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OUT LOUD
You doing you is critical to our queer Atlanta mission
UNABASHED. UNASHAMED. UNAPOLOGETIC. It is sometimes with boldness and gall that LGBTQ Atlantans have claimed our place in local history, and it’s as easy as living our lives for the world to see. Our prime directive at Q is to celebrate and amplify all you beautiful creatures doing just that in queer Atlanta, and this week brings more gorgeous examples to the fore for Labor Day Weekend. Of course that includes the 22nd annual Black Gay Pride Weekend. What started as a backyard barbecue of LGBTQ African-Americans in 1996 has become one of the largest events series of its MIKE FLEMING EDITOR & PUBLISHER kind in the world. Our Party Preview takes you from day to night and from Thursday through Monday with more than two-dozen opportunities to show your pride and celebrate the intersectionality of civil rights movements. Q contributor Eric Paulk puts it into perspective in Q Voices. He poetically weaves together the history of black queer Atlanta with the politics of Pride to highlight that just the simple act of celebrating can be a powerful statement. Speaking of powerful statements, if of a totally different kind, the alternaqueer cool kids at Mary’s are playing dress up again, only this time it’s for us and one of our contributing shutterbugs Jon Dean in the Seasons photo feature. In their typical loud and proud style, the staff and owners of East Atlanta’s queer bar show off beach looks as only they can interpret them to help you say so long to summer. Showing off elsewhere in the mag this week, find Q Shots from recent events, the Queer Agenda of Labor Day Week happenings, and a special edition of 10 Queer Things. In the latter, our home site Project Q Atlanta celebrates its decade anniversary with a look back at 10 of the site’s most popular posts. And The Q advice column takes on a special edition this week as well, tackling the topic of how to help a friend who’s stepped beyond indulgence and into danger with drugs. No one is asking for special rights with all this living out loud, but we do think the local community is an awfully special bunch just the same. If you have ideas for people or groups that you think we should profile, drop me a line at mike@theQatl.com. theQatl.com
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INSIDE THIS ISSUE
VOLUME 1 ISSUE 40 AUGUST 30, 2018
SEASONS Last Splash
COVER
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Out Proud
Black Gay Pride events 10 QUEER THINGS
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Queer Years
30 Vixen Love
A decade of Project Q coverage THE QUEER AGENDA
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To Do List
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Labor Day Week in the LGBTQ-ATL
FEATURES Q Voices
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Pride is
between two movements. The LGBTQ rights movement,
POLITICAL
Why celebrating Black Gay Pride in itself is activism DURING THE SUMMER OF 1986, THE NATIONAL Coalition of Black Lesbians & Gays released the first edi-
tion of Black/Out, a quarterly newspaper by founding editor Joseph Beam. In this first edition, noted black feminist
Barbara Smith discusses being in community with other black LGBTQ folks.
though largely birthed by black and brown trans folks at
the Stonewall Inn and other actions, was essentially a white movement that failed to embrace us.
‘Every time we make the active choice to place shame, fear and rejection on the back burner and live openly as LGBTQ people, we are taking a radical stance.’ And while the gay white movement mostly omitted black
trans lives, the black civil rights movement was also slow to
add gender and sexual politics to its agenda. While there were progressive leaders like Maynard Jackson, the first black may-
or of Atlanta, who believed that people should have basic civil
“My perceptions about race are not something I have to explain to activist Black gay men, nor do I need to de-
rights, including LGBTQ people, the need for a space that
was both black and queer was, and continues to be, critical.
lineate the challenge of being queer in
In 2018, black people are still systematically
the Black community. I also don’t have to
limited in our ability to live, move, gather and
explain the talk I talk, why I cannot get
participate fully in our democracy and our
into white women’s music, why I do not call
economy. For example, in the past few months
Black persons past a certain age by their
alone, there have been a number of incidents
first names, or why I am so worried about
that exploded onto social media and made
national headlines of police being called on
our youth. It’s all understood. We share
language, culture, values, the African genius, family ties — in short we share Blackness.”
