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32 Music & Memory
We learn how iPod playlists are music to the ears of dementia patients and their caregivers. by Jonathan Scott
35 Christmas of Yesteryear
Downtown Fayetteville steps back in time to the Victorian era each Friday after Thanksgiving. by Thad Mumau
38 A Farrier's Tale
With a love for horses, the work and precision of the traditional craft of blacksmithing hammers on. by Carrie Frye
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Artist William Mangum We sit down with the painter and designer to learn how his home state inspires his works. by Carrie Frye
48 Retiring Mountain Style
The Blue Ridge beckons, and we meet two couples who chose N.C.'s No. 1 retirement destination. by Carrie Frye about the cover: Climate and picturesque scenery are among the top reasons retirees are making the move to the Asheville area for an enhanced quality of life.
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“The heat of autumn is different from the heat of summer. One ripens apples, the other turns them to cider." — JA N E
10 Literary Circle
18 Big Giving
11 Sentimental Journey
20 Consumer Beware
"Factory Man" Review by Cos Barnes
Our spirit never ages by Jennifer Pollard
12 Planning Ahead
Using life insurance to fund long-term care by Elizabeth Donner
13 Belle Weather
"This space reserved" getting a bit crowded by Celia Rivenbark
14 Game On
Tip of the helmet to Roman Gabriel by Thad Mumau
16 Eye Health
Recognizing diabetic retinopathy by Dr. Arghavan Almony
Leave legacy with impact by Gretchen Barry Credit or debit? by Roy Cooper
21 Law Review
Inheritance talk by Jackie Bedard
22 Senior Moments The saga of Harold by Barb Cohea
23 Book Review
"Doing It at the Dixie Dew" Review by Ann Robson
24 Brain Matters
Maintaining your brain health by Dr. MaryBeth Bailar
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ovember’s colors abound in garnets and golds, the most beautiful month of the year here in this editor’s humble opinion. The colors of all four seasons are what “North Carolina’s artist,” William Mangum, brings to life upon many a canvas. We sit down for a Carolina Conversation with the painter and now furniture designer to learn about the Honor Card program, his latest furniture designs and growing up in the state he deems “an artist’s paradise.” North Carolina’s mountains appear this time of year to be dabbed in paint as the autumn season peaks. This beautiful sight and the mountain climate are just two of the reasons Asheville and the immediate area are ranking No. 1 for retirees. We’ll meet two couples who have made the move from in-state and out-of-state to call the mountains home as our N.C. Destination Retirement series continues. A nationwide nonprofit, Music and Memory, seeks to improve the quality of life of our elders by matching up iPods with personalized playlists with residents in senior living communities. The program is making sweet music and progress where utilized. We talk with Carmelita Karhoff, long-term care ombudsman for Durham County, to learn about her experiences and the positive impact in our state. In the northeastern corner of Chatham County approaching the Durham County line, O’Kelly Chapel resides among towering trees in a clearing where believers have gathered since 1794. As our historic church series continues, we learn how this Christian Church bearing its founder’s name remains in special use today without electricity or plumbing, yet still shining in its simplicity of yesteryear. One annual celebration, A Dickens Holiday, held the Friday after Thanksgiving in Fayetteville pays tribute to the past and author Charles Dickens. The aromas of freshly baked breads and cider put festivalgoers in the holiday spirit as horsedrawn carriages stroll along Hay Street as in days gone by. Trimming the hoof and shaping a perfect-fitting horseshoe may seem like a trade of the past, but the arts of farriering and blacksmithing remain a necessity. We’ll meet one farrier who travels from New Hill throughout the region molding hot steel, shoeing horses, blacksmithing knives and thankful to be doing what he loves every day. In this season of Thanksgiving, Jeeves the co-editor and I would like to say thank you to our loyal readers and advertisers for the support you offer us all year long. Thank you for turning these pages with us! Until next month...
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Beth Macy hit the nail on the head in explaining what has happened to the furniture industry through globalization and outsourcing. In her book “Factory Man,” she tells what John Bassett III, grandson of J.D. Bassett, who started Bassett Industries, the largest maker of wood furniture in the world, did to fight China’s taking over the industry, depicting his loyalty to his country, his business and his town. With uncanny insight for one so young, this excellent journalist at the Roanoke Times in Roanoke, Virginia, who has won many awards, perhaps had remembrances of her parents’ lives as factory workers. Macy did painstaking research and described vividly the town of Bassett in its heyday with its majestic churches, good schools and the fellowship of its workers and their pride in giving an honest day’s work for an honest day’s pay to their bosses. People trained for factory work no longer exist. They have moved on. The food lines are long, and the spirit is gone. I know of what I speak. My family lived in Bassett for 13 years. My husband was in furniture manufacturing, although with another firm. It is now a depressed area with tragic unemployment and empty churches. This is the best book I have read this year, not only for subject matter but for keen research and appreciation for what the protagonist and the writer had to say. People need to pay attention. Tom Hanks’ production company and HBO have bought the broadcasting rights for this bestselling book and intend to develop the story into a miniseries, but there is no timeline for when it will air as of yet.
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Planning Ahead by Elizabeth Donner Using life insurance to fund long-term care
With the economy taking its toll on retirement nest eggs, retirees may need to look beyond traditional ways of financing their golden years, particularly when it comes to financing their health care. One of the newer ways to gain access to funds for long-term care is to use existing life insurance to obtain a “living” benefit from the policy. Many have funds invested in a life insurance policy and may need access to money when there’s a change in health status. There are a number of options to use current life insurance as a source of funds to help cover the cost of long-term care including cash surrender, loans, accelerated death benefits and life or viatical settlements. Choosing a method of accessing these funds requires careful consideration. Whole life and universal life policies are two types of life insurance policies that build cash value. These policyholders can access this cash value by method of withdrawals, loans or complete cash surrender of the policy. If surrendering a policy for its cash value, be wary of any surrender fees and note that a gain in the cash value greater than premiums paid is subject to income tax (as with any taxable situation, one should consult a qualified tax adviser). It should also be noted that transacting a cash surrender forfeits the policy’s death benefit. Some life policies offer accelerated death benefits, which allow policyholders to receive a portion of the death benefit before they pass away. Policyholders receiving this accelerated death benefit must still make their premium payments, and this option is reserved for the terminally ill. With a life or viatical settlement, the policyholder sells the life insurance to a third party for a lump sum, usually more than its cash surrender value. The lump sum proceeds from a life settlement can be used for any purpose, from financing the cost of an assisted living facility to remodeling a home. Even when there is little or no cash value, this life settlement option can be used. In situations of little to no cash value, the life/viatical settlement can be the best option. If you do decide to look at a life settlement as a means of offsetting long-term care costs, you should locate a reputable and licensed broker to help make sure you receive a fair price for your policy. Donner is a Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor, has a Bachelor of Science in Nursing, is licensed in Med/Supp & LTC & is NAIC Partnership Certified. She can be reached at 919-460-6076 or Beth@DiversifiedPlanning.com .
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Belle Weather by Celia Rivenbark "This space reserved" getting a bit crowded
My heart leapt! There was one parking space near the front of the grocery store, and I already knew that it wasn't reserved for (1) handicapped drivers, (2) parents of small children, (3) customers in need of a motorized cart or (4) new or expectant moms. Yes, I know this parking lot like the back of my whatever that thing at the end of my arm is called. I'm here at least three days a week, so I know not to pull into the space that has a cutesy drawing of a stork carrying a baby in its beak. (Note to grocery store executives: Y'all do know that babies aren't really delivered by cartoonishly large birds, right? That said, it's better than a realistic birth scene, so good call.) I'm a slow learner. It took more than a few turns into the magically empty but delightfully close-up space before I looked up, saw the grinning stork, growled at my forgetfulness and backed out. Of course, the person who gets the space never looks pregnant, but it's not like I can ask to see her pee stick with the little plus sign showing. I mean, I don't think I can. Sometimes, it's so hard to find a parking spot that I have actually considered strapping a plastic doll baby into a Baby Bjorn and using the new mom's space. But, and I mean this in all seriousness, I would only do that if it was raining. Bottom line: I felt like I had all the off-limits spaces memorized. Oh, how wrong I was. When I saw the open spot, I thought it was my lucky day. I did a quick checklist in my head. This spot had never been designated for anyone. I wheeled in and there it was, a smallish sign, newly installed: "This space reserved for veterans." Okie dokie. Now before y'all start pouring the hater-ade, let me assure you that I have nothing against veterans. I happen to think they should get a lot more than a crummy parking space close to the grocery store entrance. A lot more. But, and I mean this in the nicest possible way, how far do we want to go with this? At this rate, I fully expect the grocery store parking lot sign to declare: This space is reserved for: "You know, that rich lady who always wears cheetah prints and buys way too much wine and one small wheel of artisanal cheese every week." Rivenbark is the author of "Rude Bitches Make Me Tired." Visit www.celiarivenbark.com . Distributed by MCT Information Services.
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Game On by Thad Mumau
Roman Gabriel.
