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September 11, the 1999 school shooting at Columbine.

N W W Flash-forward 15 years. We’re still talking (or at least, trying to talk) to our kids about high stress, high anxiety times.

We’re also grappling with the introduction of social media (in 2003, Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat didn’t exist; these days, Facebook boasts more than 2 billion users and Snapchat’s 158 million daily users open the app an average of 18 times a day.)

But while the means of communication may have changed, the goal remains the same: giving our kids what they need to thrive. That’s why I choose to look at this year’s Every Child issue as inspiring. It’s overflowing with insights on how to do just that, even if the topics, like anxiety, are hard to talk about.

Thankfully, our community is fortunate to have exceptional educators who make the conversation easier. Take Ariane Gauvreau, who is transforming special education at the University of Washington and beyond (p. 46).

Or Dr. Kendra Read, who’s featured in this month’s feature (p. 14). As she so wisely notes, “Anxious youth are pretty quiet, compliant, extraordinarily conscientious and not causing a problem in the classroom, so they can be missed by those outside of the home.” Those words ring true to me and I hope offer insight for your family as well.

This fall, whatever struggles your family may be facing, I offer you this: Your village is here for you. From anxiety to autism to ADHD, we have the tools to face whatever’s ahead. Come see what I mean at ParentMap’s upcoming Every Child Summit at the University of Washington.

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5 Key Things to Consider When Looking for a Daycare

By Vicky McDonald

When you’re newly pregnant, searching for a daycare can be a daunting task. You might never have even set foot in a daycare before, and now you’re expected to select the perfect one for your bundle of joy. It’s a tough challenge, but with a little homework and a lot of trusting your gut you will find the right place for your new baby.

There are lots of obvious things to consider when looking for daycare — check that’s accredited, clean, caring and fits all your criteria of course. But what are the things you don’t think about? Here is a quick guide to some of the less obvious things you should consider when selecting a daycare.

11 Get on more than one list There are a lot of options out there: home daycare, Montessori, Steiner school, the list goes on! Once you’ve narrowed down the decision on the type of daycare you want, you might discover that your top choices are already booked up.

If you’ve done a tour and fallen in love with some place that’s already full, put your name on the waitlist regardless. Situations change fast and the best way to find a place for your new bundle of joy is to persevere. It might cost money to reserve a place or be on multiple waitlists, but you’ll be glad to have options when your baby is here.

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22 Proximity matters This one is tough, but it’s worth giving this decision a lot of thought. Do you need your daycare closer to your work or closer to your home? If you have a partner, how close does it need to be to their work? How close should it be to your pediatrician? Ideally, you want it close to everything, but you need to find the right mix for your family. Do a few dry runs in rush hour traffic to and from the daycare to see if the distance is feasible. Also, remember that you might have a screaming baby in the back seat in the future, so don’t settle for a crazy long commute.

33 Food When you’re pregnant, you might not worry too much about this as you’ll be more concerned about nursing or bottle feeding, but six months comes around fast and you need to ensure that you’re happy with the food they’re serving at your chosen daycare. Does it need to be organic? Will they be able to deal with allergies if you’re kid has some? Ask to see the menu, and question where the food is sourced from.

Do they serve food or just snacks? Is it a deal breaker if they don’t serve lunch?

44 Outdoor space When babies are small you might not be so worried about the playground, but they grow up quickly. Does the daycare have a large play area? Do the caregivers take babies and toddlers on walks every day? Some facilities take babies out less than others. Does this matter to you?

55 Staff turnover Babies and toddlers love routine. Try to subtly find out how much staff turnover there is in the daycare. If they rely on temps or have lot of teacher turnover, it can be stressful for your kiddo and you. Likewise, some daycare centers also operate as back-up care centers, so different kids might be coming and going in your kid’s class, which is not ideal. Do your homework to see if this is likely to happen in your chosen center. n Vicky McDonald is the digital content editor at ParentMap.

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arah Pham didn’t know where to start. A student at Holy Names Academy in Seattle, Pham knew she wanted to make a difference but where to begin?

That’s when she heard about the year-long service learning Youth Ambassadors Program (YAP) at the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation.

“It was a great place to begin my journey of lifelong service,” says the 16-year-old Pham. Her mission: “to be able to live out a clear mission of empowering youth, hear the stories of my peers, continuously give back by “ You might not volunteering and to learn more about change the world, various issues in the community.”

Pham credits her family as the but you can inspiration behind her devotion to change a world.” creating positive social change.

“Growing up, I’ve been surrounded by stories of my mom’s journey as a refugee from the Vietnam War, of my grandfather [who was] placed in a concentration camp and of the adversity so many of my close relatives faced,” she says. “To me, social impact — the responsibility that I have to give back — is personal to me because I know that it makes a difference.”

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homelessness and Doctors Without Borders (MSF). The final video was shown throughout her school to raise funds for MSF and the organization Facing Homelessness. Next up she hopes to create videos about the immigrant and refugee crisis.

She points to her work with YAP for her ongoing dedication.

“Programs like YAP are so wonderful,” she says. “They’re able to catalyze positive social change unlike any other [by modeling] empathy and [by] fostering a positive community of trust, friendship and care.”

This exposure to mentors and other motivated students inspired Pham to “do something” even when, as a young person, it doesn’t always feel like she can. “[The program] empowers us with the tools and foundations that we need to set out and do good,” she says.

That’s her advice for others, too: Go out and learn more.

“Research an issue that you are passionate about,” she says. “Start small.” Perhaps, she notes, volunteer at a local nonprofit; the point isn’t do it all the time but to always do it with intention.

“Encourage your kids to push themselves daily to find ways to make the world a better place,” she says to parents. “Be a catalyst for strength and humility, kindness, innovation and inspiration.”

And remember: “You might not change the world, but you can change a world.” n Elisabeth Kramer is managing editor at ParentMap. parentmap.com • October 2018 • 13

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regon mom Michelle Fullerton thought she must be doing something wrong when her 4-year-old son began having huge, frequent emotional outbursts. Their family was losing sleep because he would lay awake crying at night, his mind reeling and unable to turn off.

