QSaltLake Magazine | Issue 366 | December, 2024

ELECTION RESULTS. WHAT NOW? • UTAH’S ELEVATION CAUSES GAYNESS

Carols ofChristmas

staffbox

pUBlIsheR/eDItoR Michael Aaron

DesIgneR Christian Allred

sales Michael Aaron, 801-997-9763 x1 sales@qsaltlake.com

Rivendell Media, 908-232-2021 ext 200 sales@rivendellmedia.com

natIonal neWs eDItoR Craig Ogan

contRIBUtoRs Joshua Adamson Pickett, Diane Anderson-Minshall, Chris Azzopardi, Paul Berge, Jeff Berry, Paul Campbell, Laurie BennettCook, Roger Cox, Stephen Dark, Jennifer Dobner, Jack Fertig, Greg Fox, Oriol Gutierrez Jr., Tony Hobday, Blake Howell, Ashley Hoyle, Joshua Jones, Christopher Katis, Alpha Mercury, Sam Kelly-Mills, Craig Ogan, Peter Reynolds, Mikey Rox, Terri Schlichenmeyer, Gregg Shapiro, Petunia Pap Smear, Steven Petrow, Ed Sikov, Justin Utley, JoSelle Vanderhooft, Ben Williams, D’Anne Witkowski

DIstRIBUtIon Roger Cox

pUBlIsheR Q Media Group

222 S Main St, Ste 500 (by appt. only) Salt Lake City, Utah 84101

tel: 801-997-9763

CONTACT EMAILS:

geneRal: info@qsaltlake.com

eDItoRIal: editor@qsaltlake.com

aRts: arts@qsaltlake.com

The top national and world news since last issue you should know

BY CRAIG OGEN

UN TERF Wars

The “Man Bites Dog” story of the year is a United Nations report on “violence against women and girls in sports.”

Getting to the report’s recommendations use pretty standard “UN Group Think language,” according to the Economist magazine, quoting that “sports institutions are built on colonial and extractive structures.” Where the dog gets bit is that the report recommends that, “Countries and institutions should do what they can to ensure that female sports competitions are limited to athletes whose biological sex is female.”

The U. S. delegate protested that the report presenters, “Used demeaning language to refer to transgender persons,” A South Africa delegate said the report’s recommendations ran counter to U.N. resolutions on human rights. The report pointed to the 2024 Summer Olympics in Paris, where female boxers had to compete against two competitors whose sex was contested. The report concluded, “Female athletes are more vulnerable to sustaining serious physical injuries when female-only sports spaces are opened to males.” The report has no enforcement power to force any sports bodies to change who competes in women’s sporting events, but the report is in the record as the UN’s contribution to the controversy.

For the Love of Christ

A feel-good story that has a Christian religious sect as the hero comes out of the Episcopal Church Diocese of West Virginia. Forty years ago, Rev. Harry Stock studied at West Virginia School for Religion and Virginia Theological Seminary and was ordained a Deacon. He was openly gay, which kept him from becoming a priest in the Episcopal Church. He held secular positions with Episcopal congregations in Washington, D.C., for a while. He eventually became a minister at the Metropolitan Community Church of Washington. His work with the LGBT-oriented church ended his ordination from the Episcopal priesthood in 1987. At MCC, he got involved in advocacy of gay and lesbian acceptance in Christian faith communities and was a minister to people living with AIDS. He retired from MCC in 2012. In 2023, after working in pastoral duties in DC area churches, he met West Virginia Diocese Bishop Matthew Cowden, who saw the injustice of the earlier church action and worked to restore Stock’s standing. The restoration to the ordained ministry service took place this year, with West Virginia Bishop Cowden officiating. Helping in the reinstatement was Rt. Rev. Gene Robinson, the first openly gay bishop in The Episcopal Church, and the Very Rev. Ian Markham, dean and president of Virginia Theological Seminary.

Scholarships to Red State student with the blues

From the tragedy of the shooting at Pulse Nightclub in Orlando came the Dru Project, named for shooting victim Drew Leinonen. The Project

provides college scholarships to LGBTQ students. Dru Project officials announced they would give scholarship preference to applicants from U. S. states deemed “Red” by virtue of voting patterns. “This is our direct response to the election,” Dru Project board president Sara Grossman said. “For many queer youths, staying in their home state is challenging, if not outright dangerous. We’re giving priority to applicants from red states.”

The $5,000 scholarships are intended to help with college, relocation, or living expenses, with no mention of glitter.

RIP, Dorothy Allison

The prolific author Dorothy Allison died of cancer at the home she shared with her wife in Northern California. Born in Greenville, S. C. her career took her to NYC, Florida, Washington D.C. A publisher eulogized her, “Allison wrote about a queer, poor South with dynamism and ferocious love. Her books tangoed frankly with historically taboo subjects, like sexual abuse.” She was editor of “Amazing Grace,” a journal featuring lesbian themes. She published books of poetry, notably “The Women Who Hate Me.” Her books of short stories won Lambda Literary Awards and the American Library Association’s Award for Gay and Lesbian Writing. “Bastard Out of Carolina,” her National Book Award-nominated work, was made into a Showtime series in 1986, but it was not aired as Showtime owners objected to graphic depictions of sexual abuse. Another novel, “Cavedwellers,” was adapted for TV in 2004 and was aired. A life packed with talent and accomplishment ends too soon at age 75.

RIP, Ted Olson

People were shocked when a pillar of the conservative Republican legal fraternity, Theodore Olson, became the lead attorney in a case that laid the groundwork for marriage equality. In 2008, he successfully sued to overturn California’s anti-marriage equality ballot initiative, Proposition 8. Olson, age 84, died of a stroke in Washington, D.C., in November. He was the lead attorney in Gore v. Bush, in which the U. S. Supreme Court stopped the election recount in Florida in 2000, giving the presidency to George W Bush. He joined with the opposing attorney in Gore v. Bush, David Boies, to get Prop 8 thrown out. The two created arguments around equal protection and human dignity, which presaged Obergefell v. Hodges at the U. S. Supreme Court in 2015, leading to a ruling for marriage equality. Recruited by actor Rob Reiner to fight Prop 8, his opening statement to the California Supreme Court included, “What Prop 8 does is label gay and lesbian persons as different, inferior, unequal, and disfavored. It says to gays and lesbians, ‘Your relationship is not the same.’ It stigmatizes them. It classifies them as outcasts. It causes needless and unrelenting pain and isolation and humiliation.” Said Olson about his work with Boies and remarrying a woman of the liberal persuasion (Olson’s first wife was a prominent conservative activist who died

in the airplane that hit the Pentagon on 9/11/2001)¸ “It’s important to be surrounded by people who think differently than we do. We don’t learn anything if we surround ourselves with people who think the same way we do.”

Turkey bans Daniel Craig’s stuffing

The country of Turkey banned the exhibition of the new Luca Guadagnino-directed film “Queer,” which features explicit same-sex lovemaking featuring former James Bond star Daniel Craig. This caused the streaming service Mubi to cancel a film festival in Turkey’s capital city of Istanbul. Mubi is the international distributor of “Queer” and planned to screen the film at the festival. The film is based on gay author William S. Burroughs’s 1985 novel of the same name. “We believe this ban is an intervention that restricts art and freedom of expression.” The festival was sold out. U.S. audiences will be able to see Craig in his straight-washing gay sex scenes at the U.S. premier this winter.

Trevor Project note increase in crisis calls

On election day, The Trevor Project saw crisis calls, texts, and chats increase almost 700 percent year-over-year. Non-crisis calls dealing with the election, increased an unbelievable 5,200 percent in the days leading up to the election. A tracking survey conducted for Trevor Project by a market research firm found that 90 percent of LGBTQ+ young people said “their well-being was negatively impacted due to recent politics.” Some $215 million in advertising was spent against the LGBTQ+ community, mostly on “transgender

issues” of girls’ sports, and providing minors pharmaceutical and surgical transgender therapies. The Democratic presidential candidate was portrayed as radical using the tagline, “She is for They/ them. He is for you.”

Senate Wins

Democrat Tammy Baldwin has won election to a third term as a U.S. senator from Wisconsin, and will be the only lesbian in the Senate, unless you count Washington Senator Patty Murray’s bangs. She narrowly won reelection in a state that voted for Republicans in the majority of other races, including the presidential election.

Not just a pretty face

The Eric and Wendy Schmidt Award for Excellence in Science Communications has gone to a novel recipient. Kyne Santos, who appeared on “Drag Race Canada,” is the winner of the award that “honors outstanding communicators who bridge the gap between complex scientific topics and the general public.” The National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine, which sponsors the award, is funded by the U. S. Congress and is composed of private, nonprofit institutions that provide expert advice on STEM issues. Santos is male but performs in female

costume under the drag name “Kyne” and is a TikTok influencer with 1.6 million followers. Santos, a math communicator, has a degree in mathematics from his native Canada’s University of Waterloo. As the over-the-top “Kyne” he uses his drag persona to reach audiences who may shy away from the subject. The awards committee praised Santos’ impact, saying “Through the art of drag, complex scientific concepts are made approachable and memorable, while at the same time challenging stereotypes about who can be a scientist or science communicator.”

STI cases decrease

Sexually transmitted infections have hit record levels practically every year this

century. It seems diagnoses of the three top bacterial STIs peaked with the COVID-19 pandemic. Data for the U.S. aggregated by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention from the states show that from 2022 to 2023, total diagnoses decreased by 2 percent to 2.46 million new cases. Primary and secondary syphilis — the most infectious stages of the infection — dropped 10 percent to 53,000 cases. Gay and bisexual men, usually half of all cases, showed a 13 percent drop in syphilis diagnoses. Overall, gonorrhea declined by 7 percent, following a 9 percent decline the previous year. Chlamydia remained stable from 2021 to 2023, at about 1.65 million cases. We hope it’s safer, not less, sex that’s led to the drop. Q

What this year’s election means to the LGBTQ+ community

In a close race, Donald Trump was reelected president of the United States, securing 277 electoral votes over Democratic nominee Kamala Harris. This pivotal election touched on critical issues, including LGBTQ+ rights, climate change, and reproductive access, with many voters weighing in on the nation’s future direction. Although Harris won a sweeping 86 percent of LGBTQ+ voters, according to NBC News exit polls, the overall result signals potential challenges for LGBTQ+ rights over the next four years.

LGBTQ+ Ballot Wins in New York, California, and Colorado

While Trump’s win raises concerns, there were significant state-level victories for LGBTQ+ rights. In New York, voters passed Proposition 1, amending the state constitution to enshrine protections for transgender and abortion rights. The revised amendment now forbids discrimination based on sexual orientation, gender identity, pregnancy outcomes, and reproductive healthcare, expanding on previous language that prohibited discrimination based only on race, creed, or religion. California voters approved Proposition 3, securing the right to marry regardless of sex or race in the state’s constitution. Similarly, Colorado’s Amendment J removed outdated language that defined marriage exclusively as a union between a man and a woman. These measures reflect a growing recognition of LGBTQ+ rights at the state level, even as concerns grow about federal protections.

Wins for LGBTQ+ Representation in the 2024 Election

Among the most notable wins, Sarah McBride (D-Delaware), Julie Johnson (D-Texas), and Emily Randall (D-Washington) have been elected to the U.S. Congress. McBride, a longtime advocate, brings significant experience in championing transgender rights, while Johnson and Randall have been outspoken on LGBTQ+ and equality issues, promising to push forward inclusive policies for their constituents.

Across the states, LGBTQ+ candidates broke barriers as well. In Texas, Molly Cook was elected to the State Senate, Keturah Herron won a seat in the Ken-

tucky State Senate, and Rashaun Kemp was elected to Georgia’s legislature. In Tennessee, Gabby Salinas won a seat in the state legislature, and Aime Wichtendahl secured a spot in Iowa’s legislature.

Impact of Project 2025 on LGBTQ+ Rights

One of the most pressing questions facing LGBTQ+ advocates is the potential influence of Project 2025, a policy blueprint crafted by the Heritage Foundation, with contributions from former Trump cabinet members. Project 2025 prioritizes policies aimed at reshaping the federal government around what it describes as “traditional American values,” which explicitly includes a “married mother, father, and their children” as the ideal family structure.

that LGBTQ+ advocates argue could make healthcare access especially challenging for transgender Americans. While protections under the Affordable Care Act (ACA) currently prevent healthcare providers from discriminating based on gender identity, Trump’s administration previously attempted to narrow these protections, an effort rolled back under President Biden.

The 2024 election has marked a historic

This $22 million, 900-page initiative seeks to roll back federal policies supporting LGBTQ+ rights and proposes an end to DEI (Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion) programs. According to GLAAD, the plan also includes replacing the Department of Health and Human Services with a “Department of Life” and the Department of Homeland Security with a militarized immigration force, both of which would work to impose restrictive policies on reproductive rights and LGBTQ+ protections.

Although Trump has distanced himself from Project 2025, many of his close allies are deeply involved, leaving advocates worried about potential rollbacks on LGBTQ+ rights and other civil liberties.

Trans Rights and GenderAffirming Care at Risk

Throughout his campaign, Trump indicated plans to limit gender-affirming healthcare by restricting Medicare and Medicaid from covering these services. He also proposed cutting federal funding for hospitals that provide gender-affirming care, moves

moment for LGBTQ+ representation in U.S. politics, with several openly LGBTQ+ politicians winning seats across federal and state governments. These groundbreaking victories signal growing support for leaders who openly advocate for LGBTQ+ rights and bring diverse perspectives to government bodies. Here’s a look at some of the trailblazers elected this cycle:

If healthcare reforms led by Trump and VP-elect JD Vance go forward, advocates warn that this could lead to discrimination against transgender people seeking medical care. Despite current protections under the Health Care Rights Law, legal battles could loom if federal support for LGBTQ+ healthcare rights erodes.

The Road Ahead for LGBTQ+ Advocacy

With a second Trump administration underway, the LGBTQ+ community and allies face a complex landscape of progress and obstacles. State-level protections like those passed in New York, California, and Colorado provide critical safeguards, but the broader national picture remains uncertain. Advocacy groups are already mobilizing, preparing to defend and expand the rights gained in recent years amid an administration that may pose significant challenges to the progress made thus far. Q

Rep. Sahara Hayes, Utah’s only LGBTQ+ legislator, named House Democratic Assistant Whip

Utah’s Democratic Party announced its House leadership team on Tuesday, Nov. 19, including naming Rep. Sahara Hayes (D-Millcreek) as the House Democratic Assistant Whip. Hayes, who represents House District 32, is Utah’s only openly LGBTQ+ legislator and the state’s first openly bisexual lawmaker.

Since her election in 2022, Hayes has emerged as a powerful advocate for LGBTQ+ rights, mental health access, and environmental protection. Her appointment to the Democratic leadership team underscores her growing influence on Utah’s Capitol Hill.

Other leaders named are Rep. Angela Romero, House Democratic Leader; Rep. Jen Dailey-Provost House, House Democratic Whip; and Rep. Doug Owens House, Democratic Caucus Manager.

A native of her district, Hayes grew up in Millcreek and has spent over 20 years serving her community. After graduating from Westminster College, she pursued a Master’s in Public Administration from the University of Utah, where she discovered a passion for public policy

and a drive to create meaningful change. Hayes’ decision to run for office was fueled by witnessing debates on reproductive healthcare and the treatment of transgender youth.

“As the partner of a transgender woman, we grieved deeply when HB11 passed and again when the draft overturning Roe v. Wade leaked,” she wrote in a recent op-ed. “I want to remind the Republican supermajority that the LGBTQ+ community are more than faceless political scapegoats.”

Her commitment to ensuring vulnerable voices are heard has remained central to her work. Hayes led efforts during her first term to expand LGBTQ+ protections and resisted legislative attempts to restrict the rights of transgender Utahns.

Outside of politics, Hayes has dedicated herself to

supporting nonprofits and local governments through grant writing and service. She previously served on the Millcreek Community Council and the Board of Directors for the Utah Cultural Celebration Center Foundation.

In addition to her professional accomplishments, Hayes is a self-described avid reader, hiker, knitter, and aerial arts enthusiast. She lives in Millcreek with her partner, Lily, and their rescue pets.

Hayes’ leadership comes at a critical time for Utah’s LGBTQ+ community. As legislative attacks on LGBTQ+ rights increase, Hayes remains a vocal proponent of equity and inclusion. Her guiding principle, she says, is to ensure public policy prioritizes the most vulnerable.

Her recent electoral success reinforces her popularity and influence. Hayes won re-election with a commanding 75.1% of the vote, defeating Republican challenger Sarah Montes.

As she steps into her new leadership role, Hayes remains focused on her priorities: improving Utah’s education system, protecting the environment, and advocating for LGBTQ+ youth and families.

“We are colleagues,” she reminded her peers in her op-ed. “I want them to have to look me in the eyes when they push policies designed to harm me, my family, and this community.” Q

Rep. Sahara Hayes

Openly gay 19-year-old wins Canyons School Board seat

The newly elected school board member for Canyons School Board District 1 is openly gay and graduated from Hillcrest High School last year. Jackson Lewis, 19, earned over 56 percent of the vote in his first race for political office.

Reaction, Lewis said, has been overwhelmingly positive.

“From the education community, I have received nothing but positivity and excitement about the young perspective that will be coming to the board: he said. “From teachers to district staff, I have been complimented for running and have been told how excited they are to have a young, recent former student’s perspective on the board.”

“From other LGBTQ Utahns, particularly former and current students in my school district, I’ve heard encouragement and excitement about a gay person serving on the board,” he continued. “The words of encouragement from this community really hit hard as I was a closeted kid through the vast majority of my education, and what I heard from my peers who had a similar upbringing is just joy and feeling visible in their community. I have spent the last couple of weeks just in shambles. Whenever someone reaches out, it fills my heart.”

His family was particulary supportive of his candidacy.

“My family has been nothing but supportive this whole campaign season, working with me to campaign and to get the message out, late-night brainstorm sessions, they’ve been there for it all, and they’ve been great,” he said.

Lewis was endorsed by Salt Lake County Mayor Jenny Wilson, Sen. Kathleen Riebe, and Midvale City Council members Dustin Gettel and Heidi Robinson.

The LGBTQ+ Victory Fund, a national organization that provides support for openly LGBTQ+ candidates, and Equality Utah also endorsed Lewis.

He was also endorsed by The Canyons Education Association, Utah Parents for Teachers, the Wom-

en’s Democratic Club of Utah, the Planned Parenthood PAC, and the Utah Democratic Education Caucus.

