest son is an incredible athlete, and I am not sure what his interests are in terms of music. He’s got all the athletic ability I don’t have.

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ONC: Did you encourage them to take music lessons?

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MC: I found that having to take lessons doesn’t work.

Maybe it is because I had to take them and ended up pushing back in my own way. Looking back, I wish I knew more theory and harmony and so many things about music.

But in a way, what I don’t know led me to my own style, because I developed my own particular way of playing guitar and playing piano and singing and writing. So I haven’t made them take any lessons. When they hear me playing the piano, they sort of slowly creep towards the room where I am playing. When I’m done, 90 percent of the time, somebody, 10 or 15 minutes later, is sitting down at the piano. So, it’s cool. My son made me teach him a couple of my songs, which was very sweet, but ultimately, I said, “Just try your own thing.” And before you knew it, he was exploring and experimenting himself, which is what you want. You want them to want to sit down and do it.

ONC: Did writing music just come naturally to you?

MC: It did, especially lyric writing. I really fell in love with music when the singer-songwriter era started, when Jackson Browne was just starting out, Joni Mitchell, The Band, James Taylor, Neil Young… so as I absorbed all of that music, I think I became really aware of how important a certain style of lyric writing was and how poetic and soulful all these artists were.

I had my own stories to tell from a young age, and I think I needed to tell them, and that’s what made me write.

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MC: You can just go exploring on iTunes, kind of like a record store, but it's not always as much fun. I make playlists all the time, just for myself to listen to on a Sunday morning. I have recently bought Michael Kiwanuka and the new Beck record. I like a couple of songs by Lorna Veirs, The Lumineers and a couple songs by The Civil Wars. I bought an old Glen Campbell and Jimmy Webb record, “Wichita Lineman,” one of the greatest songs. I have a really eclectic taste, just something that sounds honest, soulful and authentic. That’s the kind of thing I am always looking for. I want to be stopped in my tracks.

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Piping with Prowess

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When bagpipes are mentioned in these parts, the name Peter McArthur quickly follows.

He is so good, in fact, that he is the official piper for Pinehurst Resort as it hosts both the men’s and women’s U.S. Open golf tournaments this month. Over the past 10 or so years, the Fayetteville native and his bagpipes have frequently graced grave sites, weddings, church sanctuaries and Scottish celebrations such as various Highland Games. Garbed in Scottish regalia, complete with kilt, his renditions of “Amazing Grace” and “Highland Cathedral” provide comfort and make memories.

“I stay pretty busy,” says McArthur, 33. “I don’t like to tell people no, so I don’t…not very often anyway.

The thing is, I really like what I do. I enjoy playing the bagpipes. When I play at a wedding or a funeral or a church service, that makes people feel good, and I like that, too.”

He has been playing 25 years. The same bagpipes— blackwood decorated with ivory—all that time.

“They came from Scotland,” McArthur explains.

“I was over there with my mom and dad and my grandmother. She had been writing letters back and forth with a lady named Mrs. Shaw.

“So, we were visiting Mrs. Shaw in a town called Jura, and next door to her house was a vacant house.

My dad was buying antiques, and his eye caught a box sitting on a table in the kitchen. He opened it up, and the bagpipes were in the box. Mrs. Shaw said we might as well take them.”

McArthur was only 5 at the time. It was three years later that he started taking bagpipe lessons at the suggestion of his grandmother.

“She asked if I would like to play, and I said yes. It just seemed like the thing to do.”

There were six months of learning from Bob Lockey, who had the idea of Peter getting together with Bob Palmer and the Cross Creek Pipes and Drums.

“I was basically there to learn,” McArthur says. “I wasn’t good enough to play with them. It was not until 1991 or ’92 that I did that, after a couple years of watching and learning and practicing. When I was 12, my dad started driving me down to Laurinburg once a week for lessons with Bill Caudill.

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at St. Andrews Presbyterian College, and he was the reason I went to school there.

“I had no idea what I wanted to do. They had a Scottish Heritage Scholarship for piping and drumming, and I got one. It was for playing bagpipes in the band. I did that all four years there. I majored in philosophy, but my main interest was the bagpipes.”

Since graduating from St. Andrews in 2002, McArthur has made his living with the pipes, teaching lessons and playing at 150 to 200 events a year.

“I teach when there are students who want lessons,” he says. “I play when someone asks me.”

McArthur also plays the guitar, something he has done since the age of 13.

“I started playing as an escape,” he says, smiling. “I taught myself. The pipes are so rigid; there is not as much freedom as with the guitar. Tradition rules with the bagpipes. You can’t express what you’re feeling like you can with the guitar. With bagpipes, you’re re-creating the past.”

