OutreachNC magazine - September 2014

COMPLIMENTARY

Navigating Lifestyle Choices for Active Adults

RETIREMENT

RESTORATION MICHIGAN COUPLE CALLS NORTH CAROLINA HOME

September 2014 | Volume 5, Issue 9 | www.OutreachNC.com Plus

P E P S I : SW E E T TAST E O F C A R O L I N A | D U K E COAC H DAV I D CUTCLIFFE

S E R V I N G T H E S O U T H E R N P I E D M O N T, S A N D H I L L S & T R I A N G L E A R E A S

c a p e

f e a r

v a l l e y

n e u r o s u r g e r y

a n d

s p i n e

c e n t e r

named a top 100 hospital with great neurosurgery and spine programs – becker’s hospital review

capeable

of bringing you hope and healing

If you or a loved one has a neurological problem, you may not know where to turn. You may even think you need to travel out of town to an academic medical center for treatment. Cape Fear Valley Neurology and Cape Fear Valley Neurosurgery offer comprehensive treatment and surgery right here in Fayetteville: Headaches : Dementia : Movement Disorders : Neuropathies : Neuromuscular Diseases Stroke and TIA : Epilepsy and Seizures : Trigeminal Neuralgia Brain Tumors : Aneurysms : Simple and Complex Spinal Disorders : Neurosurgical Management of Pain Together these specialists bring hope and healing to patients from all over the Cape Fear Region and beyond.

Call to learn more about your treatment options. [910] 615-3350.

neurosurgery and spine

www.capefearvalley.com/neuro

From the aCClaimeD play by triSh vraDeNburg

September 5, 2014 raleigh North CaroliNa North Carolina museum of history, Daniels auditorium

StarriNg loNi aNDerSoN DaviD heNDerSoN goverNor pat mCCrory Debra morgaN DiaNe rehm DarleNe Shiley with hoNorary Co-ChairS

SeNator riCharD burr SeNator Kay r. hagaN

Creating awareness and Benefiting:

for more information and to purchase tickets :

https://www.survivinggrace.org/show/raleigh

COMPLIMENTARY

Navigating Lifestyle

Features September 2014

45

Choices for Active

Adults

RETIREMENT

RESTORATION MICHIGAN COUPLE CALLS NORTH CAROLINA HOME

Cover Photo by September 2014 | Volume 5, Issue 9 | www.Outre achNC.com

Plus PEPSI: SWEET TASTE OF CAROLINA | DUKE COACH DAVID CUTCLIFFE SERVING THE SOUTHERN PIE D M O N T, S A N D HILLS & TRIAN GLE AREAS

Katherine Clark

Volume 5

Issue 9

30 Carolina Conversations with

Duke head football coach David Cutcliffe On the field with the coach who loves building relationships and cares about his players.

38

34 Sweet Taste of Carolina

Visitors to the Birthplace of Pepsi can see where the drink was formulated by Caleb Bradham.

38 Stage set for Johnny Whitaker

Known for TV's "Family Affair," Judson Theatre awaits Whitaker in its "To Kill A Mockingbird."

40 First Presbyterian Church, Ellerbe Dating back to 1803, this Richmond County landmark has a storied past and communion set.

40 With restoration complete on their historic home, a retired couple enjoys coastal life in Southport.

42 USAgainstAlzheimer's

A national nonprofit has this goal in sight and as part of it brings "Surviving Grace" to Raleigh.

45 Retirement Restoration

Destination Retirement leads to Southport, where a couple brought new life to a historic home.

49 Playing with the Band

Music with all of its health benefits has many a retiree and players of all ages coming together.

30 4 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

42 49

34

C H

E

N W

E

I

A

G

O

N

A E

H R

R U T T

C

E

T R

- L H

A

R

S

E

R

V

I

S

U

R

G

E

O O O

C

R

S P

S

S A

E

D

E

C

U I

E

R

Y

R C

S

G

E

R

Y

S

A SHORT DRIVE. A LONG LIST. Our long list of specialties rivals that of any of the big hospitals in the Triangle or Charlotte or Fayetteville. And you don’t have to deal with long commutes or traffic snarls because we are right here in the Sandhills.

FirstHealth has the same fellowship-trained physicians, state-ofthe-art technologies and first-class facilities as the academic medical centers...but, get this...with front door parking!

To learn more about our full array of services, visit our website at www.firsthealth.org or call (800) 213-3284.

Columns September 2014

10 Consumer Beware Medical ID theft can be life-threatening

By Roy Cooper

11 Brain Matters

"By all these lovely tokens September days are here, with summer's best of weather and autumn's best of cheer."

17 Belle Weather

24 Crafting

18 Money Matters

26 Game On

Chicken-raising chic not so cool for old hens

by Celia Rivenbark

Caring for a loved one with dementia

by Dr. Karen D. Sullivan

The balance to budgeting

by Taylor Clement

12 Literary Circle

A squirrel’s tale

by Barb Cohea

"The Language of Flowers" Review by Cos Barnes

13 Book Review

"Transforming Your Aging Brain" Review by Ann Robson

14 Planning Ahead Covering long-term care costs

by Elizabeth Donner

15 Ask the Expert Dementia care and firearms in the home

by Amy Natt

16 Spirituality

The book about you

by Karla Anderson

19 Senior Moments

20 Men's Summer Cooking Turkey cook-out

by Ed Glassman

21 Law Review

Protect yourself or aging parents from caregiver fraud

by Jackie Bedard

22 Hospital Health • • •

SMH goes live with ER Express Clinical trial seeks tinnitus patients Neurosurgeon joins FirstHealth practice

— H E L E N H U N T JAC K S O N

WHAT'S

Online

Turning memories into decoupage

by Kathy Grant Westbrook Love of the game always in the cards

By Thad Mumau

28 Cooking Simple

COOKING SIMPLE

RECIPES

Beer-braised cabbage and more just a click away...

Spent Grain Bread

By Rhett Morris

HOMETOWN

29 Sentimental Journey

Calendar events from around the region

HAPPENINGS

Ode to sisters

By Jennifer Pollard

BACK

ISSUES

53 Grey Matter

Missed an issue of OutreachNC?

Crossword, sudoku and word search.

55 Resource Marketplace

tary

limen

Comp

Navig

ating

yle Choic

es for

ve Adu

style

ing Life

Choices

imenta

ry

ating

Lifest

yle Choic

es for

es

Peach

North av 's d

ser

Adults

Compl

Navig

al wr

Active

for Acti

igat

Nav

Find the professional services you need.

58 Over My Shoulder

Lifest

lts

id C

it a fru

Carolin

tr raB

ume 4 | Vol July 201

vin

g

sou the

the

rn

picked

Plus

ir at the

z's

iro

pie

z | ja

dm

san o n t,

Adult

Marie

peak

nin

rd

dh

u.s.

June 2014

s

Daylilies of the ga rden

tta Gard

Tradition s

| Pe GGy KiRK PiPe oPe R | c n co Bell add uRs e me ies of n moR o. ies ial

BaG

| Volu me 5, Issue

ens grow

May 2014

sam

Golf’s G reat

oa g B

NC.com utreach T h e R a r e a s l GR www.O P i n e h ui Ra ns g loe ya een T’s e7 | tr sma off s & n 5, Issu ic ill

ee

Active

s on four

generation

| Volu me 5, Issue

s of famil

y land

in Robe

son Coun 5 | www ty .OutreachN C.com

2

6 | www .Out

reachNC.c ing the om sou san the dhil rn p ls & iedm tria o n t, ngl e ar eas

serv

Life's bucket list

by Ann Robson

www.OutreachNC.com

YOUR ONE STOP LOCAL NEWS SOURCE

FOR MOORE COUNTY. 6 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

www.AberdeenTimes.com

From the Editor

S

eptember’s summer breeze seems to give way to autumn’s wind as the seasons change hands this month.

In this issue, we go behind the scenes to learn about “Surviving Grace,” an all-star ensemble cast reading of comedy writer and USAgainstAlzheimer’s co-founder Trish Vrandenburg's play that comes to Raleigh, Friday, Sept 5, in Daniels Auditorium at the North Carolina Museum of History.

Loni Anderson, Diane Rehm, and Darlene Shiley are joined onstage with WRAL anchor Debra Morgan and Governor Pat McCrory to raise awareness and funds for this national advocacy organization committed to stopping Alzheimer’s by 2020.

For those who don’t want the music to end, we’ll look at the camaraderie as well as the health benefits of playing with the band as we sit in on some rehearsal sessions with the Heart of Carolina Jazz and New Horizons Band in the Pines.

Keeping time and making plays is what Duke University’s head football coach, David Cutcliffe, has in mind as the 2014 college football season kicks off. We sit down for a Carolina Conversation with the 2013 Atlantic Coast Conference Coach of the Year to talk about building relationships, his winning ways and the upcoming season.

Judson Theatre Company’s season concludes Oct. 2-5 with “To Kill A Mockingbird.” The production brings Johnny Whitaker of TV’s "Family Affair" to portray the Judge Taylor onstage at Owens Auditorium at Sandhills Community College in Pinehurst.

Heading northwest, our historic church series leads us to First Presbyterian in Ellerbe, one of Richmond County's longestgathering congregations that dates back to 1803 with stories of an encampment by Union soldiers during the Civil War and a communion set recovered.

A Presbyterian pharmacist, Caleb Bradham, wanted to formulate a drink to aid his customers with upset stomachs in his drugstore in downtown New Bern in 1893. However, his cola concoction earned the name Pepsi Cola in 1898, and the Birthplace of Pepsi is the destination that welcomes tourists from all over the world seeking to step back in time for a sweet taste of Carolina and the nostalgia of all things Pepsi.

Some retirees seek the coast as a retirement destination. We’ll meet one couple who settled on Southport after using a checklist and finding what they thought they wanted and a lot more in this picturesque waterfront community.

And finally, making a bucket list, or life list as our columnist Ann Robson calls it, is something worth pondering. Perhaps, Jeeves the co-editor and I need to do some more daydreaming to come up with ours. Until next month…

8 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

— Carrie Frye

Editor

Carrie Frye | carrief@OutreachNC.com

Creative Direction/Graphic Design

Stacey Yongue | staceyy@OutreachNC.com

Advertising Sales

Shawn Buring | shawnb@OutreachNC.com

910-690-1276

Ray Stancil | rays@OutreachNC.com

919-909-2693

Marketing & Public Relations

Susan McKenzie | susanm@AgingOutreachServices.com

PO Box 2478 | 676 NW Broad Street Southern Pines, NC 28388 910-692-9609 Office | 910-695-0766 Fax PO Box 2019 | 101-A Brady Court Cary, NC 27512 919-909-2693 Office | 919-535-8719 Fax OutreachNC is a publication of Aging Outreach Services, Inc The entire contents of OutreachNC are copyrighted

by Aging Outreach Services. Reproduction or use, without permission of editorial, photographic or graphic content in any manner is prohibited. OutreachNC is published monthly on the first of each month.

Follow us on Twitter! @OutreachNC

www.OutreachNC.com

"A little bit of daydreaming never hurt anyone."

­—Jeeves

Capturing moments for a lifetime of

Memories DIANA MATTHEWS

Photography 919.775.8040

www.DianaMatthewsPhotography.com DianaMatthewsPhotography.

OFFICIAL PHOTOGRAPHER for OUTREACHNC MAGAZINE

THE DUX® BED

Sleep’s Best Friend

DREAM IN

BAMBOO

Whether you suffer from back pain or spend restless nights trying to get comfortable, the DUX component system is designed to resist gravity and weight to provide continuous, pressure-free support.

HIGH P ER FO RMANCE S LE EP S YS TE MS Availabl e only at

SERVING THE CAROLINAS & MORE FOR 18 YEARS Financing available

www.OpulenceOfSouthernPines.com

at THE MEWS 280 NW Broad Street Southern Pines, NC 910.692.2744

at CAMERON VILLAGE

400 Daniels Street Raleigh, NC 919.467.1781

Consumer Beware

by N.C. Attorney General Roy Cooper

Medical ID theft can be life-threatening

I

ENJOY THE ART OF SM

LIVING WELL

At Abbotswood at Stonehenge, you’ll enhance your quality of life and discover the joys of living in a vibrant senior living community.

Call 855.442.3211 to experience The Art of Living Well for yourself !

SM

To learn more about fighting identity theft and medical identity theft, visit www.ncdoj.gov or call 1-887-5-NO-SCAM (toll-free in NC).

LifeatAbbotswood.com

10 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

ASH ad 3.875 x 4.5625 Outreach NC.indd 1

dentity theft can be an expensive, exasperating experience for victims. And when it’s medical identity theft, it can also threaten your health. Medical identity theft occurs when someone uses your name or your health insurance information to see a doctor, get a medical procedure or medication, file claims or receive other medical goods or services. When someone receives health care services by pretending to be you, the thief ’s test results and medical diagnoses can be added to your file. Having incorrect information mixed in with your medical files can put your health at risk, especially in an emergency.

You could be a victim if you: ● Get a bill or other paperwork regarding a medical procedure or service that you didn’t receive ● Discover incorrect information in your medical records ● Are notified that you have “maxed out” your medical benefits when you haven’t ● Are contacted by a debt collector about a medical debt you don’t owe ● Discover collection notices or other indications of medical debt activity in your credit report ● Are denied insurance coverage because of incorrect information in your medical records Fortunately, you can take steps to protect yourself against medical identity theft. Start by shredding outdated health insurance forms, prescription labels, physician statements and any old documents that contain medical information.

Be cautious about sharing your medical and insurance information. Identity thieves want this information, and they’ll masquerade as an insurance company employee, a pharmacist, or even your doctor’s office to try to get it. Don’t respond to pitches that ask you to share your health plan ID number or other confidential information in order to receive “free” medical services or products.

When you get medical bills and paperwork, read them carefully. Check to see if the name of the doctor and the facility are correct and the dates of service match your records. If you see information that isn’t right, report it to your health plan.

7/28/14 10:55 AM

Brain Matters

by Karen D. Sullivan, Ph.D., ABPP

Caring for a loved one with dementia

The right dentist can make all the difference.

B

eing a caregiver is one of the most difficult jobs in the world. It is demanding on every level: physically, emotionally and spiritually.

Taking care of yourself is one of the most important things you can do as a caregiver. It is essential that you take a break every single day. The breaks should be both short and long, take either when you can get it. Ensuring you get these breaks every day will require you to ask for help. This is very difficult for most caregivers, who seem to have a relentlessly giving spirit even in the face of sheer physical and emotional exhaustion. If you can accept that caregiving is a job that “takes a village” and that you simply cannot do it alone, you will have made a huge leap toward a higher quality of life. Let’s review some options for making this fundamental change in your thinking: Take an honest look at yourself. Caregiving is extremely tough on the body and the heart. You are at risk for depression, illness and social isolation if you try to carry the load alone. If something happens to you, who will take care of your loved one?

