OutreachNC magazine - December 2014

COMPLIMENTARY

Navigating Lifestyle Choices for Active Adults

Decking the Halls OUR 2014 HISTORIC CHURCH SERIES WRAPS UP

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Carolina Conversations with Author P.M. Terrell We sit down to talk about her latest mystery, Book'Em North Carolina and life in Lumberton.

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45 Ornaments with Heart

Crafted treasures that began at a North Carolina kitchen table adorn Christmas trees nationwide.

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48 Second Career Retirement

Wrapping up our Destination Retirement series, entrepreneurial adventures are part of next chapter.

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10 Planning Ahead

20 Sentimental Journey

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22 Consumer Beware

12 Life's Conversation

24 Pursuit of Happiness

13 Cooking Simple

26 Senior Moments

14 Game On

27 Brain Matters

Prepare for long-term care needs

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by Eli Hawkins

Fritters savory and sweet

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"I heard the bells on Christmas Day"

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Live your best possible life

by Henry S. Miller Expanding job horizons

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Bumgarner pitching brings N.C. Hall of Famers to mind

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This month, we go aboard the New Hope Valley Railway Santa Train, which is set to blow its whistle for holiday rides Dec. 6-7 and 13-14. Powered by the dedication of a volunteer army of train enthusiasts, the railway chugs along with a diesel and steam engine on its 4-mile track in the community of Bonsal just outside of New Hill in southwestern Wake County.

We’ll go onsite with volunteers of area Baptist churches as they reach out to senior neighbors in need across the state as part of NC BAM, the Baptist Aging Ministry. Groups help with home projects like wheelchair ramps and grab bars as well as feeding the hungry all in the name of service to their communities.

Christmas services and a live manger scene are how Highland Presbyterian Church in Fayetteville marks its 103rd year of believers gathering at Haymount Hill adorned in wreaths and candles as we wrap up our historic church series with a red bow.

As the season comes for decking the halls with Christmas adornments, we'll learn the story behind some hand painted, glass ornaments made here in North Carolina. Heart Gifts by Teresa began when a mother wanted to find ornaments to tell her young children the reason for the season and ended up creating her own. Twenty-two years and millions of ornaments later, these beautiful glass treasures decorate trees all the way up to North Pole, Alaska.

While Santa reads his lists of naughty and nice, book lovers are turning the pages of North Carolina’s award-winning author P.M. Terrell. We sit down for a Carolina Conversation with the writer and learn about her latest book, “The White Devil of Dublin,” the second book in her Ryan O'Clery mystery series, her involvement in Book’Em North Carolina in February and life in Lumberton.

As we conclude our Destination Retirement N.C. series, we look at how some retirees are choosing to embark upon second and third careers as entrepreneurs. With new businesses focusing on waterfall tours, a vacation rental and IT computer services, this time, all are looking to make a positive difference in roles that bring them true fulfillment both in work and location.

As 2014 draws to a close, thank you for sharing some of your time during the hustle and bustle of the season to turn these pages with us! Jeeves the co-editor and the OutreachNC team wish you and yours the happiest of holiday seasons!

Until next year…

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When it comes to your health and your finances, most people want to be in the driver’s seat. That’s why it’s important as you plan for retirement that you consider any care you might need.

The best time to plan for long-term care is always before you need it; when you’re likely to have more choices about how, when and where you receive care. Planning for long-term care is one of the smartest decisions you can make, and it’s a gift to your family, too.

The benefit of planning for needs as you age is more options down the road. Planning before a crisis occurs can allow you to direct your own care, even if the day comes when you’re no longer able to make sound decisions. Pre-planning also lets family and loved ones know what your wishes are, so they’re not left guessing. Once planning is complete, there is also a feeling of confidence, just knowing a plan is in place.

Although no one can predict with certainty whether longterm care will be needed, the Department of Health and Human Services continues to report that there’s a 70 percent chance that we’ll need assistance with long-term care services at some point in our lives. These long-term care services might include help with housekeeping, meal preparation, bathing or dressing. The care that’s needed may require a registered nurse, or it might be custodial and provided by a family caregiver. Implementing changes to make your home safer, more comfortable and easier to move around can certainly extend independence.

When planning for long-term care, consider: • Assessing whether your current residence will support your changing needs as you get older • Taking care of yourself to improve your chances of a healthy future • Knowing the costs of long-term care and taking the time to learn about ways to cover the likely costs • Creating legal instructions that will help keep you in charge of decisions about your care & finances

Planning for long-term care today puts you in control of the decisions that may eventually direct your care. It all comes down to making lifestyle, financial and legal choices now to keep you in charge of your future.

Donner is a Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor, has a Bachelor of Science in Nursing, is licensed in Med/Supp & LTC & is NAIC Partnership Certified. She can be reached at 919-460-6076 or Beth@DiversifiedPlanning.com .

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Literary Circle Book Review by Cos Barnes

“Byrd” and “Flight Behavior”

A brilliant first novel by Kim Church, “Byrd” is entrancing, brilliant and gratifying. In everyday language, it tells the story of Addie Lockwood and Roland Rhodes, classmates from fourth grade through high school in a small North Carolina town in the 1970s.

The reunions reminded me so much of my high school days and the characters who made up my friends, with their creative nicknames and monikers that described our teenage years and who we were.

Addie, a bookstore owner, tells her story through letters that sweep through time. These letters are to her son, whom she gave up for adoption and whom the father, Roland, never knew existed.

Addie kept the news to herself from the conception until the delivery, never telling the father, who is a musician in California, thus perpetuating the story about wrong turns involving motherhood, adoption and choices. She develops fantastic characters in the process, including Roland’s’ wife, Elle, and their son, Dusty; Addie’s father, Bryce, an alcoholic; Claree, Sam; Janet Worthy, the social worker; and other well-crafted family members who play a part in the story. The plot is simple, yet complex. Church’s writing is brilliant and distinctive.

Barbara Kingsolver, author of “Flight Behavior," is a difficult author to admire. My book club read and discussed it recently, and we were divided down the middle among the membership: some loved this book, others did not. The librarian had told me the response among readers was essentially the same.

The character, Dellarobia, a young mother of two, had to marry following high school. She was brighter than her husband but was trapped in a loveless marriage with dominating in-laws, a failing farm and her husband’s nonchalance.

The beauty of the book arrives with the Monarch butterflies that come to Tennessee because of global warming. The climate changes in Mexico were so haywire that the butterflies did not know what to do.

Attention comes along with the butterflies to this small section of Appalachia from the media, scientists and sightseers.

Dellarobia does a lot of learning and growing as a person and realizes she and her children belong elsewhere.

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Five tips for connecting during communication breakdowns It is here. The time of year when everyone gets together, and expectations run high. While this is supposed to be a time of joy and merriment, many are facing reminders that holidays aren’t the same, because communication isn’t the same. So, take a breath, make memories, share a laugh and pass the fruit cake.

When you find yourself gravitating toward the door, here are a few tips for those tricky breakdowns in communication: 1. Connection is key. Change in communication often results in change in connection. Disconnect may be due to hearing loss, word-finding problems, memory or some other communication deficit. For individuals struggling with communication, initiation can be taxing. Be willing to carry the burden without avoiding the problem and engage. Quality of life improves with connection, not just with existence.

2. Hang tight. Waiting for someone to respond is often physically and emotionally painful. Instead of embracing the discomfort, embrace the moment. A simple gesture of holding their hand or providing a reassuring nod encourages conversation.

3. Don't just hear...LISTEN. They want to know their life matters and their experiences have value. Even if you have heard 72,000 versions of that time they won the national chicken-chasing championship, cherish it. They are telling you how they want to be remembered, even if it is chasing chickens.

4. Make THIS moment matter. When a loved ones' memory is fading, it is OK to be present in their altered reality. Remember, connection is key. If they feel safe and valued in their time with you, you are making meaningful memories of comfort and security. It is different. It will continue to be different. Different doesn’t have the power to erase history, but it can create a dynamic present.

5. Embrace the pause. Action is so ingrained in what we do that we often do it to excess. Rarely are the action items worth the panic. Emotion is contagious. If you are caught up in the hustle and bustle of the holidays, stressing about this and that, you are likely disconnected. Pause… breathe… embrace.

Don’t miss these moments, because they are fleeting and finite.

You have the power to make them matter.

Hawkins, MS, CCC-SLP, is the lead speech pathologist and owner of The Center for Communication and Advocacy in Cary. She can be reached at 919-757-6420 or info@ccatherapy.com .

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Madison Bumgarner's lights-out World Series performance was fun to watch and provided some bragging rights for the South in general and North Carolina in particular.