Playing rock and jazz with groups called the David Brown Cover Band and Threepiece Quartet, McArthur played lead guitar and sang backup.

“We did Beatles stuff, Bob Dylan, the Stones…we were dance bands that played some clubs. It was a fun thing to do on weekends. I got to be fairly decent at it.

“But it got to be too much. I was playing bagpipes or guitar almost all of the time, and there wasn’t much time for sleeping. I had to stop something, and the bagpipes are what I love.”

After playing baseball and soccer in junior high school, McArthur drifted away from sports. “I wasn’t very good,” he says, “but I didn’t work at sports much, either. I always spent most of my time on the bagpipes.”

These days, he loves science and philosophy, enjoys taking the “wrong” side of an argument and likes writing music.

“Most of the music I write is oriented toward the Fusion (mixing styles) side of things. It all blends categories in ways that will never appeal to the masses. I tend to like to write like Frank Zappa, all over the map. I've written a few bagpipe tunes, but most of those stay locked away for some reason. My original rock band, Threepiece Quartet, did two albums of mostly my material.”

McArthur is the piper for the Howl at the Moon Parties on Bald Head Island. “Whenever there is a full moon,” he explains, “these people have a party on the beach. They build a fire, and I walk up the beach and play for 30 or 40 minutes. They have some big crowds in the summer.”

"With bagpipes, you’re re-creating the past.”

—Peter McArthur

Although he has loads of talent and experience, McArthur still gets nervous before playing.

“Oh, yeah, I’m always nervous. It goes away as soon as I start playing. But afterward, on the way home, I evaluate how I played that day, and I’ll get on myself some. Usually I’m pretty pleased, but I’m hard on myself.”

During both Opens, McArthur will be playing his bagpipes in the evening at 6:30, Tuesday through Saturday at the Carolina Hotel. He will make additional Pinehurst appearances throughout the two weeks keeping traditional bagpiping alive, well and music to the ears of Open guests.

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lthough North Carolina remains the third most popular state for retirement, a recent Del Webb study found that it is the No. 1 retirement choice for the nation’s youngest boomers.

The mild weather and diverse climates offer a range of choices from small mountain towns to historic beach ports. Narrowing down the many beautiful retirement areas to only the top five cities is a challenge at best. Among the criteria we used to decide were weather, amenities, transportation and medical facilities.

1. ASHEVILLE Any retirement location list would be amiss to overlook the picturesque city of Asheville, which we’ve ranked as No. 1.

“We have a vibrant art scene and culinary and music scene that is set on the backdrop of the Blue Ridge Mountains,” says Dodie Stephens, senior communications manager of the Asheville Convention and Visitors Bureau (CVB). “The lush and rolling mountains create an enriched life experience.”

During the summer, the numerous nature walks explode with purple and pink rhododendrons. One draw is the 8,000-acre Biltmore Estate, which is the largest private residence in the nation. Musicians serenade downtown street corners, and artists have set up more than 250 art studios in the River Arts District. Performing arts include the Thomas Wolfe Auditorium, featuring ballet and opera and the Asheville Community Theatre, which has been open for more than six decades and is one of the oldest community theaters.

Along with a historic trolley, Asheville has 16 bus routes that connect communities with shopping centers and medical facilities. One of the city’s five hospitals is Mission Hospital, named in the top 15 health care centers in the nation. For the lover of beauty, Asheville is the No. 1 city for retirement.

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2. CHAPEL HILL The No. 2 city is instead a town, the town of Chapel Hill.

“North Carolina is a great state, and Chapel Hill is right in the middle of it, easy to get to the mountains and the coast,” says Patty Griffin, communications director of the Chapel Hill/ Orange County Visitors Bureau. “It’s near major transportation hubs for visiting friends and family. It offers a moderate year-round climate with a great opportunity for getting outdoors in parks, walking and biking trails, swimming pools, tennis courts and more. The town has about 350 acres of parks and 730 acres of open space. Chapel Hill’s population is around 59,000, and the town often makes ‘best places to live’ lists.”

This town offers numerous continuing education opportunities and an exceptional transportation system. More than 25 bus routes connect shopping centers, top-rated medical facilities and downtown Chapel Hill and Carrboro. The University of North Carolina creates a classic college town atmosphere where basketball is king. The Carolina Basketball Museum is located on the college campus. However, the town isn’t just college and sports oriented.

“The area has dozens of writers and artists,” says Griffin. “You could be having coffee next to an author of a Broadway play or a bestselling novelist.”

Chapel Hill also is known for its variety of cuisine including several nationally acclaimed restaurants such as Mateo Bar de Tapas, Crook’s Corner, Weathervane Restaurant, Foster’s Market and Mama Dip’s.

