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FEBRUARY 2019 IN THIS ISSUE: COVER STORY 6 Love Stories

ENTERTAINMENT 10 Local actress hopes to incite a movement 11 GameOn: Going down the rabbit hole with my Brother Rabbit 12 Worcester native and illustrator gets real with surprising memoir 13 PulseBooks: Roots for self-love this Valentine's Day 14 NowStreaming: Clean Bandit / Jeff Goldblum / The Brilliance 15 The Central Scene 18 Club Listings 22 Pulse Shots

LIFESTYLE

27 Out+About: What is Love and how do we label it?

FOOD + DRINK 30 Dining Review: Samuel Slater's Restaurant: An unexpected experience

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31 Hot&Now 32 New Around the Woo: Stillman Quality Meats

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33 PulseBrew: Breweries are welcoming families

ARTS + CULTURE 34 Healing through racism: How a FSU professor uses poetry in her classes to discuss race relations

SPORTS + FITNESS 35 FindingBalance: Arriving

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STYLE + BEAUTY

24 For Valentine's Day, learn to love yourself

36 Enhance your workouts

25 420 in the 508: Selling greens to make green

37 StyleSavvy: Looks for the big day

26 The Luxe List: Gifts for your techie Valentine

38 Steal the Style: Cell phone coverup

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Sloane M. Perron Valentine’s Day is a celebration of love. From dating to engagements and marriage, relationships have many different forms. This February, Pulse reached out to local couples to find out how they met “the one” and what advice they would give to others. From school crushes turned to marriage and chance meetings fit for romantic comedies, these couples show how love is blossoming in and around Worcester.

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MIKE JOSEPH & FRANDIA “DIA” VALENTINE CHATELAIN

MALKI VELEZ & IVY MARINELLI

Married Marlborough Together Since: 2009

Engaged Worcester Together Since: 2016

Mike Joseph and Dia Chatelain both went to Marlborough High School. While they knew each other since the eighth grade, they had different social circles. During their junior year, both were in Bio Technology, when the teacher volunteered Chatelain to help Joseph with his classwork. Joseph was smitten with Chatelain from day one. “She didn’t like me at first. It was love at first sight for me but not for her,” Joseph joked.

However, that did not deter him, and he would write her poems, walk her to class and ask her out frequently. Joseph was about to give up when Chatelain finally agreed to go out with him. Chatelain’s parents were very strict and forbid high school dating.

As a result, the couple’s dates mostly consisted of talking for hours at school. Joseph believes that by talking every day in high school, they were able to “build a foundation of strength and support,” before they became more serious. Even though a child and careers have been added to the mix, the couple still loves being together. “The best part of the day is waking up together and seeing each other at the end of the day,” Joseph said.

Relationship Advice Chatelain offered some sage advice to other couples, “What I always tell my friends is that it’s okay to be individuals. You guys can be individuals and together at the same time.”

She said that it is healthy to have your own interests and friends. “But at the end of the day, we come together, we are a unit,” Chatelain said. For Joseph, communication is an important part of a successful relationship. “It’s okay to say what is on your mind,” he said.

“If something bothers you, you should get it out, so it does not manifest,” Joseph added.

Malki Velez and Ivy Marinelli began their relationship rather early during their time at Jacob Hiatt Magnet School. The couple first met in the fourth grade but did not start “dating” until the sixth grade. Velez and Marinelli went their separate ways for high school and college, then one day they ran into each other again at the Planet Fitness on Shrewsbury Street. Velez recognized Marinelli, and after Facebook messaging each other, they met again at Bocado.

“Before I knew it, it was 1 a.m. and we were the only ones there,” Marinelli said.

They later went on their first official date at Lock 50, where things continued to fall into place. Velez said that he knew he loved Marinelli since they shared their first kiss together as kids at recess, but he joked that Marinelli does not remember the moment.

Relationship Advice Marinelli’s advice to other couples is to take their time while dating and not rush into finding a partner. “I would just say don’t settle. Just wait and find the right person, and you will know it because it is a feeling in your heart that you can’t describe,” she said. She encourages people to live their lives for themselves and figure out who they are before rushing into a serious relationship. As a Worcester firefighter, Velez understands how precious life is and how things can turn on a dime. His advice would be, “Embrace the time you have with significant others.

Just saying a simple ‘I love you’ can go a long way.”

THE FIRST VALENTINE IN WORCESTER Esther Howland was a Worcester resident whose creativity would spark a booming Valentine card industry. In 1847, Howland was inspired to design a Valentine card after receiving one from England. She sold her own cards at her father’s stationary business, but as demand for her valentines grew, Howland hired friends to help craft cards in the family’s home at 16 Summer Street. In 1879, Howland partnered with Edward Taft to create the New England Valentine Company, which was located at 218 Main St. The stationary, valentine and greeting card company prospered and grew until 1942. During World War II, a wartime paper shortage crippled the industry and led to the closure of the company, then known as the George C. Whitney Company. But it was one valentine that helped spark an entire industry in Worcester.

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PERFECTING YOUR ONLINE DATING PROFILE

BEING SINGLE AND HAPPY

While many people find love through random encounters and happenstance, others use technology to find their happily-ever-afters. Online dating can be dauting and overwhelming, but here are some tips to help you create an online dating profile that is true to who you are. As with all things, honesty is the best policy. Be clear and open about the type of person you want to find in life and the type of relationship you are seeking. Instead of hiding your face in profile pictures, choose a picture that best shows off your personality and, most importantly, your smile. According to a recent study, 46 percent of women believe that a smile is the number one physical feature that attracts them to someone. When writing your profile, don’t write a novel but keep it casual, lighthearted and concise. Leave them wanting more.

Valentine’s Day is based on love, but that does not mean you need to be with someone to be happy on the holiday. Loving yourself and being happy with who you are is one of the most important aspects of life. Enjoy activities and hobbies that you love. Experience new things.

Whether it is taking a new class, reading a good book, trying a new restaurant or traveling somewhere on a whim, it is important to treat yourself. Whether it is hanging out with friends or doing something purely for yourself, Valentine’s Day does not just have to be a day dedicated to couples.

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TROY “LADY SABRINA” LEBLANC & BRENO BONFIRM

MEGHAN & KEN MANTLER

Engaged Leominster Together Since: 2018

Married Holden Together Since: 2008

Troy LeBlanc, known to Worcester audiences as “Lady Sabrina,” said his romance was, “Love at first chat.” LeBlanc was signed onto the dating website, International Cupid, when he first laid eyes on Breno Bonfirm. Bonfirm, who is from Brazil, was showing his friend how to use the site.

“I usually don’t use it,” Bonfirm said of dating sites. However, the couple found that they had very similar interests, and one chat quickly transformed into daily conversations. After two months of talking online, LeBlanc went to Brazil to visit Bonfirm. LeBlanc recalled getting off the plane, seeing Bonfirm in person for the first time and falling head over heels.

“For me that was it,” LeBlanc said. “And for me too,” Bonfirm said. When LeBlanc returned home, the couple was more determined than ever to overcome long distance and language barriers to be together. Bonfirm said, “We are in different parts of the world, we have different languages and lifestyles.” Yet, love brought them together. LeBlanc had planned on proposing to Bonfirm, but Bonfirm surprised him first, and the couple is planning their wedding on their first-year anniversary of dating. “In the past, I had fears about getting married, but now I have not one, not a single one,” LeBlanc said. Recently, Bonfirm’s visa was approved so the couple can happily spend their lives together.

Relationship Advice Bonfirm believes that honesty is key to any couple’s happiness. While having a long-distance relationship was hard at times, it gave the couple the opportunity to talk every day, learn more about each other, and support each other through good times and bad. LeBlanc agreed and said that arguments and sad moments are a reality of relationships, but it is how a couple supports each other through tough times that defines them during their happiest moments. “Everyone expects a Hallmark moment. People expect sunshine every day, when relationships need rain to grow,” he said. Additionally, LeBlanc said, it is important that a couple has the same definition of love and has the same goals. For example, both LeBlanc and Bonfirm sought monogamy, family and want children in the future. “Everything feels right,” Bonfirm said.

Meghan was at the first week of her first year at Boston University, where she was earning her graduate degree in theology, when she met Ken. Ken was in the last year of BU’s theology program and was about to graduate when the two met. The school hosted an event at the BU Pub that Meghan and Ken attended. When the graduate students realized they both wanted to enter the seminary and become pastors, they became engrossed in discussion. Meghan and Ken debated religion all night. Four months later, they ran into each other at a BU hockey game and went on their first date shortly after. Instead of love at first sight, Meghan called their first meeting “intriguing.” “We grew to love each other,” Ken joked.

Relationship Advice As a couple, Meghan and Ken loved going for walks, visiting museums, and taking part in social justice movements together. The addition of children changed their relationship dynamic. “Having a family changes everything,” Ken said. The couple had a plethora of advice for couples who have young families. Firstly, they advise couples with kids to make time for each other.

“Make sure you find ways to love each other,” Meghan said. She said you can “rekindle” the romance by doing small, simple things for your partner. “You are tired and emotionally drained at the end of the day, so it is important to make time for each other,” she said. Ken said that couples can find a way to incorporate children into things they once enjoyed as a couple. “Going for walks as a family gives you time to talk as a couple. You can find ways to do what you want to do with your kids,” he said.

UNIQUE DATE IDEAS FOR THE BOLD Coffee shop dates and going to the movies are the quintessential to every romance. However, here are some unique date ideas for couples with an adventurous and quirky side. For couples who really want to see how each other reacts under pressure, try an escape game date. Located at 108 Grove St., Escape Games Worcester tests participants’ intelligence and observation skills as teams work together to solve puzzles and escape. For competitive couples who are kids at heart, check out Xtreme Lazer in Webster. Neon, dark rooms and plastic guns – what could go wrong? One of the boldest things for anyone to do is to put themselves in the spotlight. Try serenading your date with a fun night of karaoke. Grab some liquid confidence and sing your heart out during karaoke nights at Café Neo, located at 97 Millbury St. Escape Games Worcester

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ENTERTA IN M E N T

LOCAL ACTRESS HOPES TO INCITE A MOVEMENT Victoriahope McAuliffe Worcester native Maya Morales is a multi-faceted, artistic powerhouse whose acting repertoire includes television, film and stage. Morales began acting at age nine, but her desire to perform began as a toddler.

