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BY JUDITH BERGER

hen it comes to buying and preparing food, there is a disconnect. Historically, chefs were men while women did the everyday cooking in the home; grocers were traditionally male while women did the grocery shopping. Today, gender roles are crossing into what was once unfamiliar territory; but men remain dominant in the grocery industry. Lori Fox is navigating her way.

Lori and her husband, Pat Fox, own and operate Fox Bros. Piggly Wiggly stores in seven locations in southeast Wisconsin. “Yes, the grocery business is traditionally dominated by men, but like most businesses, more and more, women are involved in leadership roles,” Lori Fox said. “It’s an evolving thing.”

Partnering in the grocery business is also an evolving thing for Fox. From a young age, with a strong constitution, she has followed her own path. Originally from Arcadia, Wis., Fox is the oldest of six children. Her father was a pharmacist and operated the local drugstore. “I worked in my dad’s drugstore,” Fox remembered. “I hated retail. When all my friends were out playing I was working.”

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Pictured Left to right...Matt (foster son) and son Jack, Andy (eldest son) Pat, Lori, Kari and fiancé Corey, youngest son Michael, Matt’s wife, Angi and son Harry.

Fox earned a degree in early childhood education at the University of Wisconsin-Stout. After college, she moved to Hartland and took advantage of an opportunity. She and two other women bought a daycare center. They grew enrollment from 19 to 60 children. Eventually, her partners moved on, but Fox retained the business. Realizing she needed to diversify her path, Fox earned her insurance license and started another business that handled third-party benefits insurance while still operating the daycare center.

It wasn’t long after Fox sold the daycare that her passion and enthusiasm for families and children felt unfulfilled. She began volunteering for the Waukesha County Health and Human Services. “I was a mentor to children in abusive homes.”

Fox leaves deep footprints in any path she travels. Soon, she was developing programs and eventually became the executive director of Prevention and Protection of Abused Children, now called Parents Place. She held the position until 1998. Fox continued her work in child education and protection, and conducted training at the UW-Mad-

ison-Extension. While single and successful in the late 80’s, what Fox wanted most was to be a parent.

“I looked into single-parent adoptions, but at that time it just wasn’t that easy,” Fox said. “So I decided to become a foster parent.” Her first placement was a 6-year-old boy. Fox fell in love with him. Within seven months, his birth mother was granted custody and the child was returned home. “It broke my heart,” she said. “I didn’t know if I could go through that heartache again.” But she opened herself up to another foster care placement.

A sweet 5 1/2-month-old baby girl was placed with Fox. “I brought her home July 1 and adopted her on August 12. It was meant to be.” It was the first single-parent adoption in Waukesha County. Kari, now 27, is Lori and Pat Fox’s oldest child. The couple also have two sons, Andy and Michael.

What sounds like something straight out of a Hollywood Rom-Com, Lori met Pat while shopping in the local Piggly Wiggly. “He had just moved to Hartland to manage the store,” she remembered. “He followed me around as I was shopping.” At the time she still owned the daycare center and was

“Community involvement is important to us,” Fox said. The stores are involved in local fundraising events and have been involved in giveback programs totalling more than a $1 million. The store is involved in local food pantries and has received awards from Feeding America for its participation. “That synergy with our community builds loyalty.”

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Now Lori is Pat’s partner in business as well as in life. “I’ll admit, I’m accustomed to being the boss; but we are partners. I bring a different perspective to the business.”

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planning its summer picnic. Once Pat introduced himself, Lori saw an opportunity, but not for a date. “I begged for buns for our picnic.” Pat couldn’t resist the perfect opening to make a good first impression and donated food for the picnic.

As most strong relationships, their’s is based on a friendship forged over five years. Lori wasn’t sure Pat was ready to settle down but he was there for her as she was going through the heartbreak and the joys of being a foster parent. “He saw me with Kari and said ‘Someday I hope I have kids.’”

They started to seriously date in 1990 and were married in 1991.

As Lori continued working in the nonprofit sector, Pat and his brother, Bob, bought and officially started Fox Bros. Piggly Wiggly. In 2006, Bob Fox retired and Pat and Lori bought him out of the stores, which at the time numbered three. By 2011, the Piggly Wiggly corporation presented an opportunity to the Foxes to acquire four additional

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stores. It was a huge decision, recalled Lori. “Because of our ages, we needed to do this together. We were empty nesters. If we were going to take this leap, we’d leap together.”

It was a grand gesture for someone who has always called her own shots.

“I was a good adult educator. It was sad for me to leave it.” Now Lori would be Pat’s partner in business as well as in life. “I’ll admit, I’m accustomed to being the boss; but we are partners. I bring a different perspective to the business.”

A self-proclaimed foodie, Lori likes to cook. “I look at products and the layout of the store differently and also bring an HR and insurance knowledge to it, but I’ve learned a lot, too.”

The grocery business is constantly changing to meet the tastes and whims of its customers. “It’s so competitive,” Fox said. “We need to look at who we are, how to remain successful, find our niche and grow our strengths. We can’t be everything to everyone.”

For Fox Bros. Piggly Wiggly, location is important. With locations in Hartland, Hartford, Oconomowoc, Hubertus, Jackson, Slinger and Saukeville, being in close-knit communities is part of its longstanding image. “Community involvement is important to us,” Fox said. The stores are involved in local fundraising events and have been involved in giveback programs totalling more than a $1 million. The stores are involved in local food pantries and have received awards from Feeding America for their participation. “That

synergy with our community builds loyalty.”

At 61, Fox admits she’s having fun, but is quick to point out that the grocery business has a lot of moving parts to consider: quality of product, pricing, waste, ordering -- and most importantly, customers and employees. “Pat is an excellent store operator. He is well respected among his peers. He says, ‘You’re smarter when you know you don’t know everything.’ That’s a really good mindset to have.”

Fox’s path has come full circle. The young girl who hated retail is now a grocer. “I don’t work at the company; I work on company. We want our stores to be a good place for our customers to shop and for our employees to work.

I’ve also learned, you are never too old to learn.”

Lori and Pat Fox are thinking about their exit strategy. “Maybe we will spin-off our brat business,” Lori said of the store’s special brat recipe that has always been in high demand. At one time or another, their children have all worked in the stores. Kari, a graphic designer, does the store’s website, Andy is in business and Michael is in educator.

The Fox children bring skills and talents to their legacy. “The kids should find their own way. It will help them see if they have the passion and interest for the business,” Lori said of advice that has always served her well. l

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ou see it on the national news and on social media: Breastfeeding Mother Denied the Right to Feed Baby in Store XYZ. The simple act of providing nourishment for a child can prove to be a challenge for many women due not only to cultural ideas or public opinion but also by the media’s perception of breasts. Breastfeeding mothers may also lack support from their own family. And yet breastfeeding is one of the best things women can do for their babies. I had the honor of speaking with Notesong Srisopark Thompson, RN, BSN, JD, and Certified Lactation Counselor, on the health benefits of breastfeeding for both mother and child. Notesong has worked this year with the WWHF GrapeVine Project providing breastfeeding workshops to mothers and nurses. Her main goal is to support the supporters of a breastfeeding mother. Her work started in Milwaukee, but the workshops are now branching throughout the state through the GrapeVine Project.

HEALTH BENEFITS FOR BABY

The benefits for a newborn infant are innumerable. Colostrum, the milk produced by the mother in the first days, is high in antibodies for the newborn. “Every time you breast feed, it is like you are giving your infant an immunization that is free and natural,” said Notesong. “Infants that are breastfed for the first six months have a lower incidence of ear infections, diarrhea and other respiratory illnesses. RSV (respiratory syncytial virus) is a respiratory illness that fills the baby’s airway with mucus making breathing difficult. This can lead to complications and hospitalizations.” Breastfed infants receive maternal antibodies from their mother which can protect the baby from being infected with RSV. It is important to remember that a newborn’s immune system just begins to mature by the age of one and it is not fully mature until after a child reaches six years of age. The American Academy of Pediatrics states that breastfed babies tend to gain the right amount of weight, thus reducing rates of childhood obesity.

NUTRITIONAL BENEFITS FOR BABY

Breast milk ensures that infants receive the necessary levels of vitamins and minerals they require. Studies have shown that the essential fatty acids in breast milk improve cognitive function and vision in infants.

The benefits of breastfeeding can appear later in a child’s life as there is a reduced rate of juvenile diabetes, multiple sclerosis, heart disease, and cancer before the age of 15 in a child who was breastfed. Several studies reported that adults who were breastfed as infants have lower blood pressure on average than those who were formula-fed.

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Women who breastfeed receive amazing benefits, too.

Notesong emphasized this fact, “A woman who breastfeeds her child can burn up to 600 calories a day. This helps mom get back her pre-pregnancy shape. It helps your uterus shrink, too. Breast cancer is reduced by 4.6% each month you breast feed.” The rates of uterine cancer and Type II diabetes are both lower in women who have breastfed their babies.

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HOW CAN WE SUPPORT BREASTFEEDING MOTHERS?

“A woman who has support will breastfeed longer,” said Notesong. “We need to beloving, and supportive to her. We need to lift her up and empower her.” Barriers that can cause a mother to stop breastfeeding include mastitis, soreness, work and not having enough support from family and loved ones. “We hope that a mother can breastfeed her child at least 6 months or longer. The World Health Organization recommends 2 years of breastfeeding,” said Notesong.

“We need to build a ‘Force Field’ around the mother,” stressed Notesong. “The ‘ForceField’ should be the people who love the mother.” That can include the husband, family members, friends, and co-workers. How can we build that ‘Force Field’?

1. Support the mother. A simple task of bringing her water shows you care.

2. Help provide knowledge to mothers and educate their supporters. Certified lactation counselors and health care providers can provide breastfeeding skills that help the mother have a positive experience.

