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Atlanta queers’ maximum potential blossoms just in time for Stonewall Week FROM THE REAL HISTORY OF STONEWALL to the latest looks, from
iconic lives lived well to hard truth telling, this issue of Q is all about achieving our best selves as a community and as queer individuals. As we each
make our mark, we all can learn the lessons of love and loss from those who came before and those cutting new paths into our collective futures.
The imperfect, complicated legacy of Andre
Leon Talley stands as a perfect testament to
what an LGBTQ life can achieve, as well as the struggles one may go through to forge a new
path. As Atlanta prepares for The Gospel According to Andre to hit a special preview screening
and panel discussion followed by a full theatriMIKE FLEMING EDITOR & PUBLISHER
cal run, our Icons feature chats with him about his rich life.
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history you may not have heard about the titular riots in 10 Queer Things.
CONTRIBUTORS IAN ABER LAURA BACCUS GABRIELLE CLAIBORNE JIM FARMER BRAD GIBSON TAMEEKA L. HUNTER SUNNI JOHNSON ERIC PAULK VINCE SHIFFLETT ALEXANDRA TYLER
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That includes clearing brush as a sexually fluid
black man in the public eye for nearly five decades. As such, Talley served
as an especially strong example for gay black men creating their stories, and Eric Paulk adds his in this week’s Q Voices column.
Speaking of lives well lived, Stonewall Week is packed, not only with events on the Queer Agenda calendar in this issue, but with thoughts of the
LGBTQ past to light our path forward. We lay down some lesser-known
column helps three queers say what’s on their minds. Also on tap, Q Shots captures local queers showing out in all their Pride Month glory.
Also showing out this week and all summer are the floral prints that wound
their way from the runways all the way to Atlanta’s streets. Flowery tanks, tees, jumpers and jackets are popping up everywhere, so our Q Fashion photo essay offers several ways to rock the season’s go-to looks and make them your own.
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As his life story hits Atlanta, a fashion icon is remembered for his impact on black, LGBTQ culture
I HAVE NEVER MET ANDRE LEON TALLEY; NOT REALLY. I saw him once in a Harlem church, his vastness consuming a wooden pew near the front of the chapel. Elegantly draped in a caftan suited for a high priest, he was handsome in that way that older black men attending church are handsome; with his neatly coiffed silvering hair, pecan-tan skin, and signature gap-toothed smile, he was everything that I had imagined him to be. My introduction to Mr. Talley’s legacy happened by accident. Sitting in the waiting room of a rural South Georgia dentist, I discovered a ratty old copy of Vogue, and voile, found Andre. I think I was 16 at the time. Merely seeing him, his name typed on the pages of Vogue, represented a new way for me to view my blackness and my maleness. In many ways, it countered the narrowly constructed narrative of black manhood emblematic during my youth.
with the feeling of loneliness and not being accepted. Our own narratives include being raised in untraditional households headed by a grandmother. Black gay men are often family heroes, taking on the role of leader. We are often the ones to go off and make something of ourselves. We are the ones who send money back home and save the day whenever the family is in despair, even though we are condemned by the very families we seek to help. In many instances, doing so is an act of combating shame.
The original Gospels were written to provide lessons to live by. Talley’s Gospel is a testament to our ability to manifest our desires, to embrace our contradictions and complexities. Aside from not receiving acceptance from his family, Talley also endured racism. An editor at Women’s Wear Daily confronted him with a rumor that he had slept his way through Paris. Andre scoffed, “I’ve never been to any designer’s bed. I got my success on my looks and my knowledge, not my sexual appeal. Am I supposed to be a buck, servicing sexually everybody in Paris? That was a very racist thing.”