“I remember being into artsy stuff because my parents had me start dancing at age two. I did the Nutcracker ballet, which was my introduction to performance, and I just caught the bug.”

Morales said Worcester’s arts and cultural community is rich with opportunities for kids and teens. “My parents were dedicated to searching out programs for me to get involved in. I went to acting camps and all sorts of programs that were offered throughout the city that helped me develop my craft.”

In 1997, she was selected to join the cast of Zoom, and the excitement the community felt was tangible. Copies of the newspaper article highlighting her achievement were handed out at church, and every child in the congregation watched her debut episode. Since her days on Zoom, Maya has appeared in multiple films and television series.

Recently Morales starred in Jinn as Tati. “My character kind of acts as a vehicle to Islamophobia, and that’s something I don’t relate to. I can relate to the insecurities and jealousy and second guessing, especially regarding sexuality and how girls present themselves.”

Jinn is a thought-provoking film, written and directed by Nijla Mu’min, released nationwide in November. Jinn’s writer crafted an alluring screenplay utilizing elegant prose and imagery, creating authenticity that compelled Maya to join the project. “The film was written poetically; the

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director would write about scarves blowing in the wind and use beautiful descriptions, what motions actors would be doing.”

Portraying racial and religious discrimination that people of color face when converting to Islam, Jinn highlights the impact on their identity, the complexities and joys of the mother/daughter dynamic, and how young love strives to exist within the microcosm of the Muslim community.

Former coursework in Islamic studies provided Morales with insight into issues facing Muslims in America and the discrimination they have faced. Despite her grasp of Islam, comprehending the level of anger and fear Tati experienced proved strenuous.

“The preparation for portraying Tati and accessing the negative aspects of her identity, especially her difficulties accepting Summer converting to Islam was challenging.

Delving into where the origins of someone who is struggling with that enough to lash out was hard, because I’m not Islamophobic.”

Through Jinn’s depiction of Islam in America, its cast and crew hope to enlighten and educate people who have consumed misinformation spread by the media.

Serving as both an artist and activist, Morales said, “Being around the film and screenings gave me hope and joy to be part of these difficult conversations. The difficulty came from having girls come up to me after screenings and tell me they got kicked out after telling their parents they converted to Islam.”

Her hope? “That people will engage in dialogue around this, and it will spark people to talk about multiple themes within the film. I also hope it serves as a hug or safe space

for people who haven’t ever had representation. I have so many people come up to me and say they have never seen themselves on television. Jinn can incite a movement. It’s so easy to say we need more intersectionality, but it’s often created without authentic narratives. It’s so important to see the beauty of people just being people. Just let people freaking be people; just let them be.”

Despite her budding success in Los Angeles, Morales still remains connected to her community in Worcester, which initially nourished her artistic spirit, and she credits Worcester for her development as an actress.

She fondly recalls performing at Foothills Theater as a child. “RIP Foothills Theater. I loved that place. I also attended The Hanover Theatre Youth Summer Program and took advantage of multiple opportunities available through my school and church.”

She specifically recalls the joy she felt during band and choir practice while attending Abbey Kelley Foster Charter School in Worcester. “My choir and band teacher were the only people who looked like my sister and I. She was this strong and brilliant person who looked like us and was incredibly impactful. My choir teacher had us sing powerful spiritual songs. It was amazing.”

Morales’ advice for aspiring local actors? “Take advantage of the small community that Worcester offers. LA is so large, it gave me the appreciation for the small community I left behind. Aside from training and learning whatever you can, don’t limit yourself, and don’t forget to live.”

You can follow Maya on Instagram @hellomayamo and watch Jinn on Google Play, Itunes and Amazon Prime.

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Going down the rabbit hole with My Brother Rabbit Jason Savio Well, this is awkward.

Have you ever come across one of those games that seemingly doesn’t want you to play it? You know the type: They seem simple and welcoming at first, but once you click “start,” you soon find out that it’s a lion in sheep’s clothing. My Brother Rabbit, a point-and-click affair, falls into that category.

As you’ve probably guessed, in My Brother Rabbit, you play as a stuffed rabbit come to life in a whimsical fairy tale land. But this make-believe world is anchored by a very real one. The rabbit is alive, thanks to the power of a young boy’s imagination in an effort to help his kid sister, who is sick in the hospital. The goal of the rabbit in the make-believe world is to save his friend, a sick flower. It’s no coincidence that the brother in reality is trying to do something similar with his ailing sister.

My Brother Rabbit relies heavily on puzzles and patience-testing problems, and therein lies the problem for yours truly. A good game can’t be easy – it can’t be a dumbed-down button masher – but it also can’t give you an undeniable urge to turn off the TV because you feel like you’ve exhausted all options when it comes to trying to advance. What’s the fun in that?

Perhaps My Brother Rabbit, with its endearing character and cartoon presentation, caught this gamer off guard, and, if that’s the case, then kudos to Artifex Mundi for putting out a title that is more challenging than it seems. But it’s a tease, and one that makes you wonder what you’re missing out on.

There is something to be said, however, for the world that My Brother Rabbit inhabits. It’s dream-like atmosphere and cartoon characters evoke pleasant feelings of youth and innocence, two things that many other indie titles seem to be leaning toward recently instead of flat-out violence and grim apocalypses.

So, is My Brother Rabbit worth the trip down the rabbit hole? If you’re not in a rush and you like puzzles that are a lot harder than they appear to be, then yes, jump on in.

For more information, visit mybrotherrabbit.com.

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WORCESTER NATIVE AND ILLUSTRATOR GETS REAL WITH SURPRISING MEMOIR

at my book signings that are so appreciative that they can see their experience (through the book).”

Now 40 years old, Krosoczka has a family of his own and lives in Northampton. But he recalls his time growing up near Webster Square Plaza in Worcester fondly. He remembers venturing to local comic shop That’s Entertainment when he was kid and oftentimes taking the “pretty significant walk” to get his books when he didn’t have a ride.

He cites Spider-Man and Batman as some of his favorite comic books, with a special soft spot for Jim Lee’s X-Men run in the early ’90s. His own work, though, is more reflective of the comic strips he used to read in his grandfather’s newspapers, like Peanuts, Garfield, and Calvin and Hobbes.

“I would read the comic strips in the newspaper every single day, and I just devoured that stuff,” he said.

That love for comics showed in Krosoczka’s own art, and his grandparents would end up sending him to take classes at the Worcester Art Museum.

“I always liked to tell stories with words (and) with pictures,” he said.

Krosoczka recalls an art teacher bringing in children’s picture books for him to look at during his senior year in high school.

Jason Savio Jarrett Krosoczka is taking a leap of faith.

“These beautiful pieces of art that led me on the path to write picture books,” he said.

The popular children’s book author, illustrator and Worcester native has put aside the colorful characters from his previous creations to focus on a much more personal and real story in his latest graphic novel.

After graduating from the Rhode Island School of Design in 1999, Krosoczka submitted his work to book publishers for two years and received two years’ worth of rejections before eventually getting his first book published at the age of 23, Goodnight, Monkey Boy.

Addiction and loss – these are topics you wouldn’t expect from the guy who made comical books about a lunch lady and a series called Platypus Police Squad, but they can be found in the sprawling Hey, Kiddo, a graphic memoir that chronicles the hardships Krosoczka endured while growing up in Worcester and how he eventually fell in love with his escape: drawing.

“As I was traveling the country, visiting these schools on book tours, it wouldn’t matter what school I was at – it wouldn’t matter if I was in a rural or urban or suburban setting – every single place I went to, there was an adult that would pull me aside and say, ‘We’ve got kids here that are just like you.

They are dealing with the exact same stuff that you were dealing with,’” said Krosoczka.

The “stuff ” Krosoczka was dealing with he made public for the first time during a TED talk in 2012, in which he described his mother’s struggles with heroin addiction, her incarceration and how his grandparents eventually took custody of him and raised him.

“It took so many people by surprise because I was the Lunch Lady guy to them,” he said, referring to his popular book series. “This guy who’s making these happy books, funny, silly stories.”

But after hearing stories of children going through similar struggles, Krosoczka’s thoughts on writing Hey, Kiddo changed from a story that he “might want to write” to “a story that I needed to write.”

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As Krosoczka writes in the author’s note to Hey, Kiddo, his grandparents, Joseph and Shirley Krosoczka, were both still living to see him get his first book published and accomplish the dream that they helped him reach.

They have since passed on, but, in their memory, Krosoczka has created the Joseph and Shirley Krosoczka Memorial Youth Scholarships at the Worcester Art Museum to help kids who come from unique familial situations of their own get involved in art.

At 3 0 0 p a g e s long, Krosoczka certainly covers a lot in Hey, Kiddo, from the dark and troubling times to the few, but cherished, heartwarmingly sweet moments in between. He is not afraid to illustrate his mother at her worst or be heartbreakingly honest with his prose. There are curse words; there is blood; it’s all done with the mindset to be as sincere and real with readers as possible.

When asked if he had any apprehension about releasing the book, Krosoczka confessed that he did.

“Yeah, because it’s a story that’s a lot heavier and a lot more tense than my other stories,” he said. “But it was a risk worth taking because I knew the kids needed a story like this. I’ve heard from so many young people already

With his 39th and 40th book already slated for release in 2019, including the next installment in his Jedi Academy series, Krosoczka continues to be busy. Hey, Kiddo, however, is a standout in his catalogue. Not only has it garnered positive reviews and become a National Book Award Finalist, it is also a full-circle reconciliation with his difficult youth and past.

