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Woman reconnects with record store memories

Fly into a new occupation: You CAN make a mid-life career change

Winery offers Italian Stallions, baked brie and local brews

AND: ‘Grays’ have expertise, allegiance that employers should value

The sole problem is no socks These ‘cigars’ are healthy treat

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in this issue • Fly along a new career path. 4 MICKEY JOHNSON

CATHLEEN CLINE

MILLICENT MARTIN

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Maximum Living has primarily focused on ladies in the past few years and has begun its coverage topics to include subjects of interest to both men and women.

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By Pam Tharp Rebecca Hoelscher always wanted to be a stewardess, the title flight attendants had when she was growing up.

Mark Hoelscher, owner of the Main Street Diner, never dreamed of a career in the restaurant business, but he was ready to mind his own money instead of someone else’s.

The Hoelschers each found new occupations in mid-life.

They say taking a leap into something new was some of the best decisions they’ve ever made.

Rebecca Hoelscher had spent 31 years as a Reid Hospital employee when she decided to retire at age 56. A graduate of Short High School in Liberty, Rebecca, 64, began her Reid career working in the admissions department and later moved into the information services department.

“It was time to go. My boss had retired and I was ready to go too,” Rebecca said. “I didn’t know what I wanted to do, but I wasn’t one to sit at home.”

The idea of a career as a flight attendant came after her neighbor across the street found work in that field, Rebecca said. Unlike the rules in 1950s and 1960s, there were no weight requirements as long as you could go down the aisle between the seats, she said.

“I said they wouldn’t want an old person, but Mark encouraged me. I applied on the Internet and they contacted me the next day,” Rebecca said. “The airlines were looking for mature people with work experience and a work ethic.”

At age 57, Rebecca underwent a three-week training course in Indianapolis before she hit the skies.

“It was all about safety. The main job of a flight attendant is safety, not serving coffee,” Rebecca said.

She flew for several airlines based out of Indianapolis, flying East Coast routes and also to the Bahamas and Mexico.

The work wasn’t as glamorous as it’s often portrayed, Rebecca

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in the 1980s, Mark decided to buy it. Although he had no exsaid.

“If the cleaning crew didn’t show up, you were cleaning perience with restaurants, Mark said he knew how to manage the plane,” she said. money and expected to own the eatery for two to four years.

After four years, the fast pace took its toll, Rebecca said.

Twenty-six years later, the Main Street Diner is still cooking.

She was ready to sleep in her own bed every night, she said.

“I never dreamed of owning a restaurant. I needed a job “I was out four days and home a day. I was helping in the and I thought it would be easy to run a restaurant,” Mark restaurant when I was home and it finally became too much.” said. “I had my kids work in here while they were growing “They’ve called and asked me to come back, but I was up and it was good experience for them. It’s been a good proready to stop,” Rebecca said. “I wanted to do it and I did it. I vider for us.” was satisfied.”

The Hoelschers also have a small farm where they raise alpacas.

Mark Hoelscher had a degree in social studies education Mark’s multiple careers appear to be the norm for many in from Ball State University when he became the youngest the baby boom generation, according to a 2009 study by the county auditor in Indiana. It was a job he sort of “fell into,” federal Bureau of Labor Statistics. he said, after taking the first deputy position under Wayne The 30-year study from 1979-2009 shows restless, younger County Auditor Byron Pike, who became ill. boomers were changing jobs long before the 2008 recession hit.

Mark said Pike encouraged him to run for the office and Workers born between 1957 and 1964 had an average of 11 he won his first election in 1974, two years after he graduated jobs from ages 18 to 44 and 25 percent of them had 15 jobs, from college and the same year Richard Nixon resigned from according to the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth. the presidency.

Only 12 percent held just one to four jobs during that 26-year Mark served two terms as auditor and then was a financial period, a change from the World War II generation who often manager for a Northeastern schools’ building project. He also had only a couple of jobs their entire lives. headed up the Wayne County The Hoelschers wear a lot of Tax Research Bureau, a hats at the Main Street Diner, watchdog organization for tax which doesn’t have a “special spending. of the day.”

Mark taught for two years What it does have are The survey covered 9,964 men and women who were at Wernle Children’s Home many regular customers who ages 14 to 22 when first interviewed in 1979 and ages in Richmond. Finding teachshare part of their day with Mark and Rebecca. ing jobs in his major was 43 to 52 when interviewed most recently during the “Whatever we have, we tough because there were too 2008-09 period. serve,” Mark said. “We have many social studies majors Formal education was a main variable. Workers with a loyal clientele.” out there, Mark said. He also higher education levels had fewer jobs than those with worked in the county surveyPam Tharp of Liberty lower education attainment. or’s office for a year. writes for Maximum Living.

When a restaurant at 1600 Source: New Hampshire Business Review E. Main St. came up for sale

About the jobs survey:

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Spotlight

‘Grays’ have expertise, allegiance employers should value

By Andrea Kay Emmy award-winning comedy writer Al Gordon had trouble finding work because he was older than 40.

Potential employers actually told him that’s the reason they wouldn’t hire him.

He died recently at age 89, and his obituary in The New York Times cited a 1998 interview for the Archive of American Television with Irving Fein, Jack Benny’s manager, in which Fein described the difficulty Gordon faced finding work in later years: “They call writers over 40 in Hollywood ‘grays’ now,” Fein said. ”And Al — who worked for the Benny show and went to ‘The Carol Burnett Show,’ the Smothers Brothers — goes to interview with a producer. And the guy likes him. But he says, ‘Gee, Al, I’d like to hire you, but I’ve got one gray on the staff already.’ Can you believe it? A guy with all these great credits.”

Today, no one will say they won’t hire you because of your age. But sometimes, you just know that’s the reason.

And as statistics show, when older workers lose their jobs, they spend much longer finding new jobs than younger workers.

The latest report from the Government Accountability Office found that in 2011, 55 percent of workers older than 55 had been out of work for 27 weeks or more.

That is in comparison to 47 percent of those 25 to 55.

Other entities aren’t shy about devaluing older citizens. Take the cancellation of the popular NBC television show, “Harry’s Law,” which had 9 million viewers.

Yet it had a rating of 1.4 among adults ages 18 to 49.

That’s about 1.75 million people. So it had the “wrong 9 million viewers,” points out Joe Flint of The Los Angeles Times.

Being an older worker myself, plus hearing from them daily, I can say with certainty that too many highly qualified and motivated older workers are stumped — many are incensed — when cast aside and undervalued. It’s been said that some employers worry older workers won’t stick around.

