OutreachNC magazine - April 2015

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Navigating Lifestyle Choices for Active Adults A P RI L 2015 VO LUM E 6, I SSUE 4

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features April 2015

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Those Who Laugh, Last

by Jonathan Scott Travel to Wilmington for interviews with comedians sharing how humor heals.

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Gardens, Grandparents and Grandchildren, Oh My!

by Gayvin Powers A day trip perfect for families at the Sarah P. Duke Gardens and additional botanical gardens to see now.

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Partners in Picnicking

by Gayvin Powers Spring picnics in the park and some of the best parks to visit.

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Fireflies, Sharks' Teeth and Mac 'n' Cheese

by Nan Leaptrott Memories of family vacations with grandchildren at Carolina Beach and sea shores to consider for a quick trip.

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Flowering Apricot Trees

by Ruth Moose A spring poem.

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Knit One, Purl Two

by Michelle Goetzl A local knitting circle in Southern Pines and where you can go to find one for near you.

"Millie Yongue's Azaleas" photography by Stacey Yongue

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Carolina Conversations

by Gayvin Powers An interview with Jessie Mackay, artist.

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11 life

11 Cooking Simple

by Rhett Morris

52 Gray Matter

12 Literary Circle

by Cos Barnes

56 Generations

55 Resource Page

COMPLIMENTARY

14 Belle Weather

by Celia Rivenbark

Navigating Lifestyle Choices

for Active Adults

APRIL 2015 VOLUME 6, ISSUE 4

Trip DayIssue

16 Sentimental Journey

by Jennifer Pollard

Plus FOR DISCOVER DAY TRIPS PERFECT OVER 50 GRANDPARENTS AND COUPLES | THOSE WHO LAUGH, LAST LAUGHTER AS MEDICINE CIRCLES NEAR YOU KNIT ONE, PURL TWO: KNITTING

17 T he Gentleman's Notebook

by Ray Linville 18 Better with Age

by Gayvin Powers

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9 The Family Tree

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from the editor

Editor-in-Chief Gayvin Powers | gayvinp@OutreachNC.com Creative Director Stacey Yongue | staceyy@OutreachNC.com

T

he summer after my grandfather died, my grandmother was itching for a change of scenery, and the result was a two-week road trip across the country with my grandmother, mother, brother and me packed in her white Buick with plush, red interior.

Within an hour of starting our trip, a buzzer from the dashboard lit up the sleepy car like a siren. My grandmother, who was known for driving 55 mph, was shocked to discover the speedometer alarm was set and going off. She was driving 74 mph! Within moments, all of us started laughing. We knew who had set the alarm. Gone but not forgotten, my grandfather had decided to play one last joke on my grandmother.

Over the next two weeks, our trip was filled with discovery, laughter, exploration, family and love. Sure, there was the perpetual battle between my brother and me staying on our respective sides of the imaginary line down the back seat, but that animosity quickly faded away while swimming in the hotel pool that night. For 100 glorious miles, my brother and I each got our first taste at driving while sitting on our grandmother’s lap and taking in the vast stretch of the Kansas plains. There was no laughing at the chicken fried steak we devoured at diners throughout the South – I thought I’d died and gone to heaven.

Laughter is powerful medicine. It brings people closer together, heals wounds and connects others when there aren’t words to express sadness. Times we spend taking road trips with friends and family, combined with humor, are moments that can last a lifetime.

Join us this month while we explore day trips and celebrate the power laughter has on the soul. Read about taking excursions throughout North Carolina, reflecting on a grandmother traveling with grandchildren, getting the last laugh with local comedians, rediscovering knitting circles, planning for the future, viewing a restored sports car with an interesting past and uncovering the health benefits to laughter.

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Laughter As Medicine

by Amy Natt, MS, CMC, CSA As my wife and I get older we joke about having “senior moments” when we can’t remember where we put something or the name of a friend at church. Then more recently I had a medical procedure that required me to be homebound for several weeks, and I started to really get down in the dumps. My wife started playing old episodes of "I Love Lucy" and it really helped me get through the day. Is it true that a good laugh can really help healing?

There is actually quite a bit of research surrounding the use of humor as a coping mechanism as people navigate the many challenges life can bring. Often as people age, they face change and loss that feels beyond their control and it can cause that “down in the dumps” feeling you talked about. The truth is we are all aging from birth and as we face the ups and downs of life, a good laugh can be the best medicine.

Humor is all around us, but at times we may not see it. Seeking out ways to laugh can be very beneficial, even when we have to create those opportunities. The old sitcoms are a great go-to resource, so your wife was spot on in her strategy to help you through a tough situation.

Just think of all the classic comedies and sit-coms that are now readily available through cable, satellite and the Internet. YouTube is also great for looking up old comedy skits, like Carole Burnett and Tim Conway.

Humor and the subsequent laughter have many therapeutic effects on the body. Most of us don’t take humor seriously enough. There are few activities that are as mentally demanding and intellectually stimulating as laughter. It can help you develop perspective in a situation and break up a tense moment. Having a good sense of humor can keep you mentally fit while adding fun and enjoyment to your life.

We know that laughter relaxes the whole body; a good hardy laugh will relieve physical tension and stress.

Laughter triggers the release of endorphins to promote an overall sense of well-being. It often releases pent up feelings of anger and frustration. An optimistic outlook

can significantly improve the way you approach life.

There are physical benefits too. Research has shown that laughter can help protect the heart by improving the function of blood vessels and blood flow. It boosts the immune system by decreasing stress hormones and increasing immune cells and infection-fighting antibodies. Some people report reduced pain and lower blood pressure, so maybe a laugh a day can help keep the doctor away.

There can also be social benefits. Laughter is contagious! It tends to draw others to us and strengthens relationships. It can help defuse conflict and promote positive bonding and connections. People have a tendency to feel less lonely and more united when they can share a laugh with someone else. It can be family, friends, social groups or support groups. People need people and sharing a laugh is a great bond.

So yes, a good laugh really can help us heal in many ways. Seek out ways to add laughter to your life. Laugh at yourself. Share embarrassing moments. Look for the humor in situations rather than bemoaning them.

Surround yourself with funny quotes, pictures, people and television shows to help keep things in perspective.

Deal with your stress, as stress is a major impediment to humor and laughter. Finally, pay attention to children and emulate them; they are experts on playing and laughing and can often brighten even the lousiest day!

“You don’t stop laughing because you’re old. You grow old because you stop laughing.”

“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.”

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Check List for Lightening Up Is it really worth getting upset over?

Is it worth upsetting others?

Is it that important?

Is it that bad?

Is the situation irreparable?

Is it really your problem?

Anti-Aging Response to Daily Laughter It reduces stress It helps us sleep better It uses a lot of muscles It improves lung capacity and blood oxygen levels It boosts our energy level It is a natural and free anti-aging tool It is contagious – it will extend to the people around you

Each month, readers write Natt, a certified senior adviser and care manager, questions about aging. Email her at amyn@agingoutreachservices.com.

The Family Tree

by Pam Hudson

I have a young friend by the name of Nora. She is one of these people that will bring a smile and a chuckle to your heart even when you just think of her, and especially when you get to see her.

She told me a joke the other day, and it goes like this: “What is a dog’s favorite snack?”

“What is a dog’s favorite snack?” “’Pup’corn.”

You know, I think it is very cute and one of those jokes that makes you both chuckle and groan at the same time.

I love it when someone shares humor with me and we get to laugh together. There is something deeply connecting about laughter, like a deep root that joins us all together.

When you can laugh with someone it is life-enhancing, and in this world of so much miscommunication, it affirms our shared abilities to have understanding with one another at least on some level.

My family of origin enjoyed humor. With love, we kidded and teased each other a lot. I believe it was a

sign of deep affection as we laughed together often. I remember once I was kidding my mother and three of her sisters about their ability to all four speak at once and yet still understand one another. They loved talking with each other and like my grandmother, their mother, they knew the art of great and long conversations. And in my cheeky way I told them that the apples don’t fall far from the tree.