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3. PINEHURST The Village of Pinehurst ranks No. 3 for retirement cities in the state. Known for its golfing community, Pinehurst boasts more than 40 courses in a 15-mile radius including the legendary Pinehurst No. 2.

The village was founded by James Walker Tufts in 1895. Built in the style of a New England village, Pinehurst was made to be a healthful retreat for those suffering from respiratory ailments. That quality medical care ideal continues with the many specialized doctors in the FirstHealth network. Beyond golf, the community also provides 24 tennis courts with some adding pickleball courts and a 200-acre lake for boating, swimming or fishing, all of which make this historic village a perfect fit for the active adult.

“For Pinehurst, it’s really about the quality of life,” says Claire Phillips, director of marketing and public relations for the Pinehurst-Southern Pines-Aberdeen CVB. “We have outstanding medical facilities. There are dynamic volunteering opportunities.

There’s a lot of things for folks to do.”

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4. NEW BERN Ranking No. 4 and near the coast is New Bern, the second oldest city in North Carolina.

“New Bern’s rich history and relaxing atmosphere blends with its charming downtown offering unique sights and sceneries,” says Sharon Ford, sales and service assistant of the New BernCraven County Convention and Visitors Center.

New Bern’s history goes back more than 300 years when it was settled by the Swiss and Germans. The Civil War also had a great impact on the small town. Many Federal and Georgian homes have been restored to their former glory. New Bern is also the birthplace of Pepsi. Nicknamed the sailing capital of North America, the city sits on the convergence of

the Trent and Neuse rivers. Other benefits of this historical city are the highly ranked medical facilities of CarolinaEast and the low average cost of living. The average January high is 54 degrees, making snow infrequent and sailing a year-round sport.

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5. HENDERSONVILLE Back on the western side of the state, Hendersonville ranks No. 5. Nestled in the Blue Ridge Mountains, this city is about 45 minutes from Asheville but offers its unique flavor for retirement.

“It’s a small, Southern hospitalitydriven town,” says Beth Carden, executive director of the Henderson County Tourism Development Authority (TDA). “We have the distinction of being one of the only small towns that still has their own symphony.”

Summertime concerts and oldfashioned street dances are only a few highlights. Hendersonville Little Theater performs plays in a renovated barn. In the autumn when the mountains are splashed with deep reds, oranges and purples, the N.C. Apple Festival draws a crowd.

Catering to retirees is the Blue Ridge Center for Lifelong Learning, and the town has more than 50 civic clubs and organizations. Hendersonville also has city transportation and Pardee Memorial Hospital, which was voted in the top 1 percent in the nation for patient trust and confidence. The quaintness of Hendersonville has much to offer as a retirement destination.

HENDERSONVILLE CHAMBER & TDA 828-692-1413 | 800-828-4244 www.hendersoncountychamber.org www.historichendersonville.org

According to AARP North Carolina, the No. 1 reason people are choosing to retire in the state is the climate.

Other factors include the services and amenities the state offers as well as a closer proximity to family.

“We’ve been seeing a lot immigration from other states,” says AARP Associate State Director Suzanne Black. “People are moving into many areas from the mountains to the coast to everything in between like Pinehurst.”

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PEGGY KIRK BELL

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eggy Kirk Bell is golfing royalty. Although it is an unofficial title, those who follow the game would agree that she is the grand lady of golf in North Carolina.

Bell is truly a gem in every way. Rarely does someone possess tremendous skills in a certain area, along with a charming personality and an ability to pretty much see things as they are at every level while staying humble.

She does.

Her love for golf, her knowledge of the sport and her amazing knack for teaching it are beyond reproach. In fact, a glimpse at her honors and accomplishments would tell you so. Except that it would take more than a glimpse. The list is long.

Earlier this year, Bell became the first woman inducted into the Carolinas PGA Hall of Fame.

“That was a shocker,” she says. “I still can't believe that happened.”

A lot more has happened to this 92-year-old lady, who insists that “I'm still working on my game.”

She has been honored as the LPGA Teacher of the Year, an LPGA Master Teacher, one of Golf Digest's Six Best Women Teachers in the World, a member of the North Carolina Sports Hall of Fame, a member of the Carolinas Golf Hall of Fame and the 1990 winner of the Bobby Jones Award.

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“I think it's exciting that the men's and women's Opens are being played at No. 2 in the same month,” she says. “This is a terrific area for golf. People love it here, and they support it. I think it's going to be most interesting having those events back-to-back.”

Bell knows what is involved in putting on such a prestigious event. She owns Pine Needles Lodge and Golf Club, the Southern Pines resort that hosted the U.S. Women's Open in 1996, 2001 and 2007.