3. Help break down the barriers to breastfeeding. Provide lactation areas at work and allow the mother to take breaks to express breast milk.

4. Normalize breastfeeding. Notesong suggests, “When you see a breastfeeding mother in public talk to her and acknowledge that she is doing something great, healthy, and important for her baby.”

BREASTFEEDING TEXT SUPPORT

Notesong shared the newest piece of technology to support breastfeeding mothers, texting! “Mothers who sign up for our text support can receive texts about breastfeeding from 28 weeks of pregnancy up until their child reaches 6 months of age. If the mother is having a problem, the first thing is to get her connected with local resources that can help answer her question. We like to connect the mothers with area breastfeeding support groups or WIC programs. Texts will consist of breastfeeding information and encouraging words. Information for this text program can be found on the WWHF website (http://www.wwhf.org/programs/first-breath/textingform/).

LET’S ADVOCATE FOR WOMEN AND THEIR HEALTH

Let’s support new mothers by encouraging them in everything they do to keep their baby and themselves healthy. Being a new mother can be emotionally and physically draining so reach out and be their ‘Force Field’. l Because it all begins with a healthy woman…

Sue Ann Thompson is founder and president of the Wisconsin Women’s Health Foundation (WWHF), a statewide non-profit organization whose mission is to help Wisconsin women and their families reach their healthiest potential. WWHF provides programs and conducts forums that focus on education, prevention, and early detection; connects individuals to health resources; produces and distributes the most up-to-date health education and resource materials; and, awards grants and scholarships to women health researchers and related community non-profits. To learn more, visit wwhf.org or call 1-800-448-5148.

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truly miss my mother, who died 18 months ago, at age 90. She was the quintessential Jewish mother and an expert at guilt. When I phoned her in South Africa, I didn’t just say hello; I also said I’m sorry. I had almost always done something wrong. Perhaps I did not call my sister on her birthday or failed to keep a promise. She often said, “Thank God your father isn’t alive to see this” or “with a daughter like you, no wonder my blood pressure is so high!”

Fortunately, my mother’s guilt trips were never demeaning but always related to making sure family came first. She never failed to tell me how proud she was of me and my siblings.

While my mother’s ability to induce guilt still makes me smile, many children of my patients complain bitterly about their relationship with their parent, particularly when the tables are turned. Memory loss or physical disabilities lead to dependency that suddenly makes them their parent’s parent.

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stantly insulting and refuses to listen to reason. She resists being parented by her child, refuses to take advice and makes her daughter feel helpless. Her mother insists on driving the car despite being a menace on the road, forgets to, or alternatively, takes too many medications, often at the wrong time and refuses help around the house. Most painful is the praise her mother showers on her two sons, who never show up or offer to help. The daughter is particularly guilty that arguments are becoming louder and more rancorous. Conflicts with her mother are affecting her marriage and family life.

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Clearly this is a dysfunctional relationship. Unfortunately, there are no easy solutions, but there is help out there. Persuading your parent to be seen by a geriatric team can be most helpful. Access to highly qualified social workers and therapists can help both parent and daughter, as can health care providers who are experts in managing older persons and in the dynamics of caregiving. Many caregivers need intensive therapy to overcome resentment and guilt caused by feelings of inadequacy, helplessness and being unable to do enough. A therapist can provide insight into the problem and make you realize that you are not to blame for the situation.

Caregivers must understand that they cannot be responsible for every aspect of their parents’ lives. Try to involve other family members if possible. Force your siblings to do something, and encourage grandchildren, nieces and nephews to help. Respite is absolutely critical. Get away for vacations on the weekends, and spend time exclusively with your own family. Ask a therapist or social worker to help identify services in the community that can assist with home care, shopping, cleaning, bathing and dressing. Seek support from your church or synagogue and ask parishioners to make home visits. If your parent is home-bound, visits by health care professionals may be possible. They will monitor the medical condition, assist with medications and provide nursing needs. Your parent may also be eligible for meal deliveries at home and physical and occupational therapy that may make them less dependent.

For some, being a parent’s parent can be an overwhelming burden. But with the appropriate help, support, understanding and, most importantly, forgiveness, caring for a dependent parent can be spiritually uplifting and become some of the best of times. l

Do Your Folks Have an Advance Health Care Directive? Do You? BY: CARRIE SCHWAB-POMERANTZ

DEAR CARRIE: I’m trying to help my parents who are in their late 60s with estate planning. They’re OK talking about the financial part, but they’re reluctant to deal with the possibility of a serious medical issue. They say they’re not that old yet! How can I nudge them along? — A Reader DEAR READER: With people living longer and healthier lives,

it’s not surprising that your parents are avoiding talking about the possibility of a serious medical issue. They’d probably rather plan their next trip. But now is exactly the time — when they’re clearheaded and feeling good — that they should be thinking about it.

In fact, in my opinion, everyone — even young adults — should think about and document how he or she would want to handle a medical crisis. That’s the only way to ensure others will make decisions that are in keeping with one’s wishes.

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trust will be your spokesperson and interact with medical personnel if you’re unable to do so yourself.

Depending on the state, these may be two separate documents or they may be rolled into a single form.

TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR AND YOUR FAMILY

Working through the questions on the form and making these literal life-or-death decisions can be a real challenge. If you’re unsure about something, it may help to talk to your doctor.

When I filled out my own advance health care directive, it was tough to confront my mortality so directly — especially deciding when to “pull the plug.” My doctor helped me put certain things in perspective. You might offer to visit your parents’ doctor with them, so you can help them ask the difficult questions.

And don’t stop there. Once you get your parents talking, make sure the rest of the family, or anyone who would be affected, knows about and accepts your parents’ decisions.

START WITH AN ADVANCE HEALTH CARE DIRECTIVE

I’d start by putting your wishes in writing with an advance health care directive. Getting the documents is the easy part. The hard part is thinking through your decisions before you commit them to paper. The questions on the form will help focus your thoughts, but it’s important to be honest with yourself and discuss your feelings with your family before putting anything in writing.

You might help your parents start the thinking process by getting a copy of their state’s form — as well as one for yourself. You can download a state’s specific advance directive from a number of websites such as www.caringinfo.org, or get it from your state’s attorney general’s office, or your doctor or hospital.

Each state has its own version of an advance health care directive (and it may go by a slightly different name) but, generally, it will include two parts: n Instructions for health care: This lets you put in writing the type of treatment you do — or don’t — want if you’re facing a life-threatening crisis. For instance, do you want your doctors to use life-sustaining treatments regardless of the circumstances or potential outcome? By putting your wishes in writing, you’re helping your family make very tough decisions on your behalf. n A power of attorney for health care: This appoints someone — a friend, family member, whomever you choose — to make medical decisions for you if you can’t speak for yourself. These decisions aren’t necessarily just about the end of your life. They can be any type of medical decisions — from medications to surgery. The key is that someone you

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While you have your parents’ attention regarding potential health issues, open the door to discussing their wishes about possible housing concerns, such as assisted living. This can also be a difficult decision.

I know of two recent situations that demonstrate the need for this type of dis-

cussion.

In one case, a couple refused to leave their home until they were in their early 90s. By this time, they really needed assisted living, and the responsibility for selling their house, choosing a facility and orchestrating the move fell on their daughter. It was hard on all of them. In an opposite situation, a couple in their early 80s decided to move to assisted living while they were still well and able to handle the details of

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Your parents may never have to make this type of move, but knowing their thoughts on the issue will be helpful should the need arise. It’s all part of being both financially and emotionally prepared.

DO IT NOW

No matter how difficult it might be, I encourage you and your parents to take these steps now. It isn’t just a question of age. Whether you’re 25 or 65, having an advance health care directive and confronting possible life changes means you — and your loved ones — can put these concerns aside.

Then you can all enjoy life to the fullest. l Carrie Schwab-Pomerantz, CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER(tm), is president of Charles Schwab Foundation and author of the forthcoming book, “The Charles Schwab Guide to Finances After Fifty,” available in bookstores in April 2014.

“There’s a greater likelihood today that, as a 55-year-old, you will have surviving parents than there was possibly in the 1920s when both parents passed away before their children reached the age of 50,” says Cutler, who is also dean of the American Institute of Financial Gerontology. “This means that middle-agers, who are planning for their own older years, also have to think about their parents.”

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We have full-time jobs, are busy raising our family, and are not able to see him often. How can we make the best decision for him?

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: First, you need to obtain a written assessment of his existing physical condition from his doctor. What are his needs now?

Does he require bathing, full-time supervision and meal preparation?

What is his doctor’s prognosis?

Next, what options are affordable?

Does he have a long-term health care policy? Has he equity in his home that could be sold? Does he draw retirement income, Social Security, investment or enjoy other assets?

You cannot make the call until you obtain this information. For example, if you choose in-home care, you will be exposed to his legal responsibilities, IRS payroll taxation, and maybe even be sued for a caretaker accident, theft, senior abuse or other issues.

Professional health care organizations are available, but you would still be saddled with the monitoring issue.

Is it possible you could move him where you live? If so, investigate what his local options are. Ask your religious adviser, friends and doctor for advice.

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Looking for the perfect gift this season?

Consider a charitable donation BY: CARRIE SCHWAB-POMERANTZ

DEAR CARRIE: My friends and I have agreed to give charitable donations for the holidays instead of physical presents. What’s the best way to do this? — A Reader DEAR READER: What a great way to put the true spirit of the

holidays back in focus. Gift-giving has become so stressful — and expensive — the whole reason for giving a gift often gets lost in the rush and worry of the season. So I applaud you and your friends for wanting to share your good fortune with others, while, at the same time, acknowledging each other in a special way.