Talley once told The New York Times that, “I live alone. I’ll die alone, I climbed up alone, and I’ll go down alone.” That feeling of isolaERIC tion is a sentiment I have consistently heard PA U L K among many black gay men. It’s often linked to an inability to connect, so all of our interI would later find out that he was a son of the South and that actions become highly transactional. he had a particular fondness for his grandmother who raised One of the saddest moments in reading recent Talley interviews him, both facts that made me admire him more. is how friends dropped him following his departure from Vogue. The recent release of The Gospel According to Andre documen- Anna Wintour, his inspiration and mentor, now “treats [him] tary about his life has revived interest in the former Vogue like the proverbial black sheep, that family member who is left creative director and America’s Next Top Model judge. In his out, shut out, to be avoided.” Romantically speaking, at 70, Mr. interview with Q magazine in this issue, he recounts the Talley claims to have never really had a relationship, though he pain, sacrifice and struggle he endured to make it to the top. identifies as having been in love twice, both times unrequited. As I reflect back to that day in a Harlem church, watching Mr. Talley from the balcony, I realize that his cachet is greater than his tendency towards fabulation. Instead, it lies in the fact that when we see him; we see ourselves. The story of Andre Leon Talley is an American success set against the backdrop of race and sexuality that reveals the price of “making it.” Talley’s story is rife with familiar tropes. Many of us identify 8
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The original Gospels were written to provide lessons to live by. Talley’s Gospel is a testament to our ability to manifest our desires, to embrace our contradictions and complexities. They also provide a roadmap for any of us not to get too caught up in the trappings of success, to build real relationships, and to avoid the need to be validated by others. Eric Paulk is an advocate working at the intersections of race, class, and sexuality. Follow him on Twitter @EricPaulk.
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Remembering St By Mike Fleming
IN THE WEE HOURS OF JUNE 28, 1969, NEW YORK City police raided the Stonewall Inn, and fed-up patrons refused to budge. You knew that, but here are some stats you might not know that made this particular LGBT uprising the one that stuck.
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LGBTQ homeless youth were already a thing in 1969, especially in Christopher Park. For just $3 at Stonewall Inn, they could drink and stay warm and dry most of the night. They were in place to become part of the fray.
Youth Village Storm Brewing Serving alcohol to “known homosexuals” and dancing with the same sex were illegal. More than 100 U.S. men a week were arrested in sex stings.
Context
At least eight similar uprisings, riots and actions across the country – including a riot of trans women and queers of color at Compton’s Cafeteria in 1966 in San Francisco (photo) — took place in the years leading up to Stonewall. Three days of Christopher Street riots gave media time to latch onto the story and spread it nationwide.
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Mob Media Mentality Mayhem Escalation of the event came as a crowd grew into throngs. Coverage in the Village Voice with anti-LGBTQ language brought even more angry people, as well as threats to burn down the newspaper’s offices.
People think of the mob outside after things went sideways. Police say a different mob, the New York Mafia that owned the bar, were the target of the raid.
Legacy
Panty Raid
A year later, marches across the U.S., including the first gay rights march down Peachtree Street in Atlanta, became the Pride parades today and the traditional last-Sunday-in-June commemorations.
You’ve seen Stonewall protestors in a paddy wagon. Most were biological males not wearing one item of “male clothing” (often underwear), or females not wearing three articles of “female clothing” to prove they weren’t in drag.
Places of Kick Line Refuge In addition to throwing rocks and bottles, protesters formed an arm-in-arm phalanx and infuriated cops with a “Rockettes-style” song and dance.
Despite targeting by police and others, queer bars like Stonewall Inn were still considered safe(r) places to be among like-hearted people, often the only places in someone’s life to do so. That’s what was ultimately worth fighting for. Source: Earlybird Books theQatl.com
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Another One? Beltline gentrification pushes gay bar Model T from its home of 26 years By Patrick Saunders THE OWNER OF GAY BAR MODEL T SAYS THE bar is being forced out of its home near the Beltline in the Old Fourth Ward. With no specific plans yet, she promises it will relocate this summer. On June 2, the bar said in a Facebook post that its lease at the Ford Factory Lofts on Ponce de Leon Avenue next to Ponce City Market was not being renewed. With an extension of the lease, the bar will remain open through July.
‘You can’t stop progress, or what they think is progress. They didn’t mind me being here when it was nothing but the pimps, the hustlers.’ — Jill Darmer Model T owner Jill Darmer told Project Q that the bar is a victim of 725 Ponce, a $155 million project now under construction immediately adjacent to the bar (photo). The development will include a 12-story office building, a redeveloped Kroger and new commercial space in Ford Factory Lofts, according to the Atlanta Business Chronicle. Other longstanding businesses in the building appear to also be on the chopping block.
‘THE WRITING WAS ON THE WALL’ Model T opened in 1992, and Darmer took ownership in 1995. She says most changes through the decades have been good for the LGBTQ movement and the bar, but the opening of Ponce City Market across the parking lot from Model T wasn’t positive for the bar. Her rent doubled in the last three years.