Her love affair with golf began quite innocently. It turned out that the sport was all she had to do in what promised to be an extremely boring summer when she was a girl growing up in Findlay, Ohio.

“I was 17 and had just graduated from high school,” she recalls. “Every summer I had gone to this camp in New Hampshire. My mother said to me, 'You can't go this year. You're too old. So you are going to have to stay home this summer.'

“Boy, oh boy, that didn't sound like fun. I was thinking, what in the world would I do?

“Well, my dad joined the country club there in town. That night at dinner, he said to me and my sister and brother (who were twins), 'If you kids want to play golf, you can. And it's free.'”

Bell took him up on his offer, noting that “at least it was something to do.”

Peggy Kirk Bell at her Pine Needles Resort, where her golf trophies and memorabilia are prominently displayed.

“She's just Mom to us."

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on her famous mother, Peggy Kirk Bell

An all-around athlete who excelled at several sports, even football, while playing with the boys, she found golf strange and difficult.

“I couldn't do it. I was frustrated. It wasn't easy. But I was hooked.”

Determination and hard work led to success. Bell won the Ohio Amateur three straight years, teamed with legendary Babe Zaharias to win the 1947 International Four Ball championship and was a member of the 1950 United States Curtis Cup team.

“That probably meant more to me than anything,” Bell says. “I played poorly, tried to talk our captain out of playing me the next day, and when she wouldn't hear of it, I won my singles match and helped us win the Curtis Cup.” She was a charter member of the Ladies Professional Golf Association and recalls the early days of the tour, “when we'd have 10 or 12 pros in a tournament and fill out the field with 45 amateurs. It wasn't very glamorous back then.”

Nationally recognized as a golf teacher, Bell laughs when she talks about how that all started.

“My husband (Bullet) and I had bought this (Pine Needles) golf course. A lady came to the pro shop one day and said she wanted a lesson. Bullet told me, and I said, 'I'm no teacher; I'm a player.'

“I kept trying to tell this woman what I knew, and it wasn't going very well. She might bump the ball a little, but never could really hit it. Finally, we quit, and I told Bullet, 'Don't ever ask me to teach again.'”

The rest, as they say, is history as Bell became renowned

for her ability to explain how to grip and swing a club properly. She continues giving tips. Out on the course during morning sessions of Pine Needles' golf school, which she founded, or maybe just sitting around in the afternoon.

People who pass by readily recognize Bell, admiration and awe showing on their faces. Those who get up the nerve to stop and meet her are treated to a mini-lesson on how to hold a club, accentuated by her celebrated golf glove.

Bell wears the glove most of the time, red fingernail polish noting which fingers are featured in the grip, which she demonstrates on whatever is handy, be it ballpoint pen or golf club. “And this is how you hold it.”

Asked how it feels to be so famous, Bell says, “I don't think about it…I don't even think I am famous.”

Her daughters, Peggy Miller and Bonnie McGowan, are instructors at the golf school.

“She's just Mom to us,” Miller says, smiling. “Of course, we know she is a fantastic golf teacher, but when it's family, it's different. We think of her more as our mother than anything else.

“Mom has always been very humble. She and Dad raised us with a lot of faith, and I think that is why Pine Needles and our school have been successful and why we have remained grounded.”

Reflecting on her career and the reason for such enormous success, Bell says, “If I could choose one word as the key to it all, I would say passion. I used to go to bed every night and couldn't wait until the next day so I could be on the course again. I still feel the same way.”

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Historic North Carolina Churches Series

Buffalo PresbyterianChurch Sanford, N.C.

By JONATHAN SCOTT Photography by DIANA MATTHEWS

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Buffalo Presbyterian Church, located at 1333 Carthage Street in Sanford, remains a vibrant church with deep roots and 200 years of history. For more information, call 919-776-7313 or visit www.buffalopres.org.

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magine being an immigrant in the 1700s, leaving your home in Scotland, traveling across the ocean and up the Cape Fear River to central North Carolina. You and your clan might decide to settle in a community called “Buffalo,” named after a strange wild animal you had never seen before. You would have brought with you courage, determination and your Christian faith.

The Highland Scots who settled in what is now Lee County sent messages back to their homeland asking for a pastor to come serve the faith needs of their community, the Buffalo Community. In April 1797, a licentiate named William Paisley (at top right), came to Buffalo—now part of Sanford—to preach to the Scots. The community built a small log cabin for worship, and Paisley held services in their native Gaelic language. A little over a year later, Paisley was ordained an official Presbyterian minister in that same log cabin.

