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PURPOSE DRIVEN WOMEN MAGAZINE Often times we fail at connecting to our purpose because we feel inadequate. What we don’t realize is when we were created God placed our purpose inside of us. We already have it. It’s what we were created to do. The obstacle is taking the time to seek God for revelation and instructions of our individual purpose. Once we truly have an understanding of what we were created to be or why we exist there is no force on this earth that can stand in our way. We don’t have to worry about being good enough or if we have what it takes. When we know without a shadow of a doubt who and what we were created to be the rest is history. Purpose Driven Women Magazine is the woman's guide to connecting to their purpose.
ABOUT US PDW is a multi-cultural bi-monthly digital Christian magazine designed with everyday women in mind. We give women a voice and platform to share their story of how they overcame hardship through faith, in the end giving God the glory. We provide support to women on their purpose journey by providing inspiration through testimonies, tools, resources, and informative articles that help them to discover and become all that God created them to be.
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“SPREADING THE GOOD NEWS OF JESUS CHRIST, ENCOURAGING WOMEN TO CONNECT TO THEIR PURPOSE”
Publisher/Founder Kimi Johnson
Editor in Chief
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.� Jeremiah 29:11 NIV
Ann Marie Bryan
Cover Designer Kimi Johnson
Graphic Designer Kimi Johnson
Branding and Marketing Director Damien Jones
Contributors
Shayna Acree Renee Dantzler Christina Malloy Mary Harris Shishandra Devlin Rhoda Whitfield Michele Badie Danyelle Scroggins Sara Crawford-Jones Kristie Kennedy Ward
Cover Feature
We WOW-U Events and Wedding Planning Sara Crawford-Jones
Cover Photo Photographer Marcus Duval Photography
Share My Story Latracia Tolbert-Brite
OUR MISSION Our mission is to spread the good news of Jesus Christ while encouraging women to connect to their purpose. We give everyday women a voice and platform to share their story of how they overcame hardship through faith, in the end giving God the glory. We provide support to women on their purpose journey by providing inspiration through testimonies, tools, resources, and informative articles that help them to discover and become all that God created them to be.
OUR VISION Imagine a world where every woman knew exactly why they were created and despite their economical background, past failures and mistakes, trials and tribulations they all knew they had everything needed to be who God created them to be. Our vision is to create an international publication that creates unification and connection amongst women from different walks of life, giving them an opportunity to uplift each other by sharing their story.pdwag.com
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November 2019 Contents
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Sara Crawford-Jones “I am a Purpose Driven Woman”
Features 16
WE WOW-U EVENTS AND WEDDING PLANNING
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SHARE MY STORY LATRACIA TOLBERT-BRITE
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SHARE MY STORY THERESA PAYNE
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AUTHOR SPOTLIGHT
WALETTA MASON DUNN
On The Cover
WOW-U 16 WE EVENTS AND WEDDING PLANNING
Our Story 14
WHERE IT ALL BEGAN
Letter From the Editor 15
A CALL TO REMEMBER YOUR PURPOSE
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DIVINE PURPOSE
Trading Secrets 52
Success Tools 32 CAREER
ADVENTURES: PROFESSIONAL DEVELOPMENT IS AN ADVENTURE
MUST HAVE FASHION PIECES TO MAKE A BOLD STATEMENT
Health and Fitness 54 MIND YOUR OWN FITNESS
Spiritual 22 FORGIVENESS IS THE KEY TO EMOTIONAL HEALING
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THE COURAGE TO RISE AGAIN
25 YOU ARE WORTHY
Poetic Purpose 34 THE POWER OF PRAYER
Love & Relationship 36 JUST SIMPLY SAYING: LONG LASTING LOVE
39 TESTED LOVE
REQUIRE FORGIVENESS
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Our Contributors Shayna Acree is a wife and mother of four children. After the tragic loss of her oldest daughter Amyia, Shayna found healing journaling and blogging. In 2017, Shayna created her online website, From Amyia to help others take the steps towards hope and healing as they journey through grief and loss.
Shishandra Devlin is the creative mind behind her brand Fashioned for Hem. Fashioned for Hem is a faith, fashion, and beauty brand and blog. She provides services as a motivational speaker, image consultant, and stylist. She believes in helping others put their best look forward and confidently know that it is not about the clothes but how you ROCK it!!
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Mary Harris is called the poster child for every woman because she’s survived, by the grace of God, many life traumas which have destroyed others. She’s a minister, inspirational speaker, published author, social media personality, and domestic violence and sexual abuse advocate who is working to establish Dvine Beauti Foundation, an organization which acts as a bridge for survivors of domestic violence and sexual abuse stands on Philippians 4:13 (KJV) I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
Danyelle Scroggins is the Senior Pastor of New Vessels Ministries north in Shreveport, Louisiana. She is a dynamic author of both Christian fiction and non-fiction books. She owns Divinely Sown Publishing LLC. Danyelle is the wife of Pastor Reynard C. Scroggins Sr., the mother of three young adults by birth and two by marriage, and a grandmother.
Our Contributors
Kristie Kennedy Ward is the creator of the Queenfidence mindset mastery movement which is designed for 21st century peak performing executives and entrepreneurs. She is an advocates of wholistic womanhood. She values wellness over workaholism, serenity over sacrifice, calmness over chaos and health over hustle. Kristie believes in longevity, vitality and reciprocity. The five pillars of power that energize our internal being are: Emotional stability, Spiritual strength, Mental sharpness, Physical stamina and Financial success.
Christina Malloy is from Fayetteville, North Carolina. She enjoys watching basketball and football games. Writing letters and poetry helps her release the stress in her life. A lot of her poems are love letters to God and prayers to help her make it through.
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Renee Dantzler was born and raised in Harlem, NY. She is a sought-after certified personal trainer and transformation artist. Renee is passionate about helping others overcome challenges physically, emotionally and spiritually because she has overcome major challenges of her own. Her clients affectionately know her as, Coach Renee. She is married to her high school sweetheart for over 32 years. Both serve side by side in marriage ministry. They have three sons and one granddaughter. She is living proof that anyone can stand strong despite life’s challenges and accredits the source of her strength to Jesus Christ, her Lord and Savior.
Our Contributors Michele Badie is a columnist for our new section, Career Adventures, which provides tips to help professionals evolve to their professional best. During Michele’s tenure in Career Services, in for-profit higher education, she realized that confidence versus lack of knowledge and skills often stopped many qualified professionals from fully pursuing their career goals and aspirations. That professional experience was the genesis of Michele’s journey to launching Career Tipper. Her efforts with Career Tipper are rooted in wanting to encourage amazing professionals to evolve to their professional best by keeping their skills recharged. Michele is the host of Career Tipper podcast that features interviews of seasoned professionals in different industries sharing their expertise and professional development resources on iTunes, Spotify, and Stitcher Radio.
Rhoda Whitfield is a columnist for Just Simply Saying where she gives raw and relevant straight forward martial advice to help couples cultivate a successful and loving marriage. She is a co-author of the book A Well-rounded Love Affair “More than Between the Sheets,” with her husband Danny Whitfield. Married for over 39 years Rhoda has experienced many bumps and bruises but has stayed on the course of her marital journey. She wishes to see every couple be successful in their marriage by sharing martial nuggets to enrich couple’s lives.