Experience the Highest Quality Dental Care in a friendly, caring environment.

New Patients always Welcome.

Call us today to schedule your appointment!

305 Page Road | Pinehurst, NC | 910.295.1010

www.WellenerDental.com

Put on a brave face and ask your inner circle first.

Maybe you are afraid that if you ask, no one will be willing to help, but you won't know until you try. It’s OK to tell them it’s hard to ask for help. Most people probably want to lend a hand but don't know how to approach the subject.

Be specific when asking.

Make a list. Caregiving can keep you from doing the basics. Keep a list of tasks you could use some help with and the next time someone says, “I’d like to help,” pull out the list.

Make your circle wider. Think of your wider social network: your church and community. Churches are an incredible support to many in need, and it’s OK for you to need help, too. Another source of support is community resources like your local senior enrichment center or caregiver support groups. Consider enrolling your loved one in an adult day program for those with memory loss.

These programs provide a source of socialization for your loved one and the essential breathing space you need.

Dr. Sullivan, Ph.D. ABPP, a board-certified clinical neuropsychologist, licensed psychologist and owner of Pinehurst Neuropsychology, can be reached at www.pinehurstneuropsychology.com or 910-420-8041.

SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 11

Literary Circle

Book Review by Cos Barnes

“The Language of Flowers”

V

Because Your Eyes Deserve the Best!

Let us help you choose the lenses right for your active lifestyle!

John French, MD

Cataract, Corneal & LASIK Specialist

anessa Diffenbaugh’s “The Language of Flowers” is a hauntingly beautiful story of hostility and betrayal against a backdrop of the meaning of flowers and their descriptive names.

Victoria Jones is 18 and finally emancipated from the foster care system. She is a loner who can’t get close to anybody and who cannot bear to be touched by another.

She has no memories of family.

The chapters of the book alternate between descriptions of Victoria’s life at age 10 when she lived with Elizabeth, the one who taught her all about flowers, and the one she wanted to live with, and the present where she is on her own, homeless and with no financial resources or friend or family relationships. She lived a lonely and solitary childhood and as a result cannot trust anybody. She feels unloved, but luckily, she is hired by a florist who is impressed with her knowledge and her flower-arranging ability.

Victoria has always felt alone, and she carries a painful secret from her past that she feels will keep anyone from loving her. Then she meets Grant, a flower vendor, who shares her knowledge of flowers and appreciates what her life has been.

You’ll shed some tears as the plot develops. You’ll also learn which flowers to send if you want to express love, devotion, patience, romance and heartbreak.

Remove Your Cataracts and Enjoy Life!

Call our cataract education counselor to SEE how this procedure can improve your quality of life.

www.carolinaeye.com ● 910-255-2095 ● 800-SEE-WELL Our Locations: Albemarle, Asheboro, Cheraw, Dunn, Fayetteville, Laurinburg, Southern Pines and Sanford

12 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

Email Barnes at info@outreachnc.com.

Book Review

by Ann Robson

“Transforming Your Aging Brain”

Y

ou really can teach an old dog new tricks or at least different tricks as Linda Stoler and Gretchen Espinetti tell us in their new book, “Transforming Your Aging Brain.” There is no time and date when the brain is considered "aging," so the authors carefully lay out a plan to help people of varying ages make use of what they call the “plasticity” of the brain.

“We’ve all observed the decline of our loved ones in terms of memory, health, socializing and spirituality,” the authors note. “As caregivers committed to changing the quality of life for ourselves and our loved ones, these observations have been both challenging and inspiring as we navigate the journey of how to be the ‘care partners’ for all.”

Their analysis of the research available is valuable and offers good advice to anyone who wants to maintain their mental faculties or for those involved in caregiving.

Their suggestions may not prevent dementia or Alzheimer’s disease, but they may help alleviate the frustration experienced by those dealing with an aging brain.

According to Stoler and Espinetti, “There are more brain connections than stars in the sky. We have approximately 100 billion brain cells and 1,000 trillion neuron connections.” The brain does have the ability to create new connections and reorganize itself through an attribute called “neuroplasticity.”

Music is very important in helping the brain as it serves as a foundation to intellect, mathematical reasoning, creativity and emotional/spiritual development. Exercise, including dancing, has proved to be an important factor in keeping the brain active. Mindful meditation and awareness are two tools the authors consider beneficial for an aging brain. Creativity is another aid to keeping the brain functioning well. They give several relevant examples of methods to keep transforming your brain.

The authors provide many references for additional reading. The authors present seminars on their topic making use of what they call the multi-modal method.

For more information on the book and further resources, visit www.transformingyouragingbrain.com .

FOX HOLLOW

invites you...

NEUROPSYCHOLOGY:

DEALING WITH A DEMENTIA DIAGNOSIS An update on treatment options presented by

Karen D. Sullivan,

Ph.D., ABPP

of Pinehurst Neuropsychology

Join Us!

Tuesday, September 23rd 6:30 p.m.

Seven Lakes Chapel in the Pines 581 Seven Lakes Drive West End, NC

TO REGISTER FOR THIS EVENT, CALL 910-692-0683 OR EMAIL INFO@AOSNC.COM

190 FOX HOLLOW ROAD | PINEHURST, NC

910.695.0011 CALL TODAY & RESERVE A STAY!

www.FoxHollowSeniorLiving.com

SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 13

EA

RD

R LY B I

JOIN US WEDNESDAY-SATURDAY 4:30 PM - 5:45 PM

SIT BY 5:30 PM, ORDER BY 6 PM & ENJOY A GLASS OF WINE 1/2 PRICE

LIVE MUSIC

FRIDAY &

SATURDAY

NIGHTS

IN THE COURTYARD

Restaurant, Personal Chef & Catering Fresh. Local. Southern Gourmet.

132 W. Pennsylvania Avenue Belvedere Plaza Southern Pines, NC

910.695.3663 www.RhettsRPCC.com

14 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

Planning Ahead by Elizabeth Donner Covering long-term care costs

A

challenging part of planning for long-term care is figuring out how to pay for it. Understanding the options to pay for that care can help minimize the financial strain.

Medicare does pay a significant portion of long-term care expenses, but only for the first 100 days of care. From days 101 and forward, if long-term (custodial) care is needed, the individual is responsible for all costs. Medicare Supplement (Medigap) plans help to cover deductibles and co-pays dependent on the exact MedSupp plan you purchase.

Medicaid is the largest payer of long-term care services in the United States. In North Carolina, this option is usually available to those who might own a home and/or a car, but other than personal household items, only have $2,000 in countable assets.

Qualifying for Medicaid requires that strict financial stipulations be met.

Veterans Administration Aid and Attendance is a lesser-known option available to eligible veterans and their spouses. To be eligible, the veteran must have had 90 days of active duty with at least one day during an active period of war. The benefit is available whether care is received at home, in assisted living or a skilled nursing setting.

Group or Individual Health insurance plans can cover some short durations of long-term care, and typically have limitations similar to Medicare. It is usually for short-term, medically necessary care and only with the expectation that the person will recover. These policies aren’t designed to cover chronic conditions.

Long-Term Care insurance is a policy purchased through a private insurance carrier and is designed

specifically to pay for the costs that Medicare and regular health insurance do not cover. Most policies purchased today cover a variety of custodial/ long-term care services for care in the home, adult day care, assisted living, skilled nursing, memory care/ Alzheimer’s unit and even hospice settings. The average age of people buying long-term care insurance today is about 60.

Life insurance offers a somewhat newer way to cover long-term care expenses. Some insurance companies have combined life insurance with long-term care insurance; the idea being that a policy benefit will always be paid, in one form or another. There are also "accelerated death benefit" features that allow for benefit dollars to be paid at the onset of a terminal diagnosis.

Annuities can also help offset long-term care expenses. An insurance company converts a single premium payment into a monthly income stream, over a specified time frame or over the rest of one’s life.

This option is available to anyone, regardless of their health status. If one is already receiving long-term care or even in a facility, this is still a viable option. Some long-term care deferred annuities can be purchased up until age 85 if health status allows. One thing consumers like about annuities is that any remaining portion of funds not used for long-term care expenses can be passed to heirs.

Donner is a Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor, has a Bachelor of Science in Nursing, is licensed in Med/ Supp & LTC & is NAIC Partnership Certified. She can be reached at 919-460-6076 or email Beth@DiversifiedPlanning.com .

Ask the Expert

by Amy Natt, MS, CMC, CSA

Our certified care management professionals will answer any aging questions you have.

Email your questions to info@outreachnc.com.

Q

I recently hired a caregiver to assist my mother at home.

Mom has dementia and has been experiencing increased memory loss in recent months. She has always kept a gun in her home and is adamant on keeping it now.

The caregiver does not feel safe being in the home with a firearm.

How can I approach this with my mom so it does not become a huge argument?

A

You have touched on a very important issue that many families will face. Our population is aging, and people are living longer, which combined with the prevalence of dementia in our 85-plus population (the fastest growing sector) is a cause to address safety and the right to bear arms. Gun ownership often provides people with a sense of safety and independence, so taking that away can feel very threatening and create feelings of vulnerability. However, guns and dementia are a bad combination, and families should be proactive in removing firearms when they present a safety risk.

According to the National Alzheimer’s Association, the judgment, skills, memory, perception and reasoning that a person needs to safely operate a firearm decline as dementia progresses. Those who are experiencing dementia also have

difficulty with orientation and recall and may become fearful if they don’t immediately recognize the caregiver in the home. If you combine this with the increased risk of depression, it is clear that any firearm can create an unsafe environment and safety risk for a person living with dementia.

The Department of Veterans Affairs also encourages families to “get rid of the guns” in a home where someone with dementia is living.

The first suggestion is to have this conversation with your mom, before the disease progresses and encourage her to voluntarily allow you to take the gun. You might want to have her physician or another family member present for support. If there is still resistance, here are a few suggestions: ●R emove all ammunition and make sure trigger guards are in place, then lock the gun in a fireproof safe or gun cabinet. ● Keep the keys for any gun safe, cabinet or trigger guard in a separate location. ● Suggest that a family member she trusts store the gun for her. ● Have a someone she trusts ask to “borrow” the gun and have your mom write herself a note that she has agreed to this. ● Insist the gun needs to be serviced by an outside service and offer to take it in for her.

Remember to talk to your local law enforcement agency about firearm removal or transfer, so that you can be sure to address the legalities of the process. It is a conversation as difficult as taking the car keys, but one that is necessary and equally dangerous if not addressed.

Natt, a certified senior adviser and care manager, can be reached at amyn@ agingoutreachservices.com .

LIFE

IS COMPLICATED

ENOUGH! Protecting Your Family Shouldn’t Be Join us for a FREE Workshop and discover how simple it can be!

TWO DATES TO CHOOSE FROM: Thursday, September 11th 6:30-8:30 pm Tuesday, September 23rd 6:30-8:30 pm SEATING IS LIMITED CALL TO REGISTER:

919.238.1110 You’ll learn how to protect your family from: • Unnecessary stress, expenses and delays; • Nursing home costs; • Children’s imprudence, spouses, in-laws, or divorce; • Lawsuits and creditors

Jackie Bedard ESTATE PLANNING & SENIOR CARE ATTORNEY & AUTHOR

Carolina Family Estate Planning Protecting Your Family for Life

51 Kilmayne Drive, Suite 203 Cary, NC 27511 www.CarolinaFEP.com SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 15

Sprituality by Karla Anderson

The book about you

D

id you know that someone is writing a book about you?

It’s true. It’s not complete yet, but it is a spectacular work in progress.

Last year, I published my first book exploring the question of Jesus being raised from the cross. For over ten years, I studied, researched, prayed and labored over a mere 100 pages.

Google Books announced they’ve catalogued more than 129 million published books. James Chapman, an American novelist and publisher, created a list of the top 10 most popular books read in the world over the last 50 years.

Basing his count on the number of copies sold, he found that the Bible was No. 1 by a huge margin, 3.9 billion sold.

So, the Bible is the No. 1 bestseller because millions believe it is God’s book, His word with His authorship. It covers His creation of the world, the history of a nation (Israel) and the life of one man, Jesus, the Messiah and Son of God. Jesus is called The WORD, yet, he never wrote a book (although he did dictate a message for the seven churches to John, which is recorded in Revelation, Revelation 3:5; 20:11-15.

Philippians 4:3). However, Jesus is currently working (and

has been for over 2,000 years) on His very first book, a gift for His Father, and the title of it is “The Lamb’s Book of Life.”

If you have chosen to believe in Him, as I have, then He’s writing your name and your story in it. He is writing down all the kind words you’ve spoken, the forgiveness you’ve offered to someone who broke your heart, your loneliness, your anguish and grief, your smile or touch to a stranger, your compassion as you give to someone in need, your weariness from all the long hours of caregiving, your patience, your faith and all the things that perhaps no one else notices—except Him. He’s writing it all down so that nothing will be forgotten; nothing will go unrewarded when your life on earth is over.

Yes, He’s writing a book, but we give Him the material. Be courageous. If you are not a hero in anyone else’s eyes, you are in His. Anderson is publisher of Senior Living Guide™, teaches home-based Bible studies and author of "Did God Forsake Jesus on the Cross?” She can be reached at 919-807-9169 or kanderson@seniorlivingguide.com .

The KEY to buying or selling a home quickly?

Calling Angela FIRST!

Angela Thompson Broker/Realtor

Contact Angela FIRST!

910.695.6461

athompson.yourKWagent.com

@KWangela | facebook.com/AThompsonRE

JUST REDUCED! 826 Castleberry Court | Woodlake 3BR, 2.5BA waterfront w/ boat dock $350,000

JUST REDUCED! 1232 Greenbriar Drive | Woodlake 3BR,2.5BA, waterfront with dock $450,000

16 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

JUST LISTED! 150 Pecan Grove | Aberdeen 3BR, 2BA in Woodgreen Fenced yard, corner lot | $125,000

NEW CONSTRUCTION! 6 Whirla Way | Vass 4BR, 3BA, HW floors, fireplace Great Location! | $300,000

JUST LISTED! 6061 NC Hwy 24/27 | Carthage 3BR/1BA Fenced-in, Workshop, Storage buildings | $185,000

JUST LISTED! 832 Castleberry Court | Woodlake 3BR, 3BA waterfront w/balcony Screened-in porch, dock | $267,000

Belle Weather by Celia Rivenbark

Chicken-raising chic not so cool for old hens

I

don't like to brag (unless I'm awake), but I have gathered a few eggs in my day. From an actual hen house, that is, not just reaching into the cooler at Whole Lotta Foods, where the chickens are "cage-free,""vegetarian-fed," "antibioticfree" and "laughably overpriced."