With his leap of faith rewarded and doubt put to rest, Krosoczka can take a sigh of relief, knowing he has a story that is transcending all he’s done before and one that is helping others.

“When you put a story out there, a book out there, you really don’t know how it’s going to be received,” he said.

“And it’s been overwhelmingly well received.”

For more information, visit studiojjk.com.

PULSEBOOKS: Roots for self-love this Valentine's Day Kimberly Ruscitti This Valentine’s Day, ditch the cookie-cutter romance novels for a couple of heroines who must fight for their happiness after their status-quo lives fall apart (and whose happily-ever-afters don’t necessarily include a Prince Charming).

If you’ve ever been that girl who’s been obsessed with the wrong guy, you’ll root for Fixie Farr in Sophie Kinsella’s new book I Owe You One (The Dial Press). After her father’s death, Fixie has taken over the role of the glue that holds her family together (her nickname comes from her constant need to always help people).

While her brother and sister lead their own superfluous lives, Fixie is running the family store with her mother in hopes of carrying on her father’s legacy. When her longtime crush, Ryan, moves back home, Fixie will do anything to make him stay, including cash in a favor she earned by saving a handsome stranger’s laptop from utter destruction. Ryan takes advantage of Fixie’s willingness to help (and ditches her when it doesn’t work out), as do her brother and sister when their mother leaves the country for a vacation. In her mother's absence, Fixie tries her hardest to keep the store – and the family – together while her siblings begin to run it into the ground. Holding fast to her father’s motto of “family first,” Fixie must decide if she has the courage to finally stand up for herself and choose to put her own happiness first, or will she continue to stand by as her world comes crashing down?

If you’ve ever been the girl jealous of her ex’s past (who hasn’t been?), then Otherwise Engaged (Skyhorse Publishing) will be a funny, and slightly infuriating, read that shows “happily ever after” isn’t always what you envisioned it would be.

Lindsey J. Palmer’s newest book introduces readers to Molly, a human resources professional who is living her dream life, newly engaged to her boyfriend, Gabe, who is about to publish his first novel. There is lots to celebrate, until Molly begins to read the draft of Gabe’s novel, essentially a retelling of his relationship with his wild and crazy ex-girlfriend, Talia. As she reads through the pages, Molly can’t help but compare her and Gabe’s current love to the one he shared with Talia. Molly’s concerns are magnified when Talia comes back into the picture to capitalize on the publicity from Gabe’s book, though Gabe continuously brushes Talia off, assuring Molly that his book is fiction and that their life is reality. When Gabe’s fame catapults with the success of his book, the lines between reality and fiction begin to blur, causing the increasingly jealous Molly’s paranoia to spin out of control. Her life with Gabe is falling apart in front of her eyes, as is her social life and work. When Molly hits rock bottom, she is forced to question what she wants and must fight her way back to happiness and to things she really wants.

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CLEAN BANDIT / WHAT IS LOVE? Mike Wood The second full-length album from the British electronic trio digs into its own archives for inspiration, and even includes some of their biggest hit singles from as far back as 2016 (“Rockabye,” “Symphony,” “Solo”) on this winter 2018 release.

These oft-played dance floor staples are weaved within newer material that does as the group has always done: Blend both classical music (yes, Mozart) and electronic dance, while featuring guest vocalists (this time you’ll hear Ellie Goulding and Rita Ora, among others) to add some star power to their let’s-top-the-charts push.

Clean Bandit is so successful at creating hit singles as one-offs that releasing an actual full-length album almost feels like an unnecessary formality. To make this all make some sense, the trio has suggested a theme, earnest as it may seem, to explore what love is – romantic love, motherly love, brotherly love, broken love … you get the idea. But a mere concept doesn’t make art, and as qualified as their guest vocalists may be, most of the songs are more meh than memorable.

When you’re singing about love in all its forms – whether innocent or lost – and all that connects the dots is “some kind of love” as a concept, it sounds more like an album idea cooked up by publicists, not the artists. The results on What Is Love? come off as recycled and glued together, not inspired or connected.

With this effort ,Clean Bandit may have sealed their fate as one (at a time)-hit wonders … if they wisely remember to release those hits one at a time.

For more information, visit cleanbandit.co.uk.

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JEFF GOLDBLUM / JEFF GOLDBLUM & THE MILDRED SNITZER ORCHESTRA Jennifer Russo I am always appreciative of actors who delve into another realm of art. Sometimes, this works out well – Jared Leto and 30 Seconds to Mars, for instance. Sometimes it’s downright tragic, like David Duchovny, who should have just stuck to acting.

Imagine my surprise when I found out that Jeff Goldblum – yes, the same actor from The Fly, Jurassic Park and Independence Day – was also a jazz pianist. The album is aptly recorded in Hollywood at Capitol Studios, which was made into a pop-up jazz venue for the album and features a live audience. Though this may seem a bit kitschy, it actually works quite well considering the actor is awkwardly charming as a rule. I was impressed to hear that Goldblum is also a very talented piano player, apparently playing weekly shows at a club in Los Angeles and performing at the London Jazz Festival (who knew?). On this album he does great renditions of songs original to Marvin Gaye, Nat King Cole and Miles Davis, among others.

I appreciate that Goldblum shines here, but that there is also room for others in the orchestra to solo and show their skills. It makes for a balanced album. American Idol sweetheart Haley Reinhart also lends talent to this album, with her sultry vocal doing beautiful justice to “My Baby Just Cares for Me.” In a surprising and funny twist, Goldblum takes on the Sinatra vocals of “Me and My Shadow” with comedian Sarah Silverman, who sings Sammy Davis Jr.’s part in a not-too-serious take on the Rat Pack classic.

The album can be purchased anywhere, but for a taste, you can find the sessions with the orchestra on YouTube.

THE BRILLIANCE / SUITE NO.1 OH THE DREAMER Jason Savio It can be hard to put together a collection of songs that is consistent and carries a theme of importance.

The Brilliance’s Suite No. 1 Oh the Dreamer does so and does it with grace.

Suite No. 1 Oh the Dreamer is inspired by and focuses on the DACA Dreamers – young people who arrived in the United States as undocumented immigrants when they were children and have stayed here under the Deferred Action on Childhood Arrivals program, but now find themselves susceptible to deportation since President Trump ordered the program to end.

It’s heavy stuff, to say the least. And The Brilliance wants you to know that it’s very important.

This short collection of songs is as restrained and deliberate as any you are apt to hear. Somber piano melodies and haunting strings are the lone two instruments featured on many of the tracks, especially the three instrumentals, “Valte’s Dream,” “Ludwig’s Dream” and “Lilly’s Dream.” In the liner notes, the band explains how they met up with Dreamers and learned their stories, many of which come to life in the three instrumentals, capturing emotions that are both beautiful and sad.

“Don’t You Let Go” is perhaps the most uplifting song here, with David Gungor singing, “Don’t you let go of your dream today,” backed up by a choir.

The band stated that with this album, they wanted to create music that inspired empathy. Job well done.

For more information, visit thebrilliancemusic.com.

THE CENTRAL SCENE:

Events happening in Central Massachusetts: WORCESTER RESTAURANT WEEK Fill your appetite without emptying your wallet! The winter edition of Worcester Restaurant Week begins Feb. 25 and runs through March 9. Worcester Restaurant Week allows people to sample food from a wide variety of Worcester’s best restaurants without breaking the bank. Participating restaurants lower their prices and create a special menu, offering a three-course meal for only $25.19. Feb. 25-March 9; participating restaurants around Worcester; $25.19; worcesterrestaurantweek.com.

BARK IN THE NAME OF LOVE Come join Worcester Pop Up for a Valentine’s Day-themed event supporting NEADS World Class Service Dogs! There will be live music, a silent auction for art, gift certificates/gift baskets from local businesses, small finger foods, a cake auction and much, much more! 5-9 p.m. Feb. 9, Free; The Worcester Pop Up, 20 Franklin St., Worcester; worcesterculture.org.

MONSTER JAM Monster Jam Triple Threat Series brings more racing, more freestyle, more donuts and more action! Each event tests the versatility of the athletes as they go headto-head in six different competitions driving three different vehicles – Monster Jam Trucks, Speedsters and ATVs. The point leader for the series will receive an automatic bid to the Monster Jam World Finals to compete for the title of World Champion. The Monster Jam Triple Threat Series Pit Party provides access to see the trucks up close, take pictures, meet the drivers and get their autographs. 7 p.m.

Feb. 15, 1 and 7 p.m. Feb. 16, 1 p.m. Feb. 17; DCU Center, 50 Foster St., Worcester; $18-$88; dcucenter.com.

HISPANIC ARTS GALLERY The Hispanic Arts Gallery is a new project of CENTRO, which will be an annual event for the whole Worcester community. This event will provide the opportunity for multiple Hispanic artists to show their pieces and talent to Worcester county.

6-9 p.m. Feb. 22-March 8, Free; The Worcester Pop Up, 20 Franklin St., Worcester; spuente@centroinc.org.

WORCESTER MUSIC AWARDS The Worcester Music Awards is gearing up for another year. While awards will be presented at Pulse’s show in April, we’re asking for you to nominate your favorite bands now. We’ll be collecting nominations in February and asking you to vote in March. It’s easy; just hop online and tell us who you think should be recognized this year.Throughout the month of February; nominate bands at worcestermusicawards.com.

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CLUB LISTINGS 435 Bar & Grill 435 Lancaster St., Leominster Feb. 2: Lizzy Marquis Feb. 8: Chris Terp Feb. 9: Fred Ellsworth Feb. 15: Steve Ciccollini Feb. 16: Andy Fitchel Feb. 22: Dave Harrington Feb. 23: Whitney Doucette Art’s Diner 541 W. Boylston St., Worc.

774-530-6120 Wednesday: Live Music B-Man’s 140 Tavern 348 Redemption Rock Trail, Sterling 978-422-9763 140pub.com Barbers Crossing (North) 175 Leominster Road, Sterling 978-422-8438 barberscrossingrestaurant.com Beatnik’s 433 Park Ave., Worc.