Sara Crawford-Jones is a featured guest contributing writer for our Trading Secrets section where she shares fashion tips to make bold statements. She is Director of The Women’s Business Center at First State Community Loan Fund, an entrepreneur, fashion designer, and author. She is dedicated to furthering the contribution of women business owners, especially those from under-served and minority communities.
Our Story
Before I decided to launch Purpose Driven Women Magazine, I was a hairstylist working in the beauty industry for over 10 years. I watched women from all walks of life flip through numerous magazines searching for that one style that screamed, “This is you!” While in my salon, I have heard countless jaw-dropping remarks from women, searching for the person they were created to be. These women were physically beautiful yet crying on the inside because they did not understand who they are in Jesus Christ. I saw that no amount of money, friends, or men, could have saved any of them, and me, from reaching this point. The more I listened to these stories, the more I realized how much we all have in common and the strong desire I have to encourage women to be all they were created to be.
Purpose One day while reclining on my sofa at home, I reflected on my purpose. I thought about the things I liked, the things I disliked, and the ways that I could make a difference. As I contemplated, I began to seek the Lord concerning my purpose. However, it wasn’t until I was at the lowest point in my life, when things began to change. I was a single mother; my son was only 6 weeks old and my life was falling apart. While I was thinking how I was going to fix my situation, the Lord was dealing with me about publishing a magazine. A magazine? That was the last thing I thought I was good enough to do. Publish a magazine? This can’t be right. I had absolutely no experience in the magazine industry. I questioned the Lord,
“Me? Do a magazine? But how, Lord? I’m not good enough? Who is going to buy or read a magazine?” Eventually, I started believing my negative thoughts and insecurities.
Driven Those thoughts carried on for years until one day my pastor walked into my office and said, ‘I’m not sure why I’m showing you these but…’ and he placed a stack of magazines that he had published on my desk. That’s right, you heard me! The Holy Spirit knows how to get your attention! I burst in tears, and that was the day I connected with my PURPOSE! Not long after, I found out, I was more than enough. All I needed to do was step out in faith and God would do the rest. Now, I have embarked on a movement to let women all around the world know they too, are more than enough. Women
Within the stories of Purpose Driven Women Magazine, I pray that you are graced with empowering words of encouragement and motivation to aid you as you travel on life's journey. We believe that testimonies change lives, and when God puts His “super” on our “natural,” we can’t be stopped because we are all Purpose Driven Women.
A Word from Our Editor
We are heading towards the end of the calendar year so our last issue for this year is a call to remember your purpose. There is enough time to do things differently, rework your assignment and give more attention to your purpose. Throughout this year, we have turned the spotlight on several individuals and organizations that are exceptional, not just for their creativity and entrepreneurial spirits but also their passion and commitment to purpose. In this issue, we are delighted to feature “We WOW-U Events and Wedding Planning, professionals in event planning and management. This company creates customized event packages to reflect their clients’ vision and styles. Their goal is to help clients provide the “wow” factor. Usually, we supply you with articles that demonstrate the resilience of people, who even in the face of opposition are passionate about living and carrying out their purpose. This issue remains committed to that goal, so enjoy our articles on trade secrets in fashion, success tools, spiritual insights, love and relationships and health and fitness. We are approaching the holiday season. Have a wonderful time this Thanksgiving, with family, relatives and friends. Enjoy the Christmas holidays, and the blessings that will come to you and your household. Dive into the pages of this edition, and as always, we welcome your feedback. Thank you for reading! Ann Marie Bryan EDITOR IN CHIEF
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Ann Marie Bryan is a dedicated, graceful, multi-talented leader with a passion for excellence. She is the CEO & Founder of Victorious By Design, an organization committed to providing top quality professional writing services, comprehensive personal and professional development programs and exceptional performing arts services to meet the unique needs of individuals and organizations. Website: www.annmariebryan.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/authorannmariebryan Instagram: www.instagram.com/authorabryan
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Trevor Maddox and Stephanie Footman, owners of We WOW-U Events and Wedding Planning, discuss what its like to be in business with your best friend, how they got started, and the hard work that takes place behind the scene.
By: Kimi Johnson The name of your business is We WOW-U Events and Wedding Planning. Tell us what does We WOW-U mean to you? It’s just as the name implies. Once a client hires us, we want the impact to be beyond their expectations, over the top, extraordinary, so that the first word that comes out of their mouth, at first glance, is WOW! Which means our work speaks for itself. Whose idea was it to make We WOW-U an official business? It was mutual agreement. Was event planning something you both saw yourself doing?
We both have an eye for beauty, exquisiteness and glamour. However, while we always talked about it, we never acted on it. Trevor is a meeting planner and has always had the desire to expand to the more creative side of events and wedding planning. I have always had a creative mindset. How did you get your start planning weddings and events? We started out doing small events when friends and fami-
ly would come to us for help regarding events planning. The more we helped, the more we thought about doing it as a business—getting paid for what we’re good at and enjoy doing. How is it running a business with your best friend? We started out as friends but now we see ourselves as sisters. We have a very close and special relationship and it has been that way for almost 30 years. Never a harsh word, never “fallen out” over anything. We agree to disagree. We have the same thoughts, sometimes that’s scary. I mean really scary! When it comes to planning and formulating our thoughts and ideas, we think the same things and it’s so hilarious, it’s like we’re twins. Sometimes, we speak the same thing at the same time. And our response is “Get out of my head” in unison. The irony is, we were raised in completely different environments. Trevor is a city girl, born in Philadelphia and raised in New Jersey. I am a Southern girl, born and raised in Florida. We’ve heard before that friendship and business should not mix. That doesn’t apply to us. Having a bond that’s beyond friendship, doesn’t affect our business relationship.
From left to right: Trevor Maddox and Stephanie Footman pose in front of a couple of their special event designs. Location: The Signature Lounge Photographer: Marcus Duval
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As co-owners, what is the most challenging aspect about what you do that people do not see? People do not see the behind the scene work. We spend hours laboring on the initial design, the layout concept and the setup. These are things that take hours of collaboration. There are lots of things that go on that the client is not even aware of. We really focus on the vision of our client(s) and we make it our business to put that special touch on our work and even sometimes we go above and beyond what is expected. Tell us a little about your approach to adding the wow factor for your clients and their guests. We always want to add that extra special touch to not only wow the clients, but their guests as well. Our work must speak for itself because our next client could be one of the guests from an event that we stage. We want our work to make a lasting impression. During the initial consultation with a client what are the first steps you take? First and foremost, we keep in mind that this is our chance to make a good impression on a potential client and have a successful outcome. Therefore, we must have a clear sense of the client’s vision, style and expectations. We discuss the services that we offer as well as their budget. We ask many questions and allow the client to talk about their vision for their special day.
Photographer: Marcus Duva
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By listening to their vision, we start to form a bond with them and also, we get a sense of whether our style matches their expectations. What do you consider to be the perfect venue for an event?