A name that could come right out of a novel, featuring a good-looking guy who was a star athlete and went on to be in the movies. In this case, the name and guy are real. Gabriel grew up in Wilmington, starring in football, basketball and baseball at New Hanover High School. A strapping first baseman who hit with power, he was a big league prospect who attracted a large number of scouts. He also attracted college football and basketball coaches, droves of them who attended Hanover games and courted him to play at their schools. More than 70 came calling. In the end, he picked N.C. State because of its proximity to Wilmington. When he turned down prestigious Notre Dame, Gabriel said, “It's too far away to thumb home.” Although he played football, basketball and baseball on the Wolfpack's freshman teams, football became his sport of choice. A very talented quarterback, he possessed unusually large size for the position and an unusually strong arm. At 6-foot-4 and 220 pounds, he was as big as some college linemen. With his howitzer right arm, he could sling a football as far as needed. Gabriel didn't get to use it much at State. Like most college teams of that time, the Wolfpack seldom threw the ball. That is reflected by the fact that, as a senior in 1961, he led the Atlantic Coast Conference in passing and didn't average even 100 yards per game through the air. He led the nation in completion percentage as a sophomore and was an All-America selection his last 14 OutreachNC.com NOVEMBER 2014
two years at State. He was also an Academic All-American. In his three seasons as the Pack quarterback, the team won only 11 of 30 games, so he didn't have a lot of help. Back then, college football players played offense and defense. One of Gabriel's biggest contributions came on the defensive side of the ball, as he intercepted a pass and also made a fumble-causing tackle on a goalline stand in State's 3-0 win over arch-rival North Carolina at Kenan Stadium in 1960. Graduating from State in 1962, he was the No. 1 pick of the Oakland Raiders in the American Football League draft that year and the second selection of the Los Angeles Rams in the National Football League draft. Gabriel spent 16 years in the NFL, the first 11 with the Rams and the other five with the Philadelphia Eagles. He was a four-time Pro Bowler and made first-team All-Pro in 1969. He was the NFL Most Valuable Player and the league's Player of the Year in '69, throwing for 2,549 yards and 24 touchdowns as he led the Rams to an 11-3 record. He passed for 3,219 yards and 23 scores in 1973. In 1967, he threw for 2,779 yards and 25 TDs as the Rams went 11-1-2. Gabriel's NFL career numbers include 29,444 passing yards and 201 touchdown passes. His jersey, No. 18, was the first to be retired by N.C. State. When he left, he held 22 school records and nine Atlantic Coast Conference records. He was inducted into the College Football Hall of Fame in 1989. In 2012, Gabriel was part of the inaugural class of the N.C. State Athletics Hall of Fame. As for the movies, Gabriel had a small role portraying a prison guard in the 1968 comedy film “Skidoo” featuring
Jackie Gleason. He had a larger role the 1969 western “The Undefeated,” playing a Native American named Blue Boy alongside John Wayne. Now 74, Gabriel has homes in Wilmington and Little River, South Carolina. Email Mumau at rutabega12@aol.com
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Recognizing diabetic retinopathy In the United States, diabetes is the leading cause of new blindness in adults 24-75 years of age. Diabetic retinopathy is one cause of diabetic eye damage and the major cause of decreased vision. Almost every person with diabetes develops some type of eye blood vessel problem. When blood sugar levels become too high, the blood vessels in the back of the eye become damaged. These blood vessels begin to leak blood and fluid into the eye (macular edema). The damaged blood vessels also become poor transporters of blood and oxygen, causing ischemia (death) of the tissue in the eye responsible for sight. This leads to growth of bad blood vessels that can bleed into the eye and cause scar tissue (diabetic retinopathy). Advanced stages of diabetic eye disease can lead to decreased central vision, which is used for reading, driving and facial recognition and peripheral vision due to retinal detachment. Symptoms may be non-existent in the early stages of the condition. Often, people who have diabetes maintain normal vision and are without symptoms until the eye disease has progressed to a significant level. As the condition progresses, symptoms may include small shadows or “floaters� in the peripheral vision, difficulty reading, decreased near vision, difficulty driving, and double vision. At advanced stages, the eyes may become painful and permanently blind. How can you take better care of yourself? If you have diabetes, work closely with your primary care physician to keep your blood sugar and blood pressure under good control. Use diet and exercise to supplement the medications prescribed by your physician. Schedule a dilated eye exam at least once each year (more often if your doctor is concerned that you may be at a higher risk of developing diabetic eye disease). Tell your eye doctor immediately if your vision changes in any way, as this may be the first sign of potentially serious problems. Dr. Almony is a diabetic eye, retina and vitreous specialist at Carolina Eye Associates. For more information on diabetic eye diseases and other eye disorders visit www.carolinaeye.com or call 910-295-2100.
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Big Giving
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While no one likes reminders of their mortality, there are some decisions that you can make today that will leave lasting good long after your time on Earth. One of the most important steps you can take now is to choose a smaller, communitybased organization to gift a portion of your remaining assets. Stories of Giving Recently, I was reading the print edition of my small town’s newspaper, and on the front page, I came across a story about a “modest” gentleman who passed away recently and bequeathed nearly $250,000 to a small music program in the mountains near my home. It was a lovely gesture since this organization does not typically receive these types of legacy gifts. This gentleman, though an avid attendee of the music program’s concerts, hadn’t donated money to this organization in years. As a result, this gift came as a complete, yet thrilling, surprise to the program - and that’s precisely what makes it so great. Another of my favorite stories of giving is that of Oseola McCarty, the laundress who left $150,000, her entire life savings, to the University of Southern Mississippi. Given her modest earnings and the fact that Ms. McCarty quit school in the sixth grade, nobody on the planet, except maybe her banker, knew she had that kind of cash to leave behind. Small Charities. Big Impact. According to Giving USA, The Annual Report on Philanthropy, adjusted for inflation, total charitable giving rose 3 percent over 2012. That’s great news! But I have always been intrigued by where people choose to leave their legacy. It is one of the last things we do, and it can be one of the most impactful final acts for family or a favorite charity. These kinds of stories give me pause for thought; although my husband and I are far from wealthy, we are financially comfortable, and it is likely that we will have assets with which to leave our legacy. But when it comes to where we leave our legacy, my husband and I are bucking the trend; we have made a conscious decision to focus our legacy away from larger, more popular, charitable organizations. I know they do great work, but there are thousands of smaller organizations who are doing good in the world, but struggle to keep the lights on. Smaller organizations deserve just as much attention as the larger nonprofits, but unlike these large entities that have the budgets to run national fundraising drives, smaller charities struggle with resource constraints. It is personally reassuring to consider that these smaller organizations will benefit more deeply from what my husband and I leave
behind. Our somewhat modest gift can make a huge impact on their mission. Consider this: $100,000 won’t go very far in a big organization with hundreds of staff across the globe and multiple expenses. But, imagine what $100,000 could do for a school in your community or your local food bank. How To Give Big To Small Organizations: 1. If you don’t already have a list of organizations in mind, do a little research. Ask friends, family members or coworkers for their favorite charities. Check your local paper, your city’s website or even contact local law enforcement or social services agency. 2. Next, look for organizations with operating budgets less than $1 million. These are the hyper-focused missions that can benefit the most from your gift. 3. I dentify the causes on your list that are important to you. This should be the easy part. Is it animal welfare, education, homelessness, health care, the environment, or something else? The options are endless. 4. Narrow your list by determining what you believe will benefit your community the most. It doesn’t necessarily mean that their work only serves your community, but it does mean that the community as a whole benefits from its work or its presence. 5. Add the organization to your will or trust. Make sure to include any special instructions directing how the funds are to be used. Note: I caution against a request that prohibits the funds from being used for administrative purposes. It’s the administrative functions that make the mission happen and too many organizations are hamstrung by those types of requests. Wouldn’t it be cool if someone directed an organization to use part of their bequeath to fund an annual thank you party for staff and volunteers, or to focus the funds on technology or building upgrades for the organization? Just like Oseola McCarty, you have the power to support whatever mission is important to you. Consider directing a portion of your estate to a struggling mission and ultimately to those who benefit from that mission. You can still provide for your family and larger organizations with your legacy funds, just consider including at least one community-based mission. Leaving a legacy that helps others long after we are gone can change the lives of those in need.
Barry, director of marketing and communications for NonProfitEasy, can be reached at gretchen.barry@nonprofiteasy.com .
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Enjoy a showcase of over 200 decorated holiday trees, wreaths, gift baskets and gingerbread houses displayed throughout a winter wonderland. The festival includes a silent auction, live entertainment, Festival Marketplace, Candy Cane Lane with Santa & Mrs. Claus and more. All proceeds benefit Sandhills Children’s Center. Pre-register for the Silent Auction www.FestivalofTrees.org NOVEMBER 2014
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Consumer Beware by N.C. Attorney General Roy Cooper Credit or debit?
