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SEPTEMBER 2016 | VOL. 7, ISSUE 9

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features SEPTEMBER 2016

Fertile Ground For Fossil Finding by Jonathan Scott

Better With Age Series: Duke Chapel by Flo Johnston

A CRISPR Apple in Our Future?

Reaping & Still Sowing in Second 50 by Carrie Frye

Carolina Conversations with Actor John Wesley Shipp by David Hibbard

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Taking It to the Mat by Carrie Frye

Financial Fitness for Your Second 50 by Jennifer Webster

5 Ways to Make Your 50s Your Best Years Yet by Rachel Stewart

Living Well for Your Second 50 by David Hibbard

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Ask the Expert by Amy Natt

The Nonagenarian by Glenn A. Flinchum

Nutrition by Ashley Carpenter, RD

Belle Weather by Celia Rivenbark

Caregiving by Mike Collins

Cooking Simple by Rhett Morris

Building Your Beautiful Bones by Jennifer Webster

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Brain Health by Taeh A. Ward, PhD

Literary Circle by Cos Barnes

Resource Marketplace Find the resources you need.

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eptember hath only 30 days, but this issue is dedicated to “The Second 50.” This month, we celebrate how some of our neighbors in the area are going their own way. Embarking on new hobbies like the North Carolina Fossil Club, we’ll go on a dig and hear how this pastime is intergenerational and a relaxing and thrilling excursion with a history lesson in every find. Our “Better With Age” Series travels to the majestic Duke Chapel, having completed a yearlong restoration that left it simply breathtaking. We learn about the CRISPR science going on here in our back yard that is developing so many possibilities, from advances in medicine to growing a better apple. Growing gardens is one aspect of the Living Well Community in Franklinville and Randolph County, where we meet residents focused on sustainability as well as being true to the land and each other. Heading west to Derby and Richmond County, we go down on the farm to Triple L Farms, where siblings are carrying on the family farming tradition in theirs and the farm’s Second 50. We also catch up with actor John Wesley Shipp, who takes the stage this month in Judson Theatre Company’s production of “Twelve Angry Men,” Sept. 22-25 in Pinehurst, for our Carolina Conversations. It’s a play not to be missed, and OutreachNC is a proud sponsor. I had the honor of interviewing local wrestling coaches, who as veterans were looking for a way to give back to their community. They have taken their passion for the sport of wrestling and opened the nonprofit North Carolina Wrestling Factory in Carthage with a mission of teaching fundamentals and sportsmanship. It’s so inspiring to see the impact they are making. As always, these pages are filled with some great information for your Second 50, both for your health and finances. Thank you so much for turning them with us! All this editing has co-editor Jeeves ready for his mid-morning nap. Until next month...

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Reconnecting to Life After Loss of Loved One by Amy Natt, MS, CMC, CSA My husband passed away about a year ago. He was 20 years older than me, and I spent many years as a caregiver for him. Now that I am living on my own again, I find myself trying to find meaningful activities to fill my days. I come from a small family and have a small circle of friends. How can I reconnect with life and find purposeful activity again?

The loss of someone you love, especially a spouse whom you provided care for, can be a big adjustment. You have gone from a life focused on caregiving to a life that is looking for new purpose. The first year after a loss is often spent readjusting to life and focusing on taking care of yourself and your needs that might have been ignored while you were in the role of caregiver. Getting yourself emotionally ready to take on new roles and activities is the next step. It is admirable that you want to find purposeful activity and ways to actively engage in life. We all want to wake up and feel that we have a purpose outside of ourselves. Now that you have had some time, you have probably been able to gain some perspective as well. This is a good time to reflect on your life before becoming a caregiver. Make a list of the activities that you enjoyed in your marriage and even prior to being married. Are there any interests you had that you haven’t pursued in recent years? Write down personal goals for yourself. These may be things you want to do to feel better physically, spiritually, financially or socially. If you can identify the areas that are a priority to you, it will be easier to identify activities that might fill those needs.

Many people choose to volunteer in some capacity or join community groups that offer connections to others. Think about who you might enjoy working with: children, youth, adults, older adults or animals. Consider what talents or time you might have to contribute. Here are a few ideas you might consider: • Nonprofit organizations often need help with community events or fundraisers. If there is a group you contributed to before, think about contacting them to see what help they may need. • School is back in session. Schools typically welcome volunteers to help mentor children, proctor exams, go on field trips, or assist in the classroom with reading or math. Consider contacting your county’s Communities in Schools organization to see what programs are in need. • A local community college may offer courses you can take to learn new skills or brush up on new technology. Explore new hobbies, something artistic or learn a new language. • Check out local arts programs. This can be a great form of self-expression or a way to become involved in a community betterment project.

Readers may send questions to Natt, an Aging Life Care ProfessionalTM, certified senior advisor and CEO of Aging Outreach Services. She can be reached at amyn@agingoutreachservices.com .

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• Tap into talents. Do you sing, play an instrument, cook or create a craft? These can be shared in a variety of ways, especially with children’s groups or older adults.

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• Connect with a local faith community. They often offer a variety of classes, clubs and volunteer opportunities you can participate in.

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• Forge relationships with four-legged friends. Local animal shelters often have volunteer opportunities available. • Play politics. You can get involved with local campaigns if that is your passion. • Take a trip. Sometimes growth and purpose can come through retreats, meditation or guided mission trips. The bottom line is that you have to get up each day and continue to seek out purposeful activity in your life. There are opportunities to give back and experience personal growth. You may have to try a few things to see what is best for you. However, please do not get discouraged if the first thing you try is not the right fit. Remember, you are looking for balance. There is something out there for you. Spend some quality time reflecting on where your passion lies, and find joy in the little things that make you feel like you have that sense of purpose back.

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NUTRITION

4 Tips to Keep Your Cholesterol In Check by Ashley Carpenter, RD

any factors affect blood cholesterol more than dietary cholesterol: physical activity, body weight, saturated fat, trans fat, heredity, age and gender. Previous dietary guidelines recommended avoiding foods high in cholesterol; however, in 2015, the Dietary Guidelines for Americans were updated to reflect current research. It turns out cholesterol from food isn’t the most significant contributor to our blood cholesterol level. Serum (blood) cholesterol is about 15 percent from food and 85 percent endogenous, or made by your body. All animal foods have cholesterol, but dairy and meat can also have high saturated fats and increase LDL cholesterol. Eggs and shrimp are two exceptions that have low saturated fat, but they are often found guilty by association. Eggs are a highquality and inexpensive protein source to include in a healthy eating pattern. In addition to decreasing saturated fats, processed foods with partially hydrogenated oils (trans fat) should be avoided. Trans fat is the worst type, because it increases your LDL cholesterol and decreases your good HDL cholesterol. Be sure to check ingredient lists for partially hydrogenated oils.

Here’s what you can do to help keep your cholesterol in check:

Follow the 2013 American College of Cardiology /American Heart Association guidelines on lifestyle for cardiovascular disease prevention.

Eat a dietary pattern that is rich in vegetables, fruit, whole grains, fish, lean poultry, nuts, legumes and nontropical vegetable oils (such as olive oil) and that is consistent with a Mediterranean-type diet.

Lower or restrict your consumption of saturated fats, trans fats, sweets, sugar-sweetened beverages and sodium by making healthier choices for meals and snacks.

Engage in aerobic physical activity of moderate to vigorous intensity lasting 40 minutes per session three to four times per week. Regular exercise can help you control your weight, reduce your risk of heart disease, and strengthen your bones and muscles. But if it’s been awhile since you’ve exercised and you have health issues or concerns, it’s a good idea to talk to your doctor before starting a new exercise routine.

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CAREGIVING CAN MAKE LIFE CRAZY!