Let’s look at the statistics: * First, the most recent Gallup poll finds that the average American expects to retire at 67. That’s up from age 64 a decade ago and age 60 in the mid 1990s. * Second, a U.S. News & World Report article pointed to the recent annual MetLife survey on employee benefits, trends and attitudes that found only 27 percent of baby boomers born between 1956 and 1964 and 21

percent born between 1946 and 1955 said they want to be working somewhere other than their current employer.

On the other hand, with younger workers born between 1981 and 1994, 54 percent wanted to find another job. And 37 percent born from 1965 to 1980 “were ready, willing and able to bail on their employers.”

Have employers overblown the so-called “skills shortage” among older workers? They might not be “texting during meetings because they are more polite,” the article points out. And odds are “they may actually know how to spell complete words, too, if that’s important to you.”

Of course, most older workers tend to have good attendance and be reliable. And according to the MetLife survey, benefits are not as crucial to older workers; more pressure for better benefits comes from younger workers.

Employee loyalty is at a seven-year low, the MetLife survey said.

This is because of many factors in the changing workplace. But it would pay for employers to focus on keeping more loyal workers who have expertise that comes with age and are hard to replace.

They need to realize that older workers — including award-winning comedy writers — don’t stop creating great work just because they sprout gray hair.

Andrea Kay is the author of books on careers and writes for Gannett. Send questions to her at 2692 Madison Road #133, Cincinnati, OH 45208; or email her at andrea@andreakay.com.

Find more information at www.andreakay.com

Most older workers tend to have good attendance and be reliable, says columnist Andrea Kay. Stock photo.

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Puzzles Answers on Page 21

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Summertime’s the right time for electronic payments

When you are away from home, one thing you don’t want to worry about is how you will receive your next monthly Social Security payment.

That is why it is important for everyone receiving Social Security or Supplemental Security Income (SSI) benefits to sign up for electronic payments.

These days, almost everyone gets benefit payments electronically.

Today, about 90 percent of all Social COLUMN

BY TERESA Security and SSI beneficiaries receive BRACK their payments electronically. That number is increasing because the law requires that by March 1, 2013, all federal benefit payments, including Social Security and SSI payments, be made electronically.

Whether you receive Social Security or SSI, you can depend on your payment arriving in your account on time, every time. If you don’t already receive electronic payments, there are many good reasons to sign up.

For one, less money and time spent driving to the bank to cash your check helps you save. Second, fewer paper checks, envelopes, and stamps, and less fuel to deliver the checks means savings for the government.

Hurricane season is here for some

areas of the country. Other regions bear the brunt of flooding. Some areas of the nation are plagued by tornadoes, and still others must deal with wildfires, severe thunderstorms or even earthquakes.

If you are unfortunate enough to be in the path of a natural disaster, the last thing you want is for your income to be interrupted because of an evacuation or a missing mailbox. With electronic payments, you know your money will be in your account on time no matter what.

When on vacation, an electronic payment ensures payments will be deposited into your account on time, so there’s no reason to worry about the safety of your benefit or to ask a neighbor to look out for your check when you are away.

As an added bonus, many banks offer free checking accounts for people who use direct deposit because it saves the bank the cost of processing paper payments.

Skip the line at the bank, save money, get your payment faster, and know you can depend on your payment being in the bank no matter what happens or where you are. You can do all of this with electronic payments.

Learn more about it at www. socialsecurity.gov/ deposit.

Finance

Teresa Brack is the Social Security manager in Richmond.

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EVENTS JULY • AUGUST • SEPTEMBER

RECREATION, FITNESS AND SPORTS

• Reid Ride, 6:30 a.m., July 28, Reid Hospital & Health Care, 1100 Reid Pkwy, Richmond. Bike with friends, promote wellness and raise money to buy shoes for local children. The 22 mile ride begins at Reid •• Hospital. Register (6:30-7:15 a.m.), receive a T-shirt, map and get on your way. The 9-mile marker stop is at Centerville Christian Church where refreshments will be available. Continue north on Centerville Road to Webster Road, then east to Cardinal Greenway, then south to Industries Road and finish at Reid with refreshments, massages, photos and prizes. Info: www.reidride.org or (765) 983-3102.

• Fitness in the Park, starts at 8, 9:15 and 10 a.m., Aug. 4, Glen Miller Park, Richmond. Richmond Parks and Recreation will be offering fitness classes at the band shell in Glen Miller Park. Registration will take place each morning before class begins. Hula hoops, jump ropes, and other toys provided to entertain your child during the workout. All ages welcome.

• Hagerstown Jubilee 5K, 9 a.m., Aug. 11, Hagerstown High School, 701 Baker Road, Hagerstown. Part of the Wayne County Challenge. Benefits Nettle Creek Lions Club. $18 entry, $15 pre-entry by Aug. 6. Info: (765) 238-0125 or www.wcchallenge.org • Walk to End Alzheimer’s, Sept. 22, Reid Hospital campus, Richmond. Benefits Alzheimer’s Association of Greater Indiana. Info: David Lydick, (765) 994-1004 or davidlydick@comcast.net • Hike Yourself Healthy, Around Wayne County. Cope Environmental Center’s Hike Yourself Healthy Program runs through until Labor Day. Keep track of miles walked outside and register to win prizes. Info: • Adult Lap Swim, Cordell Municipal Pool, South West 13th Street, Richmond. 6-7 a.m. Mondays-Fridays for ages 18 and older. MondayFriday. Cost: $1 per day. Info: (765) 983-7426 • Horseback Riding Lessons, Cedar Lane Farm LLC, 1139 E. Winnerline Road, Eaton, Ohio. Info: www.sycamorestreamsridinglessons. com for more information.

• ArbLeaf, Hayes Arboretum, Richmond. A self-guided walking leaf collecting trail is open from Aug. 14-Oct. 19. Leaves from 55 trees may be collected, starting from the Nature Center complex where maps are available. Bring pencil, paper and plan for organizing leaves as they are collected. Selected trees are numbered, marked with orange ribbons and have white signage with orange lettering labeled in English and Latin. The gate will remain open until 6:30 p.m.

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Tuesdays through Fridays and until 5 p.m. Saturdays for this activity.

• Richmond Hiking Club, various locations in/near Richmond.

Every Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday at various locations in/near Richmond. Schedule: 4 p.m. Tuesdays and Thursdays and 9 a.m.