Given my childhood egg-gathering experience, and remembering the painful pecking that came with the job, it amuses me today to see how "chicken chic" everyone is now. My friends have multi-leveled triplex coops for their backyard egg-layers that are nicer (and smell better) than my first apartment.

There are misters to keep them cool, exercise/workout areas and even a closed-off area where the chickens can go for alone time. Coop dreams.

Unfortunately, chickens aren't fertile forever so, according to The

Associated Press, animal shelters are seeing a scary influx of old hens being unceremoniously dumped after chicken menopause.

As the years go by, the chickens find themselves eggless and starting to puff out a bit around the mid-section, their tempers are shorter, and they spent a lot of time wondering if Premarin will do even half of the things it claims. Or something like that.

Animal shelters don't know what to do with all these old hens, tossed aside in favor of younger chicks who have great memories, no chest wrinkles and would probably look amazing in Lululemon yoga pants. No, the old hen's yoga pants just make her butt look like it contains two tomcats fighting inside a burlap sack when she walks.

So, yes, I feel for the abandoned hens.

After a decade of just giving and giving and giving, they are dumped at Animal Control or, as one unsentimental urban chicken rancher told The Associated Press, "We put the older girls in the freezer, and we get a newer batch."

Is it cold in here or is it just me?

She's keeping it real, I guess. If you raise chickens for eggs, it's phony to dump them at a shelter and act like you're being humane. Like it's an assisted living facility with weekly museum outings and Bunco. ("Really, Henrietta, it's such a nice place. Look! Corn!") What else? Oh, yes, listen here: "Buh GAAACK!!!"

Rivenbark is the author of "Rude Bitches Make Me Tired." Visit www. celiarivenbark.com .

Distributed by MCT Information Services.

Gear Up for a Green Autumn with ECOMAIDS! This Fall, take a break and spend some quality time outdoors with the help of ECOMAIDS.

Two Months of Housecleaning Totaling four bi-weekly visits 20% savings less than $100/visit

399

$

Valid for homes up to 2,800 sqft; larger homes will require a one-time-surcharge of $40 for every 1,000 additional sq ft (ex: 3,800 sq ft home will owe $40 at time of 1st cleaning). Each visit includes top-to-bottom cleaning of the following rooms: kitchen, living room, dining room, ½ bath, master bedroom, master bathroom & all common living space. Must mention coupon at time of booking. Limit one per household. May not be combined with any other offer, discount or promotion.

Fall Cleaning Special Initial Service Visit to kitchen, living room, dining room, entry, hallway, stairs, 1 bedroom, 1 bathroom and a half bath.

ECOMAIDS provides high-quality green cleaning services using non-toxic, allergen free, cleaning products and cleaning methods that are safe for people, pets and the planet.

159

$

Price does not include applicable sales tax. Additional fees may apply if rooms are added and/or substituted. Homes over 2,500 sq ft will be subject to an additional charge. Must mention coupon at time of booking. Limit one per household.

May not be combined with any other offer, discount or promotion. Expires 10/31/2014.

(919) 809-9654 • raleigh.ecomaids.com SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 17

Money Matters by Taylor Clement

2014-2015

The balance to budgeting

Bolshoi Ballet Series

O

CAPTURED Live in HIGH DEFINITION from MOSCOW

10/26 11/16

12/21

3/8

The Pharoah’s Daughter La Bayadere

12/7

1/25

The Legend of Love

The Nutcracker Swan Lake

Romeo and Juliet

4/19 Ivan the Terrible

La Bayadere

Sundays at 1:00 pm

TICKETS: $20 & $15 (12 and Under) | Season Tickets: $120

The Sunrise Theater | 910.692.8501 250 NW Broad Street, Southern Pines, NC

The Sunrise Preservation Group is a 501(c)(3) Tax-Deductible, Non-Profit Organization

www.SunriseTheater.org

n most days, I walk to work. My coffee stop takes somewhere between five and 20 minutes, but I make time for it because I know it's how I prefer to start my workday. No matter how busy we get, we all find time to do the things we designate as important.

There are some days I’m running around trying to do everything at the same time; multi-tasking to the extent that I barely manage to complete one task. On those days, I struggle to enjoy my time: at work, with my son, volunteering with friends in the Junior League or even having dinner with my husband. If I stop for coffee on this kind of a day, it’s not my normal enjoyable stop. There have also been times when I lived this way financially and I was equally miserable; unable to enjoy the things that cost money because I was so worried about if I had enough for everything I wanted or needed.

Instead of letting the chaos of life take over on busy days, I try to adjust my schedule. If I’m running late one morning or if it’s raining, I’ll skip my coffee break. I try to manage my personal financial budget the same way.

I don’t enjoy putting new tires on the car or skipping my coffee break in the mornings but if it's part of the plan, then I know it makes sense. I do enjoy saving and investing money each month. Some people may not, but they do it because it’s part of the plan.

Our time is as valuable as money, and we should budget them both intentionally and flexibly. Budgeting money should help you enjoy it more—not keep you from having fun. When you open your financial statements and feel good about what you’ve saved (or debt you’ve paid off), it’s like a kid being told he can have an extra hour at the park. You’re giving yourself more freedom.

On my normal stop for coffee this week, I was surprised by someone buying my coffee. Not someone I know or who offered while I was there—someone who simply said, “Here’s money for the next person who comes in,” and it brightened my day even more. It was a reminder to me that we can always budget in a way that allows us to give back to someone else: donate, volunteer or just take the time to call a friend. Budget wisely.

Clement, a financial adviser at Clement Capital Group offers securities and advisory services as an Investment Adviser Representative of Commonwealth Financial Network®, Member FINRA/ SIPC, a Registered Investment Adviser. She can be reached at taylor@clementcapitalgroup.com or 910-693-0032. © 2014 Commonwealth Financial Network®.

18 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

Senior Moments A squirrel’s tale

by Barb Cohea

S

o, economic sanctions against Russia over the whole Ukraine/ Crimea thing seem to be working. A bonafide Russian minister, Sergei Belyakov, revealed their economy shows “signs of a crisis.” And, as usually happens in these situations, the people of Russia are feeling the pinch. How else to explain the news of a pet squirrel shortage? While not for me, pet squirrels are all the rage in Moscow and due to the lack of supply to meet the demand, some enterprising Muscovites are stealing them from city parks to sell as “friendly and gentle” pets.

Moscow police even instituted the SSP (special squirrel patrol) to curb thefts because, while pretty useless for meat, the cute-as-a-button Eurasian Red Squirrels fetch a pretty penny or, in this case, ruble. Like 5,000 rubles or $144, each.

With their rusty-red feet and faces and the up-sweeping reddish ear tufts resembling boxing promoter Don King’s hairdo from the 1970s, these are very good-looking squirrels.

I don’t know if domesticated Russian squirrels are “friendly and gentle” pets, but I can tell you a thing or two about wild American squirrels as I was once attacked by an airborne one.

I was riding my ATV (all terrain vehicle) home on a remote, isolated, hot, humid, bug-infested, and potentially disease-ridden island paradise. Going fast on dirt roads, I passed under an overhanging tree, and felt a thump on my shoulder. Having just read about tree-climbing alligators falling from the sky I was sort of, kind of . . . scared to death.

Whipping my head around I came face-to-face with a bugeyed eastern grey squirrel. Furry tail flapping in the ATVcreated breeze, he stared at me with black eyes the size of Susan B. Anthony coins. Tiny sharp claws dug into my shoulder, and a “what the heck happened?” grin crossed both our faces.

Truly though, this has gotten me thinking. Maybe there’s a market in the USA for mislabeled squirrels? I have a lot of squirrels living close by. It’d be like free money! I could trap 'em, pressure-wash 'em and finally Febreze 'em to eliminate that decomposing compost smell. Then I could advertise somewhere online, like eBay, “friendly and gentle” squirrelpets for . . . say . . . $24.99, “no returns, no refunds."

Wish I’d thought of it before that squirrel dove from the trees.

But no! Last time I saw him, he’d jumped off the ATV and, poof, into the dust. Tuck and roll, little buddy, tuck and roll.

For more humor, visit www.BarbaraCohea.com or email her at barbaracohea@gmail.com .

A caring, comprehensive and educational approach to memory concerns.

· Expert clinicians with first-rate diagnostic skills and outstanding bedside manner · Comprehensive testing, review of medical records · Personalized treatment recommendations that emphasize brain health, quality of life and independence · Community resources · Therapy services for patient and caregiver · Helpful, friendly staff · Warm and inviting office

Karen D. Sullivan, Ph.D. ABPP Board Certified in Clinical Neuropsychology MaryBeth Bailar, Psy.D.

Clinical Neuropsychologist Anessa Caton, LCSW

Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Contact us to see how we can contribute to your care or that of a loved one.

Pinehurst Neuropsychology Memory Disorders Clinic

45 Aviemore Drive • Pinehurst, North Carolina P 910.420.8041 • F 910.420.8071

www.PinehurstNeuropsychology.com SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 19

Understand

IS YOUR MAILBOX

ALL

OVERFLOWING wIth MedIcARe SUppLeMent BROchUReS?

your options!

CURRENTLY OFFERING

Elizabeth DONNER CRPC

NO-COST Medicare & Medicare

retirement planning counselor

Supplement

919-460-6076 Beth@DiversifiedPlanning.com

CONSULTaTIONS

2 Tuesdays?

$

SWEET!

CHOOSE ONE OR DOZENS!

105 E Pennsylvania Avenue | Southern Pines, NC 910-246-2877 | TheCCupsCupcakery.com

OVER 40 FLAVORS ROTATED DAILY!

ALL CUPCAKES, ALL DAY WITH THIS COUPON! EXP.IRES 9-30-14

FREE

hearing consultations Friendly Service Repair Services

AUDIOLOGY of the Sandhills

Belinda Bryant Vallie Goins Kate Tuomala Ruth Jones

1902-K N. Sandhills Blvd., Hwy. 1 Aberdeen, NC 28315

SandhillsHearing.com

910.692.6422

Before Autumn leaves fall...

Give Us a Call!

Baker Lawn Care

910.875.2385 or 910.308.4412 COMMERCIAL • RESIDENTIAL • LANDSCAPING • LOT BLOWING

20 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

Men's Summer Cooking

by Ed Glassman

Turkey cook-out

B

arbecue fever rages. For those who want to cook a different kind of turkey, I’ll reach into my past, when as a bachelor, I depended on myself to cook, tending toward culinary adventures like this one that makes turkey different and special, taking only 10-20 minutes to cook.

This gourmet adventure starts at the meat counter. Have the butcher cut a large frozen turkey into ½- to ¾-inch transverse sections. Reassemble the bird while still frozen, and store it in the freezer until needed.

To thaw, place the slices in a pan and brush them with olive oil. Season as desired, though I prefer to use only the oil. As they thaw, the turkey slices release juices that mix with the oil. Discard all liquid before cooking. Cook the slices on the grill until done (5-10 minutes on each side).

You can make a basting sauce from butter, white wine, salt and pepper as well. Ask your guests what you cooked. Some of mine have guessed veal, pork and even swordfish.

I found this recipe in a 1963 Sunset Magazine cookbook called “Men Cooking,” a compilation of recipes by outstanding amateur male cooks from California. Philip S. Brown, a rare book dealer in Pasadena, contributed the turkey recipe.

This book also has a recipe called Chicken Grits Gerlack contributed by Alvin Gerlack, an attorney from San Alnselmo. Simmer a hen until the meat falls from the bone.

Remove the bones, and cook hominy grits with the meat and stock until it has the consistency of mush. Flavor with olives, onion, green pepper, hint of garlic, red pepper and salt and pepper to taste. Stir constantly to keep it from burning.

When I wanted to prepare an impressive, easy-to-make dessert, I made an exquisite orange ice cream contributed to “Men Cooking” by B. R. Cloyd, an orchardist from Escondido.

Combine 2½ cups of orange juice with the juice of two limes and 1½ cups of sugar. Stir until the sugar dissolves. Add ½ teaspoon of nutmeg and 1½ cups of whipping cream. Freeze until firm. Stir at least twice during the freezing process to prevent the formation of ice crystals. For those dieting, enjoy this dessert once a year. Absolutely incredible.

Years ago, my wife took away my cooking privileges and banished me from the kitchen. Recently, I presented her with a traditional chef ’s hat to wear while she cooks. I have to sign off now. I just heard that Sunday lunch was ready.

Glassman is a retired professor from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and author of “Creativity Triggers Are For Everyone.” He can be reached at 910-725-1955 or 2glsmn@gmail.com .

Law Review by Jackie Bedard

Protect yourself or aging parents from caregiver fraud

C

onsider the following scenario: You and your spouse are a middle-aged couple with kids in school and full-time jobs. One of you has an older mother living an hour away who needs more care than you can give on a daily basis, but Mom isn't ready for assisted living. So, you hire an in-home caregiver to help meet Mom's daily needs. Things seem to be going great for a while, but then you notice little things that bother you. When you call Mom, the caregiver says Mom is resting and can't come to the phone. When asked how things are going, the caregiver gives a vague "Great!" as an answer but no details. When you finally manage to speak to Mom, she goes on and on about the caregiver without asking about her grandchildren or other members of the family.

According to Caring.com, these can be signs that a caregiver has crossed the boundary of professionalism and cultivated a personal relationship. This kind of personal connection can leave Mom ripe for theft and fraud.

Whenever your suspicions are raised about possible fraud, now is the time to take action, not later. If you used an agency to hire a caregiver, contact the company. A good in-home caregiver firm will have a process for filing a complaint and investigating the caregiver, Agingcare.com says, especially if theft is suspected.

Do your due diligence before hiring a caregiver. While using a reputable agency is usually the best bet, not all agencies do thorough background checks on people they hire. Interview the agency's supervisor, advises AARP, to find out information about the caregiver. Be sure to check all references the caregiver has on file. If you decide not to use an agency, be extra careful about hiring anyone on your own. Don’t hire someone with a Craigslist ad and call it good.

Checking records takes time, especially in other states in which the caregiver worked. Call all references and hire an outside firm to perform a criminal background check.

A few ways to help prevent theft, AARP reports: • Keep a complete inventory of valuables • Keep checkbook, credit and debit cards and computer passwords in a secure place.

• Monitor credit card statements and bank accounts.

When it comes to a loved one, protection and prevention are the next best things to being there.

Your tax deductible donations of reusable materials are sold in the Habitat ReStore and all proceeds support Habitat’s mission to end substandard housing in your community.

For donation criteria, or to learn more about Habitat’s FREE pick up service, call the ReStore in your county.

Visit our Facebook page and our Web site: www.SandhillsHabitat.org

MOORE COUNTY 2268 NC 5 Highway, Aberdeen, NC | 910.295.2798 RICHMOND COUNTY 300 E. Broad Avenue, Rockingham, NC | 910.817.9576

Bedard, an elder law attorney with Carolina Family Estate Planning in Cary, can be reached at 919-443-3035.

SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 21

Hospital Health

Scotland Memorial Hospital goes live with ER Express

E

mergency care is all about receiving medical care when you need it. Many times an ER visit is critical. At other times, it may be urgent to see a medical provider but not necessarily critical to do so immediately.

With that in mind, Scotland Memorial Hospital instituted ER Express, which allows patients with non-life-threatening illnesses or injuries to visit www.scotlandhealth.org to select an available time in the Emergency Center (EC).

This allows patients to remain in the comfort of their home while waiting to be seen, rather than waiting in a room full of sick people, especially during the EC’s busiest hours.

“While scheduling an ‘appointment’ in the EC goes against the common belief of an emergency room’s role,” explains Dr. Doug Nederostek, EC medical director, “we do function for some patients on a minor emergency or urgent care level.

ER Express, which isn’t available at any of the other area hospitals, is a major improvement in Scotland Memorial’s EC, and we feel this puts us on the map in this region.”

“We will do everything we can to see those patients at their appointment time as long as there is not another emergency

occurring at that time,” says Nederostek. “We’re expecting ER Express to help limit some of the EC’s big influx times when there are a number of patients registering at one time.”

ER Express is especially helpful for those who need to arrange for child care while the parents are at the EC, when bringing an older adult who takes a bit more time to get ready to go to the EC, or when a patient lives a distance away and wants to hold their place in line while driving to the EC. The website has two locations on the home page with ER Express clickable buttons. The next available times to be treated at the EC are shown. Select the time that is best for you and complete a short form. A confirmation e-mail is then generated to the patient, and the EC staff is alerted that a patient will be arriving at the EC. “We will do everything we can to ensure that those patients who use the ER Express service are seen at their scheduled time,” says Nederostek, “but our EC staff must treat patients based on the severity of their illness or injury.

Should a patient with a life-threatening condition arrive in the EC, your time may be delayed.”

Moore County

“My clients come first.

They are the reason I work hard every day.

I am a surrogate daughter with advanced training and education in navigating aging and health care needs.

When there is a transition or a crisis, I am the one who will be there to help you get through it.

Together, we face the future.

I am a care manager.”

Trish

Trish Orr, MS AOS Care Manager

Farmers Market COOKING DEMO by Ashten’s

Saturday, September 13th from 9:30 - 11:30

2nd Anti-Inflammatory food demo by Chef Sueson Vess Saturday, September 27th from 9:30 - 11:30

enjoy local, fresh product 3 times weekly

Cantaloupes, Watermelon, Tomatoes, Fruits, Veggies, Jams, Meats, Flowers & Plants, Crafts, Chicken, Baked Goods, Prepared Foods, Goat Cheese, Corn, Peaches

Mondays FirstHealth

(Fitness Center) 170 Memorial Drive Pinehurst 2pm-5:30pm Open through 10/27

Thursdays Armory Sports Complex

Saturdays Downtown Southern Pines

Open Year Round

Open through 10/25

604 W. Morganton Southern Pines 9am-1pm

Broad Street & New York Avenue 8am-12 Noon

Facilities Courtesy of FirstHealth & Town of Southern Pines

TrishO@AOSCareManagement.com

919.909.2645

www.AgingOutreachServices.com

22 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

More information? Call 947-3752 or 690-9520 Email: hwwebster@embarqmail.com Websearch: Moore County Farmers Market Local Harvest

www.facebook.com/moorecountyfarmersmarket

Moore Regional clinical trial seeks tinnitus patients

Fourth neurosurgeon joins FirstHealth practice

FirstHealth Moore Regional Hospital clinical trial is seeking volunteers who suffer from tinnitus.

The clinical trial is assessing the safety of a new drug in the treatment of acute (three months or less since onset) tinnitus following an injury to the ear or an ear infection.

Tinnitus is the medical term for “hearing” noises in the ears when there is no outside source of the sounds. Noises may include ringing, blowing, roaring, hissing or buzzing.

Tinnitus is a common problem and affects about 1 in 5 people. Tinnitus isn't a condition itself—it's a symptom of an underlying condition, such as age-related hearing loss, ear injury or a circulatory system disorder.

FirstHealth research treatment opportunities are provided through support from the Reid Research Center.

For more information on this and other clinical trials available at FirstHealth Moore Regional Hospital, call 910-715-2200 or visit FirstHealth’s clinical trials website at www.firsthealth.org/clinicaltrials .

r. Dennis Campbell discovered neurosurgery during his medical school rotations. He had always known his career path would take him toward surgery, but he hadn't decided on a specialty. His perspective changed with that medical school exposure.

“Neurosurgery is very challenging, very rewarding,” says Campbell, “and it can help patients dramatically.”

Campbell, who completed his residency as chief neurosurgical resident at Wake Forest Baptist Health, is the fourth neurosurgeon with FirstHealth Neurosurgery. He joins Dr. Carol Wadon; Dr. Bruce Jaufmann; and Dr. Larry Van Carson at the specialty practice, located at 10 Aviemore Drive in Pinehurst.

Campbell graduated with high distinction from the University of Nevada in Reno with a major in biological sciences and earned his medical degree from the Wake Forest University School of Medicine in Winston-Salem.

To make an appointment, call 910-715-8700 or 855-535-8700.

A

Join us for a

health PUBLIC fair 26

D

It’s Our

OPEN TO THE

th

10 AM - 3 PM

FALL DINING

SALE Up to

20% OFF

ALL DINING GROUPS!

ALL PROCEEDS TO BENEFIT

Mammography bus / Silent auction / Vendor tables / Blood drive Blood sugar & blood pressure checks

Dining Tables & Chairs Hutches & Servers | Buffets & Cupboards Pantries & Corner Cabinets

Unfinished Furniture Outlet

®

Assisted Living and Memory Care for Alzheimer’s and related Dementia 1810 New HOpe ROAd • RALeIgH, NC 27064 • 919.250.0255 AN H. H. HUNT COMMUNITY

www.SpringArborLiving.com

2495 Jefferson Davis Hwy, Village Plaza | Sanford, NC Mon.-Fri.: 10am - 5pm • Sat.:10am-4pm

919.775.2944

SanfordUnfinishedFurniture.com SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 23

Turning memories into decoupage

I

Story & Photography by KATHY GRANT WESTBROOK

’m convinced the world is divided into two groups of people: those who save ticket stubs, playbills and the like—and those who toss such ephemera into the trash with nary a second thought. While I’d like to claim the tidy habits of the tossers, I’m afraid my sentimental nature places me squarely in the savers’ camp, which is how I ended up with a mementofilled shoebox on a shelf in my home office. When sifting through the box’s contents, I could always count on being flooded with wonderful memories of some of my and my husband’s favorite outings: touring Rosedown Plantation BEFORE in Louisiana, cheering the Carolina Hurricanes hockey team on to victory over the Tampa Bay Lightning, laughing our way through Broadway’s “Dirty Rotten Scoundrels.”

One day I became very conscious of wanting to find a way to enjoy my mementos—and my memories—more often.

Coincidentally, this revelation collided with a furniture makeover I had been planning to tackle—that of resuscitating an old, four-drawer dresser. I decided to marry the two projects.

The way to accomplish this, I knew, would be through a crafting technique known as decoupage. Eons ago, in third-grade art class, I decoupaged a drawing onto a wooden plaque. Period.

End of my decoupaging experience. Fortunately, I knew enough to know that I didn’t know much, so I turned to the Internet, where I found site after site of decoupage instruction. One website in particular proved helpful: www.modpodgerocksblog.com .

The first thing I had to do was get the dresser decoupageready by sanding and painting it. Ambivalent about what color to paint and always eager to save money, I used a soft-pink, matte paint left over from a previous project.

After painting, I distressed the piece by lightly sanding

1

24 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

along the edges. Finally, I cleaned the dresser thoroughly, vacuuming and wiping away all of the dust.

I then turned my attention to my mementos. Sorting through them, I decided that, rather than using the actual ticket stubs, I would make color laser copies of everything (as opposed to ink jet copies to prevent bleeding). Making copies also allowed me to adjust the image sizes—something I hadn’t even known I’d want to do until I realized it was an option.

Next, I carefully cut out each image. Then, with all four drawers (essentially four blank canvases) standing on end, I started playing with placement of the images on the drawers, arranging and rearranging, trying to create a work of art that I would be happy to look at for years to come.

I then went to work, one drawer— and one image—at a time. Using a paintbrush, I applied a medium coat of Mod Podge to the area of the drawer to which I planned to apply a particular image; I also applied Mod Podge to the backside of the image. I then placed the image on the drawer front, using a brayer (small roller) to smooth it out.

I wiped away the excess Mod Podge from around the image. I repeated this process for all four drawers.

Once I had all of the images affixed to the drawer faces, I circled back around to drawer No. 1 and applied a coat of Mod Podge over the entire decoupaged area. I ended up applying three topcoats of Mod Podge to each drawer front— allowing plenty of drying time, and even lightly sanding with #0000 steel wool, between each. Once my final coat of Mod Podge was completely dry, I sprayed each drawer front with a clear acrylic sealer for added durability. I completed the project by adding undersized knobs that wouldn’t compete with my mementos for attention.

When I first envisioned this project, I told myself that I would occasionally switch the drawers around to create an ever-changing work of art. Truth is, I love it just the way it is—and can’t imagine changing it—even a tiny bit!

2 3

4

5

WELCOME FALL with this great coupon offer!

TAKE

5 OFF

$

ANY cake order $25 or more

offer good through September 30, 2014 Cakes just like Grandma used to make

...from scratch, with Love!

803 E. Williams Street Apex, NC

info@SweetCheeksBakeryNC.com www.SweetCheeksBakeryNC.com

919-303-9305 Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans will succeed. - Proverbs 16:3

SCAN BARCODE TO ACCESS OUR FULL MENU

A New Kind of Health Care Facility for Scotland County

Age the way you choose.

Let our resources & experience help you maintain your independence We offer • Coordination of legal, financial and health care professionals • Caregiver referral • Placement and transition assistance • Crisis Intervention • Ongoing dementia care services • Assistance with meals, bill pay and transportation • 75 years combined eldercare experience

Wound Care | Pain Management Therapeutic Activities | End of Life Care | Respite Care

620 Johns Road | Laurinburg, NC 28352

910.276.8400

Call for your FREE consultation today!

Southern Pines: 910-692-0683 Cary: 919-535-8713 | Fayetteville: 910-639-9420 www.AgingOutreachServices.com

www.ScottishPinesRehab.com SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 25

Game On by Thad Mumau

Love of the game always in the cards

M

2014 Central Electric’s Annual Meeting of the Members Friday, October 3rd, 5:30pm

Dennis A. Wicker Civic Center 1801 Nash Street Sanford, NC 27330 (919) 776-0345

26 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

ichael Knight really likes being The Commish. Serving as commissioner of a fantasy league is one of his connections to the game he loves. So are baseball cards. Those are a couple of the ways men can continue being boys, not only reviving good memories but living them, and that's what Knight is doing.

“I played Little League ball,” he says, “and it kind of humbled me. I did pretty well in Babe Ruth League, then didn't play again until I was 40.

But all along, baseball has been one of my greatest loves. The others are the Lord and my family.”

Knight is an interesting man, one who has experienced life from many angles. He has done a little bit of a lot of things – interior designing, advertising and bartending among them.

He was born in Indiana, grew up in Fayetteville, lived in Greenville while attending East Carolina University, stayed in Orlando for a bit, returned to Fayetteville for a while and was in Atlanta for about 30 years. But Fayetteville has always been home, and he has been back there since 2003.

Once, he thought he would write a book about life introspective, and he did numerous blue-collar jobs to pay the bills while he wrote. “My priorities changed, though, and I decided I wanted to be a survivor instead of a writer.

“At one time or other, I have been just about everything,” Knight says, laughing, “but the king of England.”

Several of his endeavors have involved baseball cards.

“When I first bought baseball

cards,” he explains, “you got one card in a pack with a piece of bubble gum for 1 cent. It was exciting to rip that wrapper off and find out who you got.

"I was 10 years old, and like everybody else, I had heard of Ruth and Mantle and Mays. But I didn't get any of them. For a while, the only card I had that I had heard of was Hank Aaron. My dad told me he was pretty good.”

Knight has never stopped buying baseball cards. He never made them an investment, never squirreled away stars while waiting for their value to rise. He just loved seeing those colorful pictures of players holding a bat or wearing a glove. He still does.

“Every year, I buy a couple packs of every brand, and I do it for three reasons: 1. For the fun of it; I just like 'em. 2. So I have the players who are on my fantasy league team. 3. So I can give some to kids at my church, kids who also like baseball cards.”

Almost every day during baseball season, Knight can be found in front of his television, watching a game. It really doesn't matter who is playing, just so it's baseball. Propped up in front of the set are the cards of Ryan Howard, Brandon Phillips, Jay Bruce, Stephen Strasburg and the rest of the players on his fantasy league team.

The Earth Warriors is one of 10 teams in a league that started in 1989. Other team “owners” are friends like Chris Cammack, Costa Lampros and Byah Doxey McGee, and include four of the originals from that very first season. As “The Commish,” Knight organizes

"When I first bought baseball cards, you got one card in a pack with a piece of bubble gum for 1 cent. It was exciting to rip that wrapper off and find out who you got."

— Michael Knight

the player draft, keeps the league website informed of roster changes and sends out the start-up letter in March.

The league was one of several baseball-related endeavors he latched onto in Atlanta. At the age of 40, he played in a senior league, he owned and ran a baseball card shop for about three years, and he photographed major league players.

“In the '80s,” Knight recalls, “I would go to Fulton County Stadium (the Atlanta Braves' previous home park) and take pictures. I had a long lens and shot players on the field. I'd get close-ups, and for about three years, every time a new team came to town, I would shoot pictures of the players.

“Six of those pictures were used on baseball cards. I am most proud of taking the photograph for a Barry Larkin card, because he is in the Hall of Fame.”

Knight also traveled to weekend card shows all over Georgia, Florida,

Alabama and North Carolina. It was a time when baseball cards were peaking in popularity, and he sold them at the shows along with other dealers.

“I met a lot of players, including most of the living Hall of Famers, and got autographs from them. It was really lucrative, but only lasted for about five years.”

At ECU, he majored in design, with a minor in commercial art, so he has an eye for what looks good.

Which is part of the reason for choosing certain baseball cards as his favorites.

“They have nothing to do with the dollar value,” Knight says, “and everything to do with aesthetics – what is pleasing to the eye. When I open up a baseball card pack, I look at the pictures' cropping, pose, design and color.”

Knight attends MacPherson Presbyterian Church, where he gets heavily involved with Bible school, painting murals and acting out characters from Bible stories. He is also a substitute Sunday school teacher.

