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News Around Town School set to open in 2018 Big news: There’s a new school opening next fall!

Washington Preparatory School (WPS) will open fall 2018 to grades six through nine, adding one grade a year until 2022 (the first graduating class).

Mindy J. Watson, formerly of Seattle Academy of Arts and Sciences, will serve as the founding head of school. WPS is temporarily located at 18323 Bothell Everett Highway in Bothell; the hunt is currently on for a 13.5-acre campus with OPENARMSPS.ORG

a 35,000-square-foot building slated to open in fall 2019.

Your new birthday destination Prepare your ping pong paddles! Last month, SPiN Seattle opened its doors at 1511 6th Avenue in downtown Seattle. This “ping pong social destination” offers 12 Olympic-style ping pong tables, private lounge spaces, a full-service restaurant and bar and reservations. It’s bound to be a good time for all ages, for any event so channel your inner Forrest Gump and spin on over.

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n the Jewish tradition, the number 18 has great significance. It’s synonymous with the Hebrew word Chai, which means life. Chai (not familiar teacampus: or “hi” but more like you’re about to We offer on the UniversityChallenging of pronounced Washington K-12 students like theSeattle in an intellectual community clear your throat) is most familiarly used on happy occasions by toasting • Transition School • UW Academy •andSaturday Enrichment through early entrance, L’Chaim —programs. to life. outreach learning • Summer Programs • Professional Development In 2018, our family’s motto will be “to life,” a choice inspired after a rough year, including daily politics, a revered aunt’s death and horrific health issues, We offer on the University of Washington Seattle campus: We offer on the University of Washington Seattle campus: • Transition School • UW Academy • Saturday Enrichment For those who don’t know, in 2017, our adult son survived a wicked and Programs • Professional Development Transition School • UW Academy••Summer Saturday Enrichment rare autoinflammatory disease. Like all parents, a child’s illness triggers For more information, Summer Programs • Professional Development • RC Online your greatest fears, which makes the feature this month (p. 16) all the visit our website: For more information, more personal. Like the 72 percent of Americans mentioned in the article, Challenging K-12 students in an intellectual visit community our website: www.RobinsonCenter.uw.edu www.RobinsonCenter.uw.edu I feverishly Googled my son’s symptoms in search of answers for my through early entrance and outreach learning programs.

Phone: 206-543-4160 206-543-4160 Email: rcys@uw.edu Phone: suffering child who, as a new student at Email: law rcys@uw.edu school in D.C., had no nearby family SATURDAY ENRICHMENT Current Grades K-8 doc to call.

Winter Session: January 20 – March 17 In our feature, you’ll learn how Spring Session: March 31 – May 19 (Registration opens February 26) traditional hospitals and local startups The Saturday Enrichment classes provide intellectually ambitious students with challenge, inspiration, and fun, in a collaborative, supportive learning environlike 98point6 are helping address ment. Classes meet for one or two hours per week on Saturdays at the UW these concerns through virtual care.

Seattle Campus to explore topics not usually covered in the K-8 curriculum.

As for our family, it’s a happy new SUMMER CHALLENGE Current Grades 5-6 year in health.

July 9 – July 27 (Registration opens March 1) Also in 2018, I’m looking forward Summer Challenge is an academically advanced summer camp for motivated to one of our biggest events of the year. children seeking an intensive, hands-on, fun educational experience. The Join us on January 22 to learn how to program runs for three weeks, five days a week from 8:30am – 2:20pm, on the UW Seattle campus. There is also an After-Class program available for an most effectively cultivate courage, curiosity and resilience in ourselves and additional charge from 2:20 – 4:30pm. Classes are small, and instructors are our children. We’ll be hosting a live Q&A on Facebook with Dr. Dan Siegel, all specialists in their field. Application criteria can be found on our website. co-author of the new book “The Yes Brain,” for which “Mindset” author and SUMMER STRETCH Current Grades 7-10 former ParentMap speaker Carol Dweck, Ph.D., recently gave glowing praise.

June 25 – July 26 (Registration opens February 1) Learn more on p. 7.

Summer Stretch offers in-depth, intensive learning experiences as accelerFinally, we’re pleased to celebrate inspiring acts of kindness as we head into ated courses and enrichment courses. Summer Stretch runs 3 days a week (8:30am – 2:30pm) for five weeks beginning June 25 on the UW Seattle 2018. Each month, we hope to motivate you for actions big and small. In the campus.Classes are taught by specialists in their field with a high adult:child series Teens Take Action (p. 13), we’ll profile exceptional local youth who are ratio. There is a substantial homework load; courses are graded and final making a difference in our community through their work with the Gates transcripts are provided. Application criteria can be found on our website.

Foundation Discovery Center. We’re also proud to bring back our Giving RC ONLINE Current Grades 9-12 Together campaign; it’ll promote the good work of local organizations that RC Online is a new accelerated learning opportunity, bringing advanced improve the lives of families in our community. We hope your family will join college-prep curriculum to an online platform for high school students. our Giving Together campaign with your own precious time or treasure.

RC Online provides an inspiring, expansive educational experience as a window into what college-level work will be like; to move students rapidly And with that, here’s to a new year. Seeing that numeric reminder of 18 will, from novice to advanced writers, readers and thinkers via specific skills, I hope, positively guide us and practices and tools. These courses provide challenging curriculum without promote uplifting principles such the logistical, economic and other barriers that come between a student and educational opportunity. Additional information can be found on our website. as kindness, thoughtfulness and selflessness, even in tough times.

Have a happy and healthy www.RobinsonCenter.uw.edu New Year, Phone: 206-543-4160 Email: rcys@uw.edu Alayne and the ParentMap team

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hances are good that you’ve heard of the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation. From poverty to health to education, the foundation and its partners have improved the lives of billions of people. What you might not know: They’re hoping to inspire the next generation of changemakers, too.

Every month this year, we’ll profile one teen from the Seattle area who is making a difference in their community. Some of the teens featured are involved in the Gates Foundation Discovery Center’s Youth Ambassadors Program (YAP), a year-long service learning program for high school students designed to educate, engage and empower youth.

These teens have their sights set on a better, brighter future. Learn how the Gates Foundation Discovery Center is helping them get there and how you can, too.

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Who am I? I’m Lauren Bergman. I’m 16 and in 11th grade at Bellarmine Preparatory School in Tacoma. I first heard of Youth Ambassadors Program through a Circle of Friends in Action (COFIA) club email; it talked about the summer workshop [at the Gates Discovery Center]. It looked interesting and aligned with my passions for community service and politics so I applied. I never expected it to become such a huge aspect of my high school experience.

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teens take action Meet Lauren Bergman continued from page 13 them is inspiring and has opened my mind to new perspectives.

I’ve learned that taking action catalyzes others my age to do the same and leaves a huge impact in my community. For example: my work at Nativity House, where we serve meals to local people who live near my school. Simply cooking and serving meals on a Sunday morning with 10 other students can feed more than 200 people.

During the summer program, I had the opportunity to be part of a team that researched an organization and delivered a presentation to compel our peers to award them a grant.

We toured the headquarters of PATH, where we saw an example of the [type of work] the Gates Foundation funds, and I helped created a presentation to educate people about the harsh working conditions of the chocolate industry.

This year in the Ambassador program, I’m working on a presentation for my school to educate my peers about the work the Gates Foundation is doing. We’re also preparing for The Teen Action Fair this spring (March 24, 10 a.m.–3 p.m. at the Discovery Center which showcases teen leaders. If you are interested in participating in the Teen Action Fair, you can get an application by contacting discoverycenter@gatesfoundation.org).

In the future, I hope to get an internship at the Foundation that aligns with my interest in international business relationships.

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I recommend that parents expose their kids to different perspectives. My parents have done a tremendous job at doing this through our travels abroad, their encouragement for me to participate in many service projects through my school and having an interest in other cultures.

You can do this without traveling, too. An example: Visit the International District in Seattle where you can learn about other cultures through food, history and tradition.

Even more important is establishing relationships with different types of people. My work building homes in New Orleans and at homeless shelters showed me how important having shelter and food is — I’ll admit that I’d previously taken that for granted. Here in Seattle, my Japanese and Sri Lankan friends taught me about racism in our own town and how painful it is to be seen as an outsider.