By kindergarten, his behavior was disrupting his learning at school.

“He would get so overwhelmed; he didn’t know how to handle his feelings and he took everything personally. He was constantly worrying and internalizing every little thing,” she says. “I felt so alone, like

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nobody understood what I was going through and everybody just thought I had a troublemaker.”

But Fullerton wasn’t alone.

According to the Child Mind Institute’s (CMI) Children’s Mental Health Report, anxiety is the most common psychiatric disorder among adolescents and children. Data from the American Psychiatric Association (APA) reports a prevalence of anxiety disorders in children and adolescents of between 10 and 30 percent, with a higher prevalence among females.

More striking still: Eighty percent of kids with a diagnosable anxiety disorder are not being treated for it — and the consequences are dire. In the long term,

children with anxiety disorders have an increased risk of developing depression, substance abuse issues and low selfesteem, and when it comes to day-to-day living, anxiety disorders can interfere with academic and social development.

So why aren’t kids getting the help they need? Dr. Kendra Read, a clinical psychologist at Seattle Children’s Hospital who specializes in the treatment of youth with anxiety disorders, says there are a number of reasons kids aren’t being diagnosed and treated.

Chief among them is the challenge of distinguishing developmentally “normal” worries and fears from pathological anxiety.

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“Anxiety may not feel as problematic or it may kind of pale in comparison to other concerns going on in the family,” she continues. “A lot of times, people just kind of chalk it up to being shy. And, of course, some level of anxiety is typical for all individuals — so it can be difficult to parse apart what is considered typical and what is actually problematic.”

Sometimes, as in Fullerton’s case, children with anxiety exhibit symptoms more akin to behavioral disorders, which can lead to misdiagnosis.

Read says the stigma of mental illness also plays a role in underdiagnosis and lack of treatment for anxiety disorders in youth, while the CMI report points to the shortage of school psychologists and child clinical psychologists.

So what, as a concerned parent, should you be looking for? When does a typical age-appropriate anxiety — such as a fear of the dark — become something to worry about?

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What causes anxiety?

Anxiety disorders often occur alongside other anxiety disorders, Like most mental health disorders, depression and behavioral disorders anxiety arises from biological, like ADHD. psychological and environmental While there are several types risk factors, which include genetics, of anxiety disorders — as detailed cognitive factors, personality and life below — all are characterized events. by “persistent, irrational and There are, however, specific overwhelming worry, fear and stressors that can exacerbate anxiety, anxiety that interfere with daily say both Kastner and Read. activities.” Read likens it to “a smoke “Media consumption is such a alarm going off when there’s no fire.” dopamine-rich thing, and now with The “big three” anxiety disorders the constant news cycle, it’s like for kids, she notes, are generalized every five seconds there’s danger. anxiety disorder (GAD), separation Our sympathetic systems get so anxiety and social anxiety but there jacked up when in reality we know are many others, including panic that the world has never been safer,” disorder, selective mutism and says Kastner. individual phobias.

She adds that this Understanding the heightened state nuances of each “helps applies to both children us be more specific in and their parents.

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“We react a lot to what would be normal bumps in the road — a child gets a C on a test, for example — with an outsized reaction, and we’re making it worse for our kids,” she says. “We need to be responsible for our own stress levels. That’s our parental responsibility. If we have our bearings to go do some breathing or take a time-out for ourselves, we can be better people when we interact with our kids.”

Treatments and approaches

There is relief for kids dealing with anxiety. On the list: evidence-based clinical treatments like cognitive

behavioral therapy (CBT), and prescription medications like selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) and serotonin norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors (SNRIs). There’s also a plethora of holistic and non-traditional approaches backed by varying degrees of research including mindfulness practices, herbal remedies and essential oils. Fullerton, for example, says small daily dose of cannabidiol (CBD) oil has made the biggest difference for her son.

Research on CBD oil as a solo treatment for youth anxiety disorders is still in its infancy, but Fullerton said she could not deny the positive

impact it has had on her child.

Since starting the treatment a few months ago after an exhaustive search for information and a friend’s recommendation, she decided it was worth a try.

He hasn’t had a single emotional outburst and “has been much more patient, sleeps well and is doing better at school,” she says.

Also of note: mindfulness techniques that cultivate a child’s awareness of their emotions. By teaching a child to accept and sit with a feeling rather than “smash it down,” you help them learn that what they’re experiencing is only a perceived, temporary threat rather

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feature Helping Your Anxious continued from page 17 than a bigger, more anxiety-fraught a journal to help him “move through concern. his emotions to get to a more As for pharmaceutical medicines, manageable place,” Fullerton says.

SSRIs (like Prozac and She also limits news Zoloft) and SNRIs and media consumption (like Effexor) are the at home, and Fullerton only ones proven to be keeps her own stress Regardless of both safe and effective at bay by using the the treatment for treating anxiety same mindfulness in young people, with you pick, setting techniques that her son SSRIs being most does. Sharing those your child up commonly prescribed. techniques has the Both SSRIs and SNRIs to thrive begins bonus of “normalizing it have side effects, for him.” with recognizing including withdrawal, “When he sees me the signs and suicide ideation and bringing myself back to sleep disturbances. the moment, he doesn’t symptoms of The good news: feel so different or odd anxiety.