“I enjoy my life,” he says. “I have a great church family, some very good friends in the fantasy baseball league, I like working in my yard and, of course, there is baseball itself.

“I will always love baseball.”

Email Mumau at rutabega12@aol.com

//

RISE ABOVE THE MESS™

Garage storage has always been a problem for home owners... until now. Monkey Bars Garage Storage Systems provide the most effective solution to this age old problem. The versatile shelfrack system allows home owners to customize storage solutions based on their changing needs. Garage organization and storage has never been so simple.

Live Life to its Fullest.™

CALL TODAY FOR A FREE ESTIMATE!

STORAGE SOLUTIONS OF CENTRAL NORTH CAROLINA 910.528.6305 Craig@MonkeyBarStorage.com www.MonkeyBarStorage.com

SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 27

Cooking Simple by Rhett Morris Spent Grain Bread

&

T

Blake Paul Associates EstatE Liquidation & tag saLE sErvicEs Proudly serving buyers and sellers in Moore and surrounding counties with pride for over 30 years. Licensed and Bonded.

Paul Blake 910.315.7044 Chuck Helbling 910.315.4501

“Put my 20 years of experience helping seniors to work for you!”

Kristin Mueller | REALTOR® 190 Turner Street, Suite D Southern Pines, NC 28387

910-693-3300

KMueller@AdvantageCB.com

CELL

OFFICE

910-691-1041

www.AdvantageCB.com

We’re with you wherever you go!

Go to:

issuu.com is now available through

Search:

he leftover spent grain from beer making makes a great whole-grain bread. With North Carolina’s growing number of local craft breweries, simply ask your local brewery for some of their spent grain.

This bread recipe was made with spent grain from Southern Pines Brewing Company.

INGREDIENTS 3 cups spent grain 1 ¼ cup warm water ¼ cup sugar 1 teaspoon salt 1 egg, beaten ¼ cup milk 1 packet yeast 4 to 4 ½ cups bread flour (may substitute with half whole wheat flour)

DIRECTIONS Mix water, sugar and yeast and let stand for 15 minutes in mixing bowl. Add spent grain, salt, egg, milk, and 4 cups flour, and mix with dough hook until well mixed. Add more flour if needed to bring the dough to a good consistency. Pour out the dough, and knead for 5 minutes. Place in bowl and put in warm place and let rise until doubled in size. Punch down and cut into 2 pieces, making each into a round loaf. Put loaves on a baking sheet and once double in size, score the bread with a knife. Bake at 375 degrees for 20 minutes.

Bread will sound hollow when done.

OutreachNC magazine

Morris, owner of Rhett's Restaurant, Personal Chef & Catering, can be reached at 910-695-3663 or rhett@rhettsrpcc.com.

28 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

Sentimental Journey by Jennifer Pollard Ode to sisters

I

"Sisters, sisters There were never such devoted sisters Never had to have a chaperone, no sir I'm here to keep my eye on her Caring, sharing Every little thing that we are wearing When a certain gentleman arrives from Rome She wore the dress and I stayed home."

was chatting with a client the other day when the discussion turned to sisters. She beamed when she spoke of being raised in a large family of girls, five sisters to be exact. She is still inseparable from all of them. They just got back from an annual sisters’ beach trip. She recounted how time just stands still for them. Whenever they get together, they giggle like schoolgirls and are young again.

I certainly understood a house full of women. Growing up with sisters is special. I won’t say it was always easy, but there is nothing like the love and companionship of sisters.

They are there in the good and bad times. They share our history. They are our biggest cheerleaders and also there to dry our tears in sadness. It’s even better if it becomes laughter through tears.

It made me think of the song “Sisters, Sisters" from the 1954 musical “White Christmas” by Irving Berlin. My sister and I loved to act out the song made famous by Rosemary Clooney and Vera Allen, wishing we could wear the large teal-feathered fans from the original choreography. I’m sure we looked fabulous clad in our pajamas donning feather boas.

Music always brings up good childhood memories.

No matter how much time passes, there is nothing like spending time with your sisters, or brothers. What songs make you think of special memories with your siblings? I hope you’ll share.

Share your musical memories with Pollard by emailing jenniferp@ aoscaremanagement.com.

118 support groups across the state 188 educational sessions given to over 6,000 people in 2012 10 full time employees in 3 offices

Hope & Support for All Dementias

www.alznc.org 1-800-228-8738

Over 75 years of combined

experience in dealing with dementia.

1305 Navaho Drive, Suite 101, Raleigh, NC 27609 2245 Stantonsburg Road, Suite C, Greenville, NC 27834 219 Racine Road, Suite B, Wilmington, NC 28403

Join us for AlzNC Walks across the state, including the Triangle Walk on October 4. www.alznc.org/walks

100 counties in North Carolina served 32 years of supporting families in North Carolina

SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 29

CAROLINACONVERSATIONS

WITH DUKE HEAD FOOTBALL COACH

DAVID CUTCLIFFE

By THAD MUMAU Photography by LONDON GESSNER

I

n David Cutcliffe's sixth year as the head coach, Duke's football team enjoyed a historic 2013 season that included a couple of firsts and several first times in a long time.

The Blue Devils won their last eight regularseason games to finish with 10 victories, the most in school history, and capture the Atlantic Coast Conference Coastal Division championship. They defeated a ranked team for the first time since 1994. Their victory at Virginia Tech was Duke's first road win over a ranked team since 1971.

Their 10-4 record marked the Blue Devils' first winning season in 19 years, and when Duke was listed at No. 25 in the AP Poll, it was the school's first appearance in the national rankings in 19 years as well.

Duke was beaten by eventual national champion Florida State in the ACC championship game and fell to Johnny Manziel and Texas A&M, 52-48, in an exciting Chick-fil-A Bowl shootout.

Cutcliffe has a close relationship with brothers Peyton and Eli Manning, both of whom are NFL quarterbacks. He was Eli's head coach at Mississippi and Peyton's offensive coordinator and position coach at Tennessee.

ONC: You have been acknowledged as somewhat of a miracle worker after last season. While you are obviously not one to bask in such adulation, you did do some things other coaches had not accomplished recently at Duke. How would you explain it?

DC: You have to surround yourself with great people. Be consistent in our process and develop great habits within the program. Every day matters. We teach winning in everything we do.

ONC: What are your greatest strengths and weaknesses as a coach?

DC: The strength is building relationships that are meaningful.

My weakness is not being as tough on people as I sometimes need to be.

ONC: There have been many years that Duke had a pretty good first 22 (players), but football success requires numbers, and those haven't been easy to build. How can you recruit enough top-notch players to consistently be an upper-echelon program?

DC: We are working to balance our squad by having strength in all of our classes. Adding 18 to 20 players a year will develop great depth.

ONC: Tell us just a little about your relationship with Peyton Manning.

DC: I have been with Peyton Manning since 1994. We have a great working relationship because it is based on trust. Our personal friendship has been built around trust and respect.

ONC: That has to be a recruiting aid, doesn't it?

DC: Sure, he is a well-known name, but people also see our commitment to long-term relationships.

ONC: Your attention to character—as a team and as individuals—is noteworthy. That is not always present these days in sports. Please explain how you convey that to athletes and how they receive it.

DC: Faith, family, future, then football. Our commitment to football is second to none, although we put these other values first.

Teach winning as a value!

ONC: It seems that having a bunch of guys who really like each other and pull together, without the “me” stuff, can make up for maybe being a little less talented. Is that true?

DC: We are a team! It’s the culture of our program. You have to be willing to sacrifice personal gain for the good of the team. We ask players in the game of football to sacrifice a great deal if they plan to win.

CONTINUED PAGE 33 u

SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 31

Relationships.

You have to be a mentor, leader, and coach every part of a player, on and off the field. Care about them!

­— Coach David Cutcliffe,

on the best thing about being a coach

CONTINUED FROM PAGE 31

ONC: I guess it's almost a cliché to say Duke is a basketball school. Do you mention to your players that it would be fun to make it a football school as well?

DC: Not really. We focus on Duke being a school that expects excellence in all areas.

ONC: So many coaches go to an underachieving team, build it up a bit and then take off for more glamour and dollars. I know you have already had some offers and didn't leave. I'm thinking you probably won't, that you like where you are and what you are doing. Is that true?

DC: I have the best job I’ve had!

ONC: Now that you have helped show that Duke football teams can win, is there pressure to continue?

ONC: Why?

DC: No. Our team is highly motivated. Our organization is based on continuing to grow and improve all of our habits each day. Then it comes to work ethic.

This separates winners and losers. We ask players to give extra. You have to be proud of your work ethic.

ONC: What is the best thing about being a coach?

DC: Great place, great people.

DC: Relationships. You have to be a mentor, leader, coach every part of a player, on and off the field. Care about them!

ONC: You appear to be pretty even-keeled . . . do you put any pressure on yourself? Do you take games and practices home?

DC: No. I’m very much a believer in “being” home when I’m home. I love what I do, so generally I’m in a good mood.

ONC: Even though the bowl game didn't end the way you and the team would have liked, everybody associated with Duke football must have felt a sense of pride after the disappointment settled.

Can you describe how that felt/feels?

DC: I was proud of our work as a team during the entire season. We were a team that played with great enthusiasm and effort all year.

FirstNavistar - Your Connection to Community, Health & Medical Resources “We moved here from Ohio and needed to find new doctors and other medical resources. We were able to go to FirstNavistar and learn everything in one place. It was a one stop shop. Thank you!“ - Sandy, Satisfied FirstNavistar User

How does FirstNavistar work?

• Visit the FirstNavistar website • Call a FirstNavistar Care Navigator, Monday-Friday from 10 a.m. to 4 p.m.

• Meet with a FirstNavistar Care Navigator

Phone (877) 609-5645 • www.firstnavistar.org 308-180-14

SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 33

Sweet Taste

OF CAROLINA VISIT THE BIRTHPLACE OF PEPSI IN NEW BERN

By CARRIE FRYE | Photography by DIANA MATTHEWS

34 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

a bit of history, nostalgia and a taste “born in the Carolinas”

can stop in and sit a spell.

The Birthplace of Pepsi in New Bern welcomes visitors from around the world to see the drugstore counter where pharmacist Caleb Bradham came up with the original cola concoction in 1893.

“Caleb Bradham was a simple man in a simple time,” says Sabrina Bengel, the managing partner at the Pepsi Store, which is owned and operated by the Minges Bottling Group in Ayden. “Everybody who comes in wants to step back in time and tell their stories.”

Pepsi has quite a storied past itself, which is displayed throughout the Birthplace of Pepsi, which opened in 1998 in honor of the 100th anniversary of Bradham’s creation. After all, “it’s the cola,” as the centennial slogan touted. The ornate, antiquelooking soda fountain was made especially for the store and has Pepsi, Diet Pepsi, Mountain Dew and Diet Mountain Dew on tap.

“The main ingredient is sugar,” adds Bengel, smiling, “and you won’t find a better tasting Pepsi.”

In his day, Bradham mixed sugar, water, caramel, lime juice, phosphoric acid with oils from nutmeg, lemon, orange, cinnamon, coriander and petit grain.

He called it simply “Brad’s Drink.”

“He was trying to make a digestive aid for his

customers,” says Bengel. “He named it Pepsi-Cola in 1898 referring to the pepsin enzyme.”

There was no actual pepsin in the drink, but the carbonated bubbles seemed to be just what the pharmacist ordered. Trademarking the name in 1903, Bradham moved production out of his drugstore at the corner of Pollock and Middle Streets to a nearby building, which churned out the soon-to-be-famous drink in 6-ounce bottles.

Aside from being a pharmacist and cola entrepreneur, Bradham was a true member of the New Bern community, serving on the Craven County Board of Commissioners. He was even considered to be a strong candidate for governor although it never came to fruition.

“By 1910, he had 250 locations in 24 states selling Pepsi,” adds Bengel.

However, the success of Pepsi was short-lived for Bradham, who was forced to declare bankruptcy in 1923 when the price of sugar soared from 3 cents per pound prior to World War I to more than 28 cents afterward. Bradham went back to running his drugstore and later died in 1934, never truly capitalizing on his Pepsi formula.

CONTINUED PAGE 36 u

SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 35

CONTINUED FROM PAGE 35

The pharmacist is buried in New Bern’s Cedar Grove Cemetery, not very far from his drugstore that now bears a historic marker.

“I believe his spirit still walks around here,” says Bengel. “He loved this community, and he put us on the map because of what he did.”

Pepsi’s remaining assets were sold, and Roy Megargel bought the Pepsi trademark for a mere $35,000.

Although he tried for eight years, Megargel was unsuccessful in marketing the drink.

In 1931, Loft Inc. and its president, Charles Guth, purchased Pepsi’s assets. Not only was Loft a successful candy company, but also had soda fountains in its retail stores. Guth had the idea of replacing Coca-Cola in his soda fountains with Pepsi. It was Guth who also re-formulated the recipe for Pepsi-Cola syrup.

Meanwhile, North Carolina’s Minges Bottling Company and its founding brothers Miles Otho and Luther Lester, who had already been successfully bottling Orange Crush, NuGrape and Jumbo Cola since 1923, saw the unique opportunity to purchase a Pepsi franchise for territories in eastern North Carolina in 1935. The rest may be soda pop history as the Minges family business continues bottling and shining the light on Bradham as the Pepsi creator and all things Pepsi in the retail store.

PepsiCo, as it is known today, is headquartered in Purchase, New York. It holds its annual stockholders’ meeting in New Bern, paying further tribute to Bradham and his sweet recipe that started it all.

On May 27 annually, visitors to the 36 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

ABOVE: Mary Weiss, left, and Sabrina Bengel serve a visitor to the Birthplace of Pepsi. OPPOSITE: Don't miss the opportunity to try an amazing Pepsi float, made with vanilla ice cream; Caleb Bradham's historic marker stands at the corner of Pollock and Middle streets in downtown New Bern; and Pepsi memorabilia abounds in the Pepsi Store where the soda fountain stands ready.

Birthplace of Pepsi receive a slice of birthday cake and a nickel Pepsi in honor of Bradham, which is ‘twice as much for a nickel,” like the slogan from 1939-50 advertised.

Bengel and 12 part-time employees keep the Pepsi flowing seven days a week. Patrons can sip ice-cold Pepsi or top it off with a scoop of vanilla ice cream for the perfect Pepsi float.

Pepsi logos of all shapes, sizes and versions from throughout the drink’s history adorn café tables, the soda fountain, coolers, chandelier and a vintage 1940s vending machine. An array of merchandise from bottle openers and T-shirts to glassware, Christmas ornaments and more all gleam, attracting the eyes of visitors.

Like a current marketing campaign calls Pepsi “the best drink created worldwide,” it is certainly the one Minges Bottling Company and the Birthplace of Pepsi are proud to still pour cup after cup. Tourists come from

all 50 states and from as far as Australia, New Zealand, Brazil, Thailand and everywhere inbetween to North Carolina’s second-oldest city for a taste.