The Gates Foundation made me aware of worldwide issues and gave me opportunities to take action. Once I became aware of my surroundings, I felt a stronger connection to [other] people and more inclined to help. For me, empowerment occurs when I feel needed and capable. . . . At a time like this, our world needs more people with empathy. n Elisabeth Kramer is associate editor at ParentMap.

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t’s 3 a.m. and you hear your child coughing over the baby monitor.

After you creep quietly into their room to take their temperature without waking them up, you discover they have a fever. Do you rush them to the hospital or wait until morning? If you’re like most parents, you probably turn to a familiar source for help: the internet.

If you’ve been known to spend hours on WebMD or Googling the symptoms of croup, you’re not alone. A 2013 Pew study 72 percent found that 72 percent of Americans search for medical information online. of Americans We spend so much time Googling our search for way to a diagnosis that, as reported by Google in June 2016, about 1 percent medical of the site’s searches related to medical symptoms. And plenty of those Google information searches lead us straight into a doctor’s office or emergency room. online.

Better access to medical care seems like a win-win situation. In today’s increasingly digital world, it makes sense to leverage the tools at our fingertips. But is all of this access to technology making us healthier?

Are there downsides to asking Amazon’s Alexa if our kids have a cold?

The answer depends on whom you ask.

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Health care goes virtual continued from page 17 phone visits with a patient’s regular doctor, 24-hour phone visits with consulting nurses, online visits for common conditions and teledermatology, which offers same-day review of skin photos taken by a primary care physician. This year, it also launched video doctor visits.

Kaiser Permanente’s virtual health care services are staffed by many of the same doctors and nurses you’d see in the office. They accept insurance, and in many cases, there are no copays or cost sharing associated with virtual visits — so seeing a virtual doctor can save you time and money. If the doctor or nurse you consult virtually isn’t able to help you, they’ll refer you to a provider who can.

Cable points to this continuity of care as the reason why virtual health care provides the same level of care as standard providers. And it’s certainly easy to see the benefits. We’re increasingly a population of digital natives, who have come to expect that we can access medical care based on our “convenience and preference,” Cable says. That’s why more than a million virtual visits occur each year at Kaiser Permanente’s Washington facilities alone, he says.

Kaiser Permanente isn’t the only local hospital that’s experimenting with virtual health care. CHI Franciscan in Tacoma offers virtual urgent care (which can be accessed from a website or by phone) and virtual specialist visits, which use encrypted video to connect providers and patients. In the past three years, CHI Franciscan has conducted nearly 12,000 virtual visits.

On average, these virtual visits have increased 15 percent with each year, says Lana Adzhigirey, program manager of Care Transformation for Virtual Health Services at CHI Franciscan. Like Kaiser Permanente, CHI Franciscan accepts standard insurance The providers for its virtual health services (although delivering Adzhigirey notes that Medicare doesn’t cover telemedicine services). virtual care Adzhigirey says this increase in virtual health care services is a benefit to patients. are held to “From headache to mental health to chronic high standards, heart disease, studies show telemedicine to be just as effective as in-person care,” she says.

“The providers delivering virtual care are and there are held to high standards, and there are virtual virtual practice practice protocols guiding their work.”

A variety of internet start-ups also protocols provide virtual health care apps, websites and even integration with Amazon Echo. guiding their HealthTap made news last year when it launched Doctor A.I., the first virtual health work. care provider that you can see simply by asking Alexa about your baby’s fever or that mysterious rash.

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Like an actual doctor, Doctor A.I. asks you a variety of questions and uses data pulled from a database that contains information from more than 105,000 doctors across 141 specialties. Based on your answers, Doctor A.I. suggests a variety of solutions, such as reading doctor-suggested content or connecting you with a physician for a live consultation.

It can even help you schedule an appointment with a local specialist or suggest you go to an urgent care facility.

"Years of diligent, collaborative work of some of the brightest doctors, engineers and data scientists combined with groundbreaking work of some of the best user-experience and visual designers on the planet have brought to life a firstof-its-kind, smart and compassionate Dr. A.I.," wrote Ron Gutman, HealthTap founder and CEO, in a statement on the company's website after the service’s launch last year.

A local start-up, 98point6, launched a similar service in February. Using its app, patients in Washington can connect with primary care physicians, who can answer questions, diagnose and treat non-emergency illnesses, order lab tests and send prescriptions directly to your pharmacy. For now, this service is only available for adults 18 years and older, but the company plans to expand to pediatric care next year.

“We know moms and dads can’t always find the time to visit the doctor, and it can take months to get an appointment these days,” says Samantha Bergin, vice president of marketing for 98point6. “98point6 makes it easy to get expert treatment in as much time as they have on hand and in every context — standing in line at the grocery store, at their child’s soccer game or even while they’re at the office — allowing them to multitask their way back to health.”

Unlike other virtual health care options, 98point6 is free to use — for now. Patients can use the app for free, and are only responsible for the cost of in-person referrals, lab tests or prescriptions they might need. But Bergin says the company plans to begin charging for the service in early 2018.

However, she notes that the cost of a year of 98point6 access will still be less than most copays.

Bypassing the standard health care insurance system isn’t accidental.

98point6 CEO and co-founder Robbie Cape points to this as one of the primary benefits of the service. “It is well documented that

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Not knowing the patient makes a virtual visit susceptible to misdiagnosis and to the need for excessive testing.

” skyrocketing costs and lack of access to quality medical care are two of the biggest challenges facing our health care system today. An unconscionable number of people don’t receive the care they need, physicians are burning out, and employers are hamstrung by health care costs,” says Cape. “98point6 is creating a new approach to primary care where everyone wins: consumers, physicians, businesses, payers and provider groups.”

Not everyone agrees. Many of these services provide on-demand health care, with little or no continuity of provider. As convenient as these visits may be, they come with a warning. “One might argue that a rash is a rash is a rash, and it doesn’t matter who sees it,” Dr. Allan Goroll, a general internist and professor of medicine at Harvard Medical School, told medical publication ACP Internist. “But knowing the patient is critical to a successful virtual visit.

Not knowing the patient makes a virtual visit susceptible to misdiagnosis and to the need for excessive testing.”

Goroll’s warning makes sense. Most of us have experienced the difference in care we receive from a stranger versus a primary care physician we’ve seen for years — and this is particularly true for people with complex chronic medical conditions who rely on a team of providers who are intimately acquainted with their history and treatment.

Still, consulting with a virtual doctor — any virtual doctor — has to be better than trying to Google our way to a diagnosis. So, go ahead and ask Alexa at 3 a.m. if your baby has a cold. Just be smart about when you use virtual health care services and when you access health care the oldfashioned way. n Jody Allard is ParentMap’s managing editor. parentmap.com • Januray 2018 • 19

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e’ve all been there: You’re rushing from work, school pickup, soccer practice or ballet lessons and walk through the door with a finite amount of time to prepare dinner before your kids totally melt down and/or you lose your mind.

In our house, we have exactly 32 minutes — the run time of our sons’ favorite “PAW Patrol” — to get dinner prepped and on the table before someone tries to raid the pantry. That leaves little time for an epic culinary creation that is both edible for finicky little palates and checks off the “feeding your children nutritious food” box in the Parenting 101 handbook.

In our house, we partially prepare meals ahead of time to speed

up the dinner process. My husband, Ethan, has been known to cook a dozen chicken thighs at a time for his own lunches, which usually leaves me with a protein that I can toss with a quickcooking grain or pasta.

We also make sure to keep our fridge and pantry stocked with vegetables and spices that we know our kids enjoy. Curried cauliflower guarantees that both my boys will eat all of their veggies. (The nice thing about cauliflower is you can roast it ahead of time and quickly reheat it, which means a meal in 20 minutes and still time for a glass of wine!)

Because it takes a village, here are more tips from professional chefs, restaurateurs and parents about nailing it at mealtime:

“ Join your local CSA. They provide you with local, organically grown fruits and veggies and introduce kids to new foods they may not have tried otherwise. My kids now love Swiss chard, which is great since it can be cooked into super-easy recipes that only takes 30 minutes and five ingredients.”