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“People are moving out because the rent’s going up, and I guess that’s just the future of what’s going on,” Darmer said. “You can’t stop progress, or what they think is progress. They didn’t mind me being here when it was nothing but the pimps, the hustlers. “The writing was on the wall as soon as Don Lippman — who owns this building — got in cahoots with the corporate bunch,” she added. “He … was just looking for things. What disturbs me most of all is to give it up because somebody wants to put [in] a glass shop full of trinkets. It’s totally nonproductive for the community — gay, straight, whatever. I’m just a small voice talking to large conglomerates, which has never bothered me. They wanted me out of here long before now.” Darmer also claimed that she wasn’t given an offer to stay. “If you think somebody’s been so good to them, they would at least come up with something exorbitant that I couldn’t do. So that irritates me. I wasn’t even in the running,” she said. But Darmer, 73, has no plans on packing it in. “I’m going to find another place, but it bothers me because I have great employees and I want to find them something. I’m going to find another space. But you can’t transfer this, the ambience of this. You can’t just pick it up and move across the street,” she said. In November, new development also pushed out popular gay dance club Jungle. Find the latest LGBTQ news coverage daily on Project Q Atlanta at theQatl.com. theQatl.com
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Atlanta Braves LGBT Night A block of fans, a reception, and a team on fire right now make Stonewall Month grand @ SunTrust Park, 7:35 p.m. mlb.com/braves
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THURSDAY, JUNE 21 – SUNDAY, JUNE 24 Southern Fried Queer Pride Multiple events by, for and about LGBTQ+ people of color and their allies. Start at the Honoring Trans Lives & Losses social and Cinequeer Film Night on Thursday. Continue all weekend with events including the Hawt Sauce Dance Party on Friday, Saturday’s Artist Market, Queer Threads Pop-Up Thrift Shop and Sweet Tea Variety Show, and Frolic! Queer Picnic on Sunday. All events at The Bakery. southernfriedqueerpride.com
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Roxie Watson The lesbian alterna-grass band rocks a set @ Eddie’s Attic, 7 p.m. eddiesattic.com Out Loud: Midtown Smackdown Misti Shores hosts a night of interactive drag game show fun @ Out Front Theatre Company, 8 p.m. outfronttheatre.com
THURSDAY, JUNE 21 MAAP My Direction The business owners of Metro Atlanta Area Professionals hosts this “Still Fighting Stonewall” discussion @ The Living Room, 6 p.m. maapatl.org
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Dueling Pianos The Andrews Brothers All Request Music & Comedy Show is totally unique and totally fun @ Midtown Tavern, 10 p.m. midtowntavern.net Unity Ball Billed as “a big ol’ dance party” for Stonewall Weekend, join your queers with DJ Ree de la Vega @ The Deep End, 10 p.m. facebook.com/thedeependatl
Hearts Beat Loud A groundbreaking romantic SATURDAY, JUNE 23 comedy about lesbians of color Drag Queen Story Time also stars Parks & Rec’s Nick Edie Cheezburger reads A Day in the Life Offerman @ Landmark of Marlon Bundo to kids for the Midtown Art Cinema, all entertainment of adults week. landmarktheatres.com @ Out Front Theatre Company, 10 a.m. Rise of the Rainbow Economy outfronttheatre.com Atlanta Gay & Lesbian Chamber of Commerce hosts all-day business summit, followed by a Pride Month networking session, 1 p.m. – 8 p.m. atlantagaychamber.org Sarah & The Safe Word Queer activist and musician Sarah Rose leads this act opening for Polkadot Cadaver @ The Masquerade, 7 p.m. masqueradeatlanta.com
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SUNDAY, JUNE 24 Atlanta United Unity Night The LGBT fan club All Stripes heads up this day of pro soccer and diversity @ Mercedes-Benz Stadium, 1 p.m. facebook.com/groups/allstripesatl Drench 2018 Nothing says summer for some ATL queers like a gay pool party @ W Atlanta Downtown, 1 p.m. gagapac.com Find the full Queer Agenda calendar with dozens more events each Thursday on theQatl.com.
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STORYTELLER Vogue veteran Andre Leon Talley talks clothes, privacy, and his own ‘Gospel’ in advance of Atlanta preview screening
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rowing up in the South, Andre Leon Talley discovered a passion for fashion that eventually led him all the way to a job as editor-at-large at Vogue magazine. The iconic Talley is the subject of the new documentary The Gospel According to Andre. The film officially opens in Atlanta on June 22, but a one-nightonly preview screening with a panel Q&A about his impact on the black and gay communities debuts the night before, courtesy Georgia Equality, Out on Film and Q magazine. Now 69, Talley broke barriers, opened doors and helped change fashion at a time when few African Americans were visible at any level of the industry. Raised by his grandmother in Durham, North Carolina, he cultivated his sense of fashion through her.