Caregiving in Your Second 50 by Mike Collins “We spend the first half of our lives making ourselves sick, and the second half of our lives trying to make ourselves un-sick.” —Kevin W. Reese

“We spend the first half of our lives wasting our health to gain wealth. And the second half of our lives spending our wealth to regain our health.” —Author unknown

“The sad thing is, we spend the first half of our lives planning the future, and the second half reliving the past.” —Author unknown

“We spend the first half of our lives being a disappointment to our parents and the second half being a disappointment to our children.” —the blog, Shower Thoughts

“We spend the first half of our lives trying to understand the older generation and the second half trying to understand the younger.” —Francis Kong

f you’re reading this, it’s likely that you are somewhere around halfway through the game of life. What have you learned? One of the key challenges of caregiving is this: Very often the stress is so great, we forget, or don’t take time for, some basic life lessons that can keep us balanced. Let’s consider the 5 H’s of Caregiving: Heart, Health, Head, Home, and Hands (Work). HEART: What have you learned about keeping your heart— your emotional life—healthy? With whom or what do you need to spend time with to make sure you keep your emotions balanced? Do spouses, children, grandchildren, friends, pets, spirituality, exercise, art, music or reading recharge you emotionally? Here’s a thought that allows you to take an emotional step back from the edge and guard your heart: As long as the one you are caring for is safe, everything else is a bonus. HEALTH: What keeps you physically healthy? Do you walk, run, bike, swim, lift, do yoga, or fit some sort of movement into your day? You say you don’t have time? At this point in life, your fitness will deteriorate quickly if you do not maintain some sort of exercise program. Are you taking your own medications consistently and paying attention to your chronic health issues? The No. 1 health fact you have to understand when caregiving is, “If you don’t take care of yourself you won’t be able to take care of others.” HEAD: The emotional and physical stress of caregiving almost immediately affects how we think, our heads. Our minds operate so rapidly that it’s easy to be overcome by what psychologists call “Monkey Mind,” in which our minds jump from one topic or issue to another so quickly that it’s difficult to think clearly. In order to avoid this, take a little time to plan, create lists and look for systems that allow you to get mundane, everyday things done without having to think about them. Take the time you need to destress. Collins is the producer of the video, “Care for the Caregiver,” winner of a National Caregiver Friendly Award from Today’s Caregiver Magazine. For ways to deal with the craziness of caregiving, visit www.crazycaregiver.com .

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HOME: If the loved one you’re caring for moves in with you, your home environment automatically changes. Even if the move is positive, stress goes up, the environment becomes more crowded, life often seems louder, and it often means turning your life schedule upside down. Even if not in your home, if you are a caregiver, the dynamics of what goes on with your spouse, kids, neighbors and friends often changes. Find a place to call your own in your home. If nothing else, find a corner or nook to which you can retreat. Fill it with books and comfort items, such as pillows and blankets. Use whatever creates a comfortable place for you. Be straightforward and talk with your family about the impact caregiving is having on you. HANDS: Hands refer to your work and workplace. Meet with your employers and ask about the Family Care Act. The law has provisions for providing time off and support for caregivers. Ask other employees who are, or have been, caregivers for tips about working with your employer concerning your responsibilities. The best way to lower stress and raise support in the hands area is to do a great job when you are at work. Remember, you learned in the first half of life that employers can only help so much and be so patient with nonproductive employees, so don’t be one.

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uttress your bone density and you’ll stay strong and straight for years.

Imagine the harsh punch of a boxer. The supple line of a ballerina. The stoop, shove, and swing of a woman digging in her garden. All those movements are made possible by bones ... without our skeletons, our muscles would have nothing to work with, no structure or shape. However, bones grow slowly and silently. We often don’t think much about them, and we may have no warning before they break. Most bone cells live just two or three months, so there’s a lot of turnover in bones. (The bone cells that regulate the growth process, though, live 10-20 years.) As people age, cells may be lost faster than the body can replace them, resulting in lessened bone density. Early stages are known as osteopenia; as the condition progresses, it’s called osteoporosis. Mandy Martin, ANP, works with many older adults at FirstHealth Family Care Center in Seven Lakes, where she sees the results of bone loss firsthand, most often when a fall results in a broken bone. “Fractures are common in primary care, particularly in the elder population,” she says. The resulting limited mobility can have a cascade effect, she continues. “As people are confined to the bed or chair, they incur other risks, including skin breakdown, depression, pneumonia and trouble completing daily activities, such as bathing and dressing.”

Who, Me?

While many health problems seem to target heavier people, it’s skinny folks who are more frequently plagued by weakening bones (though, of course, osteoporosis can happen to anyone). People who smoke, inactive people, and those who do not get enough calcium in their diets may also find their bones weakening. Aging itself can also lead to bone loss, despite the healthiest of habits.

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How can you tell if your bones are less dense than you might desire? In addition to the risk factors just mentioned, Martin says, people should be concerned if they fall into one of these categories: “Being Caucasian, having a family history of fractures, drinking heavily, being a postmenopausal woman, or using glucocorticoid therapy for long periods of time.” There’s nothing people can do to reverse osteoporosis, Martin says. Instead, work on preventing bone loss before it occurs, by focusing on these three tips:

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Get enough calcium (1200 milligrams daily). Don’t forget your vitamin D (800 IUs daily).

Be sure to include weight-bearing exercise in your weekly routine, most days a week if possible.

When to Act

Women who have any of these risk factors and are older than 65 should consider a bone density scan, or DXA, Martin says. She notes that men can also suffer from osteoporosis. “Men have a higher mortality risk associated with fractures of the hip and spine than women,” she says, noting that low testosterone can be associated with osteoporosis in men. “Men who have lost more than an inch and a half in height, have been on anti-androgen medication for prostate cancer, or have some hormonal disorders might want to speak with their doctor about bone density scan.”

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Osteo-What?

Not to be confused with osteoporosis, osteoarthritis is a degenerative joint disease. “It results from a complex interplay of forces, including family predisposition, a history of physical stress on the joint, and processes at the cellular level,” Martin says. “In older people, osteoarthritis may result in joint pain and swelling, occasional morning stiffness, and crepitus [popping or cracking sounds].” By contrast, she explains, “Osteoporosis is a disruption in the cellular architecture of the bone, leading increasing skeletal fragility.”

Not a Problem

If your medical provider sends you for a DXA test, don’t worry —it won’t hurt. Depending on the type of scan you need, the radiologist will take a low-dose X-ray of either your central body or your ankle or wrist. If you do have osteoporosis, your doctor may prescribe oral biosphosphonates, which work by slowing the rate of bone loss. “They’re preferred because of their effectiveness, generally modest prices and availability of long-term research into their safety,” Martin explains, pointing out that they may not be suitable for people with some pre-existing medical conditions or allergies. Ironically, biosphosphonates have been linked to bone fractures in some instances. “Certainly, there is risk associated with these medications as well as benefits,” Martin says. “Discuss your individualized therapy with your provider.”

Boney Numbers • Typical bone density—of the outer, harder portion—is about 1.75 gram/ cubic centimeter (g/c3). • By comparison, fat weighs about 0.9 g/ c3, so it’s about half as dense as bone. Muscle comes in halfway between bone and fat, at about 1.06 g/c3. If you want to compare that to something you can pick up, sandstone’s density is about 2.22 g/c3. • However, bone density is typically expressed as a comparison to an average young adult’s bones (known as a T-score) rather than an absolute number. The lower your T-score, the less dense your bones. • Your bones may seem stable, but they’re always in motion. Four kinds of cells work together to form bones: osteoblasts create new bone tissue; osteoclasts reabsorb bone tissue; and osteocytes regulate the process. Bone-lining cells, or inactive osteoblasts, line bones’ surfaces. • The more you defy gravity, the denser your bones will become. People who perform sports with plenty of leaping, such as gymnasts and martial artists, have the densest bones out there.

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THE NONAGENARIAN

Talking Back to the TV by Glenn A. Flinchum

could be wrong, but I have the impression that a lot of people in my age group spend way too much time watching television. It’s not that it’s all that entertaining, but maybe we just don’t have anything better to do. Or, maybe we’re trying to make up for all those years when we had no TV to watch. Having seen all the old John Wayne movies several times over, I sometimes find it hard to find programs I really enjoy watching. And if you want to get really depressed, just watch the news all day. Just between us, I sometimes find myself arguing with the TV about what I’m watching. Before the guys in white coats come after me, let me say, I don’t yell out loud; it’s all in my head. I know the TV producers find it necessary to cater to the public’s taste, but whenever a famous person goes off the reservation, do we need to know every detail about their antics, over and over again? And, on every major network? I’m thinking of proposing a plan to the television industry whereby a czar would be appointed to allocate the celebrity news to the major news network each week. It would go something like this: “OK, CBS you get to cover Miley Cyrus and Justin Bieber this week; NBC you get Madonna and Charlie Sheen,” etc. Oh, well, it was just a thought. Thankfully, the political debates are only a temporary affliction that will soon pass. In the meantime there’s always our old standby, “The Andy Griffith Show.” A friend of mine recently came up with a very simple solution to my problem. “If you don’t like what you’re watching,” he said, “why don’t you turn the darn thing off and read a book or something?” What an excellent idea! I intend to do just that—but first I have to find out how Caitlin is adjusting to her new life as a woman. Flinchum is a former head of the State Office of Vital Statistics in Raleigh, worked at the National Center for Health Statistics in Washington, D.C., is a retired Army major and World War II veteran. He can be reached at info@outreachnc.com .