Recalling the decades that followed, Buffalo Church’s 19th-century pastor, the Rev. William Lacy, wrote about the area as “an ample and lordly domain—whence people came from not two or four or even six miles to church, but 10, 15 and 20.” In his address to the congregation on their centennial, the Rev. Lacy preached, “Keep your sanctuary ever in order, beautiful and attractive, your grounds so spacious and undulating, as fair and charming as practical, and your cemetery, in perpetual good order.”

Succeeding generations have followed the Rev. Lacy’s advice. The picturesque site, with its towering ancient oaks, has been meticulously maintained.

The congregation of Buffalo Church has expanded, requiring larger buildings for worship. The current structure, dating from 1879, is a gable-fronted, Gothic revival style building. It is the fourth built on the site of that old log cabin. The front of the church features three lancet-arched double-leaf entries and faces east, as if in reverence to its origins in the distant highlands of Scotland.

It’s the history of the church that attracts some who pass by the historical marker on Carthage Street. Sheila Brewer, herself a native of Scotland, was first intrigued by the sign in 1977. She’s been a member of the congregation ever since and church historian since the mid-1990s.

One such story is of John B. Matthews, a drummer boy in the Confederate Army. Matthews became the local sheriff and owned the sawmill that planed the wood you see in the church today.

His granddaughter, Marjorie Matthews Russell, passed away recently and, although she lived out of state, donated the proceeds from the sale of her home to pay for the upkeep of the very church her grandfather helped build.

Despite its deep-rooted history, Buffalo Church doesn’t spend all its time looking backward.

“We try not to let the historic nature of the church overpower our message, which is the gospel of Christ,” says the Rev. Paul Shields, at right, the church’s current pastor. “We have a very caring congregation and a flourishing preschool.

We invite everyone to join us in worship.”

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h O the Places You'll Go!

Class of 2014

“Congratulations!

Today is your day.

You’re off to Great Places!

You’re off and away!”

Dr. Seuss did not write his last book specifically for graduates, but it has become a touchstone for them, offering encouragement and enthusiasm for each year’s newly minted high school and college graduates. Seuss includes the possibility of disappointment and setback but urges readers onward and upward to whatever goal they may have.

Not many of us remember the message of the speaker at our graduation. A few words may stick with us, but we are usually consumed with the moment and hoping not to trip and fall while walking across the stage to get that coveted diploma and shake hands with important people. “Oh, the places you’ll go” could become the graduation speech you carry around with you.

“I feel incredibly relieved to be getting out of the public school system,” is how Chad Ellington, a senior at Athens Drive High School in Raleigh, describes his feelings about graduation. He has a supportive message for those entering high school in the fall.

“Find your niche,” says Ellington. “Mine was being a part of the school band for four years. Know your limits, and don’t forget to enjoy yourself.”

Ellington is only one in the class of 2014 found across the state. He is part of the 80 percent of North Carolina seniors who are graduating from high school this year. From Raleigh, he’s headed to the University of North Carolina at Charlotte to study computer science. He chose that school because he found it to have “an amazing campus … just the right distance from home (2.5 hours)— and the major I wanted.”

According to statistics from the U.S. Department of Labor, the leading areas in the job market are health care, leisure and recreation, construction and child care. These fields are a true reflection of our society. We are living longer and need good health care; we want to enjoy our leisure time; we’re choosing different housing; and for families providing all the services, they need child care.

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With a degree in computer science, Ellington and his fellow computer grads can plug into any section of the job market. To encourage more high school students to continue their education the College Board, a nonprofit organization serving as bridge between student and colleges and universities, reports that the value of a college degree is growing. The College Board has 6,000 member institutions, which track trends in education, as well as other research.

“Despite rising tuition and student-loan debt levels, the long-term payoff from earning a college degree is growing,” according to The College Board.

“Today’s job market has me a bit uneasy,” adds Ellington, “but I am passionate about my projected field and confident enough in my abilities that I can successfully find a job after college.”

Although Ellington has a clear plan, others in the class of 2014 may not.

According to the College Board, “More people are questioning whether it’s necessary to go to college.”

Among economists, even those who emphasize alternative approaches to skill development, most agree that a college degree does pay off.

Higher education may not be for everyone. Not all graduating high school seniors have a clear view of what career path they may want to follow. Community colleges do an excellent job of filling the need to provide educated, trained people for a variety of jobs in the community.

Often students use the two years of community college to help make a decision about future education and decide to transfer their credits to a four-year institution.

Alternatively, community college graduates are in demand for jobs requiring educated, skilled workers.