— Sara Fleischman, senior technical recruiter at Microsoft “ Once a week I make homemade ranch dip with full-fat sour cream, and slice a bunch of carrots, celery and cucumber sticks. My son, who’s almost 4, never turns down an opportunity to eat some ranch, and plows through lots of veggies in the process.”

— Rachel Marshall, owner of Rachel’s Ginger Beer “ Quinoa bowls! My kids love them. I have celiac’s, so we use a lot of quinoa. We will make a batch in the morning and use it for several meals.

For breakfast, the kids put cashews and yogurt on top with peanut butter or fruit. For lunch or dinner: avocado, cheese sprinkles and tomato.

They love it when I put little sides out and they pick the toppings.”

—K ate Bayley, producer at Seattle-based video company Exit 54 Films “ Buy healthy prepackaged food when necessary.

Precut veggies, salads and fruit can be a lifesaver for prepping lunches when time is limited.”

— Bella Sangar, chef and owner of Village Kitchen

“ We got our now teenage daughter involved in farming when she was little. We used to take her volunteering every Sunday at local farms doing whatever they needed: pick berries, harvest fruit, plant seeds. We did it because we thought it would be a fun activity for her. What we didn’t realize is that she would grow up to appreciate where all the produce came from. She eats simpler and healthier at home and doesn’t mind fixing herself simple meals.”

— Dionne Himmelfarb, pastry chef for Ethan Stowell Restaurants “ I love to take my kids grocery shopping.

We spend a lot of time in the produce aisle talking about what everything is, smelling things, etc. When kids pick what they get to eat and are involved in cooking it, they’re way more inclined to try it!”

— Jill Gregson Zawatski, manager of That Good Hammock “ We ask our boys that they try everything each time we make it, even if they tried it before.

(Sometimes it takes a few tries to develop a palate for some foods.) We also give them lots of praise for trying new things. Letting the kids help with the cooking also helps with them wanting to eat what we make. It’s not always an efficient use of time though … ” — Katlyn Stevens, mom to Tyson, Calvin and Owen

“For end-of-day pickup or carpool, I have a bag of mandarin oranges or apples to give to the kids to stave off the hangries. It buys a little time for dinner prep when you get home; plus, it’s healthy and easy.”

— Anne Theisen, owner of Form Marketing & Design in Seattle “ We have a little garden, and my kids love to eat what they grow. We also do a lot of meal planning and repurpose dinner a couple of nights in a row. For example, we roast a whole chicken on a Monday and make a pot of rice, and then we can make tacos one night and maybe chicken over rice and veggies the next. Super quick!”

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Included with admission. Ages 5 and up.

KidsQuest Children’s Museum, Bellevue. kidsquestmuseum.org ONGOING EVENT Lantern Light Festival. Marvel at the huge, fanciful, hand-crafted Chinese lanterns. Daily through Jan. 7, 5–10 p.m. $14–$23; ages 2 and under free. Washington State Fairgrounds, Puyallup. lanternlightfestival.com

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Sundays, 10 a.m.–3 p.m. FREE. Center for Wooden Boats, Seattle. cwb.org ONGOING EVENT Sing-A-Long-A Sound of Music. Dress as a nun or as the Baroness to belt out “Doe, a deer, a female deer” along with other fans.

January 5–7. $31.25. Ages 8 and up. The 5th Avenue Theatre, Seattle. 5thavenue.org

Star Wars: The Last Jedi. Immerse yourself in IMAX-sized Star Wars action. Show times daily through Jan. 11. $11.95–$16.95.

Film rated PG-13. Pacific Science Center, Seattle. pacificsciencecenter.org Boardwalk Stroll at Shadow Lake Bog. Embark on a self-guided, half-mile walk through this fascinating bog preserve. Daily during daylight hours. FREE; donations accepted. Shadow Lake Nature Preserve, Renton. shadowhabitat.org

Toddler Gym. Play time at Seattle’s neighborhood community centers is free.

Monday–Saturday, various times. FREE. Ages 5 and under with caregiver. Seattle. seattle.gov/parks ONGOING EVENT Classical Tuesdays in Old Town. Make Tuesday special with free live music for the community. 7 p.m. FREE. Slavonian Hall, Tacoma. classicaltuesdays.blogspot.com

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Experiment with movement, stop motion and photography with your family. 1–3 p.m. FREE; preregister. All ages. Henry Art Gallery, Seattle. henryart.org

Martin Luther King, Jr. Day Rally and March. Gather with the community to honor the life and legacy of Dr. King, with the theme “Take a Knee for Justice!” 11 a.m. rally, 12:30 p.m. march. FREE. Garfield High School, Seattle. mlkseattle.org Be the Change: Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Birthday Celebration. Community gathering features music, dance, poetry and a keynote speaker. 11 a.m.–1 p.m. FREE. Greater Tacoma Convention and Trade Center. cityoftacoma.org

Weekday Skate. Ice skate for less during the week. Monday–Friday; check online for “public skating” times. $7; ages 5 and under free; includes skate rental. Sno-King Ice Arenas, Kirkland and Renton. snokingkirkland.com, snokingrenton.com Ballard Church Indoor Play. This neighborhood church opens its doors for families with tots to play out of the rain. Tuesday– Thursday, 10:30 a.m.–1:30 p.m. FREE. Ages 0–8 with adult. Ballard Church, Seattle. ballardchurch.com ONGOING EVENT

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MONDAY Polar Bear Plunge. Gather your courage, then strip down to your suit for an invigorating plunge in Lake Washington. 11 a.m.

Two locations: Gene Coulon Memorial Beach Park, Renton; Matthews Beach, Seattle. FREE. rentonwa.gov, seattle.gov/parks Model Train Festival. Last day to take in an eye-popping array of model trains. 10 a.m.–5 p.m. $11–$14; ages 5 and under free. Washington State History Museum, Tacoma. washingtonhistory.org

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Winter Adventure Hike. Explore Rattlesnake and Christmas lakes on a 2.5-mile, naturalist-led hike. Sundays, Jan. 7–28, 1:30–3:30 p.m. FREE; preregister. Ages 7 and up with adult. Cedar River Watershed Education Center, North Bend. seattle.gov Elephant & Piggie’s We Are In A Play.

Last day to catch Mo Willem’s beloved friends as they make a foray into theater.

Saturday–Sunday, Jan. 13–21. $12–$15. All ages. Tacoma Musical Playhouse. tmp.org

28 Disney LIVE! Mickey & Minnie’s Doorway to Magic. Enjoy the antics of all your favorite Disney characters in this engaging show. 1 and 4 p.m. $20–$75. ShoWare Center, Kent. showare.com Frozen Family Sing Along. Gather with other “Frozen” fans and sing at the top of your lungs. 2–4 p.m. FREE. All ages. King County Library System, Auburn branch. kcls.org

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Mondays, 2–5 p.m. $5–$10. All Together Skate Park, Seattle. alltogetherskatepark.com ONGOING EVENT

OmTots Play Gym. Bounce around and swing from the ceiling on a rainy day.

Monday–Friday, 9:30 a.m.–noon. $10; discounts available. Ages 1–5 with caregiver.

OmCulture Wallingford, Seattle. omculture.com ONGOING EVENT Make a Kazoo. Craft and play a kazoo for National Kazoo Day (Jan. 28). Jan. 22–28.

Included with admission. Ages 0–10 with caregiver. Hands On Children’s Museum, Olympia. hocm.org

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Shoreline Indoor Playground. Huge play gym is a parent’s lifesaver in foul weather.

Monday–Friday, 9:30–11:30 a.m. $3. Ages 1–5 with caregiver. Spartan Recreation Center, Shoreline. shorelinewa.gov ONGOING EVENT Family Story Time. Get cozy in your jammies and bring your favorite stuffy to wind down with bedtime stories and songs.

Tuesdays, 7–7:30 p.m. FREE. All ages. King County Library System, Federal Way branch. kcls.org ONGOING EVENT

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What is Emotional Resilience, and How Can We Develop It? The ability to bounce back from tough experiences — and the pain and sadness they bring — is emotional resilience. It’s a skill we all need. It doesn’t mean that we ignore or ‘shake off ’ our feelings. Rather, we recognize how we feel and learn from our experiences so we can move ahead in a strong and positive way.