Saturdays. Hike various woods and parks. Locations vary, so call for schedule. Free. Info: (765) 977-4295 or joemcgriff@gmail.com • Enhance Fitness Class, Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays at Lamplight Inn at the Leland, 900 S. A St., MedFit Fitness Center 24/7, 750 Chester Blvd., Richmond Senior Center, 1600 S. Second St., Richmond. Free fitness class designed for older adults. Meets from 9:30-10:30 a.m. at MedFit, 2-3 p.m. at the Lamplight Inn at the Leland and from 4-5 p.m. at the senior center. Info: (765) 983-7309.

• Night Hikes, Cope Environmental Center and Hayes Arboretum, 801 Elks Road, Richmond. Schedule: (765) 962-3745 or www.hayes arboretum.org • Zumba at the Y with Robert Chandler, 5:45 p.m.-6:45 p.m.

Wednesdays, Richmond Family YMCA, 2023 Chester Blvd., Richmond.

Dance away 500-1,100 calories. Sweat to Reggae, Reggaeton, Salsa, Samba, Cha-Cha, Merangue, Cumbia, Belly-dance and more. $5 per class, with the first class free.

MUSIC

• Chanticleer String Quartet - free concerts, 12:15 p.m. Aug. 2, Artsgarden, Indianapolis; 2 p.m. Aug. 3, Morrisson-Reeves Library; 9:30 a.m. Aug. 5, First Friends Meeting, Chester Boulevard, Richmond; 3:30 p.m. Aug. 5, Chanticleer Farm, 944 Woods Road, Richmond (rain location Carpenter Hall, Earlham College). Free. Featuring music by pianist W.F. McDaniel (who is performing as a guest artist with the quartet); Schubert, Mozart, Ellington and Brahms.

• Gospel Sing, Fridays, Go Ministries, International, 5125 U.S. 40, New Paris. Aug. 3, Roy Knipp and Southern Harmony; Aug. 10, Ministers Quartet; Aug. 17, Ed Crawford; Aug. 24, Mike and Amanda Berger; Aug. 31, State of Grace. Info: (937) 456-4442 • Summer Concert Series, 8 p.m.-10 p.m., Fridays in August, Glen Miller Park, 2200 E. Main St., Richmond. All ages welcome. Schedule: Aug. 3, Cook & Belle play all types of music from classic country to rock. Aug. 10, Big Daddy Caddy plays classic and hard rock, dance, and hip-hop, to country, pop, and blues from the ’50s through today.

Aug. 17, Jonny Hazard features Randy and Bryan Baker on lead guitar and Bill Amiot on bass. Jonny Hazard plays a mix of rock and blues

music with nods to the styles of players such as Eric Clapton, BB King and other rock and blues greats. Aug. 24, Jr. Davis and the Funyard Dogs. Led by frontman Dan Davis Jr., The Funkyard Dogs offer an eclectic mix of dance, Motown, rhythm and blues and rock music. Finale starts at 7 p.m. Aug. 31 with a variety of acts, inflatable slide and obstacle course and food vendors.

• Bluegrass gospel music concerts, William G. Scott House (formerly Knights of Columbus Hall), 204 N. 10th St., Richmond.

Hosted by Mae Wagers. Schedule: 6-8 p.m. Aug. 7, Crimson Hill (formerly Durham Family); Sept. 4, Earl Wiseman and Kentucky Express.

Info: (765) 935-3476.

• Barn Concert, 6-10 p.m., Aug. 10, Preble County Senior Center, 800 E. St. Clair St., Eaton, Ohio. Cost: $5. Music will be provided

by The Renegade Railroad, a four-piece cover band. Concessions available for purchase. All ages are welcome. Info: (937) 456-4947 • Gennett Walk of Fame Music Festival, Sept. 8, Whitewater Gorge Park, 201 S. First St., Richmond. Information: (765) 962-2860 or starrgennett.org • Bryan Duncan Concert, 7 p.m.-10 p.m., Sept. 9, Fountain City Wesleyan Church, 5600 U.S. 27 N., Richmond. Contemporary Christian singer, songwriter, author, humorist, conversationalist, radio show host, and Harley rider Bryan Duncan. Cost: $12 at the door, $10 in advance, and group sales = 15 tickets for $100. All proceeds from the tickets sold will be given to local youth groups and community service organizations. Tickets available at Trinity Christian Gifts & Books, Fountain City Wesleyan Church, and online at www. itickets.com. Group sales not available online. Info: (765) 994-1004

SOCIAL EVENTS

• Dances, Richmond Senior Community Center, 1600 S. Second St., Richmond. Dances scheduled July 30, Sept. 24 and Nov. 12. No pitch-in is planned this year. Info: (765) 983-7300.

• Interaction Singles Dance, Eagles Lodge. 75 S. 12th St., Richmond. Meeting and dance each Friday. Must be 21 or older and single. Social hour from 7-8 p.m., discussion from 8-9 p.m. and dance from 9 p.m.-midnight. Eagles membership not required. Cost: $6. Info: (765) 935-1278.

• Cruisin’ on First Fridays, Aug. 3 and Sept. 7, Historic Depot District, Fort Wayne Avenue, Richmond. Info: (765) 966-5654 or www.InHistoricRichmond.com • Derby Days, Aug. 16-18, Lewisburg, Ohio, Derby race, parade, games, car show and bike show, followed by fireworks in Lewisburg Park. Info: (937) 962-2413. Sponsored by the Tri-County North Community Association.

• Jubilee Days with S.I.R.A Go-Karting Grand Prix, Aug. 18, Downtown Hagerstown, Ind. From 4-9 p.m. Aug. 18 and 9 a.m. - 11 p.m. Aug. 19, the event sponsored by the Nettle Creek Lions Club is a weekend full of food, fun, games, music and more. Free. Info: (765) 993-2061.

THEATER

• “Hairspray,” Aug. 17-19 and 24-26, Richmond Civic Theatre, 1003 E. Main St., Richmond. Showtimes: Friday-Saturday,7:30 p.m.; Sundays, 2 p.m. Adults $15, students $12, seniors $12. 765-962-1816 or www.richmondcivictheatre.org

• “Little Shop of Horrors,” 8 p.m., Sept. 7, Civic Hall Performing Arts Center, 380 Hub Etchison Pkwy, Richmond. Tickets: $15. For ticket reservations, call the Civic Hall box office at (765) 973-3350.

Presented by The Space Between Productions.

