December 23–January 5 Volume 1 ■ Issue 18
Center In Financial Crisis Larabee: We can stay open and active until mid-January
Utah Judge Says Child Should Have Two Moms Local community split in reaction to ruling
Bill Being Drafted to Address Financial Dependence Not about ‘lifestyle’
New Year’s Eve Party Guide Win a Trip to Vegas Your ballot for Metro’s “Best in Utah” is on page 24!
Men’s Choir Invited to Washington D.C. Will represent the state at the National Cathedral’s ‘Utah Day’
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NEW YEAR’S EVE PARTY GUIDE Welcome 2005!
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Metro Mondays. Speed dating first Mondays of the month. $2 drafts.
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Colorado Town Passes Sexual Orientation Clause Breckenridge, Colo.—Like several other Colorado municipalities including Denver, Aspen, Telluride and Boulder, Breckenridge has adopted an anti-discrimination protection for gay and lesbian city workers. The Town Council unanimously approved the measure, earning a resounding round of applause from those present. “The council has been talking about it for several years,” town manager Tim Gagen told the Rocky Mountain News. “Gays and lesbians are not a protected class under state or federal law. We feel proud that we don’t discriminate for any reason. We have openly gay and lesbian city employees. We want to be a welcoming community.” The lone dissenter speaking at the council meeting was Dr. Bill Bolthouse, a retired Denver physician and a member of the Christian Medical and Dental Associations—a group which sees same-sex attraction as incompatible with God’s design for humanity. “I’m not for discrimination. I don’t hate anyone. But homosexuals can’t point to anything here that demonstrates economic discrimination,” he said, adding that the city was enacting the proposed ordinance to attract wealthy gays and lesbians to the resort town. “Their incomes are higher than the average. Their education levels are higher,” Bolthouse said. “If your spending power is greater, how can you say you’re discriminated against economically?” But Michelle Hoffman, advocacy chairwoman of Summit County’s Parents Friends and Families of Gays and Lesbians—the group that spearheaded the ordinance—said that gays and lesbians seeking job protections had approached the group years ago about sponsoring it. “People are so deeply closeted in their jobs that they have a real fear of being fired,” she said. “In the mountain communities, good jobs are hard to come by.”—JV, MA
Kentucky Council Passes “Fairness Ordinance” Louisville, Ky.—The metro council of Kentucky’s largest city voted December 9 to renew a civil-rights ordinance, a part of which prohibits discrimination based on gender identity and sexual orientation. The ordinance, which passed by a 19-6 vote, was the subject of a two hour debate following weeks of hearings in which council members heard testimony from representatives on both sides of the issue. These including Alveda King, niece of civil rights leader Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. King, who said the clause should not be renewed
because orientation and gender identity were not “immutable characteristic[s]” like race and ethnicity. “I feel it is unfortunate to put these two issues [civil rights based on sexual orientation and civil rights based on skin color] together,” King said. “We have had the ordinance as law for several years now, and it has done what any law should do—protect people,” said Rev. Al Herring, pastor of Jeffersontown’s New Covenant Community Church, referring to the law’s creation several years ago. Those speaking in favor of the ordinance also included two representatives from Cincinnati who said their city lost convention business when it passed laws against civil rights protections for gays and transgenders. The law came up for renewal due to the merger of Louisville with the Jefferson County government this year. Under this merger, all laws will expire after 2007 unless renewed by the metro council. A second version of the ordinance which still forbade discrimination based on color, race, religion, national origin, age, disability, family status and sex in hiring, housing and accommodations but excluded sexual orientation and gender identity was also up for debate.—JV
Gay Service Members Sue Military Washington D.C.—Twelve gay men and women expelled from the military under the 11-year-old “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy filed a federal lawsuit earlier this month challenging the ban and seeking reinstatement. In doing so, the case—Cook vs. Rumsfeld—cited the US Supreme Court’s 2003 Lawrence vs. Texas ruling which struck down US sodomy laws on the grounds that this ruling violates gay service members’ rights to privacy, due process, equal protection and free speech. According to C. Dixon Osburn, Servicemembers Legal Defense Network’s executive director, his is the first lawsuit challenging the military’s policy specifically on the grounds of privacy rights. “The Supreme Court ruling asserts our right to exist and be and goes to the heart of ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,’” Osburn told the New York Blade. “Under ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,’ service members can’t even tell their mom or chaplain that they are gay or bisexual without risking discharge.” Osburn said that the U.S. government has 60 days to respond to the lawsuit, and he expects a trial to begin in spring of 2005. The SLDN-led suit now joins another lawsuit against the infamous military policy, that one led by the flagship gay Republican group Log Cabin Republicans. Earlier in December, the LCR filed a suit challenging “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” in California.—JV
GLBT Center In Crisis Stonewall Coffee closing January 1 by Jere Keys jere@slmetro.com
The Center is in financial crisis. That’s the message from the board of directors and Valerie Larabee, the new executive director. Despite many fundraising efforts, the Gay Lesbian Bisexual Transgender Community Center of Utah may not have the funds to continue operating through the next year. In fact, current financial projections have the non-profit organization facing a nearly $70,000 debt by the end of March if they remain open. “In our current condition, we can stay open and active until mid January,” says Larabee, “with what money I know is coming through the door, maybe until the end of February.” At stake isn’t just the resource facility, which provides assistance to people just coming out, provides meeting space for local groups, and operates the Youth Activities Center. Without donations from the community, the financial crisis may be the end of the Utah Pride festival as well. Larabee says they are already making decisions that will cut costs. “I made the decision today to close the coffee shop beginning January 1,” Larabee revealed, “It was costing us over $2000 [in loss] per month.” Larabee is quick to point out, however, that there is much more to The Center than just Stonewall Coffee Company. She says that there are plans to continue using the coffee shop space for entertainment, community discussions and educational programs. “We may just have to make do with another kind of beverage… like water,” she said. The Center needs to immediately raise $160,000 for 6 months operating expenses, which would include an estimated $20,000 in start-up money to make Utah Pride happen in 2005. The Bastion Foundation and Tami & Jane Marquardt have agreed to make a match donation for The Center. Any money raised by December 31 will be doubled dollar for dollar—which Larabee hopes will inspire
people to give generously before the end of the year. “I know there’s been a lot of conversation in the community saying ‘here we go again,’” Larabee admits. “But I want to point out the positives in this. We’ve got new leadership, and we’re laying the foundation for going forward.” The Center’s board of directors met on December 19 to elect new officers for the coming year. Beginning Jan. 1, Evelyn Garrington will serve as Newly-elected Board President Evelyn Garrington the new president, Robert Austin as the vice president, and John Johnson will be treasurer. The position of secretary will likely be filled after the January board meeting when new directors are elected to the board. Larabee stresses that the new leadership of the organization, along with honest communication with the community, are key parts of The Center’s long-term plan to reinvigorate itself. A community meeting is being planned for January to discuss where the 501(c)3 organization is, how it got there, and where it’s going. In the spirit of honest communication with the community, Larabee is frank about the causes of the current financial challenges. She points to the transition of staff this year, the loss of major grant money, and a tendency to rely on too few people for support. “Our fundraising mechanism fell asleep,” she admits. But she’s confident that by appealing to a much larger portion of the community, The Center can pull through this tough time and be stronger for the future. Donations to The Center can be made by visiting their website (www.glccu.org) or by mailing donations to 355 North 300 West, 1st Floor, Salt Lake City, UT 84103.
Gay Ski Week in Park City Borne out of a boycott of Colorado back in 1992, Utah Gay Ski Week has been held each year with varying success. This year, the event will be held Jan. 5–9 in Park City. When Colorado citizens voted for Proposition 2, repealing all city ordinances protecting gay and lesbian people, a boycott was started that killed the Aspen Gay Ski Week for several years. The Colorado Supreme Court ruled in 1994 that the amendment was unconstitutional and skiers returned to Aspen the following year, drawing much of the success of Utah’s own ski week. The week is organized by John Herriot of West Hollywood-based Community Visions, a loose-knit nonprofit group which also organizes a ski week in Vail, bridge tournaments in Palm Springs, and several gay naturist outings. Herriot expects between 100 and 150 participants from all across the United
States. He also welcomes Utah skiers to join in the activities. “We would like to encourage people from Utah who want to ski or have lunch with us to join us,” he said. “You can find out where we’ll be on the website, wear rainbow colors so we can find you and come on up.” Herriott says that Utah remains a good choice for gays and lesbians to ski because it boasts the “greatest snow on earth” and is within a half hour of the Salt Lake International Airport. Also, Park City has many local transportation options and the price to ski, including air fare and hotel rates, is a fraction of resort towns in other states. The event begins January 5 with a lunch, hospitality suite and welcome party. Skiers will be skiing and eating at Park City Resort, The Canyons and Deer Valley.—MA Community Visions’ website is at www.communityvisions.org
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Utah Judge Rules in Favor of Lesbian Partner by Jere Keys
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In a case that has gained national attention, 3rd District Judge Timothy Hanson ruled that a 3-year-old child is better off with two parents. What makes the case interesting is that the parents are two Utah women who were once joined in a Vermont civil union. The birth mother, Cheryl Barlow, says that she is no longer a lesbian and has religious objections to exposing her child to the lifestyle of her former partner, Keri Lynn Jones. The relationship ended in 2003 when Barlow discovered that Jones was seeing another woman. The judge ruled back in October that under a branch of law called “in loco parentis,” an adult who could establish a parental relationship with a child was entitled to continue that relationship despite sexual orientation or biological ties to the child. “The court sees no legal reason to discriminate in applying the doctrine ... to a couple who are in a committed lesbian relationship,” he wrote. “The heterosexual or homosexual relationship between the two adults is irrelevant to the doctrine of in loco parentis.” This month, Hansen found that Jones did have a parental relationship to the child, who was conceived through artificial insemination, and ordered visitation rights. Barlow is hoping the state’s court of appeals will overturn the decision. Court of Appeals Judge Gregory K. Orme has already declined an immediate halt on the visitation agreement, but the court will likely hear the appeal in the coming months. Barlow is represented by an attorney from the Alliance Defense Fund, an Arizona-based legal organization which claims to fight for “freedom of religion, guarding the sanctity of human life, and protecting traditional family values.” One gay activist described the organization as “anti-gay, anti-choice, religious conservative lawyers.” “Where does it end, when you have a legal stranger that is not related by blood, marriage or adoption, and they are claiming rights to your child?” asked her attorney, Frank Mylar, in the Salt Lake Tribune. “Anyone who is a fit parent has a constitutional right to say how their child is to be raised, and what associations they are to have.” “I never said that I did not want my child around lesbians. I have many gay friends, some who are excellent parents, to whose influence I’d be happy to have on my child,” commented Barlow in a statement to the Salt Lake Metro. “I only stated that based on my experience, I did not want my child around this specific woman, who happens to be lesbian. I am confident that any parent, who went through the same experience that I did with this woman, would have exactly the same instinct and do just what I have done: protect the child.” But the case has been controversial with
the gay community as well. Maryann Martindale, who testified on behalf of Barlow, wrote a scathing public email to the Utah Stonewall Historical Society Yahoo! email list. She claimed that news coverage was obviously biased toward Jones’ point of view and took comments out of context. “During the course of the trial, and in private conversations, Miss Barlow has continually asserted that this is NOT a gay/straight issue,” wrote Martindale. “Although she may be reevaluating her own personal lifestyle, the reasons for her resistance to involvement by Miss Jones were not based primarily on Miss Jones’ sexual orientation. Miss Barlow believes that Miss Jones does not have the proper parenting skills to participate in a positive way, in the raising of her child.” Martindale also expressed concerns that Hansen’s broad interpretation of “in loco parentis” could cause the queer community more harm than good, arguing that any family member who had a connection to a child could sue for visitation rights if they disapproved of a child with queer parents. “Several lesbian parents were witnesses on my behalf during this case,” said Barlow. “Because of their involvement, they have been verbally accosted and branded as traitors to the gay community. Even in the face of these attacks, these witnesses stood up and told the truth not because they had anything to gain, but because they place a higher importance on the welfare of the child and understand the perilous position this ruling puts all parents in, including gay & lesbian parents. Barlow’s attorneys and supporters also point out the Utah law specifically does not allow for both gay and lesbian partners to have legal parental relationships with a child. They repeatedly accuse Judge Hansen of making an “end-run” around those laws. “It is unconstitutional for the court to award parental standing to an unrelated third party over the objections of a fit natural parent who has never been deprived of custody. Granting parental standing to a legal stranger in a non-marital relationship pushes Utah law to where it’s never been,” Mylar explained. “I believed that Utah protected me with a multitude of laws that I knew in detail, because I was the one who was challenging them,” said Barlow, “I also believed without a doubt that even if those laws were changed it would still be my choice to let Keri, or anyone else, legally share custody of my child.” Jones’ attorneys, however, maintain that the judge made a sound and legal ruling in keeping with existing Utah law, and many gay activists have celebrated the ruling in hopes that it may signal a chance for gay parents to maintain legal relationships with their children even should they split up.