But just because you won’t be hitting the malls and combing the stores for just the right scarf or sweater, it doesn’t mean you don’t need to give a lot of thought to your gifts; in fact, it’s the thought you put into choosing a charity that’s meaningful to the recipient that will make this type of gift truly memorable.

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SET SOME GIFT-GIVING GUIDELINES

With this in mind, I suggest you and your friends get together ahead of time to set some parameters. For instance, are you all going to give gifts to each other or will you draw names? Will you set a financial limit on your gifts, say $50 or $100? Since it’s likely you have different levels of discretionary income, this might make everyone feel more comfortable.

You could also consider buying a small physical gift in addition to making a charitable donation. There’s no right or wrong way to go about this, but all of you should agree upfront so that everyone feels equally included.

MAKE IT PERSONAL

It’s one thing to write a check to a charity in someone’s name and another to choose just the right charity to represent that individual’s interests. You won’t have to be thinking about what colors friends look good in, but you can give equally careful thought to their beliefs and personal causes.

Is it saving wildlife? Feeding the hungry? A special program for kids or teens? Do they volunteer at a specific organization?

There’s so much to choose from, and every community has a myriad of worthy local programs on top of the wellknown national charities. Take the time to research creditable organizations using your unique insight into what’s most meaningful to your friend. You might also write a short note describing why you chose a particular charity for a certain person. It then becomes a very personal gift. l CHARITY CONTINUED ON PAGE 19

For it is in giving

that we receive

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Interfaith Older Adult Programs Make a Difference At Interfaith Older Adult Programs, more than 2,500 volunteers donate their time, energy and resources each year to help thousands of adults 50+ in the Milwaukee area stay healthy, active and engaged in their communities. While many older adults remain independent, others are isolated, frail and in great need of help from volunteers in day-to-day living.

Starting at age 14 and up, Interfaith offers many volunteer opportunities to match personal interests and schedules.

Volunteers help older adults each day by: providing rides to the doctor or pharmacy; helping with grocery shopping; working around the yard on seasonal chores; or simply making friendly home visits. Even more volunteers can be found at Interfaith-run senior centers and dining sites, helping with everyday activities and meal service.

“Interfaith volunteers make an incredible difference in thousands of lives in our community, and we’re so grateful for them,” said Felice Green, director of public relations/ marketing for Interfaith. “We hear from our older adult clients nearly every day about how just a little help or a simple act of kindness from one of our volunteers makes a world of difference.”

Another sector of Interfaith’s volunteer opportunities is designed specifically for adults 55+. Through Interfaith’s Retired and Senior Volunteer Program (RSVP), older adults have

the opportunity to volunteer their time by tutoring Milwaukee Public School students, making daily phone checks to isolated seniors, volunteering for veterans and becoming a senior ambassador. Another volunteer opportunity for adults 55+ is Interfaith’s Foster Grandparent Program. Older adults provide one-on-one attention to children to help them develop skills, confidence and strength.

Deborah Lewis, an Interfaith volunteer for RSVP, was inducted into the Milwaukee County Senior Citizen Hall of Fame in May. Lewis has been an Interfaith volunteer for nearly four years, most recently as a Senior Ambassador. She helps older adults find services and resources available to them throughout their community.

“The fact that our older adult volunteers like Deborah are being honored for their service to the community is a testament to the spirit of Interfaith,” Green said. “They show us that, not only is aging not going to slow them down, but that you can be active and engaged at any age.”

Volunteers looking to get involved can log on to interfaithmilw.org and complete a volunteer application to get the process started.

Others are welcome to help us continue linking older adults with a caring community by making a tax-deductible donation at interfaithmilw.org/donate or call (414) 2917500.

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For 40 years, Interfaith Older Adult Programs’ volunteers have made a positive impact in the lives of seniors. Be a part of that impact. Interfaith provides many meaningful and rewarding volunteer opportunities.

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NO ONE CAN DO IT ALONE

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EXPLORE DIFFERENT WAYS TO GIVE

Once you have a type of charity in mind, there are a variety of ways to make the donation. A quick search on the Internet shows a number of online charitable giving sites that make it easy to choose from literally thousands of individual charities. Some even offer charitable gift cards you can personalize and give to friends who can then choose to “spend” it on specific charities they want to support.

If you want to make charitable giving a more constant part of your life — and you have the money — you might want to look into a charitable gift account (also known as a donor-advised fund account) offered by many major financial institutions. It takes an initial contribution of around $5,000 to open the account, but you get an immediate tax deduction.

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Racine Habitat for Humanity What Will You Build?

Racine Habitat for Humanity is a local affiliate of Habitat for Humanity International and was founded in 1988. We are a Christian-based non-profit whose vision is a world where everyone has a decent place to live. We depend on volunteers to help build houses that we sell at a 0% interest rate to low-income families who earn the opportunity to become homeowners by putting in 300 hours of “sweat equity.”

Our ReStore, which is stocked by donations, staffed by volunteers and open to the public, was opened 8 years ago to provide a recycle/reuse service to the community and generate funds to support Habitat’s mission. To date, the ReStore has diverted over 2.4 million pounds of materials from our local landfills.

During the past 27 years, we’ve built and sold 84 houses, 48 new and 36 rehabs. In addition to eliminating blight in neighborhoods, more than $250,000 in property tax revenue is generated annually from Habitat homeowners.

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CAREERS | Building Stronger Women

Compile Evidence of Your

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recent issue of the Wall Street Journal contained a special section titled, “What’s Holding Women Back?” Naturally, I was curious, so I settled in to read. Studies show that a gender bias is persistent in many organizations, which means that men have an automatic advantage when it comes to job opportunities and meaningful feedback. Dual roles for women—at work and home—continue to zap women’s energy. A desire for promotion, equal among men and women at the start of a career, intensifies for men and declines for women over the years.

Good intentions for increasing diversity somehow fail to deliver results. Women in the C-suite are still rare. And the words women use convey less drive and ambition than those chosen by men. But when they do, women are cautioned to tone things down a bit.

What are we to make of all this research and expert opinion? I guess it depends on your orientation toward your work and life. If you are not achieving things that others around you are, evidence suggests you may not be getting the opportunity or support you need. Maybe a better boss or more enlightened company would be a better fit for you.

On the other hand, if you prefer not to compete or compare yourself with others, you may take such special reports with a grain of salt.

Truth is, circumstances for women range widely as do our reactions to them. Where one woman sees obstacles, another sees invigorating challenge. Where one woman feels judged and dismissed, another sees opportunity to try a different approach. Where one woman hears ‘no’ and decides it means ‘not ever,’ another hears ‘no’ and decides it means ‘not now.’

Every day you compile evidence to prove that things are going well or that you have no chance of achieving your dreams. That’s a wide spectrum. And the evidence you gather on any given day, subconsciously, of course, may be a direct result of the amount of sleep you got—or didn’t—and the way you nourished yourself physically and emotionally.

This gathering of evidence is a powerful source of the stories you tell yourself. These stories, in turn, enable you to continue working, learning and growing, or cut you off at the knees. Self-sabotage is a significant risk, especially when you push beyond your comfort zone.

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Compiling evidence of growth begins with understanding your baseline—where you are right now. How do you respond to different conditions, people and challenges?

Some everyday examples: A traffic jam. A colleague who rambles on to prove how smart she is. A tedious report. A demanding boss. Kids who battle every evening before supper. Don’t judge your reactions to these situations, simply capture them. Most people find this exercise interesting and enlightening.

The next step is to decide how you want to grow. Do you want to develop greater patience? The ability to think critically before making a decision? The ability to make a decision amidst conflicting and confusing data? A manner of communicating that is clear and concise?

One way to think about this is to imagine an ‘ideal you’ handling the various demands of life and work. At your best, how would you respond? What words describe your mindset and behavior? Granted this ideal may be a far cry from your current reality, but most women find that with a little practice, improvement comes relatively quickly. And it feels good to act like the wonderful woman you know you can be. Don’t worry about your evil twin taking over from time to time. The goal is not perfection, but growth.

Deciding who you want to be and how you want to grow provides a focus for your work that is energizing. Compiling evidence of growth yields encouragement. Over time you will find this a far more rewarding way to go about your work and life than comparing yourself to someone whose gifts, talents and challenges are different than yours. You may also find those special reports about what holds women back to be interesting, but no longer applicable to you. l

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LIFESTYLE | In Fashion

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S h op e n i l n O vs. ping t h o t e g S n t ore oi G

hopping has definitely changed over the past few years. The online (e-commerce) shopping market has expanded into a vast variety of options, with free shipping and packages arriving in as little as two days; all from the comfort of wherever you want to be. There are still stores that are packed full of merchandise and have special deals for only in-store shopping. There is a large market of people who do their shopping with the brick and mortar option. The dynamic however with online shopping has changed.

Which to choose this holiday season?

If you have not given the e-commerce world a try, it is worth it for holiday shopping. Instead of driving all over town for the picky shoppers in your life, your frustrations can be solved with the kitschy sites online or

the one-stop shops like Amazon. Black Friday can offer more selection and no fear of products running out as quickly with the online option. Avoiding getting trampled, long lines, and carts shoved into you can be a real plus.

There are some great perks for utilizing e-commerce websites to shop.

Most retailers will offer a percentage off and free shipping with your first purchase when one signs up with an email address. Additionally, one can receive additional discounts regularly for online exclusive deals from there after.

If you are in school or work in a school setting that utilizes an .edu email address, Amazon offers free Prime membership for six months and then half off for the year after that. This is perfect for shopping this time of year.

There are some benefits of going to the store for holiday shopping. Looking and feeling the items can be a plus

when you are unsure of a product. The perks of some stores include giving you boxes or wrapping your gifts. We must not forget the sounds of the holiday music playing and the smells that can derive from the holiday season.