After 36 weeks, the for having anxiety,” effectiveness of CBT, Fullerton says. medication or a Regardless of the combination of the treatment you pick, two produced strong results, per the setting your child up to thrive Children’s Mental Health Report. begins with recognizing the signs Upward of 80 percent of people saw and symptoms of anxiety. From an improvement with treatment. there, Read recommends having a Here’s the important part, notes discussion with your child’s primary Read: “The way out of anxiety is care physician, who can give you a through, not around.” That means referral to a qualified therapist. confronting what produces the Once you have a diagnosis and anxiety. One way she’s seen this done: a treatment plan, consider talking is by teaching kids to “ride the wave.” to family members, teachers and coaches about creating an environment that supports the goals For Fullerton, she’s seen positive of the treatment. change in her son, who was officially “If it gets to the point where the diagnosed with GAD at age 8. anxiety is interfering with school She opted out of medication for and relationships, and the child is him (she felt it was important for him constantly looking for ‘escape and to learn to manage his anxiety on his rescue,’ it’s time to get a therapist own instead of relying on medication involved,” says Kastner. “You can’t do over the long term). He regularly sees this on your own.” n a therapist, who’s taught him how Rachael Mitchell Okerlund is a to use mindfulness and breathing desert-dwelling, tea-guzzling writetechniques. This includes going on a from-home mom to a 9-month-old. walk, playing basketball and keeping

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PICKS ParentMap Every Child Summit, Oct. 17

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Kiddie maze, more challenging maze and pumpkin patch. Daily through Oct. 31, 10 a.m.–dark. Free entry, activities and pumpkins for purchase. Snohomish. bobscorn.com Shadow Lake Nature Preserve Boardwalk Stroll. Search for frogs and critters on self-guided walk. Daily, 9 a.m.–6 p.m.

FREE; donations accepted. Renton. shadowhabitat.org

All Ages Open Jump. Drop in with your tots and preschoolers and jump together.

Tuesdays, 12:30–2 p.m. $9; $7 per sibling; adults and crawlers free (preregister).

Pump It Up, Kirkland. pumpitupparty.com ONGOING EVENT Reading With Rover. Trained therapy dogs listen patiently to kids practicing reading. First and third Tuesdays, 6:30–7:30 p.m. FREE. Ages 5–10 with adult. Half Price Books, Redmond. readingwithrover.org ONGOING EVENT

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BrickCon 2018. Gather with other Lego fans to marvel at creations from around the world and build your own in the building zone. Saturday–Sunday, October 6–7. $11–$17; ages 4 and under free. Seattle Center Exhibition Hall. brickcon.org Salmon Days Festival. Honor our region’s flagship fish with a parade, food, arts and Field of Fun activities for kids. Saturday– Sunday, October 6–7. FREE. Issaquah. issaquahchamber.com

Uplift! Special Needs Night. Exclusive jump time for children, adults, families and friends with special needs. Second Monday, 6–8:30 p.m. $12; adult or aide free. Elevated Sportz Trampoline Park, Bothell. elevatedsportz.com Magic Monday. Local magicians perform in the cozy quarters of the bookstore the second Monday of the month, 7–8 p.m.

FREE. Third Place Books – Ravenna, Seattle. thirdplacebooks.com

Carleton Farms. Visit the pumpkin patch to pick your pumpkin and try out the corn maze; additional activities on weekends.

Daily through Oct. 31, 10 a.m.–6 p.m. Check website for prices; pumpkins for purchase.

Lake Stevens. carletonfarm.com Detective Cookie’s Chess Club. Drop in to learn and practice chess skills; new members always welcome. Tuesdays, 3–5 p.m.

FREE. Ages 7 and up. Seattle Public Library, Rainier Beach Branch. spl.org ONGOING EVENT

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Shoreline Indoor Playground. Banish rainyday wiggles playing in the gym. Monday– Friday, 9:30–11:30 a.m. $2–$2.50. Ages 1–5 with caregiver. Shoreline Spartan Recreation Center. shorelinewa.gov ONGOING EVENT Low Sensory Play Time. Special play time with fewer kids and a calm environment.

Sundays, 9 a.m.–1 p.m., Monday, Wednesday–Friday; noon–2 p.m. $20; preregister.

Ages 0–10 with adult. Roo’s World of Discovery, Kirkland. roosworldofdiscovery.com ONGOING EVENT

Issaquah Salmon Hatchery. Spy salmon returning to spawn in Issaquah Creek from the bridge or viewing windows at the hatchery. Daily through mid-November. Issaquah Salmon Hatchery. issaquahfish.org Kidz Playtime. Drop off the kiddos and enjoy some time to yourself. Monday–Friday, 9 a.m.–1:30 p.m. $10 for 2 hours of drop-in child care. Ages 2–8 (must be fully toilet trained). Les Gove Gymnasium, Auburn. auburnwa.gov

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‘LIKE’ Film Screening. Does your teen seem to be addicted to social media? Join ParentMap for an exclusive screening of the original IndieFlix documentary film “LIKE” to understand and safely navigate this modern phenomenon. Q&A with experts to follow. 6:30–8:30 p.m. (Also screening Oct. 10 at Seattle Children’s Hospital.) Sammamish High School, Bellevue. parentmap.com/like

Fall Foliage Festival. Celebrate fall at this week-long festival with treats, museum events, gardening workshops, a photo station, pumpkin sales and activities for the whole fam. Daily, Oct. 20–27, 10 a.m.–4 p.m.

FREE. Rhododendron Species Botanical Garden, Federal Way. rhodygarden.org Salmon SEEson. Hike a half-mile trail to spy Chinook and sockeye salmon spawning in Bear Creek. Daily through late October.

FREE. R.O.S.E. trail behind KIS Farm, Redmond. govlink.org/watersheds/8

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Lil’ Diggers Playtime. Favorite giant sandbox with digging in the sand for kids and wifi for grown-ups. Monday, Wednesday, Thursday; 9:30–11 a.m. or 11:30 a.m.–1 p.m. $8. Ages 5 and under with caregiver.

Sandbox Sports, Seattle. sandboxsports.net ONGOING EVENT Kitty Literature. Call ahead for your child to practice reading with shelter cats; 20-minute sessions. Monday–Friday, various times.

FREE. Ages 5–10. Seattle Humane, Bellevue. seattlehumane.org ONGOING EVENT

Toddler Pumpkin Palooza. Join in for age-appropriate Halloween games, face painting, arts and crafts, snacks and more!

