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features March 2015

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Don't Feed the Tiger by Nan Leaptrott

A mother reflects on raising children 50 years ago.

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Conscious Coupling by Gayvin Powers

A later-in-life couple finds ways to strengthen their relationship while having fun and being healthy.

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The Right Thing by Thad Mumau

Homage to Dean Smith at UNC Chapel Hill.

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Painter and Storyteller by Ann Robson Debbie Crawford, a Raleigh artist, brings her ancestors to life in vibrant paintings.

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Carolina Conversations with Dan Nagy by Gayvin Powers A retired associate dean at Duke, Nagy provides valuable tips on working after retirement.

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“Looking back at my life's voyage, I can only say that it has been a golden trip.” ― Ginger Rogers

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from the editor Editor in Chief Gayvin Powers | gayvinp@OutreachNC.com

W

elcome to OutreachNC's Now & Then Issue. As children, our imaginations are thriving with possibility, yet time is a challenging concept to comprehend in our youth.

To a child, 50 years is large, infinitesimal, beyond comprehension. I know this observation from personal experience (I used to be a child).

Ever since childhood, each year of my life has passed by with an unfathomable rate of increased speed that I couldn’t have predicted. It’s gone by so fast that almost half a century has whooshed by me like a train roaring past an unsuspecting passenger standing too close to the tracks. When I thought back to what the world was like 50 years ago, my mind went to "The Sound of Music," the Academy Award-winning film that came out in 1965, and countless nights where my parents played the sound track on their record player. Life was simple. Uncomplicated.

The '60s was a generation. A movement. A moment in life. One that has forever altered the way we live today. There was the moon walk, Civil Rights movement, Lee Harvey Oswald, the grassy knoll, Martin Luther King Jr. , Beatles mania, Simon and Garfunkel, Joni Mitchell, Aretha Franklin, the Vietnam War, women burned their bras and LBJ was president after Kennedy was shot.

Every decade has had its place in history, and when we look back it’s hard to imagine how different life used to be in the past. Take a journey with us as we rekindle our imaginations, sharing stories about a mother who raised her son 50 years ago, how to get back to work during retirement, a school repurposed for seniors, a Buick Eight and the retiree who restored it, an artist who brings the past to life and a later-in-life couple who have found a way to remain connected.

Einstein said, “Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere.”

Sincerely,

Gayvin Powers Editor in Chief

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lifestyle S E N T I M E N TA L J O U R N E Y

Living in Lyrics

by Jennifer Pollard, MSW

There comes a point in almost every conversation when a phrase turns into a melody. And I don’t think I’m alone with this occurrence. For in the midst of doctor waiting rooms, kitchen table conversations and hallway discussions, the placement of words in just the right order awakens a tune in the memory.

Recently, I was accompanying a husband and wife in their doctor appointment. While reviewing current medications, recent aches and pains and updates on care with the physician, the husband would sometimes be distracted and his shortterm memory loss was getting the best of him. He couldn’t recall the name of the nurse that had just done his vitals (neither could I, for that matter) and his wife lovingly picked on him to try and remember her name — since he had read her name badge.

All he could say was, “It was a pretty girl."

Needless to say, his wife perked up and said, “Her name was what?”

He said, “A pretty girl…” “…is like a melody,” I added lyrically.

“A Pretty Girl is Like a Melody” was a popular song written by Irving Berlin in 1919 that became the theme for the Ziegfeld Follies. With the introduction of a lyric into all of the confusion discussing a pretty girl’s name during a medical appointment, the husband immediately started laughing and the wife began singing the tune. Instant mood-changer.

Instead of concentrating on memory-loss issues, they both were on common ground with a familiar lyric. As a general rule, this couple relies heavily on quick wit and humor for their successful marriage of almost 70 years. They pick on each other and are playful, but the memory loss can often tip the scales and lead to frustration.

He will often exclaim, “But I am behaving, aren’t I?”.

One time, he said this while waiting for labs to be drawn and it turned into, “Ain’t Misbehaving, Saving My Love for You”, a popular 1929 Fats Waller standard. The mood became lighter and instantly childhood memories of their moms, who liked to sing and to fill their homes with song, were mentioned.

Suddenly, they were having way more fun than should be allowed in a medical waiting room.

Do you think in song lyrics? Have you found lyrics an easy way to lighten the mood or bring back a fond memory? I’d love to hear how you link song lyrics in your life. Please contact me at jenniferp@aoscaremanagement.com to share your stories.

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lifestyle SENIOR MOMENTS

Duct Tape Can Fix Anything

by Barbara Cohea

Friday, 0900 hours. I was asleep when the final assault on my bathroom began. It’s been under attack since Jan. 16, when at 0830 hours I was awakened by the sound of major construction work under way in my bathroom ceiling. I hadn’t hired anyone to do construction, so I figured it for a freelance job and that meant critters. Nothing sounds quite like a squirrel doing carpentry and that I’d discovered from one-eyed Harold, who’d made significant progress in November chewing under my front door. Back then, when all else failed, I got out the duct tape and plastered it all along the bottom of the front door.

Duct tape stuck between the teeth definitely slowed down the whole ripping strips of wood off anything process, and that nice slick, gray vinyl side meant Harold’s teeth kind of slipped off the surface. No, I was not worried about the appearance on account of my house very closely resembles . . . indeed is kin to, a shack. Which is code for decrepit, falling apart or substandard housing. And as such, it is a prime target for squirrel warfare, because they actually have a chance to get inside.

So on Friday morning I jumped out of bed and ran into the bathroom. I started knocking on my side of the plywood ceiling. I knocked once, I knocked twice, and then my fist went through the ceiling into the squirrel hideout itself. Well . . . we were all surprised. The squirrel or squirrels were still up there. I could see their toes backing away from my fist hole. Looked like a whole darn herd. I grabbed for my super-sized roll of duct tape, which I do keep handy in case I need to affix the faucets back onto the pipes.

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you will find that duct tape saved the lives of the ill-fated Apollo 13 crew when their vacation-trip to the moon blew up in their faces . . . literally.

I ripped. I tore. I covered that hole as fast as greased lightning. I felt, I poked. If that plywood ceiling went, "bwwong," indicating a very thin spot, I slapped on duct tape. I had a two-foot square area covered with shiny vinyl and I was proud.