Without missing a beat in conversation my mother looked at me and said, “Not to worry, it’s all right because the nuts don’t either!”

I do know and believe that humor and laughter have a way of bonding us to one another that can leave us feeling uplifted and loved. When we laugh together we share, for a moment, one heart.

Pam Hudson, stewardship with The Foundation of FirstHealth.

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COOKING SIMPLE

Grilled Garlic Shrimp Spring Salad

by Rhett Morris I Photography by Diana Matthews

In honor of Garlic Day on April 19, we’re bringing you a healthy salad alternative to add to your spring mix.

Ingredients 6 cloves minced garlic 1 lb. peeled and deveined 16-20 shrimp 1 lemon zested and juiced Olive oil 1tbl. mustard 1 tsp. brown sugar 1 tbl. red wine vinegar Salt and pepper to taste Wooden skewers; soak in water at least for a hour ½ cup shredded carrot ½ cup chopped cucumber ½ cup diced tomato Salad greens (beet, lettuce, kale, mustard greens)

Directions

Place garlic, lemon zest, 1/2 of lemon juice, and 2 tbl. olive oil in bowl and mix together. Add shrimp, cover and let marinate for one hour. In a separate bowl whisk mustard, remaining 1/2 lemon juice, brown sugar, vinegar, pinch of salt and pepper together. Whisk in about 1/3 cup of olive oil until emulsified. Cut greens into thin slices and add prepared vegetables of your choice; put aside until ready to serve. Heat grill or broiler to very high heat. Take shrimp out and put on skewers. Grill or broil shrimp for 3 to 4 minutes per side until shrimp have turned opaque. Mix greens with dressing and put on plates. Top with shrimp.

You may add any other raw veggies you like on a salad. The local farmers will have a great variety of greens this month to make this salad with.

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life LITERARY CIRCLE

“Four Seasons in Rome” Book Review by Cos Barnes

How wonderful it is when someone interprets a book for you. “Four Seasons in Rome” by Anthony Doerr was beautifully explained to my book club by a friend whose daughter had taken a creative writing course with him while they were both at Boudin College some years back. Most of us had read it as a diary about a struggling young author, who is the father of newborn twin sons, suffering from insomnia when he finally got the babies to sleep. He had won a year in Rome to write a novel, “All the Light We Do Not See,” from the prestigious American Acadeny of Arts and Letters with a stipend and a writing studio.

While dragging the children’s gear from pillow to post, Doerr saw to it that they saw all the sights as he observed the architecture of the eternal city and absorbed its history. His wife had her share of frustrations, too, moving from Boise, Idaho, to the splendor and frustration of something so un-American.

The light of Rome was frequently referred to by the presenter, as were the swallows, the granite obelisk, and the pantheon, of which Doerr said, “Your mind caved in when you saw it.”

Rome was so old to the 31-year-old new father, who exposed his two young boys, Henry and Owen, to the sunflowers in Umbria every Wednesday and accompanyed them to the largest funeral in the world when Pope John Paul II died.

He reads the chroniclers of Rome, Dante, Keats and Pliny. His words are pretty poetic, too, as he writes about “the throat of a street,” “a church floats,” and “Rome is a gown with a strap down – not all put together.”

In Doerr’s words, “Without the habit of beauty, we would be overwhelmed.” He is a very spiritual writer who knows how to turn a phrase.

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Husband and I Would Never Fly Such Friendly Skies

by Celia Rivenbark

I don't think I have ever read a more unbelievable news story than the one last week about a husband and wife who used their iPads to safely land their small plane when its electrical system failed.

I'm not amazed that you could land a plane with an iPad. I got one and it does everything but roll over and ask me to scratch its belly so, yeah, I get that.

What shocks me is that this couple managed to focus on the task at hand and calmly communicate with one another while flying 80 miles in pitch black darkness.

There was not a single media report of the unnamed married couple, at any time, blaming each other for "not checking the electrical system before we left," "expecting me, who can't even figure out how to change the time on the microwave, to suddenly LAND A FREAKING PLANE using this gizmo the kids gave us."

No judgments. No recriminations. No screeching. I wasn't in the cockpit, obviously, but it seems like this couple showed an otherworldly calm in the face of death.

How else do you explain their deliberate monitoring of airspeed and altitude as they landed their plane, sans landing gear, on a little-used runway in Rapid City, S.D.?

En route from Wyoming to Wisconsin, this couple should, at the very least, have a statue made entirely of cheese erected in their honor once they get back home.

I can tell you exactly how this would've played out if Duh Hubby and I had been in that cockpit.

DH: "The electrical system has shut down completely.

I want you to try to get the airspeed on your iPad and I'll work on altitude till we can land this puppy."

Me: "Our Father, who art in heaven..."

DH: "We have to sync our iPads right now! We're going to go down in flames unless we can do this!"

Me: "Right. Roger that. Hey. What's my password?"

DH: "You don't know your own password?"

Me: "I can't remember it but I think it's 'I'M FLYING COMMERCIAL FROM NOW ON INSTEAD OF USING THIS DUMB BUTT PLANE YOU GLUED TOGETHER LIKE IT WAS A BOOKCASE FROM IKEA.'" DH: "Oh, for heaven's sake. Give me your iPad; I'll do it."

Me: "Hallowed be thy name..."

DH: "Give it here!"

Me: "OK, but don't lose my place. I'm serious. It took me forever to find that chicken cacciatore recipe."

DH: "You know this wouldn't have happened if you had let me buy the next model up. But noooooooo..."

Me: "I don't know why we have to fly ourselves everywhere.

There's not even a BATHROOM in this thing. Which reminds me. I really have to go..."

DH: "Are you serious right now?"

Me: "Well, you rushed me out of Wyoming. I don't want to die having to pee...or having secrets. I should tell you... these aren't real."

DH: "Whaat?"

Me: "That's right. They're Airwalks from Payless, not real Uggs."

Celia Rivenbark is the author of "Rude Bitches Make Me Tired" and six other humor collections.

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S E N T I M E N TA L J O U R N E Y

Track 29

by Jennifer Pollard, MSW

A wise woman told me once, she wouldn’t feel comfortable living in a town that didn’t have a train going through it. Now that I live in a town with a train, I know exactly what she meant. There is something about looking down the long length of track and imagining all the possible adventures that could be in store. Or thinking of the many people who have journeyed right over those very same tracks.

While speaking to a local elder, he shared a memory of a whistle stop tour that had come right through Southern Pines. He was 10 at the time, and it seemed like just yesterday he went with his family to the Southern Pines train station to see Franklin Delano Roosevelt deliver a speech. Oct. 25, 1932, left an indelible memory in this man’s life. An exciting day when a train brought a presidential hopeful to town that would become our nation’s only four-term president.

Trains are not only a means of moving freight, they are an exciting way to travel great distances, enjoy a meal and sit back and let someone else do all the driving.

I cannot think of a train without humming along to "Chattanooga Choo Choo," which was introduced by the Glen Miller Band in 1941 and quickly hit No. 1 for nine weeks. (Even though I didn’t grow up anywhere near a train track, I was raised by a father that loved 1940s music more than anything else. In our family, you were

as likely to know all the words to "Chattanooga Choo Choo" as you would the catechism at Catholic school.)

That song made train travel seem glamorous. And after all, "nothing could be finer than to have your ham and eggs in Carolina." It’s no wonder I left Florida to claim a North Carolina town with a train that ran through it.

‘Pardon me boy. Is that the Chattanooga Choo Choo? Track 29.

Boy can you give me a shine? I can afford to board the Chattanooga Choo Choo. I’ve got my fare and just a trifle to spare. You leave the Pennsylvania station 'bout a quarter to four. Read a magazine and then you’re in Baltimore. Dinner in the diner, nothing could be finer, than to have your ham and eggs in Carolina.

