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Fair Promise United Methodist Our historic church series stops in the Glendon community to celebrate 200 years of faith.
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Ironing Board Sam shares his story as he and fellow Music Maker musicians play Blues Crawl.
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Picked at their Peak Richmond and Robeson county peach farmers share stories and why they love N.C. peaches.
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WRAL anchor David Crabtree We go onset with the Emmy award-winning newsman to talk about his career, family and faith.
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Parking at Jordan Lake, Badin Lake and Sycamore Lodge, we explore downsizing to the RV lifestyle.
49 Bynum Peach Farm in Ellerbe has made a family tradition of growing the sweet summer fruit.
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Marathon Miler Completing marathons in all 50 states and beyond, Fayetteville's Marsha Kouba keeps on running.
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Columns
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Silver Tsunami
10 Eye Health
18 Medicare Update
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Senior Moments
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Money Matters
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Grey Matter Games
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Resource Marketplace
Top 10 scams to avoid by Robert Temme
What's age-related macular degeneration? by Karen Sullivan Summer heat safety by Elizabeth Ragsdale
12 Ask the Expert
Relocating or moving an aging parent by Amy Natt
13 Planning Ahead
No-risk long-term care option by Elizabeth Donner
14 Cooking Simple
Pork chop with brine and blueberry sauce by Rhett Morris
15 Stay safe: Don't be a victim by Ann Robson
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"Mrs. Lincoln's Dressmaker" and "And the Mountains Echoed" Book reviews by Cos Barnes
Inside out by Pam Hudson
Accountable Care Organizations by Lynne Drinkwater Area Convenient Care clinics open
20 Sentimental Journey Music is good medicine by Jennifer Pollard
22 Sandwich Generation Life goes on: Five stages of grief by Donna Brock
24 Law Review
Beware medical credit cards by Jackie Bedard
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Debt payoff or savings? by Taylor Clement
Sleep apnea and learning to love your CPAP by Karen Sullivan Telling stories of wins and losses by Thad Mumau Sudoku, crossword and word search
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Consumer Beware by Robert Temme Top 10 scams to avoid
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nowing the latest trends in fraud and deception can help you from becoming a victim. This list represents current scams taking place across the country: No. 10: Sweetheart Scams—This scam involves a stranger, who becomes involved in the life of a victim, depleting money from the victim’s accounts. No 9: Investment Scams—In this fraud, a scammer promises high returns to investors and then uses the newly invested money to pay previous investors. No. 8: Advance Fee Scams—This type of fraud is often attempted by email, but it can occur in person, by phone or by traditional mail. The victim is invited to send money or purchase a prepaid credit card (often Green Dot money cards) to cover “costs” that will be sent to the victim. No. 7: Rental Property Scam—A con artist offers property for which he has no legal claim, pretends to be the owner and lists it for rent. The fraudster then communicates with the soon-to-be tenant and takes a cash deposit. No. 6: Grandparent Scam—A scammer poses as a distressed grandchild claiming to be in urgent need of money following an accident or after being arrested. The caller indicates that he does not want his parents to know and asks the grandparent to wire transfer money. No: 5: Driveway Seal Coating Scam—A crew approaches homeowners offering a good price on seal coating asphalt driveways. However, the product applied is either a watered-down version of a sealant or used motor oil. No. 4: Malware—This is software that is designed to damage or disable your computer. Victims are prompted to make a payment to restore their disabled computers. No. 3: Fraudulent Internet Merchandise Sales—
Sham websites offer high-value items and entice victims to send money for the advertised items only to receive an item that is a “knock off ” replica or no item at all. No. 2: Lottery Scam—Victims receive notice that they have won a lottery or sweepstakes and are asked to pay “processing fees” before the money can be distributed. No. 1: Phishing and Identity Theft—This scam ranges from a phone call or email request for a victim’s credit card number or personal information to the hacking of computer databases. For more information, contact the Community Services of Southern Pines Police Dept. at 910-692-2732, ext. 2852.
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uly and summertime roar in with sunshine and fireworks. This month, our theme is energizing independence, but I hope all of our stories and columns spark a call to action or inspiration. Music is so often inspiring and healing, and we meet Ironing Board Sam, one of the jazz greats of the Music Maker Relief Foundation taking to venues throughout downtown Southern Pines for Blues Crawl, July 12. The foundation keeps these timeless musicians playing on to inspire future generations. Three generations of farmers have worked the fertile fields of Bynum Peach Farm in Ellerbe yielding bumper crops of fresh, ripe North Carolina peaches. We'll pick some peaches and stories from Richmond and Robeson counties as we stop in at the farm and at Geraldine’s Peaches and Produce Roadside Market to sit a spell and learn about the summertime fruit. Summer vacations have many hitting the open road, and for others, it is quickly becoming a way of life in retirement. Our Destination Retirement series makes stops at Jordan Lake, Badin Lake and Sycamore Lodge to learn how many retirees are finding home on the road to be quite a rewarding lifestyle. Instead of driving, Marsha Kouba hits the road running every morning. We’ll learn about her passion that has taken her to marathons in all 50 states and five continents so far, logging 300 miles on each pair of running shoes. WRAL anchor David Crabtree is one man who runs near and far for a good story to bring to viewers every night across the region. We sit down with him for a Carolina Conversation about his career, family and his role as a vocational deacon with the Episcopal Church. Our historic church tour lands in the small community of Glendon in the northeast corner of Moore County, where members of Fair Promise United Methodist Church have been gathering since 1814. Their 200th anniversary celebration takes place Sunday, July 27 on the hallowed grounds beneath towering water oaks and a tranquil, pastoral landscape. The landscape of the population across North Carolina is changing with numbers in all 100 counties expected to shift to show a majority at age 65 or older with the next census reports. Dealing with this “silver tsunami” and its impact on services is something to be aware of and plan for accordingly. And we can always use a few good tips on avoiding being a victim by being aware and keeping safety in mind. Jeeves, the co-editor, and I wish you a Happy Fourth of July and an old-fashioned, carefree summer filled with lots of lemonade sippin’ and plenty of front or back porch sittin’ while sharing stories with the ones you love most. Until next month… — Carrie Frye 8 OutreachNC.com JULY 2014
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I am looking to relocate my mother from out of state to the Raleigh area. What types of issues should I be thinking about as I begin this process?
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A move can be a big transition, especially when dealing with a parent who may also have some physical or mental health challenges. Planning ahead can certainly make the process less painful and create a more positive experience overall. It is well documented that when a person participates in the decisions being made surrounding a move, he or she tends to report higher satisfaction with the move. The first step would be to engage your mom in a conversation about the reasons that you would like for her to move closer to you. This allows her to express any reservations she may have and fears or concerns that need to be addressed. It would be a good idea to plan a joint visit to her primary care provider to discuss what level of care she needs. Is she independent or will she require more assistance with things like medication management, meals and personal care? Once you have determined the appropriate level of care, you can begin to identify housing options. There are a wide variety of options, so unless you have some knowledge on senior housing, you may want to consult a professional care manager or relocation specialist in your area. One online resource, www.caremanager.org, is a great place to find that type of professional. Even if you are considering moving mom in with you, there are a variety of issues that should be talked through before that decision is made. Get a notebook and start
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What type of support will she need? What is a realistic time frame? Are things stable or in crisis? What housing or retirement community options are available in your area? Plan several tours with your mom to become familiar with the different environments available. Identify current medical providers. You will need a release to obtain current medical records. Identify equivalent medical providers in the new area. Ask for timeframe to establish her as a new patient. Identify an elder law attorney to review all documents coming from the current state to North Carolina. Talk to insurance providers and find out if moving to a new state requires any action or change in plan. Consult a tax professional to find out how state laws may differ and impact things like estimated payments being made to the state. Are there any pre-planned funeral arrangements that need to be altered? Pick up change-of-address information. If household items are being moved, select a moving company that offers relocation assistance.
Your mom needs to be a part of the process, as much as she is able to, and participate in the decisions being made for her future care. An open dialogue and preparation can help you make the best plan that is right for your family. Natt, a certified senior adviser and care manager, can be reached at amyn@agingoutreachservices.com.
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Planning Ahead by Elizabeth Donner
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ost of us look forward to retirement as a time to relax, feel less stressed and enjoy a slower pace of life. In a recent Fidelity survey, almost seven in 10 people approaching retirement said they worried about outliving their savings. A big portion of this is due to the cost of medical care. Health care costs have been rising at more than twice the rate of inflation, averaging 6.9 percent annually since 1960. It’s reported that retirees now spend more on health care than they do on food. As life expectancies increase and people spend more years in retirement, the money set aside to pay for health care will have to last longer as well. Factoring in health expenses has become a critical part of retirement planning. However, it continues to be true that most people don’t want to pay premiums for a Long-Term Care (LTC) policy they may never need. One of the latest LTC products is a specific type that provides a solution. For account owners that have set aside dollars for retirement health care needs, a portion of those assets can be repositioned into a newer kind of life insurance policy or annuity. These types of life insurance policies and annuities offer exponential growth of dollars for a LTC event and a guaranteed return of those dollars (to either the account owner or the beneficiary) if a LTC event doesn’t occur. The significant advantage of these new policies is that they offer expanded coverage (double, triple, even quadruple) the initial deposit, depending on the insurance carrier and the amount of time the policy is owned. Most people purchasing these types of policies have indeed saved for retirement. They are taking deposits from current assets (Money Market, Certificates of Deposit (CD), or 1035 exchanges) and are repositioning those dollars into one of these new plans to take advantage of the expanded health care/LTC coverage they provide. There is a minimum deposit required with these new plans, typically $25,000 to $50,000 depending on the insurance carrier. By repositioning assets into these new LTC/Annuity or LTC/ Life insurance plans, it allows the account owner one of the biggest perks of all—exponential growth of dollars for health care if it’s needed and a guaranteed return of principle if it’s not. Donner, CRPC, is a chartered retirement planning counselor, has a bachelor of science in nursing, is licensed in Medicare Supplement and Long-Term Care and is NAIC partnership certified with securities licenses include Series 6, 63 & 65. She can be reached at 919-460-6076 or Beth@DiversifiedPlanning.com.