HISTORY/LITERATURE

• Gaar House & Farm Museum tours, 1 p.m.-4 p.m., July 29, Gaar House & Farm Museum Tours, 2593 Pleasant View Road, Richmond. Tours given on the first and third Sundays in July and August. Tours available at 1,2,3 and 4 p.m. Cost: $5 per adult; 18 years and younger, $2. Info: (765) 966-1262 or www.waynet.org/nonprofit/gaar_mansion.htm • Jonah Lehrer “Imagine: How Creativity Works,” 1 p.m., Aug. 21, Earlham College’s Goddard Auditorium, Carpenter Hall, 801 National Road W., Richmond. Jonah Lehrer hailed as “an important new thinker” by The Los Angeles Times, is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of “Imagine: How Creativity Works,” “Proust Was a Neuroscientist” and” How We Decide.” He talks about how we make decisions and how we can make better decisions. Lehrer is a contributing editor at Wired Magazine and National Public Radio’s Radio Lab. He has also written for The New Yorker, Nature, The New York Times, and The Wall Street Journal. www.jonahlehrer.com.

• “The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks,” 1 p.m., Sept. 12, Goddard Auditorium, Carpenter Hall, 801 National Road West, Richmond. The international success of Rebecca Skloot’s New York Times bestseller, “The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks,” has left people keenly interested in the Lacks Family and Henrietta’s legacy. David “Sonny” Lacks, Henrietta’s son shares with audiences what it meant to find out, decades after the fact, that his mother’s cells were being used in laboratories around the world, bought and sold by the billions. Sonny puts a personal face to big issues such as the dark history of experimentation on African-Americans, the birth of bioethics, and the legal battles over “informed consent” and whether we control the stuff we’re made of, and should share in the profits.

SOCIAL SERVICES

• Domestic Violence Support Group, 6:30 p.m.-7:30 p.m. Thursdays, Genesis of the YWCA, 15 S. 11th St., Richmond. Free. Support for victims and survivors of domestic violence. Info: (765) 9660538; 24-hour crisis line is (765) 935-3920 or (800) 886-4508 • Food Giveaway, 8 a.m.-11 a.m., July 28, Gateway Vineyard Fellowship, 3361 Indiana 227 N., Richmond. Gateway gives away 1,000 of pounds of food to the community. Info: (765) 966-6016 or www. gatewayvineyard.org • Free Clothing Bank, 1 p.m.-3 p.m., Aug. 4, Northside Church of Christ, 1962 Chester Blvd., Richmond. Open to the community the first Saturday of the month.

Find more events in the daily Palladium-Item newspaper and in the www.pal-item.com calendar. If your group would like to submit an event to be considered for this calendar, please post it in the online calendar or send it to Millicent Martin at mmartin@pal-item. com or 1175 N. A St., Richmond, IN 47374. Information should be submitted by Aug. 20 for consideration for the next issue.

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The sole problem

is no socks

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BY LORI BORGMAN

A man was on a television news show wearing a nice suit, hard sole leather shoes and no socks.

“Look at that,” I said to the husband. “He must be single and ran out of laundry. Bet he’ll kick himself all the way home for going on television with no socks. His mother is probably leaving him a voicemail right now.”

Then I came across a picture on a website of an executive wearing a nice suit and expensive shoes and no socks.

Two men in two days out of clean socks. What are the chances?

Then I saw an advertisement with a man posing by a motorcycle. He was wearing skinny dark pants, a light blue shirt, dark tie, dark suit jacket and sleek leather dress shoes with no socks. How could this many men be out of clean socks?

Turns out none of them were out of socks. Going sockless is the next big thing for men — hard sole leather dress shoes sans socks.

That’s right, men, show us your big hairy ankles.

Women will go for this. Or they also might say, “Ick. That’s disgusting.”

Someone has said it is the new fashion statement for rich men. The new rich man won’t tell you he is rich, he just doesn’t wear socks with his $2,300 Italian leather dress shoes.

Great idea, but no matter how rich you are, your feet still stink. Everybody’s feet stink, especially if you wear closed shoes without socks.

Let’s say you are out to dinner trying to impress a client by not wearing socks and your bare feet start to get all hot and sticky. The balls of your feet stick to the lining of the shoes. You shake the lining off inside your shoes but they stick again. Your feet feel gummy.

You become obsessed with your sweaty feet and quietly slip off your shoes, but the lining of both shoes is stuck to the bottom of both feet.

Not only is this embarrassing, a woman at the table next to you shrieks, “What smells?”

Wearing nice dress shoes without socks is on a par with mannyhose. It will be a fashion trend that men will one day regret, right up there with leisure suits, harem pants and skinny jeans.

We women have our own fashion regrets. Among the top three is the dickie. It was the neck part of a turtleneck that you could slip over your head to make it look like you were wearing a turtleneck beneath every shirt, sweater and sweatshirt.

The second most regrettable trend for women is linebacker-size shoulder pads. They slid. They could slide to your chest, creating a third wonder of nature, or they could slide down your back. “That’s an awful growth, dear, you really should see a doctor.”

The current cut of women’s clothing that resembles maternity wear may be the third most regrettable fashion trend. The big billowy tops and dresses make for wonderful camouflage, but it is jarring to see postmenopausal women walking about in third trimester clothing.

The only man I ever heard of that routinely went without socks was Albert Einstein. But he never combed his hair either.

Lori Borgman is a columnist, author and speaker.

Contact her at lori@loriborgman.com

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Humor

The Metamora Mill Whitewater Canal

State Historic Site

It’s like stepping back in time to walk through a few blocks of Metamora, which is about 40 miles from Richmond.

It’s a mixture of history, kids riding bicycles and shops with antiques, ice cream, knickknacks and fun cookie jars.

You can see ducks walk across the street as if they own the road, and watch them seek shade along the canal bank.

Canals are key to Metamora’s history and present.

During its booming period, the Whitewater Canal powered at least four mills in the village, according to a Ball State University report.

If you’ve never been there, you might have seen a photo of the Metamora Mill, which historians say is the only late 19th-century hydraulic mill still intact in the state with local, state and national

significance.

The mill processed cotton in 1847 and changed to flour in 1856, but it caught fire in 1883. The brick mill standing today was completed in 1897 and its floor plan was based on the original.

It takes just a few moments to browse the museum and its gift shop to gain an appreciation for its historic value.

Visitors can see items including a sifter, French buhrstones and a pair of 24-inch upright buhrstones used to make flour.

Admission is free. The museum is open April through October. Its hours of operation are 9 a.m-5 p.m.

Wednesdays through Sunday and it is open on Labor Day to accommodate visitors for the Old Time Music Festival, which is planned from 10 a.m.-9 p.m. Sept. 1 and noon-5 p.m. Sept. 2.