The tall left-hander is a native of Hickory, and he has a downhome drawl that makes us all proud to say y'all. His post-game interviews were almost as mesmerizing as his clutch relief job that nailed down the championship for the San Francisco Giants.

Some folks got so caught up in the "MadBum" craze that they were ready to reserve a spot on the Hall of Fame wall for his plaque. And he may wind up in Cooperstown one day. But not because of one World Series or one season.

Don Larsen is a prime example. He pitched the only perfect game (for the Yankees vs. the Dodgers in 1956) in World Series history, and he doesn't have a plaque. The Hall recognizes Larsen's feat but does not include him among its members.

To date, 396 men born in North Carolina have played in the major leagues. Seven are in the Hall of Fame.

1. LUKE “OLD ACHES AND PAINS” APPLING Born in High Point, this notorious hypochondriac would complain of headaches, backaches or bad knees, then go out and get three hits. "Old Aches and Pains," as Appling was called, led American League shortstops in assists seven times and in batting twice. In 1936, Appling had 204 hits and batted .388. His entire 20-yearcareer was spent with the Chicago White Sox. He had a lifetime batting average of .310 with 2,749 hits.

2. RICK FERRELL Born in Durham, he held the American League record with 1,806 games caught for a long time. He had only 28 career home runs in 18 seasons in the majors, but struck out just 277 times in 6,028 at-bats. Ferrell was a standout defensive catcher and a fine handler of pitchers. His lifetime batting average was .281.

3. JIM “CATFISH” HUNTER Born in Hertford, he was a workhorse, pitching 3,449 innings over a 15-year career. He won 224 games and had a 3.26 lifetime earned run average. Hunter won 21 or more games five straight years, going 25-12 for the 1974 Oakland A's and 23-14 with 30 complete games for the '75 New York Yankees. He averaged 277 innings pitched over a 10-year period, working 318, 328 and 298 the last three of that stretch.

Catfish helped pitch Oakland to three World Series championships in a row and pitched in two Yankees World Series titles.

4. BUCK LEONARD Born in Rocky Mount, he played his entire 17-year professional career in the Negro Leagues. A smooth fielding first baseman, his lifetime batting average was .341 and he averaged 34 home runs over an eight-year period.

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Born in Huntersville, he pitched 21 years in the majors for nine different teams and turned 50 years of age during his final season. He pitched in 1,070 games, all but 52 in relief. Wilhelm notched 227 saves and 143 wins, with a lifetime earned run average of 2.52. As a rookie in 1952, he came out of the bullpen 71 times and worked 159 innings, winning 15 games and leading the National League with a 2.43 ERA—the only time in major league history a relief pitcher has led the league in ERA. He had a five-year stretch for the Chicago White Sox in which his ERA was never as high as 2.00.

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Health Matters by Karen Garloch

Some radiologists disappointed about lung cancer screening advice

Screening healthy people for cancer seems like a no-brainer. But it's not as simple as it seems. Controversy swirls around differing recommendations for mammography screening for breast cancer. Now add lung cancer to the list.

In May, a federal advisory committee recommended Medicare should not reimburse for lung cancer screening with CT scans. That comes despite a 2010 national research finding that low-dose CT scans of heavy smokers could detect tumors earlier than X-rays and reduce the risk of death from lung cancer by 20 percent.

After that, the U.S. Preventive Services Task Force, which advises the government on the worth of screening tests, gave its OK to lung cancer screening for longtime smokers, ages 55 to 79. That means coverage will be required in 2015 for those with private insurance through the Affordable Care Act. But the Medicare advisory committee recommended against paying for the scans, citing potential problems of false positives and radiation exposure.

A final decision is expected this fall, but Charlotte, North Carolina, radiologists expressed disappointment with the recommendation. "We're kind of upset about it, let me put it mildly," said Dr. Michael Kelley of Charlotte Radiology.

Kelley has both personal and professional reasons for those feelings.

His father died of lung cancer. A chest X-ray detected a tumor, and one of his lungs was removed. But within a year, the cancer had spread to his brain. If it had been discovered

sooner, Kelley said, his father would have had a better chance of survival.

"If we get this early, your chance of survival is quite good," Kelley said.

With the 2010 findings in mind, Kelley and other radiologists hoped more people would get screened because insurance would begin paying for it.

Dr. James O'Brien of Mecklenburg Radiology Associates worries there will be a "two-tier system," with some insurance already paying for screening but Medicare not paying.

O'Brien leads the Charlotte section of an international lung cancer screening trial. Results published periodically show screening to be effective, he said.

But he's not optimistic Medicare will cover it. "I don't know that anything could convince Medicare at this point to offer any more screening tests.

Health care is taking up a lot of our gross national product, and Medicare's been charged with cutting costs."

Dr. Edward Patz, a Duke University radiology professor, said it's important to take time to "mine the data" from the research, to consider all the risks and benefits and weigh the cost of mass screening versus the number of true cancers identified.

"There are lots of different factors that go into this. It is not a simple formula," Patz said. "When you implement a system like this, you need to make sure you do it right. We need to think about fiscal responsibility." Š2014 The Charlotte Observer (Charlotte, N.C.) Distributed

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Belle Weather by Celia Rivenbark

The point(s) of the holidays You might wonder what kind of wing nut would join Weight Watchers for the first time exactly 10 days before Thanksgiving. A sensible person would wait until Jan. 2, when beloved holiday treats like jam thumbprint cookies, peanut butter blossoms, sand dunes, homemade coconut cake, rum balls, spiced pecans and those delectable sausage-cheese balls aren't around to tempt and torment a dieter.

Yeah, you'd think that committing to a diet program before Thanksgiving would be a terrible idea.

And it was. Mostly because I've become obsessed with how many Weight Watchers "points" are in a particular food. More turkey? Sure; that's just 5 points. Stuffing? You crazy?

That could use up all my weekly 49 "bonus points" allotment.

Of course, I joined Weight Watchers because it works. Everyone says so.

Some days, I don't even know why I joined. After all, I can still fit into my high school...car.

Because my weight-loss goal is about 15 pounds, I have to admit I was hoping that I'd get a few "But you don't need to do that's." Instead, as I announced to everyone (including the supermarket meat department guy who wears a hairnet over his beard) that I had joined WW, they said, to a person, "Oh, yeah? Good for you." Not a single: "But you don't need to do thaaaat!" A few offered that exercise would also be useful.

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"Alzheimer's awareness?"

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"Heart Association?"

"No, no, and no," I responded. "I'm walking for wine."

Because, in Weight Watchers land, a glass of wine will cost you 4 points.

A brisk 30-minute walk will earn you about 4 points. Therefore, yes, I am walking for wine.

Don't judge me.

While I have great faith in the Weight Watchers program, I'll admit it can turn you into a colossal bore as you excitedly tell others about your New Lifestyle.

"You sure you want that?" I asked a pal who was reaching for a brownie.

"It's 18 points according to the WW mobile app right here on my phone.

Look! I even downloaded the barcode scanner so I can manage points on everything in the supermarket! And what's more..."

Whoa. Where'd she go?

I'm fairly certain that I'll be Major Holiday Buzzkill once I tell everybody exactly how many points are in that eggnog (32).

And while others will fret about the fiscal cliff, I think we all know that the real looming crisis is whether or not I can have unlimited roasted vegetables despite the sugar content in beets.

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Stress is often seen as a negative effect on the body, but it is essential to life. It is the “fight or flight” system that is naturally part of our survival system. Stress is bad when it overwhelmingly impacts our health equilibrium. Everyone deals with stress, in one way or another. It is associated with higher levels of cortisol, a hormone produced by the adrenal glands. Accumulated unmanaged stress can lead to major physical and psychological illness, including depression, overeating, excessive sleep and irritability. While it is impossible to avoid stress completely, it is possible to manage your stress. Here are a few ways: 1. Get a massage. Massage has been shown to be effective in reducing mental and physical stress. In one study in the Journal of General Internal Medicine, massage helped lessen stress and pain in patients who have chronic pain. Massage lowers the level of cortisol and increases the levels of serotonin and dopamine.

2. Go for a walk. Going for a walk can clear your mind and keep your body healthy. Walking helps increase your endorphins, which can give you a euphoric feeling, and it reduces the levels of cortisol. It will give you a boost of energy while reducing your fatigue.

3. Spend time with a pet. Studies have shown that pet therapy helps reduce anxiety and stress for many people. While dogs and cats are usually the choice of pet for stress relief, other animals can also help. Watching fishes in an aquarium has also been shown to reduce your blood pressure.

4. Drink tea. Green tea lowers your blood pressure and is full of antioxidants that are beneficial for your health. In one study, subjects who drank black tea for six weeks had lower cortisol and less stress than subjects who were drinking placebo drinks.