When you hear the whistle blowing eight to the bar. Then you know that Tennessee is not very far. Shovel all the coal in. Gotta keep it rolling. Woo woo Chattanooga, there you are.

There’s going to be a certain party at the station. Satin and lace. You used to call funny face.

She’s gonna cry, until I tell her that I’ll never roam. So Chattanooga Choo Choo, won’t you choo choo me home?

Get aboard….All aboard……"

What memories or songs come to mind when you think of trains? Did you ever see a presidential whistle stop tour? I hope you share your memories with me.

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T H E G E N T L E M A N ' S N OT E B O O K

Taking a Historic Walk

by Ray Linville

Interested in taking a good long walk? Sure. Want to trace the path of an English explorer taken through the Carolinas in the early 1700s? It all depends, right? What’s the temperature? How much rain and how many snakes? What and when do we get to eat?

Most of us remember history lessons about Lewis and Clark, whose expedition in the early 1800s explored and mapped territory from Missouri westward to the Pacific Ocean. Along the way, a major part of their task was to study and sketch plants, animals and geography.

Equally important in this area was a similarly significant journey, more than 100 years before Lewis and Clark took their first steps. This one began in 1700, only a few years after the Carolina Colony had been chartered by King Charles II of England. Little was known about the territory that now comprises North and South Carolina and Georgia of today.

Enter John Lawson, who was commissioned by colonial authorities to learn more about the interior of the colony. Although the coastal areas were being explored in depth, the Europeans knew little about the region farther inland.

With several companions and native guides, Lawson tromped through the Carolina wilderness nearly 600 miles over several weeks to describe animals, plants, crops and natives. He dutifully recorded detailed descriptions in his journal and later returned to London in 1709 to publish "A New Voyage to Carolina." The book attracted many

new immigrant settlers to the colony because it was also translated into German and French.

Perhaps Lawson is the first person we can credit with recording the enjoyable outdoor life of North Carolina.

The climate is “healthful,” and the land is very fruitful,” he writes. Because the soil is rich, the inhabitants “live an easy and pleasant life.” Lawson also describes more than 70 varieties of seafood in the Carolina waters and pronounces catfish as being “very plentiful.” He identifies more than 25 “beasts” that can be hunted, proclaims that bear meat is “very good” and enjoys a “curious ragoo” made with venison and possum.

Proving that history needs to be lived and outdoor life enjoyed, a modern-day explorer is undertaking Lawson’s journey. Scott Huler, an award-winning author who lives in Raleigh, has begun a modern walking exploration through the Carolinas to retrace Lawson’s footsteps.

Unlike Lawson, Huler is not waiting nine years to publish his account. To share his observations, he is documenting his journey online. His blog The Lawson Trek (www. lawsontrek.com) is updated with posts, images, sound, and video. On Twitter (@LawsonTrek), Huler is also tweeting images and thoughts – routine and unusual – about his adventures and has observed that he often is “walking along a sand road that has probably been trodden by human feet for a thousand years or more.”

Check out Huler’s posts and images, and follow him as he shares a historical perspective of the Carolina outdoor life.

Ray Linville writes and lectures about the history and culture of the American South, particularly its foodways. Contact Linville at: linville910@gmail.com.

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by Gayvin Powers photography by Stacey Yongue

THIS 1955 PORSCHE 356 SPEEDSTER SUPER OWNED BY GEORGE KEHLER WON THE PORSCHE CLASS AT THE 2013 CONCOURS D'ELEGANCE IN PINEHURST.

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Known in the 1954 New York Auto Show as a “snappy Porsche Roadster,” the Porsche 356 Speedster Super soft-top is easily identified with its bent (center-creased) windscreen, produced from 1953 to 1955. The 356 is considered Porsche’s first “production automobile.”

This classic beauty was on display in 2013, the inaugural year of the Concours d’Elegance in Pinehurst, where George Kehler, owner and an emergency-room doctor from Johnson City, Tennessee, won the Porsche class. Prior to making it to Pinehurst, the little car had a big history.

Originally, the car was owned by Roberto Reyes, a sports car enthusiast from El Salvador, in 1955. Reyes and the Rodriguez brothers (Pedro and Ricardo) extensively raced the car throughout El Salvador and Guatemala, winning races and setting lap times, including 16-year-old Ricardo Rodriguez, who was clocked with the fastest lap before he lost a wheel in a Porsche 550 RS. This year, historic and rare autos will be gracing the fairways at the iconic Pinehurst Resort on Friday, May 1, through Saturday, May 2, 2015.

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Porsche Trivia To celebrate the 60th birthday of Kehler’s snappy Porsche Roadster, take a look at some of the Porsche highlights that have transpired over the years.

According to Porsche.com, the following is some trivia about the car: • The 1898 Lohner-Porsche Elektromobil was the first car in the world with brakes on all four wheels.

• Professor Ferdinand Porsche chauffeured Archduke Franz Ferdinand in a Lohner-Porsche in 1902.

• U.S. importer Max Hoffman displayed the first U.S. Porsches in his New York City showroom by late 1950.

• In 1952, U.S. auto maker Studebaker contracted Porsche to develop a new car and engine.

• Hoffman conducted Porsche 356 test drives on Park Avenue, an accomplishment that could not be proficiently duplicated today.

• An exhibit at the Museum of Modern Art in 1953 featured 10 automobiles, including a 1952 Porsche 1500 Super.

• The word "Continental" appeared on the side of the 1955 Porsche Coupe and Cabriolet, but only in North America.

• The inaugural Porsche Parade took place in greater Washington, D.C., on Aug. 29, 1956.

• The first appearance of a Porsche at the historic 12 Hours of Sebring endurance race was in 1956, piloted by Hans Herrmann.

• The 1950s Porsche airplane engine (based on the 356Õs 1.6 L) could power a helicopter when mounted vertically.

• Rear seats, headlights, and higher bumpers were the prime accessories fitting a new Porsche in 1960. The starting price for one of these new models was a whopping $3,400.

• The first American citizen to win a Formula One Championship victory at a U.S. track while driving a Porsche was Dan Gurney in 1961.

• Dan Gurney also won Porsche's first world championship Grand Prix victory at Rouen, France, in 1962.

• At the end of its production in 1965, Porsche 356 models were being produced exclusively for the American market.

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Those Who Laugh, Last Traveling to Wilmington for Comedy

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ou'd be astonished if your doctor's advice included “Take two evenings at a comedy club and call me in the morning.” The truth is, that prescription might not be so far-fetched. Despite the claims of alternative health practitioners that the connection between the body and the mind is a new discovery, the health benefits of humor have been known for millennia.

The Bible itself proclaims in Proverbs 17:22, “A merry heart doeth good like a medicine.” It's reported that Queen Elizabeth I, suffering from royal depression, was regularly amused by her court jester who “cured her melancholy better than all her physicians.” And for most of the 20th century, the Reader's Digest published a selection of jokes under a title that could have been coined by the author of Proverbs. It was called “Laughter, the Best Medicine.”

If you're old enough to remember the late Norman Cousins, you probably don't recall that he was once adjunct professor of medical humanities for the School of Medicine at the University of California. What you might remember, though, is his book "Anatomy of an Illness." In it, Cousins detailed his excruciating battle with reactive arthritis and how he helped cure himself by watching Marx Brothers films and reruns of TV's "Candid Camera."

"I made the joyous discovery,” he wrote, “that 10 minutes of genuine belly laughter had an anesthetic effect and would give me at least two hours of pain-free sleep.”

It may have taken thousands of years for medicine to catch up to the sound observation of Proverbs, but modern science is revealing the often unexpected benefits of comedy. In his 1989 book, "Healthy Pleasures," the distinguished psychologist Robert Ornstein reported a study that proved “watching a humorous videotape of Richard Pryor temporarily boosted levels of antibodies in saliva that help defend against infections like colds.

The immune enhancement only lasted an hour, but those subjects who reported using humor frequently as a way of coping with life’s stresses had consistently higher baseline levels of these protective antibodies.”