Recreation

If you go You can visit the town of Metamora, Ind. at any time. Shop owners set their own hours.

Info: Call the Welcome Line at (866) 647-6555 or visit the website www. metamoraindiana.com Call (765) 647-6512 for the museum’s November and December hours and learn more at indianamuseum.org.

Metamora isn’t hard to reach.

Just head south on U.S. 27, stay straight on Indiana 101, which becomes Indiana 1, then turn right on U.S. 52 until you arrive in the town.

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On the local

public bus

By Emma Condori Mamani

Before coming to Richmond as a student at Earlham School of Religion, I lived in the capital city of Bolivia for 10 years. Bolivians rely on public transportation, so the public bus gathers people from different social classes, ages, cultures, religions, and so on. Like other Bolivians, I ride the bus or the minibus daily in order to get to school, to work and to visit family members and friends.

Although there were plenty of public buses, I always said I was lucky to have a seat when I got on the bus. If not, I was still grateful that I was riding the bus with all those people. The small bus can have 30 seats, but because many passengers wanted to ride, the friendly and caring driver might have 50 passengers on the bus. Sometimes senior citizens, children, or women with babies are given preference by others for the seats. Rarely would passengers complain about how crowded the bus was; the important thing was that we were there all together.

Here in Richmond I ride the public bus, too. I often ride the bus in Richmond to go all places such as to the supermarkets, to the restaurants, to the bank and to the public offices in downtown.

For instance, I usually go to Walmart in order to buy groceries on Saturdays. Riding the bus on a Saturday brought to me sweet memories of public transportation service in Bolivia. Riding the bus is great in Richmond because of the amazing service and fellowship on it. I do feel very much at home. ****** In Richmond, passengers don’t need to raise their hands to stop the public bus. They just wait at the bus stop or on the corner at the exact time of the bus’s arrival. The driver picks them up, as parents pick up their children from school after classes are over. The driver knows each of them and they know him or her.

I am traveling on the first bus to Downtown. According to the Rose View Transit schedule, the Kmart and Downtown bus passes by Speedway at 9:45 a.m. I am waiting on the corner of National Road West and Fifth Street. The driver opens the door, with a friendly smile. He says, “Hi, come in.”

“Hi,” I greet him as I get on the bus. I take from the pocket of my jacket a $1 bill and a quarter. I put them in the money slot machine. The bus fares vary according to the passengers, so I pay only $1.25 because I am a student.

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for the set of purple tickets that are tied to a black thin bar near the wheel.

“Yes, I do. Please,” I reply. Passengers use the ticket to take the next bus at the bus station, but if I go to only Kmart, I do not need it. I appreciate that this driver asks me about it.

It is amazing to see how the driver treats the passengers, like me, with patience and care all along the way. He stops the bus and opens the door with kindness and with a smiling face. The passengers get into the bus, and greet him. Before they look for a seat, they show him their bus pass, or put in the regular fee of $1.50 in the small payment machine by the bus door. Some of the passengers have their bus passes in plastic bags that hang on their necks like necklaces of identity. The driver doesn’t really pay attention to the payment issue at all since he already knows his passengers. Instead the driver focuses on welcoming them to the bus just as a flight attendant does.

The driver is listening to 70s classic music. He is wearing sunglasses and a uniform — a sky blue shirt and blue pants, which look good with his white hair and white skin.

He is talking to us with a joyful voice.

I am riding the bus that goes on Route Four. As I am looking through the window of the bus, I see a variety of neighborhoods. While we drive along West Main Street, I enjoy seeing the neighborhoods where most of the houses look like huge mansions.

I talk to the driver: “I really like each of these neighborhoods because of the houses that are new and with mowed lawns.” He thinks a little bit, and says, “I have been working as a public bus driver for eight years and before that I drove a school bus for seven years. As I drive on all six routes weekly, I see progress being made in different neighborhoods. Some old houses are torn down in order to build new ones.”

“I noticed that when a friend of mine gave me a short tour of this city last year,” I respond to him. “There are very wonderful old classic houses in this city, but in some neighborhoods, the owners don’t seem to care about them.”

“After a couple of blocks as we reach Peacock Road, North West First, you will see poor neighborhoods with many deteriorated old houses.” Then he says with a loud voice, “But friendly people live in them.”

Some of the neighbors who live there, even though they don’t use the public bus very often, know the driver.

While we pass by, an adult couple working on their gar-

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den wave to say hello to the driver.

We arrive at the bus station after 10 minutes, which is located in the center of downtown. There I encounter lots of passengers, drivers and buses. Most of the passengers change buses in order to go to different destinations. The driver of the first bus says to each passenger, “Have a nice day” or “See you later.” The passengers respond to him, “You too, Mike” or “Thank you.”

The bus station becomes a very busy place after a couple of minutes because of the transition between passengers and drivers. There are four medium-sized buses that meet at the bus station in order to have new drivers and passengers. It is not a fancy bus station and is part of a parking garage. Once each of the buses is ready, they depart to the north, south, west and east of the Richmond from this station. ****** I am traveling on the second bus “East Main.” The bus is full of passengers of all ages, genders, and classes — lower and middle. A man who looks like a hip-hop singer is travelling with his several-month-old baby. The baby’s basket is put on one seat next to his dad’s seat. A man who has been called Chris by several passengers on the bus says with a lovely voice, “Is he the future, man?”

“He is,” replies the father of the baby. The baby is a special passenger on the bus even though he doesn’t speak like other passengers. Most babies want to be famous on buses by crying a lot, but this baby doesn’t.

The driver who is a kind, adult woman is challenged to offer the best service this morning because there are many more stops than usual. There is one passenger who gets off on 13th street, and two passengers are waiting to get on the bus. She opens the door and says, “Hi guys, one of you will need to stand up. I am sorry, guys.”

“That’s OK, Vicky,” replied Johnny.

The passengers notice how hard the driver is working this morning so they help her by offering their seats to older people or to women.

The bus stops on the corner of 11th Street, and a senior woman gets on it. Before she finishes paying for her passage, one of the men, who has Down Syndrome, offers his seat to this woman. “Oh, that is kind of you, Bill,” says the driver. The woman says, “Thank you, thank you” with soft words as she sits on the seat.

There are two passengers waiting on the corner of 17th Street. One of them is a heavy guy and the other passenger is a young woman. Chris offers his seat to this woman.

“I can stand up, Chris,” she says.