Salt Lake Men’s Choir to Represent Utah at the Washington National Cathedral by Michael Aaron michael@slmetro.com
The Salt Lake Men’s Choir has accepted an invitation to represent the state of Utah at the National Cathedral in Washington, D.C. by singing in its quadrennial celebration of Utah State Day. As part of its national ministry, the cathedral individually honors each state in the union once every four years. These celebrations offer opportunities for citizens of the designated state to participate more fully in the worship service and in the life of the Cathedral. The Rev. France Davis, of Calvary Baptist Church in Salt Lake City, will conduct the morning’s services. State and Congressional leaders will be encouraged to read the lessons and lead the prayers of the people. The Salt Lake Men’s Choir will sing the prelude and the Cathedral Altar Guild may include the state flower in floral displays. The state flag will fly on the chancel steps, and special seating will be reserved for State Day visitors. Acolytes from individual churches in the state being honored are invited to process with their church banners and as many as five individuals representing Utah to offer gifts to the poor and present the bread and wine for the Eucharist.
The cathedral is the sixth largest in the world and welcomes an estimated 700,000 visitors and worshipers annually. In 1893, Congress granted a charter to the Protestant Episcopal Cathedral Foundation of the District of Columbia to establish a cathedral and institutions of higher learning. A groundbreaking ceremony in 1907 started construction which lasted 83 years. A chapel within the building was opened in 1912 as construction continued. The building’s central tower is over 300 feet tall and is the tallest point in the District. The choir, under the artistic direction of Lane Cheney, will travel to Washington, D.C. for the February 27 service. “It is a great honor for the choir to be chosen to represent the state of Utah at this service,” said Cheney, “It is a once-in-a-lifetime experience for a member of any choir and we are thrilled to be a part of it.” Travel and hotel expenses not raised in planned fundraisers will be borne by the members of the choir. It is estimated that it will cost over $20,000 for the full choir to participate. If you are interested in contributing to the National Cathedral fund for the choir, please contact Bart Bennett at 718-5666. More information can be found online at saltlakemenschoir.org.
Proposed Mutual Dependent Matheson’s Next Mission: More GLBT Office Holders in Utah Bill is Not Gay Marriage by Jere Keys jere@slmetro.com
Draft legislation that would allow unmarried people access to certain legal rights is not a gay-rights bill. That’s the message from Governor-elect Jon huntsman, Jr. about a proposed measure. State Senator Greg Bell (R-Fruit Heights) has requested a measure currently being called the “Mutual Dependence Benefits Contract” bill. The legislation would allow any two people, who are ineligible to marry, the ability to legally establish a relationship that allows some of the rights of marriage such as hospital visitation and end-of-life decisions about organ donation and the choice of burial or cremation. “What’s important to us is that we not base it on sexual preferences or lifestyle choices,” said Huntsman spokesman Jason Chaffetz to the Salt Lake Tribune. “It’s important we base it on economic dependency. It will benefit all Utahns. That’s the important principle to us.” Supporters of the bill point out that this measure would apply to any two Utahns who cannot marry—such as siblings, grandparents and grandchildren, step-relatives no longer bound by marriage and, yes, gay and lesbian couples. Senate Bill 89 would create a classification for “mutual dependants,” through simple forms that won’t need lawyers to draft. The contract would also allow the surviving member of two people who buy a home together automatic survivorship
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if one member should pass away, without having to fight it out in probate court. The “mutual dependent” status would terminate immediately if either member were legally married. Bell said that he is holding supporters of Utah’s Amendment 3 to their promise not to deny “legitimate” rights to unmarried couples. Undeniably, the bill would benefit gay and lesbian couples who are concerned about such issues as hospital visitation, inheritance and end-of-life decision making. Still, the bill is not a substitute for marriage rights. Many rights, responsibilities and privileges of marriage will remain unavailable, even under a “mutual dependent” relationship—such as not being forced to testify against a partner in a court of law, exemption from jury duty to care for a sick partner, joint tax filing, etc. Additionally, gay and lesbian couples would not automatically pick up any of the rights under the bill. It would be important for them to fill out the appropriate paperwork under the observation of a notary and file it with the Department of Health. Additional considerations, such as estate planning, would still require the assistance of a lawyer. While the details of the bill are still being worked out, and will undoubtedly be the subject of fierce debate on both sides in the legislative session beginning Jan. 17, many are hopeful that this bill will be the first step in creating equality for all people in the state.
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After three years helping to grow the state’s largest gay and lesbian political action organization, former Equality Utah Chair Frank Matheson is now helping bring a national group to Utah that will train local gay and lesbian people on how to win elected offices. Victory Fund is the country’s only national organization dedicated to increasing the number of openly gay and lesbian office holders and has raised more than 3.1 million dollars for gay and lesbian candidates since its inception in 1991.
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Matheson began a three-year term as a board member for Victory Fund in November, after his Equality Utah term ended on Election Day. Matheson says he was inspired to join Victory Fund after watching the group help raise money across the nation for a candidate running for office in Boise. Through an email campaign, he says he was impressed at the ways gays and lesbians across the country could contribute to such a campaign, and make a difference. “It’s a red state strategy. Even in red states there are pockets where gays and lesbians can win offices,” says Matheson. He points to Utah’s openly lesbian office holder, Rep. Jackie Biskupski, as an example of how gays and lesbians can win offices in conservative states. “Jackie is our role model, but I think Utah can do a lot more than Jackie.” More than gay friendly officeholders, Matheson says it’s important to have gays and lesbians in office at every level of government to
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We first spoke to Louay in our first issue and we’re glad to hear of the progress he’s made in obtaining political amnesty. To read the first part of his struggle, visit us online at slmetro. com/2004/1/local06.shtml
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“I had to go through a lot to get amnesty and, with the help of the LGBT resource center at University of Utah, it was easy to find an attorney.” He also received donations through the LGBT Resource center at the U of U. Since Ghonaym came to the United States he has been alone. He has grown and learned how to take care of himself and how to deal with a lot of things alone. “I look at things differently now. I am more responsible about school, money, family and immigration.” Through his struggle, though, he says that he has made lifelong friends. He also wants to make it very clear that being gay in Utah is a lot easier then being gay in his country. “I have not for one moment faced trouble or bad comments from straight people or religious people since I have been here.” He encourages gay people in Utah to not be afraid of coming out. “GLBT need support from others, I am sure Utah people are more open minded than Arab Muslim families who have the death penalties for gay men. You have the right to be free and not discriminated, to go anywhere and be yourselves. To live your life the way you want, not the way your family or country wants,” said Ghonaym.
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By Jordan Beckstead Louay Ghonaym, a 24-year-old gay Muslim, is trying to make the best of his Utah life. From dodging arranged marriages and fighting deportation back to Lebanon, to getting awards and making lifelong friends, his life is more than challenging. Recently Ghonaym was awarded the 2004 Courage Award from the Colin Higgins Foundation. The Foundation annually awards the Courage Awards for bravery in the face of discrimination, intolerance and bigotry based on sexual orientation. The award consists of a thousand dollars and a trip to a conference in St. Louis, Mo. “I felt really special when I received it. For a moment I didn’t believe it,” said Ghonaym, but with all this glory comes challenging times up ahead. His mother has sent him a picture of a girl. This means that they are thinking of an arranged marriage sometime in the future. This brings up some problems, being a gay man. He reacted to this by telling them to slow down and put it off until he graduates and then he will think about it. His mother agreed to wait. His country doesn’t accept homosexuality; his parents have made it clear that they don’t accept it either. Ghonaym has put his college on hold temporarily. He says, “This is a very hard major to deal with while I am in this stress.” He will graduate in Chemical Engineering, he just needs time. He is currently awaiting a note that will give him the full right to stay and study until the hearing process.
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ensure GLBT voices are heard. In February, Matheson will help Victory Fund, with Equality Utah, coordinate an intense training session in Utah for gay and lesbian people looking at running for office. Training is a hallmark of the work that Victory Fund does, helping candidates learn what messages work best for their community, how to fundraise, and how to run a campaign. Even with the passing of Amendment 3, Matheson says the Don’t Amend Alliance’s campaign against the amendment proved the local LGBT community is a strong and growing political force—one ripe with potential gay and lesbian candidates. “Scott [McCoy] and his team at Don’t Amend ran an incredibly strategic and disciplined campaign. We moved the ball forward, and it’s never going back.” Matheson’s behind-thescenes political efforts in Utah are an extension of his personal life where he says his openness with his sexuality and other struggles have only enriched his life. Personally, Matheson says his political work wouldn’t be possible today if it weren’t for an important decision he made in 1989—declaring he’s an alcoholic and quitting drinking. “I quit exactly two months before the earthquake in San Francisco, where I was living at the time.” Matheson says a series of events after he quit drinking brought him back to Utah and into a very successful career, which eventually led him into being a leading voice in Utah LGBT politics. “Stopping drinking was a critical decision. It was a gift. It was necessary. When I started looking in that direction, miracles started to happen,” says Matheson. “No one would have allowed me to be on a political board if I hadn’t stopped drinking. I would have had little to offer.” Professionally, as a broker at CB Richard Ellis, Matheson says he is open about being gay as much as possible. “I would feel more discomfort if I couldn't be open. I think corporations in Utah are more advanced than many think.” Matheson says that openness is political work, too. “The most important political work you can do is put a picture of your partner on your desk.” Raised Mormon and having served a mission in Argentina, Matheson says it’s especially important for gays and lesbians to live their lives with “transparency, generosity, dignity and forgiveness,” which he says will help change the political climate. “We're in the business of changing hearts. That happens with love, hope and patience. It will happen. Because we're right.”
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Save Our Center They say that you never really miss something until it’s gone. Let’s not wait around and find out if the saying holds true for the GLBT Community Center of Utah. The fate of The Center shouldn’t seem as controversial as it does. We’re well aware of the criticisms lobbed at the non-profit organization, its leadership and its role in our community over the years. Some of them are valid concerns. But The Center is in trouble and we, the queer community, have to decide whether or not this matters to us. It should be noted, then, that The Center is a cornerstone institution of our community. In addition to providing a safe space for our youth, resources for those just coming out, a valuable reading library, education and outreach programs, meeting space and community news, it also supports and assists several other organizations. One of our biggest concerns should also be the annual Pride festival. Attendance estimates place over 30,000 people at the annual event. Pride is more than just a big party, though. Dozens of local businesses, social groups, political groups and other organizations use the parade and festival to attract new members and reconnect with old ones. As far as building community goes, Pride is the largest, most visible and most anticipated method. Then there’s the leadership component of The Center. While political organizations are great at
speaking to the mainstream media, they often have specific agendas and concerns. The Center serves as a more neutral body to represent the queer community at large. Since the departure of Paula Wolfe, we may have seen less of that, but with the election over, it’s time for The Center leadership to reclaim its position as spokespeople for the community. There are critics of The Center who like to complain about the way things are done over at the organization. While we don’t minimize the concerns of the thoughtful people who are unhappy, it’s time to either step up and get involved or stop complaining. To borrow another old saying, put up or shut up. To be fair, the leadership is acknowledging that they made mistakes in the past year and have become too complacent about the state of their funding. We should encourage such honesty and support them in reconstructing the organization to make sure this doesn’t happen again. It is the season of giving. This is a community of generous people, who understand the value of community service. This is your last chance to make taxdeductible donations before settling up accounts with the state and federal governments. So we urge you to make donations to The Center. If you can’t afford a financial donation (we do understand that those credit cards are getting pretty packed at this time of year), then why not volunteer your time to help raise money in other ways?