Whichever you choose this holiday shopping season, try not to get overwhelmed by either. I encourage you, if you have not given the online shopping platform a try, to take a look at the really unique retail sites out there or daily deal sites, such as woot.com and purchase something different. If you stick with the brick-and-mortar platform, take advantage of the coupons offered online from sites such as retailmenot.com. l Jessica Little, MSL Fashion Industry Professional/Instructor Stay Lovely!

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FINANCE | with Carrie Schwab-Pomerantz

Will Debt Derail Your Retirement?

Dear Carrie: I’m retiring. My wife retires in four years. We don’t plan to pay off our “good” home mortgage debts, seeing as they provide tax relief.

But my instinct is to settle all major “bad” debts (associated with credit cards, home equity lines of credit, etc.) in order to start retirement with a clean slate. Trouble is, we don’t have cash in hand to pay off these “bad” debts. My wife thinks that my instinct to start retirement debt-free is a crackpot idea.

Is she right? -- A Reader Dear Reader:

Though I usually hesitate to take sides in a marital discussion, I have to say I think you’re onto something. To me, starting retirement with a clean slate is far from a crackpot idea.

That said, there’s no one-size-fits-all rule about carrying debt in retirement. Though I generally agree that lowering debt before you retire is a good idea -- especially “bad” debt, such as high-interest, nondeductible credit card balances -how much debt you can comfortably handle depends on the size of your debt relative to your projected income.

There is an industry guideline that bears consideration as you look to the next few years. You’ve probably already heard of the 28/36 rule, but now would be a good time to revisit it. This rule suggests that no more than 28 percent of pretax household income should go to home debt (principal, interest, taxes and insurance) and that no more than 36 percent should go to all debt (home debt plus credit cards and auto loans).

Realize, though, that this is primarily a pre-retirement recommendation. In retirement, I think it’s smart to be even more conservative and carry even less debt. And it’s not just about money. There’s also the emotional side. What will give you the greatest peace of mind?

As with so many things, it’s about planning and prioritizing, so I suggest that you and your wife crunch some numbers together.

START WITH SOME CALCULATIONS

First look at your current debt-to-income ratio. Does it fit within the 28/36 rule? If not, your first order of business would be to bring your debt to within those recommended percentages -- immediately!

Next, calculate this ratio for your projected retirement income -- once you retire and also when both of you are retired. To do this, you’ll need to estimate how much income you can count on during each stage of retirement. This includes guaranteed income from sources such as pensions, 22 | WISCONSIN WOMAN November-December 2015

annuities, Social Security and real estate, as well as income from your portfolio, starting ideally at about 4 percent of your assets.

With these figures in mind, focus on your current budget, reviewing your essential and discretionary expenses.

Can you reprioritize to direct more money toward debt now?

Then look at your projected retirement budget. If you don’t pay the debts now (which might be easier with your wife still working), how will these payments impact your future cash needs? You can also try using a cost-of-debt calculator at http://www.schwabmoneywise.com/public/moneywise/ calculators_tools/calculators/cost_of_debt_calculator to get a good understanding of the long-term expense of your debt.

CREATE A PAYMENT PLAN

Paying down debt will be easier if you have a plan. A credit card payoff calculator (http://www.schwabmoneywise.com/public/moneywise/calculators_tools/calculators/ credit_card_payoff_calculator) can help lay the groundwork.

You imply that you have several credit card balances, so focus initially on the balance with the highest interest. Direct your extra payments toward that card, paying at least the minimum on the others. When you’ve put the top card to rest, focus on the next one. Once the credit cards are at zero, pay down other types of consumer loans, such as a car payment.

Consolidating all your credit card debt on one low-interest card is another viable approach, as long as you’re careful about loan consolidation fees. Another important caveat: You have to commit to stop using credit cards unless absolutely necessary!

PUT YOUR HELOC TO WORK FOR YOU

As you say, your mortgage is “good” debt because interest is generally tax-deductible and low-rate and because you’re paying for an appreciating asset. The same goes for a home equity line of credit. You placed it in the “bad” debt category, but it really belongs on the good side.

In fact, a HELOC can be a positive tool for debt consolidation and repayment. Not only are interest rates typically low, but also you can deduct HELOC interest on up to $100,000 ($50,000 for married people filing separately) of debt secured by home equity, no matter what you use the money for. So if you have sufficient funds available, you could transfer your credit card debt to your HELOC to potentially lower your interest rate, simplify repayment and get a tax break, too.

A word of caution: HELOCs sometimes have a 10-year term, after which they need to be renewed (harder to do when you’re retired) or paid off on a predetermined time schedule. And yet another caveat: Though mortgage debt has its advantages, it’s still debt that must be paid. Be sure that your mortgage and HELOC payments aren’t going to represent an inordinate percentage of your retirement income.

BE REALISTIC ABOUT BOTH FINANCES AND FEELINGS

Again, successfully handling debt in retirement hinges on being realistic about your income. I’d check in with your financial adviser to make sure you’re on target with your projections.

Also consider your feelings. Will carrying debt into retirement cause you more angst than systematically paying it off now while one of you is still working? It’s a question only you and your wife can honestly answer -- and now’s the time to decide. l CARRIE SCHWAB-POMERANTZ, CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER, IS BOARD CHAIRWOMAN AND PRESIDENT OF THE CHARLES SCHWAB FOUNDATION AND AUTHOR OF “THE CHARLES SCHWAB GUIDE TO FINANCES AFTER FIFTY.” READ MORE AT HTTP://SCHWAB.COM/BOOK.

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LIFESTYLE | Annie’s Mailbox

@nnie’s mailbox second-class citizen. I know Dean loves me -- but I come after his son, his job, his employees, his computer and his civic organizations. His bank accounts are getting fatter, and I am barely scraping by. Is this a marriage or a lord/serf relationship? -- Indentured Servant

Dear Servant:

Dear Annie:

I married “Dean” nine years ago. It was a second marriage for both of us. Soon after we wed, he said we would split all expenses 50-50. However, the house is in his name, and he will not put my name on the deed since I can’t match “his” down payment, even though I pay him rent each month.

Everything we do, I have to pay half. He and his teenage son went on a two-week vacation, and I couldn’t go because I couldn’t afford my share. When we go out, I have to pay my own way. He lavishes money on his son and donates to civic organizations, but I get nothing. He only gives me a gift when I give him one of equal value.

We have no joint accounts. I currently have a large debt, but in two years that will be paid off. I feel like a

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It sounds like a lopsided business arrangement. It’s certainly not our idea of a loving marriage where partners should take care of each other instead of sending them a bill for expenses. A good partnership is 50-50, but the contribution doesn’t have to be money. It can mean household chores, child care, etc. And when one partner has a higher income and fewer debts than the other, it is unfair to expect an equal financial arrangement. Dean is treating you as an inferior, and it is building resentment. Tell him the marriage is in serious trouble, and you’d like to go for counseling. If he won’t go, go without him. You might also want to see an attorney.

Having everything in his name puts you in a risky position.

Dear Annie: I had some bad memories rise up when I

read the letter from “Mother of a Tomboy.” My paternal grandmother always expected me to look and act like a perfect little lady. Every time my brother and I went to see her, she made me wear those awful curlers all day. Before we left, she would finally take them out, fix my hair in an old-fashioned style and lacquer it down with tons of hairspray.

Nothing I wore was feminine enough. My weight was never right, and she didn’t like me to eat too much of anything, including fruit. I begged Mom to make Granny stop doing my hair, and she did, although years later, she got her revenge when she gave me a perm and accidentally burned half my hair off.

Fortunately, I learned to like myself as I am. That grandmother should enjoy her tomboy granddaughter and not create terrible memories like the ones I have. -- Lubbock, Texas

Dear Lubbock:

If your grandmother had known how negatively you would remember her, we trust she would have done things differently.

Dear Readers: Today is Mother-in-Law Day. Please

give yours a call. l

Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please email your questions to anniesmailbox@creators.com, or write to: Annie’s Mailbox, c/o Creators Syndicate, 737 3rd Street, Hermosa Beach, CA 90254. You can also find Annie on Facebook at Facebook.com/AskAnnies. To find out more about Annie’s Mailbox and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.

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AT HOME | Thanksgiving Recipes

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ood. Friends. Family. Football. Thanksgiving would be incomplete without any of them, but the most important is the holiday feast your family and friends have gathered to enjoy while the game plays in the background. Serving up a full holiday spread – from turkey to dessert – that is sure to bring everyone back for years to come is easy with these tips for every stage of the meal.

From a Farm Family’s Table to Yours

Pair this perfectly pumpkin dessert with a glass of milk for a tasty twist on a holiday favorite. From fourth-generation dairy farmers – Ryan and Susan Anglin and their sons, Cody and Casey, of Triple A Farms in Bentonville, Arkansas – this savory dessert, featured in The DairyGood Cookbook, is sure to become a tradition in your family, just as it is in the Anglin family.

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PUMPKIN PIE SQUARES WITH CINNAMON SUGAR YOGURT TOPPING

Total time: 1 hour, 20 minutes Servings: 16 CRUST:

1 cup graham cracker crumbs

1/2 cup old-fashioned oats

1/4 cup brown sugar

1/4 cup butter, melted

2 tablespoons low-fat milk cooking spray

The sight of a beautifully cooked, golden brown bird being brought to the table is one of the most memorable moments of any Thanksgiving gathering. Follow these tips to prepare the perfect centerpiece for your holiday meal:

Thawing Your Turkey

z For every 5 pounds in weight, thaw in original wrapper for 24 hours in the refrigerator. Thaw faster by covering with cold water in the sink and soaking approximately 30 minutes per pound. z Refrigerate as soon as thawed or cook immediately. For best quality, do not refreeze uncooked turkey.