When it comes to what’s in your wallet, consumers have choices. Here are some tips and information to help you understand the differences between credit and debit cards. With a credit card, you can charge purchases up to the limit set by the company. If you don’t completely pay off what you borrow each month, you’ll be charged interest on what is left unpaid. That Annualized Percentage Rate (APR), also set by the company, is usually somewhere between 10 percent and 25 percent. The better your credit, the more likely you’ll qualify for a card with a lower APR. If you don’t pay off your balance each month the company will look at how much you still owe and calculate a Minimum Payment, which is the least you can pay to keep the account in good standing. But try to pay off all or most of what you owe each month. If you only pay the minimum, it will take you a long time to pay off your balance. You’ll also end up paying a lot more, because that interest you’re charged is compounding (building on itself) each month. With a debit card, your card is linked to your checking or savings account. When you make a purchase or get cash, the money comes directly out of your
account, usually right away. Since you aren’t borrowing the money, you don’t pay interest and there’s no bill at the end of the month. However, you may still be subject to fees—especially if you spend more than you have in your account. There are also prepaid debit cards that you purchase and load with a set amount of money. Prepaid cards aren’t linked to a bank account. Which card is right for you? Disputing charges: If you pay by credit card, you have more time and more power to contest a charge and possibly get your money back. This can help if you order something online and it never arrives, or if fraudulent charges show up on your bill. Lost or stolen cards: Credit cards also offer better protection if lost or stolen. With debit cards, report a lost or stolen card right away, since the amount you’re on the hook for can increase drastically if you don’t report it within two business days (up to $500), and can be unlimited if you don’t report within 60 days. Building debt and credit: Using a debit card means you don’t accumulate debt, but it also means that you aren’t establishing a credit history. Access to cash: Using a debit card to
withdraw cash from your bank’s ATM usually doesn’t involve fees, although you may pay fees if you use another bank’s ATM. If you use a credit card to withdraw cash, you’ll usually be charged a fee. You may also face a higher APR than for normal purchases and you’ll likely be charged interest from the moment you withdraw the money. Look at interest rates: For credit cards, shop for the lowest APR you can find. Be on the lookout for low “teaser” rates designed to lure you in. Do your homework by determining what the rate will be after the discount period ends. Compare fees: Some debit cards will charge you high overdraft fees, while others may not. Credit cards can also come with extra fees including annual fees, late fees, fees for withdrawing cash, finance charges on unpaid balances and charges for paying your bill by phone. Consider rewards. Credit cards may also offer incentives like rewards programs, while debit cards do not. For more consumer tips, visit www.ncdoj.gov or call our Consumer Protection Division at 1-877-5-NO-SCAM.
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Law Review by Jackie Bedard Inheritance talk
It wasn’t easy for you to talk to your kids about sex, drugs and being safe on the Internet, but you managed—whether with red faces or not. When the subject turns to inheritance, many would rather have a root canal than talk about family money. Telling children how much they stand to inherit is fraught with what The Wall Street Journal calls “emotional land mines.” Parents who came from much more modest means might feel guilty about their wealth. You have worked hard for your money and don’t want your children to lose their work ethic. There’s also the thorny subject of who inherits what, and how much. Not talking about it can lead to confusion, mistrust and heirs ill equipped to manage wealth. Despite these obstacles, experts interviewed by The New York Times say it’s important for parents to talk openly to their children about money because failing to do so brings with it its own set of problems. Is there a “best way” of approaching the conversation about wealth with your family? I found
an interesting article in AARP interviewing etiquette expert Peggy Post of the Emily Post Institute about this issue. Post says there is no set “blueprint” to follow for every family. Before money is left to heirs, Post suggests having oneon-one conversations with your children. It’s also important to have group meetings so everyone is on the same page. Dropping the news all at once can overwhelm and dumbfound heirs who had no idea of the scope of their inheritance. Sudden wealth can be a burden. Developing a family mission statement can help heirs know what a family’s values are regarding money. Also, holding regular family meetings can reinforce those ideas. Sharing stories about how the wealth was created lets your children know the money didn’t come out of thin air. There’s going to be a lot of money transferred in coming decades. Baby boomers will leave their children more than $30 trillion in the next 30 to 40 years, according to The New York Times. Parents need to assess their children before revealing too
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much information, The Wall Street Journal advises. What is their level of financial responsibility, ability to think in an adult way and adjust to a potential large inheritance? Hand them a sheet of paper and tell them to pretend it’s a blank check and to write down what they would buy if they had the money now. It is all about communication and planning. Deciding how assets will be divvied up can be a chore. Should everything be equal? What if one child is active in a parent's business working for below market salary with the implied understanding that the business will be “left” to him or her? What if it's a blended family? This is why working with a professional team of advisers is critical in thinking these issues through. Unique family dynamics call for unique planning strategies. In the end, it comes down to great communication within a family and thoughtful planning. Bedard, an elder law attorney with Carolina Family Estate Planning, can be reached at 919-443-3035.
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Senior Moments by Barb Cohea
The saga of Harold
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I live in the boondocks just north of where the Clampetts lived before Jed discovered oil and moved to Beverly Hills. This means our country squirrels are a tough bunch of bobos. City squirrels live in parks and people’s back yards. They eat potato chip crumbs, pieces salvaged from folks’ sandwiches, popcorn and are even fed dried corn by humans. These are Beamer squirrels; life is sweet and abundant right up to the point when their furry buttocks get run over by a real Beamer. Boondock squirrels scrabble for everything they get. Long hours on the prowl looking for a seed, a nut or a scrawny tree leaf bud to eat. F250 four-wheel drive pick-up truck squirrels, they’re fast, tough, built to last. Harold One-Eye is one of them. I met Harold One-Eye last year. He came to my hanging, 6-feet off the ground, impregnable, indestructible and guaranteed bear-proof bird feeder to launch a raid. And succeeded. Really, it was a thing of beauty how he scaled the concrete blocks of my house like a tiny little rock climber ascending El Capitan. Ingenious how he pulled himself onto the rusting remains of a flower pot holder screwed onto the building and went another two vertical feet up the window screen. Inspirational when, upside down, still six horizontal feet from the feeder, he began moving to the music of his inner soul and flung himself into space. He ate, he left and he came again. But it was while on the window screen that I noticed he had only one good eye. I felt sorry for him, so I kinda, sorta cut him some slack. And of course, he became annoying. I admired him, yes, but he exhibited
entitled behavior. He’d linger at the window and if the feeder wasn’t full, give me the tilted head, one-eyed, expectant “Well?” look. So I deployed my anti-squirrel countermeasures. These were marginal and inconsistent because there’s just so many times I can stick my head out the window and bark like a dog trying to scare a squirrel away. And Harold knew that. Eventually, we came to an understanding. Harold ate only on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays, and I wouldn’t chase him round the yard . . . with a stick . . . barking. But about a month ago, Harold began chewing his way through my front door. It’s wood, it’s old, it’s delaminating. He crunches loudly. We can hear him. My cats couldn't care less; they talk to Harold through the window screen. I suspect they’re encouraging him so they can have an actual play toy that moves on its own, at least for a little while. This breach of the peace accord, however, has resulted in war and a new set of tactics: fear, revulsion, and fortification. I hear gnawing, I sneak up to the door, jerk it open and scream at Harold; sometimes, I also chase him— FEAR! REVULSION is a stinky bleach and water solution sprayed along the bottom of the door. FORTIFICATION? Sanding and repainting the door because of the bleach solution. Then back to revulsion with Bitter Apple Spray, “a taste deterrent” to stop bad animal behavior. Could be another revulsion with puree’d stink bugs ... not sure yet. For more humor, visit BarbaraCohea.com or email barbaracohea@ gmail.com .
Book Review by Ann Robson
“Doing It at the Dixie Dew”
Ruth Moose takes us on a literary mystery journey in her latest book “Doing It at the Dixie Dew.” “Doing it” refers to the attempts of Beth McKenzie Henry to restore her grandmother’s Victorian-era house to a quaint bed-andbreakfast with a tea room. Her opening lines, “People don’t go to a bed-and-breakfast to die. Do they?” grab the reader’s attention. Moose has an excellent way of blending Beth’s work on her house with observations about the people in Littleboro, a fictional North Carolina town situated somewhere between Charlotte and Raleigh, based on a few specific references to both cities. Her observations about small town life are accurate and amusing. Most readers will identify real people just like the fictitious people who fill her pages and flesh out her tale. Anyone who has lived in a small town can appreciate Moose’s comment that “good news always travels on winged shoes, but gossip dances with taps on its heels.” Her many descriptive passages are brief but to the point, painting vivid pictures for her readers. Her first guest in the B&B is an elderly Miss Lavinia Livingood who is returning to Littleboro after a long absence. She has an air of wealth and grandeur about her and you get the feeling that she has come home to die. Murder, however, was not her choice. Beth feels that a murder in her home will not be good for business and vows to get to the truth of what happened to Miss Lavinia. A number of believable but haphazard events occur, including another murder with possible connections to the first. The reader goes along as Beth works on the restoration, bakes muffins for breakfast guests and checks out various people who she believes may be involved in the murders. Along the way, we meet some eccentric characters, two of whom are neighbors with similar older homes. Another is Reba, a town oddity tolerated by most and trusted by none. Reba turns out to hold some significant clues while remaining totally clueless to what’s happening in the real world around her. What Moose does best is give the reader a very comfortable, excellently written tale of small town North Carolina. You feel she is sitting with you and chatting about events. The bonus is a good story easily enjoyed.