The lifelong resident of Midvale decided to run after “watching for years as school boards across the country are targeted by anti-education agitators who don’t care if students eat in a day or make it home from school safely,” he told Ballotpedia. “As a school board member, I will put in the work to ensure that every student in the district can walk or bike to school safely and fight tirelessly for an increase in teacher pay and the creation of a per-classroom budget for class supplies.”

His stated top messages for his campaign included access to age-appropriate books, addressing chronic student absenteeism, student pedestrian safety, teacher pay, and a stipend for classroom supplies.

“Every student deserves to have access to information and stories that reflect their lived realities. I, as a student and a young person, benefitted greatly from the selection of age-appropriate and diverse set of stories I was able to access in my schools,” he said. “I would not have developed into the person I am today without the access to critical knowledge that some controversial books brought me. Books like “Night” by Elie Wiesel or “Heartstopper” by Alice Oseman taught me the value of anti-authoritarianism and the value of loving myself and my queerness.”

“Canyons has a history of removing books. In 2021 the titles The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison, Gender Queer by Maia Kobabe, and Out of Darkness by Ashley Hope Pérez were removed from school libraries by the district due

to ‘parental concern.’ These books were ultimately returned to shelves due to backlash and an ACLU investigation.”

Lewis believes books should be evaluated based on the SLAP method, as librarians often did before 2022. Books with “inappropriate themes” that are of value to students may be left on library shelves if the book provides a “serious, literary, artistic, political, or scientific merit.”

“The law established by the legislature breaks these federal standards and requires that all ‘sexual or inappropriate’ themes be removed from libraries,” Lewis maintains.

He also believes there is a need to enhance the curriculum surrounding the Holocaust, saying that learning the warning signs of fascism is essential in modern society.

He has words of encouragement for other younger LGBTQ+ people getting politically and socially involved.

“For those who want to get involved and run, do it. Reach out to me or your county or state Democratic Party, or a local elected official you trust, but do it. Running for something, win or lose, will give you an education in the makeup of your community, how other people’s minds work, how politics and policy work in your area, and will give you a new perspective on the world,” he said.

“Having people run for office who do not fit the typical background or look of an elected official will increase the quality of government for all Americans, so please, for the sake of all our communities and the nation as a whole, get involved. You may choose not to do politics, but politics will ALWAYS choose to do you.” Q

‘Love Fearlessly’ bison to celebrate St. George LGBTQ+ Community

A vibrant symbol of inclusion and love is taking shape in southern Utah as artist Susan Plouzek begins work on the latest addition to Utah Tech University’s Trailblazer Bison art program. Titled “Love Fearlessly,” this rainbow-themed bison is set to be one of the final pieces in the program, which has brightened the streets of St. George for seven years. Since 2017, the Trailblazer Art in the City initiative has brought local artists and businesses together to create stunning bison sculptures, each reflecting unique themes from

first responders to entrepreneurship. However, “Love Fearlessly” stands apart — not only for its bold celebration of LGBTQ+ pride but also for the grassroots effort behind its funding.

A Community-Driven Vision

Previous bison were made possible by large sponsors. “Love Fearlessly” is powered by local advocates and community members passionate about creating a lasting symbol of love and acceptance. Retired nutritionist Carsten Smidt, who spearheaded the project, personally

contributed $4,000 toward the $12,000 estimated cost. A GoFundMe campaign is hoping to raise the remaining $8,000 needed to complete the project, with $6,000 of the goal reached at press time.

“This piece is about inspiring thoughtfulness and embracing the importance of inclusivity,” said Smidt. “It’s a visual reminder to love without judgment and to celebrate everyone for who they are.”

A Bold Message of Inclusivity

Plouzek’s design will feature rainbow circles paired with 20 uplifting phrases, such as “Love is love,” “You are enough,” and “Spread kindness.” For the artist, the project is deeply personal. “We need to have compassion for everyone,” she said. “I believe we’re all children of God, and we should show that compassion in our actions.”

Plouzek has already begun work on the blank fiberglass bison, envisioning a final piece that captures the spirit of diversity and inclusion. If all goes as planned, “Love Fearlessly” will be installed this month outside Encircle, a safe space for LGBTQ+ youth and families in St. George. The bison will stand proudly at the corner of 200 South and 100 East, accompanied by a plaque honoring the “St. George Area LGBTQ+ Community” as sponsors.

Leaving a Legacy

The “Love Fearlessly” bison is part of a series initially planned to include 30 sculptures, making this one of the last. Utah Tech’s Vice President of Communications, Jordon Sharp, noted the unique funding model for this particular project.

“This one wasn’t backed by a big corporate foundation,” he said. “It came to life because a group of community leaders wanted to leave their mark.”

As the fundraising campaign nears its goal, the St. George community eagerly anticipates the installation of this meaningful addition to the city’s artistic landscape. For those looking to contribute, donations can still be made via the project’s GOFUNDME PAGE. Through its bold colors and heartfelt message, “Love Fearlessly” promises to stand as a beacon of love, unity, and hope for years to come. Q

Club Verse officially announces ‘permanent’ closure

The owners of Club Verse, which has been shuttered since September, officially announced they have permanently closed. Rumors swirled when the bar closed that the owners were looking to reopen in an alternative space. “It is with the heaviest of hearts and the deepest sadness that we announce the indefinite closure of Club Verse. Due to circumstances beyond our control — both personal and financial — we have made the difficult decision to permanently close our doors,” a statement posted to social media read.

Co-owner Riley Richter suffered what is referred to as sudden cardiac death syndrome on August 7 while at the Salt Palace. Salt Palace staff members, including a close friend, began CPR and used a defibrillator once before paramedics used it twice more to bring Richter back to life. Richter was

hospitalized for 30 days before being able to go home.

“Our focus has shifted to providing Riley with the best possible care,” Repp continued in the statement. “We have relocated to Colorado, where Riley will receive treatment at the renowned Aspen Valley Hospital Traumatic Brain Injury Clinic. This world-class facility, known for treating X-Games athletes and Olympians, offers Riley the specialized care he needs to recover and thrive.”

“We understand that rumors about our decision may be circulating, but please know this was not made lightly. Riley’s health and well-being are our top priorities, and this move is a necessary step for his recovery,” Repp wrote.

Richter had been involved in Verse and, earlier, the Sun Trapp for decades and was well-loved by his regulars.

“Leaving behind the incredible community that has supported us with so much warmth, strength, and love is truly heartbreaking,” Repp continued. “Salt Lake City will always be home, and we look forward to returning one day to share our journey with all of you.” Q

Riley Richter and Micheal Repp

views quotes

“Can some kind woman in Congress teach Nancy Mace how to close and lock a bathroom stall door when she pees? Sincerely, Americans who would like the House to focus on issues that actually matter.”

—Janice Hough

“Sarah McBride is a man and should use the men’s restroom or a single occupancy restroom. We need a bill like this in #utah. I know of at least one #trans woman (ie, man with mental health problems) who uses the women’s restroom at the Capitol.”

—Goud Maragani

“You know good and well transgender folks aren’t going around raping women. It’s bullshit made up issue and you fucking know it”

—ryanosaurus77

“I’d rather share a bathroom with a trans woman than any space public or private with Gaetz. I’m well over 18 so not his target demographic, but still don’t want to be anywhere near him.”

—CountessGPS

Election Losers: Log Cabin Republicans & Queers for Palestine. Winners: a united community.

BY MARK SEGAL

With parts of our community attempting to tear us apart over the last year and with many now pointing fingers on why we lost the race for president, you might look at the incredible victories and unfortunate losses we had as a community. And one figure says it all and makes a bold statement: we as a community were united while other communities were going south and voting more Republican/Trump then we’ve seen in history. According to exit polls for this election, the LGBTQ+ community voted Democratic at its highest rate in history. In past elections, members of our community voted Republican anywhere between 25 and 33 percent of the vote. This year, with the rise of Log Cabin Republicans fighting for Trump, that group was the big loser as our community voted 88% for Harris and only for 12% Trump. LGBTQ+ people understood the message: Vote for your marriage and your spouse over Trump.

The second loser of the election is “Queers for Palestine.” Supporting any group (Hamas) that would murder LGBTQ+ people is a red flag, but Queers for Palestine’s self-hatred and efforts of disrupting Kamala Harris rallies and Pride events makes them traitors to the LGBTQ+ community. Their voting third party or not voting at all helped elect Donald Trump. And guess what? Just six days after Trump was elected, Israel announced the annexation of the other Palestinian lands, new settlements in the West Bank, and they did it in the name of Trump’s victory. Queers for Palestine took a situation and made it worse for the very people they claimed to support. Thanks to them, more Palestinians will die. Did your privilege and attempt to politically assimilate make you feel good? You have Palestinian blood on your hands.

Another loss was given to us by GLAAD, who with less then a year before the election decided on a major campaign against the New York Times regarding what they stated was bad journalism on trans issues. Battling the Times with billboards, text messages and emails, they took the fight against trans issues to a liberal newspaper. Of course, they

also used it to fundraise for donations, I guess to buy another chandelier for CEO Sarah Kate Ellis’s home office. Do you know where GLAAD should have spent their dollars in support for the trans community? Against Donald Trump. Donald Trump’s campaign spent a whopping $251 million on anti-trans ads, and the tagline was “Kamala’s for they/them. President Trump is for you.” Gee, that’s a real understanding of the media and politics. Trump used the trans community to victory, and GLAAD shook their fist at the New York Times. That’s a disconnect from reality if I ever saw it.

Now to the election victories. Victory Fund announced some amazing elections of our community members, including the brilliant Sarah McBride of Delaware, who became the first out trans person in Congress, Julie Johnson, the first out Southerner elected to Congress, and over a hundred more victorious for judges, city council-members, state senators and more. Congratulations to Victory Fund.

In four of the five swing states with

senators up for re-election, the Democratic senators won, with only Bob Casey in Pennsylvania still undecided.

With that 88% figure I gave you at the top of this column, LGBTQ+ people are the third-largest group of Democratic supporters — with Black women and Jewish women taking the top two slots. So if our message worked, why didn’t the message in other demographics work? Rather than finger pointing, let’s find a message that does work and begin the dialogue that will assure us a victory in four years. And on a personal note, get over the idea of “I’m not going to talk to anyone who voted for Trump.” That’s half the country, and we have no time for that since we need to win some of them over. Being a privileged elite who turns their nose at people with different viewpoints isn’t the way. Q

Mark Segal is an American journalist. He is the founder and publisher of Philadelphia Gay News and has won numerous journalism awards for “Mark My Words,” including best column by The National Newspaper Association, Suburban Newspaper Association and The Society of Professional Journalists.

TheAdvice for LGBTQ people who feel afraid after the election

BY JAMES MARTIN, S.J.

morning after the election, my phone “blew up,” as they say, with Facebook messages, texts, Instagram DMs and WhatsApp messages, after Donald Trump’s victory was confirmed by the major news outlets. Some were from Democratic friends and Kamala Harris supporters, but many were from LGBTQ people — some whom I knew, some whom I didn’t — expressing the same sentiment: fear. I won’t quote directly but in essence people wrote a variation of three things: I feel so afraid today. I’m feeling really hopeless. And worst of all: I’m almost suicidal today. It’s perhaps not surprising.

Senator JD Vance, the newly elected vice president. has a history of anti-LGBTQ rhetoric, including defending the “groomer” smear campaign against Democratic candidates who supported LGBTQ rights. At President Trump’s Madison Square Garden rally, Mr. Trump said, “We will get … transgender insanity the hell out of our schools.” In local campaigns, things might have been even worse. Valentina Gomez, a Republican candidate who lost her bid to become Missouri’s secretary of state, burned LGBTQ-themed books and mocked people who were “weak and gay.” Lieutenant Governor Mark Robinson, running for governor of North Carolina, who called LGBTQ people “filth,” lost the race but won 40 percent of the vote.

Beyond these specific comments, the tenor of the campaign run by Mr. Trump and Mr. Vance—dark, negative and nihilistic, with an undercurrent of “us” versus “them”—frightened many LGBTQ people. And LGBTQ people fear that they are the “them.” A few days ago, one gay man told me that if the Trump/Vance ticket prevailed it would be like the bullies who tormented him on the school playgrounds had won.

Of course not every LGBTQ person feels like this and I’m sure that

some voted for Trump. Still, let me say a few things to my LGBTQ friends who are afraid today.

THERE IS HELP. If you are suicidal or contemplating self-harm, remember there are trained professionals to help you. There are many hotlines that can provide you with professional help, including the Trevor Project, geared towards LGBTQ youth. You can also reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.

REMEMBER YOU HAVE ALLIES. It may not feel that you will have many in the White House or even your State House, but you have allies around you. In difficult times, reach out to a fellow LGBTQ person, a trusted family member, an ally, or a sympathetic priest, brother, sister, pastor, minister, rabbi or imam and be reminded that you are not alone. If you still feel alone, Outreach has dozens of stories of people in the LGBTQ community who have found rich and fulfilling lives.

DON’T DESPAIR . “I feel hopeless today” may seem reasonable to LGBTQ people in the face of the election results, but hopelessness is never coming from God. In his classic text The Spiritual Exercises, St. Ignatius Loyola, the founder of the Jesuits, reminds us that those feelings of “gnawing anxiety” and despair are not coming from God. Hope, on the other hand, is. And if you find yourself “doom scrolling,” trying to mine as many websites as possible for the latest tidbit of information, consider putting down your device and taking a break. Maybe go for a walk or call a friend. This kind of search for news is understandable, especially in uncertain times, but it might simply lead to feelings of further hopelessness.

STAND BY YOUR FRIENDS. If you’re upset, chances are your LGBTQ friends

might be, too. Text them, call them or visit them. Basically, just be with them. Jesuits often call this the “ministry of presence,” which means that you may not be able to change things (an illness or, in this case, the outcome of an election) but you can be with a person in their struggles. Simply having someone by your side (physically, if possible) is a great comfort.

TAKE THE LONG VIEW. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Neither was Stonewall. The move towards greater acceptance for LGBTQ people is often two steps forward, one step back—and sometimes even two steps back. This is the case both in the larger society and the church. PRAY. Recommending prayer may seem like a cheap panacea. As in, “Just close your eyes and connect with God and you’ll feel fine.” But before you feel fine, you may need to be honest with God about how you feel now: afraid, angry, sad or disappointed. Those were all words I heard today. Be honest with God. Speak to God, as St. Ignatius said, “as one friend speaks to another.” Then look for signs of God’s presence around you today.

DON’T BE SURPRISED BY EVIL . Homophobia has been around for a long time and is often used by politicians as a way of setting up, once again, the us-versus-them dynamic, or employing what sociologists call a “moral panic” (that is, a feeling that an “evil,” in this case, LGBTQ people, somehow threatens the well being of society or is poisoning our world). We saw this dynamic play out explicitly during the campaign, with some ads from the Trump campaign and his supporters specifically targeting LGBTQ people, calling members of the community, “they/them.” Mr. Vance sought to instill division even within the LGBTQ community, by claiming in an interview that

he believed he and Mr. Trump would win the “normal gay guy vote,” whatever that means. The “us versus them” trope was of course fought by Jesus himself, for whom there was no “us” or “them,” only us. And whenever he needed to take sides, he sided with the “them.”

DON’T DEBATE WITH FAMILY OR FRIENDS. Many LGBTQ people will have parents or family members who voted for President Trump. There is no need to enter into heated debates while you are feeling at a low ebb. The upcoming holiday season is an especially good time for a “time out” from politics and other controversial matters.

CONTRIBUTE . Do you want to make sure that LGBTQ people are protected over the next four years? Volunteer, contribute or in some way support your favorite LGBTQ group, organization or ministry. They’ll need your help so that they can help others in need.

NEVER GIVE IN . Today’s First Reading speaks of St. Paul pouring himself out for his friends, “like a libation,” or an offering spilled freely on the ground, and invites us to do the same, even when he feels he is in the midst of a “crooked and perverse generation” [Phil 2:12-18]. For more contemporary inspiration, I like something from a biography of Winston Churchill I’m reading — hardly an LGBTQ advocate but we can take heart from some of his indomitable spirit. He was battling Hitler; you’re battling the enemy of homophobia. And so, “Never give in, never give in, never, never, never, never–in nothing, great or small, large or petty — never give in except to convictions of honour and good sense. Never yield to force; never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.” Q

James Martin, S.J., is the founder of OUTREACH, an LGBTQ Catholic resource and the editor at large of AMERICA MEDIA, the Jesuit Review.

Welp,creep of the month

The results of the 2024 election are, well, not good. Unless you’re a bigot. Then they’re great.

BY D’ANNE WITKOWSKI

that happened.

Actually, there’s no past tense about it. Electing Trump is going to have repercussions for years … generations, really.

The United States faced a question about who we wanted to be, and unfortunately, the answer is really ugly. The race was between a well-qualified moderate Black and Indian woman and a racist loudmouth rapist and we made the wrong choice.

Man. The thing about the U.S. is that if you care about people, if you want to prevent harm, if you believe that we have an obligation to help the people who need it most, well, this country continuously breaks your heart.

There are a million post-election breakdowns out there, so you don’t need

another one from me. But I did hear rumbling on the left about voter fraud and, well, no. U.S. elections are safe and secure, and this one safe, secure, and had a horrific outcome. But I understand that doing conspiratorial deep dives into voting machines is easier than accepting that we live in an incredibly racist and misogynistic country that elevates the worst men to the highest levels of power. This is especially hard for white people to grapple with. But grapple we must.

We’re heading into the Nightmare Scenario: A Trump presidency with a majority Republican U.S. House (most likely as ballots are still being counted. Would love to be wrong!) and Senate AND a Republican majority Supreme Court. There are literally no checks or balances, folks. Shit is going to get bad.

Chances that Obergefell v. Hodges gets overturned, undoing marriage equality is high. Hell, this court will probably overturn Lawrence v. Texas (2003), making sex between two people of the same sex illegal again; Romer v. Evans (1996) so that LGBTQ+ people are no longer protected under the 14th Amendment’s equal protection clause; and United States v. Windsor (2013), reinstating 1996’s Defense of Marriage Act that defined marriage as a “legal union between one man and one woman as husband and wife.”

Things are going to get ugly. Well, they’re already ugly. But they’re going to get uglier. Especially for LGBTQ+ kids. Things have been getting worse for years.

“Since Donald Trump’s election in 2016, LGBTQ youth have faced relentless attacks on their rights, attacks that have continued at the state level over the last 8 years, even after Trump left office,” reports Teen Vogue. “Now that Trump — a convicted felon who has also been found liable for sexual abuse — has been elected to a second term, experts and queer and trans youth alike fear these attacks may only get worse.”

There’s something to be said about a group of adults who gang up on a

marginalized population of kids and I promise you that thing is NSFW. But for Republicans, hate is their strategy and after their big win don’t expect them to back off. If you are a young LGBTQ+ person, it’s really important to remember that you’re not alone.