From the Editor 2004 Was a Year of Visibility by Jere Keys jere@slmetro.com
2004 has been interesting both personally and politically. If you’d told me in January that I would be involved with launching a glossy magazine in Las Vegas, then six months later leave it behind to move back home to Salt Lake, I’d have said you were smoking some of that wacky weed. But here I am. Funny how life surprises you, huh? I did predict back in January of this year that gay marriage would be a huge topic in 2004. It wasn’t that bold a prediction between Canada and Massachusetts, but I think we were all surprised at just how large an issue it became thanks to San Francisco, New Paltz, and 11 states passing anti-gay marriage laws. I suspect that if you totaled all the editorial coverage throughout the year, gay marriage would rank in the top three news stories of the year—competing with the presidential election and the war in Iraq for the top spot. What was also surprising was how incredibly visible we, as a community, became this year. It wasn’t just gay marriage, but a whole lot of gay rights issues. From Governor James McGreavey’s announcement that he was “a gayAmerican” to the thousand local stories in communities across the country, hardly a day has gone by that hasn’t included both victories and defeats for our community. Think of all the years, even in the beginning of the AIDS crisis, when good American citizens were hesitant to even discuss the subject of homosexuality. For years and years, it’s been easy to ignore us because polite people just didn’t bring up sexual orientation. I can’t imagine that there is a man, woman or child in the country who didn’t discuss the queer community at least once this year. It doesn’t matter if those discussions were hateful and bigoted, because they’re happening. We’re officially out of the closet in a way never before imagined. What a wonderful time to be gay! So everybody pull out your copy of The Revised Gay Agenda and mark off item number 1: Begin Dialogue (removing the taboo so that people will at least talk about us). Now it’s on to item number 2: Obtain Equal Treatment by Society (including but not limited to: government, entertainment industry, places of work, places of worship, places of education, and families). Then we’re done! See, we’re more than halfway there. Anyway, this is the time of year when editors and columnists in newspapers across the country look at the things we’ve just been through and make predictions about what comes next. This is usually done with as much accuracy and specific detail as daily horoscopes. All the same, I dutifully lit the incense and gazed into the crystal ball. Here’s what I predict for 2005… Although gay marriage will remain the foremost issue for the queer community, local and national activists alike will devote more time to other issues such as hate crimes, nondiscrimination laws, adoption and parenting, and military service. Religious conservatives, emboldened by their “mandate” from this year’s election, will push to halt or repeal those gay rights victories we’ve been making—many people will call this a “backlash” for our audacious crime of making them talk about us. I’m really going out on a limb with this one, but I think that California will formally legalize gay marriage by the end of the year (or at least be very close), forcing the issue into the national court system for real—this will also prompt a lot more saber-rattling about the proposed Federal Marriage Amendment. Through all this political turmoil, most of us will simply go on living our lives quietly but openly and honestly, and by doing so we will continue to change the world. So those are my fearless predictions for 2005. Although I can’t promise anything, I’ll do my best to meet you again at the dawn of 2006 and we’ll see how well I did.
Letters Hate Crimes Laws Must Protect Trans People
To clarify, we support an effective hate crime bill that specifically includes both sexual orientation and gender identity.
Dear Editor, Please clarify your muddled opinion piece regarding Hate Crimes legislation (Nov. 25, issue 16). You state “We must insist that hate crime legislation include gender OR gender identity in its language.” Effective legislation must include gender identity. Bill sponsor Dave Litvak has refused for years to include “gender identity” in his hate crimes bill apparently in the belief that including gender identity would make the bill more difficult to pass or including “sexual orientation and gender” offers protection for transgender people. He is wrong on both counts. Our conservative Utah legislators are not going to accept protection for gays only if it excludes transgendered people. We are all painted with the same broad brush. Also including gender and sexual orientation offers no protection for trans people. At best the courts have been inconsistent as to what gender is. In an estate case in Kansas the court ruled that in spite of reassignment surgery and an amended birth certificate, a transwoman was still a man. And in Texas a court ruled that gender is determined by chromosomes. This incidentally means tens of thousands of people in Texas who do not fit the standard XX or XY model have been stripped of their gender without even knowing it. If the goal of hate crimes legislation is to pass a bill that protects the greatest number of people our legislators will accept, then remove sexual orientation and a bill will pass this session. If the goal is to protect anyone who self identifies as GLB or T, then gender identity must be included in any hate crime legislation.
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Susan Miles Ed. Note: Thank you, Susan, and you’re right. At the time of the article, we were under the impression that transgender people would be protected simply by including the term “gender,” but further research has shown us that the most inclusive language would be “gender identity.”
Guest Editorial The Jones-Barlow Case
Melissa Sillitoe Community Development Manager, The Fourth Street Clinic
Adoption is a Child’s Right Dear Editor: Reading the recent coverage of Mayor Anderson’s second Freedom Forum on Adoption Law in your paper made my heart ache. As a child of adoption in a traditional two-parent heterosexual family I spent years suffering physical, psycho-sexual and emotional abuse. By the time I was eight years old I wanted to die to end my suffering. When I escaped these ravages it began on long road to reinventing love in my life. Olivia White, brought up by loving mothers Chris Johnson and Lorie Hutchinson, represents my most fervent childhood dream.
Robert A. Mixon
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gates cases involving religion, said it is helping fight for the “parental rights of a churchgoing woman.” Take a look at this group’s web site if you think how much Ms. Barlow attends church is really on their mind. At www.alliancedefensefund.org, there is all sorts of information on their brand of family values. “God has defined marriage as one man married to one woman.” “Attacks on family values include … Allowing practicing homosexuals to have preference to adopt children and be foster parents, and … Allowing practicing homosexuals to serve openly in the military.” Those of us, who, as LGBT individuals, want equal treatment under the law, have to stand up and be willing to live with the consequences of our decisions. If we form families, we are responsible for one another. If our relationships end in divorce, we must expect to be judged by the same rules of property division and child custody, visitation, and support as those that apply to our heterosexual brothers and sisters. If we choose to bring children into this world, then we must realize that is a lifetime commitment and should be held accountable to that standard.
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well, as I was the law clerk who wrote the appellate brief for the stepfather.) 2. “This case is going to open the door for third parties to sue for custody because they do not like the gay parent’s lifestyle.” Wrong. This decision made specific findings of fact that the child and the non-biological mother enjoyed a parent/child-type relationship. It does not mean that all of a sudden distant relatives or neighborhood morality activists are going to start swooping up our children. 3. “If the LGBT community really wants rights, they should be outraged at the anti-adoption law currently in effect and should successfully fight for legalization of their parental rights.” This is typical “blame the victim” logic of the right wing groups that now seem to be supporting Ms. Barlow’s position in this case. True, we should be outraged and should fight for our rights. However, what do we do in the meantime to deal with the realities faced by many many LGBT parents and their children in this state? We make the same arguments that have been successfully made in many states—that judges need to look at the actual relationships that have been developed in sorting out rights and responsibilities when a couple divorces. 4. Finally, in a 12/8/04 Salt Lake Tribune article about this case, the Alliance Defense Fund, a conservative group which says it liti-
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by Jane A. Marquardt Last week I received a copy of an email, apparently written by Cheryl Barlow or her legal team that talked about the reasons why the LGBT community should be concerned about the precedent being set by Judge Hanson’s ruling in the Jones v. Barlow custody/visitation case (Ed.—see story on page 6). While I have no opinion on the individual f merits of this case (I have never seen either one of these parties with the child), the legal statements are outrageous and need a response. 1. “Judge Hanson’s ruling is an end-run around existing law.” Wrong. As long ago as 1978, the Utah Supreme Court, in Gribble v. Gribble, found that a stepparent who was “in loco parentis” with a child had a right to a hearing to determine his or her rights to visitation. The Court said that the guiding star was the welfare of the child—the rights of parents and all other considerations are subordinate. (I remember this case particularly
Dear Editor, We’ve received inquiries (and a donation!) from your readers thanks to Alexandra Woodruff’s excellent article regarding the struggles faced by homeless teens and the medical support we provide to them. Just to clarify, the Open Door Clinic is a project of the Fourth Street Clinic (located at 404 S. 400 West, in the Pamela J. Atkinson Center for Homeless Services), a nonprofit health care clinic offering free health care services to our homeless neighbors. (We are legally incorporated under the name of Wasatch Homeless Health Care but better known by the name of our operating program.) Fourth Street Clinic is fortunate to have Dr. Joan Sheetz—she and her assistant are great advocates for their teenage patients. If readers would like a tour, I’d be very happy to show them around. My number is 879-7455. Happy holidays,
I fantasized as a child that my loving “uncle Walter” would be my mom. He was the most beautiful man—loving so many young and old in our family. He took in the abused women in my family and taught them skills for work and small business success. Two generations of women are succeeding now because of him... overcoming homelessness, spousal abuse, addictions and mental and emotional illness. Walter was a homosexual. Walter was also the most fantastic cross dresser I have ever known in my life! Glamour, humor and great beauty personified his presence—in his work clothes and his glamour attire. God makes no mistakes in creating gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered men and women! Olivia has inspired me to write and openly declare what would have saved my life from many, many years of psychological suffering and recovery—loving parents. I hope healthy families of adoptees and adoptees of all ages, colors, faiths, genders and sexuality unite to favor the creation of loving families for all children—regardless of the gender of the parents or the children. Generous parental love is what makes someone our spiritual and physical parent, not their sexual preference. I want to make sure you hear and see my presence at future forums on “the adoption issue.” I am out of the closet! My heterosexuality is not harmed by another’s homosexuality. Adoption success is a child’s right—not just the right of adopting parents. Parental challenges must be monitored in all family types to prevent the abuse of children. Let’s stop making homophobia a hideous bigoted barrier to the creation of loving families.
AberRant in sublime silliness, and it is my favorite thing in the world. ■ MY WIFE. Don’t worry; she puts her daughter before me, so it’s OK that I listed her second. We have an understanding: in case of fire, she saves the kid first, then me. Years ago I was sitting across from my psychiatrist, who was once again wondering why I stayed in the relationship that was making me so miserable, and she said, “I look forward to the day when you have someone who cherishes you simply for who you are.” (This is the part where I start bawling.) I have that, and that makes me very happy. Plus, if I were allowed, I would tell you that she’s a hottie in the sack. Now I’m not going to worry about putting things in any kind of order, because that’s too damn tedious, plus I have that f#@*!! deadline. ■ STACY’S CINNAMON SUGAR BAKED PITA CHIPS. It’s about taste and texture. When the store stopped carrying them for a while, I ordered them by the case from the producer. They leave a lot of rock sugar crumbs in the bed, but there’s nothing to be done about that. ■ DOOCE.COM, blog by ex-Mo, ex- L.A., exBYU young mother / wife / dog owner. I almost hate to tell you, because you’ll start reading her and you’ll see how funny she is and with what ease (plus you’ll know when I
Happy Happy Joy Joy by Laurie Mecham laurie@slmetro.com
This is the last issue of the year! That means that I am supposed to do one of two things: (A) summarize the events of the past year or (second,) talk about my resolutions for the upcoming year. Instead, I will make a list of things that make me happy. No doubt some of these things also make you happy, or they will when I tell you about them. ■ MY CHILDREN. I once told a friend that I thought a lovely gift would be sending Emily to live with him for a week, because I find her company so endlessly delightful. Jack is not only damn smart, but he’s wicked clever. Either of the two fruits of my loins makes me laugh and laugh, but together they provide guaranteed good times. After the departure of a rather demanding ex, the—I’m going to use the word—spirit of our home soared. Emily told a friend, “If two of us are up in the morning at the same time, there will be singing. If all three of us are up, there will be dancing as well.” AND IT’S ABSOLUTELY TRUE. We sing and dance
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ASKED AT MODIGGITY’S: “What is your New Year’s resolution?”
plagiarize from her). But hey, it’s Christmas, I’m feeling generous. Before she gets wind of this, however, let me just steal a few words directly from her blog: (Note: “They” = U of U students interviewing her.) “They brought pizza and I asked them what I could fix them to drink and they both said, “Water,” and my stomach sank to the floor. For a moment I thought, have I invited two Mormons over to my house who are going to call the police when they leave because I’m going to drink in the same house as my innocent baby girl? YOU NEVER KNOW. This IS Utah after all, and up until recently a dog and a cat were forbidden by law to live in the same house. Plus there’s that whole law that makes it illegal for a man to stick his penis in another man’s ass. And I’ve been breaking THAT law for years now.” See? What’s not to love? ■ READING. I tend to get busy doing projects and good works and the occasional retail therapy trip. My wife asked me what I wanted to do for myself one day and it took me several minutes to remember, but I love to read a book that either makes me laugh again and again, like David Sedaris’ Me Talk Pretty One Day, or something that I can just devour like popcorn without getting all caught up in having to remember details, for example, titles that I won’t list in case you judge me by the covers of my books. ■ SMELLING THE CHRISTMAS TREE. Notice I did not say decorating, watering, or taking down the Christmas tree… just smelling it.
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Tashina Nanny 21 “Every month I’m going to try three new things I’ve never done before.”
Patty Radio 40 “To cut back my drinking to two nights a week.”
Teralyn Client Services 29 “I’m going to vacuum the bedroom and get married.”
Laurie Mecham is also made happy by fan mail. Fan mail with financial contributions, yeaahhh!
Ruby Ridge Living The Bipolar Express
Jozet Artist 33 “I’m going to have more sex with my wife, Mo.”
I like looking at it too, but not as much as smelling it. ■ NITROUS OXIDE AT THE DENTIST. Nothing like a little N2O vacation. I’m considering the purchase of a tank as a family gift for us this year. That way we can enjoy it without all the Novocain and drilling and the smell of burning teeth. ■ HAVING A CLEAN HOUSE. There is no way you could know this about me, since you will never see me in that situation, but it does make me happy. ■ SPENDING TIME WITH FRIENDS. This will come as a surprise to them, at least those who still remember that we are friends, since my time seems to be eaten alive with the projects and good works mentioned above, but I really do love the laughs and conversation with people who love me, and OK fine, I’ll make ONE New Year’s resolution: I’ll try to make sure I spend more time with you, friends! I’m really sorry! I love you and like you a whole lot! My name is Laurie, do you remember? Hello? ■ EMMETT’S IRISH CREAM IN MY COFFEE. It not only makes me happy, but as a bonus, it makes me fat! And if I drink enough of that combo, it stands to reason that it could also make me drunk and wired, and everybody loves a hyperactive drunk. Happy New Year! Happy New Year! Happy New Year!