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Maintaining your brain health Over the past 10 years, news headlines have been drawing our attention to dementia and Alzheimer’s disease. More recently, there has been growing attention to what can be done to maintain brain health as we age, with the advent of “brain games” and computerized memory training programs. However, scientific research shows there are actually a multitude of effective and inexpensive ways to maintain brain health. Take steps to maintain your physical health
● See your primary care physician on a regular basis to ensure management of health conditions. ● Take medications as prescribed. Use a pill box, and it may be helpful to develop a routine for filling the box and for taking medications. ● Physical exercise such as walking promotes your health status and your emotional well-being. Recent research has shown that regular aerobic exercise can improve memory performance by increasing blood flow to areas of the brain. Consult your physician prior to engaging in any new exercise regimen in order to ensure that it is medically appropriate. Keep your mind active
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promote cognitive health and functioning. Develop a set routine for daily activities including taking medications, eating meals, doing household chores and exercising. Stay organized
● Keep a list of appointments, tasks, shopping/grocery items, addresses, passwords and information in one, easily accessible place. ● Designate a specific place in the home for easily lost items, such as a wallet or house keys. Use reminders
● For a calendar reminder, cross out the days as they pass in order to make it easier to read the rest of the month and see the current date. ● Post reminders on the refrigerator of weekly duties. Don't neglect your emotional and social well-being
● If you think you are suffering from emotional problems and not in treatment, seek psychotherapy and/ or psychiatric consultation. ● Volunteer or participate in activities to increase social engagement. Consider having a neuropsychological evaluation.
● If you have concerns about your memory or thinking skills, talk to your doctor about getting a neuropsychological evaluation. This evaluation will give you detailed information about your current level of brain functioning and can provide individualized recommendations about how to maintain brain health. Dr. Bailar, a clinical neuropsychologist at Pinehurst Neuropsychology, can be reached at 910-420-8041.
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Ask the Expert
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Our certified care management professionals will answer any aging questions you have. Email your questions to info@outreachnc.com.
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I recently went to the pharmacy to fill my wife’s prescription for Namenda, and I was told that I would no longer be able to get the dose she has been taking. She has done well on this medication, and I don’t want her to stop taking it. What can I do?
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The discontinuation or shortage of Namenda is something many consumers are facing. Pharmacies are no longer able to purchase the 5 mg and 10 mg dosages, and the new recommended target dose of 28 mg is in short supply due to the increased demand. Namenda (generic: memantine hydrochloride) is available in tablet and oral solutions. The medication is often prescribed to help reduce the actions of chemicals in the brain that may contribute to the symptoms of Alzheimer's disease. Forest Laboratories announced earlier in the year that they would discontinue the sale of memantine (Namenda) 5-mg and 10-mg tablets effective Aug. 15, in favor of focusing on sales of its once-daily, extendedrelease formulation (Namenda XR). Dr. Marco Taglietti, chief medical officer and executive vice-president for drug development and research of Forest Laboratories, states, "Namenda
Namenda™ 10-mg (pictured) as well as 5-mg was discontinued as of August 2014.
XR offers important benefits, including convenient, once-daily dosing, which is particularly meaningful for this patient population and their caregivers." In a more recent development, a company named Actavis picked up Namenda when it bought Forest Laboratories Inc., a $28 billion acquisition that closed in July. The latest patent on Namenda XR extends through September 2029. Actavis’s patents for the 5-mg and 10-mg doses of Namenda expire in October 2015, and some generic drug manufacturers can start selling competitor products three months prior. Consumers like yourself are being told that the dose they currently use is not available. If your wife is still on the 10-mg dose, you will most likely be able to get that until the supply runs out, but you will eventually need to talk to your doctor about switching to the extended release dose. If she is taking the 28-mg dosage already, you may need to talk to your physician about getting a back-up prescription for the 10-mg, twice-a-day dose that can be used until the 28-mg dose becomes available. In talking with several pharmacies, most can still order the 10-mg dose. It is the 28-mg, extended-release dose of which they are receiving only a sporadic supply. Ask your local pharmacy what it has in stock or will be able to order. If this does not match your current prescription dose, call your physician to discuss your options. Natt, a certified senior adviser and care manager, can be reached at amyn@agingoutreachservices.com .
Let someone take care of you for once. Your kids. Your parents. Your friends and colleagues. Maybe even your grandkids. But have you thought about who will care for you when the time comes? It’s something most of us don’t like to think about. However, taking the time to put a long-term care plan in place now can save you and your family a lot of stress in the future. A plan will also ensure that you’ll get the care you need and that you’ll be in control of selecting how and where you’ll receive care.
What exactly is long-term care? Long-term care is a variety of services that help meet the personal needs of people with physical or cognitive impairments who cannot care for themselves for long periods of time. The largest part of long-term care is assistance with everyday tasks like bathing and dressing.
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Medicare Update by Lynne Drinkwater
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ore than 70 years before the start of the Civil War, a fiery Methodist preacher in Chatham County published a strong anti-slavery manifesto. Five years later, preacher James O’Kelly had broken his affiliation with the Methodist Church and formed his own denomination, the Republican Methodists, later to be known simply as the Christian Church. The small one-room church on N.C. 751 in the very northeast corner of Chatham County, still bears his name: O’Kelly Chapel. The present building is the fourth on the original site and has been remarkably preserved in the late 19th, early 20th century style of its construction. Although the church has no belfry, its steeply pitched roof and lancet windows are characteristic of rural churches of the time. Even today, the building has no electricity or plumbing. James E. Harward Jr. is a sixth-generation, direct descendant of James O’Kelly, living in nearby Durham. He recalls stories his father told him about long winter worship services in O’Kelly Chapel with just a pot-bellied stove for heat. During summer funerals, before proper embalming was available, the deceased would be packed in ice. In 1895, O’Kelly’s denomination, the Christian Church, was responsible for founding Elon College, and a monument on the campus honors his name. Over the years the denomination underwent changes, and around 1970, became the United Church of Christ. By that time, regular services at the chapel had dwindled to occasional ones, with the congregation migrating to newer, more comfortable quarters in Durham. James Harward’s two aunts lived in a house across the street from O’Kelly Chapel, and for many years it fell to them to maintain the grounds. After they had both passed away, their house was sold and the proceeds left for its continued upkeep. Today, the maintenance and use of the chapel are divided between two United Church of Christ congregations, Pilgrim UCC in Durham and UCC of Chapel Hill. The Rev. Ginger
“Sometimes couples ask to be married in the chapel. They tend to be the kind of people who like Brasher-Cunningham, the pastor of Pilgrim UCC, holds a spring and fall service each year. “People love coming out here,” she says, standing in the quiet of the chapel's interior. “We usually have 70 people attend. “Sometimes couples ask to be married in the chapel. They tend to be the kind of people who like simplicity.” In fact, the former associate pastor of Pilgrim UCC was married in O'Kelly Chapel. Worshipers enter the chapel through gabled double doors crowned by a large Gothic transom. Inside, the recent addition of wide wooden planks on the walls, floor and ceiling preserve the rustic simplicity and sense of historic continuity. Harward’s daughter, Beth Bowling, used to resent the lack of restroom facilities in the chapel during the occasional long services she attended there as a child. “It wasn’t until I was a teenager that I began to appreciate the sense of history you feel there,” she says. “Of course,” she adds, smiling, “In the summer, we always hoped for a breeze to come through the windows.”
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year and a half ago, Carmelita Karhoff re c e ive d an urgent c a l l from a local nursing home. One of their residents with dementia had become what the caller described as “unmanageable.” The nursing home wanted Karhoff to know of their plan to transfer the resident to a facility with a locked dementia unit. It wasn't something that sat well with Karhoff. She holds the long title of Regional Long Term Care Ombudsman for Triangle J Council of Governments’ Area Agency on Aging. It's her job—and her calling— to advocate for the welfare of the residents in long term care homes in her region. As she listened to the caller's situation, she had a feeling there had to be an alternative to what would certainly be a tragedy for both the resident and his family. Two years before, Karhoff had attended a professional conference in Missouri on what's known in her field as “culture change.” Culture change refers to a shift in the focus 32 OutreachNC.com NOVEMBER 2014
in long-term care from the welfare of the institution to the welfare of the residents. It's an audacious goal, but Karhoff likes the word “audacious.” In fact, she often uses it to describe her visions for a better world for the elderly. While Karhoff was at the culture change conference, she was invited to a casual dinner by some of the people to whom she had just been introduced. By pure chance, one of the people at the dinner table was a former consultant to the Department of Education named Dan Cohen. Cohen's background wasn't in geriatrics. It wasn't even in medicine. It was in the uses of technology. One day in 2006, Cohen was thinking about his own future and decided that if he lived long enough to be in a nursing home, he would like to listen to his favorite '60s music. That led him to wonder if people currently in any of the country's 16,000 long-term care facilities had the chance to listen to music of their youth on iPods. The startling fact was that none had. His first attempt to try out his idea of offering personalized music through iPods at a local nursing
home was a big hit, not only with the residents but also with their families and the staff. The remarkable improvement in the responsiveness and well-being of the residents inspired Cohen to seek funding and implement the plan on a larger scale. As the program expanded, the reports that started coming back to Cohen were nothing short of amazing. Many patients with dementia severe enough to render them virtually incommunicative became animated and able to engage in conversation after listening to a playlist of favorite music from their youth. Somehow, something was happening inside these patients' brains. While Cohen was describing his initiative around the dinner table at the Missouri conference, something was also happening in Karloff ’s brain. The concept resonated. “Music touches me deeply,” Karloff says, “and always brings me home.” Home for Karhoff is far off in the Philippines, but she experiences a feeling of comfort listening to music from her youth, a feeling that can transport her half a world away. “Our brains are hard wired for music,” she says.