ERIC PA U L K
That’s exactly what Black Pride feels like to me
daily lives in myriad places including the dorm, sitting in Starbucks, and leaving an Airbnb.
— safe harbor in a world where there are few spaces that feel
I cannot imagine Atlanta, during that first picnic in 1996, be-
tion or validation. In Atlanta, we pay homage to those folks
were also living openly as members of the LGBTQ community.
safe and where black queer folks can exist without explanawho first gathered for a picnic in 1996 over Labor Day Weekend.
As they were laying the groundwork for what would become Black Gay Pride in Atlanta, they were doing much more
than convening a get-together, but demonstrating an act of
political defiance. They recognized that our love is an act of
ing an any kinder place for black people, especially those who Suffice it to say, they were brave. Even today, every time we make the active choice to place
shame, fear and rejection on the back burner and live openly
as LGBTQ people, we are taking a radical stance. In doing so, we pay homage to those who stood in the gap before us.
political resistance.
So this Black Gay Pride, remember that just by being here, we
I wonder if they knew then the importance of their decision?
tion that a space must exist for all of our identities.
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celebrate our survival, and we demonstrate to a new generaEric Paulk is an advocate working at the intersections of race, class, and sexuality. Follow him on Twitter @ EricPaulk.
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10 QUEER THINGS
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Project Q Atlanta turns 10 with comprehensive coverage of LGBTQ Atlanta
ueer Years
Here’s a sampling of the most popular posts on Atlanta’s home site for queer news, photos, events and buzz from the decade since Project Q Atlanta launched on Sept. 1, 2008.
Atlanta Police accused of harassment during Eagle raid Eddie Long tries, fails to put gay sex scandal behind him
A 2010 scandal enveloped the Atlanta mega-church pastor when five men accused him of coercing them into sex. Years of trials, denials and book deals were ongoing until Long’s death in 2016.
Gay Atlanta takes marriage rally to the streets
A national flood of emotion over the June 26, 2015 Supreme Court ruling to legalize marriage for gay couples turned into a local flood of partiers in Midtown. 10
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On Sept. 10, 2009, five years of Project Q coverage began when eight people were arrested at the Atlanta Eagle. Ultimately vindicated in court, the incident sparked mass LGBTQ protests, firings and sweeping new policies at Atlanta Police Department.
Popular Atlanta performer found dead
Transgender performer Lateasha Shuntel was found dead in November 2015. Her passing erupted into an outpouring of community emotion. Two years later, Project Q was there when a woman was found guilty of illegally injecting Shuntel with silicone that made its way into her bloodstream.
Activists confront Sharon Needles in Atlanta
Project Q was there for a sitdown meeting called by RuPaul’s Drag Race winner Sharon Needles in June 2012 to dialogue with LGBTQ Atlanta detractors of racial imagery in her act and use of the N-word. It got heated as Atlanta prepared for a Needles appearance and possible protest.
Atlanta police arrest Baton Bob
Sassy drag street performer Baton Bob took to Midtown streets in a wedding ensemble to celebrate the Supreme Court revoking the Defense of Marriage Act in June 2013. During his oneman march, he had a scuffle with Colony Square security that escalated when Atlanta police responded, leading to his arrest.
Burkhart’s closes in wake of racist social media controversy
Ria Pell’s 11 best moments on ‘Chopped’ The lesbian chef and founder of Ria’s Bluebird took down a church lady from New Orleans, a cocky guy who chases ghosts and some dude who nearly chopped off his finger on an episode of Food Network’s Chopped in Nov. 2012. It was one of many public successes for Pell, who died with a huge outpouring of grief a year later.
After weeks of controversy over racist social media posts, Burkhart’s closed its doors for good in February 2018 and ended a decades-long run as a popular Midtown gay and drag bar. Midtown Moon officially opened in its place in May under the same owners as Oscar’s Atlanta.