As parents, we can help our kids (and ourselves!) develop emotional resilience by practicing certain habits.

We all need to be able to identify our feelings, and then talk about them. This way, our emotions don’t hijack our behavior. For example, it’s normal to feel a sharp flash of anger or a wave of sadness, but we needn’t erupt in a temper tantrum or melt down in

despair. Nor do we want to ignore or bottle up our feelings, as this can result in depression and other problems.

We can encourage our kids to try new things outside their comfort zones. Reassure them that it’s normal to feel off-balance and

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Seattle University, Campion Hall 914 E. Jefferson St., Seattle

Strap on your dancing shoes and get ready for hours of fun at this free family-friendly event, featuring a DJ, games, catering and a photo booth. Funds raised benefit Seattle Children’s Strong Against Cancer Initiative and Uncompensated Care Fund.

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confused when learning something new. And rather than fear failure, embrace it as a natural part of gaining knowledge and skills. Kids love to hear our funny stories about our own failures, and the valuable lessons we learned from them.

Parents can help kids develop their own problem-solving skills and a brave, can-do attitude. This often means resisting the urge to rescue them from frustration, starting at a young age. For example, when your toddler rides her tricycle from the pavement into the soft grass and gets stuck, encourage her to solve the problem. When she pushes it back to the pavement herself, praise her achievement and celebrate her victory! Kids thrive on puzzles, riddles, and mastering new tasks — and they benefit from age-appropriate chores.

We can also model and teach healthy self-care, especially during times of stress. Eat nutritious foods, exercise, practice good sleep and hygiene habits, get out in nature, nurture friendships, be creative, laugh and be silly, have an engaging hobby, and make room for unstructured free time.

Finally, we can teach our children a fundamental truth: none of us can go it alone.

We all need to ask for help when we need it, and give help to others whenever we can.

Knowing we’re part of a caring community of family and friends builds our hope and strengthens our resilience. to learn more:

Visit www.apa.org/helpcenter/resilience.aspx.

Media Screens Delay and Disrupt Sleep Good sleep is vital for growth and development.

Poor sleep is linked to behavior problems, difficulty in school, obesity, headaches and depression. When kids use media devices at (or even shortly before) bedtime, it has a negative impact on both the quality and quantity of sleep. Screen use can delay and disrupt sleep. Kids get involved in stimulating content, or they may be on alert for the next notification. Some even wake up during the night to

check for texts or social-media postings. Studies also show that the light from these screens disrupts our natural sleep-wake cycle. So stop using devices an hour before bedtime, and keep them out of the bedroom. If your child insists they need their device for its alarm, buy an alarm clock. to learn more:

Visit www.seattlechildrens.org/pdf/PE1355.pdf.

Bronchiolitis is Common, and Can Be Serious for Babies Bronchiolitis is a common lung infection among infants. It happens when bronchioles — small breathing tubes in the lungs — become infected and get clogged with mucus. Then air can’t get in and out of the lungs properly. It is caused by one of several respiratory viruses, including influenza (the flu), respiratory syncytial virus (RSV) and parainfluenza.

Bronchiolitis most often strikes in winter, and it’s one of the most common reasons for hospitalizations at Seattle Children’s.

The symptoms are similar to a cold: runny nose, cough and a mild fever. Plus, babies with bronchiolitis

may have trouble breathing and feeding or nursing.

If you suspect your child has it, see your healthcare provider. Home treatment includes frequent suctioning of the nose and mouth. For more serious cases, oxygen therapy and intravenous (IV) fluids may also be given. The best way to prevent bronchiolitis is the same as for other viruses: wash hands often, and avoid people who are sick. Plus, everyone 6 months and older should get a flu vaccine. to learn more:

Visit www.seattlechildrens.org/pdf/PE2284.pdf.

Elementary School Recess Is Crucially Important Experts in children’s health and well-being are in strong agreement that children in elementary school need regular, active recess time. In a formal policy statement, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) describes recess as crucially important to the overall development of the whole child: “Recess is a necessary break in the day for optimizing a child’s social, emotional, physical, and cognitive development.”

Unfortunately, some schools are cutting back on recess. This may be done in an effort to devote more time to instruction, or to save money on the staffing required to supervise recess. And some schools who do offer recess withhold it as a punishment — a practice the AAP opposes. The AAP’s policy statement

also stresses that both physical education classes and recess are needed; neither one can take the place of the other.

According to the Society of Health and Physical Educators, recess reduces students’ stress levels, supports normal growth and

physical development, improves social skills, allows students to discover which physical activities they most enjoy, helps develop a lifelong love of exercise, and helps students meet the goal of 60 minutes of daily exercise.

Recess also has benefits in the classroom, where it helps to: improve students’ learning and overall academic achievement; increase classroom engagement; reduce disruptive behavior; improve on-task behavior; and improve memory, attention and concentration.

Parents can advocate for all kids by pushing to ensure that active recess breaks are offered for all students. to learn more:

Visit www.seattlechildrens.org/goodgrowing.

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Prevent Scalds from Food and Drink

Portions Versus Servings

Tweens, Teens and Marijuana Use

Children ages 4 and under are especially at risk for scald burns from hot liquids. As they explore, they are apt to knock over a cup, grab a pot off the stove, or pull on a tablecloth.

They’re also at risk of being splashed by a hot liquid carried by an adult. So keep hot liquids away from the edges of tables and counters — and don’t use an exersaucer or a walker near these surfaces. When cooking on the stovetop, keep handles turned inward and use only the back burners, if possible. Be sure that hotdrink cups have tight-fitting lids, and never hold your child while cooking or holding something hot. When pushing your child in a stroller, avoid drinking hot liquids; use the stroller’s cup holder for cool liquids only.

What’s the difference between a portion and a serving for food and drinks? A portion is the amount you choose to consume, whether it’s a little or a lot. A serving is a precise measured amount defined on the package, like 8 oz. of cereal or 1 cup of soup. Food labels include nutritional information for a single serving. They allow you to compare the nutritional content of similar food items.

Since packaged foods and drinks usually contain multiple servings, to learn the calories (or sodium or sugar) multiply that figure by the number of servings actually consumed. For example, a small bag of chips might contain three servings — but people commonly eat all three servings as their portion.

Parents should know that marijuana can be used by a few methods, some of which can be easily hidden. It’s still smoked (with rolling papers, a pipe or a bong), and both the dried plant and the smoke have distinctive odors.

Vaping uses a liquid product delivered by an e-cigarette or vapor ‘vape’ pen and doesn’t have a telltale odor. Smoking and vaping deliver an almost-immediate high. Marijuana ‘edibles’ make it easy for kids to disguise their usage, even at school. Because the high from edibles is delayed by an hour or more, users can ingest too much and not realize it until later. Talk with your child so they understand the health risks, the law, and your family’s rules and expectations.

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Classes and Events To register or view more information, please visit www.seattlechildrens.org/classes. A phone number is provided for those without Internet access. No one will be denied admission if unable to pay the full amount. If you need an interpreter, please let staff know when you register. These classes are popular and often fill up several months in advance, so register early.

PARENTING CLASSES Autism 101

PRETEEN AND TEEN CLASSES Better Babysitters

WHEN: Thursday, Jan. 25, 7 to 8:30 p.m.

FEE: Free WHERE: Seattle Children’s main campus, 4800 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle CALL: 206-987-8080

WHEN: Saturday, Jan. 20, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m.

WHERE: Seattle Children’s admin. building, 6901 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle

WHEN: Mondays, Feb. 5 & 12, 6:30 to 8:30 p.m.

WHERE: Overlake Medical Center, 1035 116th Ave. NE, Bellevue

WHEN: Sunday, Jan. 28, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m.

WHERE: Overlake Medical Center, 1035 116th Ave. NE, Bellevue

WHEN: Tuesdays, March 20 & 27, 6:30 to 8:30 p.m.

WHERE: Seattle Children’s main campus, 4800 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle

WHEN: Saturday, Feb. 10, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m.