5. Get proper sleep. By having a restful and high-quality sleep and undisruptive naps, your cortisol levels will decrease.

A study tested on healthy young men has shown that taking proper naps throughout the day will lower one’s cortisol levels.

6. Work out. Hit the gym or go for a run. This allows your body and mind to focus on something that is healthy for your well-being. While it distracts you from the cause of your stress, it also increases your endorphins and decreases your levels of cortisol.

7. Breathe. By taking deep, slow breaths, your blood pressure and heart rate also slow down, which counteracts the effects of stress. Deep breathing has been shown to reduce anxiety and help folks with depression.

8. Use guided visualizations. Guided visualization allows people to imagine and consciously think about certain issues and get in touch with their intuition. This usually leads to feeling refreshed

and has helped many attain a higher self-esteem.

9. Aromatherapy. Certain plant oils have been found to relieve nervous tension or anxiety. The scents of certain plants, such as lavender, can ease our stress and relax us.

10. Turn your phone off. Your smartphone allows you to access the rest of the world. By turning off your phone, you shut the external stress out focus on yourself and your immediate surroundings.

11. Meditate. This is an inexpensive technique used to release your stress. Pairing it up with breathing exercises can further lower your heart rate and blood pressure.

12. Enjoy a hot bath. A hot bath can help relieve the tension on your muscles, lessen the pain on your body, and provide a comfortable environment that surrounds your body. It also promotes blood circulation and calms the nervous system.

13. Practice yoga. Yoga is an excellent weight-and-stress management tool. It helps your balance, flexibility, and core strength. Studies have shown that yoga is promising in reducing anxiety and stress in people who practice it.

14. Listen to music. Certain music gets people in certain moods or thoughts. Research has shown that patients in postsurgery who listened to music had lower stress levels than those who did not listen to music. While everyone’s preference is different, find music that is soothing for you.

15. Laugh. One study found lower levels of the salivary endocrinological stress marker chromogranin A (CgA) in those who watched a humorous movie. Along with less stress, these subjects reported a feeling of being uplifted.

16. Try a craft. Finding a hobby and keep your hands busy will distract your mind from stressors. Studies have shown that doing a craft enhances relaxation.

17. Write down your thoughts. Keeping a journal or diary of your thoughts and activities allows you to express yourself and your feelings. It may help you understand your feelings, organize your thoughts, and reflect on your choices.

18. Avoid caffeine. Caffeine increases catecholamines and cortisol, which are both stress hormones, while increasing dopamine, for a quick “feel good” response that will wear off quickly and make you feel low. Drink green tea instead.

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Sentimental Journey by Jennifer Pollard

"I heard the bells on Christmas Day" I love reminiscing of days gone by with my clients and listening to the stories of Christmas traditions that bring back memories of simpler times and smiles.

One image shared with me from an octogenarian was of her small town in upstate New York. In the middle of town, the main churches had bell towers and on the hour, carols and hymns were played. As the snow crunched under their feet, her family would walk into town to pick out their Christmas tree. Something about the decorations in the shop windows, the cold frosty air, carols played by the church bells and mugs of hot cocoa by the fireplace at home was the perfect recipe for a holiday memory.

And so it was as well for Henry Wadsworth Longfellow (1807-1882) when he penned the poem "Christmas Bells," which later was put to music and became the beloved American Christmas tune, "I heard the bells on Christmas Day." In 1861, Longfellow's beloved wife, Fanny, died unexpectedly as a result of burns received in a fire. The following year, he wrote in his diary, “A ‘merry Christmas’ say the children, but that is no more for me.” The holidays became a time of grief 1 11/5/14 1:37 PM andFN2015_outrchNC_horiz_d2.pdf despair to no longer have his beloved Fanny by his side. The

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following year, Longfellow's eldest son Charles, was wounded in the Civil War and suffered crippling injuries. During a time of personal loss and a country torn apart by war, the holidays did not feel joyous for Longfellow. However, on Christmas morning of 1864, the sound of the church bells stirred a renewed joy in him, inspiring the poem, “Christmas Bells": Their old familiar carols play, And wild and sweet the words repeat Of peace on earth, good will to men.

I thought how, as the day had come, The belfries of all Christendom Had rolled along the unbroken song Of peace on earth, good will to men.

This beautiful carol provides the enduring concept that despite tragedy, loss and even warfare, there is within us the hope and wish for “peace on earth, good will to men.”

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Giving to charity

We should be proud that so many people in our state give so much of their time and money to help others. North Carolinians contribute billions of dollars to charity each year, and volunteer countless hours in their communities.

We want to encourage you to give to those in need, but we want to make sure your contributions are used as you intend them to be. The best way to make sure your donations are used wisely is to do your homework before you give.

Decide to whom you want to give. Instead of responding to solicitations to make a donation, especially from telemarketers who may keep as much as 90 percent of the money they collect, decide which charities you want to support and contact them directly.

Give to charities you know. If you’ve helped out as a volunteer, seen the organization’s work in your community or checked out its track record, you’ll have a better sense of how it operates and how your donation will help.

Check out charities. Visit www.give.org to see if national charities meet the standards set by the Better Business Bureau’s Wise Giving Alliance, and www.charitywatch.org for ratings of charities by the American Institute of Philanthropy. Other good sources of information are www.guidestar.org and www. charitynavigator.org .

Find out whether or not charities are licensed.

Many charities that solicit in our state are required by law to register with the N.C. Secretary of State. You can call that office toll-free at 888-830-4989 or check out a charity or fundraiser on its website.

Ask for written information. If a charity asks you for a donation, ask for the charity’s name, address and telephone number. A legitimate charity will give you materials that tell you the charity’s mission and what your donation will help them do.

Learn how your money will be used. Many charities hire professional fundraisers, private companies that sometimes keep a large percentage of the money raised for themselves.

Ask how much of your donation will go to the worthy cause instead of to pay for fundraising, then check out the charity's financial statement from the NC Secretary of State's Office, or visit www.guidestar.org .

Know the law. There’s no legal minimum amount that a professional fundraiser has to give to the charity on whose behalf it raises money, or that a charity has to use for actual good works as opposed to other expenses. But professional fundraisers do have to report the percentage of money they raise that goes to charity, and charities have to report what they spend on charitable works versus expenses on their 990 tax form. You can get this information from the NC Secretary of State’s Charitable Solicitation Licensing Division.

Check to see if your donation is tax-deductible.

Not all contributions to nonprofits are tax-deductible. Some gifts that appear to be for charity actually benefit for-profit companies. Check it out before you decide to give.

Pay by credit card or check. For security and tax record purposes, it’s best to pay by credit card. If you pay by check, make it out to the charity itself, not the fundraiser.

Protect your personal information. Don’t share personal financial information by email, social network or text message. If you donate online, use a secure website. Look for a lock icon and a Web address that starts with “https.”

If you have a complaint about a charitable solicitation or believe that you were misled when you made a contribution, call toll-free within North Carolina at 1-877-5-NO-SCAM or visit www.ncdoj.gov .

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by Henry S. Miller

Live your best possible life

Being as happy as you can during your life matters! Although some would have you think otherwise, the uniquely human pursuit of happiness is not merely some frivolous idle-time activity for the fortunate few. Far from it.

Instead, it is a serious pursuit—a duty and responsibility for each of us.

As the progress—or lack thereof—of human evolution has demonstrated, being in a positive, optimistic, and happy frame of mind seems to be what allows some humans to be more successful than others in obtaining life’s essentials: food, shelter, social support, even a mate. So it has always been and so it continues today. And if you still doubt the seriousness of pursuing a happier life, consider your loved ones. Fulfilling the duty of being happy benefits not just yourself but also those closest to you.

Most of the benefits of living a happier life are familiar, yet they are powerful and seemingly endless—and they far outweigh the costs and work needed to achieve this state. Nonetheless, many in our societies often try to diminish the idea of simple, lasting happiness, instead extolling the thrill of peak pleasures and magnificent accomplishments.

As a rejoinder to them and a reminder to us all, researchers around the world have proven that simply being happy can have the following positive results: SUCCESS Overall, happy people are more successful across multiple major domains of life including work, social relationships, income and health. In addition, the relationship between happiness and success seems to be reciprocal: not only can individual success—whether in love or at work—contribute to feelings of happiness, but happiness also results in more success. In this way, happiness becomes an even more worthwhile pursuit, both as a desirable end in and of itself and as a means to achieve other significant life goals PERSONALLY Happy people more frequently exhibit characteristics such as being strikingly energetic, decisive, and flexible. They are more creative, more helpful to those in need, more selfconfident, more forgiving, more charitable, more sociable, and more loving. Compared to unhappy people, happier people are more trusting, more loving, and more responsive. They

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Take your pursuit of a happier and more fulfilling life seriously—it is a worthy goal especially during times of uncertainty and strife exactly like we are experiencing today.