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Memory & Medication: Balancing Benefits and Risks

by Taeh A. Ward, PhD

esearch shows that some commonly used prescription and non-prescription medications have the potential to negatively impact our thinking abilities. These medications are described as â&#x20AC;&#x153;anticholinergic,â&#x20AC;? because they block a chemical in the brain called acetylcholine, which plays an important role in learning and memory. As acetylcholine concentrations decrease with normal aging, older individuals are especially vulnerable to medications with anticholinergic properties. These medications are often used to treat: seasonal allergies, sleeping problems, nausea, motion sickness, intestinal cramps, bladder leakage/incontinence, seizure disorder, cardiovascular disease, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, depression, anxiety and other psychiatric symptoms. As older individuals are more likely to experience these difficulties, they are more likely to take medications that can affect memory. An estimated 8 to 37 percent of older adults use anticholinergic medications. Recent studies demonstrate that taking medication with strong anticholinergic effects for as little as 60 days may double the risk of cognitive impairment in older individuals. While this effect is often considered reversible if the medication is discontinued, some research suggests that use of anticholinergic medications for more than three years is associated with greater risk for dementia. There is evidence to suggest that anticholinergic medication reduces activity in the brain, contributing to greater shrinkage of the brain and memory difficulties. However, this depends on how strongly the medication affects chemicals in the brain and how long the medication is taken. In addition, there are other commonly used medications that can increase the risk for impaired memory and other thinking difficulties. For example, recent studies show that medication used to treat heartburn called protein pump inhibitors (PPI) are associated with an increased likelihood of developing dementia over time. These

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medications appear to increase the buildup of a protein in the brain associated with Alzheimerâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s disease, and they can also cause vitamin B-12 deficiency. Many over-the-counter medications can impact memory as much or more than prescription medications. Benadryl, and any medication containing diphenhydramine, appears to have strong anticholinergic effects. When people take more than one anticholinergic medication, they are also more likely to experience memory impairment. An older individual treated for an overactive bladder and difficulty sleeping may potentially take two or more medications that may impact memory. If you have concerns regarding possible memory difficulties or learn that you are taking medications that can impact your memory, it is important to consult with your physician. Do not discontinue the use of any medication without consulting with your doctor. Remember that many of the medications described above could potentially affect your thinking abilities but also improve symptoms that can affect your quality of life. It may be helpful to ask your doctor if there is a similar treatment that may be just as beneficial for symptom reduction but has a lower risk for memory difficulties. Long-term use of over-the-counter sleep-aids containing diphenhydramine may pose a greater risk for memory difficulties than use of melatonin and cognitive-behavioral therapy for insomnia. It is important to carefully weigh the potential risks and benefits of any treatment by consulting with your doctor. For a list of the most common medications with anticholinergic effects, visit www.agingbraincare.org . Dr. Ward, a clinical neuropsychologist at Pinehurst Neuropsychology, can be reached at www.pinehurstneuropsychology.com or 910-420-8041.

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23andMe, Me, Me

by Celia Rivenbark

ave you heard about 23andMe? The popular mail-order biotech company will analyze your 23 chromosomes to reveal a complete genetic history for just $199. It’s official. We are so obsessed with ourselves that we’re now spitting into little vials and mailing it to strangers so we can learn more about the most fascinating subject in the world: ourselves. We can’t get enough of ourselves. I think the ultimate would be if we took a selfie of ourselves spitting into the vial (or perhaps a Snapchat). Look, I get it. I rarely get tired of thinking or talking about myself. (What do you mean, “I’ve noticed”?) I love the perky radio commercials for 23andMe. An earnest voice says something like, “I always wondered why I loved butter pecan ice cream so much. Now I’ve learned that my genetic history proves my ancestors also liked butter pecan ice cream. I just feel like I BELONG!” Much is made of how useful it can be to understand your genetic history’s effect on your current physical health. “I always wondered if my ancestors had leaky gut and, now, thanks to 23andMe, I have discovered they did!” (Probably all that butter pecan ice cream, just sayin’). There have been a few high-profile stories about 23andMe clients, including a People story about a woman who used the company to narrow the search for her biological father. The Jewish woman, married to a black man, discovered to her shock and disappointment that she was the granddaughter of a grand wizard of the KKK.

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At first, I thought it was like tea leaves and her saliva formed the likeness of a pointed hood and robe but, no, this is science. While they’re all trying to get along, it hasn’t been easy. But like the old saying, “You can’t put the processed saliva back in the tube.” The company can tell you what percentage of what ethnic group you are, which is fascinating. But, in practical terms, no one but you will really care. I’d prefer a different approach that’s less, er, clinical. Why not just ask a few of your closest friends and family about what they think of you, based on your character? You don’t have to submit spit or even pay money. They can just sit in a room and say: “Well, Biff, our findings indicate that you are 41.4 percent annoying and clingy and 58.6 percent full-blown a-hole…” After doing a (very) little bit of research, I learned many of 23andMe’s clients are adopted and desperately trying to find birth parents and siblings. Many have been joyfully reunited with far-flung kin. But the cynic in me wonders if all those “my third cousin visits me all the time now!” will one day morph into “This fool’s trying to borrow money again. I gotta get a restraining order…” Because, the truth is, for every aboriginal king in your past, there could be a redneck couch-surfer in your future. Rivenbark is the author of seven humor collections. Visit her website at www.celiarivenbark.com. ©2016 Celia Rivenbark. Distributed by Tribune Content Agency, LLC.

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ne morning in the winter of 2010, retired educator Lynn Moore was walking along the beach in Ocean Isle. It was her sixth year as a survivor of breast cancer, and hunting for the unusual along the water’s edge was one of the things she did for enjoyment. It was part of her conscious decision to appreciate what life still had to offer. What caught her attention that morning were shells she thought looked like “fat sand dollars.” It wasn’t until later that year, reading an article in the Brunswick Beacon, that she realized they were actually fossilized remains, millions of years old. For Moore, the idea she had touched and collected something that lived before modern humans walked the earth intrigued her enough to want to know more. She decided to join, first the East Coast Fossil Club, and then the North Carolina Fossil Club. The nonprofit North Carolina Fossil Club holds bi-monthly meetings at the N.C. Museum of Natural History in Raleigh, bringing in fossil enthusiasts from all over the state. There are about 300 members of the club, people who, according to club president Linda McCall, “come from all walks of life.” They meet to discuss the latest news, display their discoveries and occasionally swap specimens from their own collections. During the spring and fall, the club organizes fossil-hunting events at various sites across the state.

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But, as McCall is quick to emphasize, the club’s activities are by no means limited to benefit just its members. In addition to inviting the public to its annual fossil fair in November, the club organizes educational outreach to schools, museums and other public events. “So far we’ve published three books,” says McCall, who is in her fourth year as club president. “They’re on par with professional publications.” McCall, 59, attributes her interest in fossil hunting to her parents. “Every weekend, we would go somewhere to learn something about science,” she says. She worked in a paleontology laboratory in her freshman year of college, but later dropped out of school to marry and raise a family. After moving from Texas to North Carolina, she decided it was better late than never to pursue her passion and become involved in the N.C. Fossil Club. “Now,” says McCall, “it’s like a hobby on steroids.” North Carolina is fertile ground for finding fossils. Throughout varying epochs—when the ocean covered and then uncovered the state—much of the remains of the big dinosaurs washed away. Some can still be found in an area stretching from Durham up to Virginia. For the sake of pure antiquity, scientists can hardly do better than the Old North State. Near Asheboro, fossils have been found dating back 540 million years. “They are some of the oldest fossils known to mankind,” McCall says. “Some of these fossils are so strange that we don’t even know exactly what these creatures looked like.” Compared to that, what happened off North Topsail Island 30 million years ago might seem like current events. A recent program for shoreline restoration dredged up fossils of ancient sea creatures that seemed to have perished in some unknown cataclysmic event. Their shells lay buried on the ocean floor until just a few years ago. CONTINUED PAGE 28 SEPTEMBER 2016 |

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“Some of the fossils on the beach are prettier and in better condition than ones we currently have in our museums,” McCall says. Among the scientific treasures strewn in across the sand, McCall, herself, discovered a specimen of a previously unknown species of starfish. A few years ago, Travis Seymour, a freelance editor from Raleigh, was hiking along the Green Mill Run Creek near Greenville. He stumbled on an object a few inches long he thought might be a fossil. It turned out Seymour was right. It was a large tooth of a megalodon, an extinct species of giant shark that died out nearly 3 million years ago. The discovery reignited an interest that, like the megalodon tooth, had lain buried for a long time. His second big discovery was the N.C. Fossil Club itself, which he joined a year and a half ago. Seymour is one of a dozen club members who participated in one of the club’s sponsored expeditions, this one to a privately-owned site in Columbus County. Among the others who joined him were Dr. David Campbell and his son, Timothy. Campbell is an assistant professor of paleontology at Gardner-Webb University in Boiling Springs, about 50 miles west of Charlotte. “I’ve been interested in fossils all my life,” he says, and then adds, “actually longer than all my life. My parents were geology and biology teachers, and when my dad took the day off to take my mother to her prenatal checkups, they would spend the rest of the day fossil hunting, with me in utero.” Campbell’s 11-year-old son, Timothy, is a comparative later starter. “I’ve been fossil collecting for nine years,” Timothy says, only half joking. Faced with a small mountain of rubble that had been previously dug to create a small quarry, Timothy is surprisingly quick to spot something. “It’s a spiny jewel box,” he explains. Less than two inches across with sharp spikes, it’s quite beautiful and true to the poetic nature of its name. But without a 28