Leave Your Taste Buds Dancing for Joy

FILLING:

2 cups canned pumpkin

2 eggs

3/4 cup sugar

3/4 cup low-fat vanilla yogurt

1/2 cup low-fat milk

1 teaspoon cinnamon

1 teaspoon pumpkin spice

1/4 teaspoon salt

1/2 cup pecans, chopped TOPPING:

2 tablespoons sugar

1 teaspoon cinnamon

1 cup plain nonfat yogurt Heat oven to 350 F. In large bowl, mix together graham cracker crumbs, oats, brown sugar, butter and milk. Press into thin layer in a 9-by-13-inch pan greased with cooking spray. Bake for 10 minutes.

While crust is baking, in another bowl, beat together pumpkin through salt. Pour over crust and bake for 40 minutes or until set. Sprinkle pecans over filling and bake another 10-15 minutes or until center is set. Cool slightly in pan.

Mix together sugar and cinnamon.

Mix in yogurt. Top each square with 1 tablespoon yogurt topping.

With rich, creamy, delicious flavors in every bite, this Sorghum Pecan Praline Cheesecake will leave everyone at your table satisfied.

Luscious sorghum syrup, which is naturally high in fiber, iron and protein, surrounds, captures and complements the decadent cheesecake and praline pecan topping. Find more satisfying recipes using sorghum that will keep your taste buds tingling all season long, visit sorghumcheckoff. com.

SORGHUM PECAN PRALINE CHEESECAKE

Recipe developed by Brenda Watts, Gaffney, South Carolina CHEESECAKE:

6 tablespoons unsalted butter, melted 1 1/8 cups sorghum syrup, divided 1 3/4 cups graham cracker crumbs

4 packages (8 ounces each) cream cheese, softened

1/2 cup sour cream

1/3 cup packed light brown sugar

2 tablespoons all-purpose flour

1 cup sorghum syrup 1 1/2 teaspoons vanilla extract

4 large eggs TOPPING:

1 package (6 ounces) pecan halves

2 tablespoons packed light brown sugar

4 tablespoons sorghum syrup, divided

6 tablespoons unsalted butter

1/2 cup packed light brown sugar

3 tablespoons heavy cream

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

1/8 teaspoon kosher salt Heat oven to 325 F. Lightly spray bottom and sides of 9-inch non-stick springform pan with removable rim. Place pan over center of 3 18-inch sheets heavy-duty foil and securely wrap foil around outside bottom and sides of pan.

For cheesecake, in small bowl, combine butter and 2 tablespoons sorghum syrup. In medium bowl, toss graham cracker crumbs and sorghum butter mixture together until crumbs are moistened. Press crumb mixture

Roasting the Bird

z Baste with extra virgin olive oil. z Place breast-side-up on rack in shallow roasting pan.

Cook in 325 F oven. z For an unstuffed turkey, place a stalk or two of celery, seasonings, a cut-up onion and a handful of parsley in the cavity to keep it moist. z Lay “tent” of foil loosely over turkey to prevent over-browning. z Turkey is done when meat thermometer is 180 F or when the red stem on the pop-up thermometer rises. z For easier carving, let turkey stand at room temperature for at least 20 minutes.

evenly into bottom of prepared pan. Bake 8 minutes to form crust; remove from oven and cool 10 minutes over wire rack.

In large bowl use electric mixer on medium speed to beat cream cheese, sour cream, brown sugar and flour, 3 minutes, or until well blended and smooth.

Gradually add 1 cup sorghum syrup, vanilla and eggs (one egg at a time) and continue beating 3 minutes longer from low speed increasing to medium speed, or until mixture is well blended and creamy. Pour filling evenly over crust in pan. Place pan in center of large baking pan (e.g., roasting pan) and pour 1-inch of hot water in large bak­ing pan, around filled prepared pan.

Bake 1 hour and 15 minutes or until center is almost set but slightly jiggles.

Remove from oven, remove cheesecake from baking pan and gently remove wrapped foil from cheesecake. Place cheesecake onto wire rack to cool 15 minutes. Run thin, sharp knife around edge of pan to loosen edges; cool in pan 2-3 hours in refrigerator.

Meanwhile, prepare pecans. Increase oven temperature to 350 F. Line baking sheet with large sheet of parch­ment paper. In bowl, sprinkle brown sugar and drizzle 1 tablespoon sorghum syrup over pecans. Using large spoon, toss to evenly coat and spread pecans flat over parchment paper-lined pan. Bake pecans 8 minutes or until lightly browned and glazed.

Place pan over wire cooling rack, use large spoon to separate and evenly coat pecans; let cool 10 minutes.

In heavy duty 1-quart non-stick saucepan, melt butter over medium heat. Add brown sugar and 3 tablespoons sorghum syrup into melted butter and cook 2 to 3 minutes or until blended and heated through, stirring constantly. Stir heavy cream, vanilla and salt into mixture; continue stirring constantly until praline mixture comes to a boil. Simmer until slightly thickened, about 3 minutes. Stir occasionally. Remove from heat and let cool.

To serve, remove rim of pan from cheesecake. Place cheesecake on large round serving plate. Place glazed pecans flat on top of cheesecake, starting at outer edges and ending in center. Spoon or pour praline topping evenly over top of cheesecake.

More Ways to Make the Perfect Centerpiece

z Grilled: Grill 15-18 minutes per pound. Air in grill must be between 225-300 F. z Deep Fat Fried: Cook 3-5 minutes per pound in 350 F oil. z Smoked: Cook 20-30 minutes per pound. Air in smoker must be between 225-300 F. z Microwaved: Cook 9-10 minutes per pound on medium power. Rotate during cooking.

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AT HOME | Holiday Cookie Recipes

T

reat your holiday guests to something special this Christmas. From mouth-watering spritz cookie recipes that will outshine the rest, to delicious hot cocoa boosted with salted caramel and an edible candy spoon on the side, you’ll be the host with the most in no time at all.

Spritz Cookies with a Little Glitz

You know gingerbread and sugar cookie, but do you recall the most impres­sive cookie of all?

Spritz cookies are fast and fun. Use a Wilton Cookie Press to make dozens of delicious, perfectly-shaped uniform cookies quickly. Add some spritz of edible silver or gold Color Mist Food Color Spray to make them shiny and bright.

Santa’s Favorite Spritz Cookie

Indulge Santa’s sweet tooth with decadent chocolate spritz cookie sandwiches filled with a layer of pepper­mint icing. Take a shortcut by using decorator icing that is already flavored and ready to squeeze, perfect for the time-crunched holidays.

Ho-Ho-Hot Cocoa with a Twist

There’s nothing quite as comforting as a cup of hot cocoa on a cold winter day, but add a dash of salted caramel flavor and you’re in for a real treat. Made with velvety Dark Cocoa Candy Melts candy, steamed milk and a splash of Treatology Salted Caramel flavor, this cocoa offers just the right balance of salty and sweet.

Melt-in-Your-Mouth Sugar Cookie Spoons

The delicious taste of sweet, baked Christmas cookies is captured in the Limited Edition Sugar Cookie Flavor Candy Melts candy and made into edible candy spoons with a microwaveable Spoon-Shaped Silicone Candy Mold.

For more holiday ideas and inspiration, visit wilton.com.

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METALLIC SPRITZ COOKIES

Makes: 10 dozen cookies 3 1/2 cups all-purpose flour

1 teaspoon baking powder 1 1/2 cups (3 sticks) butter, softened

1 cup granulated sugar

1 egg

2 tablespoons milk

1 teaspoon Wilton Pure Vanilla Extract

1/2 teaspoon Wilton Imitation Almond Extract Silver Color Mist Food Color Spray Gold Color Mist Food Color Spray Buttercream icing Wilton Silver Sugar Pearls Wilton Gold Sugar Pearls Heat oven to 350 F. In medium bowl, combine flour and baking powder.

In large bowl, beat butter and sugar with electric mixer until light and fluffy. Add egg, milk and extracts; mix well. Gradually add flour to butter mixture, mixing to make smooth dough. Do not chill.

Place dough into cookie press using an 8-petal flower disk and press cookies onto ungreased cookie sheet. Bake 10-12 minutes or until lightly browned around edges. Cool cookies on pan on cooling grid 2 minutes.

Remove from pan; cool completely on grid. You will need two cookies per treat.

Use silver or gold Color Mist food color spray to spray cookies. Let dry, about 3-5 minutes. Turn cookies over and spray underside. Let dry, about 3-5 minutes.

Prepare buttercream icing or use pre-made buttercream icing. Use tip 12, cut disposable decorating bag and icing to pipe elongated beads on bottom of one cookie, following cookie shape. Sandwich two cookies together.

Use tip 4, cut disposable decorating bag and icing to pipe a dot in center of sandwich cookie. Top dot with either silver or gold sugar pearls.

CHOCOLATE PEPPERMINT SPRITZ SANDWICH COOKIES

Makes: 4 dozen sandwiches 2 1/2 cups all-purpose flour

2/3 cup cocoa powder

1/2 teaspoon baking soda

1/4 teaspoon salt 1 1/4 cups (2 1/2 sticks) butter, softened

1 cup granulated sugar

2/3 cup firmly-packed brown sugar

1 teaspoon Wilton Pure Vanilla Extract

2 eggs Wilton Peppermint Decorating Icing

SALTED CARAMEL HOT CHOCOLATE

Makes: 4 cups

4 cups milk

1 cup Dark Cocoa Candy Melts Candy

1/4 teaspoon Wilton Treatology Salted Caramel Flavor Concentrate In large saucepan, cook milk on medium heat until hot; remove from heat. Whisk in candy and flavor concentrate. Continue whisking until candy is melted and mixture is smooth. Serve immediately.

Heat oven to 350 F. In medium bowl, combine flour, cocoa powder, baking soda and salt.