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Cooking Simple by Rhett Morris
Pork Chop with Brine and Blueberry Sauce INGREDIENTS 4 12-ounce pork chops salt and pepper
Brine 2 cups apple juice 1 cup water ¼ cup brown sugar ¼ cup salt 1 tablespoon peppercorns ●P ut all ingredients into pot, bring to boil and then cool.
Blueberry Sauce 2 cups fresh blueberries 2 cloves garlic, chopped ½ small onion diced 2 chipotle peppers in adobo sauce 1 cup apple cider vinegar ½ cup brown sugar ● Put all ingredients in pot and cook for 30 minutes. ● Put in blender and blend until smooth.
DIRECTIONS Put pork chops in brine and make sure they are submerged in liquid. Keep in brine in refrigerator at least 4 hours and no longer than 24 hours. Take out of brine and pat dry. Add salt and pepper to taste. Cook on grill on high heat for 4 to 5 minutes per side. Let stand for 5 minutes. Drizzle with blueberry sauce and serve.
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Stay safe: Don't be a victim by Ann Robson, Special to OutreachNC
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lthough many think crime happens only in big cities, Steve Grinstead of the Coalition for Crime Prevention wants everyone to know they are a potential victim regardless of where they live. His message is that if attacked, give the pocketbook, car or whatever the thief wants. “You can replace things,” Grinstead says, “but you can’t replace a life.” In an animated presentation to the Triangle J Advisory Council on Aging which includes Chatham, Durham, Johnston, Lee, Moore, Orange and Wake counties, Grinstead gave examples of how to avoid being a victim. "We are very vulnerable when leaving or returning to our cars," he says. "Crimes happen when we least expect them." Grinstead advises having your car keys in your hand before heading to your car, pointing out that if we’ve been shopping and are carrying packages, we often stop and fish for our keys, not noticing who or what may be around us. To avoid this situation, park near a lamppost, not near bushes or other items that could give cover to a thief. Walk with your head up and your eyes on where you are going and what might be around you. Lock the car, even when it’s in the driveway, garage, at a friend’s home or public parking space. He also cautions against cracking windows because of the heat. It takes very little space for a thief to slip a slim-jim into your window, pop the car lock and steal anything in the car. If there are valuable items, lock them in the trunk. For your home, having alarm company stickers or signs can help, too. “Anything that looks like a deterrent will discourage the amateur thief. Professional thieves will take the time to scope out a residence,” he says. For those going away from home for a few weeks or more, make it look lived-in using timers for lights or TV or music. Stop delivery of mail and newspapers. Ask a neighbor to water your plants, etc. Ask that same neighbor to keep an eye out for anything suspicious. Older adults, particularly women, are considered easy targets, according to Grinstead. He encourages all to be aware of their surroundings and not to be too trusting of others. One misconception that Grinstead demonstrates is the use of a cross-body purse. These are more dangerous as someone can come from behind and by yanking the back part of the strap possibly choke you or make you fall. He recommends that women carry their shoulder bags on their dominant arm and tuck the purse close to the body. In an emergency, Grinstead still says to call 911, but wants people to realize that they have to be proactive. He demonstrates what it would be like to try to retrieve a gun while another person is attacking you. Even a few seconds gives the other person the advantage. “Look them square in the eye,” says Grinstead. “Don’t look down. Make them see you as a person, but don’t challenge them." “Run, hide, fight” are the three strategies recommend by the Coalition and many other groups across the country. Run if you can. Hide if possible. Fight when there’s no alternative. Grinstead’s basic message of keeping yourself from being a victim is: "Be aware. Things are not important, life is."
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Literary Circle Book Reviews by Cos Barnes
“Mrs. Lincoln’s Dressmaker” and “And the Mountains Echoed”
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y book club had mixed reviews of Jennifer Chiaverini’s book, “Mrs. Lincoln’s Dressmaker.” Some thought the time spent on fittings and dressmaking was tedious and boring; others were intrigued with this period of history following the close of the Civil War. Elizabeth Keckley was a freed slave, who worked as a seamstress, taught other slaves her craft and rose to the position of a modiste for prominent Washington women, such as the wives of Robert E. Lee and Jefferson Davis. Winning freedom for herself and her son, Keckley is the epitome of the successful, self-made woman. Keckley was Mrs. Lincoln’s confidante, as well as her seamstress, helping her through the deaths of her children, caring for her and protecting her from the lamblasts of the press. Based on a true story, this book tells the hard road Keckley had to endure to gain freedom.
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Once again Khaled Hosseini displays his storytelling skills in “And the Mountains Echoed.” The story begins in 1952 and traces a father’s journey to sell his daughter, a necessary act at that point, and the repercussions that result. Three-year-old Pari and his brother, Abdullah, are more than siblings, they are devoted companions. Their father, Saboor, has remarried and must find the financial aid to care for his growing household. He is a dirt-poor day laborer, and his brother, Nabi, a cook and chauffeur for a wealthy childless couple in Kabul, has set up the arrangement. Betrayal is a constant theme as it was in “The Kite Runner.” This novel has everything that erupts in family relationships. Following a family from Kabul to Paris to San Francisco to Tinos, the story becomes most complex. Email Barnes at info@outreachnc.com.
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that way, from the inside out. And yet in our culture there is so much that comes to us from the outside and so much that works on us from the outside in. The amount of external stimulus makes it difficult to focus at times. Paying attention to all that is around us can be so overwhelming. Rushing from one activity to the next becomes the norm. And having free time is not anything we even recognize anymore. To say we are bombarded daily is a sad truth. We border on being overstimulated, and however subtle and no matter how well we seem to handle it all, we can get worn down and worn out before we even know that it has happened.
So I ask you to take a look around. See what might catch your attention. Keep a lookout on creation. As one of the fortunate creatures in this wonderful and beautiful world, and as our summertime continues to unfold, watch and listen and pay attention to all that we have growing and going on from the inside out.
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Medicare Update by Lynne Drinkwater
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f you are on Medicare, you may have recently been contacted by an Accountable Care Organization (ACO) and asked for access to your health records and other Medicare information. ACOs are a new initiative of the federal Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services to promote the reduction of Medicare costs through improved coordination of patient care. If you have Original Medicare and your doctor has joined an ACO, you should be notified in person or by mail. ACOs can only operate with CMS approval, and your medical information is kept private under federal law. An ACO is made up of local health providers and hospitals that have volunteered to work together to provide patients with coordinated care. In an ACO, your doctors and other providers communicate with each other and you, so that you can make better, more informed decisions about your health care. When providers share information, you may benefit by having to fill out less paperwork and by having to undergo fewer repeated medical tests. Also, you can be assured that your doctors are better able to access, understand and honor your health care choices. If an ACO is able to successfully deliver quality health care and provide cost savings, it shares in the savings it achieves for Medicare. It’s important to note that incentivizing coordination of services is not new. Many Medicare beneficiaries will remember when Health Maintenance Organizations (HMOs) came onto the scene. However, ACOs are different because quality of care—and not just cost savings—is a central component to realizing the incentive. SHIIP, the Seniors’ Health Insurance Information Program of the N.C. Department of Insurance, can assist Medicare beneficiaries who have questions about Accountable Care Organizations. For more information about ACO or any other Medicare-related issue, contact SHIIP at 800-443-9354 or visit www.ncshiip.com. Drinkwater, program coordinator at the Moore County Department of Aging, can be reached at 910-215-0900, ext. 206 or ldrinkwater@moorecountync.gov.
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n the course of any given workday, a lot of my time is spent in medical facilities and hospital rooms. Rarely are the circumstances easy and often cause a lot of stress for the patient. In an attempt to bring calm to the situation, I get people to reminisce about happier times. The quickest way I have found to defuse a difficult situation is through music. My go-to genre is music of the 1940s. Thank goodness for smartphones and the ability to store favorite songs and play them with just a finger swipe. As Diana Krall began crooning “This Can’t Be Love,” my client and her husband started singing along. Next thing you know, we were having so much fun we barely noticed the nurse coming in for more lab work. Her mood had visibly changed, even more so than when she got the shot of painkiller. As another client and I departed for a recent appointment, there was much angst and worry in anticipation. We left the apartment to walk down the long hall. I took his arm in mine, turned to him and began singing... “We would drive up the Avenue But we haven't got the price We would skate up the Avenue But there isn't any ice We would ride on a bicycle But we haven't got a bike So we'll walk up the Avenue Yes, we'll walk up the Avenue 'Cause to walk up the Avenue's what we like.”
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Those verses from “A Couple of Swells” from the 1948 musical film “Easter Parade” made the pending trip and walk down that long hall much more enjoyable. What if we prescribed songs to help change our moods? In case of pain, listen to selections from “Oklahoma,” “Accentuate the Positive” followed by a Sousa march. Need to sharpen and improve your memory? Studies show that a diet of classical music, specifically that of Mozart, Vivaldi, Bach and Handel, increases attention span and improves test scores. Sounds like Handel’s “Messiah” and Vivaldi’s “Four Seasons” would be the perfect way to spend your afternoon. Music can be good medicine. What songs would be on your prescription pad? Share your musical memories with Pollard by emailing jenniferp@aoscaremanagement.com.