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trained eye, someone would likely step over, or step on, it. And, without a little special knowledge, few would guess it’s the remains of a creature that inhabited what’s now North Carolina 2.5 million years ago. “It’s nice to be out here with people who know what they’re doing,” says Rebekah Gunn, 75, a professor emerita in English at Saint Mary’s College in Raleigh. Gunn has been a member of the club for only four months, but feels participating in field trips is a good way to stay mentally and physically fit. “I love the meditative experience of collecting fossils,” Gunn says. “Even though a small cluster of other enthusiastic collectors may be nearby, somehow they all fade away, and I’m conscious of only the plot of earth surrounding me. Just being part of the natural landscape quietens the clamor of everyday life and allows me to find a sense of peace.” There does seem to be something meditative about the way these fossil enthusiasts get lost in their searches. Then there’s the almost incomprehensible sense of perspective that learning about fossils seems to give them. “Just to gaze into a site is to look back in time—millions of years roll away, and one really senses how finite and fleeting the present is,” Gunn adds. Moore, a cancer survivor and founder of the Novant Health Ostomy Support Group in Brunswick County, led this day’s expedition. Now faced with leukemia, she uses her interest in fossils as a way to help enrich her present. “My hope during my teaching career, and now as a fossil and ostomy educator, is to leave others with more knowledge than they had before,” Moore says. “If I can keep the ideas alive, then I’ve accomplished what I want. Sometimes that knowledge leads to a better life, sometimes to a new hobby, sometimes it is passed on to still another person.” Moore’s demeanor is so confident and cheerful, it’s hard to imagine she’s faced such personal difficulties. “Keep learning, whether you are young in years or young at heart, and each day is precious.”

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Just to gaze into a site is to look back in time— millions of years roll away, and one really senses how finite and fleeting the present is.

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N.C. FOSSIL CLUB

The North Carolina Fossil Club meets at the N.C. Museum of Natural History in Raleigh on the third Sunday of every other month, 1:30-4 p.m. Meetings are open to the public. The next meeting is set for Sept. 18. For more information on the club and its other activities, visit their website, www.ncfossilclub.org .

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BETTER WITH AGE SERIES

by Flo Johnston Photography by Katherine Clark

Duke Chapel Circa 1932

bout 240,000 people visit Duke Chapel in Durham every year. Some attend its non-denominational worship services at 11 a.m. on Sundays. CONTINUED PAGE 32

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Others may come for the annual performances in early December of Handel’s “Messiah,” to hear periodic organ concerts on one of its four organs, or to enjoy a program by its 150-member choir that includes students, faculty and staff as well as community members. A “great towering church” to dominate the Duke University campus was the dream of James Buchanan Duke, its benefactor. It might be more accurate to say a “great towering Gothic cathedral” that over the years has attracted more than 6,000 couples who want a wedding to remember. The chapel, built from greenish-gray stone, quarried in nearby Hillsborough, has breathtaking stained glass windows, majestic wood carving and stone sculpture. The chapel is always open, and during the day, people often slip into its quiet 2,000-seat sanctuary for meditation and prayer. A yearlong restoration, the first since it opened in 1932, was completed in May. On a visit, be sure to note little quirky things, like a window that includes a green devil and Gen. Robert E. Lee’s belt buckle on his statue at one of the front portals where the sculptor carved “USA” but realizing his mistake tried to turn it into “CSA.” 32

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A CRISPR Apple in Our Future?

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f you’ve never heard of CRISPR, it’s about time you did. It might turn out to be the defining new technology of the 21st century. “It’s comparable to the invention of the transistor,” says Daniel Dickinson, a postdoctorate researcher at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. The transistor, invented in 1947, led to the development of the computer processor, which changed nearly all aspects of modern life. CRISPR might have even more far-reaching effects. The name is an acronym for Clustered Regularly Interspaced Short Palindromic Repeats, which has little meaning to anyone other than a gene scientist. However, in a few years, you’ll start noticing changes in many parts of your life because of it. The ability to edit genes has been around for a while, but it was costly, cumbersome and difficult. Then, in 2012, researchers in the University of California at Berkeley developed a way to edit DNA molecules that was significantly more efficient. “Now, anyone who knows how to use a word processing program can edit DNA,” Dickinson says in jest. But there’s a good bit of truth there. DNA, the molecule that all life is based on, is made up of only four basic components that scientists have tagged A, T, C and G. The laptop of Mark Slabodnick, an associate of Dickinson in their lab in Chapel Hill, displays long lines of those letters. For billions of years, nature has used different combinations of these components to create the astounding complexity of life on earth. Now, by rearranging them using CRISPR— cutting and pasting the letters just like in a Microsoft Word document—biomedical scientists and others are able to manipulate the basic building blocks of life. CRISPR’s “delivery system,” a protein called Cas9, has been likened to a microscopic pair of scissors with the ability to slice DNA. It was discovered by researchers studying, of all things, how tiny bacteria defend themselves against viruses. CONTINUED PAGE 36

The 21st century will be the century of biology... —Daniel Dickinson

When I learned about CRISPR, it was an ‘Aha!’ moment. —Daniel Dickinson

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With CRISPR’s accessibility and ease of use, scientists across the globe have been enthusiastically utilizing the technology in all sorts of biological-related fields. The Tar Heel State has been keeping pace with the best. Internationally recognized North Carolina State University researcher, Dr. Rodolphe Barrangou, has used CRISPR to work with beneficial bacteria that are part of cheese and yogurt production. Meanwhile, down the road at Duke University, Dr. Charles Gersbach, an associate professor of biomedical engineering, worked with a team that used CRISPR to successfully treat an adult mouse suffering from a form of muscular dystrophy. Because this is a genetic disease, replacing the defective genes with healthy ones virtually cured the mouse. “There is still a significant amount of work to do to translate this to a human therapy and demonstrate safety,” said Gersbach in an interview with Duke Today. “But these results coming from our first experiments are very exciting.” There is, of course, a darker side to this powerful tool. In 2015, after Chinese scientists announced they had used CRISPR to modify genes in a human embryo, there was an international appeal for a moratorium on that sort of experimentation. In fact, CRISPR developer, Professor Jennifer Doudna of U.C. Berkeley, recently called for “a global conversation about the technology that I co-invented, so that we can consider all of the ethical and societal implications of a technology like this.” Still, the debate goes on between those who are concerned about possible dire consequences and those eager to develop cures for genetic diseases. Dickinson and his colleagues at UNC-Chapel Hill are far away from that storm. Their work involves studying how a single fertilized cell develops into different cells in an animal, specifically for them, a nematode. “When my 4-year old son asks what his dad does,” Dickinson says with a grin, “I tell him I play with worms.” Dickinson, who has been doing research at UNC for five years, is quick to sing the praises of CRISPR. “When I learned about it, it was an ‘Aha!’ moment,” Dickinson explains. “This was the missing piece to help realize the potential of my research. I can design a new CRISPR set of procedures to target specific genes in an hour. Before, it would have taken six months. “In the next five years, it will have become an indispensable tool. Crops engineered using CRISPR are already being tested. I can almost guarantee you that in two to three years, you’ll be buying CRISPR apples at the store.” When asked about its use in fighting disease, Dickinson is quick to respond. “That’s happening already,” he says. “I mean right now. We’re using genetically modified mosquitoes to fight the spread of the Zika virus. “I think that if the 20th century was the century of electronics, the 21st century will be the century of biology. A person in 1950 couldn’t have foreseen a time when everyone would carry around a pocket-sized device with more computing power than existed in the whole world at the time. We’re at a similar stage with this. Anything you can imagine is possible.” 36

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TAKING IT to the

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by Carrie Frye | Photography by Jennifer Kimpler

hree retired veterans in their second 50—Joe Van Cleave, Barry Hull and Paul Ambrose— huddled around the idea of opening a wrestling workout club in the Sandhills. For awhile, it was merely a dream with possibility, but step by step, the dream has turned into a reality in a former manufacturing space in Carthage, now aptly named the North Carolina Wrestling Factory. “We had talked about this for some time,” Van Cleave explains, “but we heard about this space, which is bigger than what we wanted, but said, ‘Let’s do it.’ We started in July, intending to have the month of August for set-up, but as word got out, we had wrestlers waiting at the door.” “This is all Joe’s idea, and it’s just part of our nature to find ways to give back to our community,” adds Hull, who still works full-time in addition to serving as the wrestling coach at New Century Middle School in Cameron. “Since Joe is from Iowa, we had the ‘Field of Dreams’ ideal, that if we built it, the wrestlers would come, and we wanted to give them a place to compete.” With the demand standing in front of them, the nonprofit group decided to forge ahead and begin coaching and training sessions right away, less worried about aesthetics and more focused on securing equipment, raising funds and opening the doors. In more metropolitan areas, wrestling facilities like the North Carolina Wrestling Factory are unaffiliated with area schools but provide extra coaching and mat time for student athletes during traditional black-out periods when school athletic facilities are closed.

