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POST-PRIDE IN THE LGBTQ-ATL is no time to rest on our laurels. Atlanta has places to go and people to see, and Q remains steadfastly dedicated to bringing you all of it. A week after thousands stomped the same grounds, AIDS Walk Atlanta hits Piedmont Park on Oct. 21, and 10 Queer Things takes the opportunity to highlight the beneficiaries of this year’s event. AIDS Walk also serves as the cornerstone of this week’s Queer Agenda calendar of shows, specials and soirees to keep that Pride vibe going strong all season. Speaking of the season, the temps have finally decided MIKE FLEMING to catch up to the calendar, and just in time for our EDITOR & PUBLISHER Cover Feature, which takes red inspo from AIDS Walk Week and mixes it liberally with the monochrome trends stomping runways these days. Shake vigorously with leather and faux fur, present it in a wheat-field flourish, and fall fashions are served. On a more somber note, just as Atlanta Pride prepared its 48th bow, the city said goodbye to one of its founding fathers not just of Atlanta Pride but of the entire local queer movement. Our Community Profile remembers the life of Berl Boykin, from standing up to homophobia at Emory in the ’60s, marshaling the first Atlanta Pride march, and working well into the modern era of LGBTQ rights in Georgia. In Q Voices, Heather Maloney is talking gender fears from an insider’s perspective, and in Q News, Atlanta continues its official progress as the best city in Georgia for LGBTQ residents. This week also sees the introduction of our new biweekly Q&A feature, which profiles queer locals you should know. First up, artist, activist and advocate Johnnie Ray Kornegay III lets us in on his multi-faceted life and vision for civil justice. Of course we also have Q Shots galleries from recent events, and The Q advice column wraps this week’s coverage with words of wisdom for the hardest breakups of all — the amicable ones. Keep doing amazing things in queer Atlanta, y’all, and Q will keep celebrating, covering and shouting them from the rooftops. Hit me up with your feedback and ideas at mike@theQatl.com. theQatl.com
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Gender
to another is one of the most socially unacceptable practices we learn of while growing up.
One Atlanta woman’s journey through dread, horror and selfacceptance to discover her true self
Most transgender kids aren’t the courageous ones defying social norms at a young age. That’s not to say they’re any less brave, but most of us tell ourselves we simply can’t be transgender, even making excuses as to why.
FEARS
IT CAN BE A DIFFICULT PROCESS OF SELF-REALIZATION to learn that you are not the gender you were told you were from birth. I have no doubt that there are countless transgender people in this world who will never decide to transition or even acknowledge that it’s something they need to deal with outside of their deepest thoughts and feelings. Think about it: You’re told from the moment you’re born that you’re unquestionably this gender, and it becomes one of the basic building blocks of your life and society as a whole. Some people are men, some people are women. They didn’t choose to be that way, but they are. And the answer when trans children inevitably ask “why” is biological.
It’s great, right? As you might imagine by the analytical tone here, no, it is not. For those who don’t feel comfortable with the gender identity that they were given to carry their entire lives with all of its implications, it’s like holding a vat of acid and told not to spill it. We’re expected to keep it balanced wherever we go, since a spill would certainly hurt us and those around us. At least, that’s how I perceived it while growing up until it finally shattered. Lo and behold, the “acid” was estrogen all along! And as much as people love saying how it’s important to “go against the grain” and “don’t worry what everyone else thinks,” that’s not always so simple. We’re social creatures. We’re afraid of losing our social lives, and transitioning from one perceived gender theQatl.com
“Every guy wants to secretly be a girl” is something so many trans women say to themselves, myself included, even though it sounds ridiculous to others. “Of course nobody would admit to it, but who wouldn’t want to be female?” When we realize that this isn’t the case and that men don’t feel this way, it can be enlightening or lonely. Many can suppress those feelings for a seriously impressive amount of our lives before it becomes unbearable — or more unbearable than it already has been.