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fter the death of my mother in October 2012, I knew things would never be the same. I was right. Everything changed but in spite of that, life does go on. Speaking as a member of the Sandwich Generation, I want others to know just how and why things changed. My hope is that you will not feel alone and be forewarned about the unexpected. We all make promises to our parents with intentions of keeping them no matter what happens. I made lots of them. As time passes, unfortunately, the level of dedication to keep those promises diminishes. We all have a tendency to revert to our old routines, bad habits and get too busy with our own drama to remember them in detail. Although this is human nature, the guilt of losing that dedication is overwhelming. I remind myself almost daily of things I promised and how I should do a better job of following through on them. There are not enough hours in a day to do that. So, at the end of the day, there is an overwhelming sense of guilt. Promises unfulfilled. Holidays are the worst. We don’t really have them anymore. We didn’t eat dinner together at Easter, and some family members didn’t come for Christmas or Mother’s Day. It only reminds me of how all of our family traditions were wrapped up in my mother. Avoidance has been the key for me. I stay busy with anything to keep my mind occupied and to not think. Everyone in my family is a world class workaholic, so that has become a lifesaver. Even the dreaded housekeeping and yard work have become welcome chores. I say all this to remind you, and myself, that there are people who are still here. There are people who depend on us to function and to support them. Some handle the changes better than others. There are those who need us to help them return to a semblance of normal. • For the guilt, my mother would forgive me for not yet fulfilling all of them. • For the holidays, there are still children who need us to make memories for them. • For the avoidance, there is no special advice for that one. People deal with grief in their own way. That is my preferred method at this point, and it is working thus far. It is also important to recognize the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. If you are experiencing any of these emotions following a
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he saying, "If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is" still applies to many things in life: half-price gas-station sushi (hello, gastrointestinal distress); a free TV with every test drive (just sit though a one-hour hard-sales pitch); and, but wait, we'll double your order for free (pay separate shipping and handling). Add one more to this list: pay for that procedure with a medical credit card (and risk being hit with exorbitant fees and interest). In medical offices, pain clinics and hearing aid centers across America, growing numbers of care providers are urging their patients to pay for treatment not covered by insurance with medical credit cards, The New York Times reports. These lines of credit and applications are arranged right there in the doctor's office before the patients leave. First marketed for cosmetic and elective surgery, medical credit cards now are proliferating among older Americans. For many of them, they quickly get in over their heads. The New York Times tells the story of 78-year-old Patricia Gannon, who needed dental work that her insurance would only pay a small fraction of. The dentist's office suggested she pay for the rest with a medical credit card, but the payment is $214 a month, which eats up a third of her Social Security check. And there's a $50 penalty if a payment is late. The incentive for health care providers is that they get paid immediately. However, now Gannon is worried that she'll be paying off her dental work until she dies. Officials in states from California to New York say that older people—many
already dealing with limited incomes, dwindling savings and mounting debt—are getting into more financial trouble with these cards. Interest rates on medical credit cards range from 23 percent to nearly 30 percent depending on the lender. National lenders offer interest-free deals that last from six to 24 months, Fox Business reports. If a person pays the debt off within the promotional period, no interest is charged. But many people, especially older Americans on fixed incomes, do not pay before the interest-free period ends. That's where the trouble can start. Health care credit cards are deferred-interest cards. If the debt isn't paid off within a promotional period, the person will be charged interest on the full amount charged to the card—including the amount that's already been paid off. Even if a person had just $50 left on a $2,000 procedure, she would pay full freight on the debt; and at 23 percent interest, add $460 to that $50 payment. Advocates for medical credit cards contend they allow seniors and others to afford health care procedures that they could not without the available credit, says Fox Business. Detractors point to the cases states' attorneys general have filed against medical credit card companies. In the final analysis, the rule for medical credit cards is the same as that for any other credit card: Use it only when unavoidable, and pay it off on time. Bedard, an elder law attorney with Carolina Family Estate Planning in Cary, can be reached at 919-443-3035.
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Three years ago, I trained Del Bueno and delighted in his revelation, then at 80, that he felt years younger. During my recent observation, I was thrilled and encouraged to see him even stronger, equally as energetic and steadfastly staying committed to a fitness regimen that has helped him reap the rewards he imagines continuing into the foreseeable future. Del Bueno consistently trains three days each week. One day per week he works through a cardiovascular circuit with the other days primarily focused on strength training and sculpting with some balance and flexibility work. He successfully executes drop sets of 105 pounds on the bench, and does deadlifts, his favorite exercise, with a 115-pound barbell. Post-training, Del Bueno disclosed another commitment to which he has devoted as much, or even more time, as he has to training. He is writing a journal that is a “chronicle of the significant events that have happened in the world, the United States and in
[his] life's journey, decade by decade.” A military veteran, retired corporate executive, husband, father, grandfather, friend and active volunteer in the community, Del Bueno knows quite a bit about living a good life. Therefore, the title of his work, “La Vita Buona,” which means the good life in Italian, seems a perfect fit. While reflecting on the past years of his good life and while living “the future quietly productive for as long as allowed,” Del Bueno says he hopes that he has measured up "in some small way" to whatever expectations his parents may have had for him. I have a hunch the prideful parental smiles of a couple from the Greatest Generation are constantly hovering above him and his accomplishments— in and out of the gym. Brown, a fitness writer, certified personal trainer and race director, can be reached at marymarciabrown@ yahoo.com
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here’s a “silver tsunami” coming and we’re not doing enough to get ready. This message was part of the Governor’s Council on Aging and North Carolina Association of Area Agencies on Aging during a "listening" session in Kernersville. The Kernersville event was one of three sessions across the state with Greenville and Asheville as the other sites. The object was to bring information and concerns from the grass-roots level to the Governor’s Council to provide information for the 2015-2019 Aging Plan. This silver tsunami refers to the increasing numbers of senior citizens in all areas of the state coupled with the lack of planning to provide the services that will be needed by the senior population. The 2000 census showed that only five counties in the state had populations of those over 65 greater than those under 17. It is estimated that either the 2020 or 2030 census will show that all 100 counties will have a majority of citizens over 65. Budgetary matters and Medicaid reform were the No. 1 concerns. As it stands now, there are waiting lists for services from Departments of Aging in all counties. There are 16,000 seniors across the state waiting for services provided under the federal Home and Community Block Grant, the major funding source for county Departments of Aging. Most speakers listed caregivers as a serious need. The PACE program, which is intended to let the money follow the patient, came under serious criticism. It is intended to allow care recipients to receive care from a family member with funds provided to the caregiver. This allows patients
to stay at home and still receive care, often with extra assistance from community organizations, and to receive a stipend to help cover the actual cost of caring for someone. By making caregiving in their homes less of a financial burden on the family, the number of people admitted to care facilities will be reduced, allowing a person to remain at home as long as it is safely possible. Another health problem that was discussed was the need for a safety net in the community when people are discharged from the hospital. Many patients who have no one at home to care for them are released by crowded hospitals before it has been determined if that person really should be home. The importance of exercise as we age was noted by Beth Takahashi of Moore County. She presented the council with a comprehensive report on the benefits of dancing to maintaining physical and mental health. Most senior centers in the state try to incorporate some sort of exercise program for their seniors. Again the question of funding was noted as an issue. Encouraging community cooperation with programs like exercise was suggested as one way of helping seniors without using grant funds. One attendee said, “We feel disenfranchised.” The rest of the group agreed. Some found it unfair that seniors who have been good citizens all their lives, paid their taxes and supported their communities now have to come hat in hand begging for help. It was also noted that today’s older seniors (as compared to those who are newly senior) are not used to asking for or accepting help.
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don’t trust labels, and I’ve got to stop that because I haven’t lived at home since 1972. To this day, I do the sniff test on everything bought for bathroom use, even though I know what’s in it because oh, gee, I bought it and I have a light in my bathroom. So not the case when I was younger. Rewind to 1969. A young, witty, intelligent, and attractive teenage girl (me) dragged herself out of bed to get ready for school. In the shower, in subdued lighting, I reached for a bottle labeled shampoo and ended up with Neet Hair Removal gel instead. Noticing the "shampoo" was not lathering up. I said, “Uhhh, this isn’t lathering up.” Sniff Test! It didn’t smell like the Head and Shoulders anti-dandruff shampoo we all used. And, of course, clumps of long strands of hair started to part from my head. I screamed, and for the remainder of the school year looked like a bald guy doing a comb-over. This was not the only time I’ve shampooed my hair with something other than shampoo. There was the time I washed my hair with vegetable oil. If you’re wondering how the vegetable oil got to the shower, I can clear that up for you. My people are a cheap people. Dedicated cheap people buy in bulk and invent ways to use cheaper stuff to do the job of expensive specialty stuff. They also use lower watt light bulbs to save on electricity. My mother and grandmother repackaged stuff from big bottles to smaller bottles that generally lacked labels or had the wrong labels. Also everything in their bathrooms was in the shower or on the sink; this is called ‘easy access.’ So, one could be forgiven for thinking something in a
shower was probably a bathing product and not used for frying okra. I’ve also creme-rinsed my hair with soft soap and skin lotion’ed my legs with creme-rinse. Brushing teeth at my parents' or grandparents' homes was particularly fraught with danger, because sometimes the label really was what the contents were, but who could read it in the half-dark? I have attempted to brush my teeth with Stick To It denture cream, and Bill’s Backdoor Peppermint Foot Cream. Regarding denture cream: it was never meant to come into contact with anyone’s taste buds and because a good portion of it is gluey resin, it was stuck to my teeth for hours. By the way, Bill’s Peppermint Foot Cream does not taste like peppermint. The worst bathroom bungle? The bleach spots all over my head after I used hydrogen peroxide from a spray bottle marked ‘foot water.’ I have beautiful wavy hair and on occasion I use a light spray of water, more like a gentle mist, to revive my curls. Which is exactly what I did on vacation to see the folks. My mother walked in, grabbed the bottle screeching, “That’s my foot fungus spray!” and toweldried my head in a futile effort to sop up the hydrogen peroxide. By the way, vegetable oil makes a great dry skin treatment, and if you get it on your head you’ll have the softest hair imaginable once you can wash it out. Using spray labeled ‘foot water‘ on my hair? Am not going there. For more humor, visit www.BarbaraCohea. com, or email her at barbaracohea@gmail. com.
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Money Matters by Taylor Clement Debt payoff or savings?
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ast time, I said most people are insane by Albert Einstein’s definition of doing the same thing and expecting different results. I do realize it’s not exactly a compliment but it is true for so many people. We create habits and live by them despite our desire to change. From a financial standpoint, many people handle their income, budgeting or savings exactly the same way and always hope for things to be different. If you want to improve your standard of living, you have to make changes to how you live today so that you’ll have more later. Whether that means earning more or spending less, your future income depends on how well you prepare now. My recommendation was to save at least 10 percent of your income every year, but if you’re not starting young or already in debt, you need to make drastic changes and the sooner the better. Many people carry a balance on a credit card and maybe the balance fluctuates but the debt on credit cards can get really expensive and make it impossible to ever feel like you’re financially in a place where you can save any money.