Teen Vogue has a list of resources to help and first person accounts of LGBTQ+ kids reacting to Trump’s election. It’s more than worth a read.

I should note that there were some bright spots to be found in the election results. Democrat Sarah McBride became the first transgender person elected to Congress. Good work, Delaware!

In fact, LGBTQ+ candidates nationwide did pretty well, according to the Victory Fund, an organization dedicated to electing LGBTQ+ candidates.

“Candidates performed very well overall on election night, with historic firsts in many key races and increased representation in the U.S. House and retaining presence in the U.S. Senate,” Sean Meloy, vice president of political programs for LGBTQ+ Victory Fund, told NBC News. “These wins are hopeful, especially as their voices in federal government will be critical under the next administration.” Check out the Victory Fund’s website at victoryfund.org to see who was elected where.

But as they say, hope doesn’t pay the bills. Or pass the bills. But it does make getting out of bed morning after morning a little bit easier.

Remember that a hostile political climate for LGBTQ+ people isn’t new.

“The LGBTQ community has been here before, as have all other marginalized communities,” said GLAAD President and CEO, Sarah Kate Ellis. “We must see this moment of crisis as another catalyst for change,” Ellis said in a statement. “Our community knows how to take care of each other, and how to push our country and world forward.”

Against all odds, we have. And against all odds, we will. Q

D’Anne Witkowski is a poet, writer and comedian living with her wife and son. She has been writing about LGBT politics for over a decade. Follow her on X @MamaDWitkowski.

Overthe

who’s your daddy

My personal gift guide

BY CHRISTOPHER KATIS

past several years, Who’s Your Daddy has offered up some great gift recommendations for the gay and lesbian parents in your life, as well as their kids. Increasingly, these ideas have become more and more difficult to find. But fear not. I’ve dug deep and found a few more suggestions for your favorite LGBTQ families.

STOCKING STUFFERS

For something small to include in the kids’ stockings, why not some of these fun items?

TidalWave Comics has an entire Female Force series, highlighting inspiring women of all sexual orientations. Released this year is an issue focusing on openly queer singer Billie Eilish. Other issues include Rosie O’Donnell, Michelle Obama, Cher, and Caitlin Clark.

PresentlyGoods.com offers cute sets of two dad/two mom wooden peg and fabric doll families. These handcrafted dolls come in all skin tones to reflect real families.

For your favorite mommies, why not go to Etsy to snag a cute picture frame that reads “Double the Moms, Double the Love”?

CLOTHING

What LGBTQ+ parent can’t use another tee-shirt to run around town in – especially if it lets the world know how proud they are of their “non-traditional” family? Both Redbubble and Etsy have several options that will fit that very bill. How about a cool shirt announcing you’re a Proud Parent with the progressive pride flag in the shape of a heart? (This one could be good for supportive straight moms and dads, too!)

What two-dad family wouldn’t rock with shirts declaring “Dad Established (year),” “Papa Established (year),” and a onesie for the baby reminding everyone “Love Always Wins”? There’s also a similar set with “Dad Since (year),” “Papa Since (year),” and a kid’s version announcing “Loved” – all decorated with a colorful rainbow. And let’s not

forget the edgy shirt calling it like it is, “Who’s the Daddy? We Both Are.” Little ones will be looking smart, donning a onesie emblazoned with “Rainbow Parents.” It also comes as a child’s tee shirt. For the older kids, there’s apparel announcing “They’re Both My Real Moms,” “I Love My Moms” (or the dad version) and “I Love My 2 Dads” – all of which come in different styles and colors.

BOOKS

Books are always a great idea, especially for kids! Why not add one of these titles to your shopping list?

LEENA AND HER TWO DADS by Talya Bruck is a family-friendly book about different types of families and includes some questions to foster a discussion.

BATHE THE CAT by Alice McGinty is great for little ones. It details a two-dad family trying to get ready for grandma’s visit and an uncooperative cat!

LET’S GET THIS STRAIGHT: THE ULTIMATE HANDBOOK FOR YOUTH WITH LGBTQ PARENTS by Tina Fakhrid-Deen is an oldie but a goodie for helping tweens and teens navigate a world where not everyone’s parents are straight.

ONE OF THOSE HIDEOUS BOOKS WHERE THE MOTHER DIES by Sonya Sones is the story about a teen girl who has to live with a gay dad she’s never known after, naturally, her mom dies.

I AM A PRINCE by Damien Alan Lopez is the story of a young prince who struggles to share his gender identity with his parents.

The folks at my favorite place to buy books, The King’s English Bookshop, can help you find these titles and suggest many other great ideas, as well. Personally, I think all of these suggestions would make a great gift for the LGBTQ+ parents and their kids you know. But honestly, the very best present you can give them is your ongoing support and love — that’s a gift that never goes out of fashion! Q

HELPFUL SIDE-BAR FOR STORIES

WARNING SIGNS OF SUICIDE

• Talking about wanting to die

• Looking for a way to kill oneself

• Talking about feeling hopeless or having no purpose

• Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain

• Talking about being a burden to others

• Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs

• Acting anxious, agitated or recklessly

• Sleeping too little or too much

• Withdrawing or feeling isolated

• Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge

• Displaying extreme mood swings

The more of these signs a person shows, the greater the risk. Warning signs are associated with suicide but may not be what causes a suicide.

WHAT TO DO

If someone you know exhibits warning signs of suicide:

• Do not leave the person alone

• Remove any firearms, alcohol, drugs or sharp objects that could be used in a suicide attempt

• Call the U.S National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 9-8-8 or 800-273-8255

• Take the person to an emergency room or seek help from a medical or mental health professional

A free, 24/7 service that can provide suicidal persons or those around them with support, information and local resources.

Embracing change — a step forward for UPC guest editorial

BY CHAD CALL, Utah Pride Center Executive Director

Asthe leaves begin to change and the air grows crisp, it’s a season of transformation and new beginnings. I began my career in education, and even though it’s been over a decade since I’ve been in a classroom, each fall, with the start of a new school year, brings an unmistakable sense of renewal and opportunity. It reminds me of a writing from Maya Angelou: “We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.” Change is not something unfamiliar to our community; in fact, quite the opposite, and certainly something the Utah Pride Center has seen plenty of recently. Embracing change is often at the heart of growth, and although difficult at times, as an organization, we are committed to evolving in ways that continue to unite, empower and celebrate our community.

We are thrilled to share that the Utah Pride Center’s weekly programs are in full swing, providing a safe and inclusive space for all who seek connection, support, and education. From youth groups and karaoke nights to educational workshops and social events, our ongoing efforts are made possible through the generosity and support of this incredible community.

In a significant step forward, we recently partnered with students at the University of Utah to open the Student Pride Center. This satellite center

brings critical resources to university students after the University’s response to HB 261 caused the closure of the LGBTQ resource center along with several other centers serving marginalized students. The energy around this new space has been nothing short of inspiring. The Student Pride Center is more than just a location—it’s a beacon of resilience, offering a much-needed haven for students navigating this challenging time. You can donate specifically to support this program here: Student Pride Center Harness Campaign

As we close out our fiscal year this month, we look ahead with anticipation to what the future holds. The start of a new budget cycle is more than just a change of numbers; it’s an opportunity to dream bigger, plan further, and continue building on the strong foundation we’ve laid. Your continued support has been instrumental in helping us offer these vital programs and resources, and for that, we thank you from the bottom of our hearts.

Looking ahead, we are honored to feature a block of the AIDS quilt, which will be on display through the end of the year. This temporary exhibit will include reflections from key members of our community about what the quilt means to them—a powerful reminder of our shared history and resilience.

Thank you for being part of our journey. We look forward to welcoming you to our new space and to another year of growth, advocacy, and celebration. Q

HIV work is about fulfilling the mission, not your ego. Which do you serve?

BY KALVIN PUGH

As I shut my laptop a few Fridays ago, I let out a big sigh. I’d just finished reading an email from an individual whose focus was clearly self-interest, despite writing to me: a person living with HIV and the senior advisor on community engagement at the International Association of Providers of AIDS Care. A million thoughts ran through my mind. Most of them revolved around how exhausted I was from receiving emails like this, as well as doubts concerning how much longer I could stand working in a field that was supposedly about improving the quality of life of people living with HIV and “ending the epidemic” but that increasingly

feels overrun by individuals who are preoccupied with delivering vapid speeches, claiming credit for work completed by others, and posing for selfies.

“How did we lose our way?” I asked myself. “Have we forgotten the point? Can we find our way back to the missions we’ve reduced to empty buzzwords? Is this who we are now?”

It’s no secret to anyone in our field that times are tough. Many organizations are struggling to secure funding, as primary funders of our work are taking their foot off the gas even as we approach the Sustainable Development Goals of 2030. Governments have conflated our field with culture wars — and, therefore, it is ripe for defunding. And the silos we have often spoken against have become cavernous trenches, dividing us further from each other and from what

we claim to be our purpose. WAS IT ALWAYS THIS WAY? NO. It didn’t feel this way when I started working in this field seven years ago. I’d just been diagnosed the year before. During those first 12 months, I struggled like many other people living with HIV do after suddenly finding themselves in an unfamiliar health care environment: making endless appointments, enduring blood draws, and learning to navigate disclosure and stigma outside the HIV world as well as within.

One day, the nurse practitioner who served as my first HIV provider asked how I was handling everything and then noted that despite the personal challenges, I seemed to keep a positive outlook. Being raised by my mother and Dolly Parton, I have always tried to find the silver lining. That silver lining came in the form of a loving thought: “Something good will come of this.”

That thought reminded me of the incredible providers, nurses, and social workers I had met over the course that year — wonderful human beings who served as points of light during a dark time and who were now inspiring me to work alongside them in support of people living with HIV.

I started as a cover for the front desk of a local AIDS service organization (ASO). Providing a friendly face and being of service to those coming in felt good. Soon, one of the ASO’s case managers told me I would make a good peer educator — and there was an opening at one of the ASOs down the street. I applied and got the job. I loved it. I felt excited to jump out of bed every morning, to provide newly diagnosed individuals — as well as those who struggled with their treatment — education and support. I felt I was doing good in the world. Now, I’m not so sure.

WHAT NEEDS TO CHANGE

On a weekly basis, I interact with individuals and organizations that obsess over whose name goes first or who gets credit for what. While I certainly understand the challenges that accompany needing to be recognized for delivering work, I cannot wrap my head around losing focus on the actual work: serving people living with and affected by HIV. It seems that the higher up some individuals get into this field, the further they get from our community, and the greater the divide from our mission.

These days, I am still excited about serving our people, though I am not always excited by interacting with individuals who get in the way of the work. To keep myself centered, as soon as I wake up in the morning, I recite my daily meditation: I ask the universe to use me as a force for good in our divided and troubled world. I think that intention should be the bare minimum for all of us. If we cannot approach this work with the intent to serve humanity and create a better world for everyone, then we have no business shouting slogans, standing on stages, or leading marches. And we cannot serve the mission if we refuse to set our egos aside. At some point, each of us must choose between the two: ego or service.

If you feel like you’re struggling with either, I suggest you take a step back; remember the empathy, integrity, compassion, humility, and purpose that inspired you to join this field; and recommit yourself to making this world a better place for our community. If you can’t, it’s time to get out of the way and make the space for someone else who can serve the mission. Otherwise, we may lose everything we’ve fought for. Q

Kalvin Pugh is an award-winning HIV and human rights advocate who has dedicated his life to improving the lives of people living with HIV. He led the creation of Zero HIV Stigma Day — the first global HIV awareness day since World AIDS Day was established in 1988. Today, Kalvin serves as an independent consultant, writer, and public speaker. This column is a project of THEBODY, PLUS, POSITIVELY AWARE, POZ , Q Syndicate, and QSaltLake Magazine.

2024 Queer Holiday Gift Guide

This year, we are focusing strictly on local LGBTQ-owned gifts. We found a plethora of fabulous offerings that anyone would love to receive. Keep your dollars and support local and queer this year, and feel double-good.

The Conjuring Tree

The gay-owned Conjuring Tree offers handcrafted items designed specifically from natural materials to bring love, light, and laughter into your home and enhance your own brand of magic. The newly expanded store offers rustic home décor in combination with metaphysical supplies. You will find items you’d ex-

pect in a metaphysical store plus more: scented candles, candlesticks, curiosities, athames, Viking drinking horns, incense, herbs, and an assortment of bronze statues from the world-renown Veronese Collection.

Some best-sellers are the variety of Viking drinking horns, mugs, and tankards. Drinking horns have been used across many cultures for over 2,600

years. The buffalo horn was the drinking vessel of the Gods. Thor, the Norse God of thunder, drank from a buffalo horn that contained all of the seas. In Native American culture, horns represent wealth and abundance and are said to offer the energy of survival and the ability to overcome any obstacle.

THECONJURINGTREE.COM, 385-842-3750

Blankets by Brian

BRIAN SEVERSON started BbB after growing up sewing and crocheting with his grandmothers.

Today he makes blankets, fidget blankets (fidget toys), scarves, Santa hats and much more with his grandmother’s WWII Singer sewing machine.

“We only use superior soft faux-fur Minky fabric that make the highest quality products. You must feel my products to fully comprehend this level of luxury.

Our blankets never shed, and can be washed without losing any of their silky-smooth softness. Everything is assembled individually by hand right here in Utah. We offer a blanket for every budget. Amazing deals that ship out in 24 hours from our Outlet Store, and the latest collections featuring new, softer, and heavier fabrics. We can handle every custom request.”

He says his grandmothers would be proud.

BLANKETSBYBRIAN.COM 385-900-8668

FalkenCraft

Since starting in 2021 at an Ogden market, SUMMER FALKENRATH has grown their business to online sales and custom orders. Buttons, jewelry, stickers, keychains, and more. Find where Summer is on FACEBOOK or INSTAGRAM FALCONCRAFT.COM

Anna Bugbee Studio

ANNA BUGBEE is a printmaker based in Salt Lake City, Utah. She draws inspiration from the alpine geography and botanical wonders of the Intermountain West. She does all of the illustration, printing and dyeing herself. She has fine art prints, indigo-dyed textiles like tea towels, and paper goods. You can find her work at The Hive Market in Trolley Square, Salt & Honey Market on 9th&9th, and holiday markets. See her website at ANNABUGBEE.COM

Daydream Doodles!:

A Coloring Book For Adults

COLEEN STEVENS began doodling in Mrs. Siert’s English class in the ’70s, decades before doodling was cool.

This PFLAG mom spent countless hours creating these doodles. Stevens would work through the many emotions and other stresses that arise in life as she drew while cuddling with her husband and chihuahua, or sitting on the front porch enjoying a beautiful Utah sunset or the occasional thunderstorm. She sincerely hopes folks who color her pages experience some healing and comfort as well.

BARNES & NOBLE, AMAZON, DORANCE PUBL., WALMART

Crochet by Q

Q crochets tops, hats, stuffed bees for your cats, and more. Available on consignment at Under the Umbrella and The Village Vintage. See their INSTAGRAM page.

Brian and husband George in BbB scarves

Flight

Deck ‘Fear of Flying’ Flashcards: Your Pocket Pilot for Peaceful Flights

If flying has your gift friend sweating and searching for

the nearest exit, meet Flight Deck: Fear of Flying Flashcards. Co-created by gay Salt Lake City local BRIAN MORRIS, a self-described “former fearful flyer,” and airline Captain Emma Henderson, these flashcards are designed to calm nerves and guide passengers step-by-step through the flight experience.

Inspired by Morris’s lifelong battle with aviophobia, the deck offers reassuring insights for every stage of a journey, from

SLC Underground Sweets

Gina Polidori’s holiday truffle gift tradition blossomed into Salt Lake City’s go-to artisan confectionery. Offering handcrafted chocolate truffles, fluffy marshmallows, rich caramels, and plant-based treats, their sweets are perfect for gifting or self-indulgence. Seasonal delights like peppermint truffles and classic favorites like sea salt caramels dipped in chocolate promise something for everyone. Crafted with premium ingredients and care, these treats deliver pure decadence in every bite. Beautifully packaged and bursting with flavor, she ensures your holidays are extra sweet. Available at UNDER THE UMBRELLA and LEGENDARIUM book stores. Check her INSTAGRAM page.

taxiing to takeoff, turbulence, and descent. “It’s like having a pilot in your pocket,” he said. Morris, who overcame his fears to officiate a friend’s wedding requiring air travel, combined notes from Henderson’s expert advice with his own experiences to create the cards. Each one breaks down common in-flight events like the descent starting 30 minutes before landing demystifying the process and easing anxiety.

Help your friend leave their flight fright on the ground this holiday season at FLIGHTDECK365.COM

The Perils of Petunia Pap Smear

Meet PETUNIA PAP SMEAR : a sassy, brash, low-heeled queen with a heart as big as her wigs and stories as colorful as her sequined breasticles. Born into a conservative Mormon family in small-town Idaho during the Year of the Cock (yes, really), Petunia’s life began with an auspicious start. At just a month old, she was blessed in the ward house—and the very next day, the building was demolished. Coincidence? Maybe. A hint of the fabulous chaos to come? Definitely.

This hilarious and heartfelt memoir chronicles Petunia’s trans-

The 41st Salt Lake Men’s Choir Holiday Concert

A perfect early gift for those who love our community, love Christmas carols, love being in a beautiful church once a year, and love men’s voices in unison. The choir always hears how the concerts finally wrest the “Christmas Spirit” out of them and start the holidays off right. Running Friday and Saturday at 7:30 p.m. and Sunday at both 4 and 7 p.m. at First Baptist Church, 777 S 1300 East, the concerts are sure to be a holiday gift hit. Tickets at SALTLAKEMENSCHOIR.ORG

formation from a sheep-tending Boy Scout to the full-fledged “Ida-Homo” she is today. With wit and charm, she recounts her adventures as a trailblazing member of the LGBTQ+ community, navigating everything from Salt Lake City’s Pride celebrations to performing with the Salt Lake Men’s Choir and co-founding the Matrons of Mayhem.

Petunia’s 16 years as a columnist for QSaltLake Magazine have been distilled into this lively book, filled with her sharp observations, life lessons, and laugh-out-loud anecdotes. Along the way, she

dishes on everything from navigating small-town conservatism to embracing her identity with unapologetic glamour.

Whether you’re looking for inspiration, humor, or just a reminder that life is best lived authentically, The Perils of Petunia Pap Smear is a must-read. Perfect for fans of memoirs that mix irreverence with wisdom, this book celebrates the resilience, joy, and unapologetic fabulousness of being true to yourself.