H E AT H E R MALONEY
And so we go along with this, believing that the constructs are all there for our own good. We have the luxury of never needing to ask what someone goes by or knowing how we need to treat the person because it’s right there in their presentation like a name tag.
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It’s seen as a joke, so when we’re growing up and thinking about it more and more, many of us see transition from male to female as one of many examples we’ve seen in the media as men dressing up as women for laughs.
What comes after is oftentimes just as hard. Coming out to family, friends and anyone is an effort in genuine horror. There’s no promise that the other person will understand it or accept it.
And let’s say that everything up until now has been done and over with. You’ve embraced that this is who you are, you’ve come out to at least one other person close to you, and now you’re ready to do what it takes. Well... How, exactly? Resources for transgender people aren’t common knowledge, after all. It can sometimes be difficult even to find a therapist who knows anything about it, much less about hormone replacement therapy — for the record, typically it would be an endocrinologist. And even then, there are plenty of professionals out there who won’t give you what you need for a number of reasons, so finding the right one is key to starting right away. And what about clothing? Or tucking? Or binding? Or voice training? Heather Maloney is a writer, editor, and creative thinker from Atlanta with a vested interest in gender and sexuality. Read the full column at QMagAtlanta.com. PHOTO BY ROBIN RAYNE NELSON/ZUMA.
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LGBTQ pioneer, Atlanta Pride co-founder dies at 74 By Patrick Saunders BERL BOYKIN — AN ORGANIZER OF THE FIRST Atlanta Pride march in 1971 and a longtime LGBTQ activist — died on Oct. 6 just as excitement over the city’s 48th Annual Pride Festival began to build. Boykin was 74. His queer activism started in 1963 when he was a student at Emory University. The school expelled Boykin, an undergraduate at the time, for hosting a man in his dorm room. Dave Hayward, an LGBTQ historian and longtime friend, said Boykin continued to agitate for LGBTQ rights on campus alongside the late Steve Abbott, the Emory student body president at the time.
Later that decade, Boykin and the late Shelby Cullum petitioned the state legislature and Atlanta City Hall for LGBTQ rights on behalf of the Georgia Mattachine Society. In August 1969, Atlanta police raided the Ansley Mall showing of Andy Warhol’s “Lonesome Cowboys,” leading Boykin and others to found the Georgia Gay Liberation Front two months later. “As the first marshal for Atlanta’s first Pride march in June 1971, Berl says, ‘There were 125 marchers — I know, I counted them twice,’” Hayward wrote in a remembrance of his friend sent to Project Q Atlanta. Boykin recalled the march in a Georgia Voice profile on him published in April 2018. “We could not get a parade permit from the city,” Boykin said. “We marched up Peachtree from the Federal Building downtown … by the Baptist church at 5th and Peachtree, just as they were getting out of church and they were freaked out.” At the time of his death, Boykin was believed to be the last person alive who took part in the first Atlanta Pride march and still lived in the city.
COMMUNITY Q In July 1971, Boykin, the late Klaus Smith and the late Bill Smith met with Gov. Jimmy Carter to advocate for LGBTQ rights. Carter didn’t budge, but Hayward said he and Boykin later cajoled Carter to come out in support of same-sex civil unions in December 2004. Boykin and Hayward would go on to found Touching Up Our Roots, an organization devoted to documenting Georgia’s LGBTQ history that is still active today. In addition to his work as an activist, Boykin was a staff member for Atlanta’s alternative newspaper the Great Speckled Bird, which often covered LGBTQ issues.