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Senior Moments by Barb Cohea Expanding job horizons

Recently, I was part of a group of older than 50s folks, all of us looking for jobs.

We were part of the laid-off, cut-back, cut-down and cut-off economically disadvantaged. Unemployment compensation had run out for some, savings disappeared for others, houses and cars repossessed, with some living in relatives’ basements or unheated garages. In the “Resumes for the 21st Century” class at the community college, we were told to use our previous networking contacts to find new jobs.

I got right on that and asked everyone I knew, “Hey, do you know of any crappy job openings for an over-educated, hard-working older person with experience in a variety of fields, who's going to have to work until she drops dead of old age, probably on the job?”

A friend of mine said, “Oh, I’ve got a crappy part-time job like that and the employers are looking for more people. Will you work for food?”

“In about another month, yes, but right now I’d like some money.”

And that’s how I ended up applying for a part-time job with a major American company to stock greeting cards at their client stores, 35 miles from my home, $7.25/hour, driving my own car and I pay for the gas.

Looked good to me.

After filling out the online application it took about . . . 15 seconds before a human called saying an interviewer would phone as soon as we hung up.

It turned out that meant as soon as she activated the robot. So, within 15 seconds the robot called. He had a nice voice, was upfront about his status as a non-human, told me he’d

ask questions and I’d have 60 seconds to answer. When time was up there’d be a beeeeeep. He suggested I write down his questions, because he wasn’t going to repeat them. Factually? He was totally non-interactive.

I stopped writing down the questions on account of the 60-second time limit, plus, I can’t write, think and respond simultaneously. He did not give me his name, which I thought was quite rude. He cut me off continuously with his beeeeep.

And whatever I said, it was clear he didn’t like it, because in the time it took me to get into my house and boot up my computer, he’d already sent me an email saying I was not qualified. For what? To drive my car?

To carry a box of greeting cards into a building? Or to place a bunch of the same cards where the old same cards used to be?

I was quite vexed at this until my friend, Karen, a math genius, ran the numbers. Using algebraic equations, algorithms and geometric shapes, she told me I’d actually lose money working for them.

But it was my classmate, Fay, who said it best: “You really haven’t hit bottom until a robot rejects you.”

I can still hear her cackling as she walked down the hall.

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Brain Matters by MaryBeth Bailar, Psy.D.

Myths and facts about the aging brain The possibility of developing dementia has been revealed as a significant source of anxiety for older adults. Several surveys and studies have shown that memory loss and dementia are among the most feared situations or conditions in adults over the age of 50. For example, in a 2007 survey of 1,037 Americans, memory loss was the No. 1 fear, cited by 21 percent of those surveyed. The fear that older adults have regarding the development of dementia has become so serious that it has been a recent focus of the American Psychological Association.

Let’s look at some myths and facts about the aging brain: Myth No. 1: Significant memory loss is a normal part of aging. If a person lives long enough, he or she will eventually develop dementia.

FACT: “Severe” memory loss, or what many people think of when they hear the term “Alzheimer’s disease” or “dementia,” is not a normal part of aging at all. In fact, the odds are in your favor. Although it is true that the single biggest risk factor for Alzheimer’s disease is age, current estimates indicate that approximately 10 percent of all people over the age of 65 actually have this disease. Even among those over the age of 85, the percentage of people who have dementia is only about 30 percent.

Myth No. 2: Having a close relative with Alzheimer’s disease means that you, too, will develop this illness.

FACT: Having a family history of Alzheimer’s disease may increase one’s chance of developing the disease, but it is by no means a guarantee that one will develop the illness. Environment and lifestyle have been found to be very important factors in determining whether or not someone will experience significant

memory and thinking problems as they age. That said, it should be noted that family history is more important for those who have a family member with “early onset” Alzheimer’s (diagnosed before the age of 65).

Myth No. 3:Having “senior moments” (e.g., forgetting where you put your keys, the name of the person you met yesterday, or why you entered a room) is a sign that you are developing dementia.

FACT: There is some minor decline that can be normal as we age that may impact our ability to learn and retrieve information as effortlessly as we did when we were younger. In addition, memory difficulties that occur as we age can be attributable to a variety of different issues, not just Alzheimer’s disease. For example, they are often related to stress, medical problems, medication issues, poor sleep, or inactivity.

Myth No. 4: Once your memory begins to decline, the damage is done and there is nothing you can do about it.

FACT: As long as there is not an Alzheimer’s disease process already occurring, there are actually many things you can do to prevent decline in your memory and thinking skills and to improve your overall brain health. Research indicates that it is almost never too late to begin making healthy, positive changes in your life.

Examples of recommended changes include consistent, safe cardiovascular exercise, regular social interaction and optimal control of cerebrovascular risk factors (e.g., diabetes, hypertension).

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by Amy Natt | MS, CMC, CSA

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My mother was recently in the hospital and told she would need surgery. We were asked for a copy of her healthcare power of attorney document. My mother had drafted these documents years ago and had designated a family member, whom she is no longer in contact with, as her health care power of attorney. This created some confusion and stress for all of us, not wanting that person to be contacted. Can you please address how to revoke this document and exactly what documents my mother should have in place?

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This is a great question and one that many families do not think about until they are in a crisis situation (the worst time to be dealing with added stress). A power of attorney (POA) is a written authorization to represent or act on another's behalf in health care decisions, private affairs, business or some other legal matter. The person authorizing the other to act is the principal, grantor or donor (of the power). Deciding whom you will designate to act on your behalf (attorney-in-fact), if you become incapacitated in some way, is an important decision.

You are giving this individual a great deal of power, and it is vital that he or she know what you would want in a variety of situations. This topic is not only for the aging but also for adults of all ages to consider.

So what happens when you change your mind or no longer want the person to have the authority to act on your behalf?

A revocation of power of attorney is a separate legal document signed by the person who granted a power of attorney (your mother). It states that the she is canceling the powers that were given to the other person (the attorney-in-fact) in her earlier power of attorney. The document provides written confirmation that the principal has revoked the power of attorney that was previously granted. The revocation becomes effective when that person has received notice of the revocation. It is important that you have a copy of the written document as evidence of your revocation and to make sure there is no doubt as to your intention to revoke the power.

Your example highlights one of the many reasons why a person may wish to revoke a power of attorney document. It may be that you no longer trust the person named to act on your behalf; that he or she has moved away, are no longer able to act, or that you have found a more suitable candidate to act as your Attorney-in-fact. It could also be that The power of pttorney is no longer necessary as you are now able to act on your own behalf (it was for a temporary situation).

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Whether you are executing documents for the first time, or making changes (including revocation) to your documents, you must be mentally competent to do so. This is one of the reasons it is so important to have conversations with your spouse and parents about advanced directives, the instructions that allow you to spell out your decisions about end-of-life care ahead of time. They give you a way to communicate your wishes to family, friends, and health care professionals and to avoid confusion later on.

There are several documents you should consider having. A living will or directive for natural death tells which treatments you want if you are dying or permanently unconscious. You can accept or refuse medical care and include instructions on things like resuscitation, feeding tubes, breathing machines and organ donation.

A standard durable power of attorney is a document covering authority to manage personal and business affairs like property, banking, insurance, estate, taxes and necessary care. A durable power of attorney for health care is a document that names your health care proxy. Your proxy is someone you trust to make health decisions for you if you are unable to do so. Both are important to have in place and reviewed in the state you currently reside. In addition many people are now executing a document specific to authorization for use and disclosure of protected health care information.

An elder law attorney can guide you through the process, and make suggestions based on your individual situation. They truly are the experts and should be consulted for decisions and documents that have such a significant impact on how decisions will be made on your behalf and what specific end-of-life directives you want implemented. This may be a challenging conversation for some families to have, but it is much easier to have the conversation now, and not wait until you are in a crisis situation. For those who may not have family or friends to act on their behalf, it becomes even more important to think about professionals who may be able to act in this capacity for you and work to build a relationship of trust with those individuals.

The best way to manage choice and independence is by making and communicating these decisions through legal documents as well as conversation with those who may be involved in your care.

Natt, a certified senior adviser and care manager, can be reached at amyn@agingoutreachservices.com .

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Historic North Carolina Churches Series

Highland Presbyterian Church

Fayet teville , N.C.

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rom the little round church on the hill to the beautiful colonial structure of today, Fayetteville's Highland Presbyterian Church has seen significant changes over its 103 years. What hasn't changed is the members' strong faith and commitment, always nurtured by the Word.