508-926-8877 beatniksbeyou.com Wednesday: Wednesday Night Mayhem Thursday: Center Stage Karaoke Feb. 8: Daddy’s Mitten with Gold Star Boulevard Feb. 9: New England Density Feb. 12: Ukulele Night Feb. 13: “Up Next” Comedy Open Mic Feb. 15: Black Stone Feb. 16: Club Scouts Comedy Fundraiser w/ Kevin Barbare Feb. 23: Black Stone Black Sheep Tavern 261 Leominster Road, Sterling 978-422-8484 Friday: Live Music Saturday: Live Music Blueprint New American Bar & Grill 9 Village Square, Westminster 978-668-5580 Feb. 2: Dan Cormier Feb. 7: Kevin Shields Feb. 8: Tim & Lou Feb. 14: Amanda Cote Feb. 15: Rita Tolman Feb. 16: Midnight Sharp Feb. 21: Ken Macy Feb. 22: Fred Ellsworth Feb. 23: Middlemen Boardroom 139 Water St., Worc.

508-757-6259 boardroomwoo.com Breakaway Billiards 104 Sterling St., Clinton 978-365-6105 Feb. 15: The Great Escape

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Feb. 23: One Track Mind Chopstick’s Restaurant & Lounge 21 Commercial Road, Leominster 978-534-0020 chopsticksleominster.com Chuck’s Steak House and Margarita Grill 10 Prospect St., Auburn 508-832-2553 chucks.com Feb. 8: Blue House Between Feb. 15: Brothers Rex Feb. 22: Drunken Uncles The Columbia Tavern 28 Manning Ave., Leominster 978-751-8962 Compass Tavern 90 Harding St., Worc.

508-304-6044 thecompasstavern.com Friday: DJ’s Saturday: DJ’s Feb. 8: Johnny Taylor Feb. 15: Fields Feb. 22: Chris Terp Feb. 28: Comedy Night with Lou Ramos Days End Tavern 287 Main St., Oxford 508-987-1006 daysendtavern.com Feb. 2: Club Den – DJ Soup Feb. 8: Brett Talbert Feb. 9: In Dispute Feb. 9: Club Den – DJ Soup Feb. 15: Acoustic Karaoke with Rich Teter Feb. 16: Club Den – DJ Juice Feb. 16: Ron Jones & The Diehards Feb. 22: Jeff Anderson Feb. 23: DJ Adonis The District 109 Water St., Worc.

508-756-2100 districtworcester.com Electric Haze 26 Millbury St., Worc.

508-848-0133 thehaze.com Gardner Ale House 74 Parker St., Gardner 978-669-0122 gardenerale,com Monday: Blue Mondays – Live Blues Thursday: Big Music Nights & Audio Wasabi Feb. 2: Tokyo Tramps Feb. 3: Sunday Jazz Brunch Feb. 8: Two Timers Feb. 9: Tsunami of Sound Feb. 15: Dan Cormier Feb. 16: Grin Whistle Feb. 22: The Water’s Edge Feb. 23: Ambient Sojourn Band The GazBar Sports Grill 1045 Central St., Leominster thegazbar.com Feb. 2: Double Barrel Feb. 7: Scott Babineau Feb. 8: Ashley & Ethan Feb. 9: Kevin Shields

Feb. 14: Jae Mannion Feb. 15: Chris Terp Feb. 16: Amanda Cote Feb. 21: Joe Macey Feb. 22: Lizzy Marquis Feb. 23: The Lost Artifacts Feb. 28: Mike Melendez Greater Good Imperial Brewing Co. 55 Millbrook St., Worcester ggimperials.com.

Feb. 2: Colt and the Coyotes Feb. 7: DJ Sprino Feb. 8: Guiliano D’Orazio Feb. 9: Ken Graff Feb. 14: Linday Dodd Feb. 15: Bridge Street Feb. 16: Jared Fiske Feb. 21: Arny Spielberg & Bob Sarkala Feb. 22: Josh Briggs Feb. 23: Jay Graham Feb. 28: Chris Houston Greendale’s Pub 404 W. Boylston St., Worc.

508-853-1350 greendalespub.com Sunday: Sunday Blues Wednesday: Wacky Wednesday Jam Feb. 2: Petty Larceny Feb. 2: Tom Petty Tribute, Petty Larceny Band Feb. 3: Sunday Jam hosted by Mike G featuring Sara Asleigh Feb. 8: Auntie Trainwreck Feb. 9: Heavy Horses Feb. 10: Sunday Jam hosted by Mike G featuring Recycled Dysfunktn Feb. 15: Clam Digger Feb. 16: Silverbacks Feb. 17: Sunday Jam hosted by Mike G featuring Jodee Frawlee (Starr Faithful/ Love Sexy) Feb. 22: Dock Ten Feb. 23: Dock Ten Feb. 24: Sunday Jam hosted by Mike G featuring Pieces of Eight Happy Jack’s 785 North Main St., Leominster 978-466-3433 Feb. 2: Big Dave & The Captain Feb. 8: Steve Tolly Feb. 9: Johnny Gioguard Feb 15: Dave Harrington Feb. 16: Brian Chaffee Feb. 22: Jae Mannion Feb. 23: Mike Livingston Indian Ranch 200 Gore Road, Webster 508-943-3871 indianranch.com Legends Airport Road, Fitchburg 978-342-6500 Feb. 8: Melissa Gates Feb. 13: Mike Melendez Feb. 22: Whitney Doucette Feb. 27: Ken Macy Loft 266 Bar & Lounge 266 Park Ave., Worc.

508-796-5177 loft266.com Tuesday: Karaoke Tuesdays

Wednesday: Music Bingo Thursday: DJ XKaliber Friday: DJ Joe T Saturday: DJ Joe T Feb. 8: Jay Graham MB Lounge 40 Grafton St., Worc.

508-799-4521 https://www.mblounge.com/ Monday: Mondays with Andy Tuesday: Latin Tuesdays with Andy Rodriguez Wednesday: Karaoke with Mikey Mic’s and Ken Thursday: Music Video Thursdays Friday: Dance Night with DJ Lisa and YO Spinning Saturday: Circuit Saturday with MB House DJ Sunday: Bloody Sunday with Derrick Feb. 9: Red Party Medusa Brewing Company 111 Main St., Hudson 978-310-1933 medusabrewing.com Michael’s Cigar Bar 1 Exchange Place, Worc.

508-459-9035 michaelscigar.com Feb. 7: Chris Reddy Acoustic Loops from Hell Feb. 8: To the Moon Feb. 9: Neon Alley Feb. 10: Royal Furs Feb. 13: Eric Fournier Feb. 14: Jim Devlin Feb. 15: Royal Furs Feb. 16: David Bazin’s Mojo Ride Feb. 17: Blue Light Bandits Feb. 20: David Bazin Feb. 21: Eric Fournier Feb. 22: McKinley’s Mood Feb. 23: Blue Light Bandits Feb. 24: Mike Melendez Feb. 27: Kevin Shields Feb. 28: Brett Brumby The Mill 185 185 W. Boylston St., W. Boylston 774-261-8585 themill185.com Feb. 2: Bill McCarthy Feb. 7: Night Train Feb. 8: Whitney Doucette Duo Feb. 9: Guiliano D’Orazio Feb. 14: Steve Angellis Feb. 15: Jay Graham Feb. 16: Mychael David Feb. 21: James Keyes Feb. 22: Ken Macy Feb. 23: Take Two Feb. 28: Jodee Frawlee Mill City Pub 19 Airport Rd., Fitchburg 978-342-2134 Thursday: DJ Trivia Feb. 2: Whiskey Johnson Feb. 8: Sean Fullerton Feb. 9: Lost Artifacts Feb. 15: Big Dave & Captain Feb. 16: XRB Feb. 22: Darren Bessette Feb. 23: The Chills Continued on Page 21

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The Monument Tap 13 Central St., Leominster 978-798-4653 monumenttap.com Feb. 2: Honky Tonk Hangover Feb. 8: The Stillwater String Band Feb. 21: Chris Reddy Acoustic Loops from Hell Feb. 23: Left-Right The Muse 536 Main St., Worc.

508-756-6873 Nick’s Bar and Restaurant 124 Millbury St., Worc.

508-753-4030 Sunday: Poetry Reading Feb. 9: The Sort of Late Show w/ Shaun Connolly The Nines Neighborhood Bar 136 Millbury St., Worc.

508-340-0318 Padavano’s Place 358 Shrewsbury St., Worc.

774-823-3022 padavanosplace.com Thursday: Karaoke with DJ Bobby J Feb. 1: Playback Feb. 2: Stomp N’ Holler featuring Jodee Frawlee Feb. 6: Chloe Belsito Feb. 8: Take Two Feb. 9: Confounded Bridge Feb. 13: Macey & Gerrits Feb. 14: Johnny Vincent Feb. 16: One of the Girls Feb. 17: Rattlesnake Shake Feb. 20: Jim Porcella Feb. 22: Take Two Feb. 23: Dark Horse Feb. 24: Acoustic Tandem Feb. 27: Johnny Vincent The Palladium 261 Main St., Worc.

508-797-9696 thepalladium.net Feb. 1: Midget Wrestling Entertainment Feb. 14: Conn3ct3d Tour w/ Wifi’s Funeral & Robb Bank $ Feb. 15: Peter Murphy Feb. 24: Drake Bell Feb. 28: Watsky Park Grill and Spirits 257 Park Ave., Worc .

Partner’s Pub 970 South St., Fitchburg 978-345-5051 partnerspub.com Sunday: Karaoke Wednesday: Karaoke Friday: Karaoke Feb. 2: Sean Daley & The Hooligans\ Feb. 9: Jah Spirit Feb. 16: Whiskey Johnson Feb. 23: Backseat Zero The Pint 58 Shrewsbury St., Worc.