Now, listening to her favorite music, she is home wherever she is. Science doesn't fully understand the impact of music. Oliver Sacks, whom the late Robin Williams portrayed in the movie “Awakenings,” touched on the phenomenon in his recent book, “Musicophilia.” He reports that listening to music appears to “turn on” more parts of the brain than any other stimuli. “The philosopher Kant had it right,” Sacks says. “'Music is the quickening art.'” Dr. Connie Tomaino, executive director of The Institute for Music and Neurologic Functions, says that by awakening these pathways in the brain, music can provide a gateway to reach people who are otherwise unreachable, after dementia has robbed them of their ability to remember. Karhoff was still excited about the idea when she returned to the annual conference a year later. By that time, Cohen's nonprofit organization, Music and Memory, Inc., had produced a documentary film called “Alive Inside.” One segment in the film tells the story of Henry, a resident with dementia who spent his days sitting in a chair with his head bowed, neither talking nor responding. It was heartbreaking for his children who remember their dad with a love of music and a lively personality. In the film, we see Henry receive an iPod with a playlist chosen just for him. His joy is soon apparent, and he begins to move to the beat. Even when his headphones are removed, Henry's able to identify Cab Calloway and recall his favorite tune. Whatever's happening to Henry, the effects seem to linger. After seeing the film, Karhoff was determined to bring the documentary to North Carolina. When “Alive Inside” was to be screened in Durham, her organization had to close registration early because of the huge response. Since then, the North Carolina Culture Change Coalition has co-sponsored showings in Wake, Orange and Moore counties. “This was about the same time Medicare brought up a mandate to reduce the inappropriate use of anti-psychotic medications in nursing homes,” Karhoff says.
The Life Enrichment team at Croasdaile Village in Durham trained and implemented the Music and Memory program into residents’ routines. Some use it by choice and others for behavior modification. All have seen positive and lasting effects. Although the program itself can be labor-intensive for the staff as they work and take the time to create personalized playlists for the residents, it is making a difference here and at other locations nationwide. “I just like seeing them respond,” says Jennifer Mogle of Croasdaile Village. One resident, who uses the iPod as a distraction during her dialysis visits, quizzed the team to see when she might expect the addition of Yolanda Adams to her gospel playlist, of which her favorite song is “Fairest Lord Jesus.” The documentary, “Alive Inside,” which has won the prestigious Sundance Audience Award for an American Documentary, is scheduled to be released on DVD before the end of 2014 and should be available for purchase or for viewing on Netflix. For more information on the Music and Memory program, visit www.musicandmemory.org . The Triangle J Council of Governments’ Area Agency on Aging welcomes both financial donations and donations of new and used iPods and other personalized listening devices. For more information, contact Carmelita Karhoff at ckarhoff@ tjcog.org .
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North Carolina responded to this challenge by offering educational forums and trainings to enhance the use of nonpharmacologic approaches and person-centered dementia care practices. The use of personalized music is one of these alternative approaches. Take the extraordinary case of Reuben and Evelyn Ewert. Evelyn's Alzheimer's had brought her to a long-term care facility in the Triangle. She was acting aggressively, unable to express coherent thoughts. Reuben was desperately looking for something that could help his wife when he was fortunate enough to cross paths with Karhoff and the Music and Memory Program. Listening through an iPod to a personalized playlist, Evelyn became calm and clear enough to answer questions. Her previously dull eyes became bright. She eventually no longer needed her two anti-psychotic medications. For Reuben, it was the biggest gift of his life. “I married her ''til death do us part,' not Alzheimer's,” he says. Before Evelyn passed away, Reuben spent most of his time beside her, grateful for the moments of his wife's return to him that the music made possible. “Anyone who is passionate about helping the elderly,” says Karhoff, “has no choice but to implement an idea like this. At this point, it's a moral imperative to move forward.” Training in the Music and Memory Program is available to both professional and family caregivers. It's webinarbased and allows trainees to share information with over 400 organizations which participate in eight countries. There is still a long way to go. Although the North Carolina General Assembly approved a statewide plan to address Alzheimer's, it's lagged behind states such as Wisconsin, Utah and Ohio in funding personalized music programs. “It's important for people to help spread the word,” Karhoff says. “We know what can happen when we're ready to reach out to one another.” That day, a year and a half ago, when she received the call from a nursing home about transferring an unmanageable resident, Karhoff asked if they would hold off the transfer and try something new. With the help of the resident’s family, a personalized playlist was developed and an iPod provided for the resident to listen to his favorite music. A week later, the resident was so changed, the facility said it would hold off on the transfer. With his iPod, he no longer presented a challenge to the staff. He no longer needed a locked unit. “My goals are audacious,” says Karhoff, “that every person living with dementia be given an opportunity to experience joy in remembering and regain his or her individuality, even for just brief periods."
Christmas of yesteryear By THAD MUMAU | Photography by LONDON GESSNER
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ayetteville is named for a Frenchman, and the city is filled with Scottish heritage. But for one day every year, it takes on the look and feel of jolly old England. Friday, Nov. 28, the 15th annual Dickens Holiday will be held in downtown Fayetteville. It is a well-attended and joyous event, a transformation really, as people dress in Victorian fashion to celebrate the beginning of the Christmas season. The day, starting at 1 p.m. and lasting until 9 o'clock, is jam-packed with a variety of activities. Horse-drawn carriages carry shoppers past merchants' windows decorated Victorian style. There are artisans, vendors and treats that include hot cider and gingerbread. “It is just a great day,” says Dr. Hank Parfitt, chairman of the Dickens Holiday Committee. “People genuinely have a good time, and there is so much goodwill. That's what it is about. I think it's fair to say, that even though this is not Fayetteville's biggest event, it is our city's favorite event. It evokes a feeling of joy and fondness; everybody is happy.” Always held the day after Thanksgiving, the average attendance is 10,000 people, with as many as 15,000 on hand one year.
“The secret to A Dickens Holiday,” Parfitt says, “is the message of ‘A Christmas Carol’ (the popular book written by Charles Dickens). It's that we need to help one another, treat our fellowman kindly and remember that life is more than accumulating wealth and things.” Vendors set up early on the day of the event, with music beginning in the morning. As participants arrive after noon, they are entertained by strolling musicians who stay in one spot for 20 minutes and then move on. Performers, including a magician and the Coventry Carolers from Wake County, are assigned street corners. Music continues throughout the day, adding to the relaxed, festive atmosphere. “With all of the colorful top hats and other costumes, you feel like you have stepped back in time,” Parfitt says. “What is interesting in talking about Dickens Holiday's magic – and that really is the best word – is that shopping is a part of it. “Buying for a friend or a loved one is a pleasant, rather than hectic, experience. There is none of that pushing people out of the way that often makes holiday shopping a chore. Shopping on this day is a good experience.”
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During the afternoon, people casually walk around, look into store windows, shop and enjoy rides in carriages pulled by Belgian horses. There are two of the carriages, each holding 11 or 12 passengers. The leisurely ride over the brick streets of downtown provides a fantastic view as passengers are five feet off the ground. At dusk, there is a candlelight procession including anyone who wants to join. Lights have been turned off, and the streets are dark except for the light from candles, which are picked up from merchants. The two-block walk ends at the historic Market House. A young child who has been selected pushes a button that lights the Christmas tree under the Market House. At that moment, all of the street lights are turned on and church bells ring. Carols are sung, enhancing the effect. 36 OutreachNC.com NOVEMBER 2014
Following all this is a fireworks display set off on Person Street, allowing the people at the Market House to see the show. The rest of the evening is spent shopping and eating at downtown restaurants that are open to accommodate the crowd. “This was conceived as a joint venture between the Downtown Alliance and the Arts Council,” Parfitt says, “and was meant to offer a unique holiday shopping experience, one different from Black Friday. The feeling is that a relaxed, fun-filled day results in people being in a friendly frame of mind and in saner shopping. “And, with the unique shops we have in downtown Fayetteville, folks can discover some neat and different gift ideas. “The entire day is special,” Parfitt says. “People look forward to it because of the costumes, the relaxed atmosphere and the overall goodwill.