If your average credit card debt is $5,000 at a rate of 18 percent (which is fairly typical for credit cards), you’re paying $900 in interest every year. And your investments probably aren’t earning 18 percent, so you’re losing money by contributing to your savings and not paying off debt. If you maintain this $5,000 level of credit card debt for 10 years, the amount of interest you’ve paid over that time frame is $9,000, and if you had invested the $900 every year instead of paying interest on that credit card debt you’d have over $15,000 saved. My point is, regardless of how much you make or how much you’re saving each month, credit card debt can be detrimental to your goals. If you’ve ever wanted to make a change to your finances, start by paying off your credit cards. Most credit card companies have a debt payoff calculator on their website and sometimes consolidating the debt can help but only if you are making payments high enough to pay it off. Make a plan with a deadline, and stick to it. Then reward yourself at the end with something that encourages you to pay it off—and that doesn’t put you back into debt.
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Once you have paid off your debt, start using those funds to create an emergency fund and build your savings so you don’t fall victim to debt again. No matter what your current income is, there is no better gift to yourself than paying your future self. When you hit retirement age and realize that you’ve already saved enough for retirement but don’t want to quit working – what fabulous news! You can start enjoying your savings or have more flexibility in retirement to do things like travel or help pay for education expenses for grandkids. If you need a partner to help you stay on track, talk to a spouse, friend or financial adviser about a shortterm goal and meet with that person once a month to re-energize yourself about your intentions and stay on track. Change your current behavior so you can savor the results later. Clement, a financial adviser at Clement Capital Group offers securities and advisory services as an Investment Adviser Representative of Commonwealth Financial Network®, Member FINRA/SIPC, a Registered Investment Adviser. She can be reached at taylor@clementcapitalgroup.com or 910-693-0032. © 2014 Commonwealth Financial Network®.
Brain Matters by Karen Sullivan, Ph.D., ABPP
Sleep apnea and learning to love your CPAP Let’s talk about what a diagnosis of sleep apnea means. Most likely you have talked with your doctor about snoring, excessive daytime sleepiness, unrefreshing sleep or mild cognitive impairment. You have likely undergone a sleep study in which you slept overnight in a sleep lab and had your night’s sleep recorded. During the recording, you had one or more pauses in your breathing. Each pause, called an apnea, can last from a few seconds to minutes, and may occur anywhere from five to 400 times or more an hour. Quality sleep is essential for your brain, as well as your physical and emotional health. Untreated sleep apnea is associated with symptoms of morning headaches, irritability, mood swings, sexual dysfunction, diminished productivity, increased accident risk, cardiovascular disease and stroke in addition to decreasing your brain’s ability to pay attention and remember information. Sleep apnea affects your brain in two ways: 1) Short-term sleep apnea causes you to often move out of a deep sleep and into light sleep when your breathing pauses. This can cause significant disturbance to your ability to get a full night’s rest and receive all of the physical, cognitive and emotional benefits of sleep. 2) Chronic severe sleep apnea can cause low blood oxygen levels. Repeated drops in oxygen can result in long-term damage to the cells in your brain over time if left untreated. The treatment for sleep apnea is a CPAP (continuous positive airway pressure) machine, which is designed to increase your oxygen intake while you sleep. Many, many people initially find their CPAP machine difficult and uncomfortable to use. Communication with your prescribing physician is critical, and most people have to return to the sleep clinic multiple times for minor adjustments.
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Game On by Thad Mumau | Photography by Diana Matthews
Telling stories of wins and losses
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he words Hall of Famer fit nicely in front of Howard for the sports page but making it up in the composing room. Ward’s name. In 2011, the best sportswriter Fayetteville His move to the newsroom was a life-changer; that was when has ever known was inducted into the Carolinas Golf Hall he left a job and started a career. of Fame in Pinehurst. The honor was a much deserved It was the mid-1960s, and there had been pretty rapid reward for nearly half a century of excellence in covering turnover in the sports department. One day, sports editor and writing about golf. Ed Seaman suggested to Howard that he give writing a try. “I can’t even describe how I felt when “He told me to go home and write they notified me that I had been selected,” something about sports,” Ward recalls. “I Ward says. “It was a wonderful feeling, and wrote about the Yankees trying to replace it was unbelievable. Mickey Mantle. Ed said, ‘This is pretty “I had looked at all the pictures (of the good. The next time I have an opening, Hall of Famers) on the wall and thought it why don’t you apply?’ would be great to be up there with them. “When Ed hired me, I went to B.F. But I never thought I would be. The night Goodrich Tire Company and bought a of the ceremony, it was kind of like I was new portable typewriter. I had a typing floating; it was almost like a dream. manual from the business school I had “It's a surreal and humbling experience to attended after high school, and I stayed up walk down the hallway at the Carolina Hotel at night practicing.” and see my picture on the wall with such Over the years, Ward has covered great names as Arnold Palmer, Raymond hundreds of high school and college games, Floyd, Harvie Ward and Peggy Kirk Bell." writing countless game reports as well as Ward is easy to like, one of those people columns about athletes and coaches. He folks often overlook because he quietly was always informative and entertaining, goes about his business in a professional, employing an economy of words and workmanlike manner. But anyone who frequently spicing his columns with humor. has read his columns, commentaries and “The most important thing for a sports game stories remembers the byline and writer is to just tell the story,” Ward says. “I the name that belongs to the thumbnail never took myself too seriously. I was writing picture in the column head. about games, so why not make it fun?” What he writes and the style he writes He was in New Orleans when North in make an impression and leave readers Carolina gave Dean Smith his first looking forward to his next piece. It would national championship in 1982 and was in seem Ward was born to write, especially Greensboro when David Thompson and about sports and particularly about golf. N.C. State won the NCAA title in 1974. He Lots of reporters know sports, but few can was there for 29 Atlantic Coast Conference tell the stories of games and their players basketball tournaments. the way he can. Ward covered all of the big events in golf, Ward grew up in the small southeastern but the Masters was always special. There North Carolina town of Chadbourn, only were 22 trips to Augusta and its hallowed, 10 miles from the South Carolina state azalea-plumed sanctuary. He witnessed Hall of Fame golf columnist line. He played football, basketball and Howard Ward on course at some dazzling feats, the most miraculous baseball for the high school teams and Gates Four Golf and Country when a 46-year-old Jack Nicklaus stormed worked on the family farm. out of the shadows of his own golden past Club in Fayetteville, where He got a job with the Fayetteville Observer he has been a member since to win one more green jacket. and spent his first 14 years there, not writing the early 1970s. Ward covered seven U.S. Men’s Opens, 32 OutreachNC.com JULY 2014
three U.S. Women’s Opens, three PGA Championships, two Tour Championships, the 1991 Ryder Cup, one LPGA Championship, two U.S. Amateur championships and a USGA Girls Championship. Not to mention numerous Carolinas Golf Association and Carolinas PGA events. Ward is certainly known for the golf pictures he painted with a pen, but he was quite adept with a club in his hands, too. He once shot a 69 and owned a 5-handicap. He has had three holes-in-one and even more rare are his two double eagles, both notched in tournament competition. “I always loved the game,” he says, “covering it and playing. I fell in love with it the first time I played.” That was as a 19-year-old playing with a friend, Grisson Bain, at the old Green Valley Country Club. “We had a ball,” Ward says, laughing. “It was a ninehole course then, and you were supposed to play it twice. Grisson and I didn’t know that. We played nine and left.” Relentless but not pushy in pursuit of answers, his approach earned interviews not available to all writers. The prime example was Raymond Floyd, a Fayetteville native and a headliner on the PGA Tour, who left many golf writers shaking their heads and holding empty note pads. He always talked with Ward. “My relationship with Raymond is probably the proudest thing about my coverage of golf,” he says. “I wrote what he said and didn’t write what he said was off the record. I never showed him up. He respected that I wasn’t going to sensationalize things. “We became friends. He gave me golf shoes and balls. He was one of the first to call and congratulate me on being selected for the Hall of Fame.” Ward also had a close relationship with Chip Beck, another PGA Tour player from Fayetteville. Ward joins Beck, Floyd and Raymond’s father, the late L.B. Floyd, to give the city four Carolinas Golf Hall of Fame members. He retired in 2013, but sports are still his passion. He attributes part of his success as a golf writer to empathy. “The one thing I always tried to do was not be critical," says Ward. "I knew how hard it was to play the game. One shot can destroy an entire round.” Email Mumau at rutabega12@aol.com
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Historic North Carolina Churches Series
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n the community of Glendon at the end of a treelined drive and two towering water oaks lies the oldest Methodist church in Moore County. Fair Promise United Methodist Church began as a circuitriding church under the leadership of the Rev. Charles Dickerson, who was appointed to the office by the presiding Bishop Francis Ashbury. Ashbury established circuit riding, a rural form of pastoring in which a preacher rides to a different church in his district each week. In 1814, the first service was held in an old school hut. The founders chose the name Fair Promise because of their firm belief that the promises to the community were so fair. Seven years later, the Rev. Lewis Phillips Jr. joined the church at 15 years of age. The influence of the Phillips family on Fair Promise began in the earliest stages of the church when Lewis Phillips gave land for a new church building to be constructed. Today, many members of the Phillips family still attend. Robert Phillips, who has been a member of the church nearly all his life, tells stories of early revival meetings lasting weeks. “People would camp out, and some even brought a cow with them so they would have milk,” recalls Phillips. The church structure that stands today in the midst of rolling hills and lush woods was originally constructed in 1905. About 50 years ago, 10 ornate stained-glass windows etched with a donating church member’s name were installed, painting a picturesque scene as the light flows through from both sides. Phillips’ father, Dabney, was one of the donating members who preferred not to have his name written upon the window that now adorns a small Sunday school room near the church entrance. “On Sunday mornings, when the sun shines through the glass, it makes a cross on the floor,” Phillips says. Another gift the Phillips family has given the church is the woodwork on the platform. Bobby Phillips, a member of the church and a cane maker, artistically carved the chairs and communion table gracing the front of the church.