It was either Dickens or Cher who once said, “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times,” and muffins, doesn’t that just hit the Christmas nail on the head? Between shopping, finding a parking space, and navigating around strollerwielding suburban she-devils, I don’t know whether I should be singing Christmas Carols or popping Prozac until February. “But Ruby, Christmas is the season for love, charity and giving,” I hear you say. And, well, yes technically it is. But with all of the sappy whining coming out of the local charities this year, I am so jaded I just want to puke. Which, considering how much Almond Roca I have eaten during December, a quick two-finger purge may not be a bad idea. But I digress. Can you believe all of the hard luck stories about Angels being without Christmas gifts, or the Salvation Army whining about being under quota for toys, or the United Way bitching about turning clients away? It seems like every time I turn on the news there is another gooey manipulative story about kids and Christmas, with a built-in plea for financial support. I realized I was completely numb and reaching the limits of my compassion threshold while I was watching Scrooge, the Musical with Kelsey Grammar. I kept thinking maybe Tiny Tim just needs to die and stop being a selfish financial and emotional drain on his fam-
ily. Hmmm, that can’t be good. Pumpkins, in the spirit of journalistic ethics, I should tell you that I am really conflicted about the big mega-charities in our communities—especially the ones who hide behind a compassionate, religious facade. I realize they do some vital work for the poor and needy, but when the Salvation Army won’t hire gay and lesbian staff in the caring professions or when the United Way Board of Trustees looks like the Quorum of the Twelve on a Casual Friday, I have a problem. These groups and others like the Rescue Mission, the Boy Scouts of America food drive, and so on, have no problem accepting money or donations from the gay and lesbian community. But it is purely a one way street. We give. They take and they hate us in the process. On a brighter note, not all charities are evil. I spoke with a buddy of mine in law enforcement last week who is involved with “Shop With a Cop.” This is a fabulous volunteer program where police officers raise funds and actually go shopping with a child to pick out things they really want. Apparently the low income and disadvantaged kids they work with are not asking for toys, but practical things they need like clothes and shoes. And bless their little hearts, these kids who have nothing, are using their money to buy clothes and shoes for their siblings and presents for their families. Now THAT is the spirit of Christmas, dammit! Ruby Ridge is one of the more opinionated members of the Utah Cyber Sluts, a camp drag group of performers who raise funds and support local charities. Her opinions are her own and fluctuate wildly due to a Christmas without Martha Stewart and accidentally watching the Jessica Simpson Christmas Special.
’Tis the Season by William Todd Park liam@slmetro.com
Just hear those sleigh bells jingling ring ting tingling? Not at Target. Target stores have asked the Salvation Army to take their bell ringers and trademark red kettles elsewhere. But Target isn’t the only store to ask the evangelically-centered charity to change their fund-raising venues. A number of retailers including Best Buy, Circuit City, and Home Depot have had to make some tough decisions in banning the bells from their doorsteps, citing long-standing policies against solicitation. If recovering from a string of economically difficult holiday seasons wasn’t difficult enough, the op-ed pages, blogs, and news broadcasts are all filled with people stamping their feet in righteous indignation at these corporate giants. In my mind, their rhetoric has about as much credibility as Jimmy Swaggart preaching against prostitution. It doesn’t stop there, of course.
A Little Off Gay Center By Ben Williams ben@slmetro.com
philanthropic causes every week, some ironically ending up in the Salvation Army coffers. If you’re part of the dissenting minority in one of the red states, you know that there are just too many people who don’t want to be confused with the facts. Besides, it just feels better to make that kettle clink than to write a check anyway. Don’t misunderstand me. I genuinely appreciate and am humbled by the selfless work that so many charitable organizations engage in. I think what causes such deepseated anger to emerge in the case of the Salvation Army is that the very assertion that we say “no” to someone in need calls our character into question, our sense of what is right. The key to this argument is recognizing that the charities we donate to are simply extensions of our own beliefs and personalities and no one wants to be guilty of telling someone in dire need to “go in peace, be warm and filled.” After all, we’ve been taught the holidays are all about giving, right? Lest the abject shame of our moral upbringing bludgeon us, we give to charities like the Salvation Army. It temporarily assuages our conscience and we move on because so few people really want to get their hands dirty and actually help someone in need. Yeah, I’m guilty of that one, too.
Add to the mix the usual stresses of family obligation, overeating, heavy traffic, long lines, and maxing out the plastic, is it any wonder that the holidays create so much angst? Regardless of the particular brand of faith we profess, the winter festivals all began by marking occasions that were filled with happiness and mirth. We, in our world-class American excess, have turned them all into a reason to see a therapist, a personal trainer, and a debt counselor. We can certainly agree that corporate philanthropy, government relief agencies, and faith groups have made great strides in making life better for so many, but nothing can replace compassion, selfless giving, and the human touch. Individual people make all the difference. There are a host of charitable organizations that would welcome your talents and time. Your generosity could change lives, maybe even your own. Perhaps it’s a good thing the Salvation Army bells aren’t ringing at Target stores this year. It’s an opportunity for those who genuinely support the Salvation Army’s mission to give more than pocket change and for all of us to pay attention and actually do something to improve the lives of those who are in real need, especially after ‘spirit of giving’ has passed.
drink and he headed to Boise where he knew he could get a stiff one. After a valiant effort, Salt Lake City came to the conclusion that perhaps we were a tad bit immature to actually run a “community center.” After all, the seventies was the “me generation.” It could have worked though, if someone would have thought to put a disco ball in the joint. Nearly ten years would pass before memories faded enough to start another venture. In 1984, the Gay Community Service Center and Clinic was incorporated as an offspring of proud parents Auntie De and Beauchaine. Because no one else was crazy enough to do so, this odd couple was chosen as pro tem co-directors. Now what was different about this second go around was the clinic portion, which was inspired by Duane Dawson. He noticed a lot of gay boys were starting to get mighty sick and nobody in the straight world gave a hoot. The Center and Clinic inspired a lot of hoopla and fundraising but that was about all. Auntie De sputtered out and Beauchaine reinvented the concept so often that it became nearly unrecognizable. Kind of like Michael Jackson. The third effort was more effective. The Gay and Lesbian Community Council of Utah decided that it was high time to have a community center back in capital city. After endless monthly committee meetings, Charlene Orchard got the financial packaging together to open the Utah Stonewall Center—a Project of the Gay and Lesbian Community Council of Utah. What a mouthful! Effable Craig Miller was elected as the first director of the Utah Stonewall Center but after a slugfest year he chose to step down. Since it’s not polite to hit a girl, Melissa Sillitoe of the Utah Gay and Lesbian Youth (UGLY) Group, rolled up her sleeves, and charmed the hell out of everyone while cleverly managing to be efficient and businesslike. She even sweet-talked Marlin Criddle into making the post a part time salaried position. Melissa was short enough to dodge most of the slings and arrows, and after nearly 3 years she walked away with all her integrity and most of her body parts. The
experience, however, scared her straight! By now the Utah Stonewall Center had cut the cord from the GLCCU and was free floating. Between 1995 and 1997 the Stonewall Center seemed to be hemorrhaging directors, among them, John Bennett, Renee Rinaldi (who became the first full-time director), Michael O’Brien, and Alan Ahtow who had the distinction of pulling the plug as directed by Brook Heart-Song. Ahtow oversaw the disembodied Utah Stonewall Center while it was in the “Ethereal World” (also known as Cyberspace) until a new creature arose in 1998, reincarnated as the Gay and Lesbian Community Center and—tuh-duh—“Stonewall Coffee Company.” New and improved, with respectable hardwood floors, “The Center,” (wink wink) hired Monique Predovitch, for about five seconds, until asking for a tried and true Utah gay activist, Doug Wortham, to make sense of the place. Rolling up his sleeves
and putting his shoulder to the wheel, Wortham managed to hand over the wood floors to Seattle’s best, Paula Wolfe, without a scuff mark. Paula Wolfe and gang ran the center for five years, hand picked their own board, and swallowed up Pride Day. Wolfish about getting grants for the Center, Paula finally bailed as the cash cows dried up. Seeking greener pastures, she moved back to the Emerald City. Then, lo and behold, a knight in shining armor came from the east to rescue us, but faster than you can say “dangling Chad” he dropped from the scene. Now a plucky Valerie Larabee will be our new lightening rod, ahem, I mean GLBTCCU executive director. Valerie—do not ask for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee! Quick—someone call the Gay Help Line. Oh, I forgot. It’s been disconnected. Ben Williams is the founder and president of the Utah Stonewall Historical Society.
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With the departure of Chad Beyer as executive director of the GLBTCCU (I think its pronounced glib-tick-coo but have never found anyone to confirm this), I got to thinking about all the other courageous men and women who served as Utah’s queer community center EDs. I say courageous because it takes nerves of steel and a hide the thickness of a bull (dyke) elephant, to face the onslaught of name-calling and daily criticism. And that’s just from the gay community. Someone asked me once to apply for the position of director of the Utah Stonewall Center and I looked at him in disbelief as if he had asked me to ceremoniously disembowel myself. I’m sure that would have been less painful than what we inflict on our leaders. The first person, of whom I am aware, to have stepped up to the Gay Community Center directorship plate was way back in 1975. Dorothy Makin served as the first director after Joe Redburn and the board of the Gay Community Service Center told her that Judy Garland expected every homosexual to so his (or her) duty. “Ask not what the gay community can do for you but what you can do for the gay community center!” Later some confused homosexuals thought it was “who you can do in the community center” but that’s another story. Ms. Makin lasted about six months until the “flippin’ fags” drove her to distraction and she said the hell with this. To the rescue came Ken Storer who, having a master’s degree in organizational behavior as well as extensive training in psychology counseling and group therapy, should have known better. After six more months the radicalesbians drove him to
Evangelical political action groups including the American Family Association and Concerned Women For America are rattling their sabres. In their crusade to preserve a popular but narrow version of biblical values, these groups have reverted to pointing trembling, virtuous fingers in accusation, asserting that Target has kowtowed to the homosexual agenda. How original. All this time, I thought it was about shopping and donning now our gay apparel. These saints who are decrying the blatant injustice of a corporation actually applying their philanthropy policy with a sense of propriety and fairness to all charitable causes are no doubt the same ones who drop a few coins in the kettle smiling benevolently. Maybe my logic is horribly flawed, but giving a handful of coins to someone who doesn’t have a warm place to sleep seems just a tad disingenuous when the shopping cart is filled to overflowing with stuff no self-respecting person can do without. But hey, December 26 is just a few days away and the returns counter is ready to prove that we can indeed do without it. Public relations folks are having a dandy of a time demonstrating that the business behind the big box stores really does have a heart. Target alone pours $2 million into
Joshua Novitz HATE CRIMES ACTIVIST What were you doing when you were 18 years old? Chances are you weren’t organizing major rallies for hate crimes legislation in Utah. Research for his senior thesis lead Joshua to the conclusion there are no hate crimes laws in the state—so he did what most of us would never dream of. Gathering major support and several big-time Utah politicians, Joshua hit the steps of the state capitol and took a stand we should all admire.
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Paula Wolfe, Chad Beyer, Valerie Larabee EXECUTIVE DIRECTORS OF THE GAY, LESBIAN, BISEXUAL, TRANSGENDER COMMUNITY CENTER OF UTAH Where will the parade of leaders at The Center lead us? We’re not quite sure yet. But we admire the string of people willing to step in and take the reins of an organization in crisis. Will The Center be there for us in the future? What will it be like? What services will it offer? In a year of uncertain finances, these three were all willing to put it on the line for a critical organization that’s here to support us all.
Willy Marshall MAYOR OF BIG WATER, UTAH
Scott McCoy PERSON OF THE YEAR By Darren Tucker
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These are Salt Lake Metro’s choices as the ten most fascinating people of 2004. From activists to business leaders to people who thrill us with their wide-open style of living, these are the people we feel had the most impact on queer life in Utah. Of course, not everyone who lays it all on the line for our community can be mentioned here. We salute the hundreds of volunteers who support groups like the Utah AIDS Foundation. We recognize all of you who work your tails off to stage events like Pride, the rodeo and the Oscar party. And we honor each and every one of you struggling to come out and declare yourselves as proud members of the gay and lesbian world. These ten represent that spirit in all of us.