The perfect venue needs to meet the needs of the clients and their guests. We feel there is no perfect venue, nothing is perfect, only God. When the venue is selected, it is our job to add the wow factor and make it perfect for that special day. You have planned many beautiful and breath-taking events. Can you tell us about some of them? Is there any type of event you would like to plan that you haven’t done? We’ve done all types of events— parties, baby showers/ gender reveals, and weddings. You name it, more than likely we’ve done it. The one event that we haven’t done is a destination wedding. We are not limited or afraid to take on any type of event. In addition to event planning, what are some of the other services We WOW-U Events and Wedding Planning provide? We rent throne chairs and design and provide floral centerpieces. We offer full services from start to finish which includes full design, planning and coordination of events. These
services can be broken down to planning or even services just for the day of the event, making sure the event runs smoothly. Recently, we have taken on the task of room design.
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What brings you the most joy about what you do?
What do you feel are the most important steps to planning a wedding or event?
The expressions of delight on the clients’ faces as well as their guests. Earlier in our career, we designed a 90th birthday celebration and one of the guests walked in and said “WOW”. During her speech, she stated that she made the comment, not knowing that the name of our business was WE WOW-U. So, knowing that our clients are pleased, and their expectations are met brings us joy. What are 5 tips to planning an event on a budget?
Outline the event planning expenses – the most obvious ones are catering and venue rental expenses. Also, by stating how much the client will spend on each component, shows the parts of the event that are most important to them. Ask your clients many questions about the event and help to guide their expectation to what is fiscally manageable for them. Start with a basic event budget, have a vision for the event and estimate how much money you have to work with. Avoid overspending on
Ultimately, even if you’re working with a limited budget, at the end of the day, the purpose of your event must shine through.
Vision is the most important. However, the clients’ vision, may not match their budget. What advice would you give to a young woman looking to get started in event planning? Pray about it. Is this something you really want to do and really, really enjoy doing it? Start out on a small scale, shadow a professional so you can see what is involved. Take an event planning class. Event planning is a lot of work and it takes dedication. To book We WOW-U Events and Wedding Planning for your next special occasion contact them at: 850-242-3439 or 850-264-7759 Be the first to know about special deals and discounts by following them on Facebook @wewowu.
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SPIRITUAL Forgiveness is the Key to Emotional Healing By: Mary Harris
On March 20, 2014, only a day before my forty-seventh birthday, my divorce was finalized within ten minutes. I walked in a daze to the Metro subway station as tears silently rolled down my face. As I boarded the subway car, sat, placed my earphone in my ears and pressed play on my phone, Mary J. Blige belted out, Not Gonna Cry. I could do nothing but let the tears flow. I kept looking at the divorce decree trying to take in the finality of the words on the pages. The words Dissolution of Marriage jumped off the page and into my broken heart. My marriage was dissolved for $80, in ten minutes. I had barely survived the two-year separation—emotionally and mentally—but I did! But there was one more area that had to be dealt with—unforgiveness. Unforgiveness is defined by Dictionary.com as “not disposed to forgive or show mercy; unrelenting.” That is exactly what it felt like unrelenting, unyielding, all consuming. I held onto it as if it was an old comfortable sweater. I had become comfortable in my uncomfortable state of unforgiveness. I was holding onto all
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“I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.” -Psalm 139:14
this emotional distress which was starting to manifest in my body as illnesses such as Type 2 Diabetes, obesity, joint and muscle pain, restlessness, and mental fatigue.
Loving on you – I had to fall in love with me again.
I could no longer go on with this feeling living in me. I remember praying, “Lord, help me!” Just a simple prayer and a thought immediately popped in my head, God has forgiven you, who are you to not forgive him. That was the moment I knew, I needed to forgive because my complete emotional and spiritual healing was wrapped up in my forgiveness not just of my ex-husband but of anyone who deposited pain in my life.
Daily Affirmations – I looked up Scriptures and
Here are the keys that fosters forgiveness. Remember that forgiveness is not for the other person, but it is for you.
Prayer – Prayer allows you to be transparent about your
hurt and ask God for forgiveness for your part in your pain. We all have had divine stop signs which we chose to ignore. It is a way to release all the hurt in us to the one who is well able to handle it far better than we can.
Therapy – My favorite saying is, “Jesus and a good therapist will do you good.” A qualified therapist was key to me finding the root of my unforgiveness which was rejection. Once you know the root, you can work to dig it up for good. If you find out a therapist isn’t working for you keep looking for the right therapist that fits you.
One of my dearest friends suggested dating myself, so I did. I took myself out to the movies, dinner and staycations. I loved on me.
other affirmations which spoke to who I wanted to be. For example, Psalm 139:14 (KJV): “I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.” Keep saying the affirmations in the mirror until you believe it.
Be Selfless – Out of my experience came a ministry in my church to provide spiritual and practical support for those who are separated and going through divorce. It is important to give back to help others because it allows you to see how blessed you truly are.
These keys allowed me to truly heal from the inside out. As I let go of unforgiveness, not only did I heal emotionally, spiritually but I healed physically as well.
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Spiritual
The Courage to Rise Again By: Kristie Kennedy Ward
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s one who has battled the twins of mental illness, depression and social anxiety, for over two decades, I don't have the luxury to live casually. One ailment makes you move too slow and the other makes you move too fast. The great and never-ending challenge is finding the happy medium. I don't take medicine; the Word of God heals me. Every day, I decide to rise above the arrows of defeat. Self-love is not an option, it is a must. I am living proof that you can have a boatload of imperfections and still be powerful! Your story is still unfolding. Allow the voice of truth to cut through perplexity just as a diamond rises from the ashes of obscurity. If not a single person recognized your worth, could you clearly articulate and appreciate the priceless value you innately possess? You may be feeling helpless and hopeless. You may be feeling terrified to take the next step. You may be feeling as if your whole world is falling apart. You may be feeling like you can't trust yourself to do the right thing. You may be feeling frustrated from sabotaging your success. You may be feeling tired of going in circles. You may be feeling that it is hard to find a single reason to smile.
Even if you have less than an ounce of strength left, use it to fight through this! Anatole France said, "All changes even the most longed for, have their melancholy, for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves. We must die to one life before we can enter another."
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Here are five ways to remain on the up-and-up even if you're feeling stuck in a rut: SHOW UP daily for divine opportunities. Position yourself for promotion, prosperity and continuous progress. STAND UP and be seen. Your mission and your message matters. The world needs your brilliance. SPEAK UP and state your truth even if your knees knock. Shout it loud until the mountains bow down. SHIFT UP amongst the masses of mediocre mindsets. Stretch beyond the seat of stagnation into the clouds of elevation. STAY UP no matter what. Life is guaranteed to challenge you from every angle. Resist the urge to quit before you reach the finish line.
Whatever negative emotion you are feeling right now, remember there is a blazing future called NEXT waiting with open arms to greet you with a kiss. Listen to HOPE whispering in your ear—yes, you can breathe again! Yes, you can believe again. Yes, you can break free again.
