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large part of being a Christian man, who is sexually successful, is leaving a positive and healthy legacy for your sons. Sons look to their fathers for modeling in every area of their life, yet we rarely take a moment and think what kind of sexual role model we’ve become for our children. You have the responsibility of having the sex talk with your sons. What do you say? When? Every man should feel confident in passing sexual health down to his family. This may be challenging for some, but stay persistent as it can change the life of your son, his son and in doing so create a legacy of healthy sexuality. How we role model male sexuality is imperative to our sons’ interpretation of what comprises acceptable and unacceptable behavior. I have spent countless hours counseling men whose father’s sexual role modeling was absent or, even worse, destructive. The absent role model is one who never discusses sexuality. It’s as if he’s not having sex at all. He doesn’t know what to say about it so he says nothing and hopes for the best. The positive role model is one who is intentional about communicating healthy sexuality to his son. He gets informed and looks for opportunities to talk about girls with his son in a positive way. He is behaviorally pure himself from pornography and adultery. He is able to be honest with other adult men about any lust issues in his life. He responsibly blocks the Internet, and monitors television and media intake for himself and his family. He is emotionally connected to his son, enough so that they can talk about sex.
“YOU WILL BE HAVING HUNDREDS OF SEXUAL CONVERSATIONS BETWEEN HIS YOUTH AND MARRIAGE.”
20 SEVEN JULY / AUGUST 2018