Scott McCoy EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR OF THE DON’T AMEND ALLIANCE “Who are you going to believe? Gayle Ruzika or the Attorney General?” McCoy stepped out on the streets of Salt Lake City with guns blazing in the battle against Utah’s Amendment 3—and many of his targets were Utah’s biggest, toughest, political heavy hitters. He didn’t flinch, he didn’t run and he didn’t give up. He spent countless hours going toe to toe with the opposition, fighting for equal rights for every member of the gay and lesbian community.
In the process, he captured our imagination and demonstrated to us all that the struggle does count, even when things don’t turn out the way we hoped. His willingness—even eagerness—to put his own reputation on the line for all of us embodies a spirit of unselfish sacrifice rarely seen in the gay community or any other. And he did it all with such style—who else dared step up and call Jon Huntsman’s brand of politics “flat-out bizarre?” For all of those reasons, the Salt Lake Metro is pleased to honor him with our selection as “Person of the Year.”
Bruce Bastian MAJOR CONTRIBUTOR TO THE FIGHT FOR GAY RIGHTS Talk about putting your money where your mouth is. When the Word Perfect co-founder saw a need in his community, he was more than willing to support the cause with some muchneeded cash. And when his former business partner stepped up to support the other side, he gave even more. Utah is not an easy place to be out and running a major business at the same time. Bruce proves that doing the right thing—is always the right thing.
In a state that is unwilling to even have a female governor for more than a year, Willy Marshall flies in the face of tradition and runs a small Southern Utah town with no skeletons at all in his closet. They all came out with him. Marshall governs Big Water with style and a fierce loyalty many politicians would do well to imitate. The town has community dinners once a month, for heck’s sake. Marshall’s nerve, panache and absolute love of his community earned him a spot on our list.
Jane Marquart ATTORNEY, EQUALITY UTAH BOARD CHAIR Mrs. (yes, Mrs.) Marquart and her wife (yes, her wife), Tami, wasted no time getting hitched and showing us how a better future will look for all of us. And despite the pressures of home and family every married couple faces, the attorney from Ogden still finds the time and energy to fight for everyone else’s rights as chair of Equality Utah’s board of trustees. The Marquardts are also open with their checkbook, donating thousands to everything from the Don’t Amend Alliance to The Center.
Jason Atwood HIGH SCHOOL STUDENT AND YOUTH ACTIVIST Sometimes the simple things most kids enjoy can be out of reach for gay kids. Jason was not afraid to stretch right into the spotlight while reaching for the simple joy of spending his junior prom with someone he loves. And when Copper Hills High officials told him “not without a note from home,” Jason took his case to the media, demonstrating courage most kids only dream of—and earning him a place on our list.
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Michael Aaron PUBLISHER OF SALT LAKE METRO No, Michael was not in on the decision to include him here. And he’ll probably throw a fit when he finds out we put him in. But consider the difficult task of starting any newspaper and making it a viable business, let alone a GAY newspaper in SALT LAKE CITY. For his fortitude and never-ending desire to keep our readers informed and entertained, we salute him.
Mayor Rocky Anderson The Salt Lake City Mayor has remained true to the queer community throughout the year, lending political support to our causes and keeping public dialogue open about issues from marriage to adoption. He’s also made sure that city employees need not fear discrimination based on their sexual orientation. While we are proud of our gay-friendly mayor, our hope for 2005 is that he will use his power and influence to encourage more Salt Lake businesses to adopt non-discrimination clauses for sexual orientation and gender identity.
Attorney General Candidates Each of the three men who sought to become Utah’s attorney general called on voters to reject the anti-gay marriage amendment to the state constitution. While the three have differing views on whether or not gays should be allowed to marry, they did agree on one thing: the amendment goes too far in outlawing other arrangements that give unmarried couples marriage-like rights. Incumbent Republican Attorney General Mark Shurtleff, Democrat Greg Skordas and Libertarian Andrew McCullough said the amendment would prohibit the Legislature from extending even the most basic partnership rights to unmarried couples. Shurtleff, in particular, risked the anger of his party and supporters by opposing the measure, although he ended up winning the election.
Utah Stonewall Democrats Sometimes, a single moment in time defines a generation. Certainly, the day the Stonewall Democrats literally turned their backs on Congressman Jim Matheson was their defining moment. Fifty members of the club actually stood and turned their backs on the congressman during his ten-minute speech at the Utah Democratic Convention, stimulating responses like this one from Metro reader Shane Young: “Three cheers to the Stonewall Democrats who had the intestinal fortitude to literally stand against Jim Matheson … he punched this community in the gut and then had the gall to ask for our money, our support and our time.”
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What the heck? There are gay people in Southern Utah? You bet there are, and Selfridge and Marie, aka “The Amies,” dedicate much of their lives making sure queers have a safe, comfortable environment to be themselves and live the lives they want. They’re involved in every aspect of queer life in rural Utah, certainly not the easiest place on Earth to be openly gay. And they do it all from the open door of their own home, where they host many of the planning and strategy meetings themselves.
When Parents, Friends and Families of Lesbians and Gays chose Salt Lake City as the host of their 30th anniversary national conference, the timing was fantastic. With just weeks to go before the election, the influx of families and supporters of queer people helped to put a different face on the debate about Amendment 3. Additionally, local PFLAG parents (such as Ed & Bobbie Butterfield and Gary & Millie Watts) were passionate volunteers, supporters and spokespeople for the Don’t Amend Alliance. The Butterfields and the Watts graced our television screens for weeks before the election with positive, affirming messages.
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January The Gay and Lesbian Community Center of Utah (GLCCU) officially changes its name to the Gay Lesbian Bisexual Transgender Community Center of Utah (GLBTCCU). The organization is usually simply referred to as “The Center.”
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Radio personality Jimmy Chunga yells at his co-workers on-air saying “shut up you stupid fags.” Kenni Littlefield, an offended listener, demands and gets an on-air apology.
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Utah State University heterosexuals hold a mock wedding in Logan to protest gay marriage. A crowd of about 25 dissenters stand near the table and jeer, shouting “Cake for segregation!” “Hate speech!” and “Students for zombie thinking!”
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Wayne R. Benson, author of Anything But Straight, speaks at Salt Lake Community College denouncing ex-Gay organizations such as Evergreen International, Exodus International and Homosexuals Anonymous.
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Mr. Ms. & Miss Gay Utah Pageant is held at the Paper Moon.
The GLBT Public Safety Liaison Committee and the Salt Lake City Police Department hold a Safety Workshop for the queer community at The Center. Judy Shepard, mother of Matthew, speaks at a Hate Crimes Legislation Town Hall meeting held at the City and County Building along with Professor Forrest Crawford and Representative David Litvack.
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Paper Moon celebrates its tenth Anniversary.
The Salt Lake premier of Latter Days, a romantic comedy centering on a gay LDS missionary, is canceled at Madstone Theaters because management said the film “lacked artistic merit.” Salt Lake Film Society also refuses to show the film for the same reason, a decision they reverse a few months later. The film ran for months to sold-out houses.
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March The Utah House Joint Resolution on Marriage (HJR25), a proposed Utah Constitutional amendment banning gay marriage and civil unions, passes its final vote in the House as 200 gay men and lesbians watch from the gallery.
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Sheri Dew, president of LDS-owned Deseret Book, likens those “who do not oppose gay marriage to those who did nothing to oppose Hitler’s rise to power.”
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February The fifth annual Utah State University’s Pridefest is held in Logan with the theme “Something Queer in Everything I See.”
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This year’s hate crime bill, House Bill 68, never gets out of the Utah House Judiciary Committee.
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The Eighth Annual “Cancer Awareness” week is sponsored by the Royal Court.
The Salt Lake Community College Gay Straight Alliance Club hosts Diversity Week with the theme “The Straight Truth: Homosexuality is Not Just a Trend.” A photography exhibit by Don Farmer, purportedly of homosexual Mormon missionaries, cause Salt Lake Community College’s South City Campus students to get into a shouting match after one of them begins taking down pieces of the exhibit.
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Don Farmer’s controversial group of photographs are stolen from SLCC, where they were the cause of fierce debate and near violence since going on display earlier in the week.
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“Straight Over The Rainbow” Diversity Dance is held at SLCC’s Redwood Campus.
■ Activist and fundraiser Chuck Whyte hosts “PINK,” his 2nd Annual Cancer Awareness Show for RCGSE.
Salt Lake Men’s Choir performs their annual spring concert: Abendlied (Evening Song) at First United Methodist Church with a special regional premiere of “Magnificat” by Antonio Lotti.
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The Vagina Monologues is performed at Utah Valley State College in Orem. Long-time community member, activist and dancer Tom Henacy dies of cancer.
The Utah Gay Rodeo Association hosts its annual Silver & Gold Rush at the Paper Moon where the Mr., Ms., & Miss Pony Express competition raises over $1500.
Enough, a portrait of a young Mormon missionary coming to terms with his homosexuality. Women’s peace group Code Pink protests Smith’s Food and Drug Stores’ policy of locking up condoms.
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The Lesbian Avengers organize a local march to support NOW’s national March for Women’s Rights.
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The first general meeting of the Utah Bear Alliance is held at the Black Box Theater at The Center.
■ Bishop Otis Charles, formerly of the Utah Episcopalian Diocese, is stripped of his license after his April 24 marriage to partner Felipe Sanchez Paris.
BYU professor William Bradshaw gives a lecture on scientific evidence that homosexuality is a result of biological orientation.
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The Tower agrees to show the movie Latter Days in Salt Lake City.
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Celebrating the Body Erotic Workshop is held in Salt Lake City.
Two fundraising dinners at the homes of John Johnson and Steve Sorenson and John Funk and Patrick Curtin, raise nearly $15,000 dollars for The Center, with 66 guests attending the “Mardi Gras on Bourbon Street” theme parties. ■
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A Lesbian and Gay Student Union rally is held at the University of Utah in response to the Utah College Republicans planned mock wedding demonstration against gay families.
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April Former Board President of the Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire Wade A. DeForest, aka Empress XXV Felicia, dies of lymphoma cancer.
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RCGSE’s 25th Annual Golden Spike Awards, Utah’s oldest community nominated award show, is held.
The University of Utah Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Resource Center presents the first Lavender Graduation Ceremony with Laura MillikenGray as guest speaker. Two Hillcrest High School students are suspended for wearing T-Shirts with the slogan “Queers Kick Ash,” a part of a youth anti-smoking campaign sponsored by The Center.
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Club 161 opens at 161 S. Pueblo Street and soon becomes the home bar for the Wasatch Leathermen’s Association and Utah Bear Alliance.
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Wasatch Affirmation’s Gay Lesbian Bisexual Transgendered Intersex Mormon Mission Reunion and Fireside is held at Sacred Light Church. Don Farmer, the photographer who gained notoriety with his art show depicting two gay Mormon missionaries, is the guest speaker.
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Utah Stonewall Democrats and supporters protest during U.S. Rep. Jim Matheson’s speech at the State Democratic Convention by standing up and turning their backs on him for favoring a constitutional amendment to ban same-sex marriage.
The New Jersey governor made history Aug.12 by emotionally announcing that he was a “gay American” and he was resigning his position. Although his resignation was surrounded by controversy and scandal, he entered the history books as the first openly gay governor in the U.S. While touring for his 2003 album, Want One, and with this year’s release of his follow-up album Want Two, it seems that Rufus leads the pack of openly gay celebrities with rising stars. We just can’t get enough of this colorful crooner whose latest album doesn’t shy away from queer sensibilities with songs such as “Gay Messiah.”
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After winning The Amazing Race with then partner Chip Arndt, this Air Force Academic has successfully parlayed his 15 minutes of fame into lasting queer celebrity status by advocating for a variety of causes and releasing a steamy calendar.
5 MATT FOREMAN
Matt Foreman took over role of executive director for the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force in May 2003. Throughout 2004, he has been a visible and articulate advocate for gay rights causes, shaping and leading opinions on both the grassroots and national level.
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When news of the lesbian-focused drama began to circulate in late 2003 along with a cast photo showing sexy beautiful women, many were skeptical about the show’s ability
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Although the openly lesbian daughter of Vice President Dick Cheney stayed away from camera all year, the woman who once used her sexuality to introduce Coors to the queer market remained controversial throughout the presidential election. Gay advocates wondered at her silence while the White House pushed for the Federal Marriage Amendment, and the Cheneys publicly huffed and puffed at candidate John Kerry’s mention of her sexual orientation during a presidential debate.
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That’s right, all of them. As news continues to filter south across the border about the widespread acceptance of gay marriage, a major upcoming gay sporting event and the general acceptance of queer issues, many of us have eyed our neighbors to the north with longing, especially in the aftermath of the November elections.
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Former Jethro Tull guitarist David Palmer shocked fans around the word when she publicly announced that she was having sex reassignment surgery and would live out her days as “Dee.” She is now pursuing a solo music career.
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About 25 Hillcrest High School teens protest the school’s actions of suspending Cody McCook for wearing a T-shirt with the anti-smoking message “Queers Kick Ash.”