WHERE: Pavilion for Women & Children, 900 Pacific Ave., Everett

View more dates and locations online FEE: $80 per parent/child pair; $60 per extra son or daughter CALL: 206-789-2306

For parents and caregivers of children recently diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder who wish to better understand this disorder. Autism 101 will also be available for live viewing using a PC or mobile device from home, school or other centers. For more information and to sign up, visit www.seattlechildrens.org/classes-community/ current-class-offerings/autism-101.

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Autism 200 Series

WHEN: Saturday, March 17, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m.

WHERE: Seattle Children’s South Clinic, 34920 Enchanted Pkwy. S., Federal Way

Check dates and topics online at www.seattle childrens.org/classes-community/current-classofferings/autism-200-series.

View more dates online FEE: $45 per person CALL: 206-987-9878 for all locations

FEE: Free WHERE: Seattle Children’s main campus, 4800 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle CALL: 206-987-8080

For youth, ages 11 to 14. Topics for responsible babysitting include basic child development, infant care and safety, handling emergencies, age-appropriate toys, business hints and parent expectations.

For parents and caregivers of children with autism who wish to better understand this disorder.

Autism 200 will also be available for live viewing using a PC or mobile device from home, school or other centers. For more information and to sign up, visit www.seattlechildrens.org/classes-community/ current-class-offerings/autism-200-series. Past lectures are available online.

Babysafe WHEN: Saturday, Feb. 3, 9:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. or Sunday, March 4, 9:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m.

FEE: $67 per family WHERE: Seattle Children’s admin. building, 6901 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle CALL: 206-789-2306

CPR and First Aid for Babysitters WHEN: Saturday, Feb. 10, 9 a.m. to 2:30 p.m.

View more dates online FEE: $75 per person WHERE: Seattle Children’s main campus, 4800 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle CALL: 206-987-2304 For youth, ages 11 to 15. Topics include pediatric CPR, treatment for choking, and first-aid skills.

Students receive a 2-year American Heart Association completion card.

For Boys: The Joys and Challenges of Growing Up

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For new and expectant parents and infant caregivers. Topics include infant development, baby safety, injury prevention and treatment.

Infant CPR is demonstrated and practiced.

WHEN: Tuesdays, Jan. 9 & 16, 6:30 to 8:30 p.m.

WHERE: Overlake Medical Center, 1035 116th Ave. NE, Bellevue

Heartsaver First Aid, CPR and AED

WHEN: Tuesdays, Feb. 27 & March 6, 6:30 to 8:30 p.m.

WHERE: Seattle Children’s main campus, 4800 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle

WHEN: Sunday, Feb. 11, 8 a.m. to 2:30 p.m., Sunday, March 11, 8 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. or Saturday, March 17, 8 a.m. to 2:30 p.m.

FEE: $75 per person WHERE: Seattle Children’s main campus, 4800 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle CALL: 206-987-9878 For parents and caregivers. Topics include how to treat bleeding, sprains, broken bones, shock and other first-aid emergencies. Also includes infant, child and adult CPR and AED use.

For Girls: A Heart-to-Heart Talk on Growing Up

4 locations

These classes use an informal and engaging format to present and discuss the issues most on the minds of pre-teens ages 10 to 12 as they begin adolescence; conversations about body changes, sex, and other growing up stuff.

Content outlines and short videos available at www.greatconversations.com.

EVENTS Bike Helmet Fitting and Giveaway WHEN: Saturday, March 10, 10 a.m. to 1 p.m.

FEE: Free WHERE: Lynnwood Recreation Center, 18900 44th Ave. W., Lynnwood CALL: 206-987-1569 Come get your child properly fit for a new bike helmet. Kids must be 1 to 18 and present to receive a helmet. First come, first served.

No appointments needed. Learn more at www.MakeSureTheHelmetFits.org.

Free Car Seat Check WHEN: Saturday, March 24, 10 a.m. to 1 p.m.

WHERE: Seattle Children’s main campus, 4800 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle CALL: 206-987-5999 Come learn how to safely secure your child in the car. Child passenger safety experts will check your child in a car seat, booster seat or the seat belt and answer any questions you may have. First come, first served. No appointments needed.

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Monday–Saturday, 9–10 a.m. $13; $3 grip socks required; accompanying adult free.

Ages 6 and under. Flying Circus, Tukwila. flyingcircus.us ONGOING EVENT Free Admission at Renton History Museum. Learn about some of the earliest inhabitants of the Renton area at this museum housed in an art deco firehouse for FREE today. 10 a.m.–4 p.m. Renton. rentonwa.gov

Free First Thursday. Visit local museums for FREE, including Seattle Art Museum, the Burke Museum, the Northwest African American Museum, Wing Luke Museum and MOHAI. freemuseumday.org Nordic Stories. Margaret Read MacDonald’s “Fat Cat” is featured along with a craft project. 10:30 a.m. FREE. Ages 3–6 with caregiver. Note temporary location change during museum renovation. Secret Garden Books, Seattle. nordicmuseum.org

Small Frye: Storytelling in the Galleries.

Stories spring to life with Seattle Children’s Theatre at this first Friday event with art-making session. 10:30–11:45 a.m. FREE; preregister for art. Ages 3–5 with caregiver.

Frye Art Museum, Seattle. fryemuseum.org Free First Friday Night. Check out Madagascar Hissing Cockroaches and play in the museum. 5–9 p.m. FREE. Ages 0–10 with families. Hands On Children’s Museum, Olympia. hocm.org

Seattle Preschool Preview. Explore a range of early learning options in your community at ParentMap’s preschool fair.

9:30 a.m.–12:30 p.m. FREE; preregister.

Pacific Science Center, Seattle. parentmap.com/preschoolpreview Pier into the Night. Harbor WildWatch invites families to “travel” under the surface of the Sound to explore sea life at night.

5–6:30 p.m. FREE; donations appreciated.

Skansie Brothers Park, Gig Harbor. harborwildwatch.org

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Indoor Playground. Bounce, balance, roll and play on a rainy day or any day. Daily, various times. $6; adults free. Ages 1–5 with caregiver. Seattle Gymnastics Academy, 3 Seattle locations. seattlegymnastics.com ONGOING EVENT Baby Gym. Explore and play with your baby and coach guidance at this FREE drop-in group class. Wednesday, 9:30–10 a.m. FREE. Ages 4–12 months with caregiver. Advantage Gymnastics Academy, Woodinville. advantagegym.com

Just So Stories. Short, interactive plays introduce little kids to the excitement of live theater. Jan. 8 and 11–13; 10 a.m. $5 at the door. Ages 0–5 with caregiver. Olympia Family Theater. olyft.org Stroller Skate. Last chance for dedicated skate time for the stroller set; older siblings welcome. Thursdays, Jan. 4 and 11, 1–3 p.m. $10–$14; kids in strollers free. Bellevue Downtown Park. bellevuedowntown.com

Community Celebration of Martin Luther King, Jr. Ijeoma Olua speaks on nonviolence and reflects on Dr. King’s legacy, plus music and more at this 45th annual celebration. Noon–1:30 p.m. FREE. Mount Zion Baptist Church, Seattle. seattlecolleges.edu/MLK Monster Jam. Watch humongous trucks jump, fly, race, do doughnuts and perform epic stunts on four giant wheels. Friday– Sunday, Jan. 12–14. $15–$73. Tacoma Dome. tacomadome.org

Eastside Preschool Preview. ParentMap invites you to explore great early learning options in your community. 9:30 a.m.–12:30 p.m. FREE; preregister. South Bellevue Community Center. parentmap.com/preschoolpreview Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Celebration.

Honor Dr. King and celebrate this year’s theme “The Dream Today” with entertainment, music and special exhibits. 10 a.m.– noon. FREE. Clover Park Technical College, Lakewood. cityoflakewood.us

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Kidz Bounce Drop-In Time. Get those tot wiggles out at this inflatable gym.

Tuesday–Thursday, 9:30–11 a.m. or 12:30–2 p.m., plus Thursday 5–6:30 p.m. $8. Ages 2–10. Kidz Bounce, Preston. kidzbounce.com ONGOING EVENT Lil’ Diggers Playtime. Giant indoor sandbox for kids. Monday, Wednesday, Thursday, 9:30–11 a.m. or 11:30 a.m.–1 p.m. $8. Ages 5 and under with caregiver.