Get ready to laugh, cry, and cheer for Petunia because her story is as unforgettable as she is. Available in hardback, paper back, and Kindle on Amazon.com

‘Elska Magazine’ issue showcases the lives, bodies, of queer Salt Lake men

Salt Lake City, a city best known worldwide as the heart of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, takes on a new role as the focus of the latest edition of the lifestyle magazine Elska. This special issue offers a candid look at the lives of everyday queer men in one of America’s most conservative states, revealing the city’s surprising queerness and complexity.

Elska is a bi-monthly photography and storytelling publication dedicated to sharing the bodies and voices of men from LGBTQ communities worldwide. Each issue showcases a different city where readers get to know a cross-section of everyday local guys through honest photography and personal stories. One article described Elska as “part intellectual queer pin-up mag and part sexy anthropology journal,” and another as “probably the nicest, most sincere magazine ever.”

“For years, I toyed with the idea of

featuring Salt Lake City, but I struggled to balance the potential pros and cons,” shares Elska editor and chief photographer Liam Campbell. “It’s a fascinating opportunity to explore how gay Utahns navigate life in a place so deeply shaped by the LDS Church. At the same time, I worried about expectations for us to fetishize Mormon men, which isn’t what Elska is about.”

The magazine takes an honest approach, capturing the intersection of queer identity and Mormonism without pandering to stereotypes. “Mormonism played a significant role in this issue,” Campbell explains, noting that themes related to faith, identity, and community appear both in the personal stories and the photography. For instance, some subjects opted to include symbolic imagery, like donning their missionary uniforms in unconventional ways.

This edition introduces readers to 11 queer men from Salt Lake City, photographed both in the vibrant urban environment and among Utah’s iconic mountains and canyons. Their stories are as varied as their surroundings, delving into personal experiences ranging from self-discovery and love to humor and resilience. For the second consecutive issue, all participants embraced vulnerability by baring it all

in their photoshoots — an unexpected twist for a Utah-focused edition.

Highlights include Scott S.’s account of embracing his sexuality with the help of his therapist, Johnny H.’s tale of lively nights out, Daniel R.’s dramatic encounter with a bear in the wilderness, and Ty-

son C.’s story of an unexpected romance sparked by an attempt to extend a party. Alongside the main magazine, readers can explore the companion zine Elska Ekstra Salt Lake City, which features hundreds of additional photos, behind-the-scenes moments, and stories from two more Utah locals. Both the main issue and the companion zine are available in collectible print editions or as digital downloads through the Elska website, with select stockists carrying the magazine worldwide. Q

For a glimpse into the lives of queer Salt Lakers and to see how the city defies and embraces its reputation, visit www.elskamagazine.com.

Annual Holiday Book Gift Guide from The Bookworm Sez

BY TERRI SCHLICHENMEYERE

So you looked at the calendar the other day and ... eeeek. You’re not very far away at all to the holidays and you’re way, too, uncomfortably far away from having everything ready. At the top of your list is fulfilling your Gift List, but you’re out of ideas and now what? How about a book? How about one of these great books.

BOLD BLUE TITLES are links to local bookstores.

Fiction for the LGBTQ+ Reader

If there’s someone on your gift list who’d enjoy a coming-of-age story, “SHAE” BY MESHA MAREN (Algonquin Books, $28) is a good choice to give. It’s a boy-meets-girl tale, but when a pregnancy happens, it spurs bigger changes in their lives than just parenthood.

If a fun little rom-com is what your giftee loves to read, then look for “WE COULD BE HEROES” BY PHILIP ELLIS (Putnam, $20). It’s a light tale of a chance encounter and a friendship that starts out small and becomes pretty super. You might want to wrap it up with “LOVE AND HOT CHICKEN” BY MARY LIZA HARTONG (Wm. Morrow, $30), a sweet, funny story of two Tennessee women, a chicken shack, and amour.

If your giftee loves rom-coms, there are a bunch to choose from this fall. Consider “THE RIDE OF HER LIFE” BY JENNIFER DUGAN (Avon, $17.99), a girl-meets-girl novel of a new ranch-owning horsey-girl and the farrier who disagrees with her ranching ideas.

General Fiction

For the reader who loves a good comedy, “THE BEST WAY TO BURY YOUR HUSBAND” BY ALEXIA CASALE (Penguin, $18) is perfect. It’s the story of four women and one same old story: their husbands have been jerks and it’s time to take matters into their own hands. Pair it with “HOW TO SOLVE YOUR OWN MURDER” BY KRISTEN PERRIN (Dutton, $28), another fine mystery that’ll keep your giftee perfectly entertained.

If there’s someone on your list who loves a good novel with a healthy dose of drama, you can’t go wrong with “VERY BAD COMPANY” BY EMMA ROSENBLUM (Flatiron Books, $28.99), the story of a group of high-level, high-money executives on retreat in Florida. What could go wrong, right? Turns out, plenty Wrap it up with “THE DIVORCEES” BY ROWAN BEAIRD (Flatiron Books, $28.99), a novel set in a midcentury Reno divorce ranch. That thriller-lover on your gift list will be easy to satisfy when you give “SHE’S NOT SORRY” BY MARY KUBICA (Park Row Books, $30), a story of an ICU nurse, a suicidal-now-comatose patient, and secrets that come to light about an almost-deadly accident that was (maybe) no accident. Wrap it

up with “HEADS WILL ROLL” BY JOSH WINNING (Putnam, $30), a novel of a dumb mistake at work made by an actor who’s sent away to deal with her demons. Sometimes, though, the demons are real...

Your vampire lover will want to bite into “SO THIRSTY” BY RACHEL HARRISON (Berkley, $29), a mystery of best friends and secrets with unexpected consequences. Wrap it up with “TINY THREADS” BY LILLIAM RIVERA (Del Ray, $28), a novel of a fashionista and a dream job that turns out to be, well, from you-know-where...

Is there a reader on your list who loves complicated family dramas? Then “APRIL MAY

JUNE JULY” BY ALISON B. HART (Graydon House, $28.99) is the book to wrap. Siblings April, May, June, and brother July Barber are totally separate people with nothing in common, other than that they’re family. When their missing father resurfaces after more than a decade, the family wedding they’re all set to attend suddenly becomes so much more than a family wedding. Wrap it up with “A FIRE SO WILD” BY SARAH RUIZ-GROSSMAN (Harper, $25.99), the story of a wildfire in Berkeley, California, and a group of the city’s residents who must immediately reckon with the lives they’ve built there.

You don’t have to know a thing about St. Paul, Minnesota, to want to read

“MYSTERIOUS TALES OF OLD ST. PAUL” BY LARRY MILLETT (University of Minnesota Press, $24.95). It’s a collection of whodunits set in

the 1890s and features a character you’ll come to love. Wrap it up with “YOU’D LOOK BETTER AS A GHOST” by Joanna Wallace (Penguin, $18), an LOL novel about a killer with an unusual gift: she sees people as ghosts, just before they become one. Also try “THE MESMERIST” BY CAROLINE WOODS (Doubleday, $28), a book of magic based on a real story from the late 1800s.

For the person on your list who is a self-professed lover of Mark Twain’s works, “BIG JIM AND THE WHITE BOY” BY DAVID F. WALKER AND MARCUS KWAME ANDERSON (Ten Speed Graphic, $35) will be a welcome gift this season. It’s a re-imagining of the classic Twain tale, told in graphic-novel format. It’s great for collectors, and teens would love it, too.

Here’s an unusual sibling novel: “PEARLY EVERLASTING” BY TAMMY ARMSTRONG (HarperCollins, $28.99). It’s the story of a bear cub named Bruno, the human sister he was raised with, and the bond of love that overcomes everything when the bear goes missing. Wrap it up with “WE’LL PRESCRIBE YOU A CAT” BY SYOU ISHIDA (Berkley, $25), a cute novel about the “healing power” of cats. Lovers of short stories will enjoy unwrapping “NEIGHBORS AND OTHER STORIES” BY DIANE OLIVER (Grove Press, $27), a collection of tales about racism, Jim Crow, fear, prejudice, scandal, and more. Pair it with “FLOAT UP, SING DOWN” BY LAIRD HUNT (Bloomsbury, $26,99), a collec-

tion about a single day in the life of folks in a small Indiana community.

No doubt, there’s someone on your gift list who loves to be really, really scared and “NIGHTWATCHING” BY TRACY SIERRA may fit on your gift list. It’s a novel about a woman alone with her children during a blizzard, and an intruder who seems awfully, horrifyingly familiar...

Nonfiction for the LGBTQ+ Reader

The person on your gift list who loves memoirs will devour “CACTUS COUNTRY” BY ZOE BOSSIERE (Abrams Press, $27), the story of an eleven-year-old and a new start in which everyone sees him as the boy he is. But life as a trans boy isn’t easy in the beautiful area he’s come to embrace, and neither are the people who surround him. Wrap it up with “THE LONG HALLWAY” BY RICHARD SCOTT LARSON (University of Wisconsin Press, $21.95), a memoir of a boy who identifies with a movie monster who helps him see that hiding parts of himself can help him come to terms with who he is.

For the Trans man or woman on your gift list, look for “THE LAST TIME I WORE A DRESS” BY DYLAN SCHOLINSKI AND JANE MEREDITH ADAMS (Penguin Publishing), a story of abuse, bullying, mental anguish, and a happy ending. This book was first published more than 25 years ago but now has a new, satisfying and joyful ending... Wrap it up with “MAMA: A QUEER BLACK WOMAN’S STORY

OF A FAMILY LOST AND FOUND” BY NIKKYA HARGROVE, the tale of a love, responsibility, and more love.

If your giftee is exploring their sexuality, “FIERCE DESIRES: A NEW HISTORY OF SEX AND SEXUALITY IN AMERICA” BY REBECCA L. DAVIS (Norton, $35) might be a welcome gift. Have we come a long way, in understanding people’s sexuality? Yes and no – your giftee may have ideas about that.

General Nonfiction

Someone on your gift list will love reading “CUNNING FOLK: LIFE IN THE ERA OF PRACTICAL MAGIC” BY TABITHA STANMORE (Bloomsbury, $29.99). Not only is this a history of magic and the magical arts, but it’s a bit of a mini-biography about people who practice the arts.

If you know your giftee well and this year is going to mean big changes, then carefully give “DIVORCE MATTERS” BY KATHY CRISCUOLO BOUFFORD (Square One Publishers, $18.95). Wrap it up with “I DO (I THINK) BY ALLISON RASKIN (Hanover Square Press, $28.99), a book about marriage in the modern world. Together, they’re perfect for the person you know needs them, now or in the near future.

On the other hand, “SOMEHOW: THOUGHTS ON LOVE” BY ANNE LAMOTT (Riverhead Books, $22) is a book filled with hope and words on love. why it irritates us, and why we need it. Wrap it up for the romantic in your life. Wrap it up with “VOWS:

THE MODERN GENIUS OF AN ANCIENT RITE” BY CHERYL MENDELSON (Simon & Schuster, $28.99), a surprising look at the things we say at a wedding, and why we say them.

Is there a lover of Shakespeare on your gift list? Then you absolutely can’t go wrong when you wrap up “SHAKESPEARE: THE MAN WHO PAYS THE RENT” BY JUDI DENCH AND BRENDAN O’HEA (St. martin’s Press, $32). Here, Dame Judi writes about the Bard and the various roles she’s played through the decades, audiences, critics, and more. Your giftee will want it “to be” under the tree, along with “THE WORLD IN BOOKS: 52 WORKS OF GREAT SHORT NONFICTION” BY KENNETH C. DAVIS (Scribner, $29.99), a whole book full of suggestions to carry your giftee into the new year.

The runner in your life will be delighted when “IN THE SPELL OF THE BARKLEY” BY MICHIEL PANHUYSEN (Bloomsbury, $24) is unwrapped. This story of the ultimate ultramarathon challenge is a read as wild as the race itself. Wrap it up with another book about a big sport: “EVEREST, INC.: THE RENEGABES AND ROGUES WHO BUILT AN INDUSTRY AT THE TOP OF THE WORLD” BY WILL COCKRELL (Gallery Books, $29.99). Wrap it up with a warm pair of gloves and a long scarf.

Is there a reader on your gift list who loves history but who’s tired of the same old thing? Then wrap up “PLENTIFUL COUNTRY: THE GREAT POTATO FAMINE AND THE MAKING OF

IRISH NEW YORK” BY TYLER ANBINDER (Little, Brown, $32.50). Why did more than a million of Ireland’s citizens come to America in the mid-1800s? What did they find here, and how did Americans think of the sudden influx of new immigrants? Historians will devour this book; anyone concerned about immigration will, too.

No doubt, the history lover on your list will want “THE HANDY WORLD WAR II ANSWER BOOK” BY RICHARD ESTEP (Visible Ink Press, $29.99). In an easy-to-read, easy-to-browse format, your giftee will get a nice extra peek inside and around the world at the Second World War.

The science-minded person on your gift list will want “TURNING TO STONE” BY MARCIA BJORNERUD (Flatiron Books, $28.99), a book about rocks but also about geology and the wonders of our planet. Wrap it up with “SUBPAR PLANET” BY AMBER SHARE (Penguin Random House, $30), a hilarious book of reviews and ratings of planetary wonders from real people who probably didn’t quite get the whole “nature” thing.

Your proud HBCU grad will love reading “A FORGOTTEN MIGRATION” BY CRYSTAL R. SANDERS (UNC Press, $27.95), a book about racism, segregation, Black colleges & universities, and what American society owes them for decades of education.

Is there an activist for justice on your gift list? Then they’ll be happy to open “MORNINGSIDE: THE 1979 GREENSBORO MASSACRE AND THE STRUGGLE FOR AN AMERICAN CITY’S SOUL” BY ARAN SHETTERLY (Amistad, $28.99), It’s a story of the Klan, white supremacy, racial conflict, and how it fits in with what’s going on in America today. Pair it with “SIDNEY POITIER: THE GREAT SPEECHES OF AN ICON

WHO MOVED US FORWARD” COMPLIED BY JOANNA POITIER, EDITED BY JOHN MALAHY (Running Press, $29). Bonus: This inspiring book is packed with photos.

If there’s a person on your list who’s concerned with ecologically-minded things, check out “THE 15-MINUTE CITY” BY CARLOS MORENO (Wiley, $28). It’s a book about a radical way of planning a new city so it’s walkable, not congested, and greener. Pair it with “ATLAS OF A THREATENED PLANET” BY ESTHER GONSTALLA (Island Press, $35), a book of infographics that make being greener easier to understand.

Everybody – including your giftee – loves a good treasure hunt, and you don’t have to hunt far for “LOST LOOT: CURSED TREASURES AND BLOOD MONEY” BY JIM WILLIS (Visible Ink Press, $22.95). It’s a sometimes-swashbuckling, sometimes just plain fun look at booty, true crime, and possibilities of riches. Wrap it up with “THE HEIRLOOMIST: 100 TREASURES AND THE STORIES THEY TELL” BY SHANA NOVAK (Chronicle Books, $27.99), an absorbing book about random objects, collectors, and the hold that things hold on us.

Your football fan will absolutely want “THE FOOTBALL GAME THAT CHANGED AMERICA” BY DENNIS DENINGER (Rowman & Littlefield, $35). It’s a book about how the NFL’s “Big Game” became the biggest day of football for every fan, whether

they follow the teams playing or not. If your giftee loves basketball, too, then wrap up “GLOBETROTTER: HOW ABE SAPERSTEIN SHOOK UP THE WORLD OF SPORTS” BY MARK JACOB AND MATTHEW JACOB (Rowman & Littlefield, $35), a book about the iconic Harlem Globetrotters basketball team, racism, and the path to become one of the sports’ best-loved teams.

The person on your gift list who’s working on a second chapter will be happy to unwrap “THE ART OF THE INTERESTING: WHAT WE MISS IN OUR PURSUIT OF THE GOOD LIFE AND HOW TO CULTIVATE IT” BY LORRAINE BESSER, PHD (Balance, $30). Based on science and psychology, this book helps your giftee create the best life and be happier and healthier in mind and spirit.

Biography

Did your giftee spend a childhood immersed in books about growing up? If so, they’ll cherish those memories when they read “THE GENIUS OF JUDY” BY RACHELLE BERGSTEIN (One Signal Publishers, $28.99). This biography fills readers in on who Judy Blume was, why she wrote the novels she penned, and how her stories fit in with today’s adolescence, feminism, current events, and literature. Wrap it up with this great biography: “RULEBREAKER: THE LIFE AND TIMES OF BARBARA WALTERS” BY SUSAN PAGE (Simon & Schuster $30). It’s the story of Walters, her times, and her impressive works.

If your giftee is riled by this years’ politics and feminism, then they’ll love reading “A WELL-TRAINED WIFE” BY TIA LEVINGS (St. Martin’s Press, $30). It’s the story of Levings’ life as a wife in a Christian

patriarchy-based marriage, the submissiveness, the expectations, and her ultimate resistance. The right kind of giftee will love this book completely.

The British history lover on your list will absolutely want “THE EAGLE AND THE HART: THE TRAGEDY OF RICHARD II AND HENRY IV” BY HELEN CASTOR (Avid Reader Press, $35). This book takes a deep dive into history, the lives of two cousins, and a shocking assumption to the throne. Pair it with a bookmark and “HENRY V: THE ASTONISHING TRIUMPH OF ENGLAND’S GREATEST WARRIOR KING” BY DAN JONES (Viking, $35), a book about the life and times of this English king in the fifteenth century.

For the person on your gift list who loves music, “HOW WOMEN MADE MUSIC: A REVOLUTIONARY HISTORY FROM NPR MUSIC” EDITED BY ALISON FENSTERSTOCK (HarperOne, $40) is exactly the right gift. It’s a look at female musicians from the 1920s to more recent years, from country music to hip hop to guitar players and beyond. Wrap it up with “I HEARD THERE WAS A SECRET CHORD: MUSIC AS MEDICINE” BY DANIEL J. LEVITIN (Norton, $32.50), a book about music and how it contributes to healing and well-being.

“FRIENDLY FIRE: A FRACTURED MEMOIR” BY PAUL ROUSSEAU (Harper Horizon, $29.99) may be the exact right gift for anyone who loves a unique memoir. Just before he graduated from college, Rousseau was shot in the head accidentally. How he survived, both physically and in the friendship with the man who shot him is the basis of this very well-done book.

The science-minded person on your gift list will be happy to have “THE ELEMENTS OF MARIE

CURIE: HOW THE GLOW OF RADIUM LIT A PATH FOR WOMEN IN SCIENCE” BY DAVA SOBEL (Atlantic Monthly Press, $30). Chances are, your giftee knows exactly who Madame Curie was, but do they know about the women who came after her in the laboratory. This book tells the tale in an engaging, interesting way.