Watch Nathan Deal explain why he vetoed HB 757
Gov. Nathan on Monday vetoed a controversial “religious freedom” bill after delivering a nearly nine-minute statement during a news conference in March 2016. Watch his full statement.
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Find fresh LGBTQ Atlanta content daily at theQatl.com.
Atlanta mourns victims of Pulse massacre in Orlando
Hundreds of LGBTQ Atlantans commemorated the victims of the gay nightclub massacre in Orlando in June 2016 with two vigils in Midtown, including one so large that it prompted the closure of a portion of 10th Street. theQatl.com
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Reverence
MONDAY, SEPT. 3
& REVELRY
By Mike Fleming
Buckhead. InTheLifeAtlanta.com.
BLACK GAY PRIDE IN ATLANTA TURNS
Not to be outdone, party plans at events under the online umbrella AtlantaBlackPrideWeekend.com include the annual Pure Heat Festival in Piedmont Park on Sunday. Their host hotel for seminars and workshops is the Georgian Terrace.
22 with a packed schedule. As thousands flock to town over Labor Day Weekend, this year’s
calendar sees the return of popular events, the launch of new ones, and as always, the attendance of some big-name celebrities.
In The Life Atlanta turns up the heat on ac-
tivities this year at host hotel Atlanta Marriott THURSDAY, AUG. 30
SATURDAY, SEPT. 1
VIP Welcome Reception Georgian Terrace Hotel, 9 p.m. atlantaprideweekend.com
Pride Marketplace Marriott Buckhead, all day inthelifeatl.org
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Pride Health Expo Marriott Buckhead, all day inthelifeatl.org
StripHer & Pretty Girl Hideout Suite Lounge, 10 p.m.
FRIDAY, AUG. 31 Pride Marketplace Marriott Buckhead, all day inthelifeatl.org
History of Black Gay Atlanta & Opening Ceremonies Marriott Buckhead, all day inthelifeatl.org
Naked Hustle Women’s Day Party Magic City, 3 p.m. atlantaprideweekend.com Pre-Game Mixer for Men Georgian Terrace, 5 p.m. atlantaprideweekend.com
Queen Sheba Comedy Show Georgian Terrace, 7 p.m. atlantaprideweekend.com
100 Men Strong Dinner & Mixer Georgian Terrace, 7 p.m. atlantaprideweekend.com Southern Comfort Party Marriott Buckhead, 7 p.m. inthelifeatl.org
MEGA Live Ladies Lounge Truth Lounge, 10 p.m. atlantaprideweekend.com
Grown Folks Women’s Party 25+ with Bombshell Boogie 241 Edgewood, 10 p.m. atlantaprideweekend.com
SpeakFire Erotic Poetry Marriott Buckhead, 10:30 p.m. inthelifeatl.org 12
Here are the best bets from both, plus a few more one-off parties and special events that your favorite bars are hosting.