In large bowl, beat butter and sugars until light and fluffy. Add vanilla and eggs, one at a time, beating well after each addi足tion.

Gradually add flour mixture to butter mixture, mixing to make a smooth dough.

Place dough into cookie press and press cookies onto ungreased cookie sheet. Bake 10-12 minutes or until edges are slightly browned. Cool cookies on pan on cooling grid 2 minutes.

Remove from pan; cool completely on grid.

Sandwich cookies together with Pepper足mint Decorating Icing.

SUGAR COOKIE CANDY SPOONS Makes: 24 spoons Wilton Sugar Cookie Candy Melts Candy (12-ounce bag) Wilton Christmas Candy Spoon Mold Wilton 12-inch Disposable Decorating Bags Break 12 candy wafers in half and place in cavities of mold.

Place mold in microwave and microwave at half power or defrost setting for 1 minute. Gently jiggle and lightly tap mold to smooth melted candy. Continue to microwave and tap at 30-second intervals until smooth and completely melted.

Alternate melting method: Melt candy in disposable decorating bag according to candy package directions. Snip a small tip off end of bag and gently squeeze bag to fill cavities with melted candy.

Chill filled mold until candy spoons have hardened, about 10-15 minutes. Place mold on flat surface and gently push on bottom of cavities to release candy.

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Holiday gift guide Maggie Mae’s Country Christmas Show with The Heartland Country Band

“A show you don’t want to miss !”

You are sure to get in the Christmas Spirit while watching Maggie Mae’s Country Christmas Show. You’ll enjoy some of the best traditional country and Christmas music around that will have your toes tapping. Maggie Mae, a home-grown, talented country singer/Nashville recording artist and Branson performer from Oxford, Wisconsin has been entertaining crowds with her music and yodeling and promises enjoyment throughout her show. She is becoming one of the biggest Midwestern names in pure country music. A familiar face in millions of homes across the country appearing regularly on RFD TV’s Midwest Country Show and Virginia Dreams Show. You will also enjoy the very talented Heartland Country Band…all from Wisconsin!

Maggie Mae’s Country Christmas Shows

Saturday, November 7 • 2pm WISCONSIN RAPIDS PERFORMING ARTS CENTER With Special Guest performer:

MOLLIE B from TICKETS: 608-617-0500

Saturday, November 14 • 2pm FOND DU LAC PERFORMING ARTS CENTER With Special Guest performers:

Amanda and Leah Berthon TICKETS: 608-617-0500

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Thursday, December 3 • 2pm & 7pm THE SCHAUER CENTER FOR THE ARTS, Hartford, WI With Special Guest

performer:

MOLLIE B from TICKETS: 262-670-0560

Holiday gift guide

d HUGE inventory d amazing selection d unique gifts

Lieblang Leather An adventure to Lieblang Leather will immerse you in a world of supple lamb creations and luxurious fur dreams!

An array of unique leather jackets, fur-trimmed fabric coats, stunning fur strollers or coats combining those elements will all pique your interest! Many beautiful options and delightful choices await...from classic lamb bombers to soft fur coats. You’ll find cozy driving gloves, dreamy fur scarves, awesome shearling slippers, plush acrylic or knubby boucle scarves and rugged briefcases. Lieblang Leather can also take care of your garment alterations and needed repairs, gentle coat cleaning and storage of your precious furs! A great shop in quaint Delafield... impressive values and a remarkable selection!

607 Main Street • Delafield 262-646-8917

Give the Gift of Theatre this Holiday Season with Tickets to In Tandem Theatre.

Enjoy professional live theatre at an affordable price! Relax in our spacious lobby with full bar, fireplace, art gallery and live piano music - then enjoy the shows in our comfy 99-seat theatre!

Upcoming Shows: A TWISTED CAROL

LAMPS FOR MY FAMILY

Book & Lyrics By: Mondy Carter Music By: Nathan Wesselowski

By: Michael Neville

(February 19March 13, 2016)

(December 4, 2015January 3, 2016)

Tickets: 414-271-1371

ERNEST IN LOVE Book & Lyrics By: Anne Croswell Music By: Lee Pockriss

(April 22May 15, 2016)

www.InTandemTheatre.org

IN TANDEM THEATRE

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Holiday gift guide

BROOKFIELD VACUUM

17000 W. Capitol Drive, Brookfield • 262.783.4464 www.BrookfieldVacuum.com

Cold weather, no problem

Inspired Gifts

Fall may winding down but that’s no reason to fret, with gifts from Sundara you’ll be at the top of their list all year long. A holiday gift card from Sundara is always thoughtful and so very coveted. They may be used toward anything their heart desires and even come wrapped in a pretty red ribbon ready for giving.

169 Main Street Pewaukee

262.746.9009

www.woodenhanger.biz

Stop in and see our newest selection of knit items, including the latest trends in hats,headbands and scarves.

Our fine assortment of consignment clothing, shoes, handbags and jewelry will have you ready to brave the elements!

Tucked in a fragrant pine forest on the scenic outskirts of Wisconsin Dells.

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BOOKs OF THE MONTH

Becoming Nicole: The Transformation of an American Family

By Amy Ellis Nutt (Author) When Wayne and Kelly Maines adopted identical twin boys, they thought their lives were complete. But it wasn’t long before they noticed a marked difference between Jonas and his brother, Wyatt. Jonas preferred sports and trucks and many of the things little boys were “supposed” to like; but Wyatt liked princess dolls and dress-up and playing Little Mermaid. By the time the twins were toddlers, confusion over Wyatt’s insistence that he was female began to tear the family apart. In the years that followed, the Maineses came to question their long-held views on gender and identity, to accept and embrace Wyatt’s transition to Nicole, and to undergo an emotionally wrenching transformation of their own that would change all their lives forever.

Becoming Nicole chronicles a journey that could have destroyed a family but instead brought it closer together. It’s the story of a mother whose instincts told her that her child needed love and acceptance, not ostracism and disapproval; of a Republican, Air Force veteran father who overcame his deepest fears to become a vocal advocate for trans rights; of a loving brother who bravely stuck up for his twin sister; and of a town forced to confront its prejudices, a school compelled to rewrite its rules, and a courageous community of transgender activists determined to make their voices heard. Ultimately, Becoming Nicole is the story of an extraordinary girl who fought for the right to be herself.

Granted wide-ranging access to personal diaries, home videos, clinical journals, legal documents, medical records, and the Maineses themselves, Amy Ellis Nutt spent almost four years reporting this immersive account of an

American family confronting an issue that is at the center of today’s cultural debate. Becoming Nicole will resonate with anyone who’s ever raised a child, felt at odds with society’s conventions and norms, or had to embrace life when it plays out unexpectedly. It’s a story of standing up for your beliefs and yourself—and it will inspire all of us to do the same.

The Pioneer Woman Cooks: Dinnertime!

By Ree Drummond The #1 bestselling author and Food Network personality at last answers that age-old question—“What’s for Dinner?”—bringing together more than 125 simple, scrumptious, step-by-step recipes for delicious dinners the whole family will love.

For families juggling school, work, and a host of other time-consuming daily obligations, the idea of making dinner from scratch can be daunting. Ree Drummond makes it easy for families to make simple, scrumptious, homemade meals with minimum fuss and maximum enjoyment. The Pioneer Woman Cooks: Dinnertime! includes delicious, easyto-make recipes for comfort classics, 16-minute meals, freezer-friendly food, as well as soups, main dish salads, and a favorite of her own family: breakfast for dinner.

You’ll find more than 125 fast-and-delicious recipes that combine pantry staples with fresh ingredients, including Beef Stroganoff, Chicken Taco Salad, Pasta Puttanesca, Readyto-go freezer Meatballs (and many dinners you can make with them!), Oven Barbecue Chicken, Mexican Tortilla Casserole, Veggie Chili, Beef with Snow Peas, and many, many more.

Included is a section of mouthwatering quick desserts—literally the icing on the cake. Filled with Ree’s signature step-by-step photos, relatable humor, and irresistible, folksy charm, The Pioneer Woman Cooks: Dinnertime! is the go-to cookbook every home cook can rely on for any—and every—night of the week.

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CHILDREN of hope

BY JUDITH BERGER

R

ose Skora thought she could change the world, until she realized the world had changed her. At 44, Skora is the mother of three children; all of whom she adopted on Nov. 20, 2010. She freely admits her journey as a parent has been fraught with heartbreak, sleepless nights and hope -- always hope.

Living on a small four-and-a half acre farm in Burlington Wis., Skora spends the mornings tending to the chickens, ducks, sheep and a few pigs.

“The kids aren’t really interested in helping me so I let them sleep in,” Skora said. “Beside it gives me some quiet time. I feel at peace when I’m out in the barn.”

Peace is what she wishes for her children. Born in chaos and raised with unspeakable abuse, the children, now 17, 12 and 9, were rescued more than removed from the home of their biological parents.

When Skora tells the story of how she came to having a family, there is

laughter in her voice that hints of irony.

“It’s my way of coping,” she said. She earned her undergraduate degree in animal science with the thought of working on a dairy farm, which she did for about a year. She applied to work in the Peace Corp. Nine months later the organization put her on a plane to Bolivia.

“I had to look it up on a map because I didn’t know where it was.” She worked on hoop houses and garden production.

After two years, she was back at home in the Kenosha/Racine area applying for a job as an agricultural educator with the UW-Extension system. “I worked with youth programs, rural landowners and farmers.” She returned to school to earn her masters in Spanish translation.

Not married, Skora knew she wanted children.

With her fluency in Spanish, Skora considered international adoption. “But the more I researched, the more I thought I should be a foster parent.”