“So,” he concludes, “it may be necessary to laugh often.”

Timmy Sherrill isn't a health care practitioner, but he is co-owner of a business in Wilmington, North Carolina, that dispenses a good dose of the health benefits of comedy. Tuesday through Saturday evenings, the Dead Crow Comedy Room offers its patrons 90 minute comedy sets that are full of reasons to laugh.

Entertainers run the gamut from nervous first-timers at Open Mic nights, to the Port City's regular comedians, to seasoned stand-up comics who are more than happy to include a gig in Wilmington in their national tours.

“I'm really a comedian,” Sherrill admits. “I originally opened a comedy club to provide myself with stage time.”

The thing is, though, Sherrill rarely performs. “I enjoy hosting the shows so I can control the energy, but I try not to take advantage. I'd rather leave it to the young guys who need the exposure.”

Sherrill and his partner, Cole Craven, take running the business of their comedy club as a mission that almost resembles public service. “I realized during our first year that the club meant more to the community than I ever expected. It's become important to the town.”

Sherrill and Craven ran their club for four years as Nutt Street Comedy in a space adjacent to their current home.

Since June of 2014, the club has been operating as Dead Crow. It's only one of several comedy clubs in Wilmington, but the only one open full time.

Thirty-six-year old Lew Morgante is one of the Port City's best-known and best-loved comedians and a regular at Dead Crow. His career as a comic started one night while he was swapping tales in a local bar. One of Morgante's buddies encouraged him to try his stories on stage. “I went to Open Mic night at the club for a month,” he says, “just sitting in the audience, watching. Finally I got up the nerve to try it. I always wound up performing dead last. That left a lot of time to be nervous.”

Nervous or not, it didn't take long for Morgante's sense of humor and natural likability to make him successful as a standup comedian. “It's a little like being a runner. First you might feel pain, but if you keep going you finally get that natural high of good, positive energy.

“There's nothing better than walking down the street and having somebody recognize me, roll down his car window and shout out one of my routine bits. Or when a cashier remembers something I said on stage that made her day.”

Asked where all this therapeutic humor comes from, Morgante answers with the same self-deprecation that makes him so funny on stage. “Most of my stories come from my own life, from poking fun at myself. I make everybody feel like we're all on the same level, so I'm letting out their own inner voices. At the end of the day, we all feel like idiots but we can laugh about it.”

“I can't say enough about the guys and girls who are our local talent pool,” says club owner Sherrill. “It's amazing the amount of talent we have locally. Our comedy scene is unique and it's all because of their talent.”

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Crow, but his career has taken him to forty one states on it and see if I can come up with something that I think and ten countries, including two armed forces tours. His will really work. I can keep working on it right up to show act has been featured in comedy festivals from Boston to time.”

Vancouver and in the prestigious HBO Comedy Festival in One night an inebriated gentleman became impatient Las Vegas. with Hooper as the comedian was struggling for the third Asked how long he’s been interested in comedy, Hooper time with a new bit. Hooper remembers, “He threw his pauses as if he can't remember a time when he hands up in the air and shouted, 'What the hell are wasn’t. “I had a friend in the fourth you doing?' I started laughing—a real grade,” he says finally. “We used to belly laugh—because, drunk or not, the kid around a lot, and he would say we guy was right. If he hadn't stopped me would be comedians when we grew I would have kept on struggling. It was up. It planted an idea in my mind that one of the best times I ever had on stage.”

More information on the never went away.

So why pay to be entertained at a Dead Crow Comedy Room “The thing is, I'm actually shy and comedy club when you can stay home can be found at hated doing public speaking in high and watch the Comedy Channel in your DeadCrowComedy.com school. I didn't think I would ever have pajamas? Robert R. Provine, professor the nerve to stand up in front of an of psychology and neuroscience at the Timmy Sherrill operates audience. And I don't really know what University of Maryland found that a web site that promotes it was that finally pushed me to try it. people are thirty times more likely to not only his club but the “Before my first show I felt the laugh when they're around other people rest of the Wilmington worst fear I ever have had in my life. than when they're alone. “People who comedy scene at I was supposed to be on stage for five laugh a lot,” he speculates on WebMD, PortCityComedy.com minutes but only made half that long— “may just have a strong connection to the Learn more about and for some of that time I bombed. people around them. That in itself might Lew Morgante at But getting even a few laughs from 300 have health benefits.”

LewMorgante.com people was exhilarating.

Research into the health benefits “By my seventh time on stage, it of humor is sure to continue, but Learn more about finally worked. It was the best thing Lew Morgante doesn't need scientific Paul Hooper at I ever felt. 'This is it,' I thought. I was evidence to convince him of the value of PaulHooperComedy.com totally committed.”

Wilmington's comedy scene. “We're all Like Lew Morgante, Hooper gets his constantly being bombarded with bad material from his own life. Naturally shy or not, he's likes news,” he says. “Everybody needs a release. A comedy club being truthful in his act, and that honesty plays well with gives people a way to laugh and escape, so they can survive the audience. “I have these bits I think are a little strange,” and get to the next day.” he says. “About small stuff like my love for Reese's Cups It turns out that his words echo those of King Solomon but also heavier stuff like anxiety. Some people remember who, a great number of centuries ago, wrote about the those lines, and they'll come up to tell me how much that effects of being happy on longevity. “The joyfulness of a connected with them.” man,” he wrote in Ecclesiasticus 30:22, “prolongeth his After seventeen years as a comic, the thirty nine-year days.” old has a good idea of what's funny. He'll get an idea and The crowd leaving the Dead Crow Comedy Room would store it away in his phone to work on later. “I'll daydream surely say, “Amen.”

Quick Trips: Local Comedy Clubs

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Good Nights Comedy Club 861 W Morgan Street, Raleigh, NC 27603

DSI Comedy Theater 462 W Franklin Street, Chapel Hill, NC 27516

Comedy Worx 431 W Peace Street, Raleigh, NC 27603

Dead Crow Comedy Room 265 N Front Street, Wilmington, NC 28401

The Comedy Zone 900 NC Music Factory Boulevard, Charlotte, NC 28206

The Comedy Zone Worldwide 1000 NC Music Factory Boulevard, Charlotte, NC 28269

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Gardens, Grandparents and Grandchildren, Oh My! Day Trips to Botanical Gardens in North Carolina

by Gayvin Powers

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PHOTOGRAPHY BY PAUL JONES

ne of the most rewarding relationships is that between grandparents and grandchildren, and day trips are a great way to foster that relationship. Spring is here, and botanical gardens are a wonderful way to entertain and educate children on what nature has to offer. North Carolina has several breathtaking botanical gardens where families can enjoy landscapes, including Asian gardens, fruit orchards, native plants, bamboo gardens, bird watching, butterfly gardens, ponds, organic gardens and more. In Durham, The Sarah P. Duke Gardens at Duke University is considered a national architectural treasure with its sweeping vistas, array of landscapes and a hands-on garden for children of all ages.

This year marks the 100th birthday of Charlotte Brody, a master gardener and columnist, whose namesake graces the discovery garden at Duke University. Ahead of her time, Brody spent 40 years dedicated to spreading the word about organic foods and cultivating a healthy lifestyle.

Daniel Shiff, Brody’s grandson, summed up his grandmother and the enchantment of the garden, saying, ‘The Charlotte Brody Discovery Garden has been created and forever will be her legacy, a special place where children and adults can learn, get their hands dirty, and enjoy organic gardening.’

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THE CHARLOTTE BRODY DISCOVERY GARDEN, PHOTOGRAPHY BY RICK FISHER

With healthy eating being in the forefront of education these days, the hands-on garden is not only educational, but also it’s downright fun for children, young and old, to play in the mud. Rightly so, the garden is one of the favorite places for children to visit.

According to the Duke website, “The garden features organic vegetable beds, an orchard, fruiting shrubs and vines, a reconstructed tobacco barn, a rain garden, a chicken coop, cold frames for winter planting, outdoor classroom space and two cisterns that can hold more than 7,000 gallons of rainwater.”