“Highland Presbyterian Church has always been a church that believes its mission is in the world,” says Dr. Ernie Johnson, the church's pastor of 24 years, “bringing the gospel to bear on personal lives, community life and mission to those in need. We affirm that Jesus Christ is the head of the church. It is Christ whom we worship and serve.”

On April 13, 1911, several Haymount residents, weary of making horse-drawn buggy trips one and a quarter miles to the Presbyterian church downtown every Sunday, inquired about starting a new church on Haymount Hill.

First named Haymount Presbyterian, the name was soon changed to Highland Presbyterian in honor of the Highland Scots. The first service was held at Buieville Academy on what is now Oakridge Avenue. Land was purchased on Hay Street, and in 1913, the first service was held in the original “round church,” which was patterned after a style popular in England and Scotland.

When Highland celebrated its 25th anniversary, membership had grown from 34 to over 200. During the 1940s, the church helped place Bibles in public schools and supplied Bible teachers to visit the schools. In 1947, one of Fayetteville's first kindergartens, under the direction of Dorothy Hutaff, was established at Highland.

Expansion completed in March of 1950 added a chapel, library, education building and fellowship hall. In the fall, worship services were held in the new fellowship hall since the round building was inadequate. It was torn down in 1954.

Highland Presbyterian Church built a new sanctuary with colonial architecture of a portico with six columns and a 148foot slender spire encompassing an interior with a high-vaulted ceiling with hand-fluted columns. Seating capacity was for nearly 800 people. The first service was held in 1961, Highland Presbyterian's 50th-anniversary year. More than 900 were on the church rolls.

In 1987, renovation of the sanctuary and chapel was completed.

The church's 85th anniversary in 1996 was celebrated with the burying of a time capsule in the front lawn. The 20th century was closed with a 5 o'clock communion service on Friday, December 31, 1999.

The Highland Recreation and Learning Center was dedicated in 2003 with additions that included a recreation center with a gym and fitness facility, a new library, three elevators, a new kitchen and fellowship hall and expanded classroom space.

Current membership is 1,142.

“Our people are always open to new ways,” Johnson says, “and are not afraid of new opportunities. Tradition is important, but Highland does not shy away from opportunities to reach new generations with the life-saving message of the gospel of Christ.”

An example is the contemporary service called the “Second Mile,” which began in 2007, giving Highland Presbyterian three Sunday morning worship opportunities.

“Our congregation,” Johnson says, “commits itself to worship regularly, give generously, be involved, live worthily and to always be inviting others into our community. We feel a close tie to the military community as they serve in defense of our freedoms.

“The Highland people are a caring people. They provide support and encouragement to many, and pastoral care is a shared ministry.

Our doors are open and all are welcome here.”

“Our people are always open to new ways and are not afraid of new opportunities. Tradition is important, but Highland does not shy away from opportunities to reach new generations with the life-saving message of the Gospel of

Christ."

– Dr. Ernie Johnson

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CAROLINACONVERSATIONS

with N.C. author

P.M.

Terrell

By Thad Mumau Photography by Diana Matthews

Author P.M. Terrell at her home in Lumberton.

For more information on her books or the Book’Em North Carolina event, visit www.bookemnc.org or www.pmterrell.com .

P.M. Terrell of Lumberton is an internationally acclaimed author, having written more than 20 books. Her latest, released in September, is "The White Devil of Dublin," which is the second in her Ryan O'Clery suspense series.

Among Terrell's books are awardwinning works that include "River Passage," "Vicki's Key" and "The Tempest Murders."

Originally from Washington, D.C., Terrell founded and operated two computer companies in the D.C. area.

Her specialties were computer crime and computer intelligence, and her clients included the CIA, the Secret Service and the Department of Defense.

One of her largest projects was in detecting Medicare fraud and abuse, which resulted in millions of dollars returned to Medicare coffers.

Terrell has been a full-time author since 2002, with her computer background finding its way into her suspense/ thrillers. Both award-winning series, Black Swamp Mysteries and the Ryan O'Clery Mystery Series, are both set in and around Lumberton.

Terrell is also the founder of Book 'Em North Carolina, an annual book fair that brings more than 75 authors together from around the world to raise money for increasing literacy in Robeson County. The next event is scheduled for Feb. 28, 2015, at Robeson Community College and is free to attend.

ONC: What prompted you to be an author?

Had you always wanted to write and it was just down there inside you?

PMT: My father was an FBI agent and in 1967, we were transferred from the north to the Mississippi Delta. It was a violent time and many of the people there resented the FBI presence and their commitment to uphold civil rights. My school principal saw that I was isolated from the other students and she suggested that I write stories.

I became hooked and it led to a lifelong love of writing.

When I won a poetry contest in school that same year (which I will always believe was fixed) and I had to go on stage to receive my prize, a book of poetry, I knew what I wanted to do with my life.

Do you set aside a certain amount of time at a prescribed time to write every day?

I do write every day, six days a week and often seven.

The time of day varies, depending on my book tours and other commitments. But I believe if a person is destined to write, they will find the time and the inspiration regardless of what is going on around them.

Are there times that just doesn't work, and you put writing aside for that day ‌ or perhaps get up in the middle of the night if you awake and feel inspired?

A few years ago, I wrote the true story of my ancestor's capture by Shawnee warriors outside of Fort Nashborough (now Nashville, Tennessee). I began with Internet research and then took to the road, following her journey, visiting with scholars, historians and archeologists. Later, as I was putting her story on paper, I would ask her before I went to sleep each night to show me what happened. I began dreaming the most vivid scenes, as if she truly was showing me her journey.

It began a phase in my writing that is still ongoing - I will dream each set of scenes before I write them. If I feel like I am writing in uncharted territory, I'll stop and allow my subconscious to take over during my sleep and resume the next day. And with regard to the book that led me to this method of writing, "Songbirds Are Free" has been my bestselling book and it led to another, "River Passage," the true story of the Donelson voyage of 1779-1780. It has astounded me that what I dream has checked out as factual - so factual that the Nashville Metropolitan Government Archives has the original manuscript of "River Passage," an award-winning book, in their archives for future historians and researchers.

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When you finish a book, are you totally washed out? Do you take a vacation from writing for a while, or are you already eager to begin a new project?

Writing is an invigorating experience for me. Once I have finished a book, I might wait a week or two before beginning another but no longer than that. It's a bit like being a runner; once you've run a marathon, you don't stop training. Every book is a marathon, and every day of writing is part of the journey.

Your work experience certainly would have presented numerous potential stories and books. Has that been the case and/or have you used a lot of “bits and pieces� from those experiences?

Though I had always wanted to be a full-time writer, I found myself on the ground floor of the personal computer industry in the late '70s. By 1984, I'd started my first computer company in Washington, D.C., and my second one followed 10 years later. I was very fortunate to work with the CIA, the Secret Service and the Department of Defense, among others.

My computer background has been invaluable in writing my suspense/thrillers, and I have one series, Black Swamp Mysteries, that features CIA operatives.

How do you otherwise come up with the idea for a book?

In years past, I had to submit requests through the Freedom of Information Act to view declassified documents, but now I've discovered a treasure trove of them on the Internet, many of which are posted at the CIA's own website. I was going through them one day and discovered information about the CIA's psychic spy program. It was begun during the Cold War in response to intelligence they'd received concerning the Soviet Union's psychic spy program. They didn't know if there was anything to it or just hocus pocus and smoke and mirrors, but they didn't want to find out that it was legitimate 20 years after the Soviets had perfected it. So they began their own program here, and it has been so successful that now more than a dozen countries have psychic spy programs. I began the Black Swamp Mysteries series with a CIA psychic spy and a ground operative working in concert with one another; it has opened a wide variety of plots, ranging from a remote village in Afghanistan to rescuing a captured spy in Ireland to plots right here within the United States.

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Have you ever started one and then decided maybe that premise wouldn't make a good book after all?

In my early years of writing, I did that many times. But now I form the beginning, the pivotal middle and the ending in my mind before I begin to write. I also determine who is the best character to tell the story, so I have the point of view and how the plot will unfold through their eyes.

Can you give us your little blueprint for building a book? … How you formulate characters, where stories take place … things like that?

With my suspense, I look for the crime. For example, I learned from law enforcement of the possibility of terrorists walking across the porous border from Mexico into the United States, and I thought that would make a riveting story (which led to my book "Ricochet"). Then I think about how best to tell the story; whose point of view it would be and whether it's best to tell it in third person or first. I form a solid mental image of the main characters, their relationships to one another, and how they are connected to the crime. In the case of the porous borders, I chose an FBI agent who is pulled into the terrorism aspect when a bomb explodes in a busy mall's food court.