10 a.m.–Noon. $5. Ages 1–5. High Point Community Center, Seattle. seattle.gov Wham! Bam! Pow! See how Vishavjit Singh utilizes art as a platform to highlight discrimination and challenge stereotypes.

Tuesday–Sunday, 10 a.m.–5 p.m. Included with admission. Wing Luke Museum, Seattle. wingluke.org ONGOING EVENT

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Help Your Child Build Social-Emotional Skills We all need social-emotional skills to have a happy life filled with positive personal relationships. We use these skills every day in all sorts of ways: when we interact with family, build friendships, work out conflicts, follow the rules, or offer help and compassion to others.

At the heart of all social-emotional skills are certain basic abilities. We must be able to understand our feelings, manage our emotions, and express ourselves in a healthy way. We need to know how to regulate our own behaviors. And when we’re with others, we need the ability to ‘read’ and understand their emotions.

Social-emotional skills develop over time, starting from birth. Naturally, parents and families play a primary role! Here are just a few

ways we encourage this process in the first few years of life.

For babies from birth to 12 months, we respond to all their needs, we learn their likes and dislikes, and we support their development through play and other interactions. We keep them safe and secure, and we show them

41st Annual Festival of Trees Sunday, Nov. 18, 1 to 4 p.m.

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Kick off the holiday season at this downtown display of designer Christmas trees. Each tree is dedicated to a Seattle Children’s Hospital patient. Guests enjoy live music, a holiday boutique and pictures with Santa.

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constant love and acceptance by being affectionate, nurturing and patient all the time — regardless of circumstances.

For children ages 12 months to 24 months, we ensure their safety as they play, explore and learn. We encourage simple problem-solving and praise their efforts — not just the outcome. We help them develop self-control through waiting patiently, taking turns and sharing. We model how to solve conflicts peacefully, and we help them do the same.

For children ages 2 to 3, we set clear rules and limits, so they can feel secure. We help them identify their emotions and feel their genuine feelings — without acting out in a negative way. We help them develop empathy by understanding how their behavior affects others, and how others might be feeling. We let them choose the type of play they enjoy and we join in, so they feel valued and accepted.

When it comes time for school, strong social-emotional skills make learning easier.

Children who have them can relax, focus and feel motivated to do their best. They’re more likely to enjoy their work, cooperate with others, and bond with their teachers and classmates.

The best, first place to learn and practice social-emotional skills is within the family.

By making quality family time a priority we’re creating a foundation for a contented life! to learn more:

Visit healthychildren.org/english/ages-stages.

GERD and Crying Gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD) affects about half of all babies. It happens when food and stomach acid back up into the esophagus (the tube that runs from the mouth to the stomach), causing burning and pain. If your baby cries or fusses more than usual after eating, see your baby’s healthcare provider. If the problem is GERD, they’ll make recommendations that might include a change in diet and keeping your baby upright

during and after feeding. While most babies outgrow GERD between 6 months and 1 year, in some cases surgery is needed. Of course, babies cry for many other reasons, and some require extra soothing. In any case, a visit to their healthcare provider is the best place to start. to learn more:

Search ‘GERD’ at seattlechildrens.org.

Flu Vaccine Strongly Reduces Risk of Flu-Related Death The flu can be life-threatening. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports that during the 2017–2018 flu season, 178 children in the U.S. died of flu-related illness. About 80% of these deaths were children who had not had that season’s flu vaccine.

The good news is that the flu vaccine significantly reduces a child’s risk of dying from the flu.

In 2017, a study in the medical journal Pediatrics showed that among healthy children, the vaccine reduces the risk of death from the flu by nearly two-thirds: 65%. And among children with

underlying high-risk medical conditions, the vaccine reduces their risk by 51%. That study looked at data from four flu seasons between 2010 and 2014.

The best way to prevent seasonal flu is to have everyone over 6 months old in your family vaccinated each year. In the U.S., flu season usually begins in December and lasts until April. It’s best to get the flu vaccine as soon as it becomes available. to learn more:

Visit seattlechildrens.org/safety-wellness/ about-the-flu.

Understanding the Types of Bullying Kids and parents alike must understand what bullying is and recognize the forms it can take.

How is bullying actually defined? It is behavior that is both unwanted and aggressive. It always includes an imbalance of power in which the child who bullies uses some form of power to control or harm whoever they are bullying.

And bullying is behavior that is repeated over time — or that has the potential to be repeated over time.

Bullying can take different forms: physical, verbal, social and cyberbullying. Physical bullying includes attacking someone or using body motions or facial expressions to suggest an attack may happen. Hitting, shoving, poking and glaring are all physical bullying, as is taking someone’s lunch, knocking something out of

their hands or messing up their belongings.

Verbal bullying includes name-calling, teasing, taunting, and threatening. Social bullying (also called relational bullying) often involves purposely excluding someone from a group and encouraging others to do so. Social bullying can include gossip, rumor-spreading and humiliation.

Cyberbullying happens over digital devices like smartphones, computers and gaming consoles. It can occur through calls, texts, emails, personal messaging, chat functions and social media apps. It includes sending, posting, or sharing any sort of negative content about someone else — anything that embarrasses or humiliates another person.

Bullying is upsetting and potentially harmful for all involved. Kids who bully often require focused help to understand and change their destructive behavior. Kids who are bullied and those who observe bullying need help in learning how to respond and take action safely. to learn more:

Visit stopbullying.gov.

Kid Bits

Child-resistant Is Not Childproof

For Minor Injuries, Remember R.I.C.E.

Tips for Effective Praise

Don’t count on child-resistant packaging.

Even with this safety feature, a child can often open it. Tragically, every 12 days in the United States, a child under age 6 dies from an accidental overdose of prescription drugs, pain relievers, vitamins and other medicines they find within easy reach. And every nine minutes in our country, accidental poisoning with medicine sends a young child to the emergency room. It’s crucial that parents, grandparents and other caregivers do not store these items — even those in childresistant packaging — anywhere that is visible and within reach. Instead, always store medicines up, away and out of reach.