Sandbox Sports, Seattle. sandboxsports.net ONGOING EVENT

Family Movie Day. Enjoy a family-friendly movie in the morning, complete with popcorn; find out today’s feature on Facebook.

10 a.m. FREE. Belltown Community Center. facebook.com/belltown.community.center Disney’s Newsies. Broadway-worthy singing and dancing moves to Everett for another chance to catch this crowd-pleasing show. Jan. 5–Feb. 4. $43–$82. Ages 8 and up. Everett Performing Arts Center. villagetheatre.org/everett

Free Admission Night at Imagine. Let off steam on a Friday evening playing in the museum. 5:30–9 p.m. FREE. Ages 1–12 with families. Imagine Children’s Museum, Everett. imaginecm.org Family Movie Night: Cinderella. Enjoy this interpretation of the classic story with Cate Blanchett as the wicked stepmother. 7 p.m. FREE. Film rated PG. Lakewood Community Center. piercecountywa.org

North Sound Preschool Preview. ParentMap invites families to explore a wide range of local early learning options under one roof. 10 a.m.–1 p.m. FREE; preregister.

Shoreline Community College. parentmap.com/preschoolpreview Kids’ Saturday. Explore the park, learn about birds in winter, create a hot air balloon and watch “Up” (12:30 p.m.). 11 a.m.–2 p.m. FREE. Olympic Sculpture Park, Seattle. seattleartmuseum.org

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Elevated Sportz Trampoline Park, Bothell. elevatedsportz.com ONGOING EVENT Toddler Time at ESC. Join Environmental Science Center naturalists for seasonal nature activities with your tot. 10:30–11:30 a.m. FREE; preregistration required. Ages 2–4 with families. Seahurst Park, Burien. envsciencecenter.org ONGOING EVENT

25 Indoor Playground. Tots play with push buggies, climbers, trikes and more. Tuesday and Thursday, 10 a.m.–1 p.m. $3. Ages 9 months–5 years with caregiver. North Kirkland Community Center. kirklandwa.gov ONGOING EVENT Tugboat Story Time. Bundle up for story time on a boat. Second and fourth Thursdays of the month, 11 a.m. FREE. Ages 1–6 with caregiver. Center for Wooden Boats, Seattle. cwb.org ONGOING EVENT

Baby Jam. The tots will be a-rockin’ with this multi-lingual, drop-in musical exploration. Friday, 10:30 or 11:15 a.m. $12. Ages 0–5 with caregiver. Balance Studio, Seattle. babyjam.net ONGOING EVENT Kitty Literature. Kids practice reading skills with a supportive audience of shelter cats during a 20-minute session. Monday– Friday, times vary. FREE; preregister. Ages 5–10. Seattle Humane, Bellevue. seattlehumane.org ONGOING EVENT

South Sound Preschool Preview. ParentMap welcomes you to discover dozens of area preschools and find the right fit for your family. 11 a.m.–1:30 p.m. FREE. STAR Center, Tacoma. parentmap.com/preschoolpreview Children’s Film Festival Seattle. Go on a trip of imagination with amazing global films; opening party (Jan. 25) and pancake breakfast (Feb. 3) Jan. 25–Feb. 10. $8–$11.

Ages 2–14 with families. Northwest Film Forum, Seattle. childrensfilmfestivalseattle.org

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Wednesdays, 11 a.m.–noon. FREE. Ages 0–5 with caregiver. The Shops at the Bravern, Bellevue. thebravern.com ONGOING EVENT Animal Viewing at Kelsey Creek Farm.

Stop by Bellevue’s city-owned farm park to see pigs, ponies, sheep, chickens, rabbits and goats, go to the playground, or wander the trails. Daily 9:30 a.m.–3:30 p.m. FREE. Bellevue. farmerjayne.com ONGOING EVENT

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Enjoy gourmet cuisine, a luxurious spa and cozy accommodations nestled in the magestic Cascades.

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Stats: 8–12 miles round-trip; 400-foot elevation gain; Northwest Forest Pass required Contact: Olympic National Forest Pacific Ranger District, 360-374-6522 Kids will love . . . using a magnifying glass to examine the amazing epiphytes (plants that grow on other plants) that festoon nearly every branch and tree trunk. A native plant guidebook will come in handy.

Many would say the most spectacular Pacific Northwest winter hiking experience is the Hoh River Trail in Olympic National Park. We’d agree — with an asterisk. If you want the beauty of the Hoh Rain Forest without the crowds, try the Bogachiel, a rain forest valley just to the north.

The hiking is flat and easy as it meanders through this mist-shrouded forest. You’ll start amid second-growth trees and then, when you cross into Olympic National Park after 1.5 miles, old growth.

Two stream crossings will get your feet wet (if you’re not wearing waterproof boots). Once you’ve had

making tracks. But here’s a secret: Not all of us are crazy about snow! Not to worry — while our peaks are shrouded in white, lower elevations host miles of hiking trails perfect for an alternative, snow-free winter wonderland.

Why hike in winter? Plenty of rain, for starters — our temperate rain forests come to life when the sun is tucked away. Some wild creatures are more active in winter, and others are simply easier to spot among leafless branches. Plus, many trails offer solitude during the off-season.

Be sure to check trail conditions with the local ranger station and consult the recent hiker trip reports

your fill of lichens and fungi, just turn around and return the way you came.

Getting there: Of the four rain forest valleys, the Bogachiel River Valley is the closest to the town of Forks. From town, head south on U.S. Highway 101 for 5 miles, then turn left (east) on Undi Road directly across from Bogachiel State Park. After 2 miles, turn left onto the Undi Road bypass, a primitive gravel road, and proceed 2 miles farther.

Turn left at the stop sign onto Forest Service Road 2932 and continue to the trailhead for Bogachiel Rain Forest River Trail No. 825.

More hikes like this: The Old Sauk River Trail, just south of Darrington, is a flat, easy trail that meanders alongside the beautiful Sauk River through a mossy wonderland. The first portion of the trail is gravel and can be hiked with a stroller.

On the northwest corner of Mount Rainier, the Carbon River Trail leads you through an enchanting old-growth rain forest wonderland, just 80 minutes from Seattle. >>

at the Washington Trails Association.

Remember that it gets dark early, so turn around with plenty of time to make it back to your car in daylight.

Dress the whole family in warm, waterhats, gloves and scarves. Expect rocks to be slippery and trails to be muddy; waterproof boots are a must.

Now, hurry off to hike these kidfriendly trails, perfect for our wet winters!

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Stats: 2 miles round-trip; 100-foot elevation gain; entrance fee, $3 per vehicle Contact: Ridgefield National Wildlife Refuge headquarters, 360-887-4106 Kids will love . . . searching for rare bird species. The rounded, azure heads of scrub jays are distinct from the pointy crests of our backyard jays, and smaller red-shouldered hawks flap over their winter wetland hunting grounds. Leave time to discern the elegant tundras from the trumpeters in famously large flocks of swans. Bring binoculars!

The Carty Unit’s Oaks to Wetlands Trail comprises 2 miles of trail through majestic, centuries-old Oregon white oak trees, fir and cedar woodlands, cottonwood and willow stands, and wetlands teeming with wildlife. Start by crossing the footbridge that spans the railroad tracks. Then, stroll along the looping interpretive paths as you search for birds.

Don’t miss: Keep the binoculars handy as you drive the 4.2-mile road loop through the refuge’s other star winter attraction: the River S Unit. Keep your eyes peeled for black-crowned night herons roosting in trees, great egrets stalking prey in the marshes and several species of dabbling ducks in the water. Download a free accompanying audio tour for this loop adventure at ridgefieldfriends.org. To protect the birds, the refuge asks that you don’t exit your vehicle when stopping to view the wildlife.

2:32 PM Getting there: Ridgefield is about 2.5 hours south of Seattle in Clark County, along the Columbia River. To reach the refuge, take Interstate 5 south to exit 14, heading west on Pioneer Street through the town of Ridgefield. Turn right onto North Main Avenue and drive 1 mile to the refuge’s Carty Unit entrance on your left.

More hikes like this: Spencer Island Park in Everett is an expansive, 400acre estuary where the Snohomish River splits and braids into Puget Sound, creating a rich habitat that draws flocks of migratory waterfowl, shorebirds and raptors in winter months. Explore via a series of dike and boardwalk trails.