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Point Breeze On the Lake 114 Point Breeze Road, Webster 508-943-0404 pointbreezeonwebsterlake.com Quinn’s Irish Pub 715 W. Boylston St., Worc.

508-459-2025 quinnsirishpub.com Feb. 1: Whitney Doucette Feb. 2: Kevin Shields Feb. 6: Terry Brennan Feb. 7: John Brazile Feb. 8: Terry Brennan Feb. 13: Chris Reddy Acoustic Loops from Hell Feb. 14: Sam James Feb. 15: Kevin Shields Feb. 16: Whitney Doucette Feb. 17: Lyssa Coutler Feb. 20: Terry Brennan Feb. 21: John Brazile Feb. 22: FM Live Feb. 23: Graham Brown Feb. 24: Brett Brumby Feb. 27: Lyssa Coutler Feb. 28: Sam James The Raven 258 Pleasant St., Worc.

508-304-8133 Wednesday: Open Mic Feb. 1: Lil Yuh Bday Bash Feb. 15: Dizzy Bandit Feb. 16: Kevin Kvein Feb. 22: MC Motion Feb. 23: Dezi Garcia Band River Styx Brewing 166 Boulder Dr., Fitchburg 978-696-5176 riverstyxbrewing.com Thursday: Thursday Night Trivia Feb. 2: Ryan Hood Feb. 8: Lizzy Marquis Feb. 9: Paul Rodriguez Band Feb. 15: The Hunter’s Bow Feb. 16: Kala Farnham Feb. 22: Sean Daley Feb. 23: 77 Suspects Feb. 24: Comedy Night

Feb. 15: Fred Ellsworth Feb. 16: Max Recoil Feb. 17: Amanda Cote Feb. 22: Chris Reddy Acoustic Loops from Hell Feb. 23: The Moore Brothers Sunset Tiki Bar/The Outlook 79 Powers Road, Westford 978-692-5700 Saturday: Chris Reddy/ Apres Ski The Tavern on Central 3 Central St., Ashburnham 978-827-1272 thetavernoncentral.com Feb. 1: Brian Chaffee Feb. 2: Whitney Douchette Feb. 8: Ken Macy Feb. 9: Dave Harrington Feb. 15: Eavesdrop Feb. 16: Trebek Feb. 22: Jay Matarano Feb. 23: Mike Melendez Vincent’s Bar 49 Suffolk St., Worc.

508-752-9439 Tuesday: Boogie Chillin Tuesdays

Thursday: DJ Cuzn Kev Friday: DJ Tec Threat Feb. 1: PM Backyard Swagger Feb. 1: DJ Soup Feb. 2: Traveling Wanna B’s Feb. 2: DJ XCaliber Feb. 8: Another Time Duo Feb. 9: Tequila Bonfire Feb. 9: DJ Screwloose Feb. 15: C’s Express Duo Feb. 16: The Royal Furs Feb. 16: DJ Ragoza Feb. 22: Alex 2E Feb. 23: Feel Good Drift Whistle Stop Bar & Grill 85 Main St., Oxford 508-987-3087 StopByTheWhistle.com White Eagle Polish Club 112 Green St., Worc.

774-245-1991 Thursday: Musical Bingo Friday: DJ’s Saturday: DJ Cookie Feb. 23: Playback

Whiskey Lounge 316 Main St., Worc.

Wild Willy’s Burgers 317 W. Boylston St., Worc.

508-459-2088 willyburger.com

Whiskey on Water 97 Water St., Worc.

774-578-8829 whiskeyonwater.com Sunday: Video Karaoke w/ DJ Soup Wednesday: Video Karaoke w/ DJ Soup

William’s Restaurant & Tavern 184 Pearson Blvd., Gardner 978-632-7794 williamsrestaurantandtavern.com Feb. 22: Dan Kirouac with guest Glenn Jackson

Rye & Thyme 14 Monument Square, Leominster 978-534-5900 ryeandthyme.com Feb. 1: Royal Furs Feb. 2: De La High Feb. 3: Scott Babineau Feb. 7: Dan Cormier Feb. 8: Carlos Odria Quartet Feb. 9: Sean Daley & The Hooligans Feb. 10: Nico Rivers Feb. 14: Lizzie Marquis Feb. 15: The Petty Project Feb. 16: Joe Grizzley w/ Special Guests Feb. 17: Sean Fullerton Feb. 21: Amanda Cote Feb. 22: Midnight Sharp Feb. 23: Caves on Mars Feb. 24: Zack Silk Feb. 28: Jay Graham South Side Grille & Margarita Factory 242 W. Broadway, Gardner 978-632-1057 southsidemargaritafactory.com Feb. 8: Sean Daley Feb. 9: Danny LeBlanc

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BY JUSTIN PERRY

FLYING RHINO CAFE – WORCESTER

LOFT 266 BAR & LOUNGE – WORCESTER

LAKESIDE BAR & GRILLE – SHREWSBURY PARKWAY RESTAURANT & BAR – WORCESTER

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BLUEPRINT BAR & GRILLE – LEOMINSTER

HUNTER'S GRILLE & TAP – GRAFTON

SLATE BAR & GRILLE – LEOMINSTER

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LI F ESTY LE

FOR VALENTINE’S DAY,

LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF Elliot Mercier I know this might be a bit of a shocker, but I actively make sure not to spend too much time on social media or watching TV. Why is that? When you see the achievements of others or the suffering of innocents and see that you’re doing nothing, it can be demotivating , making you feel like you’re not doing enough in a world that’s usually portrayed as doomed, dying, on fire, etc.

Well, I believe that you’re awesome just the way you are. Think I’m stretching that? Okay, well, I believe you have the potential to be awesome. Should I be encouraging good and idealistic behavior? Probably. Should I expect everyone to be charitable, altruistic and angelic? Of course not. We’re human and not squeaky clean like those overly happy folks are on TV. We’re all going to have our bad days, those times when you feel like lashing out at the world because it’s not treating you well. Even if you’re not curing cancer, giving clothes to the homeless or anything of that sort, you can still contribute to the world by just being a good human being.

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GOING OUT ON LUNCH FOR AN HOUR BEFORE GETTING BACK TO WORK? ASK SOME OF THE PEOPLE YOU WORK WITH IF THEY WANT SOMETHING. Now, these look like some really minor actions that won’t matter at the end of the day, but the smallest acts of kindness can really add up to make someone’s experience on this planet better, even if it's temporary. Me, personally – I love making others smile. I’m neither a saint nor a pariah, but I believe that I am at least contributing to someone else’s happiness when doing these small things.

Days can be long affairs, and if it’s just negativity after negativity with no respite, bitterness can manifest.

If you want to feel good about yourself and feel like you’re contributing to the world in a positive way, follow the golden rule: treat those around you the same way you want to be treated. In a world of doom and gloom, learning to accept what you’re capable of and appreciating that which you can do for others is the key to making a positive influence. I’m not saying to full-out adore yourself when you make a positive impact, because that’s self-indulgent. At that point, you might as well read the legend of Narcissus and accidentally drown admiring your own reflection in a body of water. But at the end of the day, appreciate what you can do for people with small actions and kindness.

Learn to love and appreciate yourself. It is the month of love, after all.

OUT+ABOUT: What is Love and how do we label it?

John Trobaugh February is always a month when we consider who loves us. However, I’d like to step back and consider what love is and how do we label it. Some people rebel against labels, but we humans appear to need labels not just to put others in boxes but also to help us review and rethink how we label ourselves. That is an essential part of what the coming out process is for most people who want to declare who they are, especially when it is different from what people assume or is expected.

Even within the LGBTQIA+ community, there is resistance to adding “new” letters or recognizing people who feel differently than what we assume. Early on there were no letters, then there was LGB. Then there was a movement to add “T”. Those of us in the older category who can recall that movement often resist additional letters. I can recall that discussion and ultimate win to have the “T” added to our community moniker, but I don’t subscribe to the idea that we are done or that the letters even now are fixed.

What does it mean that the person you love puts you in a different category? What does it mean that you were born with more sexual organs than the average male or female would have? What does it mean that you love but don’t necessarily desire to have sex with anyone? I think it relates both to the reason there are letters for our community and how we understand ourselves. We have to think back to the reason we have categories or letters in the first place. We use these letters for the political and personal advancement of our community.

When we fought as a community only for the gay people, that pitted us against not just the straight community, but also against the lesbian and bisexual community. I don’t think that is wise nor is it personally healthy.

As a leader in the LGBTQIA+ community, formally and informally in a teaching role and participating in events, I recognize the personal impact of these labels.

These labels help us define ourselves. Recently, I posted an article about the difference between Bi and Pansexual (which at this point Pan is not even on the most common lists). Bi is defined most commonly as loving both males and females. Pan is most commonly defined as loving all people no matter what their gender identity. I think there is a distinction, but many people think that coming up with a new term shows bias against Bi people. The point is that the “new” label engendered a discussion about where they fit into the spectrum.

Today we have to stick together as a community. We need all the letters. We need to band together especially as our government wants to erase even the LGBT from the census, and our local Worcester School Committee is considering choosing a sex ed curriculum than never discusses the spectrum of sexuality (not to mention healthy relationships, what consent is, etc).

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THE LUXE LIST

GIFTS FOR YOUR TECHIE VALENTINE Merilee Kern

With reports citing that 2019 will be a pivotal year for consumer technology, here’s a look at some noteworthy lifestyle-enhancing solutions that are well-suited for Valentine’s Day gifting.