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Lee Silva’s Ninth Annual Diamonds and Spurs benefit for the Utah Gay Rodeo Association is held at the Trapp.
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This funny queer comic from Ireland was one of the most popular entertainers in gold lamé on British television. He made quite a splash in the American colonies, though, with the launch of The Graham Norton Effect on Comedy Central.
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■ A Marriage Equality Rally is held in St. George as two teenage boys yell out “fucking faggots” to a group of females.
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A farewell reception at The Center for outgoing executive director Paula Wolfe is held.
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to attract an audience or portray lesbian issues accurately. But after premiering in January, lesbian audiences flocked to the program, organizing successful viewing parties in women’s bars across the country.
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■ RCGSE Imperial Crown Prince XXVIII Chad Keller and Imperial Crown Princess XXVIII Paris host CP Ball 2004: “Purgatory; Where Heaven and Hell Collide” at the Trapp Door.
Long-time lesbian activists and committed couple, they were the first samegender couple to be married in February when San Francisco began allowing gay people to wed. Despite their advanced age, the two continued to gain the spotlight as they campaigned to prevent anti-gay marriage laws across the country.
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Rev. Dee Bradshaw of Sacred Light of Christ Metropolitan Community Church debates with Dr. James White of the Reformed Baptist Church of Phoenix Arizona over issues of gay marriage.
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MOST FASCINATING NON-GAY PEOPLE IN THE U.S. 1 GAVIN NEWSOM
The mayor of San Francisco shocked the country by declaring he had a constitutional responsibility to allow gay folk to wed. Thousands of couples entered matrimonial bliss following Valentine’s Day weekend until the California court closed them down. Despite being criticized for his renegade tactics, Newsom remains unapologetic about his decision to bring the subject out of the closet.
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The Hollywood bad boy everyone has fallen in love with thrilled gay fans when he appeared as a bisexual man in not one, but two films in 2004. The artsy Home at the End of the World from The Hours author Michael Cunningham, and the epic biopic Alexander, which featured Jared Leto as the object of the Greek commander’s same-gender affection. Farrell continued to excite gay fans when gossip leaked that a frontal nude scene had to be cut from Home because his presence was simply “too distracting.”
MASSACHUSETTS 3 THE SUPREME JUDICIAL COURT
The high court of Massachusetts held firm despite public outcry at their 2003 ruling that the state had no right to deny gay couples the chance to wed. As the ruling took effect in May 2004, the court denied a
Squares. Center organizers estimate 50,000 in attendance. The grand marshall is Bruce Bastian and the 18th Kristen Ries Award recipient is Luci Malin. Banners saying “sexuality,” “justice” and “unity,” rejected for use on Salt Lake streets by the Downtown Alliance, flew on the grounds.
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Salt Lake Men’s Choir performs their summer concert “Classic Pops” at the Jeanne Wagner Theatre.
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Despite the failure of the Democrats’ Presidential and Vice Presidential nominees to support gay marriage, the Dems proved again that they take queer rights causes seriously. Teresa Heinz-Kerry extended perhaps the most welcoming of hands, however, when she addressed gay delegates and told them to call her “Mama T,” because she wanted queer people to feel like she could be their mother in the White House.
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When the controversial gay-themed film Latter Days first debuted, unknown actor Steve Sandvoss didn’t expect it to become the most successful gay film of the year. The hunky actor earned thousands of gay fans as the sexually repressed LDS missionary in the film. The Harvard graduate’s acting career is just beginning to take off, and the attention has earned him a spot alongside Hollywood heavyweights like Jennifer Aniston, Kevin Costner, Kathy Bates and Mena Suvari in his next project, Rumor Has It.
Carrie and Elisia Ross-Stone, two lesbian grandmothers riding on their bicycles as the “Rainbow Ride Across America,” stop in Salt Lake to raise awareness of equal civil marriage rights. Mayor Rocky Anderson welcomes them.
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Equality Utah, along with local attorneys, forms the Don’t Amend Campaign committee.
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“Rally Against Rage” is organized by 18-yearold Joshua Nowitz to protest the failure of the Utah State Legislature to pass an effective hate crimes bill. Representatives Jackie Biskupski and David Litvack and Attorney General Mark Shurtleff speak at rally.
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The ninth annual Food for Hope benefit for HIV/AIDS services are held at Panini.
RCGSE Coronation is held at the Hilton. “NAMASTE: Evening At the Majestic Ruins of the Maharajah” was hosted by Mark Thrash and Heidi Ho Waters. Mike Sperry and Syren Wind Archer Vaughns are crowned Emperor and Empress XXIX.
Heather Borski, of the Utah Health Department’s Tobacco Prevention and Control Program, opts not to renew The Center’s grant to “prevent the antitobacco health message from being overshadowed by unrelated advocacy activity.” The grant was for an expected $200,000 over the next two years.
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UGRA holds a Gymkhana Day Rodeo at the new Bluffdale arena.
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■ Herriman Mayor Lynn Crane refuses to allow a Don’t Amend Alliance booth at the city’s Founders Day celebration.
The Gay Lesbian and Straight Education Network releases its 2004 state of the States report with Utah receiving an F grade in creating welcoming educational environments for all students.
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July Past Emperor XII Donny Eastepp dies after a long struggle with AIDS. He was the “All American Emperor” of the All American Fire Rose Court from 1987–1988.
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The Center sponsors the Pride Film Festival—Damn These Heels! at the City Library.
Richard Milton, deputy director of the Utah Health department states that The Center’s antitobacco project’s “use of sexually related messages was inconsistent with the department’s general approach to addressing tobacco use.” The Center was the only organization receiving state anti-tobacco money that did not earn a grant renewal.
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■ Clair Wade, former president of UGRA, dies from complications from AIDS.
Comedian Suzanne Westenhoefer performs at MoDiggity’s.
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The Center hosts its 2nd GLBT Town Hall Meeting with 50 attending.
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Don’t Amend Alliance holds a volunteer training program.
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Club Try-Angles celebrates its second anniversary.
The Center reopens after a temporary closure to remodel. All employees are told to reapply for their positions.
The Southern Utah Gay & Lesbian Community Center holds a Days of ’47 barbecue fundraiser to raise money to help obtain their 501(c)3 taxexempt status. The Center hires Chad Beyer, who has an extensive social justice background, as their new Executive Director.
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Aside from attending festivals, Don’t Amend Alliance kicks off their “Out Against Discrimination” campaign at local bars, clubs and other gathering places. Beginning with a July 30 kick-off party
Entertainer RuPaul performs at The Vortex, in a rare Salt Lake City appearance for Utah Pride.
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August The state’s delegation to the Democratic National Convention has one of the highest participation levels in the nation of openly gay and lesbian members. Utah was identified as one of only three state delegations with more than a 10 percent gay membership. Three of the 29 Utahns were gay or lesbian.
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Art Against Amendment 3 auction features local artists Trevor Southey, Steven Sheffield, Sandee Parsons, Karen Brinkerhoff, JoNell Evans, Schelleigh Stott, Christina Schmidt and Greg Ragland.
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■ The GLBT Public Safety Liaison Committee and the Salt Lake City Police Department hold the first ever workshop on same sex domestic violence issues at the Pioneer Precinct.
The Utah AIDS Foundation holds its annual Aqua AID: Fun in the Sun soiree at the home of Mark Chambers and Joe Pitti with entertainment by Queer Utah Athletic Club and Salt Lake Men’s Choir.
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UGRA hosts its Fourth Rodeo and Wild West Festival at Legacy Center arena in Farmington. Salt Lake Metro hosts Gay Day at Lagoon.
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■ Steven Mark Baxter, community supporter and businessman dies. In 1980 he opened The Deerhunter Club and was the proprietor until it was destroyed by fire in 2001. Baxter also helped start Club Try-Angles.
Hotels and Casinos. The event is published on the front page of the Wendover Times.
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Lucie Blue Trembly performs at the South Valley Unitarian Universalist Society as a fundraiser. Local artist Kathryn Warner opens.
Evergreen International, an independent organization which uses LDS teaching to “help people overcome unwanted same-sex attractions,” holds its 11th annual conference.
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■ The Wasatch Leathermen Association hosts the Blue Alley Fair at Club 161. Jeff “Tiger” Rands is chosen as Mr. Salt Lake Leather 2004.
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Rocker Patti Rothberg performs at MoDiggity’s.
An opening-night performance of Confessions of a Mormon Boy benefits the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender Community Center of Utah at the Rose Wagner Theater. Utah State University’s Pride Alliance of Cache Valley invites Ben Williams, director of the Utah Stonewall Historical Society, to speak.
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The Indigo Girls perform a concert entitled Honor the Earth at Kingsbury Hall, University of Utah Campus as part of the school’s Gay Pride Month.
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Lesbians hike the Narrows at Zion Park.
Annual Affirmation Conference is held in San Francisco as “Zion: Gathering Our Family by the Bay.” The keynote speaker is Kate Kendall. ■ Salt Lake Men’s Choir performs “Classic Pops” in St. George.
Salt Lake Metro hosts the first Gay Wendover Weekend with parties, gaming tournaments & classes at Rainbow, Peppermill, and Montego Bay
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September Southern Utah’s Second Annual Pride festival is held Labor Day Weekend in Springdale, Utah. All funds raised went to the Southern Utah GLBT Center. Softball and a dance is a part of the celebration. Southern Utah PFLAG, Family Fellowship, Southern Utah University Pride, Affirmation and a host of vendors promoted the gathering of 800 people. Lucie Blue Trembley, a lesbian singer/songwriter from Quebec was the star entertainment.
A Letter to Harvey Milk is performed by Plan-B Theater Company.
Miss Gay Rocky Mountain, an official preliminary to the Miss Gay UsofA Pageant, is held at Club Sound with special guest Kelexis Davenport, Miss Gay USofA at Large 2004.
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■ Members of the Westboro Baptist Church in Topeka, Kan., shout “God Hates Fags,” and “Thank God for AIDS,” along with other stronger language at PFLAG conference attendees in Salt Lake. ■ The Center reduces the operating hours of Stonewall Coffee because of budget crunches.
Pride at the University of Utah: “Visions of Acceptance.” Chrissy Gephardt, daughter of Congressman Dick Gephardt and the first openly gay family member of a presidential candidate in history, gave the keynote address.
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■ The eleventh annual People With AIDS Coalition of Utah Community Awards & Living with AIDS Conference honors the dedication of Chuck Whyte and Ron Johnson and the Utah Gay Rodeo Association.
Monday, January 12, 7:30pm at Club Panini, a private club for members. Register in advance at 535-4300 to reserve your spot. CLUB PANINI • 299 SOUTH MAIN STREET • SECOND FLOOR • 535-4300
■ Heads Up, a “gay every day” club opens at 163 W. Pierpont Avenue in Salt Lake. ■ Walter Larabee performs for the 2004 Daniel Crowley Memorial Storytelling Series at the American Folklore Society’s annual meeting held at the Little America Hotel.
The fourth annual Ivenio Workshop about gay men’s health issues sponsored by the Utah AIDS Foundation is held at the Salt Lake Hilton.
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The Royal Court of the Golden Spike Empire holds their own Lagoon Day.
“Family Voices For Equality,” a rally, concert and kick-off of the PFLAG National Conference is held at the Jeanne Wagner Theatre featuring Catie Curtis, Kate Clinton, Rev. Barry Lynn, Phyllis Lyon and Del Martin, and the Joe Muscolino Band Just two weeks before Utah voters go to the polls to decide whether to ban gay marriage, the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints issues a statement that ‘’any other sexual relations, including between persons of the same gender, undermine the divinely created institution of family.’’
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■ The Public Interest Law Organization holds a panel debate entitled “Countdown to the November Election: The Legal Battle over Gay Marriage,” in the U of U’s law school’s Traynor Moot Courtroom. Debate participants include Evan Wolfson, William C. Duncan, Lara Schwartz, Lynn Wardle. Former journalist Phil Riesen moderates the debate.
Salt Lake City is the site of the 2004 national PFLAG conference, marking the organization’s thirtieth anniversary. Featured speakers include Bishop Gene Robinson, Congressman Barney Frank, Tammy Baldwin, Simon LeVay, Evan Wolfson, Mathilde Krim, Frank Kameny, Kate Kendall, Rocky Anderson, and Paul Smith.
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Utah gubernatorial candidates Jon Huntsman Jr. and Scott Matheson Jr. are asked whether they viewed homosexuality as a sin by ABC4 news reporter Chris Vanocur. Followed by 10 seconds of dead air, Matheson finally responds: “No.” Huntsman replies, “I’m going to reserve judgment on casting aspersions on it until we know more about it.”
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November Utah voted 66 to 34 percent to amend the state’s constitution to ban marriage and civil unions for same-sex couples.
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The fourth annual Drag King Contest is held at Paper Moon.
■ Salt Lake Police Department and the GLBT Safety Liaison Committee hold a workshop on Cyber Dating and Cyber Crime with the gay community.