It’s always best to lock them up.

Active kids get minor injuries from time to time. You can treat these strains, sprains and bruises at home, using the tried-and-true R.I.C.E. method as soon as possible after the injury occurs. R is for resting the injured area.

I is for icing the injured area for 20 minutes every two hours to reduce pain and swelling.

C is for compression, using a compression wrap (like an Ace bandage) to reduce swelling.

And E is for elevate: raise the injured area to a level at or above the heart while applying ice, and whenever your child is sitting or lying down. Call your child’s healthcare provider if you think they need to be seen, and especially if the pain lasts for more than three days.

One way to encourage positive behavior and help build your child’s self-esteem is to use sincere praise for their effort. Rather than relying on the words “good job,” be specific.

Name the behavior that you appreciate: “I like the way you jumped in to help unload the groceries,” or “I am so proud of the care you took to make that special get-well card for Grandpa.” Compliment their effort when they spend time practicing a skill or trying something new. And when your child uses healthy coping strategies to work through frustration or anger, tell them that you notice, and praise them for their hard work. Praise is powerful when it’s specific and sincere — and based on effort rather than results.

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Search ‘give praise’ at healthychildren.org.

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Classes and Events These classes are popular and often fill up several months in advance, so please register early. Scholarships are available. If you would like to ask about a scholarship, call the number provided for the class you’re interested in.

PARENTING CLASSES Autism 101 This free 90-minute lecture is designed to provide information and support to parents and families of children recently diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder. A portion of each session is dedicated to answering questions from the attendees.

Youth Mental Health First Aid This 8-hour class is for adults who regularly interact with adolescents ages 12 to 18. Youth Mental Health First Aid will improve your knowledge of mental health and substance-use problems and will teach you how to connect youth with care when needed.

Lectures are at Seattle Children’s main campus in Seattle, once per quarter, on a Thursday, from 7 to 8:30 p.m. Lectures are also available via live streaming.

This class is offered at the Sand Point Learning Center in Seattle for $15 per person, which includes class materials and lunch. View dates at seattlechildrens.org/classes or call 206-987-9878 if you have questions.

View dates or sign up for live streaming at seattlechildrens.org/classes. Call 206-987-8080 if you have questions.

PRETEEN AND TEEN CLASSES Better Babysitters

Autism 200 Series Autism 200 is a series of free 90-minute classes for parents and caregivers of children with autism who wish to better understand autism spectrum disorder. Each class features a different topic.

Classes are usually offered on the third Thursday of the month, 7 to 8:30 p.m. at Seattle Children’s main campus in Seattle. These classes are also available through live streaming.

View dates and topics, sign up for live streaming or view past Autism 200 lectures at seattlechildrens.org/classes. Call 206-987-8080 if you have questions.

Babysafe Babysafe is a 4-hour class for new and expectant parents and others who care for babies. Topics include infant development, baby safety, injury prevention and care of common injuries for infants from birth through 12 months of age. Infant CPR is demonstrated and practiced, but this is not a certification class.

This class is offered in Seattle. The fee is $67 and each registration is good for two people from the same family. View dates and locations at seattlechildrens.org/classes or call 206-789-2306 if you have questions.

Heartsaver First Aid, CPR and AED This video-based class for parents and caregivers covers how to treat bleeding, sprains, broken bones, shock and other first-aid emergencies. Also includes infant, child and adult CPR and AED use.

Students receive an American Heart Association Heartsaver First Aid, CPR, AED Course Completion Card that is valid for two years.

This class is offered at Seattle Children’s main campus in Seattle for $75 per person. View dates at seattlechildrens.org/classes or call 206-9872304 if you have questions.

For youth, ages 11 to 14. Students learn about responsible babysitting, basic child development, infant and child care, safety, handling emergencies, age-appropriate toys, business tips and parent expectations.

This class is offered in Seattle, Bellevue, Everett and Federal Way. The cost is $45 per person.

View dates and locations at seattlechildrens.org/ classes or call 206-987-9878 if you have questions.

CPR and First Aid for Babysitters For youth, ages 11 to 15. Topics include pediatric CPR, treatment for choking, and first-aid skills.

Students receive an American Heart Association Pediatric Heartsaver First Aid, CPR, AED Course Completion Card that is valid for two years.

This class is offered at Seattle Children’s main campus in Seattle for $75 per person. View dates at seattlechildrens.org/classes or call 206-9872304 if you have questions..

For Boys: The Joys and Challenges of Growing Up This class is for boys, 10 to 12 years old, and a parent or trusted adult. We use an informal and engaging format to present and discuss the issues most on the minds of pre-teens as they begin adolescence; conversations about body changes, sex, and other growing up stuff. Each family receives a copy of the book “Will Puberty Last My Whole Life?”

This class is offered in Seattle, Bellevue, Everett and Federal Way in partnership with Great Conversations. The cost is $90 per parent/child pair; $70 per extra son.

View dates and locations at seattlechildrens.org/ classes or call 206-789-2306 if you have questions. Content outlines and short videos are available at greatconversations.com.

For Girls: A Heart-to-Heart Talk on Growing Up This class is for girls, 10 to 12 years old, and a parent or trusted adult. We use an informal and engaging format to present and discuss the issues most on the minds of pre-teens as they begin adolescence; conversations about body changes, sex, and other growing up stuff. Each family receives a copy of the book “Will Puberty Last My Whole Life?”

This class is offered in Seattle, Bellevue, Everett and Federal Way in partnership with Great Conversations. The cost is $90 per parent/child pair; $70 per extra daughter.

View dates and locations at seattlechildrens.org/ classes or call 206-789-2306 if you have questions. Content outlines and short videos are available at greatconversations.com.

EVENTS Free Safe Firearm Storage Giveaway WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 15, 10 a.m. to 1 p.m.