ROWKIN TRUE WIRELESS EARBUDS True wireless headphones from Rowkin are a perfect gift or get for Valentine’s Day or any occasion. The Ascent Charge+ model features an ergonomic fit primed for security and comfort. Constructed with a premium mylar diaphragm driver as well as an acoustic cavity, these earbuds produce dynamic sound and impactful bass with the benefit of touch controls. The case is Qi-compatible for wireless charging (comes with a Qi wireless charger in the box) while also doubling as a power bank to keep your other devices charged courtesy of USB-C rapid charging. The Ascent Charge+ also features a mobile app for locating your earbuds and personalizing your sound profile. The Ascent Micro model also has many similar features to the Ascent Charge+ but is even more compact for easy portability! Rowkin.com

AQUIO BLUETOOTH SPEAKER WATER BOTTLE USA-designed Aquio water bottles with detachable Bluetooth speaker, powered by iHomeAudio, are manufactured with high-quality stainless steel that is also notably BPA-free. Aquio’s removable speaker is powerful, IP67-rated waterproof, sandproof and features designer weather-resistant premium woven acoustic fabric. Its rechargeable battery provides up to six hours of wireless audio playback time. The 16-ounce bottle, designed to fit

all cup holders, is double wall steel-insulated maintaining temperatures up to 14-hours for hot liquids and a full 24-hours for cold. AquioBottles.com.

IHOME ZENERGY AROMA BLUETOOTH THERAPY SPEAKER Create a calming environment throughout your home with the combination of light, sound and aroma therapy. iHome’s iZABT50 Zenergy Bluetooth Speaker features six different sound therapy tracks designed to calm your mind, lower your breathing and heart rate and prepare your body for sleep. You can also select from seven different 115 Lux, full-color light therapy modes designed to align your circadian rhythm at night and improve your mood throughout the day. It also includes aromatherapy to help create a calming environment with the use of essential oils (initial 5ml lavender supply in the box), with absolutely no water needed. iHomeAudio.com

OWL CAM AUTOMOBILE SECURITY CAMERA Owl Cam is a first-of-its-kind device combining video security with an instant emergency response service to assist in the event of an automotive accident or other security or emergency situation. Owl Cam sits on your vehicle’s dashboard, capturing 24-hour footage with real time updates sent directly to your smartphone.

Doubling as a travel buddy, Owl Cam also makes it easy to download and save high-definition photos and videos of the funny and meaningful moments or breathtaking views throughout your road trips. Features include dualfacing HD cameras, 4G LTE, Wi-Fi, Bluetooth, and GPS, instant video access from anywhere from your smartphone, a 14-day video loop, voice capture and naming, anti-theft floodlights and also the assurance that your videos are 100 percent private: Only you can see, share or delete them. Amazon.com

ELLIE FASHION-TECH ACTIVEWEAR SUBSCRIPTION BOX Ellie.com offers monthly activewear subscriptions allowing members to liven up their fitness routines with one of three featured outfits from top-quality activewear brands like Marika, Bally Total Fitness, Balance Collection and Zobha. Clothing that Ellie.com offers, like Marika Activewear specifically, integrates the latest in fashion technology and the best raw materials to create apparel that looks as good as it feels. Affordably-priced and effortlessly chic, Ellie’s subscription box pricing starts at just $40 per month for a quality and stylish three-piece outfit, including a legging, sports bra and seasonal tops ranging from tanks, tees, hoodies and lightweight jackets.

For an additional $10, select the five-piece option and get two fun fitness accessories to compliment a pre-styled three-piece outfit. Ellie.com

As the executive editor and producer of The Luxe List, Merilee Kern is an internationally regarded consumer product trends expert and hospitality industry voice of authority. She identifies and reports on exemplary travel destinations and experiences, extraordinary events and newsworthy products and services across all categories. Reach her at TheLuxeList.com, on Twitter @LuxeListEditor, on Facebook at TheLuxeList and on Instagram at LuxeListReviews.

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420 IN THE 508: Selling greens to make green

Elliot Mercier WIth the Cannabis Control Commision getting more requests for establishment approval as the days go on, it’s easy to see that the marijuana shop business is going to do nothing but bloom for the next couple of years. You might as well get used to seeing new weed stores popping up on the streets of Worcester and surrounding towns, because opening up in these urban jungles is preferable to Boston or anywhere on the Cape.

The biggest reason might not surprise you if you’ve lived in Massachusetts for a while. With a little digging online, statistics say that the average rent in Boston is about $3,078 per month. Compare that to Worcester, whose average rent lies at about $1,315 per month. If it’s that expensive to merely rent a place to live, which is a fairly small area, you can imagine that the cost of running a business could really add up when trying to operate in Boston. So the obvious solution was to come to Worcester, a place that has plenty of opportunity for entrepreneurs, and is 66 percent less expensive.

For those wondering, there actually is a lot to go through when it comes to getting a license to sell marijuana. Similar to how a liquor store is opened, there’s a lot of paperwork and land management that has to be meticulously analyzed and approved. CORI, IVES-4506, Disclosure & Acknowledgement and Release Authorization are all required to even fulfill the mere act of background checking.

Then, you go into the specialized tiers of land ownership that will charge $200 for 5,000 interior acres. Lastly, there’s all the little stuff like owning three different types of laboratories, a manufacturing area, a micro-business section, a testing area and transport units. That’s $300 for each, and all of that adding up doesn’t even include the annual licensing fees.

Will there be rules for these new establishments since even legal weed can be a touchy subject? Yes, and it’s fairly similar to how package stores are handled when it comes to the distance between them and churches or schools. In 1985, a law was passed that forbade liquor stores from being within 300 feet of a church or a school. When it comes to a marijuana dispensary, however, the numbers are not the same. While there’s no church standard, dispensaries are currently not allowed to operate within 500 feet of a school. Some might say that’s extreme, but it is something that might change soon considering that this is still a relatively new subject.

Regardless, though, if selling marijuana is to be taken as a legitimate business, owners won’t break any rules and expose children to pot. First impressions are key, so the best we can do is wait and see.

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NORTH COUNTY • DINING • ENTERTAINMENT • NIGHTLIFE • SHOPPING • NORTH COUNTY • DINING • SHOPPING

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FOOD + D R IN K

DINING REVIEW

SAMUEL SLATER’S RESTAURANT AN UNEXPECTED EXPERIENCE

SAMUEL SLATER’S RESTAURANT 200 GORE ROAD, WEBSTER (508) 943-1639 INDIANRANCH.COM/RESTAURANT Bernie Whitmore When it was announced: Dinner at Indian Ranch! My reaction was, “Oh really?”

I guess I’m ready for anything, but my experience at that locale has been limited to concert fare: weenies, soft serve and beer by the can – albeit some of Wachusett Brewing’s finer brews. Assured that they have a new restaurant, Samuel Slater’s, I suspended my disbelief for the trip down Route 395. When we finally found the entrance to Indian Ranch it was a bit spooky to drive by those empty campsites, abandoned now, with last summer’s energy just a specter.

But lo!, as we pulled into the VIP parking lot, there it was: a wood-timbered covered bridge all bedazzled in icicle lighting welcoming us to dinner. A walkway to the restaurant provides context; country themes and an explanation of their name: Samuel Slater, a Webster resident, “Father of the American Industrial Revolution.”

That was news to me, Slater’s Mill was founded in Pawtucket, an anchor of the Blackstone Valley.

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tap. The perimeter of the dining room had full-sized glass doors that overlook the lake; in this post-sunset hour all that was visible were the sparkling blue lights of their paddle wheel boat, the Indian Princess.

Just one glace through their verdigris-clad menu told me to forget the weenie experience. A sophisticated wine list, craft beer chalk-board, and dinner menu that in scope and culinary appeal rivals any I’ve seen… anywhere… in a long time… led to heightened expectations.

Nicole, our server, got things going with a dish of sliced yeasty bread served warm with oil, butter and a half-bulb of roasted garlic. I haven’t seen that garlic treatment in years and miss it! I got right down to shmearing creamy garlic on a slice.

Slater’s menu was a challenge: I would have tried everything. In fact, they try to make that a possibility with a Chef ’s Tasting Menu; plus, on several nights a Prix Fixe Menu is posted and spec-your-own slates of artisanal cheeses and charcuterie are standard offerings. On this first visit, though, my friend and I decided to stick to the regular menu. When it came to appetizers there were lots of temptations, in particular their Meat Candy, but we shared an order of Scotch Eggs.

Scotch Eggs would seem a minefield of risk for most kitchens. After all, the eggs must be soft-poached, carefully peeled and then layered in an even cloak of sausage bits and herbs. Slater’s chef accomplished it perfectly. The crusty coating was evenly browned and, once cut in half, the deep-yellow yolks oozed forth into whole-grain mustard and, for contrast, a sticky-sweet jammy compote of green apple. This item proved emblematic of Slater’s menu: interesting, unusual and scrupulously well-prepared.

The crisp flavor and sharp bitter of my craft brew selection, Zero Gravity’s Conehead IPA brewed with citra hops, was an ideal contrast with, and between, each food course.

When it came to entrée selections Nicole could have served me

randomly from Slater’s menu and I would have been happy. Left to my own devices, though, I narrowed it down to Duck Duck Goose (crispy duck breast with gooseberry preserves) and Pan Seared Day Boat Cod. I went with the Cod and never looked back.

This was flaky, crisp-edged white fish the way I love it; fall-away tender and juicy. It was served with a sautéed-hash of fall vegetables and lobster meat – plenty of claw meat! And all that over creamy carrots pureed with fresh ginger. Each flavor was a delight!

In sharp contrast to the delicate flavors of my entrée, across the table was something diametrically opposed. My friend’s entrée, Three Little Pigs, was a study in richness laden with lavish porky flavor: pork and apple smoked sausage, several thick slices of grilled pork loin and a huge cube of maple-braised pork belly. I snagged a sample of each; this was the work of a master and about as subtle as a concert by Charlie Daniels – patron saint of Indian Ranch.

All this led my friend to remark; “Why can’t we have a menu like this in Worcester?”

Our satisfaction was complete. Some of summer’s highlights have been attending concerts in the Indian Ranch pavilion; they’re always a cultural experience of sorts. Now the trip to the shores of Webster Lake will be a special culinary event any time of year.