It’s more than spending a day together, it’s exposing them to a lifestyle that grandparents can pass along to their loved ones. At the opening of the Charlotte Brody Discovery Garden, Richard H. Brodhead, ninth President of Duke University and the William Preston Few Professor of English, said in his speech, "Wouldn't you like to think that the kids who come here for the rest of time will discover the pleasure there could be in thinking of yourself as a steward of the Earth, as someone who takes care of the Earth so that there's more and more of it for the people who come afterward?" Brodhead asked. "That would be a lot of great discovery to come out of a garden."

Like the passing of seasons and cycles, a simple day trip allows families to get back to nature, spend time with each other and create memories that can make a lasting impression on grandparents and grandchildren alike.

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“I was born and raised in Durham.

After almost 28 years, I'm still here!

I love feeding the ducks, sitting by the pond and letting time get away from me, just writing for hours. Even in the winter, there's something so soothing and comforting about sitting by the pond and letting time slip away. Duke gardens will always have a piece of my heart no matter how old I get.”

- Bethany Paschall (CLOCKWISE LEFT TO RIGHT) PHOTOGRAPHY BY: RICK FISHER; ADELLE SMITH: KAREN WEBBINK: DUKE GARDENS; RICK FISHER.

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Interested in a day trip? Visit some of the local botanical gardens near you.

Sandhills Area Sandhills Horticultural Gardens 3395 Airport Road Pinehurst, NC 28374 Fayetteville Rose Garden FTCC Fayetteville, NC 28303 Flora MacDonald Gardens Flora Macdonald Academy 200 S. College Street Red Springs, NC 28377 Southern Piedmont Area All-A-Flutter Butterfly Farm 7850-B Clinard Farms Road High Point, NC 27265 UNC Charlotte Botanical Gardens UNC-Charlotte 9201 University City Boulevard Charlotte, NC 28223 Daniel Stowe Botanical Gardens 6500 S. New Hope Road Belmont, NC 28012 Wing Haven Gardens 248 Ridgewood Avenue Charlotte, NC 28209

"SKITTLES", THE MANDARIN DUCK, CAN BE FOUND IN THE ASIATIC ARBORETUM AT THE SARAH P. DUKE GARDENS. PHOTOGRAPHY BY L. REAGAN LUNN.

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Triangle Area North Carolina Botanical Gardens 100 Old Mason Farm Road Chapel Hill, NC 27517 Sarah P. Duke Gardens Duke University West Campus 420 Anderson Street Durham, NC 27708 JC Raulston Arboretum at NC State University NC State University 4415 Beryl Road Raleigh, NC 27606 Ellen Mordecai Garden 1 Mimosa Street Raleigh, NC 27604

“I love the open area where all the children can run, play, and have a picnic. It's therapeutic to have these gorgeous gardens for both children and adults."

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by Gayvin Powers

Enjoy a Picnic with Loved Ones at Local Parks

Spring is here.The apricot trees and many other flowers are shaking the winter sleep from

their blooms, taking in the rays of the sun. Couples wanting to find a simple way to enjoy the changes of Mother Nature and each other can take advantage by picnicking in one of the many parks that bless this beautiful state.

Picnics and couples go hand in hand. They have for years, since the Middle Ages when hunting was popular among the elite society. Today, couples don’t have to be of a certain social standing to enjoy a day trip to a local park to take in nature, the changing of the trees and a tradition that is centuries old.

In the United States, most Americans enjoy picnics throughout summer and during the Fourth of July.

This month brings Easter and in Italy, Easter Monday is the most popular day to picnic. Fortunately, spring has arrived and there is no better reason to grab a picnic basket, fill it with some cold foods and wine and spend time with a loved one under the blooming apricot trees.

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Perfect Parks for Picnics Sandhills Area Weymouth Woods Nature Preserve 1024 Fort Bragg Road Southern Pines, NC 28387 J. Bayard Clark Park & Nature Center 631 Sherman Drive Fayetteville, NC Reservoir Park Southern Pines Reservoir Park Trail Southern Pines, NC 28387

Freedom Park 1900 East Boulevard Charlotte, NC 28203

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Fireflies, Sharks' Teeth, Mac 'n'Cheese on Carolina Beach

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The comfortable clutter of winter is plunked away.

Warm winds stretch into dazzling summer. The air is salty, the sky Carolina blue. Distant sounds of wrinkled waves are pleasing, unpretentious. The invitation to "Come on down" is too imperative to resist. So off to the beach I go, all seven grandkids in tow, to explore the serendipity of treasures floating on sea breeze wings, vestiges hidden in damp sand on edge of ocean’s floor, and more, so much more.

The sun slowly melts into a pool of bright orange. Vibrant shades of magenta kiss the horizon; warm breezes float across the ocean while calm dusk settles in and the electrical dance of light begins. The girls and I walk among the salty seaweed and marshes, toes digging quietly in the sand. We watch. As if on cue the little brown fireflies appear out of the dark; they charm us with their magical flinches of light. Summer frolic, a delightful tradition for us girls is worth more than a passing glance; we make a memory. We wash mayonnaise jars clean, poke holes in the lids with an old-fashioned ice pick, place a little grass in the bottom of each jar. We move about quietly, inch up close, watch these mystical creatures show off their musical performance of flickering light. We wait. At a seemingly good time we raise our jars, catch a few fluttering fireflies. We transport the lighted jars carefully to the girls' bedroom. In case thunder catches them unawares at midnight they won’t be afraid. The safe glow will scare away the darkness of the storm’s interruption. As dawn breaks the girls crawl out of bed, go outside, release their enchanted find; at dusk there’ll be more fireflies to capture to shed their glorious beam of light on them as they sleep tight.

Perhaps, one of the more exciting escapes for my impressionable male grandkids is at dawn. In this brief interval when seaweed, beaded with dewfall,

glows with a translucent radiance, we rise early to search for shark’s teeth. The boys and I take our shovels, pails, kitchen sifters, set our course, ready to use our hands if needed but first we must find a Krispy Kreme doughnut shop. No morning journey is a worthy trip without these luscious sweet treats. As we wolf down the sticky gooiness we head to the beach. We walk north when the tide is low; after all there is a science for finding sharks' teeth. We chatter, each boy in competition: who will find the most, the biggest. I tell them not to worry. Sharks have many rows of teeth, at least four. When a shark loses one tooth, there will be hundreds more to come but they need to dig deep through the crushed shell debris and matted sand to find them and not to be fooled by gray/black look-alikes. These can be crumbled easily but the real teeth can’t be broken with mere hands. They go to work as if they will find the most treasured shark's tooth ever.

When our pails are full we venture back to our beach chairs. There we sift through the sand’s clutter; look carefully at every ocean morsel. As happy searchers we head back to the cottage.

Soon the aroma of raw peanuts coming to a roaring boil, shells cracking open, fills the air. The mouth-watering taste of salty nuttiness keeps the grandkids happy ‘till the mac 'n' cheese is dipped in paper cups, ready to serve. There’s nothing better than your mac 'n' cheese hot out of the oven, all seven proclaim. Compliments will get you most anything you want. Now hurry down to the beach the mac 'n' cheese will be there sooner than you can ride a high wave. Whenever the grandkids and I gather under a beach umbrella at noon it’s always mac 'n' cheese on Carolina beach.

Mid-afternoon sun is too hot to linger on the beach so we seek shade back at the cottage on the screened-in porch. Everyone rushes to get the first chance to sit in the squeaking porch swing. Others play a spirited game of Liverpool Rummy, Scrabble,

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or pretend they are sea warriors as they romp around outside in the fisherman’s boat. When these activities grow tiresome there is the never-ending Monopoly game, which gives us all a chance to land on Boardwalk with the winner feasting on the coveted prize of Miniature Hershey Chocolate Bars.