WHERE: Outdoor Emporium, 1701 4th Ave. S., Seattle CALL: 206-987-6197 Learn about the importance of safe firearm storage and get a free lock box or trigger lock, with hands-on training on proper use. Supplies are limited. First come, first served. One free lock box or trigger lock per person (maximum two items per household). Recipient must be 18 or older. No ID required.

Free Car Seat Check WHEN: Saturday, Oct. 20, 10 a.m. to 12:30 p.m.

WHERE: Seattle Children’s main campus, 4800 Sand Point Way NE, Seattle CALL: 206-987-5999 Come learn how to safely secure your child in the car. Child passenger safety experts will check your child in a car seat, booster seat or the seat belt and answer any questions you may have. No reservations. First come, first served.

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Let’s Play: Cinderella. A short, interactive live show for little ones and caregivers. Oct. 3–7, 10 a.m. $5. Ages 0–5 with caregiver.

Olympia Family Theater. olyft.org Salmon Tour and Creek Exploration.

Take a nature walk and learn about the lifecycle of our beloved salmon. Wednesday, 3:30–4:30 p.m.; Sunday, 11 a.m.–noon, through Oct. 10. $5 suggested donation; preregister. Keep It Simple Farm, Redmond. kisfarm.com

Nordic Stories. Pija Lindenbaum’s “Bridget and the Moose Brothers” is featured today along with a craft project. First Thursdays, 10–11 a.m. FREE. Ages 2–5 with adult. Nordic Museum, Seattle. nordicmuseum.org Free First Thursday. Local museums free today, including Seattle Art Museum, the Burke Museum, Wing Luke Museum and MOHAI, plus Museum of Flight and Living Computers free during evening hours. freemuseumday.org/sea

Candlelight Tour at Fort Nisqually.

If your fam can’t imagine a day without devices, take a fascinating peek at life in a bygone era. Friday–Saturday, Oct. 5–6. $10–$15; ages 3 and under free; preregister. Fort Nisqually Living History Museum, Tacoma. fortnisqually.org The Very Hungry Caterpillar Show.

Fabulous hour-long on-stage adaptation of the classic book and three other Eric Carle classics. Through Oct. 21. $20 and up. Ages 3 and up. Seattle Children’s Theatre. sct.org

Kelsey Creek Farm Fair. Annual fall farm fun with barnyard animals, crafts, hay rides, pumpkins and more. 11 a.m.–4 p.m. FREE; fee for some activities. Kelsey Creek Farm, Bellevue. farmerjayne.com Scarecrow Fest. Scavenger hunt, nature art, scarecrow-building, carnival games and live music. 11 a.m.–2 p.m. FREE; fee for scarecrow building and carnival games.

Magnuson Children’s Garden, Seattle. magnusonnatureprograms.com

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7–9 p.m. $15–$18. Adults and teens. Seattle Children’s Hospital. parentmap.com/like

National Coming Out Day Celebration.

Resources and performances to celebrate and support LGBTQ+, allies and inclusivity.

5–7 p.m. Donations welcome. Hiawatha Community Center, Seattle. seattle.gov Borealis Festival of Light. Come experience live performances and the first-ever global competition of technology and light art in the U.S. FREE. Thursday–Sunday, Oct. 11–14. South Lake Union Neighborhood, Seattle. borealisfestivaloflight.com

12 Haunted Hall. An early excuse to get dressed up and enjoy a fright. Friday–Saturday, Oct. 12–13, 6–8 p.m. $4–$5; ages 4 and under free. All ages; age 7 and under with an adult. Center at Norpoint, Tacoma. metroparkstacoma.org Nile Nightmares Haunted House.

Horror thrills and escape room option for additional $5. (All-ages kids’ day Oct. 27.)

Friday–Sunday through Oct. 28 plus Oct. 31. $22–$28. Ages 13 and up. Mountlake Terrace. nilenightmares.com

13 Lakewood Truck and Tractor Day. Giant slingshot, giant trucks, hard hats, hayrides, pumpkins and food! What more could you want? Noon–3 p.m. FREE. Fort Steilacoom Park, Lakewood. cityoflakewood.us Cedar River Salmon Journey. Witness spawning salmon work their way upstream in four locations. Saturday–Sunday, October 6–28, 11 a.m.–4 p.m. FREE. Renton Library, Cedar River Park, Cavanaugh Pond and Landsburg Park and Dam. seattleaquarium. org/salmon-journey

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Every Child Summit. Join ParentMap and dive into resources and information to support children with learning differences; free resource fair for families and, new this year, three mini lectures. $30–$35 for lectures; resource fair FREE. Resource fair; 5–8 p.m.; lectures, 5:30–8:30 p.m. University of Washington Husky Union Building, Seattle. parentmap.com/everychild

Craven Farm Corn Maze. Try the 15-acre, Alice-in-Pumpkinland-themed maze or kiddie maze. Daily through Oct. 31, 9:30 a.m.– dusk. $8; ages 2 and under free. Craven Farm, Snohomish. cravenfarm.com Outdoor Families Nature Club. Connect with other families while exploring the great outdoors with a nature enthusiast. Thursdays through Nov. 15, 10 a.m.–noon. $5 per child or $10 per family. Babes in arms and older with caregiver. Fort Ward Park, Bainbridge Island. peacockfamilycenter.org

Hamlin Halloween Haunt. Don your costume and come for spooky stories around the campfire, plus a hay ride and games.

6–8:30 p.m. FREE. Hamlin Park, Shoreline. shorelinewa.gov Hoot ‘n’ Howl. Take an evening tram tour to see what the park’s animals are up to at night; kids invited to wear costumes for trick-or-treating. Friday–Saturday, Oct. 19–20, 5–9 p.m. $12–$16; ages 2 and under free. Northwest Trek Wildlife Park, Eatonville. nwtrek.org

Diwali: Lights of India. Celebrate the arts and culture of India with dance performances and instruction, puppetry, food, face painting and more. 11 a.m.–6 p.m.