“Meeting people from all over the world really is the best part,” says Mary Weiss, who works at the store and is always ready with a smile and quick wit for those asking for another kind of beverage. “We ring the bell whenever they say Coke. There’s always a comedian, but you can’t get that here,” she adds, laughing.

The camaraderie between Bengel and her staff is palpable. One perk for Weiss and her co-workers is that drinking on the job—Pepsi, that is— is encouraged.

“This is the happy place where we can showcase the great spirit of America,” says Bengel. “It’s an experience. We’ve tried to create everything in here like a step back in time, just sitting back in time drinking a Pepsi.

Want to go?

The Birthplace of Pepsi is located at 256 Middle Street in downtown New Bern. For more information, call 252-636-5898 or visit www.pepsistore.com .

SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 37

Stage set for

Johnny Whitaker

By THAD MUMAU, Special to OutreachNC | Photography courtesy of JUDSON THEATRE COMPANY

C

hild television star Johnny Whitaker is holding the judge's gavel as Judson Theatre Company’s production of “To Kill A Mockingbird” takes the stage. The second production for Judson of 2014, Sandhills Community College’s Owens Auditorium in Pinehurst hosts a four-show run Oct. 2-5.

Morgan Sills, the show’s executive producer, is excited about staging the play based on Harper Lee's classic book, which Gregory Peck brought to life so vividly on the big screen in the 1962 classic.

“It's an honor to bring a professional production of ‘To Kill A Mockingbird’ to the stage,” Sills says. “ The story is so timeless, and both the book and film are universally beloved. We have to make sure our production honors that.”

Whitaker is remembered for his role in “Family Affair,” a popular TV sitcom that ran for nearly five years (1966-71) and 138 episodes. He and Anissa Jones played 6-year-old orphaned twins being raised by a bachelor (Brian Keith).

“Being on ‘Family Affair’ was a special and pleasant experience,” says Whitaker, 54. “The show started 48 years ago, so some of it is difficult to remember. I do recall that, for me, normalcy was waking up at 6:30 in the morning, being in the car by 7 a.m. and my mom driving me to work.

“I would get changed into my wardrobe for filming and then go to the classroom and meet with our teacher.

During the day, we would go back and forth between 38 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

the set and school. I will always say I had a blessed childhood.”

Unlike many child actors, Whitaker had a solid foundation.

“Because of my parents,” he says. “My mom and dad were wonderful. There were eight children, and my siblings and I are still close. We get together almost every month.”

Whitaker, who lives in California, experienced problems with drugs and alcohol. A long-time recovering addict, he is a certified drug-alcohol counselor who enjoys helping others going through the same things he did.

“I believe everything happens for a reason,” he says, “and though I'm not proud of some things I did, they have led me to do good things now.”

Being a redheaded boy with freckles, Whitaker was a natural to portray Tom Sawyer, which he did on stage and in film.

“That was one of the favorite parts I have had,” he says.

“I also really liked being Atticus Finch in our high school play of ‘To Kill A Mockingbird.’

“That's one of the reasons I'm looking forward to acting in this play again. My East Coast agent is in South Carolina, and she heard about this production and asked me if I was interested. I said, 'Absolutely!'

“Yes, it's a little bit of a nostalgia thing, and I just think it is appropriate that I play Judge Taylor. He isn't one of the good ol’ boys in the sense that he wants to make sure everything (in the trial) is done right and fairly.

A refreshed, comfortable hotel with friendly service.

It’s the perfect place for the business or leisure traveler to kick back, relax, and be yourself.

Johnny Whitaker as the lead in the 1973 film "Tom Sawyer"; As Jody in the TV Classic "Family Affair (1966-71).

“As in any part,” Whitaker says, “I will add my own twist to the character. I'm not sure yet what that will be, but we'll have some fun with it.”

Taking on a title that is so well known and well loved can be challenging and risky, and Sills is well aware of that.

“We've done other titles that had famous movie versions,” says Sills,“‘Steel Magnolias,’ ‘Driving Miss Daisy,’ even ‘Bell, Book and Candle.’ We know the pressure's on to do a great job – to surpass ourselves. ‘To Kill a Mockingbird’ will be our largest cast and largest physical production. Though we'll have our usual contingent of actors from New York City and Los Angeles, for the first time we had auditions in North Carolina for some of the roles.

“We wanted the community to be in the story as well as in the audience,” Sills says, “to be integral to the show we're creating. We had experienced actors from North and South Carolina and Georgia to come in, saying 'I just have to be a part of this.'

“I think people just love the story and want to experience it again,” Sills says. “What was put on film in 1962 isn't going to change, but there's nothing like a live performance.”

• • • • •

Free high speed Internet service Microwaves and refrigerators Free hot breakfast bar 24 hour business center Fitness center

HOLIDAY INN EXPRESS 1006 Marco Drive Apex, North Carolina 27502

919-387-3636 www.hiexpress.com/apexnc gm.aeenc@wm.hiexpress.com

At Candlewood Suites Apex Raleigh, we put the amenities where they really count – in your room. Our guests can cook meals in their fully equipped kitchen, relax in the overstuffed recliner while watching movies from our free movie library. Business travelers will work more efficiently utilizing the executive desk with speaker phone and free high-speed Internet.

Want to go?

Johnny Whitaker presides over the court in the role of Judge Taylor in Judson Theatre Company’s production of “To Kill A Mockingbird,” Oct 2-5 at Sandhills Community College’s Owens Auditorium.

For more information, visit www.judsontheatre.com .

CANDLEWOOD SUITES 1005 Marco Drive Apex, North Carolina 27502

919-387-8595

www.candlewoodsuites.com/apexnc candlewoodapex@gmail.com

SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 39

Historic North Carolina Churches Series

First Presbyterian Church of Ellerbe E llerbe, N.C.

F

or more than 210 years, Ellerbe's First Presbyterian Church, a PCA congregation, has been calling members to worship on Sunday.

One of the oldest in Richmond County, dating from 1803 and located just a block off Main Street in this small town once famous for its mineral springs, this church holds fast to a tradition of strong preaching and pride in the role it plays in the community.

It all began in the early 1800s when services were first held in the home of Daniel Gillis, located about 6 miles east of the present church. Leaders were the Rev. Murdock McMillan of Orange Presbytery and five men who became elders of the young church.

Among those first elders was Daniel Henderson, the great-great-grandfather of Robert Henderson, who, now at 89, has been a member for 77 years. A former deacon, he continues to play an active role in the life of the church.

First Presbyterian has had three names and five buildings over its two-century life. It was organized as Harmony Presbyterian. Church history notes this name was chosen because of “a memorable revival meeting held on Cheeks Creek in 1802. Participating in the meeting were people of various denominations who harmonized with the Presbyterians.�

In 1888, the name was changed to Ellerbe Springs Presbyterian and later to First Presbyterian.

Its first building was a temporary log meeting house located about 5 miles east of Ellerbe and used until 1803.

At that time a second building was constructed near what is now Ellerbe Cemetery. In 1831, a frame church was built at the same location and in 1855, another was constructed on Ellerbe Springs Camping Ground. The present building dates to 1924.

By FLO JOHNSTON , Special to OutreachNC Photography by DIANA MATTHEWS 40 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

The campus today includes a manse, home for Pastor Stan Layton and his family, the sanctuary with an educational wing for offices and classrooms and the fellowship hall that doubles as a gymnasium.

A story attributed to longtime church member Flossie Quick says Union soldiers slept in the old church at Ellerbe Springs during the Civil War. The story goes that soldiers took the Communion set and used it for cooking purposes. It was later found in the woods behind Quick's house, all pieces accounted for except one goblet. She returned the set to the church and it's now on display in the vestibule.

A move in the early 1950s, common these days, unusual for that time, shows the forward thinking of this congregation that recognized the importance of reaching children.

Noticing that many members and children did not have transportation to church, the growing congregation bought “an old worn-out school bus,” jet black, according to Billy Carter, now an elder, who along with his brother Ted, got picked up for such things as Sunday school, Bible school and the annual church picnic. A favorite spot was Morrow Mountain State Park.

One of Carter's special memories was riding in that old black bus, prompting him to write in a memory collection published for the church's 200th anniversary: “We would load the bus with mostly children. Adults would line up behind the bus in cars forming a convoy as we traveled to the annual Sunday school picnic.”

SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 41

US

E

gainstAlzheimer's we can stop it by 2020.

By CARRIE FRYE | Photography courtesy USAGAINSTALZHEIMER'S

very 68 seconds, play that pairs actress another American Loni Anderson with NPR’s From the aCClaimeD play by triSh vraDeNburg is diagnosed Diane Rehm, philanthropist StarriNg September 5, 2014 with Alzheimer’s Darlene Shiley, WRAL-TV loNi aNDerSoN raleigh North CaroliNa DaviD heNDerSoN disease, and by anchor Debra Morgan and goverNor pat mCCrory North Carolina 2020, 10 million Gov. Pat McCrory.

Debra morgaN museum of history, DiaNe rehm Daniels auditorium baby boomers will suffer The event is put together DarleNe Shiley from this debilitating form

by USAgainstAlzheimer’s with hoNorary Co-ChairS SeNator riCharD burr of dementia. With the w hos e co-founders, SeNator Kay r. hagaN latest astounding statistics Vradenburg and her husband regarding how Alzheimer’s George, are leading the disease affects 5.4 million charge for the organization.

Americans and their 15 “My mom died of million caregivers, more Alzheimer’s in 1992, and I than 170,000 of those thought, well, I will write affected are in North this, because I couldn’t not Carolina, and these write it,” Vradenburg says numbers are expected to of her play. “I was pretty Creating awareness and Benefiting: quadruple by the year 2025. sure, there would be no U S A g a i n s t A l z h e i m e r ’s Alzheimer’s by now. So we formed in 2010 with a have to try harder, which is : https://www.survivinggrace.org/show/raleigh specific and simple mission what we are trying to do. to end Alzheimer’s disease So here we are, and where One unique way toward by 2020. While it might we want to be is cured. We accomplishing that mission sound like a lofty goal to set, the want to be where AIDS is now, arrives in Raleigh in the form of greater good is to get there before as a manageable disease. I want “Surviving Grace” on the evening 2020 by not only raising awareness Alzheimer’s to be manageable. of Friday, Sept.

5, at Daniels and funding research but also by They never cured polio, but they Auditorium at the North Carolina combining the efforts of families, managed not to have it continue.

Museum of History.

It is an allcaregivers, researchers, elected We're running for time and star cast ensemble reading of officials and the private sector to against time.”

Trish Vradenburg's off-Broadway reach the goal in a united effort.

Vradenburg served as her for more information and to purchase tickets

42 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

mother’s caregiver, so the play intermingles humor with the emotional aspects of coping with Alzheimer’s disease. Vrandenburg, known for her writing credits on television’s “Designing Women,” “Family Ties,” and “Kate and Allie,” brings the same quick wit to the dialogue the actors bring to life for the audience. With previous productions in Washington, D.C., Los Angeles, San Diego, Sao Paulo, Brazil, and now Raleigh, Vradenburg anxiously awaits seeing this latest ensemble cast coming together.

“What I know it will mean is a great show,” says Vradenburg.

“Loni is so unbelievable. Honestly, she’s hilarious. Diane just delves into the truth and talks about the stuff people need to be talking about. We usually have (actress) Marilu Henner perform, and this is the first time she hasn’t.

So we have Darlene Shiley, who is equally wonderful. I am just anticipating it.”

In fact, it was Marilu Henner who helped enlist Anderson, her longtime friend, to join in the cause and become a part of “Surviving Grace.”

“I only knew Trish by reputation,” says Anderson, “and Marilu Henner is a good friend of mine and I have known her forever. She has been involved with it for a long time, so she mentioned it. I have a friend who is head of the Dean F. Johnson Alzheimer’s Foundation in L.A. Everybody knew everybody, and we were all crusading for it and talking about it.

“My best friend’s mom

just recently was diagnosed,” adds Anderson, “so I’ve been surrounded by it. And everybody is afraid of it. You get together at a certain age, and you talk about it and say, ‘Oh please, don’t let this happen to me.’ One thing you can do with celebrity is give back and raise awareness. I think raising awareness is one of the most important givebacks when we are in a position to do so and everyone should get involved to give back.”

Every 68 seconds, another American is diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease.

Anderson also has an affection for performing comedies and is still fondly remembered for her role on TV’s “WKRP in Cincinnati.”

“Comedy is my favorite thing to do,” Anderson says. “I have been an actress on stage since I was 10.

If you can make people laugh, of course, that is just thrilling. To perform and have people respond to you, and with this play, everybody responds to everything about it. It has humor, and it is touching and so important. When I am up there, I just feel so connected to the fabulous people and these fabulous words. Trish’s words are incredible, and that you are really raising awareness for something that is on

the rise. A lot of diseases are being taken care of and the numbers are going down, but these numbers for Alzheimer’s are going up. Dealing with this subject with humor,” adds Anderson, “makes it so much easier for people. Although it's still emotional and overwhelming, I do provide some comic relief.”

The evening for “Surviving Grace” begins with a reception at 6 p.m., followed by the play reading at 7 p.m., and dinner with the cast at 8:30 p.m. All the ticket proceeds benefit USAgainstAlzheimer’s and Alzheimers North Carolina.

“I think it will give some perspective to a disease that is running rampant,” says Vradenburg. “None of us are getting away from it. I want people to talk about it and write to their congresspersons and let them know this is an important issue to them. That’s the only way we get further. It will be a good evening, and that much I can guarantee them.”

The chemistry between those lending their names and talents to “Surviving Grace” as well as their support for the cause will make for a memorable event with lasting effects as the ongoing work of these nonprofits carries forward.

At the state level, Alzheimers North Carolina organized in 1980 and provides family support groups for those diagnosed and for their family and caregivers as well as community education, public awareness and supports research.

CONTINUED PAGE 44 u

SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 43

Actress Loni Anderson (right) brings her talent and beauty to the stage in Raleigh Sept. 5 for “Surviving Grace,” an ensemble cast reading that she previously performed in Los Angeles (below) with fellow actors Marilu Henner, Carol Burnett and Elliott Gould.

CONTINUED FROM PAGE 43

“Our hope,” says Alice Watkins, executive director of Alzheimers North Carolina, “is that ‘Surviving Grace’ will focus awareness, needed services and research funding for a cause and a cure, on a local, national and global basis. We are thrilled to be working with USAgainstAlzheimer’s and to bring this production to North Carolina.”

With their efforts so far, USAgainstAlzheimer’s already has a number of achievements such as securing commitments for an additional $169 million in Alzheimer’s research through the National Institutes of Health and the U.S. Department of Defense. It is just one major win in a list of accomplishments working toward their 2020 goal to end Alzheimer’s.