Eventually, little ones and grown-up kids alike get tired of cottage games and need more beach time. Long legs and short skip to ocean’s edge; the older grandkids ride the high waves, the younger ones pick up sand dollars hidden beneath the salty mush. After a while, we journey on to the Boardwalk. Along the way we sip a Coke, but only a half bottle at a time (house rules). At the Boardwalk our favorite thing to do is to chase each other in bumper cars and play a little putt-putt. (I always win). Before we leave we must stop by the old arcade. Each of us put a few quarters in the machines, while he tiny, smaller kids flop on their belly to round up any money people drop. Dirty and grimy we trudge back to our cottage.

Outside, we gather around the huge oak tree whose branches hang low. A long rope with an old tire perches high on a sturdy limb with enough rope length to entice me to swing the youngest slowly, urging older kids to fly to the sky and jump far to land tumble-weed style on the grass patches below. Squeals of delight are heard blocks away when smaller tykes climb on the weather-beaten rubber seat, and an older kid pushes daringly; with the rush of wind in their faces they can’t be happier.

One of the highlights of our beach trips, according to my grubby seven, are family dinners served buffet-style.

In their words, the aroma fills the salty air and makes

everyone’s mouth water unremittingly. According to one, if you are sly and skillful you can slip into the kitchen, nonchalantly sneak a piece of fried chicken, do a pick and roll out the door to the porch to consume. However this only increases your need for more of the home-cooked goodness and one can only do the pick and roll so many times before capture.

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Flowering Apricot Trees (Prunus Mume)

By Ruth Moose

My poor foolish trees insist each year, every spring on flowering first flinging their pink blossoms freely in the winter air.

Pink, pink, pink.

Their petals confetti the driveway, the road, my bare wildflower bed.

They don’t quit.

Through two snows these trees sing pink and flaunt their gray limbs like laughter. They are so alive.

I love their spunk, how they brave, ignore, dare the weather. How they show off before those of us grown cautious in the winter of our lives.

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Knit One, Purl Two

by Michelle Goetzle | Photography by Diana Matthews & Stacey Yongue

Three times a week in a well-lit store in downtown Southern Pines, the gentle clicking of knitting needles can be heard as a group of women and men gather to knit together. Similar scenes can be found in local yarn shops and church

social halls around the country and in your own back yard.

For the past 15 years the art of knitting has seen a major resurgence. In a society with constant access to highspeed information, people have yearned for a way to slow down and produce something creative. Knitting has been called the new yoga and has a slew of physical and psychological health benefits. Besides the obvious advantage of creating useful articles and garments, knitting has been shown to help those who suffer from anxiety, depression or chronic pain. It may also ease stress, increase happiness and protect the brain from damage caused by aging. In the same way that crossword puzzles help keep your brain functioning, creating a simple scarf through knitting or crochet can also keep your brain fit.

PAINTING BY ARTIST JESSIE MACKAY ADORNS THE SOUTH WALL OF BELLAFILATI IN DOWNTOWN SOUTHERN PINES.

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A 2011 study from the Journal of Neuropsychiatry & Clinical Neurosciences found that crafts like patch-working or knitting during middle age decreased the odds of later cognitive impairment and memory loss by 30 to 50 percent.

Knitting allows you to steep yourself in creativity and forget the stress and anxiety of your day. Being actively engaged in a project in which you feel passionate about produces a feeling similar to a runner's high, without the damage to your joints.

Add that to the fact that you are making something for you or a loved one to enjoy and it is a recipe for success.

Finding a way to take a break from the daily stresses of life is the reason that Chris Mercer, a nursing student at Sandhills Community College, took up knitting. Three years ago he needed an outlet. He explains that he “had wanted to learn for a long time, so [he] sat down and worked it out one night.” He went to his local yarn store, Bella Filati, to look for yarn, bought his first pattern and was invited back for a knitting circle by owner Holly Floyd.

When Chris picked up knitting, it was during a real hard patch in his life. “Knitting was something that you could do and put your troubles in the back of your mind,” he says. “All of the ladies here have been so supportive of a guy coming in and showing me how to do it. Knitting was something positive and creative and I wound up meeting a nice group of people. It is a good social outlet.”

All of the women seated at the table with Chris echoed his sentiments. Pat Rackowszki had knit when she was

younger, but picked her needles back up 14 years ago when she moved to the Sandhills. She was new to the area and retired, but when she saw Bella Filati she thought “I should get back to knitting.”

She came in one day, started meeting the ladies and loved it. For Pat, it was a great entry way into a new environment and a way to get to know her new home.

Marcey Katzman had never knit before taking a class at her local store. Inexperience didn't matter because “everyone was so supportive. It was a real bonding experience.”

Bonding experiences like this can be found at yarn stores, church groups and independently run knitting circles. Countless works of fiction have also been written praising the relaxation of knitting and the comfort of joining a knitting circle. When author Ann Hood lost her daughter in 2002, she was at a loss.

She followed a friend's advice and took up knitting. “I often say that I knit my way back from grief,” she explains on her website. Her book “The Knitting Circle” is a novel that not only praises the healing power of knitting, but the friendships that we gain through common experiences and common passions.

Just as in fictional works, the relationships that are built during these knitting circles extend beyond the walls of the shop. Knitters learn from each other and look out for one another, especially when health issues come up. Mary Sayers, who has been knitting for six years, struggled when her husband got sick last year. “He had a massive stroke,” she explains, “and when they heard about it here, my friend Mary from the group took me out to get my mind off of my problems.”

The knitting circle is a safe space to vent and to celebrate. It is a way to get support when going through rough patches and cheers when the days are brighter. In Hood's novel, she goes so far as to write “Every

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stitch is a prayer.” So it was comical when a passer-by once told the group at Bella Filati that they couldn't meet on Wednesday nights because it is church night.

Everyone laughed it off, but they all knew just how important their knitting nights are. “This group is a fellowship,” Sayers says, “a fellowship without the religious connotations.”

Knitters also have a tendency to give back. You can only knit yourself so many items, and part of the joy of knitting is giving things to others. Priscilla McLoed, a knitter for nearly 60 years, values the projects that the group works on to give back to the community. “We look forward to being together,” she says. “Whether working on the Christmas tree or yarn bombing downtown, we just enjoy doing things together and we care for each other.” (Yarn bombing is when public objects like street lamps and trees are covered with knit projects.) They also give back to others by knitting

projects for Operation Gratitude (carepackages for soldiers) as well as for babies in Afghanistan and for local hospices and charities.

Each one of the knitters comes to knit for a different reason, but their creative outlet gives them hope.

Owner Holly Floyd gets the importance of opening up her shop to the knitting group. “These people need to be together,” she says. “They have created a connection that is important in their lives. It is important that they get together on a regular basis and talk about what is going on in their lives.”

Yarn stores are more than just retail outlets. They are community gathering spots for people to come and share. They inspire greatness and engage the mind, body and spirit. As Marcey Katzman so aptly put it, “You always leave with a smile on your face.”

A Day Trip: Knitting Near Ewe Spend a day in one of the quaint towns below, exploring the local fare, shops and eateries after socializing and purling in one of the local knitting circles.

Warm n' Fuzzy 200 S. Academy Street, Suite 140, Cary, NC 27511 919-380-0008 | www.warmnfuzzy.net Three stitch groups per week Admit Ewe Knit 8320 Litchford Road, Suite 146, Raleigh, NC 27615 919-876-4640 | www.admiteweknit.com Social Knitting: Monday 1-3pm, Tuesday 10:30am, Friday 10:30am 40

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A Row of Purls 902 Brighton Road, Fayetteville, NC 28314 910-483-3678 All Things By Hand 25 Market Square, Fayetteville, NC 28301 910-703-8585 | www.allthingsbyhand.com Tuesday & Friday nights at 6pm Bella Filati 277 NE Broad Street, Southern Pines, NC 28387 910-692-3528 | www.bellafilati.com Tuesdays 10:30 am - 12:30 pm Wednesdays 5:00 pm - 7:00 pm Saturdays 3:00 pm - 5:00 pm

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Mackay's artwork is featured in the article "Knit One, Purl Two." When did you start painting?