Even though the days of horseback circuit riding are over, Fair Promise still has a modern day circuit-riding preacher. The Rev. Tony Baurichter is pastor of both Fair Promise and High Falls in Robbins and preaches at both churches every Sunday morning. “The people here are very welcoming,” says Baurichter. of the congregation. “They view the sanctuary and church as a special place because their roots are here,” Although serving a small community, Baurichter says members remain invested in the church. “For many of them, this is their special home away from home,” he adds.
The people here are very welcoming. They view the sanctuary and church as a special place
because their roots are here. On Sunday, July 27, Fair Promise will celebrate its 200th anniversary. The church welcomes all to attend. The morning begins with a 10:30 a.m. worship service followed by a meal. A photo booth with period costumes will be set up, and everyone is invited to play oldfashioned games. The adventurous can explore a small trail behind the church leading to a Civil War-era graveyard and homestead. Continuing the celebration, revival services begin Monday, July 28 at 7 p.m. and continue nightly through Thursday, July 31. Located in the northeast corner of Moore County in the small community of Glendon at 192 Glendon Carthage Road (Goldston for GPS directions), the congregation of Fair Promise United Methodist Church celebrates 200 years Sunday, July 27. For more information, call 910-464-3217. JULY 2014
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Jazzing On By CARRIE FRYE | Photography by DIANA MATTHEWS
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he rhythmic jazz that poured from the souls of singers, songwriters and musicians in New Orleans and spilled across the South in the early 20th century still resonates today. One celebration of jazz occurs annually in downtown Southern Pines and is hosted by the historic Sunrise Theater. The theater and eight other downtown venues that do business as restaurants, an art gallery, wine shop, pub and coffee house by day transform to juke joints for one special evening of Blues Crawl, Saturday, July 12. The artists making a joyful noise for the evening have their own amazing stories and are part of the Music Maker Relief Foundation. This nonprofit based in Hillsborough preserves the heritage of this timeless genre, keeping these jazz musicians playing on to inspire future generations. Their mission since 1994 is a simple one: “Supporting American roots music.” “Why should those voices not be heard?” asks Tim Duffy, founder and executive director of Music Maker. “The biggest thing we can do is to do a lot of small things with love and work with individuals like [Ironing Board] Sam when they’re in their 70s. We’ve helped with his glasses, dentures, a car, a new keyboard, recording a CD and bookings. Sam’s an old pro and never made a dime off of his music, and now he’s made thousands. It’s like a family and a partnership.” Ironing Board Sam is only one of the many jazz musicians of his era to fall upon hard times, and the foundation’s goal is to help these artists with life’s struggles to keep them playing on. These are proud artists with talents and a gift for making music. They are not looking for a charity, just a paying gig. “I appreciate Tim so much,” says Sam, a dapper man 36 OutreachNC.com JULY 2014
of 75 in a pale pink and black pinstripe, three-piece suit and Panama hat with black band across its brim standing at his golden-glittered keyboard that rests on his trademark ironing board stand. “During my lifetime,” says Sam, “I take the bitter with the sweet, which is what inspired my song, 'Life is Like a Seesaw.’ I have seen cities go up and down, so I move my legs up and down while I play.” Ironing Board Sam, born in rural South Carolina, grew up working on a farm. “Daddy was a farmer. Fifteen hundred acres, and he grew everything…blackberries, strawberries, cotton, watermelon. But he never made any money,” says Sam, smiling. “We used to sing in that cotton field. My stepmother taught me the boogie-woogie, and that hooked me, but Daddy didn’t like that.” Boogie-woogie was an African-American style of piano-based blues made popular in 1930s and '40s, so whenever Sam would visit his mother’s house, he would play on her old piano. “I would just beat on that piano, and one day while I was beating on it, I heard a scream, and that was the day my mother died,” recalls Sam. From South Carolina, Sam traveled to Winston-Salem to live with his brother, where he was introduced to juke joints and jukeboxes. “My brother had an upright piano, and I started banging the boogie woogie on that piano,” says Sam. “I do love the way music makes me feel; it’s universal.” A local music teacher refused to teach Sam, so he became a self-taught piano player at 16. “I played five different speeds: very slow, slow, medium, high and very high,” he says, laughing.
Leaving North Carolina, Sam’s travels took him to Miami playing before returning back home to South Carolina. “I built my own keyboard,” says Sam. “It was the first portable electronic keyboard,” adds Duffy. Sam’s father was not as enamored with music and wanted Sam to finish college. In anger, he moved Sam’s keyboard from the kitchen table to the ironing board, and it’s fair to say the rest is history. From there, Sam headed to Memphis and got a paying gig where he was introduced to the audience for the first time as Ironing Board Sam. “He shot an arrow into the clouds, and it stuck,” says Sam of his stage name. Sam’s popularity led him to Nashville, where he was put on the first African-American television show, “The Night Train.” It was 1965, and Sam was 25 and jamming with Jimi Hendrix. Making music and traveling has taken him all over the U.S. He lived in New Orleans, and left for South Carolina before Hurricane Katrina. Three wives and five children later, it is a hard life, but its lessons are where Sam finds inspiration for his songs. “On my latest album, you know, when you’re young, you write about love, and now that I’m older, I think about people, and that’s what my 'Big Bang!' record represents. My song, 'I Feel your Pain,' is about seeing hunger, disaster, floods…it hurts me, so I wrote it to
show them I feel their pain.” Life now is easier after meeting up with Tim and Music Maker and relocating back to North Carolina. “If a tune comes to mind, I can come up to the studio and record it,” says Sam. And Ironing Board Sam is still quite the traveling man playing festivals and concerts. Sam joins an array of his fellow Music Maker artists for Blues Crawl including Pat “Mother Blues” Cohen with The Wicked Mojos, Boo Hanks, Lakota John and Kin, Lightnin’ Wells, Cool John Ferguson, Harvey Dalton Arnold, John Dee Holeman, Tad Walters, Jeff Littlejohn and Ron Hunter and the King Bees. "Our collaboration with Music Maker Relief Foundation will bring a true authenticity and legitimacy to Blues Crawl," says Herb Cameron, president of Sunrise Preservation Group. "These special artists have experiences and pedigrees that have been forged through decades of tough times and paying of dues." Sam’s Blues Crawl performance is at Betsy’s Crepes in downtown Southern Pines from 9 p.m.-1 a.m. “I do a Vegas gig once a year, and I wouldn’t have all these other gigs without Music Maker,” says Sam of his four years with the foundation. “I went to Australia, and I saw a kangaroo for the first time. The heights I’ve been on, I wouldn’t have ever reached. If you’re good, it comes back to you, and when you give, it comes back.”
Ironing Board Sam and his fellow Music Maker artists play Blues Crawl in Southern Pines on Saturday, July 12. For more information on Blues Crawl, call 910-692-8501 or visit www.sunrisetheater.com. For more information on the Music Maker Relief Foundation and their jazz artists, call 919-643-2456 or visit www.musicmaker.org.
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Picked at their peak Delicious
NORTH CAROLINA PEACHES
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A legend
circulating around western Moore County says that in the late 1800s a member of Boston's elite was bragging about his ability to make his fortune. To prove it, he said he would go to the wilds of North Carolina and become rich as a peach farmer. Wherever the truth may lie, several entrepreneurial farmers came to Montgomery and Moore counties around that time, and by the early part of the 20th century, they had turned hundreds of sandy acres into the main peach supplier for the Northeast. Every day during the season, hundreds of boxcars left Candor laden with fruit while the orchard owners basked in the luxury of the fruits of the labor of their local workforce. This boom didn't last. With more and more orchards developing and rising competition from orchards in South Carolina and Georgia, the supply of peaches exceeded the demand. Many landowners went bankrupt, and by the end of the 1920s, most of the Northern growers had left the Piedmont, selling their orchards to local farmers. Ultimately, their loss has become North Carolina’s gain. The state’s peach industry has made a recovery with one important difference. Instead of shipping peaches to the North, local peaches are now almost totally being sold regionally—picked fresh from the trees and arriving on consumers' plates within a day or two. “Peaches are a very fragile fruit,” says Moore County Agriculture Extension Agent Taylor Williams. “To survive shipping, and perhaps two weeks in a
distant supermarket, an out-of-state peach has to be picked a little smaller and before all the sweetness has had a chance to develop, but the peaches grown here are picked at their peak, with a taste and an aroma that can't be beat.” As a third generation farmer in the northeast corner of Richmond County, Danny Bynum knows all about growing the highest quality peaches. It is his heritage and in his blood. His grandfather Charlie returned home after World War I and purchased acreage in the Wind Blow community. During the Great Depression, the U.S. Government gave all veterans a bonus check and with his, Charlie invested in a few hundred peach trees. The family worked hard together, sending their peaches by refrigerated rail car to markets in the North until the 1960s. Bynum’s father, Worth, not only devoted his life to the family peach farm, but also to the peach industry as a whole. For 30 years, he worked at the nearby Sandhills Research Station that was established in 1940 by the North Carolina Department of Agriculture and N.C. State University to help the state’s peach industry. Becoming the supervisor, he studied and worked with Dr. Carlyle Clayton, a professor who helped develop a variety of peach that today bears his name. Bynum’s own life as a peach farmer took root in 1972 at the age of 13 the day after the school year ended. “‘I have a summer job for you at the Research Station, son,’ is what my father said,” recalls Bynum, who at the time was looking forward to his summer vacation. “So I asked, ‘When do I have to start?’ and he smiled and told me, ‘Every morning.’” CONTINUED PAGE 40