For days sleep was peaceful. Then, came Sunday. Another hole emerged just beyond the duct-taped square and I thought there might be hand-tohand combat, or hand-to-toe combat, hand-to-feet combat? I’m enough of a woman to say just the thought scared me, and that’s before I thought about the big teeth and rabies. Also, I did not know if they’d already made it into my dimension or not. Did you see the movie "World War Z"? I pictured tiny zombies, everywhere.

Carefully, I taped over the new hole. Quietly, I searched the bathroom closet, the shelves with the toilet paper and extra towel. Could they be snoozing somewhere in my clothes? I found . . . no one. I covered the ceiling with shiny, gray vinyl. Really, it doesn’t look that bad. The room is . . . brighter. The light . . . bounces . . . provocatively around the room. Next, purchase more duct tape then stock in the duct tape company.

Barb Cohea, a humorist who recently published "Intelligent Life on Earth? the Search Continues" can be reached at barbaracohea@gmail.com

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lifestyle LITERARY CIRCLE

“The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry” Book Review by Cos Barnes

Rachel Joyce’s “The Unlikely Pilgrimage of Harold Fry” is a winner. I recently had a visit from my son’s friend from high school, and when she saw the book lying on my table, she exclaimed, “That’s the best book I have read all year.”

She also had read another one that was lying there, and I was delighted with the good taste of the younger generation.

It is a marvelous book. Harold Fry is Everyman. He is Walter Mitty. He is a nondescript sales representative retiree whose wife is irritated with everything he does.

Harold goes out to mail a letter and keeps going, determined to walk the 600 miles to a hospice where Queenie, a co-worker, whom he has not seen for 20 years and who once did him a favor, is dying of cancer. Dressed in yachting shoes and a light coat, he faces the elements, believing that as long as he walks, she will live.

A gifted storyteller, Joyce brings out with humor, charm and vigor, the thoughts and feelings we so often try to hide. She describes the colorful and eccentric people Harold meets, including hotel guests, the barman, a hiker, a woman who loved Jane Austen and one who gave him food. I was reminded of Chaucer’s “Canterbury Tales” that I had to read so many years ago.

Harold discovers many things as he walks and slowly loses some of the garbage he has carried so long, mostly dealing with the death of his son. He calls his wife, Maureen, daily; he also calls the hospice to have the sisters tell his friend that he is coming and to hang on. Meanwhile, Maureen is making some changes of her own, thanks to the help of neighbor Rex. The book is slow-starting but well worth the read, made even more enjoyable with an accompanying map that helps chart his journey.

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lifestyle OVER MY SHOULDER

'Tis a Blessing

by Ann Murphy Robson

It’s often said that on March 17 there are only two kinds of people – the Irish, and those who wish they were. I fall firmly in the first category with a long list of names like O’Meara, O’Brien, Houlahan, Ryan and Murphy in my family.

To make it even more definite, my only child was born on March 17, close to midnight. As the first grandchild for my Murphy parents, she cemented our March 17 celebrations.

The Irish are known for many things: their storytelling, blessings, determination (or stubbornness), magnificent scenery, hard-fought freedom, music, dancing, faith, superstitions, welcoming nature, easy-going ways, hospitality, grand way with words and their authors.

Winston Churchill once found the Irish “to be a bit odd.

They refuse to be English.” A small part of the country remains under English rule. The “troubles,” as the conflict between Northern Ireland and the rest of the country are euphemistically referred to, are, for the most part, settled.

However, ask anyone from either side and you’ll discover that while the troubles are officially over, it doesn’t take much coaxing to find out how each side really feels.

Irish pubs preceded social media by several centuries but both offer the same service of communicating the events of the area. Today, Ireland has become quite a Silicon Valley of a sort, but the real news that matters is passed in the pub.

The Irish have a blessing for everything, special or not.

They have a wonderful way with words and their blessings are evidence of the wordsmith in most of the Irish.

Although they are called "blessings," some are not quite as beneficent as others, with less than kind words for their enemies.

The Irish wake is a long tradition and serves the dual purpose of honoring the deceased and helping the grieving. Part of that tradition is found in earlier days when a person would be waked at home (preparing the body) for at least a day and night before the funeral Mass and burial. There were strict rules regarding preparing the body, and someone was to be with the body at all times.

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My father took me to sit with my uncle’s body overnight.

I was 16 and had not done this before. Meanwhile, there was a low-key party going on in another part of the house. At least it seemed like a party, but over time I have discovered it was a celebration of the deceased’s life. Good times and bad were discussed, often prompting smiles, chuckles or outright laughter. There were tears too. It was not considered disrespectful but rather telling of a life. It was also a time for the youngest generation to learn about their family histories. With the advent of funeral homes, the Irish wake has moved to the home of the deceased or of a close relative where a celebration ensues after the burial and often lasts for hours.

From cradle to grave, being of Irish descent is a blessing.

To all who are, or wish they were, my Irish wish: May the road rise up to meet you, May the sun shine warm upon your face, May the rain fall soft upon your fields, and Until we meet again, May God hold you in the palm of his hand.

D Robson has over 50 years' experience writing; she enjoys writing about helping people and those who have re-purposed their lives in retirement.

Email Robson at info@outreachnc.com.

Don't Feed the Don't Feed the Tiger Don't Feed the Tiger

Feed the Tig

by Nan Leaptrott

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In 1984, Richard Benjamin "Ben" Leaptrott, the author's son, played solo piano for the Comite´ d’Ouwendijck, a society that promotes the arts with Prince Philippe of Belgium in attendance (now King of Belgium).

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He walked across the stage, bowed before the audience, flung his tuxedo tails over the bench as he took his seat, lifted his hands and the magic began.

I sat mesmerized, as I watched his fingers fly flawlessly over the piano keys, observed his perfect timing, heard how eloquent the resonance. Could this be the same tiger who 32 years ago reared his disgruntled head and in a strident tone announced, I hate this dinner rule, Mom? I don’t know how you ever came up with such a dull rule. I refuse to participate tonight and maybe, never again.

Dinner time was not the time to whine, sulk or huff, so my family dinner rules were simple. Put on your best clean face, come to the table, enjoy your meal; be prepared to share at least one positive experience in your day.

I took a deep breath, held my gaze steady, lowered my voice, and responded, Tiger, you are excused from participating in our family conversation tonight.

However, I will address your offensive outburst with you tomorrow after school.

The oatmeal cookies were hot from the oven, the glass of milk cold. My tiger returned from school. I could tell by his demeanor he thought I’d forgotten about the dinner drama the night before. Of course, I hadn’t. My tiger and I chatted as usual as I probed with calm intent to glean if there were an underlying cause for his outburst.