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A Farrier's Tale By CARRIE FRYE | Photography by DIANA MATTHEWS
light foggy mist still hangs in the early morning air as the freshly risen sun’s rays shine down upon the pasture at Karen Mahaffey’s Erin Lea Farm in Lee County. Wooden fences outline the rolling green fields that lead to the barn where farrier and blacksmith Andy Henderson begins his work at this timeless and traditional trade. “At one time in history, it was the same job to be a farrier and a blacksmith,” says Henderson, his back arched as he holds the horse’s hoof in place and hammers in nails. “Now, a farrier works on a horse, and a blacksmith makes art.” Henderson moves from the front to the back of the horse in rhythmic movements using his tools —shoe puller, hoof nippers, rasp and hammer. His keen eye may be the most important tool as he trims the hoof and determines the size and perfect fit for each shoe, heating and molding the mild steel at a smoking 2,000 degrees. “There’s probably a lot more to it than most people realize with studying the anatomy and physiology of the horse,” says Henderson. “The part of the foot I am working with is made of modified hair similar to a rhinoceros horn,” he explains. “I figure this is like going to the dentist
for the horses. It doesn’t hurt, but it’s not something they want to do,” he adds, grinning. “Some are more receptive than others. “In the wild, horses move around and wear their hooves down. In domesticity, we regulate their work, so shoes keep their hooves from getting too short. The foot can’t wear, so every six weeks, we take the shoe off and trim the hoof and put a new shoe on.” This routine is one Henderson has perfected in his quarter century of experience as a farrier. Making his way from his farm in New Hill, he travels to horses across the region from Sanford and Siler City to Raleigh, Clayton and destinations in-between. “I have always loved horses,” says Henderson, who grew up in Indiana. “Shortly after I graduated from Purdue, I went to horseshoeing school, a graduation present from my mother. Then I moved here to follow my lovely bride’s career. She’s a vet in Durham. “I thought I would just shoe horses until I found a real job. Twenty-eight years later … I am still looking,” Henderson says with a mischievous smile. “Everything becomes a job if you do it for a living, but I can’t imagine doing anything else.” Working with horses is a positive, but their owners also have an effect on Henderson. “The customers are the most rewarding,” he says. “I talk with someone different every day.” It’s amazing sometimes what people
will tell a horseshoer. I had one lady tell me, ‘I’m pregnant,’ and I said, ‘What?’” and she said, ‘Shhh … I haven’t told my husband yet,” he says, laughing. “I have customers in every walk of life, doctors, lawyers, plumbers, people eBaying furniture to feed their horses, so I have 30 to 40 different bosses. I started shoeing for Karen’s daughter when she was 5, and now I see her as a young horse professional.” “I just leave him alone,” adds Mahaffey, as she holds the reigns on her horse, Kayla, while Henderson
continues to clean and trim Kayla’s back feet. “Andy knows his job, and he’s very patient.” Sometimes the job allows him to help a horse with a foot problem. “You run into horses with issues you can help by sharing with the veterinary process and minimize the damage to a horse’s hoof,” says Henderson. CONTINUED PAGE 40 u NOVEMBER 2014
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“At one time in history, it was the same job to be a farrier and a blacksmith. Now, a farrier works on a horse, and a blacksmith
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“Andy really cared for my horse and his white line disease,” says Diana Matthews of Sanford. “He tailor made a special shoe for him to wear while his foot was healing.” “It’s all part of the job,” says Henderson. “When the weather is beautiful and temperate, and I have good horses to work on and people who are fun to chat with, that’s a good day.” And Henderson has had plenty of those good days through the years and is now changing how he spends his time away from farriering. “I used to compete at horseshoeing, which was good for me in my line of work, and some rodeo and team roping. I’m doing less of that now. We’ve bought a vacation home in the mountains and plan to retire someday … not this week,” he adds with a quick grin. “Right now, I like making knives.” The art of crafting horseshoes is what Henderson considers work in comparison to his blacksmithing of knives made of Damascus steel, which is distinguished by its intricate and ornate patterns of banding and mottling resembling flowing water. “Blacksmithing, it’s my hobby,” he says, tacking on another horseshoe. “A friend of mine retired from shoeing horses and started making hunting knives. I just fell in love with the part where you make the steel. I like making stuff people use, stuff that is pretty and functional. It takes about three days to make one knife.” Time, technique and patience are all part of blacksmithing and farriering, and Henderson is content to share his knowledge and experience as he continues in his craft. “I’ve had several apprentices over the years,” he says, finishing up another horse as the noon sun shines down upon the barn. “When I was first starting, I was fortunate to have good horseshoers to gain experience from and learn over time, so I feel it is my responsibility to give that to the next generation of farriers.” LEFT: Andy Henderson travels from horse farm to farm shoeing horses continuing in a trade hundreds of years old and crafting knives, of Damascus steel, further developing his art of blacksmithing. HORSESHOE "A" (PG. 39) printed courtesy of Etsy.com shop BlacksmithCreations.
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ith a brush dabbed in paint in his steady hand, William Mangum leaves his mark stroke by stroke. Mangum, recognized as North Carolina’s artist, is known simply as Bill to those he meets inside his William Mangum Fine Art Gallery in Greensboro. His works exemplify the beauty of the state’s landscapes from the mountains to the coast throughout the seasons. Visitors to the gallery often don’t realize the soft-spoken gentleman wrapping up or loading a purchase is the artist himself. He recently combined his talents with Asheboro’s Klaussner Home Furnishings to create a line of furniture dedicated to his home state combining form with function and complete attention to every detail. Mangum's Southern Pines collection debuted last month at the High Point Market Week. This is also one of Mangum’s busiest seasons as he travels to 13 different urban ministry agencies across North Carolina including Raleigh, Durham and Fayetteville to launch his annual Honor Card, an original painting printed on a greeting card inspired by the friendship he began with a homeless man in 1988. This year’s card is entitled “Eternal Hope.” It’s a project that remains close to Mangum’s heart, and 100 percent of all the proceeds go directly to the agencies for funding. Through his art and philanthropy, Mangum continues to paint the splendor of all things North Carolina.
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WM: The irony is that I was born in Southern Pines at Moore County Hospital, and depending on whatever day it is, I will claim Pinehurst or Southern Pines and use it to my advantage or disadvantage. My mom sort of had me passing through. I never grew up there as a child. Pops was in the Navy, so we traveled the eastern U.S. from Newport, Rhode Island, all the way down to Charleston. Unfortunately, when I was 8 years old, my mother had a stroke, and she was paralyzed on her right hand side. In the middle of the night, I was brought back to North Carolina, and I was raised by my aunts and uncles for a few years until the family got back together. It was a rude introduction coming back to North Carolina. I went from a naval base to Aunt Kate’s farm. There was this bowl of corn flakes, and I took a pitcher of milk and poured it on it. I took a heaping spoonful, and I started gagging on it and spewed it across the table. Aunt Kate came running out and said, “Billy, what’s wrong?” And I said, “Aunt Kate, that milk has gone bad.” And she said, “No, I just got it from the cow.” It was certainly not pasteurized. Interestingly enough, that period of my life, which was really quite challenging, was also the beginning of my art. That was really my escape and really what entertained me. I really didn’t enjoy the farm. It was too difficult, but then I got used to it. The irony was, 35 years later, it inspired me to do my second book, called “Carolina Preserves,” which was a big celebration of our state. The genesis came from my Aunt Kate. Her pantry was like the grocery store, the A&P, and she was an artist in her own right because she would preserve all these wonderful fruits and vegetables from her garden. What it did was inspire me to do what Aunt Kate did, and that was to preserve North Carolina with individuals who would write for me from all walks of life. That’s why I invited 48 North Carolinians, and this book was a huge success. And at the same time, it turned into a film celebrating our state. So, for me, that early age was the beginning.
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Mangum in his Greensboro gallery.
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Having studied art in college, what led you to watercolors?
Ultimately, I discovered watercolors, my principal medium, my senior year at UNCG (University of North Carolina at Greensboro). I came to Greensboro for my art, not really … from Sandhills Community College where I got my art degree, there were two schools I could have gone to for art. One was East Carolina and the other was UNCGreensboro. UNCG had one thing East Carolina didn’t at the time, women. The ratio was 10 to 1, so I said, “This is an easy pick right here.” So I came to UNCG, and my senior year not having any money, I decided to do a painting for my mom for Christmas. I went the local dime store, Woolworth’s, and I bought a 59-cent tray of watercolors and came back to the dorm. I had no idea what I was doing. 44 OutreachNC.com NOVEMBER 2014
The price was right. I pulled out a sheet of drawing paper, and that night, that’s the very first watercolor I did (pointing to the framed painting in his office). I went back and bought a $2.98 frame, wrapped it up and gave it to my mom for Christmas. And she said, “Billy, you have got to do more. That’s unbelievable.” She was really moved by it, so I took my life savings, $4.98, and I went and bought a set of Grumbacher watercolors, and I began to teach myself how to paint in this new medium. I had painted in oils and acrylics and everything else, but there was just something about it that just really resonated with me. Since then, I have created more than 3,000 paintings, literally traveling around the world. It was in my senior year that a dean saw me working and invited me to have a show. I wound up selling all of the paintings, and really, the rest is history. I have been doing it for 37 years now.
What do you most enjoy painting?
