Unwavering Commitment

If our main influences regarding relationships are music, movies and social media. Then that may be an indication pointing to why marriages are failing more often now than in the time of my grandparents who are still married to this day.

A relationship can’t last if it ends. I mean that goes without saying, right? A difficult relationship has no hope of becoming a beautiful relationship if one or both people quit.

For your relationship to last for years upon years you and your partner must commit whole heartedly. Because I promise you, no matter how wonderful your partner seems now, they are going to offend you from time to time.

They may say something insensitive not really understanding how much of a trigger it would be for you. They may not do something you expect them to do. They may commit a huge offence that may warrant the end of the relationship. However, the relationship may still be salvageable through thorough and thoughtful discussion. Unwavering commitment must be agreed upon by both people, it won’t work if it is one sided. Both must agree that under no circumstances will we end this relationship.

This aspect of the foundation is the most tricky and scary because it sets us up for abuse. But only if we are not in tune with the character of our partner. So, this ingredient ought to come after the previous 3 have been established.

Otherwise, we may unknowingly bind ourselves to a tyrant.

Jesus Christ (The Bible)

Some of you may ask, “why is Jesus necessary?

Don’t many non-Christians have healthy relationships? Yea, there are relationships that survive without prayer or the Bible being direct influences.

However, every healthy relationship has elements of Christ’s character whether the people recognise it or not. In those moments when we fall short in our humanness, we both need to lean on Jesus when our emotions are telling us to quit, and look at the character of Jesus so that we may see how we should deal with our partner even when they have hurt us deeply.

God’s example of love in the Bible is our ultimate example and should be our main influence.

Closing Remarks

Thank you for reading my article I hope it blessed you, challenged you, caused you to consider the things you regard as foundational to a healthy and happy relationship. In my next article I’ll be going deeper into unconditional love.

This is THE WORST RELATIONSHIP ADVICE EVER.

You should not take what I say to heart, unless it makes sense to you in some weird way.

Blessings to you and your family.

Darren O. Salmon

DARREN SALMON, Columnist