The Human Rights Campaign hosts its first Women’s Forum at the Alta Club with guest speaker Adrian Boney, Director of Volunteer Relations.
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■ The Center’s Executive Director Chad Beyer and Board Chair Maryann Martindale hosts the annual fundraiser CenterPeace. ■ St. George’s tenth annual AIDS/HIV Awareness Walk is held.
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Queer Lounge and HRC host a sneak preview of the film Testosterone at Brewvies.
■ Utah Stonewall Historical Society calls for protest action in a meeting held at Cup of Joe’s.
A man was assaulted and beaten on 600 West in Salt Lake while coming home from the Trapp. He was hospitalized.
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A forum to discuss the ramification of the passing of Amendment 3, sponsored by Equality Utah and U of U LGBT Resource Center, meets with anger from the gay community at leaders who keep “looking for the silver lining” in the situation.
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The Imperial Rainbow Court of Northern Utah holds Coronation 2004: An Evening of Diversity at the Ogden Marriott.
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Chad Beyer resigns as Executive Director of The Center. Valerie Larabee is announced as his replacement.
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Salt Lake City Metropolitan Community Church hosts a community Thanksgiving Dinner.
Scott Lewis Hoerster and Larry Steven Bates are charged with felony aggravated robbery, aggravated kidnapping, and failure to appear in two previous court arraignments for an April attack on two men.
December Through a variety of events, World AIDS Day is recognized in Utah by WSU, Westminster College, UAF, PWACU, Holladay United Church of Christ, and New Promise Lutheran Church at St. George.
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judge declines to halt the visitation agreement until the court can hear the case. After a four-day protest by Copper Hills High School’s Gay-Straight Alliance, Principal Tom Worlton agrees to re-evaluate the school’s policy issued the previous month requiring same-sex couples to get parental permission before attending school dances.
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■ KRCL celebrates its 25th Anniversary. Founder Stephen Holbrook is the keynote speaker. ■ The Queer Lounge hosts a fundraising party at the Howard Bragman Residence. Jackie Beat performs.
The Salt Lake Men’s Choir presents its 22nd annual Holiday Concert, titled “What Sweeter Music.” The evening also marks the 10th anniversary of artistic director Lane Cheney.
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UGRA’s Annual Salute to Cowboys.
The RCGSE hosts its annual “Snowball 2004” with shows at MoDiggity’s, The Trapp, and the main event taking place at Club Sound.
12-year-old Olivia White takes on Gayle Ruzicka, the grande dame of conservative Utah politics. “I just want to know what problems she thinks we’ll have growing up with wonderful people who love us,” White tells the audience at Salt Lake Mayor Rocky Anderson’s second Freedom Forum to discuss Utah law that prohibits unmarried partners from adopting.
The Queer Lounge holds a “sneak-preview” of the 2005 Park City events at Heads Up with entertainment by DJ Sektor.
After 3rd District Court Judge Timothy Hansen awards visitation rights to the former lesbian partner of a biological mother, an Appeals Court
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Queeriscaping The Rewards of Procrastination by Brandie Balken brandie@slmetro.com
By the time this article comes out, you will have about two days to complete your shopping. I know it’s hateful, especially if you’re like me, and put it off until the bitter end. Think of it this way, you’re doing your patriotic duty by supporting the stuttering economy, and helping fourth quarter earnings hit their expected highs. Here are a few ideas to help ease the pain.
THOSE WHO HAVE EVERYTHING:
Don’t you hate it when your neighbor shows up with some little present for you, thereby obligating you to find some little thing for them. Make it easy on yourself, this year be prepared. BULB KITS: There’s a housewife in 6 of 10 houses on each street, and every one of them would love a bulb kit. These are prepackaged sets that include a planted bulb, decorative pot and saucer. All the recipient has to do is open it, water it, and Voilá. DINING GIFT CERTIFICATES: The next time you go out to dinner, pick up a few $10.00 or $20.00 certificates to your favorite restaurant. The great thing about this is, if your neighbors never show up with a present, you can redeem the certificates yourself later. Truly brilliant.
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This can be a tough one. I have but one idea here, and I think it’s a winner. HEIFER INTERNATIONAL: This is an amazing organization that helps build sustainable economies in impoverished areas of the world. Not only does the spirit of this gift appeal to all religious people, but it also pulls to the forefront some of the better teachings of most religions: kindness, charity, generosity … you know, those Moral Values that actually HELP people. This is also the first organization I have found that espouses religious beliefs without forcing them upon the people it aids. Happy Kwanzaa / Solstice/ Christmas / Ramadan / Hanukkah. Let’s all shop for Peace!
DECEMBER 23, 2004
You know whom I’m talking about, those friends who have 5 sets of matching dishes, wine glasses and flatware. The ones who not only have a cleaning service but also a dog walking service and a plant service. ORCHIDS: I’m not talking your run of the mill Phalaenopsis, I’m talking Brassia, Encyclia, Phragmapedium. There are some outrageously delicious Orchids to be found around the Holidays; perfect for the gay couple that has everything. DONATIONS: You know, our very own GLBTCCU, and our entire community would benefit from a donation made in the name of your dear friends who don’t need one more set of Martini glasses. If the Center isn’t your bag, what about the HRC, the PWACU, the NCLR? There are truly a myriad of GLBT organizations that would love your support this Holiday.
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SINGERS AUDITION ANNOUNCEMENT Utah’s first all-male Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor® Dreamcoat Sunday, January 9 & 16—First United Methodist Church, 200 S. 200 East. Performances: June 24, 25, 26, 2005 in the Rose Wagner Studio Theater Rehearsals: Thursday (all) and Sunday (solos) nights beginning January 2005, plus some additional scheduled rehearsals. Produced by Salt Lake Men’s Choir Auditions Requirements: Prepare one minute of music NOT from Joseph. Find music that you like, that shows off your voice to its best advantage. Accompanist provided. Wear clothing that you can move in; auditions will include both singing and movement. No experience necessary.
www.saltlakemenschoir.org for more info.
THE GAY AGENDA 23THURSDAY Who knew male bonding could produce works of art? Through the end of the year, Thanksgiving Point is presenting POETIC KINETICS, an exhibition of works by a father and son team of “junk” artists who weld gears, wheels, and scrap metal together to create kinetic sculpture. Through Jan 1. $2.00 adults, $1.00 children.
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The religious equivalent of Tax Day, this is the one day of the year that the Christian fringefaithful manage to make it to church. Sacred Light of Christ Metropolitan Community Church welcomes people of all faiths or no
faith to join in a special MUSICAL CHRISTMAS SERVICE where the music tells the story. 7:30pm, 823 S. 600 East. 595-0052
25SATURDAY If you are so inclined, Salt Lake Metro wishes you and yours a MERRY CHRISTMAS. If you are not so inclined, enjoy an afternoon at the movies while the rest of us are listening to Aunt Rosemary’s bunion woes once again.
26SATURDAY So, your Aunt Gertrude knitted you the most horrible hat and you can’t bear to throw it away. What to do? Head on over to HOMO FOR THE HOLIDAYS and put it up for the white elephant gift exchange. There are prizes for the worst gifts, plus there will
be food, fun and frolicking. Hosted by the Utah AIDS Foundation. 4pm, Squatters, 147 W. Broadway (300 South). utahaids.org
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We are blessed in Salt Lake to have a thriving theatre community, and more blessed to have certain companies who provide us with quality, original comedy season after season. This year, the Desert Star Playhouse spoofs Cary Grant and Deborah Kerr’s meeting atop the Empire State Building and adds a little holiday spice with MIRACLE ON
by Eric J. Tierney eric@slmetro.com
MAIN STREET PLAZA—A CHRISTMAS AFFAIR TO REMEMBER. The talented cast is led by Aaron Swenson, so dear to Utah hearts after his razor-sharp work in Hedwig and the Angry Inch. The cast, as always, follows the show with a hilarious olio. 6 and 8:30pm Mon.–Thurs. 7 and 9:30pm Fri. Noon, 3, 7 and 9:30pm Sat.Tickets $10–13, or $26.99–29.99 with dinner at 266-2600.
29WEDNESDAY What? You thought the holidays were over? Not quite. Get you butt down to the Utah Museum of Fine Arts Auditorium for their KWANZAA CELEBRATION. Participate in children’s art workshops, music, dance, and poetry from around the world and enjoy some great food. Please bring one can of food for the homeless children at Neighborhood House. Kwanzaa is sponsored by the UMFA, the Governor’s Department of Black Affairs, and the African American community. 12–4pm, UMFA Auditorium, 410 Campus Center Dr., University of Utah. Call Virginia Catherall at 581-7332 or www.umfa.utah.edu
30THURSDAY What’s the perfect way to rev up for New Year’s Eve debauchery? We suggest LINE 1, the Park City Performing Arts Foundation’s event that could be described as nothing less than a Theatrical Experience. Debra Brown, chief choreographer for Cirque du Solelil for twenty years, has created an evening of music, dance, and circus performance that is sure to dazzle. Trapezes, trampolines, and skimpy leather costumes. Sounds pretty much like my last New Year’s Eve, actually. 8pm through Dec. 17, 1750 Kearns Blvd., Park City. Tickets $35–75 at 435-655-3114. $75 ticket price includes reception with performers.
See our NEW YEAR’S EVE GUIDE on page 2 for all the happenings around town!
6THURSDAY If those Sundance locals packages are just too darn expensive, the sight of people in fur, and the thought of waiting for hours at a time in the frigid Park City air is just too much for you to bear, you can get a sneak peek at entries in the WORLD DOCUMENTARY COMPETITION at the Park City Library for free. No Goldie Hawn sightings, but the tradeoff is worth it. 7pm, Jim Santy Auditorium, Park City Library, 1255 Park Ave. Free. ■ All girl band ADEITIA plays tonight and every Thursday at the Stonewall Coffee Company at the Center. They tend to generate packed houses, so arrive early and see what all the buzz is about. 7:30pm, Stonewall Coffee Company at the GLBT Community Center of Utah, 361 N. 300 West. glccu.org
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JANUARY 12 — Speed Dating at Club Panini, 7:30pm. Call 535-4300 to register. JANUARY 5-9—Utah Gay Ski Week in Park City. www.communityvisions.org JANUARY 20-30—Sundance Film Festival. sundance.org JANUARY 21-29—Queer Lounge, Park City. queerlounge.org JANUARY 21-28—Slamdance Film Festival, Park City. slamdance.com
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Many of us will have New Year’s resolutions that are meant to kick in today. If yours is to become generally more cultured and well read, what better way to get started than the KING’S ENGLISH NEW YEAR’S DAY SALE? The store will be open from 10 to 5, and the entire stock will be 25 percent off! Also on hand will be champagne or, for those who imbibed a little too much the night before, alka-seltzer. Get a jump on your reading and your hangover! 10am–5pm, King’s English Bookshop, 1500 S. 1500 East.
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Christmas is nice and all, but what it really means to me is the advent of Awards Show Season. Sitting down with a scorecard, a bottle of nice wine, and your cattiest friends to cheer and jeer your favorite celebrities is infinitely preferable to the endless vacuuming of pine needles, faking of enthusiasm for relatives, and wearing of bad sweaters. Christmas 2004 will be something of a bust for me: thanks to my exciting new career in journalism, I am awash with notoriety and press-type perks, but am teetering perilously close to the edge of total destitution. It is hard to be merry when one is in the red but has precious little green. I am wresting some spirit from the season, however, out of the fact that the first major event of Awards Show Season took place last weekend (or two weekends ago by the time this gets to you): the announcement of the Golden Globe Nominations. The Golden Globes have a markedly undeserved reputation as a type of Hollywood free for all, where anything goes and usually does. For anyone who watches the telecast, though, things look pretty much like any other major televised statuette-fest—if Meryl Streep is hitting the Courvoisier and vomiting on Ryan Seacrest (and I hope to God she is), she’s doing it at the after party. What the Globes usually do have going for them, however, is a willingness to embrace actors and films that stodgy old Oscar pointedly ignores. Every year films and performances actually deserving of notice are not only nominated, but win. This year, I was thrilled to see Imelda Staunton get a nod for her enormously detailed, emotional, and inspired performance as Vera Drake. Annette Bening’s work in Being Julia richly deserves notice, as it was a portrayal of monolithic dimension and scope and the work of a truly magnificent actress at the height of her powers. It was nice to see Paul Giamatti, Virginia Madsen, and Thomas Hayden Church get the attention they deserve for their brilliant work in Sideways. Oh yes, and Nicole Kidman was nominated for taking a bath with a ten year old in Birth. Among my favorite Globes goings-on is the announcement ceremony itself, in which B-
list actors are trotted out in front of the press to read lists of names and plead for work with their eyes. This year we got to peer at a visibly swollen Brendan Fraser (“Everyone liked Encino Man! Remember George of the Jungle? C’mon guys, gimme a chance!”) and Mira Sorvino, a text-book example of the Debut Film Oscar Curse, wherein beautiful young actresses win awards for their breakthrough roles and are seldom heard from again (See Marisa Tomei). Mira is fluent in Mandarin and has been employed by the State Department, so she’s not hurting as bad as Brendan, but she nonetheless got a little misty in the face of all the flashing bulbs, recalling her salad days. Making things worse this year is that they were accompanied by Drea DeMatteo, an actress who, in any other world, would have been written off as laughably vapid and irrelevant, but who did some fine work on The Sopranos and is coming into her own on Joey. Mira won an Oscar for a Woody Allen movie. Drea became famous on television playing a coke-snorting bar owner offed by the mob. Drea’s the one probably thinking about buying a summer place in Taos. That had to hurt. Of course, awards shows are silly. But the spirit of these awards themselves is sincere: business makes our lives work, but art is that what gives those lives meaning. Artists whose work is particularly good are, in effect, providing the rest of us with a service by enriching and expanding our minds and hearts. An awards show, in pure form, is a celebration of that service and those who provide it. It is an acknowledgement of culture, of humanity, of the connections between us. It is also an excuse to safely make fun or people you do not and never will know, and who have so much money that they could, if they chose, conceivably pick up the phone and have you killed. So while my friends and loved ones will find little under the tree but affection from me this year, it’s nice to know that network television is still free for the asking and that we have many nights throughout the winter to look forward to, cuddled up together with a bottle of Bogle Phantom, participating with millions around the world in an annual celebration of life. How eagerly we await that night, with the giant gold ball hanging high in the sky, and the heavenly voice greeting us: “Live, from the Beverly Hills Hotel…” As usual, the season will be over too soon, but there’s always the Tonys to look forward to in June. We’ll probably have all the pine needles out of the carpet by then.