For your fashionista who loves make-up, “BECOMING ELIZABETH ARDEN: THE WOMAN BEHIND THE GLOBAL BEAUTY EMPIRE” BY STACY A. CORDERY (Viking, $35) could be the best gift beneath the tree this year. It’s a sweeping story of a businesswoman, glamour maven, revolutionary, visionary, her work, her times, and the controversy she lit.

Business

For the designer or design student on your list, you’ll want to wrap up “DESIGN FOR A RADICALLY CHANGING WORLD” BY ANDY COHEN FAIA AND DIANE

HOSKINS FAIA (Oro Editions, $70). It’s a heavy, gorgeously-illustrated book full of ideas and works by designers your giftee may know. This is a book they’ll love for years to come.

Everybody knows that work requires a certain sense of humor, right? And so “THE CUSTOMER IS ALWAYS WRONG” BY SCOTT SEISS (Harper Celebrate, $22.99) is a book that’ll help your giftee keep a smile on that overworked face.

Here’s a unique little gift for the businessperson on your list: “PENCIL” BY CAROL BEGGY (Bloomsbury, $14.95). It’s a small book, perfect for a stocking-stuffer, and it’s all about the writing instrument we know, love, and of which about two billion are used by Americans each year.

For the young entrepreneurial couple on your list, “TIGHTWADS AND SPENDTHRIFTS: NAVIGATING THE MONEY MINEFIELD IN REAL RELATIONSHIPS”

Press, $28) may be something they’ll both appreciate. It’s a book that offers advice and a guideline for making sure both finances and love triumph in the end.

The gamer on your list – the one who’s also an entrepreneur – will like to unwrap “PLAYING WITH REALITY” BY KELLY CLANCY (Riverhead, $30). What do games teach us about science, business, and risk? Looking at games from antiquity to AI, this book will tell it.

If the giftee on your list is trying to achieve a good work-life balance, then wrap up “OVER WORK: TRANSFORMING THE DAILY GRIND IN THE QUEST FOR A BETTER LIFE” BY BRIGID SCHULTE (Henry Holt, $31.99). This book will help your giftee understand how some everyday tasks are considered “work” and how such unpaid jobs can contribute to your happiness. Wrap it up with “DIRECTIONAL LIVING: A TRANSFORMATIONAL

We Help You Help.

When you help care for a loved one, you take care of ever y thing . But are you taking care of yourself?

AARP can help with information and useful tips on how you can maintain a healthy life balance, care for your own physical and mental well-being, and manage the challenges of caring for a loved one. Because the bet ter care you take of yourself, the bet ter care you can provide for your loved one. You’re there for them. We’re here for you.

Find free Care Guides to suppor t you and your loved one at AARP.org /caregiving

WORK AND LIFE” BY MEGAN HELLERER (Penguin Life, $29). The subtitle says it all.

For the person who loves their job but struggles with the workplace, “TOXIC PRODUCTIVITY” BY ISRAA NASIR, MHC-LP (BRIDGE CITY Books, $19.99) might help. It’s a book about overcoming stress and pressure at work and how to become a healthier employee, mentally.

Politics

Was your giftee dismayed at the political landscape for the past few years? Then “GOOD REASONABLE PEOPLE” BY KEITH PAYNE (Viking, $29) should be the book you wrap up to give. There is a way back to unity and away from polarization, Payne says, and with an explanation of the psychology and behind it, it’s do-able.

Be sure you know where your giftee’s politics lie if you wrap up “THE MAGA DIARIES” BY TINA NGUYEN (One Signal Publishers, $28). Nguyen cut her teeth in the conservative movement, though she never felt entirely comfortable there. Eventually, she needed to get out; how she did it is a story the right giftee will love.

The person on your list who’s mourning the end of the political season, will be happy to get “THE HANDY CIVICS ANSWER BOOK: HOW TO BE A GOOD CITIZEN” BY DAVID L. HUDSON, JR. J.D. (Visible Ink Press, $29.99). It’s a large, heavy book about our American documents, the Amendments they should know about, what it means to be a “good citizen,” and more.

Remember the Reagan years? For your giftee that does, too, “DEAR MOM AND DAD” BY PATTI DAVIS (Liveright, $27.99) will be a great gift to unwrap. Davis, of course, was the Reagan’s daughter, and this love letter to family and country is perfectly

appropriate this year. Wrap it up with “WOODROW WILSON: THE LIGHT WITHDRAWN” BY CHRISTOPHER COX (Simon & Schuster, $34.99), a hefty biography about a “superbly unsuited” man who nevertheless became our 28th President.

Here’s a political issue your activist will want to know more about: “THE STOLEN WEALTH OF SLAVERY: A CASE FOR REPARATIONS” BY DAVID MONTERO (Legacy Lit, $29). Part history, part business, part eye-opener, this book is one of the better looks at this controversial subject.

True Crime

If there’s a true-crime lover on your list, you can’t go wrong with “KILLER MOMS: TRUE STORIES” BY AMANDA R. WOOMER (Visible Ink Press, $22.95). These stories will chill you, they’ll fascinate you, and they’ll keep you up at night. And for more up-all-night gifting, “Children of Darkness and Light” by Lori Hellis (Pegasus Crime, $28.95) will fill the bill nicely. It’s the further story of Lori Vallow, Chad Daybell, and the murders of Vallow’s two children.

The reader on your list who loves unusual peeks into the lives of crimesolvers will devour “CLAY AND BONES: MY LIFE AS AN FBI FORENSIC ARTIST” BY LISA BAILEY (Chicago Review Press, $28.99), a memoir by the FBI’s first female forensic sculptor, the job, and the crimes she’s helped to solve.

Pets and Animals

For the dog lover on your gift list, “RETHINKING RESCUE” BY CAROL MITHERS (Counterpoint, $28) will be a welcome present. It’s the story of Lori Weise, Los Angele’s “Dog Lady,” who helps pets and their owners in the city’s poorer neighborhoods. It’s also a basic history of animal rescue and activism.

Is there someone on your gift list who’s wild about animals? Then “MEET THE NEIGHBORS: ANIMAL MINDS AND LIFE IN A MORE-THAN-HUMAN WORLD” BY BRANDON KEIM (Norton, $29.99) will make a great present under the tree. It’s a look at wild animals and the ways they’re not quite so different from us. Pair it with “EARTHLY BODIES: EMBRACING ANIMAL NATURE” BY VANESSA CHAKOUR (Penguin Life, $20), another, differently nuanced book about animal and human behavior.

The grieving pet owner on your list may like “I’M STILL HERE: A DOG’S PURPOSE FOREVER” BY CATHRYN MICHON (Andrews McMeel, $19.99). It’s a story as told by a dog who crossed the Rainbow Bridge, but never really leaves. Hint: Wrap it up with tissues.

If you have a cat lover on your gift list, “CATS OF THE WORLD” BY HANNAH SHAW AND ANDREW MARTTILLA (Plume, $32) will be exactly the right thing to wrap. It’s filled with stories and photographs of cats, cats, kittens, and owners, taken from around the world.

Health, Self-Help & Wellness

There are several kinds of people on your gift list who’d like to read “THE LONG HAUL: HOW LONG COVID SURVIVORS ARE REVOLUTIONIZING HEALTHCARE” BY RYAN PRIOR (MIT Press, $24.95). Absolutely, nurses will want it. Former Covid-19 patients will want it. Any current sufferers of Long Covid will absolutely want to see it. Wrap it up with a book that might help them: “SOOTHE: RESTORING YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM FROM STRESS, ANXIETY, BURNOUT, AND TRAUMA” BY NAHID DE BELGEONNE (Penguin Life, $19), a book that explains where emotions are from, where the body stores them, and how you

can self-soothe when things get really bad.

The insomniac on your gift list will be so happy to unwrap “SLEEPLESS: UNLEASHING THE SUBVERSIVE POWER OF THE NIGHT SELF” BY ANNABEL ABBS-STREETS (Putnam, $28). It’s a book about neuroscience, creativity, and learning to harness our “NIGHT SELVES.” WRAP IT UP WITH “THIS IS WHY YOU DREAM” BY RAHUL JANDIAL, MD, PHD (Penguin Life/ Viking, $29) and a gift certificate for a nice warm glass of milk.

If there’s someone on your gift list who loves to read True Medical stories, then “A FATAL INHERITANCE” BY LAWRENCE INGRASSIA (Holt, $29.99) is the one to give. It’s the story of Ingrassia’s family, loss, and a legacy of cancer that seems more than coincidental. It’s also the tale of the doctors whose research helps unlock the key for families prone to cancer.

For the medical-minded person who’s also concerned about justice, wrap up “MADNESS: RACE AND INSANITY IN A JIM CROW ASYLUM” BY ANTONIA HYLTON (Legacy Lit, $30). On a random day in March of 1911, a dozen Black men were forced to build a hospital for “the Negro Insane.” This is the tale of that segregated hospital and the people who were sent there. Wrap it with “FACING THE UNSEEN” BY DAMON TWEEDY, M.D (St. Martin’s Press, $30), a book on mental health care for anyone who needs it.

Your giftee loves to read True Medicine stories, so “GRAY MATTERS: A BIOGRAPHY OF BRAIN SURGERY” BY THEODORE H. SCHWARTZ (Dutton, $32) is the book you want to give. It’s the story of one man’s career, yes, but your giftee will also learn that reading is not brain surgery.

Delicious & Ready to Ship

4 Fruit Varieties & Snacks to Share!

Treat a special friend, teacher, neighbor or co-worker to a personalsized sampling of Pittman & Davis’s most loved fruits and sweets. This affordable gift box introduces your recipient to our famous premium fruit. They won’t find fruit like this in their grocery store! Along with our farm-fresh fruit we’ve included artisan baked goods & crunchy snacks perfect for sharing. This small gift packed with big flavor will make anyone feel special!

Satisfaction completely guaranteed. Order by December 15, 2024 for GUARANTEED Christmas delivery. Limited time offer, good while supplies last. Not valid with any other offer. Limit 5 boxes per customer.

• 1 Navel Orange

Seedless with bright, sparkling flavor

• 1 King Comice Pear

Juicy, sweet pears with creamy, velvety texture

• 1 Rio Ruby™ Red Grapefruit

Fragrant, juicy and flavor packed

• 1 Fuji Apple

Crisp, juicy and extra-sweet

• 2.5 oz. Gourmet Chocolate Chip Cookies

Crunchy, sweet and delicious

• 5 oz. Honey Roasted Peanuts

Savory, sweet and perfect for snacking

Death & Dying

So books on death might not seem like a great holiday gift, but the right reader will be comforted by “OTHER PEOPLE’S WORDS” BY LISSA SOEP (Spiegel and Grau, $27). After losing two close friends, Soep realized that the things we said once (or didn’t say) are with us inside memories that we keep. This is a good and gentle book for the person who needs it most. Wrap it up with “GRIEF IS FOR PEOPLE” BY SLOANE CROSLEY (FSG, $27), the story of a suicide and a lost friend.

The person who wants to live as authentically as possible in order to understand death will want “BRIEFLY PERFECTLY HUMAN” BY ALUA ARTHUR (Mariner, $28.99), a book on being a better human now, so there are no regrets. So what will you do with life, then, hm?

For the grieving parent, “FI” BY ALEXANDRA FULLER (Grove Atlantic, $28) might be a comfort. It’s a memoir of Fuller’s son, and the unimaginable losses she suffered not long ago when he died shortly after Fuller lost her father, her home country, and a relationship she treasured. Pair it with GAIL GODWIN’S “GETTING TO KNOW DEATH” (Bloomsbury, $26.99), a book about loss and surviving it.

For the person who wonders why we must leave this world, “WHY WE DIE” BY VENKI RAMAKRISHNAM (Wm. Morrow, $32.50) offers plenty of science to explain. Why do we die, and why can’t we live forever – or, at least a whole lot longer? The scientist on your list will want to read this book to find out. Wrap it up with “THIS ORDINARY STARDUST: A SCIENTIST’S PATH FROM GRIEF TO WONDER” BY ALAN TOWNSEND (Grand Central, $29) for another scientific look at healing.

The grieving person on your gift list may not feel so festive,

which is why “CONSCIOUS GRIEVING: A TRANSORMATIVE APPROACH TO HEALING FROM LOSS” BY CLAIRE BIDWELL SMITH, LCPC (Workman, $19.99) may be a welcome gift. This book helps make sense of a time that has no sense inside it. Wrap it up with “THE WET WOUND: AN ELEGY IN ESSAYS” BY MADDIE NORRIS (University of Georgia Press, $23.95), a book on the pain of grief.

Even at the holidays – especially at the holidays – loss can feel especially keen. Your giftee may appreciate opening “NEARDEATH EXPERIENCES: AFTERLIFE JOURNEYS AND REVELATIONS” BY JIM WILLIS (Visible Ink Press, $22.95), a scientific look at what happens when the worst almost happens, and how science and religion tie together with this issue.

Younger Kids

Here’s a book that the littlest kid will love, as long as Mom and Dad are on-board: “DIGGING INTO NATURE” BY POOJA SARIN TANDON, MD, MPH, FAAP, AND DANETTE SWANSON GLASSY, MD, FAAP (American Academy of Pediatrics, $19.95) With this book in hand, adults can create and cultivate a love of the outdoors for their toddler and preschooler. The activities are easy to do, fun, and kid-friendly.

If there’s someone in your family who’s gay, lesbian, or trans and your littlest giftee has questions, wrap up “HOORAY FOR SHE, HE, ZE, AND THEY!” BY LINDZ AMER, ILLUSTRATED BY KIP ALIZADEH (Simon & Schuster, $18.99). It’s a book that explains pronouns in a way that kids can understand. Also try “GORGEOUSLY ME!” BY JONATHAN VAN NESS, ILLUSTRATED BY KAMALA NAIR (Penguin Flamingo, $19.99), a book about everybody being their awesome, fabulous selves; and “ THE RAINBOW PARADE” BY SHANE JORDAN AND RICK HENDRIX, ILLUSTRATED BY

JIETING CHEN (Sourcebooks Jabberwocky, $18.99), a book full of Pride.

And for the little dog-lover on your list, you can’t go wrong if you give “BROWNIE THE WAR DOG” BY KELLY NELSON, ILLUSTRATED BY AARON BOYD (Wisconsin Historical Society Press, $17.95), the story of a brave dog who served in World War II. And if there’s a dog missing in your little one’s life, pair it with “FIND MOMO EVERYWHERE” BY ANDREW KNAPP (Quirk Books). It’s the story of love, loss, and remembrance.

Kids Ages 9–13

The adventurous giftee on your list will want to read “MOKO MAGIC: CARNIVAL CHAOS” BY TRACEY BAPTISTE (Disney Hyperion, $17.99), a kids novel about three cousins who learn one day that they have super powers that can protect their Brooklyn community. It’s a fun book and it’ll tickle your child’s imagination.

Kids who love the ocean will love receiving “SUPER OCEAN WEEKEND” BY GAELLE ALMERAS (Greystone Kids, $21.95). Part fiction, part authentic science, it’s the just-right gift for the kid who loves marine life, too. For the kid who loves astronomy, too, look for “A KID’S GUIDE TO THE NIGHT SKY” BY JOHN A. READ (Sourcebooks, $16.99)

The young dog lover on your gift list will truly enjoy getting “WALKIN’ THE DOG” BY CHRIS LYNCH (Simon & Schuster, $17.99), the story of Louis, who’s about to enter public school for the first time, after having been homeschooled for years. Fortunately, to distract him from the drama, he takes a job walking the neighbor’s dog but that drama is never too far away...

Young Adult / Teen Readers

If there’s a young fantasy lover on your gift list, “ THE STRANGE TALES OF OSCAR ZAHN: VOLUME ONE” BY TRI VOUNG (Ten Speed Graphic, $26.99) will fit their wish list. Oscar Zahn is a paranormal investigator with a strange assistant and their beat runs across several times and places. Told in graphic novel form, it’s a book teens will love.

Readers who thrilled to the Eragon series will absolutely want to see “MURTAGH” BY CHRISTOPHER PAOLINI (Knopf, $29.99) under the tree this year. Featuring one of the series’ best-loved characters, it’s got your dragons, your battles, and your magic. What more could a reader want?

For the teen who loves a book with a little bit of creepiness to it, wrap up “RUIN ROAD” BY LAMAR GILES (Scholastic, $19.99). Cade Webster is a football star, but he’s also got powers that are welcome at first... but not forever. Wrap it up with “MRBALLEN PRESENTS STRANGE, DARK & MYSTERIOUS” BY MRBALLEN, ILLUSTRATIONS BY ANDREA MUTTI (Ten Speed Graphic, $24.99), a book of short, scary stories told in graphic-art format.

For the teen who likes a feelgood story with a touch of hope, “NOT NOTHING” BY GAYLE FORMAN (Aladdin, $17.99) will be a welcome gift. It’s the story of a 12-year-old who’s done something “very very bad” and he’s sentenced by a judge to spend his entire summer volunteering at a retirement home. When he meets a man who’s nearly nine times his age, well, your giftee won’t be able to put this book down.

And now for the housekeeping: things change. Prices might go up or down. Authors might change. Covers might change. Books are no longer written on stone tablets, so beware.

Salt Lake City native Rio Cortez celebrates women’s history with a groundbreaking new book

From the bestselling creators of “The ABCs of Black History” comes a vibrant and empowering follow-up that celebrates the women who’ve shaped history — and those continuing to redefine the future. Written by National Book Award nominee and Salt Lake City native Rio Cortez, with illustrations by Lauren Semmer, this new picture book puts the

spotlight on the diversity of women who have blazed trails, broken barriers, and changed the world.

The book brims with powerful themes, from A for Artists and Activists to G for Groundbreaking women and L for Labor and Librarians. It highlights pivotal moments in history, such as Kamala Harris becoming the first Black and Asian-American

Review of Books and Mother Magazine. She is a fellow of Poet’s House, Cave Canem, and CantoMundo and currently resides in Harlem, New York. Cortez’s unique perspective as someone raised in Utah informs her storytelling, grounding it in resilience, community, and a love for social justice.

vice president of the United States, the passage of Title IX, and the Seneca Falls Convention. Alongside these moments, readers will also learn about cultural movements like Riot Grrrls, which brought feminist punk to the forefront.

A special focus is placed on the contributions of Black women, brown women, transwomen, and other often-overlooked changemakers who’ve paved the way for greater equity and inclusion.

Semmer is a dynamic artist and designer whose bright, playful style brings Cortez’s words to life. A trained fine artist with a background in art history, Semmer’s work has appeared on children’s apparel, wall art, and in a variety of books. She lives in

Manhattan with her family.