No grounds for alarm, so I tackled the tiger.

Tiger, dinner rules are house rules. It is important in order to maintain a balance in our home. Since you obviously don’t want to adhere to our dinner rules, I’ve come up with a plan which will make us all happy. You will have dinner in your room. I’ll prepare the same delicious meal for you as I do for the rest of the family. I’ll bring your meal to you on a tray and a bell for you to ring in case you want seconds. This will be your dinner ritual until you choose otherwise.

Wow! This is the best dinner rule you’ve ever made.

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I did not respond.

I thought my tiger may dine alone in his room, perhaps two days, and he would be bored beyond endurance. There were no televisions in bedrooms, private phone lines, cell phones, text, or Tweets back then. Better still, the tiger would not be able to aggravate his brothers, pretending to play the piano at the dinner table. Two weeks passed and the tiger ate in his room alone. One night, the tiger heard our laughter from the table and without a word, he bolted down the stairs, taking his place at the dinner table and picking up the conversation as if there had never been a two-week interlude.

Life is interesting, especially when observed in the perspective of the now, which evokes memories of the then. The day my son came into the world, this new-born tiger reached out with enthusiasm to embrace his uncharted world. His arms were always in motion, his blue eyes keenly observing every movement of everything around him. As I cuddled him in my arms, he cooed as if he were making music. Through the years, he was a happy tiger, easy to please, intelligent, competitive, witty, so his disgruntled outburst at dinner was out of character.

Still, after these many years, some of our conversations settled around my firm dinner rule.

Mom, I wish I’d come to the dinner table that evening with a delete key taped across my mouth, but as soon as I opened my mouth I knew I’d already pushed “Send." In retrospect, this dinner episode, taught me over time that being primarily self-focused produces limited results.

Tiger, nothing of value comes quickly. No pretentions or outside trappings can improve the real core of our being. You’ve mastered the importance in life, and that’s what counts today.

"Scatter the joy," Walt Whitman wrote. My tiger scatters the joy, a delightful harmony. He is passionate about life while finding meaning and self-fulfillment in his everyday journey. He does this whether it’s during his endless hours of practice, walks across stages, performances before hundreds, including the Prince of Belgium and Henry Kissinger. It can be summed up in the simple act of going to a nearby school, where there are no music teachers to teach little ones the joy of a simple melody.

Mom, I wish I’d come to the dinner table that evening with a delete key taped across my mouth.

However, looking back on this growing-up experience, I understand without a doubt, the best dinner rule you ever made was the night you refused to feed the tiger.

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With strong chrome detailing the Buick Eight’s face, the car projects a powerful presence when American car manufacturing was equally strong. Known as the Buick Straight-8 engine (Fireball 8), the car was produced from 1931 to 1953. Engine rebuilding was expensive on these cars due to the process and time of creating cast-in-place bearings that were later machined.

Richard Petty, NASCAR Hall of Fame recipient, has a large garage of restored cars covering several decades at his office in Level Cross, North Carolina. The Buick Eight is only one of the many. In an interview with OutreachNC in June, 2011, Petty shared that he also restored a 1933 Dodge, saying, “I probably had it 25 years. When the kids were growing up, we used to drive it all the time. My oldest daughter learned to drive in this car, a straight gear in the floor. If you can drive this, you can drive anything.”

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CAR TRIVIA | MARCH 1782 James Watt builds the first engine crank.

1792 The first U.S. toll roads opened in PA and CT. 1860 Jean Lenoir invents the spark plug.

1887 The Benz became the first car offered for sale.

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1901 The first Grand Prix race was won with an average speed of 46 mph.

1913 More than 1 million cars registered in the U.S. 1914 The first electric traffic light was installed in Cleveland.

1923 Powered windshield wipers became standard equipment on many cars.

1925 A radio was first offered as an accessory.

1954 Padded dashboards introduced for safety.

1956 Electric door locks were introduced on several luxury models.

1958 The first remote adjusted side view mirror was introduced.

1963 Seat belts first offered as standard equipment.

1965 Rear seat belts became standard on most cars.

1974 National 55 mph speed limit was enacted after oil shortages.

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“I knew he was the one because my heart knew it found a home.”

- Theresa Gagan

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Conscious Coupling A later-in-life couple find a second home in yoga

by Gayvin Powers I Photography by Amy Young

It has been said that couples who play together, stay together. Sharing a common interest, working together, improving health, wellness and appearance can bring couples closer. There is also something to be said for having an accountability partner who has your best interest at heart. It can be challenging when your spouse is your accountability partner; however, the best couples find a way to play upon what works.

For Theresa and John Gagan, exercising together and being healthy has become a habit that has brought them closer together. Theresa shares that one of the aspects she loves about John is that, “John and I have, as different as we are, the same value system. In disagreements, there is never a spark of disconnect.

And we still inspire each other with new ideas, thoughts or items on our bucket lists.”

After all, John inpsired Theresa to go in a hot air balloon, thus crossing it off him bucket list. Theresa was terriby afraid at first. However, John’s zest for life, search for knowledge and adventure rubbed off on her. Once she got over the fear of the balloon ride, she was exhilerated, joking that now she's ready to get her pilot’s license.

Equally, John appreciates Theresa rising to the

challenge, saying that he believes one of the reasons the marriage works is that "we share so many of the same interests. She's willing to take off on any of my hairbrained schemes and adventures."

This isn't the first time OutreachNC has interviewed the Gagans. They were one of OutreachNC’s first couples featured in the March, 2010 issue about John recovering from illness after changing his diet to vegetarian. What readers didn’t know was at the time, Theresa and he were newly wed three years earlier.

That’s right. The Gagans had a later in life marriage that was unexpected and turned out to be a blessing in many ways.

She’s grateful for the life, love and lessons John brought to the relationship, including honoring that he was a widow from a long, happy marriage with his first wife that produced two beautiful children. All of that, plus his adventure keeps the relationship strong. “He’s still eager to be a learner," says Theresa. "He still learns languages and picks up new books to read. He’s very adventurous.”

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enjoyed and, in return, shared with her husband.

John welcomed the new practice. Over the years, all of this excitement and adventure have come at a price.

Years of ignoring injuries and getting older had turned a once simple irritation into a very painful situation. As a special forces retiree, John had a series of ailments that have bothered him over the years. In September of 2014, with the encouragement of Theresa, he started practicing yoga more regularly to help with his shoulder that he could barely move. In wanting to avoid surgery, John was open to other possibilities. Yoga seemed a good fit.