“Come on, you are a lady, Sue!” responds Chris. She has a surprised face as well as other passengers because of Chris’ nice attitude. She sits by saying, “Thank you so much, Chris.”

Almost all seats are now empty on this bus that has been crowded. Maybe this driver will not be the one who will come to pick up these passengers, but she will see them at the bus station sometime later that day.

A driver works Monday to Saturday but they choose

any day as the day off. There is no bus service on Sundays.

“How many drivers work in the public bus transportation system in Richmond? Do you think that the bus transportation is good here”? I asked while the driver is drinking her soda. She responds, “We have 17 drivers including the substitutes. The bus transportation is good here. We usually have six buses working every day according to regular hours of operation. We do not offer a service in the evenings anymore because there are not many passengers at that time.”

I then asked a woman passenger who has a monthly bus pass, “What do you think about public bus service?”

She looks at me and I can see that her eyes are jumping for joy on her smiling face, and she says, “Oh! The drivers are very nice and friendly! For example, if you don’t know how to get somewhere, you just tell the drivers about it and they will help you. You are in good hands. ... You’re not from here, are you?”

“No. I am a student at Earlham. I am from Bolivia,” I reply.

Summer of 2009 was the first time I rode the public buses in Richmond. A friend of mine who loves using the public bus showed me how to use it. Not only did she give me instructions on how to use the public transportation, but also she went with me the first time. She told me that the drivers and the people who use the public buses are very nice.

In my third time of using the public transportation that summer, I wanted to use my transfer ticket after several hours, but the driver told me that I could not use it anymore. When I talked about it with the driver, I was a little bit confused about it since I did not know how the system of transfer tickets works. Fortunately, I was helped by an older Afro American woman who was sitting in the first seat on that bus who witnessed my conversation with the driver, and she gave me $1.50 quickly to pay my ticket before I asked the driver about the solution to my situation. Her attitude left me without words. After this pause, I thanked her a lot. Indeed I thought of giving her $100 because of her kindness. But I realized that goodness and kindness can not be sold or bought as a treasure.

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Emma Condori Mamani is a student at the Earlham School of Religion.

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Restaurant profile: J&J Winery

You don’t even have to drink wine or beer to enjoy the creative food options and scenic beauty of J&J Winery.

The winery at 3415 National Road W. has expanded its offerings with locally operated Big Dawg Brewhaus, which began operating there in September 2011.

The small brewery competed with and bested some of the Midwest’s best in the Indiana State Fair Brewer’s Cup competition in Indianapolis earlier this month.

The contest featured 1,100 entries and Big Dawg collected a gold medal in the California Common beer category and a bronze medal for the brewery’s entry in the English Bitter beer competition.

Big Dawg brews 20 different craft beers, with between three and six available at any one time at J&J Winery.

J&J’s wines have also won awards. The red, white and fruit wines feature names gods and goddesses such as Dionysus Barbera, Aphrodite Riesling and Helios Blackberry. Soft drinks are also available.

Food options include Italian wood-fired pizzas (ranging from BBQ pulled pork to Italian, Greek, Margarita, Mexican, Portabella & Gouda, Spicy Buffalo Chicken, five cheese and veggie), paninis and bread twists.

Sandwiches, with names such as the Italian Stallion and Spicy Chicken Revenge, are available with the choice of panini, wraps or pretzel bun.

Some enjoy appetizers with their beverages, such as creamy spinach and artichoke dip; three cheese, fresh fruit and cracker trays; baked brie cheese with blackberry preserves and caramelized almonds; and chicken ranch tostada.

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J&J Winery patrons look over the fountain, and brewmaster Richard Shroyer works at Big Dawg Brewhaus, which is located at the winery. Palladium-Item file photos. special on a night out.

The winery also offers ticketed concerts and occasional live music, and hosts special events such as meetings, parties and weddings.

AT A GLANCE

What: J&J Winery and Big Dawg Brewhaus Where: 3415 National Road W. Hours: Varies by the season. Summer wine tasting and sales: 11 a.m.-5 p.m. Wednesdays; 3-10 p.m. ThursdaysFridays; 11 a.m.-10 p.m. Saturdays and 11 a.m.-5 p.m. Sundays. Cafe hours: Closed Wednesdays; 3-9 p.m. Thursdays; 3-10 p.m. Fridays; 11 a.m.-10 p.m. Saturdays and 11 a.m.-5 p.m. Sundays. Pizzas available after 4 p.m.

Phone number: (765) 965-9463 Website: jjwinery.com and bigdawgbrewhaus.com Cost: According to the J&J website, a glass of wine is $6.50; wine flight sampling is $10. Bottles range from $12.99-$22.99. Sandwiches are $7.95-$8.95; appetizers range from $4.95-$10.49. Pizzas are $10.79.

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High heat grilling

means high flavor and healthy Associated Press

MARINATED PORK KEBABS Start to finish: 30 minutes (plus marinating time) Servings: 4 16 ounces pork tenderloin, cut into 1 1/2-inch chunks 1 small eggplant, cut into 1-inch chunks 2 portobello mushrooms, quartered 2 small red onions, quartered 1 large red bell pepper, cored and cut into large chunks 1 large green bell pepper, core and cut into large chunks 2 tablespoons olive oil 1/2 cup red wine vinegar 1 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon ground black pepper 2 tablespoons minced fresh rosemary 2 tablespoons minced fresh thyme 3 cloves garlic, minced Thread the pork, eggplant, mushrooms, red onions and both bell peppers onto wooden or metal skewers, alternating the meat and vegetables as you go. Arrange the skewers in a shallow dish that allows them to lay flat. A 9-by-13-inch pan usually works well.

In a small bowl, whisk together the olive oil, red wine vinegar, salt, pepper, rosemary, thyme and garlic. Pour

over the skewers, turning and massaging them with your hands to thoroughly coat the meat and vegetables.

Cover with plastic wrap and refrigerate for 2 hours or up to overnight.

When ready to cook, heat the grill to high. Using a paper towel soaked in vegetable oil held with a pair of tongs, lightly oil the grates.

Place the skewers on the grates and cook for 7 minutes per side, or until the meat registers 145 F. Serve immediately.

Nutrition information per serving (values are rounded to the nearest whole number): 260 calories; 70 calories from fat (27 percent of total calories); 8 g fat (1.5 g saturated; 0 g trans fats); 75 mg cholesterol; 19 g carbohydrate; 28 g protein; 8 g fiber; 310 mg sodium

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Celebrate with healthier take on classic apple pie Associated Press

APPLE PHYLLO CIGARS Phyllo dough tears easily. So while this recipe needs only 4 sheets, it’s a good idea to have 6 or 8 thawed and ready to use. Most packages contain about 40 sheets.