Talley and friends in 1981.
possible to tell a story through clothes.” Talley worked at Women’s Wear Daily and W before coming to Vogue. He moved from fashion news director to creative director to contributing editor to editor-at-large in 1998. He has also worked with Savannah College of Art and Design (SCAD) for 15 years as a member of the Board of Trustees.
“I’d watch her as a young kid, observing her, combing her hair,” Talley tells Q. “We loved going to church, and our wardrobes were special for church clothes. We were not wealthy, but we were not poor. We were modest. “What we wore to church was paramount,” he adds. “Church people were fabulous. People wore hats, gloves, shiny shoes, beautiful suits.”
Talley dances with Diana Ross at Studio 54.
The young Talley also discovered Vogue years before his personal involvement in the publication. He can’t remember if he discovered the magazine in the school library or on the news stand, but he does remember it was life changing. During that time, Talley also realized he was different. He was bullied by football players, he recalls.
“I didn’t play (sports), I didn’t want to go to the gym,” he says. “That was not what I was interested in. When you are different, you are bullied, but I survived and I was strong.” Moving to New York changed Talley’s life. In 1974, he began working at Andy Warhol’s Factory and for Warhol’s Interview magazine. “It was amazing. It was a complete 360. There were people like me. I felt like I belonged. I wasn’t bullied. I saw transgender people, drag queens, society ladies, models, Princess Caroline of Monaco, Jerry Hall, Grace Jones, Diana Ross. It made me feel very welcome. People took me for who I was. I was a tall drink of water, but yet I had something to say.” Talley remembers Warhol as great boss who encouraged him to be himself, and he was also greatly inspired by fashion maven Diana Vreeland, the editor of Vogue from 1963–1971. “She taught me to see clothes the way they should be seen, for the beauty and the romanticism,” he says. “She taught me how it was
“I never thought I would be at Vogue,” he muses. “I came there in an offhand way. I got there in 1983, and it was great to be there. It was perhaps one of the last great decades of fashion.”
While at Vogue, Talley helped bring more African-American models to the forefront. He did so quietly and subtly, he says. Racism was prevalent then, and Talley feels it still is now. Talley loves the new film about his life. He calls it “exceptional,” but one of the challenges in making it was opening up and sharing his personal life. Although he has a very public persona, he calls himself a private person. In 2007, the fashion icon was among Out magazine's “50 Most Powerful Gay Men and Women in America,” and promotional material for The Gospel says it explores Talley being “black and gay in the fashion industry.” For his part, Talley allows others to use the G word about him, but he personally eschews it. After dodging the question most of his life, Talley told Vanity Fair in 2013 that he doesn’t identify as gay, but “has had very gay experiences.” In our interview, Talley compares himself to Janelle Monae, who came out as pansexual earlier this year. “Labels are not important,” he says. “I am fluid rather than one thing.” The Gospel According to Andre screens with a panel Q&A on Thursday, June 21 at UA Tara Cinemas 4, 7 p.m., courtesy Georgia Equality, Out on Film, Q magazine and Magnolia Pictures. The f ilm opens in wide release on Friday, June 22. theQatl.com
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Here I am, minding my own business at my corporate holiday party, when the sketchiest of sketchy queens at our office heads toward me. I rolled my eyes because I already know she crazy and looks drunker than usual, but I had no idea how bad it was about to get. He starts as his usual annoying self, but out of nowhere pivots to hitting on me. The details of the commentary are gross and over the top, but bottom line is that I was cornered, and no amount of social signals would make him to stop. I didn’t want to make a scene with my other coworkers there, and I didn’t want to embarrass him since I have to see him on a regular basis, but what should I have done? Dear Coworker: Sometimes it feels like it’s never the ones who we want hitting on us who do it, right? That said, coworkers or not, there’s never a reason to make a scene, shame or embarrass somebody. Be kind, not as a reflection on the guy and what you think of him, but as a reflection on yourself. Consider it karma for the next time you bat outside your own league. In the future, try interjecting shut-down statements like “Let me stop you right there.” Start the moment you sense unwanted advances asserting that you’re uninterested and/or unavailable. Avoid hints. Be clear without being rude. If he doesn’t stop, move. You’re never cornered so
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overbearing, intimidating or forceful, that should not be tolerated. Say definitively “Stop this,” and if need be, have someone else step in, including an authority.
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