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“Berl wrote and published both as a journalist and as a poet, and acted and directed in plays and music videos,” Hayward said. Hayward added that for many years, Boykin was the chief drama critic for local NPR affiliate WABE 90.1 FM. Boykin was part of the first contingent of honorees Atlanta Pride recognized at the “Our Founding Valentines: Celebrating Our Pioneers” reception in 2015. Boykin reflected on the importance of LGBTQ Atlanta remembering its roots in the Georgia Voice profile. “People need to know now, younger gay people, how bad the oppression was in the old days and how it had to be fought against for people to even get to the relative state of liberation we’re in now,” he said. “Never forget the struggle. Our enemies won’t, and they will definitely have the energy to push us back. … Struggle on until you get more freedom in each aspect. … Until we get full equality, every way with straight people, no more, no less, things are not over.” Details of a memorial service or celebration of Boykin’s life have not been made public. LGBTQ news is updated daily on Project Q Atlanta at theQatl. theQatl.com
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NEWS BRIEFS
Brian Kemp ‘cruising for votes’ on Grindr “But we don’t expect him to
By Patrick Saunders
find much support,” Bring-
BRIAN KEMP IS OUT WITH AN ATTACK AD
man told the AJC. “He has
against his Democratic rival Stacey Abrams in the un-
made clear that he wouldsign
likeliest of places — Grindr — despite Kemp’s support of
discrimination into law if he is
anti-LGBTQ “religious freedom” bills.
elected governor, even though
400+ major Georgia employers
The banner ad has a picture of Abrams beside the line
“Where was Stacey Abrams.” The AJC reported that the ad
harm thestate’s economy.”
attacks Abrams’ stance on sex offender legislation.
Brian Kemp
The Georgia Democrats called out the odd pairing.
The Kemp campaign didn’t respond to Project Q’s request
“Instead of cruising for votes on Grindr, Brian Kemp
should stand up for LGBTQ Georgians and promote a
strong economy by committing to veto RFRA — just as Nathan Deal did,” Seth Bringman, Democratic Party of Georgia spokesperson, said in a press release.
Bringman refers to House Bill 757, a controversial anti-
LGBTQ “religious freedom” bill that Deal vetoed in 2016.
for comment about its advertising on the social networking app for gay men. A look at the campaign’s latest financial disclosure shows ties to a political advertising firm that has used Grindr to support its GOP clients before.The
Kemp campaign paid about $90,000 to Majority Strategies between July and September. This firm gained attention in
2014 when it ran ads on Grindr for the NRA in support of Senate candidate Tom Cotton.
The Georgia Democrats also noted the timing of the ad
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Atlanta gets highest-ever score on annual LGBTQ equality index
the city treats its LGBTQ employees, municipal services, law
running during Atlanta Pride week. According to the AJC:
By Patrick Saunders THE CITY OF ATLANTA NOTCHED A PERFECT SCORE on the Human Rights Campaign’s Municipal Equality Index for the sixth consecutive year, while nine other cities and areas across Georgia received failing scores.
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enforcement and relationship with the LGBTQ community. HRC gave Atlanta an 82 when the MEI first started in
2012. The city has had perfect scores or higher each year
since then. Atlanta earned “MEI All-Star” status again this year “for scoring above an 85 despite being a state with no
LGBTQ-inclusive protections,” Griffin said. Bottoms reacted to the announcement in a post-reception press release.
HRC President Chad Griffin announced this year’s MEI score during a Pride reception that Mayor Keisha Lance Bottoms hosted at Atlanta City Hall on Oct. 8. Griffin said it was “vitally important that cities like Atlanta are stepping up to provide crucial, commonsense protections for their LGBTQ residents and visitors.”