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If you’re a night owl, Salt Lake is a hard town to get nocturnal eats. A ghost town come 10 o’clock, most options are those all-night chain diners where you probably hung out in high school. Eats are usually confined to anything deep fried and smothered in something called country gravy but reminiscent of glue. Combine that with the ungodly hour most folks take part in this repast, and you’ve got the most fantastic case of gut rot to contend with the next day. But there’s one venue downtown that stays open really late during weekends and offers fresh gut-rot free cuisine for the hungry hordes of the midnight hour—Spice. Consider it a refuge to the lights and baubles of the Salt Lake Convention Center and Temple Square. Located off of Arrowpress Square, it carries on the funky vibes of DV8 and the Blue Boutique next door into the wee hours of the morning. The place is eclectic and not in a hokey corporate contrived way. It’s got a genuine feel rooted locally with art work on the walls, a steady selection of varied music on the soundtrack and decoupaged tables to make any arts & craft fiend coo with admiration. Though, be warned, with the tables’ “around the world” themes, you may be likely dining face to face with a photo of Inuits butchering a massive arctic seal. Fascinating stuff, really. But hardly palatable. Here, napkins come in quite handy. The menu boasts a varied selection of vegan, vegetarian, and non-vegetarian items for those who travel in omnivorous packs. There’s quite a bit of emphasis on the fresh-
ness of the food and “health” is part of the place’s overall mantra. Warm pita wedges served as the utensils for the house specialty appetizer called the Boom Dip ($5.75) – thick with rich cream cheese, artichoke hearts and fresh spinach is was wonderfully decadent and impossible to stop eating. The only problem I noticed was that there wasn’t much by way of the caramelized onions described on the menu. Could be that it was truly late on Saturday night and they could have run out or simply forgotten (this place is very new) who knows? The warm pita and dip’s richness was worth another bite and I figured I could anticipate the onions on another go. Other appetizers include a range of soups, hummus, and Mediterranean style meze that’s appropriate for sharing or hording to yourself. Salads, sandwiches (including a decent Philly chicken pita), soups, pita pizzas, and hot entrees round out the menu. My companion’s roasted Portobello mushroom burger ($6.50) arrived on a generous whole wheat bun and smothered in an incredibly flavorful roasted pepper hummus (also available as an appetizer). It would’ve been quite delightful were it not for the incongruous sandwich – as generous as the bun was, the mushroom had shrunk during cooking to half its ratio making for not only meatless eating, but mushroomless as well. The pesto pita pizza was fresh with a nicely crisped and chewy. Though I longed for more pesto to balance out the bountiful portion of fresh spinach and mushrooms, at least I got my roughage. The food really does live up to its promise of healthy eating. Though I was still bummed about the pesto situation when I finally crashed into bed, the next morning, I have to admit I felt great. No bad aftertastes and not a trace of gut rot. So while Zion has a bit of a way to go in terms of veritable nightlife, at least we can now boast a bastion of fresh and healthy latenight eats.
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_____________________________ Take Parents of Gay Children _____________________________ Ski _____________________________ Enjoy the View _____________________________ Enjoy the View of the Guys/Girls _____________________________ Escape Utah for the Weekend
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_____________________________ Volunteer for a Queer Organization _____________________________ Local or State Politician _____________________________ Bartender/Barback/Server _____________________________ Local Actor or Actress _____________________________ Straight Advocate for Gay Rights _____________________________
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_____________________________ Meet Gay Men
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Department of Corrections In the article “Bill May Help Utah’s Homeless Youth” (Dec. 9, page 13), Melissa Larsen’s title was incorrectly identified. She is the Homeless Youth Policy Coordinator at the GLBTCCU and has been working on homeless youth initiatives in this capacity. Larsen also feels that she was misquoted in a comment about Utah’s child welfare law being poorly written because the state was sued when two foster children were murdered by foster parents in two separate cases in the early 1990s. She feels the following statement better reflects her views on the matter of Utah’s law: “Child welfare law has been poorly written in the sense that it leaves out any chance for youth over the age of 16, who are residents of Utah and who could qualify for emancipation, to have that option in a juvenile court proceeding.” Salt Lake Metro apologizes for the errors.
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Traditional Italian favorites, as well as roast veal, lamb, chicken, and seafood.
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Market Street Grill 48 W. Market St. / 322-4668
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Persian, Greek, Italian, Turkish and Vegetarian in a warm, relaxing atmosphere. A well-deserved reputation as Salt Lake’s finest seafood Cafe Pierpont restaurant. Sunday brunch. 122 W. Pierpont Ave. / 364-1222 gastronomyinc.com HOURS:
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M-TH 11:30AM-10PM F-SA 11:30AM-11PM SU Noon-9PM MEXICAN ACCEPTED FOR 8+ $$ TC AE D DC MC V
Nick-N-Willy’s Pizza
4538 S, HIGHLAND DR./ 273-8282
nicknwillyspizza.com
SU-TH 11AM-10PM F-SA 11AM-12PM CUISINE: PIZZA PRICE: $ CARDS: AE D MC V HOURS:
Panini 299 S. MAIN ST. / 535-4300
panini.us HOURS:
CUISINE: RESERV.: PRICE: CARDS:
M-F 11:30AM-3PM M-TH 5-9PM F-SA 5-10PM ITALIAN, SEAFOOD SUGGESTED $$$ TC AE D MC V
Robust Italian fare in an elegant atmosphere with a tasteful, contemporary vibe.
Salt Lake Pizza & Pasta 1063 E. 2100 S. / 484-1804
saltlakepizzaandpasta.com M-SA 11AM-11PM SU 11AM-10PM CUISINE: ITALIAN PRICE: $ CARDS: TC AE D MC V HOURS:
Voted as Utah’s Best Pizza two years in a row! Great beer selection. Sugarhouse.
Spice Restaurant
123 S. WEST TEMPLE / 484-1804 HOURS: M-TH 11:30AM-9:30PM FR 11AM-3:30AM SA 8AM-3:30AM CUISINE: AMERICAN PRICE: $ CARDS: TC AE D MC V
The art of healthy eating. Open late nights on weekExtensive menu of traditional Dine in or take-out. Call ends. Espresso, internet. Mexican favorites served in a ahead and we’ll have it ready. Stonewall Coffee festive setting. Sunday Brunch Albertsons Shopping Ctr.
Christopher’s Seafood and Steak House 110 W. BROADWAY / 519-8515
christophersutah.com HOURS:
CUISINE: RESERV.: PRICE: CARDS:
M-F 11:30AM-3PM M-TH 4:30PM-10PM F-SA 4:30PM-11PM SU 4PM-9PM STEAK, SEAFOOD SUGGESTED $$ TC AE D DC MC V
We are famous for our USDA choice steaks and our fresh seafood flown in daily.
Orbit Cafe 540 W. 200 S. / 322-3808
orbitslc.com
SU-TH 11AM-10PM F-SA 11AM-3AM CUISINE: AMERICAN ECLECTIC PRICE: $ CARDS: TC AE D MC V HOURS:
Open late nights on Fridays and Saturdays with DJs and a special menu.
361 N. 300 WEST / 539-8800 HOURS: M-F 6:30-10AM TU-FR 4:30-10PM SA 10AM-10PM CUISINE: COFFEE PRICE: ¢
Nonprofit drop-in with full coffee bar, sandwiches and deserts. Meeting space.
Xiao Li 307 W. 200 SOUTH / 328-8688 HOURS: LUNCH: 1130AM-2:30PM DINNER: 4:30-10PM F-SA 4:30-11PM CUISINE: CHINESE PRICE: $ CARDS: TC AE D MC V
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Gringo’s West Valley 2785 W 3500 S / 969-8811 HOURS: M-SA 10:30AM-9PM SU 10:30AM-8PM CUISINE: MEXICAN PRICE: ¢ CARDS: MC V
Good Mexican food...fast. Fresh salsa bar, food made to order. See our coupon!
SANDY Heart & Soul Café 237 W. 9000 S. / 569-1245 HOURS: M-F 10AM-4PM SA 11AM-2PM CUISINE: AMERICAN PRICE: $ CARDS: MC V
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Personals MISSED CONNECTIONS U BLACK MUSTANG..ME SILVER CELICA. You were on I-15 headed south and so was I. You turned off at the exit by prison you had a Kevin Bacon smile I want to find you..Will I?
Comics
JOHN OR JOSH?—you came into Try-Angles because you’d had a fight with your boyfriend—we talked over beer and popcorn—I said you deserved better and I meant it, I’d like to prove it to you—If you decide to dump his cheating ass, let me know.
LOOKING FOR a Phineas to my Gene. Serious, intelligent 30ish guy looking for an athletic, adventurous spirit 25-35. Let’s climb trees together.
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MEN FOR MEN
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80S MUSIC FAN, 36, is searching for a soul mate who can rock out with me to Bananarama, Pat Benatar, or Poison at the karaoke bar. 80s mullet optional.
161 THE hair on your back MISCHIEVIOUS BACK made my naughty bits stir. room. You were fondling an You mentioned the hole in appendage of Jeff Stryker’s. the back of my pants. Help I smirked and you blushed. me fill it. REPLY TO BOX 94, PERSONALS@SLMETRO.COM Wanna try the real thing? TESTOSTERONE Screening. We exchanged glances during the scene where Antonio Bandera’s dangle appeared onscreen. Was hoping to danlge with you some day.
ADAM AND ANDY by James Asal
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JOHN OR JOSH?—you came into Try-Angles because you’d had a fight with your boyfriend—we talked over beer and popcorn—I said you deserved better and I meant it, I’d like to prove it to you—If you decide to dump his cheating ass, let me know.
A COUPLE OF GUYS by Dave Brousseau
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I WAS PRETENDING to study at Harold B. Lee Library (BYU) and you slipped me a note saying to follow you. You were hot in that tight t-shirt and I can’t stop thinking about the bulge in your jeans. I was wearing the blue sweatshirt and gym shorts. Couldn’t follow right then, but I’ve been back every day since. Look for me again. REPLY TO BOX 151, PERSONALS@SLMETRO.COM
TRAPP DOOR - You had a black Nikki Beach tank top on and danced like a pro. Beautiful smile. We’ve met once or twice before - I remember that you’re an actor—really want to have coffee with you some time. REPLY TO BOX 153, PERSONALS@SLMETRO.COM
GATEWAY. YOU were dancing in the fountain. Shirtless, tan and in cutoffs. I was sitting on the rocks staring and you began dancing for me. Was that your girlfriend or friend? REPLY TO BOX 85, PERSONALS@SLMETRO.COM
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BLUE-HAIRED BOY at Heads up—Does the rug match the drapes? REPLY TO BOX 104, PERSONALS@SLMETRO.COM
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TESTOSTERONE Screening. We exchanged glances during the scene where Antonio Bandera’s dangle appeared onscreen. Was hoping to danlge with you some day.
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TRY-ANGLES SAW you at the urinal. Nice. You laughed at where my eyes were.
BITTER GIRL by Joan Hilty
DECEMBER 23, 2004
NEW CLUB on Latino night. You—white boy with green eyes. Me—Latin boy through and through. Hit me back.
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