HOT&NOW:

What’s hot and what’s happening now in the restaurant scene Paul Giorgio

TWO LITTLE RAMENS IN A ROW. The new ramen noodle place on Franklin street finally has a name-- Chashu Ramen is set to open next to Bay State Bank on Worcester’s Franklin Street. As reported earlier, it is a noodle slurp from Styxx, which also serves ramen.

WHERE’S MY NANA. The Japanese sushi restaurant on Shrewsbury Street, 7 Nana, has closed its doors and vacated the building. Further up the street a week ago, the Chinese restaurant, Red Lantern, did the same. Last month, the British Beer Company got the ball rolling on Shrewsbury Street when it suddenly closed.

ARE WE REALLY LOST? Hardwick has a brewery. Lost Towns Brewing opened its doors recently.The brewery , located at 483 Main St., the former Czabaj’s market, was named after the four Massachusetts towns -- Dana, Prescott, Greenwich and Enfield -- that were flooded in the 1930s to make way for the Quabbin Reservoir.

ANOTHER CLOSING. It appears that Pho Bowl on Worcester’s Park Ave. closed its doors the first week of January. A number of restaurants in the city have closed recently, which raises the question: Do we have too many?

IGNATITIUS DEPARTS BUT NANCY STAYS. Ignatius Chang, owner of Worcester’s Nancy Chang Restaurant on 372 Chandler St., recently completed the sale of the restaurant. The new owner, Shawn Tang, who is from Palmer, took over in the beginning of November but all the transfers did not go through until December.

Tang’s family owned a takeout Chinese eatery in Palmer. Nancy Chang has been open since 1989.

SOUTH COUNTY NEWS. The Grill 122 located in Northbridge on Route 122 at the site of the former Brian’s Restaurant will open shortly. Bill Therecka will be the owner of the eatery that will specialize in American comfort food. According to the owner the place will be, “Not too fancy, not too cheap”.

FUEL HER UP. Fuel America opened in Worcester’s Mercantile Center in the middle of January becoming the Waltham-based chain’s third location. The 5,000-square-foot space at the corner of Front and Mercantile streets features a full roastery and café, and will also serve beer and wine.

A TALE OF ONE CITY. City Bar & Grille opened the last week of January in the space that once housed Café Espresso on Worcester’s Chandler St. The restaurant is owned by husband and wife, Al and Cynthia Soto. Soto has tons of experience at some of Boston’s top eateries.

ELVIS HAS LEFT THE BUILDING. It appears that Chris O’Hara, formerly of the Flying Rhino and winner of numerous culinary awards including Worcester’s Best Chef, has left the range at Maddies on Worcester’s Water St. REVOLUTIONARY NEWS. Revolution Pie & Pint and Craft Table & Bar, both at 50 Franklin St. in the Grid District opened the third week of January in Downtown Worcester. Pie & Pint serves pizza and beer, while Craft Table & Bar, has a more eclectic menu.

CENTER OF ATTENTION. Center Tree Bar & Grill is coming soon to Rutland. The newest eatery from the owners of Lakeside Bar & Grill and Herbie’s will be a scratch kitchen located at 249 Main Street. Chef Kris Sellers is looking forward to putting new twists on old and favorite dishes.

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NEW AROUND THE WOO

STILLMAN QUALITY MEATS Rachel Shuster Located at 157 Harding St. in Worcester, Stillman Quality Meats (SQM) is a new butcher shop focused on the best meats you can find.

While the Harding Street location is new, only opening just before Christmas, SQM started years ago. Owner Kate Stillman’s lifelong passion for agriculture and farm life sparked the beginning of SQM in 2005. With her farming roots, she refined her skills, becoming an entrepreneur and businesswoman.

“I have deep agricultural roots,” Stillman said. “My grandparents had a dairy farm in Lunenburg, and my father was in vegetable and fruit farming. I grew up thinking I was going to follow in my family’s footsteps – the greenhouse business was going to be my passion.”

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As time went on, Stillman realized her calling was a bit different. “Life happens – you go to college, meet people, and opportunities come about,” she said. “Flash forward to when I was married, we were looking for an in to join my family business. This was about 15 years ago – before grass-fed, etc. was even a thing. At the time, there was zero local meat being offered, and that seemed like a great opportunity and a natural fit as a sister business to my family’s business.”

The business exploded instantaneously, as Stillman and her then-husband got into that business right at the beginning. “It took off – the demand was strong,” she said.

They opened a farm in Hardwick, where Stillman still raises grass-fed, pasture-raised animals. The farm has an eclectic mix of livestock, including cattle, pigs, chickens and turkeys. Stillman prides herself and her business on being truly “farm to fork,” controlling the process from start to finish.

However, over time, it became more difficult to sustain the model they built with the goals they had for business success – providing customers with the best service and quality meats in a timely manner and opening a brickand-mortar shop.

“The infrastructure wasn’t there to support local meat industry,” she said. “How do you deal with small local people retailing stuff, building relationships, troubleshooting, etc.

After four years of frustrations with timing like getting turkeys on time for Thanksgiving, working out kinks, having to say no to people, etc., I was ready for a next step.”

Stillman and her husband came to the conclusion that they needed to build on-farm processing. “Most farms don’t have full vertical integration,” she said. “We started

looking into food safety, regulations, etc., land use permits, and towns, etc. Fast forward to now, it took four years for us to build on-farm processing. It turned us from a seasonal business to year-round.”

Stillman also tried year-round business in Boston, but being a small business, it wasn’t sustainable. “What our business is about is being there with customers and being behind the counters,” Stillman said. “Boston was two-anda-half hours from the farm in Hardwick, and quality of life was slipping. That’s how we landed in Worcester. We were looking to showcase business, but it had to be close enough to the farm where we would have a connection to the business, but also watching the animals.”

Stillman started looking at venues and was bowled over by the vibe and the activity in Worcester. “The decision followed pretty fast. It has taken us a while to climb through hoops, but we did it. The Worcester location on Harding Street allowed us to lay our vision out.”

Being in Worcester provides Stillman a great way to bring a little bit of Hardwick to the city. “We have a great network of neighbors we can work and partner with,” Stillman said.

At the shop, you can find specialty cuts of meat from the animals on her Hardwick farm, including grass-fed beef, pasture-raised pork, pasture-raised poultry, grass-fed lamb, sausages and grinds and deli meats. The shop also offers artisan and craft products, including specialty cheese, local produce, provisions and fresh, local seafood through a partnership with Boston-based seafood aggregator Red’s Best.

SQM on Harding Street is open 10:30a.m.-6:30p.m. TuesdaySunday. For more information, call 413-277-9600.

PULSEBREW: Breweries are welcoming families Ryan Cashman As someone who enjoys a good beer, I’m incredibly happy with the trend towards “family-friendly” atmospheres that several breweries in the area are taking. A prime example is Stone Cow Brewery, which I profiled back in October. During our visit, my fiance and I noticed, and couldn’t help but smile at, the amount of children buzzing about the property. They were climbing all over the jungle gym, eating ice cream, rolling down grassy hills and pointing at the dairy cows in the distant field.

Of course, Stone Cow Brewery is situated on grand farmland in Barre, but there are more, smaller venues around Worcester County with open invitations to the beer enthusiast and his/her family.

Purgatory Beer Co. in Whitinsville keeps board games and puzzles in a corner next to the bar. River Styx in Fitchburg has indoor cornhole. Greater Good in Worcester has arcade games and coloring books.

This mindset is European in the sense that these companies and their patrons are not excluding youngsters from the experience of going out for a drink. If anything, they are setting an example for what responsible and enjoyable consumption should be. Having family around you almost forces you to think twice before ordering another drink. Usually, though, if your kids have joined up with someone else’s kids, as they so often do, you’ll be able to have a second drink, relax a bit and watch the children play, all the while enjoying the company of a newfound friend.

Back in October, the T&G ran a story on Matthew Zarif and his new brewery, Timberyard, in East Brookfield. Having made his brewing bones as a former owner of Stone Cow, Zarif seems to be cut from the same “family-friendly” cloth.

His goal is to build a Timberyard family by encouraging families to come out and have a good time. Within the year, he is planning on building an outdoor beer garden, complete with children’s playset and homemade, non-alcoholic beverages that the youngsters can enjoy. This preview will be worth a drive out to East Brookfield in the spring.

Seeing breweries becoming meeting places for families gives me hope that we are raising a generation that will be more responsible and less foolish around alcohol.

Of course, there are always those that abuse the vice, but the more we show young people that alcohol can be enjoyed in a responsible fashion, the far likelier they will be more mindful consumers.

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ART S + C U LTU R E

HEALING THROUGH RACISM:

HOW A FSU PROFESSOR USES POETRY IN HER CLASSES TO DISCUSS RACE RELATIONS Poems by Framingham State University student Nicole Harvey and Professor Lina Rincón.

I am Nicole Nicole Harvey

Janice Elizabeth Berte • Photo by Marisa Campbell Over the past few years, Framingham State University has been hit with some unfortunate racial incidents that have not only impacted the college, but also the faculty and students. Many faculty members are upset over these situations, and students in particular, needed to voice their opinions to feel heard.

Enter sociology professor Lina Rincón, an immigrant from Colombia who has been in the United States for 14 years.

“Since I moved to the United States, I personally have been treated differently by society in many ways because of my Spanish accent. I look like a white woman, but sometimes I get stares or looks once I start speaking in my native tongue,” said Rincón.

This kind of treatment has had a profound effect on Rincón, which led her to integrate poetry as part of her Qualitative Methods class. Rincón teaches and makes the students feel that they matter and that their view is important to hear for healing purposes. She incorporates deep conversation with her students, and writing poetry has allowed them to open up in ways that has been cathartic for everyone in class, not just students of color.

“There is a lot of systemic issues in the country, and I want my students to feel free and not criticized when they view their opinions on such personal and volatile issues,” Rincón said. “Writing down your thoughts in a poetic structure has freed many of my students so they don’t feel ostracized. There is a lot of privilege towards certain groups of people in society, and that people of color will sometimes get treated unfairly particularly when it comes to job opportunities or other advantages one might receive in life.”