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“Dominant school wrestling programs have clubs like ours in their area, and families have had to travel to Raleigh, Charlotte or Greensboro, so we can provide an alternative much closer to home,” Van Cleave says. “And when the schools open back up, we want the wrestlers back inside their school wrestling rooms.” With a donated mat from the Sandhills Sandcats Wrestling Club, the N.C. Wrestling Factory is up and running, Monday through Thursday from 4:307:30 p.m., which is immediately after work for Van Cleave and Hull. They may have as many as 30 young wrestlers, ranging in age from kindergarten (must be fully potty-trained) to high school, drilling and rotating on and off the mats. “We have a first-grader from Sandhills Farm Life (Elementary), who hasn’t lost a match yet,” Hull says. “Wrestling is literally the oldest sport in the world.

Every society has had some form of it, and the kind of people it attracts just fall in love with the sport. You will see these kids go at each other for six or eight minutes, get up off the mat and shake hands. It teaches great sportsmanship.” Teaching technique, discipline, conditioning, time management and weight management are all part of the coaching philosophy. “Wrestling is a lifestyle, right down to the nutrition,” Van Cleave says. “It teaches these young men that hard work pays off and drives them to work harder, and that you can stand alone and be successful.” “Our focus is God, family and country through the sport of wrestling,” Hull adds. With a focus and goal for achievement, these coaches have high hopes for the N.C. Wrestling Factory program. CONTINUED PAGE 40

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North Carolina Wrestling Factory, located at 261 Niagara-Carthage Road in Carthage, serves wrestlers from kindergarten to high school from throughout the Sandhills. The club’s first fundrasier is the 5th Annual Friends of Wrestling Golf Outing on Saturday, Sept. 24, at the Country Club of Whispering Pines. For more information about NCWF, call 910-722-2043 or visit www.ncwrestlingfactory.com .

“Our dream would be to see all three Moore County high schools win state championships,” Hull says. “As well as having a national champion or All-American out of our club,” Van Cleave adds. “We definitely want to develop a full roster where we can compete as a team, host a meet and provide wrestling scholarships for area youth.” Through the nonprofit, all membership dues and donations support the program entirely with equipment and building costs. Wrestling mats can cost in excess of $10,000 depending upon size and specific use. The club’s first fundraiser, the 5th Annual Friends of Wrestling Golf Outing on Saturday, Sept. 24, provides an opportunity to support the group. “None of us are in this for a dime,” Van Cleave says. “Everything goes back into the program and keeping the lights on. We have had our wrestling families donate funds, a used treadmill, weights … the support has been overwhelming.” Matt Ragsdale, former Union Pines High School wrestling coach and a former wrestler himself, is an advocate for all the N.C. Wrestling Factory provides to student athletes. “Joe Van Cleave and the others spearheaded this operation to continue the wrestling spirit the community has formed,” Ragsdale says. “This is an unbelievable opportunity to come together, building young men into great wrestlers. The wrestling community has built a strong, unbreakable bond among the coaches, wrestlers, parents, volunteers and supporters. This facility can only benefit the kids by keeping them in a positive and supportive environment, while reinforcing that wrestling is not about the medals and championships, but instead the relationships that you build along the way.” Within the wrestling community, the greatest achievements are often priceless. Van Cleave found that after years of long deployments, wrestling came to be the avenue that drew him closer to his oldest son, who began wrestling in high school at Union Pines in Cameron. “Wrestling is such an emotional sport,” he says. “I have stood under the bleachers with my son when he was winning and when things didn’t go so well. My son is my best friend, and that happened through wrestling.” These coaches are also quick to point out that wrestling is a family sport. “It really is about bonding together,” Hull adds in agreement. “Joe and I both have daughters, too, and they may not be wrestling like their brothers, but they are the best wrestling managers for this team.” “It truly is a wrestling family,” Van Cleave says. “We support each other and our wrestling community. The greatest reward is when parents of wrestlers come in and thank us for the changes they are seeing in their sons. We are providing a place for young men to come, where no matter their size and if they put in the work, they can be giants.”

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orried about when you’ll retire and whether you can afford to? Local experts offer pointers to help you build your financial well-being as you enter your second half-century.

Common Concerns Robin Nutting, CLTC, financial representative with Thrivent Financial in Southern Pines, finds that many of her clients worry that they haven’t started planning their retirement soon enough. With house payments, medical bills and possibly two generations of students loans in hand, it can be hard to set money aside. “Many people have concerns they will outlive their money,” Nutting says. “They haven’t planned for long-term care, and they truly don’t want to be a burden to their kids. They’re unsure of how Social Security will provide for them in the future.” The thought of planning can be daunting, she says. “Oftentimes, not knowing the right questions to ask and not having someone explain options makes the process too overwhelming. Therefore, nothing is put into place and many of their fears turn into reality.”

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Getting Started However, there is help. Take a deep breath and look at yourself, and your finances, with honest eyes. “Everybody has a different standard of living, some frugally, some not so frugally,” says Jeff Gollehon, CLU, ChFC, with JG Financial Consulting in Aberdeen. “While people retire, they move from the accumulation to distribution phase of life. They experience the harsh reality that they must live within a budget.” It’s important to know your spending habits, as well as your basic needs. It’s also necessary to take stock of what you have. CONTINUED PAGE 42 SEPTEMBER 2016 |

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Getting Help

Enumerate your assets, from real estate to expected inheritance income. Then, decide how much risk you’re willing to take. Someone with decades left to work can generally undertake more risk than a person who’s retired and cannot make up lost capital, Gollehon says. Finally, see how your expenditures and your projected post-retirement income match up—because match they must. A financial adviser can help people make that connection, Gollehon says. “We take basically a year’s income and tax planning,” he explains. “We put together a guaranteed income plan to assist people in generating income for their lifetime.”

In all these life-changing decisions, the advice of a financial planner is invaluable. To choose the best partner to help manage your money, Nobles suggests:

When to Start? Drawing on Social Security may seem like a retirement lifeline, but it’s not always best to get it as soon as you are eligible. Eric Nobles, CFP, president of Nobles Pound Financial Planning, says, while people can start drawing a reduced Social Security check at 62, they must wait until they are older to claim their full benefit. According to the Social Security Administration, the “full retirement age,” or age at which people can draw full benefits, is 67. As a result, Nobles suggests that people who are eligible at 62 might still “wait a year or two for a raise.” This delay will also benefit spousal Social Security, which is reduced if claimed early.

• Work with a CFP, or Certified Financial Planner.

These professionals “have the mindset of a planner” and the training of stockbroker and life insurance agent combined. Expert problem-solvers, they “fit the pieces of the puzzle together” for you. • Find someone in independent practice, as he or

she is more likely to offer unbiased advice. “I own my own company, so I spend my time thinking about what is best for my clients,” Nobles says.

• Examine the compensation model. Nobles

recommends a fee-based, rather than transactionbased, payment model as most favorable for clients.

Even more important, Nobles concludes, work with someone you trust, someone whose style and approach works well with yours. It may take some time to locate the right person. “Find two or three financial planners, interview all of them, and find a fit for your personality type,” he says. When you partner with a good financial planner, you can enter your “Second 50” with much more peace of mind.

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C includes Part A and Part B services, but you’ll be working with a private insurer. The insurer sets the outof-pocket expenses and referral rules. d. Drug coverage (Medicare Part D) may be included in a Medicare Advantage Plan, or you can buy it separately.