Soon after starting yoga, John noticed increased mobility in his shoulder. As of January 2015, he states that his shoulder mobility is almost healed with very little pain left.

Many couples who start a healthy practice together end up becoming closer because of it. The increased activity, involvement and interests have strengthened the Gagans' relationship. Theresa sums up her adventuraous life with John by saying, “I knew he was the one because my heart knew it found a home.�

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Benefits of Restorative Yoga Known as the exercise where people “take a two-hour nap while getting massaged,” restorative yoga has a lot of healing properties for people while they age and those who are recovering from injury. Dawn Avent, an instructor at Cool Asana in Southern Pines, shares with each of her classes that during this type of yoga, all the instructors are there to provide care for the participants.

It’s not surprising that it’s so relaxing, considering that restorative yoga balances the nervous system back to a parasympathetic state. When people are in fight or flight (like combat veterans), the sympathetic nervous system is at work. Over prolonged periods of time, it can wreak havoc on the body.

Simple positions that activate the parasympathetic nervous system can balance the body and put it in a state of relaxation.

Avent, who assists the Gagans in their practice, highlights some of the health benefits to people over 50 who attend a restorative yoga class.

How many poses are done in the two hours?

Six to eight poses are held. A couple instructors walk around the room assisting and massaging the students while students are in the yoga positions. It helps the students relax.

Why is restorative yoga beneficial?

It relieves the tension from the sympathetic nervous system being activated and relaxes the body.

What are the benefits to people over 50?

It’s an easy class to become familiar, especially in the cool environment so people don’t have to be concerned about the heat. People over 50 have been beating up their bodies for a long time and restorative yoga is beneficial for that.

What is the take-away from restorative yoga?

There are many. There is balance. It’s gentle and powerful. You’ll notice for the next few days that you’ll sleep better and have higher energy levels.

What do you love most about restorative yoga?

I know how I feel after a massage. I’m floating. The weight is lifted off my shoulders, everything is right with the world. When I see people leave, they have that same look on their faces.

What was the best comment you heard from a student?

I overhead a husband tell his wife, “I can’t believe you haven’t told me about this. It’s like adult nap time.”

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rilliance is frequently linked to complexity, but Dean Smith was an exception. His genius was a study in simplicity.

From the time I knew who he was, I admired Smith for his creativity and competitive nature.

Basketball stuff. Over the years, while writing three books about him and sharing countless conversations, I grew to admire him more. And that was being-a-goodperson stuff.

Noted for taking a stand on civil rights, he was actually an everyday supporter of human rights. All of the people all of the time. His forum was a college basketball team on which everyone was treated equally every day. Stars, walk-ons and even the managers, the guys and gals who carried the bags and handed out towels.

He publicly called capital punishment “murder” and said a restaurant should serve a meal to all colors of customers. Because it needed to be done that way.

Quietly, he showed youngsters for nearly four decades that they were all the same in his eyes.

Showed is the operative word here, rather than told, because he did not make an example of a third-stringer who had broken a rule. The example, instead, was a starter who sat out the first 10 minutes of a Final Four

game after arriving 10 minutes late for the team bus.

As for those “rules,” well, they were guidelines more than anything else. For life, not just a game. He noted that everyone's time is equally valuable, and that being late tells the group that one individual is more important. Which, of course, he is not.

Dean Smith was the best teacher of basketball ever.

John Wooden said so, and no one is arguing. Taking that job much more seriously than the building of an impressive won-loss resume, this giant of a man taught his students how to get along.

Not just get along in the everyday arena we call life, but succeed. And not necessarily with a gaudy title or bank balance but in the manner Rudyard Kipling mapped out in his poetic journey called "If." As tributes to Smith poured in the day after his death, it quickly became apparent that former North Carolina players were grateful for having a coach who was like a parent. A very good parent. One who cared more about character than scoring average.

Ford, Stackhouse, Daugherty, Kuester and Montross were eloquent in sharing memories that painted the story of a beautiful man and his loyalty and commitment to them. Both lasting far beyond the final basket they sank.

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“Dean Smith always taught his players what it takes to be a good man. That was easy for him to do because he was a great man himself.”

- Mike Krzyzewski, Duke Basketball Head Coach

Dean Smith always stuck by his players no matter what. For better or worse, to borrow an appropriately fitting phrase. “He has always been there for us,” is the universal Tar Heel testimonial.

Defining the right thing is not difficult. Doing it is. Except for the few like Dean Smith who possess unparalleled dedication, determination and moral fiber.

When applauded for such traits, he told us that no one should be proud of doing the right thing.

It just seemed to come naturally for him. As Mike Krzyzewski said, “Dean Smith always taught his players what it takes to be a good man. That was easy for him to do because he was a great man himself.”

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Painter and Storyteller

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verything has a purpose for Debbie Crawford, a self-taught artist who has loved to “make things” since an early age.

A button, a swatch of fabric, a piece of lace, an old photograph are all important to Debbie. “They tell a story,” she says. When she puts seemingly unrelated pieces together she tells a story using whatever material is at hand. The end result is a mixed media collage.

Her current work, "Comin’ and Goin,’" illustrates stories of the Great Migration of 1940 – 1960 when many African-Americans left the South and headed north for better jobs, and a better life without segregation. She remembers that as a young child she and her family and friends were not permitted to use the same facilities as her white counterparts.

She remembers the “colored only” signs of her childhood and credits the attitude accompanying those signs as making her “want to get out of here.

I wanted to see what was on the other side.” She did leave North Carolina for several years but happily returned to her roots and family where she feels the freedom of expression.

The follow-up to “Comin and Goin’" is in the planning stages and Crawford will use video in the next stage of her long story.

Red is her favorite color. It adds a special spark to her life. In some of her collages she will paint a red bow on a girl’s hair, or a red hat on an older woman.

“This says I am here.” Red is her “happy” color.

“You can have a piece of artwork that looks dull and just put a little splash of red and it changes.”

“You can have a piece of artwork that looks dull and just put a little splash of red and it changes.�

- Debbie Crawford

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"If you don’t know where you’ve been, how can you know where you’re going?"

- Debbie Crawford

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“I hope each piece offers a story one can connect with. I enjoy listening and seeing the view from another’s eyes. When we share our insight, we share part of ourselves. And to me, that’s what art is all about,” Crawford notes.

Crawford is much more than an artist who produces interesting paintings and collages, she has a keen interest in history and the future. “If you don’t know where you’ve been, how can you know where you’re going?” she asks.