FREE. Seattle Center. seattlecenter.com Issaquah Goes Apples. Make old-fashioned cider with an apple press, build a scarecrow, enjoy the farm fresh pop-up market and more! 9 a.m.–2 p.m. FREE. Historic Shell Station, Issaquah. downtownissaquah.com

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Read for the Record Story Time.

Celebrate literacy by joining a worldwide reading session; story times at 11 a.m. and 3 p.m. Included with pay-as-you-will admission. Ages 3–8 with families. Children’s Museum of Tacoma. playtacoma.org Foster’s Produce Farm and Corn Maze.

Pick your pumpkin; extra activities on weekends. Daily through Oct. 31, 9 a.m.–5 p.m. $6 maze; ages 3 and under free; pumpkins for purchase. Arlington. fosterscornmaze.com

Fall Festival. Halloween-themed games, crafts, face painting, snacks and fun for all ages. 5:30–7:30 p.m. FREE. High Point Community Center, Seattle. seattle.gov Dracula: The Romantic Ballet. Come in costume for Tacoma City Ballet’s spooky but kid-friendly tour and ballet performance.

Friday–Sunday, Oct. 26–28. $17–$70. Federal Way Performing Arts & Event Center. tacomacityballet.com

Hilloween. This family Halloween celebration features a carnival, a costume parade led by a marching band, and trick-or-treating along Broadway. Noon–6 p.m. FREE. Seattle Central College. caphilloween.com Pumpkin Chomp & Stomp. Admire the animals as they gorge themselves on special pumpkin treats. Included with admission. Saturday–Sunday, Oct. 27–28. 9:30 a.m.–3 p.m. Northwest Trek Wildlife Park, Eatonville. nwtrek.org

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Drop-in workshop with a STEAM theme each week; this week wear your costume for boo-tacular experiments. Wednesdays through Nov. 28, 11:15 a.m.–12:15 p.m. $10–$13. Ages 4–7 with caregiver. Les Gove Gymnasium, Auburn. auburnwa.gov

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perennial favorite for a good reason. It’s free to go into the pumpkin patch (hello, photo op!), and there’s a nominal fee for the farm yard, tractor rides and corn maze. Pick up farmfresh veggies at the produce stand on your way out.

For families in the North End, Bob’s Corn & Pumpkin Farm (10917 Elliott Rd., Snohomish) is a popular pick, what

with its 10-acre corn maze and homemade doughnuts! Buy an activity wristband for access to unlimited cow train rides, a rope maze, corn crib and more. Parents with babies will be psyched to know there’s a dedicated building for nursing and PHOTO COURTESY JIAYING GRYGIEL

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Both farms are open through Oct. 31. The fields can get muddy, so come prepared with rubber boots.

Hate crowds? Don’t wait until the last weekend before Halloween, when it’s guaranteed to be a zoo. Go early in the month, early in the day, or on a weekday, if you can swing it.

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Go apple picking

You know what they say, an apple a day.… The Farm at Swan’s Trail (7301 Rivershore Rd., Snohomish) offers Honeycrisp and Jonagold apples in its U-pick orchard. Kids learn to twist, not pull, the apple stem off the branch. Low branches make the fruit easy to reach.

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The weather has cooled off, the mosquitoes have died down, and it’s still light out — it’s the perfect season for hiking. Storms will likely move in by the end of the month, so head out soon to stretch your legs. Take the kids up Mount Rainier to Paradise, where you’ll find gorgeous fall colors at this time of the year. Be sure to ask about the Junior Ranger program at the new Paradise Jackson Visitor Center (Paradise Road, east of Longmire), which is generally open weekends and holidays through the winter.

The Nisqually Vista Trail starts at the west end of the lower parking lot and is a good distance for little legs (1.2 miles). Plus, what a payoff: glorious views of Mount Rainier, the Nisqually Glacier and beautiful subalpine meadows.

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easy 1.4-mile walk takes you to a beach with a lighthouse on the shores of Puget Sound. Kids will also love the newly renovated play area tucked in the woods near the visitor center (3801 Discovery Park Blvd., Seattle). You’ll find a zip line, a very tall slide and an area where kids can build their own tree forts.

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If seeing fall colors by car is more your jam, the two-hour drive to Leavenworth is nothing short of stunning. This charming faux Bavarian town holds its annual Oktoberfest for three weekends in October (5–6, 12–13 and 19–20). The celebration is all-ages until 9 p.m. Expect lots of lederhosen, bratwurst and live music. Prost!

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The crowds have thinned out, and the sand isn’t burning the soles of your feet. Fall is the perfect time to head to the beach. Our Puget Sound water stays a chilly 56 degrees even in August, too cold to swim in anyway. Snag a fire pit at Golden Gardens Park (8498 Seaview Place N.W., Seattle) or Alki Beach (1702 Alki Ave. S.W., Seattle) and settle in for s’mores with a view of the Olympics.

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The Flying Heritage & Combat Armor Museum (3407 109th St. S.W., Everett) hosts its annual Monster Bash on Oct. 6.

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monster Jeep rides, and firetrucks and tanks to explore. Adults: $20; admission is free for kids 13 and younger in costume ($12 for those not in costume and for ages 14–17).

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All aboard! Train rides are fun any time of the year, but they’re extra special on select weekends in October. Take a ride on the Northwest

Railroad Museum’s Halloween Train

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(38625 S.E. King St., Snoqualmie) and then enjoy special Halloween stories, old-fashioned cider pressing and other activities for kids at the museum.

Farther afield, join Snoopy and the Peanuts gang on The Great Pumpkin Patch Express at the Mount Rainier Railroad (54124 Mountain Hwy. E., Elbe). As the steam train winds through the foothills of Mount Rainier, you’ll read “It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown.” Wear your Halloween costumes and go trick-or-treating through a historic logging camp.

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Now that the cruise ship hordes have cleared out, it’s a great time to visit our iconic Pike

Place Market. The fish market with the famous fish throwers has changed ownership, but nothing else has changed: same worn walkways, same produce and flower sellers, just a little less claustrophobic.