Where the stories take place often depends on where I am living. My earliest books were set in Washington, D.C., and Virginia. When I moved to North Carolina in 2004, I began using Lumberton and Robeson County as a backdrop. It's easy to research various areas since they are close by, and I find the swamplands and the black waters of the Lumber River lend themselves very well to suspense/thrillers. After all, a swamp is the perfect place to hide a body.

Is it difficult not to repeat characters—not so much their names, but their traits to the extent that you paint them again in other books?

I do think that is a challenge, and it's a thin line that a writer has to straddle. On the one hand, if readers love a particular hero, the author feels some pressure to give them that hero again. For example, I am a huge fan of the Jason Bourne series by Robert Ludlum. On the other hand, if the author is writing a completely different novel with a different set of characters, they want to provide enough of the same traits that the fans adore, but different enough so they are unique and not a cookie-cutter version of other characters. I have found that age, cultural differences, and even where the characters grew up – even when it doesn't make it into the story itself – make them unique; they react differently to circumstances and to their environments.

"Writing is an invigorating experience for me. Once I have finished a book, I might wait a week or two before beginning another but no longer than that. It's a bit like being a runner; once you've run a marathon, you don't stop training. Every book

is a marathon, and every day of writing is part of the journey."

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Do you always know how a novel is going to end?

I do. Before I begin writing, I know where it will begin; I'll have defined a pivotal, almost climactic scene in the middle of the book; and I will know exactly where it will end.

Have you ever changed the path a book takes as you write it?

I stick to the same basic plot I've outlined in my head, but often various threads will begin to form that take me —and the reader—in a different direction. It provides for twists and turns that often I won't even have originally envisioned. I think without those unexpected surprises, the book could become boring or too predictable. And I always want to surprise my audience with where the book takes them.

Tell us about your newest book, "The White Devil of Dublin."

Detective Ryan O'Clery is an Irish immigrant from a long line of law enforcement officers, who moves to North Carolina and works as a detective for the Lumberton Police Department. When a noted historian contacts him claiming to have information about his ancestors, he is dubious but agrees to meet with her. When he arrives, he finds she's been murdered and her laptop was stolen. His investigation will lead him to 12th century Ireland, to the Viking conquest of Dublin on the cusp of the Norman invasion, to an albino Viking known as Hvitr Bard, or The White Devil, and to a secret his family kept hidden for nearly 800 years. It will also bring him face to face with a present-day albino serial killer who is intent on destroying Ryan and everyone he loves.

This is the second Ryan O'Clery book. Do you like doing series?

I do enjoy writing a series. When I am writing, it's as if the characters are house guests who have moved in with me for the duration. There is something comfortable about having the same characters return time after time. My rule of thumb is that each book must be unique and surprising with twists the reader hasn't seen coming. If I ever begin writing in a predictable formula, I'll know it's past time to move on.

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Do you have a favorite P.M. Terrell book, or is it always the most recent one you have written?

That is a tough question. The ones closest to my heart are "Songbirds Are Free," because it chronicles my ancestor's capture by Shawnee warriors; "Dylan's Song," the fourth book in the Black Swamp Mystery series where Dylan and Vicki must rescue a captured CIA operative in Ireland; and "The Tempest Murders," the first book in the Ryan O'Clery series, followed by "The White Devil of Dublin."

P.M. Terrell didn't have to look far for her Angelfish inspiration she used in some of her spy novels.

If you are sitting down on a rainy day with a book in your hands, who are a couple of authors who might have written that book?

At the top of the list would be Daphne du Maurier, who was also Alfred Hitchcock's favorite author. Among her more well-known books such as "Rebecca" and "Jamaica Inn," folks are often surprised to learn she wrote "The Birds," which became one of Hitchcock's most famous films.

Interestingly, during her own time she was discounted as a romance author and not a serious writer; it was only after her death that her true talent was discovered, and it continues to enthrall readers. I also enjoy true stories, such as Jon Krakauer's "Into Thin Air," about ordinary people caught up in extraordinary events.

Community ministry builds hope

By ANN ROBSON Photography by LONDON GESSNER

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everal member churches of the Southern Baptist Convention have banded together to form NC BAM, Baptist Aging Ministry, here in North Carolina. Jim Edmison, marketing director for the group, says this new ministry is unique to our state.

The idea for a special ministry for the aging came from a group of Cary pastors and lay people who saw a need in their communities. They presented the idea to other Baptist churches in the state, and the idea started to become a reality. Dr. Michael C. Blackwell, who had been head of the Baptist Children’s Schools for more than 30 years, was called upon to help set up an organization for the new ministry.

Blackwell had worked with 19 Baptist children’s homes across the state.

The Baptist foundation also has several groups for young mothers “to help them get on their feet,” Edmison

notes. Additionally, the group has a program for developmentally challenged adults with eight group homes across the state.

When the group in Cary first began discussing an aging ministry, Edmison says, they wanted to help older adults stay in their homes longer and live better lives. When it came to naming their group, NC BAM was chosen. Getting the appropriate name was important.

“Two suggestions were made: NC SAM (Senior Aging Ministry) or NC BAM. To reflect the dynamic nature of the ministry, BAM was chosen,” Edmison says. “You do not have to be a Baptist to take advantage of BAM. It is a ministry to the community depending on Baptist volunteers performing different tasks.”

NC BAM has built wheelchair ramps, installed grab bars and provided “red bags” for safe identification of medicines.

“Our first priority is prevention,” Edmison says. “Too many aging seniors

have limitations due to wheelchairs, or falls and when these are addressed people are able to live in their homes.”

NC BAM partners with community groups across the state, including Area Agencies on Aging. Representatives attend events at senior centers and congregate meal sites both to inform the public of their services and offer help to those who may need it.

Classes on fall-prevention are offered over an eight-week period where practical advice on preventing falls is given. Every NC BAM staff member is trained to teach fall-prevention strategies that are proven to reduce fall risk. In North Carolina on an average day, 529 people visit emergency rooms because of a fall.

Of these, 69 are hospitalized and two die.

The ministry also connects interested groups to “Matter of Balance” workshops that address fear of falling and strategies for reducing risk as well as balance and exercise techniques.

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ABOVE: Volunteers from Mt. Olive Baptist Church, Pine Grove Baptist Church, Pleasant Hills Methodist Church and First Baptist Church, Rockingham in Richmond County donated their time and talents by helping build a wheelchair ramp at a home in Rockingham. For more information on NC BAM, visit www.ncbam.org or call 1-877-506-2226.

There is no religious affiliation required to receive services.

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“Powerful Tools for Caregivers” is another program offered by NC BAM. This six-week course helps caregivers realize they are not alone in their caregiver role and offers valuable information on stress, on taking care of oneself in order to care for another, helps explain why those they are caring for act the way they do and gives practical solutions for dealing with a wide variety of situations.

According to statistics from the state Department of Health and Human Services, more than 13,000 individuals are currently on waiting lists for services provided by the state. In 2012, NC BAM helped fill the gaps in services for the aging. That year, 2,276 clients were served. Volunteers gave 7,921 hours of time. Specific training in several programs was given to 4,696. The numbers have increased since then.

A “Rampin’ Up” event was held in April 2012 when nearly 3,000 volunteers built 327 wheelchair ramps with almost $500,000 in donated materials during an estimated 11,000 work hours. Edmison expects to see more such events in the future.

As far as Edmison knows, the concept of NC BAM is the only one in the country.

The group’s website, www.ncbam.org, details their work, and anyone can contact 1-877-506-2226 for information and help.

There is no religious affiliation required to receive services available in various communities.

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Helping to feed the hungry aging population is a large part of the NC BAM work. With budget cuts and increased demand, NC BAM volunteers have been working to feed the hungry. There is a “Surviving Hope” tip sheet to help BAM volunteers and others.

Some recommendations are: • If your church serves a weekly congregational meal, prepare extra to be taken to the frail aging and those at risk.

• Hold an “It’s in the bag” event gathering nonperishable grocery staples and delivering them to those in need.

• Recognize holidays and birthdays of frail aging or homebound with a decorated bag of groceries.

• Host a weekly lunch at your church and invite adults from the neighborhoods around the church to attend.

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SANTA'S

TRAIN

By THAD MUMAU Photography by LONDON GESSNER

ALL ABOARD!

Have your ticket ready and grab a seat on the Santa Train, the special December adventure provided by New Hope Valley Railway.

Whether it's Casey Jones, the engineer immortalized into a hero by song; the train robberies witnessed by youngsters paying a quarter to see old Westerns at movie theaters; or simply the sound of a whistle from a far-off locomotive in the middle of the night, trains are a huge part of American folklore.