You are Worthy
Spiritual
By: Shishandra Devlin
Merriam-Webster dictionary defines worth as “the value equivalent to that of someone or something under consideration; the level at which someone or something deserves to be valued or rated.” Well, let's talk about self-worth. How do you see yourself? How do you view your worth? These are questions I asked myself. I struggled with my worth and insecurities for most of my life. I didn't feel worthy. I am a believer, a Christian. I read what the Bible says about renewal, and God not keeping a record of wrongs, yet, I was skeptical. I struggled with what other people thought about me. I was people-pleasing, and insecure about my looks. I would tell myself, “Why would someone so powerful, loving, and giving, want me?” I didn't feel worthy. Growing up I would flip through magazines and see these beautiful women. I would think to myself, if only I had her nose, her smile, and her clothes. Life would be so much easier. Nowadays, society and social media paint perfect pictures of the definition of beauty as it relates to women. The focus is on how women should carry themselves and dress, and as always there is more than a hit of perfectionism. As an adult, I felt like that same little girl, the difference is that, now I am scrolling through social media and questioning my self-worth. I recalled what my grandmother would say to me,
“Beauty starts on the inside.” Just that simple, wise advice allows me to stay centered and remember my worth. Worth is more than any materialistic item that over time will lose value and become worthless. I had to learn that the pictures in the magazines and on social media are staged for consumerism and that I am worthy. Whenever I question if I am well put together, compare myself to others, or just didn’t feel my best, I remember the little girl whose grandmother thought she was the most beautiful girl in the world. I would remember my grandmother’s words, “Beauty starts on the inside.” Within the last 7 years, I have learned that I cannot place a value on self-worth. That even in my ugliest moments, my worth is not dictated by people or things. I define my worth, and I am worthy. I discovered that comparison is a thief of time, joy, love and self-worth. I learned to love myself from the inside out, instead of focusing so much on the outside. Was that easy? Nope. It took practice, time, and being consistent. I had to learn that I was fearfully, wonderfully, and marvelously made; that I am a beautiful being and nothing on
this earth defines my self-worth. To get to where I am today, I had to complete the following to truly understand my self-worth: I wrote a letter to my younger self I had some unresolved “younger self” issues that I needed to work out. I grew up being called skinny and being picked on because of my size and my looks. I had to speak to my younger self and forgive any past hurt that I had carried around that was impacting how I viewed myself. I practiced positive affirmations I have post-its of positive affirmations on a dry erase board in my bedroom. I read them to myself every morning and anytime I am questioning my worth. My favorite affirmation is you are beautiful. Don’t allow anyone to tell you differently. I wrote it to myself as a teenager and I still read it today and share it with others. Take time for moments of prayer Prayer has changed me. Setting aside intentional time to ensure I am connected with God has positively impacted my self-worth. My faith and prayers are a constant reminder of how God sees me. For the moments where I question my worth, I pray. I say to you, you have worth, you are worthy and valuable. Don't ever underestimate your worth. Sometimes, we need to be reminded of it. I encourage you to write yourself a letter, declare positive affirmations to yourself daily, and be intentional about prayer. You are worthy.
As God’s chosen people we all
stereotypes, and worse the powerful
have a special assignment, a
detrimental words spoken over our
mission to accomplish, and a call
lives from other people carries, more
to a divine purpose, which is to
weight and authority over who we
bring honor and glory to His name.
were originally created to be.
God designed us for a specific calling, however, due to a lack of
Throughout my life I have fallen short
belief in ourselves or our current
so many times and completely missed
circumstances we place more
the mark. I allowed my fear and
trust in the “world” than in God’s
insecurities to hinder me from
word. The heavy burdens of our
becoming the woman God originally
mistakes, the label of statistics and
created me to be, I also allowed the
words of others hold me back as well. Instead of trusting in the vision that was placed in my heart, I bowed down to other people’s thoughts for my life. However, what I have begun to realize is that usually ideas, visions and missions from God
don’t make sense, and in order to make sure that His mission is accomplished we have to have “crazy faith” to walk through the doors that He opens. God picked a woman who had a baby at fourteen for a divine
purpose. It is not my place to ask why or to say, God I think you chose the wrong person, pick someone else? He wanted me and because we serve a God who does not favor person, He chose you too. What is it that He is asking you to do? Or what is He asking you to become?
The people who saw me at fourteen and pregnant could only see a statistic, they placed me in a box and labeled me everything but who God said that I was,. All they saw was my circumstances but God saw beyond that, because He is the author and the finisher. Being fourteen and pregnant was not easy on myself or my family however, I believed I was called to more than my current circumstances and the labels which were placed upon me. I desired more for my daughter and myself and I knew without a shadow of a doubt that higher was calling. When no one else saw my worth and my gifts God did. The desires He placed in my heart to show and prove that no matter the circumstances and obstacles I faced I could overcome anything.
No matter what you have faced in your life you are an
His grace not anyone’s opinion. He has the highest
overcomer, but it takes faith and perseverance to fulfill
authority; He can influence anyone to see your divine
the purpose God has for your life. We are meant to be
light, and He can send anyone to help you as well as
vessels for the Kingdom of God and to demonstrate to
open the doors to your destiny. Despite who your
others that no matter what the current circumstances
parents are, the lack of love you had, your zip code,
higher is calling, even when we make poor decisions
the trials you have faced or the suffering you have
God can turn the decision around to work it out for our
endured, the simple words are: “But God”. There is
good. Romans 8:28, And we know that all things work
nothing in this world stronger than the power of God,
together for good to them that love God, to them who
and there is no one in this world who has higher
are called according to His purpose. KJV
authority than Him. He loves you, despite what you
may think or feel, and the plans that He has for your If God has placed a desire in your heart and He is
life is greater than you can imagine or dream of.
calling you to come to a higher place; take the call. The
Therefore, take the steps of faith and move toward the
road is long and hard at times, but the results are
purpose He placed within you. decide today, to no
always worth it. People may not be able to see your
longer stay stuck in the cycle of fear, disappointment
purpose but if you have a desire, if you can see yourself
or worry. Allow me to end with this question, is there
executing those goals and dreams then it doesn’t matter
anything too hard for God?
what other people may think. Your steps are ordered by
SUCCESS TOOLS
Career Adventures:
Professional Development Is An Adventure By Michele Badie
In a blink of an eye, it will be 2021. Purpose-driven women often remind themselves that they are on an unprecedented trail to accomplish greatness that they believe they were created to blaze. They have no issues with prioritizing the balance of life and family. What often keeps showing up in their thoughts and dreams is the strategy of the "how" to manifest the next step to crystallizing their legacy that is an authentic representation of themselves. Some purpose-driven women toil with the realities of committing to completing the professional development needed to attract the resources and invites to seats at the tables to add their voice to empowering conversations of change and plans of action. It can be an internal battle that pushes you to commit or fold. If commitment is your choice, consistency is a part of the deal. If you opt to fold, regret will start to mask the reflection of excellence you're working to see daily in the mirror.