“To the activists, stakeholders, City officials and community members who made this
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THE QUEER AGENDA SUNDAY, OCT. 21
The Best Queer Things To Do in Atlanta This Week
AIDS Walk Atlanta & 5K Run
October 18 - October 25
The 28th annual event marches through Mid-
THURSDAY, OCT. 18
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‘Art is indispensable from social change’ Photo by Kirklan H of XL Shoots
By Patrick Saunders JOHNNIE RAY KORNEGAY III IS MANY THINGS, BUT stagnant is not one of them. Photographer, creator, consultant, activist — his imprint shows across Atlanta. He advocates around issues impacting black gay men for the Counter Narrative Project, he’s heavily involved in HIV and civil rights advocacy and he’s the founder and artistic director for an arts company called Staticc, with a mission of “delivering beauty to the world” through his own work as well as singer-songwriter Kipper Jones. Kornegay talks more with Q about his heroes, his motivation, his art and his fears. Tell us about your background. I was born and raised in Chester, Pa. I was raised by my two heroes, my parents, Brenda and Johnnie Kornegay. They were supported by a whole host of family. I have one brother, Ed Kornegay. My upbringing was a very 1980s black experience. Atari, Nintendo, rap music and bike riding. While there were parameters I had to stay within as a kid, I always had a feeling of freedom at the same time. I was fortunate to have a large supportive family around. I was always a little different as a kid, but I never felt ashamed because of it. There was a lot of love around me. What drew you to civil rights advocacy? It started young. My parents would take my brother and I with them to vote. It planted the seed that we had a civic duty, and we were taught that my ancestors were killed so we could have the right to do it. This civic action was stoked again around the time I was 8 or 9. I remember I was in third grade, and my teacher Ms. Shelly had given us an assignment to read a newspaper article. The article I picked happened to be about the HIV epidemic. This was around 1985. I remember being so moved by it. After high school, around
1996, I began volunteering with the Chester AIDS Coalition. It was humbling. I learned a lot. How important a role do the arts play in advancing civil rights? For context, the music, writing and poetry of black artists in the 1950s and 1960s wasn’t separate from the civil rights activism happening at the time. It was part of it. It was all one thing with multiple creators. I learned about HIV because of 1980s and 1990s pop culture. I remember watching Neneh Cherry’s “I’ve Got You Under My Skin” video. It was the visual arts from Keith Haring, the music from Janet Jackson, the poetry from Essex Hemphill that gave me courage and knowledge. Art of my childhood was seductive in the way it taught me to think more deeply. I could speak out. Art is indispensable from social change for black folks. It gives us context. It gives us language. It helps us understand the world around us. What moment are you most proud of so far? The moment I am selecting is actually one of my most recent accomplishments. I am most proud that I was selected to shoot the cover of Positively Aware Magazine’s September/October 2018 issue on HIV decriminalization. As a person who’s released two bodies of artistic work publicly that included the stories of black gay men living with HIV, I was so honored to do the cover. HIV laws around the country must be modernized. I am committed to being part of that change. What’s something people would be surprised to find out about you? One of them I did this morning. I shocked both of my best friends by rapping the entirety of “Relentless” by Erick Sermon. I think people would also be surprised that I, too, worry that I won’t find a life partner. Take note y’all, I’m available for dates and chats about changing the world. theQatl.com
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I was enjoying what I thought was a tough but amicable split from my ex of nine years. He stopped trying, and I stopped trying to make him prioritize us, and we finally agreed to end it. We get together occasionally to ease the transition of being on our own again. We have two dogs, and since he stayed in the place with the yard and I took our condo, he was going to keep them and give me visitation.
you. They are unhappy and acting out at best, neglected at worst. Tell him that you are keeping the dogs for their own good, and that you don’t want to see or hear from him for at least a month.
The problem is, he’s never there to take care of them.
Not talking or texting won’t come naturally to either of you, and that’s the point. You can both see what it’s like to live single and begin to process your relationship as well as its end, and begin to dig out of this back-and-forth.
First, he complained about them “acting out” and blamed it on me for being gone. Then he said he never even wanted them when we got them, and only agreed to keep them to shut me up. Finally, he made me take them permanently to the cramped condo, which is OK I guess, but now he is actually asking for them back! I’m at a loss. Even before the dog episode, I felt like he was getting together only when it suited him, to the point that it was confusing. Like he wants all the good fun parts of a boyfriend and dogs, but none of the work. Dear Right but Wrong: It’s hard during a split to remember that you can’t have your cake and eat it too. You can no longer rely on each other for your daily needs, and you can’t facilitate a breakup by seeing each other and intertwining your lifestyles — especially at first. You need a clean, hard break. Even if it’s subconscious or unintentionally, he is keeping you on a leash, and the dogs are his last bargaining chip. Even if he has the bigger yard, if he is not letting the dogs take advantage of it, they might as well be at the condo with 38
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