Education is high on her list of priorities. Nothing pleases her more than working with a group of students and turning loose their imaginations.

Coloring within the lines is not what Crawford considers art education. She enjoys presenting opportunities for expressing individual creativity. When children are working on a piece of art, Crawford delights in seeing their hands covered in paint or glue. The children seem surprised that they can create something, she adds. “Everyone is creative,” she tells them.

Her four children (two teenagers and two in their 20s) are all pursuing creative interests. “It’s in their blood,” she says. Her children have been watching her create things all their lives.

Concern about the youth of today is high on Crawford’s lists of concerns.

She believes they are missing a great deal of their own lives because of their total absorption in all things electronic. They are also missing out on their own history. For many years the African-American community did not talk about what was happening in the world around them. Crawford cites the Civil Rights movement of the 1960s as an awakening for many in the black community. She finds it unsettling that racism has risen to such a violent level in recent months because of many events. She does not see violence as a way to solve problems.

Crawford said that when she goes to outdoor shows with her work, she does it as much for the stories from people with whom she interacts as for the display and possible sale of her items. She believes strongly in personal interaction through conversation and storytelling as a means to a better world.

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Carolina Conversations with

Dan Nagy Retired Associate Dean of Duke University ’s Fuqua Graduate School of Business by gayvin powers

After almost 20 years at Duke University, Dan Nagy, an approachable and kind-hearted man, retired as the associate dean of Duke University’s Fuqua Graduate School of Business in 2012. Nagy shares with OutreachNC the challenges of retiring, how to overcome job search obstacles, tips on how to get back in the game and why he helped create Five Star Transitions to assist retiring soldiers find work.

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Why did you decide to help others find work after retiring from Duke?

After retirement from Duke University, I needed to find an activity, beyond my part-time teaching and consulting work, that would give me a purpose and a sense of helping those in need. I learned of the Soldier for Life program at Fort Bragg, formerly known as the Transition Assistance Program (TAP) and networked myself into the head of the program. He thought my background of career planning would be very useful with the program. Besides volunteering with the workshops, I collaborated with a couple of MBAs from Duke to help create a program called Five Star Transitions (FST). Essentially, this was tapping into a great resource of MBA students at Duke who also wanted to give back, in some way, to exiting military personnel.”

Did you encounter many people in their second retirement at Duke?

Not a lot since most faculty have the unique ability to scale back their teaching to a level that will keep them engaged but also enjoy a more leisurely pace. A number of my friends and colleagues at Dukes Fuqua School of Business, Department of Chemistry, Medical School are in their 70s and even 80s and still teaching and conducting research.

I could (target date 59 years old). As I reached that date I realized how prophetic his words were. I pushed off full retirement off to 67 but quickly became bored after five months.

Why do you think that people are going back to work after they retire?

Good question! From talking with my friends, what I read in the media and my own personal experience I think there are three reasons: Need for money. Because of downsizing, the removal of many vested and defined benefit plans and the great stock market crash of 2008 affecting many retirees. Many retirees went back to work or delayed retirement due to finances.

Need to stay active. If you were fully engaged in your preretirement work, and for the most part enjoyed it, you find a real void when you leave that setting. Many feel a loss of purpose to get up every day. While volunteer work can fill some of this void, it cannot replace it entirely.

24/7 rule. Many retirees find it difficult adjusting to being with their spouse or partner 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. They think this transition will be easy but after living it for a while (especially if they have downsized into a smaller home or condo) the walls start to close in.

Who, in his or her second retirement, do you look up to as a role model?

Strange as it may sound, my first landlord was a fellow in his late 80s, who wrote a book on how to stay active in retirement. We had long discussions on how “full retirement” wasn’t all it was cracked up to be and that most folks can only play so much golf or bridge before getting bored. I thought he was a great man and mentor to me, but I also thought that his philosophy was way off base, as my goal was to hit full retirement as soon as MARCH 2015 |

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What is the biggest challenge retirees are facing when re-entering the work force?

Probably not wanting to go back full-time, not being in charge or reporting to a much younger boss. Probably in some cases employers are probably looking for younger, more career-oriented workers who will stay for a while. My guess is some employers or bosses view retired workers as too transient or not committed to a long tenure.

How do they overcome that challenge?

Look for employers (and there are many) who will embrace your experience, knowledge and work ethic that you bring to the party.

You have to be able to sell these factors to a potential employer as not all of them get it right off the bat. You also have to sell (and this is crucial) that you are not necessarily after a full time position, that you are comfortable in a temporary, part-time or contract role.

What is your motto in life?

Haven’t really thought about this but I suppose if I had to construct one it is “stay as active as you can.” Whether this means engaging in post-retirement work, volunteer activity or some form of relaxation activity, just do it. Sitting on a couch watching TV all day is not good for the spirit, mental psyche or physical wellbeing.

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What is your motto for people transitioning?

Talk with people you admire who have preceded you into the “retirement” world. Ask how they made the transition, what difficulties did they face and how did they overcome them.

What draws you toward helping transitioning service members?

I just love working with them because I admire them so much for what they did for this country and the sacrifices they have made. I also love the attitude they bring into our discussions about transitioning and job search.

What is the biggest challenge you see for retiring service members getting a job in the civilian sector?

They don’t know what they don’t know! Most have never looked for a job in the civilian world so in some respects they are “flying blind.” The Soldier for Life program will help overcome this to a certain extent, but since they have not had any real-world lessons in the civilian world to fall back on (networking experience, being rejected in the civilian sector, transitioning to another job outside the military, etc.) they will use life lessons on the fly. Sometimes this will be traumatic and set them back a step but they will eventually learn, move on and be successful. The problem is they just don’t know this yet.

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What is the best piece of advice you can offer anyone who is seeking a new career after retirement?

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Now & Then

OutreachNC looks back at what life was like in the United States 50 years ago in 1965 and what it is like now.

2015 President Barack Obama

1965 President Lyndon B. Johnson

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Most Popular Song "Wooly Bully" by Sam The Sham and The Pharaohs

Best-Selling Books Fiction "The Girl on the Train"

by Paula Hawkins

Best-Selling Books Fiction "The Source""

by James A. Michener

Nonfiction "American Sniper" by Chris Kyle with Scott McEwen and Jim DeFelice

Nonfiction "How to Be a Jewish Mother"

by Dan Greenburg

Retirement Average Age 62

Retirement Average Age 65

Life Expectancy 79 years

Life Expectancy 70 years

Family Home - Average Price $204,000

Family Home - Average Price $19,800

Income - Average Yearly $51,939

Income - Average Yearly $5,942

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Old School Keepin' It

by David Hibbard | Photography by Stacey Yongue

A Laurinburg landmark embarks on its second century with a new purpose.