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Pure: All White Party Truth Lounge, 10 p.m. atlantaprideweekend.com
MORE EVENTS Labor Day Rock Events rockstarsproduction.com Wassup N ATL abp2018.eventbrite.com
Midtown Moon facebook.com/midtownmoon
Men’s Ultimate Day Party Georgian Terrace, 5 p.m. atlantaprideweekend.com
Saturday Night Live Men’s Party Georgian Terrace, 10 p.m. atlantaprideweekend.com
TraxxGirls Strip Club Onyx, 10 p.m. atlantaprideweekend.com
Bulldogs Bar facebook.com/bulldogsbaratlanta
Black Gay Pride Film Festival Marriott Buckhead inthelifeatl.org
TraxxGirls Big Bang Westside Cultural Arts Center, 10 p.m. atlantaprideweekend.com
Some Like It Hot for Women Alibi Rooftop, 5 p.m. atlantaprideweekend.com
My Sister’s Room mysistersroom.com
WetHer Block Party Opera Atlanta, 3 p.m. atlantaprideweekend.com
All White Party 595 North Ave., 10 p.m. inthelifeatl.org
Barbecue Day Party for Men Georgian Terrace, 4 p.m. atlantaprideweekend.com
Atlanta Eagle atlantaeagle.com
LGBT Greek Brunch & Expo Denard Conference Center, 12 noon inthelifeatl.org
Literary Cafe Marriott Buckhead, all day inthelifeatl.org
I Am, Aftermath Candler Events Center inthelifeatl.org
Men Who Brunch Georgian Terrace, 12 noon atlantaprideweekend.com Black Gay Pride Fashion Show Marriott Buckhead inthelifeatl.org Soul Food Poetry Slam Georgian Terrace, 12 noon atlantaprideweekend.com Culture Club Day Party 421 Edgewood, 5 p.m. atlantaprideweekend.com
LGBT Greeks in the Park Candler Park, 12 noon inthelifeatl.org
White Party Marriott Buckhead inthelifeatl.org
Pure Heat Community Festival Piedmont Park, 12 noon. atlantaprideweekend.com
Celebrity Showtime Tongue & Groove, 10 p.m. atlantaprideweekend.com
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THE QUEER AGENDA The Best Queer Things To Do in Atlanta This Week
FRIDAY, AUG. 31
August 30 - September 5
Michelle Malone
The lesbian blues rocker puts on a hometown show behind her new
album Slings & Arrows @ Vista Room,
8 p.m. michellemalone.com
SATURDAY, SEPT. 1 Bear Invasion
DJ Deanne pumps the beats for beasty boys @ Heretic, 10 p.m. hereticatlanta.com
THURSDAY, AUG. 30 – MONDAY, SEPT. 3
SUNDAY, SEPT. 2
Black Gay Pride
Hussy
American and LGBTQ returns with options for both reverence and
Banks, Maya Wiseman (pho-
a health expo, a film festival, a fashion show,
more turn out an “extreme
One of the country’s largest celebrations at the intersection of African
Performers including Jaybella
revelry. Official In The Life Atlanta events include a daily marketplace,
to), Paege Turner and many
two brunches, a White Party and
sports” edition of this popular
a Greeks in the Park picnic at Candler Park. inthelifeatl.org
Other events include dozens of parties every day and the annual Pure Heat Festival in Piedmont Park on
Sunday via atlantapride-
weekend.com Check out our preview in this issue of Q.
THURSDAY, AUG. 30 – MONDAY, SEPT. 3 Dragon*Con
The annual sci-fi/fantasy/cosplay convention
loves its queers, and LGBTQ fan groups
make the most of it. Events for the self-titled
“Queerios” include this year’s Spectrum
Rainbow Flag Party @ Hilton Grand West, 10 p.m. dragoncon.org,
facebook.com/groups/dcqueerios,
facebook.com/groups/outworlders
show @ Kweer House,
131 Scruggs Ct. NE,
8 p.m. facebook.com/ paege.turner.5
DJ Dani Toro
The all-weekend party
doesn’t let up when everyone officially has Monday off. DJ Dani Toro
keeps it going @ Heretic,
10
p.m. hereticatlanta.com
MONDAY, SEPT. 3 & TUESDAY, SEPT. 4
At the Wake of a Dead Drag Queen
FRIDAY, AUG. 31 – SUNDAY, SEPT. 2 Decatur Book Festival
Renowned Tales of the City author Armistead Maupin is one of the many LGBTQ special guests, and the documentary on his life
co-sponsored by Out on Film is among the events, during the annual
literary fandango @ Decatur Square, all weekend. decaturbookfestival.com
The Spectrum Lab series at Atlanta’s queer theater
launches with this project by Terry Guest about a young, black drag queen and her best friend @ Out Front Theatre Company, 8 p.m.
Find even more LGBTQ events in the Queer Agenda each Thursday at theQatl.com.