Professional development is keeping your skills recharged, competitive, and hire ready. You must present yourself as knowledgeable and relevant in your field. Today I encourage you to choose to master the root of self-respect, which is often said to be self-discipline. Let the mastery of disciplining yourself to respect your legacy lead you to experience a cherished professional development adventure that only you can gift yourself this year. There are four self-clarification points that I encourage you to address before investing your time and resources to evolving to your professional best. First, determine the "why" fueling your professional goals. Is it to afford your lifestyle of choice, establish long-term financial wellness, fund passion projects, or launch new income streams. Whichever applies to you let it be your motivation to stay committed to completing the phase of your professional development journey. Next, understand the mindset hybrid which resonates with your success strategy: growth, abundance over scarcity, or empowerment over control. Third, embrace the
power of journaling about your goals consistently until they crystalize to be your reality. Fourth, generate a list of professional non-automated skills, soft and technical that you perceive you need to up-level and or acquire to increase your credibility within your industry. Research and confirm the resources that will be most helpful to you. Identify resources offered beyond an academic setting, such as through your employer, professional organizations, or online learning platforms. Consider using knowledge-based apps, LinkedIn Learning, or Udemy to asses your knowledge level of the subject matter or gauge the degree of your interest. If your professional development requires you to self-fund it, remind yourself that your legacy, dreams, and goals are worthy of the sacrifice. In the words of Earl Nightengale, "Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway." I want to remind you to be patient with yourself. Allow yourself time to meditate, stretch, and grow through the ongoing progression of your professional development. Mix up the timeline ranges that you set to achieve your goals from weekly, monthly, to quarterly. Spending a dedicated fifteen minutes a day consistently counts as you actively working on your professional development goals. Get excited because your intentional efforts will start opening doors for you. Whether you're a purpose-driven woman that likes to move in silent or with a tribe of fellow goal-getters, confidently believe that the accountability works of your professional development will be blessed.
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Poetic Purpose The Power of Prayer By: Christina “Truchrissy� Malloy (Poetry)
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Hmm the power Of prayer. Oh how I love the power Of prayer. The Power of prayer That gives us Hope and strength. A strength to endure the Tribulations of life. Life seeks to destroy You but prayer Seeks to Strength you. Prayer is peace and Jesus is the peace That passes all Understanding.
LOVE & RELATIO
Just Simply Saying with Rhoda Whitfield
ONSHIP
Long Lasting Love Don’t Wait too Late to Put in the Work My husband and I have been married for 39 years. Throughout those years, we have worked to make our marriage what it is today. When we got married, support for couples was not as available as it is today. My husband and I had to tread through marriage by trial and error. There was no pre-marital counseling, no marriage counseling, no couple’s ministry, and no self-help literature. We only had God and prayer. However, we have come to realize, we had enough support. With that being said, I am puzzled why couples today neglect to utilize the resources available to them. These resources can include opportunities to have a neutral mediator that can be objective and who help to give a better understanding of our spouse’s position. We can also get our own breakthrough as to why we do the things we do. Many issues that couples experience in their marriage simply require them to work on their marriage daily and not take anything for granted. When we were younger, our parents emphasized the importance of getting a good education. It stimulated our mind and provided a pass to a world of possibilities. The same way education can be beneficial to your personal growth and accomplishments, so will marital education enhance and move your marriage forward. In marriage, we must learn how to mold our personalities, give and take, be patient, and communicate with each other. However, the blending doesn’t come naturally. Continued on next page
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God and prayer can serve as a foundation for rebuilding a relationship. Sometimes, the individuals in a marriage are caught up in themselves, failing to realize that a marriage is built on “us” not one person. Often, they point fingers at each other and are quick to identify the flaws they noticed. If they can think about the seasons in their marriage that are good, and the characteristics in their spouse that are pleasing, that would give them an opportunity to work on the brokenness of their marriage. It is difficult to overcome obstacles in a marriage without God and prayer. When we live God’s way, He brings gifts into our lives, much the same way that fruit appears in an orchard. We experience affection for others, and we become exuberant about life and serenity. In addition, we develop a willingness to stick with things, a sense of compassion in the heart, and the ability to carry out our commitments. We must crucify our flesh and live by the Spirit. When we allow the Fruit of the Spirit (Galatian 5:22-23) to live and abide in our lives, we will transform our marriages. Galatian 5:25-26 (MSG) also tells us that, since this is the kind of life we have chosen, the life of the Spirit, let us make sure that we do not just hold it as an idea in our heads or a sentiment in our hearts, but work out its implications in every detail of our lives.
God ordained our marriage. There will always be bumps along the way, but there are two things we need to remember. First, it boils down to our relationship with God. If we are not connected to Him, it will be difficult to connect with someone else. Let God serve as the glue in your relationship. He is the author of many things, but confusion is not one of them. Secondly, we must learn the antics of the enemy, who want to do nothing more than destroy our marriages. Problems don’t necessarily mean that the marriage must end. Conflict means that new growth is occurring in your marriage. Every relationship goes from honeymooning to a power struggle. Your individual growth and maturity are important to the growth of your marriage. Therefore, when problems arise, work through them together and seek help if needed. Take advantage of marital support that is available to you at your church and in your community. Seek help. Timing is everything when it comes to saving your marriage. We do not waste time in seeking help for an
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ailment. Do the same for your marriage. If you allow things to fester and grow, it could cause irreconcilable damage. It’s important that couples see conflicts as an unavoidable part of their loving relationship as they grow together. After all, every relationship has its ups and downs, and conflict comes with the territory. Don’t be the couple that waits too long to reach out for help repairing your marriage because you allowed resentment to build up. Things can be improved if you utilize the resources available to you. It’s sad when love warps into hate. That’s something hard to fix. They don’t have a pill for that, I’m just simply saying. Just Simply Saying is a place where readers can get raw and relevant straight forward martial advice. Married for 39 years, Co-author of the book A Well-rounded Love Affair “More than Between the Sheets,” Rhoda Whitfield has experienced many bumps and bruises, but has stayed on the course of her marital journey. She wishes to see every couple be successful in their marriage by sharing martial nuggets to enrich couple’s lives. Do you have a relationship question you would like Rhoda to address in the next Just Simply Saying column? Email topics to justsimplysaying.@gmail.com
How do I know? I’ve been a pastor for over nine years. And to be honest, I haven’t met with too many couples who have passed all the tests. And trust me when I say, Men aren’t the only ones who cheat or destroy marriages. What’s even more ironic, the more potential the couple has to help bring others to Christ, the stronger and more demonic the tests. So
At this point in the marriage, you’ve both been tested by the devil with outside influences. This is especially true, if you love God and believe in marriage. There are thousands of self-help and how-to books written about marriage, pledging to give you exactly what it takes to stay together. Nevertheless, I have yet to find the book that says, get ready, your marriage, love, heart, and your willingness to forgive will be tested. But the Bible does say in 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 (NLT), “If you have a wife, do not seek to end the marriage. If you do
By Danyelle Scroggins
Maybe, I’ve fooled myself into thinking marriage is supposed to last forever. Which makes me guilty of failing to acknowledge that love will not always be a walk in the park, but that it will be tested and requires forgiving each other.
much so, I have often wondered why pastors don’t tell people in marriage counseling that the devil is most certain to test you with the spirit of lust, greed, and selfishness. You may fail or you may not, but you will be tested, and you will have troubles. By the time year three comes, frustration has set in and many arguments have been anything but blissful. Then by the time you make it (if you make it) to year ten, you are both going in different directions. The banter—in between coming and going—is now simply, “What do you want to eat, or can you pick up the children from practice?”
A Poem By: Andrea Dobynes
I’m a fanatic about romance, and the awesome feelings you get when you first meet a potential mate. I especially love the long conversations where the banter goes back and forth, and you smile in between phrases. Then, if you’re blessed, the banter goes deeper, eventually turning into a proposal, and ultimately your magical dream wedding. Not even the stress or camaraderie of the affair can detour you from what will be taking place. However, I have often wondered why a lot of marriages don’t last.