Home Health Care Insurance You may know you need to purchase long-term care insurance, but, what if you’re lucky enough to live out your life in your home? Ken Parson, president of Triangle Health Solutions in Raleigh, discusses a new option for home health care insurance. “First, a home health care insurance policy is a very important component to a long-term care strategy, Parson says. “If people are able to afford a long-term care insurance policy, a home health care plan works well with it to fill the gaps. If they don’t have a long-term care policy, then it is essential that they have something like a home health care policy to pick up expenses Medicare and Medicaid don’t cover. Second, home health care policies pay their benefits in the form of cash directly to the policyholder, and that’s a good thing when a family member is sick or hurt. “Long-term care riders are not as prevalent nowadays, because the more recent long-term care plans do a pretty good job of covering the cost of home care providers,” Parson adds. “The biggest challenge with long-term care plans is the cost—only about 7 percent of people older than 55 have them because they are very expensive.” If a long-term care or a home health care policy isn’t an option due to cost, at a minimum, a traditional Medicare Supplement or Medigap policy helps to cover the gaps in Medicare Part A and B to offset out-ofpocket expenses. “These are government-regulated plans offered by numerous carriers that are designed to fill medical gaps for things not covered by Medicare, of which there are many,” Parson says. “Again, the benefits are paid directly to the care providers and not the policyholder.”

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Ingredients Blackened seasoning (1 tablespoon each of salt, pepper, chili powder, granulated garlic, paprika and cumin, mixed together in a bowl) 2 six-ounce catfish fillets 2 tablespoons olive oil 1 ear of corn 2 medium tomatoes, diced ½ cup apple cider vinegar 2 tablespoons sugar 1 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon pepper ¼ cup water 2 servings of grits of your choice

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Cut corn off cob, and put in small bowl with tomatoes. Put vinegar, sugar, salt, pepper and water in small pot and bring to almost a boil. Pour over corn mixture. Make grits according to instructions on package. Heat a pan over medium high heat. Season catfish with blackened seasoning very well on both sides. Cook catfish in pan for approximately 3 minutes on both sides until a nice crust forms. Place grits on plate and top with blackened catfish fillet and relish. Morris, owner of Rhett’s Restaurant, Personal Chef & Catering, is an awardwinning chef, He can be reached at 910-695-3663 or rhett@rhettsrpcc.com.

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he kids have moved out. Retirement is approaching. What’s next? Turning 50 doesn’t mean it’s time to put away your hopes and dreams; it’s actually the best time to invest in them—and your future. Here’s a look at how you can make the next 50 years as good as the last.

Put your health first. During this decade, you’re more

likely to notice small changes in your health—from needing a pair of reading glasses to enjoy your morning newspaper to extra antacids after a heavy meal. Schedule a well visit with your primary care physician to discuss any nagging issues or other health concerns you might have. Ask your doctor about recommended screenings, too. These routine tests can catch health issues when they are the most treatable.

Do a financial check-in. It’s time to make your financial portfolio as solid as it can be. Look for ways to reduce risk, such as switching from stocks to mutual funds or adding annuities to your portfolio. Keep putting away extra money in your emergency fund, too. Forbes recommends keeping up to two years of income in an emergency account.

Ask important questions now. No one wants to think

about the worst, but being prepared can lessen the stress for you and your loved ones down the road. Whether you’re considering writing your will, taking a hard look at the costs associated with assisted living facilities, or if you generally want to get your personal affairs in order, don’t wait. Once you have a set plan in place, you can put it away—and don’t have to worry later on.

Make those dream plans a reality. Are you

wanting to travel? Switch careers? Try a new hobby? Then do it! You’ve worked hard and deserve to shift the focus back to things that may have fallen to the wayside while you pursued other career goals or raised a family. You’ve spent your time taking care of the important details, so splurge on that European getaway or crafting class.

Take a moment to look back. You’ve been here for 50 years. You’ve seen many things happen and lived through both major world occurrences and personal events. What events most affected you? How have they shaped who you are today? By revisiting the past, you can plan on what you want for your future. Also, be proud of your accomplishments through the years, and set new goals moving forward.

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by David Hibbard Photography by Diana Matthews

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hat does it mean to “live well”? That is certainly subjective, and each of us can answer in our own way. But a group of homeowners in the Randolph County town of Franklinville are applying their definition of living well to their own lives every day, sharing common values in a community that exemplifies their commitment to each other, the planet and to making a difference for the future. Located on 124 acres off U.S. 64, about eight miles east of Asheboro, the Living Well Community was envisioned by founders Harvey and Nancy Harman and describes itself as an “intentional community” centered around four core values: • Community • Sustainability • Health and wellness • Honoring the sacred within and without

After spending most of their lives growing up and working on Long Island, New York, Tom Barrett and his wife, Debra, started thinking about life after their kids were grown and retirement was on the horizon. “Debra and I were going through our own changes and spiritual development and getting a sense for the next step, what it’s going to look like,” Barrett says. For the Barretts, the idea of living in an intentional community, not just a neighborhood, was appealing. They were largely frustrated in their efforts until they came across the first of two websites created by Harvey Harman to promote his idea of a community whose members would truly be connected to one another. Nearly six years ago, the Barretts began what Tom calls a “long distance relationship,” visiting a few times a year with Harman and others who were meeting periodically to plan the Living Well Community. They finally made the move to Franklinville early in 2015, becoming the second homeowners in the community. “It took awhile for us to get to that point,” Barrett says, “where we said we can leave our home, leave our kids, leave our grandkids, leave Long Island, which was where I had lived since I was 4 years old.” There are now a total of five households in the community, including the timber frame home the Barretts built on their lot. CONTINUED PAGE 50

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“So here we are now,” Tom says. “We’ve got five households trying to live out what it means to be a Living Well Community. We’re starting to live mindful of one another, and that we’re sharing this land.” Connection to the land and creating a sustainable environment is a central theme at Living Well. A community garden, free of herbicides and pesticides, supplements the smaller gardens homeowners may choose to have on their own lots. Together, the gardens provide a bounty of fresh, healthy vegetables and herbs, and the goal is for the community to eventually be able to grow 75 percent of its own food. That aspect of the Living Well Community was one of many that attracted Deb Andrews, who for many years had lived nearby in Asheboro. “I’m a big gardener, and I’m semi-retired now so I have more time, and that’s what I like to do with my time off, is garden. We’re all serious about growing our own food out here.” Living Well also satisfied another dynamic Andrews was longing for in her life. “I was living in a townhouse all by myself and really wanting a community, but I hardly knew my neighbors,” Andrews says. “I was searching for a community and didn’t think I’d find it in this area. 50

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I thought I’d have to move to Chapel Hill or some cool place.” Andrews is grateful for the connection she feels to her neighbors, not only through working the land but through daily interaction and conversation. “We try to think of what’s good for living well as a community,” Andrews says. “We’re not perfect or anything, we’re human beings, but we all try to look at the big picture—not just ‘me,’ but ‘us.’” Interdependence and a sense of caring for one another is another strong theme of the Living Well Community. When Charlotte Vetter recently required a trip to the hospital for back trouble, the rest of the community stepped up, not only taking her to the hospital but staying there with her, walking her dog, bringing her home and providing meals until she could get back on her feet. “Here, if my lights don’t come on by a certain time, someone will notice,” Andrews says. “I want somebody to notice if my lights don’t come on. That’s not being nosy, that’s caring. There’s a huge difference.” Judy Howell, who joined the community in January after relocating from Akron, Ohio, echoes those sentiments. When she recently left early one morning to go to Greensboro, she soon had a text from Vetter, her neighbor, asking if everything was OK.

“Charlotte said, ‘You never leave this early!’ And it wasn’t being nosy, it was a sincere caring thing, and we understand that,” Howell explains. “People who live here don’t feel offended by that at all. I think it just shows our compassion and caring for each other.” While not specifically developed just for retirees, the current community is made up of people who have already retired or are closing in on retirement. Tom Barrett draws from his own experience as he offers advice to those thinking about a community like Living Well. One question to ask, Barrett advises, is to think about how you define your safety net in retirement. “It’s not always money, it’s your network of people— and your kids may not be that network,” Barrett says. “So what’s your network of people that really care enough about you that they’ll stop what they’re doing and say your needs trump whatever my needs are.” Barrett also recommends thinking about your values, and how you want to live those out in retirement. “This is an adventure of really thinking outside the box,” he says. “What do I want to do for the next 30 years, 40 years? I don’t want to spend my time on a golf course, even travel. We’ll do some travel, but I want to make the next 35 years productive in a new way, in a meaningful way for me, who I am today. So another thing for folks looking at retirement, I would say, how are you looking to continue to make a difference in your life for the next 30 years?”