“In general, college is a good investment, but there is great variability in outcomes,” says Dr. Robert Lerman, an economics professor at American University. “A significant minority of college graduates don’t earn as much as those with less education. And all is not lost if you don’t go to college, there are other routes to improve your earnings, for example, credentials that demonstrate the mastery of an occupational skill like plumbing.” Dr. Seuss concludes: “So… Be your name Buxbaum or Bisby or Bray Or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O’Shea, you’re off to Great Places!

Today is your day!

Your mountain is waiting.

So… Get on your way!”

Find your niche.

Mine was being a part of the school band for four years.

Know your limits, and don’t forget to enjoy yourself.

—Chad Ellington Athens Drive High School Class of 2014

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GOLF LEGENDS MEET...

Rod Harter, aka The Royal Greensman of Donald Ross, and Pinehurst Caddiemaster Eddie McRae on course at No. 2.

THE ROYAL GREENSMAN

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ooking as dapper as the golf statesman he’s portraying, Rod Harter steps into his character of Donald Ross as easily as he puts on his three-piece, period-style vested tweed suit complete with knickers, matching hat, round spectacles and Scottish accent.

Ross, an icon in the golf world as a celebrated course designer, came to Pinehurst in 1900.

He completed Pinehurst No. 2 in 1907 and upwards of 400 courses before his death in 1948. The role of Ross is one Harter acquired merely by happenstance.

“It started out by accident,” explains Harter, sitting on a leather sofa just outside the Pinehurst No. 2 pro shop. “The Pinecrest Inn was once owned by Donald Ross, so the resident manager, Drew Gross, called the Sunrise Theater and said he needed someone to play Donald Ross for the inn’s centennial. A longtime theater friend suggested me because he thought I looked a little like Donald Ross.”

Harter asked Mary McKeithen at Showboat Costumes in Southern Pines to help him put together an ensemble of early 1900s attire.

“Rod brought me a photograph of Donald Ross,” says McKeithen, who specializes in costume design for area plays. “We found a navy wool at first, and then we found the tweed suit, and I made it into knickers. The glasses…I love the glasses. They are actually my husband’s grandfather’s glasses. Rod is such a talented actor. He can really get into character.”

“I’ve had the mustache,” adds Harter, “and I had thought about shaving it off, so maybe this was destiny.”

Dressed and ready for the first performance at Pinecrest Inn, Gross fondly remembers Harter making quite an entrance in 2012.

“He got up to the podium and said, 'I got a furlough from St. Peter to come down for this celebration,' and went right into telling stories," recalls Drew Gross of the Pinecrest Inn. “We had him walk around the dining room and welcome people, and it has really gone over well. It is really important for us to keep the spirit of Donald Ross alive at the Pinecrest, and we’re very lucky to have Rod.”

The rest is recent history for Harter, who took on the role for the centennial events at the Pinecrest Inn and then neatly folded up his suit and went on with his everyday life as a private-duty caregiver. Caregiving is something he chose to do in retirement as a way of giving back and something he’s done faithfully for the past eight years.

“What I enjoy most about being a caregiver is the people and their stories,” says Harter.

“Their lives are magnificent. Some stories are tragic, some are heroic, but there’s something intriguing about every one. If I can bring a smile or lend a hand…I may be in that position someday and need someone.”

It was Harter’s grandmother’s guiding hand that helped lead him to the theater as he grew up watching her in Vaudeville in New York.

“My whole involvement with theater began with knickers,” he says, laughing.

“My first role was as Finian in 'Finian's Rainbow' in knickers.”

Harter worked in New York and did a lot of regional theater before finishing college as a theater major. After being drafted and sent to Fort Bragg for officer candidate school, it was there that he was led to the Fort Bragg Playhouse and became the assistant director for the balance of his tour.

“It was nonstop producing shows,” says Harter, “doing whatever was needed from acting to building and painting sets.”

It was also where he met Robbie, his wife of 44 years, in a production of “Carousel.”

“Like my mother-in-law always said, ‘We met on a carousel and have been on a merrygo-round ever since,” he adds, laughing.

From Fort Bragg to Syracuse, N.Y., to Alabama to Salisbury, N.C., and ultimately settling in Aberdeen, teaching and the theater have kept Harter in character.

After Pinecrest Inn’s centennial and as the 2014 U.S. Open championships on Ross’ No. 2 draw closer, Harter was asked to reprise his role of Ross again.

“I had done a sketch and put a clip on the website (for the Pinecrest Inn),” says Harter. "Someone saw it and asked me to speak in the Donald Ross Room for a banquet.”

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Harter delved into researching Ross and enlisted the help of his son, a photographer and filmmaker in Charlotte, to create a website, www.theroyalgreensman.com, so he can offer talks to golf enthusiasts.