The foster care system in Milwaukee County allowed for neighboring coun-

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ties to be a part of its child placement services because of the overwhelming need. Skora went through the necessary requirements to be a foster parent: hours of training, background checks, home visits and lots of paperwork. Four days after earning her masters, the social worker called. She had a 4-year-old boy in need of a safe home. It was that night in 2007 Rose Skora opened her home and her heart.

“I remember this sad little boy walking into my house carrying a few things,” Skora said. “He had been pulled away from everything he knew. I was overwhelmed. He was frightened.”

The social worker told Skora to bake some cookies. All she could manage was a frozen pizza. At first, he clapped his hands to get Skora’s attention because he couldn’t remember her name.

“It took me a week to finally sleep at night,” she remembered.

The social worker told Skora to expect about a month of good behavior.

By the end of the first week, he ran

away. “Of course, I attributed it to not being a good parent.” His erratic and dangerous behavior continued and soon it was determined he was suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Reactive Detachment Disorder.

The cruelty the little boy experienced would retard his ability to bond and to trust anyone and to make the development of empathy very difficult.

There also was an older sister and a baby brother who had been removed from the abusive home. The sister was struggling in her second foster home.

The nine-month-old baby was placed with Skora. “I thought having my son’s baby brother here would help the chaos in his head, but it didn’t.” She enlisted the help of a therapist, but he continued to act out of control. “I kept thinking, ‘I can help this child.’” He was expelled from Kindergarten. “If my phone rang during the day, I knew it was my son’s school telling me something was wrong.” It never occurred to Skora to give up on him. She would just try harder, find a different way, and pray for more patience.

The social worker returned again.

This time she wanted Skora to take the oldest girl, who was nine at the time.

“She would come over for the day, then

stay overnight, then be here for the holidays. Little by little she got use to being here. I thought, ‘I can’t do this – I can’t take a third child.’” But she did.

The daughter also had suffered abuse and had been diagnosed with PTSD. “As time went on, I was told of the degree of abuse my children have suffered.

They experienced abuse on all levels. It makes me so angry,” Skora said refusing any details.

Initially, the children were enrolled in a church daycare and eventually a private school, but her middle child continued to fight demons. Skora reduced her hours at work so she could be with the kids. Her middle child continued to steal and lie. There was an incident at school. The police were called.

Skora found herself helping the police handcuff her son. “He’s not able to deal with the chaos in his head.” Once again, it was time to find another way.

She quit her job so she could home school her son. “I don’t know if quitting my job was the best thing for me, but it was the best thing for him.”

Skora receives an adoption subsidy.

All three of her children have special needs. The youngest boy who was placed with her when he was 9-monthsold is now 9-years-old and is exhibiting

signs of PTSD. “He is my joy. He’s affectionate and has attached to me. He has given me the strength to parent his older brother and sister.”

Skora worries about raising functioning adults. “My daughter is a bright, bright young lady,” she said of the 17-year-old. “She’s sweet and happy out in the world, but quiet and depressed when she’s at home. She has big dreams for herself and I want her to realize those dreams. I just hope she will be ready.”

Her middle son is making some progress in the virtual school Skora has enrolled him in. He likes science, but has little interest in any other subjects.

Skora doesn’t care. She fights the battles she must fight. “If he smiles -- a genuine smile -- and it doesn’t happen often, it brings me joy. Their innocence was stolen from them. When I see joyfulness in my children, it’s very brief, but when it happens, it’s good.”

Skora hopes someday her children will accept and forgive their birth mother. It’s something she struggles with every day. “I don’t know how this is going to end. All I know is I can’t give up.” l

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Max

Max is a rescued poodlebichon mix from Dusty is a 2-½ year old Teddy Mukwonago. He loves Bear pup full of energy and playing around with his bounce. He loves playing with toys. His stuffed animals children and often thinks he is a are his favorite toys since real boy. In his spare time, he they make a huge mess for practices tricks for treats. For his mom to clean-up. the tiniest amount of peanut butter or cheese, he will high five, roll over, and play dead.

Winnie

Winnie is an 8-year-old female Airedale who is the sweetest dog ever. Fluffy Dog Rescue rescued her from an Alabama kill shelter when she was 5 years old at which time we adopted her. She likes to go to Starbucks for Pupachinos and for long walks along the Lake Country Trail, which is where I first saw her with her foster mom.

Now she has a forever home with my husband and me.

Kobe

Kobe loves spending time outside, the muddier he gets the happier he is. He enjoys finding the perfect stick to chew on during his outdoor excursions.

Charlie

“Charlie” Crowley just celebrated his 2nd birthday on November 1, 2015! Charlie was not sup“Magic” Crowley is a 10 year old posed to live past one year of age. rough-coated collie. Besides barking He was born with a defective heart and was going to be sent at strangers (and the post man), Magic loves hikes in the south Kettle back to his breeder to be euthaMoraine during any season of the nized when the Crowley’s year. He is a patient old gentleman, adopted him. Charlie is a often enduring pets from children shih-poo, or “teddy bear.” who call him “Lassie.”

Charlie is living his life fully – he loves to frolic and run!

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Zeus

Zeus is always excited to be home with his human friends as you can tell by the wag of his tail.

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Benelli

This lovable Chocolate Lab loves spending her free-time investigating the outdoors.

November & December

ACTIVITIES FOR ALL

November 3, 10:30 am MACC 33rd Annual Couture For A Cure Hyatt Regency, 333 W Kilbourn Ave, Milwaukee The MACC (Midwest Athletes Against Childhood Cancer) hosts the premier runway fashion show, with an exceptional silent auction, exquisite wine pull, trendy Boston Store boutique featuring the fashion show fashions to purchase day of, makeup stations, luncheon and program. The proceeds will go to pediatric cancer and related blood disorder research. Contact the event cochairs with any question at alfalkowski@gmail. com or katyglodosky@gmail.com.

November 7, 4:30 pm Operation Honor A Salute To Veterans Waukesha North High School, Field House, 2222 Michigan Ave., Waukesha Bring your family, friends, and all the Veterans you know to help us say thank you! Take in the stirring program and enjoy the patriotic band: The Impact of Brass! The keynote speaker is Colonel John Schroeder, Chief of Staff-WI Army National Guard. All Veterans will be recognized. The program begins at 4:30 pm (doors open at 3:30 pm) and will finish with an all-American fireworks display. FREE patriotic cupcake to the first 400 attendees, courtesy of Rich’s House of Cakes.

November 7, all day Family Free Day Milwaukee County Zoo, 10001 W Bluemound Rd, Milwaukee Bring your family, friends and neighbors because Zoo admission is FREE! Regular parking, rental and concession rates still apply.

November 7, 8-10 am and 10:15 am - 12:15 pm UWM’s Saturday Seminar UW Milwaukee School of Continuing Education, This is one Saturday morning you won’t want to sleep in. Join in by attending seminars on stimulating topics and networking with other business professionals. You’ll gain valuable insight for career success from experts in the field, and leave with tips and resources you can apply immediately. For registration information, please contact Jan Allen at allen3@uwm.edu, 414-227-3219.

November 7, 7 – 10 pm An Evening of Wine & Beer Tasting Community Center, 14750 W. Cleveland Ave., New Berlin Join the Prospect Lions for an Evening of Wine & Beer Tasting to benefit the New Berlin Food Pantry. Sample wines from around the world, as well as local beers. Light snacks will also be served.

November 7, 8 am - 5 pm November 8, 10 am - 4 pm Annual Open House Waukesha Floral & Greenhouse, 319 S. Prairie Ave., Waukesha Stop by and enjoy free holiday design seminars both days on gift ideas and inspiration for a fun, fresh, and fabulous holiday season. Also during the Open House weekend, guests can enjoy refreshments, door prizes, coupons, samples, and more. Collection barrels for non-perishable items will be available for donations. Guests are encouraged to bring a few items to help stock the shelves of the Waukesha Food Pantry.

November 9, 6 pm Gathering on the Green – Evening with Al Jarreau Ozaukee Country Club, 10823 N. River Road, Mequon This special evening will feature an intimate performance with 7 time Grammy Award Winner, Al Jarreau, hors d’ oeuvres and cash bar. For ticket information go to www.gatheringonthegreen.org or call 262-242-6187.

November 10, 5 – 8 pm Antique & Collectible Appraisal Event Pewaukee Public Library, 210 Main Street, Pewaukee Mark Moran, an active antique and fine art appraiser for more than 20 years, will provide informal appraisals on antiques and collectibles.

Mark will appraise one item per person. Those interested in having an item appraised are asked to reserve an appointment by calling the Pewaukee Public Library Reference Desk at 262-691-5670, ext.

925, emailing pwlib@pewaukee.lib.wi.us, or register online at www.pewaukeelibrary.org/whats-itworth/. House calls, for fragile and big items, can be set-up for a fee, by emailing Mark at moranm1953@gmail.com.

November 13, 6:30 – 10 pm Compassion Never Goes Out of Style Country Springs Hotel, 2810 Golf Road, Pewaukee Fashion and fun for a cause! The event begins with appetizers, cocktails, silent auction and raffle. Dinner, a program and fashion show follow.

Susan Kim, TODAY’S TMJ4 anchor and The Women’s Center Board Member, will emcee.

Proceeds benefit The Women’s Center’s free programs and services that help women and children heal and break the cycle of violence. For more information, to sponsor this event or to donate a silent auction item, contact Dana at ddossett@twcwaukesha.org.

November 14 & 15, 9 am – 5 pm Trainfest – America’s Largest Operating Model Railroad Show Wisconsin State Fair Park, Visitors will enjoy exhibits, displays, clinics & demonstrations and have an opportunity to play

in the kids’ activity zone. Activities for all ages. For a list of exhibitors or to purchase tickets, go to trainfest.com.