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Original heart-of-pine floors from 1909 remain in the entrance of the school today.

It’s

almost impossible to climb the marble front steps of the Scotland Central School building in Laurinburg and not be taken back in time.

With its high ceilings—15 feet in some places—and the creaking and crackling of the original wooden floors, it’s easy to imagine this place teeming with students, bustling with activity. And for approximately 90 years, from 1909 until the turn of this century, it did just that.

Today, although the pace is much quieter and the purpose is much different, Scotland Central School still maintains an important role in this community. Saved from the wrecking ball when it was acquired by the Laurinburg Housing Authority in 2007, the building was renovated into 31 apartments for low-income seniors using historic preservation and low-income tax credits.

The original structure was built in 1909 by Laurinburg’s W.D. Tucker, who was responsible for constructing a number of local churches and other buildings. It was built during public education’s fledgling years in North Carolina, and its design was intentional, says Nancy Walker, executive director of the Housing Authority.

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buildings of importance needed to look important,” says Walker, and its Georgian architecture with four large, white columns framing the front entrance indeed give visitors the impression that something important happened here.

In the late 1930s, wings were added to both sides of the building to accommodate the growing number of students.

Before the addition of a lunch room to the rear of the building in approximately 1950, students would eat their meals on the stage of the second-floor auditorium.

Betty Myers, a retired educator and lifelong Scotland County resident, was a student at Central School in the 6th grade during the early 1940s and later taught a 5th-grade class there in the early 1950s. In its first years, when it still operated under its original name of Laurinburg Graded School and her father went there, students came from Laurinburg and the surrounding communities. “Some of those students rode their horses to school each day,” Myers said. “They tethered them out back and watered the horses during lunch.”

For many years, including Myers’ time at the school, Scotland Central was presided over by the energetic, multitalented Kate McIntyre, or “Miss Kate,” as she was known to most.

“She was the principal, but that was just her title,” Myers said. “She also managed the cafeteria, which meant she was up at 5 o’clock every morning to buy fresh vegetables for the day’s meals. School principals in those days had to do a little bit of everything.”

Through the years, the school saw thousands of students pass through its halls, including North Carolina luminaries such as future state Treasurer Edwin Gill, and Terry Sanford, who would go on to become governor, president of Duke University and serve in the U.S. Senate from 1986 to 1993.

When it closed as a school in 2000, Scotland Central had served its community longer than any other school building in the state. There was talk of demolition before the Laurinburg Housing Authority entered the picture in 2007 to match a pressing need for senior housing with the desire to preserve one of Laurinburg’s grand old landmarks.

Qualifying for historic preservation tax credits required the renovation to incorporate as much of the existing structure as possible into the work, Walker said, so wherever possible, the original walls and floors were retained. The windows are original, but were reworked to make them energy-efficient and to keep moisture out.

Designers even used chalkboard railings from the old classrooms to fashion some of the apartments’ cabinets and shelves. Modern necessities for a senior apartment complex, such as an elevator, were incorporated, along with lighting fixtures in the main hallways that are exact replicas of those from the building’s earlier years. The building’s exterior has been maintained as it was, and the property still features several large oak trees that Walker estimates were planted when the building first opened.

Each apartment is self-contained and fully accessible, with a bedroom, bathroom, small kitchen and living area.

Two of the apartments have two bedrooms, and currently, all 31 units are occupied. To qualify for an apartment, residents must be 55 or older and have an income below 50 percent of the median income for Scotland County. The building also includes laundry facilities and a common area on the first floor.

For someone like Myers, who has faithfully documented much of Scotland County’s history, it’s gratifying to see Scotland Central School live on in a new capacity.

“So many of us have fond memories of our time there. I think it’s wonderful we’ve been able to preserve a piece of our history and give it new life.”

“Some of those students rode their horses to school each day. They tethered them out back and watered the horses during lunch.”

- Betty Myers

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advice ASK THE EXPERT

Parkinson’s: What You Need to Know

by Amy Natt, MS, CMC, CSA

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I have noticed a slight tremor in my hand over the past six months. It seems to be at its worst when I am trying to pay bills and write checks. When I went in to speak to my primary care physician he used the word “Parkinsonism”. What exactly does that mean, and what should I do next?

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Medical terminology can be confusing, so that is a great topic to explore. Your primary care doctor was the right place to start in exploring this tremor and now you can do some of your own research and reading to better educate yourself on the options for next steps.

According to Dr. Dennis Dickson at the Mayo Clinic, “Parkinsonism” is the clinical definition of a variety of different underlying pathologies that can cause Parkinson’s-like symptoms such as slowing of movement, tremor, rigidity or stiffness, and balance problems. There are a number of disorders that can produce the symptoms referred to as Parkinsonisms; Parkinson’s disease is just one of them. Parkinson’s disease (PD) is a clinical syndrome characterized by lesions in the basal ganglia, a specific region in the brain. According to the National Center for Movement, PD makes up approximately 80 percentage of cases of Parkinsonism.

Talking to your medical provider about symptoms you are experiencing is important. Getting an early and accurate diagnosis is the best way to make informed choices about your care and ensure the best possible outcome. Typically a full evaluation would be completed by a neurologist or neuropsychologist. Why is it so important to get evaluated? Because there are resources and treatments available as well as community support groups. The bottom line is, the more you know, the better equipped you will be as you see where those next steps lead you.

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The National Parkinson’s Foundation (NPF) recommends that a person with symptoms resembling those of PD consider making an appointment with a movement disorder specialist. North Carolina is fortunate to have two Centers of Excellence (UNC at Chapel Hill and Duke University Medical Center). If you are a person with Parkinson's or a care partner and would like more information about how to make an appointment at one of these locations, please call NPF's free Helpline at 1-800-4PD-INFO (1-800-473-4636).

Parkinson's Signs and Symptoms The signs and symptoms may include:

• Tremor. Your tremor, or shaking, usually begins in a limb — often a hand or fingers • Slowed movement (bradykinesia) • Rigid muscles • Impaired posture and balance • Loss of automatic movements • Speech changes • Writing changes

Natt, a certified senior adviser and care manager, can be reached at amyn@ agingoutreachservices.com.