“We’ve been off and running ever since,” says Harter. “I am compiling, writing blogs and attempting to create an unauthorized biography or a oneman show. What I’ve discovered is that I’m a lifelong sports fan, and although I was never that good at any one sport, I still have a passion for sports. Golf is like all other sports and is being challenged by technology, so I wonder what Donald Ross would say…His passion for the integrity of the game is one that puts integrity above all else.”

Telling tales as Ross lets Harter put on his Scottish constitution and say, “Golf gives you the opportunity to make a great shot from a poor lie.”

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Harter calls North Carolina home now, which helps him understand Ross’ 40-year love affair with No. 2, despite designing hundreds of courses.

“His designs were all about geography,” says Harter. “Ross said, ‘Only God can create a golf course. I just find them and uncover them.'"

“Ross’ integrity and honesty are intriguing,” says Harter. “As a founding father of golf architecture, he took a classical approach by using the land.

He would say, ‘Every curve has a story.’

He was very meticulous in that. He never liked to talk about his work. He was a quiet and intense man.

“One story goes,” tells Harter, “that there was a tournament in Pinehurst and a priest won, but the priest had changed his scorecard. So Ross wrote a letter demanding the priest return the trophy, but he did not.”

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“Ross had gone to Scotland in 1904 to get married. When he returned and introduced her to Demas Taylor, Taylor told the newly wedded Mrs. Ross, ‘You took a step closer to God when you married him.’

“Donald Ross had that kind of charm, but he was also competitive and stern,” says Harter. “He was heavily influenced by his Presbyterian background in Scotland.”

Dressed and making the rounds as Ross, Harter tends to make heads turn.

When on course in his persona as “The Royal Greensman” at No. 2, it is almost as if the statue outside the clubhouse has sprung to life to welcome guests.

“I think this is easily going to become one of my favorite characters,” says Harter, smiling. “It is performance art.

It’s a fascinating, never-ending story, and it’s fun to play.”

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Taylor Clement, CFP® Certified Financial Planner™ Clement Capital Group, LLC Plan. Invest. Protect.

Securities and advisory services offered through Commonwealth Financial Network, Member FINRA/SIPC, a Registered Investment Adviser

135 W. Connecticut Avenue, Ste. A | Southern Pines, NC 28387 910-693-0032 | Taylor@ClementCapitalGroup.com www.ClementCapitalGroup.com Elizabeth C. Donner, CRPC® Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor Diversified Planning, Ltd. Planning for Retirement | Long-Term Care Insurance Medicare Supplement/Part D | Medicaid-Compliant Annuities 2000 Centre Green Way, Suite 150 | Cary, NC 27513 (919) 460-6076 | Beth@DiversifiedPlanning.com Jeff Gollehon, CLU, ChFC JG Financial Consulting, LLC Our Only Business Is Protecting Your Retirement 150 Magnolia Square Court | Aberdeen, NC 28315 910-944-0575 www.helpingseniorsplan.com

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resource marketplace Home Care ServiCeS Rhonda Priest - Southern Pines Registry Administrator Sommer Prestianni - Cary Registry Administrator AOS At Home Care A network of private duty caregivers serving south central NC SOutHeRn PineS: 910.692.0683 | CARy: 919.535.8713 info@CaregivernC.com | www.CaregivernC.com

r e H a B i L i TaT i o N & N u r S i N g C e N T e r Ashley Coble Admissions Director Scottish Pines Rehabilitation & nursing Center A New Kind of Health Care Facility for the Scotland County Community 620 Johns Road | Laurinburg, NC 28352 910-276-8400 | 910-361-4001 Admissions@ScottishPinesRehab.com | www.ScottishPinesRehab.com

SupporT ServiCeS Duke Family Support Program A free first responder service for all NC families caring for someone with a memory disorder and/or multiple chronic conditions of late life.

DUMC 3600 | Durham, NC 27710 | 919-660-7510 www.dukefamilysupport.org

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Karen Clark

Pharmacist Manager/Owner 2295 NC Highway 24/27 East • Biscoe, NC 27209 biscoepharmacy@live.com

910.428.1150

Howell Drug Co. Inc.

311 Teal Dr • Raeford

910-875-3365

uNiverSaL deSigN LiviNg Lewis Sadler Certified Aging in Place Specialist Home Builder Sadler Construction, inc.

New Homes and Remodels Functional ■ Beautiful ■ Barrier-free ■ Complimentary on-site consultations PO Box 3023 | Cary NC 27519 | 919.678.0313 info@SadlerConstructionnC.com | www.SadlerConstructionnC.com universal Cabinet Design Our doors open for everybody...