Started in my 40's when I was consulting. Worked during the days in factories, and was moved by the physicality of the workers in an auto plant, so sketched them on the night shift and then painted paintings from the sketches later.

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What’s your background in painting sheep?

I have done a series of my sheep (from the flock I had when I lived in England) with red backgrounds…I had a small farm in the Cotswolds in England when I had a management consulting business there, and often painted my sheep. Now, I work from photos of them.

What is the best part of being an artist?

Best part of being an artist is the joy of the work, of seeing something, or being moved by something and trying to convey the feeling or emotion with paint.

What is your motto in life?

Be brave.

Why did you move to England?

I moved to England so that I could get home at night! Working in the States, I was always taking planes long distances and having to stay in hotels all week. Also, I simply loved living abroad. It worked out pretty well with my marriage, had a little farm in the Cotswolds and worked between the Midlands and London.

When did you come to the States?

I sold my business there (England) and moved back to the States to become a full-time painter. I have lived in Southern Pines since 2000.

Did your parents paint or create art? If so, who? How did they inspire you?

My father was a photo engraver (that field doesn't exist any more); he had a wonderful business in New York. Both parents painted as a hobby when they had time. They inspired me by my just seeing them have a go with painting, and we had a lot of art which they had bought in our home.

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Aside from painting, what is important to you?

The art keeps me pretty busy along with my nonprofit organization, Karimu, which does work in Tanzania, Africa.

I work with all kinds of issues there: women's empowerment, education and children. I’m doing a big, joint project with two schools in Tanzania and The O'Neal School here in Pinehurst.

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Five Documents Every Estate Plan Needs

by Jackie Bedard

When it comes to building estate plans to protect you and your family, no one strategy fits everyone's needs. No family is the same. No person's circumstances are exactly like another's.

That's why we customize every estate plan that comes out of our office.

Although the provisions of the documents might vary from one client to the next, there are five documents that every good estate plan needs. Consider these documents as cornerstones or building blocks that strengthen your plan and enable your wishes to be carried out exactly as you had envisioned.

Living Will: One of the very first questions we pose to estate planning clients is how they want their end-of-life decisions to be handled. A living will declares your intent regarding artificial life support should you ever become incapacitated and unable to survive without the use of machines. Without a living will, immediate family members might not choose what you wanted.

Last Will and Testament: A will is critical. Even if a client does not own significant property or investments, a will indicates to a probate judge how you wish your assets to be divided. It also names an executor of your estate. A will is especially vital when you have minor children as it enables you to name a guardian for your children.

Health Care Power of Attorney: Should you become incapacitated and unable to care for yourself or make decisions regarding your medical care, a health care power of attorney is a safety net. By taking control now and choosing

a trustworthy person, your health care wishes are much more likely to be followed. This document allows the titleholder to speak with medical staff involved in treating you and provides your agent with authority to make decisions regarding your care.

Durable Power of Attorney for Financial Matters: Much like the health care power of attorney, the durable power of attorney for financial issues comes into effect when you are incapacitated and unable to make decisions regarding your money or expenses. It allows your finances to be handled by a person you name and trust. The authority allows that person to pay your bills, manage investments, and sell assets to cover expenses.

Letter of Instruction: Finally, a letter of instruction is something we recommend to all of our clients. While it's not a formal legal document, it often provides the most clarity to an executor of the deceased's wishes for how certain assets should be bequeathed and how you wish a beneficiary to handle receiving them. This is also a great place for you to provide an inventory of personal belongings and who should receive them. In addition, a letter of instruction often addresses your burial or cremation wishes.

Bedard, an elder law attorney with Carolina Family Estate Planning, can be reached at 919-443-3035.

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Frequently Asked Questions about LASIK Surgery

by John French, MD How does laser work?

The concept of corneal refractive surgery is to change the shape of the cornea so that images seen will be focused on the retina. Photorefractivekeratectomy (PRK) was the first form of laser refractive surgery. In this procedure, the corneal surface cells are removed and the excimer laser is used to change the shape of the cornea. LASIK was developed to give faster results with improved comfort. With LASIK, a thin flap of corneal tissue is created, gently lifted, and an excimer laser treatment is applied to the cornea to reshape the cornea. The flap is then placed back over the treated cornea. Originally, a blade was used to make this flap, but the femtosecond laser has almost entirely replaced the older blade method. Both surgical options, PRK and LASIK, have their advantages and applications. The surgeon determines the most appropriate procedure for each patient during the pre-operative evaluation based on the glasses prescription, corneal tissue thickness, and other factors.

What to expect before LASIK Surgery?

Your eye doctor will perform a thorough eye exam to ensure your eyes are healthy enough for the procedure. He or she will evaluate: the shape and thickness of your cornea, pupil size, refractive errors (nearsightedness, farsightedness, and astigmatism) and check for any other eye conditions.

Your eye doctor will also discuss your general health history to determine if you are a suitable candidate for LASIK. You should stop wearing contact lenses for a period of time advised by your doctor (around two weeks) before your eye exam and before the LASIK procedure.

What to expect the day of surgery?

Lasik is a two-step vision correction procedure performed on the cornea. At Carolina Eye Associates, the procedure is a “bladeless� all-laser procedure.The Wavelight FS 200 Femtosecond Laser creates a thin flap of the cornea in the first step. The Allegretto WAVE Eye-Q excimer laser then reshapes the central cornea before the flap is replaced.

If I have astigmatism can I still get LASIK?

Excimer lasers can also correct astigmatism by reconfiguring the corneal shape to create a normal shape. It is a misconception that LASIK cannot treat astigmatism.

Could I have LASIK to decrease my need for glasses after cataract surgery?

Yes. Some people had cataract surgery before advanced technology lenses were made available in the United States or chose not to have advanced technology cataract surgery.

These patients wear glasses after cataract surgery. LASIK can be performed after cataract surgery to reduce the need for glasses after cataract surgery. With LASIK surgery, some people choose to have both eyes set to see well for distance without glasses and wear reading glasses for near. Others choose to have one eye set to see well for distance without glasses and the other eye for near without glasses which is called monovision. LASIK can be performed in these patients to minimize the need for glasses.

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Internet Security Basics – Software

by Jesse Card

As the Federal Communications Commission (FCC) and politicians discuss whether the Internet is a basic right, we are reminded just how vital the Internet has become on a daily basis. The “webinization” (yes, a made-up word) of everything from keeping up with friends to paying bills (I’m definitely happy to no longer suffer tongue cuts from envelopes) has definitely made life more convenient.

However, this convenience has come with some new risks.

Therefore, as the FCC discusses whether the Internet is actually all that important in D.C., it certainly is a good time for us to discuss how to protect ourselves when using the Internet.

Because Internet security has several areas on which we may focus in this short space, this piece is going to come out in several parts. In this first part we focus our attention on the “stuff” going on inside your Internet machine.

Local Software. First, never, ever go without a security program on every system you connect to the Internet.

There are several security programs out there, all of them are happy to offer increasing levels of security at graduated costs, but for most of us a basic (free!) antivirus program is sufficient. Right now, I am using the free antivirus program from Avast, but I also often use AVG’s free program and both – along with Malwarebytes, Panda, Bitdefender, and other favorites – are among PC Magazine’s list of top 10, free, antivirus programs for 2015. Going with any of these will offer plenty of protection from the main risks most of us face.

Update, Update, Update. Every program you use issues periodic updates and fixes to respond to newly-developed, program-specific threats, closing doors from weaknesses hackers exploit to gain access to the rest of your system.

Be sure to update regularly and definitely do not ignore

requests to update. Of particular importance are updating your operating system (e.g. Windows), Web browser, Java, and, of course, your security software. Further, if you are working with an old, unsupported operating system (such as Windows XP), purchase a newer one: it is relatively expensive, but better than a hacker getting into your virtual piggy bank (thankfully the cash in your mattress will still be fine—from that threat at least).