It only takes a stretch of track, an engine and a caboose to spark memories real and imagined from boys of all ages. Some of those boys, a bit older than the ones who watched Roy and Hoppy fight off the train robbers on Saturday afternoons, form the core of an all-volunteer cast that keeps the New Hope Valley Railway up and running.

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Col. Chris Tilley, aka Santa Claus, boards the New Hope Valley Railway to keep another season of Christmas cheer on track.

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Located in Bonsal, which is tucked into the woods off Old U.S. Highway 1 between Sanford and Apex, the railway is a museum that features antique train cars, artifacts and memorabilia, as well as monthly locomotive rides, both diesel and steam, April through December.

There are theme rides, like the Civil War Enactment in June and the Track or Treat in October, but nothing compares with jolly old St. Nick riding the rails with kids and their parents or grandparents. That takes place the first two weekends, Dec. 6-7 and 13-14.

On all of the trips, Santa moves through the cars, talking with children.

In keeping with the Christmas season, it is a joyful way to end another year on the railroad. A year that brings a lot of happiness and also requires a lot of work.

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It is done by 158 volunteers who do everything from picking up paper to replacing cross ties, tuning up engines and applying a coat of paint here and there. They show up year-round, on cold, rainy early mornings, sweltering summer afternoons, weekends and anytime something needs doing.

Sometimes they gather on designated workdays, sometimes they just show up on their own.

These are train enthusiasts who work hard to make railroad memories possible for the thousands of people annually taking rides on the New Hope Valley Railway. Like so many of us, they love that sound of a train chugging through the night and they love the look and feel of an old locomotive.

“We love trains,” says Jim Meade, speaking for most everyone involved.

“I liked trains when I was a kid. I still like them. I just like being around

them.”

“Meade does a little of everything around the train yard,” says Dave Chasco. “Jim is in charge of the track.

He can do anything. He is a licensed train engineer, trained in both diesel and steam engines. If it wasn't for him, we probably wouldn't have a railroad.”

Meade would never admit to anything like that. He is selfless, simply enjoying the atmosphere and experience of trains, glad to do what he can. For the past few years, that has included being one of Santa's elves.

“I pass out candy canes on the Santa Train,” he says, then deadpans, “and coal, too, if necessary. We ask the kids if they've been naughty or nice, and some of them admit they have been naughty, and I give them a chunk of coal.”

Meade learned about New Hope Valley Railway when he attended a train show in Raleigh.

“New Hope had a table there with pamphlets,” he recalls, “and I took one. I came down to the yard here that afternoon.”

Harold Boettcher got involved last year.

“I was looking for a new challenge,” Boettcher says. “I have worked on airplanes and cars, and I was looking for a different engine to work on. I was driving around one Sunday, and I stumbled upon this place. I picked up a brochure, went home and read it, and the next week, I was a volunteer.

“Everybody loves trains,” he says. “There were tracks behind our house when I was growing up. I loved hearing the train. I think somewhere down deep inside most of us, there is the romantic part … the Agatha Christie story of the 'Murder on the Orient Express,' stuff like that.”

Like many of the volunteers, Boettcher does whatever is needed.

“This railway is ongoing maintenance,” he adds. “Trains are like everything else; they require regular work to keep them going. I like the challenge of doing that.

“There is a lot of work involved, but there is the social aspect too, and that is more important as we get older.

We have crews of 15 or 20 men who show up here every Wednesday to do general repairs to the facilities. They like helping out and they like being together. I'm sure they look forward to it.”

Chasco is the marketing person for the railway. He likes helping spread the word about the train and what is happening.

“We are a museum first and a railroad second,” says Chasco. “The train is the operating arm of the museum.

It is fun being around it all.

“My grandfather was a train car knocker up in Milwaukee,” Chasco says. “He built and worked on trains until he retired.

My dad was a switchman on the Chicago Northwestern Railroad. I had an uncle who was a conductor and two more uncles who were brakemen. I just grew up with it.

“We moved to North Carolina in 1999. Our railway here offers opportunities for people to operate a locomotive.

My wife bought me a slot for my birthday in '99. I drove a diesel. I became a volunteer in 2005.”

Bob Crowley is the curator of history for New Hope Valley Railway. He is also the dispatcher for the railroad.

“I have been involved here 14 years,” he says. “I've been a railroad fan all my life. I saw the track here, so I joined up. My grandfather gave me a Lionel train set when I was four years old. I was hooked. I worked as a brakeman for the New Haven Railroad for two years.

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“The piece of track we operate,” Crowley says, “was built in 1904. It was part of the Durham and South Carolina Railroad and ran north more than 30 miles, hauling lumber. Later, it started carrying produce. In 1946, when Hurricane 9 (they numbered hurricanes rather than named them back then) came up the coast, there was extensive flooding. As a result, the Army Corps of Engineers built a dam that formed Jordan Lake.

“Since the railroad ran through the valley that formed the lake, the Corps of Engineers built a bypass for the train around the east side of the lake. In the early 1980s, Norfolk Southern owned the line and decided to abandon the railroad.

“It got cut into three pieces,” Crowley says, “and this railroad was one of them. The East Carolina Chapter of the National Railway Historical Society bought it in 1983.

We have been happily operating since April 26,1988, when we offered our first public ride.”

A ride on the New Hope Valley Railway is four miles up the track and four miles back. At the halfway point is a

Dedicated volunteers maintain the trains, track and a packed schedule of events for the New Hope Valley Railway. For more information, visit www.triangletrain.com .

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passing sighting, which is a short parallel stretch of track.

The engine uncouples, pulls onto the passing sighting, moves to the other end of the train, connects and pulls the train back down the track. A ride takes 10-15 minutes.

Seating capacity is 292, and most rides are full.

A movie, “The Rusty Bucket Kids,” has been made about the railway and was shown on television. A bluegrass group recently shot a music video that featured the train.

Weddings are held at the train yard, birthday parties are given in the caboose and a dying boy took a ride on the New Hope Valley Railway a while back as one of his last wishes.

“We bought an additional eight acres of land,” Crowley says, “that will be filled with exhibits of historic and heritage railroad equipment. We are always interested in acquiring train cars that have a connection to North Carolina. A lot is happening here. We just keep on chuggin' along.”

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is the season when holiday traditions revolve around families gathering around the table, which is how one special ornament came into being. A Christmas past of 22 years ago had Teresa Thibault at her home in Concord celebrating the season, yet searching for a way to teach her son and daughter the true meaning behind the holiday.

“I was a stay-at-home mom and wanted to find Christmas ornaments and a way to say Happy Birthday to Jesus,” recalls Thibault. “It got to be a quest for ornaments, so my children would understand what Christmas is about. I came home frustrated. Then my husband said, ‘You can draw. Make them yourself.’”

With this new idea in mind, Thibault took on the challenge, bought supplies and began her new art project at the family’s kitchen table.

“I bought some blank glass ornaments and a Sharpie and drew them myself,” she says. “I drew a Christmas tree with a cross in the center, and I still make the ornament to this day. It says, ‘The greatest gift ever given was given on a tree.’”

Thibault had already created handmade Heart Gifts by Teresa now sells greeting cards and was selling them at approximately 100,000 ornaments a few local gift shops, so once again at annually. All of the ornaments are still her husband’s prodding, she asked the drawn by Thibault and reproduced onto stores if they would be interested in the glass at her company’s headquarters her new ornaments, and much to her on Main Street in Kannapolis. Each surprise, shopkeepers happily agreed. and every ornament is hand-painted “My husband is the wind beneath and glittered. The glass oraments and my wings,” Thibault adds. “Since he all of the packaging are all made in traveled for business, he would stop the U.S.A. in gift shops offering ornaments.

“The glass is produced in Roswell, Here’s a 6-foot-6 man carrying little New Mexico,” says Thibault. “It is all glass ornaments all around. We sold American made, down to the glass, some to shops in Kannapolis and glitter and boxes. I believe in supporting Winston-Salem. I had one shop tell America, God bless America. me, “ I have got good news and bad "It is a basic, white ornament like news for you. The good news is that a canvas, and I never went off that people love the ornaments, and the track. I draw the original art, and the bad news is that I need more now.’” girls will hand glitter and paint with From there, simple glass ornaments glitter, they fill in the lines, sprinkle led to Christmas shows, where crafters with glitter. People collect them, and gather and market their holiday items I have people whose whole trees are to retailers. these ornaments, and I am so touched “Our first show was at the Opryland by that.”