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The crew from Mary’s helps us say so long to summer
Josh What to expect at Mary’s: A bunch of silliness. In a good way. We dance and sing and pop comically large fans. We’re a laid-back crew, and our regulars really groove on that vibe. And I’m usually shirtless. I can’t dance, but I do know the Napoleon Dynamite talent show dance. Takes people to that 2004 place. Quote: “People don’t think it be like it is. But it do.”
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or scores of queers and for many years, the coming of Labor Day Weekend means one thing: Your last chance for a beach trip, pool run or so-ridiculous-color-tropical-sunglasses-floatie-shorts-pineapple-swimwear-don’t-care- look. In celebration of summer’s last splash, the crew from Mary’s dressed up in their interpretations. While they polish plans for Labor Day installments of the bar’s most popular parties — they were once voted among the best gay bars in the world — we talk to the owners and current staff about 20 years of the little rock-n-roll queer bar that could.
Photos by Jon Dean jondeanphoto.com
Full interviews at theQatl.com.
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SEASONS, Continued
Rae On Mary’s: Get drunk and hopefully leave with some of your dignity. His other favorite EAV spots: Flatiron, The Earl, The Basement Photos by Jon Dean jondeanphoto.com
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Chelsea Daggers On the Mary’s Glitz and other drag shows: Mary’s sets a standard for high concept drag. Our looks are paired with a story that conveys something. Quote: During the finale of Miss Glitz, I “vomited” fake film grade blood into the audience and promptly ruined a girl’s Anthropologie sweater. She called the health department who contacted Mary’s the next day. Needless to say I was proud. She was wearing Anthropologie, though, so I say she might have had it coming. Photos by Jon Dean jondeanphoto.com
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Moonlight Cabaret
with Out Front Theater Company Coming in September!
Hosted by Shavonna B. Brooks & Raquel Lord Feat. Tristan Hartman Panucci & Niesha Dupree, with special guest Alicia Kelly
TUESDAYS
11 p.m.
Karaoke
SATURDAYS
Hosted by Angelica D’Paige Brooks
The Moonlight Starlets
10 p.m.
Hosted by Misti Shores
WEDNESDAYS
8 p.m.
Whatcha Singing Wednesday
Hosted by Ron Scoza, Baby D GaLore & DJ Weston
10 p.m.
THURSDAYS
TNT Talent Night Hosted by Destiny Brooks
9 p.m.
FRIDAYS
Fresh Fish Friday Drag 8-10 p.m.
Movie on the Patio Bar 7 p.m.
Divas of the Moonlight Cabaret Kitchen Hours Mon-Sat 4-10 p.m. Sunday Brunch Noon -3 p.m. Dinner 4-8 p.m.
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SUNDAYS
Eggstravaganza
Hosted by Misti Shores & Niesha Dupree with special guest Trashetta GaLore
Brunch: Noon - 3 p.m. Show: 1 p.m.
The Armorettes 9-11 p.m.
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SEASONS, Continued
Matt What to expect at Mary’s: The beautiful thing about Mary’s is you never know what to expect, and you usually don’t get the expected. Quote: EAV is a very close knit community of freaks and weirdos and I love them all. Photos by Jon Dean jondeanphoto.com
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Eric On Mary’s: Come here to meet and see a lot of creatively diverse and talented people. Favorite Mary’s Memory: The first Halloween season after I started, I got to come to work dressed like a slasher for our Slumber Party Massacre. It was the first time I ever got to do something like that with a job, and it’s still probably the most fun I’ve ever had at work. Photos by Jon Dean jondeanphoto.com
Full interviews at theQatl.com.
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Devon On Mary’s: Expect the unexpected Favorite Mary’s Memory: The night when paramedics showed up and brought a stretcher up the stairs in the middle of a drag show. Best part: They were at the wrong bar. Photos by Jon Dean jondeanphoto.com
Full interviews at theQatl.com.