Downloading New Programs. Never download a program with which you’re unfamiliar. Any time that notice pops up asking if you’re sure you want to download/install a program (and you’re NEVER going to turn that off for any reason), do not click “Yes“ or “OK,” if you don’t know whence the download originated and did not initiate the download. I also avoid downloading many programs beyond what I need and use regularly: more programs mean more background processes (slowing down your computer) and increased risk for intrusion. For about a hundred reasons, it is especially important to restrict the ability of guests on your computer, especially young ones, trying to download new programs. This can be done by creating separate user accounts and restricting the ability to download to only the admin account, protected by a username and password.

Summary. Carefully manage the software on your computer to ensure you’re protected locally before adventuring into the interwebs beyond. Next we will discuss some basics regarding passwords and site-specific threats.

Happy browsing!

He’s not a true tech geek, but he knows someone who is. Jesse is a freelance writer and transitioning soldier in Fayetteville, North Carolina.

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Diagnosing Dementia, the Earlier the Better

by Karen D. Sullivan, Ph.D., ABPP

While dementia is more common as we get older, it is not a normal part of aging. Dementia can be caused by different underlying disease processes, such as Alzheimer’s disease, vascular disease including stroke and heavy alcohol use, to name a few, but can also be due to treatable conditions such as depression, anxiety, medication effect or infection.

The early and accurate diagnosis of memory loss, including dementia, allows for: • A better chance of benefiting from disease-specific medications that can slow symptoms • E arly intervention to reduce risks factors that contribute to further memory decline • T he ability to plan for the future and maximally benefit from care and support services • R educing uncertainty about a change in thinking or behavior • P roviding education, support and community-based resources to the patient and family • I nforming important decisions about driving, living independently and level of supervision • P roviding a baseline for ongoing monitoring of cognitive symptoms and changing care needs A neuropsychological evaluation can play a major role in diagnosing dementia. Neuropsychologists, doctors of clinical psychology who specialize in how the brain works, make dementia diagnoses through detailed interviewing, a review of medical records and comprehensive and standardized paper-and-pencil testing. The goal of a neuropsychological evaluation is to determine if changes in thinking and memory are related to normal aging, a medical condition or dementia followed with making personalized treatment recommendations that promote the highest quality of life and independence.

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which the individual’s or family’s concerns occur. During the interview, a neuropsychologist will review many aspects of a person’s background including onset and progression of symptoms, medical diagnoses, medications, personal history, mental health, sleep, etc. It is often valuable to have both the patient and family members participate in the interview.

Testing: The second part of the evaluation typically takes two to three hours. A person’s test performances are essential for a neuropsychologist to gain a clear understanding of how the person is doing in comparison to other people of the same age and educational background, as well as compared to their own baseline. The goal is to identify areas of cognitive strength and weakness by behavioral observation and objective assessment of all cognitive domains, such as attention, memory and language. In addition, personality and mood symptoms, including possible depression and anxiety, are often examined.

Feedback: The third part of the evaluation typically takes one hour. This report is reviewed in the feedback session in detail and in everyday language. The goal of a feedback session is two-fold. First, it is important for the person to understand, in detail, the results of the evaluation.

Second, it’s important to discuss the personalized treatment recommendations your neuropsychologist has decided will help to support the highest quality of life possible.

Recommendations range from medication suggestions, pending physician approval, strategies for managing medical conditions that are contributing to memory decline, counseling for patient and family, level of care and supervision needed, environmental modifications, strategies for behavior change and patient and caregiver resources, including geriatric care management and community. support groups.

Dr. Sullivan, a clinical neuropsychologist at Pinehurst Neuropsychology, can be reached at 910-420-8041 or www.pinehurstneuropsychology.com.

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B12 Deficiency Can Drive You Crazy

by Wina Sturgeon

It was more than 25 years ago, but the memory is still vivid.

I was interviewing a doctor in the emergency psychiatric ward at UCLA when a handcuffed man was brought in, gripped by security and male nurses. He was dressed well, with expensive shiny shoes, looking like he could be an executive.

But the man was screaming, twisting in the tight grip of the cops and attendants. He called for a particular doctor in a psychotic rage. It was only later that I found out the screaming man wasn't demented; just deficient in vitamin B12. Within a short time of receiving a shot of this important B factor, he returned to normal, greatly embarrassed by his behavior.

That's when I learned two very important facts: the B12 factor is important, and many people over 50 have a deficiency of this essential nutrient. There are a number of reasons for it. The most serious is pernicious anemia, caused by the lack of a protein that's required for the body to absorb B12. The most common reason is 'atrophic gastritis,' a condition where the lining of the stomach gets thinner as we age. It's estimated that atrophic gastritis affects as many as one third of people over 50. Heavy use of anti-acid drugs can also affect the absorption of B12, as can gastric bypass surgery.

Symptoms of a mild deficiency may include irritability, problems with concentration, dizziness and fatigue,

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diarrhea, weight loss and easy bruising, though many mild cases have no symptoms at all. But as the deficiency gets more severe, it causes more serious symptoms. They include depression, confusion and memory loss, as well as problems with balance and tingling or numbness in fingers and toes. If the deficiency isn't diagnosed and cured by B12 supplements, it can progress to actual dementia.

Because the symptoms can be so severe, some physicians miss the diagnosis of a simple vitamin deficiency that's easily cured by a shot or a pill of the nutrient, taken with the total B factor. But it's essential to get a quick and accurate diagnosis, because some recent studies are showing that a B12 deficiency may be connected with the onset and cause of Alzheimer's disease. Numerous other studies show that an absence of this nutrient is also involved with the onset of clinical depression, a common problem in boomers and seniors.

Those over 50 who are vegetarians are at particular risk, because B12 is found mostly in animal-based foods such as meat, milk, eggs, poultry and fish. Those who eat none of these foods should supplement their diets with the full B factor in pill form.

If there's any suspicion that you or someone you know may be suffering from a lack of B12, an easy and inexpensive blood test can determine the amount of this nutrient in the body. It's important to know that even a

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very small deficiency can cause problems, some of which are even more serious than mental disturbances. B12 helps keep the amount of the amino acid homocysteine in balance, a function that may help lower the risk of heart disease.

Since a B12 deficiency is so much more common than most people realize, it's a good idea to take a proactive stance by consuming a daily supplement of the full B complex, which will include B12. The B complex is totally interactive; all factors need to be included for any part of the vitamin to be absorbed.

But for those over 50, a blood screening in addition to supplementation is an ideal way to determine if you have enough vitamin B12 to keep your brain in good shape.

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What is vitamin B12?

Vitamin B12, also known as cyanocobalamin, is a water-soluble vitamin that is part of the B vitamin family. B vitamins help support adrenal function, help calm and maintain a healthy nervous system, and are necessary for key metabolic processes. Vitamin B12 is important to DNA synthesis and maintaining healthy nerve cells.

Why is vitamin B12 necessary?

Knowing the facts about vitamin B12 is vital: this essential micronutrient affects the development and maintenance of red blood cells, nerve cells, and normal myelination (covering) of nerve cells. It also aids in the production of DNA and RNA, and the production of neurotransmitters.

What are the signs of a deficiency?

Symptoms of vitamin B12 deficiency include fatigue, muscle weakness, shortness of breath, dizziness, numbness, heart palpitations, bleeding gums and mouth sores, nausea, poor appetite and diarrhea. Symptoms may present themselves slowly and may not be recognized for some time.

A deficiency of B12 can produce pernicious anemia, which can lead to memory loss, confusion and even dementia.

Since we obtain vitamin B12 only from animal foods in our diet, deficiencies tend to develop among strict vegetarians, especially vegan children, who eat no animal products. However, the elderly, and those who are unable to absorb vitamin B12 from the intestinal tract are also at risk, as well as those who are pregnant or who suffer hemorrhage or intestinal disorders.

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