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The seed was planted and Bynum has continued to grow the family farm into a 3,000-tree orchard. Bynum, too, raised his son, Trey, in the family peach business, picking, selling, planting and caring for the trees. With his wife Sherry and a handful of helpers, the Bynums sell their peaches at what they call “The Shed” on N.C. 73 near Ellerbe, which opens annually July 1. Peach lovers can also find Bynum peaches at the Asheboro Farmers Market and Stanly County Farmers Market in Albemarle. Bynum, a self-described perfectionist, only wants the best fruit picked from his trees and takes the risks of being a peach farmer in stride. “You put a lot of money into it and until you see those little peaches on the branches, you don't know what you're going to get,” he says, laughing. Beyond the smiles and laughter, Bynum is proud of what he does—that the popular peach variety, Windblo, was named after the community where his family farm has always been. Bynum also cultivates peach trees for sale, and he was happy to sell some to a fellow farmer in Robeson County in 2002 as a retirement gift of sorts for his wife. Geraldine Herring, a native of Lumberton, spent her career working for the state of North Carolina, first as a teacher, then as an adult probation officer. Her husband Roy had been farming his whole life, but a dozen years ago the changes in the tobacco industry forced him to think about new ways to make money. On an educational tour to Arkansas, he was inspired at the idea of growing peaches. “He told me he planted a bunch of trees,” says Herring, but it wasn't until a month later that she thought to ask him 40 OutreachNC.com JULY 2014
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Brooke Herring
Herring's peach trees
just how many trees he had planted. “Five hundred,” and then he said, ‘Since you're getting ready to retire, I thought you might like something to do. How about selling peaches?’” Herring set herself to learning everything she could about peaches. “Ten years ago,” she says, “I set up a chair and a palette of produce beside the road. I had no idea it would take off as it did.” Today, the Herrings have 3,200 peach trees and grow 27 different varieties, the sweetest and most popular “doughnut” or Saturn peach known for its round, flat shape, at top left. Alongside her daughter, Brooke, the two run Geraldine's Peaches and Produce Roadside Market on N.C. 41, four miles north of Lumberton. It's a blooming business open from mid-May to December where the mainstay is summertime peaches. Bushels of fresh peaches line the shelves of the produce stand, and the fruit is also canned and sold in Herring’s special recipe peach salsa. Customers can pick up a variety of produce of whatever is fresh and in season from the family’s century farm, the acreage of which backs up to the roadside stand. Tomatoes, nectarines, potatoes, onions, persimmons, sweet corn, yellow squash, blackberries, beans, pomegranates, cantaloupes and watermelons are just a few of the complements to Herring's peaches. “You can't predict what each year will bring,” says Herring. “In 2013, we lost half our peaches to too much rain. We're totally dependent on the weather and what the Lord sends us, but I wouldn't trade my life for the world.” Nothing goes to waste on the Herring farm either. Once the peach trees are done bearing fruit, they are made into wood chips and sold by the bag for grilling, which Herring
‘I have a summer job for you at the Research Station, son,’ is what my father said. So I asked, ‘When do I have to start?’, and he smiled and told me, ‘Every morning.’ — Danny
says adds wonderful flavor to chicken. Their farm also provides freshly picked peaches and other farm produce like hybrid squash to Lowes Foods grocery stores as part of the store’s Locally Grown program. “One of the most exciting things about our peach industry,” says Paige Burns, Richmond County’s agriculture extension agent, “is the heritage of varieties that have been developed right here by researchers from N.C. State University. Part of the reason they're so good is because they were bred with our special climate in mind.” It may also turn out that new research grows the profile of the state’s blushing fruit. Recent laboratory tests at Texas A&M AgriLife have shown that treatments with peach extract inhibit breast cancer development in mice. “We are enthusiastic about the idea that perhaps by consuming only two to three peaches a day, we can obtain similar effects in humans,” explains Dr. Luis CisnerosZevallos, a food scientist with the program. Health benefits are an added bonus to eating a fresh, ripe North Carolina peach. “Other than in my own special cobbler recipe,” Burns adds, “my favorite way to eat a North Carolina peach is to pick it off the tree, bite into it and have to change my shirt because of the juiciness.”
Bynum Bynum Peach Farm
This summer, the N.C. Peach Growers Society is offering consumers a free e-newsletter with information on when and where to buy, how to store and fun ways to serve local peaches. For more information or to sign JULY 2014 OutreachNC.com 41 up, visit www.ncpeachgrowers.com.
CAROLINACONVERSATIONS
C A R O L I N A C O N V E R S AT I O N S
WITH WRAL ANCHOR
DAVID
CRABTREE Three years, maybe four. That’s how long David Crabtree foresaw being at WRAL-TV before climbing to the next rung on a career ladder in broadcast journalism. He had come to Raleigh from Denver, Colorado, and envisioned his next move taking him to New York or Washington D.C., or perhaps London, Paris or Tel Aviv. As Crabtree, at age 64, reflects on his experiences as a reporter and anchor at WRAL, and talks about the “co-career” upon which he has embarked in the Episcopal Church, it’s easy to see why he chose not to reach for a larger city or more exotic locale—and why he was happy to let three or four years stretch into 20… and counting. By KATHY GRANT WESTERBROOK, Special to OutreachNC | Photography by DIANA MATTHEWS
ONC: When and how did you develop an interest in becoming a broadcaster?
DC: I grew up in a little town just north of Nashville, Tennessee, and my family watched Walter Cronkite. And I was fascinated with broadcasting at a very early age, maybe 12, 13 years old. In fact, I wanted to be on the radio. In my bedroom at home, I had a little turntable, and I had a little gooseneck lamp that I took a magic marker to and made a microphone out of it. My 13th birthday—and my birthday’s close to Christmas—all I wanted was a tape recorder. It cost maybe 20 bucks; that was huge for our family. But that’s what I received that year, birthday and Christmas combined. And I’d walk around my house interviewing people, anyone I could find to talk with. ONC: You received your bachelor of science from Middle Tennessee State University—was your major in journalism?
DC: No, it was in English and political science. I’ve had one formal course in journalism, and it was in news writing, but majoring in English allowed me to study great writers and the classics, and it helped me learn to think, so I enjoyed that. And political science, I thought I was going to law school. Even though I loved broadcasting, my great-grandfather was a lawyer, and I thought maybe I could do both. ONC: How would you describe the satisfaction that comes with bringing people the news?
DC: It’s a privilege to do what we do. We come into your home or onto your cell phone or onto your computer screen by invitation only. I can’t knock on your door, I can’t call you up, I can’t
kick your door open. (Laughs). People make a choice to watch us. And when people choose you to inform them, it’s very humbling.
ONC: Over the course of 20 years with WRAL, you’ve had the opportunity to cover an incredibly wide range of stories, including many that have taken you not just outside North Carolina, but outside the United States—the funeral of Nelson Mandela in Johannesburg, the election of Pope Francis in Rome, etc. Can you shed some light on what it’s like to cover a story abroad?
DC: I remember when Jim Goodman [President and CEO of Capitol Broadcasting Company, WRAL’s parent company] sent me to Calcutta [to cover Mother Theresa’s funeral]. We were walking down the hallway, he put his arm around my shoulder, and he said, “Don’t go there to try to do what the networks do. They have a hundred people there . . . Let them do their work. Find local stories in Calcutta that will be interesting to local people here.” That was the best advice anyone could have given me, and anytime that I’m out of the country, I hear that lesson... find stories that the networks aren’t doing that we know people here will be interested in. It’s a big story told through the eyes and the voice of someone who is familiar back home.
ONC: When you went to Rome to cover the election of Pope Francis, you tweeted about your luggage arriving a day or two behind you. When faced with such a challenging situation, are you as calm and unflappable behind the scenes as you are on camera?
DC: I think I am now, but I wasn’t always that way. The photographer who traveled with me to Rome was not calm at all. But he did have his camera, and he did have his computer (we edit everything now on the computer, particularly on the road), but he only had one battery, so we had to be extremely judicious with what we did. We were working through CBS, so we knew we could get the live shot, but we wanted our own material . . . So you just make it work. You have to focus. I remember spinning him around when he was so frustrated that first night, and I said, "Look where we are." And he looked at the dome at St. Peter’s, and I said, "This is THE story of the world right now. All eyes are on Rome, and we’re here. We’ll make it work." ONC: Have you ever covered a story that had a significant, profound impact on your life?
DC: Yes, there are a couple. You know, we’re always doing stories about breast cancer awareness, Race for the Cure, something like that. Cancer’s been prevalent in my family; my grandfather, my dad, my brother all died of cancer, and so I’m very aware of cancer. And I wanted to do a story with husbands whose wives had breast cancer. I wanted their perspective. And there were two men that I focused on, one whose wife is still living, and one whose wife died. CONTINUED PAGE 44
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And it was like these bookends. On one hand, this guy was so happy and had a greater awareness of life because his wife was still living, and he treated her better and he treated his children better, and it was really good for him. And, on the other hand, the guy who lost his wife, also had a greater perspective of life and the value of life—[he] wasn’t angry; he was sad but wasn’t angry. And the excitement on one hand and the gentleness on the other really stuck with me. The other was getting to know death row inmates . . . I’d only been here a few months and had heard about a communion service on death row that happened once a month, and I wanted to do a story on it. And to tell the story properly, I needed a couple of inmates—not to talk about their crime, but to talk about what that service meant to them. And one was this guy, Ernest Basden. I began visiting with him. Ernest looked just like me . . . He was white, a year younger than me, Southern . . . We became really good friends. Ernest never asked me to advocate for his case; he was content with his sentence, ready to die in prison. He died on Dec. 6, 2002. He only asked two things of me: one was to witness his execution, and the other—the day of his execution—was to come visit him. That ultimately led me to focus on death row work in my ordination as a deacon in the Episcopal Church. ONC: Speaking of the church, according to your WRAL bio, you were ordained as a vocational deacon in the Episcopal Church in 2004, with a focus on hospice and death row care. What does a vocational deacon do?
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world into the church—make people aware of that—and then, hopefully, have the church respond to the needs. Given your work as a broadcaster, and also your church work with death row inmates, have you witnessed executions in addition to Ernest Basden’s?
DC: Yes. I have witnessed eight executions.
ONC: That is an experience that is unimaginable for most of us. How has it affected you?
DC: A little bit of me dies in every one that I witness. But if I’m with someone dying in hospice care, or in the hospital, a little part of his or her life is given to me—and it seems to be that what’s taken away at an execution is given back if I’m part of an end-oflife that’s natural. ONC: How does your work as a deacon affect being a newscaster?