Lindsey On Mary’s: Mary’s = Family Favorite Mary’s Memories: Clever performances, late-night ass shaking, late-night makeout sessions, and pissing my pants from laughing. Photos by Jon Dean jondeanphoto.com
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Ben Cheaves and Bill Overall Owners On Mary’s: You can usually expect to find yourself lost in good conversation with friends or a random stranger, maybe discover a new favorite song from one our DJs and more than likely find yourself with a doozy of a hangover if the night goes right. Favorite Mary’s Memories: Customers go-go dancing on the bar for charity, a guy in a jock dancing to “Fuck tha Police” by NWA… Another special night was when Obama got elected in 2008, and the entire village turned into a party. Grown men were joyfully weeping, girls were dancing topless. It felt like a scene from a 1920s movie with champagne and flappers. Photos by Jon Dean jondeanphoto.com
Full interviews at theQatl.com.
CJ Mary-oke Host On Mary’s: I have worked at Mary’s for 19 years. Our customers can expect lots of humor and good music. Favorite Memory: When Shirley Franklin, before becoming mayor of Atlanta, came in and tried to sing. She had a realistic sense of humor about her voice. Photos by Jon Dean jondeanphoto.com
Full interviews at theQatl.com. Mary’s is at 1287 Glenwood Ave SE, on Facebook, Instagram and at marysatlanta.com.
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THEQ?! Party MONSTER When a friend’s drug use moves past indulgence and into excess
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I think my friend might be abusing drugs. Before I even get started, I’m going to come right out and say that I dabble recreationally, so I’m not judging partying with substances per se. At first, I just thought he was being weird or going through something that made him act differently. Several months ago, he started going manic on occasion, accusing good friends of talking behind his back. Not everybody is affected the same way by the same drugs, so I chalked it up to a little too much snuff in the snort. Lately, he upped the ante, and others in our group are noticing it too. He’s losing weight, and not in a good way. His eyes are sunken and dark, his skin is yellow, and his accusations have blown up into full-on thinking everyone is out to get him. He grinds his teeth obviously and constantly. Even when I don’t suspect he’s on it right in the moment, I do know all of these can be signs of prolonged meth use. But maybe it’s just some unknown emotional drama that has him not being himself? This is the first guy I met when I moved here, and I care about him, but I also know I don’t have much room to talk when it comes to indulging in party favors. Should I confront him?
Since you are close, I do think you can approach your friend, and I do think it may take more than one conversation. Ask if there’s anything he wants to talk about. Leave the signs you mention to your own observations, and leave your other friends out of it. If he thinks people are talking behind his back, you’d only be feeding his paranoia. Tell him you sense a possible problem and are concerned because he seems different. If he still avoids it, tell him you’re there for him if he changes his mind or anything comes up. This opens the door for him to come to you, and for you to circle back and broach it again a little later.
Your concern is probably more common than many of us like to talk about. Queers and meth are a well-documented duo.
If he’s not ready to confide in you, that doesn’t mean your friendship has to be over. The line between being supportive and pushy is a fine one, and it’s hard to navigate by its nature. Use your best instincts.
Remember that while we each choose whether to indulge in chemical escapism and risk the consequences as individuals, that doesn’t mean you can’t see the signs. In fact, you could be more qualified to tell if someone else is indulging, or if they take it further and lose their way.
Of course, you’re right that the symptoms you name could be signs of and addiction and abuse, so you have to be ready for that to be the issue. If your friend confides that this is his situation, or if you find direct evidence of such, encourage professional help. You can support him, but you can’t fix him.
Be careful, though. What if the signs you’re seeing mean that your friend’s health is at risk from an undiagnosed virus? What if he, as you hint, might be going through something that is stressing him out so much that he’s letting his self-care and appearance go?
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As a friend, you can’t confront him about drugs if you don’t know it for a fact. If you do, you could cause damage with the assumption before you have a chance to help.
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