South of Tacoma off I-5, the Billy Frank Jr. Nisqually National Wildlife Refuge’s loop hike and series of boardwalk trails offer close-up peeps of wintering ducks, herons and even a family of nesting great horned owls.

WATERFALL HIKE

Stats: Up to 8.5 miles round-trip; 700-foot elevation gain; no pass required Contact: Mount Baker Snoqualmie National Forest, Darrington Ranger District, 360-436-1155 Kids will love . . . gazing at the massive trees! The Boulder River Wilderness contains one of the last remaining lowland old-growth forest river valleys in the Cascades, with huge specimens of western red cedar, Douglas fir and western hemlock.

This low-elevation, low-effort hike takes you into a phenomenal old-growth wilderness, and because the trailhead is primitive (i.e., there’s no privy), it’s also free.

Follow the trail as it meanders through a carpet of ferns and mosses, all nicely shaded by a thick canopy.

From the start, you’ll hear flowing water as the trail tracks marvelously close to its namesake, the beautiful Boulder River. The forest receives about 150 inches of rain per year, though well-built puncheon, turnpike and water bars help keep standing water off the trail, and log bridges help you safely cross the many small streams.

Several waterfalls plunge into the river from the steep cliff opposite the trail. The first is Boulder Falls. The trail’s highlight is 1.25 miles in: Feature Show Falls, a colossal twin-curtain waterfall that streams down the mossy cliff wall. There’s a nice bench here for taking it all in. Just beyond, a rocky side trail leads down to the river for a perfect lunch spot. For a short hike, turn around here. Otherwise, continue through the verdant wonderland all the way to the trail’s end, then return the way you came.

Getting there: From I-5, take exit 208 onto State Route 530 to Arlington. Continue east for 20 more miles.

At milepost 41, turn right onto Forest Service Road 2010 (French Creek Road) and drive 3.7 miles to the trailhead.

More hikes like this: If your kids don’t mind a little elevation gain to reach one of the most stunning waterfalls in the state, the trail to Wallace Falls (off U.S. Highway 2 near Gold Bar) should be on your list, a multitiered cascade that plunges and tumbles its way over a cliff, sending mist in every direction. On the Olympic Peninsula near Lake Crescent, Marymere Falls is a short jaunt up steps and bridges fashioned from oldgrowth logs to the 90-foot cascade, which dramatically drops from a notch in a high cliff. >>

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Oyster Dome Stats: 6.5 miles roundtrip; 1,900-foot elevation gain; Discover Pass required Contact: Check “Trip Reports,” listed under the “Go Outside” tab, at wta.org for conditions Kids will love . . . spotting the islands, peaks, inlets and peninsulas visible from the summit on a clear day. Bring a map to confirm their guesses.

Ascend a mountain in air that smells like the ocean; Blanchard Mountain is the only Cascade peak that rises directly from the Salish Sea. Most of the mountain (atop which Oyster Dome sits) has been protected for nearly a century, but you’ll still spot huge stumps and snags of the ancient forest that once was. The top of Oyster Dome is small, so arrive early in the day if you want to avoid crowds.

Getting there: From Bellingham, take Chuckanut Drive (State Route 11) headed south for 11.5 miles to the trailhead.

More hikes like this: If your kids just want to bag a peak and don’t mind sharing the trail with dozens of other hikers, climb the well-maintained switchbacks that gain 1,160 feet in elevation to the top of Rattlesnake Ledge near North Bend. While you can drive to the top of Moran State Park’s Mount Constitution on Orcas Island, it’s more satisfying to reach the summit of the highest point on the San Juan Islands on foot.

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Set on the northern tip of Marrowstone Island, Fort Flagler is often confused with its more popular cousin, Fort Worden State Park, which sits just a few miles to the west in the Victorian town of Port Townsend. But with more than 7 miles of hiking trails and 3.5 miles of beautiful

beaches, Flagler is double the size and has twice the coastline.

This loop trail sets off from the park’s lower campground on a wide, stone-strewn beach heading east along a bluff with stunning vistas.

You’re in the “rain shadow” here and may dodge drizzle, but you won’t be so lucky when it comes to the wind; dress warmly.

At 2.25 miles, leave the shoreline behind as the trail climbs a bluff, twists around a lagoon and eventually leads you back to your car. Along the way, you’ll pass a handful of historic buildings and bunkers. Bring binoculars to spot majestic bald eagles and dabbling ducks.

Getting there: From Seattle, catch a ferry across Puget Sound and cross the Hood Canal Bridge on State Route 104. Take a right onto State Route 19

(Beaver Valley Road) and head north for about 10 miles. Turn right onto State Route 116 (Irondale Road), driving east. The road crosses over Indian Island to Marrowstone Island. Continue north on SR 116 all the way up Marrowstone to Fort Flagler State Park.

More hikes like this: A hike at Ebey’s Landing, on the western edge of Whidbey Island, has it all: pounding surf, wild beach, a grassy bluff and dramatic views of the Olympics. On Orcas Island, take a short hike along a wooded bluff dotted with madrona trees down to 150 yards of uncrowded pebble beach at Obstruction Pass. n Lauren Braden is a Pacific Northwest writer who focuses on recreation and local travel. Find more of her writing at nwtripfinder.com.

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eeting her husband’s college roommate — a former college partier — helped Alison Krupnick frame the way she talked to her children about alcohol.

“He’d tell his [teenaged] kids, ‘Ask yourself whether you are doing what you want to do and make sure you feel safe and comfortable,’” she says. “I was struck by how he instilled the need to make their own decisions rather than letting friends decide.”

When their own teen daughters began attending parties, Krupnick and her husband also wanted to arm them with practical information about alcohol. They began the conversation with easy-tounderstand facts, such as how many ounces are

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in a shot of liquor, what “proof ” means and the impact of body weight on a person’s tolerance.

With her older daughter now in college, Krupnick thinks their family’s approach was effective. “Our daughter understands how to keep herself safe and healthy because we discussed alcohol use honestly and practically before she left home,” she says.

Creating your own family’s guidelines about alcohol can be tricky, particularly when everyone you know spouts a different philosophy. There’s the family with the strict no-drinking-ever policy, the friends who let their kids drink wine on special occasions and the neighbor who’s OK with his teen drinking a beer with dinner.

Wherever you fall, there’s no excuse for avoiding a talk about alcohol. An estimated 71 percent of 10th-graders think it’s easy to get alcohol, according to a 2016 National Institutes of Health survey. But whether or not they’ll reach for a drink often depends on what their parents think. A 2016 survey of Washington state teens found 57 percent of 10th-graders drink if their parents don’t think it’s wrong. That number is only 15 percent if a kid knows their parents wouldn’t approve.

“Parents do really need to have an agreement with [their] kids [about drinking],” says Dr. Yolanda Evans, an adolescent medicine physician at Seattle Children’s Hospital.

That Won’t Drive You to Drink Coming to an agreement While formulating a family policy, Evans says, parents should make safety their main concern.

“Really think about what is going to be a hard and fast rule. For example: ‘If you drink, you don’t drive — ever,’” says Evans.

Talk to your kids about your expectations of their behavior well ahead of time and discuss consequences, too.

It will also help to share facts about alcohol consumption, says Evans. A few examples: Drinking alters the brain as it develops, a process that isn’t fully done until age 25. Drinking impairs judgement, which puts people in potentially unsafe situations that they may not be in if sober. Alcohol is a depressant — it depresses basic responses to life, and drinkers can black out or pass out — and combining it with drugs, including marijuana, can be extremely dangerous.

“Talking with our kids about why some teens chose to drink provides a chance to discuss scenarios before they happen,” Evans adds. “Help your kids weigh the pros and cons, so they can say, ‘Oh man, the downsides are not something I want to take on.’”

Psychologist Laura Kastner encourages parents to start these conversations as early as middle school. And if you discover an episode of drinking — say, beer at a sleepover — take a firm stance.

Meet with the parents of any other kids involved and decide consequences as a group.

“ My first principle is safety, so if you encounter trouble, I will always support you, even if you start drinking before [age 21].”