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Over My Shoulder by Ann Robson

Wills on Wheels

We Make House Calls

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Put your affairs in order from the comfort of your own home. Discounts for Veterans, Public Service Personnel and Seniors.

Kathryn S. Kabat

Attorney at Law, PLLC D/B/A Wills on Wheels

919.439.3843

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Planning a Visit to Southern Pines?

The AOS Vacation Cottage offers easy access to Southern Pines shopping & dining Sleeps 4 comfortably Vacation packages & Catering available

VISIT AOSVC.COM OR SCAN CODE TO TOUR

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Welcome! Willkommen! Bienvenue!

Benvenido! Aloha! G’Day Mate!

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elcome to the historic backto-back USGA men’s and women’s Open championships. We’ve been getting ready for you and are pleased you’ve come. These two events promise great golf and we, the surrounding communities, promise warm hospitality.

Whether pro or amateur golfer, avid fan or just interested party, we have a lot to offer and hope you’ll give us a look while you’re here. We have many delightful shops in Pinehurst, Southern Pines, Aberdeen, Cameron, Sanford, Pittsboro, Fayetteville, Laurinburg, Rockingham, Troy, Seagrove, Cary, Apex and beyond to the RaleighDurham area. You’ll find everything from accessories to zucchini and most things in-between.

There are a few quirks you’ll encounter that we call traffic circles.

The main circle that will probably be inevitable is the Pinehurst Circle on U.S. 15-501. It is often used as reference point when getting directions. Don’t worry, most GPS systems recognize that we have this historic landmark and will guide you safely around.

Some things to remember as you come upon any traffic circle: vehicles in the circle have the right of way. If you’re not sure which exit to take, continue around until you find the exit you want. It’s OK if you go around a few times—better than getting off too soon and trying to find your way back. The Pinehurst Circle has excellent signage, both on the actual road and regular traffic signs.

This circle also provides a second lane so that you can go from one exit to the next without actually getting into the full circle traffic. A caution:

be sure you want this bypass as those in the lane on your left will not take kindly to your last minute change of mind. There’s another circle near the entrance to the resort’s Carolina Hotel and Pinehurst No. 2. It’s a pretty straightforward one, and as long as you recognize the person in the circle has the right of way, you’ll be fine.

The third circle you may come upon is close to the Moore County Airport on N.C. 22. If you’ve driven in Great Britain and other countries, these roundabouts will be a cinch. If you’re new to this form of traffic control, take a deep breath, read the signs, watch for openings in traffic, and you’ll get the hang of it.

Golf is what brought you here, but we’d like you to see some of our other gifts: horse country and pottery country. Both are within an hour, depending on where you are staying.

Horse country will make you think of Kentucky. Pottery country is special unto itself. You’ll find vivid table pieces alongside earthy works of art. There are many potteries scattered among our highways and byways, notably N.C. 705. One of the side benefits is that you usually get to visit with the potter. And what great gifts to take home!

For those visiting the South for the first time, when you order iced tea, be sure you specify sweet or unsweetened. Of course you could try an Arnold Palmer, a treat of half lemonade and half sweet tea.

We hope you have a wonderful time and plan to sit a spell and get to know us. And … y’all come back, y’hear.

Email Robson at info@outreachnc.com.

With its historic charm and modern amenities, the Fair Barn is equipped with a state-of-the-art kitchen, dressing rooms and beautifully tiled restrooms. Do not be misled by the name “The Fair Barn”.

The magnificent wooden scissor trusses create an ambiance of pure elegance, befitting the most formal affair. The ceiling soars to 2½ stories in height, with large skylights completing the effect. The room is outlined with grapevine wrapped in white lights to add an intimate and warm atmosphere. Serving as a multi-purpose community gathering place for receptions, private parties, rehearsal dinners and weddings, the Fair Barn can easily accommodate any function requiring a flexible space.

910.295.0166 200 Beulah Hill Road South Pinehurst, NC 28374 www.thefairbarn.org www.facebook.com/pinehurstfairbarnTheFair Barn

P H O T O B Y S AY E R P H O T O G R A P H Y

FOR THOSE WHO MEASURE LIFE

in yards rather than years.

At Belle Meade and Pine Knoll, golf isn’t a game so much as a way of life. There’s always a twosome or a foursome to join and golf privileges at eight of the area’s premier courses. As a resident, you’ll enjoy a rich, engaging lifestyle and the added security of the St. Joseph of the Pines continuum of care should you ever need it. Even home and yard maintenance is provided. So you’ll have more time to work on your game.

CALL TODAY – 910.246.1008

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A member of the St. Joseph of the Pines Aging Services Network continuing the legacy of the Sisters of Providence.

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