DC: The news isn’t as black and white as we would like to think it is. There’s context to every story that happens. It’s tougher some days to tell the stories we have to tell. It’s tougher to push your younger colleagues on context. The most important way it affects it though, is that I like to sail, and that commitment and living into that commitment daily is like the keel on a sailboat. It keeps you from capsizing. And even if you do capsize, you know you can be righted. You can’t see it, but it’s there, and it just keeps the boat afloat. And, without it, I think some days, I’d just go nuts.
ONC: Given your ordination as a deacon, combined with the fact that you’ve obtained a master’s degree in theology and are currently working toward a master’s in divinity, do you see your work with the church as a second career?
DC: I used to think of it as a second career. I used to think of it as something that I might spend more time doing once I leave [WRAL]. And then I realized, wait a minute, it’s a co-career. But I am keenly aware that there are plenty of people out there watching the news on a nightly basis that couldn’t care less about that; they don’t want to know my spiritual preferences and concerns. So I don’t want to push that on anybody. I don’t want to evangelize. I don’t want to proselytize. That’s not who I am...It’s a guiding force to make me a better listener, and it’s a guiding force for compassion...It has been a wonderful addition to my life, to my professional life, and it’s been a tough addition. I can’t just walk away from things I used to walk away from. ONC: Do you think ahead to retirement?
DC: I don’t want to use that word. There will come a day—it’s the natural order of things—where the season will have passed, and it will be time for someone else to sit in that chair. And it’s not too far away. I don’t know when the date is, but in the next few years, that’s just going to happen. But as long as I have a breath, and my mind is working, I will write and I will speak about current events, and I will speak about issues that affect humankind, and if I have the chance to sit and hold the hand of someone who’s about to leave this world, it will continue to be one of the greatest gifts that I could have ever received. So, the day that I stop totally, it will just simply be the day that I can’t do it anymore.
DAVID
CRABTREE COMMENTS ON... His motivation, as a journalist: We’re not always going to see the fruits of our labor. I used to be motivated to see the fruits of my labor, whether it was awards, ratings, accolades, changes in laws, being an advocate for whomever. That’s all well and good. But I may not see the benefit of it while I’m alive...We do the work and we plant the seed, and if we never see it, it’s OK. You do it because you know you have to do it. The one award he chooses to display, although he has won many (including 13 Emmys):
I have an Emmy that I keep out for when we were in Haiti after the [2010] earthquake, because the people of Haiti so impacted me . . . I stood on the rubble with one 28-yearold, and he said, “Where we’re standing is where my wife died, and I was sitting right over there, and I didn’t die.” And I remember saying to him, “How sorry I am for your loss,” and his response was, “God knows everything. We’ll be OK.” Family (He has a sister, two daughters and a 9-year-old granddaughter): The work that I do—both the work in broadcasting and in the church—has made me so aware of the importance of family and the importance of those in your life on whom you have an effect and an impact, because they sure have an impact on you.
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destination:
Retirement
HOME ON THE ROAD:
RV
NORTH CAROLINA'S
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By NICOLE WHITE Special to OutreachNC Photography by DIANA MATTHEWS
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or some, retirement is a beach or a golf course. It may be a quiet dirt lane off the beaten path or community living with nightly activities. For an ever-increasing number of retirees, this anticipated milestone can include all those elements and more as they take to the open road in an RV. According to research by the Recreation Vehicle Industry Association (RVIA), RV ownership has reached record levels, growing to nearly 9 million households in the last few years. Ownership among those aged 55 or higher rose to 9.3 percent from 2005 to 2011 with the largest gains showing in those aged 35-54. It may not be surprising that nearly one in 10 retirees own an RV, but those just testing out their retirement options are also increasingly interested in what life on the road may offer. With some of the most beautiful sights and inviting campgrounds in the United Sates, North Carolina is consistently a top destination for those looking to kick back and relax in an RV. Patty Kane and her husband Barba are two of these “full-timers,” who have permanently traded a house for an RV. As current campground hosts just west of Raleigh in neighboring Chatham County, in one of Jordan Lake’s most popular campgrounds, the Kanes are enthusiastic about the experience camp hosting has given them. Few retirement options would
have allowed the Kanes the chance to travel around the country for such minimal costs. Indeed, RVIA research proves vacationing in an RV is more economical than other vacations regardless of trip duration, trip distance or region of the country where the vacation takes place. “You can travel in your RV across the country and basically camp for free as a host,” says Kane, adding that camp hosting is not just for those who are retired. “You can still go out to work during the day,” she says. “I work remotely right from my camper.” Ranger Michael Annas coordinates the volunteer hosts at Jordan Lake. As one of the largest such recreational areas in North Carolina with over 1100 campsites, Jordan Lake needs as many as 12 hosts each year. “Some of our hosts are retirees,” says Annas, “but it varies. Commitments vary as well—some hosts stay two to four months while some are year-round.” Part of Jordan Lake’s popularity stems from location—just a few miles from Apex, Cary and Pittsboro with easy access to Raleigh and Chapel Hill—but the seclusion is what brings campers from all around. “There are no houses on the lake, so, though it is easy to get to, you feel away from it all,” says Annas. Different campgrounds and states have different requirements, but nearly all hosts are responsible for fielding questions and concerns from campers, ensuring the rules of the campground are being followed, and being model campers. “We let the rangers know if there is an issue they should be aware of,” says Kane. “We’re their extra eyes and ears.” In addition, the Kanes are
responsible for cleaning the bathhouses and being available at night in an emergency. At the close of the summer, the Kanes, who are also members of private campgrounds, pack up their Sunnybrook Titan fifth wheel and move on. “One of the absolute highlights of hosting is the people you meet,” says Kane, reminiscing about some best friends who they met camping four years ago. “You get the chance to see wildlife and to enjoy the lake. It’s a good life. When you live in a campground you don’t have all the traffic or the people that you find in a city. It’s a very stress-free environment.” Southwest of Jordan Lake, sits the picturesque Badin Lake, part of the Uwharrie National Forest and ranked as the No. 2 Best Campground in North Carolina by tripleblaze.com. The lake lies within Montgomery, Stanly, Davidson and Rowan counties. Theresa Savery, district recreation coordinator, believes it is the diversity in activities that Badin Lake Campgrounds offers that make it a popular destination for retirees and young folks alike. With 110 campsites in the recreation area—half of which are right on the water—amenities are varied and offer much more flexibility than most state park campgrounds. “There aren’t as many regulations for a National Forest,” says Savery, “so we allow hunting, extensive fishing, and OHVs [off-highway vehicles]. We even have a brand new shooting range near Arrowhead Campground and CaneBrake Horse Camp—one of the few equestrian and riding geared campgrounds designed to accommodate your horse right there in the campground.” Camping and hosting at Badin Lake offer individuals the chance to
Living the RV lifestyle... Donald and Rebecca Mshar have been camp hosts at Sycamore Lodge Resort in Jackson Springs. Their favorite part of their RV is their outdoor screen room.
enjoy low-cost recreational activities while exploring a gorgeous area of the state. The campgrounds are family-friendly, relaxing, and have numerous boating, fishing, hiking, and biking options. Though known for being more rustic than other campgrounds, Badin Lake does offer flush toilets and showers in four of their campgrounds with RV hookup options in Arrowhead Campground and CaneBrake Horse Camp. In neighboring Richmond County lies Sycamore Lodge—a state-ofthe-art, beautifully landscaped and designed RV campground offering amenities that rival a country club. Nestled in what used to be tobacco farmland, Sycamore Lodge’s 194 acres were originally a plantation and then a peach orchard before becoming an RV campground 27 years ago. With 176 RV sites and seven cabins, Sycamore Lodge operates as a private member-only retreat in partnership with Travel Resorts of America. It was the first of now six campgrounds in multiple states and part of a coastto-coast camping network. CONTINUED PAGE 48
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Petra Reynolds, resort operations manager, has been a full time RVer for five years and has called Sycamore Lodge home since November. “Over 30 percent of our members are retirees,” says Reynolds, “but many are purchasing memberships in preparation of retirement.” Of the 14,000 members of Travel Resorts of America, around 3,000 are unique members to Sycamore Lodge with the vast majority coming from only 1.5 to 2 hours away. Members can reserve camping spots and stay three to four weeks at a time, but then must leave for at least two weeks before returning. In this way, full-timers benefit from using 12-month travel plans to schedule out the best locations and times for each season. The lodge offers a full calendar of events with 48 different themed weekends and innumerable opportunities for campers to enjoy varied activities with visiting family and friends. “Some enjoy just sitting outside their RV and having a fire,” says Reynolds of the diverse community at Sycamore. “Some members participate in almost every single activity we have, and then there are some who just sit out under the stars in their golf carts and listen to that weekend’s band play in the pavilion.” Donald Mshar and his wife Rebecca, camp workers originally from Chelsea, Michigan, have been coming to Sycamore Lodge for three years, splitting the time between their work at Disney Resorts in Florida and as camp hosts and activity coordinators here in North Carolina. “My favorite parts are probably the people and the weather,” says Mshar.
When they are parked in camp, the Mshars use only one tank of gas a month and enjoy “very little housework”— perks that come with having a motor coach for a home. “You definitely need to both be in tune to this lifestyle, though,” says Mshar when asked what interested folks should know. “You are living in real close quarters, and [for most full-timers] giving up the home.” The Mshars downsized from a 3,400-square-foot home in 2005 to live in their 40-foot RV with three slide-outs. They have met many people who realized that living in such limited space wasn’t for them. For those who learn to love the smaller quarters in return for the mobility and freedom, parking at private member campgrounds is often worth the fees and dues. “Camping spots can be scarce at public parks,” says Mshar. [Being a member of a private campground] is handy for coast-to-coast traveling.” Unlike the more rustic accommodations found in most parks and national forests, private campgrounds like Sycamore Lodge offer a relaxed and scenic environment without the isolation. Whether lakeside in a secluded, mountain setting or in a bustling activity-driven campground complete with road signs and a dog park, RV living is on the rise across the nation as all generations and walks of life test drive life on the road. For those thirsting for a bit of adventure, the opportunity to see the country, or merely to simplify life, full-time RVing presents a unique retirement opportunity. And for those still needing an income, being a camp worker can make hitting the open road an enticing proposition.