November 14, 10 am – 12:30 pm Silk Scarf Painting Workshop Cedar Valley, 5349 County Road D, West Bend Learn to create beautiful, wearable art using bright, vibrant dyes. Kasia Drake-Hames will instruct participants as they create three scarves each in this fun, hands-on workshop. The class will be small and relaxed so each student will receive individual attention. No previous experience is required. All are welcome, but registration is required and space is limited. Please call 262-6299202 to register.

November 14, 9 am – 4 pm Jewelry at The Domes The Domes, 524 S. Layton Blvd., Milwaukee About 30 artists will sell their unique beaded and handcrafted jewelry, accessories, and decorative items at the annual show presented by the Loose Bead Society of Greater Milwaukee. A variety of techniques were used in creating the original pieces. Bead weaving, bead embroidery, and beaded braiding, along with wirework and metalwork are among the methods used in traditional and innovative ways. Entrance to Jewelry at The Domes is included with regular Domes admission. For more information, visit loosebeadsociety. org.

November 14, 5 – 7:30 pm “Flavors of Fall” Cheese Tasting and Stew Sampling Wehr Nature Center, 9701 W. College Ave., Whitnall Park Artisanal cheeses from some of Wisconsin’s fine cheese makers will be available for sampling.

The Beer Barons of Milwaukee will share a seasonal beer brewed especially for the event. One complimentary beer, wine, or non-alcoholic beverage is included with the cheese tasting. At 6 p.m., the stew sampling will commence. Featured will be three stews—one vegetarian—all made from locally grown produce. In addition, the menu will include salad, breads, homemade dessert, and coffee, soda, or water. Funds raised will go toward the accessibility project at the Nature Center. For more information, contact Wehr Nature Center at (414) 425-8550.

November 14 & 15, 10 am – 4 pm Re:Craft and Relic Show Milwaukee County Sports Complex, 6000 W. Ryan Road, Milwaukee Over 250 makers of up-cycled, reclaimed, and handcrafted items will sell their wares. Makers and vendors from across the Midwest are only one aspect of the show. A consignment boutique furniture, artwork, and home accessories, stage demonstrations and DIY workshops, hourly give-

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aways, and raffles comprise the show. Musical entertainment and food and beverages from local restaurants and food trucks round out the event. For more information visit recraftandrelic. com.

November 19, 7 pm Red Hot Chilli Pipers Marcus Center, 929 N Water St, Milwaukee The Red Hot Chilli Pipers have quickly become the most famous bagpipe band on the planet - ever! Bagpipes with attitude, drums with a Scottish accent and a show so hot it carries its own health warning. The band’s achievements have reached incredible heights with their groundbreaking fusion of traditional Scottish music and Rock/Pop Anthems that they proudly call ‘Bagrock’. There has never been anything quite like The Red Hot Chilli Pipers. In the intimate space of Vogel Hall you can sit a little closer to the fire and feel the Chilli heat! Visit www.marcuscenter. org for ticket information.

November 20 – 23 Holiday Folk Fair International State Fair Park Exposition Center, 8200 West Greenfield Avenue, West Allis America’s premier multicultural festival explores the world of music, food, dance and art. A world of cultures and customs are united in peaceful solidarity to be felt, listened to and tasted through a variety of honored family recipes, artifacts, ethnic music and spirited folk dances at the Holiday Folk Fair International. For ticket information, contact info@folkfair.org November 21st, 6 pm.

Brilliant Night, Dazzling Lights Bayshore Town Center Be there when Bayshore rings in the holiday season. Gather with family and neighbors in the Town Square for Santa’s arrival and the lighting of our 50 foot tree. Enjoy holiday music and the warm glow of sharing a spectacular evening together.

November 21, 9:30 am Milwaukee Holiday Parade From its start in 1927, the Milwaukee Holiday Parade remains a cherished holiday tradition featuring approximately 100 units including marching bands, floats, giant helium balloons, local personalities, costumed characters, live animals, specialty vehicles and, of course, Santa Claus! Attendance for the parade is free and all are welcome.

November 22, 4 pm Waukesha Christmas Parade Historic Downtown Waukesha Winding through the downtown, the parade features marching bands, floats and a special appearance from Santa; kids should bring letters to Santa and come early to enjoy other festivities.

November 26- December 31, 5 – 10 pm Country Christmas Country Springs Hotel, 2810 Golf Road, Pewaukee Wisconsin’s largest, most spectacular drivethrough holiday lights event has over a million lights on display with animated figures and holiday scenes; working model train and near life-size nativity scene displayed, too.

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November 26, 8 am 3rd Annual Reindeer Romp Malone Park, 16400 W. Al Stigler Pkwy., New Berlin Presented by the Prospect Lions Club of New Berlin, the Reindeer Romp will take place on Thanksgiving morning. This will be a 5k fun run/ walk with a two-mile turn around point. Proceeds from the race will be used to help finance the New Berlin Christmas Parade. Strollers and pets are welcome!

November 27-28, 11 am – 10 pm November 29, 11 am – 6 pm German Christmas Market Village Green, intersection of W. Wisconsin Ave. & Main Street, Oconomowoc A traditional German Christmas Market in the Heart of the Lake Country, vendors, live Polka bands throughout the event, authentic German cuisine, indoor “bier garten”, heated tent with Santa, gingerbread decorating tent and so much more! For more information, refer to germanchristmasmarket.org.

December 1-6 Gingerbread Show & Competition Waukesha Co. ReStore, 2120 E. Moreland Blvd., Waukesha Habitat for Humanity will host a family friendly, gingerbread house themed show and competition. All age groups are welcome to compete and can download a form at www.hfhwaukesha. org. Prizes will be awarded for fan favorites and first place winners. Entry forms are due by Nov. 13th. Free Gingerbread House viewing will be held all week with “donate to decorate” opportunities Fri –Sun, Dec 4-6. For a small fee, kids can build on oversized gingerbread houses. Candy and other building materials will be supplied. Proceeds benefit Habitat for Humanity’s home building and repair program. Contact Mary at 262-3096025 or mary@hfhwaukesha.com for more information.

December 4, 6-6:45 pm Hartland Lights 2015 Downtown Hartland, 108 W. Capitol Dr., Hartland Activities include music, caroling, free trolley rides, pictures with Santa, letters to Santa, crafts for kids, henna tattoos, decorating Christmas cookies, train window displays and specials in participating shops and restaurants. Holiday festivities will continue until 9 pm in participating businesses.

December 4, 10 am – 8 pm December 5, 10 am - 4 pm Mistletoe Market Craft and Art Show Waukesha Expo Center Forum Bldg., 1000 Northview Rd, Waukesha This is the craft show you’ve been waiting for!

Over 100 high quality, handcrafter artists and vendors will have everything you need for Christmas.

Decorations and gifts for all ages. Admission $3, children 16 and under free. Free parking and strollers are welcome! For additional information go to craftproductionsinc.com December 5, 9 am - noon 2015 Breakfast with the Reindeer Clock Tower Square, corner of Genesee St & Milwaukee St., Delafield *Santa and his reindeer leave promptly at noon. Kids will love meeting Santa’s amazing flying friends while enjoying a special treat of com-

plimentary doughnut-holes, milk, and hot cocoa at the Delafield Chamber’s annual Breakfast with the Reindeer.

December 5, 8:30 am Santa Hustle 5K Veterans Park, 1010 N. Lincoln Memorial Drive, Milwaukee See Milwaukee unlike ever before as thousands of Santas race along the streets and paths of the lakefront. Jingle all the way through the course with candy and cookies, festive music, creative Christmas images, and so much more, it is all designed to get you in the perfect holiday mood.

It is bound to be a Christmas tradition you do with your family and friends year after year. And to make your jingle tingle, NEW for Santa Hustle this year includes a dri-fit half-zip along with the Santa Hat and Beard. So, if you like dressing like Santa Claus, enjoy dancing to some holiday music, devouring candy, and joining in on an epic after party then grab your favorite friends and family, get in the holiday spirit, and make your way to the Santa Hustle 5k!

December 6, 1 – 4 pm Silver Tea and Christmas Cookie Sale Old Falls Village, N96W15791 County Line Rd., Menomonee Falls Tour this lovely, restored home, which was once the summer home of Emma Davidson of Harley-Davidson. Ladies, gentlemen and children will enjoy tea, coffee and homemade Christmas cookies as they savor the sights and smells of days gone by. Refreshments and cookies will be served in the Parlor. A homemade Christmas Cookie Bake Sale will be held in the Public House, and Mrs. Santa will pay a visit and read stories to the children. Santa Claus will be visiting to listen to children’s wish lists.

December 11, 7 pm Doktor Kaboom! The Science of Santa Schauer Arts & Activities Center, 147 N. Rural Street, Hartford If science and magic are the same thing, then Santa must be the world’s greatest scientist!

Doktor Kaboom wants to figure out how Santa Claus makes reindeer fly, decides who is naughty and nice, and manages to get down the chimney. In hopes of one-upping Santa, Kaboom experiments with a hovercraft, creates an exothermic reaction, and explores the chemical composition of snow. For ticket information, go to SchauerCenter.org or call 262-670-0560, ext. 3.

December 11, 7:30 – 9:30 pm Milwaukee Children’s Choir & Milwaukee Handbell Ensemble: Ceremony of Carols South Milwaukee Performing Arts Center, 901 15th Ave, South Milwaukee Celebrating 22 years of musical sophistication, Milwaukee Children’s Choir, joined by Milwaukee Handbell Ensemble, will welcome in the holiday season with favorites such as Benjamin Britten’s Ceremony of Carols, plus Chestnuts Roasting On An Open Fire, Go Tell It On the Mountain, Carol of the Bells, and much more. To order tickets, call 414-766-5049 or go online to http://southmilwaukeepac.org/event/ceremonyofcarols/

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