Landscapes are principally my favorite, and what I love about North Carolina is that it’s an artist’s paradise. I have had the unique privilege of traveling around the world and painting in many foreign countries. I did that early on, but there’s still something about coming home that’s unrivaled. It is the topography from the mountains to the coast and compound that with four unique seasons, and it is limitless. I can go back to the same area, and every time, it is totally different. Can you describe your process?
When people look at my paintings, they assume what I have painted is exactly what I came across, and there is a lot of artistic license that I utilize whether it is just the change of the light or the change of the season or incorporating a bench which was on
another side of WRAL Gardens in Raleigh (pointing to a painting in the gallery). Manipulating or pulling things are all what I do to entertain the viewer. One of the fun things I do is capture the commission from beginning to end, like when I am doing the painting I will photograph it. When I do programs, I will play it back so I give them the insight as to how it all began. So usually, I start from the farthest point back, which is the sky and then I slowly start working towards me and eventually finish it up in the foreground. So often, people look at them and say they look just like photographs, but there’s a lot of abstract qualities to it. I kind of have an idea when I sketch out a piece when I am on location. I will do a series of field studies, and then I come back to the studio here, and I work it up into a big piece. With Southern Pines, this new furniture series that is coming out, I am doing a whole series of paintings on pine trees. So I just wanted to capture this loblolly pine, which is very sort of abstract, and so it is like weaving a tapestry. Is there an award or recognition that stands out for you?
When I started out as a kid, one of the things you had to do was prove yourself. You had to have a degree. So I would enter a lot of competitions to try and earn credentials. Then over time, really the essence to me and the greatest blue ribbon that I ever got was what happened in the third grade. A teacher entered my artwork in the State Fair, and I won this big blue ribbon. That was just an early stroke. So today, when people are willing to part with their hard-earned money for a piece of my work, that’s a pretty big award in my life.
Was a furniture line the next logical step to expanding your art?
Today, I create about 50 to 60 originals a year, and probably the greatest compliment I have is working with Klaussner on an artistinspired home collection. I have been working on this idea for 12 years. I have actually been down the path a couple of times, and it didn’t work out. This one did, and it is really quite a tribute to the state and a celebration of North Carolina, because the collections are named Blue Ridge, which is all this beautiful cherry finish. Opposite that is Sea Breeze. It is that diversity that compliments our state. It has just been fantastic to work in a three-dimensional aspect of taking color and texture and weaving it into furniture. The idea of painting it and the contrast all the way down to the hardware. One of the things I wanted to bring to the table is that everybody has an artistic bend. They may not say that, but they do home crafts or they collect, so I wanted to create some home pieces that allow them to sort of celebrate their home and their own life. The collection has a lot of function and versatility to it. Thoughtful scale, it is not so big and gargantuan that you can’t use it in a lot of places. So it is very simple and clean, so it allows people to put their own personality into it like a canvas. Southern Pines is going to be really neat. A lot of it is going to be in a warm finish, and a lot of accent pieces are in a lighter finish. And all this has expanded into including rugs by Surya, an India-based rug company. We’ll have 18 new rugs at the debut in January. I pinch myself every day, because it is just a dream come true to see it all in reality.
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Has your family always been supportive of your art?
My mother was my most ardent cheerleader. She had that stroke, and she survived it. She was a friend to many. Right on the door, there’s a sign that says, Carey-Mangum Gallery. My biggest living cheerleader is my older brother. Bob was always so supportive when I was in school. He actually helped me start the first gallery, and I named it after him. I would not be here without Bob. He was always encouraging me and bought a lot of paintings early on. What’s different now about being an artist in comparison to when you began?
It’s difficult, even to this day, to constantly reinvent yourself. What I try to tell kids is that it has got to be a coal that is always burning inside your soul. People used to ask me, “Why do you paint?” and I would say the mortgage is due or there’s a college tuition bill. Having a family early on was probably one of the best things for me because most artists are easy-go-lucky, there’s very little accountability. I always had a bar set, and I had something to reach towards. I encourage them to get familiar with other local artists and talk to them. I enjoy doing that. I mentor one to two students in college each year. They have been at UNCG or Elon. I remember how my brother loaned me money to frame up the 10 paintings, so three years ago, I started up an endowment and scholarship to award a senior toward all of their art supplies that year to work for their first show. So annually, I get to come onsite and share advice and encouragement. Since the holiday season is upon us, can you share how the Honor Card program began?
It was more than 20 years ago, and I was having breakfast with a friend at Hardees. I was looking at Peter, and
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over his shoulder was this guy who looked disheveled. I nodded at him, and he nodded back. I said, “I think he’s homeless.” There was something about him. I had come to know the Lord a few years earlier. I had gone through a bankruptcy myself. I had this meteoric success out of college, and three years later, I had to declare bankruptcy. So in befriending Michael, I had heard about a place called Urban Ministry, which is this sort of an outreach shelter. I asked him if he wanted me to take him there and he did. That turned into a three-year friendship until he passed away. I became Michael’s caretaker; not only was he homeless, he was mentally ill. I don’t know what came over us, but we struck a chord. He drove me crazy most of the time, but he taught me a lot of life lessons. During that time, I was asked to use my talent to help raise some funds, and I annually do a painting to raise awareness and create this Honor Card. People purchase the card for $5, and all of the proceeds go to the local agency. The first card, I was downtown. And no, it wasn’t snowing in Greensboro, and I was sketching it out. Michael showed up. It was a Godsend, and I told him to walk up and down the street and he did, and it turned into the first card. It was a great success and raised more than $50,000. After Michael died, I just felt like this was something I could do as a means of utilizing my talent. Michael loved artwork. So what began in Greensboro in 1988 is now in 13 cities. It has raised more than $5 million at no cost to the agencies. It has been a real ministry and a great blessing in my life. This year’s is called Eternal Hope. Hope is the most fragile commodity. If there is one thing we can bank on it is to constantly let people know that the Lord does love them. I think that is why these agencies are so critical, because they use volunteers to come and be the hands of the Lord and reach out and care for them and to re-inspire them, so this year’s title, Eternal Hope, is that living testimony.
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utumn beckons many visitors to North Carolina’s mountains for a weekend getaway or a drive along the Blue Ridge Parkway to see the burnt orange, gold and garnet foliage at its peak. Yet, there is another popular reason attracting couples from other states and all walks of life, and that is retirement. A recent Del Webb study found that North Carolina is the No. 1 retirement choice for the nation’s youngest baby boomers. Asheville and the immediate area are also ranked No. 1, according to TopRetirements.com, which cites the region’s “stellar reputation because of its beautiful mountains, gentle fourseasons climate and recreational and cultural opportunities.” With all the colors of November, Bill and Nita Brunner are basking in the beauty of their first fall season since moving into their 1924 bungalow in January. A screened porch facing their back yard and their neighbor’s towering maple makes for quite the scenic view. “That maple tree is like a high rise for the birds,” says Nita, an avid gardener and nature lover, whose green thumb has transformed both the front and back yards of their picturesque cottage. “I have been picking up the leaves as they begin to fall, and each one is like a unique painting.” Married for 30 years, the Brunners have a history of moving, having lived overseas and most recently spending the previous eight years in Southern Pines before making the transition to Asheville with their dog, Zelda. “I grew up in Asheville, and I was gone 41 years,” says Nita, who recalls growing up on the south side of the city and riding the bus downtown for 25 cents to Woolworth's for a Coke. “We would come back to visit my parents over the years. We came up here for our 30th anniversary and started visiting again after my mother passed away. The shock of all shocks was when Bill said, ‘I think we should move here.’ We had run out of projects, and we sure have got them here,” adds Nita, smiling and pointing to the painting she has left to do on the exterior eaves of the porch. “There are many projects,” adds Bill. “Getting the yard cleaned up and changing it from a jungle to something beautiful. I don’t like to paint, but Nita does, and the end product is great. We’re getting there.” A fig tree in the back yard was in need of some care, and this year it produced an abundance of fresh fruit. A few of Nita’s additions to the garden for her first growing season were lettuce, tomatoes, basil, radishes, marigolds and zinnia. “The mum, there, was a piece of a piece from my mother’s plant,” says Nita. “They like the mountains. Next spring, I want to plant camellias.” 48 OutreachNC.com NOVEMBER 2014
Zelda Brunner is enjoying retired life in Asheville.
Jan and Dewey Johnson enjoy the fall colors of the landscape in Hendersonville.
Nita and Bill Brunner make a weekly outing to the farmers market on UNC-Asheville’s campus.