TESTED LOVE REQUIRES FORGIVENESS
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not have a wife, do not seek to get married. But if you do get married, it is not a sin. And if a young woman gets married, it is not a sin. However, those who get married at this time will have troubles, and I am rying to spare you those problems.” Poor Paul. He tried to tell all the enthusiastic people who were ready to jump the broom, that marriage is hard. And the only thing that will keep you together is the mindset that divorce is not an option. Wow! I know you’re thinking, surely, there must be another way. You may even be saying, this lady is stone crazy and out of her mind. I get it. No one has ever been this upfront with you. They simply told you that you are to love and don’t let your right hand know what your left hand is doing. Some even told you that as long as you don’t get caught, you’ll never have to defend your actions.
All wrong. Even if you get away with the most despicable act of betrayal, you will one day have to explain yourself. There is no escaping, you have to give an account, unless you’ve been forgiven. Aren’t you glad you have such a forgiven God? Now, what about your spouse? I never knew how much I truly loved my husband, until I was faced with an act to forgive. I realized in the midst of going through our hardship, that tested love required a forgiving heart. Then, I asked God, could I really forgive and learn to love better than I did before the test? Because if I was being truthful, my reality of love had changed. It had become more like an obligation than appreciation. It was dull and dry. Sometimes, we both felt destitute and alone, questioning if this was really what marriage was all about. I had another question for God– if men find so much favor with You when they receive wives, why don’t
they act like it? And God’s question back to me was, if I believed my husband had favor when he found me, why don’t I forgive him like he has favor? So, God took me into the classroom of love. He shared that He didn’t understand why man—that He made from Himself— didn’t understand that one had to be anointed for marriage. That’s exactly why He made some Eunuchs, and why he allowed Paul to encourage those not married, to stay that way. God told me that some people are not created with the anointing it takes to be married. Further, He said that He has anointed those who are married to withstand the test and the tricks of the enemy. And, when the anointed unifies and build a three stranded cord that includes Him, not a devil in hell can separate what He has joined. You must remember, you were not just created when your parents got together. You were already in God’s plan and anointed to be, do, and connect with whom He had already chosen before the foundations of the earth. God has anointed you for a love that will be tested, and it will require acts of forgiveness. To whom much has been given, much has been required. The more anointing
the marital connection has, the more the devil will try to destroy it. You can forfeit your anointed connection because you failed to forgive. Women of God, don’t think that your service to God and to your marriage began when you said, “I do.” It was formed in heaven, formatted for earth, and fortified through the anointing. So, when you are determining if you should stay or leave your marriage, make sure that the hardness of your heart isn’t the contributing factor for your decision. By all means, show those who will make the plunge after you…that a tested love requires forgiveness. Why? Because without forgiving each other, the anointed couple will never achieve what the anointing on their lives was appointed to do.
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Sara Crawford
I am a Purpose DrivenWoman Sara Crawford-Jones is Director of The Women’s Business Center at First State Community Loan Fund, an entrepreneur, fashion designer, and author. She is dedicated to furthering the contribution of women business owners, especially those from under-served and minority communities. With a BFA in Fashion Design and Marketing from the International Academy of Design and Technology, and 15 years in the fashion industry, Sara lives life with a flair and energy that inspires those around her. Since taking the role of Director in 2017, Sara has expanded the reach, programming and services offered at the Women’s Business Center. Under her leadership, the WBC has been
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recognized as one of the nation’s premiere centers, and is one of the top WBCs nationally for the highest number of business owners completing business plans through their Passport to Business Success class. Sara is involved in community and nonprofit organizations like The Division for the Visually Impaired and The National Diabetes Association. She is on the board of the Association of Women’s Business Centers and a member of the exclusive, invite-only networking group, For(bes) The Culture. She believes fashion can be used as a platform to drive awareness to social issues and is committed to setting a higher bar for small businesses in Delaware by creating programming to educate and inspire entrepreneurs. Read her interview on page 42.
SARA CRAWFORD JONES I AM A PURPOSE DRIVEN WOMAN BY: Kimi Johnson
How would you define your purpose? My purpose is simple; it’s the thing that makes me happy, and exactly what God put me here to do. When you live daily in your purpose, there are no words to explain that feeling and how it motivates and elevates your life. What does being a purpose driven woman mean to you? I advocate and assist women daily so being a purpose driven woman is not only an honor, but a responsibility. Walking in my purpose means I am assisting the next entrepreneur to create a business plan, obtain a loan, or figure out their purpose.
Tell us a little about your business. What services do you provide? What makes your business different from the rest? I wear many hats. I am the Director of The Women’s Business Center at True Access Capital, a technical assistance program for aspiring and small business owners, funded by the Small Business Administration. I help to educate and equip women and some men with the tools they need to start and grow their
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businesses. Last year I held 85 educational trainings in all aspects of business and trained 925 individuals. I feel that any time a new business launches, a client experiences a success, or closes on a loan, I have fulfilled my purpose. In addition, I am an Entrepreneur, serving as the Creative Director for Anara Original. I have over 15 years of experience in the fashion industry— designing, merchandising, styling, retail, and the list goes on. Anara Original is a fashion brand that specializes in Custom Tutus for children and women. We also offer graphic t-shirts, fashion books and styling services. I used my fashion platform to give back to organizations in my community. All that I have learned through the years, I now pour back into my clients at The Women’s Business Center. Describe the moment when you realized you were connected to your purpose.
I curated an event called “Her Story, Our History” in celebration of Women’s History Month, where
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we honor successful business owners and community changemakers. The first year, it was standing room only. As the night ended, the success of the event inspired me. I am a huge lover of all things fashion! What I didn’t know was that one day I would love working in my community as a changemaker and advocate. I didn’t know I had a deep desire to impact and uplift others as they grow into their purpose. I didn’t know that as much as I love fashion, I would love business just as much. I woke up one day and realized that my legacy had everything to do with this deep hidden love. I am the niece of Roland “Skip” Butler, the first African American Printer in Wilmington, DE. I am the granddaughter of Timothy Webb Butler, a Local entrepreneur who owned a restaurant, and convenient store. I am the daughter of William C. Crawford, owner of Crawford Window Cleaning Company and Carmella Butler Crawford, owner of Parties by Bootsie Catering Services. I have spent my life surrounded by everything I didn’t see myself being a part of. My culture, upbringing, legacy, and deep desire to want to be a servant-leader has inspired me to serve the business community I work with every day. How has your life changed since you committed to being purpose driven? Honestly, I believe since the day I decided to listen, believe, and trust my purpose, every door and
opportunity I have wanted and prayed for has opened. That doesn’t mean every day is perfect, but what it does mean is that I trust the process and choose to keep walking in my purpose. What do you enjoy most about what you do? I love hearing success stories and I love seeing a huge smile on my client’s face when I have been able to assist them. It makes me feel like I can take over the world because when my clients win, I win too! When they feel defeated and I am able to show them they are not, it inspires me to keep moving forward and to continue turning dreams into reality. What encouraging words would you share with our readers? Do not allow anyone to make you feel insecure. Always believe in yourself, no matter what it looks like, no matter how it feels, always believe. Trust the process. Connect with Sara at:
Website: www.anaraoriginal.com Email: sjones@trueaccesscapital.org IG, Twitter & FB: @AnaraOriginal
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Latracia Tolbert-Brite: The Rich History of the Liberian and American Tolbert Family
I always felt that there was something special
about my last name—Tolbert. While in middle school, Delacia, my twin sister and I were surprised to hear that our last name would be changing from Williams to Tolbert. It was in the summer of 1993, that we began attending family reunions on our dad side. In the summer of 1996, the Tolbert’s 55th Family Reunion was held in Tampa, Florida. It was the summer of my 10th grade year and it was a year to remember. It was hosted by my cousin Arthur L. Tolbert Sr, the National President of the Tolbert Family Reunion. He started the Tolbert Family Reunion in 1941, at the age of nineteen. When we arrived, we found out we had family there from Liberia. My dad told us that he and my aunts were trying to trace our family lineage. What they did not know was our cousin Richard V. Tolbert Sr, nephew of President Tolbert, was searching also.