“This is a book that uplifts not only the history of women but also the rich diversity of those histories,” says Cortez. “It’s about showing young readers that the fight for progress is ongoing and that they, too, can play a role.”

A Salt Lake City native, Cortez is a celebrated writer and Pushcart-nominated poet whose work has appeared in outlets like The Los Angeles

This inspiring picture book isn’t just a must-read for children — it’s a celebration of the stories that connect us all. From Utah to Harlem, from the Seneca Falls Convention to the vice-presidential inauguration, Cortez and Semmer remind us of the power of women’s history and the importance of continuing to write the future. Q

Look for the book at local bookstores or online..

REVIEW BY TERRI SCHLICHENMEYER

Low-Hanging Fruit: Sparkling Whines, Champagne Problems, and Pressing Issues from My Gay Agenda

BY RANDY RAINBOW, C.2024, ST. MARTIN’S PRESS, $28, 224 PAGES

Whine, whine, whine.

You got something to say, say it. Got an opinion? The world is waiting. It doesn’t do any good to mutter, sputter or whine when something’s bothering you. As in the new book, “Low-Hanging Fruit” by Randy Rainbow, take it to the complaint department.

Randy Rainbow has a lot to say, and he’s not afraid to say it.

For starters, he’s “resigning from trying to fix you, effective immediately.” Any boneheaded thing you want to do now, whatever. Nothing is his responsibility anymore. He has other issues to worry about.

“The truth is,” he says, “I have a lot of complaints about a lot of things.”

There are right ways of doing things,

q scopes

DECEMBER

BY SAM KELLEY-MILLS

ARIES March 20–April 19

You are feeling the spirit of winter on the horizon, and it’s making you excited. Give in to the temptations to have a good time and put all your worries aside. Bounce back in style!

TAURUS Apr 20–May 20

What you want is hard to find but not out of reach. Keep your search broad and wide and be willing to dive deep. The path to success is paved with good ideas, so get to work now.

GEMINI May 21–June 20

Nobody is worth losing your mind over, unless it’s one you care about. Don’t let go of what defines you, but be open

the bookworm sez

he says, and there are wrong ways and we just all really need to know the difference – especially if you’re a “Karen.” Now, he’s compassionate if you were born with that name, but not too much.

“I’m a flamboyant homosexual who’s lived my entire life with the name Randy Rainbow, so you’ll get little sympathy from me in this department.”

Other than that, you may wonder what Rainbow’s (ahem) “position” is: he’s actually thinking about running for President as a member of “a Rainbow coalition…” He doesn’t have much experience, but he says if there’s one thing we’ve learned in the past few years, it doesn’t matter at all. He stands on a green platform, but he can’t ban fluorocarbons because, you know, the hair thing and all.

Rainbow misses his twenties, oldschool dating sites, hooking up., and his former attention span. He waxes nostalgic about the places he’s lived, including an apartment overlooking a “fruit market.” He wonders why teenagers are suddenly “successful lifestyle gurus.” He hates it when “stars begin losing their luster,” and he wishes again for actors like Hayworth and Garbo. But, he says, “Diva-complaints aside… I really do thank God for all

to expanding your horizons with a friend or loved one. It’s fun!

CANCER June 21–July 22

Regarding an important task, stay focused. This is a perfect time to get finances in order and get career goals back on track. Even if you don’t have a plan, the path to victory is clear.

LEO July 23–August 22

There could be confusion with family and friends regarding your desires. Spell out what is important and be willing to be in charge. At the end of the day, you thrive when you provide.

VIRGO August 23–Sep 2

The phrase “better late than never” doesn’t mean taking forever. If something is important, make the time. Even if you aren’t quick, move toward your goals. It will make you happy.

the opportunities I’m given.”

So the Elephant in the Room right now might be one you’ll (never?) vote for, but you know that author Randy Rainbow will reliably skewer that political animal online, hilariously. The fun-poking continues in the most deliciously snarky way in “Low-Hanging Fruit.”

And yet, that’s not the only subject Rainbow tackles. Readers who love catching his posts and videos are treated here to a random string of observations, opinions, and rants-not-rants with the signature sassy style they’ve come to expect. What you’ll read can be spit-out-yourwine funny sometimes, and other times it touches a nerve with nods toward culture, new and old, that’ll make you nod with recognition. Nothing in Rainbow’s path goes without sharp-edged comment, which is exactly what you want from his books. Unexpectedly, this one also includes a soft word or two and a few slight confessions that are gentle and that might even make you say, “Awwwwww.”

If you’re ready for something snide and cynical that’ll make you laugh, something that you’ll want to read aloud to a companion, “Low-Hanging Fruit” is what you need. Look for this book now, and you’ll have no complaints. Q

LIBRA Sept 23–October 22

With the holiday season coming, you want to get going. A party or focus on fun times will drive you forward. Decide what you want, or you’ll overload. It’s all about quality, not quantity.

SCORPIO Oct 23–Nov 21

Bring good memories to your social gatherings instead of keeping them locked in the vault of your heart. You might hear some great stories in return. Party interactions are a game changer!

SAGITTARIUS

Nov 22–December 20

Whatever the cause may be, you’re feeling a ton of pressure. Relieve it by letting go of a few burdens and replacing them with important lessons. An open mind is the key to a lighter heart.

CAPRICORN

Dec 21–Jan 19

The temptation to be defiant could get you into trouble, but you’re up for the challenge. Make sure to show sensitivity even when others seem capable of handling your demands. It’s important.

AQUARIUS Jan 20–Feb 18

The cost to your peace will be challenged by an annoying friend. Keep your distance and practice diplomacy. If words don’t work, actions might have to be adjusted. Tough love works.

PISCES Feb 19–Mar 19

The emotional support you provide is appreciated by someone in your life. Make a point to give time and space and be the support you desire to be. In the end, giving is better than receiving.

Kyle’s Bed & Breakfast

1 Erection, in slang

5 Former Trump portrayer Baldwin

9 Load of money 13 Fruit of the 14 Room for Frida 15 Rainbow, to some 16 Start of a quote from Randy Rainbow’s “The Lawyer or the Conman”

19 Cinnamon trees

20 Kicks out to the street

21 It makes watching porn harder

22 Real babe

23 More of the quote 26 Broadway request for Kate

31 “The Bathers” painter

32 More of the quote 34 Muscle Marys pump it 35 Prefix with political 36 “Faboo!”

37 Where one sleeps with privates

38 Chicken coop raiders

by Greg Fox

40 Asked for on bended knee

41 Tin Woodsman’s tool

42 More of the quote 44 Threesome for Michelangelo

45 Brings on 46 London label

48 Condition of affairs

50 Didn’t skip

53 End of the quote

56 What a boy scout takes

57 Like love, for some

58 Goes down on

59 Parker of “South Park”

60 Mind the bar

61 Animal groups that cruised with Noah

1 Voting group

2 Sometime Capote associate Chaplin

3 Naysayers’ words 4 Nocturnal releases 5 Ore analyst

6 Returns to homophobia, e.g.

7 Thornton Wilder, for one

8 Insertion indicator

9 How lovers lie

10 Apple that isn’t a fruit

11 Fasting time 12 “All’s Well That Well” 17 Capone colleague 18 Cause to come out

23 Susan in “All My Children”

24 Big name in nonheterosexual reproducing

25 100 smackers

27 “Brady Bunch” prefix

28 Auxiliary to King James

29 Online stat exaggeration?

30 Lose ground

32 Sends a selfie, for example

33 Gardening tools for prostitutes?

35 Become less able to penetrate

38 Egyptian king until 1952

39 Took the wheel

42 The Eagles’ “___ Woman” 43 Potent leader? 45 Like Beard’s cuisine

“Does any better than this?”

BUSINESS

LGBTQ+ Affirmative

Therapists Guild

 lgbtqtherapists.com

* jim@lgbtqtherapists.com

Utah LGBTQ+ Chamber of Commerce

 utahlgbtqchamber.com

* info@utahgaychamber.com

Utah Independent Business Coalition

 utahindependentbusiness.org

801-879-4928

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

National Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-799-7233

YWCA of Salt Lake

 ywcautah.org

322 E 300 S 801-537-8600

HEALTH & HIV

Planned Parenthood

 bit.ly/ppauslchiv

654 S 900 E 801-322-5571

Salt Lake County Health Dept STD Clinic

 slco.org/health/ std-clinic/

610 S 200 E, 2nd Floor

Walk-ins M-F 8a-5p Appts 385-468-4242

UAF Legacy Health

 uafhealth.org

150 S 1000 E 801-487-2323

Weber-Morgan Health

Mon., Weds 1-4:30p 477 23rd St, Ogden Appt 801-399-7250

HOMELESS SVCS

VOA Homeless Youth Resource Ctr, ages 15—21

880 S 400 W 801-364-0744

LEGAL

Rainbow Law Free Clinic

2nd Weds 6-7:30pm Olpin Student Union, Panorama East probono@law.utah.edu

POLITICAL

Equality Utah

 equalityutah.org

* info@equalityutah.org

376 E 400 S 801-355-3479

Utah Libertarian Party

129 E 13800 S #B2-364 libertarianutah.org 866-511-UTLP

Utah Stonewall Democrats

 utahstonewalldemocrats.org

 fb.me/ utahstonewalldems

SPIRITUAL

First Baptist Church

 firstbaptist-slc.org

11a Sundays

777 S 1300 E 801-582-4921

Mt. Tabor Lutheran Church

10:30a Sunday worship

175 S 700 E 801-328-0521

 mttaborslc.org

Sacred Light of Christ

 slcchurch.org

823 S 600 E 801-595-0052

11a Sundays

The Divine Assembly

 thedivineassembly.org

10am Sunday worship

389 W 1830 S, 11am meditation, 12pm 532 E 800 N, Orem SOCIAL

Alternative Garden Club

 utahagc.org/clubs/ altgardenclub/

1 to 5 Club (bisexual)

 fb.com/ groups/1to5clubutah

blackBOARD

Men’s Kink/Sex/BDSM education, 1st, 3rd Mons.

 blackbootsslc.org

blackBOOTS Kink/BDSM

Men’s leather/kink/ fetish/BDSM 4th Sats.

 blackbootsslc.org

Dudes Movie Night

Fourth Thursday Dinner and Social fb.com/ groups/312955669422305/

Mindfully Gay

 mindfullygay.com

OWLS of Utah (Older, Wiser, Lesbian Sisters)

 bit.ly/owlsutah

qVinum Wine Tasting

 qvinum.com

Seniors Out and Proud

 fb.me/soaputah

* info@soaputah.org 801-856-4255

Temple Squares Square Dance Club

 templesquares.org

801-449-1293

Utah Bears

 utahbears.com

 fb.me/utahbears

* info@utahbears.com

6pm Weds Beans & Brews

906 S 500 E

Utah Male Naturists

 umen.org

 fb.me/utahmalenaturists

* info@umen.org

Utah Pride Center

 utahpridecenter.org

* info@utahpridecenter.org

1380 S Main St

801-539-8800

Venture OUT Utah

 bit.ly/GetOutsideUtah

SPORTS

Cheer Salt Lake

 cheersaltlake.com

QUAC — Queer Utah

Aquatic Club

 quacquac.org

* questions@ quacquac.org

Salt Lake Goodtime

Bowling League

 bit.ly/slgoodtime

Stonewall Sports SLC

 fb.me/SLCStonewall

 stonewallsaltlakecity. leagueapps.com 385-243-1828

Utah Gay Football League

 fb.me/UtahGayFootballLeague

Venture Out Utah

 facebook.com/groups/ Venture.OUT.Utah

SUPPORT

Alcoholics Anonymous

801-484-7871

 utahaa.org

LGBT meetings: Sun. 3p Acceptance Group, All Saints Episcopal Church, 1710 Foothill Dr

Tues. 7p Live & Let Live, Mt Tabor Lutheran, 175 S 700 E

Wed. 7p Sober Today, 1159 30th St , Ogden Wed. 7p Bountiful Men’s Group, Am. Baptist Btfl Church, 1915 Orchard Dr, Btfl Fri. 7p Stonewall Group, Mt Tabor Lutheran, 175 S 700 E

Crystal Meth Anon

 crystalmeth.org

USARA, 180 E 2100 S Clean, Sober & Proud Sun. 1:30pm Leather Fetish & Kink Fri. 8:30pm

Genderbands

 genderbands.org fb.me/genderbands

LifeRing Secular Recovery

801-608-8146

 liferingutah.org

Weds. 7pm, How was your week? First Baptist Church, 777 S 1300 E

Sat. 11am, How was your week? First Baptist Church, 777 S 1300 E

LGBTQ+ Affirmative Therapists Guild  lgbtqtherapists. com

* robin@lgbtqtherapists.com

YOUTH/COLLEGE

Encircle LGBTQ Family and Youth Resource Ctr

 encircletogether.org

fb.me/encircletogether

91 W 200 S, Provo, 190 S 100 E, St. George 331 S 600 E, SLC

Gay-Straight Alliance Network

 gsanetwork.org

OUT Foundation BYU

 theout.foundation

 fb.me/theOUTfoundation

Salt Lake Community College LGBTQ+  slcc.edu/lgbtq/

University of Utah LGBT Resource Center

 lgbt.utah.edu

200 S Central Campus

Dr Rm 409, M-F, 8a-5p 801-587-7973

USGA at BYU

 usgabyu.com

 fb.me/UsgaAtByu

Utah State Univ. Inclusion Ctr

 usu.edu/inclusion/ Utah Valley Univ Spectrum

 linktr.ee/ spectrumqsa

 uvu.edu/lgbtq/ * lgbt@uvu.edu

801-863-8885

Liberal Arts, Rm 126

Weber State University

LGBT Resource Center

 weber.edu/ lgbtresourcecenter

Shepherd Union Suite 323 Dept. 2117

801-626-7271

Westminster Student Diversity Center

Bassis 105, M-F 8a-5p

 bit.ly/westdiversity

JOIN OUR GROUP OF ACTIVE OUT SENIORS

Our Vision is to reduce social isolation and loneliness, improve the health and well-being of older adults and to empower them to lead meaningful and connected lives in which they are engaged and participating in the community. Our Mission is to reimagine aging by empowering older adults to live life to the fullest potential guided by these five pillars:

• Cherish the Journey

• Encourage the Body

Recent events: Snowshoeing, Bingo, Valentines Pot Luck & Dance, Movie Night, Walking Groups, Theater groups

• Inspire the Mind

• Nurture the Spirit

• Empower the Future Find us at SeniorsOutAndProudUtah.org and Facebook.com/SOAPUtah

Why Cyndi Lauper’s Farewell Show

Felt Like, Well, a Suitcase of Memories

The gay icon defied time during the chic, heartfelt concert

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

I spent15 years attending the Catholic church (and over 15 years more attending pop concerts), so I can confidently say that pop music shows are a form of congregational worship in their own right. They serve as sermons for the soul, and sometimes when you’re a gay kid born in the 1980s, led to believe that God condemns you, you turn to the catharsis of sparkly pop bops from someone like singer and gay icon Cyndi Lauper. I was that kid.

To survive as a closeted gay teen in the 1990s, which I consider the pop era that defined my youth, I latched hard onto music as escape and catharsis. (I consider the 1980s to be the musical era of Me Loving Anything My Mom Played, including Lauper, who rose to fame then.) I needed to fling open those closet doors, which I did in 2001 during the summer

after I graduated high school, before I could truly get closer to the history of who Lauper was to so many gay men who allowed me to also live openly as one.

Then I saw Lauper on stage for the first time, opening for none other than Cher. I still can’t believe this was all in one night, and seeing Lauper open the show, well, it really just felt like its own main event, as did the giant scabbed-over zit on my face.

My self-esteem was in tatters then; even though I had come out, an acne-speckled face had me feeling like an outsider in a crowd of people with seemingly perfect skin. Hearing Lauper sing “True Colors” that night became a religious experience, and, through tears that I thought would never stop, I would play it ritualistically, but especially before bed in place of “Our Father.” It was me, with the sad eyes, in a world full of people, that Cyndi was singing to. And she saw my true colors.

Appropriately, I was there with my mom, an ally herself. This history sets the stage for what happened last week,

again with my mom, now 22 years later, as Cyndi Lauper sang that song again, deepened by time and life experience and my own knowledge of its history (Lauper recorded the song in the 1980s because it reminded her of her friend Gregory Natal, who died of AIDS) and its ever-growing resonance in our community. I consider it now to be a prayer for all of us outsiders. And yet, when she sings it, even still, you are made to feel very much on the inside. The only person in the room.

Though she’s playing mostly arenas on this trek, called the Girls Just Wanna Have Fun Farewell Tour, Lauper took the stage at the Fox Theatre on Oct. 24. Detroit, it seemed, got a pre-Halloween treat — a chic, retro-meets-modern show that combined grand-scale production with the intimacy of a theater performance. What a way to say goodbye.

At 71, Lauper has accepted her own mortality. “Well, hon’, you know, right now I’m strong, and I can do an arena tour,” she told me in June when I asked her about what led to this being her last tour. “And I haven’t done it in years, like a real bonafide arena — ‘go see Cyndi, it’s not 50 minutes, it’s a fucking hour and a half,’ and you actually can hear a lot of

music. Right now, I’m strong and I can do it. But in five years, I don’t know what the heck. Sure, I’ll probably sing. I’ll probably do something because I love singing, but I don’t know that I would have the physical strength to do an arena tour. The people that can, God bless them.”

And God bless Cyndi Lauper, whose performance defied the passage of time as she gave one hell of a concert. Lauper’s liquid voice showcased just how robust it still is on this night, and when it soared to places that sounded like I was seeing her in 2002 all over again, I stood proudly. The truth is, though, if there were a prayer bench, I would’ve been on my knees. Her underrated cover of the breakup ballad “I’m Gonna Be Strong” resonated with the same emotional intensity it has since she released it as a solo cover in 1994, culminating in soaring notes that, if you didn’t know her version, would have you wondering if this is same voice singing “Girls Just Want to Have Fun.” “I Drove All Night” challenged that notion too. Though Lauper’s career is often defined by catchy bops that showcase only a fraction of her vocal prowess, she is an undeniable powerhouse when she lets it rip.

Emotionally, she can still pack a punch. Upon its 1993 release, “Sally’s Pigeons” could pierce even the hardest of hearts. Today, it should change the minds of Republican voters who’d rather see women die from medically unsound abortions

than have control over their own bodies, and with the fate of safe abortion rights on the 2024 election ticket, her poignant song about the tragic death of a young woman from a back-alley abortion left a few women around me in tears.