“[Then, when your kid is in high school], you don’t change your position, but you also talk about safety, harm reduction and good decision making,” says Kastner, who is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of Washington.

“Discuss how your child’s greater independence and maturity mean that they will increasingly be in a role of self-governor over their actions.”

What does that look like? “You say, ‘I would like you to never break the law and not drink before age 21, but I realize that you will be making your own decisions when you are out with friends.

My first principle is safety, so if you encounter trouble, I will always support you, even if you start drinking before then.’”

Such support means establishing a “no questions asked” phone call policy, says Kastner.

This allows kids to call their parents if they do get drunk (or in another messy situation), with all the people involved holding off on a conversation until 24 hours have passed. When you do talk about what happened, be sure to discuss the fact that there are always consequences for irresponsible actions, but that learning from mistakes is the goal and that your child’s reaching out for help is a positive step.

But, should you teach your kids how to drink?

Some parents tolerate drinking at home, including Dr. Marjorie Rosenblatt, who is the mother of three children. “[My kids] can have one alcoholic beverage [at home] as long as they’re not driving,” she writes on the parenting blog Grown & Flown.

“This contract also includes a discussion of the myriad risks associated with drinking and the statement that I prefer they opt out.”

This “one-drink deal” works for her family, she says. “I’ve been able to maintain open lines of communication with my 10th-grader,” she says.

“She feels comfortable confiding in me both her actions and those of her counterparts.”

Local parent educator Sheri Gazitt agrees with Rosenblatt’s key point: We must have open lines

of communication with our kids. “We can achieve this, though, without allowing drinking in the home,” says Gazitt. “It’s all about the language and the nuance of how to present our point of view to our kids. We must leave room for a conversation rather than lecturing.”

A teen life coach and founder of Teen Wise, Gazitt believes conversation topics should include how alcohol can be abused and overconsumed.

“Statistics show that teens who have alcohol before the age of 15 are four times more likely to become alcoholics than people who wait unto the legal drinking age,” she says. “If you have a genetic predisposition to alcoholism, that likelihood increases.”

Remember that kids need to know how to manage their emotions before they’re introduced to alcohol, explains local parent educator YvonneMonique Aviva.

“Help your kids build their strategies for dealing with anger, pain and uncomfortable situations,” says Aviva, who is a consultant for parents about their kids’ social, emotional and educational development. “[For some people,] alcohol is going to feel amazing, but it could also ruin their lives. Kids are surrounded by media that tells them taking substances is a good way to manage emotions by checking out.”

And when it’s your kid who’s drunk?

Of course, these conversations all sound good in theory, but what happens when it’s your kid who comes home drunk? First, wait until everyone has cooled down (and sobered up) before you deal with a specific incident.

“Start with the facts. For example: ‘I noticed our vodka bottle is empty. Have you been drinking?’” says Gazitt. If your child says yes, ask more questions. Are they drinking for fun or to relieve stress? How often? Let them know you’re on their side, making it a conversation about helping them figure out a plan so that alcohol doesn’t become a problem, she adds.

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It’s good to remember that misbehavior is always an attempt for connection with a caring adult. “Let them know you’re OK with their imperfection and remind them of how lovable they are,” says Aviva.

It can help to get your child’s school involved, she adds; prevention and intervention counselors can do a GAIN (global appraisal of individual needs) assessment, which can give a big-picture view of how a kid is doing. Many times, kids will feel relief when an issue is finally addressed, says Aviva.

Wendy Nelson* says her son’s school counselor called her and her husband during their son’s sophomore year; he had agreed to tell his parents that he was getting help for depression. Another year passed before he told them he had been drinking and using drugs since middle school.

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Nelson. “My husband and I have had to let him navigate many bumps on his own while we work to keep him safe and get him the resources [academic help, counseling and medication] he needs,” she says.

After two decades of helping families navigate similar difficult situations, Kastner says the quality of relationships between parents and their kids matters most.

“Just like sex, talk about alcohol often,” Kastner says. “Aim to be a cool-headed parent: trustworthy and willing to collaborate to solve problems and accept your children exactly as they are, while aiming to build social situation competence and prioritizing safety.”

“It’s really normal for kids to take risks and make mistakes,” says Evans. “[But] research shows that kids do want to talk with someone about their own risky behavior.” n Nancy Schatz Alton is a Seattle-based freelance writer, editor and creative writing teacher.

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Have a “free phone call” policy: Your child can call or text you to pick them up, no matter what, if they’re in an unsafe situation. Talk about what happened and possible consequences the next day, when everyone is safe and calm.

Take advantage of all opportunities to get to know your kid, their friends and their friends’ parents.

Ensure that all the adults involved in raising your child have a similar stance on alcohol before they talk to your kids about it. Even if you don’t completely agree, make sure the same message is given to your kids about what kind of behavior you expect.

Take every opportunity that arises to talk about drinking. Believe it or not, our kids learn from us and do hear what we have to say.

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The CEO of Seattle Children’s shares why it’s so much more than a hospital

By Elisabeth Kramer • Photograph courtesy Seattle Children’s Dr. Jeff Sperring hopes your kid never has to come to his office.

“I’m most pleased [in my work] when parents tell me, ‘We’ve never had to go to Seattle Children’s, but we’re really glad that we saw this article and learned something about our kids’ health,’” says Dr. Sperring, CEO of Seattle Children’s. “That’s when I feel like we’re really making the impact that we’re supposed to.”

We spoke with Dr. Sperring about that outreach, his hopes for the future and what makes Seattle a special place for kids.

What’s the CEO of a hospital do?

I describe it as being the no. 1 fan of the most amazing 8,000 team members I could ever work for.

We’re all committed to making the lives of kids better.

For us, our role [is to focus on] how to help all kids stay healthy. That includes the more traditional things: If kids are sick, we have an amazing hospital and amazing specialty clinics where they can come to find hope and great care. But our research institute is also constantly working on new cures for diseases. ...

We also have great researchers looking into activity levels and food choices [and] mental health [and] screen time and media consumption.

What’s some recent Seattle Children’s research that you’re particularly excited about?

We’re a global leader in what’s called pediatric immunotherapy, which is basically adjusting a child’s own immune system to fight off cancer just like it would a virus or bacteria.

The first trial we published [in 2017] featured 43 kids with leukemia — 43 kids who didn’t have any other options left. We were able to get 93 percent of them into remission. It’s the most successful trial anyone has done.

Unfortunately, of that 93 percent, 50 percent relapsed again after the first round of immunotherapy [within one year]. What we’ve learned from that is that we need to adjust our trials. We’re about to open two new trials that will take our research to a whole new level [and] we’re really excited about their possibility. [Editor’s note: Seattle Children’s has since launched a new immunotherapy trial related to this research; the new trial is the first chimeric antigen receptor T-cell immunotherapy trial in the U.S. for children and young adults.]

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Do you think there’s anything unique about Seattle that fosters this type of research?

There’s this willingness to pioneer and to take a little bit of a chance to do the right thing. … That combination is what allows us to help kids get better faster.

I also think this is the most generous community for kids.

I’ve been blown away in my two and a half years here at the community’s commitment to step up, including for our new $1 billion initiative, It Starts With Yes: The Campaign for Seattle Children’s. It really gets to the heart of our team and our community saying “yes” to kids and stepping up to do the right thing.

What else is new at Seattle Children’s?

We are constantly growing to meet the needs for our kids and families, wherever they are. … We’ve added services in Bellevue, opened a clinic in Federal Way and [in 2018] we’ll have a brand-new center [in Everett] for all our families up north, so they have services closer to home and don’t have to always fight the Seattle traffic. We’re continuing to look for where the needs for kids and families are and how can we continue to grow to meet those needs.

You live in Ballard and have a daughter who’s a nurse at Swedish. How does being a father impact your work at a children’s hospital?

I tell everyone: Being the CEO of such a large organization is a team sport. My wife and I are a two-person team who take on this role together. We work hard, but when we get time to relax, there’s no better place to do that than in the Pacific Northwest. n Elisabeth Kramer is associate editor at ParentMap. EDITOR’S NOTE: Join ParentMap on a year-long conversation to explore how families and schools can nurture empathy, mindfulness and kindness. parentmap.com/raisingkind

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