As part of her class, Rincón paired up her students, and they interviewed each other. These questions allowed students to learn about their views on race relations and reflect on each other´s perspectives.

At the end of these interviews, all of her students had the chance to express their thoughts and feelings about race relations as something that affects them personally and as something that impacts their peers.

In conclusion, all of her students felt more compassionate and wanted to make changes so everyone can have equal chances in life.

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To Whom It May Concern: I am not just a color I am not just “black” Truthfully, my skin isn’t even black But instead a darker shade of nude I am much more than your stereotypical loud black girl, who has daddy issues, and likes fried chicken I am loud, I do like fried chicken, but I DON’T have daddy issues I am not adopted, although people TELL ME that I am I am beautiful, intelligent, and know my worth I know the ways to you racists I know to never give up I know to keep fighting for me and what I want Just because you were not caught, does not mean you won I am still here, still achieving, and still reaching my goals But one thing I do know is that my “black” will always shine One thing I want you to know is that….

Yes, my name begins with “N”, but it will never end with an “R” I am and always will be, Nicole.

Band-Aid Professor Lina Rincón I live with an open wound.

It is here and there that I forget about it.

When I do, I trust with an open heart.

The wound appeared unexpectedly.

They told us to go back to our part of town.

A rush of blood went through my small five-year-old head.

I felt the outraged blush in my face.

The blood pushing through exposed the wound.

I breathe through an open wound.

It is when I am present, that air circulates through my lungs.

When I do, I am home with my loved ones.

The wound seems to get smaller when I sleep at night.

I barely feel it.

The blue man chases me in my dreams though.

The sweats, the terror.

Wound bursts. I wake up.

I carry my open wound.

It is the warmth of my coat that safely covers it.

When it does, I am with you and with the fire.

The wound gets exasperated when you put a band-aid on it.

I close my eyes and try to understand.

Why can’t you recognize? The wound did not appear yesterday.

How come you won’t see me?

I live with an open wound.

SPORTS + FITN E S S

FINDING BALANCE: Arriving

Jennifer Russo I was in a yoga class recently, and often, at the start, the instructor will ask us to “arrive” on our mats. As with any yoga class, it is important to focus and clear your head of all external stimuli to get the most out of your experience. This is your time to step away from the to-do list, the worries, the bad day at work, and the plans that need to be made. It is time for you to energize and get back to center.

Many people define arriving somewhere as showing up there. Even Google Maps will say “arrived” once you reach your destination. I started thinking more about this idea of arriving, and it goes a lot deeper than this. We can show up anywhere. Showing up is simply going to a place that we set out to go and bringing our physical bodies there. We show up at work most days; we show up for appointments; we show up to concerts and events; and we show up to a party.

Think about how often you see people at dinner together in a restaurant ,and instead of speaking to the person they are with, they are checking their phones. I sat next to a woman at a concert the other day, and she spent more time taking selfies than paying any attention to the beautiful music the artist was singing. When my husband and I were at an all-inclusive resort on vacation this past summer, it was interesting to see people rush through their meals to get to the pool and not even take a moment to appreciate the amazing view of the ocean from their tables.

Arriving, though, means bringing your whole self, your ENTIRE consciousness, all of what makes you who you are, and giving all your attention to the moment you are in. It means not only taking part as a proverbial spectator to our life, but instead investing ourselves into our life experiences. We need to make a conscious effort to stop rushing through our days. To not only be somewhere, but BE somewhere, living fully in that moment and being present completely, not just in body.

Imagine how much more life would be if we chose to arrive instead of simply showing up to things. Our experiences would have more meaning, and our relationships would be deeper. When we look back on our lives when we are older, we will have memories that we actually do remember because we fully experienced them when they happened.

The pure and present light in me honors the pure and present light in you.

Namaste.

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STYLE + B E A U TY

ENHANCE YOUR WORKOUTS The right products can make a workout so much better.

So, here are our top picks to enhance your workouts and keep you motivated!

MASS SUITS Add resistance pressure to your workout to generate more force and power with every movement and help reach your fitness goals fast! That’s the genius of the MASS Suit by Juke Performance. This first and only full-body, fully mobile resistance training suit is a workout innovation. The MASS Suit increases your strength, speed, agility, explosion and endurance. With 25-200 pounds of total body resistance, you’ll see results. jukeperformance.com.

BANI BANDS Bani Bands has perfected the headband by combining style and technology into one. Whether you are heading to the gym, running a marathon or playing sports, Bani Bands has a headband for everyone. The high-quality headbands never slip or give you headaches. Bani Bands has a variety of different styles, patterns and sizes to help you find the perfect fit! banibands.com.

KOMUSO Komuso, the accessory that slows your breath and quiets your mind, will shift you to a better place! Controlling the state of our mind through breath, Komuso Design combines ancient wisdom and modern science to not only revolutionize jewelry, but to battle anxiety and improve on meditation. komusodesign.com.

MOSO NATURAL 200 GR BAGS Experience odor-less results within hours of placement! This 100 percent sustainable Moso Bag is chemical free, fragrance free and non-toxic. It’s perfect for lockers and gym bags and you can use it for up to two years. Even better, once it’s completely used, the Moso Bag can be opened and spread throughout the garden to promote plant growth! mosonatural.com.

TASHA HUSSEY BODY Mental wellness is just as important and physical wellness. Relax stress-free with Tasha Hussey’s Stress Relief Bath Soak. Throughout the ages, people have immersed themselves in a warm bath to cleanse, relax and refresh. Enhance the soothing effects of a warm bath with a bouquet of botanical-rich salts blended with pure essential oils. tashahusseybody.com.

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STYLESAVVY: Looks for the big day

April Goddard One of the best parts of Valentine’s Day is having an occasion to dress up, go out and do something fun. Whether you have a special date planned or you are just going out with your friends in a big group, it is important to dress for whatever occasion/activity you have planned, so you feel cool, effortless and most of all, appropriate for your activity of choice. (Maybe rethink that mini skirt and heels you were thinking might be okay for that new indoor go-karting place….)

Stumped as to what to wear? We got you covered. Read on to discover outfit inspiration for wherever St. Valentine’s Day takes you this year.

ACTIVE DATE Here’s the thing: date or no date, you are not going to have a good time if you are not comfortable. Is it fun put a little extra effort in for a special occasion? Sure. But if you literally can’t move in the skinny jeans you are wearing or you’re freezing in your strapless top, how much fun are you really having? For an active date where mobility, comfort and cuteness are key, opt for your favorite pair of fitted black jeans (but not too fitted – you still need to be able to move). Chances are even though it’s cold outside, you might get a little toasty once you start whatever fun activity you have both chosen for the night. The solution? Dress in layers. A T-shirt with a cute cardigan will do the trick. Pair all of this with a nice pair of trainers, and you have the perfect practical date-night outfit.

CLASSIC DINNER DATE I think that people see the phrase “fancy” or “formal” and go a little overboard sometimes. When you think about a nice restaurant, the first thing that you should think is to opt out of your favorite comfy pair of ripped jeans. Then, check the restaurant’s website to see if there is a formal dress code. This will save you from a “whoops, I had no idea” moment. For nice restaurants, a turtleneck can really never fail you. My go-to is black for a conservative, yet elegant, feel. Pair this with nice earrings and solid black denim for a comfortable, yet appropriate, look.

Want to take it up a notch? Add a faux fur vest or trade the denim for a skirt and a cute pair of heels. Look complete.

CASUAL DRINKS WITH FRIENDS This is probably one of the easiest outings to dress for because there is really no dress code you have to keep in mind while picking out an outfit. For evening outings, I suggest sticking with darker colors. Pair dark blue denim with an oversized, tucked-in sweater (also in a darker hue). Wear with black boots or heels, and you have a perfect casual outfit to wear out with friends.

BLIND DATE OR UNKNOWN VENUE Hopefully you have at least some idea of where you are going and who you are meeting. But if you are unfamiliar with either the person or the venue, the easiest thing to do is to dress halfway between formal and casual. Stick with flat shoes or boots, just in case, and continue to stick with darker colors for the evening. You can never go wrong with denim or slacks, and as long as you pick a nice, presentable top that is appropriate for the weather, you should really be good to go.

The important thing about any outfit is that you love it and are comfortable wearing it, as comfortability and confidence tend to be one of the most noticeable things on anyone.

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STEAL THE STYLE:

Cell phone coverup Jamie Burke Years ago, the biggest accessory to every outfit was a purse or handbag. Times have changed, and the major accessory people cannot live with out anymore is technology.

Cell phones are the it item to have for everyone, male and female. Besides having the newest and up-to-trend version of a phone, people tend to dress them up with covers. Covers are so necessary, but can run upwards of $100. Covers can be trendy and stylish, but most times, the trendy and stylish don’t protect your phone. After searching out a trendy yet effective one, I came up short and decided to make my own. This will take you about a half hour, or one episode of The Office.

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Old cell cover

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Nail polish

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An old bowl

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Water

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Toothpick

STEPS: 1. I love the swirl effect of painting that seems to come up in trend every 10 years or so. It looks like an intricate technique, but really, it is super easy and makes a gorgeous work of art in seconds. Take your cell cover off and clean it with Magic Eraser or a scrub sponge. Completely dry it and set aside.

2. Take your old bowl and fill it halfway with water. Not hot, not cold – just room temperature works best. Next, take nail polish colors that you want on your phone and start to add drops to the top of water. Work quickly and use the toothpick to pull colors through each other without mixing.

Make wave effects or spider web techniques.

3. Dip your phone case quickly onto the nail polish design in the water, pull it out and let it dry on a surface that your phone will not stick to, design facing up. Let it dry for a few hours. You can add glitter to the water or apply cliché rhinestones or applique effects with some plastics glue.

You can stretch your quality cover out another year by using this technique and spend your money on things that matter – tacos and margaritas.

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