“I wanted to have songs that mattered to me,” Lauper said, reflecting on her journey from pop star to genre-defying

artist, before performing “Who Let in the Rain.” Alongside “Sally’s Pigeons,” she wove several political statements into the night, adding a “Girls Just Want to Have Fundamental Rights” rap to the song that perfectly encapsulated that evolutionary sentiment. At the onset, a video montage set the stage for the show, featuring footage of Lauper testifying before a Senate subcommittee about LGBTQ+ youth homelessness in 2015.

This montage highlighted scenes from her life and career, showcasing four decades of artistry and LGBTQ+ activism. Lauper acknowledged her queer fans when she mentioned that Christian Siriano designed some of her wardrobe for this tour. She shared how he helped her achieve a level of glamor not typical for her, noting that if this was indeed going to be her last tour, the LGBTQ+ community would expect nothing less.

Wig or not, “True Colors” still takes me back to 2002. When she performed it near the end, following the ebullient “Shine” — another song that has become an LGBTQ+ anthem — she stepped into the audience, a gesture of togetherness. A man behind me wept, and I wondered if he was crying because he, too, remembered the first time he heard that song and felt its embrace. Our youth behind us, we had survived. No zits! And mom, still by my side. We were older now, as was Lauper; old enough that we might never experience one of the defining songs of our younger years the same way again. Unbeknownst to us all, that night, if this truly was farewell, we weren’t just saying goodbye to Cyndi Lauper, but to so much more than we ever anticipated. Chris Azzopardi is the Editorial Director of Pride Source Media Group and Q Syndicate, the national LGBTQ+ wire service. He has interviewed a multitude of superstars, including Cher, Meryl Streep, Mariah Carey and Beyoncé. His work has also appeared in The New York Times, Vanity Fair, GQ and Billboard. Reach him via Twitter @chrisazzopardi.

When buying or selling real estate, you don’t want a part-�me agent working a side hustle, but a professional who’s versed in winning a mul�ple offer ba�le, marke�ng strategies to get the best price, knowing LGBTQ vendors and allies for mortgages, inspec�ons, a�orneys, etc. With four decades as a full-�me agent/broker and the first ‘out’ REALTOR® in Utah, I’d love to help you with this huge financial decision. I sell downtown condos in Salt Lake, homes with casitas in St. George, homes of those who have passed, and 1031 exchanges on income or commercial proper�es. Text or call any�me. exchanges on income or commercial proper�es. Text or call any�me.

Babs De Lay, Urban Utah Homes and Estates 801.201.8824

Lukas Gage: Behind the SMILE

The ‘Smile 2’ actor on his ‘deep fear of being boring,’ his jaw-dropping roles and his theory on why fans think he’s hot even in a horror film

BY CHRIS AZZOPARDI

Onhit shows such as “Euphoria” and “You,” Lukas Gage has perfected the art of being captivatingly chaotic. Though experiencing a golden shower during the latter’s fourth season might not have been on the actor’s bucket list, it’s on brand for his fearless approach to exploring unconventional territory, which has become a hallmark of his ever-ascending career.

Admirably, it’s one filled with bold detours and exhilarating choices, like an encounter with Murray Bartlett during “The White Lotus,” an iconic sex scene that got the internet talking about rimjobs. Then, in the supernatural detective comedy-drama “Dead Boy Detectives,” released earlier this year on Netflix, Gage pounced into the role of the Cat King, an unabashedly queer feline-human hybrid. With his latest film, “Smile 2,” Gage dives headfirst into thought-provoking horror with yet another balls-to-the-wall role that manages to turn his handsome, real-life smile into a terrifying grimace, proving that sometimes the most intriguing stories come with a side of deliciously dark humor. Written and directed by Parker Finn, the film offers a twisted take on stardom. It follows pop star Skye Riley (Naomi Scott) as she confronts her past trau-

ma triggered by a series of horrific and gruesome events unfolding around her.

As Lewis Fregoli, Quinn’s former classmate and drug dealer, Gage is so terrifying in the film that when we connected on a video call recently, I began by jokingly asking him not to smile (“I’ll try not to,” he assured, laughing — though he still did, abundantly). During our candid conversation, it became clear that Gage isn’t just here to play roles; he’s treading these waters with intent, redefining what it means to be compellingly complex in Hollywood.

On a break from filming in the mountains of Spain, Gage spoke about the origins and inspirations behind his daring and nontraditional choices across diverse roles. He also reflected on his fans, who are so enamored that no tweet is too thirsty for them.

Based on the offbeat roles you’ve taken, when did you realize that committing to the unexpected and the not-so-politically correct was the path you wanted to take as an actor? I think, honestly, it comes from a deep fear of being boring, and it maybe comes from a deep fear of not getting enough attention when I was younger, so I knew I had to do stuff that was sometimes big and loud. I have empathy for characters that really go to those places and do some things a lot of

people see as unlikable or that maybe are unlikable, and I try to tap into why they are the way they are instead of judging them. But I’m just inspired by interesting, bold performers like Gena Rowlands and Ellen Burstyn, who play characters that are bigger than life, but still grounded.

I imagine you admire Ellen Burstyn in “Requiem for a Dream” then. I mean, one of the best performances.

When I see you perform, I often think about what it would be like if you collaborated with queer filmmakers like Gregg Araki or John Waters. Yeah, I would love that. Give me some “Doom.” Give me some “Serial Mom.” They are definitely on my list of filmmakers that I looked up to and I am just in awe of when I would watch their films. Harmony Korine was another one growing up that I was just shocked by, and, growing up, some of the Pasolini Italian films from the ’60s that were doing things that were pushing the boundary. And people, when they watched it, were very shocked, and some people were disturbed by it. I admire that bravery in filmmakers.

For “Smile 2,” what went into creating a look — both the smile and the eyes — that was effectively horrifying? I mean, I just watched “Smile” a bunch and I practiced in the mirror. I think a lot of it comes

from the stillness. A lot of it comes with taking your time and not rushing any moment in the little micro movements and the little micro eye movements. I worked with this lady named Julia Crockett, who’s a movement coach, and she really helped me try new things and get in my body and try different micro movements with my face. That was a new thing that I hadn’t really been familiar with, and now it’s something that I do in everything I work on. What qualities do you think make Skye a potential gay icon? I think her looks, the dance moves, and the pop music itself is very queer and very fun. Her vulnerability and her sadness too. I feel that’s why we connect with Lana Del Rey and Miley Cyrus. Their vulnerability and honesty to talk about things that some pop stars won’t is why a lot of people relate to them, and I think Skye Riley does that in a way. Her relationships with men and women in this film seems to be pretty ambiguous, maybe intentionally so. How do you read her sexuality in this film? I think it’s the same thing with her performances: You can’t put them in a box, and I think that Skye Riley as a character, you can’t put her in a box. You saw that she had an ex-boyfriend, but she seems like the kind of character who definitely experimented and is open to anything, but she has a complicated relationship with both male and female figures in her life. I mean, [and] complicated mom issues. We don’t know anything about where her dad went, why he’s not in the picture. We don’t know. Her female friends are not great. The way that she treats men is not great. I mean, it’s just all very, very, very layered and interesting and not defined. How do you connect with Skye’s experience of dealing with public expectations? And how do you navigate that pressure in relation to your queerness and the ways others try to box you in? I think I’m still figuring it out, and it’s still a thing that’s a work in progress. I have a hard time with where the intersection of private and public meets and how much I should share with

the world and how much I want to keep to myself because it’s sacred to me. Tina Fey said something recently in an interview about authenticity coming at a price, and authenticity is expensive, and as you gain more success, you’re going to want to give less away to the world because that’s important to you. I’m doing a bad job of paraphrasing, but it’s true. I think that I’m still figuring it out, and I want to be someone that is someone that can be a role model and someone

that can be looked up to and someone that I maybe didn’t have as a kid, but also I’m not perfect and I’m damaged just like Skye is, and I have my faults and I’m definitely a work in progress, as we all are.

So I feel an immense amount of pressure at times that I should have it all together, but then I remember that I’m a human and I’m going to make mistakes, and that’s why we love characters like Skye because she is so cracked and so vulnerable and so raw and so layered and so poised, at times, and then at other times she is just a complete mess. And I think we all are, and I think that’s why Naomi’s character is resonating with so many people and getting such amazing reviews — it’s not

just playing this idea of this pop star. I mean, she is really, really doing something amazing with that performance. There’s been talk on social media about how this is, perhaps, your hottest role to date, something I’d like to better understand. One fan wrote on X, “I don’t know what’s wrong with me, but Lukas Gage in ‘Smile 2’ is the most attractive I’ve ever found him.” As someone who has become familiar with fan thirst, how do you explain this kind of thirst? Look, maybe it’s kind of like that thing when you try too hard, but with anything, the opposite thing happens. I tried my best to not be sexy and to be as messy and unfiltered as possible, and so maybe that’s a great note to myself to stop trying too hard because when I try to be hot, it’s probably not, and when I try to be a manic, unhinged drug addict, I guess it’s sexy.

On the topic of thirsty tweets, you had read some for BuzzFeed a couple of years ago, and one was “Lukas Gage better show me his hole.” The internet is obviously not real life. How do your fans express that level of enthusiasm when they meet you? Well, they definitely don’t say that to my face. [Laughs.] I think people can be a lot bolder on the internet and behind a screen than they can to your face, which can be not a great thing at times. But no, I mean, it’s funny. It’s kind of flattering, I think. Not really. I don’t know. It’s just insane that people think that, I guess, about me. But everyone in person is very kind, and like yourself, very supportive and says very nice things about the boldness and that the representation has been very cool to see. So that means a lot.

Thanks to you, the LGBTQ+ and kink communities have increased representation when it comes to rimming and golden showers. Is there a motivating factor for you in taking on these roles, knowing that you can contribute to queer culture and influence perceptions of sexuality? I wish I could tell you that I went in, when I started my career, with that goal, but I honestly can’t say that. I can’t say it was an intentional thing to do. I wish I could take credit for that, but no.

It kind of just came to me, and maybe it’s something about me that people picked up on, or maybe I have a European sensibility about nudity or sexuality. So I think maybe people saw that in me, and then those roles started to come in, but it wasn’t an intentional thing. But if it did that and it helped people have an open conversation about sexuality or their kinks or sex positivity, that’s amazing. What a plus to do that. But no, I can’t say it was an intentional thing to do. I wish I could take credit for that, but no.

How do you hope queer sex will evolve on screen 10 years from now? Hopefully it won’t even be so revolutionary... it will just be. It’ll just be so normal and so openly talked about.

I revisited “Down Low” recently, and I still can’t believe that you said “virgin hole” in front of Audra McDonald. I can’t either. [Laughs.]

But you wrote it. I did. But I didn’t realize that I would be doing it in front of a six-time Tony Award-winning actress! That was just one of those pinch me moments where I can’t believe that I was able to convince Audra McDonald, Judith Light, Zachary Quinto, and Simon Rex to do this script that I wrote with my best friend on the couch, and writing the most insane, provocative jokes to make each other laugh, and then somehow getting these award-winning actors to agree to do it was ... I mean, it was just amazing. And I think it was one of the first times I was not the supporting character, to have a leading role and go toe to toe with these people I’ve looked up to for such a long time. It was a privilege, and I can’t wait to have my next project be made.

Is it in the works? I hope it’s as outlandish as “Down Low” was. It is in the works, yeah. And I promise it will be. Q

Chris Azzopardi is the dditorial director of Pride Source Media Group and Q Syndicate. He has interviewed a multitude of superstars, including Cher, Meryl Streep, Mariah Carey and Beyoncé. His work has also appeared in The New York Times, Vanity Fair, GQ and Billboard. Reach him via X @chrisazzopardi.

WE CANCEL TIMESHARES

Many people believe their timeshares cannot be cancelled, but they often can be. Our founder and CEO, Chuck McDowell, has successfully helped over 30,000 families get rid of their timeshare and he can likely help you too. If you were misled, lied to, or pressured, you may have an easy exit with a 100% money back guarantee.

How Does the Cancellation Process Work?

• Start with a FREE consultation to tell your story.

• If we see that the circumstances of your situation qualify you to exit the timeshare, you’ll be assigned a specialist to walk you through starting the process.

• Our Resolution Department works quickly to have your timeshare and all related fees permanently terminated.

We’ve been able to help many timeshare owners that contact us. You could be one phone call away from complete peace of mind.

We have a dedicated team waiting for your call.

Don’t think for another minute that you are stuck with this. What we do is help you cancel your timeshare along with all of the debt and fees associated with it. Guaranteed.

“Wesley Financial was awesome to work with. They were professional and very understanding of the situation we were in.

Thank you all so much. This has been a huge burden and you all helped relieve that burden. Thank you.”

- Kyle S Wesley Financial Group, LLC client

*This

Chuck McDowell, Founder & CEO

Pride Journey: New Jersey

BY JOEY AMATO

Nestledalong the Jersey Shore, Asbury Park has undergone a stunning transformation from a once-sleepy beach town to a vibrant, inclusive cultural hub. Its rich history, eclectic boardwalk, and thriving arts scene have made it a favorite destination for locals and tourists alike. For the LGBTQ community, Asbury Park holds a special place, offering an open and welcoming environment that celebrates diversity. On a recent trip to the destination, I noticed a ton of pride flags sprinkled throughout the area, hanging from homes and in the windows of area businesses.

steen and the E Street Band, as well as Jon Bon Jovi. For music lovers, a visit to The Stone Pony is a pilgrimage—a chance to experience the spirit of rock ‘n’ roll that has defined the area for decades.

The city’s LGBTQ inclusiveness is not just a side note—it is central to the town’s identity. Every year, Asbury Park hosts the “Jersey Pride” festival, one of the largest LGBTQ events in New Jersey. The parade, parties, and festivities attract thousands from across the state and beyond, providing a celebratory platform for the community.

In addition to events, Asbury Park is home to several LGBTQ-owned businesses, most notably Georgie’s bar and Paradise nightclub which offer guests dancing, drag shows, and themed events.

while offering a space for relaxation and socializing. It is within walking distance of the Asbury Park boardwalk and the downtown area.

More than just a hotel, The St. Laurent Social Club has quickly become a focal point for both the local community and visitors looking to experience the town’s vibrant energy. The club’s restaurant offers seasonal, locally sourced dishes, providing a perfect spot for brunch or dinner. The combination of stylish accommodations, culinary excellence, and cultural events makes The St. Laurent Social Club a standout destination in Asbury Park’s thriving social scene.

Asbury Park’s evolution into a LGBTQ-friendly destination has been a gradual process, deeply rooted in its artistic and progressive identity. During the mid-20th century, the town became a refuge for artists, musicians, and members of the LGBTQ community seeking a space that embraced difference and individuality. Over time, Asbury Park cultivated an atmosphere of acceptance that has continued to thrive today. The town is best known for its music scene, especially as it pertains to the Stone Pony. Opened in 1974, The Stone Pony has played a pivotal role in launching the careers of rock legends, most notably Bruce Spring-

Furthermore, Asbury Park is home to the QSpot LGBTQ Community Center, a key resource that provides support services, advocacy, and social events for the community. The inclusivity extends beyond Pride Month; it is an integral part of the town’s culture year-round, making it a safe and welcoming environment for all.

For your stay in Asbury Park, check in to the St. Laurent Social Club, a chic, modern-day gathering spot that offers both a vibrant social scene and a stylish place to stay. Housed in a beautifully restored historic building, The St. Laurent blends contemporary design with vintage charm, creating an inviting atmosphere for guests and locals alike. The club features boutique hotel accommodations, coffee bar, full-service restaurant, and a pool area that exudes an air of laid-back luxury. The design is curated with attention to detail, reflecting the town’s artistic heritage

A quirky and delightful gem in the heart of Asbury Park is Catsbury Park, a non-profit cat café that has captured the hearts of visitors and locals alike. Since opening in 2017, Catsbury Park has been a sanctuary for cat lovers, blending community, charity, and an undying love for furry friends. The café serves coffee and light snacks, but the main attraction is, of course, the cats. Visitors can meet and interact with adoptable cats. We had the chance to visit for cat bingo. The game is played in their kitten room and is so much fun, especially when the cats decide to pay you a visit.

The mission of Catsbury Park goes beyond simply providing a cute hangout spot. It operates as an adoption center, working to find permanent homes for rescue cats. They collaborate with local shelters to provide a second chance for cats in need. For animal lovers and families, a visit to Catsbury Park is both heartwarming and fun.

One of the crown jewels of Asbury Park is its famous Boardwalk, a seaside strip that combines nostalgic charm with modern attractions.

Lined with shops, restaurants, and entertainment venues, the Boardwalk is a lively gathering place for beachgoers and art enthusiasts alike. Walking along the wooden planks, visitors are treated to ocean views on one side and an ever-changing landscape of art, food, and culture on the other.

The Boardwalk is more than just a beach destination; it’s a cultural experience. Local artists contribute to its colorful murals and public art installations, creating an atmosphere that reflects Asbury Park’s creative spirit. The Boardwalk is also home to unique boutique shops selling everything from handmade crafts to surf gear, making it a wonderful place to explore for those who love supporting small businesses.

Culinary delights are never far away, either. From seafood shacks to gourmet restaurants, the Boardwalk offers a

wide range of dining options to suit every taste. Whether it’s enjoying fresh oysters by the water or indulging in artisanal ice cream, the food scene here is as diverse as the community itself.

No exploration of Asbury Park would be complete without a visit to Madam Marie’s Temple of Knowledge, a mystical and legendary psychic booth located on the Boardwalk. The story of Madam Marie, whose real name was Marie Castello, is deeply intertwined with Asbury Park’s history and folklore. For decades, she provided psychic readings to locals, visitors, and even celebrities, earning a reputation for her uncanny abilities. Madam Marie even mentioned in the Bruce Springsteen song “4th of July, Asbury Park (Sandy)”. While Marie passed away in 2008, her legacy continues.

The booth is still operational, run by her descendants, who offer tarot readings and other spiritual services.

Whether you’re visiting to soak in the sun, immerse yourself in music history, adopt a cat, or get a psychic reading, Asbury Park stands as a symbol of resilience and reinvention. Its inclusive spirit and commitment to individuality make it a truly special place, inviting all to experience its magic.

After a few days exploring Asbury Park, we drove further south to Cape May, a town at the southern tip of the Garden State, known for its Victorian architecture, pristine beaches, and rich history. But beyond its picturesque facade, Cape May offers visitors a diverse range of experiences that blend coastal relaxation with cultural and culinary exploration.

Cape May may be known for its beaches, but it’s also home to a burgeoning wine scene, and HAWK HAVEN VINEYARD & WINERY is at the heart of it. Located just a short drive from the town center, this family-owned vineyard offers a delightful escape into Cape May’s countryside, where rows of grapevines stretch across acres of fertile soil.