Start to finish: 45 minutes Makes 8 cigars 1/4 cup sugar 1/2 teaspoon cinnamon 1/4 teaspoon ground nutmeg 2 Gala or Fuji apples, peeled, cored and diced Small pinch salt 1 teaspoon lemon juice 1 teaspoon water 1 teaspoon cornstarch 4 sheets phyllo dough Butter-flavored or plain cooking spray In a small bowl, stir together the sugar, cinnamon and nutmeg.

In a medium skillet over medium-high heat, toss the apples with 1 tablespoon of the sugar mixture and the salt. Saute until just tender, about 3 to 4 minutes.

In a small cup, mix together the lemon juice, water and cornstarch. Stir into the apples and cook for another 30 seconds, or until thickened. Remove from heat and allow to cool.

When ready to assemble the cigars, heat the oven to 400 F. Coat a baking sheet with cooking spray.

Evenly stack the 4 sheets of phyllo dough. With a paring knife, slice the stack in half lengthwise. Remove one half sheet from the stack and cover the rest with plastic wrap, then a damp, but not wet, kitchen towel.

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Place the piece of phyllo dough in front of you and spoon 1 tablespoon of the apple filling across one of the short ends. Spritz the dough lightly with cooking spray and sprinkle lightly with about 1/2 teaspoon of the reserved spiced sugar.

Starting with the apple end, roll up the pastry sheet to create a log with the apples in the middle. Place the cigar on the prepared baking sheet, with the loose end down. Repeat with the remaining apple filling, sugar mixture and pastry sheets.

Spray the tops of the cigars lightly with cooking spray and sprinkle with a bit more of the sugar. Bake for 15 minutes, or until golden and crisp. Serve warm or at room temperature.

Nutrition information per cigar (values are rounded to the nearest whole number): 70 calories; 10 calories from fat (14 percent of total calories); 1 g fat (0 g saturated; 0 g trans fats); 0 mg cholesterol; 16 g carbohydrate; 1 g protein; 1 g fiber; 55 mg sodium.

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quick tips Making small changes like these can have a big impact on your well-being.

Eye drops When using eye drops, keep your eye closed for a minute or so after the drop is instilled.

It will help with the absorption of the medicine.

Stick to the list Grocery stores are set up to encourage impulse buying.

Make a list of the items you need and then only purchase items on that list. This can help cut down your grocery bill — and the time you spend in the store.

Follow the directions Almost every exercise program you read about cautions you to check with your health care provider before starting the program. Do it! Discuss the benefits and risks of each program you are considering. Your health care provider can help guide you in making the choice that is best for you.

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Common sense still applies It is difficult to pick up a newspaper, read a magazine or watch a television program without seeing advertisements for new diets and exercise programs.

Amazing results are promised. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. Use common sense when approaching lifestyle decisions. Eat a variety of fruits and vegetables, include whole grains in your meal plan, decrease the amount of fat and salt in you the food you consume and get some exercise. Sometimes the most basic plan is the best.

Computer time Sitting in front of a computer screen is our reality now. We use computers at work, pay bills with them at home and use them to keep in touch with friends and family. If you spend long periods of time at a computer, make sure you get up and get away for short breaks. Walk around the office or down the hall, stretch your neck muscles and relax your fingers.

Taking a break can refresh your body and your mind.

Texting and walking Whether or not we like it, texting is now a way of life. We hear about the dangers of texting and driving, but don’t forget about texting while walking.

People can become so involved in the text they are sending that they will not pay attention to others nearby or to traffic signals. If you must send a text, stop, send the text and then resume walking.

Your life might depend on it.

Source: Pat Murrah, community benefit coordinator for Reid Hospital & Health Care Services

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Track surfing

with your router

Question: Each of my kids has a computer. I’d like a way to monitor what sites they go to without installing software on every computer. Can my router log the sites they visit?

Answer: Most modern routers can log Web surfing.

Open your router’s settings by typing your router’s IP address into your browser. Check the manual if you don’t know the router’s address. You’ll usually find logging options in the Security menu.

COLUMN However, your router might give

BY KIM you only a list of visited IP addresses, KOMANDO which means you won’t easily know what sites these are connected to.

Instead, consider using a service like OpenDNS. It will filter your home network for objectionable content. You can also check what sites your kids visit on your OpenDNS account’s Stats menu, and the service will notify you if your child tries to visit a blocked site.

Social media marketing tips Q: I just made a business page for my Facebook.

What posts will my customers like the most?

A: I would worry less about what types of posts you make, and more about how often you’re posting.

If you don’t post a few times a day, your business won’t be noticed.

Try offering a Facebook-only promo or discount.

Also, post updates about new products or menu items and ask for suggestions about what customers would like to see from you. Customers are far more likely to give feedback online than they are in person.

I always love it when a business does non-promotional posts, too. Tell a quick joke or comment on a news story related to your field. This will engage old customers and new customers alike.

They might even see you as less of a business and more of a friend!

Amazon email scam Q: Amazon sent me a message saying my book order has been canceled. I didn’t order anything from that site. Is this some sort of scam?

A: This is one of the oldest tricks in the scammer book.

The goal is to send this message to hundreds of people and hope that one of them did order from Amazon recently. Once the scammers find someone, they ask for account information and credit card numbers to “fix” the problem. We all know what happens from there!

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to correct an error through email.

Instead, a company would use email to instruct you on how to fix the problem on its website.

Always visit the site manually instead of clicking any links in the email.

Additionally, always check with the company before opening any unsolicited attachments. Scammers like to hide viruses in those.

Store your photos Q: I have tons of photos organized on my computer.

I’m running out of storage space, though. Will portable storage methods save my organizational scheme?

A: DVDs and flash drives are both candidates for storing photos.

DVDs hold about 1,000 photos, depending on the file size. To burn your photos to a DVD, right-click a photo folder and chose Send ToDVD drive.

Then, go to StartComputer, right click the DVD drive and select Burn to Disc. You’ll need a DVD burner for this, of course. Once you burn the disc, you’ll be able to view your files only, not modify them.

If you still need to edit the pictures, a flash drive is a better choice. The largest drives can hold about 20,000 photos.

Moving files to these is a little easier — just drag and drop your folders to the device. To keep your organization intact, just drag your entire Pictures folder over.

Managing your Timeline Q: I’m having trouble taking a post off of my Timeline in Facebook. I don’t want someone to see stuff I posted five years ago!