“The difference between this and any other disease,” says Vradenburg, “is that the victims can’t talk, so we need to be their voice. That’s what this play is; it is giving a voice to those with the disease.

“I thought my mom was invincible, but she was no match for Alzheimer’s,”

adds Vradenburg. “I watched helplessly as her mind, her dignity, and finally her body vanished into the unforgiving chasm of Alzheimer's.

So, why a serious play with a large dose of humor? Because that's how I survive life—if you don't laugh, you'll cry. We have to bring this disease out of the shadows and into the spotlight; that is why I wrote ‘Surviving Grace’ and why I'm excited to be sharing it during this special event.”

Want to go?

For more information on “Surviving Grace” or tickets, visit www.survivinggrace.org .

For more information on USAgainstAlzheimer’s or Alzheimers North Carolina, visit www.usagainstalzheimers.org or www.alznc.org .

44 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

OUTREACHNC SPECIAL SERIES

destination:

Retirement

RETIREMENT A MICHIGAN COUPLE'S

RESTORATION IN HISTORIC SOUTHPORT, NC

By CARRIE FRYE Photography by KATHERINE CLARK

In the early 1990s, Barbara and Ian Davidson were living in Michigan and deciding on where to move for retirement.

“We took two and a half years to look,” says Barbara.

“And we made a list, our top 10 of what we needed.”

Their list was completely practical and was crucial in their decision. The Davidsons’ checklist included: 1. The ability to walk to most things in the community like the bank or restaurants 2. A central location on the East Coast since their children are in Connecticut, Florida and Michigan 3. A Methodist church where they could be active members 4. A boating community 5. Near golf, but not necessarily on a golf course 6. A hospital within the community 7. Larger city in close proximity for shopping and shows 8. Near the beach or on the water with views 9. The ability to become part of a small town community 10. A home with room for their children and grandchildren to stay and visit

The couple had settled on the southern East Coast and began their quest.

“We looked from Beaufort, North Carolina to Beaufort, South Carolina,” Ian says in his Scottish accent, smiling.

“While we were in Wilmington, a friend said we should look at Southport,” adds Barbara. “We were here for five days and found the (Yacht Basin) Provision Company and decided we could find a place here.”

Southport checked off all of the items on their list with the only last one being to find a home. The couple spent their time looking at available properties with a real estate agent and were just about to give up, when Barbara asked to see a dilapidated house as a last option. “'You really don’t want to see that one,’ is what the realtor said,” says Barbara, who was persistent and eventually convinced the agent. “We were not thinking of doing a restoration. There was a rickety stairway, and the porch was about to fall off,” she says of her first impression of the home that stole her heart when she saw the view out the living room window. “We have to buy it is what I told Ian.” 46 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

A FOREVER HOME | Installing a large kitchen island and creating an open floor plan were always part of the

restoration vision for Barbara and Ian Davidson's Southport home. Wider doorways and a place where a home elevator can easily be installed were also among the many improvements. The room just off the living area features large windows overlooking their waterfront view and is decorated in a nautical sea captain's theme.

“And I said, ‘Are you nuts?’" says Ian. “The realtor could not believe we wanted to make an offer,” adds Barbara, who was already envisioning what they could do to return the 1885 historic home to its original grandeur.

The current owner initially rejected their offer and then had a change of heart just before the Davidsons left Southport the next morning. Purchasing the home in 1994 and spending the next year doing the restoration, which included sleeping on an air mattress while they worked on the house, nothing was left untouched or without thoughtful consideration of what they wanted and needed for their forever home on the coast.

The couple hired a local contractor and gave him a list,

which included some universal design aspects of an open floor plan with widening all of the door and entryways, seats in both bathroom showers, a ramp-accessible front porch and a wider spiral staircase that could easily be replaced by a in-home elevator if they ever needed it.

“I told him, ‘I have a visualization,’” Barbara says of the vision that truly became a labor of love.

A brick mason helped restore and reuse the pile of original brick they found under the house for a brick patio in the backyard and front porch steps and walkway. Under years of plaster and neglect, Barbara and Ian uncovered a beautiful double fireplace decorated with its original red brick, in which they added a gas fireplace insert.

CONTINUED PAGE 48 u

SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 47

“While we were in Wilmington, a friend said we should look at Southport. We were here for five days and found the (Yacht Basin) Provision Company and decided we could find a place here.”

— Barbara Davidson

CONTINUED FROM PAGE 47

“We reused everything we possibly could,” says Barbara, except the most unusual items they discovered like a vintage barber chair and a large oil tank.

Stripping years of paint off one door turned into such an undertaking that Barbara left it unfinished for a final rustic look that fits perfectly in the decor. New energyefficient windows were installed, but all of the original casings and molding were reused for the historic integrity. Traditional white “Southport bows” molding adorn each and every doorway. New floor joists, beams, wiring, plumbing, cabinets and countertops were all necessities, but the finished product is one the Davidsons are proud to call their home.

The centerpieces of the house are the first- and second-floor covered porches that stretch across the width of the home and are only enhanced by the breezy, coastal décor and white railings.

“We live on the veranda,” Barbara says, smiling. “We are always out here drinking coffee, and we eat outside all of the time.”

The room just to the right of the front door has become the Davidsons' study and decorated with the light brown paint, warm accents, a bookshelf that runs along the top perimeter of the room and many of Barbara’s father's nautical maps and collectibles from being a sea captain.

“Ian and I always say that we think my mom and dad are here with us in the front porch rocking chairs,” Barbara says.

The house has everything the Davidsons needed for their large family as well.

“When everyone comes, they put down their phones and computers, and we play games every night. The 48 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

kids can go off on their bicycles, and our bedroom turns into a dormitory for all of the grandchildren and the laundry room turns into the bar,” says Barbara.

“We’ve had 50 on the lawn for the Fourth of July, and we always have a big barbecue. Now, our friends are bringing their children and grandchildren.”

The Davidsons’ home is now one of only three on the National Register of Historic Places in Southport.

“It was worth every second,” adds Barbara of the restoration. “This house has given our family so much joy. We just love it here.”

Having traveled all over the world in his professional career managing the United States and Canada for Harvey’s Bristol Cream, Ian is quite happy to have their roots firmly planted in Southport.

“This is absolutely home,” he says. “I became a citizen in 1994, and I still have two sisters in Scotland, but as far as I am concerned, this is the place to be. I have never lived anywhere else 20 years.”

Ian is close enough to play golf regularly at the Oak Island Golf Club and St. James as well as be active with the yacht club while Barbara volunteers regularly at the Southport Visitors Center. Barbara is one of the welcoming faces telling tourists and potential new retirees alike about the town’s history alongside her friend Cindy Brochure, the city’s director of tourism.

“In Native American lore,” explains Brochure, “the south part of the medicine wheel signifies qualities of the heart, safety and the place of the child, where life begins. The child in all of us easily finds expression and play here in Southport. It’s a place of intentional simplicity and fresh adventure. Southport retirement is where life begins.”

Playing with the Band

The sounds of the band emanate from the rehearsal room at Sandhills Community College. While the setting is a college campus, it is not the music of 20-somethings that fills the air, but the notes of the New Horizons Band in the Pines, a group of young-at-hearts playing music of their generation. If you love music and played when you were younger, or have always wanted to learn, you might be surprised to find that there are opportunities out there for you to blow your horn.

By MICHELLE GOETZL, Special to OutreachNC | Photography by DIANA MATTHEWS

I

f you are just starting out and looking for an experience similar to a high school band, the New Horizons Band program is an amazing opportunity.

New Horizons music programs provide entry points to music making for adults over the age of 50, including those with no previous musical experience and also those who were active in school music programs but have been inactive for a long period.

Dr. Roy Ernst started New Horizons in 1991. He wanted to give a welcoming space to the brand new player and the experienced. All groups offer instruction to the brand new player and then get them up and running with a beginner band full of people at all levels.

David Seiberling, one of the band directors of New Horizons of the Pines, explains that Ernst's own parents were “sitting around doing nothing.” Music programs

affiliated with the Osher Lifelong Learning Institute. The group has been around for 12 years and has about 70 active members. Once players have already been a part of the concert band, advanced players who are looking for a greater challenge can also audition for the Swing Band or Dixie Dukes.

In addition to weekly Tuesday afternoon rehearsals, the New Horizons Concert Band has two major concerts each year and a least one performance at a local senior community. Their winter holiday performance is actually a combined concert with their sister group, the New Horizons Chorus, and their spring show is in conjunction with the 7th-grade concert band from Durham Academy, for an inter-generational mix.

In the Sandhills, the New Horizons Band in the Pines has four exceptional directors and meets every Tuesday

New Horizons Bands and Heart of Carolina Jazz Orchestra perform community concerts regularly.

for older adults give them an outlet that offers “aerobic activity, increased dexterity and increases their mental activity while being in a fun social setting.”

Jeff Zentner, director of the New Horizons Band in Durham, knows that his group is also providing a muchneeded outlet for older musicians.

“Many of the older members can no longer be in community bands, because it is too much pressure.

This is a great way for them to still be able to play,” says Zentner. “Musicians with a deep love of the music and the process still want to feel like a vibrant part, but physically, they don't always have the wind capacity and strength to perform at the community band level.”

For those in and around the Triangle, the New Horizons Concert Band rehearses at Durham Academy and is 50 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

at Sandhills Community College. This group has been together for five years and has approximately 35 active members. In addition to their rehearsals, they play at various senior living communities.

Some members, like Bob Flesca, enjoy being a part of the New Horizons band not only for the music but also for the education.

“New Horizons in the Pines is basically a beginner band. These directors teach, and anytime I have my horn in my mouth, I learn something,” explains Flesca, who is able to play in both the New Horizons Band in the Pines and the Moore County Concert Band.

New Horizons Band in the Pines is also working hard to retain members and to introduce a swing band later this year for more advanced players.

The Moore County Concert Band is one of many community bands that can be found throughout the region gathering in Cary, Raleigh, Holly Springs, Pinehurst, Fayetteville and Sanford. These bands and orchestras tend to be slightly larger and attract members from high school through retirees. While they do not tend to have a formal audition process, there is an expectation that members can read music and play at a certain level. As the Lee County Community Orchestra's website explains, the orchestra is made up of “amateur musicians” to provide the community “a 'hometown' performing orchestra to present public concerts of classical, semi-classical, and popular music.”

For the truly advanced player, there are some semiprofessional groups in the region who are always on the lookout for players to keep on their sub roster and perhaps move up to become regular players.

One such group is Sanford’s Heart of Carolina Jazz Orchestra, where members come from Sanford, Chapel Hill, Southern Pines, Pittsboro, Raleigh and beyond to practice and perform together. Director Gregg Gelb started the orchestra in 1990 and has been going strong ever since even as players come and go.

“The music is still alive, and the sounds you can hear are still great,” says Gelb.

Judith Pine Bobé moved to North Carolina from New York in 2009 and almost immediately became involved with the orchestra. She researches and contacts guest artists to coordinate concerts for the Heart of Carolina Jazz, most recently with Jesse Earl Junior from Asheville last month at their community concert in downtown Sanford’s Depot Park.

"Jazz has been a part of my life as long as I can remember," says Junior during rehearsal. "I have been singing all my life. I breathe it in, and I sing it out."

"Jesse is a true baritone with an unbelievable repertoire and has sung with many big bands,” adds Bobé. “And Gregg is such a talented alto saxophone player. All of these people are here because they are truly dedicated musicians."

Pat Gallarelli is one of those dedicated musicians playing tenor saxophone.

"Getting to play with guest artists like Jesse is a great thing. The music gets challenging,” says Gallarelli, who lives in Pittsboro and works in Research Triangle Park.

IT HELPED ME WHEN I JUST COULDN’T QUITE MAKE

ENDS MEET AFTER AN UNEXPECTED EXPENSE. IT HELPED ME TO KEEP FOOD ON THE TABLE, UNTIL

I COULD GO BACK TO WORK.

IT SAVED MY LIFE. IT IS YOUR GIFT TO UNITED WAY OF MOORE COUNTY. IT MAKES A DIFFERENCE RIGHT HERE, IN OUR OWN COMMUNITY,

SO GIVE GENEROUSLY.

To make a donation, send your check today to: UNITED WAY OF MOORE COUNTY PO Box 207, Southern Pines, NC 28388

or give online: www.UnitedWayMoore.com

CONTINUED PAGE 52 u

SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 51

CONTINUED FROM PAGE 52

Wills on Wheels

We Make House Calls

Can’t leave work or home to see an attorney?

Let the lawyer come to you.

Put your affairs in order from the comfort of your own home. Discounts for Veterans, Public Service Personnel and Seniors.

Kathryn S. Kabat

Attorney at Law, PLLC D/B/A Wills on Wheels

919.439.3843

kkabat@nc.rr.com

www.WillsOnWheelsNC.com

Planning a Visit to Southern Pines?

The AOS Vacation Cottage offers easy access to Southern Pines shopping & dining Sleeps 4 comfortably Vacation packages & Catering available

“We rotate where rehearsals are so it is not as far for all of us to come," says Pat Gallarelli.

"Music is a hobby, an old habit really.

I started playing in high school, and I still love playing."

The fact that all of these bands exist is beneficial both to the players and to their communities.

Recent studies reveal that listening to music brings adults a happier outlook on life, better social interaction, increased positive emotions and i m p r o v e d memory.

“Playing music works on part of the brain that keeps us acting young,” says Zentner.

“The health factor of pushing yourself to do something like this adds days and months to your life.”

Marx Nathan of Seven Lakes

has been playing with the New Horizons in the Pines since 2008.

At 87, Nathan is that band's oldest player, and he has been playing alto sax since he was 12 years old.

“These young people I play with are wonderful to be around,” says Nathan. “It is a pleasure to play.”

On t he opposite side of the experience spectrum is Ginger Minichiello.

She joined New Horizons in the Pines four years ago to learn how to play the flute.

“It was on my bucket list,” says Minichiello, “something that I always wanted to do. All 10 of my grandchildren play instruments, and it helps me keep up with them.”

Whatever your musical level, if you want to play an instrument, opportunities abound.

For more information on these community bands, visit: www.newhorizonsmusic.org www.nhbinthepines.com www.moorecountyband.com

VISIT AOSVC.COM OR SCAN CODE TO TOUR CALL US!