Hotel,” she says, “and it just grew The best seller is a Mr. and Mrs. from there. Then we went to Atlanta, ornament celebrating a couple’s first which is the ‘Big Kahuna’ of the U.S. Christmas, and the second best-selling for Christmas. We started getting ornament is the Christmas story. inundated with orders. It’s all about There are 32 new additions for the faith and family. It grew on its own, 2014 season. and I would come home and make “As things happen in my life, I create them in the kitchen.” an ornament for it,” Thibault explains.

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Teresa Thibault greets visitors at Dollywood's Main Street, personalizing ornaments as she makes her rounds to multiple venues and Christmas shows nationwide. Heart Gifts by Teresa is based in Kannapolis and the ornaments are sold at specialty retailers across the country. For more information, call 800-650-3994.

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“My grandsons took up fishing, so I made one for that, my daughter graduated so I made an ornament for her.

Family is my inspiration. The Lord gives me ornaments, too. I made a memorial series when I lost my mom, and sometimes customers give me ideas.”

The ornaments celebrate themes of scripture, family, military, professions, even North Carolina lighthouses and the wild horses in Corolla, paying tribute to the state she is proud to call home for the past 24 years, although traveling this time of year keeps Thibault on the road.

Her craft took Thibault to the White House to introduce a Medal of Honor ornament, and she creates specialty ornaments for the Statue of Liberty, Rockefeller Center, NASA and as far as North Pole, Alaska, and more. Last month, Thibault greeted visitors at Dollywood in Pigeon Forge, Tennessee, where hers are the official ornament.

Her Swarovski crystal collection ornaments are sold at Saks Fifth Avenue in New York City, where she visits annually to unveil the year’s newest selections.

“For me, the one that stands out is the Smithsonian,” she says. “I used to take my kids to the Smithsonian, and now I make ornaments for them and for Billy Graham, Wreaths Across America, which puts wreaths on veterans’ graves, for Dillard’s department stores, for Bronner’s Christmas Wonderland in Michigan, which was my biggest dream since I am from Michigan. We even make ornaments for the Jimmy Stewart Theater, and we get to write, ‘It’s a wonderful life.’”

For her own decorating, Thibault has her own challenges with a busy schedule.

“I’m lucky to put up one Christmas tree,” she says. “All my family comes in for Christmas, and we have a big tree around 10 feet, and one in my dining room, all covered with my ornaments, I write things on them for my family.

Then on Christmas morning, I always stop and think about the people who are giving these ornaments to their mom or family … I am very blessed.”

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he thought of settling into a rocking chair has become an idea of the past when it comes to today’s retirees. With North Carolina’s growing presence as a retirement destination, choosing how to dedicate one’s time is often the next logical step after choosing a location somewhere between Murphy and Manteo. People are also living longer and therefore are working longer into what once was deemed the golden years. Whether for economical reasons or to stay active and healthy, many are embarking upon new adventures into second or even third careers for fulfillment.

Keith and Susan Yeatman of Swannanoa have had long careers, his in the hospitality industry and hers as a professional singer and dancer. They define retirement as a way to reinvent themselves within their chosen hometown near Asheville. Utilizing the tourist destination and a love for the outdoors, Keith created Tumblestone Tours, a transportation business in which he takes all ages and abilities to see or hike to area waterfalls that are off the beaten path but worth the journey.

“It is a way to work less, but work hard for short periods of time,” Keith says, smiling. "It is a way to make a comfortable living doing something I love. I’ve trekked these mountains for 30 years. People often go out to the waterfalls but can’t find them, but I could take them to two or three in a day depending upon how far. There are 200 named waterfalls, but 300-plus with the unnamed ones.”

"It’s not easy when you don’t know the area,” adds Susan.

“People are interested in local history, too.”

Keith can take up to eight passengers in his custom van complete with walking sticks, raincoats, umbrellas, first -aid kits and historical factoids of the area in preparation for providing the best experience for his tours whatever the adventure may bring.

“I have spent a year working on the logistics,” Keith explains. “I have to have all of the little details in place.

I do a lot of research and scouting to match the client to the tour.”

Hospitality and tending to guests has also become another retirement venture for the Yeatmans. The couple’s home is on a tranquil seven acres providing a respite for Sunday family dinners, visits with grandchildren, Keith’s love of growing jade trees and a one-bedroom apartment vacation rental through the website www.airbnb.com .

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“We’ve had people from all over the world rent it, and if you are going to do a retirement business, do something you love and enjoy,” says Susan, who primarily handles all the responsibilities of the rental space. I like the fact that we are staying current.

We’re not scared of getting old, and the only reason to be scared is if you’re thinking old.”

“And we don’t have time for that,” adds Keith. “I hope it keeps me active and moving until I’m 78 years old.”

As much as Keith enjoys doing the waterfall tours for himself, the payoff is also seeing the impact on his clients.

“You can take a picture, but you can’t feel the mist …watch the leaves fall into the stream … all of the senses awaken. I don’t know where it will go,” says Keith, “but I will just keep putting one foot in front of the other.”

The coastal small town of Southport, another of North Carolina’s popular retirement destinations, is where Michael Volker straps on his skates and puts one foot in front of the other when he is not behind his computer. Volker, a former commodities trader, made the move from Colorado to the waterfront community in April, yet knew he would find a way to keep busy.

“My retirement is different than the average person,” says Volker, who launched Intracoastal PC after settling into his new community.

“Most of my clients are retired folks, and I help them with their computers,” he says of his IT troubleshooting and software training.

“I can take Windows 8 back to looking and working like XP.” Volker’s first visit to Southport put it on his short list as a place to return.

“You just fall in love with this place, and it sucks you in. I have made friends faster than anywhere else just because of the people here. I’m still trying to adjust to 95 percent humidity and palmetto bugs,” Volker adds, laughing.

One advantage of a small town is the ability to trade goods for services.

“I do love to cook, and I have traded with some of the local fishermen for some fresh catch for some computer help,” says Volker.

Content with his decision to settle in North Carolina and embarking on an entrepreneurial retirement, Volker is finding happiness in helping others one computer at a time.

“I like this. This is home. I am just eight blocks from the water.

I planted a tree so symbolically, I planted my roots. This is a good place,” says Volker, “for starting fresh.”

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Over My Shoulder by Ann Robson Season's musings

At this festive time of year, a lot of random thoughts tiptoe through my mind.

Ever wonder why certain Christmas traditions exist?

Some have roots in other countries and we have adapted them to suit our lives.

With so much pressure from magazines and other media to decorate the perfect tree(s) that will be displayed in the perfect house ready for the perfect family to enjoy the perfect day, it makes me wonder where some traditions came from. I’m beginning to think some have sprung from creative folks who have to meet a deadline to fill the pages of nice, glossy magazines.

No one ever admits to identifying with the scrawny Charlie Brown Christmas tree or the Grinch Who Stole Christmas only to give it back.

When there are children believing in Santa in the home, then it seems the sky’s the limit. I admit to overdoing a few times just because I wanted to. As we age and our families blend with our spouse's family, things change.

For some of us who don’t have family close enough to just drop in, making a big deal seems like a chore. For those who are alone, I always hope there is some angel inviting them to be part of a gathering.

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of turkey, there’ll be ham or beef. Instead of a tree, there’ll be festive flowers. And gifts! We all know that few of us really need anything.

Gifts don’t have to be elaborate things. There are many gifts we can give that don’t need a beautiful box and bow.

The gift of ourselves—promise to visit more often, cook a meal now and then for no special reason and share it, shop for groceries, go out for lunch, share a good book, go to a concert or a movie—you get the idea.

There’s a wonderful new program bringing music to the lives of those with dementia or Alzheimer’s disease.

It’s called “Alive Inside” where personalized music is downloaded onto an iPod. The results have been amazing bringing back life to many through music of their lives. If there’s someone in your life, whether ill or not, an iPod is a great gift. Don’t worry about programming it – just ask a grandchild to do it, but with music that’s appropriate for the recipient.

I enjoy decorating our tree as we have wonderful memories visiting many places and bringing home small souvenir ornaments from Alaska to Australia. These trigger great thoughts as we carefully place them while remembering from whence they came. There are handmade ornaments that have lasted for more than 50 years. There are humorous ones reminding us of some foolishness in our earlier lives.

There are some made by our daughter when she was a child.

There are dated ones marking the progress of time since her birth year. Ah, where has the time gone?

Our tree would not get Martha Stewart’s approval, but who cares?

Some traditions make the season. The various choral groups… the group singing of “The Messiah” … the Christmas Eve church services. And let’s not forget the turkey sandwiches at midnight as we sneak into the kitchen and find a small party going on.

Traditions are what we make year to year. May you have a truly great Christmas, no matter what your traditions may be.

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