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s the summer sun rises over Triple L Farms, a 250-acre, fourth-generation family farm, work for the day is already under way. Row upon row of sweet corn—Silver King white and Ka-Ching bi-color varieties—flourish by the bushel. Another season is winding to a close on this stretch of land in Derby in the eastern corner of Richmond County that officially became the Lambeths’ family farm in the 1920s. Fraternal twin brothers Jim and Joe, and their sister Joyce are carrying on the family tradition in what they call “the garden spot of the world.” “It’s the middle of nowhere, but it is where my roots are,” Joyce says, smiling. Triple L Farms is a three-pronged operation focusing on produce, chickens and pine needles. “My brother Joe and I grow everything, and Joyce helps manage the logistics of getting everything to the markets,” Jim says. “One hundred acres are just for our fruits and vegetables: strawberries, peaches, sweet corn, green beans, watermelon, cantaloupe, cucumber, squash, tomatoes, okra and greens. “When I was a boy, it was all tobacco. Joe and I were in the fields, and Joyce was in the barn. Our children grew up on the farm, too. Now, we’ve made the transition out of tobacco, and chickens are actually are the largest part.” Triple L produces 2 million chicken broilers for Mountaire Farms annually, while their fruits and vegetables remain a wholesale operation for the most part, with about 75 percent of what’s grown going out to multiple markets. Being weather-dependent is always challenging, and 2016 has been no exception, with rain and frost damaging some of the farm’s biggest and sweetest crops: strawberries and peaches. “Too much rain ruined thousands of strawberry plants this year,” Jim says. “It can be heartbreaking.” Peaches run from May to mid-September for Triple L typically, but the late freeze earlier this spring did major damage to the normally abundant crop, taking more than 90 percent of the anticipated 3,000 bushels. Despite the weather, the family farm made the best of what they could harvest. Baskets of peaches still bring smiles to customers seeking out the sweet Windblow and Contenders, the varieties Joyce describes as the best for canning by Carrie Frye and freezing. Photography by Diana Matthews “My favorite peach is a ripe one, early or late,” Joe says, grinning. “I couldn’t get enough and ate so many peaches growing up,” Joyce adds, laughing, “but now, give me some tomatoes, corn, cucumbers and okra, and I could live off of it for every meal.”

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As a wholesale family farm, you may have enjoyed some of the fresh produce this summer grown in Derby without even knowing it. Triple L Farms, located at 2205 Derby Road in Ellerbe, wraps up their season this month. For more information, call 910-206-1949 or www.derbystand.com .

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Greenhouse tomatoes are another of the farm’s bustling crops, with more than 700 plants producing the popular Trust and Big Dena varieties. “We are very bee dependent,” Jim says, “so we have enough hives to pollinate all of them.” Portions of the harvest arrive fresh and ready for customers at Triple L’s roadside stand on Highway 5, farmers markets in Rockingham and Pinehurst, and its main location in Derby. This farm building once was the general store for the whole community, owned and operated by the siblings’ grandfather. Jim’s wife, Marcia, handles the decorating inside and outside of the farm store: planting flowers and arranging the countless number of displays of farm and family antiques from back in the day. “It’s our museum,“ Jim says. “Some of those signs are 60 years old from my grandfather’s store.” “The general store sold everything from a needle and thread to a stick of dynamite,” Joe adds. “Even banjo strings. He carried hammers, nails, groceries and all the staples, because there was no transportation back then for folks to get their goods from elsewhere.” Now, visitors to the farm can browse the oldtime treasures not for sale, and purchase fresh from the field fruits and vegetables or some of the farm’s specialty jams, jellies, muscadine juice, salad dressings and pickled items. A visit to Derby would not be complete without a cone or cup of hand-scooped ice cream. “The produce is fresh, usually picked that day, and we want to make visitors feel welcome,” Jim says. “There’s a checkerboard, and people can come in and relax.” Triple L’s store closes this month as the growing season nears its end, but will open its doors as soon as the spring crops are ready for picking. In and out of season, there is always work to be done on the farm. “It’s a good life,” Joyce says, “but it’s a hard life, too.” “There is a connection to this land,” Jim adds. “We want to protect and take care of it, and leave it better for the next generation. It’s a family thing.”

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Actor John Wesley Shipp by David Hibbard

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hings just seem to keep coming full-circle for popular television, film and stage actor John Wesley Shipp. He’s back on the set of the popular television series “The Flash” again after 25 years. And he’ll return to acting on the live stage for the first time in 20 years this September in the Sandhills, cast in the Judson Theatre Company’s production of the classic play “Twelve Angry Men.” Here, Shipp recounts his career and ties to North Carolina, which include time shooting “Dawson’s Creek” in Wilmington, as well as his experience as a teen in the town of Wake Forest, which itself would come full-circle in a most remarkable way almost 30 years later.

ONC: How did it come together with Judson Theatre for you to appear in “Twelve Angry Men,” and what about the role appealed to you?

JWS: It actually came about through a friend of mine, Michael McAssey, who suggested it to me. He knew the artistic director at Judson and knew they were planning “Twelve Angry Men.” I love that play. I first saw it, first became aware of it, when I worked on it as a senior in high school in Louisville, Kentucky. I think it’s such an important play. It goes to judgment, it goes to rationalization, it goes to the way we process information, the way we rush to judgment, either because it’s easy or it conforms to our preconceived notions. We let that overwhelm any rational consideration of the facts. How do we make decisions? Some of the jurors just want to get out of there. It’s hot, and they just want to get out, and all of a sudden, the process is not respected. Judson has a very compact schedule. It will only take two weeks out of my shooting schedule for “The Flash,” so it works. But you have to hit the ground running, because you only have five or seven days of rehearsals and then you’re live. It’s not normally the way I like to work—so it’s going to be interesting! A lot of it is going to have to be people just drilling it with me. I know the play very well, and that should help. I’m really excited about it! How do you approach taking on a character and developing that character?

For “Twelve Angry Men,” I have a feeling that for my juror, I will bring as much of myself to it as I can. You personalize, and if there’s something you can’t quite relate to, you try to find something you can relate to, especially when the subject is as near and dear to my heart as this. I imagine somewhere my first thought was, he’s going to be something of a hot-brand. The role is usually played very cool, very rationally, so that we see a rational process, rather than one that’s based simply on passion. But I want to combine both. I want to get excited about the minutia on which this boy’s life hangs. Did you enjoy your time in Wilmington, filming “Dawson’s Creek?”

It was a magical experience. People forget, at the beginning of “Dawson’s Creek,” no one had ever seen a show written in that way, where the kids weren’t written down to. The kids were dealing with alienation, the feelings of your parents breaking up, things like that. What I found so interesting about Wilmington was the beaches, as well as the beautiful old homes. The ghost tour—if you’re in a city that’s old enough to have ghosts, how fabulous is that? There’s a lot of culture. And then there was this Hollywood-studio-meets-southeastern-coastal-town feeling we all had. I think for all of us, really, it’s a memory of a special and unique time.

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You spent some of your growing up years in Wake Forest, and you had an experience there that impacted your life then and again years later. Talk about that time, growing up the son of a Baptist preacher.

In 1969, I was a sophomore in high school, and my sister was a senior. My sister and I always had a Christmas party in the parsonage where we were living. In ’69, the schools in Wake Forest had been partially integrated. Some of our friends were African-American. One of the classmates invited was the daughter of the chair of the board of deacons of the church. On the Wednesday before the party, the deacons held a meeting and said we couldn’t have the party. My dad says, “I can’t go home and tell my kids we’re all created equal in the sight of God, but that some of their friends aren’t welcome.” As a result, during the party, there were eight bullets fired into the home, and we were all spared only because we were in the kitchen with the popcorn maker instead of in the living room. By the end of the weekend, my Dad was fired from the church and we were told to be out of town by sundown. As a result, we moved to Louisville, Kentucky, where my dad hired the first African-American associate pastor in the Southern Baptist Convention. So that all sounds really morose and grim. But flash forward 30 years later to 1999. I’m playing the popular father on “Dawson’s Creek.” A girl who attends the by-now racially integrated Wake Forest-Rolesville High comes to be on the show. She learns about this story and ends up inviting me to speak at graduation. They invited my whole family. I told that story and then ended my remarks on a really hopeful note and got a standing ovation. The next day, dad was invited to preach at the First Baptist Church in Wake Forest, the mayor of the town gave a public apology and gave my parents the key to the city. It was just wonderful. You were in the first television series of “The Flash” in the early 90s, and then in 2014, you found yourself on the set of the new “The Flash”...how was it to revisit that role after almost 25 years?

It was less strange to go back to it than to do it initially, because the entertainment culture had changed dramatically in those 25 years. The first time, my thought was, “Am I going to be running around in tights?” It was right at the dawn of a new way of telling these stories for television. They spent $100,000 to build four of those suits I wore! In 2014, we premiered our pilot in front of an oversold crowd, and 180,000 people took over San Diego for ComicCon. The new generation is used to seeing all the actors in costumes. Everyone takes it seriously now. In 1990, I was worried if I was going to be taken seriously doing this role. 58

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How did you choose acting as a career?