For those interested in experiencing retirement in an RV, consider extensive RV traveling before fully committing. Other things to consider are: • F INANCES: While buying an RV is much cheaper than most homes, keep in mind the cost of gas, maintenance, park fees, utilities, insurance and private campground memberships if applicable. • T AXES: If an RV is where you spend the majority of your time, decide whether you will keep a home base or use residency services. Full-timers typically do not pay property taxes, school taxes, and other town and municipal fees. •H EALTH CARE: Understand what health care is available to you at each location and schedule your travel plans around any surgeries or routine doctor appointments. •W ORKING: Many campgrounds and RV sites need hosts, camp workers, and staff. For those looking for employment opportunities, visit www.workampingjobs.com or contact individual campgrounds directly for information on vacant positions. 48 OutreachNC.com JULY 2014
For more information on RV camping: Badin Lake Recreation Area 910.576.6391 www.recreation.gov
Jordan Lake
919.362.0586 jordan.lake@ncparks.gov www.ncparks.gov
Sycamore Lodge and Resort
888.455.9599 www.campnorthcarolina.com
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Marathon Miler By THAD MUMAU | Photography by DIANA MATTHEWS Submitted photography courtesy MARSHA KOUBA
Marsha Kouba just keeps on running.
The Fayetteville post-surgical nurse has run a marathon in all 50 states. She has run a marathon on five of the seven continents, completing more than 80 marathons in all. She has logged enough miles to take her around the world twice. And she just keeps on running. Kouba started running for exercise while in college and after getting married and having two children, she continued to run. A half-marathon was her introduction to long-distance running, and in 1992, she ran her first 26.2-mile race. “It was the Shamrock Marathon at Virginia Beach,” she recalls. “When I got around mile 22, I thought there was no way I could finish. When I did, I felt like I had conquered the world. I felt like a different person, like I had accomplished something big.” She had, and for some people, just one marathon would have been plenty. Not Kouba. She set her sights on Boston, the most prestigious marathon of them all. “I was 20-something minutes off the time required to qualify,” she says. “I ran several marathons in 1995, got my time down to three hours and 42 minutes, and I ran Boston for the first time in 1996.” It was the 100th running of the fabled race, and Kouba was one of a record 38,708 runners in the field. One marathon led to another, and she started searching out a new state when scheduling her next race. In September of 2012, Colorado became state No. 50 in which Kouba had run a marathon. She was the 238th woman in the United States to accomplish that feat and only the third in North Carolina. When she runs in Australia this September and Africa in February 2015, she will have checked off every continent as well. “The training for a marathon is what is hard,” Kouba says. “Some run one and say, 'I never want to do that again'. Or, like me, finish and say, 'That's the coolest thing.'
“I had done marathons in about 14 or 15 states and had 35 or 36 left. Steve and I did those in about five years. It took a lot of planning to do that many that fast.” Steve is Dr. Stephen Kouba, Marsha's husband and a highly acclaimed orthopedic surgeon in Fayetteville. He has accompanied his wife on most of her marathon trips and has run numerous half-marathons scheduled in conjunction with the longer races. “You can't get through life without your sherpa,” Marsha says, “and he is my sherpa. That means guide, and Steve has certainly been a terrific guide for me. “He has gone with me to about 48 states, has been with me through all of this, and is ready and willing to go with me everywhere. We have made vacations of many of my marathons, seeing wonderful things and visiting great places – the Presidential Library, Yellowstone National Park, the waterfalls in Idaho, the Eisenhower Museum.” “These marathons have been great for both of us,” Steve says. “The travel has been just wonderful. If we had not made so many of the trips for Marsha to run marathons, we probably would never have made them at all.” In addition to serving as the designated photographer, he has provided some comedy relief. Like the time he dressed in a penguin suit in Antarctica. “That was one of the hardest marathons because of the terrain,” Marsha says. “It was 25 degrees when we ran, and it was icy, snowy, muddy, hilly and windy. I was thinking maybe this would be the one I wouldn't finish. Then I looked up, and there he was, dressed as a penguin. The next thing I knew, I was running better again.” CONTINUED PAGE 50
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"I couldn't have my last Boston be such a bad memory when all the others had been such good ones.
I had to go back one more time." — Marsha Kouba
At the 2014 Boston Marathon finish line with niece Emma Astrike-Davis.
“These marathons have been great for both of us,” says Steve Kouba. “The travel has been just wonderful. If we had not made so many of the trips for Marsha to run marathons, we probably would never have made them at all.” 50 OutreachNC.com JULY 2014
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She has her marathon medals displayed on a wall at home. Among the more interesting ones are the Route 66 spinning medal from Tulsa, Oklahoma, the Flying Pig from Cincinnati, and Mississippi Blues Marathon medal. Of all her marathons, one stands far above the others for Kouba. “Boston was an extraordinary experience,” she says. “For so many reasons.” Especially the last two years. The bombs of 2013 turned a grand event into gruesome turmoil, anguish, pain and sorrow. This year, the normal anticipation and excitement were blanketed with so many other emotions as participants and spectators alike felt sadness tinged with resolve. Such a great day needed to again be great. That was the overriding reason Kouba returned after saying last year's Boston Marathon would be her last. “I couldn't let it end that way,” she says, “couldn't have my last Boston be such a bad memory when all the others had been such good ones. I had to go back one more time. “Running Boston is as much humbling as anything. The course is excruciatingly hard. Everybody talks about Heartbreak Hill, but what is tough is that there are so many downhills, and they make runners' legs hurt so bad. One year, my dad set up a treadmill, elevating the back of it, to help me prepare for all of the downhill running in Boston. It is just so challenging.” Kouba missed running part of 2004 and all of 2005 because of a serious illness. As soon as she was able, she started training for marathons again, building her stamina and strength. “Steve took me down to Disney World, and I strapped on my number and finished. I was happy as could be. That was very emotional. So were my first marathon and the last two in Boston. “My mother loved to go to Boston,” Kouba says. “She was so proud of me and my running. My favorite dessert is an oatmeal-date bar. My mother made those for me every marathon I ran. “I was running a race in Richmond, and when I finished, I got a call that my mother had fallen. When I got home, there in the refrigerator was a pan of oatmealdate bars with a note that said, 'My sweet Marsha, I am so proud of you, and I will love you forever.' “She passed away not long after that.” This year, in Boston, the Koubas attended church the day before Monday's marathon.
Walt Disney World 2013 Marathon
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Goofy's Race with friend Rob Hasty— where you run a half marathon first day followed by full marathon the next day.
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“They were giving out scarves that had been knitted for the runners,” Marsha says, “and people were handing them out there in church. Steve reached over and got one for me. It was knitted by a woman from the Flying Pig Marathon, and that was my mother's favorite.” That is just another of so many nice memories that connect Kouba with marathons and with running in general. Those memories and special feelings combat any thought of stopping, along with the fact that she is in excellent health. The repetitive pounding on knees, hips and the back takes a toll on most runners, but Kouba, at 57, doesn't seem the worse for wear. Her shoes – the Adidas Boost is her favorite – last about 300 miles. Her personal odometer is closing in on 70,000 miles. “All of my joints are my own and all are intact,” she says. “About three years ago, I started doing yoga. I go two or three times a week, and that is vital in helping me maintain strength and flexibility as I age. I just wish I had started it earlier. “I can't imagine not running. I run almost every day, about 50 miles a week, and I like doing it. I feel running has made me a better wife and mother; you can work through a lot of problems while running. “So I'm going to keep on motoring as long as I can. As for what's next after I have finished the continents . . . well, maybe the provinces of Canada. We'll see.”
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26. Stress, in a way 28. Bathroom item 30. Cut 32. "Tarzan" extra 33. Bunk 35. Boxers' warnings 36. Pretense
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For What It’s Worth...
This month, we examine a platter, salt and pepper shakers pitcher and toy to see if beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder as we ask a professional appraiser to determine their value. A reader in Whispering Pines submitted these pieces to see just how much they may be worth.
by Mary Dosh, Special to OutreachNC | Photography by Diana Matthews
For What It’s Worth
VALUE:
$
8
This unique ceramic pitcher depicts a pastoral scene. The disadvantage on this particular piece is that it is in no way identified with a stamp or markings. “I really don't know the manufacturer or much about the pitcher,” explains Katherine Mitchell, a National Auctioneers Association Certified estate specialist and owner of Raleigh Auction & Estate Sales. “1950s probably, and it looks like Dutch farmers possibly or just sunbonnet American folks…I would say $5 to $10.”
These wooden salt and pepper shakers are souvenirs from Havana, Cuba. Shaped in the fashion of a maraca, a Latin American percussion instrument, the vintage set is beautifully carved from Caribbean wood. Souvenirs from the country are limited and unique. “The Cuban maracas salt and pepper shakers,” says Mitchell, “are more souvenir than valuable and probably would sell for $5 to $15.”
For What It’s Worth
VALUE:
$
10
Want to know what it's worth? Submit items to info@outreachnc.com with a detailed description, photos of the item and your contact information.
For What It’s Worth
VALUE:
$
13
For What It’s Worth
VALUE:
$
65
Queen Victoria, the longest reigning British monarch, celebrated the 60th year of her reign in 1897, creating the first Diamond Jubilee. The British people commemorated this special occasion with much joy and various souvenirs. This platter, combining the old art of painting porcelain and the new art of photography, was made as a wall hanging that celebrated the historic occasion. “This plate is indeed from the 1897 Diamond Jubilee celebrating Queen Elizabeth’s 60 years of reign,” says Mitchell. “It appears to be in pretty good condition, so I would estimate $65.”
Speedy Gonzales, the fastest mouse in Mexico, is a Warner Brothers cartoon mouse. Made in the 1960s, this Speedy Gonzales toy is unusual because of its larger ears and smaller hat. It is made of artificial leather and stuffed with sawdust. “Speedy Gonzalez is my favorite,” says Mitchell. “Speedy came on the air in 1955 with Warner Brothers and Merrie Melodies. However, this toy had to be made after 1963, as they are using five-digit zip code on its tag. Again, he is more memorabilia than anything else, maybe $10 to $15.” JULY 2014
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