910.692.0683

52 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

www.leecountycommunityorchestra.com www.carolinajazz.com

GREY MATTER See Grey Matter Puzzle Answers on Page 54

Africa Angel Arch Atom Bend

Bleed Cause Cloud Desk Diet

Ended Enemy Firing Firm Fits

32. Basil-based sauce 34. Fungal spore sacs 35. Change, as the Constitution 37. Put an edge on 38. Inhabitant of western African country (2 wds) 41. Crown 42. Foray 44. Nancy, in Nancy 45. Hereditary rulers 49. Atlanta-based station (acronym) 50. Again 52. Mythical monster 53. Prefix with phone 54. Sorcerer 59. Pathetic 61. Native of Laos 64. Orphaned child with new legal family 65. Olive stuffing 66. Haunt 67. Conveyed by horse-drawn sled

ACROSS 1. Intensifies, with "up" 5. Minute marine animal with transparent body 10. Network of nerves 14. In need of resupply, maybe 15. Ever (2 wds) 16. Chemistry Nobelist Otto 17. Soon, to a bard

18. Hen 19. Blows it 20. Assign too low a value 23. Australian runner 24. Fold, spindle or mutilate 25. Grassland 26. Beldam 28. Orange peels 30. ___-Wan Kenobi

Hail Hair Helpless Helps Herds Hold Huge Hums Idea Kite Lime Lips Mass Mere Mice Much Mugs

Plunged Prayer Ready Real Reasons Rubs Rung Rush Said Score Sees Select Snapped Starvation Stir Sure Tear

Nests Operas Ought Pegs Plan

Unpleasant Visual Witch Yarn Yeah

9. One addicted to drinking 10. Perlman of "Cheers" 11. Momentous 12. Ominous 13. "Star Trek" rank: Abbr.

21. Dash lengths 22. Blueprint 23. Victorian, for one 27. Caught 29. Went out, as a fire 31. ___ canto 33. The America's Cup trophy, e.g.

35. ___ brat 36. Biblical verb 39. Cabernet, e.g.

40. Discouraging words 41. ___ lab (abbrev.)

43. In-flight info, for short 46. Snares 47. Branch 48. Buys and sells securities for quick profits 51. Blubbers 53. Allotted, with "out" 55. Pigeon's home 56. Regrets 57. Catch 58. Dog command 59. Drivel 60. Altar avowal (2 wds) 62. Absorbed, as a cost 63. Affirmative action

DOWN 1. "The ___ Daba Honeymoon" 2. Emancipation 3. Official declamations 4. E-mail, e.g.

5. Pelvic bones 6. Fatty deposit on artery lining 7. Golden Triangle country 8. The story told in a novel or play (2 wds) SEPTEMBER 2014

OutreachNC.com 53

September

GREY MATTER ANSWERS

WORD SEARCH

Come join us for music in the vineyard!

TOAST &TUNES 2014 Cloer Concert Series

8624 Castleberry Road Apex, NC 27523

919.387.5760

SEPTEMBER 13 OCTOBER 11 NOVEMBER 8 Our TOAST & TUNES Concert Series is an outdoor music event, held once a month from 2:00-4:00pm. Bring your lawn chair & a picnic lunch. Wine will be sold by the glass and by the bottle.

No outside alcohol is permitted, and carpooling is highly suggested!

For information on each of our musicians, please visit our website:

SUDOKU

CloerFamilyVineyards.com

Coordination of the Move | Packing & Unpacking | Minor Home Repairs Sorting, Organizing & Downsizing | Setting Up Your New Home Estate Liquidations/Auctions | Disposition of Unwanted Items

CROSSWORD

Don’t let the daunting task of downsizing overwhelm you and

keep you from making the move to an independent living, assisted living or continuing care retirement community.

Triad: (336) 213-3012 Triangle: (919) 610-1888 Sandhills: (336) 210-0140 Online at: Carolina-RTS.com

FREE In-Home Assessment | No Sub-Contracting 54 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

The best place to find the services you need!

resource marketplace Assisted Living COMMUnities

CAre MAnAgeMent

Elizabeth Ragsdale Community Sales Manager Fox Hollow Senior Living Community Assisted Living and Memory Care 190 Fox Hollow Road | Pinehurst, NC 28374 | 910.695.0011 eragsdale@5sqc.com | www.FoxHollowSeniorLiving.com

I assist older adults & their families with all aspects of aging

Judy Cairns Marketing Director Spring Arbor of Apex Residential Assisted Living 901 Spring Arbor Court | Apex, NC 27502 | 919.303.9990 axmktg@hhhunt.com | www.SpringArborLiving.com

Fayetteville | 910-639-9420 AgingOutreachServices.com

Pam Mayo Executive Director Spring Arbor of Raleigh Residential Assisted Living 1810 N New Hope Road | Raleigh, NC 27604 | 919.805.3858 ered@hhhunt.com | www.SpringArborLiving.com

Certified seniOr AdvisOr Amy Natt, MS, CCM, CSA Aging Outreach Services A full-service elder care firm serving south central North Carolina Cary: 919.535.8713 | Southern Pines: 910.692.0683 AmyN@AgingOutreachServices.com | AgingOutreachServices.com

d e n tA L Southeastern Dental Specialists Services Provided: Crowns, Bridges, Dentures, Cosmetic Dentistry Full-Mouth Reconstruction, Dental Implants, Extraction of Teeth, Bone Grafting, Osseous Surgery, Scaling and Root Planing, Root Canals 1031 Weiss Ave.| Suite 201 | Fayetteville, NC 28305 | 910.689.1475 www.sedentalspecialists.com Laura Wellener, DDS The Highest Quality Dental Care in a friendly, caring environment Wellener Dental Proudly serving Moore County 305 Page Road N. | Pinehurst, NC 28374 | 910.295.1010 FrontOffice@WellenerDental.com | www.WellenerDental.com

Donna Brock, CCM Geriatric Care Manager

Free Consultations

CLeAning serviCes

LICENSED, BONDED and INSURED REFERENCES UPON REQUEST

PHONE 910.944.0871 CELL 910.695.5955

CO n t i n U i n g C A r e retireMent COMMUnitY

Discover Scotia Village Call 888.726.8428 to schedule your discovery visit today!

Includes Overnight Stay and Dinner or Lunch!

A Continuing Care Retirement Community A Division of The Presbyterian Homes, Inc.

h O M e C A r e A g e n2/27/14 C Y9:17 AM

SCO151_AD_Outreach NC 2013-2014.indd 1

HOME CARE Call (910) 246-1011 for your free consultation.

No contract ~ One-hour minimum

www.sjp.org

The best place to find the services you need!

resource marketplace hoMe Care serviCes REFERRING THE

BEST

LOCAL CAREGIVERS

Personal Care | Homemaking | Companionship

CALL 910.420.2360 TODAY!

www.GriswoldHomeCare.com/pinehurst

e l d e r l aw Jackie Bedard Carolina Family Estate Planning Estate Planning & Elder Care Attorney 51 Kilmayne Drive | Suite 203 | Cary, NC 27511 919.443.3035 jackie@carolinafep.com | www.CarolinaFEP.com Jennifer B. Garner Garner Law Firm, PLLC Focusing in Elder Law, Estate Planning & Estate Administration 125 Applecross Road | Pinehurst, NC 28374 | 910.693.0043 jennifer.garner@jennifergarnerlaw.com

estate pl anning (Mobile)

hospiCe Serving Scotland, Richmond, Robeson & Hoke counties in NC; Marlboro, Dillon & Chesterfield counties in SC

910.276.7176 www.ScotlandHospice.org

pa i n M a n a g e M e n t

A New Approach to Managing Pain

Make an appointment today!

5 Convenient Locations

Cary | Fayetteville | Laurinburg Pinehurst | Sanford

www.ips.md

Kathryn S. Kabat Attorney at Law, PLLC D/B/A Wills on Wheels Can't leave work or home to meet an attorney?

Let the lawyer come to you; We make house calls!

919.439.3843 | kkabat@nc.rr.com | www.WillsOnWheelsNC.com

FinanCial serviCes Taylor Clement, CFP® Certified Financial Planner™ Clement Capital Group, LLC Plan. Invest. Protect.

Securities and advisory services offered through Commonwealth Financial Network, Member FINRA/SIPC, a Registered Investment Adviser

135 W. Connecticut Avenue, Ste. A | Southern Pines, NC 28387 910.693.0032 | Taylor@ClementCapitalGroup.com www.ClementCapitalGroup.com Elizabeth C. Donner, CRPC® Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor Diversified Planning, Ltd. Planning for Retirement | Long-Term Care Insurance Medicare Supplement/Part D | Medicaid-Compliant Annuities 2000 Centre Green Way, Suite 150 | Cary, NC 27513 919.460.6076 | Beth@DiversifiedPlanning.com

The best place to find the services you need!

resource marketplace Home Care ServiCeS Erica Blonsky - Kara Briggs - Lorece Brooks Registry Scheduling Coordinators AOS At Home Care A network of private duty caregivers serving south central NC SOutHErn PinES: 910.692.0683 | CAry: 919.535.8713 info@AOSnC.com | www.AgingOutreachServices.com

r e H a B i L i TaT i o N & N u r S i N g C e N T e r Ashley Coble Admissions Director Scottish Pines rehabilitation & nursing Center A New Kind of Health Care Facility for the Scotland County Community 620 Johns Road | Laurinburg, NC 28352 910.276.8400 | 910.361.4001 Admissions@ScottishPinesrehab.com | www.ScottishPinesrehab.com

S u p p o r T g r o u p S (alzheimer's, Dementia & Caregiver) Apex: Fourth Wednesday at 6:30 p.m.

Spring Arbor of Apex | 901 Spring Arbor Court | Apex | 919.909.2645 Facilitator: Trish Orr, AOS Care Management

pHarmaCY

Karen Clark

Pharmacist Manager/Owner 2295 NC Highway 24/27 East • Biscoe, NC 27209 biscoepharmacy@live.com

910.428.1150

Howell Drug Co. Inc.

311 Teal Dr • Raeford

910-875-3365

Pinehurst: First Tuesday at 2 p.m.

Fox Hollow Senior Living |190 Fox Hollow Rd | Pinehurst | 910.695-0011 Facilitator: Jennifer Tyner, AOS Care Management raeford: Last Tuesday at 5:30 p.m.

Pittman Grove Baptist | 4921 Pittman Grove Church Rd | Raeford | 910.639.9420 Facilitator: Donna Brock, AOS Care Management Southern Pines: Second Wednesday at 2 p.m.

Elmcroft of Southern Pines 101 Brucewood Rd | Southern Pines | 910.420.3762 Facilitator: Jennifer Tyner, AOS Care Management

7305 NC Hwy 22 Whispering Pines, NC

910.949.3700

TheVillageApothecary.org

SupporT groupS S TaT e w i D e

West End: Wednesdays at 2 p.m. resumes Sept. 10 Chapel in the Pines | 2125 Seven Lakes South | West End | 910.673.2156 Facilitators: Reverend Fran Stark & Amy Natt, AOS Care Management Duke Family Support Program A free first responder service for all NC families caring for someone with a memory disorder and/or multiple chronic conditions of late life.

919.660.7510 | www.dukefamilysupport.org

Supporting NC families for three decades Find a support group... alznc.org | 800.228.8738

Over My Shoulder by Ann Robson

NEVER worry about dinner again.

EVER. Plus TAKE $ 15 OFF

Your Purchase! ($125 OR MORE)

use this coupon code:

Outreach 15

OFFER EXPIRES SEPTEMBER 30, 2014

A family-owned & operated Meal Assembly Kitchen 841 Perry Road | Apex,NC

919.303.3119

www.DinnerSavvy.com

58 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014

Life’s bucket list

I

t seems that the successful 2007 movie “Bucket List” starring Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman as aging gentlemen trying to cross several things off their ‘"to do" list before they “kick the bucket,” has many people thinking about their own bucket lists.

During the past several weeks, with a big birthday on the horizon, I casually surveyed friends, acquaintances and even strangers about what their bucket lists contain. There were some very interesting replies. One younger woman asked about the origin of a bucket list. Several of us quickly answered, “Things to do before you kick the bucket.”

Her question piqued my interest as to the origin of “kick the bucket." It first appeared in print in Francis Grose's "Classical Dictionary of the Vulgar Tongue" in 1785. Patrick M. Carlisle refers to it in “Unfair and Unbalanced: The Lunatic Magniloquence of Henry E. Panky,” where he wrote, “A good man does not want to go gently into that blacky black night. He wants to cut loose, dance on the razor’s edge, pry the lid off his bucket list.” (FYI: magniloquence, according to my 1886 dictionary, means “a lofty manner of speaking or writing.”)

I prefer this explanation to those that equate kicking the bucket with suicide, hanging or with the slaughter of pigs (too gory and depressing).

It pleased and surprised me that lots of people of all ages have bucket lists.

Now that I’ve done a little research, I’m changing my list to a “life list” instead. These are things I would like to do during my life rather than racing to check them off before it’s too late.

It seems that younger generations are taking that approach as well.

“These are things you say you are

always going to do and don’t. It’s not before you die, it’s just for fun,” suggests one 30-something.

As you would expect, the Internet is a fountain of information on bucket lists including “10,000 things to do before you die.” You would have to start in the cradle and live a very long time to complete such a list.

Bucket lists are meant to give us a chance not to go “gently into the black night.” Rather, they are meant to give us a chance to do something we’ve always wanted to but for whatever reason have not been able. I look on my list as having ice cream with pie— something special that you don’t have to do.

The responses to my question about what’s in your bucket list were fun and fascinating. One young man wants to “solve the Rubik’s cube.” Other items for folks of varying ages included: go to a N.C. State basketball game, have my own clothing brand, plan and organize a family reunion at the beach, learn to knit and quilt, study one's ancestry, go whitewater rafting, swim with dolphins, do 36 acts of kindness (not sure why 36, but there must be a reason), donate blood and skydive, but not at the same time!

Travel was a common theme from seeing our national parks to walking on the Great Wall of China.

My life list took a hit this past year with the passing of Pete Seeger and Maya Angelou—I had questions to ask and stories to write about them.

Lesson learned: If it’s on the list, do it when you can.

So, what’s on your life list?

Email Robson at info@outreachnc.com

Her smile still lights up a room.

We see the wonderful qualities that make your loved one special.

Call or come by today for your tour!

Spring Arbor of Apex

Spring Arbor of Raleigh 1810 New Hope Road Raleigh, NC 27604

919-250-0255

Assisted Living and Memory Care for Alzheimer’s and related Dementia

Visit us online: www.SpringArborLiving.com

901 Spring Arbor Court Apex, NC 27502

919-303-9990

AN H. H. HUNT COMMUNITY

Live the

life you want.

Come out and take a look at our quarter-mile outdoor fitness trail featuring seven exercise stations. Or step inside our 45,000 square foot clubhouse to enjoy the indoor pool and fitness center, educational seminars, library and chapel.

Experience a healthy, engaged lifestyle that’s as full as it is fulfilling.

Call 910.246.1008 today.

A Continuing Care Retirement Community Southern 60 OutreachNC.com SEPTEMBER 2014 Pines, North Carolina

•

www.sjp.org

•

910.246.1008

A member of the St. Joseph of the Pines Aging Services Network continuing the legacy of the Sisters of Providence.