Aside from beautifying the gardens, the couple also has remodeled a bathroom, installed new energy-efficient doors and windows along with hardiplank siding, added granite countertops to the kitchen and painted everything inside and out to update the cottage with cozy, comfortable tones providing a warm welcome. The neighbors, too, appreciate the improvements the Brunners are bringing. “Everybody has been very friendly, and there are a lot of people walking by,” says Nita. “We liked the walkability in Southern Pines, so that’s what we were looking for here. We’ve found City Bakery, and we can walk there, to church, to the grocery store, the farmers market and to the new Trader Joe’s. I bought a roller cart, so it's easier to carry things home” says Nita, grinning. “This is the beer city, too," adds Bill, "and I haven’t bought a non-local beer since we moved. It’s just the variety here, and everything is so convenient, and there are plenty of activities and diversity. There’s a nice park down the street for walking Zelda.” “We’ve met lots of dogs, lots of people, artists abound here. There’s a lot of arts and crafts and street markets,” says Nita. “There’s something about being this close to nature and the mountains that brings out creativity.” Wet felting is one of Nita’s creative hobbies as well as donating her time as a way to give back and become involved in her new community. “My new volunteer venture is to be a reading buddy,” says Nita, who also drove the St. Mary’s Episcopal Church van for their summer program and was an active member of the Moore County Literacy Council in Southern Pines. “Literacy projects are still part of my passion. I’m just entering my second childhood, and being here, it has revitalized Bill, too.” The couple has been tubing on the French Broad River with their grandchildren, hiking in DuPont State Forest, listening to the drumming in Pritchard Park downtown on Friday evenings, taking in Asheville Tourists minor league baseball games at McCormick Field, sipping a liquid truffle at the French Broad Chocolate Lounge and golfing at several of the area’s courses. “There’s a whole different scene to golf in the mountains,” says Bill. “Black Mountain has a course with a par 6. I haven’t played as much golf as I would have liked this year, since we were busy working on the house, but there’s next spring.” CONTINUED PAGE 50 u
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“The work on the house has been fun,” says Nita. “I don’t like to be idle. I think the secret to retiring is staying busy. It’s doing the things you enjoy. People compliment the garden and yard, but it is work. I have to be in the plants, and I still hand water all of them. Having a good year when you’re a gardener … it’s fulfilling. “We’ve definitely landed in a nice neighborhood,” says Nita. “We don’t feel isolated. We are laying the groundwork for our later years, and you need to have people around. This is a real community here, and that’s a big thing.” Just southeast of Asheville lies another growing retirement community in Hendersonville, known as North Carolina’s “City of
Four Seasons” and proclaimed as the "Friendliest City for Retirees in America" by its mayor. Dewey and Jan Johnson made the move to Hendersonville from Texas in 2008 after some persistence from their grown son and daughter who live in nearby Asheville and Weaverville. “The climate was a great factor,” explains Jan. It was getting hotter and hotter in Texas, and we had lived there 50 years.” “We didn’t notice the heat until we retired,” adds Dewey, smiling. This retired Lutheran minister and social worker knew they were ready to downsize but also had a list of the things that were important to them in a new home and community. The couple’s individual hobbies, woodworking for Dewey and music for Jan, were important factors in
choosing a house over an apartment or condo setting. “One of the reasons we liked this community was the separate houses with a garage,” explains Jan of Heritage Hills, an independent senior living community, which provides a central community building and dining facility with 100 homes around it nestled in the mountain landscape. “This is the perfect-sized community. It fits us. There’s an occupational and physical therapist here, so I can walk right over, and there’s a massage therapist on the grounds, too. It’s a healthful place with nice mountain air and the beauty of the mountains,” she adds, looking out upon the changing leaves and autumn scene right outside their home’s dining room window. “There’s one primary meal provided each day, which is wonderful, and
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there is something to do every day,” adds, Dewey, pointing to the calendar on the refrigerator door packed with activities. “We really love the music here, the Hendersonville Symphony and all of the many musicians who come here and perform,” says Jan. “We have guest musicians all the time, bluegrass, folk … and there’s a summer music series in Brevard and so many cultural activities in the area.” A far move in distance and transition has brought the Johnsons closer to the youngest of their 10 grandchildren. “It was definitely meant to be,” says Jan. "We are near our children and family, near good medical care, close to our church in Arden, the Lutheran Church of the Nativity, and church was one important factor for us.” “Church has become the meeting point,” says Dewey, "and we go to all of the grandchildren’s school programs and help with school projects. I helped build bat houses,” he says, smiling. Those woodworking skills of Dewey’s have also been put to good use at Heritage Hills. When he realized all of his tools and equipment were not going to fit in the couple’s garage, the community provided a solution in the form of a woodshop and the Sawdusters Club. “The woodshop has been a real bonus for me,” says Dewey. “They took an old building and turned it into the woodshop. We’ve had 16 fellas sign up.” “That’s his second home,” adds Jan, smiling, “and people are always stopping by the woodshop for coffee.” Dewey and his fellow Sawdusters make all kinds of woodcrafts, including ornate and intricately designed cutting boards made from
exotic woods. While Dewey stays busy fixing things and crafting wood projects, Jan is making music of her own in the community choir, which sings Sunday programs to entertain their neighbors. “We have 20 in the choir, ranging in age from 70 to 90-something,” says Jan, who also lends her soprano voice to the Starlight Carolers, who perform regularly at Biltmore Estate through the holiday season. “There is just a great group of wonderfully artistic and talented people living here,” says Dewey. “We are all enriched by each other.” Staying active is also something the Johnsons believe in and do by choice. Jan is in charge of the library and heads up the book club in addition to playing piano and heading up the choir. “We do not sit around and twiddle our thumbs,” says Dewey, laughing. “We still like traveling,” says Jan, “and driving to Texas to see our other children and grandchildren, and we like to take company up to Chimney Rock or Mount Pisgah to see the views." Married for 60 years, and together ever since Jan asked Dewey to the Sadie Hawkins dance when they were in college in Minnesota, they use one simple philosophy. “I’m in charge,” says Dewey, with a mischievous grin, “and she’s always right.” Since making the move to Hendersonville, the Johnsons are settled, happy to now call North Carolina home and not taking life or family for granted. “It is better to do it sooner than later while you are in good health and active,” says Dewey about relocating. “We feel so fortunate to be here. Every day, we feel so good about it.”
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Rebate 58 OutreachNC.com NOVEMBER 2014
Over My Shoulder by Ann Robson Voting is your right
You have in your power a very precious gift—the right to vote. Yet, on Nov. 4 this year, many of you will not make use of that gift. Perhaps if you had never had the right, then suddenly it was given to you, you might be more likely to make good use of it. I didn’t have the right to vote in this country until 1982. I was well past the age of 18, but I was considered a “legal alien” for 14 years. When we crossed the border from Canada to the United States in April 1968 at the Thousand Islands, we had our green cards in hand. We were expected to behave like citizens, pay taxes and obey laws but not to vote. That struck me as “taxation without representation,” a theme that led to the Boston Tea Party and, ultimately, to the Revolutionary War. I didn’t have revolution on my mind when we started the application to become naturalized U.S. citizens. I merely wanted to vote. My husband wanted an American passport so that when he returned home from trips abroad, he would not be detained in the foreign or noncitizen area. So, we began the process of filling out forms, being fingerprinted by our local police, and waiting…and waiting. I was getting anxious, as I really wanted to be able to vote in November 1982. We eventually cleared all hurdles and became naturalized citizens at the end of October. A touching moment after we were sworn came from our daughter who had been born in New York when she said, “Good. Now we’re all the same.” We didn’t get to vote that year as the time period to register was closed. We haven’t missed an election since whether local, state or federal.
We are now in the demographic of people older than 50 who have the highest percentage of voting among registered voters. It continues to amaze me that we don’t have close to 100 percent of registered voters exercising their precious right. According to government statistics, some of the reasons for not voting include: too busy; illness or disability; not interested; don’t like candidates or issues; don’t know; forgot. How can you forget an election? How can you not be interested? The right to vote has had a long and difficult history. In the early years of this country, only about 120,000 people in a total population of more than 4 million could vote. Voting was usually limited to free white men who owned property and met certain religious requirements. Over time, the rules changed to adapt to the times. After the Civil War, the 15th Amendment gave the vote to men of all races. In reality, most black people in the South did not use that right until the Civil Rights Movement of the early 1960s. After a long struggle, women were given the right to vote in 1920 with the 19th Amendment to the Constitution. The League of Women Voters says, “If you don’t vote, you can’t complain.” If you want to complain, then use your vote to send a message. If you ever doubted the value of your vote, consider the millions of dollars spent on advertising to get you to sway their way. When you vote, make sure it is your vote. It’s much too precious a gift to throw away.
Email Robson at info@outreachnc.com
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Scotland Cancer Treatment Center is affiliated with one of the country’s premier providers – The Duke Cancer Network. Thanks to our partnership with Duke Medicine, patients of Scotland Cancer Treatment Center receive the best medical and radiation oncology possible. This affiliation also provides us with access to the latest clinical trials and ground-breaking research in cancer treatment. Our team of Duke-affiliated cancer specialists is here to provide the highest quality care, from diagnosis to aftercare. It’s good to know this level of care is so close to home.
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Honorable Service Grant
To thank our active and retired military service men and women, we are pleased to announce the Honorable Service Grant at Belle Meade, located within close proximity to Fort Bragg and the villages of Pinehurst and Southern Pines. This grant discounts the Entrance Fee by 20% for any military. Must be 62 years of age or older.
Call 910.246.1008 for more information or to schedule your tour.
Southern Pines, North Carolina • www.sjp.org • 910.246.1008 Belle Meade is a nationally accredited continuing care retirement community.