Hawk Haven is a testament to Cape May’s microclimate, which is ideal for growing a variety of grapes. Visitors can enjoy tastings of wines that range from crisp whites like Pinot Grigio and Chardonnay to full-bodied reds like Merlot and Cabernet Sauvignon. One of the highlights of visiting Hawk Haven is their outdoor seating area, where guests can sip wine flights while taking in stunning views of the vineyard while listening

to live music on the weekends. If you are hungry, swing by BEACH PLUM FARM for some delicious farm-to-table cuisine. The working farm offers guests a variety of salads, sandwiches as well as a neighboring market which sells locally-owned products including jams, pastas and of course, wine.

A short drive away is JERSEY SHORE ALPACAS. This small, family-run alpaca farm offers visitors the chance to meet and interact with these gentle, adorable creatures. Located in the nearby town of Green Creek, just a few miles from Cape May, Jersey Shore Alpacas provides an experience that is both educational and entertaining.

The farm offers tours by appointment, where visitors can feed and pet the alpacas, learn about their history, and discover how their luxurious

fleece is transformed into products like scarves, hats, and socks. Visitors are often struck by the alpacas’ friendly and curious nature, making for great photo opportunities and memorable interactions.

Freshen up before dinner at BEACH SHACK, a laid-back oceanfront hotel that embodies the spirit of relaxed coastal living. Located on Beach Avenue, The Beach Shack offers stunning views of the Atlantic Ocean and a casual, family-friendly atmosphere.

Whether you’re staying in one of their colorful, breezy rooms or just dropping by for a meal, The Beach Shack is all about beach vibes and comfort.

The hotel’s iconic beachfront bar and restaurant, The Rusty Nail, is a favorite among locals and visitors alike. Known for its eclectic menu, live music, and bonfires, The Rusty Nail captures the essence of a

perfect beach day—complete with sand, surf, and seafood.

The outdoor seating area, complete with fire pits and picnic tables, is the ideal spot to unwind after a day on the beach. Menu favorites include fresh fish tacos, clam chowder, and their famous BBQ ribs, all of which can be enjoyed with a cold beer or tropical cocktail. Kids and pets are welcome, making The Beach Shack a go-to destination for families.

For those seeking an authentic Italian dining experience in Cape May, Iccara Italian Bistro delivers a culinary journey that feels like a trip to Italy. Located just off Washington Street, Iccara offers a cozy, elegant dining atmosphere paired with a menu that highlights the best of Italian cuisine, often with a fresh, local twist.

The restaurant prides itself on using locally sourced seafood and produce, creating

dishes that are both traditional and innovative. Guests can indulge in classics like homemade pasta, risotto, and seafood dishes, all prepared with the finest ingredients. We ordered a variety of dishes including the risotto special, crab stuffed mushrooms and the seafood combination. All the selections were prepared to perfection and the portions are quite large, so come hungry.

Cape May’s unique blend of history, natural beauty, and modern attractions makes it a favorite among visitors seeking both relaxation and adventure.

Cape May remains one of New Jersey’s most cherished seaside escapes, so whether you’re planning a weekend getaway or an extended stay, the destination offers countless ways to create lasting memories.

To learn more, please visit VISITNJ.ORG/LGBTQ

Enjoy the Journey! Q

Why you need dental insurance in retirement.

Many Americans are fortunate to have dental coverage for their entire working life, through employer-provided benefits. When those benefits end with retirement, paying dental bills out-of-pocket can come as a shock, leading people to put off or even go without care.

Simply put — without dental insurance, there may be an important gap in your healthcare coverage.

When you’re comparing plans ...

 Look for coverage that helps pay for major services. Some plans may limit the number of procedures — or pay for preventive care only.

 Look for coverage with no deductibles. Some plans may require you to pay hundreds out of pocket before benefits are paid.

 Shop for coverage with no annual maximum on cash benefits. Some plans have annual maximums of $1,000.

Medicare doesn’t pay for dental care.1

That’s right. As good as Medicare is, it was never meant to cover everything. That means if you want protection, you need to purchase individual insurance.

Early detection can prevent small problems from becoming expensive ones. The best way to prevent large dental bills is preventive care. The American Dental Association recommends checkups twice a year.

Previous dental work can wear out.

Even if you’ve had quality dental work in the past, you shouldn’t take your dental health for granted. In fact, your odds of having a dental problem only go up as you age.2

Treatment is expensive — especially the services people over 50 often need.

Consider these national average costs of treatment ... $222 for a checkup ... $190 for a filling ... $1,213 for a crown.3 Unexpected bills like this can be a real burden, especially if you’re on a fixed income.

1 “Medicare & You,” Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services, 2024. 2 “Aging changes in teeth and gums”, medlineplus.gov, 4/17/2022. 3 American Dental Association, Health Policy Institute, 2020 Survey of Dental Fees, Copyright 2020, American Dental Association.

DENTAL Insurance

“Absolutely love”

“I absolutely love my dental insurance. My dental office files the claims, leaving me with very little balance to pay.” Dorothy P., TN

Boyfriend said he ‘suddenly became gay’ on a trip because of Utah’s high altitude

A woman’s REDDIT POST has gone viral after she described her boyfriend’s bizarre explanation for cheating while on a business trip in Utah. In her story, shared on the “Am I the Asshole” (AITAH) subreddit, the woman detailed her shock upon discovering that her boyfriend, who has identified as straight throughout their three-year relationship, had a one-night stand with a male coworker — and was blaming the incident on Utah’s high altitude.

“Every now and then, he has to go to Utah for a few days because his team has a customer service branch that operates out there. I got a text from one of his co-workers who has become a friend of ours, and it said that on the trip, my boyfriend cheated on me with some guy on the customer care team,” she wrote. “I did not believe it at first. Because, first of all my boyfriend has always identified as straight. And second of all, I just couldn’t believe it.”

“When he got home I asked him about it, basically expecting him to confirm it was nonsense. Instead he got real quiet and had us sit down and said he had to tell me something. He said it was true, he did have a ‘one night stand’ with a guy. I couldn’t believe it. I asked him if he was telling me he was gay? Or bisexual? And regardless cheating is cheating.”

DUE TO THE ALTITUDE

The boyfriend insisted he was not gay, but “the strangest thing happened.”

“He said that when he was at dinner with his Utah co-workers, he ‘suddenly became gay’. I was like…what? What the fuck? He said he thinks it was ‘due to the altitude,’” she continued, saying he must have been fucking with her. “But he said after he had done it with this guy, he got really confused as to how ‘all of the sudden he was gay.’ He said that higher altitudes can have an impact on how people think and on their emotions, and he thinks that the high altitude made him gay temporarily. He said that as soon as he landed back home, he was ‘back to being straight.’”

The boyfriend told her he did “a lot of thinking on the drive back from the airport” and confirmed within himself that he is straight and that his only conclusion could be that he was “temporarily turned gay due to the attitude.”

When she told him, “I guess we are breaking up,” the boyfriend seemed to look confused, she wrote, and said she shouldn’t blame him because “human actions are just a byproduct of accidental brain chemistry,” and that, “his chemistry had been altered, through no fault of his own, due to the higher altitudes of Utah.”

“He said he ‘couldn’t believe’ I would blame him for something ‘medical

and scientific’ that was out of his control. He really looked bewildered that I was angry about this.”

She ended her post, asking, “Should I throw away a 3-year relationship for this? He’s acting like I’m being rude and weird.”

THE COMMUNITY RESPONDS

“Been to UT a ton, haven’t felt the slightest change in sexuality,” user Nucf1ash replied. You realize that he’s feeding you a crock of shit, right?”

Another user explained that Mormons wear special underwear — “Compression undies to keep the brain chemistry STRAIGHT.”

Another blamed it on sexy ski instructors in Utah. “I would imagine even the straightest of men would find them attractive. Add that to OP’s bf’s hidden sexuality, AND the high altitude. There might be even some lesbians who would go straight under the influence.”

User thelittlestdog23 explained, “Dude, the fatal error OP’s boyfriend made: You always say ‘no homo’ as you’re traveling up a mountainside. Rookie mistake.”

“You wouldn’t believe what he gets up to on planes,” wrote JudgyRandomWebizen.

“You mean you’ve never been driving past Provo and just been overcome with a sudden, unexplainable urge to find the nearest truck stop glory hole!?,” wrote buffinator2. “I mean… neither have I.”

But, it seems the rational False_Dimension9212 wrapped up the question on whether or not the writer is the asshole:

“Yeah, let’s pause logic for a moment and say that altitude could make someone temporarily gay, that still doesn’t excuse the conscious choice to have sex with someone and cheat on your partner, regardless of gender. If you can’t help turning gay, you can still control where your dick does or doesn’t go.” they wrote. “He doesn’t want to take responsibility for his actions because he would have to acknowledge that he cheated. Also, I think he’s trying to rationalize this whole experience because he hasn’t come to terms that he’s either gay or bi. NTA.” Q

BY ROMEO SAN VICENTE

Eddie Murphy, his “Dreamgirls” director, and the P-Funk

When one speaks of the gay sensibility in cinema, one is necessarily talking about queer filmmaker Bill Condon’s 2006 showstopper of a musical cake, “Dreamgirls.” It was the movie that brought Eddie Murphy a truly meaty dramatic role and an Academy Award nomination. It makes perfect sense, then for the director and star to reteam for yet another music-based film, an untitled biopic of the legendary George Clinton with a script by Virgil Williams, Academy Award-nominated screenwriter for “Mudbound.” Clinton’s Parliament-Funkadelic collective pushed every kind of psychedelic/R&B/rock boundary in the 1970s with still-beloved hits like “Flashlight.” And since Murphy is no stranger to musical performance himself, to headline this project seems like the perfect collaboration. It’s still early in development, with no other details announced, but there’s no doubt the supporting cast is going to be special and, who knows, maybe Oscar lightning will strike twice.

Kaitlyn Dever shooting “See You When I See You”

Queer actor Kaitlyn Dever came out in high school as her career was in its early days. At 27 she has a long list of solid credits including the teen comedy “Booksmart” and the horror film “No One Will Save You.” And she’s currently working on the latest project from filmmaker Jay Duplass (“Jeff, Who Lives At Home” and “Cyrus”), a dark family comedy-drama called “See You When I See You.” Comedian Adam Cayton-Holland has adapted his own award-winning memoir, “Tragedy Plus Time,” for the project, a story of the impact his younger sister’s suicide had on his family. “See You” will explore that grief and healing process and co-stars David Duchovny, Hope Davis (“Succession”), Cooper Raiff (“Cha Cha Real Smooth”), Lucy Boynton (“Bohemi-

deep inside hollywood

an Rhapsody”) and Ariela Barer (“How To Blow Up a Pipeline”). Look for this one to show up sometime later in 2025.

George Takei gets graphic, again.

“Star Trek” legend George Takei does not currently have a new film or television series or play or voice role for a video game or an animated project in the works, and it’s because the 87-year-old actor, who is constantly involved in one or more of the above gigs, has written a graphic memoir. And it’s not even his first. It’s called “It Rhymes With Takei” and it’s all about his career in entertainment, from his early closeted days to his late-career coming out and popularity renaissance. It’s the follow up to his childhood memoir, “They Called Us Enemy,” and will hit bookshelves and online retailers in June of 2025. You have time to catch up on that earlier one before Pride month catches you checking out this one. As for the author, he’ll move on to the next job, of course. No one ever said getting old meant you had to slow down.

Gael Garcia Bernal and Diego Luna’s trans drama

Gael Garcia Bernal and Diego Luna, the men from “Y Tu Mama Tambien,” and a million other things, have taken their collective production power and used it for good over and over. This time they’re the producers of a new Argentine film, “Thesis on a Domestication,” from director Javier Van de Couter (“Mia,” “Implosion”). It’s already won the Gold Q-Hugo award at the Chicago International Film Festival and is based on a novel by Argentine trans author and screenwriter Camila Sosa Villada. She stars in the film, as well, alongside Mexican actor Alfonso Herrera (“Ozark”). “Thesis” is the story of a successful Argentine trans actress who becomes involved with a lawyer, eventually marrying him. And though that may sound traditional, nothing that happens fits the usual pattern of domestic life as she demands right to defy every kind of conservative structure. The trailer has dropped online so be on the lookout for

this one at an arthouse theater near you.

Jodie Foster living la Vie Privée

Any Jodie Foster fan worth the name knows that the queen speaks French fluently, has appeared in French films, and even released pop singles in that country when she was a teenager. Now, we don’t know if Rebecca Zlotowski’s (“Other People’s Children”) new drama, “Vie Privée” will be in French or not, but a look at the supporting cast has us about 99% sure of that subtitled fact. Heavy hitters of French cinema on board for the project include Virginie Efira (“Other People’s Children” and Paul Verhoeven’s “Benedetta”), Mathieu Amalric (“The French Dispatch”), Vincent Lacoste (“Irma Vep”) and Luana Bajrami (“Portrait of a Lady on Fire”). The film is a murder mystery about a psychiatrist (Foster) who comes to believe that one of her patients has been murdered, so she begins her own private investigation into their death. Currently filming in France, look for this one sometime in 2025.

Sydney Sweeney to star in Christy Martin biopic

Christy Martin is a former professional boxer whose career spanned from 1989 to 2012. She helped put women’s boxing on the map with her talent and power. She is queer and her eventful life, which includes athletic triumphs as well as an attempt on her life by an ex-husband, is the stuff of movies — there was already a Netflix documentary about her, “Deal with the Devil” — so it’s probably no surprise that Sydney Sweeney is going to play her in an upcoming biopic from “Animal Kingdom” director David Michôh and writer Mirrah Foulkes. Sweeney is training hard and a cast is coming on board, including Ben Foster, Merritt Wever and “Love Lies Bleeding” star Katy O’Brian. No word on a title, production schedule or release date, but tell all the lesbian jocks you know and get the hype train rolling. Q Romeo San Vicente wants you to vote as queerly as possible.

Thethe perils of petunia pap smear

The tale of leaving your heart in Salt Lake City

BY PETUNIA PAP SMEAR

road to the emergency room is fraught with danger and excitement. It was a dark and stormy Friday night. I had settled in for the evening and was well underway with my nighttime routine of sipping Diet Mountain Dew, eating anything withing arm’s reach and watching “The Great British Baking Show.” There was a football game on TV that held great interest for Mr. Pap Smear, hereafter referred to as MPS (or PMS for those with dyslexia.) As a general rule, I do not care to watch sports. Unless it’s about food, “Dancing with the Stars,” or an Olympic diving competition, I’m not interested. Speedos, sequins, and chocolate. Need I say more? Therefore, I banished PMS to watch his precious football game on the tiny television in the bedroom. I, on the other hand, luxuriated in the recliner in the living room, viewing the much larger television with surround sound while those lovely Brits with their sexy accents attempted to bake a chocolate showstopper. I had no idea that there were so many different words to describe chocolate. I almost had to get a thesaurus out to follow the action.

When watching TV while reclining, my beehive wig forms a cushion for my head. My stubbornly perky breasticles obnoxiously stick up in front of my face and frame the screen like football goalposts. This function often comes in very handy in case there is a very gross scene or something so embarrassing that one must look away. I can just tilt my head so that a breasticle can obscure my vision until the unpleasantness has passed. After a couple of hours of reveling in disastrous baking malfunctions by the contestants for whom I was not rooting, it became time for me to take my evening medications. I arose from the recliner and attempted to delicately sashay to the bedroom to take my pills. BUTT, due to my large buttockuss maximuss and resplen-

dently rounded tummy, the best I could do was an embarrassingly clumsy trundle. Upon entering the bedroom, I noticed that PMS was sitting on the edge of the bed. Don’t judge me, but along with my normal medications, I also take a cannabis edible gummy to aid in sleeping. Not five seconds after I swallowed my meds, including the gummy, PMS tells me that he is experiencing chest pain, and thinks he is having a heart attack. WELL SHIT!!!

Realizing that I only had about one hour before the edible started to kick in, or PMS might croak on me, like “Crouching Tiger, Hidden Drag Queen,” I sprang into action. I force-fed PMS some aspirin and then loaded him into Queertanic, my beloved land yacht, for a harrowing “Mr. Toad’s Wild Ride”like trip to the emergency room.

Upon arriving at the ER, I quickly grabbed a small wheelchair and crammed PMS into it. He whimpered to me that he was feeling cramped in the small chair. All I heard was that he was experiencing cramps. I read somewhere that PMS cramps can be just as painful as a heart attack. Oh, how embarrassing it would be if all this panic turned out to be just cramps that a generous helping of Midol might have solved. Just as the nurses were whisking PMS into a cubicle, my edible began to kick in. From here on, my perceptions of events may have been skewed by the effects of the edible. Despite all the chaos and confusion of the busy emergency room, suddenly I was feeling quite relaxed. It was like I was watching a medical documentary.

An extremely hot technician named Trent came and hooked many wires up to PMS’ chest for an EKG. In my documentary viewing mode, I leaned in close, so I could observe what was going on, and also to see if I could catch a whiff of the Trent’s strong, earthy, musky scent. I must have gotten too close because my breasticle got caught up in the wiring.

Trent gave me a soul-withering ‘what the hell are you doing,’ look. He lightly grasped my wrist with his delicate, worthy of a concert pianist, yet surprisingly strong hands, to gently pull me away. In so doing, my breasticle became entangled with some of the wires and disconnected PMS from the machine. I could swear that I saw sparks fly as if we were connected by a Tesla Coil in a scene worthy of Dr. Frankenstein’s laboratory. Whether the sparks were from the machine wires, or from the lust that I dare not speak its name in front of my spousal unit, I can never be sure. All I know is that I was smitten. Damn, all of this was happening right in front of my husband. Luckily for me, I think he was sufficiently distracted by the chest pains to be able to notice. When the EKG was finished, Trent thought the results looked suspicious. Apparently, the EKG picked up signals from my breasticles instead of PMS. The test had to be repeated. Finally, the doctor came in to say that it was a minor cardiac event, but they would like to admit PMS overnight for observation. Sadly, for me, Trent was nowhere to be seen. I had to wait for several hours for the edible to wear off before I could drive home.

This story leaves us with several important questions:

1. If I installed a sub-woofer in my breasticles, could I achieve a grander surround sound TV experience?

2. How many of us can proudly say we’re married to PMS?

3. Can my purse hold enough Midol for all this PMS?

4. If I stretched condoms over my breasticles, would it insulate them from electrical charges?

5. With all this experience, should I become an ambulance attendant?

These and other eternal questions will be answered in future chapters of The Perils of Petunia Pap Smear. Q