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Glaucoma 2015

by Dr. Winston Garris, MD

One of the most common causes of blindness in the United States is glaucoma, a disease that damages the optic nerve of the eye. The optic nerve is like the electric cable that transmits all of the information that your eye sees to the brain for processing. A normal eye consists of two separate chambers that are connected via the pupil. The pupil is the dark circle in the center of the colored part of your eye. A healthy eye produces a fluid called aqueous humor in the back chamber where it flows through the pupil and into the front chamber where it is drained at a rate similar to the rate it is produced. In glaucoma, the ability of the eye to drain fluid is compromised while the rate of production remains constant. As a result, the pressure inside the eye increases, leading to optic nerve damage.

Optic nerve damage from glaucoma is usually permanent and can lead to devastating vision loss. It is the second leading cause of blindness in the world and is the most frequent cause of non-reversible blindness in AfricanAmericans. The problem is that glaucoma usually affects the peripheral vision first, is slowly progressive, and rarely has early symptoms. As a result, most people do not realize that anything is wrong until severe damage has occurred.

In fact, of the 3 million Americans afflicted with glaucoma, only half are aware that they have the condition.

There are a number of factors that increase the chance that someone will develop glaucoma. Those risk factors include age (over 60), race (black or Hispanic), family history, and

a number of other factors that can be determined by an eye exam. Currently there is no cure, so early detection and treatment are critical to prevent vision loss. Individuals with risk factors need to be screened more often than those without them. If you have any risk factors or symptoms you should be examined as soon as possible. All individuals 40 or over should receive a screening examination, and individuals 65 or older should receive an exam every 1-2 years or as frequently as recommended by your eye doctor.

Treatment for glaucoma is aimed at either decreasing the amount of aqueous humor that the eye produces, or to increasing the amount that is drained from the eye.

The result is a decrease in eye pressure with the goal of preventing further optic nerve damage. This is usually accomplished with eye drops that need to be used daily.

However, laser treatments and surgical interventions are sometimes required to prevent vision loss. New minimally invasive surgical techniques such as the iStent® are expanding the number of safe alternatives to drug therapy.

A discussion with your doctor can help determine which treatment is most appropriate.

Dr. Winston J. Garris is a specialist in glaucoma treatment and cataract surgery at Carolina Eye Associates. www.carolinaeye.com.

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Technology, the Final Frontier

by Danielle Jackson

It can often be challenging to navigate today’s technologies, and taking classes can take up an inordinate amount of time – and in some cases, money. Fortunately, there are free opportunities for seniors and others to learn at their own pace. GCFLearnFree.org, a program of the Goodwill Community Foundation (GCF) and Goodwill Industries of Eastern North Carolina Inc. (GIENC), is one such place. The educational website is designed to help users become more comfortable with the technologies necessary to succeed in work and life.

The downtown Raleigh-based program’s unique approach gives learners access to more than 125 free tutorials in a range of subject areas, from technology to reading to math and more. Users learn on their own time, so they can visit the site to get an answer to a specific question or to more fully understand an entire concept. There are videos and interactives in addition to text-based learning as well, giving users even more ways to learn.

“We realize that people learn at different levels and in different ways,” says Matt Robinson, director of distance learning. “With our site, our aim is to give users as many opportunities as possible to learn what they want, when they want.”

For the past decade and a half, the program has seen significant growth, with more than 26 million people served in every country in the world. And according to Robinson, seniors make up a good part of the site’s audience. The following three sections of the website in particular, he says, are helpful for those 65 and older.

Technology Basics

With 22 tutorials ranging from "Computer Basics" to "Internet Safety," learners can gain a stronger grasp on how

to type, use a mouse, use email and operating systems, and stay safe online. As with most tutorials at GCFLearnFree. org, there are videos and interactives accompanying many lessons, as well as quizzes that allow users to practice what they’ve learned.

Social Media

A section that’s particularly popular for seniors is social media, where users can easily learn how to create and manage their Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Pinterest, Skype, Instagram, YouTube, and Vine accounts.

“Seniors are by far the fastest-growing segment of the population joining social media today, and it’s perfectly understandable why,” Robinson says.

“Many are grandparents and do not necessarily live near their kids and grandkids, and this is how they stay in touch. We’re here to teach them how to do that.”

Work & Career

Seniors re-entering the workforce or looking for a new job for the first time in years often visit the site to better understand how to look for a job in the 21st century. There are tutorials on searching for jobs online, developing resumes and cover letters, and networking in today’s techsavvy world.

“For many seniors, it’s been a while since they had to find a new job or career,” Robinson notes. “It’s a different world out there today, and our tutorials are designed to help acclimate them so they can take advantage of the opportunities available to advance in their careers.”

Danielle Jackson is a communications specialist with GCFLearnFree.org, located in downtown Raleigh.

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Dementia & Driving: a difficult conversation

by Karen D. Sullivan, Ph.D., ABPP

If you are a caregiver to someone with dementia or are living with memory loss yourself, you know there are many important decisions to make along the way. One of the most important decisions is knowing when to stop or limit driving. Most people will struggle with balancing two important issues: the freedom and independence of the individual vsersus the responsibility to protect personal and public safety.

People with dementia are three to five times more likely to be involved in a car accident than their peers without dementia. There is a general agreement that those diagnosed with moderate to severe dementia should not drive.

Recommendations for individuals with mild dementia are much less clear with no “one size fits all” answer.

Given that a common symptom in many dementias is poor awareness of one's own cognitive impairments, family members are often the first to notice a decline in the driving ability of a loved one, including the obvious (getting lost in familiar areas, accidents, tickets) and subtler warning signs (aggressive driving habits, new difficulty parking, “riding” the brake). Knowing how and when to express concerns about driving to a loved one is not an easy task. Here are a few ideas to prepare for this difficult conversation: Communicate your concerns to a trusted medical professional: In a perfect world, the person with dementia

would transition from the role of driver to passenger on her or his own. This does happen but it is rare. Talking with a trusted medical professional can help base this delicate conversation on objective evidence via in-office testing and out of the realm of one person’s opinion, which can be easily disputed. Recommendations about driving can then

be reinforced by a non-family member, taking family and caregivers out of the role of “bad guy.”

Consider a driving evaluation: A behind-the-wheel

evaluation is the safest option for determining a person’s ability to safely drive. Anyone, including doctors, can submit a written request to the North Carolina DMV that a driver be evaluated; anonymous requests are not accepted. If restrictions are found to be warranted, they can range from having one's driving privileges revoked completely to having them restricted, e.g., limiting the person to daylight driving only, no interstate driving or driving limited distances (such as to and from the doctor, church, grocery store).