For more than 120 years, members of the Tolbert Family traveled back and forth from South Carolina to Liberia seeking freedom and prosperity. Richard had done extensive research and traced our family roots and history. He met other Tolberts that descended from slave owners. Richard also found out that some of the American Tolberts were connected to his family that left for Liberia. Those that stayed in America, started my family tree. We found out about our rich culture in Liberia and that our family inherited wealth and distinction. My cousin, the late William Richard Tolbert Jr, was president of Liberia. Cousin Richard V. Tolbert Sr. represented Liberia along with President Tolbert’s brother, Daniel. We were making history for the first-time reconnecting with our Liberian family, who came to Liberia from Charleston in 1878. I really didn’t understand the magnitude of it all.
Years later, in 2012, I reconnected with my cousin Richard V. Tolbert, Sr. from Liberia. He too was thinking about us after all those years. In 2013, Delacia and I were blessed with the
opportunity to be on three television shows. Following that, I connected with Faustina Bonner, the great niece of my cousin the late William Richard Tolbert Jr., president of Liberia. After that encounter, God opened a door for me to connect with many other family members from Liberia. In 2015, it was decided that my brother, Derrick, would host the Tolbert’s 75th Family Reunion in Washington D.C. I thought this would be a great opportunity to reunite the Tolberts of Liberia and America after 20 years of making history in 1996. Months before the 75th Reunion, the patriarch of our American Tolbert Family Arthur L. Tolbert Sr., passed. He lived to see ninety-three blessed years and was our national president for 74 years. On June 6th after much prayer and phone calls, I received a letter from The White House. It was a letter from President Obama welcoming us to Washington D.C. as we celebrate our 75th Family Reunion. Finally, we were putting all the pieces together. More of our Liberian Family started coming to the reunions. Delacia, the owner of D. Lady Photography Setapart Unique Images, was blessed to meet cousin Richelieu Dennis at the Essence Festival and briefly introduced herself and our family connection. Also, I was blessed to meet cousin Christine Tolbert Norman, daughter of President Tolbert. We were in a position to receive all that God had in store for us. We are a peculiar people and a royal priesthood. Family is everything to me. When you make up in your mind to do something, make sure God is with you every step of the way. God saw every step and allowed His blessings to follow us. This is only the beginning. We are just reaching the surface. The Tolbert’s family story will be told in more ways than one. Our spirit of success is like none other. We have faced many obstacles along the way, but we are still victorious today. God is bringing our family together. My cousin Faustina told me that I was the bridge that reconnected us after all these years. I say God was the bridge and I was just being obedient. Our story has been written by a rich lineage that is constant. We will continue the legacy of the Tolbert family.
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The Liberian And American Tolbert's Historic Reunion Meeting For The Very First Time In Tampa Florida At The American Tolbert's 55th Family Reunion In 1996
I was raised in the church and heard of God but didn't quite understand Him. He seemed mad at everything and I didn't know how He could actually "love" me. I believed everything I did was going to put me in hell. My perspective of God was so warped. Growing up I didn't have a choice in the matter, so I went to church 7 days a week for most of my life. Then "hell" hit my home and all kinds of things were happening. I longed to break away from all the religious living and get to living my life the way I wanted to. So, when I met a friend of a friend who was 14 years my senior I went for it. He told me that I was beautiful and even said he loved me. He introduced me to drugs and alcohol but despite the circumstances I believed he loved me. One day, he was ready to take things to another level. Since he said he loved me I thought I could be open about how I felt. I thought he would respect my wishes. I was wrong! Things quickly got out of hand and I found myself "going to a happy place" in my mind while he took from me what was supposed to be deemed as precious, my virginity was no longer mine but his. After it was all said and done, I got up
and went home. Because there were so many things going on at home, I never told my parents. They wouldn't believe me anyway. The only way to end my torment was to kill myself but how? I figured something quick would be best, so I headed over to the Subway one day. No note left behind. I just didn't want to hurt anymore. God wasn't there, or so I thought. I did find it odd that no one was there in the station that day. I remember thing, “Well, better for me because no one will see what I am about to do.” I figured that if I rocked back and forth hard enough that I would "accidentally" fall in front of the oncoming train and "IF" God was really there, He would see it was an
accident and let me go to heaven. If not, I was on my way to hell. Either way I would win because but anything was better than what I was going through. I began to feel the wind blowing, so I knew the train was coming. I looked around and still saw no one there. I then looked and saw the tunnel light up so I knew the train was closer. I stepped up to the yellow line. Which was the very edge of the platform and began to rock. I was scared but didn't cry. Soon this pain was going to be over. I closed my eyes and the sound of the train came closer and I was growing anxious. Suddenly I heard my name loudly, "THERESA!". I jumped back thinking someone was watching what I am about to do. It was just in time for the train to miss me. I was stunned. I looked around but still saw no one. I waited for the train to leave and looked at the other side and saw no one. I was totally confused. Who called my name as if they knew me? Who called my name as if they were watching what I was about to do? Suddenly I realized that it was the LORD who called my name. This was the very beginning of many changes that I would have to make but this time, I understood that I was not alone. For the very first time, I understood that I mattered to the LORD. I didn't know why He called my name that day, but I am living proof today that the LORD will CALL YOUR NAME in the midst of pain, hurt, disappointment, frustration and the many areas of life in which we need be comforted. And He will show us just who He is. 1 Thessalonians 5:24 (NKJV) “He who calls you is faithful, who also will do it.” God has called you and He is faithful. And what He said He will do with your life for His Glory, He will surely do and in His perfect timing. My beloved Sister in Christ, your name is about to be called LOUDLY and ultimately for His Glory!