A: I don’t blame you. Who wants what they posted years ago sticking around forever? To remove a post from your Timeline, click the pencil icon near the post.

If you made the post, you’ll see the option to delete it.

If someone else posted the content, you’ll only have the option to remove it from your Timeline. To better manage what people can post to your Timeline, go to the upside-down triangle at the top of the page, select the Privacy menu and find the Timeline and Tagging menu. Turn on “Review posts friends tag you in before they appear on your Timeline.” You’ll be notified when someone tries to post a picture of you or tag you in a post. Then you can either confirm or deny it.

Kim Komando hosts the nation’s largest talk radio show about consumer electronics, computers and the Internet. To get the podcast, watch the show or find the station nearest you, visit www.komando.com. Email her at techcomments@usatoday.com.

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of aging

As each of us continues through life we will eventually enter into older adulthood. For many, this phase of life brings feelings of anxiety and fear of the future. The best way to alleviate these emotions is by learning more about what happens as we age and preparing ourselves for the aging process we’ll each experience. Today, people are living longer than ever. In 1900, only 4 percent COLUMN

BY TRACEY of the U.S. population was over the age LICKFELT of 65, but in 2010 that number more than tripled to 13 percent. Our elderly population will only continue to increase in the next 20 years — making it even more imperative that we embrace aging and each experience it brings.

There is a widely held theory among those who study aging that “You are when you are old what you were when you were young, only more so.” In other words, we become more like ourselves as we age. If you are kind and pleasant when you are young, it is likely you will remain kind and pleasant when you grow old.

The life cycle begins with birth and ends with death.

Each phase and age offers us new opportunities to grow and enrich ourselves. As children, we face the challenges of learning to speak and walk. During childhood we encounter an increasingly complex world and must attempt to make sense of our lives. The adolescent years are devoted to becoming responsible for ourselves, and much of our time as an adult is spent in pursuit of a career and developing our own families.

The later, empty-nest years bring their own challenges and tasks such as learning to utilize our time and skills after retirement, or finding a role in our ever-changing family dynamic.

Puzzle Solutions

The challenge

It is in the older adult phase of life that we are able to most completely reflect on all that we have experienced and accomplished. Ideally, we feel fulfilled and see our lives as being meaningful and having purpose — for ourselves and others. It’s important to remember that just like any other life stage; our older years bring growth and continued learning each and every day. For some, the growing may arise from experiencing pain or loss while others will learn from periods of great joy or happiness. No matter the situation, each one of us has complete control on our own reactions and the ability to attain peace of mind and make every experience good.

Tracey Lickfelt, LMHC, is a Wayne County Clinic Coordinator at Centerstone. She may be reached at tracey. lickfelt@centerstone.org. Centerstone, a not-for-profit provider of community-based behavioral healthcare, provides a range of programs and services for children, adolescents, adults, seniors and families living with mental health or addiction disorders. For more information or to speak to a Centerstone counselor please call (800) 344-8802 or visit www.centerstone.org.

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Record store memories

By Joanna Fawcett Bruns

June 7, 2012, was the day I realized if you keep pursuing hope and happiness, you will find it. That day I was blessed with finding someone from my childhood memories who I thought didn’t exist any longer.

There there, you just have to ask.

I belong to a website that allows people to share memories of growing up in Richmond. Through there we mention old businesses and the people who managed them. For a lot of us, it stirs our hearts and emotions again of what once was.

Someone had mentioned Specialty Record Store and of course I thought of the two men who ran the place.

To my amazement, a friend on the site said yes, John Bryant is still in the area and comes to the Community Kitchen at St. Paul’s Episcopal Church on North A Street every month, or tries to.

My heart started pumping faster. I asked her, “Do you think possibly I could volunteer and hopefully see him again?” She said she didn’t see why not.

So on my calendar it went, and the day had come, first Thursday of the month.

I woke up with anticipation to see the gentleman who touched the hearts of so many back in the 1960s.

I live near the Liberty, Ind., area, so I left early to get a good parking spot, parked and went in.

I met everyone and how nice and welcoming they were. I felt so blessed to give of my time for others.

So now it was time for us to open the doors and bless the people who had come for a wonderful lunch and socializing.

It wasn’t but two minutes later my friend Barbara said, “There he is,” and I turned around and it was like I went back in time. Like a child who saw the Christmas presents and was waiting for the word ‘go’ to go over and introduce myself, for I knew he wouldn’t remember me. It had been since 1967.

As I approached him, already sitting in his spot, I knelt down to his sitting level and told him who I was.

It was as if he never forgot a moment of memory ever. I told him my brother’s name and he said ‘Yes, he was my manager at Hill’s Roses.” I was in disbelief. I started to rattle off others’ names and oh, yes, he knew!

I had to get up and help begin serving, but that for me was not the end. As soon as lunch was over, I dared to ask him for a picture. Oh, at first, no, no, not necessary, so humble, but I talked him into it. He came to the kitchen and that is where it all happened. My photo of him and me is something more precious than gold.

And out of nowhere he said, “And I remember your mother too!”

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It was as if I didn’t hear him right, saying, “You do?”

“Oh, yes, used to give her a hard time on the city bus.”

And I said, “John, you know she passed away last year.” He said, “Yes, I know.” I was so taken at his keen memory, I just let the tears flow and gave him a hug.

That day I was so blessed to have found him again, blessed at the wonderful staff that dedicates themselves every month for the goodness of helping others, and the other churches as well.

I plan to keep in touch with him and make sure he’s doing OK. What a wonderful, kind, polite human being he is.

I was so blessed that day and wouldn’t trade that moment with him for anything. And couldn’t, for it’s tucked away deep inside my heart.

Thank you, God, for keeping John still in your care and for others ... don’t ever give up on that blessing that could be around the corner for you.

Richmond is full of blessings and wonderful people in it to make it happen!

Joanna Fawcett Bruns lives in West College Corner, Ind.

AT A GLANCE

Generations of Richmond music lovers whiled away their free time at the downtown Specialty Record Shop.

Founded and operated by Mr. and Mrs. Henry Bass and Mr. and Mrs. Harold Kelley, it was one of Richmond’s first black-owned businesses on Main Street.

From 1947 to 1980, store owners and employees greeted teens and adults in search of favorite records and a place to hang out.

The sign later became part of the collection of the Indiana State Museum in Indianapolis.

Joanna Fawcett Bruns recently reconnected with John Bryant, who worked at Specialty Record Store. Supplied

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