Do your research and be prepared: The Hartford

Financial Services Group, Inc., and the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) AgeLab have developed an excellent resource guide called, “We Need To Talk” to help conversations about driving safety go smoothly. The warning signs checklist included in the guide is particularly helpful and can be found online.

Put your best foot forward: Conversations about driving

can be emotionally loaded and stressful for everyone. Be ready to discuss a pattern of driving concerns, not one or two isolated events, in a respectful tone that conveys your genuine concern for his or her feelings and duty to safeguard everyone's safety on the road, including that of your loved one.

Dr. Sullivan, a clinical neuropsychologist at Pinehurst Neuropsychology, can be reached at 910-420-8041 or www.pinehurstneuropsychology.com.

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advice PLANNING AHEAD

Getting Started with Medicare

by Beth Donner

Heading into the retirement years can bring many new topics to deal with, and one of the more confusing topics may be Medicare. Figuring out when to enroll, how to enroll and what coverage will be best can be a daunting task.

Education is key. Here are some essential things you need to know about Medicare.

Medicare is divided into parts.

An alternative to the traditional route is to choose a Part C Medicare Complete/Medicare Advantage plan, which offers a rather comprehensive packaged replacement for Parts A and B; or for Parts A, B and D through private insurance companies. Medicare Advantage policies often charge lower premiums, but your choice of doctors and other providers may be quite limited compared to traditional Medicare.

in-patient hospital stay;

By the way, are you confused yet?

Part A pays for hospital services, such as when you have an

Part B pays for out-patient services, such as when you see a physician or need services like physical therapy; Part C plans (also known as Medicare Complete or

Medicare Advantage plans, mentioned below) and Part D helps to cover prescription costs.

If you choose to be on “Traditional” Medicare (Parts A, B and D) you will probably want to secure a Medicare Supplement (also called Medigap) plan to supplement or “fill in the gaps” of co-payments, deductibles and other outof-pocket costs associated with Parts A and B.

Under certain conditions, particularly after a three-day hospitalization to treat an acute-care episode, Medicare will pay for a skilled-nursing facility or home health care, but contrary to popular belief, it generally does not cover longterm care.

There are numerous details to navigate during retirement, but few are as important as your health coverage. Do yourself a favor and give this topic the attention it deserves!

There are 11 different MedSupp plans to chose from, identified by letters A through N. As you are considering a MedSupp plan, beware: You are allowed to change to a different plan, but you could be charged more or denied coverage altogether (dependent on your health status) if you initially choose or change plans any longer than six months after you first signed up for Part B.

Donner, a Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor, has a Bachelor of Science in Nursing. She is licensed Med/Supp & LTC and is NAIC Partnership Certified. Donner can be reached at 919-460-6076 and by email at Beth@DiversifiedPlannning.com.

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Over the year, while chefs battle head-to-head, they’ll get information on a mandatory secret ingredient shortly before dinner preparation. Chefs will encounter traditional Southern ingredients, including possibilities of hominy, black-eyed-peas or collard greens. All secret ingredients are sourced by local farmers or companies that use fresh ingredients. In recent battles, chefs quickly prepared their gourmet dishes using the following surprise ingredients: Johnston County Ham’s Mangalitsa ham, Sunny Creek Farm’s sprouts, Ran-Lew Dairy’s cream top milk & chocolate milk, Baker’s peanuts, Perry Lowe Orchard’s apples, High Rock Farm’s chestnut flour and Harrell Hill Farm’s sorghum syrup molasses, and Chapel Hill Creamery’s calvander cheese.

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PERFECTION. Photos: Slow-roasted lamb loin, foie gras, Fuji apple, Scott Farm's sweet potato purée, Bing cherry sweet potato glaze by Chef Shane Ingram of Four Square in Durham (above left). Morris, our OutreachNC "Cooking Simple" columnist, is seen plating Fortnight ESB-braised venison, osso bucco, Videri cocoa nib-rosemary logan turnpike grits cake, roasted kalette, and caramelized fennel, the secret ingredient being the cocoa nibs (above right).

For more information: Rhett’s, Videri Chocolate, Four Square or the NC Dining Competition, go directly to their websites at: rhettsinc.com, viderichocolatefactory.com, foursquarerestaurant.com and www.competitiondining.com.

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"I went to school in my dad's Packard. We opted to go to school outside of our district (it was public school). At lunch, I walked to my aunt's house and had a meal with her. When the school got out at 3 o’clock, I walked four miles home alone. It was before bad men stole kids off the streets." – Joan, 89

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What was the world like 50 years ago?

OutreachNC asked school-aged children and adults 50 and over the same question to find out their thoughts about life and getting older.

Here are their responses:

“My mom had a bouffant hairdo.”

– Bob, 60

“Fifty years ago, I felt life was simpler. It's when your friends are true friends and had your back.

Your classmates were your special friends at the time. I feel sorry for the young children today and what they'll go through in the future.” - Bernadette, 70

“50 years ago, people rode horses."

"It was a lot better. Politically. Morally."

– Aidan, 7, The Academy of Moore County (TAMC)

- Toby, 73

“My teacher was a baby, everyone was a baby. ” – Kelcey, 7, TAMC

“At that time, the American dream was earning it.” - Mark, 58

“All the people didn’t like each other, you know the segregation thing, there were no cars and the stores were rusty. The kids had to wake up every time to see if it was morning or night time to go to sleep because there was no clock. ” - Maggie, 7, TAMC “I think it was beautiful because there was all kinds of flowers growing and the grass was always bright green and there was pink and purple flowers everywhere and on the flowers, bees always came to drink the pollen.”

– Isabella, 6, TAMC

"Maybe they had, like, different vehicles and maybe they looked different. Like, um, police cars were wider than they are now." - Colton, 6, TAMC "It was muddy and it was rainy and people didn’t have that many clothes."

"It wasn't as complicated. No cell phones. " – John, 74

“Wonderful. Everything was so easy.

Living was easier. Not as complicated as today.”

– Chalermsri, 59

“Two things. It was an optimistic time even though there were problems in the world. I grew up in Chicago and the city was like Mayberry. I don't see that kind of place today.” - Kevin, 65 "The world was much safer. We didn’t have to worry about all the things we worry about today. We usually never locked our doors unless we went away!

Life moved at a slower pace." - Fran, 74

- Zackary, 7, TAMC

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