When I was in high school, and people were choosing their majors, I always felt lucky that I knew mine would be in the performing arts. I started piano at age 5. I went to Indiana University on a voice performance scholarship in the opera department. Eventually, for a variety of reasons, I switched my major to theater and minored in music. I eventually wound up in New York to continue theater studies. I’m the only person in America who went into acting because it was easier! It’s always been a calling, and I’ve always been grateful that it’s been a calling and not an occupation. I don’t take any of it for granted. I don’t care whether it’s daytime TV or Shakespeare. It’s a story about human beings and there’s a reason that story is being told. Getting the audience to invest in the story—that’s a calling. But you also have to make sure it doesn’t become so important that it consumes you. So in that way, you have to make sure it’s just a job. Some great advice I got one time was to show up and be of service. I really try to live my life that way, and approach my work and career in that fashion. So if I’m working with actors when I come to North Carolina for “Twelve Angry Men” who are less experienced, it’s my job to make them comfortable. Throughout your career, what have you enjoyed most about the craft of acting?

I enjoy trying to find the truth of the moment. There’s nothing more exciting to me than when you and your partners have realized that what you are creating is greater than the sum of its parts. If ever there was a play that invites that creativity, spirituality and truth of the moment, so that audience isn’t breathing, and you’ve connected with them spiritually—it’s “Twelve Angry Men.” If you play the truth of what’s happening, and the acting goes out of it, that’s the reason to be an actor for me.

John Wesley Shipp takes the stage in Judson Theatre’s production of “Twelve Angry Men” Sept. 22-25 at Owens Auditorium in Pinehurst. For tickets, visit www.judsontheatre.com .

Do you enjoy performing in front of a live audience, and do you draw from the audience reaction?

Stage acting is something when it’s operating at its finest, it’s happening on an almost subconscious level. You have your focus right in the moment on stage, but you have a larger consciousness of what’s going on everywhere else. So that person who’s falling asleep in the third row can really knock you off your game! There’s a feeling that moves through a theater. Different audiences see completely different things. You’ll notice that moments don’t always play the same--was it the mood the audience was in that day? Was it something that just occurred to you? That’s the wonderful thing about theater. You get to do it again and again and again. You also have that synergy that happens between actors and an audience that you don’t have on a sound stage. Where’s home for you, and do you have any plans for slowing down?

I started my acting career in New York in the late ’70s, and then I moved to L.A. for 23 years. Now, I’m back in Manhattan, and I could not be happier. Coming back to New York is a decision I should have made a decade before I did. I think I feel at home here, because it’s where I got started creatively. It felt like coming home. Every corner I go around in New York, there’s a memory waiting for me.

I’ll probably get right back to the regular shooting schedule, shooting “Flash” in Vancouver. I will probably be busy with comic book conventions, too. I try to do as many of those as my schedule allows, because that’s how you connect with your audience. What goals do you have for your second 50?

I know people have those lists, but I am constantly amazed by the freshness and variety of what presents itself to me. Who could have dreamed I would be going back to the franchise 25 years later that I got started with? My goal is to do rich and varied characters that hit audiences where they live. That’s the juice of my life. I want to keep showing up and making myself available to the one surprise after another that has been my life so far. Any plans after “Twelve Angry Men,” for vacation or golf in the area?

Speaking of golf, my nephew, Benjamin Shipp, was just ranked the No. 1 high school golfer in the country! He’s going to N.C. State on a golf scholarship. I don’t know yet if I’ll have time to spend there, but I hope so. North Carolina is one of the most beautiful states in the Union. If people have not been there, they really don’t know what Carolina blue really means—oh, that sky! I hope I have some time to stay and enjoy it! SEPTEMBER 2016 |

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orris Hodgkins, Jr., the legendary Mr. Southern Pines, has written a book, “A Southern Pines Life,” chronicling his 89 years and explaining many Moore County organizations in which he was involved. The list is endless: Weymouth Center for the Arts and Humanities, Moore Regional Hospital, Country Club of North Carolina, Sandhills Community College, Kiwanis, newspapering, and service in local politics and in the industrial development of the area. The beauty of this memoir is that Hodgkins remembers it all, names and faces, facts and humor. I have always called him “my source,” because if I needed to know something for my writing, I could count on him to supply the answer. Once I was searching for something for the Moore County Historical Association, so I called Norris, and he said, “It’s down at the bank.” Sure enough, the answer I needed was there. Another time, I was searching for addresses of donors to the Sunrise Theater. When I would call out a name, I could hear his Rolodex spinning, and he not only gave me addresses but also a story to go along with each person. When I asked how he remembered it all, he said, “I was a banker and had to know my customers.” Read his book. No one knows more than he about all the happenings during his active life. You’ll learn a lot, as I did.

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OVER MY SHOULDER

Now What? by Ann Robson

or many of us, our 50th birthday brings varied feelings. Is my life really half over? What can I still do? What’s next? I was very lucky as the month I turned 50 happened to be one of the busiest in my life: a wonderful surprise party; a trip to Ireland with my mother and daughter; news that we were relocating, and while my husband was off to Europe on a business trip, I was asked to “find us a house.” So that left little time to ponder what 50 years meant. However, the following year some friends took me out to lunch and, quite suddenly, it struck me that I was now in my 50s. In retrospect, 50 had come and gone, and the earth hadn’t opened up and swallowed me. Lesson learned: It was just another day, one to celebrate and enjoy. With help from the greeting card industry, the 50th birthday has turned into a circus, and not a fun circus. Black balloons and gloom and doom cards form the backdrop. This need not be. First, getting to 50 is an achievement to be relished. It is not our mothers’ 50. It is ours, and we can do with it what we wish. It’s not the end of the world, only a midway point. So now what? Keep living a good life and enjoying what you are already doing. Attitude is everything. If you think you’re old and about to be put out to pasture, you’ll act that way. If you look in the mirror and see an older person staring back, change the

view. Smile—that’ll take 10 years off. Think happy thoughts. Make a plan that includes some fun. It’s never too late to try something you’ve always wanted to do but didn’t have the time or opportunity. Activities abound— volunteering, painting, dancing, exercising, cooking, playing tennis or golf, perfecting your craft skills, writing, reading and the list goes on. If you’re approaching 50 and worrying about your financial future, it’s still not too late. Having enough money with which to retire is the No. 1 concern for retirees and pre-retirees. Start today! A conversation with a certified financial planner will help get you started and make you feel so much better. Housing is also part of the after-50 picture. There may be fewer people in your home, so do you need a lot of space? If you plan to age in place, plan now for repairs or remodeling. Talk to your spouse and when you have agreed on a plan, tell the rest of your family. They may bring up things you hadn’t thought about. It’s also a good idea to make medical decisions and share that information. In your family, or circle of friends, you know whom you can count on to follow your wishes, but don’t just assume they will be willing. Be sure to ask first. I would be an idiot if I pretended that the “second 50” didn’t bring some ups and downs. It will be different for each of us. But look around, you’re not the only one. Good luck with your second 50!

Robson is the author of “Over My Shoulder: Tales of Life and Death and Everything In Between.” She can be reached at overmyshoulder@charter.net .

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OutreachNC asked adults and children our September question. Share your answer on our Facebook page.

What’s the best part about getting older?

Learning to relax and enjoy life as it comes. —Robert, 83 I love the freedom. Nobody really cares what I think or say. Some folks think it’s funny that an older American has a few brain cells left. I play duplicate bridge with a partner who is 97 years old. Make a wrong move, and she will clean your clock. And then we both fall out laughing. —Margaret Grace, 85

Freedom. —Mac, 84 Seeing the continuation of life for parents, my generation and generations to come. I have a son two grandsons, one great grandson and more coming along. —Lauchlin, 86

With age comes wisdom about the past, the present and the future. —Jan, 70

Scotia Village. —Elizabeth, 84

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I get to go to the Moore County Senior Enrichment Center and do all their activities, plus get discounts at restaurants, but I always forget to use that one! —Theresa, 55 Retirement and travel. —Kathryn, 60 Grandchildren, because you can spoil them and give them back. —Robin, 52

There’s a freedom after your children are grown to start hobbies or a second career and reinvent yourself. —Elizabeth, 53

Being able to go places: the beach, the mountains and travel the world without asking permission. —Ella Grace, 10

Being like Grandpa and not caring what you say. —Chelton, 12 Singing.

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Being able to reach the Fruit Loops on top of the fridge. —Anna Jane, 4 I will be able to ride horses. —Mia, 4 Living. You watch and learn from grown men and women doing what they love, and shape your own life out of it. You find your likes and dislikes. —Emma, 9 Being able to drive myself around. —Michael, 12

To take care of myself because I am tired of Mommy, Gammy and Pop. I can take care of myself. —Audrina, 5 Going hunting and shooting guns. —David, 6

Being wiser. —Chandler, 7 Longer mid-morning and late afternoon cat naps in my hammock. —OutreachNC Co-editor Jeeves, 3

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