Sensory-friendly tip: When you need a quieter place to go (and a reliably clean restroom), head across the street to the Seattle Art Museum, at First and Union. An exhibit of royal treasures from Jodhpur, India, opens on Oct. 18. But frankly, the lower level (which is always free) is a bigger draw for kids.

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Chase Open Studio to make some art — it’s free and stocked with

art supplies. Chances are you’ll be the only ones there; the studio’s kind of a hidden gem.

10 Go bird-watching in Skagit Valley

Arriving in late October, tens of thousands of snow geese blanket the fields of Skagit Valley. They’re migrating from their nesting grounds in Siberia and Alaska, and settle in for a (well-deserved) rest through April. Get the kids outside to watch and listen to the big white birds feeding and interacting.

There’s a short trail at Fir Island Farms (Discover Pass needed), which is a no-hunting snow goose reserve. Have your camera ready; if you’re lucky, you’ll see the giant flock take flight at once.

Before driving back to Seattle, stop by a U-pick pumpkin patch in Mount Vernon (try Schuh Farms or Gordon Skagit Farms) to find your perfect jack- o’-lantern. n JiaYing Grygiel is a mama of two boys, a freelance photographer and writer. She blogs at photoj.net.

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Fruit trees in this part of Washington produce billions of apples annually, each one picked by hand. Varieties range from the ubiquitous Red Delicious to soughtafter heirlooms like Maiden Blush and Golden Russet to wildly popular newcomers such as Honeycrisp.

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That was also the same year I noticed what an oddball my father was in social situations. He seemed to interview strangers if we were waiting in line, or ask inappropriately intimate questions of waitresses. He just never seemed comfortable in banks or grocery stores or restaurants. I often found myself thinking, “God, Dad. Please, just be normal.”

It turns out my father falls within the autism spectrum, specifically the Asperger’s end of that spectrum. There were many challenges that came with being his son, but I have come to understand that there were far more benefits to me in the long run, benefits I found while raising my own son on the spectrum, but also in learning how to better relate to all people with or without what we call special needs.

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“As the parent, you have to set strong expectations, whether it’s that the child remains an active member of the family or by setting clear boundaries for where that child’s responsibilities end.”

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The Whole Earth Montessori School Est. 1986 Accredited by the American Montessori Society

Preschool - 8th Grade WEM: An exceptional academic program... an authentic Montessori experience...

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6 People Changing the World of Learning Differences and Special Needs After testing showed my daughter was developmentally delayed, I held fast to my friend whose older child has long struggled with learning.

She was my community, yet I yearned for a vast safety net to catch my family.

I asked a special education teacher why there wasn’t such a network in place. Her answer: At first, parents are too busy helping their own kids; then, they age out of helping others.

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Ariane Gauvreau

How a local educator is transforming special education

By Nancy Schatz Alton • Photo by Will Austin

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riane Gauvreau first worked with neurodiverse kids as a teenage ski instructor in Alaska. “I loved working at Kinder Ski: There was lots of hot chocolate and bathroom breaks,” says Gauvreau.

But it wasn’t until she took a Psych 101 class as an undergrad at the University of Washington (UW) that she became specifically interested in autism.

Her interest grew as she received her bachelor’s and master’s degrees and eventually a doctorate — all at the UW. During those years, she worked at the UW’s inclusive early childhood center, the Experimental Education Unit (EEU).

“While the kids with special needs were pretty successful at the EEU, they struggled as they transitioned to public school. I wondered, ‘Why is it so hard to support neurodiversity in our public school system?’” says Gauvreau, who lives in Shoreline with her husband and 3-year-old son.

Now the field director and an instructor in special education at the UW, Gauvreau says her goal is to prepare special education teachers for their careers ahead.

This means teaching them evidencebased practices and how to respond to each student’s specific cultural and learning needs.

One tool: the UW’s Families as Mentors program.

Under Gauvreau’s leadership, the program has expanded from a requirement for only a select group of students to an important part of teacher education for all special education grad students. Each special education teacher in training meets one-on-one with a family with a child who has special needs. They meet five times over the course of a year, spending time in the family’s home and community.

“This program helps [the teachers in training] learn deeply from families by seeing their daily lives,” says Gauvreau. She recalls one student who partnered with a single parent raising a daughter with Down syndrome; the student told Gauvreau how surprised she was by everything the parent had to do to get her child ready for swim lessons, from adaptive equipment to behavioral support.

“Family life doesn’t exist within the walls of a school,” Gauvreau says. “This program gives our teaching candidates a slight glimpse into the daily successes and challenges of raising a child with special needs.”

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districts, agencies, teachers and administrators who are kind enough to welcome our graduate students into their classrooms as they learn to be teachers. Fieldwork and the real, hands-on opportunities to practice how to teach is a crucial aspect of teacher education. I get to remain grounded in what’s going on in our state’s public school system, while teaching a handful of classes and staying up to date on all of the latest research on neurodiversity and best practices in special education.

What’s your favorite class to teach?

Right now, it’s a graduate class on autism. I’ve recently had the opportunity to learn more from autistic self-advocates themselves. This voice is really missing from many aspects of teacher education. It’s really stretched my thinking on how to prepare teachers to help kids with all aspects of their identity as a neurodiverse person.

Why do you think neurodiverse kids may struggle in general education classrooms?

I think all kids would do better if we promoted learning environments where all aspects of diversity are celebrated. That means “All kids would seeing every student do better if as a full member of a general education we promoted classroom and ensuring that talking learning about neurodiversity environments is a normal part of the where all aspects conversation. What if we talked about the of diversity are fact that a student has a disability called celebrated.” cerebral palsy and here’s what that means?

Teachers can add to understanding and inclusivity by reading books [that feature] neurodiverse characters and making it clear that everybody is working on and learning something different. Studies suggest that when we talk about neurodiversity with neurotypical children, these children are better peers, allies and friends to the neurodiverse children in the classroom. n Nancy Schatz Alton is a writer, teacher and poet.

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