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Must Have Fashion Pieces to Make a Bold Statement By: Sara Crawford-Jones ashion gives me all the feels! New and stunning silhouettes, patterns, and textures are introduced during Fashion week and in the department store windows. Often times, we try to figure out how we can add these looks or pieces to our wardrobes. This season is all about feminine touches, animal prints, neon accents, and bold accessories. So, let me share a few tips on how you can add this seasons favs to your closet! Animal Print & Camouflage, I always treat as neutrals. Yes, they are prints, but they can be paired with anything—jeans, little black dress, graphics and even stripes. Not only can you use them as neutral and pair with neon colors, but you can use either as a focal point of your outfit as well. Pair your expensive items with less expensive items to create a stunning look. This may include a trip to the thrift store for that 1980’s fitted blazer you are planning to rock with your designer tuxedo style sequin pants. Other than just creating a great look, mixing highs and lows also saves you a few dollars, and who doesn’t like to look stunning and save a few bucks? Feminine and structured lingerie like corsets look amazing under a jacket or power suit. It also creates a great day to night look. Wearing lingerie as everyday garments offers visual appeal, texture, and when paired with staple pieces, it’s stunning and gives a polished look. Try an untraditional jacket with a few neon accents to complete your look. This will add a pop a color and an element of surprise!
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Mind Your Fitness By: Renee Dantzler Social media, magazines and television, are well-known for suggesting what a “fit” person looks like. These images can skew our definition of fitness. Numerous workout modalities vie for our attention and frequently claim to be the best. Likewise, there are many varieties of diet programs. The options available to us saturate our minds and can leave us confused. My simple advice—decide for yourself how you want to look and feel. Forget worrying about anybody else’s notion of fitness. Mind your own fitness journey. We can shape our bodies much like we shape our minds. I have a saying I share with my clients—“where the mind goes the body will follow.” I believe that if we think we can, we can! The Bible declares, “For as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” Proverbs 23:7 (KJV). That sage advice gives us perfect reason to start our fitness journey with our minds. Since you are with yourself 24/7, think about what works best for you – after all, no matter where you go, there you are. Forget about what you see on social media platforms and decide what you want “fit” to look like on you.
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Once you decide to take this journey, it is time to devise a real plan. The common phrase - those who fail to plan, plan to fail, is just as relevant in fitness. A plan of action is always better than flying by the seat of your pants. It is necessary to have a strategy and very specific plans to achieve success. Write your intended fitness goals using a simple goal setting technique. Mind Your Why
My next question for you is, why are you trying to achieve certain fitness goals? Make sure your reason “why” is strong enough to sustain your drive and determination. Often our answers to the “why” question are not strong enough to sustain us through the journey. Remember it is your “why” that motivates you! It is surprising how quickly we lose sight of our "why". As a result, the fire, drive, and motivation we felt beginning our fitness program quickly starts to dissipate. For this reason, you must double down on your deep and meaningful “why” and write it down. Place it somewhere that you will see it every day the refrigerator, bathroom mirror, work desk, mobile device, etc. Refocus on your “why” every day to continue your strongest fitness journey ever. Mind Your Planning Planning is key to success. For example: meal prepping. Meal preparation does not have to be hard—in fact, it should not be hard. Why not make it as easy as a piece of cake? Pardon the pun.
Decide for yourself how you want to look and feel.
I cannot stress enough how important preparing your meals is to a successful fitness journey. It can honestly make the difference in mediocre results versus a jaw-dropping transformation. There is no need to overcomplicate your meal preparation. The more complicated it is, the harder it can be to adhere to the plan. I have seen too many people make the same mistake—they commit to too much and go from essentially no meal preparation to having to do it all overnight. That approach usually turns into a recipe for disaster. Start simple by preparing the meal that is hardest for you to eat—usually breakfast or lunch, for most people. Simple things like overnight oats, boiled eggs, berries and a handful of nuts can be very simple to prepare, and you can easily grab it and go. Once meal preparation starts to become a habit, you can then gradually add more to your meal preparation plan. Try not to overcomplicate the process. Your success relies on how simple you make your plan so you can stick to it. Planning the days of the week, time of day, and exercise routines when you are going to work out is equally as important. Have a backup plan in case you end up staying late at work, or if something prevents you from getting to that Zumba class—or to the gym at all. Pick out and pack your gym gear the night before. Plan your workout routine so once you arrive at the gym, studio, or wherever it is you are working out, you know exactly what you are doing in the allotted time.
Keep your focus on you, stay true to your reasons, stick to your plan, execute your plan, and mind your own fitness.
Author Spotlight
Getting Personal with Waletta Mason Dunn By Ann Marie Bryan message of love and peace. I want to move people toward a reconciled relationship with God. Further Waletta stated, “My life is a living testimony. My stories are based on events in my life. I want readers to know that our Heavenly Father is a loving father and He cares about us and everything that happens to us. He loves us so much that He gave His only begotten son for us. I want readers to understand that whatever temptation they are faced with, it is not a new temptation and that God has already provided a way out.” Besides writing, what else do you like to do? In addition to writing, I enjoy reading, solving crossword puzzles and spending time with my family.
What inspired you to become an author? I am inspired to write by real-life events. I write about the practical application of God’s Word in my life. What was your first reaction when your debut novel was published?
I cried when I saw my published debut novel. The desire to write a novel had been planted in my heart when I was a child. It was amazing to see my dream come to fruition. Where do you see yourself in the next 5 years? We are delighted to feature author Waletta Mason Dunn. Waletta wears many hats —wife, mother, publisher and speaker—so we are excited to feature her. “I am motivated by the ministry of reconciliation,” Waletta said, when asked about her motivation to write. “We are called into His service: “[God] reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation. We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making His appeal through us.” (2 Cor 5:18, 20). God has commissioned each of us to share with others His
I see myself as a full-time author, inspirational speaker and writing coach in the next 5 years. What advice can you give to anyone who wants to become an author? I would advise anyone who wants to become an author to do three things. First, never give up. Second, learn about the craft of writing. And third, never give up! Do you have any new projects that you are currently working on? I am working on my 5th It will be released Fall 2020.
Waletta’s Books Waletta has written the Ferguson Family Series, which include book 1 - More Than Sisters, book 2 - Faithful Father and book 3 - A Family Dilemma. “Positions of Compromise” is her latest release. This compelling story was set in Bossier City, Louisiana. Several themes ran throughout the story—love, harassment, forgiveness, restoration and new beginnings. In the words of one Amazon reviewer— “I love it when a story touches me in a way I never imagined.”
Back Cover Description Fifty-two-year-old Loretta Jenkins refuses to let age slow her down. She throws herself into her job as Human Resources Manager at Westcott Steel Building. Dubbed as “at-work-mom,” Loretta is drawn into two reluctant friendships: one with her assistant, Dani Ferguson; and another with Sasha McFadden, the Vice President’s receptionist. Dani and her husband have been praying for another child for years. Her desperation for another child is wreaking havoc on her marriage and causing her to lose faith in God. Can she find a way to trust God and save her marriage?
Sasha had been living in her vehicle when she landed the job as a receptionist for the Vice President of Westcott Steel Buildings. She soon becomes the object of his sexual advances. Sasha is faced with making a wrenching decision: keep quiet or lose her job. Even as Loretta is forced to take medical leave, she continues to work from home. When company information is leaked to the media, Loretta sets out to find the source of the leak. What she discovers is more than a breach of confidentiality, it is Positions of Compromise.
Connect with Waletta: Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/ cookie.m.dunn Website: http://www.wmasondunn.com E-mail address: walettadunn@gmail.com Amazon: https://amzn.to/2UuIR6w
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